Glad I grew up with no cell phone or PC too! Also glad I lived out in the country and could enjoy fishing, hunting, swimming in the pond, riding bikes until dark-thirty, and reading books at bedtime. Such a happy period in my life. And the minute I retired, I moved right back to the lifestyle from whence I came. Couldn't be happier. It's all about family and the joy of being alive. My PC makes quick work of paying bills and catching up on the news, otherwise, it sits alone for all but an hour or so a day. My phone isn't touched unless it rings. Life is good!
Now you're just ruining your life by spending your time on TH-cam and on TOP of that commenting on a video so that complete strangers like me can read it and criticize you. *YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM*
My dad told me “Think about how many hours you need to work for the thing, and than you decide if it is worth it.” Enjoy things, but don’t be a slave of things.
That’s good but it’s really the same as budgeting. His point is not about the cost. It’s that regardless of cheap or expensive, junk is junk and in fact most of it will never make you feel better or enjoy life to the fullest.
True success to me is having the freedom to do what I want/ when I want. No debt tying me down and little material things to be accountable for. Inner peace is key
Games have started doing that too. Before games were all about merely enjoying them. Finishing them or not were all up to you and how much you wanted out of it. Now battlepasses and the like have been introduced, with the concept of "If you don't play for this much within this timeframe, you will lose out on some cool looking stuff". For some reason though, those kinds of systems just makes me not want to play. Even Animal crossing, where it's all about enjoying it a little bit every day and enjoy the smaller things, I just can't handle having to go in every day to check up on my town. I love getting deep into one game at a time. And at the same time I need variety, which means I tend to jump between 2-3 games at a time. But the moment I feel that the games control me instead of the other way around, I lose interest quickly. Extrinsic motivation ruins so much for me that I end up just not playing the game altogether.
My older brother is a very rich successful man. Yet he lives in a regular condo, wears cheap clothes, eats street food. When I asked him why he aint balling, he said he isnt trying to impress anyone. He never let money define who he is. He changed the way I looked at life.
Thats not inspirational. He earns money yet doesn’t even take care of himself. Street food and cheap clothes? He clearly has no respect for his own health and appearance. Love life full to impress yourself. At least do that.
It’s only a tool son , money is not worth the paper it’s written on …. But like oxygen we need it , go see things , build things , do things Keep moving forward live
@@VBoo459he was saying he lives just a simple life …..it’s amazing how something so simple and beautiful is passed by most He was a Millionaire mate go do that part first then let’s talk I’m already their it’s clear your not
@VBoo459 this view is too materialistic and shallow. Eating street food doesn't mean that's all he eats. Nor does wearing cheap clothes. That guy would be ideal definition of successful because he has money and obviously does not give a fuck lol
Johann Hari is a wise man, constantly seeking a deeper truth in our shallow society. Lost Connections is one of my favorite books. It explains why life is so unfulfilling now.
Absolutely. I'm 28 now and in the last couple of years me and my friends have all stopped doing the things we enjoy to chase that mortgage that we as humans are expected to achieve. I don't go out anymore. I just work like a dog so that i can put a deposit down for a shitty apartment.
I think it just comes down to no one wants to be lonely and it’s lead by women imo. Women often decide how society acts because men are the ones trying to be chosen by women. If women wanted a dude in a tan Honda Civic everyone would want one lol
I picked my kids up from school one day and I’ll never forget. My son and daughter began asking me questions about me not having tech devices when I was young and they felt sorry for me because I must’ve been so bored 😂 I’m like no kids I feel bad for y’all. I explained to them fun stuff we did as kids like explore through the woods, play at parks a lot and rode around half the town on bicycles all day.
These kids today don’t realize, you can’t miss something if you never had it. I held off getting a cell phone for as long as I could. I’d go back to no cell phones or computers if given the choice.
I think if the world was safer and had more friendly activities for younger children and even teens it be different and they could have such experiences but the way the world is at least from my perception it seems more geared towards adults and less child family friendly than it used to be it seems even thinks for children and young people now care more about marketing and numbers than values much less safety and preserving the innocence of youth that so often is stolen technology isn't perfect and certainly isn't the solution but better to leave them monitored in a space you know they are near and save than outside in the woods or at a candy store unattended where the trained professionals of the world in trafficking and child predators are constantly on the hunt for some poor young soul to take and destroy for their own perverse purposes.
I actually feel blessed that I grew up (in the 80s-90s) with so few material possessions. We couldn't afford it being on mostly one NZ income and 5 kids to feed. But thankfully mum knew how to sew clothes, plant a variety of foods in the garden while teaching us to be fairly self sufficient. So we figured out early on how to create our own fun without needing many toys or material items. Now days we've taken those values into our own homes and even though we can afford more if we want to, it's just not a priority. We prefer the value of presence over presents. If I ever spend money on my kids, I'll use it towards a fun experience shared with family and friends. Instead of the latest toy/item that will only offer us a temporary high before being forgotten about in a few weeks/months time. Unlike great memories which usually last a lifetime.🥰💜
@@joshlovegood9392 You almost make me want to look it up to see how bad it really is, out of sheer curiosity. However I think I'll pass because I don't want the youtube algorithm to think I'm interested and start suggesting more of that material. I'm more into into rock and metal music.
I'm 16 years old. And probably a lot of people know that this is the golden age of materialism, everybody wants to show off their knew sneakers etc. I've been thinking about this a lot and have been trying my best to keep away from it, being different. It's hard let me tell you, it's not easy. But if you want to succeed, you have to sacrifice. When I watched the video, I already knew about it. Meaning I'm already on the right way and you should be too. Be different.
Impressive how thoughtful you are already at that age. One thing I would suggest is: don't try to be different, just be rational. And the rational thing to do is analyze everything without a bias. Not everything that is "normal" is bad, just identify which things are bad, like you did with too much materialism. If you can be just different in those aspects, but "normal" in the good aspects, you will also still fit very well into the society and be a social person, which has many benefits and gives you many opportunities to meet good people.
@@reen4371 I agree You shouldn't throw away everything that is normal simply because it's normal just take out the things in your life that are proven to be bad But being weird is really fun 😁
This is why I love Joe Rogan podcast. All the guest that he has make you rethink your life in a positive view. It change my view in life in a way I could not see. Just positive flow.
When I was in middle school, I got bullied if I didn't wear fashion brand clothes. But as I got older, I realized that a lot of the kids that were bullying other kids that were from poorer families that couldn't afford the latest fashion, were actually from poor families themselves. Sometimes the world is fake, sad and self-destructive.
My wife was from the poorer neighbourhood. She told me how her friends raced to buy brands. Even now they have extravagant birthday parties but still cannot afford to buy good house/car.
Same here. I didn't grow up poor but dressed poor and the kids who wear designer clothes often spent their whole check on nice clothing even though they are from poor families
Funny how our entire education system is primarily built upon extrinsic motivation. Classes that you do for intrinsic reasons are few and far between. That usually dictates a life with a job that you do for extrinsic reasons
I think we have two worlds ; just like inside out ......when our objective reality are so strong enough to invade our inner mind ....we start to dictate ourself with our own thoughts .....so later furture ....dictatorship may be inside individual mindset .....
You are absolutely right. Not only the education system, but also the public opinion about it often dictates us career choices and you pick a career that seems prestigious over the one that speaks to your heart
I think it was great at around iPhone 4 to iPhone 5 time period. But now its getting way too powerful. the problem is that no one has the self-responsibility to treat it like a tool. It is an amazing tool, we cant deny that
I remember on one of my IT job interviews, one of the questions at the end was "What do you feel is the best thing about technology and the worst thing about technology?".. My answer for both was "The Smartphone"
The benefits of the internet are perfectly suitable with a computer. I totally agree with you, take a step back and look how capitalism got the best of that.
Hear what? His constant use of vulgar language had me tune him out. But I agree w/ your statement. What matters? Relationships...w/ Jesus, family & true friends. Anything else?
Growing up in a mid-class family way back in the early '90s is such a treasure, no gadgets, no fancy shoes, no expensive toys just pure fun. We play the whole day every weekend, we play also this called "patentero" with no slippers so that we can run faster, playing hide and seek at night and we swap clothes to lure the one who's looking at us, and lastly, I fight bullies. Sadly, new generations cant experience it right now because of these techs and new stuff. What they saw on the net or on Tv or even with their friends they want to have it too just to be accepted. It seems like they can even appreciate small things now, So sad what I am witnessing right now.
*To all the dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and right people, ANYTHING is possible...*
@@uncoiledfish2561 I’m not sure if you read any Marxist Literature, Karl Marx make a Statement; It is impossible to conceptualise thought Without consuming a apple/energy 🍎 . You cannot conceptualise god, Without conceptualising thought 💭, You can’t conceptualise thought Unless you consume sugar which is energy making your brain work
@@uncoiledfish2561 An Apple is a part of the material world, I wonder what the this spiritual world is why can’t I see it! why can’t I touch it! I don’t believe religion is moral either! I know for a fact that homosexuality is not a choice, they born that way, the change of someone being born Gay is 0.1%, The chances of someone becoming a billionaire is 0.01% . Joe Rogue is one luck 🍀 human!
During the first lockdown, I cleared out so much stuff in my house, de cluttered all this stuff that I was keeping & I've learnt to not hold emotional value to most objects, I feel so much better off now
When you come to the realization you are going to eventually die and can’t take it with you, YOU start to become less materialistic and “worldly”. Happened in my late 30’s.
I'm not sure anyone thinks they're going to 'take it with them'. The peril is spending a lifetime beholden to others never having completed the capitalism game.
I realized this a few years back hence the reason I deleted all my social media accounts like facebook, instagram etc. Now I’m focused on myself and been happy with my life more than ever.
@@jamielong1237 I learn a lot watching training stuff in YT. Or find videos like this from time to time I can choose the videos I want to watch. Unlike FB, IG or Twitter where you don't have control over others' posts. So yeah. I don't have FB, IG or Twitter but I watch YT. Works for me and I'm a happy camper.
@@navyblu79 My comment keeps getting deleted lol. I"m saying you aren't forced to follow people on IG/FB either. If you want you can just follow a bunch of educational pages.
@@jamielong1237 Yes that's right but you have friends who are actually real friends of yours and family. You will see their posts and the posts they liked and their friends post sometimes depending on the privacy settings. YT is basically showing us videos though it's now flooded with crap Tik Toks. I don't really want to know what others are doing anyway so leaving FB was not a problem for me.
I am so happy that a few years ago, I simply purged all my consumerism/materialism "needs". It was not a revelation or a decision, I simply stopped caring about all those things. Simplicity and minimalism give me calmness...I do not want to have 15 pairs of sneakers, I do not need 60 shirts/tops. It actually stresses me out to have so many things, meaning that if I have to move to a new place I need to have a mountain of boxes to worry about. I now only replace things that break/have holes in them (but still try to have them repaired first). I have repaired my jeans, I have repaired my work shoes, I have repaired a pair of boots that I like. Why throw them away? It costs less to repair and you don't need to go around looking for new stuff. Doing martial arts helped on this as you focus on the mental part of what fulfills you. A hobby that is fun. I appreciate the simple things in life...having a good sparring night, going to the movies to see a film I was so looking forward to, being around friends playing board games or card games, reading a nice book...it's just amazing to not have to use something with a screen. I agree with the guy in the video, I can never understand why on earth people go to live concerts not appreciating what they are watching live and instead they use a phone to "share" the amazing experience. I may take one picture just to remember the night and that's it. I do binge on TH-cam but that's because I don't watch TV. I watch interesting videos that add to my encyclopedic knowledge instead.
The satisfaction you get from repairing something that you have had for a while, makes it awesome. It shows you appreciate that things that were made and do not waste necessarily either. Still got my jeans from 5 years ago, redyed the colour to keep it strong. 😀
I actually learned this from Buddhism teaching called "The trap of desire" its a never ending self suffering circle. Our society just make it worse, the true happiness come within our mind.
