From one tattoo artist to someone who wants to tattoo, make it happen. Follow your dreams don’t let anyone hold you back. I love my job more than any other job I could have. No other career offers as much freedom as mine. I worked 2 jobs for a year to afford supplies and the cost of living. You can have it if you really want it.
OP #1: you are worthy of love, care, and a happy life! I hope you are able to create a calmer schedule. All the advanced classes make everything more stressful.
Thank you so much for reading my story (the snapchat one) I will definitely be looking into different legal options and finding the best way to make him stop while keeping my distance. Your advice has been so helpful! Thank you!! ❤
Both of you give great opinions. Jerry gives advice from the pov of a father and of experience. Morgan gives advice from the pov of sympathy and experience, and most of all the pov of a millennial.
For the story about the grandma with a substance addiction - just a friendly tip from a harm reduction worker, we are trying to move away from using language like 'clean' and 'dirty' tests to reduce stigma, and we're moving into using "clear" or "positive" tests instead. I just thought I'd mention this :) love the pod!
I do love how romantic your ideas are for gap years and traveling abroad. Sadly that is privilege talk for many. Myself included. There was no way traveling was an option for me at that time. It was like the game of life, right? Like college path or career path. Also taking a gap year does actually affect scholarships that are available to the lower income student. I worked in financial aid for over a decade and the difference between catching students right out of high school and those that chose/had to wait are staggering. Your ideas are lovely though and I do think all of that is something to consider for sure!!
Thank you for sharing! I just know a couple people who has no income/savings and did work programs abroad/had a host family but maybe the options have changed since then. And good to know about the financial aid.
Honestly just the title made my day. April is an especially busy time for me, as I am a high schooler, and have to balance AP exams, competitions, piano concerts, and club meetings. I’m just focusing on hanging in there!!
For me, I think as a 31 yo woman I tend to agree MOST with Morgan. However, only years of life experience can allow Jerry to give the advice he gives, and I think his perspective is equally important and often wiser.
So my experience in the Navy as a female was not great, but I was in a very male dominant rate (job). HOWEVER, I will say that taking time off from school to go through the military helped me with school in the long run. This is coming from someone who tried college right out of high school and it just wasn’t working, so I joined the Navy. Not only is it now paying for my school now that I’m out, but I had more time to mature and realize what I want in life so that now I am able to take college more seriously. I see so many people in my classes that are right out of high school and still treating it like free high school classes. They’re skipping classes or complaining about petty things, etc. it’s like they haven’t realized the opportunity they’ve been given or the amount of money that’s going into it. Not saying everyone is like that, but there’s definitely a level of maturity that it not there yet. Especially because for most of them it’s the first time they’re living outside of their parents homes and they have a new level of freedom that they’re not used to and maybe don’t prioritize the right things.
So much to say on the last story as a child of an addict personally. There is no right answer to your question because everyone will have a different opinion - especially people who do not have a family member who is a user because being in that situation personally feels a hell of a lot different than being on the outside of the predicament. It sounds so simple - if they aren't clean they shouldn't have access to your children, but when it is your own mother it becomes much more complicated, especially when the addict isn't truthful to themselves about their habits. Morgan hit on something MAJOR for me when she mentioned that addiction is a disease and it changes a person physically, cognitively, emotionally, etc. It makes the decision harder because it isn't clear cut - this person you love is suffering from something that impairs their lifestyle, like someone with a serious mental illness except it starts with a decision to start using, even though their can be so many confounding factors that attribute to that decision that have nothing to do with you as their child. Years of therapy have taught me that boundaries are key and communicating those boundaries is key to establishing them and upholding them. Addicts do not respect boundaries because they don't establish them for themselves let alone respecting other people's. At the end of the day this is your child and your decision - if you aren't comfortable with her being around tell her but be sincere and explain how their behavior impacts your decision. If they have a history of not being truthful about being clean tell them that is a concern of your. Make it a conversation not an ultimatum. An ultimatum is when you tell them it is this or that and there is no room for the other persons feelings and opinions to be considered - even if you don't agree with them everyone wants to be heard. You can bring up considering drug testing them or other solutions - supervised visits, etc. The individual has to make the decision to be clean for themselves not for you or their grandchild or whatever else, it needs to be because they know they personally deserve better and they are the only ones who can do that. You can't make someone do anything but what I'd recommend doing is having a serious conversation between the two of you about this life change and explaining why you are making this decision. It doesn't have to be a forever thing but there is nothing wrong with establishing boundaries and asking them to respect them. If they do not that is a decision they personally made and cannot be blamed on you for "keeping their grandchild from them" Remind them that the relationship is dependent on their decisions/actions and establishing boundaries IS NOT cutting them off, it is setting standards for maintaining a relationship with you and your child. You would do the same to a partner, friend, coworker, etc and that is no different for family. Hope this helped
Hey former military here, air force specifically. I highly suggest joining air force, or navy. They treat their people much better. Now, I will say I absolutely hated being in when I was active duty, but I don't regret it and I would do it again. For this write in, it sounds like it would be a good path for her. It gets her out of her family environment into something where she will feel part of a whole. And hopefully lead to some self discovery. I don't suggest military for most people, but this one seems like its a good path.
Story with Snapchats of the daughter: as a first step you could potentially recruit all of your friends to message him directly and tell him it's not okay, that way it's spread around. And if he doesn't stop take other steps
For story 2: I know a lot of churches teach suicide = hell. When I was dealing with some heaving stuff in high school, I asked a very wonderful person from my church if killing yourself meant you were damned to hell. He said that we can't say for sure, but it doesn't matter how you die, it matters how you lived. If you were a generally good person and believed in God, then there's not a reason for you to go to hell. I've wondered if people started saying that to prevent others from ending their lives. I genuinely think that ops dad isn't going to hell. Op should consider therapy to help with their anxiety. I hope that they can find the peace they need.
I grew up with an addict for a mom, and dad for a little while. It's been my experience that even when they get sober they turn into dry drunks and their personality is still so messed up. Hardest thing to do as an adult I think, is to know when to walk away from your mom, or dad, even after they've sobered up. I grew up in a rough area and I watched drugs destroy half the kids in my generation. The drugs are killing people and even when faced with disownment, homelessness, infections, and kids taken, nothing makes them hit rock bottom. Many times, in my experience most times, there is no rock bottom.
Jerry was it ‘ Don’t make a permanent decision with a temporary emotion’ well that what I told my son and friends… And also “You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” ( movie quote).. My heart breaks for the first story as a Mum I just want to be the biggest cheer leader and the the soft fall…
I am one of those people who got clean, and have been for over 5 years now. I was told I was a "severe" case, yet now I'm a mother to a beautiful 4 year old girl, and I'm going to school for substance use couseling and mental health. I have countless friends who are clean and have been for years as well. We DO recover. As for the OP who is usure about letting her mother around her child, I agree that she does need to protect her baby. The mother has to WANT to get clean, and maybe she will if that means seeing her grandchild. However, if shes telling the truth about being clean, it would be heartbreaking for her to be kept from her grandchild. I think a suprise drug test is absoutely acceptable. I think you should also require her to either go to Narcotics Anonynous (NA), a counselor, or an intensive outpatient program. She needs support, possibly medication, and time. But again, only she can make that choice. Also, there are usually signs someone is using. Those signs can differ somewhat depending on the drug. I would advise watching her behavior and making a best judgment call.
