Ronghui Mr.Ye I do literally nothing all day long then I feel so useless but I repeat it every single day I don't know what to do with my life. I don't feel like continue studying or getting a job. I just wanna sleep and cry
Same, i have zero friends. I Iive with my parents. I go to work, eat, sleep, watch tv with my mom and play a bit of videogames and cry.Rinse and repeat. And gay aswell. Bullied on school, so no friends. 32 years old now. I wanna commit suicide, but i dont wanna hurt my parents, only 2 persons i have. But the day will come when they are gone, and im so scared for that day #foreveralone
This is so wired I never felt more like somebody in my life. But I feel like you are living the exact same life as me and it's scary how similar we are. Just watching you break down from depression, then two minutes later actually smiling as if it never happened I get like that and I use to feel slow because of it but now I understand myself better thanks to you. Having the courage to speak up about your life and what challenges you face is so appreciated. Keep doing what you're doing man I feel this is huge stepping stone in your life just by sharing your own experiences with he world, I believe you're going to gain much more than friends just you wait and see. Thanks again for sharing friend! :)
For the first time I think I met someone that knows exactly how it feels to be lonely and have no friends, and also feeling that it wil never change, everyday off my life.
I cried when I watched this video because I can definitely relate to you. I have no friends, I am a loner but I have a boyfriend which lives from another country A.K.A long distance relationship. Every time I see his pictures on facebook with his friends, partying, looking so happy, I feel left out,annoying to him, my depression then strikes. It sucks. I don't really recommend being in a relationship when you have this kind of issues that i have because it will only make you feel worse of yourself.
I'm lonely too and sometimes I feel like a loser but I have been working on improving my self - esteem and it is working. You have to love yourself before you can expect someone else to do it for you.
Kenneth, watched this vid of yours. You're never alone as I'm with you. You have more inside than most people I know. Keep up with your life, work, youtube :) !!
I started crying with him. I had an exactly same day today. I woke up at 6:00am, and i just ate, slept, and watched youtube and anime all day...i feel useless and guilty for no reason...i feel like you every day and i wish i could change this
It takes a lot of guts to tell people on social media that your lonely..I too go through the same thing..I can make friends but can't keep them..also been dealing with it since I was a kid. It's imbarassing for me to share that about myself..so I keep it hidden..and pretend I don't go through it..but some people can see straight through me.😞
Hey Kenneth, I know you probably get a tone of messages on here and probably don't have a chance to read them all but I thought I'd reach out to you anyway. I've been feeling extremely lonely and depressed lately and I've found your videos soothing. You help me understand that I'm not alone in the way that I'm feeling and you help comfort my feelings of loneliness. You're truly an inspiration to me! Keep doing what you're doing. The lonely people, aka me, will be watching!
I genuinely appreciate you being so open and honest with us, I just came across your videos. I typed in “I never leave my house” or something like that . The way you describe your feelings of loneliness, isolation, and being excited about even the smallest human interactions resonates with me so fucking much. I needed this, I was having an anxiety attack thinking about all of this time I’ve wasted doing what seems like nothing but worrying and feeling left out because I have absolutely no close friends other than ppl I talk to online which I’ve lost apt of interest in. The internet almost makes me feel lonelier... I have so much I’d like to talk about with you if you’d like to give me a chance... keeping pushing, keep finding something to grasp onto. If it makes you feel naturally good/happy then it absolutely matters and I have to remind myself that often
Hey, I experience the same issues with social anxiety. I was at one point a borderline agoraphobic and when I was still living with my mom I never left the house unless it was with her. I was always told that in order to get over my fear of people and social situations I had to expose myself to them more and more, progressively. I got fed up with being so socially isolated that I decided to quit school and work full time in customer service. I figured there was no better way to expose myself than by working with the public - surrounded by people on a daily basis. Eventually I moved out on my own and because of that I was forced to continue working in order to support myself. I usually found myself in jobs requiring a lot of interaction with people. I will admit that the exposure did help by heightening my tolerance of social situations, absolutely. And I did make friends along the way. I partied quite a bit for about 3 years. The thing is, at this present moment in time - I have never felt more alone. I've gone through all the measures in order to be a more sociable person but ultimately I pushed myself to a point that I was so severely stressed I lost the ability to genuinely connect with those around me. I guess what I'm trying to say is that going out and living this fun, party filled lifestyle isn't a guarantee of friendship. In fact I think it only pushed me further away from genuine connection. Just a thought.
Man, I just ran across your channel! I've never felt so lonely in all my life! I have people around me, but no friends! I tried to get some coworkers together to go to a movie or something and everyone canceled.. I told myself I was going to go to a movie by myself but I didn't. I just, don't know what to do. I wish I could be a rebel! Someone told me the other day that I follow the rules all the time! I haven't been eating much, nor anything! Literally laid in bed for the past three days in the dark (took showers)! I just.. don't know how to break out of this cycle! Thank you for your videos! Please make more!
I feel for ppl like you we r the people that actually try to make friends and get rejected I honestly think to myself why am I hated so much that nobody likes me I'm a good person kind considerate but no if I ask so called friends to meet they are too busy so I stop asking I'm not too scared to talk to ppl neither but all that happens is I end up adding the person on Facebook and never speaking to them again making friends is hard be honest from what I've seen ppl stick with friends from youth and don't consider more friends how do I make new friends it is mind boggling😲
Be strong man. You've got to break this cycle. Just do your best every day - and that includes doing things that soothe and relax you. We will be dead soon enough, so it's very important we make the most of this opportunity to LIVE! Well done for being open, but I really want to see you overcome this and enjoy life. If you want to have fun and enjoy yourself, you need to take ACTION. I have to be honest... when I saw the video title combined with the edited thumbnail, I thought it looked a bit desperate and I cringed. I thought I'd check out the video anyway because I like you. All the best. Go do something about your life. You don't have all the time in the World. Stef
+Stefan Alexander Lay I don't know what happened. I just lost it completely. Even after I uploaded this video I had probably one of the worst episodes I've ever had in my life. When I woke up today, I felt like I had a hangover. I don't have any motivation or happiness right now. I get what you are saying about I just need to take action and live my life. However, I feel like I'm not able to right now because of my mental health at the moment. I really feel like I'm getting depressed again. Sorry for saying this all to you, but I feel like I really need help. I just don't feel right at all. I'm even scared to make a video explaining this because I know people don't want to see me like this. what do you think I should do?
Kenneth Stahl I'm glad you are open about it... I know what it's like to feel trapped in the depression. It just takes you over. But if you're upset that life is passing you by, you don't have friends, etc.. You need to make peace with knowing you are doing all you can to change that. And you need to ask yourself if you are doing what you can to change it. I don't think it's easy, if even possible, to beat this all by yourself. I think you should formulate a plan that feels right and try to find something you love doing again. You need to speak to someone in person. That alone won't be enough, but you need guidance and books can only do so much. If things don't change, I can see you making these video in another 2 years. This is your wake up call. You need to be kind to yourself and stop going in circles. Make peace with what has happened up until now ... I'm still very much in the middle of this, but I know that I cannot get to the end of the year without having made progress. I'm making my health a priority and I WILL make it to the other side. And I know that will take time and commitment. Our video is now uploading by the way.
