when i hear the news of people announcing a divorce, i know its been rocky for at least the last 5 years, people just don't break up all of a sudden it is a slow process... hope the best for her
I always say this. It seems “sudden” to people in the public but it’s been over at least 1 year. 5 years is a stretch…but the last 12 months was so rocky that it wasn’t worth it anymore
^ what do you mean love is not permanent? My love for my parents, siblings and pets will never go away...Whether they're on Earth or heaven, my love for them is for eternal/permanent. That's what love is...a spouse isn't and shouldn't be exempt from this love. If they are, that just means you got together with him/her for reasons that had nothing to do with love....such as being desperate, biological clock ticking, lust, finances, boredom, feeling forced, got knocked up, etc.
@@Uilani-g4m I could always see it in her face. I never bought it once I learned that she was married a few years ago. There's nothing in her eyes or smile for him nor their lives together
That’s why I don’t know why some people marry so soon. Maybe she wanted to have kids but that’s kinda puts a damper on your relationship if you don’t make it a priority. Most married couples I know become roommates and their kids become the main focus and they’re distant with their spouse. Then I know couples who dated 8-10 years who act like they’re still in the honeymoon stage and marry after that
so selfish,,,cash seems like a good dad...well i am married as well and have responsibilities to my children so who cares about date nights for now? so now jessica will be the next cougar ike demi 😂 ...jeeez these celebs...while cash is free can get hotter younger woman than her 🎉
It's never just that( the roommate issue), or maybe you don't even get there if you have high respect and the same goals and values, sometimes ones values or respect change.
When my ex-husband asked for a divorce after almost 6 years and one child, because of my upbringing it devastated me. But, a few years after our divorce, it hit me hard that I didn't miss my husband but I missed my friend.
If he married you and you all were together for 6 years I doubt the divorce had anything to do with your childhood. He knew what that was before you married, the marriage failed because someone or maybe both of you stopped working at it. Relationships need water just like flowers, it doesn’t end just because someone got down on one knee or you said I do. Gotta keep the spark alive
Having been with my husband for over 40 years, I agree with much of what Jessica is saying. The challenge is to stay together through the “roommate” phase if you really love each other, because life is long and things change constantly within a relationship/marriage. Making a family and keeping it together means keeping a lot of plates spinning in the air for years at a time, and the “US” part may need to go lower on the totem pole for a while out of sheer lack of time and energy, but it’s just a phase. Kids grow up, people mature and grow, priorities change again, and you turn a corner and you experience each other and your relationship in a new light. It’s not easy to find someone you like enough to spend your life with and create a family with, and can work through life’s problems with while still enjoying their company. If you have that, try to stick it out even though it feels like it will never change because you’ll value those things more and more as you go though life. Also, kids grow up and go off on their own. It’s really nice to have the person you created them with still there, feeling what you’re feeling, and sharing all those memories together while making new ones. Relationships can be renewed if love is there.
Sounds like we don’t know what happened and shouldn’t speculate. Divorce is one of the most stressful things I’ve ever been through and the judgements made it even more stressful.
@Lillypad-ix7sv I've been through it too. She said after a few years, you're basically just roomates, and they had goals to have date nights, but didn't follow through- her words. For myself, I'm now re-married, just celebrated 25 years anniversary, and we always made a point to keep our relationship #1 priority, and our son #2, because our foundation is his foundation.
The whole "meant to be" thing is such BS. They chose eachother, married and brought children into the world. They just didn't care enough to nurture or continue what they had. The meant to be part should be that they stay together and make it work. But they don't respect the sanctity of marriage
@@laremabella I guess it depends how you choose to look at things. For me my marriage ended horribly, but I got a wonderful son out of it. I believe we were meant to be together during our 20's, and we were meant to make a wonderful kid together. Other than that our relationship had run it's course, and we ended up as two different people. We wanted different things. Staying together would've been a nightmare.
All the people in the comments bragging about their long marriage: that’s fantastic for you…but it takes 2 to make a marriage work. What people don’t realize is that if you married a toxic person, no matter what you do to improve the relationship, it will not improve. So in some cases, divorce is better than staying in a terrible marriage. So, there’s not a one-size-fits-all solution to marriage. That’s a very naive view. We never know what a couple is really going through. It’s best not to judge a couple getting divorced.
Weird attack, people talking about their marriage are the ones to be listened to, not the singles. Those who know how to make a marriage work and have long lasting respect and care for each other are in the right to share how it can be realistically. Yes I agree if someone is Toxic like Jessica, who is notorious for being not just in her personal life but with friendships and work relationships, there should definitely be a line. But unfortunately it looks like after a year they didnt put in the work to make it last. Their wealth and freedom alone gives them the opportunity to take time away from their kids and work during the week and focus on their relationship. Just being roommates is something you figure out before marriage. It comes off as though they just didn't truly care much to begin with.
Yes I was surprized that how many people dont know how to emphasize with somebody's bad news.. most people are kind of relieved with their lives. That is bitter and sort of human nature. I dont like it
So even when you’re filthy rich, it’s still hard to hire a baby sitter and making time for your relationship? I mean even if making money is a priority, divorce makes you lose half your wealth so on a financial level, it’s a good financial decision to not be passive about your marriage.
