Yes. When he vents about his financial woes, tell him, "I'm sorry, I'm sure you'll figure it out or I'm having money trouble myself". I had to learn this the hard way, because I have a soft spot for people in financial troubles, because I've been there myself and needed help. Whatever you do, don't tell him your finances, don't offer financial relief and if he comes with financial struggles of his own, you make it seem like you are struggling yourself.
@Lis Hurd lol im not broke I spend on myself. I am leveling up for myself. I would never give a women who is not my wife a penny. I hate lazy moochers. If im working hard I would never date a lazy girl. I have my own place and car at 23. Im guna keep improving. If I became a millionaire I would date the best women possible. You think guys who make money and are successful are stupid and just give handouts. Dream on lady.
As a plus size....I'm really warn my plus size sisters.....like it or NOT...we are targeted at high levels.....my main rules....don't give any money, don't let compliments impress you....don't let people move in your place....I have a cousin who goes from women house...then he breaks up with her...on to the next ladies house.....while living with one lady he is already....looking for the next residence.......I need to shout this for the ladies in the back....don't give your money to any man....especially if he has not given you any money....
Thank you for sharing this. Do you know how many times I've watched women in my life open the doors of their homes to these bums? And how they are already plotting for the next victim while staying with them? Notice how these men are never without a roof?
I’m not offended at all. I’ve been working out since I was 18 and I’ve never been able to get below a size 12 due to medical/ hormonal issues. Bum approach me because they think that I’m an easy target and have no standards or self esteem. I don’t even bother dating anymore because I never find a man who’s not trying to use me or think that I’m easy sex.
@@Letsmakethis-DGC preach....I have never been able to get down to a 12 so you are blessed and really a great size to "ME"..but I encourage my sisters to focus on creating a good life for themselves via social service, charity work, getting an education, traveling the world (when possible), getting the career you desire....... but put men at the back burner............... because the selection pool for a "good, working, not having 10 kids, not on drugs, not in need of financial help, and not having mental health issues is small in the black community.
Yes sis, they think that plus you are plus size you are easily manipulated. This is why I have learned to seek my own validation. I am always dressed to the T and I can sense people's " wow, who do she think she is" spirit lol. Radical self-love and high value for self is a dusty repellent for sure.
@@rubybansah What i am also asking myself is why go on dating sites in the first place? It's much nicer meeting people organically. You have a much better chance at spotting red flags cause you'll see their body language and read their eyes.
I was engaged to a Man who wanted to marry me bcz of my Inheritance... He was 10 years my senior and had a stable job, so it was hard for me to ever imagine that he was a Con Man... When he realized I didn’t want my parents to sponsor our Wedding, I wanted a Prenup, and I expected Him to provide for me and the kids we were gonna have just like my father did for us, He ghosted a couple of months before our Wedding and I never heard from Him ever since... 😅
A conman will always describe his exes/baby mama as ‘crazy’ and he is always the poor innocent victim.. Run ladies.. Don’t bother asking him what he did to make them crazy or why he keeps attracting ‘crazy’ women because he will lie. At one point they were sane enough for him to sleep with.. 🤷🏾♀️
I’m glad you started the video stating that a con man can be of any race. I just watched an episode on Dateline of a guy who hustled hundreds of women and he was a white man who was in the marines, looked sophisticated, educated and clean cut. It’s not always a hood dude, you’d be surprised!!!
For the life of me I can't remember the name of that one book...where a woman was being used by this man. She ended up dying before she ever got justice.
Beware of men who are not us citizens some of them are the ones who "fall in love" with you on the first date. I met a "nice" guy from Africa who swore he'd been a US citizen for 4 years, claimed he was an sponsored Olympic track athlete, had property in a very expensive beach area of SoCalif, had management degrees, ran a successful limo business, but as we talked over a 2 week period I found it strange that he stayed in a family members bedroom sleeping on their floor in order to not inconvenience them and bugged the 💩 out of me to come over and see my place, cook with me and "snuggle" My gut told me NO WAY do you let this man near you or your house. Ladies if something doesn't feel right then it AINT.. Follow your intuition God gave it to you for a reason...USE IT!
The fact that men can become this creative and are willing to go this far in putting in the work of lying but simply won't make the changes he needs to see in himself. Lol. It's sad and funny at the same time.
@M Lane It happens. By your response I know you have learned alot. The men who have low vibrations, they come out the gate "I love you" after a few minutes of them introducing themselves. I see it as a red flag. My mind begins to exit when they start talking about love. The best ending to this video. Ladies start liking expensive things. Yes! Chloe!
My former friend! We not friends anymore. Because she decided to get married to a Con man. I am done being friends with woman that refuse to see the light!
I met someone recently on my way to the gym. My attire was a scarf for my head, sweat's and t-shirt. In a later conversation, he said I looked good. I have 100lbs to lose. He always tells me I look fine the way I am. It's like he wants to discourage me from working out and becoming healthy. That was a turn off for me so I had to let him go.
cookies andpie same thing here; I am clearly unhealthy and I should make an effort to lose the weight but not on his eyes... he just wants to keep me overweight and unhappy with myself. the more I thought about this the more I think that he wanted to limit my options of meeting someone else...
I was engaged less than 2 weeks ago and broke it off and moved out because I started losing weight and going to the gym and he accused me of cheating on him. Lol. Asking me for a timeline. Telling me I was fine the way I was. I hate lazy, insecure men. So draining
It is scary out there. Some people's natural personality might be to manipulate for there own purposes. I just watched a video called something like interview with a sociopath. The most important thing he said was that he let's the person (mark/potential victim) speak first because this allows him to learn about her or him and adjust their self to fit what the potential victim wants or needs. He plays a character.
Ding! I dated a man who owned his own business yet his account was ALWAYS in the negatives. Then had the nerve to talk down on my salary meanwhile he couldn’t even pay a $50 phone bill. 😭😂😂 The nerve of these men. 🤣
I dead ass had my ex’s mama and only sibling tell me to get away from him as fast as I could . His mama was Indian and if you know the culture you know how they are about their boys, especially only sons. I didn’t listen! Cost me 15,000 to learn that lesson!
Y’all LISTEN to what she is saying... this is all facts. I speak from experience, I could write a book on this topic! Please be especially aware of unearned praise this is the narcs calling card!!!
Chloe and Chrissy have taught me so much that I'm ahead on these lessons. This guy I've been talking with always complimented me on my looks and while we are on quarantine I said I look terrible and he said I need to love myself and he feels he deserves more appreciation for giving me compliments after I asked him what can you do that sets you apart from all the men that only supply words. 🥴 Sir, you haven't done anything special and complimenting me on my appearance all the time is annoying. Loving myself is more than just what I see in the mirror and I'm not tolerating someone interjecting insecurities I dont have.
Yes Chloe! Ladies, the scammers, narcs, opportunists, hobosexuals, etc are busy like the devil during social isolation! Keep ya discernment game up. And Chloe, YES: FLATTERY is another way con men prey on women to ease on in. Please not only pay attention to career & work ethic, but also CHARACTER.
Yes indeed. Since this quarantine I've had more fools than ever in my inbox. That's to include a ex who "suddenly" loves me again and want to get back together. Not today, Satan!😂
Sonja Teal girrrlll I’m so glad I blocked the goofies I unfortunately came across before quarantine lol. Line been dry and I love it. Peace over fake love.
Yup, a year late to this, however, real men would order takeout and have it delivered to their woman's address so they could have a virtual date night :)
The most important thing a woman needs is self esteem! I've seen women give, give, give to men, supposedly in the name of helping them. I think they are trying to buy their love, a relationship or to just keep a man around. When the man doesn't reciprocates, she feels abused. She is being abused!! The problem is, she set herself up for it. Men can spot this type of woman, a mile away.
