I guess I'm lucky in that girls and girls are so sexualised I was encouraged to make out with all my friends in high school and it was great lol it was my awakening
I totally feel the same way. I'm turning 18 next week and I've never had a boyfriend, I've never kissed someone... I feel like I'm missing something, lots of people around me are dating and idk why and can't "find" a boyfriend. Probably because I'm too shy but also because I don't really think that a boy can be attracted by me. I try to not think about it but sometimes it hurts, I feel shameful every time boys and girls are talking about their relationships. I'm always scared that they ask about mine... Guess my time will come but it's not making thing easier. Thank you Connor for sharing your experience with us.
Pauline Demons Girl enjoy it while you can and be proud to be single! Take this time that you're single and get to know yourself better, to see what you want in life, make a bucket list and check it off. And believe me everyone! has someone for them out there
Thomas Lyrene I feel like this is going to be. The idea of being intimate with someone or that someone will be willing enough to look at me like that is unfathomable.
I probably have the "awkwardness" syndrome where I would get really excited if my crush walks by but refuse to talk to him, let alone trying to hook up or anything else... Connor I feel you.
well i'm turning 19 soon and not only I've never dated anyone, but also never been kissed. I just try to be positive about it and think its their fault they don't see me, not mine
sab li It ain't anyones' fault... it just hasn't been the right time for it to happen... It's better to wait and enjoy it, than rush it and regret it :)
sab li seriously and honestly me too. It's frustrating. Like all my friends have boyfriends and I've never had one or had my first kiss yet and my friends joke about it all the time :(
Hello Connor, I recently admitted to myself the following statement, I am bisexual. It is something I have always hidden deep down and actually wasn't planning on telling people since I was still hiding it from myself. I lied to people and I lied to myself. I have known for sure that I was bi since last year but still didn't want people to know. I was afraid people especially my closest guy friends wouldn't understand. The thing is I grew up with them and them pushing me away is a thought that was just too painful to think about. Since we go to different schools one of my best friends told me his new year resolution was to spend more time with me. I told him mine was to be more honest to myself and then I came out to him has bisexual.....His response was so supportive and amazing I am so thankful. I want to thank you because I think I can relate with a lot of things you said in your coming out video. You inspired me to be honest with myself and I am so thankful for that. Thank you Connor Franta
Sarah Wolkowitz honestly high school isn't all about dating, take it from a senior lol enjoy your high school with close friends. go to football games, I was water girl and honestly it was fun. i get along with most of the guys, they're like brothers. join clubs. I'm in the drama club and its pretty cool, you get to meet new people. enjoy your high school years, they're the best.
Sarah Wolkowitz Don't even worry about it. Just live your life. Studies have shown that people aren't growing up as fast as they used to. Meaning that most people growing up in the 80's or something would've gotten their first kiss and lose their virginity in early high school but nowadays most of the important experiences are now happening to people while they are in college or even later. So it's normal that you want to grow up really fast because that's what media has taught you, but it's for the best that you go at your own pace and go slow. The last thing you want is to feel like you grew up too fast.
I'm 18 and I haven't had my first kiss or first boyfriend. I've had a few opportunities to, but I don't feel the same way about the guy as they feel about me. I want my first kiss/relationship to be with someone I like as much as they like me, I don't want to settle and I think that's okay. Some of my friends tease me about it sometimes, but I know I am being true to myself and waiting feels right to me. I know it will happen one day.
Carlie Doll Wow i am on the exact same page as you. You've written what i have been unable to explain to my friends and family as to why I've never had a boyfriend.Just that i am 19...20 in September 😅
aylin lugo I'm glad I could help you explain what you are feeling! We just need to remember that we will meet "the one" at some point and he's going to be worth the wait❤
Carlie Doll yasss mee too ik my values but it can be hard to feel like its ok or normal or acceptable idk part of me is like get it over with but for what? For society?
This is a good move guys. Last winter at college, 18 years old, without having had my first kiss I wanted to get it out of the way so badly. I ended up settling and kissing some girl I wasn't attracted to at all. She wasn't gross but she just wasn't my type and I did not enjoy it at all. Plus I feel pretty bad for giving her hope or stringing her along. It's not a complete loss though because now I realize the value in being involved with somebody I have deep feelings for. Also, I hope you don't have friends as obnoxious as mine who will make fun of you for waiting. Stay true to your values, you won't regret that.