Hi OP#2, pastor’s daughter here with some advice on churches! First off, get so connected with a church with people your age. If you can get connected somewhere and establish relationships, it will help you feel grounded in your faith and fellowship is so important because that’s what the church is supposed to do.
Love the podcast, just wanted to give a perspective from a daughter whose father struggled with meth addiction the first 17 years of my life. No one gets clean unless they want to. Addiction really is a disease and no matter how many times you beg them to stay clean or send them to rehab, jail, and N.A. meetings, they won’t get clean unless it’s THEIR choice. Addiction makes people selfish so it really needs to be their choice in order for sobriety to really stick. That being said my dad has now been clean for 3 years so change is possible 🫶🏻
Snapchat story: 100% agree with Morgan, let a lawyer write a stern letter. That keeps a distance and will be more effective than anything you could say.
OP #2 - You’re asking all the right questions, don’t ignore the fact that there are blatant contradictions in Christianity; the thoughts you’re having won’t go away. What you’re missing right now is a sense of community and support. For now, while things are still so fresh, don’t go to church, but do hangout with your friends from church. If they’re true friends, they’ll know not to push or preach at you. You time and space to sort thru your feelings. In addition to reconnecting with people from church, find a grief counselor or grief group, it will really help. Take care.
First story advice: don’t live your life trying to impress others. Live life for yourself. Do whatever will make you happy by doing whatever you want. When you start loving yourself, everything else is just a bonus.
As a veteran some thoughts for the first story. Depending your branch where you live etc. It's not usually one to one for one year of service equals one year of education. If you serve 10 years in the reserves and never go active, you will get almost zero benefits in most states for school. If you serve anytime active duty outside of your training when you first enlist like a deployment or being active duty, you can then start cashing in on options like post 9/11. There are also options state to state if you go reserve or national guard. Her story sounds like she could be a very good candidate for the military, having a place to belong to and feel safe, etc. It is a double sided sword. You are also exposed to the 1% of people who are dangerous and will capitalize on people, especially females who feel less then. I served 8 years reserve with one year deployment and it was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life. But I also know other females who've been in the military who have been sexually abused. Don't get any help. Have to spend years fighting with the VA and the system to get the support they deserve, not including any combat they might be exposed to. That's also applies to males not easily getting access to the support they deserve. There are resources and support out there but the hoops veterans have to jump through to get. It is disgusting to say the least. Also, someone who failed a year of college before enlisting and went to college when they were ready. I strongly encourage anyone whether they're pursuing military or not to put off going to school until they're ready and they know what they want to pursue a career in. There is also zero shame and going to be colleges that are affordable so you don't have to do all this extra work for scholarships. There's also pellegrants etc. That if you're this low income, you shouldn't have to work this hard for scholarships. I think there's going to be a lot better options. You should work with your high school counselor and local community college counselors on financial aid that doesn't take all this work. You shouldn't take this much time and effort to be honest. I don't at all mean to belittle the writer, but I think she's putting in more effort and things that don't need the effort. I hope she finds good resources that help her find options that don't take so much of her little free time. Good luck gurl you got this!!!
STEP DAUGHTER STORY- I’ve been with my husband for 11 years now but in the first year on holidays and SKs birthdays we were getting anonymous gifts for her that we knew were from his ex girlfriend. They dated from age 2/12 to 4/12 and I started dating him when she was age 5. At first I was like okay I understand the connection and the sadness of losing not only a partner but a step kid you thought you might have in your life forever. However was I okay with that happening for the rest of her life? NO. Just because you were in a kids life for a small period does not give you access to them for the rest of your life especially if the kid and dad don’t want to be involved with you. Anyways my husband sent her an email to stop and she did after expressing she didn’t understand why. I would’ve dealt with it longer if everyone involved wanted it but we had to put boundaries in place and it worked.
On the snapchat story: When you are dealing with someone manipulative like an abuser. The only way to stop them from hurting you is to isolate from them. He is using pictures of her daughter to lure her back in so that he can try to get something he wants; idk what. But he will take whatever attention that is given. It might be cold, but the direct method is best with the willingness to take legal actions (if there are in) against him. Otherwise, I would ignore him. His weird obsession's with posting about your daughter, you'll have to ignore it and eventually it'll stop if you remove him from your life. I had to do this with a stalker. They still harass my friends, because they have left a way for the stalker to contact them. But Cut yourself out and tell people that you don't want to hear about it. And Always be ready to take legal actions. Teach your daughter to avoid him and not to trust him.
As sad/hard as it is I think "Teach your daughter to avoid him and not to trust him." is sooo important. Imagine if he tried to pick her up from school
Yes, thank you so much! I'll absolutely be having a conversation with my daughter about staying away and not trusting him if she sees him in any capacity! Its such a strange situation and all your advice is so helpful ❤
OP #3 I agree 100% with Morgan, don’t reach out to him yourself. An idea I didn’t hear was to have the father of your daughter reach out to him and have the cease-and-desist-and-delete conversation with him before going the legal route.
Morgan I remember you saying get a wedding coordinator for all the things you're worried about so on the day of the wedding they can just point blank stop the dad from walking down the isle.
I had an abusive father. He wasn’t supposed to be at the wedding but I found out a relative was bringing him. So, instead of my grandfather walking me down I walked myself. I told my father that I was an I independent woman who didn’t need a man to “give me away”. Then parents and wedding party walked down individually too. He accepted it. I was sad not to have my grandfather walk me but it smoothed over the day, I’m still sad about missing out on my grandfather walking me but it didn’t mess up our day.
For OP#1: You said you’re low income, so paying for a therapist isn’t feasible, but most community colleges have free counseling available to students, take advantage of that. On the rest of it - if you want to join the navy, do it. Don’t let your parents dictate your life. It’s YOUR life. The navy will allow you to get away from your toxic home life but you’ll have guaranteed housing and a paycheck. And if you still want to go to college after your contract is over, they’ll pay for it. JUST KNOW, if you do go this route, you have almost no control over your own life - the military will make all big life decisions for you while you’re enlisted. If that is something you’re ok with, then go for it. Best of luck to you!
Story 1: if op does ends up going to college, perhaps they can study art (and also take some business classes, especially if they want to open their own tattoo shop!)