My brother is a con man smh. Here is my testimony: I haven’t spoken to my older brother since my mother’s death eight years ago when he got his girlfriend to fight me in our home while my mother was on her death bed. I was twenty one at the time. He hated how “selfish” I was because I knew how to tell others no and mean it. My father has since told me my mother (who I never used to get along with) used to give him money from her paycheck frequently, so little did I know he was raised to expect women to be givers and hated how I wasn’t a ”giver”, so much so he used to try to mentally, emotionally, and physically (note the try) abuse me. I used to call the police on him whenever I thought he was taking things too far. He would not have tried that with my father there as my father is not scared of his dumbass. My mother and father were divorced, so my father was not in the home ever since I was 16 yo. What hurt was that my mother encouraged the dysfunction by maligning me. Anyway, she passed away and I got my chance to move away from my brother, to his surprise (can you believe he thought I would stay and share the rent? 🤣) Throughout the following years, things have changed with me. I now have my own place and refuse to live with anyone anymore. What I had been through living with others, especially my family, has convinced me that I need to live alone. If I find someone, he has to understand this about me. I am willing to compromise and move to be next to him, but I MUST have a place to call my own. I am terrified of living in hell again. I think about all the trapped women during the current lockdown and thank god for my selfishness and self awareness. As an adult I am aware that I now have the choice. Before, when I was younger, I felt like I had no choice. Now I realize that a big part of it was because I didn’t have the money. Now I am hyper aware of the role money plays in human relationships, as well as how physical looks can have a real effect on how I am perceived and treated. I now cringe at feel good movies that brainwash women into thinking that only their personality should matter and only men’s “hearts” should matter 🙄. MONEY matters. More than a lot of men and women are even willing to admit. Fast forward to January of this year. My brother decides out of the blue to “visit” my father who lives in the same neighborhood as I do. My father pleads for me to talk with him. I say no lol. My brother then writes a letter. I read it and analyze his handwriting. The way he writes his c’s with a hook tells me he lives for drama in relationships and is insecure af. I decide to see him for shits and giggles. The moment I saw him I knew I was in the presence of a career dusty. A con man. See, his girlfriend whom he was mooching off of had just left him a few months ago and finally took back her car that he was living out of (when he told me that I told him “good for her” lol). He has been roaming around homeless and in a drug induced delirium. He still has his arrogant god-complex in tow. He hadn’t changed. But he has gotten older and more pathetic. What he didn’t know at the time was that I had gotten worse with my selfishness 😂. I now practice the religion of the hypergamous woman. Whatever tricks he had up his sleeves was not going to work on me. I mean, it never did, but now I am more sure of myself. Slowly but surely it started. He started complementing me a lot and asking me for advice, trying to gain my confidence. Then, his birthday came around (coincidence?) and I did buy the parasite a small gift of some soap and a gift card. He thanked me. Then, when we were out, he complained of hunger. So I bought one meal of my choosing and let him pick off the plate 😝. Then, he asked me for my phone number. I gave him my throw away one. Then, he mentioned washing his clothes over at my place. I dropped a glass I was holding “on accident” and that was the end of that convo (he took that as a ‘bad omen’ 😆). He was staying with my father during this time and I made sure to never allow him where I lived or to show him the car I drive. I knew better. Idk how he knew I had a washer and dryer, maybe my blabber mouth sister told him, idk. So then he calls me one day to tell me how he doesn’t like the water my dad has (my father boils tap water and bottles it). He asks me to get him a gallon of water from the dollar tree🌲. “It’s only a dollar” he says. That. Was. When. I. Let. Him. Have. It. And I am not talking about no water. I told him about himself. I did not hold back. I let him know that I don’t borrow and I don’t lend. If he wants store bought water he needs to get a job and buy it. My father refuses to pay for water, so that’s why he boils tap water. He doesn’t ask me to buy him some from the store wtf?! Anyway, I know to some this may seem small and petty, but con men (like most abusers) usually start small. The devil is in the details ladies. Make your rule be that you don’t give money to men no matter what. Yes, no matter what. Men should be problem solvers and ashamed to be asking a woman for money. But no, these con men are ashamed to ask men for money but won’t hesitate to take advantage of a woman’s soft heart. Go ask another man! That is what I tell them. All I give these men is advice lol. Other men have more money than women anyway. What Chloe says is spot on. If you are not profiting more from a man than he could ever profit from you need to rethink things. Research shows that in terms of happiness and longevity it goes: unmarried men < married women < married men < unmarried women. Food for thought 💭
Stacy with no E you’re not wrong. They always start small. I also have a brother like this. He went and created 2 children with this terrible woman who already had 3 kids with 2 different men. They’re both not working and living off the gov’t. The lady gets over $500 for food stamps for those kids but my brother is always calling us, his family about the kids being hungry. All that money from food stamp even if you can’t afford to give them anything else, they should at least be able to eat. When we ask him, he lies about where the food stamp money really went. As sorry as I feel for those kids, it’s his job to take care of them. At first, I tried to help him out but like you, I got tired. I now realize that my brother will never grow up. My parents still have hope and don’t realize they’ve been enabling him. He just shows up to their house the other day and they let him in. He doesn’t even care about possibly bringing corona to his elderly parents. All he knows is that he needs food and money and they’ll let him in.
@Shawny Love 💕 Sorry to hear about the leech running off with your money. I know how it feels to have your trust trampled upon. The bright side is that you’re still young so you have the rest of your life to make better decisions. As for your brothers, I know it hurts to not be close with them because they are family, but I would still encourage you to live your best life regardless because unfortunately sometimes family don’t act like family.
@@jocelyndevereaux2964 That’s terrible. Sounds like he only cares bait himself. My mother used to baby my brother a lot and I wonder if that might have caused him to have a bad case of arrested development
I love that you know how to analyze hand writing, you’re dead on that the devil is in the details. He sounds like a nightmare to be around. Know your worth and that includes family!
They usually ask what u do for a living before wanting to know much else about u . When a man inquires about how I get my daily bread too early on I see it as a red flag. Don’t worry about what I do. I’m not here to be ur provider so why does it matter?
A dusty attempted to con me as he knew I was a business owner.He was so charming initially however it back fired on him. The most the guy got out of me since I knew he was trying to run game was some cold nasty soup I made(he was broke and hungry) which he devoured. And when he told me his sorry ass story about lack of employment opportunities and asked me for money since I'm 'doing well' I sent him £1 bank tranfer which is like 50 cents lol with a reference payment note saying(ashawo)prostitute..lol. Needless to say he has been attempting to get in touch and wants to 'talk' . That dusty is now blocktttt for life!
There are so many Dusties out there taking full advantage of the stay-at-home order. It’s easier for them to attract high caliber women because we can’t go anywhere or do anything..... they have an excuse not to spend money. Netflix and Quarantine is their go to motto. Please keep posting. We need to stay on our toes. ❤️❤️❤️
The play on words Is just superb 😂 Such a fact don’t be fooled by the way a man dresses, I’ve seen men dress up every day looking like a million bucks with not even a dollar in their pockets.
Girl! All I could do is say "Mmmhmm" this whole video. Love bombing is so common now a days. Also, I would beware of Men who just want to be with you for "a look". Meaning being with you makes them look more stable to impress their friends and family.
Didn’t the wife in Acrimony support what first appeared to be a conman, but he turned out to be successful? She gave and gave, but finally bailed on him right before he hit it big.
@Whitney Hannig basically. However, in acrimony a scene where the girl buys him a car talks about how he had a way of not asking but of suggesting, which references Chloe’s point on Power Of Persuasion. He persuaded her while never having a job all those years. She worked 2 jobs to uphold everything from start to finish. Another key point is the future promises. He promised her a fancy ring, boat, apartment that overlooked the city and still tried to pitch that on the day they learned their home was getting foreclosed on and cost the siblings their line of work. Overall, everything he had was obtained from conning women from gaining their sympathy.
Bambidaydreamer3, out of curiosity, from your perspective was the husband with his crazy battery idea conning his wife all along in the movie? And did he con his friend-to-be-girlfriend who helped him get into the company?
@Whitney Hannig from my POV, yes. Again had it not been for the women and the kindness in their hearts, none of it would’ve happened. Outside of the movie women all over are living this lifestyle without it ever paying off.
I’ve never given a man money. But I witnessed it with two of my friends. One financed a man’s entire lifestyle. And lost everything she owned trying to keep him. Well, he ended up getting killed at another woman’s house by her boyfriend. The other had a great career but wanted people to think she was rich. Even though she obviously wasn’t. So when men would ask her for money she would lend it to them. Rather than saying I don’t have it. 🤷🏽♀️
So as I'm watching this, why did my ex dusty just face time me? I'm cordial, looking at his bum behind fitting all the criteria of a con man. As much as it hurted, he taught me the game. The game is to be sold not told. In short, ladies please don't date out of loneliness or a sense of brokenness because these con men are like sharks to blood. Don't listen to his words, look at his actions, do they match? Learn the game. 💯
Get em Chole... not trying to hear about the Rona bae's got tricked being in they feelings about being in the house by themselves... We gonna be alright!