Everyone in Hollywood isn't "filthy rich." Some of them have to take on regular jobs. Example Geoffrey Owens from the Cosby Show working at Trader Joes and Chris Trousdale (may he RIP) from the boy band Dreamstreet used to teach dance classes and work at a restaurant.
Date night doesn't fix a marriage. Learning to enjoy each other's company even if you're in a cupboard 😅😅 is key. My husband and I love communicating with each other... Conversations, looks, memes, texts.... Still feels like we're dating but we've been together for 25yrs.
@Thecutest_Giraffe Date night is strange. If u need external stimulation to help your relationship then that's problematic. Why can't people eat and chat at home ?.. It's free 😅
You stop feeling attracted to each other after 2 years but you still have 3 kids and stick it out 14 years? Is that normal or something unhinged, emotionally unhealthy people? That sounds wild to me
Yes, it is common. Some people move out and live separate lives over divorcing instead. Other People stay married because 1. They trust the person 2. Avoid starting over - running into the same thing. Comfortability 3. Losing money 4. They look good together - Aesthetics
I remember when one of my good friends got married to his girlfriend. He was so in love with her, and they were happy for a few years. The last time I saw him, he was really depressed and he said he felt like they were just roommates. It made me so sad for him. Then, three years ago, he died of Cancer! I was so heartbroken and sad.😢😢
Trust me it is! You might not fight and argue but becoming "roommates" kills your soul lil by lil. It happened to me and it crushed me and changed me in many ways. I waited 10 years to leave, what a mistake! But trust me it's a GREAT enough reason.
@KaylenApril agree. Long lasting marriages isn't the infatuation stage all the time. Life gets boring or routine and that shouldn't break up a marriage. It is quite an accomplishment when people last a life time and go through life (the good, boring, good) together. People these days especially Hollywood doesn't respect the institution. It is okay to be bored with your husband/wife, people need to step back and appreciate what they have and remember why they married the other person. However, if there is abuse of any kind or infidelity that should be the deal breaker. It is always sad to see a split in Hollywood or normal people.
First of all all adults who enter into marriage should know that Marriage is not always rosy as shown in movies it is a rose with thorns. So it has both moments. Because you both are living a life and lufe as everyone knows it is not always rosy there are sad sorrowful times fights and you have to go through it but the fruit of a marriage is really beautiful. That moral support each spouse provides for each other, the sacrifice each spouse make for the other spouse and the children and the acknowledgement of those sacrifices by the children and the other spouse helps you to understand the love of that marriage. Because the greatest love is sacrificial love its not only about the romance.
So what I took from that is that they let life (work, careers, etc.) get in the way of them trying. Marriage is a lot of work but you keep trying. We are going on 20 yrs and we have never felt like roommates and we still are crazy about each other. I feel sorry for those kids. I’ve heard from kids of divorced parents and for some reason they always feel they were to blame. When it has nothing to do with them.
@@ldv02 either two people like each other enough to want to spend time or they don’t. If it’s work, then it’s a drag. Like getting pregnant. If it becomes a chore, it’s a turn off.
My question is when you split up with your husband because of these reasons isn’t the same thing gonna happen with another partner? After the honeymoon period is over, You have to work at maintaining your relationship so this is bound to happen again right? I just don’t think it’s worth it to break up your family.
True. The time frame she mentioned is approximately the same time frame that most people return to their sense in a relationship (end of the honeymoonphase). I can't speak to their relationship specifically as we don't know the details. But marriage isn't meant to serve as an entertainment exercise. I understand when people get divorced due to infidelity and / or abuse, but situations like these sound like they could be salvaged.
Ok.....I am married since I was 20 and now I am 41...we are in love since I was 16😅....and still în love and best friends and our girls are in 21 and 13❤You have to want to live your life with someone until the end❤ She is so happy to tell her story....so sad😢
I don't know if I agree with the separate houses but definitely space whether time apart or physically... Him being out of the house for work or her going to see family ... Being around someone all the time can be suffocating
It can happen. I was married for 22 years. My husband was a workaholic, and I worked full time, but it always seemed like he didn't have time for me, and we ended up getting divorced when our youngest was a senior in high school. I told him we were to be growing older together. So sad that this happened to these two.
The other one need to worry about her own cheating husband who ditched his first wife for a younger more popping version as soon as his career took of then was reportedly flirting with a waitress not too shortly after their wedding. She basically married her father so good luck with that.
WHY would WE have to KNOW this about their relationship? People meet fall in love,get married,have kids or not . I DOUBT if folks have their weddings & think : I'LL GIVE IT ABOUT 3-5 YEARS. They have kids including a 16 year old daughter.I HOPE they keep their grievances to themselves NOT US & KEEP THE KIDDIES,HAPPY.
Its unfortunate that they couldn’t go the distance. When I look at my parents they were married for 61 years before my dad passed. They were truly in sync and not everyone can really work at it. I saw my parents want the marriage and to each other.
These comments everyone is making are atrocious. All of you weren’t there. You don’t know them. They are going through a painful time. Be respectful and let their family have some time to process, grieve, heal, and move on. You side chair analysis folks need to mind your business and let this family be.
it was spoken about YEARS ago that she was like this. that line of saying that " after two years, it's like we were roommates "...dude, i would've been gone so quick because you can feel that feeling coming on six months to a year before that happens
It went downhill early in their marriage when she criticize that she is the main bread winner and he wasnt man enough in front of their close friends. Im surprised it carried on this long
This is why you have to marry your best friend who likes to just spend time with you and do things with you outside of being just parents and sleeping in the same bed.
