As a 13 year old with constant anxiety about growing up, this is the EXACT kind of content I live on right now lol In all honesty, I agree with everything you said. I always thought it was kinda silly to say that physical things or "milestones" are markers of maturity when it's really all up there in the brain (along with most things humans do, because human nature is sO gReAt).
I definitely had a lot of people call me immature just for having "childish" hobbies yet a lot of those people talk and act like they're still teenagers. Maturity and age aren't correlated at all
The way you explain these things makes me think that you're speaking from experience and sharing the lesson you learned, so that we also learn from when we fail next, which imo is one of the most important things in being an adult. This is advanced storytime animatics, thank you!
Haha you're not wrong. I've dealt with quite a fair bunch of people who weren't the most mature of people. My environment sorta indirectly forced me to start reflecting on my own actions, take responsibility for my own actions and why people do and say the things they do. If there's anything I could have done different, how my actions affect others. All that jazz. Hence why I really wanna share my personal findings and opinions about that subject matter with others. To hopefully give others some new insight too.
As a 17 year old I think this video has came at a good time because its a time of serious transition in my life. You really sound like your speaking from experience. (I like the nenodroids lol)
I definitely agree that maturity is not some external success. I probably said this to an earlier video but so many people who claim maturity or "being adult" act so much like they never matured that i actually sometimes find it insulting to children to call people childish, because of the sheer extent I see petty immature behavior from people far older than me in powerful positions especially. it's like they never left the high school lunch room while they are pushing over 50, saying that somehow they are the adult.
I'm in my mid-20s and still feel like a toddler sometimes. The only thing that's really changed is the older I get the more other "mature" adults also turn into toddlers.
As someone who is nearing the end of the development of my brain, this video couldn't have come at a better time to reflect back on my growth. The definition of maturity is certainly a muddied definition in society and this video did a nice job laying that out. Looking forwards to your video on how childhood is underrated since I have felt the same way.
Personally, I'd say investing in stocks can often be a sign of immaturity actually 😄 Anyway, more importantly, this was really insightful on the reality of what "maturity"'s definition really means. It's often the type of people you talk about as mature that I tend to find myself respecting far more. It could be the most important sign of maturity is how we treat others, not how well we adapt to a capitalist working society.
as a autist being told to be "mature" always kinda ticks me off, of course i want to be mature and be able to live on my old as a new "adult" (im 18) but sometimes for me its redundant, maybe it comes from a mindset issue, parenting issues, or just societal issues and how it has evolved (or devolved), also i think it comes from social pressure or parental pressure. they want you to act certain ways and THATS when they consider you "Mature" also we cant just enjoy the things we enjoy? like playing video games,watching childrens cartoons, reading more engaging books? society just wants us to act a similar way to how everyone is currently which is fucking stupid personally. I could also go on a longer discussion but you basically hit all the nails on the head for me in this vid, so good work and keep it up.
Very true yeh. Those sorts of parents usually have a fixed image in their head of what you should be, and only then they will respect you as an adult. It's very sad really. Try your best not to give in to their arbitrary expectations (even if in their mind it stems from a place of good intentions). If they're open to a conversation, try talking to them about it, how it's hurting you. If they genuinely care for you, they'll listen. Either way, thank you very much!!
I totally agree with what you said, the problem is, when it is a girlfriend/boyfriend, you can just like, not talk to them anymore, imagine you are a teenager more mature than your mother, it takes a lot to teach morality and maturity to her.
I’m 22 and yet I struggle to do basic adult stuff Like I can’t drive because A I don’t have my license and B I have epilepsy and it’s dangerous for people who have epilepsy to drive I also require assistance with a lot of things like I can’t cook I don’t have a job so I still live with my parents and I don’t plan on moving out anytime soon..maybe when I get married I will but for now I’m still living with my parents And mentally I feel like I’m pretty mature but at the same time I still feel like I’m 19 mentally that is But there’s one good thing I still love a lot of things that some people find childish Like I love collecting legos I love watching cartoons I love plushys etc I’m a geek and I will remain a geek for the rest of my life thank you
I guess how I define maturity is pretty much more or less what you've mentioned, that plus not being so easily swayed by what others say and being able to have your own sense of agency. Stuff that I definitely do need to work on. Also yea, there's more to life than just superficial social status and "contributing to society". Individual growth is also important. Great video Yuu, as always (:
This video really makes me feel at ease without feeling rushed to do certain things to "become an adult". Thank you so much, this really means a lot to me.
Agree. I'm 30 years old but I'm just myself. And being adult... means the controll and all the pressure of life is mine and I must take correct desitions to not fail. My life is a bit complicated... But I have my own personal goals and these goals are not really material, meaning my goal are not things like getting a house, etc... My father is one of the most responsable persons I ever met, he always is looking on how to help others, how to make their life better, no matter how hard can it be and how insanely much effort can it take. I agree. Our own effort is the key to susses. We are hungarians and with communism my family lost everything. We know how hard life can get. We learn about how life works, so we can avoid a lot of problems. Most adults don't have any dreams. I have. And my father has and he is 75, but looks and acts like if he were 60 or less. By the way, nice Touhou figures you have.
Yup, I totally agree with you here. It really grinds my gears when my family compare me with other people and what they have accomplished in life. "Oh, look at your nephew! He got his drivers license last week and he's younger than you! So mature! When will YOU grow up?"
Ah yeh I also hate family members like that. I've also had people in my life kinda dismiss my opinion/preference when it comes to drivers license shit. "Oh she'll come around, just watch. She's just scared."
Good video, and the last as well. I related with the last video a lot considering I'm a guy who enjoys pokemon and therefore I'm automatically 'too childish'. This video I also agree with, except for one point: As we become adults and start doing our adult responsibilities, that doesn't automatically mean we _have_ to be mature. We mature with experience, and (let's take the so-called manchild in your argument) a young adult who's never been in a long term relationship isn't going to be adjusted to making compromises. He's going to act up, we all would if we hadn't a clue on how to maintain a relationship. He'll either wisen up with experience or not, and that's when it should be appropriate to judge someone.
Oh yeh I very much agree that you can't really expect someone to suddenly go from teenage mentality to mature. It's a gradual process. With my example I meant more that if it's a repeating type of behaviour, that keeps on happening, while not putting in the effort to make attempts towards bettering yourself, that's when I think it's fair to judge someone like that as a man child. Probably should have emphasised that. Sorry for the confusion!!
I liked this video a lot and this subject speaks to me as I’m almost out of my teenage years. Having more people think like I have gives me some more hope on what people see as “mature”. Keep it up with the great vids Yuu!
Try your best not to worry how you come across compared to your peers. All that matters is your own personal progress!! 😊 You are very different from your peers, and your peers are very different from you. You all have different lives, with different experiences, different challenges, different personalities, so you're bound to grow at different rates, and that's completely fine!!
I agree that maturity isn't something that relates to any tangible factors, it's just about being able to deal with life on your own. Like if you go to a parent when you have a problem and blindly follow what they say is childish, but solving the problems yourself is what's being mature. Not that asking for advice is a bad thing, it's usually great to ask for other people's input. But being able to make your own decisions and deal with the consequences of your own actions without having to rely on others, that is what maturity is to me.
I like these last videos, i have to get my first job and apply for college so i really resonate with these topics. + a very lovable personality and nice drawings, i got here from utau, but i stay for this.
Oh yeah, reminds me i was called "immature" because i was playing yu gi oh cards with my brother and three friends when we were 14 y/o Yet probably the only ones being able to properly communicate with adults
I would define adulthood as having more responsibility over yourself and others around you, as well as more freedom now that you have matured enough to take care of yourself. Some people end up taking more responsibilities than others but every adult is the same in the way that they do not rely on their guardian to make decisions for themself, bar some exceptions like being mentally ill.