I crave fun as well. I want friends. I truly understand your pain it hurts I'm going through the same thing. Its really hard I'm in college with 0 friends.
Hey thank you for making these videos. So many of us feel alone at times, but most of us are too proud to talk about it because it feels embarrassing. We feel like we’re always supposed to have great friends all the time through life, but that’s not true. I lost some friends recently and I’ve been feeling alone and your videos really help me to feel not alone
Dude, so relatable at certain times in my life. I was feeling so frustrated today. I work from home and an introvert so it's hard to meet people in my 30's. I was in a long term relationship for 10 years and had a son with him and then my son's father was murdered. I have never been the same since, but I press on. I came across your channel and just wanted to say thank you, man for sharing your heart. I know this is an old video, but if you see this thank you for being real and speaking from your heart. Depression sucks, dude.
2020 is the lonely year for me. Especially at the end of this Sunday December 2020. A lonely Christmas, a lonely year. Because of the ridiculousness, the mess that I did, I should have realized that what I did with my sharp tongue and ridiculous actions made the people I care about leave me, just dumping me alone. How bad it was. It really hurts. Spent every night alone. Watching this video is like watching yourself. I turned into a closed person, closed my heart from people - people who are actually kind and loving to me, because of fear, too negative thinking. My heart was crying too. I spoke with my mother, who said crying didn't make my life better.
Kenneth you have to take physical action to make new friends. Why not take a class in what you are interested in or join a community group with similar interest or a counseling group with people that you can identify with. Stop crying you are a good person and many people would enjoy your company. Just do it and enjoy life. You are young stop beating yourself up and enjoy today and tomorrow, the present and the future. I pray for you. Peace to your spirit. God loves you.
My advice for what's it worth is find a meaning for your existence, then align your personality/ talent with that meaning ~ utilise yourself in sync with that.
bro the depression or any mental illness hack is gratitude. when ur sad just think of the things your grateful for and feel gratitude. you can also write down a list of things your are grateful for. this legit cures anything you have guys do this everyday
You're brave enough to be vulnerable on TH-cam. You're not a little bitch, that's the way you're seeing yourself but we all cry man. The problem is you're looking for people you don't fit with. The rarer your personality, the more work it's going to take to find like minded people... but the more rewarding it is when you do. Keep searching man and stick with it. Release whatever is negative inside to the earth and soak in positive energy from the sun. You see more of reality than most of us do, but are learning how to accept yourself as you are. Things will get better brother
Thank you for your videos, Kenneth! My plight: I despise when I have all these plans and ideas in my mind but my own self keeps me from actually doing any of them and then feeling disappointed and mad at myself. I've dealt with this for years. My life is passing me by...I'm watching while others are doing. Maybe others feel this way too...yet I feel like I'm alone in that mess in my head. I don't even know what it is. On a side note, I fight through it with accomplishing some things, but I know I never meet my full potential.😔
I'm glad I found this video I've cried so many times everyday because of the horrible things that is happening in my life is so frustrating I just want to give up
I felt like you back in 2006. The isolation was crushing me and I found a popular sports bar that I felt comfortable in and finally had good times 2006-2010. Then I felt like being alone and internal again 2010-2013. Then I needed to date and have fun again in 2013 and the company wasn't that great. I felt like women were boring me. So I had to find some other kind of fun. And I haven't besides my hobbies. Fun is so elusive. Feels like I've done everything and seen everything. They say travel and cruises are good for the older crowd. I'm 41. The only trip that excites me would be Orlando and all those theme parks.
I'm so glad I came across your videos and comments, it makes me feel a lot better to know that I am not alone, because let's be honest even when we know there's others dealing with the same issues like us, you still feel alone. So seeing this and the comments makes me rethink my reality on what I believe. I pray that we all can over come this lonlieness. I have been dealing with this and rejection for some time now and may I say it is a horrible feeling. Not only to be alone, but to be rejected by people. Keep your head up buddy, you're young, im young we're all young!!! it's not to late we can start living!!!!
Well done for being honest all those years ago bro. Some Advice for you 1. Have a wide range and variety of friends 2. Have a balanced life don’t just prioritise career, have fun too 3. Take as many shots with women or whatever you’re attracted as you can, you won’t regret it 4. If you’re crying or depressed it’s a sign to change something in life, not too ‘manage it’ as you said
I feel like my life isn't fun either I constantly go out with friends and drink every weekend. and I do nothing but work for the hole week. the drinking might sound fun but I was drinking when I was 14 and I feel like I grew up to quickly and now I feel like I'm constantly bored and fed up of living in a loop. And I don't know how to leave that loop. I have no hobbies exept gameing , drinking and watching tv so I'm bored all the time and I also feel kindof lonely its really weird. I may not be very lonely but the feeling of being lonely is always there:/ it sucks...its like no one understands
It is because you probably do not challenge yourself in life, I mean you probably do not get out of your comfort zone to do new things but are in a circle where you keep doing things that make you feel safe. When you were 14 it was something new and challenging to go out and party but now you probably do not see it as something uncomfortable. That is why you need to challenge yourself to feel the happiness of achieving again,for example begin taking cold showers to get out of your comfort zone, or begin working out by constantly trying tour limits and challenging yourself. Good luck
i know this video is old but i am an older guy and i have been through a lot, and whatever roads i have taken,everyone leads to loneliness.' all my friends, family members, relatives and wife have left me behind. sometimes it's a blessing in disguise to be left behind ( older people will feel this way compared to you younger) but most of the time it is not a good feeling. depression is a strange, eerie problem, what it does to you and how it makes you feel is indescribable. it gets stranger and stranger as you become older. i have a lot less years ahead of me and i'm pretty sure i will die alone but if there is anything i can help anybody out with....shoot me a message. wisdom, i am loaded with it.
Dude man, I've seen some of your videos its good that you are motivating people through your videos but at times you just lost it. It's pretty ironic at times. It's not bad, we are only human people do have some of those dark days, it shows the human side of the person and I think the videos you do is like as if you are with the person you are being friendly towards your videos, you share emotions with that person, it's sort of good but your main objective is to motivate and inspire people, right? I'm not for one to say, cuz obviously lol you dont know me, I'm just a stranger.....But seeing you cry i just can't let that pass by.. For what I think, you shouldn't doubt yourself, you choose the path you want. Anyone can choose the path they desire and never ever should you make regrets. You broke down crying because you are lonely you have to accept that. Crying is fine, though acceptance is a change. Even though you have a gf, it doesn't exactly fill in the loneliness. Partying with other people isn't the only way to have fun. Yes, you have a lot of friends but I think you aren't even close with them. Your life is what you make it, you just have to make the most of it. You do all the stuff that you want to do and don't give a f*** about anyone. Do whatever makes you happy, making videos about yourself as if we are your friends is good too but also make achievements for yourself. Make new friends, hang out, learn a new skill, do your hobbies, etc there are a lot of things we can do before we pass on. We make the most of it. That's all I wanna say(sorry too long lol). I too for one wants to inspire others. I hope this inspires you(or whoever) to chase after your dreams, work hard for it.
