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My child’s mother wants another child from me, I told her no. We aren’t together an will never get back together. I don’t even like dating women with kids but I said I would date if they have one not be with. I had a step dad, it sucked an my mom jumped into that relationship when she could’ve worked it out with my dad, it was her fault not his. He was good to her; she said that he was the best boyfriend she ever had. Russell is a simp because he doesn’t know how to get his head out of his wife’s ass. A good guy but I strongly think he has to earn his keep to much with a woman who just now is probably starting to appreciate him.
Great discussion sir another way you can maybe spin it is women with kids should date and marry men with kids. If the man with no kids gets involved with a single mother then yes that’s a bad situation like Russell Wilson did. At his caliber he could of had a black woman with no kids
My own stepdad told me never be a stepfather. Women will always argue that being a stepdad is good because it’s in their interest. Russell Wilson is 100% a Simp especially taking care of Future’s kid.
I feel he's a simp not because of being a stepfather,it's more of when your a high value man like Russell and didn't have any kids before her you don't lower your standards to a babydaddy/Babymomma drama toxic situation like that.
@@swiksg8576 I agree but I still think it extends to average men. I am middle class and I would never. Russell Wilson case I think is extreme on both ends in that he is very successful and he taking care of a dude’s kid that really didn’t care about her. Future got like 11 kids I think. I feel second hand embarrassment for Wilson especially like you said he is in top 1 percent of earners in the world. Being that he is a stepdad to specifically future’s kid makes it worse because we know what future promotes.
When your own stepfather tells you not to be one, that's when you know it's real. Women know that most men don't want to be stepfathers, so they have to sell men on the role. "You'd be doing your part to improve the black community." "It's a noble thing to do." Yeah, it's noble, right up until the kid says, "YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER!" Pass.
Told my stepson the same and I’ve let him WATCH the interactions as an adult. He challenged his mother about me in July and she straightened up. I appreciated that from him. It made me resent my wife a little bit though. How tf yo KID got more influence with you ON MY BEHALF than I DO!? Be VERY careful young fellas. Start a family with a sane woman.
Fellas please don’t listen to the folks on that panel that disagree with Anton. There is no reward in taking care of another man’s child. Period. I’ve tried multiple times. Women with kids are stuck in their ways, the family is already built and them kids know who their Dad is. You’re basically an outsider.
That’s not true, a real woman wouldn’t throw this burden on a man! Some men think they can handle it until they can’t! Stick to your guns guys, if it doesn’t feel right, walk away. If it feels right, hey give it a chance. Love is love, and if you love the woman enough, and there’s respect, I’m sure many of you would be great mentors! Boy, times have changed!
@user-od5sh1ck5g it sure has lady, because also the women are not like they used to be back in the day if you was going to be a step father atleast most not all women back then were still women these girls today are little rough ass men with body count like wilt, Nasty attitude don't do nothing but she deserves the world 😅 heck no
Being a stepfather is by far one of the worst mistakes you can make. Why settle for being second choice but have to treat her like she’s first? That’s insane
Was a time when step fathers were respected, and the women they took in understood the extra burden and responsibilities that came with it so they acted accordingly by making life as easy as possible for him when dealing with the kids. Nowadays single mothers act like it's some kind of privilege to take on the responsibility of their kids. I see videos like that one step father who paid for his step daughter's wedding and they treated him like an ATM. Even had the biological father there and both the mother and the daughter wanted him to walk her down the aisle. They didn't even care to have food there that the step father eat and he was the one paying for the catering service! Straight insanity. And they acted like he was in the wrong when he finally flipped out.
Been there, done that ! Most women don’t want you to have any say in the child’s upbringing. And if the child/children haven’t been taught respect or home training, it’s really hard. As a man, you, soon feel like the woman is just looking for a provider/protector for her and her offspring. And, if the kids father is involved in their lives it can really become challenging depending upon the situation. And if you do get attached to the kids and end the relationship that is emotionally stressful for all parties involved. Save yourself time, money and energy and find a woman with no kids. You will be happier in the long run.
Most single mothers only want three things: companionship, sex on the regular and help with the bills. She doesn't want a leader. She certainly doesn't want a father figure for her kids. The juice ain't worth the squeeze.
I don’t care how fine she is or how reformed she may seem, DO NOT do this! You’re better off alone than in a situation like this. I don’t care how horny or alone you are, you’ll hate yourself more if you get caught in this madness
I have seen way too many single mothers attack stepfathers for trying to lead the family. The worst was hearing a mother say in front of her children to her new husband " You ain't a real N***** because you don't wear Timberland boots. My son doesn't have to wear a belt or listen to your corny jazz music." Also hearing a child say " You ain't my father so you can't tell me what to do." Even though the real father has been absent for years and the stepfather paid $100,000 for college.
Yeahh, only an idiot would marry a single mom in this day and age. In the past single mothers were humble and knew they had to overcompensate to accommodate a man for taking them in. Nowadays, these h*es are so stupid they abuse the dude that’s making a sacrifice for them.
If the father says, "If you put hands on my child, I'm whupping your a**. And every time I see you, it's on sight", now what? You might just have to unalive the father and risk your freedom to stay in the relationship. If the mother tells you that you can't discipline her child, what are you gonna do? The child is eventually gonna say, "YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER!" What happens when the mother shrugs her shoulders and says, "What do you want me to say? You're not the father"? You can't stay in the relationship or marriage. But if you leave, you'll be paying alimony and child support (some states have laws where you have to pay child support if it can proven that you were a father figure in the kid's life, even though you didn't marry the mother). There's no reason to sign up for all that and lose your peace. Dating and marrying a single mother isn't worth the baggage she brings with her.