Very fair yeh!! Personally I have no issue if people decide to be less responsible than perhaps other adults. As long as that mentality doesn't affect others, people can live their life however they wish imo. Sadly that mentality often does affect others, cause.. You're kinda forced to interact with people in day to day life. Unless they happen to and live in the middle of the woods by themselves or something.
@@Yuunarii A good rule of thumb is that you can act however you want unless you infringe upon other people's freedom to act however they want. There's also expectations, norms and laws from society but those may not always be reasonable to follow, especially in times like these and likely in the future as well.
@@TheHeavyModd Oh very good observation yeh!! I'd personally also add things like still giving others basic respect and treating them like equals. But outside of that people indeed should be free to live and act however they like, as long as their behaviour doesn't impede on other people's ability to live life to the fullest.
@@Yuunarii Well, I wouldn't obligate people to act respectfully, it's their choice if they want to be an ass :P that ties well into one of your good points in the video that respect is earned Edit: and of course people who are asses don't typically earn the respect of others
@@TheHeavyModd I mean.. Personally I do feel that basic human decency is not something one should have to earn. To me that's a form of respect I feel you owe anyone. Even if they are a major asshole. The only time I'd probably ever revoke that respect is if they've done something so heinous (like being a serial killer or something), that they're no longer worthy of even that. But I do agree that any form of respect on top of that basic decency is something that you have to earn. Again that's just my personal stance on respect. I also understand if people act more on "an eye for an eye" basis. It's just not my personal philosophy.
I really like the direction the channel takes right now, the videos look good and are fun to watch and you have some pretty good and interesting takes!
I rly like these kinda videos, and i think its stuff a lot of people (including myself sometimes) need to hear. I rarely disagree if at all, and never regret clicking it
Oh boy, another video on this topic. Great! Yeah, just like you said, Maturity is not on the things one has.But rather how one acts towards others. Mostly Respect, even if a disagreement comes, still its just to talk normally and resolve it. Maturity grows, as long as one does their best. Great video as always.
I love this video format so much! And yeah I really dislike how much focus is put on your job, housing, finding a partner and the like is once you become an adult. And honestly it indeed doesn't even start at adulthood, as a teenager you get influenced as well. When I was a teenager I never understood the heavy focus of my classmates on being popular, having a partner etc. Now as an adult (and some more life experience) I understand that it....simply isn't for me. And I'm fine with that! But that doesn't mean that the people around you understand...which is really frustrating! Just...live your life how you want it to. And let others live theirs. Give each other mutual respect. As long as you don't break any laws and aren't an asshole you should be (mostly) fine
The editing was super nice, I liked it a lot :) And happened to agree with pretty much everything that was said, specially with respect not having to be tied to age. Cheers!
To me, maturity is when you don't care about being mature. I'm in my 20s now and this is my "The four-be": Be nice, be helpful, be a good listener, be sympathetic. Once you get to know people, understand them, can look at their point of view, that's when you mature a bit more. Kid (or any adult, really), if you are reading this, don't think about maturity, just think on how you can improve. Of course I just pull this out immediately after watching the video. These kind of thing is really hard to convey since it's self-experience so it might be true, it might be wrong or it might be missing something. But that's your job to figure it out right xD
Exactly yeh!! Obsessing over the idea of "being mature" and wanting to appear mature, is ironically quite immature. And those are some really good pointers yeh!! Understanding others and being able to be emotionally vulnerable will lead you to gaining a lot of new insights. Though at the same time it's also very understandable that those concepts will scare people a lot. As it does bring along a lot of risks, like getting hurt. And no worries, I totally agree that capturing a grand abstract concept like maturity is very hard to contain in a single comment, or a single video like mine. Even right now I already think to myself: Oh woops, maybe I should have explained this and that a big more thoroughly, maybe I should have mentioned this and that.
yay a topic that I feel definitely could go on forever in discussion. Honestly, I feel that it is very hard to define what it really means to be mature because there are many factors that go into it. Not just what age you are like how a lot of people think. And I hope to make sure that people realize that age isn't everything when it comes to maturity. I get this sort of topic thrown at me all the time thanks to my parents and I always want to tell them how I really feel about being a "Adult" but I feel that they won't listen to what I have to say about it. I personally still don't fully see myself 100% as an "Adult" but I feel that's okay. Because we can always try and act like being a mature adult requires giving up your past and focusing on the future and being mature but really it's those past experiences that help ground what it really means to have grown and progress into developing a form of maturity.
I can actually relate - and the explanation of the different interpretations of maturity is really nice - only with society while material things tend to take the forefront when defining maturity , the degree of emotional maturity someone is supposed to have can differ so greatly depending on potentially privilege or other circumstances. Still love these storytime rant videos -> you’re not being to negative but actually bringing topics open that are often ignored 😊
Aww thank you very much!! I do want to spread these little rant video out a bit. Perhaps do something more light hearted for the next one, as I don't want my channel to become some "lol I hate society" commentary channel hahaha. But there are a lot of other social topics I'd love to discuss at some point (not necessarily rant related, but rather sharing advice and the like)
@@Yuunarii fair enough, that’s always a risk but judging from the community you built it probably won’t turn into that too fast (unless they’re all students with deadlines approaching 🥲😛)
I like this video style, where you add your drawings on real objects 😀 looks great Edit: and everytime I watch your videos, I start missing my bunny ._.
Beautiful work as always, Yuu! Couldn't have thought of a better way to describe adulthood. I know so many teens that act like absolute children, yet wish to claim that they're the most mature people in the universe. It gets on my nerves, but I still try to reason with them. Also I love how this new style is low key a way to show off your figures. Well deserved, you spent the money. Good job. :p
Teens I personally wouldn't really judge too harshly, as they're still just discovering how the world works and how they themselves work. I Remember when I was a teen I thought I had the entire world figured out and was the smartest person among my peers hahaha. As long as they outgrow that attitude I don't really see anything wrong with it. it's best to try and not let yourself be bothered by it too much, as imo it's a waste of energy. And thank you haha
People who don't gain a certain level of maturity by adulthood, become that way due to their influences and trauma from their life up until that point. Maladjusted parents create maladjusted children, it's a vicious cycle. Most people will only attain "wisdom" (the level of maturity characterised by the ability view the self and it's context from an outside perspective, requiring a fully developed sense of self) in their middle age, if ever. This is not their "fault", but rather a consequence of their environment. The way to fix this system is to educate people on healthy behaviour and coping strategies, and foster an environment that allows for the vulnerability and self-reflection needed to resolve those negative patterns and traumas. That's a job for anyone who can see the problem, but first we have to work on ourselves: we cannot expect others to be able to do it if we cannot do it ourselves. Moreover, we cannot force another person to change (only facilitate)- we only have control over our own behaviour.
Hmm I do like to believe people do want to better themselves. They just don't like putting themselves into uncomfortable positions. Hence why they indeed sadly sometimes stay stuck in a very teenage like mindset. Which while comfy and familiar, also kinda prevents you from living life to the fullest (imo). Outgrowing that mindset kinda forces you to take a critical eye to oneself. It's way easier to blame others and the world for your problems, than having to accept that it might be your own fault. That sort of responsibility scares people. Which, indeed often stems from trauma. And while trauma indeed does explain where their mentality stems from, I don't think it should be an excuse for people to just.. Stop maturing. Especially if their mentality starts affecting others, and ESPECIALLY if they are parents. In that case it's more than just you yourself who's affected. I do very much agree that there should be way more emphasis and education towards the things you mention yeh. As mental health and mental development (past teenage years) is still seen as something not really all that important. And while it's true you can't change those who dont' want to change, the least we as a society can do is offer people the tools, education and information necessary to take steps into the right direction.