I came out when I was 15 years old. im 27 now. I have definitely had all of those experiences when I was young bit to be quite honest I regretted them because I wasnt really ready and I felt a ton of guilt because of a religious upbringing. Now that an older and more mature I realize that those experiences helped to shape me into the fabulous gay man I am today. The point is, so what, you missed out on those opportunities when you were younger. Embrace the now baby. Get out there and sow your wild oats now. There's no time like the present. ;-)
OHHH MY GAWD. WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT THE WHOLE CONVINCING URSELF YOU ONLY LIKED THEM AS A PERSON! is that a thing? I remember I talked to my mum once about my sexuality and she'd told me I didn't actually like the girl I just admired her. and I convinced myself that too. ahhh I'm so confused now whàaaaat
X D i think it is a thing. before i came out i thought i admired these guys and wanted to be like them or be friends with them. that was way wrong tho lol
X D it's totally a thing. Especially with girls, it's so normal to have a "girl crush" where girls convince themselves they only like a girl platonically and just really want to be like them or be their friend. In hind sight that's how I justified my love for girls in middle and high school
ughhhh my brainnnn. I thought I was over this lol. I thought I was straight bam done. then again.. I do look at boobs a lot. that's probably not a straight thing to do😂😅😭
X D You could be bi. Just try to figure it out slowly, step by step. Just because you're attracted to another girl/guy, doesn't mean you're immediately lesbian/gay lol It's better not to put a name on it at the beginning, it will come naturally, trust me
Never kissed anyone, and I'm 20 and straight. I've had crushes before, but I never got to experience a relationship. I too feel like life cheated me xD
I did kiss very few times while in my teens but it felt so akward and wrong, like i cheated myself or something because I didn't know/like the person until my 20s actually. I learned that only by having a special bond with someone, can I make a move by will. 22 currently.
I was 24 when I had my first kiss.... I'm a totally normal human being, it just didn't happen. I have since dated plenty and was married and have 2 kids... don;t freak out it will happen. it's not as unusual as you are made to think it is.
I kinda understand where you're coming from. I'm a 21 year old guy who's bisexual (at least I think i am but that's a story for another day) and who's never really had a boyfriend or had gone through the whole experimenting/crushing phase. I had small crushes on girls in middle school and high school but only started realizing I'm attracted to men in my last year of high school. I'm kinda a part of hookup culture, but as of recently I feel like I'm missing something. I'm never quite satisfied with hooking up with someone or one night stands. I wish I had a boyfriend so I could experience what it's like but I've been single for almost 3 years now and every crush I have on someone ends up in shambles, so I guess you could say I'm missing out on that part. I only wish it were easier to just talk to someone you have feelings towards and have them feel the same way. 🙁
I'm 15, IM HELLA GAY! But I am WAY too shy to talk to boys or make a move on them at teenage nights at nightclubs It makes me feel sad not having a cute boyf in my life but it all comes back to me being too shy to ask or even say hi to a guy I find attractive. Irish Gays, come find me
I'm literally one of the only people in my grade who have never hooked up or kissed someone. I'm in 12th grade. Most people in my grade, heterosexual or in the lgbtq+, experiencing things or doing this from love, has done this and I have NEVER! Oops
Lynn Levy I know, same. Im thinking if I should be having those experiences that they are when kissing boys and just having fun. Im a wee bit younger than you (9th grade) but I still havent kissed anyone.
Lynn Levy Idk what your grades mean like I'm from Sweden but I'm fifteen years old (sixteen this year) and I haven't even kissed anyone :(( also I'm bisexual so there's many options but still...
Oh Connor! I feel like we have a lot in common! Growing up as a closeted gay in a religious and homophobic community, I didn't have my first kiss until I was 21 years old (my first kiss wasn't what I've expected because that guy kissed me without my permission and I am still pissed that it isn't as special as I have hoped it'd be!) and I was a virgin until a year later, when I gave it to someone who didn't love me back. So, watching this video, I kept thinking how the two of us have so many things in common. I'm not sure about you, but in my case, my closet was basically open the entire time, it's just that I've been so afraid of how people would react if I come out of it that, I just shut myself inside the closet for as long as I could and I literally hated myself every single day because of it. I wasn't able to be who I truly am because I was just so afraid of how people see me as a person. And though I have come out to my best friends over the years while I was still in the closet, the fear of losing them when they knew (and when anybody knew) is so hard for me to come to terms with. Like you, I've had so many crushes on boys in my junior school, middle school, high school and college. But, unlike you, they always found out that I was in a huge crush with them because I have such difficulty looking at them in the eye or talk to them normally; I would text them continuously and would like and comment on all of their posts (that's when facebook has started to become a thing)... it was just so obvious that I have a huge crush on them. it has always been so obvious. and it never helped the fact that all my crushes are straight. so I ended up ending a lot of friendships because I couldn't control my own lust for wanting to be with them and do things with them. if you know what I mean. haha. as I grow older, I began to not care much about what other people think. especially when people are starting to become more and more acceptable of the LGBT community. But, that doesn't mean that I'm completely out of the closet yet. like I said earlier, this is still a religiously homophobic Asian country. I would only be comfortable telling people that I'm gay when I know them for a while and I know that they're going to love me for who I am anyways. :) I only had my first boyfriend when I was 23, but that didn't end well coz we just broke up recently and he finally admitted that he never was a fan of how feminine I act out and it bugs him a lot that I'm not masculine as he had liked me to be. it hurts more knowing that I've done a lot of things way out of my league to impress him and to make him happy; I have done a lot of sacrifices (he has too, but who doesn't when it comes to a relationship, am I right?) but I've always thought that we could make it through if we are honest with each other and never give up despite all of our problems. but after 1.5 years, we finally called it quits because we are becoming more and more bitter and we no longer feel happy and sweet the way we did when we first got together. what I'm trying to say is, take your time, Connor. I used to want to experience kissing boys, making out with them, having sex with them, getting in a committed relationship with them, growing old with them... things like that. and I have done a lot of things I regret in order to achieve those "goals". but, if I were given another chance, I'd slowly wait and just use that time to build the best version of me so the right person can come at the right time. :)