Who does a step-dad benefit? The woman! Exactly! You as the step-dad are a walking wallet. Period You have no say, no respect, and no control over an already chaotic situation! Think about it, that's another man's woman and kids! She talking about "they need a daddy." They had a daddy, and you left him because what? Same old s*** because sisters read from the same script when they want no accountability.... He was abusive He was broke We grew apart Life happens I was young He went to prison/jail He cheated I found out I was baby momma #5 I wasn't HAPPY He was a narcissist He was boring All that bulls***, and you want the next man to come in and be exceptional?! Why? Because you are OLDER and wiser? No, you are just older and a walking liability!
To hear a woman say there's nothing wrong with being a stepdad is hilarious. How did she arrive to this conclusion like as if she's a stepdad. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 #KeishaGoneKeepLying
They would if there wasnt an incentive behind their bad choices. Right now they can choose the best mate based on her tingle and everyone will blame the man for making her tingle in that way.
If a child's father is alive and breathing, there is no way in the hell as a man you should ever take on the role as a stepfather. Let the two ppl who made it figure it all
Agreed. Unless the father's dead or he cheated more than once, or domestic violence was involved, the two biological parents should raise their kids together. As a family. "We just didn't work out" is no excuse.
Simps tend to hate the word Simp, and it's obvious why Quinton would hate the word. Pandering is simping. Being nice to a woman is not simping, pretending this is the definition is disingenuous
I agree with Antwon. Stepkids do not represent the man that is raising someone else’s kids. On top of that if real dad decides to get his life together no matter when, those kids will forget about u. Trust me when I say this
I’ve been on every social media platform and have not seen not one positive comment from a man on being a stepdad, they’ve all been negative experiences 🤷🏿♂️
Quinton is a simp just had to mention that since he said all children deserve a father as an argument for stepfathers. And these women are hilarious, it’s their responsibility to marry before they carry and stay in that marriage securing a safe and stable home for their child. Anton is 100% correct, especially in the black community this culture amongst our women continues because there are no consequences. The majority of us men don’t have children while almost 80% of BW are single mothers. And they are not even single mothers by just BM it’s by other men as well. Then they get every gov t benefit under the sun to make life easier but if we can’t pay we go to jail. Don’t be a step father not a boyfriend as the courts today are attaching child support to both.
I have to add one more thing for women, in general: YOU DONT HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MALE THAT EXPERIENCES SINGLE MOTHER LEADERSHIP. You cannot argue your opinion/feelings on the topic bc the one that is affected MOST is NOT YOU. Women have gotten SOOOOO OPINIONATED that facts DONT MEAN A THING TO THEM. If EVERY INDICATOR and EVERY STUDY says that being a single mother is bad for THE CHILD, why in TF are yall arguing why a single mom should be helped MORE than you advocate for women to DO SHIT THE RIGHT WAY? Our community is PLAGUED by YOUR PERSPECTIVE. Said as a 15 year educator and the eldest child of a woman that RUINED two marriages/a relationship and DAMAGED her children. I couldn’t separate the forest from the trees until challenged the way that SHE THOUGHT…and when I did, she disowned me and my life has been AMAZING since. Yall are wading in the DEEPEST waters of the ocean of life with NO IDEA of what lurks below the surface. You’re just trying not to drown when there are so many other ways to die, metaphorically speaking. Listen more, learn more, agree with YOURSELF less.
It makes no sense in any scenario for a man to raise a child he didn’t create…just my personal opinion, I would advise men who are on their journey and standing in their kingship to focus on you, reach you highest potential and don’t settle…I’d advise women to do the same
good move don't do it my grandson take up a baby mother and took care of both of them and the baby mother was still messing with her baby daddy and got pregnant by him my grandson had to run for his life
Often times the real father isn’t even respected why would a step father be any different? The role is no longer respected so it should no longer be offered.
I agree with Anton..I’m a single 42 year old black man with a good career, I own my home, nice car, great credit , money tied up in investments, I dress well and a couple classes away from obtaining my degree. I’m not going to disrespect single mothers but you gotta lay in the bed you made(and no I do not pander to white women) I am seeking the right woman who meets my standards
For the woman that was defending Russell Wilson, Russell is rewarding bad behaviour from his wife, such as making a song about women being independent while totally dependent on her husband to maintain her extravagant lifestyle and portraying a single woman's proclivities online while married.
@@terrellbeast7369 He's a simp to me, I get it , he fell in love with another mans baby mother, cool. But it's more than that. She run the show and probably walks all over him. The fact remains my Guy, is spending ya time , money and resources to raise another mans kid or kids, should be the last thung you wanna be doing with ya time and life. He already gave her two more so he stuck , best thing is to not allow it to go that far .
Women don't appreciate step-dad's. Luckily, the kid appreciates me to this day, and we still have a strong father and son relationship but his mother definitely didn't appreciate the role I played in his life.
I have a son and my girlfriend has a daughter and the unique situation is my son lives with me due to his mom not being a responsible adult as well so to me its an even stalemate until we have kids of our own. Now if You are a woman or a man who have no kids I would NOT recommend you date someone who have kids at all.
Salute to Anton for delivering that advice. Been there done that. Say hell no to being a stepdad. If those women want their child to have a dad in their life the responsibility is on them to choose men better and take more seriously who they having sex with.
Taking a woman who had a kid before you is simping. There's more women than men in the world you have options, why be with a baby momma? When you could have a girl with no kids
10 years into fighting this nonsense... And it's just getting worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse
75% Wedlock rate 60% of black women with children have at least 2 baby fathers. That's what happens when they have the mentality that someone will rescue them from their bad choices....
How can you invest time and money to a child who's not biologically yours, or carry your last name? And the woman can get up and leave without you getting any equity in the years put in to raise thar child. A step dad is the ultimate simp !