@@Yuunarii I agree entirely, though I would say that people can't be blamed for their actions based on trauma. Trauma isn't an excuse, but it is a reason.
@@Yuunarii One way to influence people to change for the better is to lead by example. When I spend a lot of time with someone, I start to take on some of their traits. Perhaps it works in the other direction as well.
I've noticed this over my life but a lot of adults 40+ are not mature, all the emotional/mental skills you mentioned are taught in therapy and that's it. Those younger, those who have grown up with the internet have grown mature at a WAY faster rate because of what we are exposed to -because of the internet-. Older adults are sheltered for most of their lives comparatively. It's a big reason why the world is so fucked up, it's been controlled my sheltered adults that don't understand how emotions work or how to have a conversation. Then after 50+ years of it, younger people are learning the history of the world from an actual unbiased source and learning 'ah shit, we're absolutely fucked and we can't do a thing about it'. The ones in power that can change things, are all those adults that don't understand basics like how to problem solve, or how they respond verses react in conversation. Jeez I swear we're cut from the same cloth Yuunarii lol. I'm also super jealous of all your touhou merch ;-;
I’m only 18, and maturity seems weird in my view. I only have a few handful of experiences and not so much as others since my parents never let me out as much. My question would be how could something have these experience or just how do someone just KNOWS all these things. 18 is still young but apparently that can still consider to be an adult.
From my personal experience I'd say that you learn these sorts of attitudes simply by going about life with the intention to be the best possible version of yourself (aiming to grow as a person). Basically any situation in which responsibilities and outside expectations are placed upon you will foster the need to develop a mindset like this. Which becomes increasingly more, the older you get. That could be by working a job, working together with a group of people, or even just by interacting with people online. Even just by how your actions affect your loved ones. Anything that basically will get you to reflect upon yourself and your own actions, and take a critical look at yourself.
@@Yuunarii hmm I never really thought about being you know the best possible U, because when I try do, there’s still “more” I need or it’s not a enought. I think from your personal experience I could see that there’s more to life and having the power to take on this that’s out of your comfort zone would actually build maturity (like with talking to more people from anywhere, I can’t really talk to a stranger outside from the internet without being somewhat nervous). I still been called immature even to now for some of my expressions also with my actions with people (I can’t express how I feel the right way and it has mess me up a few times) and I just really need to change that without losing like what makes who I am (like anime, games, my jokes, etc.) also (this off topic) I didn’t knew you would actually take the time, help me a little bit, and reply too me :O I started watch your videos since the old sonic drawings and after that I just be watching your videos from time to time. Your art is amazing, thank you for taking your time to reply to me, I really appreciate you and what you do ♥️ keep doing what you do best yuunarii!!
@@reammvrc Aww no worries I totally understand the feeling. I used to feel like that too. Where you feel like even when you try your best, it's still considered not "enough". Again, try to be not too hard on yourself. If you genuinely are trying to just be the best possible version of yourself, you have more than enough reason to be proud of yourself!! Don't base your progress on other people's verdicts. Bettering yourself doesn't necessarily mean you have to force yourself into uncomfortable situations. Or do things that feel completely alien to you. You don't have to give up anything that makes you YOU in order to mature. Growth WILL happen regardless of what situation you put yourself in, as long as you're willing to take a critical eye at yourself and your actions. Take responsibility for the things that you do, and growth will happen. (Not saying it'll be easy of course) Again I totally get where you're coming from. When I was you age I also thought I had to radically change myself in order to "be a better person". Which is far from the case. Everyone has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses. Even if society favours some qualities over the others, that doesn't make the other qualities any less valuable. And you're more than welcome!! 😊
I personally stopped associating adulthood with maturity, since it makes it seem like it's something you acquire naturally at a given moment in your life. For me, being an adult is more related to having responsabilities, while being mature is for me more a question of education and experience. Some might become mature really early, others in their 50's, and even others could never get to be mature in their lives.
I mean that's very fair!! To me they are linked in a way, as maturity is something you can only really gain during adulthood (when your brain is finished growing), but I definitely agree that just because you're getting older doesn't automatically make you more mature. I'd like to think people mature at their own pace, like you said some people grow a sense of maturity early on, others later in life. Personally, as long as their lack of maturity doesn't affect others, I have no issues with them. Problems only arise if that mindset starts negatively affecting people around them (e.g. if said person becomes a parent, or if that person finds themselves in a position with lots of responsibilities)
The mental maturity more or less don't easily come from consuming a limited scope of media or just foundational education; it mostly comes from trying, succeeding, or failing in the "tangible" "mature" activities; more conscious experiences in those activities (as in, not punch drunk) do eventually benefit people's mental capabilities while dealing with the activities in a positive feedback loop. And that's why even though the activities and social status aren't absolutely essential for "maturity", they do benefit in one way or another.
Hmmm I wouldn't necessarily say it comes from just those activities. It can come from any sort of activity where there's expectations of placed upon you that you have to meet. Could indeed be by working a job, but also just by interacting with people online, or how you interact with strangers in public. There's ways you're expected to behave. But I do agree that by engaging in activities that are typically associated with "adulthood", you are more inclined to develop a sense of maturity. It's just that I feel a lot of people don't really make that distinction and therefor just few those activities themselves what makes one mature.
It is baffling to me how society treats maturity. On the one hand, you need to take many tests to get to drive a car. But you don't need to take any tests to become a parent, to be able to demonstrate your ability to raise a human being. Or two. Or three. Or four. Or five. I have a friend who has five children. He is extremely responsible, a great dad. His wife on the other hand... Society would dub her "mature". She has a spouse. She has children. She has a home. She has a job. But I would argue she is extremely immature. Anytime the children get into trouble, it's up to her husband to fix it. They need to be driven somewhere for an activity, he drives. She does almost none of the actual child-rearing and it's so stressful that I only get to see him for a few hours every few months because of how busy he is looking after five children. I, on the other hand, don't have any kids. Society might deem me immature. It's frustrating.
I love how you create your backgrounds out of the nendoroids and other things (also can i ask where did you get this cute Okuu and Orin animal figurines?)
Like another comment suggests, age doesn't equal maturity. Live your own interests and stabilities. For me personally, my inside motto (especially in school) is: I'm not a sheep, I'm a human being with the right for self input, and self consciousness. Maturity is the act of having common sense, acting in a respectable manner, and not letting salty and petty insults into your head and letting them ruining your entire life.
I work around a lot of old guys and they are some of the craziest people I’ve ever encountered in my life. One guy definitely doesn’t know he’s age. He’ll start talking about how he went to prison for 10 years for smuggling drugs in a semi-truck. I didn’t believe him at all until I asked a family member who has been to jail before told me yeah they do in fact get 10 years for that.
Toen ik 16 was, werd ik beter bewust van het feit dat ouder worden niet the end all be all is, en volwassen worden hangt inderdaad niet direct vast aan je leeftijd en de dingen die je doet en moet doen als je eenmal ouder wordt, het zijn de meer persoonelijke aspecten van iemand die het verschil maken tussen wel en niet volwassen zijn. Nu zij je dat childhood underrated is maar bedoel je dat voor kinderen die snel willen opgroeien?(veel mensen gaan door zo'n fase) In mijn omgeving was het een mix van mensen die overdrijven over de ''perks'' van volwassen zijn, maar er waren ook mensen die uitlegden wat volwassen worden kan inhouden, want het concept is heel erg breed.