True. Good observation. Happiness comes from within. If you need more external new and cooler things to make you happy just to fit in. You have to wait for a long time. Desire knows no ends. Desire is like licking a knife and the more you lick it the more it cut your tongue. Thank you for your wisdom.
If it wasn't demonstrating most of the people then this video wouldn't exist. I mean who really talks about few people with problems. It's the majority of us they are concerned about.
This is brilliant and an incredible value to follow for our youth. I often joke around with my friends about making my “annual Facebook post”, but now I realize I do this because outside of Facebook I have been disconnected and focusing on building my life and my own success.
The accessibility of love, laughter, family and friendship is proportional to how much money you have. You aren't going to be very loveable, laughing much, or spending much time doing anything with family and friends if you're struggling.
The thing to me is, if you invest and have other income outside of dividends then you will be able to live off dividends without selling. Which means you can pass that on to your kids which will give them a leg up in life. $52k dividends received in 2022.
I agree! That's why it is advisable that you have to invest while you still have a regular job or earning a regular income, and do it constantly. You still need to have something that will keep you going even if you're investing. Good financial planning and money allocation is the key.
True, initially I wasn't quite impressed with my gains, opposed to my previous performances, I was doing so badly, figured I needed to diverssify into better assets, I touched base with a portfolio-advisor and that same year, I pulled a net gain of 550k...that's like 7times more than I average on my own.
Carol Vivian Constable is the licensed fiduciary I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment..
2 kinds of Motivation: Intrinsic reason (joy) vs. Extrinsic reason (junk values - show it off, buy, spend) >>>>>> depression/anxiety Get rid of messages of Materialism: 1. List of what you want and what you feel if you have them. Did it make you feel better? (Acceptance/ Envy) 2. Moments in your life you felt satisfied (Meaning and Connection) Build it more into your life every week.
You know I remember a time before s Facebook. When I was a teenager. I did feel happier then. Part of it is the lack of responsibility I had back then. Part of it is also the fact I spent a lot of time with my friends in the woods playing paintball. Now that I’m older I’ve realized the only thing that matters in life is friends and family. This is a great clip I’m going to share it with my wife. I will rewatch this a few times so the message sinks in. I guess fishing all the time is good for me!
It's probably the mystery that's now missing. Meeting a friend you haven't seen for some time would make you feel ecstatic. The question what's up made a lot of sense. Now that almost everyone is posting every detail down to whatever they ate for breakfast just blew the mystery away. There's no more reason to be curious and wonder what everyone is up to.
This is so true. Thank you for uploading this video. People should learn to actually ask them what they want with their life and if they are happy with their life. In the end it's your life, your memories. You are not a movie for someone else to watch. You are a movie that you remember. ❤☺
So I'm only a movie! But if it's for me then it's ok. You're not a narrative. Stop looking at your life like a distant observer judging its value based solely on the standards others have implanted into your consciousness. You are a human being that needs a meaningful existence not symbols of success and material possessions. This ideas that if you're doing it for yourself it will be better than if you're doing it for others is a trick of the mind. Don't fall into that trap. You're still chasing self worth whether it's for others or yourself. Doing things so you can prove to yourself your own value and worth as a human being is disastrous and will only lead to disappointment. You won't find yourself by becoming a big success, having an expensive car and getting post graduate degree. Not that there is anything wrong with being successful but ask yourself this, who am I at my core. If you were to strip everything away would you be any less yourself or valuable without the big career, money and status. Everything we judge ourselves and others bye is based on the value, usefulness and estimation society has for us. What if societies values were junk values. What would you do after you've spent decades of your life pursuing these things only to find yourself lonely, alienated and atomized. When they no longer need you you will be thrown away and forgotten. This is the harsh reality we live in. When you are poor and unsuccessful people look at you with contempt and when you are accomplished people look at you with envy. No narrative will fix this problem. Changing the makeup and costumes on a pig won't change the fact that a pig is still a pig. Our society is controlled by sociopaths and monsters and we have become sick from this mad world we live in.
I am grateful that I grew up in the '80s and '90s as a kid and teenager where smartphones and internet didn't exist yet. This guest on the show is bang on. Why do people need to use social media to gloat, look at me everyone, look what I have! Just live your own life without making oneself the center of attention.
I thought that at first too, but its kinda better this way. The description has all the details about the actual author and the title gets people to click on the video giving him more exposure.
What makes him so effective is he has the ability to have the other person do most of the talking and in most cases they do the interview themselves. Hes great at open ended questions
Stopped Facebook and Instagram more than a year now. And stopped posting photos (reduce taking photos) on my WhatsApp status for few weeks now. I feel much better when letting my eyes enjoy the sceneries when I go for nature walk.
More than materialism itself, I think the real underlying causes for failure are wanting to keep up with the Jones-es and a checkbox approach. That is, seeing your existence as a list of checkboxes to tick (studies, marriage, degree, children) rather than thinking everything through to determine whether it is the right thing to do.
Elizabeth Hayward good for you. I think because people's biggest fear is not being liked (the tribal instinct of being accepted meant safety) they will copy what everyone around them is doing and not really question if it's something that they really really want in their life. They copy out of fear. But if people reject you for not doing what they are doing, they are not the type of company you need and you need to find those like yourself. But like yourself I have no interest in what others think of me either and if you are ok with not being liked then that's ok. Trouble is many people can't stand not being liked so will just comply or do whatever it takes to be part of the pack.
Not exactly. Everyone needs some guideline, a compass of what to do in life. It was religion, then "building a prosperous capitalistic world" but now these systems of values came out of fashion and there is nothing adequate enough to replace them. Jordan Peterson does a good job at pointing this out and trying to provide a substitute, but he constantly gets smeared by all kinds of sore assholes.
@@greenkitty82 love ruins alot of things...love is the real problem if you don't love anything not our God our creator then you love the opposite.. love something then it goes wrong then the person into a bad girl bad boy..smh money makes the world go round but also money guides you to the path of hell 🔥
This video just brought so much knowledge to my brain that it's literally going to make me watch it every once awhile just to keep me on my toes to make sure I'm what I'm doing is important thank you for this video
Born in the mid 80's, so glad I got to grow up playing outside. Building forts, getting dirty, getting into minor trouble... Being a kid without Internet, Cell phones or the 24/7 News cycle. Dial up AOL internet was my childhood lol... Not even on Social media..
I retired at 52 to go to take my sailboat on a trip to the Caribbean, causing me to end up with about half the retirement income stream of what I had if I had waited till 65. When I told friends and relatives what I was going to do, they were about equally divided between jealous and horrified. Stepping off the gerbil wheel was the hardest thing I ever had to do.
@Wandering Jackrabbit , not bad. We’re back home now, because COVID craziness has just made it too hard to travel, even on a boat. But, we’re already planning and getting ready for the next trip as soon as the mass insanity pandemic is over.
Its intriguing how we are getting back to our fundamental religious intuitions about life through a pure secular mindset. The bloke is speaking about going beyond materialistic wants and extrinsic motivations and getting in touch with our internal vision to guide our actions. He is also talking about coming together as a community once a week to make conversations about what are the deepest values that we care about as a society and to hold ourselves accountable in pursuit of these values. Well, that's the role and function of religion in any society.
@@melroycorrea7720 this stuff existed way before religion was invented when we lived in much smaller groups. problem is there is so many of us now that we can be alone in a sea of people
@@psionicinversion you can notice the idea of god or the idea of 'a spirit that pervades everything' is present in the most primitive tribes. And so, one can infer that religious beliefs has existed since the dawn of human consciousness. On the contrary, atheism or the idea of dead matter (matter without spirit) is a modern idea, which can also be attributed to the fact that we have become more individualistic and technocratic as a society. But this has created a void in us, which we are trying to fill up through false gods such as wealth, power and pleasure.
@@melroycorrea7720 yeah and we've also been taking mind altering substances for an extremely long time. When the native indians go off on there spirit quest they literally take a psycho active substance and are off their tits seeing all sorts of stuff. Shamans of villages were basically the same, they would take some substance to try get an answer for something. They were just tripping out and may stumble across a thought they wouldnt have had when they normal. Happens alot to people who are drunk cus it temporarily breaks our thought patterns and allows us to think in different ways.
Sometimes its just about rewarding yourself. You’d be surprised how rarely some people get nice things so wanting to get say a shirt or a shoe could really boost their morale moving forward. The key is to not compare yourself with others and get rid of social media.
Buying new nice things in moderation is absolutely healthy. I remember buying good headphones as a reward for my passed exam. Absolutely needed sometimes
I noticed at some point in my life that the more I concerned myself with my external appearance the more it would elicit social anxiety when I would go out. You start to pay too much attention to your own appearance making you overly self-conscious. I'm not saying to avoid grooming or taking care of yourself but instead to throw any concerns or thought out the window once you walk out of your house.
I avoided the trap of materialism and most of the people I know turned on me and treat me like shyyt. I got my goal of land and all, but like the world really turned on me for not being good enough, and it hasn't been a fun experience, it's been an epicly shyyt experience actually. Just realise it's not all sunshine and roses escaping this materialistic world.
If you don't want to do something it doesn't matter if this world is against you don't do it. Some friends are worth living without. They should appreciate your decisions and your freewill.
Get rid of those people! True friends will appreciate and respect what's best for you, not turn against you because you are doing something different against the pack. By being different it intimidates them hence why they do it. It makes them question their own actions and that scares them.
With all due respect, it sounds more like it's the people that's shitty, moreso than the process of freeing yourself from materials. But true though, it does seem near impossible to cut off all these techs and medias when the rest of the world is running on them.. I guess finding the balance is the true objective
They will be in large part jealous that you own land & they've wasted their $ on things they don't really need + rent which is lining someone elses pocket
It takes a long time to realize how truly miserable you are, and even longer to see that it doesn’t have to be that way. Only after you give up everything, can you begin to find a way to be happy.
There is also the fact that we as children are “programmed” by our parents way of loving. If we sense, early in life, that love needs to be bought by material and external stuff, that’s how we are going to behave as adults. It’s important to realize this and break the bonds we have with mum and (or) dad, in order to behave according to our real needs. Never is too late to have a healthy childhood 😃
@@mikez1017 i’m not saying it’s their fault. In fact you’re right, but it is important to understand that their shit backpack it’s not yours. The circunstances surrounding us are not our mistake, but they are our responsability. So they are our parents.
I love this. It's given me new ways to explain what I've been trying to instill in my daughter since birth. Thank you very much. I've been able to make her realize that what she wants in the store will only make her happy for a few minutes and then it just becomes "clutter" in her life, but I was missing the part about how to replace that desire with something valuable. You use "flowstate" as an example replacement. I don't get into flowstate often but when I do, I'm aware of it and grateful for it.
Materialism often leads to "showy display of one's means of life". I read that from somewhere and that smacks truth. After reading some comments I think it needs to be clarified. Materialism is not specific to certain items. Just because you're not tied to your phone or don't have an expensive one doesn't make you not materialistic. Materialism in principle has to do with your pursuit in life. It applies to any material item such as clothes, cars, etc. Materialism is a mindset and it's a trap you can get into quick. Trying to get the necessities like a house or car can lead to materialism. The desire to own a luxury house or luxury car instead of a modest car. That's also materialism if that's your pursuit. On the other hand, you can still be wealthy and not be materialistic if you're not making the obtaining of things your main concern in life.
I 100% agree with all of this but sometimes taking videos/photos while you’re on a trip or of anything special feels so great to look at after the event or the trip with 3-5 years, It’s about capturing the moment, enjoying It at the same time & to be able to look back & say “well, That was so fun & I was so caught up in the moment that I didn’t even appreciate It till now”
Yeah taking a few as memories is cool, the way people used to before social media. You just need to check yourself that you don’t have that “ppl are gonna think I’m so cool for this” feeling inside when you are doing it
I record videos on my phone for me & my kids. I rarely share anything other than with my sister or mom. I love love the memories we are recording together. But I also try to enjoy the moment
My family would throw big parties during my birthdays and my greed and craving for perfection hungers more. Until one day I realized my unreasonable demand and felt ashamed I just stopped all birthday celebration nor cake. All I ask for is peace and family near me ever since.