I was just telling one of my homies I’m never gone be in a relationship with a woman with kids again. I use to do it cuz I don’t have kids of my own, but fuck that
Problem is the woman needs to treat the step father better than the previous father. The respect needs to be better, the cooperation needs to be better, the appreciation needs to be better. Step fathers used to be a noble experience and men taking on that load would be treated like kings. Now a woman believes it’s this new man’s job to take care of a child that’s not his.
Bro that never happens. The very part of you taking on her kids she automatically loses respect for you now she may stay married to you for 15 to 20 years but the minute somebody else comes along she respects she'll start the cycle all over
@@Rubrick23. if a woman stayed married to you 15-20 years what is the likelihood that she will be remarried or even in another actual relationship. Probably less than 1% of women. Honestly if a woman stays married to a man for 20 years and things don’t work, it’s unfortunate but most likely they did the best they could do for the children. That’s the sacrifice they had to make.
Just remember, being a stepdad means you will always be number 2 behind another man's children. This is how a single mother shows her love by putting you number 2.
Its bad because alot of the women who now want you to step up and help raise their bastard children WOULDN'T HAVE GIVEN YOU THE TIME OF DAY BEFORE SHE HAD THOSE CHILDREN. You are a clean up man and she will ALWAYS BE CONNECTED TO HER BABY DADDY. and worst of all he will always have access to her and a say in your relationship.
@@daudajabani9831 your comment sounds oddly personal…the internet is one thing but in real life most step dads I knew whooped their stepsons and were real men …what you described is a man that’s a sucker
@Royale5600 I've never ever dated a baby mama lol 😆 my parents we married when they had me and my siblings. We don't do marrying single mothers around here
@@andrewclarke6565 over half of blackmen are single and childless in America looknat the stats. This stance of not dealing with single mothers resonates with more black men than you think.
There are always exceptions to the rule, once in a blue you get a situation that works by Gods grace, the point is that should be a standard set for men , why do we want to force a thing that mostly doesn’t work,
Harsh truth: you're not gonna save every man. And women will never truly hold themselves and each other accountable. Simps exist, and always will. Women know there'll always be a dude out there that'll save them from the consequences of their actions. Save who you can, Anton. Give the rest to God.
As a step Father who raised 2 boys from 8 and 4 till adulthood, because I was a stepson....Anton right. Poor investment unless she's a widow... Even then keep one eye open lol.
The part that I’ve noticed and will FOREVER rail against is that women ACTUALLY BELIEVE THEIR POV ABOUT MEN’S EXPERIENCE is the ACCURATE one. They’re wrong SOOOOOO OFTEN, but you can’t tell em.
ladies...you can complain all you want but at the end of the day none of the women on the panel are speaking on behalf on the men, so your opinion is irrelevant
Everyone wants too much and me being a single dad and when I dated single mothers I treated their children like mine but the women didn’t do the same I’d never do it again even if it means I’m single forever it’s not worth it
I'm sorry I don't have kids and I wouldn't be stepfather i wants my own family I can't answer to another man when it comes to discipline while I'm taking care of his kid thats a no for me
Also, say "No" to being a stepmom. If you are a single woman and you date a man with children with multiple baby mommas....Run!, you dont want any of that.
That should be obvious and being stepmom has nothing to do with it, if a woman dates a man with multiple baby mamas she's going to eventually being one herself
Nope. There’s. A huge difference. If a woman is dating a man with kids, with full custody especially, SHE IS NOT EXPECTED TO PROVIDE FOR THEM. If MAN marries a single mother HE IS EXPECTED TO PROVIDE FOR THEM. Huge difference. Can’t be compared. Period. Being a step parent has no benefits for a man.
@@bigman7570Unfortunately its not obvious to most women out here that is their sign to run for the hills. Don't you see the men with multiple baby mommas? Prime example, in entertainment: Nikki Minaj, CardiB and Ciara are either married to or dated and became pregnant to men with multiple children and BM. Not sure why Ciara allowed herself to get caught up with the Future that it would be different for her.
@@dcg590I am talking marriage. Women shouldn't even waste time dating men with kids. Avoid those men like the plague. Multiple BM states he has no self-control and will make you a BM, too. When you marry, although a woman may not be required to pay their husband's child support. If the man owes back child support and she makes the mistake of filing taxes jointly. You won't get that tax refund. Then, depending on his income, it can be a financial strain, paying child support along with taking care of his new family. So if that wife works, she will be expected to contribute financially in other ways to the household to offset expenses. So I implore any single childless woman just starting their journey to marriage. Avoid the man with the financial baggage worsened by having baby mommas. Most times, the guy is still sleeping with the BM, and the kids are rude and ungrateful. plus, it's hard disciplining another person child. Then you got to put up with, "i dont have to listen to you. You not my momma. " yes, that scenario is a hard pass. Granted, every scenario is different, and there are success stories of blended families. But I say to men and especially women avoid it at all costs because those good ones are the exception and not the rule.
It’s only 2 ways a man should think about talking care of the next man kids there dad is dead or he has life in jail it’s ok if not no man should do it he is right
Why the f$&@ would you be with a woman who’s baby daddy is doing life? What gutter are you digging as a dating pool? With 9 billion people on the planet, if THAT is the best you can do, then just look in the mirror and accept that you failed at life.
U sound hurt or delusional if your mom had u and wasn’t married u telling me it’s wrong for a man to date your mom? See how dumb that sounds so she don’t deserve love because she has u?
How common is step father abuse? As Melinda stated in her answer, about 1 in 6 girls are sexually abused by their step-fathers. There was an old study (Daly 1985) that showed children who live with step-parents are 40 times more likely to be abused than children who live with biological parents.
the exception to the rule is when the child's father is passed and then that's when the village steps in as a whole to care and raise that child to the best of their abilities, BUT, if the child's father is still around, then we as a society should make it easy for the father to be in his child's life, not the other way around, you know, family court
It depends on the TYPE of WOMAN you're dealing with if your interest is with the child's mom she's the one who your committed to not the child. However, going into the relationship a REAL man is going to understand if she has a child it's a package deal but on the flip side if she doesn't make that child respect you and your showing her that you can give the child something to respect then she's probably not the one for you.