Brilliant video. I fell victim to a con man. Only he didnt flatter me he actually didnt treat well at all. I cooked I clean let him sleep here gave money a few times, majority paid back but there were many many times he would ask and I would say no. It was a new to me I had never done that before but I was lonely so allowed it to happen. He had no father and he was used to women taking care of him. He was such a toxic male but one time I needed help he was there but it was still me him using my resources mainly food. Never again. I have to learn to validate and love myself.
Have met a few women who’ve taken loans to help their men invest ! am always left tongue tight wondering how the work of a financial institution suddenly becomes a woman’s work.ANYWAY ,I stick to my lane of being a worthy recipient of all goodness that comes with hypergamy!
When I was 18 years old I was conned. I saved some money working at a fast food restaurant for my first car. He said he will get a car from the auction with my little $1000. Gave him the money and he disappeared. I was so hurt. We weren't dating, my mom found that bum from somewhere.
Just like you said, he started out by asking me to pay for a drink, then it was lunch, next it was gas. Ended up stealing over 10,000 from me. 😡 I hate it so much and I'm so angry at myself for not seeing the signs or ignoring the signs!!
As a woman who is always working amongst or doing business with men ( I'm in the trucking field - yes I use my femininity to get my way - yes some guys genuinely hate me - yes it's also the reason I have my concealed carry 😉 lol I don't play that), let me just say this to alleviate some of the fear and the heaviness of this situation : the REASON these men are like this (and usually they don't even realize it - shoot, neither do some of us!) is because of how much of an influence we are to men. Almost everything about a man's ego depends on how we respond to them. Remember their true legacy (children/family) depends on us and how much we love/respect them as well. They know that. Deep down all men know that they are supposed to provide, so when they are not able to, it leaves them feeling inadequate on all fronts (almost completely purposeless really) - and they know most women's deepest desire is to be with a man who will respectfully take care of them. What ends up happening is that these scam artists, out of sheer laziness, lack of character and lack of guidance (plus enabling by family members, culture and friends), end up becoming con men in the sense that they will lie to get the end result that they *THINK* they want (a woman & her admiration) only to realize that that doesn't fix their actual problem. On a spectrum of integrity, the laziest thing someone can do is lie (steal/cheat) - this makes them even weaker. If you think about it, these men still end up getting some of us with their lies but even they themselves are still miserable in the situation, it just goes to show that it has absolutely nothing to do with us! It's them. They're truly miserable. They move on to the next seeking satisfaction but until a man does what he needs to for himself, BY HIMSELF, he will never be happy with himself nor anyone else! So don't build em. Don't help em. If you find a good one, keep your legs closed until he is proven and recognizes you as his wife (as Adam did Eve when she was first created and he had ALREADY did his job of naming all the animals and tilling the land before God even made her) and maybe you can emotionally support him here and there from afar but never allow a man to *depend* on you for anything. He has to prove his own self sufficiency first! A lot of men genuinely lack enough insight to truly look inside and realize that THEY are the ones who are the problem, and that in order to attract a healthy mate, they themselves have to do the actual work of establishing themselves from the inside out. So yes, dealing with these guys in the most severe forms is damaging and even dangerous in a lot of cases, but it's not something to fear, only to understand. And if you find yourself in one of these situations, once you have enough sense to get out, your work is gonna be cut out for you cz you obviously have some work to do on yourself too if you're out here settling for a man whom you don't want/isn't proven to you. You've got to learn to be firm about your desires, needs and wants and understand that they matter! The right men will do their best to rise up to it because they know your value! Like attracts like. I've met some Stallions in my field as well and if you are going to be with a real, provider man you will also have to be more than just a cooking, cleaning, pretty thing (who has her own money or not - doesn't really matter). But make sure you carry strong values and that you exercise your power gracefully but consistently. Be self sufficient on all fronts as well (Yes even financially - that way you're not desperate). Believe it or not if you can be strict/limited with a man from the beginning while still being feminine and sexy it will drive him nuts. It shows him self discipline and self reliance and those are sexy traits to have in either sex! He may press you about how fine you are and blah blah blah but don't give him any nor commit to him until he has committed to you and PROVEN that he is everything that you've wanted. Only then is it a fair exchange.
Get yourself familiar with lavish things!I love this one!Con men avoid women that take good care of themselves and spend money on themselves and never act easily impressed✨
Let’s not forget the cheapest and oldest conman trick in the book. When he tells you “I’m a nice guy”. Nice by whose and which standard?? Where is the evidence that supports this statement?? 🤣🤣🤣
Hi Chloe_, keep up the great work sis! I would absolutely request if you could do a video on spotting men in the closet please? I liked this boy but it turned out he was gay, how do we ladies develop our gaydar?
Oh my god i remember a facebook friend inboxed me a story about a man posing as a fake doctor and he lied to his girlfriend about his children he told them that his 2 sons were dead the woman found out that he was on parole for check fraud and found out that he lied about his children being dead she never dated again after that
Yaaaas Chloe. Another great video. Ladies amp up your set worth and self-value because there are too many men out here ready to rinse women for all their worth 🤬🤢
I need to be sharing this with my girl friends and on my social media accounts! And I'm ready for the lurkers 🙄 and dusties coming with the defense nonsense.
Thanks Chole another great informed video for our young ladies out there.I love how you you get straight to the topic no long production and bull crap like these scammers trying to ruin so many young girl life.Mrs. Chole you just don"t know how much these young girls need this information from you a young person yourself THANK YOU I HAVE GRANDAUGHTERS OUT THERE .
Chloe, could you do a video on submission. When you should and shouldn't be submissive to a man. Alot of us struggle with this because we take from our masculine mothers (especially in arugments/confrontations). 💕
Good advice! As I’m finding dating really tricky as men today all tend 2 love bomb or future fake to get what they want.so women have to be careful not to reveal all her cards or even say she wants marriage and kids as men then use this to manipulate you ! Really sad but we have to be on guard and take notes! And Work on our self esteem and femininity be high maintenance with a healthy mindset!
Braaaaavo, CHLOE!!!! Peace and Love to you!!!! 💛💗💙 Note: I don't wanna hear it from these dangerous, Narcissistic Dusties!!!! Many have learned to CLEVERLY DISGUISE mental illness (ie personality disorders-Hustler/Con man mentality). They are conniving MANIPULATORS, and being NICE to you in the beginning, is a way to get what they want. When they see that being nice isn't working. Then they go into NARC MODE. Their TRUE COLORS will show. They begin to verbally abuse you, which is a form of manipulation. They may even physically abuse you-Manipulation. Ummhmm... I SEE UM FROM A MILE AWAY!!! I learned to Love, Respect and Protect myself a long time ago!
Thank you dear. Hypergamy is sure my sanity pills. Without this word it would have been living against your intuition and not knowing... I am a receiver and that's what makes me a better person to you and to me darling man there.kisses
Two days before you posted this. I found out I was in a relationship with a con man. I'm happy to say with the help of my mother and pastor I found out and cut him off
Bonus* if he seems impressed by your finances, car or apartment most likely he's looking to take advantage of those. I have the antidote to con-men: Asking Questions. I had a friend get scammed out of $1,500 and when she put him on speaker I started asking questions and he started getting mad. The gag is he was a professional con-man who was getting money out of women in the Tampa Bay Area.
I was approached by a 'con man' a few weeks ago, when going for a walk. Believe it or not, they are very easy to spot: 1. He talked fast, was very flattering and kept saying how I was 'his type'. I gave him my number, just to see what he was going to do. I decided from the get go that the only truth he would get is my real name. That's all. That's when I outed him. 2. Every lie I told him he parroted back. 3. He asked me out for coffee and lunch...during a pandemic. Nix the lunch/coffee faux pas; he didn't care about EITHER of our health. That's how thick he laid it. 4. He kept bringing up why I didn't want children. He was looking for a come up via having a baby. When I shut that down... 5. That's when the games started. His actions and words would not match up. He kept calling me pet names when I told him not to (ignoring boundaries). When the flattery didn't work, then the negging started (I'm too picky, etc.) I told him to kick rocks. Long story short, Con artists and PUAS move hard and fast. The only solution is to feed them lies and see how fast they move.
@@wandamajette8648 , if you mean 2 phone calls, it was worth the science. Sometimes you have to see the species in the wild and run quantitative tests.