@@kaiser98berlin The Bible only mentions of two birthday celebrations. And it refers to them in a unfavorable light.I’n both occasions a life was taken due to the birthday person’s wishes.Genesis 40 :20-22, Matthew 14: 6-12 ( new world translation) This is why I also stopped all birthday celebrations. A peaceful day near family that sounds great.
I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm consumed by the idea of perfectionism through social media and it has let me into buying and consuming mindlessly and fall into the trap of over consumption. I looked up for this video because I needed something like this I want to stay so far away from the trap of consumerism. I know minimalism is scary for most people like me not having millions of shoes and bags but I know it going to be worth it. I am trying my best to stay away from it and I'll try even harder. Because I am going to succeed if I walk on this path. Trends and micro trends have made it worse they don't even last for more than 3 months in micro trends come every single week and by the end of the week is gone and dead and the consumers are left with another mindless impulse purchase.....
Delete all social media! It’s these apps that trigger the desire in us to buy more stuff. It’s the constant exposure to new material things that we didn’t even know we needed.
According to the owner of the company I work for, this single quarter has been more profitable than the last 6 combined, all thanks to "inflation." Which is to say, he heard there was inflation and jacked our prices by 25%, then blamed inflation. I have to assume this is not uncommon.
Yes, that is very accurate, in the world right now, wealth is shifting and inflation is rampaging every sector but the smart ones know that it is best to put your future with a trusted professional to secure and even grow the value of your asset and that's why I am stuck with Suzanne Stephens Ellis, I have experienced amazing growth in my Portfolio since I joined her platform in March 2020
@@stellarivera9787 Your numbers are only profitable if and only if your currency is worth the same. If your currency is being devalued. . .your "profit" numbers are actually weaker.
@@kathleenruiz4204 Also accurate again, another thing I learnt from working with Suzanne, finance is evolving and we are learning new things everyday and I am a firm believer in staying on top situations that concerns me and my finance is more important now more than ever.🥰
@@elaineschultz6430 About Suzanne Stephen Ellis? there is basically nothing to tell, her license and website are online for any and every one to find, just look her up.
"You buy furniture. You tell yourself, this is the last sofa I will ever need in my life. Buy the sofa, then for a couple years you're satisfied that no matter what goes wrong, at least you've got your sofa issue handled. Then the right set of dishes. Then the perfect bed. The drapes. The rug. Then you're trapped in your lovely nest, and the things you used to own, now they own you." - Tyler Durden
As true as that is, it's coming from a guy who needs to fight people to feel alive and is schizophrenic. Very low consciousness individual who has an army of space monkey blind conformists doing his dirty work of anarchism and destruction.
@@powerlifting1012 lmao 🤣 no shit. What's it conveying is the pursuit for material worth ends up trapping you in it. Keeping to your comfort as humans are addicted to comfort.
Yes this has to be the goal for people. Things do not make you happy. Relationships and communication make you happy stop the endless consumerism before it kills us all.
Learned this as a kid. My motivation is to succeed and have my fam succeed too. Materials are ok w a limitation, having to much of something tends to be way of not looking inside. Doesnt make you a bad person. Just shows that you need to kinder to yourself. Nothing can fill it but only you. Needs are food Bodily needs Meditation Resting Essentials Entertainment is cool But when we collect too much thats too much math You constantly are cleaning Distractions are ok when they are a sight to see Its a mind game The sooner we know The sooner we live
Life is agony no matter what. Thats the paradox. Don't have kids. Life is a curse. I see unbearable suffering all around me. If I could have one wish, it would be ignorance.
@@shanedingz Technology has made the world better. Because of smartphones I can now communicate with people billions of miles away. I make a living through my smartphone. I learned game development and programming using my smartphone and laptop. The advantages are endless. There are also disadvantages but this applies to any innovation. Guns and nuclear energy in the wrong hands can bring about great destruction and horror. But in the right hands they bring order and energy. You can't through away technology just because it has negative side effects. By that logic we should abandon cars, agriculture, textile industry, petroleum industry, virtually anything that is not natural. By your reasoning we should go back to the stone age.
And no offence to your profession, but video games are a false reality. A toy. The world doesn’t need them. Great that you found a way to make money at it. And you went a bit far. There is a lot of technology that has made the world ‘better’. Easier to be alive certainly. But as with everything, it can be taken too far. Just because you can, does that mean you should?.. I don’t enjoy watching people stare into their smartphones like zombies. Yet I am guilty of it. Adapt or die. That’s the way of the world. But I was alive during a period where that didn’t exist. And I prefer it.
This sums it up perfectly! I got rid of FB and twitter years ago and never even started with the other time sucking apps. It's all so empty and shallow, and exactly what is wrong with today's society. Just my 2 cents.
I practically beg my wife to listen to at least 15 minutes of positive thinking messaging a day. She refuses says it’s stupid, but she’ll watch TV drama for hours. The result of her life style? she is completely dependent on me. It’s a shame.
You're not alone. And with me, the further I progress the more difficult our relationship. I opened up to her about that now, and she tries, but I mostly just get a flouride stare.
In the summer of 2019 I took a trip to San Francisco and Yosemite park by myself. I went to the campus of my old college and took some pictures. I also took picture in Yosemite. When I came home, I realized that none of the pictures had me in them. As I posted them on my social media, I though, is anyone going to believe me that I went on a trip, because there are no pictures of me posted here. I had completely forgotten about myself as I was thoroughly enjoying myself in the environment I was in.
I am one of those people who love to travel and take pictures of the scenery. I’ll be in a picture here and there but most of the time it’s scenes I think are cool or beautiful and I wanted to share. What bothers me is when people take 10 pictures of their trip and they are in all 10 pictures. Im like dang I want to see the scenery because it will give me an idea if it’s a location I want to eventually check out.
You don't need people that don't matter to you to believe you. I don't have any social media because I don't need them to validate my existence. Live your life, not theirs.
@@tippytoe1250 same here. I’m hardly ever in my travel pics. I take a ton of pics and videos but may post 1 or 2 on SM. The rest are for my memories! Sadly there are ppl who travel just to take a ton a selfies but they don’t truly enjoy the destination or the experience
It's the exposure of these materialistic "things" that draw to our attention. Advertisements, T.V ads, magazines, phones, internet...the list goes on! Hard to avoid in this day and age.
Excellent talk and makes 100% sense, if you don't understand this you're lost in this world or you're in complete denial! I've recently taken steps to delete all of the toxic social media apps and only I watch motivational/wholesome content going forward on TH-cam, I've cut out the amount of time I spend watching movies and gaming also. Find a hobby, go cycling, learn a skill, see friends and set rules with them especially if they cant put their fucking phones down and engage in conversation. I've been saying this shit for ages and people look at me like I'm the stupid one...
18 year relationship, Covid, A year on my own after the breakup Rebuilding myself Focusing on what’s important Finding a woman i really connect with And embracing change All those things are way more important than media and what we view on our screens. I have my weaknesses but I’m older and wiser
@@randomman69420Z you could apply that to anything on earth. Once someone announces their race religion place of study place of living work etc. you could apply that same logic. Did you think you did something amazing just then you clown
I think you can enjoy materialistic stuff as long as your working and being sensible about it The problem is, so many people are not being sensible about it and accruing debt before they've even purchased a house for example
Of course you can enjoy materialistic stuff. I love my cars/motorbikes. But I/ME loves them. I couldn't give a shit what other people think, quite frankly I wish they didn't notice me at all so I'd be able to do more stuff I like to do.
Yes it is true that a lot of people ruin there lives over obsession with what others perceive of them, but I also think that people with a certain level of intelligence knows not to do that. I guess there is a lot of simple minded people in our world who aren't able to see through there own toxic behaviours.
I have never been materialistic in my whole life, not even as a kid. Yet I still have a bit of the problem that is brought up in this video. Like at times spending too much of my time scrolling on internet and such. I am a gamer so sitting at my computer comes natural to me as it's part of my hobby. And I also do digital art so that's also at the computer... So unfortunately I cannot completely unplug my life from technology as both my hobbies are done with technology... So I sometimes struggle to find a healthy balance of maybe spending too much time on internet when I could have spent time doing art or something. Yeah... When I was a kid I did traditional art only and I remember I did art every day and sometimes spent my whole weekend doing comics and stuff. Damn was I productive back then. As an adult I don't know what happened to change that. At 16 depression and several undiagnosed mental disabilities started to hit me like a truck and almost killed me and that's when I also lost interest in doing art and only did it once in a while. Still at 28 I am not completely out of that mental health rabbit hole so I'm not sure when or if I ever will find my way back to those simpler times of just enjoying my life instead of being consumed by adult worries and such. And I also feel so tired all the time as an adult, I never did as a kid. I don't know if that's just in my head or if kids just have way more energy? I tell myself "I'm to tired to do art today, watching youtube is easier" and so I say "I will do art on weekend instead" and then I still feel just so burnt out from the week that I still can't bring myself to do it. Endless circle of depressive state and semi-burnt out.
Based on your comment, you seem to be leaning towards a pessimistic mindset and Ive been there too. One thing you can do that can help is make it your goal to point out 1 good thing that happened in your life everyday, that way you will be training your mind to see the positives in your life rather than the negatives.
Back in the day, or more like circa 2007(ish), there was this show on BET called "My Two Cents" that I would watch on schedule every single morning while I babysat my brother's German Shepherd. It's still one of the all-time gems for me, and a show that sadly has disappeared from all recorded memory (including even the internet somehow), but it was basically a morning talk show in which a rotating panel of guests would discuss issues affecting (largely) the black community. Despite being entirely Caucasian myself, I loved this show for how brilliantly it dealt with everyday issues -- and more germane to this conversation, how it often dealt with the impact of poverty or financial hardship on those simply trying to make it. One episode in particular, though, that really struck me and will stick with me forever was one in which they were discussing the cost (financially) that the average black woman in America pays on beauty supplies per week in order to look good. The deeper part of this conversation dealt with Eurocentrism and the affects of slanted beauty standards and marketing campaigns aimed at making Caucasian/European features appear most desirable and how it has historically left black women inheriting a very real financial, emotional and psychological burden, and even further beyond asking (from the panel) what could possibly be done to change the mentality of the average black woman to see themselves as inherently beautiful. ... But that part I only include to fully frame the brilliant, the powerful and the conscious-shifting perspective that would ultimately be shared by one of the panelists (Keith Boykin). Given how my own life's perspective has been, by default, fairly non-materialistic in itself (due in large part to the guilt I feel whenever I make a selfish purchase), the conversation leading up to this point had deeply resonated with me. It just made (and makes) sense that material things should only really be treasured for their intrinsic value in our lives. Deep down we should all want to limit our desires to those things which bring us, and especially those we love, true happiness. And typically, on that end, those things which do traditionally bring all living things true happiness are almost exclusively non-materialistic in nature; It's our relationships, our health, our security, and all the things which lead us to gratitude and peace. That said, and I swear I'm finally getting to my point, what Keith Boykin said that made me really re-shift (in many ways) my perspective was when he pivoted the conversation away from the shame -- specifically that which related to black women spending so much money to look "European" -- and instead implored us all to actually do as we say and not treat money so preciously. His argument, as simple as it seemed, was that our money will not go with us to the grave and that if it can be spent, in some relatively harmless (in the grand scheme) measure to make any black woman feel more at home in their own skin, more beautiful, more deserving of affection and basic human decency, then no matter how materialistic that spending may seem on the surface, it was (and is) money well spent. As it relates, in the bigger picture, to this conversation here -- the conversation about materialism in general -- I would just add that instead of going too far in the direction that we all assume some terrible guilt for having spent our money in a way which may seem materialistic to those looking from the outside in, that we take a moment to at least make sure it won't still bring us some much needed reprieve in a world that can be devastating, harsh and very confusing on the regular. One moment, that is, to just sit and ask ourselves whether or not today actually is the kind of day where some frivolous purchase (of an ultimately inconsequential amount) might lift us, or someone we love, out of the doldrums of life and offer some spontaneous and much-needed influx of happiness that need not be explained, justified or tirelessly guilted over. And FTR: I say all this (and apologies for the long-winded response) not to enable the person who is already so greedy or self-indulgent that they shamelessly surround themselves with material wealth in order to satiate the abomination within, but instead to simply (as this same thought did for me many years ago) lift some of the guilt associated with spending that might be just as toxic as materialism itself. This life is very mysterious, after all, and not all things a practical approach. Sometimes you do just need to let yourself love yourself by treating yourself so that you can feel enough like yourself to be yourself to those who also love to see yourself be yourself so that their days might also be brightened by a happier you. I know that probably sounds very corny, but I do think it's true. Not every depression goes away with the toss of a Zoloft. Not every sorrow or fear is forgotten with time. Every now and again you just need to make yourself happy and not feel bad about it, and if some materialism is what does it then so be it. Peace and gratitude are your priority... Be mindful not to throw away your happiness for nothing. IJS
It’s nothing wrong with wanting material things. It’s the over obsession with desires that ruins us. Once we know how to control our desires then wanting anything isn’t an issue.