I'm sad to see them getting divorced, but I suppose it's not that shocking. It's imperative to make your spouse a priority, something she admits to not doing. It seems difficult to be married to someone who is so busy. During their marriage, Alba acted in movies and tv shows, modeled, did endorsements, attended hundreds (if not thousands) of events, ran a multimillion dollar company, wrote books, did tons of magazine and tv interviews, spoke at conferences, maintained a very busy social media presence, AND was an active mom of three (and who knows what else). God bless her! I was really hoping she and Cash were going to make it. Best of luck to them and their kids.
Prince Philip was broke and essentially homeless when he met Queen Elizabeth, but he was special. Their plan was she was the Queen, but he was in charge at home. He was in charge of the children and their education, and of course he supported the Queen. If they can pull it off there’s no reason why others can’t. There’s no reason for one to dominate even if she makes the most money. I always respected the way they handled it.
Thats really sad, they always looked like the perfect family. I just feel so blessed that after almost 20 years of marriage my husband and I are more in love than ever. We had a rough patch the first few years of our relationship as we are two very different personalities, but we always worked on our marriage, date nights and quality time together was a priority in our busy lives. As we grew with each other so did our love for each-other. Now we are proud parents to three beautiful children and I thank god everyday for my family, my greatest blessing.
Have they tried counseling ? After being together for over a decade, that is sad news. She seems very honest about the short comings, however, what does he think ?
thats marriage! what did she expect?? its insane that ppl think these movie thrillers abt couples are real life,marriage is supposed to be boring but peaceful,if you want craziness you ll get exhausted
You have to "work " to get out of the friend zone when your children are leaving the nest. There's nothing better out there for you or your children. What about the Vows you took?
I hope they figure it out. Their divorcing would be kind of pointless and dumb when they could have a glass of wine and share a nice shag every ten months or so and muddle through the rest. Silly culture making people divorce.
Devil is a liar attacking the family so many divorces now days what a beautiful family. Have been married for 17 yrs now married is hard it takes work and patience u go through different seasons. But it's a very beautiful thing to have someone on your side to go through challenges of life and to raise a family with
My parents were married 70 years and raised three kids. My mom was an educated RN and worked in OR. Right before she gave birth to their first child she quit. She was a full time homemaker, wife and mother. She love it and that’s what she wanted. When my dad would come home from work she would immediately go greet him and they would kiss and hug. I miss them everyday.
No one can say why other people get divorced. But having kids is undeniably damaging to marriages, and the most loving relationships can falter under the strain. People need to be prepared for the serious consequences of having kids on their marriage.
@@fritzdeucesi have heard people say that because once they have kids, the partner it’s no longer a priority, everything becomes about the kids, they even love their kids more then their spouse, and it shouldn’t be like that, it should be 1. Spouse 2. Kids, i remember my cousin when she had her daughter she mentioned how her husband will come back from a trip or something and he will only bring gifts for the little girl and NOT for his wife, she will cry all the time telling me things like this.
@ I wouldn't be jealous if my partner put our kids first. I think that's the way it should be. The "self" has to go once you have family. Thanks for the explaining tho.
Some marriage Last forever and others don’t and it’s OK. You tried don’t work. It’s time to move on because you can’t be in a marriage and if both of you don’t make it work if you both don’t want it and it seems like they both tried and it just doesn’t work. I wish her and her husband the best of luck!!
He ?? She lost more. 45 and kids, she may get a divorcee in his 50s or 60s. Or maybe she will pursue lusty Hollywood situationship and become a serial concubine for men. It’s sad.
"Roomates"? If that is her biggest reason for divorce then I would say she just doesn't want to work at the marriage...Seriously..A marriage counselor would be like, "That's it?" That is why you are divorcing him?
They broke before she knew she was pregnant with honor. She was upset that she could not get him to marry her after several years together, she was upset all her friends where getting married and her Jessica Alba was not. That relationship never was organic it was forced and thats why it ended
Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him*
Aawhhh too bad. My parents are also like roommates. Nowadays they even sleep in seperate bedrooms. But they are past their 60s and have known eachother since kindergarten. I don’t think I would stay, but they don’t want to move on 🙈
She’s famous and a celebrity. He doesn’t want to be. She had a multi billion dollar company and now is returning to acting. She wants her career which is okay. They just fell out of love. People are forget how young they were when they met. They both didn’t put enough into their marriage and grew apart
There are billions of people on the planet. It is unrealistic to think we will all have the same experience in marriage and be together for a lifetime. It is ok, to be together for a season, reason or a lifetime.
Ummm.... That's so stupid. Of course there will be times when you feel like roommates , checking in the boxes when you have three kids. Then the kids grow up leave home and you have a best friend to grow old with. I mean seriously
its amazing they lasted this long, she was the high earning one. could you imagine her attitude and his feelings of inadequacy??? ppl snickering that she worked to start a company now valued at over 600 million dollars while he was a house husband who only spent her money? she was the man in the relationship and he was having multiple side entertainments to give him a sense of usefulness. i'm sure she encountered several high functioning billionaires who made her feel extremely feminine as founder of the Honest Company
What on Earth do you mean? He was extremely wealthy and far wealthier than she was when they married. She is also not personally worth $600m and nor does she own the company. Do just a little research, please.