Salaam, Beautiful Ladies and Beloved Chloe_... I just used the word 'charlatan' earlier today...😂 That part about being fooled by clothing and employment...whoooo wheee...that's TRUTH right there...I know someone who on the outside checks off all the right boxes and is the biggest narcissistic con artist this side of the Mason-Dixon line!! Stay Healthy and Be Blessed, Loves!😊❤
The con man is a pandemic just like in Fall from Grace lol. Ladies, learn to love yourself and really understand you and you alone are responsible for your happiness (this is where you should be self-reliant). Don't settle or give in so easily to the first guy who shows you attention! It is natural to like sweet nothings but don't take it seriously at the same time. Sure, I been there because yes it feels good to hear someone boost your ego when you may like the person based off his look or personality...however can he pay bills? Will he pay your bills or any bills? If you're not sure that is not a good sign lol. A man who only gives you words with no actions is a con, period. They will avoid you if you are too high end...unless he is into it (some high end cons will fool you too lol) but it will make him at least second guess testing you. Never give men money, they will only use it against you. Any man who asks you for money early on or forgets his wallet is a waste of time! And yes, it has happened to me but only ONCE! The minute the guy asked for money I was out. When a guy 'forgets' his wallet -- he is full of BS! Don't take this guy's calls anymore, block him! lol...
My uncles best friend admitted to him that he only goes after women with money. However when he makes them fall in love with him and when they find out he doesn't have any £££ it's too late because they fell for his trap! UK ladies beware.
I gave a guy money as a bit of a test once....he failed but so did I as I gave it to him more than once though I cared nothing about him but felt bad as he'd lost his job and was about to miss going to see his son and/ or sending child support-well so he told me lol...Just as Chloe says though...he used to go on and on about how much make up I was wearing..and I didnt understand that until I started listening here. Admittedly I hardly had any make up on when we met, also couldn't find the dress I wanted so felt I looked a mess overall..but if was a funeral lol and tbh someone went up to him and said I liked him...he hadnt noticed me. He was very cute initially...later I found the muscles were from 5 years imprisonment and though he had said he was single and allowed me to believe he was unmarried we was actually seperated for 5 years because he was incarcerated months after his 1st child was born. Low sex drive but tried to make out I was some type of sex freak and whilst he was telling me not to wear too much makeup he was strangely addicted to Housewives of Atlanta type shows, and clearly picking up work quickly wasnt as easy as it would ordinarily be because he'd been in Prison.....learnt my lesson!...What I learned also was it was sexual interest on my part so I should have worked out if that was going to work rather than trying to.make it into a relationship cos really we were both using each other...I thank God I can barely remember his name and I wasnt invested or broken my the situation ..more embarrassed as he didnt need to meet friends or family especially as once we sleep together it was more than clear it was not going to work but I I thought I'd look like a hoe to end it there. It was the first time I thought omg do you have to sleep with all men to check compatibility? Anyway, that was a few years ago and back on my 4 year dry spell....though tempted currently by some out of work guy right now but again it's a bedroom thing and my main problem is never having got over my first love so other guys are just a time filler or unfortunately fail when I compare them to him....just need the original guy cut out of my memory so I can move on really but not sure how to do this except soul tie brain retraining! Multi dating with no sex is quite good and easy right now during quarantine to be honest...enjoying that! Thanks Chloe
I wish I never introduced my now ex to my family! However I was in a way forced to because I told my mother I was in a relationship but wanted to keep it on the low to see how things go. She couldn't keep her mouth shut and decided to tell my grandmother. He spun me a sob story about his ex wife left with his two children. At first he had a mediocre job, then I started noticing a pattern. He couldn't keep a damn job! Always blaming other people at his work place saying how hes "misunderstood". I left after two years. I could foresee my future with him. Me working with two children while he sat at home asking me for money for nonsense!
REQUEST CHLOE ---- PLEASE DO A VIDEO EXPLAINING THE GREEN CARD/GET US CITIZENSHIP CON GAME. I see many sisters here in Washington DC getting scammed on a regular basis.
Never ever ever give a man money! Make that your #1 rule.
Yes. If a lot of ladies start off with just that one rule...the rest will come much easier!
Yes. When he vents about his financial woes, tell him, "I'm sorry, I'm sure you'll figure it out or I'm having money trouble myself".
I had to learn this the hard way, because I have a soft spot for people in financial troubles, because I've been there myself and needed help. Whatever you do, don't tell him your finances, don't offer financial relief and if he comes with financial struggles of his own, you make it seem like you are struggling yourself.
Or gifts and buy him things
Sane as the other way unless she is your wife. No moochers here
@Lis Hurd lol im not broke I spend on myself. I am leveling up for myself. I would never give a women who is not my wife a penny. I hate lazy moochers. If im working hard I would never date a lazy girl. I have my own place and car at 23. Im guna keep improving. If I became a millionaire I would date the best women possible. You think guys who make money and are successful are stupid and just give handouts. Dream on lady.
Desperation is the most dangerous thing on the planet... It lands you in a deep pit.
Cheryl D you just said a mouth full.
That's a fact
Facts
And these men smell desperation from a mile and know who to prey on.
As a plus size....I'm really warn my plus size sisters.....like it or NOT...we are targeted at high levels.....my main rules....don't give any money, don't let compliments impress you....don't let people move in your place....I have a cousin who goes from women house...then he breaks up with her...on to the next ladies house.....while living with one lady he is already....looking for the next residence.......I need to shout this for the ladies in the back....don't give your money to any man....especially if he has not given you any money....
Thank you for sharing this. Do you know how many times I've watched women in my life open the doors of their homes to these bums? And how they are already plotting for the next victim while staying with them? Notice how these men are never without a roof?
I’m not offended at all. I’ve been working out since I was 18 and I’ve never been able to get below a size 12 due to medical/ hormonal issues. Bum approach me because they think that I’m an easy target and have no standards or self esteem. I don’t even bother dating anymore because I never find a man who’s not trying to use me or think that I’m easy sex.
@@Letsmakethis-DGC preach....I have never been able to get down to a 12 so you are blessed and really a great size to "ME"..but I encourage my sisters to focus on creating a good life for themselves via social service, charity work, getting an education, traveling the world (when possible), getting the career you desire....... but put men at the back burner............... because the selection pool for a "good, working, not having 10 kids, not on drugs, not in need of financial help, and not having mental health issues is small in the black community.
Yes sis, they think that plus you are plus size you are easily manipulated. This is why I have learned to seek my own validation. I am always dressed to the T and I can sense people's " wow, who do she think she is" spirit lol. Radical self-love and high value for self is a dusty repellent for sure.
Ya learned this
If his social media shows “entrepreneur” but no business name, part of a MLM or anything “hustle” related... RUN 🤣 Don’t accept!
Ladies please listen. Don't give men money. I learned the hard way.
Same here
This describes all of the men on dating sites. Chloe: You should write a book titled "How to Save a Life".
Great comment! That book would be lit.
Unfortunately, most men don’t respect women on dating websites because they are fishing in a big pond with various options 🥴
@@rubybansah What i am also asking myself is why go on dating sites in the first place? It's much nicer meeting people organically. You have a much better chance at spotting red flags cause you'll see their body language and read their eyes.
NINA WESTLAKE Yes! Had to learn that lesson this year. Never again🤦🏾
@@rubybansah We all live and learn. But I quit dating sites a few years ago.
Something about that unearned praise is totally triggering and a TURN OFF. Especially first meeting, or not fully knowing me. 😩
Yes!!! I hate when they start calling you beautiful in every other sentence. Like bruh, OKAY! I get it damn😒
Sweet talking: the oldest trick in the book 🤦🏾♀️.
I think it's called "love bombing"
Right! That's what I always think.
Talk is CHEAP 🗣️🗣️ esp coming from MEN .. Actions only ladies.. Let's validate ourselves Ladies.
I was engaged to a Man who wanted to marry me bcz of my Inheritance... He was 10 years my senior and had a stable job, so it was hard for me to ever imagine that he was a Con Man... When he realized I didn’t want my parents to sponsor our Wedding, I wanted a Prenup, and I expected Him to provide for me and the kids we were gonna have just like my father did for us, He ghosted a couple of months before our Wedding and I never heard from Him ever since... 😅
Wow.. Shit happens but you were smart!
Wow😳
Women with substantial inheritances and/or careers that provide decent incomes should NEVER tell a man she is doing well.
👏👏👏👏👏....well done girl!! Well done!!