Very true, just like food cravings and overeating. Once you can control it, your relationship with food switches and it becomes very easy to control your weight and set better health goals from there. It all starts with researched, tested and experienced knowledge. 👍
Trouble is many people can't control their desires as they think wanting more will make them happy but they are constantly hungry as nothing seems to fill them up. I have some material things but I truly value them and I don't buy often. It just doesn't make sense to constantly keep buying things as you'll never be satisfied and it just becomes a cluttered hoard.
Controlling one’s desire is incredibly difficult. Spirituality suggests a more sustainable path is to distance ourselves from our ego, which gets attached to our sense of identity. And an ego will always crave more so it can continue to build itself - this cannot be controlled. What can be controlled is knowing you are more than just your ego, and making a deep relationship with who you really are.
Love this type of content! Very educational. Wish more people can and realise this and not material stuff would only make you happy. Some of the happiness doesn’t come from material things in life.
I remember playing hopscotch in the streets. British bulldog. Riding bikes. Making tents from old sheets and jumping in and out of 2 skipping ropes. Sounds dreadful....? Best years of my life !
Ah, I remember the good old days growing up in Greater Manchester. We would step out and be out all day! We would go fishing, catch frogs and tadpoles, go on bike rides and get lost, play wembley, football, cricket, tag, hide and seek, build swings off trees, light fires (safe ones only, honest), build dens, play with conkers, marbles, cards, collect football stickers, wrestling atickers etc. We would only come home when we had to and by then it was tea time or even later! WE LOVED IT. The zombie generation has no clue about what fun we had 😃!!
I work on a project car. Lowrider. It’s my happy place. Yes it’s materialistic but at the same time it comes as a result in being successful with my hobby. I did catch myself showing off on Instagram and other platforms what I have like the ego side of things. And I realize none of it really matters. The compliments I get daily when I’m driving none of it means or matters or holds any value. I used to be homeless and nobody but a few cared about me when I was walking on the street. Now everybody has nice or bad things to say to me. So I quit showing off on social media, and just started working on my dream car in “silence” if you will. And I found out my true genuine happy place.
When I go to a concert, I go to see Elton John to watch him play the piano and play my favourite songs, not to film myself to make friends jealous. I keep my phone in my purse, or better yet, in my car hidden away. I want to immerse myself and experience the music live and in person. People on their phones shooting video of their lives, miss out on life.
I think sometimes its the extrinsic values and need for validation that pushes us to innovative and competitive. I know a lot of people who started working out in the gym just to be able to show off their physique on social media and eventually got into the long term habit of being fit even though they hated the routine.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong about showing your work from the gym, if you were over weight and want to share how far that person has come and show the world.I do see your point, but to me a person who works out for “likes” or “attention” are in it for the wrong reasons. For example, I take the gym very serious and I go cause it makes me feel good not because I want to impress people to me that comes with the time and work you out in the gym, but I do it for myself no one else
In my life I've had to learn to change the question from "what do I want" to "what to I want to do". For example, I want to ride my bike a lot. By getting a good quality 10 year old bike with some scratches for $300, I can spend more time actually riding than working to afford a $3000 bike like so many other people have around me. I don't want a status symbol I just want to ride
I was so frustrated with my children, when they were young. At the store it was always I want. So I gave them a simple allowance. They had to purchase the candy, the cards whatever they begged for. My daughter learned about byers remorse. My son is still working on it.
If you wanna be successful, you most take responsibility for your emotions, not place the blame on others. In addition to make you feel more guilty about your faults, pointing the finger at others will only serve to increase your sense of personal accountability. There's always a risk in every investment, yet people still invest and succeed. You must look outward if you wanna be successful in life.
The first step to successful investing is figuring out your goals and risk tolerance either on your own or with the help of a financial professional but is very advisable you make use of a professional like I did. If you get the facts about saving and investing and follow through with an intelligent plan, you should be able to gain financial security over the years and enjoy the benefits of managing your money.
The stock market rally run is gone, but I'm not sure if equities will swiftly recover, keep falling, or fluctuate in a narrow range for a few weeks, or if things will quickly get worse. I'm under pressure to increase my $300k reserve.
Making touch with financial advisors like Kimberly Kent who can assist you restructure your portfolio, would be a very creative option. Personal financial management will be crucial to navigating the next difficult times.
@@gabrieljules2424Her strategy trade EUR/USD is quite impressive and her currency pairs are 100% beneficial. With her help I've been able to leave my 9-5
Amazing, thanks for sharing this wonderful video. I'll leave my phone now and go back reading my book, because that truly brings me joy and I ain't doing it to impress anyone. Thank you.
The Elton John point @1:26 really jumped out to me. Concerts/shows are supposed to be an experience. You immediately lose that once you start watching it through your phone while recording. Some people really have lost the capacity to just be present in the moment.
*The first step to successful investing is figuring out your goals and risk tolerance* - either on your own or with the help of a Financial Advisor. If you can get the facts about savings and investing with a well detailed plan, you should be able to gain financial security over the years and enjoy the benefits of managing your income.
It's not how much money you save in the bank, but how much money you earn and how hard it works for you. Money devalue over time, investment is the best option as it grows over time
I think the key thing here is working with a professional. Yes people have devoted their lives to making profits in the market, but those of us who haven't but are interested in investing can simply work with them.
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Glad I grew up with no phone and no computer. Those were the best years of my life
@NICULL yeah discord and yt is all I need
Well, this explains it.... i've been trying to text you for ages and got no response. I thought you were ignoring me!
Glad I grew up with no cell phone or PC too! Also glad I lived out in the country and could enjoy fishing, hunting, swimming in the pond, riding bikes until dark-thirty, and reading books at bedtime. Such a happy period in my life. And the minute I retired, I moved right back to the lifestyle from whence I came. Couldn't be happier. It's all about family and the joy of being alive. My PC makes quick work of paying bills and catching up on the news, otherwise, it sits alone for all but an hour or so a day. My phone isn't touched unless it rings. Life is good!
Now you're just ruining your life by spending your time on TH-cam and on TOP of that commenting on a video so that complete strangers like me can read it and criticize you.
*YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM*
@@SaL-ep7zb Like you aren't on youtube? Criticize me to your heart's content. It's like pissing in the wind.
My dad told me “Think about how many hours you need to work for the thing, and than you decide if it is worth it.” Enjoy things, but don’t be a slave of things.
100%
If people, who just closed a 100 Million dollar deal, tell you "don't be a slave of things" you should think about that.
That’s good but it’s really the same as budgeting. His point is not about the cost. It’s that regardless of cheap or expensive, junk is junk and in fact most of it will never make you feel better or enjoy life to the fullest.
“ The borrower is a slave to the lender“ proverbs 22:7 ( new world translation )
I'm teaching my 17 year old the same thing. I think it's beginning to work.
True success to me is having the freedom to do what I want/ when I want. No debt tying me down and little material things to be accountable for. Inner peace is key
Smart man or woman, you get it! add balanced life , hobbies and something to grow and I agree.
@@sudstahgaming "man or woman" :D:D ... jesus
@@istvantoth7431 you never know these days lol
Things you own, end up owning you.
-Tyler Durden
I bet the women love to hear that lol.
“The things we own end up owning us.”
So glad to be living a minimalist life style.
You are not your ****ing khakis! =)
Great point
"I am not like all the others"
nicely said
Games have started doing that too. Before games were all about merely enjoying them. Finishing them or not were all up to you and how much you wanted out of it. Now battlepasses and the like have been introduced, with the concept of "If you don't play for this much within this timeframe, you will lose out on some cool looking stuff". For some reason though, those kinds of systems just makes me not want to play. Even Animal crossing, where it's all about enjoying it a little bit every day and enjoy the smaller things, I just can't handle having to go in every day to check up on my town. I love getting deep into one game at a time. And at the same time I need variety, which means I tend to jump between 2-3 games at a time. But the moment I feel that the games control me instead of the other way around, I lose interest quickly. Extrinsic motivation ruins so much for me that I end up just not playing the game altogether.
My older brother is a very rich successful man. Yet he lives in a regular condo, wears cheap clothes, eats street food. When I asked him why he aint balling, he said he isnt trying to impress anyone. He never let money define who he is. He changed the way I looked at life.
Thats not inspirational. He earns money yet doesn’t even take care of himself. Street food and cheap clothes? He clearly has no respect for his own health and appearance. Love life full to impress yourself. At least do that.
It’s only a tool son , money is not worth the paper it’s written on …. But like oxygen we need it , go see things , build things , do things
Keep moving forward live
@@VBoo459he was saying he lives just a simple life …..it’s amazing how something so simple and beautiful is passed by most
He was a
Millionaire mate go do that part first then let’s talk I’m already their it’s clear your not
@VBoo459 this view is too materialistic and shallow. Eating street food doesn't mean that's all he eats.
Nor does wearing cheap clothes.
That guy would be ideal definition of successful because he has money and obviously does not give a fuck lol
@@VBoo459and you are the perfect example of what’s wrong with society.
Johann Hari is a wise man, constantly seeking a deeper truth in our shallow society. Lost Connections is one of my favorite books. It explains why life is so unfulfilling now.
I think the fear of missing out is a huge drive for people also.
Absolutely. I'm 28 now and in the last couple of years me and my friends have all stopped doing the things we enjoy to chase that mortgage that we as humans are expected to achieve. I don't go out anymore. I just work like a dog so that i can put a deposit down for a shitty apartment.
I have a friend who only goes out to parties or an event just for this reason
@@OuchPleaseNoooo Mortgage. Mort is Latin for dead, just saying.
@@maratonlegendelenemirei3352 i read something like mortgage literally means death by debt or long life debt. Something like that.
I think it just comes down to no one wants to be lonely and it’s lead by women imo. Women often decide how society acts because men are the ones trying to be chosen by women. If women wanted a dude in a tan Honda Civic everyone would want one lol
I picked my kids up from school one day and I’ll never forget. My son and daughter began asking me questions about me not having tech devices when I was young and they felt sorry for me because I must’ve been so bored 😂 I’m like no kids I feel bad for y’all. I explained to them fun stuff we did as kids like explore through the woods, play at parks a lot and rode around half the town on bicycles all day.
These kids today don’t realize, you can’t miss something if you never had it. I held off getting a cell phone for as long as I could. I’d go back to no cell phones or computers if given the choice.
Interestingly enough, I can't recall a time growing up when I said "I'm bored", NEVER. Now I feel like I'm always bored....😒.
