Yes and at some point it does become a 2way street, meaning he needs to learn how to have respect even when he doesn't want to for he will carry that behaviour into his relationships and end up a lonely young/old man
Yes man i like your comment she is trying to shange i couldn't even watch when karamo agreed to this boy calling her mother i repeat her mother B word its a no no
I feel Karamo is doing a better job than so many other talk shows out there. He hears them out patiently. Never judging but only explaining why their behaviour is incorrect and how to bring about change. A very positive show indeed..
He worked as a social worker and therapist. Most talk show hosts get their jobs due to popularity or because they wanted a show but he has the background to be effective.
They love to place revange to their children for things happened to them the time even when their children were not born. I think they are afraid to make their children happy because they are jealousy to see them happy because they missed that kind of happiness in their own childhood. So they make their children pay the price of what the parents lacked in their past childhood life.
People are so broken! I swear literally everybody needs therapy! She’s hasn’t been loved and she doesn’t know how to give it. So essentially broken people give birth and they then break the children they have. It’s a cycle
Exactly! People don't want to listen and hear that, not realising that one day its very likely their children will say exactly the same to them. What came first the chicken or the egg??
The mother needs individual therapy to address her childhood trauma in order to be an effective parent. She should take parenting classes as well because she said some hurtful things that a child will never forget. I have a feeling that she and her son will eventually get closer after they overcome their traumatic experiences. I am praying for them, and I wish them all the best. This is a great show!
FOR ANYONE THAT HAS SOMETHING NEGATIVE TO SAY ABOUT MY ATTITUDE THINK ABOUT STUFF YA DIDNT GET TO HEAR ❗️❗️❗️ I took care of 4 of my siblings by myself at the age of 9 and I’m 23 now been in foster care since 4. Just now leaving so please before u judge ask what caused my Trauma 💯💯💯
I am so very, very sorry for what you and your siblings have had to endure. The mother's harmful, hurtful, horrendous words cut like a knife-worse than if you've been literally cut with a knife. You never forget the horrible things your Mother or Father says to you. I pray for you and your siblings healing from the trauma you've had to endure. God bless you all.❤
Honestly, I appreciate the justice that these young adults are getting. A lot of our parents did some vile things when we were younger and Thank God we have a platform to tell our stories. I’m glad our parents are starting to recognize their faults as well. 🙏🏽❤️
This. I am so tired with these old boomers criticising soft parenting, hearing your child etc claiming it's nonsense. We will do better collectively to raise a society of love, tolerance and empathy. Especially in these troubling times.
Sad thing about it is even with all the exposure , young people arent doing any better. Kids born to parents who respect each other seem to have fewer problems. I understand their longing for love but giving away your body in every sense of the words, having babies before being ready will not solve problems. Wow. How can we help our young people do better than their parents? Did grands do any better? Can they help?
@@Kaizure_ parents today are not doing better. We have 11 years with guns, 16 year olds shooting up playgrounds, large groups of 200+ kids between 12-22 converging in shopping districts & malls snatching products and running, car jacking people. It’s the kids that’s doing all this violence and theft. They are not being raised with respect, tolerance & empathy. Teachers are leaving schools because they are disrespectful. This lady’s problem was her neglect of her children due to drugs and her children suffered.
I just hate when the parents say “I went through a lot” as an excuse. My father new my sister and I were sexually assaulted several times by some members of the step family when we were children, and his excuse was “My life is hard, my childhood was complicated, you don’t understand” and then managed to put the blame on us when we told my mother what happened. I just hate it, there’s no excuse for mistreating your kids.
Yes I agree with you because if you had a terrible life and you have children it's your job and your duty to make their life much better than yours and be the furthest don't take them down the same road that you went down we are supposed to better ourselves and make better lives for our children
It's NOT AN EXCUSE to say I had a terrible life it says to an adult child " I didn't have the tools to be a good mom" but you to apologize and keep your mouth shut while they tell you the impact YOUR LACK OF SKILLS HAD ON THEIR CHILDHOODS but at some in order to heal adult children have to UNDERSTAND parent didn't have the tools was in a cloud of addiction and they need to grieve the" fluffy mommie" they never had and somewhat understand their moms without intense therapy will never be whole I have had to grieve my own relationship with my bio- mom she allowed abuse of ALL KINDS to happen to me in severe forms and did nothing she is always right and belongs to a religious cult I don't even know her last name she remarried at dad died I know next time I see will be when she is in hospital dying or in a casket at tht I HAVE TO ACCEPT THT for her to apologize and work and hear would mean her leaving cult of 55yrs and I dont see tht happening im saddened by tht
@alihabilly1201 I am sorry you experienced so much trauma and pain and am wishing you get the healing you deserve. And if you haven't already, please prioritize self-forgiveness as well. I say thia as a survivor myself. The shame, inability to forgive and trust can be so heavy & as a survivor (not a victim), we MUST release these negative feelings we hold over ourselves because of the violations of others. Please prioritize your healing, if you haven't already. You are worthy 💚🙏🏾💚
@@kennethbrabham8348Kenny are you the kid in this episode. If so brother I get you! She thinks an apology is a reset. It’s not a pass to keep doing the same shit!
You can’t understand unless you’ve been in a person’s shoes. That mom is hurting because of her childhood and that is valid. Why is it parents aren’t suppose to hurt? I’ve been on both sides and it’s rough. You do the best you can.
@@cassandrastanton7955 The sympathy for a parent's upbringing ends when it hurts their child. My child doesn't care what I am going through and rightfully so. It is my job to heal myself before having children. There are no excuses!
Its SO OLD to hear addicts say they are moving past that part of their life. The wounds the ADDICTS CAUSED don't go away. They gotta DEAL WITH AND HEAR and acknowledge ALL the pain they caused that is permanent. They forever change a child. FOREVER.
Part of recovery is making ammends if you follow NA/AA which most recovery programs do in some form making amends means saying sorry more than once hearing YOUR IMPACT ON A PERSON YOU HAVE HARMED ETC its about humbling yourself not making the impact of your behavior less
My boyfriend’s mother dumped her kids off and took to the streets (drugs). Now, he’s the only child trying to help her. The other kids want nothing to do with her. Can’t be a shitty parent and expect ya kids to wanna be around you.
@@thomasyoung5013 some of yall be so negative & ugly for no reason. She simply gave Karamo his props. Your lil snarky reply was so unnecessary. STHU‼️
The mom should be ashamed of herself. Listening to all of that was hard. The fake bewilderment as if she doesn’t know why he treats her like that like that is CRAZY! Kenny experienced the worst of it all because he’s the oldest. She’s trying to gloss over the past & make it all about her “woe is me”, it doesn’t work like that. No accountability whatsoever. She has to grow up, at her big fossil age. Karamo is so knowledgeable & helpful. I hope this healing works for them. Watching these episodes make me even more grateful for the parents that I have.