I'm a 52 year old man. I remember in 1994 a great friend of mine told me he met a beautiful young i said. That's great. He said there's one problem. I said what he said she's got kids, I said how Many he said two I said oh man that's a problem. It's a sensitive topic because no one wants to be little children. Children are beautiful. However the issue is in this climate this day and age your expenses Any motions that are all wrapped up in this thing and if it doesn't work out. The man is left without anything. He doesn't have lights to those kids yet. He has spent his time his love is financial resources or that kid or kids? Women have to take this into account when they decide to have children with the man. Nothing is guaranteed. However, you must choose wit's late.
Russell is a simp because he puts Ciara's happiness and satisfaction over his own, while Ciara doesn't show that man, publicly any reciprocation. Also, Russell is a consolation prize. He's the guy Ciara settled for because she couldn't get the guy she wanted. She broke rules for Future but put rules on Russell. And Russell rolled over like a dog, showing his belly to accept it. He loves Ciara more than she loves him, and that's ALWAYS a recipe for disaster
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My child’s mother wants another child from me, I told her no. We aren’t together an will never get back together. I don’t even like dating women with kids but I said I would date if they have one not be with. I had a step dad, it sucked an my mom jumped into that relationship when she could’ve worked it out with my dad, it was her fault not his. He was good to her; she said that he was the best boyfriend she ever had. Russell is a simp because he doesn’t know how to get his head out of his wife’s ass. A good guy but I strongly think he has to earn his keep to much with a woman who just now is probably starting to appreciate him.
Great discussion sir another way you can maybe spin it is women with kids should date and marry men with kids. If the man with no kids gets involved with a single mother then yes that’s a bad situation like Russell Wilson did. At his caliber he could of had a black woman with no kids
My own stepdad told me never be a stepfather. Women will always argue that being a stepdad is good because it’s in their interest. Russell Wilson is 100% a Simp especially taking care of Future’s kid.
I feel he's a simp not because of being a stepfather,it's more of when your a high value man like Russell and didn't have any kids before her you don't lower your standards to a babydaddy/Babymomma drama toxic situation like that.
@@swiksg8576 I agree but I still think it extends to average men. I am middle class and I would never. Russell Wilson case I think is extreme on both ends in that he is very successful and he taking care of a dude’s kid that really didn’t care about her. Future got like 11 kids I think. I feel second hand embarrassment for Wilson especially like you said he is in top 1 percent of earners in the world. Being that he is a stepdad to specifically future’s kid makes it worse because we know what future promotes.
When your own stepfather tells you not to be one, that's when you know it's real. Women know that most men don't want to be stepfathers, so they have to sell men on the role. "You'd be doing your part to improve the black community." "It's a noble thing to do." Yeah, it's noble, right up until the kid says, "YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER!" Pass.
Told my stepson the same and I’ve let him WATCH the interactions as an adult. He challenged his mother about me in July and she straightened up. I appreciated that from him.
It made me resent my wife a little bit though. How tf yo KID got more influence with you ON MY BEHALF than I DO!? Be VERY careful young fellas. Start a family with a sane woman.
My pops was one. He told me not to be one. My mom was a single mother in 88, had me in 90. She told me not to be one.
Say NO to being a stepdad. Trust me it was the worst decision I ever made in my life 😢
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Same
Same here. There's no upside to it.
Stepfather SIMP
What happened bro
Men should father their own children.
Always
Modern women don’t want them to
@RicardoCray hold the line and ✋🏿 making them illegitimate
Take Shaq for instance
Phil raised him like he was his own
😂😂😂 yoo
Fellas please don’t listen to the folks on that panel that disagree with Anton. There is no reward in taking care of another man’s child. Period. I’ve tried multiple times. Women with kids are stuck in their ways, the family is already built and them kids know who their Dad is. You’re basically an outsider.
fellas stay away from single mothers don't join a family start your own family
Yep and it's much disrespect comes with it,especially once the women start disrespecting the men I've lived it..
I guess it all depends on the women and children you meet! Many kids appreciate having a good man in their lives.
You're not the husband. You're not the boyfriend. You're not even the one-night stand. You're the dude Mommy's smashing who won't leave.
@@Arae48The kids appreciate their biological father.
Say NO to being a step dad!!
Say no to being a step mom! 👍🏽💯
Anton is the only one who freely expresses how men truly feel. The other men argue like their mama and follow the women's lead on the panel.
What men ? The other men on the panel, Besides Anton are straight Simps
That’s not true, a real woman wouldn’t throw this burden on a man! Some men think they can handle it until they can’t! Stick to your guns guys, if it doesn’t feel right, walk away. If it feels right, hey give it a chance. Love is love, and if you love the woman enough, and there’s respect, I’m sure many of you would be great mentors! Boy, times have changed!
@user-od5sh1ck5g 🗣No! Men should never be a step dad under any circumstances.
@user-od5sh1ck5g it sure has lady, because also the women are not like they used to be back in the day if you was going to be a step father atleast most not all women back then were still women these girls today are little rough ass men with body count like wilt, Nasty attitude don't do nothing but she deserves the world 😅 heck no
@@Arae48 You shouldn't be making decisions based off your feelings. Only Facts. Find the Facts!