Actually it sounds good but for me it doesn't work that way. I have a loving family, i have loving boyfriend, i have a job that i love, i have few hobby that i really enjoy... but i have no friends, and even when i have all this good things, i feel somehow empty inside. Feeling that you have no friends literaly killing. I relate so much with Keneth and i am so depressed right now.
I know this is an old video, but I just wanted to say that before you break down like this you should always try to put your situation into perspective. You say you are so alone and isolated, yet you have a girlfriend that loves you (but more importantly *wants* to stay in a relationship with you), and even though they are few and far between, you also have some people in your life you can actually call a friend. These are great achievements. It's important to realize that there are some people out there with social anxiety so bad (myself included) that they literally have NO ONE -- people who barely have a handful of acquaintances, let alone a long term relationship like the one you have with your gf. Now, I'm not trying to blame you here or say that you were wrong, and I totally get that it's hard to be rational at a time like this... But I guess my point (to everyone reading this) is that whenever that inner voice says "I'm so alone" or makes any other kind of judgement about you (or your current situation), always try to put it into perspective. Just remember that there are always people out there who have it worse than you do... So stay positive, pick yourself back up again, and keep on trying to improve.
This will kill you or make you lose your mind even more. The "internet" could be the thing hurting you. I know the feeling of being alone is very powerful...but try to cut off the internet for a week or month and see what happens. I have seen 2 videos so far where you talk about social networking as a way to make friends and that is not good. TH-cam is good if you make a link to your facebook, twitter or whatever. Convert people who like your videos into real friends that you talk to on the phone and hang with but aside from that say no to the web.
I am like you, i cry daily from lonliness....even tho I go to work, i dont talk to anyone there because they talk about me behind my back. So I dont want anything to do with those kind. Then come home and sit alone .....everyday is the same. No one calls, no one comes over, no one answers my messages, i dont get it. I have always invited people over for barbecues, sitting out on the deck (stuff that dont cost them anything) and they always leave me hanging. No one has ever invited me to their house, but i always invite them. So i cry every morning waking up alone, then at night when i am going home from work. I try to reach out and get nothing in return. No one cares if i am dead or alive.
So many of us can relate to this feeling of loneliness and not having a friends to lean on. Have you not found a good friend now that you have this channel?
this video is old, but I just want to reach into the screen and hug you because I totally know how you feel; and I hope since then, that you’ve found beauty and happiness and fun in life. xx
People are phony. You should not change your self for anyone. You must be strong, think logically and believe your self. You can’t change people. They are who they are. Do not trust people.
I relate to everything single word you said, and the same for all of your other videos like this. I hate my life, I have so many issues and insecurities that I need to take time on and work through but it's difficult to do that when you have no friends, 0 motivation and no drive in life. I have no idea who I am supposed to be and where I fit in in today's world. Sorry for the long read, It's sad that people like us have to live like this. Honest to god, this is coming from someone who pretty much is you, I know it's fucking horrible and that this means nothing but I hope you, myself and everyone else who feels like will one day find real happiness.
I went from having friends and partying a lot, to having no one outside my family to talk to. Its quite a long story but i can tell you for a fact its not really something to crave. This lasted from 2015 to 2017 for me, and its ended when im 18. The people involved with doing things like that (or at least all of the ones ive met) arent bothered about friendship they genuinely only care about getting wasted. If things like alcohol, weed and party drugs never existed then the friend group i was involved in would never have existed. My dad has told me a few times in my life, that as you leave school and grow up, you and your friends will drift apart. Its almost inevitable. I mean you may keep in touch with a few but an entire group will never stay a group. Adults just have too many responsibilities like jobs, a family and a house/bills to pay to be out partying all the time. It sucks that ive ended up having no friends at my age when i could have still been friends with them, but it gets to a stage where you've lived so many days, weeks, months or even years without them to the point where it really doesnt bother you anymore. Im not meaning to say anything mean to you, im just giving you an insight into that experience and pretty much saying, it may seem good but it can turn out bad and it definitely wont last forever.
I also cry many times when I think about my life, I waste my life every day, I can't grab people attention no one likes me I don't know why when I cry it makes me feel good its weird I don't know why..
I feel so bad for man. I hop you will make friends oneday. I know going through hard time with your life. You just got to take a deep breath and clam and pray to god that you might make friends oneday.
Listening to you is like I am listening to myself and I have always had lots of friends. I am one of those people who go out just because I need human contact ... I am in crowd of people yet I feel alone. Finding people like yourself is hard because were all so unique. I see myself as a fucking weirdo lol I want to be myself all the time with all my different moods. but I don't feel connected with strangers to be able to do that. we are only strangers until we share a smile.(; I feel like a child and this is me crying out to the universe! I LOVE YOU, DO YOU LOVE ME?
I feel you man but sometimes seeing people enjoying themselves in pictures or clips on TH-cam etc are not always the reality. Life for most people is pretty mundane and run of the mill. The reality is that those clips/ pictures are just a snapshot or moment of joy in that persons life, giving a false impression that their lives are always like that. So, me included, feel that life should be a rollercoaster of fun when in reality it’s really not. Take a break from Facebook and perhaps social media and take some time out amongst nature and for me I’ve found that my expectations have lowered and found joy in the simple things in life. Hope this all made sense 👊
Hello Kenneth, you sound like a sensible thinking person, and I can see you want to do way more than you're actually doing. I wish for you that you allow yourself to set certain goals, writing out exactly what you want to do and making sure to set a timeline, this may actually propel you to start doing the things that you may imagine for yourself. I wish that you would stop thinking yourself to be lonely. You sound like a lovely person. You could seek out more natural settings, as in exploring some part of your home town that represents nature or something that may interest you....then you may eventually find the right people you feel comfortable to share parts of your life with. ...meaningful relations. Its good that you're sharing you're thoughts to random people, but it would be amazing to hold close relationships with the persons you see everyday. ...Somebody in some random part of the world thinks that you are a beautiful person, it is only a matter of time that you begin to realize it yourself so that you can share that beauty with the persons around you.
I know exactly how you feel Ken. I was doing good for the past 3 weeks but today everything just came crumbling down around me. Im agitated for no reason. I've burst into tears at least 5 times today. I am so lonely I want to just end it all. I need a hug Ken.