Smart Lady!😊
A conman will always describe his exes/baby mama as ‘crazy’ and he is always the poor innocent victim.. Run ladies.. Don’t bother asking him what he did to make them crazy or why he keeps attracting ‘crazy’ women because he will lie. At one point they were sane enough for him to sleep with.. 🤷🏾♀️
Right sounds like a straight narcissist smh
I’m glad you started the video stating that a con man can be of any race. I just watched an episode on Dateline of a guy who hustled hundreds of women and he was a white man who was in the marines, looked sophisticated, educated and clean cut. It’s not always a hood dude, you’d be surprised!!!
Maria Ferrer video title!!!!!?
For the life of me I can't remember the name of that one book...where a woman was being used by this man. She ended up dying before she ever got justice.
Beware of men who are not us citizens some of them are the ones who "fall in love" with you on the first date. I met a "nice" guy from Africa who swore he'd been a US citizen for 4 years, claimed he was an sponsored Olympic track athlete, had property in a very expensive beach area of SoCalif, had management degrees, ran a successful limo business, but as we talked over a 2 week period I found it strange that he stayed in a family members bedroom sleeping on their floor in order to not inconvenience them and bugged the 💩 out of me to come over and see my place, cook with me and "snuggle" My gut told me NO WAY do you let this man near you or your house. Ladies if something doesn't feel right then it AINT.. Follow your intuition God gave it to you for a reason...USE IT!
yes! listen to our instincts!
😂😂😂
Facts. Undocumented men fall in love so fast. 🙄🙄
The fact that men can become this creative and are willing to go this far in putting in the work of lying but simply won't make the changes he needs to see in himself. Lol. It's sad and funny at the same time.
Some are not lurkers or con men, some are so obvious. After the first time meeting, they use the L word and the bae word.
@M Lane It happens. By your response I know you have learned alot. The men who have low vibrations, they come out the gate "I love you" after a few minutes of them introducing themselves. I see it as a red flag. My mind begins to exit when they start talking about love. The best ending to this video. Ladies start liking expensive things. Yes! Chloe!
At this point I don't want men to look at me.
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Lol
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣
😂😂😂....
Basically stay away from narcissist, you know the ones who rush things and drain you out your soul and energy, I’m good !!!
Sums it up.
YES! THEY ARE ALL THE SAME! And so easy to spot when you recognize the signs.
Men on social media fit this description , especially when it comes to love bombing.
@M Lane Exactly💯 That's why I can't date men who DM me on social media, they're mostly dusties.
Wow love bombing
Who disliked the video... the con man?
Yes lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣... them and the women who have plans to giveaway their stimulus check to their BD
A Moore...😂😂
😂😂😂
@@4LADYSWEET Lmaooooo
No rappers, no hoteps and no broke or broken men. I'm slowly building myself up & reminding myself of my worth.
My former friend! We not friends anymore. Because she decided to get married to a Con man. I am done being friends with woman that refuse to see the light!
Some of these ghost you bc they won't be able to complete their mission.
A lot of con man mentality parallels the PIMP mentality
Brianna Owens SAY THAT AGAIN. Lots of fools want to fancy themselves as being a pimp- not cute.
Yep
YES!! OMG! I WAS LOOKING FOR THAT CAUSE THAT JUST HAPPENED TO ME! SMH because i was thinking of "pimping" as differently but nah it was pimping
Yep
I met someone recently on my way to the gym. My attire was a scarf for my head, sweat's and t-shirt. In a later conversation, he said I looked good. I have 100lbs to lose. He always tells me I look fine the way I am. It's like he wants to discourage me from working out and becoming healthy. That was a turn off for me so I had to let him go.
cookies andpie same thing here; I am clearly unhealthy and I should make an effort to lose the weight but not on his eyes... he just wants to keep me overweight and unhappy with myself. the more I thought about this the more I think that he wanted to limit my options of meeting someone else...
@@gabrielac3159 exactly! I continue to work out daily
I was engaged less than 2 weeks ago and broke it off and moved out because I started losing weight and going to the gym and he accused me of cheating on him. Lol. Asking me for a timeline. Telling me I was fine the way I was. I hate lazy, insecure men. So draining
He might be a feeder
It is scary out there. Some people's natural personality might be to manipulate for there own purposes. I just watched a video called something like interview with a sociopath. The most important thing he said was that he let's the person (mark/potential victim) speak first because this allows him to learn about her or him and adjust their self to fit what the potential victim wants or needs. He plays a character.
Oh wow 😕, he is a nut job
I think I saw that one. The best response to a guy asking what we're looking for is to ask what he is offering. He'll probably scatter like a rodent.
@M Lane that's true women are more expressive; well at least I am, thank you for sharing this.
I saw that video. Mind was blown.
@@dnw75 *takes notes*
I have met the conman a couple of times and i've always outconned him. Call me the con woman.
😂 ain’t no fun when the rabbit has the gun
ahhhhhhh
😂😂😂😂
I just blocked him. Have a nice day. 💕💮
YAYYYYY!
❤😁😁😁😁
Good, good
Love this❤💋
@@SonjaElizabethTeal lol byeeeeee 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻
Can I add, will run SUCCESSFUL businesses** Just because he has his own business doesn't mean he is a man of means.
Exactly 👏🏽👏🏽
Ding! I dated a man who owned his own business yet his account was ALWAYS in the negatives. Then had the nerve to talk down on my salary meanwhile he couldn’t even pay a $50 phone bill. 😭😂😂 The nerve of these men. 🤣
I dead ass had my ex’s mama and only sibling tell me to get away from him as fast as I could . His mama was Indian and if you know the culture you know how they are about their boys, especially only sons. I didn’t listen! Cost me 15,000 to learn that lesson!
Some of these families are also trying to get rid of their bad apples. Following these directives are essential to avoiding the Con Man.
Whew
Lulu Jones...15,000 US DOLLARS????🤯🤯
Lady Bird yeah. $100 here an there adds up. I was 250lbs. Now I’m 133 and leveled up. I was a sucker.
@@Lucas_ramirez67 I'm so sorry. We all have a story and we all have learned from them. Congratulations on your weight loss!!! 🎊🎉🎶🍷
" Graduated to stealing out of your purse" never gets old to me😁😁😁 I laugh each time you say it!
Y’all LISTEN to what she is saying... this is all facts. I speak from experience, I could write a book on this topic! Please be especially aware of unearned praise this is the narcs calling card!!!
Chloe and Chrissy have taught me so much that I'm ahead on these lessons. This guy I've been talking with always complimented me on my looks and while we are on quarantine I said I look terrible and he said I need to love myself and he feels he deserves more appreciation for giving me compliments after I asked him what can you do that sets you apart from all the men that only supply words. 🥴 Sir, you haven't done anything special and complimenting me on my appearance all the time is annoying. Loving myself is more than just what I see in the mirror and I'm not tolerating someone interjecting insecurities I dont have.
Agreed
He wanted a reward for giving compliments lol gee, I wonder what kind of "reward" lol FOH! You handled him well.💯
Well said. And I can definitely relate to this tired attempt to "create insecurities".
"They will graduate to taking money from your purse". THAT’S HUGE!
Wanda Majette nothing irks more than a man feeling comfortable putting his hands in my purse. My ex was like that. I hated it.
@@jocelyndevereaux2964
What was his reaction when you went into his wallet?
@@jocelyndevereaux2964
Is the correct term comfortable or does he have no regard for how you feel so he steals from you?
Yes Chloe! Ladies, the scammers, narcs, opportunists, hobosexuals, etc are busy like the devil during social isolation! Keep ya discernment game up. And Chloe, YES: FLATTERY is another way con men prey on women to ease on in. Please not only pay attention to career & work ethic, but also CHARACTER.
Yes indeed. Since this quarantine I've had more fools than ever in my inbox. That's to include a ex who "suddenly" loves me again and want to get back together.
Not today, Satan!😂
Sonja Teal girrrlll I’m so glad I blocked the goofies I unfortunately came across before quarantine lol. Line been dry and I love it. Peace over fake love.
Hobosexuals 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love this lol
@@TheDroShow Amen!!😊❤
Yup, a year late to this, however, real men would order takeout and have it delivered to their woman's address so they could have a virtual date night :)
The most important thing a woman needs is self esteem! I've seen women give, give, give to men, supposedly in the name of helping them. I think they are trying to buy their love, a relationship or to just keep a man around. When the man doesn't reciprocates, she feels abused. She is being abused!! The problem is, she set herself up for it. Men can spot this type of woman, a mile away.