For the first story, if college/university is so important, i suggest looking into art universities. Cause you can get a scholarship while also building skills that can help towards a tattooing apprenticeship and career. Make sure the school "counts" (cause some school diplomas wont be accepted. My universoty is recognized so my bachelors will be accepted, but some dont have that credibility). But i do know a lot of illustrators went to uni then persued a tattoo career. And from what i hear an apprenticeship isnt easy, so if you do go to the navy it can teach you that grit while also paying for your schooling. But be easy on yourself. You can easily live to 100, so take your time step by step. I was rejected from my uni when i firat applied (i applied because of family pressure) but i decoded to take a year off for me and i worked my way to europe (traveled for 2 weeks) athen got accepted the 2nd time into my school. Things will work out but only you can live your life. So make choices for you cause your parents cant live your life for you
As an addict (it doesn't matter if i am clean, I and every other addict will ALWAYS be an addict), it's a difficult thing to get past, but if you suspect your mom is still using, she probably is. I know it took me getting arrested and the repercussions of it (oldest was pregnant with our first grandchild) to sink into my head that I needed to be done, so maybe if you talk to your mom and tell her that the result of her using will be that she doesn't get to see the baby/child, she might get clean.
As someone who has an addict in my intermediate family, rehab doesn't work. It doesn't work, IF they don't want to get clean, because unfortunately a lot of people don't want to. Its a very hard pill to swallow, but I have seen it time and time again. And be very very cautious, drugs in the vicinity of a child could lead to many issues, even possible cps calls. Don't allow her to be near the child, don't enable her and just maybe she will choose to be a family and to leave the drugs behind.
Does anyone know what the word that Morgan said at 43:22 is? I heard it on SNL too and I googled for 10 mins and can’t figure it out. It sounds like “fuh-cocked”
I went to jv college and transferred to a state college figured what I wanted to do by taking classes and get a internship in the career you want to focus on see if you like the industry or change your mind as many times goodluck
24:30 not only has the Bible been translated thousands of times, but whole books were removed and not included in the final version. Mainly written by women prophets.
For the OP #1 - Things I wish I knew at 17 that adults around me failed to share: 1) Follow your dreams and passions. The happiest you can be is to do the things that make you happy and feel good about yourself. As far as we know we only have one life and you should do with it those things that you find fulfilling. 2) Your parents don't know shit. Take it from this random 32yo on the internet who cut ties with her mother at 29, your parents can only inform you of the experiences they have lived. This means that the world they grew up in is so different than the one you are growing up in. What they did for their lives to be successful was standard at the time and they were bound by standards. You're growing up in a very technological world, with all the worlds knowledge at your fingertips, they probably didn't have that until much later in their lives. 3) Don't expect to have it all or by the time you hit 20 or 25. Humans don't stop growing until 25. You may not realized it until your in your late 20s, but you have so much life to live and you shouldn't have it all figured out by 20 or 22. Your early 20s are meant to explore who you are as a person so you can use those experiences to tailor your life in the future. Anyone who says they had it figured out by 21 is lying. Honestly, I still feel like I don't have it figured out, but that's just life. 4) Don't be afraid to tell people no. Especially your parents. This goes back to #2. This is your life, don't stress yourself out by making others happy, especially if its at the expense of your own happiness. If you want to be a tattoo artist, do it. Will that upset your parents? Maybe. But at the end of the day, who cares? Do you, baby. Let them be mad. If they are good parents they will come around and be there for you. 5) You are worth of love. You will be loved. You are loved. I'm sorry your boyfriend broke up with you, but Jerry is right, he did you a favor. Go explore the world, explore yourself, explore others (SAFELY!). Work on making you happy, someone worthy of your time and space will come along when you least expect it. Sorry for the long comment. I don't have any kids yet, but I have a niece and when she gets to be your age I'll tell her these same things. Learn who you are. Don't worry about what others think. If they are worthy of your time they will support you. Is it going to be hard? Yes, life is fucking difficult some days. All you can do is what's best for you and not to be a dick to others. You got this. And you have random strangers on the internet supporting you. Take a deep breath and stand your ground. Best of luck, darlin', we're rooting for you and whatever you do in the future.
Morgan, didn’t you guys read the story about the mom killing two of her children on Two Hot Takes? I believe it would’ve been a while ago, but I remember the child drowning in the pond first on her supervision. It may be a similar story to the one on TikTok tho. I believe the grandma was going to change the laundry and left him at the pond, then the mother was very hesitant for a while to let the mother in law around her second child and her husband convinced her which resulted in the death of her second child. So they took her to court and etc…. I could be totally wrong!
OP#1: I’m sorry you were taught that school is everything but I promise it’s not. Graduate highschool and start your life. College is such a waste (UNLESS you are wanting to be a dr or something)
Final story: My mom has been an addict since I was at least 8. I got pregnant at 24. I’m now 27. My mom has been clean since November of 2020, the same year my daughter was born. I set HARD boundaries with her. If you’re using, if I even THINK you’re using, I will leave your house, or ask you to leave mine. And it did happen. I did visit and know she was high and had to leave. It was hard. We fought. But I’m happy to say she is clean, she loves being a grandma. We even have lived 3000 miles away for a year and she has maintained her sobriety. I’m so proud of her and I congratulate her. But your mom won’t be clean until she wants to be. And it has nothing to do with you. But you have every ability to walk away from her toxicity and not expose your child. It’s hard and I really wish you the best.
For the first story, if you decide to goto college, APPLY WITH YOUR SCHOOL AS AN INDEPENDENT STUDENT!!!! You get max FAFSA and max loans + typically it will qualify you for more grants/scholarships. DONT PUT YOUR PARENTS TAXES ON YOUR FAFSA WHEN DOING SO/REMOVE THEM!! The school will reach out saying that your FAFSA is incomplete, tell them that your applying as an independent student and they will give you all the stuff you need to fill out. I didn’t have parents when I started college so it is what i did, It’s a life saver!!!!
You can only qualify as an independent student on the FAFSA if you are at least 24 years of age, married, on active duty in the U.S. Armed Forces, financially supporting dependent children, an orphan (both parents deceased), a ward of the court, or an emancipated minor.
@@meowiestwo You can qualify at any age. I was 18 when I first applied and have been on it ever since. You just have to show (letters from others) that you don’t have any parent information to put on your FAFSA.
@@ksvm2743 but you said you didn’t have parents when you went to college. If someone has iving parents from whom they’re not emancipated then they’d be committing fraud by signing something saying they don’t have parent info.
@@meowiestwo both of the people who made me are still alive, i wasnt orphaned, and i wasnt emancipated. You turn in the info TO THE SCHOOL who say that to qualify, you just need to not be able to add any parent info. It’s not fraud. You clearly don’t know what you’re talking about completely. The school makes the exceptions, FAFSA just takes in tax info and tells the school how much money you can get from loans and pell grants
Story about child’s picture: HIT HIM HARD AND STRONG. Go to a lawyer. See what your options are. If he even thinks he has wiggle room he will push every button. Do not play a game with him. Be as serious as possible from the start. This is your child. He is nothing to you. Completely with Morgan on this one. He is dangerous.