Same for me am surrounded by people kids scared of their own shadow- I was selling jewellery at school by 13 entrepreneurial
@@johnbowhunter7676 I'd do that too
I think if the world was safer and had more friendly activities for younger children and even teens it be different and they could have such experiences but the way the world is at least from my perception it seems more geared towards adults and less child family friendly than it used to be it seems even thinks for children and young people now care more about marketing and numbers than values much less safety and preserving the innocence of youth that so often is stolen technology isn't perfect and certainly isn't the solution but better to leave them monitored in a space you know they are near and save than outside in the woods or at a candy store unattended where the trained professionals of the world in trafficking and child predators are constantly on the hunt for some poor young soul to take and destroy for their own perverse purposes.
I actually feel blessed that I grew up (in the 80s-90s) with so few material possessions. We couldn't afford it being on mostly one NZ income and 5 kids to feed.
But thankfully mum knew how to sew clothes, plant a variety of foods in the garden while teaching us to be fairly self sufficient. So we figured out early on how to create our own fun without needing many toys or material items.
Now days we've taken those values into our own homes and even though we can afford more if we want to, it's just not a priority. We prefer the value of presence over presents. If I ever spend money on my kids, I'll use it towards a fun experience shared with family and friends. Instead of the latest toy/item that will only offer us a temporary high before being forgotten about in a few weeks/months time. Unlike great memories which usually last a lifetime.🥰💜
"Nobody wants to watch your shitty video of Elton John" - instantly smashed the like button
Me: I don't know this Elton John guy. Should I care?
@@qwertyuiop-cu2ve Why even post if you don't know the guy? He probably don't know you exist either. Want attention? LOL.
@@qwertyuiop-cu2ve I'm jealous of your unknowing.. His music makes me want to vomit. It's so fake. He's a major sellout and a major wanker :)
@@joshlovegood9392 You almost make me want to look it up to see how bad it really is, out of sheer curiosity. However I think I'll pass because I don't want the youtube algorithm to think I'm interested and start suggesting more of that material. I'm more into into rock and metal music.
Correction 'Shiddy'
I'm 16 years old. And probably a lot of people know that this is the golden age of materialism, everybody wants to show off their knew sneakers etc. I've been thinking about this a lot and have been trying my best to keep away from it, being different. It's hard let me tell you, it's not easy. But if you want to succeed, you have to sacrifice. When I watched the video, I already knew about it. Meaning I'm already on the right way and you should be too. Be different.
Impressive how thoughtful you are already at that age.
One thing I would suggest is: don't try to be different, just be rational. And the rational thing to do is analyze everything without a bias. Not everything that is "normal" is bad, just identify which things are bad, like you did with too much materialism. If you can be just different in those aspects, but "normal" in the good aspects, you will also still fit very well into the society and be a social person, which has many benefits and gives you many opportunities to meet good people.
@@reen4371 I agree
You shouldn't throw away everything that is normal simply because it's normal just take out the things in your life that are proven to be bad
But being weird is really fun 😁
Be proud
14 here, I see what u see every day. Ur not the only one. Stay strong
Don't fall for it.
This is why I love Joe Rogan podcast. All the guest that he has make you rethink your life in a positive view. It change my view in life in a way I could not see. Just positive flow.
I think Joe Rogan is kind of an idiot, but I love the way he brings these people on his podcast and let them talk like this.
When I was in middle school, I got bullied if I didn't wear fashion brand clothes. But as I got older, I realized that a lot of the kids that were bullying other kids that were from poorer families that couldn't afford the latest fashion, were actually from poor families themselves. Sometimes the world is fake, sad and self-destructive.
💯💯
My wife was from the poorer neighbourhood. She told me how her friends raced to buy brands. Even now they have extravagant birthday parties but still cannot afford to buy good house/car.
True and you’re right. Because we humans keep on hurting ourselves mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Same here. I didn't grow up poor but dressed poor and the kids who wear designer clothes often spent their whole check on nice clothing even though they are from poor families
do you ever wonder why these people act like this?
Funny how our entire education system is primarily built upon extrinsic motivation. Classes that you do for intrinsic reasons are few and far between. That usually dictates a life with a job that you do for extrinsic reasons
Education has to be gratuitous.
I think we have two worlds ; just like inside out ......when our objective reality are so strong enough to invade our inner mind ....we start to dictate ourself with our own thoughts .....so later furture ....dictatorship may be inside individual mindset .....
You are absolutely right. Not only the education system, but also the public opinion about it often dictates us career choices and you pick a career that seems prestigious over the one that speaks to your heart
Yeah but the main reason is because the jobs that pay are typically not the jobs you love
Yes. And not only extrinsic in being fed knowledge we are not interested in but, more extrinsic yet, in merely having to pass exams about it.
The joy comes, when you share your material things with others. Enjoy things together, instead of showing off.
The worst invention was the smartphone. Everybody is a phone zombie now!
I think it was great at around iPhone 4 to iPhone 5 time period. But now its getting way too powerful. the problem is that no one has the self-responsibility to treat it like a tool. It is an amazing tool, we cant deny that
you nailed it! lifeless zombies!
I remember on one of my IT job interviews, one of the questions at the end was "What do you feel is the best thing about technology and the worst thing about technology?".. My answer for both was "The Smartphone"
Well stop doing internet things then. Why don’t you log off? It’s your choice
The benefits of the internet are perfectly suitable with a computer. I totally agree with you, take a step back and look how capitalism got the best of that.
Everyone needs to hear this periodically. Take a reset, get back to what matters. It's easy to get lost in the consumer trap of life.
no its not, only insecure people buy shit to make themselves happy.
Hear what? His constant use of vulgar language had me tune him out. But I agree w/ your statement. What matters? Relationships...w/ Jesus, family & true friends. Anything else?
Growing up in a mid-class family way back in the early '90s is such a treasure, no gadgets, no fancy shoes, no expensive toys just pure fun. We play the whole day every weekend, we play also this called "patentero" with no slippers so that we can run faster, playing hide and seek at night and we swap clothes to lure the one who's looking at us, and lastly, I fight bullies.
Sadly, new generations cant experience it right now because of these techs and new stuff. What they saw on the net or on Tv or even with their friends they want to have it too just to be accepted. It seems like they can even appreciate small things now, So sad what I am witnessing right now.
*To all the dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and right people, ANYTHING is possible...*
Joe Rogue sold his podcast the Joe rogue Experience for Close to $1 billion, to Spotify!
@@alexdimic5864 and apparently he’s the guy to listen to about forgetting materialism 😂😂
When rich people say that money can't buy you happiness while wiping their sweat with money.
@@uncoiledfish2561 I’m not sure if you read any Marxist Literature, Karl Marx make a Statement; It is impossible to conceptualise thought Without consuming a apple/energy 🍎 . You cannot conceptualise god, Without conceptualising thought 💭, You can’t conceptualise thought Unless you consume sugar which is energy making your brain work
@@uncoiledfish2561 An Apple is a part of the material world, I wonder what the this spiritual world is why can’t I see it! why can’t I touch it! I don’t believe religion is moral either! I know for a fact that homosexuality is not a choice, they born that way, the change of someone being born Gay is 0.1%, The chances of someone becoming a billionaire is 0.01% . Joe Rogue is one luck 🍀 human!
During the first lockdown, I cleared out so much stuff in my house, de cluttered all this stuff that I was keeping & I've learnt to not hold emotional value to most objects, I feel so much better off now
When you come to the realization you are going to eventually die and can’t take it with you, YOU start to become less materialistic and “worldly”. Happened in my late 30’s.
Exactly the same is happening with me, I'm in my early 20s.
EXACTLY! I'm in my earlier 60s, so you KNOW I'm thinking about that!
I'm not sure anyone thinks they're going to 'take it with them'. The peril is spending a lifetime beholden to others never having completed the capitalism game.
Very true....but you can also end up living your life on the streets vs comfortably so a balance is needed
I realized this a few years back hence the reason I deleted all my social media accounts like facebook, instagram etc. Now I’m focused on myself and been happy with my life more than ever.
Yet you're on YT?
@@jamielong1237 I learn a lot watching training stuff in YT. Or find videos like this from time to time
I can choose the videos I want to watch. Unlike FB, IG or Twitter where you don't have control over others' posts. So yeah. I don't have FB, IG or Twitter but I watch YT. Works for me and I'm a happy camper.
@@navyblu79 My comment keeps getting deleted lol.
I"m saying you aren't forced to follow people on IG/FB either. If you want you can just follow a bunch of educational pages.
@@jamielong1237 Yes that's right but you have friends who are actually real friends of yours and family. You will see their posts and the posts they liked and their friends post sometimes depending on the privacy settings. YT is basically showing us videos though it's now flooded with crap Tik Toks. I don't really want to know what others are doing anyway so leaving FB was not a problem for me.
@@navyblu79 completely agree man
I am so happy that a few years ago, I simply purged all my consumerism/materialism "needs". It was not a revelation or a decision, I simply stopped caring about all those things. Simplicity and minimalism give me calmness...I do not want to have 15 pairs of sneakers, I do not need 60 shirts/tops. It actually stresses me out to have so many things, meaning that if I have to move to a new place I need to have a mountain of boxes to worry about. I now only replace things that break/have holes in them (but still try to have them repaired first). I have repaired my jeans, I have repaired my work shoes, I have repaired a pair of boots that I like. Why throw them away? It costs less to repair and you don't need to go around looking for new stuff. Doing martial arts helped on this as you focus on the mental part of what fulfills you. A hobby that is fun. I appreciate the simple things in life...having a good sparring night, going to the movies to see a film I was so looking forward to, being around friends playing board games or card games, reading a nice book...it's just amazing to not have to use something with a screen. I agree with the guy in the video, I can never understand why on earth people go to live concerts not appreciating what they are watching live and instead they use a phone to "share" the amazing experience. I may take one picture just to remember the night and that's it. I do binge on TH-cam but that's because I don't watch TV. I watch interesting videos that add to my encyclopedic knowledge instead.
The satisfaction you get from repairing something that you have had for a while, makes it awesome. It shows you appreciate that things that were made and do not waste necessarily either. Still got my jeans from 5 years ago, redyed the colour to keep it strong. 😀
I actually learned this from Buddhism teaching called "The trap of desire" its a never ending self suffering circle. Our society just make it worse, the true happiness come within our mind.
mind and body in the present moment
True.
Good observation.
Happiness comes from within.
If you need more external new and cooler things to make you happy just to fit in. You have to wait for a long time.
Desire knows no ends. Desire is like licking a knife and the more you lick it the more it cut your tongue.
Thank you for your wisdom.
Could you say the same when you’re on a train destined for the gas chambers? True happiness comes within our mind ..
@@arbiter8246 read up on Viktor Frankl, a psychologist who survived the holocaust. The power of belief and the mind is real.
"within our mind" that was cute.
This shows me how much better I am doing in life than most other people. I’m proud of me.
Yeah for sure, put other people down! Recipe for success, right?
Good for you man!
how do you know it's "most" and not "few"?
If it wasn't demonstrating most of the people then this video wouldn't exist. I mean who really talks about few people with problems. It's the majority of us they are concerned about.
@@pushpakhegde2859 so what you're saying is that it must be true just because they talk about it
amazing
This is brilliant and an incredible value to follow for our youth. I often joke around with my friends about making my “annual Facebook post”, but now I realize I do this because outside of Facebook I have been disconnected and focusing on building my life and my own success.
One thing I've learned is that real success comes from happiness. Love, laughter, family, friendship. Not from money. Not from having lots of stuff.
And sports.
The accessibility of love, laughter, family and friendship is proportional to how much money you have. You aren't going to be very loveable, laughing much, or spending much time doing anything with family and friends if you're struggling.
The title gives you the whole formula. No clickbait. Thank You So Much!!!!!!
The thing to me is, if you invest and have other income outside of dividends then you will be able to live off dividends without selling. Which means you can pass that on to your kids which will give them a leg up in life. $52k dividends received in 2022.
I agree! That's why it is advisable that you have to invest while you still have a regular job or earning a regular income, and do it constantly. You still need to have something that will keep you going even if you're investing. Good financial planning and money allocation is the key.