Being a stepfather is by far one of the worst mistakes you can make. Why settle for being second choice but have to treat her like she’s first? That’s insane
Can’t say that for everyone bro
You are right. I agree. I could never be a step mum either. 🙌🏽💯
Was a time when step fathers were respected, and the women they took in understood the extra burden and responsibilities that came with it so they acted accordingly by making life as easy as possible for him when dealing with the kids. Nowadays single mothers act like it's some kind of privilege to take on the responsibility of their kids.
I see videos like that one step father who paid for his step daughter's wedding and they treated him like an ATM. Even had the biological father there and both the mother and the daughter wanted him to walk her down the aisle. They didn't even care to have food there that the step father eat and he was the one paying for the catering service! Straight insanity. And they acted like he was in the wrong when he finally flipped out.
@@Saviiq convince me why not..👀
Couldn't put it any better
Been there, done that ! Most women don’t want you to have any say in the child’s upbringing. And if the child/children haven’t been taught respect or home training, it’s really hard. As a man, you, soon feel like the woman is just looking for a provider/protector for her and her offspring. And, if the kids father is involved in their lives it can really become challenging depending upon the situation. And if you do get attached to the kids and end the relationship that is emotionally stressful for all parties involved. Save yourself time, money and energy and find a woman with no kids. You will be happier in the long run.
Most single mothers only want three things: companionship, sex on the regular and help with the bills. She doesn't want a leader. She certainly doesn't want a father figure for her kids. The juice ain't worth the squeeze.
I don’t care how fine she is or how reformed she may seem, DO NOT do this! You’re better off alone than in a situation like this. I don’t care how horny or alone you are, you’ll hate yourself more if you get caught in this madness
Just go to Nevada and go to a brothel !
You better tellem!
Thank you 🙏🗣️🙌
I have seen way too many single mothers attack stepfathers for trying to lead the family. The worst was hearing a mother say in front of her children to her new husband " You ain't a real N***** because you don't wear Timberland boots. My son doesn't have to wear a belt or listen to your corny jazz music." Also hearing a child say " You ain't my father so you can't tell me what to do." Even though the real father has been absent for years and the stepfather paid $100,000 for college.
Yeahh, only an idiot would marry a single mom in this day and age. In the past single mothers were humble and knew they had to overcompensate to accommodate a man for taking them in. Nowadays, these h*es are so stupid they abuse the dude that’s making a sacrifice for them.
Horrible
I couldn’t imagine anyone speaking to me like that period! That’s awful!
@@Arae48 It happens more than you think.
My god I would have divorced her with the quickness!!!! But was she acting different with you prior to marriage?
The lady said, I'ma simp for my husband when I get married 😂, hahahahaha they really don't understand what a simp is, it's hilarious.
They think simping as a man is the same as men simping 😅
When a woman simps for her man, its good. But when a man simps for his woman, its bad.
@@kennethemenike1597 It is not the same. Women and men are different simping is only toward the men. Stop trying to make men and women the same.
Yeah, Q is wildin🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
@@kennethemenike1597not the same. I highly disagree with that.
If the father says, "If you put hands on my child, I'm whupping your a**. And every time I see you, it's on sight", now what? You might just have to unalive the father and risk your freedom to stay in the relationship. If the mother tells you that you can't discipline her child, what are you gonna do? The child is eventually gonna say, "YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER!" What happens when the mother shrugs her shoulders and says, "What do you want me to say? You're not the father"? You can't stay in the relationship or marriage. But if you leave, you'll be paying alimony and child support (some states have laws where you have to pay child support if it can proven that you were a father figure in the kid's life, even though you didn't marry the mother). There's no reason to sign up for all that and lose your peace. Dating and marrying a single mother isn't worth the baggage she brings with her.
Tell that woman and child bye✌️
Never happened to me 😂😂😂😂
A step father is a single mother's assistant.
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The time of men being a stepdad is over ladies just be careful who you have kids with that simple or stay with your kids father
i second that stepfather days a gone ladies take advantage of the men who play that role
Who does a step-dad benefit?
The woman! Exactly!
You as the step-dad are a walking wallet. Period
You have no say, no respect, and no control over an already chaotic situation!
Think about it, that's another man's woman and kids!
She talking about "they need a daddy."
They had a daddy, and you left him because what?
Same old s*** because sisters read from the same script when they want no accountability....
He was abusive
He was broke
We grew apart
Life happens
I was young
He went to prison/jail
He cheated
I found out I was baby momma #5
I wasn't HAPPY
He was a narcissist
He was boring
All that bulls***, and you want the next man to come in and be exceptional?!
Why? Because you are OLDER and wiser? No, you are just older and a walking liability!
You forgot to add " he was toxic". 100 percent accurate bro.
Where's the lie?
😅😅you hit the nail on the head with this comment
@@user-sz8il7io2pTrue that and I don’t see any woman in the comment section trying to defend this 🤷🏾♂️comment 😂.mind blowing 🤯
I refuse to ever sign up to be a stepdad whatsoever. It literally holds no value!
I hear you! There is no value in being a step mum either. 👎🏽💯
To hear a woman say there's nothing wrong with being a stepdad is hilarious. How did she arrive to this conclusion like as if she's a stepdad. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 #KeishaGoneKeepLying
Exactly. Of a woman going to say that. She gets the benefit of someone saving if she ever becomes a single mom
They want a sucker to be a reset button
I grow up with a step daddy & still had my real dad in my life
I learn very quickly as a kid to NEVER be a step daddy behind another dudes leftover 💯
Sloppy seconds no way
Most women need to select better mates ...
What about us. Aren’t we dumb for picking them women
@@twilliams842there’s 304’s, Chameleons, and gold diggers if they don’t or until they reveal themselves how are we suppose to know?
Without Vetting
They would if there wasnt an incentive behind their bad choices. Right now they can choose the best mate based on her tingle and everyone will blame the man for making her tingle in that way.