My first time here since I'm trying to grew as a person, I came because of your proxy video, and kept myself because of all this. You are not negative in either way, as I see in some commente, you are just spitting some facts. Something that happened to me more than I'm willing to admit, is how people kept saying I wasn't an "adult", because I kept being a person who likes these sort of weaboo shit, why don't you have kids (dude, I'm 22 lmao), why don't you buy more "worth" stuff, and such. And the funniest part is... Those people don't seem to be making good decisions at life lol, see, my point is, as I said before, they already have unwanted kids at an extremely young age, they do drugs mindlessly, alongside the usual cliche you would find in your average Mexican street... And all of those are just handing them a problem, and they apparently need to see someone else doing worse as they don't like the others having an achievement, as small as it can be. I could rant on and on over this comment, but let's just say, your videos are comfy since they represent a good part of my life I'm dealing with. Thanks a lot! Greetings from the taco lands!
Awww thank you very much!! And yeh it's usually quite ironic that those who criticise others for not being "mature" are usually the ones engaging in immature behaviour. Such as by shitting on others to make themselves feel better. I do feel bad for those people and hope they get whatever help they need.
No society would ever encourage people to be mature, because mature people are harder to control. Mature person would always take responsibility for their life and desicions, think independently and question any authority - means it's harder to treat them as a resource and to make benefit from them. Instead, society encourages people to be a good resource - get a job, be productive, spend your money to buy stuff you don't need, behave yourself and don't question it. And no, this is not done by some elite groups or something - most parents treat their children all the same from early childhood to be able to control them. For society, "maturity" always means "obedience".
I do think you have a great point like I get really tired of adults who act like children but they seem to be everywhere.... but my moms opinion is that people as they get older become more like children again
Personally I do hold out hope that people do want to aim to be better people, I think it's just that a lot of adults probably have a bunch of unprocessed trauma that prevents them from doing that. But yeh your mum might be onto something, as from my experience old people generally are indeed either very wise, or just big children. Hopefully that'll get better in the future though, as the current day old people still stem from an era where the social zeitgeist was in a very different place. Different priorities. So in a sense their environment/time also contributes a lot to the way they turned out.
Omg, yes! 😤 I have grandparents who are less emotionally mature than a child. My grandmother stopped talking to my mom because my mom didn't IMMEDIATELY respond to a text message. A few weeks later, she sends a super sappy apology to my mom. It was the equivalent of a 5-year-old being like: "You didn't give me your cookie at lunch 🍪 I'm not going to be your friend anymore!"
It's weird - I haven't noticed how strong your accent was before but now it's quite apparent. Nothing wrong with that tho. Also you've improved quite a lot - despite not being a fan of your Touhou themes, you're still making it. Keep it up.
Hmm strange. Maybe it's just the emotions that rail up my accent haha. Oh well, as long as it doesn't dip into "steenkolen" English I'm happy haha And thank you!!
@@Yuunarii Yeah I used to watch your vids back then but it wasn't noticable but now as I started talking to more Dutch people the accent became more noticable lol It's still a nice accent! :-) Hahaha, yeah I had to ask a friend what that "steenkolen" means - quite funny. Yeah, of course! ( As a fellow artist ) I still appreciate your art on a technical level!
(Once again mad respect to your touhou/vocaloid/ Etc collection. Love um) I've always believed that Society will consider you a healthy adult if you have money, obligations, and genuinely unhappy about your situation. I know I don't fit the mold of what is considered an adult but for the most part I'm pretty content. I could stand to make more friends and a love interest but I think the most adult thing you can do is not care about how other people see you.
Hi, Yuu. Another skill that mature adults should have is the ability to listen. So many people, even friends, constantly interrupt and do not give me an opportunity to say what I have to say. Listening is an important skill in any relationship, so I’ve made a resolution to get to know people who actually are consistently good listeners.
Very good point yeh!! Listening is such an important, yet very underrated skill. But can also be extremely difficult. Listening means you have to suspend your own judgements temporarily, in order to be a good listener. I think that's what most people find difficult, and why they often tune out as soon someone says something they don't like/agree with/feel attacked.
The one thing I legit like about being an “adult” is being able to pay for my mistakes rather than the parents footing the bill, and me feeling like crap after. Otherwise, adulthood can go to hell. 😝 Though my tangible achievements aren’t especially stellar at having just turned 30, at least I can say I’m a better “me” than I was back in teen-days. 😅
The true adulthood is: the possibility to able things to want do anything, but with reasonable responsibility. Also, if you likes anime, or another hobbie is not a cause for loose adulthood, is a commonly missense.
Adulthood just means more responsibility to me. Like NOTHING changed from age 12-22 except for the fact that money becomes a factor and the overwhelming stresses of society. And we thought we had it bad as kids, oh boy. If I could time travel to young me, I'd slap him for being so stupid.
after having been adult for 8 years now and having seen other adults and their outlook, i have realized what the difference between kid and adult is! The ability to drive a car and go to buy alcohol. aside from that? ...
So the point of this video is that what you’ve done or accomplished in your adulthood doesn’t necessarily an adult, but how you act and treat others am I right
Exactly yep, it's a mental mindset thing. How you behave and go about interacting with others, how you solve issues, reflecting upon yoru own actions, that sort of business.
@@Yuunarii oh interesting, also do you think adulthood sucks and you wish you were a kid again, cause that’s what I always think sometimes, I mean I’m not really an adult I’m 17, but there are times where I wish I was like a younger child again
I'm liking these "rants".
Haha thanks!! Hope I'm not being too negative with these sorts of videos.
I'm liking these small little things when you draw your character sitting or standing on your figurines
Aww thank you!!
@@Yuunarii answer my question please
I was about to comment the same thing ^^
As a 13 year old with constant anxiety about growing up, this is the EXACT kind of content I live on right now lol
In all honesty, I agree with everything you said. I always thought it was kinda silly to say that physical things or "milestones" are markers of maturity when it's really all up there in the brain (along with most things humans do, because human nature is sO gReAt).
14 here, wish you the best pal
@@griddxi Why don't you guys make your own animated stories?
@@griddxi same here
@@slyceth Takes a CLUCK ton of effort.
Human nature is seed.
I definitely had a lot of people call me immature just for having "childish" hobbies yet a lot of those people talk and act like they're still teenagers. Maturity and age aren't correlated at all
The way you explain these things makes me think that you're speaking from experience and sharing the lesson you learned, so that we also learn from when we fail next, which imo is one of the most important things in being an adult. This is advanced storytime animatics, thank you!
Haha you're not wrong. I've dealt with quite a fair bunch of people who weren't the most mature of people. My environment sorta indirectly forced me to start reflecting on my own actions, take responsibility for my own actions and why people do and say the things they do. If there's anything I could have done different, how my actions affect others. All that jazz. Hence why I really wanna share my personal findings and opinions about that subject matter with others. To hopefully give others some new insight too.
@@Yuunarii answer my question
As a 17 year old I think this video has came at a good time because its a time of serious transition in my life. You really sound like your speaking from experience.
(I like the nenodroids lol)
I definitely agree that maturity is not some external success. I probably said this to an earlier video but so many people who claim maturity or "being adult" act so much like they never matured that i actually sometimes find it insulting to children to call people childish, because of the sheer extent I see petty immature behavior from people far older than me in powerful positions especially. it's like they never left the high school lunch room while they are pushing over 50, saying that somehow they are the adult.
I'm in my mid-20s and still feel like a toddler sometimes. The only thing that's really changed is the older I get the more other "mature" adults also turn into toddlers.
