People say this main actor is "cringe-worthy", but personally, I think that his slow method of talking and clear emotiveness in how he delivers his lines will be for the benefit of people for who English isn't there second language, and this is important stuff. It's worth taking the time to explain it as clearly as possible.
what about when both people are drunk and or high. If sex happens, is it still rape? if so who is at fault? not asking as a challenge, but as a legit question. Not using it as an excuse either, this is something that happened in the past and im looking to clear my conscience. Thx all :)
+Devon At least where I live, if both people are drunk or high then it is the person who initiated the first unwanted sexual contact who is at fault. However, people generally advise that you shouldn't engage in any sort of sexual activity when you or the other person/people are under the influence because it is harder to communicate clearly and/or understand what's going on when people are drunk or high. Substances add a lot of ambiguity to a situation, and so it is safer to just hold off until everyone is sober.
Rape is about power. In general, a sex act is rape when there's a clear power discrepancy and one party is _exploiting_ the other's lack of ability to refuse. So for the same reason two high school students having sex isn't rape but a teacher having sex with a student _is_, two people having sex while equally inebriated isn't as likely to leave either person feeling their trust has been violated. Because neither party was acting exploitatively.
+Devon They refer to exactly what you're asking in another video of the same series ( th-cam.com/video/QSDjSetlGiw/w-d-xo.html&src_vid=qNN3nAevQKY&annotation_id=annotation_3441986047&feature=iv ) The problem is whether your partner feels invaded, so having sex when someone is drunk CAN be rape. It won't always be rape, its just that there's a risk that it can be rape.
We don't need to use words I think that someone standing still or pulling themselves away is a perfect way of telling if they are comfortable with something
+Paul Proulx Honestly I think such videos should be shown even before college! When we're teaching sex-ed to our kids, I don't think we're doing a great job teaching consent if they're heading into college and causing some kind of sex scandal. Shit like this has got to be taught early.
Leonor Ramirez Maybe they should show it at Crane High School in Texas which teaches abstinence and now has 10% of the student body contracting chlamydia.
TheFebruaryDragon My condolences. I feel sorry for your future confusion in your sexual encounters. "only one way to know, they tell you" "Look at body language" ....wait thats 2 ways then.
Good for you! Yes, wait! And don't get into situations where it might be difficult to remove yourself. The passion of the moment can be really hard to fight!
Can't a girl, during sex, decide that she doesn't want to have sex with you, but still will continue? Is that rape? Because she did give you consent at first, but she later changed her mind, silently.
"consent means both parties are really truely....." this is colder than a Wall Street lawyer.... use you common sense for f(/&(/&vcks sake!!! So unreal.
+Julian Carrasco Some people don't have common sense and need to have it clearly spelled out for them. And if they are young teens who have never been in situations such as these they dont know what they're doing and don't know the rules and guidelines. Might seem silly for us experienced people, but this video can really help those who actually need it. :)
While I agree with a majority of what this series talks about, I disagree that words are always necessary. So long as you're paying attention to your partner's cues, you should be fine. This country's kind of gotten a bit overboard with what consent is (with good reason), so really, just follow your gut. You can check in every now and again, but you don't have to speak. Let your face ask the questions, not your mouth.
I agree. But I feel like this more so is targeted to newer sexually active people, as well as less serious couple's/flings or people who haven't been together long . I've been with my partner nearly 2 years now. We know each other well enough that a single glance means "fuck me now" but even a month or so after we first had intercourse, we still communicated openly that we wanted it and that it was ok. Or stopped if one of us didn't want it.
The only two qualms I have about this is that consent is not sexy. I don't agree with the need to try and make it sexy for it to be a respected human right. Secondly, STI, not STD. Great video! :)
My main issue with this video is #3. Its this logic that criminalizes people with HIV or other STDs. The responsibility to be safe is on all parties involved, not just the people with an STD or ovaries. Its not that hard to ask people to get tested before having sex, or to provide home testing supplies. Also, while stigma can be crushing to people with these conditions, we are in a day and age where people with HIV are likely to live just as long as those without it if treated. So we need to stop acting like its a death sentence or a life-ruining situation. The better thing would be to promote honest conversation about safety and willingness to be pro-active in making sure protection is a priority.
HIV is not good. So being afraid of it is logical. Most people can survive the flue or a broken bone but we always try to avoid them if we can. HIV can be avoided. It's better to prevent than to run wild with the mindset that "i'll just get medicine if i get it"
I really like this message and cannot agree more. But it looks like this guy is gonna break out in some awesome double-dream-hands moves at any second.