I have an update on my write in that hasn’t been read yet, how do I get that info to you guys in a way that makes sense? Hoping to get my story read soon because I really need advice 😬
For story 1, as a highschooler I am strongly against a relationship because you have daddy/mommy issues. Find a good group of friends. Identify your passions in one area and take life easier, you will get into a good school. Especially if you have a passion project. You are taking it way to hard on yourself.
I am honestly against high-school relationships altogether, unless you are in college or have your life figured out (like going to the military or not doing college). Dont let some little stupid relationship ruin your life. Wait it out. You wont ever regret it,
i think the aspiring tattoo artist op should definitely join the navy and they can always go reserves if they don’t wanna be away from family for too long
20:16 Story #2, babygirl, your father is most certainly in heaven, he was an Angel on earth and now he’s an Angel in heaven, I am also Christian and lost one a friend to suicide a week before she turned 13 and she was the sweetest person in the whole universe no one would say otherwise. I love God so much and i am a believer in Christ, I know the Bible says something’s we all question but at the end of the day we believe in God not just the Bible.
Snapchat story: I think if you report the posts to Snapchat they will be taken down, I doubt that’s best long term but it’s a good temporary solution while figuring out the legal/personal stuff
For the individual who lost her father, I'm so sorry. If you do want to go to a Christian church again, hold fast and remember that salvation is through the sacrifice of Jesus dying on the cross and not by any works that we do. Being good is the best thing to do for yourself and others - it's the "right" thing to do, but it does not "earn" a place in heaven because we can never be good enough. It's faith, that simple. Myself and millions of others have experienced "church hurt" which makes a lot of people walk away from their faith entirely or never attend church again. That choice is yours and if you do that, know that it doesn't change who you are, or what you believe. God doesn't take church attendance, so don't feel pressured. I hope that you find peace in whatever you decide.
Hey morgan, please look up how bad voluntourism can be. Suggesting stuff like going to another country to teach english to someone who has zero qualifications is not beneficial for those in the community and you person teaching. Other times like going to build things like houses are often taking those building jobs away from locals or volunteering at orphanages often affects the children more negatively than positive (and a lot of countries that offer volunteering at orphanage, the children there often times still have family who are alive and love them but were poor and were tricked into thinking giving their children up, hoping they'd have a better life, when the children are often used just for money and pictures. They are not taken care of other than the very bare needs or worse than what their parent was providing already)
2nd story: as a Muslim women islam though us that When a person dies, his deeds will cease except in three cases: - - from a righteous son who invokes Allah for him, or - an ongoing charity after his death, or - knowledge that people benefit from. I know you're not a Muslim but I want you to view this from this POV, don't judge your father for what he did but help him get to the afterlife through you're good deeds, i hope you feel better losing a parent is so hard 😢
Second story, Jesus died for ALL sins for those who have Jesus in their heart, also I highly recommend grief share, it's a group of people that share losses.
Controversial.... but the last story was similar to me and we did a non traditional wedding. I was no one's to really give away and my husband and I walked down together! He loved walking with me and seeing everyone as we walked down. It made for some super cute photos! I was afraid to walk down alone and I was so happy my life partner did it with me ❤
HELP! NEED IMMEDIATE HELP. Please can somebody contact me about my son I'm at a complete loss and took my mother's advice and got blindsided. My child was kidnapped by his other grandparents. I was struck by car. His mom has not had him alone more than 4 hours his whole life and I only agree to let him go if she at least had one or both parents around because of her situation they will not return him
To the OP who lost her father due to suicide - your dad succumbed to an illness. God's not going to hold that against him. [1 John 4:16 So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.]
People themselves ruin the name of Christianity but it is not Gods will for any of His children to go to hell. Suicide in Christianity is not an unforgivable sin. Yes, it is a sin, because it is self murder. But God’s grace and Jesus’s death covers that sin. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that if you commit suicide you are going to hell. The ONLY unforgivable sin is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit. It is so sad how people turn people off to God and to Christianity when really if they read the Bible for themselves they would find so much peace and healing.
To the person who lost their dad to su!cide: first, I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost my dad, in a different circumstance, and can attest that it is so hard to lose the first man you’ve loved. I also am a Christian who has STRUGGLED with mental health and have heard time and time again that su!cide is “selfish” and will send me to hell. But I don’t believe that. Unless you’ve been that deep, a person doesn’t understand the absolute depth and magnitude that mental illness can hold over a person. With that being said, while I am not pastor or have read the entire Bible cover to cover, upside down and all around, I believe the idea that those who have made the decision to leave this earth “go to hell” is an old fashioned thing that older generations have used as a way to scare people away from doing it. Rather than taking the time to truly understand to the best of their ability the deep emotions one feels when they get to that point, they get scared and use it as a quick way “stop” the person. I believe, a Christian, that there is only ONE thing that will completely separate a person from Him and Heaven: denying of who He is and what He’s done. This is just my take. But again, I’m not an expert and just want to share a different Christian viewpoint. ❤
We should have Lauren & Alejandra on father knows for some episodes 🤗
Jimmy and Jerry sound so much alike it’s scary. Loved having him here and on THT!
I think they look alike as well lol
I was cleaning my house the other day and thought it was Jerry the whole time till they said something and I looked at the TV. 😂
I know ! I thought they were bio brothers at first !
Seriously!
@@Goblue373 it is impossible for me to believe they’re not?? WHAT that’s crazy
From one tattoo artist to someone who wants to tattoo, make it happen. Follow your dreams don’t let anyone hold you back. I love my job more than any other job I could have. No other career offers as much freedom as mine. I worked 2 jobs for a year to afford supplies and the cost of living. You can have it if you really want it.
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OP #1: you are worthy of love, care, and a happy life! I hope you are able to create a calmer schedule. All the advanced classes make everything more stressful.
Thank you so much for reading my story (the snapchat one) I will definitely be looking into different legal options and finding the best way to make him stop while keeping my distance. Your advice has been so helpful! Thank you!! ❤
Hope everything’s going well for you ❤ ran to TH-cam to see if there was any updates or comments from you
Both of you give great opinions. Jerry gives advice from the pov of a father and of experience. Morgan gives advice from the pov of sympathy and experience, and most of all the pov of a millennial.
For the story about the grandma with a substance addiction - just a friendly tip from a harm reduction worker, we are trying to move away from using language like 'clean' and 'dirty' tests to reduce stigma, and we're moving into using "clear" or "positive" tests instead. I just thought I'd mention this :) love the pod!
I thought about this while editing 🤦♀️ Thank you for sharing!
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Thank you
I do love how romantic your ideas are for gap years and traveling abroad. Sadly that is privilege talk for many. Myself included. There was no way traveling was an option for me at that time. It was like the game of life, right? Like college path or career path. Also taking a gap year does actually affect scholarships that are available to the lower income student. I worked in financial aid for over a decade and the difference between catching students right out of high school and those that chose/had to wait are staggering. Your ideas are lovely though and I do think all of that is something to consider for sure!!