As someone who is nearing the end of the development of my brain, this video couldn't have come at a better time to reflect back on my growth. The definition of maturity is certainly a muddied definition in society and this video did a nice job laying that out. Looking forwards to your video on how childhood is underrated since I have felt the same way.
Personally, I'd say investing in stocks can often be a sign of immaturity actually 😄 Anyway, more importantly, this was really insightful on the reality of what "maturity"'s definition really means. It's often the type of people you talk about as mature that I tend to find myself respecting far more. It could be the most important sign of maturity is how we treat others, not how well we adapt to a capitalist working society.
Oh yes. Treating people the same despite their economic, ethnic, or ideology. Its super strange seeing most politicians act the complete opposite.
being mature means taking responsibility and being humble
My first thought when I hear "adulthood" is
Responsibilities.
And
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as a autist being told to be "mature" always kinda ticks me off, of course i want to be mature and be able to live on my old as a new "adult" (im 18) but sometimes for me its redundant, maybe it comes from a mindset issue, parenting issues, or just societal issues and how it has evolved (or devolved), also i think it comes from social pressure or parental pressure. they want you to act certain ways and THATS when they consider you "Mature"
also we cant just enjoy the things we enjoy? like playing video games,watching childrens cartoons, reading more engaging books? society just wants us to act a similar way to how everyone is currently which is fucking stupid personally.
I could also go on a longer discussion but you basically hit all the nails on the head for me in this vid, so good work and keep it up.
Very true yeh. Those sorts of parents usually have a fixed image in their head of what you should be, and only then they will respect you as an adult. It's very sad really. Try your best not to give in to their arbitrary expectations (even if in their mind it stems from a place of good intentions). If they're open to a conversation, try talking to them about it, how it's hurting you. If they genuinely care for you, they'll listen.
Either way, thank you very much!!
Conformity =/= maturity. Keep on being yourself, stay an individual
I totally agree with what you said, the problem is, when it is a girlfriend/boyfriend, you can just like, not talk to them anymore, imagine you are a teenager more mature than your mother, it takes a lot to teach morality and maturity to her.
I’m 22 and yet I struggle to do basic adult stuff
Like I can’t drive because A I don’t have my license and B I have epilepsy and it’s dangerous for people who have epilepsy to drive
I also require assistance with a lot of things like I can’t cook I don’t have a job so I still live with my parents and I don’t plan on moving out anytime soon..maybe when I get married I will but for now I’m still living with my parents
And mentally I feel like I’m pretty mature but at the same time I still feel like I’m 19 mentally that is
But there’s one good thing I still love a lot of things that some people find childish
Like I love collecting legos I love watching cartoons I love plushys etc
I’m a geek and I will remain a geek for the rest of my life thank you
I guess how I define maturity is pretty much more or less what you've mentioned, that plus not being so easily swayed by what others say and being able to have your own sense of agency. Stuff that I definitely do need to work on.
Also yea, there's more to life than just superficial social status and "contributing to society". Individual growth is also important. Great video Yuu, as always (:
This video really makes me feel at ease without feeling rushed to do certain things to "become an adult". Thank you so much, this really means a lot to me.
Awww I'm really glad to hear that!! 😊
Agree. I'm 30 years old but I'm just myself.
And being adult... means the controll and all the pressure of life is mine and I must take correct desitions to not fail.
My life is a bit complicated...
But I have my own personal goals and these goals are not really material, meaning my goal are not things like getting a house, etc...
My father is one of the most responsable persons I ever met, he always is looking on how to help others, how to make their life better, no matter how hard can it be and how insanely much effort can it take.
I agree. Our own effort is the key to susses. We are hungarians and with communism my family lost everything.
We know how hard life can get.
We learn about how life works, so we can avoid a lot of problems.
Most adults don't have any dreams.
I have. And my father has and he is 75, but looks and acts like if he were 60 or less.
By the way, nice Touhou figures you have.
good video :3
everything aside, i love your little figurines and how your little oc sits/leans on them! its so cute!
I love the aesthetic of your recent videos! Also this bird-form of Okuu is wonderful.
Aww thank you very much!!
geweldige video!! bedankt voor de nederlandse ondertiteling!
Graag gedaan!!
Yup, I totally agree with you here. It really grinds my gears when my family compare me with other people and what they have accomplished in life. "Oh, look at your nephew! He got his drivers license last week and he's younger than you! So mature! When will YOU grow up?"
Ah yeh I also hate family members like that. I've also had people in my life kinda dismiss my opinion/preference when it comes to drivers license shit. "Oh she'll come around, just watch. She's just scared."
These are my favorite series of videos I would love to see more
I love how simple yet aesthetic this style is. Reminds me of Reol's Chiru Chiru.
Good video, and the last as well. I related with the last video a lot considering I'm a guy who enjoys pokemon and therefore I'm automatically 'too childish'.
This video I also agree with, except for one point: As we become adults and start doing our adult responsibilities, that doesn't automatically mean we _have_ to be mature. We mature with experience, and (let's take the so-called manchild in your argument) a young adult who's never been in a long term relationship isn't going to be adjusted to making compromises. He's going to act up, we all would if we hadn't a clue on how to maintain a relationship. He'll either wisen up with experience or not, and that's when it should be appropriate to judge someone.
Oh yeh I very much agree that you can't really expect someone to suddenly go from teenage mentality to mature. It's a gradual process. With my example I meant more that if it's a repeating type of behaviour, that keeps on happening, while not putting in the effort to make attempts towards bettering yourself, that's when I think it's fair to judge someone like that as a man child. Probably should have emphasised that. Sorry for the confusion!!
New Video! Gonna watch it after school.
I liked this video a lot and this subject speaks to me as I’m almost out of my teenage years. Having more people think like I have gives me some more hope on what people see as “mature”. Keep it up with the great vids Yuu!
I love this visual style so much! It's so comfy...
Awww thank you!!
I love this video already thank you so much.
Aww glad you like it!!
I have a tendency of being very anxious about not being mature/independent enough when compared to my peers, this video was super refreshing to see!
Try your best not to worry how you come across compared to your peers. All that matters is your own personal progress!! 😊 You are very different from your peers, and your peers are very different from you. You all have different lives, with different experiences, different challenges, different personalities, so you're bound to grow at different rates, and that's completely fine!!
I agree that maturity isn't something that relates to any tangible factors, it's just about being able to deal with life on your own.
Like if you go to a parent when you have a problem and blindly follow what they say is childish, but solving the problems yourself is what's being mature.
Not that asking for advice is a bad thing, it's usually great to ask for other people's input.
But being able to make your own decisions and deal with the consequences of your own actions without having to rely on others, that is what maturity is to me.
This is the first video I'm watching of you and I'm blown away by the production, wow!
Awww thank you!!
I like these last videos, i have to get my first job and apply for college so i really resonate with these topics. + a very lovable personality and nice drawings, i got here from utau, but i stay for this.
I love your new Videostyle!
Awww thank you!!
Oh yeah, reminds me i was called "immature" because i was playing yu gi oh cards with my brother and three friends when we were 14 y/o
Yet probably the only ones being able to properly communicate with adults
The legend uploaded!
lol, the day before my orientation at my first ever proper job is tomorrow, and you upload this video, good timing.
Love this! I big agree that childhood is underrated, I hope you talk more about this
Excellent breakdown of the concept called Maturity ^^ keep up the good work on your videos, always good to see them
I would define adulthood as having more responsibility over yourself and others around you, as well as more freedom now that you have matured enough to take care of yourself. Some people end up taking more responsibilities than others but every adult is the same in the way that they do not rely on their guardian to make decisions for themself, bar some exceptions like being mentally ill.