@@Jessica-xx7ntwhen they married he was wealthier but now she has more than him even If she's not worth 600m, with their lavish lifestyle and 3 kids she probably was the breadwinner at this point in their life
Watch the video lol, she didn't once mention that. Sounds like they fell out of love.
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@ when did she fell out of love in those 16 years? I wonder. I mean they had a family and everything but not she fell out of love? Bizarre to say the least.
Well that sucks… all the money and the game but can’t find time for each other… well … pointless working in that case. You work to maintain your family… except there’s no more family now 🤷🏻♀️ they just gave up …
when i hear the news of people announcing a divorce, i know its been rocky for at least the last 5 years, people just don't break up all of a sudden it is a slow process... hope the best for her
I always say this. It seems “sudden” to people in the public but it’s been over at least 1 year. 5 years is a stretch…but the last 12 months was so rocky that it wasn’t worth it anymore
What about wishing the best for him too ? 😂
That’s rough and so sad….I’m so glad after 25years we ( my husband and I) still can’t get enough of each other!
That beautiful ❤❤ for you but know love is not permanent forever make use of that time that beautiful ❤
^ what do you mean love is not permanent?
My love for my parents, siblings and pets will never go away...Whether they're on Earth or heaven, my love for them is for eternal/permanent.
That's what love is...a spouse isn't and shouldn't be exempt from this love.
If they are, that just means you got together with him/her for reasons that had nothing to do with love....such as being desperate, biological clock ticking, lust, finances, boredom, feeling forced, got knocked up, etc.
@TatendaChikowore-df6xv love is exactly that, love is eternal
lucky you, enjoy it!
@alexialira3839 I agree with your every words. You must believe in God, to know that truth.😮 You're amazing!❤
i feel like her saying that after only 2 years, they lost their spark says it all
But more sad that she kept up the facade of being happily married for over a decade. Must be tiring trying to hold up the collapsing facade
@@Uilani-g4m I could always see it in her face. I never bought it once I learned that she was married a few years ago. There's nothing in her eyes or smile for him nor their lives together
I think she meant after their last child.
That’s why I don’t know why some people marry so soon. Maybe she wanted to have kids but that’s kinda puts a damper on your relationship if you don’t make it a priority. Most married couples I know become roommates and their kids become the main focus and they’re distant with their spouse. Then I know couples who dated 8-10 years who act like they’re still in the honeymoon stage and marry after that
so selfish,,,cash seems like a good dad...well i am married as well and have responsibilities to my children so who cares about date nights for now? so now jessica will be the next cougar
ike demi 😂 ...jeeez these celebs...while cash is free can get hotter younger woman than her 🎉
You have to be intentional to make your marriage work
I would agree, unless something monumental occurs, and it breaks.
It’s obvious Jessica was not intentional…she is definitely checked out…
@@citygirlingrahamI think so too. I feel she just gave up.
It's never just that( the roommate issue), or maybe you don't even get there if you have high respect and the same goals and values, sometimes ones values or respect change.
When my ex-husband asked for a divorce after almost 6 years and one child, because of my upbringing it devastated me. But, a few years after our divorce, it hit me hard that I didn't miss my husband but I missed my friend.
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If he married you and you all were together for 6 years I doubt the divorce had anything to do with your childhood. He knew what that was before you married, the marriage failed because someone or maybe both of you stopped working at it. Relationships need water just like flowers, it doesn’t end just because someone got down on one knee or you said I do. Gotta keep the spark alive
Having been with my husband for over 40 years, I agree with much of what Jessica is saying. The challenge is to stay together through the “roommate” phase if you really love each other, because life is long and things change constantly within a relationship/marriage. Making a family and keeping it together means keeping a lot of plates spinning in the air for years at a time, and the “US” part may need to go lower on the totem pole for a while out of sheer lack of time and energy, but it’s just a phase. Kids grow up, people mature and grow, priorities change again, and you turn a corner and you experience each other and your relationship in a new light. It’s not easy to find someone you like enough to spend your life with and create a family with, and can work through life’s problems with while still enjoying their company. If you have that, try to stick it out even though it feels like it will never change because you’ll value those things more and more as you go though life.
Also, kids grow up and go off on their own. It’s really nice to have the person you created them with still there, feeling what you’re feeling, and sharing all those memories together while making new ones. Relationships can be renewed if love is there.
Yup, and one of the secrets to a long and lasting marriage is to be able to communicate and resolve issues.
Very well said!
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People don't sacrifice in western countries. Life is not a bed of roses but you make it work. Thank God! I am not born in a western country.😝
@@nha3920 Unfortunately, this is true.
Sounds like they made a decision to not put their marriage first, and it deteriorated
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Sounds like we don’t know what happened and shouldn’t speculate. Divorce is one of the most stressful things I’ve ever been through and the judgements made it even more stressful.