True, initially I wasn't quite impressed with my gains, opposed to my previous performances, I was doing so badly, figured I needed to diverssify into better assets, I touched base with a portfolio-advisor and that same year, I pulled a net gain of 550k...that's like 7times more than I average on my own.
This aligns perfectly with my desire to organize my finances prior to retirement. Could you provide me with access to your advisor?
Carol Vivian Constable is the licensed fiduciary I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment..
She appears to be well-educated and well-read. I ran an online search on her name and came across her website; thank you for sharing.
2 kinds of Motivation:
Intrinsic reason (joy) vs. Extrinsic reason (junk values - show it off, buy, spend) >>>>>> depression/anxiety
Get rid of messages of Materialism:
1. List of what you want and what you feel if you have them. Did it make you feel better? (Acceptance/ Envy)
2. Moments in your life you felt satisfied (Meaning and Connection)
Build it more into your life every week.
You know I remember a time before s Facebook. When I was a teenager. I did feel happier then. Part of it is the lack of responsibility I had back then. Part of it is also the fact I spent a lot of time with my friends in the woods playing paintball. Now that I’m older I’ve realized the only thing that matters in life is friends and family. This is a great clip I’m going to share it with my wife. I will rewatch this a few times so the message sinks in. I guess fishing all the time is good for me!
I’m guessing you were in high school from 2004-2008? Boy how I miss those times too. 😞
It's probably the mystery that's now missing. Meeting a friend you haven't seen for some time would make you feel ecstatic. The question what's up made a lot of sense. Now that almost everyone is posting every detail down to whatever they ate for breakfast just blew the mystery away. There's no more reason to be curious and wonder what everyone is up to.
This is so true. Thank you for uploading this video. People should learn to actually ask them what they want with their life and if they are happy with their life. In the end it's your life, your memories. You are not a movie for someone else to watch. You are a movie that you remember. ❤☺
So I'm only a movie! But if it's for me then it's ok. You're not a narrative. Stop looking at your life like a distant observer judging its value based solely on the standards others have implanted into your consciousness. You are a human being that needs a meaningful existence not symbols of success and material possessions. This ideas that if you're doing it for yourself it will be better than if you're doing it for others is a trick of the mind. Don't fall into that trap. You're still chasing self worth whether it's for others or yourself. Doing things so you can prove to yourself your own value and worth as a human being is disastrous and will only lead to disappointment. You won't find yourself by becoming a big success, having an expensive car and getting post graduate degree. Not that there is anything wrong with being successful but ask yourself this, who am I at my core. If you were to strip everything away would you be any less yourself or valuable without the big career, money and status. Everything we judge ourselves and others bye is based on the value, usefulness and estimation society has for us. What if societies values were junk values. What would you do after you've spent decades of your life pursuing these things only to find yourself lonely, alienated and atomized. When they no longer need you you will be thrown away and forgotten. This is the harsh reality we live in. When you are poor and unsuccessful people look at you with contempt and when you are accomplished people look at you with envy. No narrative will fix this problem. Changing the makeup and costumes on a pig won't change the fact that a pig is still a pig. Our society is controlled by sociopaths and monsters and we have become sick from this mad world we live in.
@@michaeljensen4650 So what Is the answer for all of this to pursue a meaningful life do you think? Curious to know your thoughts on this.
I am grateful that I grew up in the '80s and '90s as a kid and teenager where smartphones and internet didn't exist yet. This guest on the show is bang on. Why do people need to use social media to gloat, look at me everyone, look what I have! Just live your own life without making oneself the center of attention.
I love how JR lets his guests talk without interruption. He’s awesome and has such interesting guests.
I feel like Joe was lucky to get the credits on this one.
I thought that at first too, but its kinda better this way. The description has all the details about the actual author and the title gets people to click on the video giving him more exposure.
@@OnyxWolf47 had to be done for the greater good.
What makes him so effective is he has the ability to have the other person do most of the talking and in most cases they do the interview themselves. Hes great at open ended questions
at the same time, this topic is lucky to be attached to a name like Joe Rogan that instantly gets 100 000 clicks on youtube.
It's to satisfy the algorithm gods. Joe Rogan is more known than Johann Hari. The picture at 3:49 perfectly captures the uploader.
Stopped Facebook and Instagram more than a year now. And stopped posting photos (reduce taking photos) on my WhatsApp status for few weeks now. I feel much better when letting my eyes enjoy the sceneries when I go for nature walk.
More than materialism itself, I think the real underlying causes for failure are wanting to keep up with the Jones-es and a checkbox approach. That is, seeing your existence as a list of checkboxes to tick (studies, marriage, degree, children) rather than thinking everything through to determine whether it is the right thing to do.
I hate bucket lists I do not have one and never will and I do not care what people think of me.
Elizabeth Hayward good for you. I think because people's biggest fear is not being liked (the tribal instinct of being accepted meant safety) they will copy what everyone around them is doing and not really question if it's something that they really really want in their life. They copy out of fear. But if people reject you for not doing what they are doing, they are not the type of company you need and you need to find those like yourself. But like yourself I have no interest in what others think of me either and if you are ok with not being liked then that's ok. Trouble is many people can't stand not being liked so will just comply or do whatever it takes to be part of the pack.
Not exactly. Everyone needs some guideline, a compass of what to do in life. It was religion, then "building a prosperous capitalistic world" but now these systems of values came out of fashion and there is nothing adequate enough to replace them. Jordan Peterson does a good job at pointing this out and trying to provide a substitute, but he constantly gets smeared by all kinds of sore assholes.
@@greenkitty82 love ruins alot of things...love is the real problem if you don't love anything not our God our creator then you love the opposite.. love something then it goes wrong then the person into a bad girl bad boy..smh money makes the world go round but also money guides you to the path of hell 🔥
True
This video just brought so much knowledge to my brain that it's literally going to make me watch it every once awhile just to keep me on my toes to make sure I'm what I'm doing is important thank you for this video
Born in the mid 80's, so glad I got to grow up playing outside. Building forts, getting dirty, getting into minor trouble... Being a kid without Internet, Cell phones or the 24/7 News cycle.
Dial up AOL internet was my childhood lol...
Not even on Social media..
I retired at 52 to go to take my sailboat on a trip to the Caribbean, causing me to end up with about half the retirement income stream of what I had if I had waited till 65. When I told friends and relatives what I was going to do, they were about equally divided between jealous and horrified. Stepping off the gerbil wheel was the hardest thing I ever had to do.
@Wandering Jackrabbit , not bad. We’re back home now, because COVID craziness has just made it too hard to travel, even on a boat. But, we’re already planning and getting ready for the next trip as soon as the mass insanity pandemic is over.
@@ralphholiman7401 amen brotha live that life
Best of luck to you Ralph
This is great to read..congratulations and all the best for your future endeavours.
Balsy move man. Way to go. You will be fine in older age. Trust me
Its intriguing how we are getting back to our fundamental religious intuitions about life through a pure secular mindset. The bloke is speaking about going beyond materialistic wants and extrinsic motivations and getting in touch with our internal vision to guide our actions. He is also talking about coming together as a community once a week to make conversations about what are the deepest values that we care about as a society and to hold ourselves accountable in pursuit of these values. Well, that's the role and function of religion in any society.
@Pamela Irisa It helps being part of a religious tradition and a community . you don't have to invent the wheel all over again.
@@melroycorrea7720 this stuff existed way before religion was invented when we lived in much smaller groups. problem is there is so many of us now that we can be alone in a sea of people
@@psionicinversion you can notice the idea of god or the idea of 'a spirit that pervades everything' is present in the most primitive tribes. And so, one can infer that religious beliefs has existed since the dawn of human consciousness. On the contrary, atheism or the idea of dead matter (matter without spirit) is a modern idea, which can also be attributed to the fact that we have become more individualistic and technocratic as a society. But this has created a void in us, which we are trying to fill up through false gods such as wealth, power and pleasure.
@@melroycorrea7720 yeah and we've also been taking mind altering substances for an extremely long time. When the native indians go off on there spirit quest they literally take a psycho active substance and are off their tits seeing all sorts of stuff. Shamans of villages were basically the same, they would take some substance to try get an answer for something. They were just tripping out and may stumble across a thought they wouldnt have had when they normal. Happens alot to people who are drunk cus it temporarily breaks our thought patterns and allows us to think in different ways.
@@psionicinversion So many kinds of people take drugs. They don't become a Shamans or a religious leader.
Sometimes its just about rewarding yourself. You’d be surprised how rarely some people get nice things so wanting to get say a shirt or a shoe could really boost their morale moving forward. The key is to not compare yourself with others and get rid of social media.
Buying new nice things in moderation is absolutely healthy. I remember buying good headphones as a reward for my passed exam. Absolutely needed sometimes
I noticed at some point in my life that the more I concerned myself with my external appearance the more it would elicit social anxiety when I would go out. You start to pay too much attention to your own appearance making you overly self-conscious. I'm not saying to avoid grooming or taking care of yourself but instead to throw any concerns or thought out the window once you walk out of your house.
I avoided the trap of materialism and most of the people I know turned on me and treat me like shyyt. I got my goal of land and all, but like the world really turned on me for not being good enough, and it hasn't been a fun experience, it's been an epicly shyyt experience actually. Just realise it's not all sunshine and roses escaping this materialistic world.
If you don't want to do something it doesn't matter if this world is against you don't do it. Some friends are worth living without. They should appreciate your decisions and your freewill.
Get rid of those people! True friends will appreciate and respect what's best for you, not turn against you because you are doing something different against the pack. By being different it intimidates them hence why they do it. It makes them question their own actions and that scares them.
Mike Mack exactly! 👏
With all due respect, it sounds more like it's the people that's shitty, moreso than the process of freeing yourself from materials. But true though, it does seem near impossible to cut off all these techs and medias when the rest of the world is running on them.. I guess finding the balance is the true objective
They will be in large part jealous that you own land & they've wasted their $ on things they don't really need + rent which is lining someone elses pocket
It takes a long time to realize how truly miserable you are, and even longer to see that it doesn’t have to be that way. Only after you give up everything, can you begin to find a way to be happy.
There is also the fact that we as children are “programmed” by our parents way of loving. If we sense, early in life, that love needs to be bought by material and external stuff, that’s how we are going to behave as adults. It’s important to realize this and break the bonds we have with mum and (or) dad, in order to behave according to our real needs. Never is too late to have a healthy childhood 😃
Or maybe they were taught the samething and your blaming them to much since they didnt have this info readily available to them.
@@mikez1017 i’m not saying it’s their fault. In fact you’re right, but it is important to understand that their shit backpack it’s not yours. The circunstances surrounding us are not our mistake, but they are our responsability. So they are our parents.
Nonsense 😆
This sounds more specific to you.
@@daytonstrength9591
my exact thought
I love this. It's given me new ways to explain what I've been trying to instill in my daughter since birth. Thank you very much.
I've been able to make her realize that what she wants in the store will only make her happy for a few minutes and then it just becomes "clutter" in her life, but I was missing the part about how to replace that desire with something valuable. You use "flowstate" as an example replacement. I don't get into flowstate often but when I do, I'm aware of it and grateful for it.
Materialism often leads to "showy display of one's means of life". I read that from somewhere and that smacks truth.
After reading some comments I think it needs to be clarified. Materialism is not specific to certain items. Just because you're not tied to your phone or don't have an expensive one doesn't make you not materialistic. Materialism in principle has to do with your pursuit in life. It applies to any material item such as clothes, cars, etc. Materialism is a mindset and it's a trap you can get into quick. Trying to get the necessities like a house or car can lead to materialism. The desire to own a luxury house or luxury car instead of a modest car. That's also materialism if that's your pursuit. On the other hand, you can still be wealthy and not be materialistic if you're not making the obtaining of things your main concern in life.