Very fair yeh!! Personally I have no issue if people decide to be less responsible than perhaps other adults. As long as that mentality doesn't affect others, people can live their life however they wish imo. Sadly that mentality often does affect others, cause.. You're kinda forced to interact with people in day to day life. Unless they happen to and live in the middle of the woods by themselves or something.
@@Yuunarii A good rule of thumb is that you can act however you want unless you infringe upon other people's freedom to act however they want. There's also expectations, norms and laws from society but those may not always be reasonable to follow, especially in times like these and likely in the future as well.
@@TheHeavyModd Oh very good observation yeh!! I'd personally also add things like still giving others basic respect and treating them like equals. But outside of that people indeed should be free to live and act however they like, as long as their behaviour doesn't impede on other people's ability to live life to the fullest.
@@Yuunarii Well, I wouldn't obligate people to act respectfully, it's their choice if they want to be an ass :P that ties well into one of your good points in the video that respect is earned
Edit: and of course people who are asses don't typically earn the respect of others
@@TheHeavyModd I mean.. Personally I do feel that basic human decency is not something one should have to earn. To me that's a form of respect I feel you owe anyone. Even if they are a major asshole. The only time I'd probably ever revoke that respect is if they've done something so heinous (like being a serial killer or something), that they're no longer worthy of even that. But I do agree that any form of respect on top of that basic decency is something that you have to earn.
Again that's just my personal stance on respect. I also understand if people act more on "an eye for an eye" basis. It's just not my personal philosophy.
Mature people are rare, and sometimes small children are more mature that adults.
I really like the direction the channel takes right now, the videos look good and are fun to watch and you have some pretty good and interesting takes!
I rly like these kinda videos, and i think its stuff a lot of people (including myself sometimes) need to hear. I rarely disagree if at all, and never regret clicking it
Oh boy, another video on this topic. Great!
Yeah, just like you said, Maturity is not on the things one has.But rather how one acts towards others.
Mostly Respect, even if a disagreement comes, still its just to talk normally and resolve it.
Maturity grows, as long as one does their best.
Great video as always.
I love this video format so much! And yeah I really dislike how much focus is put on your job, housing, finding a partner and the like is once you become an adult. And honestly it indeed doesn't even start at adulthood, as a teenager you get influenced as well. When I was a teenager I never understood the heavy focus of my classmates on being popular, having a partner etc. Now as an adult (and some more life experience) I understand that it....simply isn't for me. And I'm fine with that!
But that doesn't mean that the people around you understand...which is really frustrating!
Just...live your life how you want it to. And let others live theirs. Give each other mutual respect. As long as you don't break any laws and aren't an asshole you should be (mostly) fine
This reminds me of Winston Rowntree's picture "The Maturity Climb"
The editing was super nice, I liked it a lot :) And happened to agree with pretty much everything that was said, specially with respect not having to be tied to age. Cheers!
Awww thank you very much!!
I really join this video! Have you consider to create a podcast? Would be really cool to hear your stories
Everyone just shut up she is spitting raw pure facts
To me, maturity is when you don't care about being mature. I'm in my 20s now and this is my "The four-be":
Be nice, be helpful, be a good listener, be sympathetic. Once you get to know people, understand them, can look at their point of view, that's when you mature a bit more.
Kid (or any adult, really), if you are reading this, don't think about maturity, just think on how you can improve.
Of course I just pull this out immediately after watching the video. These kind of thing is really hard to convey since it's self-experience so it might be true, it might be wrong or it might be missing something. But that's your job to figure it out right xD
Exactly yeh!! Obsessing over the idea of "being mature" and wanting to appear mature, is ironically quite immature. And those are some really good pointers yeh!! Understanding others and being able to be emotionally vulnerable will lead you to gaining a lot of new insights. Though at the same time it's also very understandable that those concepts will scare people a lot. As it does bring along a lot of risks, like getting hurt.
And no worries, I totally agree that capturing a grand abstract concept like maturity is very hard to contain in a single comment, or a single video like mine. Even right now I already think to myself: Oh woops, maybe I should have explained this and that a big more thoroughly, maybe I should have mentioned this and that.
Honestly agree with you 100% on this
I like these type of videos. Interesting topic and nice to listen to while doing home chores.
yay a topic that I feel definitely could go on forever in discussion. Honestly, I feel that it is very hard to define what it really means to be mature because there are many factors that go into it. Not just what age you are like how a lot of people think. And I hope to make sure that people realize that age isn't everything when it comes to maturity. I get this sort of topic thrown at me all the time thanks to my parents and I always want to tell them how I really feel about being a "Adult" but I feel that they won't listen to what I have to say about it. I personally still don't fully see myself 100% as an "Adult" but I feel that's okay. Because we can always try and act like being a mature adult requires giving up your past and focusing on the future and being mature but really it's those past experiences that help ground what it really means to have grown and progress into developing a form of maturity.
I wanna hear your thoughts on why childhood is under-rated. Cant wait for your next vid!
I can actually relate - and the explanation of the different interpretations of maturity is really nice - only with society while material things tend to take the forefront when defining maturity , the degree of emotional maturity someone is supposed to have can differ so greatly depending on potentially privilege or other circumstances.
Still love these storytime rant videos -> you’re not being to negative but actually bringing topics open that are often ignored 😊
Aww thank you very much!! I do want to spread these little rant video out a bit. Perhaps do something more light hearted for the next one, as I don't want my channel to become some "lol I hate society" commentary channel hahaha.
But there are a lot of other social topics I'd love to discuss at some point (not necessarily rant related, but rather sharing advice and the like)
@@Yuunarii fair enough, that’s always a risk but judging from the community you built it probably won’t turn into that too fast (unless they’re all students with deadlines approaching 🥲😛)
Such a good video!
I like this video style, where you add your drawings on real objects 😀 looks great
Edit: and everytime I watch your videos, I start missing my bunny ._.
childhood but you have more responsibilities now
also love the video, keep it up!
Beautiful work as always, Yuu! Couldn't have thought of a better way to describe adulthood. I know so many teens that act like absolute children, yet wish to claim that they're the most mature people in the universe. It gets on my nerves, but I still try to reason with them.
Also I love how this new style is low key a way to show off your figures. Well deserved, you spent the money. Good job. :p
Teens I personally wouldn't really judge too harshly, as they're still just discovering how the world works and how they themselves work. I Remember when I was a teen I thought I had the entire world figured out and was the smartest person among my peers hahaha. As long as they outgrow that attitude I don't really see anything wrong with it. it's best to try and not let yourself be bothered by it too much, as imo it's a waste of energy.
And thank you haha
People who don't gain a certain level of maturity by adulthood, become that way due to their influences and trauma from their life up until that point. Maladjusted parents create maladjusted children, it's a vicious cycle. Most people will only attain "wisdom" (the level of maturity characterised by the ability view the self and it's context from an outside perspective, requiring a fully developed sense of self) in their middle age, if ever.
This is not their "fault", but rather a consequence of their environment. The way to fix this system is to educate people on healthy behaviour and coping strategies, and foster an environment that allows for the vulnerability and self-reflection needed to resolve those negative patterns and traumas. That's a job for anyone who can see the problem, but first we have to work on ourselves: we cannot expect others to be able to do it if we cannot do it ourselves. Moreover, we cannot force another person to change (only facilitate)- we only have control over our own behaviour.