The ammount of likes and comments makes me want to believe that people would at least try to make 1 friend. Like this is a place you have the best chance to make a friend all alike all feeling the same. When has distance been a problem when has it been abad when you has a good friend if no one can make a friend HERE then we wont ever make friends
OMG I couldn't have said it better ! I feel the exact same way you do even though I'm the generation above your generation. I've come to the point where I can recognize it's going to be a difficult day or not emotionally. And yes sometimes I even feel a little better after I've had a rough day and then crying and releasing some of the loneliness and pain. I just wish more than anything there was a way to not feel so alone lonely unloved uncared for. I just wish some time family and friends would miss me or contact me or want to hang out. But it's just another day alone 😔.. hang in there you're not the only one feeling this way thanks for your videos.... And lately I find myself wishing that there was support groups out there because there was so many of us suffering with these feelings
Loneliness & happiness are choices we make. It’s not like you don’t know what to do to to have friends. You do. Everything you sayin your videos is well thought out and clearly stated, you seem nice, intelligent & friendly so you DO HAVE THE CAPACITY to make friends. Right? Correct me if I’m wrong....but you have a choice! For some reason(s), you are not letting yourself make friends with anyone....or BE a friend to someone. I don’t know why but there are reasons why people choose to be lonely. Here are a few I can think of: self hatred or low self esteem, trust factors, being hurt by people in the past, anger issues, guilt feelings, or just wanting to “be the victim “ of your own made up story of how you perceive yourself. Being alone or lonely does fill a subconscious need. Possibly the need to always be in control of relationships and not really be aware of it? You talk a lot about lack of motivation. Yes...that can be a BIG problem that many of us have, but let’s break it down. Think of something In your mind’s eye that really motivates or interests you. Maybe just hooking up with someone to have coffee. Take the next step and call that person. What’s the worst that can happen? They say no? Okay...ask someone else until you get a YES! Take small steps to achieve some goal...ANY goal, but take the first step! Things worth having always take some effort. It takes initiative and then persistence. Telling yourself you are a loser or “unlikable” is a poor excuse...or a very wrong perception. Who put that thought in your head? Because it’s not even slightly accurate or true! Why are you playing the victim role here? Is it filling some deep down purpose? I think it is. I think you KNOW it is. Start by breaking the belief that you are not enough...because you are. My mom once told me, “there is someone for everyone”. Even more than someone. There are many out there who would like to be your friend if you’d only reach out. All you have to do is step away from the story you’re telling yourself and take control of you choice to first BE a friend, to someone. There are SO MANY people out there that need a companion! Stop saying no and say yes....yes you will take small steps to accomplish this one thing...if you do anything else in your life but to make one friend!! Believe me. You can do this! Start thinking about why you are not letting yourself have a life with meaning. A life with someone or many someone’s you can share kinship with. Want a little inspiration? Go watch Dirty Dancing. See if you connect with any relationships in this movie. Most likely, you will.Then go out and MAKE A FRIEND or BE A FRIEND to someone...anyone! I KNOW you can do this if you want it. I hope you can take something from this advise! This can be the 1st day of the rest of your life...Break this cycle. Good luck and keep the faith!
I hate my life cause my childhood and youth was not fun , childhood wasn’t allowed to drive , eat whatever I want , do whatever I want, no control of my life whatsoever , I have no control over anything , everything’s decided for me , forced to go to school , teenager the same including now at 17 , still no car , not allowed to eat whatever I want , no money , I making no money , no control over my life still , forced to go to school and now I say to myself why even both with trying when I’m an adult do the shit I wanted to do as a childhood seeing as i got and get less energy when I get older 😡😡😡😡 I hate life 😞😞😞😞
I am sorry that is happening to you, my friend you are not alone, personally l am like you, extremely shy, that is what happen to people like use who are shy to talk to others, your girl friend should be able to keep you company, find somethings that interests you, like hobby or something, good luck my friend.
The thing is that some people are like on auto pilot and we analyze things as they happening and they vibrating on like a different level. So it's not that they don't want to be friends we just not on the same vibe unless they perhaps feeling down but when things are good they won't make a good friend for us again.
Everyday is a shit day for me, I am lonely too. I waste time everyday, I have no job, I have no friends.
Ronghui Mr.Ye I do literally nothing all day long then I feel so useless but I repeat it every single day I don't know what to do with my life. I don't feel like continue studying or getting a job. I just wanna sleep and cry
It's ok, we can be friends, if you don't mind.
Ronghui Mr.Ye thank you
Me too :( I need to find some nice lonely people i can skype with
Synesthetic 55 i am half lonely you can skype with me
Did I just watch myself??
same
Same
Im feeling like a freakin plant
Cristy Luv same tbh
Same
Same, i have zero friends. I Iive with my parents. I go to work, eat, sleep, watch tv with my mom and play a bit of videogames and cry.Rinse and repeat. And gay aswell. Bullied on school, so no friends. 32 years old now. I wanna commit suicide, but i dont wanna hurt my parents, only 2 persons i have. But the day will come when they are gone, and im so scared for that day #foreveralone
Only Teardrops it’s been 6 months man how are you?
Hey how are you? You should try a new activity. Something I really like doing is playing airsoft or paintball, really helps.
You should find positive community
Are u doing alright Only Teardrops
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this community is honestly just... relatable
This is so wired I never felt more like somebody in my life. But I feel like you are living the exact same life as me and it's scary how similar we are. Just watching you break down from depression, then two minutes later actually smiling as if it never happened I get like that and I use to feel slow because of it but now I understand myself better thanks to you. Having the courage to speak up about your life and what challenges you face is so appreciated. Keep doing what you're doing man I feel this is huge stepping stone in your life just by sharing your own experiences with he world, I believe you're going to gain much more than friends just you wait and see. Thanks again for sharing friend! :)
You have jesus christ, just search for it. you will find peace and love
At least I'm not the only one who gets excited over the tiniest bit of nice human interaction lol
For the first time I think I met someone that knows exactly how it feels to be lonely and have no friends, and also feeling that it wil never change, everyday off my life.
at least you have a girlfriend
samson aagaard i thought the same thing he's way ahead of me in this shitty and i mean shitty moment in my lonely ass life.
I just smoke too much weed and play too many video games i still have close friends
damn you're way ahead of me too!!!
How old are you because if your in your teens your life will get better
At least my life got better
Nope, you're wrong. I was a wild rebel for years and now I'm just like you. It doesn't matter how we try and change it, we are who we are.
You are so cute and full of good vibes.
I cried when I watched this video because I can definitely relate to you. I have no friends, I am a loner but I have a boyfriend which lives from another country A.K.A long distance relationship. Every time I see his pictures on facebook with his friends, partying, looking so happy, I feel left out,annoying to him, my depression then strikes. It sucks. I don't really recommend being in a relationship when you have this kind of issues that i have because it will only make you feel worse of yourself.
you have great heart
We need to be friends cause I totally feel you.