"From the moment we are born, we are immersed in the machine, that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life" - Damn True
I 100% agree with all of this but sometimes taking videos/photos while you’re on a trip or of anything special feels so great to look at after the event or the trip with 3-5 years, It’s about capturing the moment, enjoying It at the same time & to be able to look back & say “well, That was so fun & I was so caught up in the moment that I didn’t even appreciate It till now”
Yeah taking a few as memories is cool, the way people used to before social media. You just need to check yourself that you don’t have that “ppl are gonna think I’m so cool for this” feeling inside when you are doing it
Daniel Z got the idea ty 🤝❤️
That's not what he's saying. You know what he's saying..
The issue is you’d take a photo and hope it came out good. Now people take the same photo 10 times
Yeah take a picture of a 15 second video of the concert dont soend the whole concert on it
I record videos on my phone for me & my kids. I rarely share anything other than with my sister or mom. I love love the memories we are recording together. But I also try to enjoy the moment
This starts with childhood. Kids learn that their birthday = lots of gifts
And Christmas
"It's my birthday month OMG"
I’m so thankful my parents never exaggerated my birthday like that. We’d go eat out and maybe I could have 2 or 3 friends sleep over but that’s it.
My family would throw big parties during my birthdays and my greed and craving for perfection hungers more. Until one day I realized my unreasonable demand and felt ashamed I just stopped all birthday celebration nor cake. All I ask for is peace and family near me ever since.
@@kaiser98berlin The Bible only mentions of two birthday celebrations. And it refers to them in a unfavorable light.I’n both occasions a life was taken due to the birthday person’s wishes.Genesis 40 :20-22, Matthew 14: 6-12 ( new world translation) This is why I also stopped all birthday celebrations.
A peaceful day near family that sounds great.
My outfit: $60 give or take.
My shoes: $80 es Accel skateboard shoe, 3 years in a row, most efficient for me to skate board in.
Hell yeah, gotta get decent skate shoes!
my outfit : $25 from op shop. Shoes : Non-existent :)
I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm consumed by the idea of perfectionism through social media and it has let me into buying and consuming mindlessly and fall into the trap of over consumption. I looked up for this video because I needed something like this I want to stay so far away from the trap of consumerism. I know minimalism is scary for most people like me not having millions of shoes and bags but I know it going to be worth it. I am trying my best to stay away from it and I'll try even harder. Because I am going to succeed if I walk on this path. Trends and micro trends have made it worse they don't even last for more than 3 months in micro trends come every single week and by the end of the week is gone and dead and the consumers are left with another mindless impulse purchase.....
Delete all social media! It’s these apps that trigger the desire in us to buy more stuff. It’s the constant exposure to new material things that we didn’t even know we needed.
According to the owner of the company I work for, this single quarter has been more profitable than the last 6 combined, all thanks to "inflation." Which is to say, he heard there was inflation and jacked our prices by 25%, then blamed inflation. I have to assume this is not uncommon.
Yes, that is very accurate, in the world right now, wealth is shifting and inflation is rampaging every sector but the smart ones know that it is best to put your future with a trusted professional to secure and even grow the value of your asset and that's why I am stuck with Suzanne Stephens Ellis, I have experienced amazing growth in my Portfolio since I joined her platform in March 2020
@@stellarivera9787 Your numbers are only profitable if and only if your currency is worth the same. If your currency is being devalued. . .your "profit" numbers are actually weaker.
@@kathleenruiz4204 Also accurate again, another thing I learnt from working with Suzanne, finance is evolving and we are learning new things everyday and I am a firm believer in staying on top situations that concerns me and my finance is more important now more than ever.🥰
@@stellarivera9787 About the lady you spoke about in your previous comment, I'd like to know more about her?
@@elaineschultz6430 About Suzanne Stephen Ellis? there is basically nothing to tell, her license and website are online for any and every one to find, just look her up.
"You buy furniture. You tell yourself, this is the last sofa I will ever need in my life. Buy the sofa, then for a couple years you're satisfied that no matter what goes wrong, at least you've got your sofa issue handled. Then the right set of dishes. Then the perfect bed. The drapes. The rug. Then you're trapped in your lovely nest, and the things you used to own, now they own you." - Tyler Durden
As true as that is, it's coming from a guy who needs to fight people to feel alive and is schizophrenic. Very low consciousness individual who has an army of space monkey blind conformists doing his dirty work of anarchism and destruction.
I don’t get it.
Ya I don't get it either. I'm seeking to try to kill myself. How can you help me?
@@paigebyrdmusic it's from fight club.
@@powerlifting1012 lmao 🤣 no shit. What's it conveying is the pursuit for material worth ends up trapping you in it. Keeping to your comfort as humans are addicted to comfort.
This guy pretty much nailed it, especially about looking at a phone while you're at a concert could never remotely understand that
"The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it." - Henry David Thoreau
Amazing quote.
Indeed. Thank you.
Yes this has to be the goal for people. Things do not make you happy. Relationships and communication make you happy stop the endless consumerism before it kills us all.
Learned this as a kid. My motivation is to succeed and have my fam succeed too.
Materials are ok w a limitation, having to much of something tends to be way of not looking inside. Doesnt make you a bad person. Just shows that you need to kinder to yourself.
Nothing can fill it but only you.
Needs are food
Bodily needs
Meditation
Resting
Essentials
Entertainment is cool
But when we collect too much thats too much math
You constantly are cleaning
Distractions are ok when they are a sight to see
Its a mind game
The sooner we know
The sooner we live
Life is agony no matter what. Thats the paradox.
Don't have kids. Life is a curse. I see unbearable suffering all around me.
If I could have one wish, it would be ignorance.
So true. I wish society could see this and just throw away this current reality we all live in. Technology has ruined the world.
So.......tell me, when in the past was the world ok/better?
@@comforth3898 Before smartphones. Before social media. When people did things without living through a pocket computer and an online image.
@@shanedingz Technology has made the world better. Because of smartphones I can now communicate with people billions of miles away. I make a living through my smartphone. I learned game development and programming using my smartphone and laptop. The advantages are endless. There are also disadvantages but this applies to any innovation.
Guns and nuclear energy in the wrong hands can bring about great destruction and horror. But in the right hands they bring order and energy. You can't through away technology just because it has negative side effects. By that logic we should abandon cars, agriculture, textile industry, petroleum industry, virtually anything that is not natural. By your reasoning we should go back to the stone age.
@@comforth3898 That’s your opinion. Why do you assume the Stone Age was bad?
And no offence to your profession, but video games are a false reality. A toy. The world doesn’t need them. Great that you found a way to make money at it.
And you went a bit far.
There is a lot of technology that has made the world ‘better’. Easier to be alive certainly. But as with everything, it can be taken too far.
Just because you can, does that mean you should?..
I don’t enjoy watching people stare into their smartphones like zombies. Yet I am guilty of it. Adapt or die. That’s the way of the world. But I was alive during a period where that didn’t exist. And I prefer it.
This sums it up perfectly! I got rid of FB and twitter years ago and never even started with the other time sucking apps. It's all so empty and shallow, and exactly what is wrong with today's society. Just my 2 cents.
These animations during the interview are amazing, well done Jamie !! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I practically beg my wife to listen to at least 15 minutes of positive thinking messaging a day. She refuses says it’s stupid, but she’ll watch TV drama for hours. The result of her life style? she is completely dependent on me. It’s a shame.
You're not alone. And with me, the further I progress the more difficult our relationship. I opened up to her about that now, and she tries, but I mostly just get a flouride stare.
Sounds like u need a red pill
Only guide your loved ones when they need it, dont force them to play your life with you.
@@Sam123QU29 well it sounds like he's guiding her and she needs it, and you sound like an annoying wife
@@andreww4751 let people decide their own fate in life namaste
In the summer of 2019 I took a trip to San Francisco and Yosemite park by myself. I went to the campus of my old college and took some pictures. I also took picture in Yosemite. When I came home, I realized that none of the pictures had me in them. As I posted them on my social media, I though, is anyone going to believe me that I went on a trip, because there are no pictures of me posted here. I had completely forgotten about myself as I was thoroughly enjoying myself in the environment I was in.
I am one of those people who love to travel and take pictures of the scenery. I’ll be in a picture here and there but most of the time it’s scenes I think are cool or beautiful and I wanted to share. What bothers me is when people take 10 pictures of their trip and they are in all 10 pictures. Im like dang I want to see the scenery because it will give me an idea if it’s a location I want to eventually check out.
You don't need people that don't matter to you to believe you. I don't have any social media because I don't need them to validate my existence. Live your life, not theirs.
@@tippytoe1250 same here. I’m hardly ever in my travel pics. I take a ton of pics and videos but may post 1 or 2 on SM. The rest are for my memories! Sadly there are ppl who travel just to take a ton a selfies but they don’t truly enjoy the destination or the experience
Why is it always rich people telling us that wealth is not important ?
Strip the labels and keep the message 🙏🏾✨
Because they now know that they ain't happy with money no more
It's the exposure of these materialistic "things" that draw to our attention. Advertisements, T.V ads, magazines, phones, internet...the list goes on! Hard to avoid in this day and age.
Quite simple all you have to do is ignore it and not act upon them.
How about using an add blocker?? Thank you for the reminder.
I want to see this guy on again. This was a great podcast.
Excellent talk and makes 100% sense, if you don't understand this you're lost in this world or you're in complete denial! I've recently taken steps to delete all of the toxic social media apps and only I watch motivational/wholesome content going forward on TH-cam, I've cut out the amount of time I spend watching movies and gaming also. Find a hobby, go cycling, learn a skill, see friends and set rules with them especially if they cant put their fucking phones down and engage in conversation. I've been saying this shit for ages and people look at me like I'm the stupid one...
This is a great Music lesson. I can relate to playing in dives "just for the rent". It reminded me of the "intrinsic value" of just playing. Thanks.
Playing in dives?
Do you play music for a living or do you have a separate job?
Same here man.. Playing covers in dives can really drain that intrinsic spirit.. But it's always there waiting to flourish! :)
18 year relationship,
Covid,
A year on my own after the breakup
Rebuilding myself
Focusing on what’s important
Finding a woman i really connect with
And embracing change
All those things are way more important than media and what we view on our screens.
I have my weaknesses but I’m older and wiser
Good for u. Not many ppl could do it. I also miss connecting.
Hi, we watched the same video, good start😅
I love not being materialistic. It’s awesome. I see others with the disease and I actually see them suffering.
Yes it true..
@@randomman69420Z you could apply that to anything on earth. Once someone announces their race religion place of study place of living work etc. you could apply that same logic. Did you think you did something amazing just then you clown
@@randomman69420Zyou want a cookie big guy?
I think you can enjoy materialistic stuff as long as your working and being sensible about it
The problem is, so many people are not being sensible about it and accruing debt before they've even purchased a house for example
Of course you can enjoy materialistic stuff. I love my cars/motorbikes. But I/ME loves them. I couldn't give a shit what other people think, quite frankly I wish they didn't notice me at all so I'd be able to do more stuff I like to do.
Iv came
To this conclusion myself over the last 5 years and I’m always trying to explain this to my friends…. The most important thing is time.
Yes it is true that a lot of people ruin there lives over obsession with what others perceive of them, but I also think that people with a certain level of intelligence knows not to do that. I guess there is a lot of simple minded people in our world who aren't able to see through there own toxic behaviours.
I have never been materialistic in my whole life, not even as a kid. Yet I still have a bit of the problem that is brought up in this video. Like at times spending too much of my time scrolling on internet and such. I am a gamer so sitting at my computer comes natural to me as it's part of my hobby. And I also do digital art so that's also at the computer... So unfortunately I cannot completely unplug my life from technology as both my hobbies are done with technology... So I sometimes struggle to find a healthy balance of maybe spending too much time on internet when I could have spent time doing art or something. Yeah... When I was a kid I did traditional art only and I remember I did art every day and sometimes spent my whole weekend doing comics and stuff. Damn was I productive back then. As an adult I don't know what happened to change that. At 16 depression and several undiagnosed mental disabilities started to hit me like a truck and almost killed me and that's when I also lost interest in doing art and only did it once in a while. Still at 28 I am not completely out of that mental health rabbit hole so I'm not sure when or if I ever will find my way back to those simpler times of just enjoying my life instead of being consumed by adult worries and such. And I also feel so tired all the time as an adult, I never did as a kid. I don't know if that's just in my head or if kids just have way more energy? I tell myself "I'm to tired to do art today, watching youtube is easier" and so I say "I will do art on weekend instead" and then I still feel just so burnt out from the week that I still can't bring myself to do it. Endless circle of depressive state and semi-burnt out.