WHAT YOU WENT THROUGH WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD IS IRRELEVANT THE MOMENT YOU DECIDE TO HAVE CHILDREN. IM TIRED OF THAT EXCUSE! I made the conscious decision to parent myself and lick the wounds my parents caused me BEFORE my son was born. STOP SCARRING YOUR CHILDREN, BREAK THE CYCLE
I don't necessarily agree with the fact that what you went through as a child is irrelevant. It is very relevant in the aspect of preventing those behaviors and patterns from taking place again. But sometimes depending on what's going on you can feel triggered and it's up to you to learn how to respond. Unfortunately there are many many parents who have children but they don't understand that they themselves are also hurt from things that they experience growing up. Understanding your own mental health as you mentioned and parenting yourself is one of those ways to do that. But it does not mean that the trauma and bad experiences you had growing up becomes completely irrelevant.
I don't agree with this either. What you went through is so relevant and has a role to play in how you reciprocate the same treatment to your children. Although this woman's actions shouldn't be justified , she's had a traumatic past and is actually acting (subconsciously) based on that. She needs therapy to and love. For someone who hasn't even felt love in her past, it would definitely be hard to reciprocate that feeling too. I really wish and pray that people grow up to be great parents to avoid a traumatic experience for their children ❤️
@@kionteyturner9520 I understand what y'all are saying but when her son repeatedly says "I was abused" and her one and only response is "I was abused too" really invalidates his experience. She has a lot of growing to do, but I can't sympathize at this time, she needs to put that boy first.
@@Rooted_LocsYes you are correct but l do think she's trying and if he doesn't try to understand where she is coming from then it's very likely that one day he will be sat where she is. And so the cycle continues...
This mom is working my last nerve. Everything is “I” “I” “I” or “me” “me” “me” stop playing victim. Your child is the victim and your children do not “make you” say the horrible things you say to them.
she is just expressing herself i dont think it was with bad intent she clearly needs to get help with herself nd past traumas in order to become better mother and person. she also stated that she realises she does that.
They are both victims, but there are more expectations of the mother. She wasn't equipped to have a baby or raise him, therefore this created a situation that has grown and grown out of control. They just need to be patient with each other.
What kind of mom would say to her own child that they're a "disgrace to her vagina"? Who says that?! Just pathetic! I hope she gets the help that she needs, as well as therapy
Bless this young man. The pain and trauma inflicted on him is inexcusable and will take years to heal. Once mom is ready to stop making excuses and deflecting away from the blame, only then can their relationship heal.
My mother is the same way as her and that's why our relationship has been ruined and she runs from help and I run towards it! Therapy and everything else.
Bless them both, the son has gold in his heart and love for his mother in spite of it all. Im sorry that they were both abused, he did so well, and he will make it.
She didn’t flip anything she was explaining why she did the things she did. That’s where generational curses are made. She didn’t have it her son didn’t have and so on and so forth. The generational curse is broken with healing from trauma and having forgiveness and unconditional love.
i’m so sick and tired of parents justifying what they put their children thru by saying “i went through this, or i went through that”. why tf are you blaming or punishing ur child for what u went thru. like it’s sad that u went thru shi n all, but making ur child suffer for it wont heal ur trauma, and it wont make u feel better.
I knooow..... she sent her child to foster care when the others are in the house, cutting him out of nice moments is inhumane. If my parent did that I would've cut them out. No love and respect for me as the child.
It's a difference when you are not trying to do better and when you want to, but just don't have the tools. I truly felt this mom is wanting to make the change for him but she didn't have the tools and it's hard to move forward when you still have to be faced with the passed that still lingers. Doing the work is also hard work but I hope she can commit. This was my favorite episode!
Exactly. I dislike the way everybody is dragging her. Yes she messed up reasoning her kids & caused hella TRUAMA. I get it….I’m not excusing her FAULT at all bc those kids didn’t ask to come here she brought them here. So she owes them not the other way around. But STILL….She is owning her shyt & wants to do better. Folk holla about therapy & then when someone comes to seek help they STILL talking crazy about them. Damned if u. Damned if u don’t.
It's not the childs responsibility to be the adult in having to keep considering the unresolved trauma of their parent but he needs to come to terms with the mom's inability to be the mother he wants bc she got a position that she wasn't prepared for. She can do things like taking them places. That's not the essentials of mothering. She just can't do it. Children get hurt when they are birthed into situations not ready for them. They end up with burdens and instability they should never have to deal with. Everyone just suffers trauma in these situations. Mom can't be empathetic toward him ot give him more love until she can heal and in that extend understanding. I feel for them.
Thank you so much Karamo this episode was amazing! She is so obsessed with herself and what she doesn't have and not concentrating on showing her son the love he needs. She reminds me so much of my mother who was also a drug addict and to date blames her mother who dies 17 years ago for not sending for her from Jamaica at an earlier age. It is so sad that she never sees the damage that she has done to myself and my siblings and never allows us to speak to her about it.
The hardest part of parenting is loving our children while we ourselves are in pain and carrying the burden of pain. We love them regardless of our broken feelings, because they are part of us. The burden that parents carry, especially a single parent is phenomenal. There are personal issues which parents don't know how to or can't discuss with their children. Nevertheless, instead of giving up, many parents keep on trying because the needs of their children, whom they dearly love, supersedes theirs. I see two people who can help each other to heal, grow and build a positive future.
I was a foster child also. My foster father molested me but I was and am very respectful to my real parents and others around me. He also needs to take responsibility for some of this. I can tell he has some rebellion. She admits her wrong. She’s a recovering addict. I pray they heal
Lol that sounds like a child trying to prove a point and thinking they know it all. Being held accountable shouldn’t have anything to do with what generation you’re from and how disrespectful you are to your parents. Makes no sense, in your parents home they will always be right until you hit that age where you’re grown and go get it yourself. Sucks but that shouldnt dictate having a voice vs being disrespectful.
@@Notifysender90 now see that's where your wrong because in MY house and several other homes, our parents accept that they did wrong, apologized, and we moved forward. It had nothing to do with disrespect, but please continue 😊
@@Notifysender90your viewpoint is the exact ignorance we be talking about💀 you think someone ensuring their boundaries are respected and understood and verbally expressing that is taken as disrespectful to y’all. Y’all are okay with being the bullies and dishing out the disrespect because it’s your house, those are also your children. They gonna mirror what they see, so really can’t be mad at anyone but yourself🤷🏾♂️
They most certainly do need to be held accountable, and not allowed to simply dismiss the wrong that they’ve done in life, nor the way that it has made you feel, however, that can be done without being blatantly disrespectful. If you can’t at a very minimum refrain from name-calling, and profanity, and you’re an adult, then your best bet is probably to just remove the toxicity from your life, and love your parent from afar. Never allow anyone, parents included; to make you step out of who you truly are. Let an ignorant person be ignorant by themselves, while you hold yourself to a higher standard. Sadly, sometimes, they go to the grave having never learned, but when we know better, we should do better. Be the change that you want to see.
Mom has such a beautiful face, so pretty- those eyes. Its too bad they are both in pain. Kenny can't just rebound instantly as Mom may like. It will take time. Hes been hurt. Mom has also been hurt coming up and later in life with/ through drugs etc... But it Was and IS her responsibility to mother, nurture, ensure safety, support and guidance through love and discipline to Kenny and her children. They can't undo the past but they have a wonderful fresh start right now and that's terrific.All the best to them.