@twilliams842 it's not many men picking those dumb women. The rest of us are watching and laughing
If a child's father is alive and breathing, there is no way in the hell as a man you should ever take on the role as a stepfather. Let the two ppl who made it figure it all
Agreed. Unless the father's dead or he cheated more than once, or domestic violence was involved, the two biological parents should raise their kids together. As a family. "We just didn't work out" is no excuse.
Exactly! Let the two people who conceived those children take care of their responsibility. I could never be a step mum. ✌🏽💯
It’s so many females that are single mothers in my city I refuse to be a step dad. Been focusing on my purpose work more stay out the way
Simps tend to hate the word Simp, and it's obvious why Quinton would hate the word. Pandering is simping. Being nice to a woman is not simping, pretending this is the definition is disingenuous
Let Quinton know what it is brother! Salute!
I agree with Antwon. Stepkids do not represent the man that is raising someone else’s kids. On top of that if real dad decides to get his life together no matter when, those kids will forget about u. Trust me when I say this
I will never be a step-dad again in life...that whole thing was terrible
I’ve been on every social media platform and have not seen not one positive comment from a man on being a stepdad, they’ve all been negative experiences 🤷🏿♂️
Quinton is a simp just had to mention that since he said all children deserve a father as an argument for stepfathers. And these women are hilarious, it’s their responsibility to marry before they carry and stay in that marriage securing a safe and stable home for their child. Anton is 100% correct, especially in the black community this culture amongst our women continues because there are no consequences. The majority of us men don’t have children while almost 80% of BW are single mothers. And they are not even single mothers by just BM it’s by other men as well. Then they get every gov t benefit under the sun to make life easier but if we can’t pay we go to jail. Don’t be a step father not a boyfriend as the courts today are attaching child support to both.
Bro has a feminine vibe about him. Nothing he says supporting women shocks me.
Step father: all of the responsibility, none of the respect
I have to add one more thing for women, in general: YOU DONT HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MALE THAT EXPERIENCES SINGLE MOTHER LEADERSHIP. You cannot argue your opinion/feelings on the topic bc the one that is affected MOST is NOT YOU. Women have gotten SOOOOO OPINIONATED that facts DONT MEAN A THING TO THEM. If EVERY INDICATOR and EVERY STUDY says that being a single mother is bad for THE CHILD, why in TF are yall arguing why a single mom should be helped MORE than you advocate for women to DO SHIT THE RIGHT WAY? Our community is PLAGUED by YOUR PERSPECTIVE. Said as a 15 year educator and the eldest child of a woman that RUINED two marriages/a relationship and DAMAGED her children. I couldn’t separate the forest from the trees until challenged the way that SHE THOUGHT…and when I did, she disowned me and my life has been AMAZING since. Yall are wading in the DEEPEST waters of the ocean of life with NO IDEA of what lurks below the surface. You’re just trying not to drown when there are so many other ways to die, metaphorically speaking. Listen more, learn more, agree with YOURSELF less.
It makes no sense in any scenario for a man to raise a child he didn’t create…just my personal opinion, I would advise men who are on their journey and standing in their kingship to focus on you, reach you highest potential and don’t settle…I’d advise women to do the same
"Everyone deserves a daddy."
I agree with the phrase.
So give that child a great father before it's born.
I wouldn't date a single mom period or become a step-dad. It's lame.
Facts I learn from it trust me
good move don't do it my grandson take up a baby mother and took care of both of them and the baby mother was still messing with her baby daddy and got pregnant by him my grandson had to run for his life
Often times the real father isn’t even respected why would a step father be any different? The role is no longer respected so it should no longer be offered.
I agree with Anton..I’m a single 42 year old black man with a good career, I own my home, nice car, great credit , money tied up in investments, I dress well and a couple classes away from obtaining my degree. I’m not going to disrespect single mothers but you gotta lay in the bed you made(and no I do not pander to white women) I am seeking the right woman who meets my standards
For the woman that was defending Russell Wilson, Russell is rewarding bad behaviour from his wife, such as making a song about women being independent while totally dependent on her husband to maintain her extravagant lifestyle and portraying a single woman's proclivities online while married.
And what does that make him, A SIMP!
@@dappa311 so what is your position, because your approach to me seemed aggressive?
What does that make him to you?
@@terrellbeast7369 He's a simp to me, I get it , he fell in love with another mans baby mother, cool. But it's more than that. She run the show and probably walks all over him.
The fact remains my Guy, is spending ya time , money and resources to raise another mans kid or kids, should be the last thung you wanna be doing with ya time and life.
He already gave her two more so he stuck , best thing is to not allow it to go that far .
@@dappa311 geag, we made the same point, I just worded it differently
@@dappa311yep
I be damned if im gonna work my a$$ off just to help another mans kids AND i dont have any authority over them?!
F outa here
Women don't appreciate step-dad's. Luckily, the kid appreciates me to this day, and we still have a strong father and son relationship but his mother definitely didn't appreciate the role I played in his life.
Same here!!!
That’s pretty sad! But forget about her, the child respects and learned from you and is forever grateful! How rewarding is that! Best feeling ever!
I have a son and my girlfriend has a daughter and the unique situation is my son lives with me due to his mom not being a responsible adult as well so to me its an even stalemate until we have kids of our own. Now if You are a woman or a man who have no kids I would NOT recommend you date someone who have kids at all.
Say no to being stepdads for these trollops.
Anton asked that dude was he a Step Baby Daddy, he hesitated, then pretended he didn't hear the question. He finally answered ... No.
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Lmfao I caught that too
Salute to Anton for delivering that advice. Been there done that. Say hell no to being a stepdad. If those women want their child to have a dad in their life the responsibility is on them to choose men better and take more seriously who they having sex with.
The word "simp" needs to be normalized. I was married and had simp behaviors, believe me that 🍭 💩is for the birds ..