Thank you for sharing! I just know a couple people who has no income/savings and did work programs abroad/had a host family but maybe the options have changed since then. And good to know about the financial aid.
The new intro is so fun ☺️
Honestly just the title made my day. April is an especially busy time for me, as I am a high schooler, and have to balance AP exams, competitions, piano concerts, and club meetings. I’m just focusing on hanging in there!!
For me, I think as a 31 yo woman I tend to agree MOST with Morgan. However, only years of life experience can allow Jerry to give the advice he gives, and I think his perspective is equally important and often wiser.
So my experience in the Navy as a female was not great, but I was in a very male dominant rate (job). HOWEVER, I will say that taking time off from school to go through the military helped me with school in the long run. This is coming from someone who tried college right out of high school and it just wasn’t working, so I joined the Navy. Not only is it now paying for my school now that I’m out, but I had more time to mature and realize what I want in life so that now I am able to take college more seriously. I see so many people in my classes that are right out of high school and still treating it like free high school classes. They’re skipping classes or complaining about petty things, etc. it’s like they haven’t realized the opportunity they’ve been given or the amount of money that’s going into it. Not saying everyone is like that, but there’s definitely a level of maturity that it not there yet. Especially because for most of them it’s the first time they’re living outside of their parents homes and they have a new level of freedom that they’re not used to and maybe don’t prioritize the right things.
On point with everything you said!
So much to say on the last story as a child of an addict personally. There is no right answer to your question because everyone will have a different opinion - especially people who do not have a family member who is a user because being in that situation personally feels a hell of a lot different than being on the outside of the predicament. It sounds so simple - if they aren't clean they shouldn't have access to your children, but when it is your own mother it becomes much more complicated, especially when the addict isn't truthful to themselves about their habits. Morgan hit on something MAJOR for me when she mentioned that addiction is a disease and it changes a person physically, cognitively, emotionally, etc. It makes the decision harder because it isn't clear cut - this person you love is suffering from something that impairs their lifestyle, like someone with a serious mental illness except it starts with a decision to start using, even though their can be so many confounding factors that attribute to that decision that have nothing to do with you as their child. Years of therapy have taught me that boundaries are key and communicating those boundaries is key to establishing them and upholding them. Addicts do not respect boundaries because they don't establish them for themselves let alone respecting other people's. At the end of the day this is your child and your decision - if you aren't comfortable with her being around tell her but be sincere and explain how their behavior impacts your decision. If they have a history of not being truthful about being clean tell them that is a concern of your. Make it a conversation not an ultimatum. An ultimatum is when you tell them it is this or that and there is no room for the other persons feelings and opinions to be considered - even if you don't agree with them everyone wants to be heard. You can bring up considering drug testing them or other solutions - supervised visits, etc. The individual has to make the decision to be clean for themselves not for you or their grandchild or whatever else, it needs to be because they know they personally deserve better and they are the only ones who can do that. You can't make someone do anything but what I'd recommend doing is having a serious conversation between the two of you about this life change and explaining why you are making this decision. It doesn't have to be a forever thing but there is nothing wrong with establishing boundaries and asking them to respect them. If they do not that is a decision they personally made and cannot be blamed on you for "keeping their grandchild from them" Remind them that the relationship is dependent on their decisions/actions and establishing boundaries IS NOT cutting them off, it is setting standards for maintaining a relationship with you and your child. You would do the same to a partner, friend, coworker, etc and that is no different for family. Hope this helped
THANK YOU!!! I needed this today. I was honestly having a really hard day mentally.
I hope you're feeling better ❤️
Loving the new intro! 🤩
Hey former military here, air force specifically. I highly suggest joining air force, or navy. They treat their people much better. Now, I will say I absolutely hated being in when I was active duty, but I don't regret it and I would do it again. For this write in, it sounds like it would be a good path for her. It gets her out of her family environment into something where she will feel part of a whole. And hopefully lead to some self discovery. I don't suggest military for most people, but this one seems like its a good path.
Story with Snapchats of the daughter: as a first step you could potentially recruit all of your friends to message him directly and tell him it's not okay, that way it's spread around. And if he doesn't stop take other steps
I lost my dad at 18 (now 30), also from suicide. Jerry's advice to the writer is entirely on point ❤
For story 2: I know a lot of churches teach suicide = hell.
When I was dealing with some heaving stuff in high school, I asked a very wonderful person from my church if killing yourself meant you were damned to hell. He said that we can't say for sure, but it doesn't matter how you die, it matters how you lived. If you were a generally good person and believed in God, then there's not a reason for you to go to hell.
I've wondered if people started saying that to prevent others from ending their lives.
I genuinely think that ops dad isn't going to hell.
Op should consider therapy to help with their anxiety. I hope that they can find the peace they need.
I could definitely tell you two a part but when Jimmy first started talking before he was really introduced. I thought it was dad with a cold. 😂
I grew up with an addict for a mom, and dad for a little while. It's been my experience that even when they get sober they turn into dry drunks and their personality is still so messed up. Hardest thing to do as an adult I think, is to know when to walk away from your mom, or dad, even after they've sobered up. I grew up in a rough area and I watched drugs destroy half the kids in my generation. The drugs are killing people and even when faced with disownment, homelessness, infections, and kids taken, nothing makes them hit rock bottom. Many times, in my experience most times, there is no rock bottom.
Jerry’s takes are the best🎉
Jerry was it ‘ Don’t make a permanent decision with a temporary emotion’ well that what I told my son and friends… And also “You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” ( movie quote).. My heart breaks for the first story as a Mum I just want to be the biggest cheer leader and the the soft fall…
I love this whole comment, you sound wonderful.
Ooh I love the new intro with the TV! Idk if that's been there a while and I jus missed it but I remember words on a black screen. Looks great!
I am one of those people who got clean, and have been for over 5 years now. I was told I was a "severe" case, yet now I'm a mother to a beautiful 4 year old girl, and I'm going to school for substance use couseling and mental health. I have countless friends who are clean and have been for years as well. We DO recover. As for the OP who is usure about letting her mother around her child, I agree that she does need to protect her baby. The mother has to WANT to get clean, and maybe she will if that means seeing her grandchild. However, if shes telling the truth about being clean, it would be heartbreaking for her to be kept from her grandchild. I think a suprise drug test is absoutely acceptable. I think you should also require her to either go to Narcotics Anonynous (NA), a counselor, or an intensive outpatient program. She needs support, possibly medication, and time. But again, only she can make that choice. Also, there are usually signs someone is using. Those signs can differ somewhat depending on the drug. I would advise watching her behavior and making a best judgment call.
Differentiate is the word jerry was looking for :)
Already missing uncle jimmy 😢😂
Love the new intro!
Love the new intro video❤
Hi OP#2, pastor’s daughter here with some advice on churches! First off, get so connected with a church with people your age. If you can get connected somewhere and establish relationships, it will help you feel grounded in your faith and fellowship is so important because that’s what the church is supposed to do.