@@kennethbrabham8348 Ur welcome. That's terrific. God is so good. Because u both are willing to make it work, it is working especially with God as the driving force. Much continued success in ur relationship with your mom :)
I can only imagine what this child went through while his mother choose drugs over him. These mothers are a mess and truly abusive which in turn is ruining this generation 😢😢😢😢😢
Words have so much power. Please take a breath before you respond because unfortunately, you can not unring that bell y’all 😮💨❤️ Praying this family has healing. 🙏🏽
Kenny - I'm sorry for what you went through and remember... Just because they are family, if they are toxic, you can set boundaries so you don't have to deal with their negativity. Seems like you need to love your mom from a distance and pray for her and your siblings.
My family was toxic to me in my teen years I don't deal with them since 2006 I been cut them out my lyfe since that year I'm thankfulI every day for moving on with my lyfe it was sad but I had to do it and move on I still love them with all my ❤️heart❤️ but from a distance never be around people that disvalue you
Just had a big argument with my mum and all I wanted from her was to take accountability for the hurtful things she says but she refuses to acknowledge it.
I saw someone say that uneducated mothers are the worst to be raised by. I feel like its way deeper than that. Parenting is not perfect, there are some that make horrible decisions regarding their kids. This is way deeper than that. My mom had me young too and i was raised by my gma my first 8 years of my life. My mom is very smart and strong and brave and all the wonderful things a human can be especially as a mom. Ive never held it against her for what i went through emotionally and mentally. My dad was incarcerated in and out untill i was 18. Thise situations as a young child made me do some soul searching and self reflection and i learned as early as 8 years old that people will do what they want to do, some people just aren't made/wired to be certain things. Like my dad, i carried pain for a long time , but i always knew that he was a person, he had his own demons and i will never put that judgement on him. I believe that when we are born we are not entitled to both parents, so therefore its a blessing if you have both just as much if you have one. Karamo hit the nail on the head when he said it was a choice she made....everything is about choices and sometimes we dont always need an apology or acknowledgement. It is what it is and it is up to us what happens next. I cant take back the trauma i went through and i dont regret it either. It shaped me to who i am today and im learning to love myself and how to be nice to myself. Its a day by day process and im super blessed and grateful to have this mindset especially for my child. ❤
What parents have to realize is that even despite them having had a bad childhood, the decisions that they make as adults are on them, not their children. You made the conscious decision to pick up that drug, and you became addicted. Now that you’re clean, and want to move on your merry little way, you expect everyone else, whose lives you have shat all over, to just move along their merry little ways as well. Life doesn’t work like that, because while drugs may no longer be a part of *YOUR* life, the drug use, and the behavior that resulted from it was literally woven into the fabric of who your child grew up to be. They didn’t ask to be born, especially not into a highly dysfunctional situation. So sometimes, you may just have to take that “L” with grace, and be willing to hear how your actions hurt your child.
I think if you an adult and if you can't get that love that you want from your parent you need to move on and when you have your own children try to break that cycle
For sure we must ask God to help to understand how to ❤ and how to interact ❤ and sometimes we much leave negativity behind so we can heal and spring clean our path to lay down new ground as we began to build our live but even the cracked ground helps us to find understanding, to help keep the new ground work in place and deal with adversity to maintain our new ground read the story of Abraham in the Bible just because we come from the same Bloodline don't mean our paths are the same
I'm thankful my mom has been my back bone. She grew up in hell but she never put me there to visit. She would explain things and feel like she wasn't doing enough and to this day I still tell her that she did an amazing job.
I pray he and his siblings can defeat this generational toxicity. She was once him. And i bet it has been this way in that family. I pray they both heal from this point. It’s sad
He is a reminder of a time she wants everyone to forget. That’s typical of ex drug addicts. They create absolute havoc in the family then expect folks to forgive and forget. My mom used to tell my sisters and I “if I knew them what I know now I would have had all boys”.
Kenny is so handsome... she loves her big baby boy... and she just doesn't know how... and you can see he loves his mommy too... we are so imperfect... in our minds our love is ... our actions just don't align up with the most of that sometimes
My child was misbehaving and bad at 5 years old . I use to raise my voice etc give him pop pop because I thought I was doing right , but then I read a bible and it said a gentle response defuses anger. So since that day even though I wanted to I tried to be softer and gave consequences consistently rather than raising my voice, like taking away toys or some type of consequence he’d get upset about etc instead of popping . When he’d act out trying not to match him can be rough when he’s acting bad but I knew I had to try a new approach. When he’d get upset I’d hug him , spend more time with him, we’d talk it out and I’d just be gentle the opposite. Showing him how to act. A lot less than a year later after patiently waiting for the fruit of that verse to help me. he did a 180 and every one says he’s the best acting kid in the whole entire world 🌍 to this day and he’s 9 and he really is he is soft gentle and sweet and my baby 🥰
I'm sorry for them both. She cannot model any kind of parental behavior, none. How can she? She wasn't raised with parents. She has no idea how not to show her anger. I feel very sorry for this family. Kenny cannot excuse his own behavior either. Kenny has a hard attitude, right or wrong it will get him nowhere. She was crying real tears throughout it all and I believe they can be healed. 😊
That’s her job to work on herself & try to heal and be better for herself and her kid, I know people who didn’t have parents but they’ve done their best and are good parents to their kids, not having a good childhood it’s the reason why but not an excuse, He’s a kid and that’s the only way he’d be able to express himself (which I know isn’t right) but sometimes pain becomes anger
Honestly, every single person that has been through the care system on Karamo has been a survivor of abuse in the system it should be shut down it's disgusting
You shut down the system then what, what will we do with the abandoned children, because a lack of a system will not stop piss poor ass parents from neglecting and abusing and abandoning their children, the problem is not the system the problem is people who sit up and have multiple children without the means or ability to provide for them
&& then do what??? What is the solution? Honest question. Kids are destroyed by their OWN flesh & blood every single day && then placed w/strangers who repeat the cycle. Honestly ppl need to STOP reproducing. There’s never any guarantees from person to person whether or not these babies will be safe in this cruel world. IMO. 0 way in hell I’d birth children. 0!
You are such a beautiful blessing my younger brother/ son. From a God loving mother to you Karamo, I Love and appreciate you and all you’re doing. God bless you.
This was really beautiful. We take it out on our parents so much thinking that they should be perfect and not realizing that they might have bigger demons to fight. They are humans with feelings and crazy vulnerabilities we never see. As I grow older I get to see my parents as my friends, for it is ok for your friends not to be perfect but we love them for who they are. Bless you mama.
I struggled a lot as a single parent of 2 beautiful kids... One thing I learn to do is to listen to them... Love them in action... Respecte what they have to say and you wil never regret..
She talks over everybody, even Karamo... geez Also, she has to understand that its not just HER PAST, its THEIR PAST. So, she has to stop shutting him down and being dismissive.
Kenny ... Prayers for you in your healing. You will have to step away AMF get your healing. Your Mother wants the focus on herself. You focus on YOURSELF. Your Mother is still stuck in the "I-I-I" or "Me-me-me-me" role. 💕
Awwwwwe that’s ever twin. Everyone makes mistakes and I believe their mother/son relationship can heal in a positive way and be restored. sending light and love to them 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Thank you everyone is blaming the mother but his is so disrespectful with his diva attitude. Is mother may not have been perfect but he’s no angle either
@@longbranch11207 I think you misread my comment, if you fully watch the video you will come to understand the mother is most definitely in the wrong here. SHE is the cause of this young boys attitude.