I always hear people saying like "yeah I had my first kiss when I was in 5th grade" and I'm just like I'M IN 9TH GRADE AND I'VE ALWAYS BEEN A LONELY POTATO
I had my first kiss the summer going into my freshman year of high school and I cried because i wasn't ready. I wish I could take it back. the boy broke my heart and now he's dating my best friend and they have sex and stuff. im scared and lonely in my world. advice? (on the friend thing not the terrible first kiss)
This is one of my favourite videos I've ever watched of yours, you are so insightful and raw, I love how much I can relate to everything. Thank you Connor
I'm a closeted bisexual boy to my family but I have come out to my friends, I'm 15 years old and I've known I have been bi since I was about 7. Unfortunately I have been brought up in a religious Baha'i family which is okay but my dad and mum and family are homophobic but they don't like to admit it even though they though they say marriage is between a man and a women and the only purpose for sexual intercourse is when you're married and between and man and women which makes me really annoyed. My dad and mum are hugely passionate about the religion and if I left the religion when I'm older they would probably disown me I think even though I know they love me. I would love to be able to kiss a boy once in my life without them knowing or secretly when I'm older date a guy in secret! I'm so scared I'm never going to be able to come out with to them it really upsets me
Adib this is so unfair😔, just be strong and don't doubt you will be with a boy some time. Your parents should love you for who you are. You have to think of you and your happiness, and you won't be happy if you live a fake life, I assure you. But each one has a different situation and living in Spain is too easy in my case to be able to understand you.😫 as I said, I can only tell you to be strong and do what will make you happy.
Adib I would suggest not coming out til you are comfortable with it. it's a hard step. when you come out don't take what they say to heart no matter what it is. if they can't accept you for who you are then so be it. they don't need to be in your life as you have plenty of friends that can and will and even do support you. the main thing is to be sure you are safe and comfortable.
One of my closest friends came out as lesbian and got put up for adoption, she survived and joked through the whole thing and is honestly the biggest inspiration I have. Ask yourself if your parents are really SO shitty and unloving that they'd disown you, I know my family is the most accepting on earth so I can't relate but as a fellow bisexual I think it's not really that big of a deal and if your parents are good parents they will "forgive" you for what they THINK you did wrong
I live in India and sexuality really isn't a thing that's acknowledged here as much so when I got feelings for a girl when I was 11 I was so fucking confused??? I was like?? Wait I admire her??? I like her??? More than a friend??? How?? I'm a girl??shes one too??? Boi I had no idea
Aanya - I understand. I too live in India, and yeah people just go like "its boy - girl NOT boy-boy or girl - girl. I'm a girl and I have a gf. It's all okay, and it's not our problem if people don't understand.
Just bought your book in amazon, and I cannot be more excited to read it. I'm literary going to leave the three books I'm currently reading and deep my head in "Note to Self" by Connor keep that amazing attitude. ❤️forever your fan❤️
Jenae Wilson don't worry I'm 16 and I just had mine. It'll come soon and if not really it wasn't that great cuz we were both wasted so you're not really missing out on much especially in high school
I've never dated anyone, I've never had a Valentine, and I've never had the experience of kissing a person. I don't think that's never going to happen. I'm forever alone. 😟💔😓
My friends have came out to me I support them the lgbt community is nothing to be ashamed of!! I am a huge supporter I am in 7th grade and all these people aren't scared to show their sexuality! I am glad that I found you Connor and got to hear your story!! Lgbt is something that shouldn't be judged and you shouldn't be scared to come out but I'm glad I was born in a generation that supports me and my friends! luv you Connor
Phan! AtTheChemicalPilots hey, just know we of the internet will love you. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to come out, the most important part about coming out is feeling safe. As for your parents they only want the best for you, and so in their eyes that may mean a heterosexual lifestyle, but I'm sure they come to accept you over time if not right away, some people just take time. I hope you are well, and good luck coming out when you do :)
my friends and i never really took part in hookup culture in high school. we were the socially selective introvert type. i feel like i never got the teenage experience really. i never went to parties or drank or anything. i didn't even have a regular hangout with my friends. during the week, we went to school, then went home to baby sit, do music lessons or dance lessons, go to church or whatever, and on the weekends we did the same. also, i never had guy friends and i never really talked to guys. i'm working on it :/
kelly w. That's actually good. I used to hang out with the extrovert group but now I don't and I don't miss it or feel I'm missing out because it was just drama, criticism, everyone hooking up with everyone even people that had a relationship, everyone drinking and passing out not remembering what they had done. Personally I think it's nicer to do something that you will actually remember that you'll be able to share with someone proudly like knowing how to play and instrument instead of showing off how bad you puked when you were drunk, that's pretty useless. And about talking to guys I wish you best of luck, and just be yourself always. Guy's really like that!