+nilharma You agree that sex while being drunk is rape? I suggest you either read into the law a bit or at least warn your future sex partners so they have a chance to turn around before they're excused of rape for having consensual sex with you.
oh I'm sorry. I'm sure you misunderstood what they meant. It is not that one cannot have sex when drunk. But if the person is so drunk that they might not be able to clearly show that they are into it, or that they can't even leave the situation because they don't understand what's happening etc. etc . Hope that makes it clearer.
nilharma He literally said "if the person is drunk" There's not really anything to misunderstand. I am glad you don't really believe that yourself but, actually, many people are trying to push the agenda that drunk sex equals rape. It's what's been used to create the 1 in 3 women statistic.
oh, I guess i didn't pay attention to that they phrased it like that, because that's just stupid of course. I haven't actually heard anyone ever believe that! Well, I guess the problem is that drunk people sometimes don't understand when they are pushing their agenda too hard, and that the other drunk person don't understand the situation and can't get themselves out of it. This became a long post, I'm going to stop rambling now.
nilharma I don't mind it. I'm a bit of a rambler myself anyway.~ You seem like a reasonable being so there's no point of me dragging this out. I just think it's important that we don't teach this stuff to impressionable children because they shouldn't grow up in a world thinking that men are able to rape without actually raping anyone.
Dude, you really need to check your privilege. You don't get to make the rules about sex, especially as a man. you don't get to remove my agency, or my sex partners
People say this main actor is "cringe-worthy", but personally, I think that his slow method of talking and clear emotiveness in how he delivers his lines will be for the benefit of people for who English isn't there second language, and this is important stuff. It's worth taking the time to explain it as clearly as possible.
Im just here for homework
this was just a normal education video until 1:15 and im like oh shit help me!
As someone with experience with sexual assault this is right on
what about when both people are drunk and or high. If sex happens, is it still rape? if so who is at fault? not asking as a challenge, but as a legit question. Not using it as an excuse either, this is something that happened in the past and im looking to clear my conscience. Thx all :)
+Devon At least where I live, if both people are drunk or high then it is the person who initiated the first unwanted sexual contact who is at fault. However, people generally advise that you shouldn't engage in any sort of sexual activity when you or the other person/people are under the influence because it is harder to communicate clearly and/or understand what's going on when people are drunk or high. Substances add a lot of ambiguity to a situation, and so it is safer to just hold off until everyone is sober.
Rape is about power. In general, a sex act is rape when there's a clear power discrepancy and one party is _exploiting_ the other's lack of ability to refuse. So for the same reason two high school students having sex isn't rape but a teacher having sex with a student _is_, two people having sex while equally inebriated isn't as likely to leave either person feeling their trust has been violated. Because neither party was acting exploitatively.
+Devon They refer to exactly what you're asking in another video of the same series ( th-cam.com/video/QSDjSetlGiw/w-d-xo.html&src_vid=qNN3nAevQKY&annotation_id=annotation_3441986047&feature=iv )
The problem is whether your partner feels invaded, so having sex when someone is drunk CAN be rape. It won't always be rape, its just that there's a risk that it can be rape.
Why isn't rape about consent?
It's rape if you have sex aka. rape a person who IS UNABLE to give consent.
We don't need to use words I think that someone standing still or pulling themselves away is a perfect way of telling if they are comfortable with something
+poisontaco55 Don't be to hard on him. His time as a Dalek made it hard for him to understand body language.
it talks about body language, consents not some fucking joke its not hilarious to be taken advantage of when you trust someone
You'd be surprised at the excuses people come up with. It's very sad that not everyone takes those signs as a no.
I hope these videos are being shown at colleges and universities.
+Paul Proulx Honestly I think such videos should be shown even before college! When we're teaching sex-ed to our kids, I don't think we're doing a great job teaching consent if they're heading into college and causing some kind of sex scandal. Shit like this has got to be taught early.
I agree this should be shown everywhere to adults and teens alike. At work, school, everywhere.
Leonor Ramirez Maybe they should show it at Crane High School in Texas which teaches abstinence and now has 10% of the student body contracting chlamydia.
Then you'll be glad to know that I have to watch this video for my Health class in high school.
TheFebruaryDragon My condolences. I feel sorry for your future confusion in your sexual encounters.
"only one way to know, they tell you"
"Look at body language"
....wait thats 2 ways then.
Am I allowed to wait until I'm married if I truly want to?
Thank you. I will try to wait.
Good for you! Yes, wait! And don't get into situations where it might be difficult to remove yourself. The passion of the moment can be really hard to fight!
ABSOLUTELY !
This video wont stop rapists from raping.
Wait...didn't you just explain consent in the video? Why are you saying at the end who knows? Do you even consent bruh? Smh...
I don't think I disagreed with anything in this. What's wrong with the video?
Who could disagree with this video???
Someone needs to put subtitles in every single language in this video! It's too great not to share with absolutely everyone!
This is so important
Someone should design a phone app for consent.
this is such a good resource for teachers and parents! I hope every school I work at lets me use this!
+Janna Wood Precisely why I'm homeshooling my kids! Because of you! :-)
Well, the answer for me is easy: No one wants to have sex with me. That was easy. No need for a four-minute video.
I really don't want to live on this planet any more...
Can't a girl, during sex, decide that she doesn't want to have sex with you, but still will continue? Is that rape? Because she did give you consent at first, but she later changed her mind, silently.