Also, Suicide does not equal eternal damnation in Christianity. A relationship with Jesus is what determines your eternal home in Christianity
Okayyyy new intro 👏
THE INTROOO SO CUTE!!!
LOVE THE NEW INTRO
Love the podcast, just wanted to give a perspective from a daughter whose father struggled with meth addiction the first 17 years of my life. No one gets clean unless they want to. Addiction really is a disease and no matter how many times you beg them to stay clean or send them to rehab, jail, and N.A. meetings, they won’t get clean unless it’s THEIR choice. Addiction makes people selfish so it really needs to be their choice in order for sobriety to really stick. That being said my dad has now been clean for 3 years so change is possible 🫶🏻
Snapchat story: 100% agree with Morgan, let a lawyer write a stern letter. That keeps a distance and will be more effective than anything you could say.
Ahhhh I’m here so early❤🎉 love you guys
OP #2 -
You’re asking all the right questions, don’t ignore the fact that there are blatant contradictions in Christianity; the thoughts you’re having won’t go away. What you’re missing right now is a sense of community and support. For now, while things are still so fresh, don’t go to church, but do hangout with your friends from church. If they’re true friends, they’ll know not to push or preach at you. You time and space to sort thru your feelings.
In addition to reconnecting with people from church, find a grief counselor or grief group, it will really help.
Take care.
First story advice: don’t live your life trying to impress others. Live life for yourself. Do whatever will make you happy by doing whatever you want. When you start loving yourself, everything else is just a bonus.
the new intro made me smile i love the oldtimey tv
Thats Justin’s handy work
As a veteran some thoughts for the first story. Depending your branch where you live etc. It's not usually one to one for one year of service equals one year of education. If you serve 10 years in the reserves and never go active, you will get almost zero benefits in most states for school. If you serve anytime active duty outside of your training when you first enlist like a deployment or being active duty, you can then start cashing in on options like post 9/11. There are also options state to state if you go reserve or national guard.
Her story sounds like she could be a very good candidate for the military, having a place to belong to and feel safe, etc. It is a double sided sword. You are also exposed to the 1% of people who are dangerous and will capitalize on people, especially females who feel less then.
I served 8 years reserve with one year deployment and it was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life. But I also know other females who've been in the military who have been sexually abused. Don't get any help. Have to spend years fighting with the VA and the system to get the support they deserve, not including any combat they might be exposed to. That's also applies to males not easily getting access to the support they deserve. There are resources and support out there but the hoops veterans have to jump through to get. It is disgusting to say the least.
Also, someone who failed a year of college before enlisting and went to college when they were ready. I strongly encourage anyone whether they're pursuing military or not to put off going to school until they're ready and they know what they want to pursue a career in. There is also zero shame and going to be colleges that are affordable so you don't have to do all this extra work for scholarships. There's also pellegrants etc. That if you're this low income, you shouldn't have to work this hard for scholarships. I think there's going to be a lot better options. You should work with your high school counselor and local community college counselors on financial aid that doesn't take all this work. You shouldn't take this much time and effort to be honest. I don't at all mean to belittle the writer, but I think she's putting in more effort and things that don't need the effort. I hope she finds good resources that help her find options that don't take so much of her little free time. Good luck gurl you got this!!!
Thank you so so much for sharing. ❤️
STEP DAUGHTER STORY-
I’ve been with my husband for 11 years now but in the first year on holidays and SKs birthdays we were getting anonymous gifts for her that we knew were from his ex girlfriend. They dated from age 2/12 to 4/12 and I started dating him when she was age 5. At first I was like okay I understand the connection and the sadness of losing not only a partner but a step kid you thought you might have in your life forever. However was I okay with that happening for the rest of her life? NO. Just because you were in a kids life for a small period does not give you access to them for the rest of your life especially if the kid and dad don’t want to be involved with you. Anyways my husband sent her an email to stop and she did after expressing she didn’t understand why. I would’ve dealt with it longer if everyone involved wanted it but we had to put boundaries in place and it worked.
On the snapchat story: When you are dealing with someone manipulative like an abuser. The only way to stop them from hurting you is to isolate from them. He is using pictures of her daughter to lure her back in so that he can try to get something he wants; idk what. But he will take whatever attention that is given. It might be cold, but the direct method is best with the willingness to take legal actions (if there are in) against him. Otherwise, I would ignore him. His weird obsession's with posting about your daughter, you'll have to ignore it and eventually it'll stop if you remove him from your life. I had to do this with a stalker. They still harass my friends, because they have left a way for the stalker to contact them. But Cut yourself out and tell people that you don't want to hear about it. And Always be ready to take legal actions. Teach your daughter to avoid him and not to trust him.
As sad/hard as it is I think "Teach your daughter to avoid him and not to trust him." is sooo important. Imagine if he tried to pick her up from school
Yes, thank you so much! I'll absolutely be having a conversation with my daughter about staying away and not trusting him if she sees him in any capacity! Its such a strange situation and all your advice is so helpful ❤
Fakacked 😂 that hit a funny bone. I love you guys and my autistic brain loves a novel word
We found the spelling, verkacken-verkacked
OP #3
I agree 100% with Morgan, don’t reach out to him yourself. An idea I didn’t hear was to have the father of your daughter reach out to him and have the cease-and-desist-and-delete conversation with him before going the legal route.
Morgan I remember you saying get a wedding coordinator for all the things you're worried about so on the day of the wedding they can just point blank stop the dad from walking down the isle.
Jerry you will be okay in Sydney the coldest our winters are here is like 65 degrees Fahrenheit but some days get up to 70-75 if we are lucky 😅
Thank you, I’m looking forward to a June visit
I had an abusive father. He wasn’t supposed to be at the wedding but I found out a relative was bringing him. So, instead of my grandfather walking me down I walked myself. I told my father that I was an I independent woman who didn’t need a man to “give me away”. Then parents and wedding party walked down individually too. He accepted it. I was sad not to have my grandfather walk me but it smoothed over the day, I’m still sad about missing out on my grandfather walking me but it didn’t mess up our day.
For OP#1:
You said you’re low income, so paying for a therapist isn’t feasible, but most community colleges have free counseling available to students, take advantage of that.
On the rest of it - if you want to join the navy, do it. Don’t let your parents dictate your life. It’s YOUR life. The navy will allow you to get away from your toxic home life but you’ll have guaranteed housing and a paycheck. And if you still want to go to college after your contract is over, they’ll pay for it. JUST KNOW, if you do go this route, you have almost no control over your own life - the military will make all big life decisions for you while you’re enlisted. If that is something you’re ok with, then go for it.
Best of luck to you!
Story 1: if op does ends up going to college, perhaps they can study art (and also take some business classes, especially if they want to open their own tattoo shop!)
For the first story, if college/university is so important, i suggest looking into art universities. Cause you can get a scholarship while also building skills that can help towards a tattooing apprenticeship and career. Make sure the school "counts" (cause some school diplomas wont be accepted. My universoty is recognized so my bachelors will be accepted, but some dont have that credibility).