@Lillypad-ix7sv I've been through it too. She said after a few years, you're basically just roomates, and they had goals to have date nights, but didn't follow through- her words. For myself, I'm now re-married, just celebrated 25 years anniversary, and we always made a point to keep our relationship #1 priority, and our son #2, because our foundation is his foundation.
@@Lillypad-ix7sv You don't like the "speculation" - don't watch
Some relationships just run their course. You were meant to be together for a reason, but maybe not meant to be together forever.
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The whole "meant to be" thing is such BS. They chose eachother, married and brought children into the world. They just didn't care enough to nurture or continue what they had. The meant to be part should be that they stay together and make it work. But they don't respect the sanctity of marriage
@@laremabella I guess it depends how you choose to look at things. For me my marriage ended horribly, but I got a wonderful son out of it. I believe we were meant to be together during our 20's, and we were meant to make a wonderful kid together. Other than that our relationship had run it's course, and we ended up as two different people. We wanted different things. Staying together would've been a nightmare.
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Been with my husband 21 years and married 18 years, no marriage is perfect but love and respect is the key.
All the people in the comments bragging about their long marriage: that’s fantastic for you…but it takes 2 to make a marriage work. What people don’t realize is that if you married a toxic person, no matter what you do to improve the relationship, it will not improve. So in some cases, divorce is better than staying in a terrible marriage. So, there’s not a one-size-fits-all solution to marriage. That’s a very naive view. We never know what a couple is really going through. It’s best not to judge a couple getting divorced.
Weird attack, people talking about their marriage are the ones to be listened to, not the singles. Those who know how to make a marriage work and have long lasting respect and care for each other are in the right to share how it can be realistically. Yes I agree if someone is Toxic like Jessica, who is notorious for being not just in her personal life but with friendships and work relationships, there should definitely be a line. But unfortunately it looks like after a year they didnt put in the work to make it last. Their wealth and freedom alone gives them the opportunity to take time away from their kids and work during the week and focus on their relationship. Just being roommates is something you figure out before marriage. It comes off as though they just didn't truly care much to begin with.
Yes I was surprized that how many people dont know how to emphasize with somebody's bad news.. most people are kind of relieved with their lives.
That is bitter and sort of human nature. I dont like it
Sometimes people drift apart 😞
So even when you’re filthy rich, it’s still hard to hire a baby sitter and making time for your relationship? I mean even if making money is a priority, divorce makes you lose half your wealth so on a financial level, it’s a good financial decision to not be passive about your marriage.
Do you know how many of affairs happen due to baby sitters
@@samia6888Affairs happen either way , always.
Everyone in Hollywood isn't "filthy rich." Some of them have to take on regular jobs. Example Geoffrey Owens from the Cosby Show working at Trader Joes and Chris Trousdale (may he RIP) from the boy band Dreamstreet used to teach dance classes and work at a restaurant.
@@kaylawaters2691yes but Jessica runs a company that’s made her almost a billionaire. In this case, they can afford a babysitter and have date nights.
@@JamminOnThe1 No my Dad had an affair with our babysitter. Mom and Dad almost divorced. They broke up for a little bit but back together now.
Date night doesn't fix a marriage. Learning to enjoy each other's company even if you're in a cupboard 😅😅 is key. My husband and I love communicating with each other... Conversations, looks, memes, texts.... Still feels like we're dating but we've been together for 25yrs.
I'm glad someone finally said it. Date night is the quick fix everyone thinks it is.
@Thecutest_Giraffe Date night is strange. If u need external stimulation to help your relationship then that's problematic. Why can't people eat and chat at home ?.. It's free 😅
You stop feeling attracted to each other after 2 years but you still have 3 kids and stick it out 14 years? Is that normal or something unhinged, emotionally unhealthy people? That sounds wild to me
Its actually more common than you think. Ppl hang on bc its easier than starting over with someone new. It's a comfortable rut.
Some people.dont wanr different babydads and want more rhan 1nchild.
That's choosing to miserable and placing children in the midst of it@beberivera7011
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Yes, it is common.
Some people move out and live separate lives over divorcing instead.
Other People stay married because
1. They trust the person
2. Avoid starting over - running into the same thing. Comfortability
3. Losing money
4. They look good together - Aesthetics
I remember when one of my good friends got married to his girlfriend. He was so in love with her, and they were happy for a few years. The last time I saw him, he was really depressed and he said he felt like they were just roommates. It made me so sad for him. Then, three years ago, he died of Cancer! I was so heartbroken and sad.😢😢
Some people out grow each other
That is not a good enough reason to end your marriage.
Trust me it is! You might not fight and argue but becoming "roommates" kills your soul lil by lil. It happened to me and it crushed me and changed me in many ways. I waited 10 years to leave, what a mistake! But trust me it's a GREAT enough reason.
@loveplurlovemolly ❤️thanks for the insight.
@KaylenApril agree. Long lasting marriages isn't the infatuation stage all the time. Life gets boring or routine and that shouldn't break up a marriage. It is quite an accomplishment when people last a life time and go through life (the good, boring, good) together. People these days especially Hollywood doesn't respect the institution. It is okay to be bored with your husband/wife, people need to step back and appreciate what they have and remember why they married the other person. However, if there is abuse of any kind or infidelity that should be the deal breaker. It is always sad to see a split in Hollywood or normal people.
@@LNatureblushI totally agree and very well said!