Oh my gosh, I feel exactly the same way. But I'm in the middle of high school and I really want to have that high school experience. But I'm just too scared
same! except this time i don't have a friend group :/ i have good friends from high school but none at uni. i just do my own thing and try to be friendly to people in class :P
sorry for the late answer! But same... though I feel like I'm getting a friend group now on my 4th semester, which is great, but I still feel like I'm missing out on all the party stuff ): and I hope you find a some good friends!
I relate to this so much not because I'm gay but because I'm so shy. Whenever I would see my friends hooking up with people at parties in high school I would always feel so jealous of them because they were so outgoing and could just go kiss boys if they wanted to and I was never like that. Now I'm 18, I'm out of high school, and not in college yet so I never actually go to parties that much anymore and I barely ever hang out with people anymore and I feel like I've missed my opportunity to be young and adventurous and just hook up with random people which is so stupid because I'm only 18 and I know I will go to college and have that chance but I'm still not so sure I'll ever be brave enough to just kiss a boy ya know. The only times I've ever hooked up with boys was with a huge lead up to it and us talking for weeks, never just a last minute decision that I think someones cute so I'm gonna kiss them. I've only ever drunkenly made out with my friends at parties because we're girls and girls making out with other girls is so over sexualized that it's just the normal thing to do haha. Yea I don't know I just relate to how you're feeling I guess.
Jordanne Marie that's 100% me. I didn't kiss a boy until I was 17, and I didn't have sex until I was 19. I'm 20 now and I've still only had sex literally once (''twas a bad experience ngl so I feel I've been put off) but it's so hard because like... everyone else has just DONE everything and you feel so behind and it's awkward to tell someone that you're not very experienced because they get all awkward about it and I'm jut stuck in this space where i really wanna just have fun and get with people and stuff but I'm so paranoid/insecure/scared to do it and the older I am the worse I'm feeling tbh lmao... sex in general it's just such a bad anxiety of mine idk
Becca Good Yes!!! That's exactly me! The older I get the more insecure I am admitting that I'm a virgin because people feel weird about it especially when it's a guy and they want to be with someone who's experienced. Now all my friends are off at college and texting me non stop about all these people they've hooked up with and I'm just like uggggh. Cause it's easy for them because they do it all the time but if I were to hook up with someone it would be like a big life changing thing
i feel you. im 20 now and have been to tons of college parties but i still havent hooked up with any guy or even dated anyone. :( sometimes i feel like im going to be forever alone
i used to feel the exact same! but really, it's only a big deal in your own head. no one else knows what you're thinking or feeling. i know it's easier to say than do but if you're feeling yourself one night just go for it! make eye contact with boys or girls or whoever, try to make some sort of conversation which can be easier with alcohol (not completely wasted though lol), then judge the mood see if they're into it and just yolo it (so fucking 2013 but it's tru). like u can't ever predict when or what's going to happen but the hardest thing is putting yourself out there and once u do who knows what will happen ;) basically, make it less of a huge deal in your head, know that you can talk to boys/girls and even if they don't want to or whatever that doesn't make you 'not a hookup person' it's just they might not want to for a whole range of reasons, but someone else might and will another time! good luck to you xx
About half of all homosexuals have been molested and there is a similarly strong correlation to family mental illness and sky high HIV infection rates. 60% of black Atlanta gays have HIV by age 30. And rising because youtube is telling the world that it's a beautiful thing and everyone else is the problems.
Luke, is being a criminal a choice? like the mob. Do they have a choice? or were they born criminals. Do pedophiles have a choice? or were they born that way. Does a violent person have a choice? If you seek the truth you will find it, same as I have.
Luke I'm not aware of any drop in HIV in the last 10 years, indeed it is rising for gay teens because idiotic youtube is telling them that it's a beautiful thing. And I'm not talking about right and wrong. You have to understand what pedophilia is and you don't. When you don't, you don't know what gay is either. And you don't.