Hmm I do like to believe people do want to better themselves. They just don't like putting themselves into uncomfortable positions. Hence why they indeed sadly sometimes stay stuck in a very teenage like mindset. Which while comfy and familiar, also kinda prevents you from living life to the fullest (imo). Outgrowing that mindset kinda forces you to take a critical eye to oneself. It's way easier to blame others and the world for your problems, than having to accept that it might be your own fault. That sort of responsibility scares people. Which, indeed often stems from trauma.
And while trauma indeed does explain where their mentality stems from, I don't think it should be an excuse for people to just.. Stop maturing. Especially if their mentality starts affecting others, and ESPECIALLY if they are parents. In that case it's more than just you yourself who's affected.
I do very much agree that there should be way more emphasis and education towards the things you mention yeh. As mental health and mental development (past teenage years) is still seen as something not really all that important. And while it's true you can't change those who dont' want to change, the least we as a society can do is offer people the tools, education and information necessary to take steps into the right direction.
@@Yuunarii I agree entirely, though I would say that people can't be blamed for their actions based on trauma. Trauma isn't an excuse, but it is a reason.
@@Yuunarii One way to influence people to change for the better is to lead by example. When I spend a lot of time with someone, I start to take on some of their traits. Perhaps it works in the other direction as well.
Your touhou figures looks so cute OwO
Aww thank you very much!!
This video was an excuse for Yuunarii to flex her figurine collection
Shit I've been found out
There are so many immature adults..
Yuu slowly evolving in the grumpy adult with that adulthood determinition
I like how you share your life lesson with us!
I've noticed this over my life but a lot of adults 40+ are not mature, all the emotional/mental skills you mentioned are taught in therapy and that's it. Those younger, those who have grown up with the internet have grown mature at a WAY faster rate because of what we are exposed to -because of the internet-. Older adults are sheltered for most of their lives comparatively. It's a big reason why the world is so fucked up, it's been controlled my sheltered adults that don't understand how emotions work or how to have a conversation. Then after 50+ years of it, younger people are learning the history of the world from an actual unbiased source and learning 'ah shit, we're absolutely fucked and we can't do a thing about it'. The ones in power that can change things, are all those adults that don't understand basics like how to problem solve, or how they respond verses react in conversation.
Jeez I swear we're cut from the same cloth Yuunarii lol. I'm also super jealous of all your touhou merch ;-;
I’m only 18, and maturity seems weird in my view. I only have a few handful of experiences and not so much as others since my parents never let me out as much. My question would be how could something have these experience or just how do someone just KNOWS all these things. 18 is still young but apparently that can still consider to be an adult.
From my personal experience I'd say that you learn these sorts of attitudes simply by going about life with the intention to be the best possible version of yourself (aiming to grow as a person). Basically any situation in which responsibilities and outside expectations are placed upon you will foster the need to develop a mindset like this. Which becomes increasingly more, the older you get. That could be by working a job, working together with a group of people, or even just by interacting with people online. Even just by how your actions affect your loved ones.
Anything that basically will get you to reflect upon yourself and your own actions, and take a critical look at yourself.
@@Yuunarii hmm I never really thought about being you know the best possible U, because when I try do, there’s still “more” I need or it’s not a enought. I think from your personal experience I could see that there’s more to life and having the power to take on this that’s out of your comfort zone would actually build maturity (like with talking to more people from anywhere, I can’t really talk to a stranger outside from the internet without being somewhat nervous). I still been called immature even to now for some of my expressions also with my actions with people (I can’t express how I feel the right way and it has mess me up a few times) and I just really need to change that without losing like what makes who I am (like anime, games, my jokes, etc.) also (this off topic) I didn’t knew you would actually take the time, help me a little bit, and reply too me :O I started watch your videos since the old sonic drawings and after that I just be watching your videos from time to time. Your art is amazing, thank you for taking your time to reply to me, I really appreciate you and what you do ♥️ keep doing what you do best yuunarii!!
@@reammvrc Aww no worries I totally understand the feeling. I used to feel like that too. Where you feel like even when you try your best, it's still considered not "enough". Again, try to be not too hard on yourself. If you genuinely are trying to just be the best possible version of yourself, you have more than enough reason to be proud of yourself!! Don't base your progress on other people's verdicts. Bettering yourself doesn't necessarily mean you have to force yourself into uncomfortable situations. Or do things that feel completely alien to you.
You don't have to give up anything that makes you YOU in order to mature. Growth WILL happen regardless of what situation you put yourself in, as long as you're willing to take a critical eye at yourself and your actions. Take responsibility for the things that you do, and growth will happen. (Not saying it'll be easy of course)
Again I totally get where you're coming from. When I was you age I also thought I had to radically change myself in order to "be a better person". Which is far from the case. Everyone has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses. Even if society favours some qualities over the others, that doesn't make the other qualities any less valuable.
And you're more than welcome!! 😊
Damn it's quite uncommon for you to upload videos at this rate. Keep it up!
I personally stopped associating adulthood with maturity, since it makes it seem like it's something you acquire naturally at a given moment in your life. For me, being an adult is more related to having responsabilities, while being mature is for me more a question of education and experience. Some might become mature really early, others in their 50's, and even others could never get to be mature in their lives.
I mean that's very fair!! To me they are linked in a way, as maturity is something you can only really gain during adulthood (when your brain is finished growing), but I definitely agree that just because you're getting older doesn't automatically make you more mature. I'd like to think people mature at their own pace, like you said some people grow a sense of maturity early on, others later in life. Personally, as long as their lack of maturity doesn't affect others, I have no issues with them. Problems only arise if that mindset starts negatively affecting people around them (e.g. if said person becomes a parent, or if that person finds themselves in a position with lots of responsibilities)
The mental maturity more or less don't easily come from consuming a limited scope of media or just foundational education; it mostly comes from trying, succeeding, or failing in the "tangible" "mature" activities; more conscious experiences in those activities (as in, not punch drunk) do eventually benefit people's mental capabilities while dealing with the activities in a positive feedback loop. And that's why even though the activities and social status aren't absolutely essential for "maturity", they do benefit in one way or another.
Also I'll probably be a child for 20 more years...
Hmmm I wouldn't necessarily say it comes from just those activities. It can come from any sort of activity where there's expectations of placed upon you that you have to meet. Could indeed be by working a job, but also just by interacting with people online, or how you interact with strangers in public. There's ways you're expected to behave. But I do agree that by engaging in activities that are typically associated with "adulthood", you are more inclined to develop a sense of maturity. It's just that I feel a lot of people don't really make that distinction and therefor just few those activities themselves what makes one mature.
being an adult just means you still feel confused but like government steals yer cash
lol
It is baffling to me how society treats maturity. On the one hand, you need to take many tests to get to drive a car. But you don't need to take any tests to become a parent, to be able to demonstrate your ability to raise a human being. Or two. Or three. Or four. Or five.
I have a friend who has five children. He is extremely responsible, a great dad. His wife on the other hand...
Society would dub her "mature". She has a spouse. She has children. She has a home. She has a job. But I would argue she is extremely immature. Anytime the children get into trouble, it's up to her husband to fix it. They need to be driven somewhere for an activity, he drives. She does almost none of the actual child-rearing and it's so stressful that I only get to see him for a few hours every few months because of how busy he is looking after five children.
I, on the other hand, don't have any kids. Society might deem me immature. It's frustrating.
I love how you create your backgrounds out of the nendoroids and other things (also can i ask where did you get this cute Okuu and Orin animal figurines?)
Aww thank you very much!! The Okuu and Orin figures come with the Satori nendoroid. Really hope that at some point they'll make a full Okuu nendo.