First of all all adults who enter into marriage should know that Marriage is not always rosy as shown in movies it is a rose with thorns. So it has both moments. Because you both are living a life and lufe as everyone knows it is not always rosy there are sad sorrowful times fights and you have to go through it but the fruit of a marriage is really beautiful. That moral support each spouse provides for each other, the sacrifice each spouse make for the other spouse and the children and the acknowledgement of those sacrifices by the children and the other spouse helps you to understand the love of that marriage. Because the greatest love is sacrificial love its not only about the romance.
Well stated 👏
Exactly and very well said! Things are never always smooth sailing. You need to work at it.
So what I took from that is that they let life (work, careers, etc.) get in the way of them trying. Marriage is a lot of work but you keep trying. We are going on 20 yrs and we have never felt like roommates and we still are crazy about each other. I feel sorry for those kids. I’ve heard from kids of divorced parents and for some reason they always feel they were to blame. When it has nothing to do with them.
I think it’s luck really. Just the luck of the draw.
@ not really, is like everything, work and commitment
@@ldv02 either two people like each other enough to want to spend time or they don’t. If it’s work, then it’s a drag. Like getting pregnant. If it becomes a chore, it’s a turn off.
My question is when you split up with your husband because of these reasons isn’t the same thing gonna happen with another partner? After the honeymoon period is over, You have to work at maintaining your relationship so this is bound to happen again right? I just don’t think it’s worth it to break up your family.
True. The time frame she mentioned is approximately the same time frame that most people return to their sense in a relationship (end of the honeymoonphase). I can't speak to their relationship specifically as we don't know the details. But marriage isn't meant to serve as an entertainment exercise. I understand when people get divorced due to infidelity and / or abuse, but situations like these sound like they could be salvaged.
Good point
She Will soon regret leaving this good man...!!!
I agree and they will just go through the same pattern again with a new partner. People like that are better off single.
Marriages change over the years. Of course it’s not gonna be that honeymoon feel. 2.5 years they still put out kids beyond that.
Ok.....I am married since I was 20 and now I am 41...we are in love since I was 16😅....and still în love and best friends and our girls are in 21 and 13❤You have to want to live your life with someone until the end❤
She is so happy to tell her story....so sad😢
congrats, your the top 1% , wish more people like your relationship
Very sad it's not something you wanna brag about but she looks happy for it to be over smh like that was almost 2 decades of yall life smdh
Such a blessing!! Good for you and your hubby ❤❤
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And?? Good for you? r
Separate houses is a must for marriages. Living together is what breaks most marriages apart.
What’s the point of a marriage then?
@ramireztiffanyc9982 you can still love eachother and support eachother without being up under eachother 24/7.
So what the kids go from house to house back and fourth? lol That's like a divorce couple so what is the point?
Do you also not live with your children? lol 😂
I don't know if I agree with the separate houses but definitely space whether time apart or physically... Him being out of the house for work or her going to see family ... Being around someone all the time can be suffocating
If my wife went on a podcast describing our marriage the way she did I'd be mortified, and furious.
Maybe that’s what happened.
I agree and if I were a man and wife did that, I would be very angry.
It can happen. I was married for 22 years. My husband was a workaholic, and I worked full time, but it always seemed like he didn't have time for me, and we ended up getting divorced when our youngest was a senior in high school. I told him we were to be growing older together. So sad that this happened to these two.
Well duh if he's a workaholic and you are also working full time. It's safe to say you BOTH DIDNT HAVE TIME FOR EACH OTHER
Work is important, but no one works 24/7. You always make time for each other.
So disrespectful towards her husband...and the other one laughs about it....this is the state of the society in the US
The other one need to worry about her own cheating husband who ditched his first wife for a younger more popping version as soon as his career took of then was reportedly flirting with a waitress not too shortly after their wedding. She basically married her father so good luck with that.
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I agree and once anyone starts to disrespect their partner, it is time to go.
WHY would WE have to KNOW this about their relationship? People meet fall in love,get married,have kids or not . I DOUBT if folks have their weddings & think : I'LL GIVE IT ABOUT 3-5 YEARS. They have kids including a 16 year old daughter.I HOPE they keep their grievances to themselves NOT US & KEEP THE KIDDIES,HAPPY.
She just put it more friendly Cash was just unfaithfull
It’s called becoming complacent!
Its unfortunate that they couldn’t go the distance. When I look at my parents they were married for 61 years before my dad passed. They were truly in sync and not everyone can really work at it. I saw my parents want the marriage and to each other.
Exactly and my sister in law’s parents have been happily married for 62 and going on 63 years now. They want to spend their next life together too.
These comments everyone is making are atrocious. All of you weren’t there. You don’t know them. They are going through a painful time. Be respectful and let their family have some time to process, grieve, heal, and move on. You side chair analysis folks need to mind your business and let this family be.
She’s so full of herself I’m surprised it lasted that long
……Welcome to L.A. narcissism! 🤷🏼♂️
her oldest daughter is worse than mom
it was spoken about YEARS ago that she was like this. that line of saying that " after two years, it's like we were roommates "...dude, i would've been gone so quick because you can feel that feeling coming on six months to a year before that happens
I had no idea you knew her personally
@@eddieg6436 don't do that.