CallmeDoctor YourPaco you trying to make friends.? Hit me up I'm for real.
Spencer Leitch you guys play ps4?
@Very Scary yup
@Very Scary ovosoundszn#6194 bro hit me up. damn i commented on this vid 2 years ago and nothings really changed 4 me lmao
@@spencerl5315 I feel you , damn. Hit me up mate, do you have a PS4? we could play or just chat idk
1. Stop reading about life and meaning
2. Take actions
I'm lonely too and sometimes I feel like a loser but I have been working on improving my self - esteem and it is working. You have to love yourself before you can expect someone else to do it for you.
Kenneth, watched this vid of yours. You're never alone as I'm with you. You have more inside than most people I know. Keep up with your life, work, youtube :) !!
I started crying with him. I had an exactly same day today. I woke up at 6:00am, and i just ate, slept, and watched youtube and anime all day...i feel useless and guilty for no reason...i feel like you every day and i wish i could change this
It’s been 2 months how are you?
Omg I just want to hug you
Someone give him some friends 😢😭 why do I feel so bad
It takes a lot of guts to tell people on social media that your lonely..I too go through the same thing..I can make friends but can't keep them..also been dealing with it since I was a kid. It's imbarassing for me to share that about myself..so I keep it hidden..and pretend I don't go through it..but some people can see straight through me.😞
I know how you feel, I have no friends
CallmeDoctor YourPaco you think everyone in this comment section is serious?
Hey Kenneth, I know you probably get a tone of messages on here and probably don't have a chance to read them all but I thought I'd reach out to you anyway. I've been feeling extremely lonely and depressed lately and I've found your videos soothing. You help me understand that I'm not alone in the way that I'm feeling and you help comfort my feelings of loneliness. You're truly an inspiration to me! Keep doing what you're doing. The lonely people, aka me, will be watching!
I genuinely appreciate you being so open and honest with us, I just came across your videos. I typed in “I never leave my house” or something like that . The way you describe your feelings of loneliness, isolation, and being excited about even the smallest human interactions resonates with me so fucking much. I needed this, I was having an anxiety attack thinking about all of this time I’ve wasted doing what seems like nothing but worrying and feeling left out because I have absolutely no close friends other than ppl I talk to online which I’ve lost apt of interest in. The internet almost makes me feel lonelier... I have so much I’d like to talk about with you if you’d like to give me a chance... keeping pushing, keep finding something to grasp onto. If it makes you feel naturally good/happy then it absolutely matters and I have to remind myself that often
Hey, I experience the same issues with social anxiety. I was at one point a borderline agoraphobic and when I was still living with my mom I never left the house unless it was with her. I was always told that in order to get over my fear of people and social situations I had to expose myself to them more and more, progressively. I got fed up with being so socially isolated that I decided to quit school and work full time in customer service. I figured there was no better way to expose myself than by working with the public - surrounded by people on a daily basis.
Eventually I moved out on my own and because of that I was forced to continue working in order to support myself. I usually found myself in jobs requiring a lot of interaction with people. I will admit that the exposure did help by heightening my tolerance of social situations, absolutely. And I did make friends along the way. I partied quite a bit for about 3 years. The thing is, at this present moment in time - I have never felt more alone. I've gone through all the measures in order to be a more sociable person but ultimately I pushed myself to a point that I was so severely stressed I lost the ability to genuinely connect with those around me.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that going out and living this fun, party filled lifestyle isn't a guarantee of friendship. In fact I think it only pushed me further away from genuine connection. Just a thought.
Man, I just ran across your channel! I've never felt so lonely in all my life! I have people around me, but no friends! I tried to get some coworkers together to go to a movie or something and everyone canceled.. I told myself I was going to go to a movie by myself but I didn't. I just, don't know what to do. I wish I could be a rebel! Someone told me the other day that I follow the rules all the time! I haven't been eating much, nor anything! Literally laid in bed for the past three days in the dark (took showers)! I just.. don't know how to break out of this cycle! Thank you for your videos! Please make more!
I feel for ppl like you we r the people that actually try to make friends and get rejected I honestly think to myself why am I hated so much that nobody likes me I'm a good person kind considerate but no if I ask so called friends to meet they are too busy so I stop asking I'm not too scared to talk to ppl neither but all that happens is I end up adding the person on Facebook and never speaking to them again making friends is hard be honest from what I've seen ppl stick with friends from youth and don't consider more friends how do I make new friends it is mind boggling😲
Start a routine
seek jesus christ, and he will love you for peace
Be strong man.
You've got to break this cycle.
Just do your best every day - and that includes doing things that soothe and relax you.
We will be dead soon enough, so it's very important we make the most of this opportunity to LIVE!
Well done for being open, but I really want to see you overcome this and enjoy life.
If you want to have fun and enjoy yourself, you need to take ACTION.
I have to be honest... when I saw the video title combined with the edited thumbnail, I thought it looked a bit desperate and I cringed.
I thought I'd check out the video anyway because I like you.
All the best.
Go do something about your life.
You don't have all the time in the World.
Stef
+Stefan Alexander Lay I don't know what happened. I just lost it completely. Even after I uploaded this video I had probably one of the worst episodes I've ever had in my life. When I woke up today, I felt like I had a hangover. I don't have any motivation or happiness right now. I get what you are saying about I just need to take action and live my life. However, I feel like I'm not able to right now because of my mental health at the moment. I really feel like I'm getting depressed again. Sorry for saying this all to you, but I feel like I really need help. I just don't feel right at all. I'm even scared to make a video explaining this because I know people don't want to see me like this. what do you think I should do?
Kenneth Stahl I'm glad you are open about it... I know what it's like to feel trapped in the depression. It just takes you over. But if you're upset that life is passing you by, you don't have friends, etc.. You need to make peace with knowing you are doing all you can to change that.
And you need to ask yourself if you are doing what you can to change it.
I don't think it's easy, if even possible, to beat this all by yourself. I think you should formulate a plan that feels right and try to find something you love doing again. You need to speak to someone in person. That alone won't be enough, but you need guidance and books can only do so much.
If things don't change, I can see you making these video in another 2 years. This is your wake up call. You need to be kind to yourself and stop going in circles. Make peace with what has happened up until now ...
I'm still very much in the middle of this, but I know that I cannot get to the end of the year without having made progress. I'm making my health a priority and I WILL make it to the other side. And I know that will take time and commitment.
Our video is now uploading by the way.
Thanks, that really did help. A lot.
You have jesus christ, just search for it. you will find peace and love
@@FeelGoodKenny I’ve given up hope on and in life , life sucks and is overrated and last I hate life
I crave fun as well. I want friends. I truly understand your pain it hurts I'm going through the same thing. Its really hard I'm in college with 0 friends.