@@kennethbrabham8348 But it seems like you're trying to raise her when you disrespect her. You move out of your lane - and when we do that, we have to accept the consequences. How old are you, Kenny?
Jesus has the power to heal completely and bring restoration to painful pass and right now circumstances!! Handsome young man and beautiful mother, I pray the best for them in many ways, in Jesus name.... Glory Hallelujah 🙏🙌🙏
This woman is a horrible excuse of a mother…forreal, she’s got to be one of the worst we’ve seen on the show. What kind of woman who relinquish control of their child to a detrimental system that has already traumatized their child? Crazy smh
I don't think any healing took place. His mother failed to take accountability for her poor parenting and communication style. She can not continue to use her bad upbringing as an excuse to hurt her son, and dismiss his trauma.
Disrespect is a learned behavior... Like the bible says don't provoke a child to anger ... Drugs is never an excuse it's a choice so there is no kudos because I kick a habit you had no business having in the first place.. imo
Hurt people hurt people but it’s more hurtful when a parent is hurting their own children forcing them to go thru their hurt that belongs to them and not their children! This is why over 25 years I mentored at risk youth who have come from broken homes because I too came from one. Father died when I was a young child and mother was forced to be a single parent but so was I with my siblings and then my own children! But I refused to allow my children to go through the type of hurt that I went thru because MY HURT DID NOT BELONG TO THEM!
Kenny you gonna be alright!!!!!! your mom LOVES you... But you gotta do better as well!!!! I cant wait for the update!!!!! BTW Kenny your sooooo handsome!!!
These parents who do not take accountability for the trauma they have inflicted on their kids really gets to me...😖..he shouldn't disrespect her, but what example does he have to go on?! I know first hand the lingering effects these type of relationships can have...they need family therapy..
A parent struggling with substance abuse is traumatic to the child! A child being put in foster care & taken away from their family and siblings is traumatic! I don't understand how she can't see how his behavior is directly tied to his trauma and instead of listening to him and getting him into therapy, she PUT HIM BACK INTO FOSTER CARE?! I'm sorry but how does she have custody of her four other children? I hope she gets the help she needs, because she is really damaging these children and using her own trauma as an excuse. Yes, it's an explanation but it does not condone anything! Accountability is everything! We our children are best selves!
His Mom keeps defending herself ..she should just keep quiet about what she didn't have . I would break things too if im trying to be heard by my Mother and she starts acting like a victim .😢
Blah blah blah. She is still human. Grace has to go both ways. Tired ppl saying they are deflecting or defending they are expressing and informing why they did what they did why they moved the way they moved. Just bcuz it’s a title does not negate her feelings and her trauma as well as the son. No one is perfect there is no perfect parent or child.
@@poohchi6205as a parent, Mom is responsible for her healing. She cannot continue to say "I didn't get..." as her excuse. Mom as an adult chose drugs over her children. Kenny had to handle her drug habit much longer and more intensely than his siblings. Mother is supposed to heal herself then help her child heal. She can't heal herself because Kenny is the scapegoat in his family and she blames him for the chaos. The addict started the abuse and chaos LONG AGO...
One thing you must admire is how you can see that she does have love for him and wants to do better. She just didn't know how.
Yes and at some point it does become a 2way street, meaning he needs to learn how to have respect even when he doesn't want to for he will carry that behaviour into his relationships and end up a lonely young/old man
Yes man i like your comment she is trying to shange i couldn't even watch when karamo agreed to this boy calling her mother i repeat her mother B word its a no no
I feel Karamo is doing a better job than so many other talk shows out there. He hears them out patiently. Never judging but only explaining why their behaviour is incorrect and how to bring about change. A very positive show indeed..
I’m 14 and my mom said a lot of stuff but I hope me and my mom can have a bond
Better than some therapist too
Right, he just doesn't show a problem...he has a solution.
He worked as a social worker and therapist. Most talk show hosts get their jobs due to popularity or because they wanted a show but he has the background to be effective.
YES INDEED,, I love Karamo!😊
This title is WILD
honestly the way my mouth dropped
The title brought me here I’m like wth man lmboooo😂😂😂 bananas man smh
I agree🤯🤯🤯wtf😂
Very
@@chanellerogers8862same 😭
I really hate when parents say terrible hurtful things to their children.
Exactly because you didn’t have to have them !
That’s why some kids live on the streets.
They love to place revange to their children for things happened to them the time even when their children were not born. I think they are afraid to make their children happy because they are jealousy to see them happy because they missed that kind of happiness in their own childhood. So they make their children pay the price of what the parents lacked in their past childhood life.
She’s damaged herself. She’s a wounded child herself
Then blame the kids for saying it. Smh
People are so broken! I swear literally everybody needs therapy! She’s hasn’t been loved and she doesn’t know how to give it. So essentially broken people give birth and they then break the children they have. It’s a cycle
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Exactly! People don't want to listen and hear that, not realising that one day its very likely their children will say exactly the same to them. What came first the chicken or the egg??
You are a wise and smart person this mom needs help she's not a bad person, I think she needs more help than her son
The mother needs individual therapy to address her childhood trauma in order to be an effective parent. She should take parenting classes as well because she said some hurtful things that a child will never forget. I have a feeling that she and her son will eventually get closer after they overcome their traumatic experiences. I am praying for them, and I wish them all the best. This is a great show!
No matter what this woman has said and done, she really is trying to make it work and love her son. Lord God please heal and save them both.
How?
@@jazmynbrown6820by seeking professional help by coming on the show.
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FOR ANYONE THAT HAS SOMETHING NEGATIVE TO SAY ABOUT MY ATTITUDE THINK ABOUT STUFF YA DIDNT GET TO HEAR ❗️❗️❗️ I took care of 4 of my siblings by myself at the age of 9 and I’m 23 now been in foster care since 4. Just now leaving so please before u judge ask what caused my Trauma 💯💯💯
I am so very, very sorry for what you and your siblings have had to endure. The mother's harmful, hurtful, horrendous words cut like a knife-worse than if you've been literally cut with a knife. You never forget the horrible things your Mother or Father says to you. I pray for you and your siblings healing from the trauma you've had to endure. God bless you all.❤
God bless you sweetheart 🥹🤍✨🙏🏽
Sending lots n lots of ❤❤
Don’t ever let people tell you how you should feel or react to what YOU went through, take care.
So sorry for you and your siblings 😢❤
He would make an awesome therapist! hes very good at "reading the room" and people,hes also empathetic, genuine and patient..
He was one! Licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist for over 10 years....I've been so impressed by him with this show!
Honestly, I appreciate the justice that these young adults are getting. A lot of our parents did some vile things when we were younger and Thank God we have a platform to tell our stories. I’m glad our parents are starting to recognize their faults as well. 🙏🏽❤️
Exactly💯
Yes! We had the internet during Covid and had the chance to share abuse stories
This. I am so tired with these old boomers criticising soft parenting, hearing your child etc claiming it's nonsense. We will do better collectively to raise a society of love, tolerance and empathy. Especially in these troubling times.