It went downhill early in their marriage when she criticize that she is the main bread winner and he wasnt man enough in front of their close friends. Im surprised it carried on this long
Wow that must be so embarassing for any men, not the kind of stuff to talk with friends lol
This is why you have to marry your best friend who likes to just spend time with you and do things with you outside of being just parents and sleeping in the same bed.
I find that so true and noticed that couples who are happy are also best friends too.
I'm sad to see them getting divorced, but I suppose it's not that shocking. It's imperative to make your spouse a priority, something she admits to not doing. It seems difficult to be married to someone who is so busy. During their marriage, Alba acted in movies and tv shows, modeled, did endorsements, attended hundreds (if not thousands) of events, ran a multimillion dollar company, wrote books, did tons of magazine and tv interviews, spoke at conferences, maintained a very busy social media presence, AND was an active mom of three (and who knows what else). God bless her! I was really hoping she and Cash were going to make it. Best of luck to them and their kids.
I guess sticking it out for better or for worse is a thing of the past. Should be for better or until I get bored. 🤷🏻♀️
Don't do that
So true and these days people divorce over the pettiest reasons.
Prince Philip was broke and essentially homeless when he met Queen Elizabeth, but he was special. Their plan was she was the Queen, but he was in charge at home. He was in charge of the children and their education, and of course he supported the Queen. If they can pull it off there’s no reason why others can’t. There’s no reason for one to dominate even if she makes the most money. I always respected the way they handled it.
Thats really sad, they always looked like the perfect family. I just feel so blessed that after almost 20 years of marriage my husband and I are more in love than ever. We had a rough patch the first few years of our relationship as we are two very different personalities, but we always worked on our marriage, date nights and quality time together was a priority in our busy lives. As we grew with each other so did our love for each-other. Now we are proud parents to three beautiful children and I thank god everyday for my family, my greatest blessing.
Have they tried counseling ? After being together for over a decade, that is sad news. She seems very honest about the short comings, however, what does he think ?
I hope they at least went to a marriage therapist before calling it quits. Roomates or not, they worked well together to create a beautiful family.
Marriage is work n9 matter how many years
I am so sad about their break up. I loved them together
thats marriage! what did she expect?? its insane that ppl think these movie thrillers abt couples are real life,marriage is supposed to be boring but peaceful,if you want craziness you ll get exhausted
You have to "work " to get out of the friend zone when your children are leaving the nest. There's nothing better out there for you or your children. What about the Vows you took?
I hope they figure it out. Their divorcing would be kind of pointless and dumb when they could have a glass of wine and share a nice shag every ten months or so and muddle through the rest. Silly culture making people divorce.
Devil is a liar attacking the family so many divorces now days what a beautiful family.
Have been married for 17 yrs now married is hard it takes work and patience u go through different seasons.
But it's a very beautiful thing to have someone on your side to go through challenges of life and to raise a family with
when you live together you are roommates.
So true!
My parents were married 70 years and raised three kids. My mom was an educated RN and worked in OR. Right before she gave birth to their first child she quit. She was a full time homemaker, wife and mother. She love it and that’s what she wanted. When my dad would come home from work she would immediately go greet him and they would kiss and hug. I miss them everyday.
Thats so cool
Thank you for honesty.
That does happen unfortunately. 😢
Poor kids involved. We women are responsible for the men we choose. Period.
No one can say why other people get divorced. But having kids is undeniably damaging to marriages, and the most loving relationships can falter under the strain. People need to be prepared for the serious consequences of having kids on their marriage.
How do kids cause breakups? Explain..
@@fritzdeucesi have heard people say that because once they have kids, the partner it’s no longer a priority, everything becomes about the kids, they even love their kids more then their spouse, and it shouldn’t be like that, it should be 1. Spouse 2. Kids, i remember my cousin when she had her daughter she mentioned how her husband will come back from a trip or something and he will only bring gifts for the little girl and NOT for his wife, she will cry all the time telling me things like this.
@@fritzdeucesIt causes a lot of stress and strain. If one partner does most of the work then it causes even more issues.
@ I wouldn't be jealous if my partner put our kids first. I think that's the way it should be. The "self" has to go once you have family. Thanks for the explaining tho.
i can absolutely agree, relate as it exactly happened to me and my past EX GF, we share 2 young daughters, 7 years together at the time.
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It's truly sad and the truth will come out later. Just like the Hugh Jackman and his lovely wife 😢😢😢😢
why people want to tell their broken marriage in public?
I’ve waited 20 years. I finally have my chance
I heard many times that she didn't respect him. The big mistake in woman is to think that they can change their men and make them better.
Not me 21 years with my husband and we still super hot for each other.
Wow, props to her for opening up and being honest. Marriage is not easy.
Nope I been in relationship for 10 yrs it's about both growing and taking care of eachother and hold a level of respect.
From what she is saying, I can honestly see that she was a difficult person/spouse to live with.
That’s so sad. They were together for so long!
How sad to become roommates and get bored 😞
I don't know...boring is good...what else is there?
I'm at 20 years and he definitely isn't my room mate! You can love your spouse MORE as time goes on - you do need Jesus at the center of t though.
Yes and that is how it should be but sadly many go the opposite direction.
I guess Jessica Alba is not the exception. We eventually become roommates with our spouses.