Hey thank you for making these videos. So many of us feel alone at times, but most of us are too proud to talk about it because it feels embarrassing. We feel like we’re always supposed to have great friends all the time through life, but that’s not true. I lost some friends recently and I’ve been feeling alone and your videos really help me to feel not alone
I simply wanted to say thank you. Thank you for your honesty and sincerity and vulnerability. Thank you for being a voice for my feelings as well.
Dude, so relatable at certain times in my life. I was feeling so frustrated today. I work from home and an introvert so it's hard to meet people in my 30's. I was in a long term relationship for 10 years and had a son with him and then my son's father was murdered. I have never been the same since, but I press on. I came across your channel and just wanted to say thank you, man for sharing your heart. I know this is an old video, but if you see this thank you for being real and speaking from your heart. Depression sucks, dude.
Bless everyone who feels the same. Feel hugged guys!
2020 is the lonely year for me. Especially at the end of this Sunday December 2020. A lonely Christmas, a lonely year. Because of the ridiculousness, the mess that I did, I should have realized that what I did with my sharp tongue and ridiculous actions made the people I care about leave me, just dumping me alone. How bad it was. It really hurts. Spent every night alone. Watching this video is like watching yourself. I turned into a closed person, closed my heart from people - people who are actually kind and loving to me, because of fear, too negative thinking. My heart was crying too. I spoke with my mother, who said crying didn't make my life better.
I never cry unless its because of a really bad argument with my mother. Which almost never happens. But i also feel like shit quite often.
Kenneth you have to take physical action to make new friends. Why not take a class in what you are interested in or join a community group with similar interest or a counseling group with people that you can identify with. Stop crying you are a good person and many people would enjoy your company. Just do it and enjoy life. You are young stop beating yourself up and enjoy today and tomorrow, the present and the future. I pray for you. Peace to your spirit. God loves you.
Me: ohhhh this is so relatable
Him: I texted my girlfriend
Me:
jesus i'd befriend you in a heartbeat. you have such a good soul. hang in there man
CRYING IS CLEANSING/GOOD FOR THE SOUL!!!
I get days like and u am lonely a lot with no friends either. I don' t break down a lot but helps to release the emotions x.
My advice for what's it worth is find a meaning for your existence, then align your personality/ talent with that meaning ~ utilise yourself in sync with that.
Scottish ❔
bro the depression or any mental illness hack is gratitude. when ur sad just think of the things your grateful for and feel gratitude. you can also write down a list of things your are grateful for. this legit cures anything you have guys do this everyday
You're brave enough to be vulnerable on TH-cam. You're not a little bitch, that's the way you're seeing yourself but we all cry man. The problem is you're looking for people you don't fit with. The rarer your personality, the more work it's going to take to find like minded people... but the more rewarding it is when you do. Keep searching man and stick with it. Release whatever is negative inside to the earth and soak in positive energy from the sun. You see more of reality than most of us do, but are learning how to accept yourself as you are. Things will get better brother
Thank you for your videos, Kenneth! My plight: I despise when I have all these plans and ideas in my mind but my own self keeps me from actually doing any of them and then feeling disappointed and mad at myself. I've dealt with this for years. My life is passing me by...I'm watching while others are doing. Maybe others feel this way too...yet I feel like I'm alone in that mess in my head. I don't even know what it is. On a side note, I fight through it with accomplishing some things, but I know I never meet my full potential.😔
everyone goes through tough days my bro stay strong do what makes you happy and try to get out your comfort zone big luv 💜
God bless you Kenny!!!
Your not alone. I did the same thing. neglected to make friends and now I'm alone too.
I'm glad I found this video I've cried so many times everyday because of the horrible things that is happening in my life is so frustrating I just want to give up
I felt like you back in 2006. The isolation was crushing me and I found a popular sports bar that I felt comfortable in and finally had good times 2006-2010. Then I felt like being alone and internal again 2010-2013. Then I needed to date and have fun again in 2013 and the company wasn't that great. I felt like women were boring me. So I had to find some other kind of fun. And I haven't besides my hobbies. Fun is so elusive. Feels like I've done everything and seen everything. They say travel and cruises are good for the older crowd. I'm 41. The only trip that excites me would be Orlando and all those theme parks.
Always on the edge of tears, I understand that completely.
I'm so glad I came across your videos and comments, it makes me feel a lot better to know that I am not alone, because let's be honest even when we know there's others dealing with the same issues like us, you still feel alone. So seeing this and the comments makes me rethink my reality on what I believe. I pray that we all can over come this lonlieness. I have been dealing with this and rejection for some time now and may I say it is a horrible feeling. Not only to be alone, but to be rejected by people. Keep your head up buddy, you're young, im young we're all young!!! it's not to late we can start living!!!!
I threw the dont be a rebel rule book out the window when i was 17 thats when the fun started yesss
Well done for being honest all those years ago bro.
Some Advice for you
1. Have a wide range and variety of friends
2. Have a balanced life don’t just prioritise career, have fun too
3. Take as many shots with women or whatever you’re attracted as you can, you won’t regret it
4. If you’re crying or depressed it’s a sign to change something in life, not too ‘manage it’ as you said
Hey bro your videos help me out alot sometimes I feel like a fucking weirdo and no one else understands. Keep your head up bro.
I feel like my life isn't fun either I constantly go out with friends and drink every weekend. and I do nothing but work for the hole week. the drinking might sound fun but I was drinking when I was 14 and I feel like I grew up to quickly and now I feel like I'm constantly bored and fed up of living in a loop. And I don't know how to leave that loop. I have no hobbies exept gameing , drinking and watching tv so I'm bored all the time and I also feel kindof lonely its really weird. I may not be very lonely but the feeling of being lonely is always there:/ it sucks...its like no one understands
It is because you probably do not challenge yourself in life, I mean you probably do not get out of your comfort zone to do new things but are in a circle where you keep doing things that make you feel safe. When you were 14 it was something new and challenging to go out and party but now you probably do not see it as something uncomfortable. That is why you need to challenge yourself to feel the happiness of achieving again,for example begin taking cold showers to get out of your comfort zone, or begin working out by constantly trying tour limits and challenging yourself. Good luck
Its nice to know im not the only one going through this....
I just do drugs. Obviously, I don't recommend that. I'm lonely and sad every single day of my life.
You shld take care of ur body - juice, cleanse, detox, gluten-free organic diet. Will help ur brain, body, and mental functions.
Karen shut up karen
No dear..DNT cry..DNT be desp...okay..I can understand ur feelings..may God bless u dear 😇✌️🤝
i know this video is old but i am an older guy and i have been through a lot, and whatever roads i have taken,everyone leads to loneliness.' all my friends, family members, relatives and wife have left me behind. sometimes it's a blessing in disguise to be left behind ( older people will feel this way compared to you younger) but most of the time it is not a good feeling. depression is a strange, eerie problem, what it does to you and how it makes you feel is indescribable. it gets stranger and stranger as you become older. i have a lot less years ahead of me and i'm pretty sure i will die alone but if there is anything i can help anybody out with....shoot me a message. wisdom, i am loaded with it.