Like another comment suggests, age doesn't equal maturity. Live your own interests and stabilities. For me personally, my inside motto (especially in school) is: I'm not a sheep, I'm a human being with the right for self input, and self consciousness. Maturity is the act of having common sense, acting in a respectable manner, and not letting salty and petty insults into your head and letting them ruining your entire life.
Those Orin and Okuu figures were cute
It always baffles me how emotionally imature some retired/elderly people can act... Life experience does not guarantee maturity, that's for sure.
I work around a lot of old guys and they are some of the craziest people I’ve ever encountered in my life. One guy definitely doesn’t know he’s age. He’ll start talking about how he went to prison for 10 years for smuggling drugs in a semi-truck. I didn’t believe him at all until I asked a family member who has been to jail before told me yeah they do in fact get 10 years for that.
Toen ik 16 was, werd ik beter bewust van het feit dat ouder worden niet the end all be all is, en volwassen worden hangt inderdaad niet direct vast aan je leeftijd en de dingen die je doet en moet doen als je eenmal ouder wordt, het zijn de meer persoonelijke aspecten van iemand die het verschil maken tussen wel en niet volwassen zijn.
Nu zij je dat childhood underrated is maar bedoel je dat voor kinderen die snel willen opgroeien?(veel mensen gaan door zo'n fase)
In mijn omgeving was het een mix van mensen die overdrijven over de ''perks'' van volwassen zijn, maar er waren ook mensen die uitlegden wat volwassen worden kan inhouden, want het concept is heel erg breed.
My first time here since I'm trying to grew as a person, I came because of your proxy video, and kept myself because of all this.
You are not negative in either way, as I see in some commente, you are just spitting some facts.
Something that happened to me more than I'm willing to admit, is how people kept saying I wasn't an "adult", because I kept being a person who likes these sort of weaboo shit, why don't you have kids (dude, I'm 22 lmao), why don't you buy more "worth" stuff, and such.
And the funniest part is... Those people don't seem to be making good decisions at life lol, see, my point is, as I said before, they already have unwanted kids at an extremely young age, they do drugs mindlessly, alongside the usual cliche you would find in your average Mexican street... And all of those are just handing them a problem, and they apparently need to see someone else doing worse as they don't like the others having an achievement, as small as it can be.
I could rant on and on over this comment, but let's just say, your videos are comfy since they represent a good part of my life I'm dealing with.
Thanks a lot! Greetings from the taco lands!
Awww thank you very much!! And yeh it's usually quite ironic that those who criticise others for not being "mature" are usually the ones engaging in immature behaviour. Such as by shitting on others to make themselves feel better. I do feel bad for those people and hope they get whatever help they need.
Heyyyyyy this is pretty goooooood!
No society would ever encourage people to be mature, because mature people are harder to control. Mature person would always take responsibility for their life and desicions, think independently and question any authority - means it's harder to treat them as a resource and to make benefit from them. Instead, society encourages people to be a good resource - get a job, be productive, spend your money to buy stuff you don't need, behave yourself and don't question it. And no, this is not done by some elite groups or something - most parents treat their children all the same from early childhood to be able to control them. For society, "maturity" always means "obedience".
Damn really good take!!
I love you sitting on the figures!
I do think you have a great point like I get really tired of adults who act like children but they seem to be everywhere.... but my moms opinion is that people as they get older become more like children again
Personally I do hold out hope that people do want to aim to be better people, I think it's just that a lot of adults probably have a bunch of unprocessed trauma that prevents them from doing that. But yeh your mum might be onto something, as from my experience old people generally are indeed either very wise, or just big children.
Hopefully that'll get better in the future though, as the current day old people still stem from an era where the social zeitgeist was in a very different place. Different priorities. So in a sense their environment/time also contributes a lot to the way they turned out.
@@Yuunarii yeah I think that's about right well I trully hope I will become a fun old granny who loves cute stuff but is an mature person
Omg, yes! 😤 I have grandparents who are less emotionally mature than a child. My grandmother stopped talking to my mom because my mom didn't IMMEDIATELY respond to a text message. A few weeks later, she sends a super sappy apology to my mom. It was the equivalent of a 5-year-old being like: "You didn't give me your cookie at lunch 🍪 I'm not going to be your friend anymore!"
It's weird - I haven't noticed how strong your accent was before but now it's quite apparent. Nothing wrong with that tho.
Also you've improved quite a lot - despite not being a fan of your Touhou themes, you're still making it. Keep it up.
Hmm strange. Maybe it's just the emotions that rail up my accent haha. Oh well, as long as it doesn't dip into "steenkolen" English I'm happy haha
And thank you!!
@@Yuunarii Yeah I used to watch your vids back then but it wasn't noticable but now as I started talking to more Dutch people the accent became more noticable lol
It's still a nice accent! :-)
Hahaha, yeah I had to ask a friend what that "steenkolen" means - quite funny.
Yeah, of course! ( As a fellow artist ) I still appreciate your art on a technical level!
I like your opinion video, but I would love to have another touhou related video :3
(Once again mad respect to your touhou/vocaloid/ Etc collection. Love um) I've always believed that Society will consider you a healthy adult if you have money, obligations, and genuinely unhappy about your situation. I know I don't fit the mold of what is considered an adult but for the most part I'm pretty content. I could stand to make more friends and a love interest but I think the most adult thing you can do is not care about how other people see you.
Ahhhh I love all ur touhou nendroids and ur nanachi figureeee
Awww thank you!!
Koishi, Remilia, Okuu, Orin, Reimu, Marisa, Satori, Youmu, Yuyuko, Miku
Wish I could send this to my mom as I'm about to usurp her in the maturity department despite being a NEET
Hi, Yuu. Another skill that mature adults should have is the ability to listen. So many people, even friends, constantly interrupt and do not give me an opportunity to say what I have to say. Listening is an important skill in any relationship, so I’ve made a resolution to get to know people who actually are consistently good listeners.
Very good point yeh!! Listening is such an important, yet very underrated skill. But can also be extremely difficult. Listening means you have to suspend your own judgements temporarily, in order to be a good listener. I think that's what most people find difficult, and why they often tune out as soon someone says something they don't like/agree with/feel attacked.
are we all adults or children
We are all doomed
Yes.
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The one thing I legit like about being an “adult” is being able to pay for my mistakes rather than the parents footing the bill, and me feeling like crap after. Otherwise, adulthood can go to hell. 😝
Though my tangible achievements aren’t especially stellar at having just turned 30, at least I can say I’m a better “me” than I was back in teen-days. 😅
The true adulthood is: the possibility to able things to want do anything, but with reasonable responsibility. Also, if you likes anime, or another hobbie is not a cause for loose adulthood, is a commonly missense.
Obrigado tal de emanuel_andriolli por traduzir o vídeo, você é um amigo =D S2
Adulthood just means more responsibility to me. Like NOTHING changed from age 12-22 except for the fact that money becomes a factor and the overwhelming stresses of society.
And we thought we had it bad as kids, oh boy. If I could time travel to young me, I'd slap him for being so stupid.
after having been adult for 8 years now and having seen other adults and their outlook, i have realized what the difference between kid and adult is!
The ability to drive a car and go to buy alcohol.
aside from that?
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Yehh for a large amount of people you're probably not too far off (unfortunately).
So the point of this video is that what you’ve done or accomplished in your adulthood doesn’t necessarily an adult, but how you act and treat others am I right
Exactly yep, it's a mental mindset thing. How you behave and go about interacting with others, how you solve issues, reflecting upon yoru own actions, that sort of business.
@@Yuunarii oh interesting, also do you think adulthood sucks and you wish you were a kid again, cause that’s what I always think sometimes, I mean I’m not really an adult I’m 17, but there are times where I wish I was like a younger child again
hii