Sad thing about it is even with all the exposure , young people arent doing any better. Kids born to parents who respect each other seem to have fewer problems. I understand their longing for love but giving away your body in every sense of the words, having babies before being ready will not solve problems. Wow. How can we help our young people do better than their parents? Did grands do any better? Can they help?
@@Kaizure_ parents today are not doing better. We have 11 years with guns, 16 year olds shooting up playgrounds, large groups of 200+ kids between 12-22 converging in shopping districts & malls snatching products and running, car jacking people. It’s the kids that’s doing all this violence and theft. They are not being raised with respect, tolerance & empathy. Teachers are leaving schools because they are disrespectful. This lady’s problem was her neglect of her children due to drugs and her children suffered.
I just hate when the parents say “I went through a lot” as an excuse. My father new my sister and I were sexually assaulted several times by some members of the step family when we were children, and his excuse was “My life is hard, my childhood was complicated, you don’t understand” and then managed to put the blame on us when we told my mother what happened.
I just hate it, there’s no excuse for mistreating your kids.
Yes I agree with you because if you had a terrible life and you have children it's your job and your duty to make their life much better than yours and be the furthest don't take them down the same road that you went down we are supposed to better ourselves and make better lives for our children
It's NOT AN EXCUSE to say I had a terrible life it says to an adult child " I didn't have the tools to be a good mom" but you to apologize and keep your mouth shut while they tell you the impact YOUR LACK OF SKILLS HAD ON THEIR CHILDHOODS but at some in order to heal adult children have to UNDERSTAND parent didn't have the tools was in a cloud of addiction and they need to grieve the" fluffy mommie" they never had and somewhat understand their moms without intense therapy will never be whole I have had to grieve my own relationship with my bio- mom she allowed abuse of ALL KINDS to happen to me in severe forms and did nothing she is always right and belongs to a religious cult I don't even know her last name she remarried at dad died I know next time I see will be when she is in hospital dying or in a casket at tht I HAVE TO ACCEPT THT for her to apologize and work and hear would mean her leaving cult of 55yrs and I dont see tht happening im saddened by tht
This is so evil. Hope you're both better now
@alihabilly1201 I am sorry you experienced so much trauma and pain and am wishing you get the healing you deserve. And if you haven't already, please prioritize self-forgiveness as well. I say thia as a survivor myself. The shame, inability to forgive and trust can be so heavy & as a survivor (not a victim), we MUST release these negative feelings we hold over ourselves because of the violations of others. Please prioritize your healing, if you haven't already. You are worthy 💚🙏🏾💚
Toxic parents love to deflect. Their favorite excuse is how they didn't have the same love. That ain't the child's fault. I'm Kenny in this story. 😢
Appreciate it ❤
@@kennethbrabham8348Kenny are you the kid in this episode. If so brother I get you! She thinks an apology is a reset. It’s not a pass to keep doing the same shit!
I hope you find healing love ❤️
You can’t understand unless you’ve been in a person’s shoes. That mom is hurting because of her childhood and that is valid. Why is it parents aren’t suppose to hurt? I’ve been on both sides and it’s rough. You do the best you can.
@@cassandrastanton7955 The sympathy for a parent's upbringing ends when it hurts their child. My child doesn't care what I am going through and rightfully so. It is my job to heal myself before having children. There are no excuses!
Its SO OLD to hear addicts say they are moving past that part of their life. The wounds the ADDICTS CAUSED don't go away. They gotta DEAL WITH AND HEAR and acknowledge ALL the pain they caused that is permanent. They forever change a child. FOREVER.
This is so true I see these things in my boys
Part of recovery is making ammends if you follow NA/AA which most recovery programs do in some form making amends means saying sorry more than once hearing YOUR IMPACT ON A PERSON YOU HAVE HARMED ETC its about humbling yourself not making the impact of your behavior less
My boyfriend’s mother dumped her kids off and took to the streets (drugs). Now, he’s the only child trying to help her. The other kids want nothing to do with her. Can’t be a shitty parent and expect ya kids to wanna be around you.
Right…..
BECAUSE TIMES THEY ARE PIECES OF SHYTS WHO TAKE NO ACCOUNTABILITY! MANIPULATIONS, GASLIGHTING ETC- THEY ALL USE THESE TACTICS!
Karamo please give the parents access to counseling. They are told not to explain themselves but I truly feel they need an avenue to heal also.
I love the show but this episode really made me fall in love with Karamo as a person. Such a sweetheart.
He's doing his job so yeah 😒
@@thomasyoung5013 some of yall be so negative & ugly for no reason. She simply gave Karamo his props. Your lil snarky reply was so unnecessary. STHU‼️
Karamo such a GODSEND All Blessings
Karamo is an Angel
@@bossibunz8143 oh look another sassy loud mouth overly masculine gal 🤨
Karamo opened their eyes wide to the similarities in their behavior & mistreatment of each other.
Uncle Karomo has this same story over and over. I love that he is giving healing. WE NEED THIS
I love that he taught the mom to speak less about her childhood to brighten up the child.
The mom should be ashamed of herself. Listening to all of that was hard. The fake bewilderment as if she doesn’t know why he treats her like that like that is CRAZY! Kenny experienced the worst of it all because he’s the oldest. She’s trying to gloss over the past & make it all about her “woe is me”, it doesn’t work like that. No accountability whatsoever. She has to grow up, at her big fossil age. Karamo is so knowledgeable & helpful. I hope this healing works for them. Watching these episodes make me even more grateful for the parents that I have.
WHAT YOU WENT THROUGH WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD IS IRRELEVANT THE MOMENT YOU DECIDE TO HAVE CHILDREN. IM TIRED OF THAT EXCUSE! I made the conscious decision to parent myself and lick the wounds my parents caused me BEFORE my son was born. STOP SCARRING YOUR CHILDREN, BREAK THE CYCLE
I don't necessarily agree with the fact that what you went through as a child is irrelevant. It is very relevant in the aspect of preventing those behaviors and patterns from taking place again. But sometimes depending on what's going on you can feel triggered and it's up to you to learn how to respond. Unfortunately there are many many parents who have children but they don't understand that they themselves are also hurt from things that they experience growing up.
Understanding your own mental health as you mentioned and parenting yourself is one of those ways to do that. But it does not mean that the trauma and bad experiences you had growing up becomes completely irrelevant.
I don't agree with this either. What you went through is so relevant and has a role to play in how you reciprocate the same treatment to your children. Although this woman's actions shouldn't be justified , she's had a traumatic past and is actually acting (subconsciously) based on that.
She needs therapy to and love. For someone who hasn't even felt love in her past, it would definitely be hard to reciprocate that feeling too. I really wish and pray that people grow up to be great parents to avoid a traumatic experience for their children ❤️
@@kionteyturner9520 I understand what y'all are saying but when her son repeatedly says "I was abused" and her one and only response is "I was abused too" really invalidates his experience. She has a lot of growing to do, but I can't sympathize at this time, she needs to put that boy first.
@@Rooted_LocsYes you are correct but l do think she's trying and if he doesn't try to understand where she is coming from then it's very likely that one day he will be sat where she is. And so the cycle continues...
She had a bad childhood but she could have made the CHOICE too not have kids and do continue the abuse.