But i do know a lot of illustrators went to uni then persued a tattoo career. And from what i hear an apprenticeship isnt easy, so if you do go to the navy it can teach you that grit while also paying for your schooling.
But be easy on yourself. You can easily live to 100, so take your time step by step. I was rejected from my uni when i firat applied (i applied because of family pressure) but i decoded to take a year off for me and i worked my way to europe (traveled for 2 weeks) athen got accepted the 2nd time into my school. Things will work out but only you can live your life. So make choices for you cause your parents cant live your life for you
As an addict (it doesn't matter if i am clean, I and every other addict will ALWAYS be an addict), it's a difficult thing to get past, but if you suspect your mom is still using, she probably is. I know it took me getting arrested and the repercussions of it (oldest was pregnant with our first grandchild) to sink into my head that I needed to be done, so maybe if you talk to your mom and tell her that the result of her using will be that she doesn't get to see the baby/child, she might get clean.
As someone who has an addict in my intermediate family, rehab doesn't work. It doesn't work, IF they don't want to get clean, because unfortunately a lot of people don't want to. Its a very hard pill to swallow, but I have seen it time and time again. And be very very cautious, drugs in the vicinity of a child could lead to many issues, even possible cps calls. Don't allow her to be near the child, don't enable her and just maybe she will choose to be a family and to leave the drugs behind.
Does anyone know what the word that Morgan said at 43:22 is? I heard it on SNL too and I googled for 10 mins and can’t figure it out. It sounds like “fuh-cocked”
I can help you with this. It comes from Yiddish. I believe it kind of means you have things upside down..
Or Dis-com-bubikated
That I would interpret of been “Fahcocked”
So Uncle Scotty found it, so here you go.. the word is “verkacken-verkacked”
Sassy Jerry is the funniest 😂
First story: buy a tattoo machine and practice on Navy friends. People in the military absolutely love tattoos
Jerry looks good this episode! Does he work out? Lol
I know this is immature, but I laughed when Morgan was stumbling through saying the word "testicular" so many times in the manscaped ad lmao
❤ you were looking for the word "indistinguishable"
Story 1: 1:45
I went to jv college and transferred to a state college figured what I wanted to do by taking classes and get a internship in the career you want to focus on see if you like the industry or change your mind as many times goodluck
Love the new intro hehehehe
24:30 not only has the Bible been translated thousands of times, but whole books were removed and not included in the final version. Mainly written by women prophets.
For the OP #1 - Things I wish I knew at 17 that adults around me failed to share: 1) Follow your dreams and passions. The happiest you can be is to do the things that make you happy and feel good about yourself. As far as we know we only have one life and you should do with it those things that you find fulfilling. 2) Your parents don't know shit. Take it from this random 32yo on the internet who cut ties with her mother at 29, your parents can only inform you of the experiences they have lived. This means that the world they grew up in is so different than the one you are growing up in. What they did for their lives to be successful was standard at the time and they were bound by standards. You're growing up in a very technological world, with all the worlds knowledge at your fingertips, they probably didn't have that until much later in their lives. 3) Don't expect to have it all or by the time you hit 20 or 25. Humans don't stop growing until 25. You may not realized it until your in your late 20s, but you have so much life to live and you shouldn't have it all figured out by 20 or 22. Your early 20s are meant to explore who you are as a person so you can use those experiences to tailor your life in the future. Anyone who says they had it figured out by 21 is lying. Honestly, I still feel like I don't have it figured out, but that's just life. 4) Don't be afraid to tell people no. Especially your parents. This goes back to #2. This is your life, don't stress yourself out by making others happy, especially if its at the expense of your own happiness. If you want to be a tattoo artist, do it. Will that upset your parents? Maybe. But at the end of the day, who cares? Do you, baby. Let them be mad. If they are good parents they will come around and be there for you. 5) You are worth of love. You will be loved. You are loved. I'm sorry your boyfriend broke up with you, but Jerry is right, he did you a favor. Go explore the world, explore yourself, explore others (SAFELY!). Work on making you happy, someone worthy of your time and space will come along when you least expect it.
Sorry for the long comment. I don't have any kids yet, but I have a niece and when she gets to be your age I'll tell her these same things. Learn who you are. Don't worry about what others think. If they are worthy of your time they will support you. Is it going to be hard? Yes, life is fucking difficult some days. All you can do is what's best for you and not to be a dick to others. You got this. And you have random strangers on the internet supporting you. Take a deep breath and stand your ground. Best of luck, darlin', we're rooting for you and whatever you do in the future.
Morgan, didn’t you guys read the story about the mom killing two of her children on Two Hot Takes? I believe it would’ve been a while ago, but I remember the child drowning in the pond first on her supervision. It may be a similar story to the one on TikTok tho. I believe the grandma was going to change the laundry and left him at the pond, then the mother was very hesitant for a while to let the mother in law around her second child and her husband convinced her which resulted in the death of her second child. So they took her to court and etc…. I could be totally wrong!
OP#1: I’m sorry you were taught that school is everything but I promise it’s not. Graduate highschool and start your life. College is such a waste (UNLESS you are wanting to be a dr or something)
Ok I just subscribed 😊
Our hero!!
From me,,, Thank you ..Dad/Jerry
@@jerrysiegel3354 😊😜😂
Final story: My mom has been an addict since I was at least 8. I got pregnant at 24. I’m now 27. My mom has been clean since November of 2020, the same year my daughter was born. I set HARD boundaries with her. If you’re using, if I even THINK you’re using, I will leave your house, or ask you to leave mine. And it did happen. I did visit and know she was high and had to leave. It was hard. We fought. But I’m happy to say she is clean, she loves being a grandma. We even have lived 3000 miles away for a year and she has maintained her sobriety. I’m so proud of her and I congratulate her. But your mom won’t be clean until she wants to be. And it has nothing to do with you. But you have every ability to walk away from her toxicity and not expose your child. It’s hard and I really wish you the best.
For the first story, if you decide to goto college, APPLY WITH YOUR SCHOOL AS AN INDEPENDENT STUDENT!!!! You get max FAFSA and max loans + typically it will qualify you for more grants/scholarships. DONT PUT YOUR PARENTS TAXES ON YOUR FAFSA WHEN DOING SO/REMOVE THEM!! The school will reach out saying that your FAFSA is incomplete, tell them that your applying as an independent student and they will give you all the stuff you need to fill out. I didn’t have parents when I started college so it is what i did, It’s a life saver!!!!
You can only qualify as an independent student on the FAFSA if you are at least 24 years of age, married, on active duty in the U.S. Armed Forces, financially supporting dependent children, an orphan (both parents deceased), a ward of the court, or an emancipated minor.
@@meowiestwo You can qualify at any age. I was 18 when I first applied and have been on it ever since. You just have to show (letters from others) that you don’t have any parent information to put on your FAFSA.