Dude man, I've seen some of your videos its good that you are motivating people through your videos but at times you just lost it. It's pretty ironic at times. It's not bad, we are only human people do have some of those dark days, it shows the human side of the person and I think the videos you do is like as if you are with the person you are being friendly towards your videos, you share emotions with that person, it's sort of good but your main objective is to motivate and inspire people, right? I'm not for one to say, cuz obviously lol you dont know me, I'm just a stranger.....But seeing you cry i just can't let that pass by.. For what I think, you shouldn't doubt yourself, you choose the path you want. Anyone can choose the path they desire and never ever should you make regrets. You broke down crying because you are lonely you have to accept that. Crying is fine, though acceptance is a change. Even though you have a gf, it doesn't exactly fill in the loneliness. Partying with other people isn't the only way to have fun. Yes, you have a lot of friends but I think you aren't even close with them. Your life is what you make it, you just have to make the most of it. You do all the stuff that you want to do and don't give a f*** about anyone. Do whatever makes you happy, making videos about yourself as if we are your friends is good too but also make achievements for yourself. Make new friends, hang out, learn a new skill, do your hobbies, etc there are a lot of things we can do before we pass on. We make the most of it. That's all I wanna say(sorry too long lol). I too for one wants to inspire others. I hope this inspires you(or whoever) to chase after your dreams, work hard for it.
Actually it sounds good but for me it doesn't work that way. I have a loving family, i have loving boyfriend, i have a job that i love, i have few hobby that i really enjoy... but i have no friends, and even when i have all this good things, i feel somehow empty inside. Feeling that you have no friends literaly killing. I relate so much with Keneth and i am so depressed right now.
I know this is an old video, but I just wanted to say that before you break down like this you should always try to put your situation into perspective. You say you are so alone and isolated, yet you have a girlfriend that loves you (but more importantly *wants* to stay in a relationship with you), and even though they are few and far between, you also have some people in your life you can actually call a friend. These are great achievements. It's important to realize that there are some people out there with social anxiety so bad (myself included) that they literally have NO ONE -- people who barely have a handful of acquaintances, let alone a long term relationship like the one you have with your gf. Now, I'm not trying to blame you here or say that you were wrong, and I totally get that it's hard to be rational at a time like this... But I guess my point (to everyone reading this) is that whenever that inner voice says "I'm so alone" or makes any other kind of judgement about you (or your current situation), always try to put it into perspective. Just remember that there are always people out there who have it worse than you do... So stay positive, pick yourself back up again, and keep on trying to improve.
This will kill you or make you lose your mind even more. The "internet" could be the thing hurting you. I know the feeling of being alone is very powerful...but try to cut off the internet for a week or month and see what happens. I have seen 2 videos so far where you talk about social networking as a way to make friends and that is not good. TH-cam is good if you make a link to your facebook, twitter or whatever. Convert people who like your videos into real friends that you talk to on the phone and hang with but aside from that say no to the web.
Get a job! Make a bucket list! There is so much life has to offer! You just gotta go out and find it! I wish you luck, Kenneth!
I agree 100%!
I’m so glad I came across your channel
I'm praying for you!❤🙏
Someone go comfort this man
dude...you are so not alone...i feel you bro
I am like you, i cry daily from lonliness....even tho I go to work, i dont talk to anyone there because they talk about me behind my back. So I dont want anything to do with those kind. Then come home and sit alone .....everyday is the same. No one calls, no one comes over, no one answers my messages, i dont get it. I have always invited people over for barbecues, sitting out on the deck (stuff that dont cost them anything) and they always leave me hanging. No one has ever invited me to their house, but i always invite them. So i cry every morning waking up alone, then at night when i am going home from work. I try to reach out and get nothing in return. No one cares if i am dead or alive.
You love yourself, this won't matter.
omg u so sweet i hope u have a friends now .i dont have frinds 10 years ,my dog and cat helps ,thay love me .
Hopefully you read this, but if you ever in New York, I could show you around the party scene. I know how you feel man.
dw i dont party much either. and i wish i could go more. i feel like time is eating me alive.
So many of us can relate to this feeling of loneliness and not having a friends to lean on. Have you not found a good friend now that you have this channel?
this video is old, but I just want to reach into the screen and hug you because I totally know how you feel; and I hope since then, that you’ve found beauty and happiness and fun in life.
xx
Hey bro, I am 19 years old.... I can still totally relate
I love you bro😞
People are phony. You should not change your self for anyone. You must be strong, think logically and believe your self. You can’t change people. They are who they are. Do not trust people.
You said it
I relate to everything single word you said, and the same for all of your other videos like this. I hate my life, I have so many issues and insecurities that I need to take time on and work through but it's difficult to do that when you have no friends, 0 motivation and no drive in life. I have no idea who I am supposed to be and where I fit in in today's world. Sorry for the long read, It's sad that people like us have to live like this. Honest to god, this is coming from someone who pretty much is you, I know it's fucking horrible and that this means nothing but I hope you, myself and everyone else who feels like will one day find real happiness.
I went from having friends and partying a lot, to having no one outside my family to talk to. Its quite a long story but i can tell you for a fact its not really something to crave.
This lasted from 2015 to 2017 for me, and its ended when im 18. The people involved with doing things like that (or at least all of the ones ive met) arent bothered about friendship they genuinely only care about getting wasted. If things like alcohol, weed and party drugs never existed then the friend group i was involved in would never have existed.
My dad has told me a few times in my life, that as you leave school and grow up, you and your friends will drift apart. Its almost inevitable. I mean you may keep in touch with a few but an entire group will never stay a group. Adults just have too many responsibilities like jobs, a family and a house/bills to pay to be out partying all the time.
It sucks that ive ended up having no friends at my age when i could have still been friends with them, but it gets to a stage where you've lived so many days, weeks, months or even years without them to the point where it really doesnt bother you anymore.
Im not meaning to say anything mean to you, im just giving you an insight into that experience and pretty much saying, it may seem good but it can turn out bad and it definitely wont last forever.
💔I know how you feel,i'm crying too!
Oh i feel like you do ,i have to make my self feel like its all ok and i am gonna be in control and confident and rarrrrr
Go to the gym. And you'll never feel alone trust me
I also cry many times when I think about my life, I waste my life every day, I can't grab people attention no one likes me I don't know why when I cry it makes me feel good its weird I don't know why..
That's interesting
I feel so bad for man. I hop you will make friends oneday. I know going through hard time with your life. You just got to take a deep breath and clam and pray to god that you might make friends oneday.