This mom is working my last nerve. Everything is “I” “I” “I” or “me” “me” “me” stop playing victim. Your child is the victim and your children do not “make you” say the horrible things you say to them.
So it’s ok for him to say “ you make me say” ???? Yea ok it works both ways
@@Tshalamoniino not at all that’s only if they were same playing field. That’s her child
@@Tshalamoniidid he raise her or did she raise him..?
she is just expressing herself i dont think it was with bad intent she clearly needs to get help with herself nd past traumas in order to become better mother and person. she also stated that she realises she does that.
They are both victims, but there are more expectations of the mother. She wasn't equipped to have a baby or raise him, therefore this created a situation that has grown and grown out of control. They just need to be patient with each other.
What kind of mom would say to her own child that they're a "disgrace to her vagina"? Who says that?! Just pathetic! I hope she gets the help that she needs, as well as therapy
who even thinks that?.My mind hasn't been working and I'm glad😢😮
@@ludyoluoko9702exactly, ‘disgrace to the family name’ is one thing, but why is she bringing her vagina into it 🤨
Right like what???
Lmao...
Stop the cap!!
Blac kids grow up hearing way worse than that.
I'm just glad I was a C-section🤣
@@jahneastanfield2662My father used to call us "wasted sperms."
Bless this young man. The pain and trauma inflicted on him is inexcusable and will take years to heal. Once mom is ready to stop making excuses and deflecting away from the blame, only then can their relationship heal.
NO EXCUSE for Her BEHAVIOR
No excuse for bus nasty attitude
No excuse for his either!!!
He is here I’m him
@@SB-tc2jrexactly
True, there's no excuse for not being a good parent to your children
You can tell she loves her son unconditionally but she needs intense healing.
He is very respectful..theres no excuse to not love him and show him the same respect
Thank u ❤
@@kennethbrabham8348 Youre welcome and keep your head up. God will be on your side ❤️
My mother is the same way as her and that's why our relationship has been ruined and she runs from help and I run towards it! Therapy and everything else.
Bless them both, the son has gold in his heart and love for his mother in spite of it all. Im sorry that they were both abused, he did so well, and he will make it.
I love this show. He needs to win an award
What would that do?
Trash show
The fact that the mom is trying to flip stuff & make herself the victim is crazy. She failed as a mother & continues to fail .
She didn’t flip anything she was explaining why she did the things she did. That’s where generational curses are made. She didn’t have it her son didn’t have and so on and so forth. The generational curse is broken with healing from trauma and having forgiveness and unconditional love.
All I can say is I’m Christian and I read my scriptures , go to church and repent . And my mom is making me
Leave home 😢
@CosmopolitanParisLaveau she's deflecting. Period. And victimizing herself by blaming EVERYTHING on him including her choices
Disagree
Kamara you are wrong I believe that sun is very disrespectful I would like my kids if they were disrespectful to me
i’m so sick and tired of parents justifying what they put their children thru by saying “i went through this, or i went through that”. why tf are you blaming or punishing ur child for what u went thru. like it’s sad that u went thru shi n all, but making ur child suffer for it wont heal ur trauma, and it wont make u feel better.
I knooow..... she sent her child to foster care when the others are in the house, cutting him out of nice moments is inhumane. If my parent did that I would've cut them out. No love and respect for me as the child.
Right…..
It's a difference when you are not trying to do better and when you want to, but just don't have the tools. I truly felt this mom is wanting to make the change for him but she didn't have the tools and it's hard to move forward when you still have to be faced with the passed that still lingers. Doing the work is also hard work but I hope she can commit. This was my favorite episode!
Exactly. I dislike the way everybody is dragging her. Yes she messed up reasoning her kids & caused hella TRUAMA. I get it….I’m not excusing her FAULT at all bc those kids didn’t ask to come here she brought them here. So she owes them not the other way around. But STILL….She is owning her shyt & wants to do better. Folk holla about therapy & then when someone comes to seek help they STILL talking crazy about them. Damned if u. Damned if u don’t.
It's not the childs responsibility to be the adult in having to keep considering the unresolved trauma of their parent but he needs to come to terms with the mom's inability to be the mother he wants bc she got a position that she wasn't prepared for. She can do things like taking them places. That's not the essentials of mothering. She just can't do it. Children get hurt when they are birthed into situations not ready for them. They end up with burdens and instability they should never have to deal with. Everyone just suffers trauma in these situations.
Mom can't be empathetic toward him ot give him more love until she can heal and in that extend understanding. I feel for them.
Thank you so much Karamo this episode was amazing! She is so obsessed with herself and what she doesn't have and not concentrating on showing her son the love he needs. She reminds me so much of my mother who was also a drug addict and to date blames her mother who dies 17 years ago for not sending for her from Jamaica at an earlier age. It is so sad that she never sees the damage that she has done to myself and my siblings and never allows us to speak to her about it.
Maybe you can show her this video. I hope it helps
@@machelleherson5599 I definitely will❤️❤️
The hardest part of parenting is loving our children while we ourselves are in pain and carrying the burden of pain. We love them regardless of our broken feelings, because they are part of us. The burden that parents carry, especially a single parent is phenomenal. There are personal issues which parents don't know how to or can't discuss with their children. Nevertheless, instead of giving up, many parents keep on trying because the needs of their children, whom they dearly love, supersedes theirs. I see two people who can help each other to heal, grow and build a positive future.
I was a foster child also. My foster father molested me but I was and am very respectful to my real parents and others around me. He also needs to take responsibility for some of this. I can tell he has some rebellion. She admits her wrong. She’s a recovering addict. I pray they heal
This man is hurting SO bad. I truly hope they’re able to get it together.
Bruh, her leaving him in foster care while raising his siblings is sick😂😂😂😂😂
Karamo is the man. I love how he listen and try to heal. Its helping me to be a better mother.
This is why I love my generation so much. We don't take bs just because it comes from our elders. They need to be held accountable too!!
Lol that sounds like a child trying to prove a point and thinking they know it all. Being held accountable shouldn’t have anything to do with what generation you’re from and how disrespectful you are to your parents. Makes no sense, in your parents home they will always be right until you hit that age where you’re grown and go get it yourself. Sucks but that shouldnt dictate having a voice vs being disrespectful.
@@Notifysender90 now see that's where your wrong because in MY house and several other homes, our parents accept that they did wrong, apologized, and we moved forward. It had nothing to do with disrespect, but please continue 😊
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@@Notifysender90your viewpoint is the exact ignorance we be talking about💀 you think someone ensuring their boundaries are respected and understood and verbally expressing that is taken as disrespectful to y’all. Y’all are okay with being the bullies and dishing out the disrespect because it’s your house, those are also your children. They gonna mirror what they see, so really can’t be mad at anyone but yourself🤷🏾♂️
They most certainly do need to be held accountable, and not allowed to simply dismiss the wrong that they’ve done in life, nor the way that it has made you feel, however, that can be done without being blatantly disrespectful. If you can’t at a very minimum refrain from name-calling, and profanity, and you’re an adult, then your best bet is probably to just remove the toxicity from your life, and love your parent from afar. Never allow anyone, parents included; to make you step out of who you truly are. Let an ignorant person be ignorant by themselves, while you hold yourself to a higher standard. Sadly, sometimes, they go to the grave having never learned, but when we know better, we should do better. Be the change that you want to see.