What I love in your videos is that you are so quiet...Like so many youtubers are literally screaming into my ears. It's a nice brake from this. And of course that you are absolutely amazing.
Jupiter I'm 18, and I also don't hook up partly because I'm just not into it (I might be demisexual) and never dated, but I'd actually love to be in a relationship for the connection and closeness
Lee Victoria it's when you're exclusively sexually attracted to people you share a deep, emotional bond with! of course, sexuality is a spectrum, so it varies! i'm demisexual as well c:
Y'all don't NEED to do anything. Sexuality and gender are fluid throughout many people's lives, so you may be more bi today, more monosexual later, then return to being bi, or not. (It's not always about being closeted, if a label changes.) Don't compare your life chapters to what you see others portray--I came out at age 12, once I found out about bisexuality, but I have a bi mom (found out when I came out at 14 to her, after she had come out to me. That was a funny car ride.) and an accepting dad (that was at 12), and I had no clue about how much homophobia kills people until I found it randomly on TH-cam while searching for gay Naruto AMVs. My girly crush had a homophobic single mother, and both of her siblings are also gay, but I seem to recall her having a fluid sexuality at 14 and still figuring it out, even with most of her family accepting and loving her. Especially when you're adolescent, nothing about you needs to be set in stone. Even after, people are allowed to change, encouraged, even, depending on the environment and circumstances. TL;DR You don't need to do anything, except to accept yourself, even if you pull a 180, later on in life.
LeatherLace&NuzzlingYourFace You came out at 12?! I have to congratulate you on that. I'm 14 and I haven't came out to my parents, only to my friends, and they all accept me. It makes me so happy that they still treat me the same. But I don't know if my parents, especially my mom, will be okay with it. My mom's religious, so I'm scared that she may be homophobic. Also, your mom's bi? That's awesome! I just want to congratulate you again for having courage in telling your parents at a young age. It seems like a hard thing to do. And don't let anyone let you down, be you and life will go a lot more smoother.
Random Guy I've always found that last part to be true. I don't remember that much bad stuff happening when I started coming out, 2007, when I was 13. I remember people started avoiding me more in the locker room, but that was fine by me. A friend did just up and walk away from me when I said I was bi, but that's the worst. And if you think you need to stay in the closet to be safe from your mom, you don't need to be in a rush, and you don't need to endanger yourself. You're young and vulnerable. Once you're out of high school / out on your own and self sufficient, then might be a good time, if she is consistently an anxious unknown.
I'm only in my first year of high school but I'm the only person who hasn't dated anyone before which I find so weird ! Like what is the rush to date?! Like I've never even had much of any attraction toward someone idk I feel like I'm supposed to have crushes but I don't and honestly I don't want to date
I'm 20 and I've never been on a date or kissed anyone! I've had crushes in high school but never felt the urge (or had the confidence) to actually date them. I'm in my 3rd year of uni now and I still have no desire really to date. Although sometimes (mainly when I see couples on social media) I feel as though it would be nice to have a boyfriend and do cute couple things e.g. go on dates, be affectionate etc most of the time I'm perfectly content to be single and don't care at all that I've never been kissed! Moral of the story: don't worry about not wanting to date, even if everyone else around you is, as long as you are happy 😊
I didn't date anyone till I was 21, and I'm actually glad for it. Don't feel the need to date anyone unless you want to! I imagine being in a relationship you don't to be in is pretty painful anyways. It's much better to be happy and single.
Twenty One Phanatics - danisnotonchairs on ig omg don't worry. first year of high school you're still young. i didn't have my first boyfriend till the end of my second year of high school but to be honest neither of us were ready cuz it was rushed. wait until you feel ready enough.
I'm straight,maybe bicurious and I didn't even have my first kiss until I was 28. I'm nearly 35 and still a virgin. I'm extremely shy dating wise and self conscious.. I never hooked up at parties because I didn't go to parties.
I actually got tears in my eyes reading this. I am soon to be 21, and I've barely ever kissed a boy (or a girl) and I grow more and more insecure about it for each year I'm getting older. It is so nice to finally see someone who's been in the same boat. Thank you so much for sharing this! It gives me hope that everything will be fine.
oh okay so I'm not alone in this thank God. I'm not sure what my sexuality is, i mean i like guys, but I've never kissed anyone or anything and I'm almost 21 now. everyone around me is in a relationship or has been in one and i feel left out? idk
I'm 22 and I have never done anything, never had a boyfriend, nothing and I do feel left out. My brother is 15 and has a girlfriend and I'm like weirdly jealous that he has someone. My sister is 20 and recently just came out and she's going on dates with girls and I just don't do things like that. I don't like dating and I don't like hooking up. Every time a boy gives me any attention I freak out and stop talking to them. I am TWENTY TWO. I think I am demisexual or maybe I'm asexual idk, I've had crushes before, plus I am picky af partly bc my parents are divorced and it seriously messed me up but yeah I feel really like inadequate and embarrassed that I've never kissed anyone or anything. I'm a senior in college living in the dorms and I am just silent when people are talking about their hook ups or tinder dates or sex and what not. I hate it. I can't believe I'm writing this on the internet. fuck.