Based on your comment, you seem to be leaning towards a pessimistic mindset and Ive been there too. One thing you can do that can help is make it your goal to point out 1 good thing that happened in your life everyday, that way you will be training your mind to see the positives in your life rather than the negatives.
Back in the day, or more like circa 2007(ish), there was this show on BET called "My Two Cents" that I would watch on schedule every single morning while I babysat my brother's German Shepherd. It's still one of the all-time gems for me, and a show that sadly has disappeared from all recorded memory (including even the internet somehow), but it was basically a morning talk show in which a rotating panel of guests would discuss issues affecting (largely) the black community.
Despite being entirely Caucasian myself, I loved this show for how brilliantly it dealt with everyday issues -- and more germane to this conversation, how it often dealt with the impact of poverty or financial hardship on those simply trying to make it. One episode in particular, though, that really struck me and will stick with me forever was one in which they were discussing the cost (financially) that the average black woman in America pays on beauty supplies per week in order to look good.
The deeper part of this conversation dealt with Eurocentrism and the affects of slanted beauty standards and marketing campaigns aimed at making Caucasian/European features appear most desirable and how it has historically left black women inheriting a very real financial, emotional and psychological burden, and even further beyond asking (from the panel) what could possibly be done to change the mentality of the average black woman to see themselves as inherently beautiful.
... But that part I only include to fully frame the brilliant, the powerful and the conscious-shifting perspective that would ultimately be shared by one of the panelists (Keith Boykin). Given how my own life's perspective has been, by default, fairly non-materialistic in itself (due in large part to the guilt I feel whenever I make a selfish purchase), the conversation leading up to this point had deeply resonated with me. It just made (and makes) sense that material things should only really be treasured for their intrinsic value in our lives. Deep down we should all want to limit our desires to those things which bring us, and especially those we love, true happiness.
And typically, on that end, those things which do traditionally bring all living things true happiness are almost exclusively non-materialistic in nature; It's our relationships, our health, our security, and all the things which lead us to gratitude and peace. That said, and I swear I'm finally getting to my point, what Keith Boykin said that made me really re-shift (in many ways) my perspective was when he pivoted the conversation away from the shame -- specifically that which related to black women spending so much money to look "European" -- and instead implored us all to actually do as we say and not treat money so preciously.
His argument, as simple as it seemed, was that our money will not go with us to the grave and that if it can be spent, in some relatively harmless (in the grand scheme) measure to make any black woman feel more at home in their own skin, more beautiful, more deserving of affection and basic human decency, then no matter how materialistic that spending may seem on the surface, it was (and is) money well spent.
As it relates, in the bigger picture, to this conversation here -- the conversation about materialism in general -- I would just add that instead of going too far in the direction that we all assume some terrible guilt for having spent our money in a way which may seem materialistic to those looking from the outside in, that we take a moment to at least make sure it won't still bring us some much needed reprieve in a world that can be devastating, harsh and very confusing on the regular. One moment, that is, to just sit and ask ourselves whether or not today actually is the kind of day where some frivolous purchase (of an ultimately inconsequential amount) might lift us, or someone we love, out of the doldrums of life and offer some spontaneous and much-needed influx of happiness that need not be explained, justified or tirelessly guilted over.
And FTR: I say all this (and apologies for the long-winded response) not to enable the person who is already so greedy or self-indulgent that they shamelessly surround themselves with material wealth in order to satiate the abomination within, but instead to simply (as this same thought did for me many years ago) lift some of the guilt associated with spending that might be just as toxic as materialism itself. This life is very mysterious, after all, and not all things a practical approach. Sometimes you do just need to let yourself love yourself by treating yourself so that you can feel enough like yourself to be yourself to those who also love to see yourself be yourself so that their days might also be brightened by a happier you. I know that probably sounds very corny, but I do think it's true. Not every depression goes away with the toss of a Zoloft. Not every sorrow or fear is forgotten with time. Every now and again you just need to make yourself happy and not feel bad about it, and if some materialism is what does it then so be it. Peace and gratitude are your priority... Be mindful not to throw away your happiness for nothing. IJS
It’s nothing wrong with wanting material things. It’s the over obsession with desires that ruins us. Once we know how to control our desires then wanting anything isn’t an issue.
Very true, just like food cravings and overeating. Once you can control it, your relationship with food switches and it becomes very easy to control your weight and set better health goals from there. It all starts with researched, tested and experienced knowledge. 👍
@@em0_tion Yeah everything is great when you just do it in moderation. Everything turns bad when you over indulge.
Trouble is many people can't control their desires as they think wanting more will make them happy but they are constantly hungry as nothing seems to fill them up. I have some material things but I truly value them and I don't buy often. It just doesn't make sense to constantly keep buying things as you'll never be satisfied and it just becomes a cluttered hoard.
@@greenkitty82 yeah
Controlling one’s desire is incredibly difficult. Spirituality suggests a more sustainable path is to distance ourselves from our ego, which gets attached to our sense of identity. And an ego will always crave more so it can continue to build itself - this cannot be controlled. What can be controlled is knowing you are more than just your ego, and making a deep relationship with who you really are.
Love this type of content! Very educational. Wish more people can and realise this and not material stuff would only make you happy. Some of the happiness doesn’t come from material things in life.
I remember playing hopscotch in the streets. British bulldog. Riding bikes. Making tents from old sheets and jumping in and out of 2 skipping ropes. Sounds dreadful....? Best years of my life !
Yep. Grab some toy soldiers and some dinosaurs, boom! That’s Jurassic Park roleplay right there, for hours. Or with miniature cars.
Ah, I remember the good old days growing up in Greater Manchester. We would step out and be out all day! We would go fishing, catch frogs and tadpoles, go on bike rides and get lost, play wembley, football, cricket, tag, hide and seek, build swings off trees, light fires (safe ones only, honest), build dens, play with conkers, marbles, cards, collect football stickers, wrestling atickers etc. We would only come home when we had to and by then it was tea time or even later! WE LOVED IT. The zombie generation has no clue about what fun we had 😃!!
I work on a project car. Lowrider. It’s my happy place. Yes it’s materialistic but at the same time it comes as a result in being successful with my hobby. I did catch myself showing off on Instagram and other platforms what I have like the ego side of things. And I realize none of it really matters. The compliments I get daily when I’m driving none of it means or matters or holds any value. I used to be homeless and nobody but a few cared about me when I was walking on the street. Now everybody has nice or bad things to say to me. So I quit showing off on social media, and just started working on my dream car in “silence” if you will. And I found out my true genuine happy place.
When I go to a concert, I go to see Elton John to watch him play the piano and play my favourite songs, not to film myself to make friends jealous. I keep my phone in my purse, or better yet, in my car hidden away. I want to immerse myself and experience the music live and in person. People on their phones shooting video of their lives, miss out on life.
Same here mate, I make a habit of leaving my phone in my car/hotel if I’m at gigs.
true !!!
what a load of narrow minded BS. When you're old grey &wrinkled &want to recall good times you're gonna want a pic or a couple clips of that concert.
@@o-wolf you can take videos without posting them on social media
@@alutelifestyle yup
The moment I got rid of social media, my life changed and I was much happier.
Best descision I ever made was quitting social media, I still have TH-cam but I have so much more time to do things I love
Got rid of it too coming up to two years 👍
I think sometimes its the extrinsic values and need for validation that pushes us to innovative and competitive.
I know a lot of people who started working out in the gym just to be able to show off their physique on social media and eventually got into the long term habit of being fit even though they hated the routine.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong about showing your work from the gym, if you were over weight and want to share how far that person has come and show the world.I do see your point, but to me a person who works out for “likes” or “attention” are in it for the wrong reasons. For example, I take the gym very serious and I go cause it makes me feel good not because I want to impress people to me that comes with the time and work you out in the gym, but I do it for myself no one else
Growing crops in a farm can help getting rid of materialistic world.
"The more you're driven by extrinsic values the more your intrinsic values are starved the more likely you're to become depressed and anxious."
In my life I've had to learn to change the question from "what do I want" to "what to I want to do". For example, I want to ride my bike a lot. By getting a good quality 10 year old bike with some scratches for $300, I can spend more time actually riding than working to afford a $3000 bike like so many other people have around me. I don't want a status symbol I just want to ride
$300 bike? You’re talking about a normal bicycle right? If not, get rid of it. You don’t wanna be riding around on a $300 motorcycle trust mr
@@maultheworld8326 lol yeah a bicycle
Very important lesson to learn for all those Twitter/Facebook/Twitch/... addicted people out there.
Johann Hari is brilliant. Stolen Focus is a great book.
I was so frustrated with my children, when they were young. At the store it was always I want. So I gave them a simple allowance. They had to purchase the candy, the cards whatever they begged for. My daughter learned about byers remorse. My son is still working on it.
If you wanna be successful, you most take responsibility for your emotions, not place the blame on others. In addition to make you feel more guilty about your faults, pointing the finger at others will only serve to increase your sense of personal accountability. There's always a risk in every investment, yet people still invest and succeed. You must look outward if you wanna be successful in life.
The first step to successful investing is figuring out your goals and risk tolerance either on your own or with the help of a financial professional but is very advisable you make use of a professional like I did. If you get the facts about saving and investing and follow through with an intelligent plan, you should be able to gain financial security over the years and enjoy the benefits of managing your money.
The stock market rally run is gone, but I'm not
sure if equities will swiftly recover, keep falling, or fluctuate in a narrow range for a few weeks, or if things will quickly get worse. I'm under pressure to increase my $300k reserve.
@@davidphilomena3093the market is profiting if you are using a good broker or account manager to help out with trades or provide signals
Making touch with financial advisors like Kimberly Kent who can assist you restructure your portfolio, would be a very creative option. Personal financial management will be crucial to navigating the next difficult times.
@@gabrieljules2424Her strategy trade EUR/USD is quite impressive and her currency pairs are 100% beneficial. With her help I've been able to leave my 9-5
He's right. I remember attending at least one concert a month. Taken several videos. Watched none of them ever again
You're trained to be a consumer from the start of socialization
Yup
Amazing, thanks for sharing this wonderful video. I'll leave my phone now and go back reading my book, because that truly brings me joy and I ain't doing it to impress anyone. Thank you.
I love fishing..it's refreshing..
The Elton John point @1:26 really jumped out to me. Concerts/shows are supposed to be an experience. You immediately lose that once you start watching it through your phone while recording. Some people really have lost the capacity to just be present in the moment.
So true
*The first step to successful investing is figuring out your goals and risk tolerance* - either on your own or with the help of a Financial Advisor. If you can get the facts about savings and investing with a well detailed plan, you should be able to gain financial security over the years and enjoy the benefits of managing your income.
I think the pandemic have really taught people the importance of multiple streams of income, unfortunately having a job doesn't mean security.
Successful people don't become wealthy overnight. What most people see as a glance wealth, a great career and luxury is a result of smart work.
It's not how much money you save in the bank, but how much money you earn and how hard it works for you. Money devalue over time, investment is the best option as it grows over time
I think the key thing here is working with a professional. Yes people have devoted their lives to making profits in the market, but those of us who haven't but are interested in investing can simply work with them.
@@benjaminhartmann3478 Alright, so you know anyone?
This video made me so happy.
I've been so busy having a good time, I rarely think about taking a picture of it. 😀
Life was so much simpler before smartphones and computers. For something made to save time, they sure can be unbelievably time consuming.