There's room for love to grow between mum and son. The son isn't a bad child, he just needs love 💕💕💕💕
She has so much potential. I'm routing for you mamma
Kids are a handful but worth it blessings for both of yall.
They got me in tears ..Pray they can heal and get closer ❤
I feel the love here.
I know theyre struggling now, but i have faith they can become beautifully close❤
Mom has such a beautiful face, so pretty- those eyes. Its too bad they are both in pain. Kenny can't just rebound instantly as Mom may like. It will take time. Hes been hurt. Mom has also been hurt coming up and later in life with/ through drugs etc... But it Was and IS her responsibility to mother, nurture, ensure safety, support and guidance through love and discipline to Kenny and her children. They can't undo the past but they have a wonderful fresh start right now and that's terrific.All the best to them.
Thanks and we doing a lot better ❤️🙏🏾
Wonderful!
@@kennethbrabham8348 Ur welcome. That's terrific. God is so good. Because u both are willing to make it work, it is working especially with God as the driving force. Much continued success in ur relationship with your mom :)
I can only imagine what this child went through while his mother choose drugs over him. These mothers are a mess and truly abusive which in turn is ruining this generation 😢😢😢😢😢
Words have so much power. Please take a breath before you respond because unfortunately, you can not unring that bell y’all 😮💨❤️ Praying this family has healing. 🙏🏽
Kenny - I'm sorry for what you went through and remember... Just because they are family, if they are toxic, you can set boundaries so you don't have to deal with their negativity. Seems like you need to love your mom from a distance and pray for her and your siblings.
Thank u ❤
My family was toxic to me in my teen years I don't deal with them since 2006 I been cut them out my lyfe since that year I'm thankfulI every day for moving on with my lyfe it was sad but I had to do it and move on I still love them with all my ❤️heart❤️ but from a distance never be around people that disvalue you
I love this emotionally intelligent man ❤
Just had a big argument with my mum and all I wanted from her was to take accountability for the hurtful things she says but she refuses to acknowledge it.
I'm so sorry😕❤️ I hope you guys get some help soon!❤❤
I saw someone say that uneducated mothers are the worst to be raised by. I feel like its way deeper than that. Parenting is not perfect, there are some that make horrible decisions regarding their kids. This is way deeper than that. My mom had me young too and i was raised by my gma my first 8 years of my life. My mom is very smart and strong and brave and all the wonderful things a human can be especially as a mom. Ive never held it against her for what i went through emotionally and mentally. My dad was incarcerated in and out untill i was 18. Thise situations as a young child made me do some soul searching and self reflection and i learned as early as 8 years old that people will do what they want to do, some people just aren't made/wired to be certain things. Like my dad, i carried pain for a long time , but i always knew that he was a person, he had his own demons and i will never put that judgement on him. I believe that when we are born we are not entitled to both parents, so therefore its a blessing if you have both just as much if you have one. Karamo hit the nail on the head when he said it was a choice she made....everything is about choices and sometimes we dont always need an apology or acknowledgement. It is what it is and it is up to us what happens next. I cant take back the trauma i went through and i dont regret it either. It shaped me to who i am today and im learning to love myself and how to be nice to myself. Its a day by day process and im super blessed and grateful to have this mindset especially for my child. ❤
Karamo I love you too!! I soo love your show and how you genuinely try to help heal these families and tell them that you love them!!
I pray they both can heal and move on. There are some bad parents and some neglected children. I’m glad I grew up in a decent home.
Parents should honor their children always
What parents have to realize is that even despite them having had a bad childhood, the decisions that they make as adults are on them, not their children. You made the conscious decision to pick up that drug, and you became addicted. Now that you’re clean, and want to move on your merry little way, you expect everyone else, whose lives you have shat all over, to just move along their merry little ways as well. Life doesn’t work like that, because while drugs may no longer be a part of *YOUR* life, the drug use, and the behavior that resulted from it was literally woven into the fabric of who your child grew up to be. They didn’t ask to be born, especially not into a highly dysfunctional situation. So sometimes, you may just have to take that “L” with grace, and be willing to hear how your actions hurt your child.
Oh my heart 💔 There’s so much love here and so much room to heal. Praying for this family to heal and grow to their fullest potential🙏🏾❤️
I think if you an adult and if you can't get that love that you want from your parent you need to move on and when you have your own children try to break that cycle
For sure we must ask God to help to understand how to ❤ and how to interact ❤ and sometimes we much leave negativity behind so we can heal and spring clean our path to lay down new ground as we began to build our live but even the cracked ground helps us to find understanding, to help keep the new ground work in place and deal with adversity to maintain our new ground read the story of Abraham in the Bible just because we come from the same Bloodline don't mean our paths are the same
The girl with the ginger hair and glasses in the audience was a whole vibe ,,, that was tooo cute. Now im buy a wig for this look
Mom have to realize that her trauma is not her kids trauma. She need to take accountability.
Thank u ❤
I'm thankful my mom has been my back bone. She grew up in hell but she never put me there to visit. She would explain things and feel like she wasn't doing enough and to this day I still tell her that she did an amazing job.
I pray he and his siblings can defeat this generational toxicity. She was once him. And i bet it has been this way in that family. I pray they both heal from this point. It’s sad
He is a reminder of a time she wants everyone to forget. That’s typical of ex drug addicts. They create absolute havoc in the family then expect folks to forgive and forget. My mom used to tell my sisters and I “if I knew them what I know now I would have had all boys”.
She expressed herself very well.
Kenny is so handsome... she loves her big baby boy... and she just doesn't know how... and you can see he loves his mommy too... we are so imperfect... in our minds our love is ... our actions just don't align up with the most of that sometimes
There's much love there....they both got some growing to do and I believe they can do it together ❤❤..good luck to the both of them 💘
My child was misbehaving and bad at 5 years old . I use to raise my voice etc give him pop pop because I thought I was doing right , but then I read a bible and it said a gentle response defuses anger. So since that day even though I wanted to I tried to be softer and gave consequences consistently rather than raising my voice, like taking away toys or some type of consequence he’d get upset about etc instead of popping . When he’d act out trying not to match him can be rough when he’s acting bad but I knew I had to try a new approach. When he’d get upset I’d hug him , spend more time with him, we’d talk it out and I’d just be gentle the opposite. Showing him how to act. A lot less than a year later after patiently waiting for the fruit of that verse to help me. he did a 180 and every one says he’s the best acting kid in the whole entire world 🌍 to this day and he’s 9 and he really is he is soft gentle and sweet and my baby 🥰
I'm sorry for them both. She cannot model any kind of parental behavior, none. How can she? She wasn't raised with parents. She has no idea how not to show her anger. I feel very sorry for this family. Kenny cannot excuse his own behavior either. Kenny has a hard attitude, right or wrong it will get him nowhere. She was crying real tears throughout it all and I believe they can be healed. 😊
That’s her job to work on herself & try to heal and be better for herself and her kid, I know people who didn’t have parents but they’ve done their best and are good parents to their kids, not having a good childhood it’s the reason why but not an excuse, He’s a kid and that’s the only way he’d be able to express himself (which I know isn’t right) but sometimes pain becomes anger
@@dangelyerazo8707 I'm not saying this is his fault, I just hope they get the help they need.
this was one of the best episodes for mother and child. they both actually wanted something out of it and cooperated. i wish them blessings
Honestly, every single person that has been through the care system on Karamo has been a survivor of abuse in the system it should be shut down it's disgusting
Facts
You shut down the system then what, what will we do with the abandoned children, because a lack of a system will not stop piss poor ass parents from neglecting and abusing and abandoning their children, the problem is not the system the problem is people who sit up and have multiple children without the means or ability to provide for them
&& then do what??? What is the solution? Honest question. Kids are destroyed by their OWN flesh & blood every single day && then placed w/strangers who repeat the cycle. Honestly ppl need to STOP reproducing. There’s never any guarantees from person to person whether or not these babies will be safe in this cruel world. IMO. 0 way in hell I’d birth children. 0!