Hey, just writing this to let you know that you are not alone! I am 21 and have also never done anything as well (I have never even held hands with someone in a non-platonic way lol) and I do feel left out kinda? Although I identify as being panromantic (as in I can be attracted to any gender romantically), I feel like I also fall in the demisexual/asexual spectrum. I also feel uneasy when a boy gives me attention, not in a bad way but in a "this is kinda wierd" way. Idk about other genders, as I don't think that they have shown attention to me (that I know of lol). It's a very weird feeling and it does feel like one is missing out, but at the same time I don't feel the need to rush things and feel like if a relationship happens, then it happens. Although I know that each individual experience is different, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and that, in my opinion it isn't inadequate to not date people. If you don't feel like dating or hooking up then you don't have to. Contrary to what society thinks you yourself are a whole person and don't need other people to make you "whole". Wow sorry for the long response but yeah
You shouldn't regret not having come out earlier, since you think you missed out on things like kissing and hooking up. The thing is: the earlier you come out the more alone you are. If you come out early you will be the only one who came out as gay. There is no kissing boys when you come out earlier. You coming out earlier doesnt allow you to go kissing random boys. It only makes you realise you can't kiss random boys instead.
That's not the case for everyone though. I came out my freshman year of High School, and I knew plenty of gay people. The only reason you would realize you can't kiss random people would be if you were into straight guys which I never get hung up on.
This is so true, I'm the only gay guy from my group of friends that has come out and I see all my crushes which are straight and always feel so alone knowing that I have zero chances with them. I see some friends getting girlfriends and boyfriends, see my crushes get girlfriends and I'm just standing over here like "I love you, let me kiss you!!!!"
sheedah from the 1975 I did the same thing too girl I was out to all my friends but it took a little more time to tell my parents but I eventually did, you'll tell them one day when your ready ❤️💛💚💙💜💖
I stopped watching Connor for awhile (due to personal issues) and I knew about his coming out awhile back and this is my first time watching the NEW and HAPPIER Connor and I cannot say how happy I am for you Connor. I am very proud that you have decided to come out. I still have friends who are afraid to fully come out. ❤ I can tell a major change in your personality. When you were in the closet, you were closed off more and you werent as open and bubbly as you are now. :) It made me feel good to see you like this!! I am a big supporter.
To everyone saying they are so and so years old and haven't kissed anybody....there's no rush, and it's not a competition, so don't worry about it so much. It's about finding the right person and being in the moment and doing it when you're ready and comfortable. It will happen when it's supposed to, I promise.
ive got a really bad illness and I cant go to high school so I dont have friends and I'm not able to go to parties and I feel like Im missing all of high schools & relationships & everything its really stressful
:/ I know what you mean, but honestly I've never been to a day of high school in my life (I'm homeschooled) and I really don't think we're missing out. it sounds like a lot of stress, awkward social situations, and homework. and personally, I was never a big fan of parties either. :)
So, I'm a girl. In the past, I definitely wasn't really accepting of my attraction to girls (I didn't even know there was a term for it haha). I realize now that in the early years of middle school, I actually had a crush on one of my female friends, but I had no idea at the time. The feeling was so foreign and strange and I kept hoping it would go away (it didn't, not for a long time.) Looking back on it, it's pretty hilarious. Way to go, past me.
I relate so to this so much. That was pretty much my life, but September last year when I turned 19 I realized I was time for me to live a little. I've only hooked up with 2 guys and I'd rather keep it that way until I turn 20, cause that's when I plan to come out. I would say that If you're still in the closet and want to experiment, know your boundaries. Your own ideas about safe sex will be tested by the guys you hook up with, but you need to stick to what you know it's right-- talking from experience. Also, I would recommend that when you're having sex for the first time, you should be the top, unlesd you've had previous experience with bottoming. Have fun but be very meticulous about who you're choosing to have sexual interaction with, not everyone tells the truth about who they are or their sexual health.
WOW CONNOR. I'm doing the same thing, I'm not out yet because my living situation and the society where I am is so harsh I may be closeted until I'm like 87 years old.
For instance, I usually tell people I'm Bisexual, because they mostly get that, but Polysexual best fits me. So does Ambiamorous (as opposed to polyamorous or monogamous), but I'll mostly tell people that I'm bi and poly, even tho I'm more accurately Demi-Poly-Ambi. There's a wealth of labels that may end up fitting you, even if you choose a label that effectively means, "labels don't really fit me," like, "queer."