"consent means both parties are really truely....." this is colder than a Wall Street lawyer.... use you common sense for f(/&(/&vcks sake!!! So unreal.
+Julian Carrasco Some people don't have common sense and need to have it clearly spelled out for them. And if they are young teens who have never been in situations such as these they dont know what they're doing and don't know the rules and guidelines. Might seem silly for us experienced people, but this video can really help those who actually need it. :)
+animevgamelover actually rape is just a sick fetish most of the time. It's plenty of "rape porn" ._.
Okay look this is an educational video necessary for society. I'm out of this convo so have a nice holiday guys. No more tagging I'm done.
Now you're just harassing me. Remember no means no? lloydgush and others.
You are so wrong. Mutual consent is sexy.
While I agree with a majority of what this series talks about, I disagree that words are always necessary. So long as you're paying attention to your partner's cues, you should be fine. This country's kind of gotten a bit overboard with what consent is (with good reason), so really, just follow your gut. You can check in every now and again, but you don't have to speak. Let your face ask the questions, not your mouth.
I agree. But I feel like this more so is targeted to newer sexually active people, as well as less serious couple's/flings or people who haven't been together long . I've been with my partner nearly 2 years now. We know each other well enough that a single glance means "fuck me now" but even a month or so after we first had intercourse, we still communicated openly that we wanted it and that it was ok. Or stopped if one of us didn't want it.
who else here from OFL?
nothing about "safe words", for shame.
BANANA
lol, this isn't a BDSM tutorial😂😂
I fucking exploded into laughter after the first thing he said
The only two qualms I have about this is that consent is not sexy. I don't agree with the need to try and make it sexy for it to be a respected human right. Secondly, STI, not STD. Great video! :)
Really sexy is to Troll planned parenthood trying to Say: don't rape! When women get "how to not get raped" more often than not..
This is so awesome!
My main issue with this video is #3. Its this logic that criminalizes people with HIV or other STDs. The responsibility to be safe is on all parties involved, not just the people with an STD or ovaries. Its not that hard to ask people to get tested before having sex, or to provide home testing supplies. Also, while stigma can be crushing to people with these conditions, we are in a day and age where people with HIV are likely to live just as long as those without it if treated. So we need to stop acting like its a death sentence or a life-ruining situation. The better thing would be to promote honest conversation about safety and willingness to be pro-active in making sure protection is a priority.
STDs are usually the consequence of irresponsibility. So you'll forgive me if I lack sympathy for these people.
Preach it!
+Silent Ryhmes
That's simply not true.
HIV is not good. So being afraid of it is logical. Most people can survive the flue or a broken bone but we always try to avoid them if we can. HIV can be avoided. It's better to prevent than to run wild with the mindset that "i'll just get medicine if i get it"
I really like this message and cannot agree more. But it looks like this guy is gonna break out in some awesome double-dream-hands moves at any second.
+nilharma You agree that sex while being drunk is rape? I suggest you either read into the law a bit or at least warn your future sex partners so they have a chance to turn around before they're excused of rape for having consensual sex with you.
oh I'm sorry. I'm sure you misunderstood what they meant. It is not that one cannot have sex when drunk. But if the person is so drunk that they might not be able to clearly show that they are into it, or that they can't even leave the situation because they don't understand what's happening etc. etc . Hope that makes it clearer.
nilharma He literally said "if the person is drunk" There's not really anything to misunderstand. I am glad you don't really believe that yourself but, actually, many people are trying to push the agenda that drunk sex equals rape. It's what's been used to create the 1 in 3 women statistic.
oh, I guess i didn't pay attention to that they phrased it like that, because that's just stupid of course. I haven't actually heard anyone ever believe that! Well, I guess the problem is that drunk people sometimes don't understand when they are pushing their agenda too hard, and that the other drunk person don't understand the situation and can't get themselves out of it. This became a long post, I'm going to stop rambling now.
nilharma I don't mind it. I'm a bit of a rambler myself anyway.~ You seem like a reasonable being so there's no point of me dragging this out. I just think it's important that we don't teach this stuff to impressionable children because they shouldn't grow up in a world thinking that men are able to rape without actually raping anyone.
please enable the option to translate captions!
I hate sex . Sorry people ...
why did people dislike this????
Probably because of the visual sexuality. It's not necessary. Majority of people like to keep that private.
Yeah I'm not sure. I don't see an obvious flaw in the video
why do you only show gay peeps? lol
this is cute
hey
I've woken up to my girlfriend going down on me. It was great. Am I a rape victim?
Y’all trippin
This guy's a bloody cringe lord
This is the shiznit yo
man they making me watch this stupid shit for homework 🙄
Dude, you really need to check your privilege. You don't get to make the rules about sex, especially as a man. you don't get to remove my agency, or my sex partners
Feminists have joined the chat
Are you trying to make sex boring or what?
if you need to explain rape then maybe you need new friends. SMH this generation is so pathetic.
sexy
This video is soooo cringe lol
Wait only a man and woman can have sex what the fk