You are such a beautiful blessing my younger brother/ son. From a God loving mother to you Karamo, I Love and appreciate you and all you’re doing. God bless you.
This was really beautiful. We take it out on our parents so much thinking that they should be perfect and not realizing that they might have bigger demons to fight. They are humans with feelings and crazy vulnerabilities we never see. As I grow older I get to see my parents as my friends, for it is ok for your friends not to be perfect but we love them for who they are. Bless you mama.
They should have dealt with all that before they had kids though
I struggled a lot as a single parent of 2 beautiful kids... One thing I learn to do is to listen to them... Love them in action... Respecte what they have to say and you wil never regret..
She talks over everybody, even Karamo... geez
Also, she has to understand that its not just HER PAST, its THEIR PAST. So, she has to stop shutting him down and being dismissive.
Ooh whee, Karamo is doing his thang!! I LOVE how he teaches families how to communicate and start their healing process. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This was sweet episode ! They love each other ! Just gotta learn how to communicate
Kenny
... Prayers for you in your healing. You will have to step away AMF get your healing. Your Mother wants the focus on herself. You focus on YOURSELF. Your Mother is still stuck in the "I-I-I" or "Me-me-me-me" role. 💕
Awwwwwe that’s ever twin. Everyone makes mistakes and I believe their mother/son relationship can heal in a positive way and be restored. sending light and love to them 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Thank u 🙏🏾 ❤
@@kennethbrabham8348 Awwe you’re so welcome Kenneth. God bless you and your mother and siblings 🥹🙋🏽♀️❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹🙏🏾🙏🏾
his attitude is the result of this toxic mothers behavior, the attitude is warranted.
Thank you everyone is blaming the mother but his is so disrespectful with his diva attitude. Is mother may not have been perfect but he’s no angle either
@@longbranch11207 I think you misread my comment, if you fully watch the video you will come to understand the mother is most definitely in the wrong here. SHE is the cause of this young boys attitude.
Um I don’t have a diva attitude my mom raised me I didn’t raise her ❗️
@@kennethbrabham8348perioddd
@@kennethbrabham8348 But it seems like you're trying to raise her when you disrespect her. You move out of your lane - and when we do that, we have to accept the consequences. How old are you, Kenny?
Parent: my kids don’t talk to me so idk what’s the problem.
Kids proceed to explain why they hurt
Parents: yOu bRinG cHaos tO thE fAmiLy.
This episode brought tears to my eyes.
Jesus has the power to heal completely and bring restoration to painful pass and right now circumstances!! Handsome young man and beautiful mother, I pray the best for them in many ways, in Jesus name.... Glory Hallelujah 🙏🙌🙏
Wow I genuinely like this show. Your therapeutic approach when needed is so refreshing.
This woman is a horrible excuse of a mother…forreal, she’s got to be one of the worst we’ve seen on the show. What kind of woman who relinquish control of their child to a detrimental system that has already traumatized their child? Crazy smh
I don't think any healing took place. His mother failed to take accountability for her poor parenting and communication style. She can not continue to use her bad upbringing as an excuse to hurt her son, and dismiss his trauma.
Reminds me of me and my moms relationship I feel bussing out crying right now😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
i loved this . i love how willing they both are to make it work, beautiful
I understand how the child feels but I feel sometimes there’s no grace for the parents.
Putting him BACK into foster care and then being confused as to why he’s mad is crazy
I'm sure the title brought ALL of us hers
I wish you the very best in life Kenny. I pray you receive all the Blessings God has in store for you.
Disrespect is a learned behavior... Like the bible says don't provoke a child to anger ... Drugs is never an excuse it's a choice so there is no kudos because I kick a habit you had no business having in the first place.. imo
Hurt people hurt people but it’s more hurtful when a parent is hurting their own children forcing them to go thru their hurt that belongs to them and not their children! This is why over 25 years I mentored at risk youth who have come from broken homes because I too came from one. Father died when I was a young child and mother was forced to be a single parent but so was I with my siblings and then my own children! But I refused to allow my children to go through the type of hurt that I went thru because MY HURT DID NOT BELONG TO THEM!
Kenny you gonna be alright!!!!!! your mom LOVES you... But you gotta do better as well!!!! I cant wait for the update!!!!! BTW Kenny your sooooo handsome!!!
Thank u ❤
Respect,wish her well n leave her alone period,it’s hurting you mentally more than physically/i went through this pain from 5-my 50’s,54 now
These parents who do not take accountability for the trauma they have inflicted on their kids really gets to me...😖..he shouldn't disrespect her, but what example does he have to go on?! I know first hand the lingering effects these type of relationships can have...they need family therapy..
A parent struggling with substance abuse is traumatic to the child! A child being put in foster care & taken away from their family and siblings is traumatic! I don't understand how she can't see how his behavior is directly tied to his trauma and instead of listening to him and getting him into therapy, she PUT HIM BACK INTO FOSTER CARE?! I'm sorry but how does she have custody of her four other children? I hope she gets the help she needs, because she is really damaging these children and using her own trauma as an excuse. Yes, it's an explanation but it does not condone anything! Accountability is everything! We our children are best selves!
Crazy part is that’s literally her twin in the face. They look exactly the same
Man my mom is like this she just won’t listen for real and I don’t think I’ll ever have a good relationship with her
His Mom keeps defending herself ..she should just keep quiet about what she didn't have . I would break things too if im trying to be heard by my Mother and she starts acting like a victim .😢
THANKK U BC I FEEL LIKE U THE ONLY ONE THAT HEARS ME 😩❤️
@@kennethbrabham8348 Hugs 🫂💜
Blah blah blah. She is still human. Grace has to go both ways. Tired ppl saying they are deflecting or defending they are expressing and informing why they did what they did why they moved the way they moved. Just bcuz it’s a title does not negate her feelings and her trauma as well as the son. No one is perfect there is no perfect parent or child.
@@poohchi6205as a parent, Mom is responsible for her healing. She cannot continue to say "I didn't get..." as her excuse. Mom as an adult chose drugs over her children. Kenny had to handle her drug habit much longer and more intensely than his siblings.
Mother is supposed to heal herself then help her child heal. She can't heal herself because Kenny is the scapegoat in his family and she blames him for the chaos. The addict started the abuse and chaos LONG AGO...