Hey :) Gay, German, 16-yo boy here ^^ Came out of the closet one year ago to all my friends. And it really wasn't a problem to any of them. I'm so happy that the young generation does tolerate and accept me like that. But one problem is still left: My homophobic family, which immigrated from russia two years before my birthday. Since my birth they tell me every day of my life that being gay is a sin and every gay will go to hell. When I found out that I'm gay, I just couldn''t get along with myself. I hated myself, I just wanted to die and was so confused. And thats why I thought that I'm a freak and nobody will accept me. Then I came out of the closet to my best friend, kind of accidently, but she loved it. Thats how I slowly started to accept myself. She was the one, holding me from commiting suicide. So, my friendship with my friends started getting better and better, the one with my parents worse and worse. And you know, for my dad I was never manly enough, he still doesn't know I'm gay, but he threw a table on me just for having "skinny jeans" on, which were one of the most widest ones I found. After I died my hair, he just came and cut my hair off, when I was asleep. My dear Connor, yes - I hooked up with guys in highschool and yes - I kissed boys and made experience, but I would change that all for just getting along an being accepted by my family and espacially my parents. My brother is like them and thinks that homosexuality is an illness and my dad committed some weeks ago, that he would threw one of his childs out if it came out as gay. So yes, I'm in a pretty bad situation... I had a hard time and I can really understand you. It isn't easy for us, huh? Will have to live 2 more years with them and just as I turn 18 I will move out, to be free, to be like I want to be, just to be me :)
MikyMo37 Keine Sorge, wird schon:) Ich meine, du musst deinen Eltern ja eh nichts von deinem Liebesleben erzählen also kannst du schon alles mögliche mit Jungs machen. :)Viel Glück für die nächsten zwei Jahre💚💛❤💗💖💜💙
I feel sorry that you have a homophobic family, everyone should be able to love whoever they want. I'm glad your friend helped you and you didn't commit suicide because you seem like a wonderful person, and if your family doesen't accept you for who you are then they are missing out on getting to know the best member of their family! I know I can't relate with you in an emotional level because I've never gone through a experience like that, but there are a lot of pepole out there that will accept you for who you are, no matter sexuality, race or gender. Stay strong!
MikyMo37 Sorry you to live in such an ignorant, intolerant and hateful environment, but as you said, you'll have to put up with it for only two more years and then you'll be free. But until then, don't let the bastards get you down. You've done nothing wrong for there is nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual or transgender. All that counts is whether or not you are a good, loving, caring and responsible person, and I can tell from your words that you are. The issues your family have are a reflection of who THEY are, not you. You're fine; they're not. As much as I'm sure you'd love to get their approval or at least acceptance, as we all would, you have to allow for the probability that you will not. But don't let that lack of approval or acceptance adversely affect how you feel about yourself. Don't let their toxic thinking poison your own thoughts and feelings. Hang in there. You're stronger and wiser than you may currently realize. :D
I love how honest you are. You just don't care about what people think about you, you are an absolute role model to many ( to ma aswell) You're just so positive and honest. and adorable.
Mmkay I'm bisexual (I think) and I've had about 2 crushes on real girls that I'm away of, but what you said 2:13 I've felt for 2 or 3 additional girlssss!!!!!! And that was when I was still really denying that I was queer, sO IT MAKES SO MUCH FREAKING SENSE OMG THANK YOU
was anyone else just thinking, 'I will kiss you Connor!!!!!' through the entire video?..... just me? okay 😂😂 I like these reflective videos, they make me think about things and feel all deep and stuff!
i'm 16 and a lesbian and i'm out to my friends and some acquaintances but not to anyone in my family (homophobic) and i can't wait until i go to college so i can Unleash the Gay™️️
red hun dont hold it in itll kill you inside i told my family snd my grandparents are racist and homophobes and they still love and accept me :) and my gf i fell in live with she was Arabic/black. YOU never know till you try to explain.
Some of this is what I'm really looking forward to in college. I was a lot more focused on school and didn't really leave a lot of time to have relationships.