@@ksvm2743 but you said you didn’t have parents when you went to college. If someone has iving parents from whom they’re not emancipated then they’d be committing fraud by signing something saying they don’t have parent info.
@@meowiestwo both of the people who made me are still alive, i wasnt orphaned, and i wasnt emancipated. You turn in the info TO THE SCHOOL who say that to qualify, you just need to not be able to add any parent info. It’s not fraud. You clearly don’t know what you’re talking about completely. The school makes the exceptions, FAFSA just takes in tax info and tells the school how much money you can get from loans and pell grants
Sometimes, being happy means disappointing your parents a little
Story about child’s picture:
HIT HIM HARD AND STRONG. Go to a lawyer. See what your options are. If he even thinks he has wiggle room he will push every button. Do not play a game with him. Be as serious as possible from the start. This is your child. He is nothing to you. Completely with Morgan on this one. He is dangerous.
I have an update on my write in that hasn’t been read yet, how do I get that info to you guys in a way that makes sense? Hoping to get my story read soon because I really need advice 😬
For story 1, as a highschooler I am strongly against a relationship because you have daddy/mommy issues. Find a good group of friends. Identify your passions in one area and take life easier, you will get into a good school. Especially if you have a passion project. You are taking it way to hard on yourself.
I am honestly against high-school relationships altogether, unless you are in college or have your life figured out (like going to the military or not doing college). Dont let some little stupid relationship ruin your life. Wait it out. You wont ever regret it,
i think the aspiring tattoo artist op should definitely join the navy and they can always go reserves if they don’t wanna be away from family for too long
So die for oil and destabilising the world just to become a tattoo artist?
@@stephjovi the USN offers great opportunities, plus Sailors are NOT infantrymen so OP wouldn’t be on the frontline if they were to join
I didn’t know they had a discord? Is there a link to join?? 😖
20:16 Story #2, babygirl, your father is most certainly in heaven, he was an Angel on earth and now he’s an Angel in heaven, I am also Christian and lost one a friend to suicide a week before she turned 13 and she was the sweetest person in the whole universe no one would say otherwise. I love God so much and i am a believer in Christ, I know the Bible says something’s we all question but at the end of the day we believe in God not just the Bible.
Snapchat story: I think if you report the posts to Snapchat they will be taken down, I doubt that’s best long term but it’s a good temporary solution while figuring out the legal/personal stuff
Discern I think is the word he wants
For the individual who lost her father, I'm so sorry. If you do want to go to a Christian church again, hold fast and remember that salvation is through the sacrifice of Jesus dying on the cross and not by any works that we do. Being good is the best thing to do for yourself and others - it's the "right" thing to do, but it does not "earn" a place in heaven because we can never be good enough. It's faith, that simple. Myself and millions of others have experienced "church hurt" which makes a lot of people walk away from their faith entirely or never attend church again. That choice is yours and if you do that, know that it doesn't change who you are, or what you believe. God doesn't take church attendance, so don't feel pressured. I hope that you find peace in whatever you decide.
omg i'm early!!
Bring Uncle Jimmy back!!!
😂 I can’t… it’s to much colonoscopies
time for a good cleanse and the best nap you've ever had crystal :)
Hey morgan, please look up how bad voluntourism can be. Suggesting stuff like going to another country to teach english to someone who has zero qualifications is not beneficial for those in the community and you person teaching. Other times like going to build things like houses are often taking those building jobs away from locals or volunteering at orphanages often affects the children more negatively than positive (and a lot of countries that offer volunteering at orphanage, the children there often times still have family who are alive and love them but were poor and were tricked into thinking giving their children up, hoping they'd have a better life, when the children are often used just for money and pictures. They are not taken care of other than the very bare needs or worse than what their parent was providing already)
You might be looking for the word Doubleganger
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2nd story: as a Muslim women islam though us that When a person dies, his deeds will cease except in three cases: -
- from a righteous son who invokes Allah for him, or
- an ongoing charity after his death, or
- knowledge that people benefit from.
I know you're not a Muslim but I want you to view this from this POV, don't judge your father for what he did but help him get to the afterlife through you're good deeds, i hope you feel better losing a parent is so hard 😢
Thank you for sharing. I'm glad I learned this today ❤️
Second story, Jesus died for ALL sins for those who have Jesus in their heart, also I highly recommend grief share, it's a group of people that share losses.
Controversial.... but the last story was similar to me and we did a non traditional wedding. I was no one's to really give away and my husband and I walked down together! He loved walking with me and seeing everyone as we walked down. It made for some super cute photos! I was afraid to walk down alone and I was so happy my life partner did it with me ❤
Awwwww check the new intro okayyyy
HELP! NEED IMMEDIATE HELP. Please can somebody contact me about my son I'm at a complete loss and took my mother's advice and got blindsided. My child was kidnapped by his other grandparents. I was struck by car. His mom has not had him alone more than 4 hours his whole life and I only agree to let him go if she at least had one or both parents around because of her situation they will not return him
Call FBI local office and local police
I thought this was father knows something . Not Morgan knows something.
To the OP who lost her father due to suicide - your dad succumbed to an illness. God's not going to hold that against him. [1 John 4:16 So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.]
People themselves ruin the name of Christianity but it is not Gods will for any of His children to go to hell. Suicide in Christianity is not an unforgivable sin. Yes, it is a sin, because it is self murder. But God’s grace and Jesus’s death covers that sin. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that if you commit suicide you are going to hell. The ONLY unforgivable sin is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit. It is so sad how people turn people off to God and to Christianity when really if they read the Bible for themselves they would find so much peace and healing.
To the person who lost their dad to su!cide: first, I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost my dad, in a different circumstance, and can attest that it is so hard to lose the first man you’ve loved. I also am a Christian who has STRUGGLED with mental health and have heard time and time again that su!cide is “selfish” and will send me to hell. But I don’t believe that. Unless you’ve been that deep, a person doesn’t understand the absolute depth and magnitude that mental illness can hold over a person. With that being said, while I am not pastor or have read the entire Bible cover to cover, upside down and all around, I believe the idea that those who have made the decision to leave this earth “go to hell” is an old fashioned thing that older generations have used as a way to scare people away from doing it. Rather than taking the time to truly understand to the best of their ability the deep emotions one feels when they get to that point, they get scared and use it as a quick way “stop” the person. I believe, a Christian, that there is only ONE thing that will completely separate a person from Him and Heaven: denying of who He is and what He’s done.
This is just my take. But again, I’m not an expert and just want to share a different Christian viewpoint. ❤
it’s my birthday and i’m super early🤌🏻. amazing way to start the day, thank you
Happy Birthday!!🎉
Happy birthday!!!
@@FatherKnowsSomething thank you so much! thank you for the great episode!
Have a great Birthday , Dad/Jerry
Hi First story!!!
I’m in the Navy! I would love to give you real advice about the navy! Just things you should really think about!!! 🤍