So sad 😢. Wishing them both the best
Well, they are human. Love is an action and must be met balanced between the two putting effort.
Some marriage Last forever and others don’t and it’s OK. You tried don’t work. It’s time to move on because you can’t be in a marriage and if both of you don’t make it work if you both don’t want it and it seems like they both tried and it just doesn’t work. I wish her and her husband the best of luck!!
After 8 years relationship I know the feeling. I just left because he and I were acting like roommates than a couple
If I married Jessica Alba, I'd want to be more than roommates!
I feel that way about Cash, lol
We all thought this was one of the strongest marriages in Hollywood yet it was already over after just 2 years.
HE LOST A GOOD WOMAN. ITS TIME FOR ME TO UPDATE MY APPLICATION AND RESUME IM TALKING ABOUT JESSICA ALBA.
He ?? She lost more.
45 and kids, she may get a divorcee in his 50s or 60s. Or maybe she will pursue lusty Hollywood situationship and become a serial concubine for men. It’s sad.
@fhdjkekoj WHY WOULD YOU LEAVE JESSICA ALBA ARE YOU CRAZY.
@fhdjkekoj he’s no young buck either.
She lost a good man
@@snsn7251 I bet he cheated. Stuff will come out.
Handsome guy. He’ll be engaged again next month with a woman half his age. 😂
If he dyes his hair and gets rid of the gray 😅.
"Roomates"? If that is her biggest reason for divorce then I would say she just doesn't want to work at the marriage...Seriously..A marriage counselor would be like, "That's it?" That is why you are divorcing him?
They broke before she knew she was pregnant with honor. She was upset that she could not get him to marry her after several years together, she was upset all her friends where getting married and her Jessica Alba was not. That relationship never was organic it was forced and thats why it ended
That explains she rarely smiles😂
He probably put up with a lot. Good thing they waited until their kids are grown. Now she can start her new exciting life. Her kids had to adjust.
so true, love the honestly.
This is sad.
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It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him*
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
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I hope she finds happiness and the spark that she is looking for❤
Everyone has been waiting out that marriage. It's me. Call me Jess!!
Going on 3 years of my marriage and it doesn't feel like we're roomates and my husband works from home.
A man needs to make more money and pay for most of the bills. While the woman focuses more on the kids etc. Then the marriage will work.
Aawhhh too bad. My parents are also like roommates. Nowadays they even sleep in seperate bedrooms. But they are past their 60s and have known eachother since kindergarten. I don’t think I would stay, but they don’t want to move on 🙈
She’s famous and a celebrity. He doesn’t want to be. She had a multi billion dollar company and now is returning to acting. She wants her career which is okay. They just fell out of love. People are forget how young they were when they met. They both didn’t put enough into their marriage and grew apart
There are billions of people on the planet. It is unrealistic to think we will all have the same experience in marriage and be together for a lifetime. It is ok, to be together for a season, reason or a lifetime.
Jessica Alba still beautiful and deserves love. But divorce hurts. Good luck. 😮
Ummm.... That's so stupid. Of course there will be times when you feel like roommates , checking in the boxes when you have three kids. Then the kids grow up leave home and you have a best friend to grow old with. I mean seriously
Mrs. Pratt seems a very patient person.
Their poor kids 😞
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its amazing they lasted this long, she was the high earning one. could you imagine her attitude and his feelings of inadequacy??? ppl snickering that she worked to start a company now valued at over 600 million dollars while he was a house husband who only spent her money? she was the man in the relationship and he was having multiple side entertainments to give him a sense of usefulness. i'm sure she encountered several high functioning billionaires who made her feel extremely feminine as founder of the Honest Company
He also cheated on her, multiple times...
What on Earth do you mean? He was extremely wealthy and far wealthier than she was when they married. She is also not personally worth $600m and nor does she own the company. Do just a little research, please.
Don't believe anything
@@Jessica-xx7ntwhen they married he was wealthier but now she has more than him even If she's not worth 600m, with their lavish lifestyle and 3 kids she probably was the breadwinner at this point in their life
Infidelity maybe? Idk.
Watch the video lol, she didn't once mention that. Sounds like they fell out of love.
@ when did she fell out of love in those 16 years? I wonder. I mean they had a family and everything but not she fell out of love? Bizarre to say the least.
She said they are like roommates and acquaintances not like husband and wife anymore
She gives of narcissist vibe.
That is what I get from her too.
Well that sucks… all the money and the game but can’t find time for each other… well … pointless working in that case. You work to maintain your family… except there’s no more family now 🤷🏻♀️ they just gave up …
Why is ks smiling after that…losing interest in each other after 2.5 years is just sad.
She already has someone else in mind.
Uh-oh, who cheated on you, Charles?
@alianaweston2286 We just know how Women are (not all of course 😁😁)
Trevor noah.
"You Know I Still Love You Mamma..."Oh Her ....Yes Ms. Anniston-Sign Up-Laroquete-Didnt Say The Hand-In His Office.
I hope they work it out❤
She has that vocal fry going on in her voice…not as bad as the Kardashians…but it’s there…
That’s how most married people feel.
They always talk about the 7 yr itch but they never talk about the 3 yr snooze. It’s also hard to juggle a marriage several kids and a career