My brother is a con man smh. Here is my testimony: I haven’t spoken to my older brother since my mother’s death eight years ago when he got his girlfriend to fight me in our home while my mother was on her death bed. I was twenty one at the time. He hated how “selfish” I was because I knew how to tell others no and mean it. My father has since told me my mother (who I never used to get along with) used to give him money from her paycheck frequently, so little did I know he was raised to expect women to be givers and hated how I wasn’t a ”giver”, so much so he used to try to mentally, emotionally, and physically (note the try) abuse me. I used to call the police on him whenever I thought he was taking things too far. He would not have tried that with my father there as my father is not scared of his dumbass. My mother and father were divorced, so my father was not in the home ever since I was 16 yo. What hurt was that my mother encouraged the dysfunction by maligning me. Anyway, she passed away and I got my chance to move away from my brother, to his surprise (can you believe he thought I would stay and share the rent? 🤣)
Throughout the following years, things have changed with me. I now have my own place and refuse to live with anyone anymore. What I had been through living with others, especially my family, has convinced me that I need to live alone. If I find someone, he has to understand this about me. I am willing to compromise and move to be next to him, but I MUST have a place to call my own. I am terrified of living in hell again. I think about all the trapped women during the current lockdown and thank god for my selfishness and self awareness. As an adult I am aware that I now have the choice. Before, when I was younger, I felt like I had no choice. Now I realize that a big part of it was because I didn’t have the money. Now I am hyper aware of the role money plays in human relationships, as well as how physical looks can have a real effect on how I am perceived and treated. I now cringe at feel good movies that brainwash women into thinking that only their personality should matter and only men’s “hearts” should matter 🙄. MONEY matters. More than a lot of men and women are even willing to admit.
Fast forward to January of this year. My brother decides out of the blue to “visit” my father who lives in the same neighborhood as I do. My father pleads for me to talk with him. I say no lol. My brother then writes a letter. I read it and analyze his handwriting. The way he writes his c’s with a hook tells me he lives for drama in relationships and is insecure af. I decide to see him for shits and giggles. The moment I saw him I knew I was in the presence of a career dusty. A con man. See, his girlfriend whom he was mooching off of had just left him a few months ago and finally took back her car that he was living out of (when he told me that I told him “good for her” lol). He has been roaming around homeless and in a drug induced delirium. He still has his arrogant god-complex in tow. He hadn’t changed. But he has gotten older and more pathetic. What he didn’t know at the time was that I had gotten worse with my selfishness 😂. I now practice the religion of the hypergamous woman. Whatever tricks he had up his sleeves was not going to work on me. I mean, it never did, but now I am more sure of myself.
Slowly but surely it started. He started complementing me a lot and asking me for advice, trying to gain my confidence. Then, his birthday came around (coincidence?) and I did buy the parasite a small gift of some soap and a gift card. He thanked me. Then, when we were out, he complained of hunger. So I bought one meal of my choosing and let him pick off the plate 😝. Then, he asked me for my phone number. I gave him my throw away one. Then, he mentioned washing his clothes over at my place. I dropped a glass I was holding “on accident” and that was the end of that convo (he took that as a ‘bad omen’ 😆).
He was staying with my father during this time and I made sure to never allow him where I lived or to show him the car I drive. I knew better. Idk how he knew I had a washer and dryer, maybe my blabber mouth sister told him, idk. So then he calls me one day to tell me how he doesn’t like the water my dad has (my father boils tap water and bottles it). He asks me to get him a gallon of water from the dollar tree🌲. “It’s only a dollar” he says.
That. Was. When. I. Let. Him. Have. It.
And I am not talking about no water.
I told him about himself. I did not hold back. I let him know that I don’t borrow and I don’t lend. If he wants store bought water he needs to get a job and buy it. My father refuses to pay for water, so that’s why he boils tap water. He doesn’t ask me to buy him some from the store wtf?!
Anyway, I know to some this may seem small and petty, but con men (like most abusers) usually start small. The devil is in the details ladies. Make your rule be that you don’t give money to men no matter what. Yes, no matter what. Men should be problem solvers and ashamed to be asking a woman for money. But no, these con men are ashamed to ask men for money but won’t hesitate to take advantage of a woman’s soft heart. Go ask another man! That is what I tell them. All I give these men is advice lol. Other men have more money than women anyway.
What Chloe says is spot on. If you are not profiting more from a man than he could ever profit from you need to rethink things.
Research shows that in terms of happiness and longevity it goes: unmarried men < married women < married men < unmarried women. Food for thought 💭
Stacy with no E you’re not wrong. They always start small. I also have a brother like this. He went and created 2 children with this terrible woman who already had 3 kids with 2 different men. They’re both not working and living off the gov’t. The lady gets over $500 for food stamps for those kids but my brother is always calling us, his family about the kids being hungry. All that money from food stamp even if you can’t afford to give them anything else, they should at least be able to eat. When we ask him, he lies about where the food stamp money really went. As sorry as I feel for those kids, it’s his job to take care of them.
At first, I tried to help him out but like you, I got tired. I now realize that my brother will never grow up. My parents still have hope and don’t realize they’ve been enabling him.
He just shows up to their house the other day and they let him in. He doesn’t even care about possibly bringing corona to his elderly parents. All he knows is that he needs food and money and they’ll let him in.
@Shawny Love 💕 Sorry to hear about the leech running off with your money. I know how it feels to have your trust trampled upon. The bright side is that you’re still young so you have the rest of your life to make better decisions. As for your brothers, I know it hurts to not be close with them because they are family, but I would still encourage you to live your best life regardless because unfortunately sometimes family don’t act like family.
@@jocelyndevereaux2964 That’s terrible. Sounds like he only cares bait himself. My mother used to baby my brother a lot and I wonder if that might have caused him to have a bad case of arrested development
I love that you know how to analyze hand writing, you’re dead on that the devil is in the details. He sounds like a nightmare to be around. Know your worth and that includes family!
Most of these cons are too obvious. I feel there are lots of covert ones that we might want to discuss
This was my ex, I bought groceries and gave money 😔😔😔😔. I'm doing much better now.
They usually ask what u do for a living before wanting to know much else about u . When a man inquires about how I get my daily bread too early on I see it as a red flag. Don’t worry about what I do. I’m not here to be ur provider so why does it matter?
A dusty attempted to con me as he knew I was a business owner.He was so charming initially however it back fired on him. The most the guy got out of me since I knew he was trying to run game was some cold nasty soup I made(he was broke and hungry) which he devoured. And when he told me his sorry ass story about lack of employment opportunities and asked me for money since I'm 'doing well' I sent him £1 bank tranfer which is like 50 cents lol with a reference payment note saying(ashawo)prostitute..lol. Needless to say he has been attempting to get in touch and wants to 'talk' . That dusty is now blocktttt for life!
This has me CACKLING OMG 😭😭😭
@@ssoomee sis I have a whole story time on this 😂😂😂
Girl! 😂😂 Not ashewo😂😂😂😂
@@nyaholorunda7167 Yes Girl, it's going to show on his bank statement 😂😂
You're a true Queen🤣🤣🤣🤣 serves him right
There are so many Dusties out there taking full advantage of the stay-at-home order. It’s easier for them to attract high caliber women because we can’t go anywhere or do anything..... they have an excuse not to spend money. Netflix and Quarantine is their go to motto. Please keep posting. We need to stay on our toes. ❤️❤️❤️
That is so true! Maybe just focus on inner and outer level up more than trying to date right now.
Gen J that’s exactly what I’m doing during this time. I just want my sisters to be aware of the COVID19 scam ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@ladiabla3373 Thanks for posting your comment. It reminded need to spend this time on me!
@@fumilayomitchell5225 I love that so smart thank you!
@@agents3409 Love that and that proves again if really interested will make a sincere effort like that. Thank you for sharing this.
The play on words Is just superb 😂
Such a fact don’t be fooled by the way a man dresses, I’ve seen men dress up every day looking like a million bucks with not even a dollar in their pockets.
Girl! All I could do is say "Mmmhmm" this whole video. Love bombing is so common now a days. Also, I would beware of Men who just want to be with you for "a look". Meaning being with you makes them look more stable to impress their friends and family.
One movie reference....... Tyler Perry’s Acrimony.
@beautiful Muna ouuuu well I just recorded it from watching cable. It was playing on EPIX.
Didn’t the wife in Acrimony support what first appeared to be a conman, but he turned out to be successful? She gave and gave, but finally bailed on him right before he hit it big.