The government and simps are the main Safety Nets that enable this bad behavior.
Taking a woman who had a kid before you is simping. There's more women than men in the world you have options, why be with a baby momma? When you could have a girl with no kids
I agree with this imma single man and don't want to be a stepdaddy , that a real simp
Do not do the step-dad thing guys it never works out in the man's favor these women out here are shameless they are the predators
don’t be a stepdad esp when you have no kids. bc she want give u a child but want you to raise hers and you’ll be childless
Everyone deserves a father, and it's the mother's responsibility to select a decent man to procreate with to make that happen.
Being a stepdad aint worth the stress you put on yourself
Facts
It’s crazy cause I know women who’ve told their own sons start their own families but then telling other men to be step fathers…
Investing in a ready made family is such a bad deal. 99% of the time you will be disrespected by the mother and her children.
That's the simp lord!!!!
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😅
You killing the game.
10 years into fighting this nonsense... And it's just getting worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and worse
75% Wedlock rate 60% of black women with children have at least 2 baby fathers. That's what happens when they have the mentality that someone will rescue them from their bad choices....
Step father is like a prison sentence without committing the crime go back to Chad or Pookie
Great Content Anton I believe everything you say.
A step dad is a simp?
Naw Antoine.
A simp is a dude that over invest his time and resources for a woman who's not appreciative.
You’re wrong
A stepdad is over investing in something that’s not his. So yes a stepdad is a simp.
A step dad is absolutely a simp 😂😂😂
How can you invest time and money to a child who's not biologically yours, or carry your last name? And the woman can get up and leave without you getting any equity in the years put in to raise thar child. A step dad is the ultimate simp !
@@Cutthroatrah Thank you!
I did it several times no disrespect but I wouldn’t recommend it.
Blk men been taking care of other people kids since slavery... its hard been a stepfather 💯, its hard being a parent
I was just telling one of my homies I’m never gone be in a relationship with a woman with kids again. I use to do it cuz I don’t have kids of my own, but fuck that
Problem is the woman needs to treat the step father better than the previous father. The respect needs to be better, the cooperation needs to be better, the appreciation needs to be better. Step fathers used to be a noble experience and men taking on that load would be treated like kings. Now a woman believes it’s this new man’s job to take care of a child that’s not his.
Bro that never happens. The very part of you taking on her kids she automatically loses respect for you now she may stay married to you for 15 to 20 years but the minute somebody else comes along she respects she'll start the cycle all over
@@Rubrick23. it doesn’t happen now. It used to most certainly happened 30-40 years ago.
@@Rubrick23. if a woman stayed married to you 15-20 years what is the likelihood that she will be remarried or even in another actual relationship. Probably less than 1% of women. Honestly if a woman stays married to a man for 20 years and things don’t work, it’s unfortunate but most likely they did the best they could do for the children. That’s the sacrifice they had to make.
FELLAS DO NOT MARRY SINGLE MOTHERS....YOU WILL REGRET IT.....
Just remember, being a stepdad means you will always be number 2 behind another man's children.
This is how a single mother shows her love by putting you number 2.
A lot of my teammates had stepdads …I’m 35 and this is the first time in my life that I’ve heard this was bad 😂😂
Its bad because alot of the women who now want you to step up and help raise their bastard children WOULDN'T HAVE GIVEN YOU THE TIME OF DAY BEFORE SHE HAD THOSE CHILDREN. You are a clean up man and she will ALWAYS BE CONNECTED TO HER BABY DADDY. and worst of all he will always have access to her and a say in your relationship.
Your teammates stepdads are simps.
@@daudajabani9831 your comment sounds oddly personal…the internet is one thing but in real life most step dads I knew whooped their stepsons and were real men …what you described is a man that’s a sucker
@Royale5600 I've never ever dated a baby mama lol 😆 my parents we married when they had me and my siblings. We don't do marrying single mothers around here
@@andrewclarke6565 over half of blackmen are single and childless in America looknat the stats. This stance of not dealing with single mothers resonates with more black men than you think.
There are always exceptions to the rule, once in a blue you get a situation that works by Gods grace, the point is that should be a standard set for men , why do we want to force a thing that mostly doesn’t work,
You said it! I think our culture wants to make this the norm and I don’t like this! It’s like a rights of passage at this point.
Harsh truth: you're not gonna save every man. And women will never truly hold themselves and each other accountable. Simps exist, and always will. Women know there'll always be a dude out there that'll save them from the consequences of their actions. Save who you can, Anton. Give the rest to God.
As a step Father who raised 2 boys from 8 and 4 till adulthood, because I was a stepson....Anton right. Poor investment unless she's a widow... Even then keep one eye open lol.
The part that I’ve noticed and will FOREVER rail against is that women ACTUALLY BELIEVE THEIR POV ABOUT MEN’S EXPERIENCE is the ACCURATE one.
They’re wrong SOOOOOO OFTEN, but you can’t tell em.
Being a stepdad is a thankless job and women don’t appreciate men for doing they think it’s expected
ladies...you can complain all you want but at the end of the day none of the women on the panel are speaking on behalf on the men, so your opinion is irrelevant
Everyone wants too much and me being a single dad and when I dated single mothers I treated their children like mine but the women didn’t do the same I’d never do it again even if it means I’m single forever it’s not worth it
I'm sorry I don't have kids and I wouldn't be stepfather i wants my own family I can't answer to another man when it comes to discipline while I'm taking care of his kid thats a no for me
Baby mommas start howling like wolves when you don’t want to provide for Tyrone Jr. 😂
Omg!!! The video starts at 6:00 minutes
Why is it so hard to be with the original father. Why do these women have multiple children and different fathers?