This whole thought process is exactly what I felt like before
Listening to you is like I am listening to myself and I have always had lots of friends. I am one of those people who go out just because I need human contact ... I am in crowd of people yet I feel alone. Finding people like yourself is hard because were all so unique. I see myself as a fucking weirdo lol I want to be myself all the time with all my different moods. but I don't feel connected with strangers to be able to do that. we are only strangers until we share a smile.(; I feel like a child and this is me crying out to the universe! I LOVE YOU, DO YOU LOVE ME?
I feel you man but sometimes seeing people enjoying themselves in pictures or clips on TH-cam etc are not always the reality. Life for most people is pretty mundane and run of the mill. The reality is that those clips/ pictures are just a snapshot or moment of joy in that persons life, giving a false impression that their lives are always like that. So, me included, feel that life should be a rollercoaster of fun when in reality it’s really not. Take a break from Facebook and perhaps social media and take some time out amongst nature and for me I’ve found that my expectations have lowered and found joy in the simple things in life. Hope this all made sense 👊
Hello Kenneth, you sound like a sensible thinking person, and I can see you want to do way more than you're actually doing. I wish for you that you allow yourself to set certain goals, writing out exactly what you want to do and making sure to set a timeline, this may actually propel you to start doing the things that you may imagine for yourself. I wish that you would stop thinking yourself to be lonely. You sound like a lovely person. You could seek out more natural settings, as in exploring some part of your home town that represents nature or something that may interest you....then you may eventually find the right people you feel comfortable to share parts of your life with. ...meaningful relations. Its good that you're sharing you're thoughts to random people, but it would be amazing to hold close relationships with the persons you see everyday. ...Somebody in some random part of the world thinks that you are a beautiful person, it is only a matter of time that you begin to realize it yourself so that you can share that beauty with the persons around you.
I know exactly how you feel Ken. I was doing good for the past 3 weeks but today everything just came crumbling down around me. Im agitated for no reason. I've burst into tears at least 5 times today. I am so lonely I want to just end it all. I need a hug Ken.
find a hobby, get good at it, and find others that like the same hobby. BOOM! friends.
You have a girlfriend at least. So you are not all alone. I have no one.
Girlfriend
It doesn't mean you're not alone , it sucks bro ...hope you understand
I feel the same.
I have got found you one who expressed all my feelings..all my thoughts collectively in the vedio .. I m very much similar to you..
The ammount of likes and comments makes me want to believe that people would at least try to make 1 friend. Like this is a place you have the best chance to make a friend all alike all feeling the same. When has distance been a problem when has it been abad when you has a good friend if no one can make a friend HERE then we wont ever make friends
Im so much like you. I think we feel too vulnerable in opening up... Which is silly because we feel we are going to be judged.
Xxxxxxx
OMG I couldn't have said it better ! I feel the exact same way you do even though I'm the generation above your generation. I've come to the point where I can recognize it's going to be a difficult day or not emotionally. And yes sometimes I even feel a little better after I've had a rough day and then crying and releasing some of the loneliness and pain. I just wish more than anything there was a way to not feel so alone lonely unloved uncared for. I just wish some time family and friends would miss me or contact me or want to hang out. But it's just another day alone 😔.. hang in there you're not the only one feeling this way thanks for your videos.... And lately I find myself wishing that there was support groups out there because there was so many of us suffering with these feelings
I dont want to be lonely!
Hey! Crying doesn't make you a little b*tch. You're a human too and you have feelings bro.
McCFaith LOL TF
Loneliness & happiness are choices we make. It’s not like you don’t know what to do to to have friends. You do. Everything you sayin your videos is well thought out and clearly stated, you seem nice, intelligent & friendly so you DO HAVE THE CAPACITY to make friends. Right? Correct me if I’m wrong....but you have a choice! For some reason(s), you are not letting yourself make friends with anyone....or BE a friend to someone. I don’t know why but there are reasons why people choose to be lonely. Here are a few I can think of: self hatred or low self esteem, trust factors, being hurt by people in the past, anger issues, guilt feelings, or just wanting to “be the victim “ of your own made up story of how you perceive yourself. Being alone or lonely does fill a subconscious need. Possibly the need to always be in control of relationships and not really be aware of it? You talk a lot about lack of motivation. Yes...that can be a BIG problem that many of us have, but let’s break it down. Think of something In your mind’s eye that really motivates or interests you. Maybe just hooking up with someone to have coffee. Take the next step and call that person. What’s the worst that can happen? They say no? Okay...ask someone else until you get a YES! Take small steps to achieve some goal...ANY goal, but take the first step! Things worth having always take some effort. It takes initiative and then persistence. Telling yourself you are a loser or “unlikable” is a poor excuse...or a very wrong perception. Who put that thought in your head? Because it’s not even slightly accurate or true! Why are you playing the victim role here? Is it filling some deep down purpose? I think it is. I think you KNOW it is. Start by breaking the belief that you are not enough...because you are.
My mom once told me, “there is someone for everyone”. Even more than someone. There are many out there who would like to be your friend if you’d only reach out. All you have to do is step away from the story you’re telling yourself and take control of you choice to first BE a friend, to someone. There are SO MANY people out there that need a companion! Stop saying no and say yes....yes you will take small steps to accomplish this one thing...if you do anything else in your life but to make one friend!! Believe me. You can do this!
Start thinking about why you are not letting yourself have a life with meaning. A life with someone or many someone’s you can share kinship with. Want a little inspiration? Go watch Dirty Dancing. See if you connect with any relationships in this movie. Most likely, you will.Then go out and MAKE A FRIEND or BE A FRIEND to someone...anyone! I KNOW you can do this if you want it. I hope you can take something from this advise! This can be the 1st day of the rest of your life...Break this cycle. Good luck and keep the faith!
I hate my life cause my childhood and youth was not fun , childhood wasn’t allowed to drive , eat whatever I want , do whatever I want, no control of my life whatsoever , I have no control over anything , everything’s decided for me , forced to go to school , teenager the same including now at 17 , still no car , not allowed to eat whatever I want , no money , I making no money , no control over my life still , forced to go to school and now I say to myself why even both with trying when I’m an adult do the shit I wanted to do as a childhood seeing as i got and get less energy when I get older 😡😡😡😡 I hate life 😞😞😞😞
I am sorry that is happening to you, my friend you are not alone, personally l am like you, extremely shy, that is what happen to people like use who are shy to talk to others, your girl friend should be able to keep you company, find somethings that interests you, like hobby or something, good luck my friend.
good self help kenny. we've all been there...lonely but sometimes to find yourself you must be alone. your helping ppl. keep going!
Hi Keneth Stahl!!
Can we be friends?.
The thing is that some people are like on auto pilot and we analyze things as they happening and they vibrating on like a different level. So it's not that they don't want to be friends we just not on the same vibe unless they perhaps feeling down but when things are good they won't make a good friend for us again.