@Whitney Hannig basically. However, in acrimony a scene where the girl buys him a car talks about how he had a way of not asking but of suggesting, which references Chloe’s point on Power Of Persuasion. He persuaded her while never having a job all those years. She worked 2 jobs to uphold everything from start to finish. Another key point is the future promises. He promised her a fancy ring, boat, apartment that overlooked the city and still tried to pitch that on the day they learned their home was getting foreclosed on and cost the siblings their line of work. Overall, everything he had was obtained from conning women from gaining their sympathy.
Bambidaydreamer3, out of curiosity, from your perspective was the husband with his crazy battery idea conning his wife all along in the movie? And did he con his friend-to-be-girlfriend who helped him get into the company?
@Whitney Hannig from my POV, yes. Again had it not been for the women and the kindness in their hearts, none of it would’ve happened. Outside of the movie women all over are living this lifestyle without it ever paying off.
I’ve never given a man money. But I witnessed it with two of my friends. One financed a man’s entire lifestyle. And lost everything she owned trying to keep him. Well, he ended up getting killed at another woman’s house by her boyfriend. The other had a great career but wanted people to think she was rich. Even though she obviously wasn’t. So when men would ask her for money she would lend it to them. Rather than saying I don’t have it. 🤷🏽♀️
I’ve definitely been scammed in the past, Being young and naive! But please believe I’ll never ever give a man a dime again! The thought disgusts me!!
So as I'm watching this, why did my ex dusty just face time me? I'm cordial, looking at his bum behind fitting all the criteria of a con man. As much as it hurted, he taught me the game. The game is to be sold not told.
In short, ladies please don't date out of loneliness or a sense of brokenness because these con men are like sharks to blood. Don't listen to his words, look at his actions, do they match? Learn the game. 💯
Get em Chole... not trying to hear about the Rona bae's got tricked being in they feelings about being in the house by themselves... We gonna be alright!
All this!☝️
Thank you! My friend going through this right now with a dustie.
This comment section is lit lol.
Yes I've experienced this, trust me I will never be that naive ever again. They will leave you broke and broken!
Its gets me every time what when she says lady's and lurkers 😌🤭
In other words, 10 ways to avoid a narc.
Brilliant video. I fell victim to a con man. Only he didnt flatter me he actually didnt treat well at all. I cooked I clean let him sleep here gave money a few times, majority paid back but there were many many times he would ask and I would say no.
It was a new to me I had never done that before but I was lonely so allowed it to happen. He had no father and he was used to women taking care of him. He was such a toxic male but one time I needed help he was there but it was still me him using my resources mainly food.
Never again. I have to learn to validate and love myself.
Sadé Anthony you are not alone. We live and learn. Only up from here ❤️❤️❤️
@@snl2010 thank you for your comment. Knowing I am not alone takes the shame away. We do indeed live and learn ♥️
Good for you for making a positive change!😊❤
Have met a few women who’ve taken loans to help their men invest ! am always left tongue tight wondering how the work of a financial institution suddenly becomes a woman’s work.ANYWAY ,I stick to my lane of being a worthy recipient of all goodness that comes with hypergamy!
...I’ve never met a con man because I’m “selfish” 😇... Great commentary 🌟
When I was 18 years old I was conned. I saved some money working at a fast food restaurant for my first car. He said he will get a car from the auction with my little $1000. Gave him the money and he disappeared. I was so hurt. We weren't dating, my mom found that bum from somewhere.
Just like you said, he started out by asking me to pay for a drink, then it was lunch, next it was gas. Ended up stealing over 10,000 from me. 😡 I hate it so much and I'm so angry at myself for not seeing the signs or ignoring the signs!!
Timely video as stimulus checks are dropping lol Ladies don't let these Narcs con you out of your 💰.
When it’s too good to be true, it always usually is.
On point Chloe_ I got catfished. The red flag was when he asked me for money and that was my exit notification. They do love bomb you.
As a woman who is always working amongst or doing business with men ( I'm in the trucking field - yes I use my femininity to get my way - yes some guys genuinely hate me - yes it's also the reason I have my concealed carry 😉 lol I don't play that), let me just say this to alleviate some of the fear and the heaviness of this situation : the REASON these men are like this (and usually they don't even realize it - shoot, neither do some of us!) is because of how much of an influence we are to men.
Almost everything about a man's ego depends on how we respond to them. Remember their true legacy (children/family) depends on us and how much we love/respect them as well. They know that. Deep down all men know that they are supposed to provide, so when they are not able to, it leaves them feeling inadequate on all fronts (almost completely purposeless really) - and they know most women's deepest desire is to be with a man who will respectfully take care of them. What ends up happening is that these scam artists, out of sheer laziness, lack of character and lack of guidance (plus enabling by family members, culture and friends), end up becoming con men in the sense that they will lie to get the end result that they *THINK* they want (a woman & her admiration) only to realize that that doesn't fix their actual problem.
On a spectrum of integrity, the laziest thing someone can do is lie (steal/cheat) - this makes them even weaker. If you think about it, these men still end up getting some of us with their lies but even they themselves are still miserable in the situation, it just goes to show that it has absolutely nothing to do with us! It's them. They're truly miserable. They move on to the next seeking satisfaction but until a man does what he needs to for himself, BY HIMSELF, he will never be happy with himself nor anyone else! So don't build em. Don't help em. If you find a good one, keep your legs closed until he is proven and recognizes you as his wife (as Adam did Eve when she was first created and he had ALREADY did his job of naming all the animals and tilling the land before God even made her) and maybe you can emotionally support him here and there from afar but never allow a man to *depend* on you for anything. He has to prove his own self sufficiency first!
A lot of men genuinely lack enough insight to truly look inside and realize that THEY are the ones who are the problem, and that in order to attract a healthy mate, they themselves have to do the actual work of establishing themselves from the inside out. So yes, dealing with these guys in the most severe forms is damaging and even dangerous in a lot of cases, but it's not something to fear, only to understand. And if you find yourself in one of these situations, once you have enough sense to get out, your work is gonna be cut out for you cz you obviously have some work to do on yourself too if you're out here settling for a man whom you don't want/isn't proven to you. You've got to learn to be firm about your desires, needs and wants and understand that they matter! The right men will do their best to rise up to it because they know your value!
Like attracts like. I've met some Stallions in my field as well and if you are going to be with a real, provider man you will also have to be more than just a cooking, cleaning, pretty thing (who has her own money or not - doesn't really matter). But make sure you carry strong values and that you exercise your power gracefully but consistently. Be self sufficient on all fronts as well (Yes even financially - that way you're not desperate). Believe it or not if you can be strict/limited with a man from the beginning while still being feminine and sexy it will drive him nuts. It shows him self discipline and self reliance and those are sexy traits to have in either sex! He may press you about how fine you are and blah blah blah but don't give him any nor commit to him until he has committed to you and PROVEN that he is everything that you've wanted. Only then is it a fair exchange.
Get yourself familiar with lavish things!I love this one!Con men avoid women that take good care of themselves and spend money on themselves and never act easily impressed✨
Let’s not forget the cheapest and oldest conman trick in the book. When he tells you “I’m a nice guy”. Nice by whose and which
standard?? Where is the evidence that supports this statement?? 🤣🤣🤣
Whenever, I hear, I'm a nice guy. I'm like abort, abort....
Why is it that my boyfriend doesn’t compliment me when I’m all dressed up with make up on but he does when I look bad or dirty.
Hi Chloe_, keep up the great work sis! I would absolutely request if you could do a video on spotting men in the closet please? I liked this boy but it turned out he was gay, how do we ladies develop our gaydar?
Excellent idea!
Get a gay friend on board & test the situation 🤣
Oh my god i remember a facebook friend inboxed me a story about a man posing as a fake doctor and he lied to his girlfriend about his children he told them that his 2 sons were dead the woman found out that he was on parole for check fraud and found out that he lied about his children being dead she never dated again after that
Yaaaas Chloe. Another great video. Ladies amp up your set worth and self-value because there are too many men out here ready to rinse women for all their worth 🤬🤢
Every time I hear Ms Chloe videos, I imagine her with glasses pointing at the chalk board giving us a lesson. 😂😂😂😂
I need to be sharing this with my girl friends and on my social media accounts! And I'm ready for the lurkers 🙄 and dusties coming with the defense nonsense.
Thanks Chole another great informed video for our young ladies out there.I love how you you get straight to the topic no long production and bull crap like these scammers trying to ruin so many young girl life.Mrs. Chole you just don"t know how much these young girls need this information from you a young person yourself THANK YOU I HAVE GRANDAUGHTERS OUT THERE .