That’s something they don’t wanna hear these 304s been wilding
Why do they think 🤔 they have 9 lives
Also, say "No" to being a stepmom. If you are a single woman and you date a man with children with multiple baby mommas....Run!, you dont want any of that.
That should be obvious and being stepmom has nothing to do with it, if a woman dates a man with multiple baby mamas she's going to eventually being one herself
Nope. There’s. A huge difference. If a woman is dating a man with kids, with full custody especially, SHE IS NOT EXPECTED TO PROVIDE FOR THEM. If MAN marries a single mother HE IS EXPECTED TO PROVIDE FOR THEM. Huge difference. Can’t be compared. Period. Being a step parent has no benefits for a man.
@@bigman7570Unfortunately its not obvious to most women out here that is their sign to run for the hills. Don't you see the men with multiple baby mommas? Prime example, in entertainment: Nikki Minaj, CardiB and Ciara are either married to or dated and became pregnant to men with multiple children and BM.
Not sure why Ciara allowed herself to get caught up with the Future that it would be different for her.
@@dcg590I am talking marriage. Women shouldn't even waste time dating men with kids. Avoid those men like the plague. Multiple BM states he has no self-control and will make you a BM, too.
When you marry, although a woman may not be required to pay their husband's child support. If the man owes back child support and she makes the mistake of filing taxes jointly. You won't get that tax refund.
Then, depending on his income, it can be a financial strain, paying child support along with taking care of his new family. So if that wife works, she will be expected to contribute financially in other ways to the household to offset expenses.
So I implore any single childless woman just starting their journey to marriage. Avoid the man with the financial baggage worsened by having baby mommas.
Most times, the guy is still sleeping with the BM, and the kids are rude and ungrateful. plus, it's hard disciplining another person child. Then you got to put up with, "i dont have to listen to you. You not my momma. " yes, that scenario is a hard pass.
Granted, every scenario is different, and there are success stories of blended families. But I say to men and especially women avoid it at all costs because those good ones are the exception and not the rule.
@@dcg590 This is 100% facts, the woman doesn't have to Provide for the child, women always try to do these 1 to 1 comparisons when they don't apply
Glasses is right,"WITH YOUR BACKHAND!"
It’s only 2 ways a man should think about talking care of the next man kids there dad is dead or he has life in jail it’s ok if not no man should do it he is right
Why the f$&@ would you be with a woman who’s baby daddy is doing life? What gutter are you digging as a dating pool? With 9 billion people on the planet, if THAT is the best you can do, then just look in the mirror and accept that you failed at life.
I had a step dad, and a good one. But I'll never be one...no way******
Never ever consider being a step baby daddy!!!😡😡
U sound hurt or delusional if your mom had u and wasn’t married u telling me it’s wrong for a man to date your mom? See how dumb that sounds so she don’t deserve love because she has u?
Anton spoke the truth, In Gods Eyes , he still sees a woman as married to her baby daddy through her child.
Great dialogue bro. More bro’s need to hold the communitah accountable for irresponsible actions.
Men become stepdad out of low self esteem, scarcity mindset, and just a low perception of themselves.
The way @anton says “WE KNOW THESE GUYS @3:13 😂😂😂
How common is step father abuse?
As Melinda stated in her answer, about 1 in 6 girls are sexually abused by their step-fathers. There was an old study (Daly 1985) that showed children who live with step-parents are 40 times more likely to be abused than children who live with biological parents.
Nope did it twice never again
the exception to the rule is when the child's father is passed and then that's when the village steps in as a whole to care and raise that child to the best of their abilities, BUT, if the child's father is still around, then we as a society should make it easy for the father to be in his child's life, not the other way around, you know, family court
Negative, it's never worth it. A woman can put u on child support for that step kid
@@burnthrust no where I said to become a step dad
@andrewclarke6565 it has happened in the states
I don't want nobody else kids and of story ....🤔🤣🤣
If the actual father of the child or children left, it should be red flags with the situation.
It depends on the TYPE of WOMAN you're dealing with if your interest is with the child's mom she's the one who your committed to not the child. However, going into the relationship a REAL man is going to understand if she has a child it's a package deal but on the flip side if she doesn't make that child respect you and your showing her that you can give the child something to respect then she's probably not the one for you.
Everything you said sound like like simp babble logic.
Never ever think of being a step baby daddy period!
I'm a 52 year old man. I remember in 1994 a great friend of mine told me he met a beautiful young i said. That's great. He said there's one problem. I said what he said she's got kids, I said how Many he said two I said oh man that's a problem. It's a sensitive topic because no one wants to be little children. Children are beautiful. However the issue is in this climate this day and age your expenses Any motions that are all wrapped up in this thing and if it doesn't work out. The man is left without anything. He doesn't have lights to those kids yet. He has spent his time his love is financial resources or that kid or kids?
Women have to take this into account when they decide to have children with the man. Nothing is guaranteed. However, you must choose wit's late.
Anton I'm with you!
Quinton is a simp because he makes excuses for women, not because he is nice to them.
Quinton is gay.
Kids deserve their biological parents. Taking on a child that isn’t yours isn’t a step up.
If she didnt have kids the guy she is looking to be in the step daddy role would not even be in her presence. You are the fall guy my good sir.
Baby mama deserve their baby daddy’s end of story
Russell is a simp because he puts Ciara's happiness and satisfaction over his own, while Ciara doesn't show that man, publicly any reciprocation. Also, Russell is a consolation prize. He's the guy Ciara settled for because she couldn't get the guy she wanted. She broke rules for Future but put rules on Russell. And Russell rolled over like a dog, showing his belly to accept it. He loves Ciara more than she loves him, and that's ALWAYS a recipe for disaster
Why do these mother's REFUSE to "surrender their children" to their Father's.
It doesn't matter if she works or not you should “control” 100% of the finances otherwise she will not respect you and will not follow your lead