I will never fall for a role reversal again!
Chloe, could you do a video on submission. When you should and shouldn't be submissive to a man. Alot of us struggle with this because we take from our masculine mothers (especially in arugments/confrontations). 💕
I highly recommend the book: Why does he do that! It is life changing and give scenarios of narcissistic and abusive man.
I have dated Con Men ... this is very true...
I agree with every word. The best thing I can do is share this information with my niece's and one of my single female friends. Thanks Kindly.
Good advice! As I’m finding dating really tricky as men today all tend 2 love bomb or future fake to get what they want.so women have to be careful not to reveal all her cards or even say she wants marriage and kids as men then use this to manipulate you ! Really sad but we have to be on guard and take notes! And Work on our self esteem and femininity be high maintenance with a healthy mindset!
I was once emailed by a Nigerian Prince... My luck is a changing !!!! 🍀
Braaaaavo, CHLOE!!!!
Peace and Love to you!!!! 💛💗💙
Note: I don't wanna hear it from these dangerous, Narcissistic Dusties!!!! Many have learned to CLEVERLY DISGUISE mental illness (ie personality disorders-Hustler/Con man mentality). They are conniving MANIPULATORS, and being NICE to you in the beginning, is a way to get what they want. When they see that being nice isn't working. Then they go into NARC MODE. Their TRUE COLORS will show. They begin to verbally abuse you, which is a form of manipulation. They may even physically abuse you-Manipulation. Ummhmm... I SEE UM FROM A MILE AWAY!!!
I learned to Love, Respect and Protect myself a long time ago!
I wish I discovered your video five six years ago I been con by a man who only dating me to get a roof over his head
Thank you dear. Hypergamy is sure my sanity pills. Without this word it would have been living against your intuition and not knowing... I am a receiver and that's what makes me a better person to you and to me darling man there.kisses
Not only do I have to take care of myself but you as well? That’s basically babysitting if you ask me
Damn this is so true! Almost every man i have ever had has stolen money out of my purse even after i have gave them money for little ish smh
Two days before you posted this. I found out I was in a relationship with a con man. I'm happy to say with the help of my mother and pastor I found out and cut him off
The series “Dirty John” on Netflix is a chilling lesson on conmen.
Yikes, the “giving a man money part”
Bonus* if he seems impressed by your finances, car or apartment most likely he's looking to take advantage of those. I have the antidote to con-men: Asking Questions. I had a friend get scammed out of $1,500 and when she put him on speaker I started asking questions and he started getting mad. The gag is he was a professional con-man who was getting money out of women in the Tampa Bay Area.
I love when she says "hey ladies and lurkers" 🤣
This is so good! Will you give us a part 2?!
I was approached by a 'con man' a few weeks ago, when going for a walk. Believe it or not, they are very easy to spot:
1. He talked fast, was very flattering and kept saying how I was 'his type'.
I gave him my number, just to see what he was going to do. I decided from the get go that the only truth he would get is my real name. That's all.
That's when I outed him.
2. Every lie I told him he parroted back.
3. He asked me out for coffee and lunch...during a pandemic. Nix the lunch/coffee faux pas; he didn't care about EITHER of our health. That's how thick he laid it.
4. He kept bringing up why I didn't want children. He was looking for a come up via having a baby. When I shut that down...
5. That's when the games started. His actions and words would not match up. He kept calling me pet names when I told him not to (ignoring boundaries). When the flattery didn't work, then the negging started (I'm too picky, etc.)
I told him to kick rocks. Long story short, Con artists and PUAS move hard and fast. The only solution is to feed them lies and see how fast they move.
Wow you gave him your valuable time knowing he wasn't worthy of it.
@@wandamajette8648 , if you mean 2 phone calls, it was worth the science. Sometimes you have to see the species in the wild and run quantitative tests.
@@mylkqueen true
The I love you bomb I received after a week... Red flag🙅♀️
Salaam, Beautiful Ladies and Beloved Chloe_...
I just used the word 'charlatan' earlier today...😂
That part about being fooled by clothing and employment...whoooo wheee...that's TRUTH right there...I know someone who on the outside checks off all the right boxes and is the biggest narcissistic con artist this side of the Mason-Dixon line!!
Stay Healthy and Be Blessed, Loves!😊❤
The con man is a pandemic just like in Fall from Grace lol. Ladies, learn to love yourself and really understand you and you alone are responsible for your happiness (this is where you should be self-reliant). Don't settle or give in so easily to the first guy who shows you attention! It is natural to like sweet nothings but don't take it seriously at the same time. Sure, I been there because yes it feels good to hear someone boost your ego when you may like the person based off his look or personality...however can he pay bills? Will he pay your bills or any bills? If you're not sure that is not a good sign lol. A man who only gives you words with no actions is a con, period. They will avoid you if you are too high end...unless he is into it (some high end cons will fool you too lol) but it will make him at least second guess testing you. Never give men money, they will only use it against you. Any man who asks you for money early on or forgets his wallet is a waste of time! And yes, it has happened to me but only ONCE! The minute the guy asked for money I was out. When a guy 'forgets' his wallet -- he is full of BS! Don't take this guy's calls anymore, block him! lol...
The guy on the couch with the game control took me out😩😂
Loved it!! Easy to follow, clear & to the point. Another great vid Thanks!
My uncles best friend admitted to him that he only goes after women with money. However when he makes them fall in love with him and when they find out he doesn't have any £££ it's too late because they fell for his trap! UK ladies beware.
Whew Chile! I feel like you could have made a full video on each of these! Great info as usual
I agree
A wandering gypsy spirit and a bum. My goodness. I just HOLLERED! 😂😆😩
I gave a guy money as a bit of a test once....he failed but so did I as I gave it to him more than once though I cared nothing about him but felt bad as he'd lost his job and was about to miss going to see his son and/ or sending child support-well so he told me lol...Just as Chloe says though...he used to go on and on about how much make up I was wearing..and I didnt understand that until I started listening here. Admittedly I hardly had any make up on when we met, also couldn't find the dress I wanted so felt I looked a mess overall..but if was a funeral lol and tbh someone went up to him and said I liked him...he hadnt noticed me. He was very cute initially...later I found the muscles were from 5 years imprisonment and though he had said he was single and allowed me to believe he was unmarried we was actually seperated for 5 years because he was incarcerated months after his 1st child was born. Low sex drive but tried to make out I was some type of sex freak and whilst he was telling me not to wear too much makeup he was strangely addicted to Housewives of Atlanta type shows, and clearly picking up work quickly wasnt as easy as it would ordinarily be because he'd been in Prison.....learnt my lesson!...What I learned also was it was sexual interest on my part so I should have worked out if that was going to work rather than trying to.make it into a relationship cos really we were both using each other...I thank God I can barely remember his name and I wasnt invested or broken my the situation ..more embarrassed as he didnt need to meet friends or family especially as once we sleep together it was more than clear it was not going to work but I I thought I'd look like a hoe to end it there. It was the first time I thought omg do you have to sleep with all men to check compatibility? Anyway, that was a few years ago and back on my 4 year dry spell....though tempted currently by some out of work guy right now but again it's a bedroom thing and my main problem is never having got over my first love so other guys are just a time filler or unfortunately fail when I compare them to him....just need the original guy cut out of my memory so I can move on really but not sure how to do this except soul tie brain retraining! Multi dating with no sex is quite good and easy right now during quarantine to be honest...enjoying that! Thanks Chloe
I wish I never introduced my now ex to my family! However I was in a way forced to because I told my mother I was in a relationship but wanted to keep it on the low to see how things go. She couldn't keep her mouth shut and decided to tell my grandmother.
He spun me a sob story about his ex wife left with his two children. At first he had a mediocre job, then I started noticing a pattern. He couldn't keep a damn job! Always blaming other people at his work place saying how hes "misunderstood".
I left after two years. I could foresee my future with him. Me working with two children while he sat at home asking me for money for nonsense!
Your on point listening from the Caribbean Trinidad and Tobago
Yes, yes, and yes!! I have lived and experienced all of this. Everything said here is true.
Been there. Never again. A con man will lay it on thick! Beware!
REQUEST CHLOE ---- PLEASE DO A VIDEO EXPLAINING THE GREEN CARD/GET US CITIZENSHIP CON GAME. I see many sisters here in Washington DC getting scammed on a regular basis.
Thankyou Chloe so glad I found your channel. Have been scammed b4 bt I'm now well prepared for the future 😘