Tbh I came out to my friends as bisexual yet nobody from my family knows it since they're kind of homophobes and also criticize bisexual people by saying "They don't know what they want" and that's not true, that's not what bi sexuality is about. I'm in high school and I've never done anything, never kissed anyone nor hooked up. I don't feel pressured to do it even though I do feel afraid of kissing someone when I get in a relationship and I am also afraid of getting in a relationship because I'm afraid I'll mess it all up, it's not normal to get to my age without having ever been in a relationship and I know that. My parents met at 12 and started dating at 17, married with 23, it just makes me feel bad with myself that to them it was so easy to be happy. I don't even get in relationships yet I still hurt and get hurt too
You do a great job! I'm 75 and grew up in a world that LBG wasn't even known except in small circles that I wasn't part of. You think you came out late - how about 52??? Ha ha. But really only because of people like you who are honest and open. I worked in the legal system in Los Angeles and only really came out when I invited myself to a party thrown by a well know gay attorney. He was so surprised he came to me personally to confirm. At the party I ran into the prosecuting attorney in my court - I mean we literally ran into each other going through a door. He said, "Hi Bruce, I know you recognize me and I recognize you. That broke the self imposed block I lived in for so long. So glad to see the many changes in attitude that have come about. As I had a security clearance I virtually stayed under the radar for years after that. Now I'm out to everyone and only sad when I think of what I missed. Oh well, better late than never! ha ha I enjoy your vid's - keep up the good work and best of everything in your blossoming career.
Zoe Delane I'm 12 I think I might be gay but I'm not sure I don't want my mum to know either cuz she hates gays but I'm so nervous aswell I'd be so judged at school. Can u help me?
sometimes, mostly with my parents but with my peers they all pretty much get it, my friends know and most are hella gay anyway but even the people who ive casually slipped it in conversation to either don't bring it up or are like 'k' and move on....
I know I'm late- but I'm also 24 now and I feel exactly the saaaammeee. Everything you say is such a parallel to my life. I missed out on so much in college because of my shyness and fear. Love your videos Connor
aw the comments are really flooding in on this one! keep chatting everyone. i LOVE it.
i love you
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I love you so much!!!
I guess I'm lucky in that girls and girls are so sexualised I was encouraged to make out with all my friends in high school
and it was great lol it was my awakening
also when I say lucky I mean like that's the ONE perk of it lol the actual consequences of that are NOT fun like not being taken seriously siGGgh
doddleoddle dodie this is why i love you omg
doddleoddle love u dodie
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Dodie I love you more than words can describe
yeah i did too but no one thought anything about it. i had to be like NO GUYS I'M ACTUALLY SO GAY haha
I totally feel the same way. I'm turning 18 next week and I've never had a boyfriend, I've never kissed someone... I feel like I'm missing something, lots of people around me are dating and idk why and can't "find" a boyfriend. Probably because I'm too shy but also because I don't really think that a boy can be attracted by me. I try to not think about it but sometimes it hurts, I feel shameful every time boys and girls are talking about their relationships. I'm always scared that they ask about mine... Guess my time will come but it's not making thing easier. Thank you Connor for sharing your experience with us.
litterally everything you said is how i feel! you are not alone
Pauline Demons Girl enjoy it while you can and be proud to be single! Take this time that you're single and get to know yourself better, to see what you want in life, make a bucket list and check it off. And believe me everyone! has someone for them out there
Thank you it's mean a lot for me! You're right I have to love myself and find what i want before to find someone to love... I'll work on it
So good to know that I'm not alone... I'm sure we'll find someone fur us one day
i feel the exact same
I was 26 before I even kissed anyone. Too much anxiety to overcome. At least I know what its like now.
So happy to see I am not the only one well into my twenties before kissing anyone.
This is going to be me
Thomas Lyrene I feel like this is going to be. The idea of being intimate with someone or that someone will be willing enough to look at me like that is unfathomable.
CONNOR LOOKS SO GOOD IN THAT SWEATSHIRT
tyler hoesph I KNOW RIGHT I WANT IT
tyler hoesph he looks better without it tho 👀 buT YAS CUTIE
tyler hoesph IKR
tyler hoesph ylol
tyler hoesph honestly,, he looks good in anything
Literally 80% of the time I was staring at the plant in background waiting for it to fall
tinysof I was waiting for it to fall in the candle
Haha, so was I!
tinysof SAME HERE 🔥
I wanted it to fall so I was sometimes looking at it, but honestly Connor is so cute that I just stared at him the whole time.
That hoodie looks so good on you! x
Sunny hi you learning Arabic
right ??
i'm so happy i found you here
you pretty :P, if you even need help with arabic or hebrew just lemme know :D
Rani omg are you from arabic country :D
Oh my god it's Sunny!!!!! I love your videos!!!!
This is irrelevant but omg it really does
I probably have the "awkwardness" syndrome where I would get really excited if my crush walks by but refuse to talk to him, let alone trying to hook up or anything else... Connor I feel you.
well i'm turning 19 soon and not only I've never dated anyone, but also never been kissed. I just try to be positive about it and think its their fault they don't see me, not mine
sab li It ain't anyones' fault... it just hasn't been the right time for it to happen... It's better to wait and enjoy it, than rush it and regret it :)
sab li seriously and honestly me too. It's frustrating. Like all my friends have boyfriends and I've never had one or had my first kiss yet and my friends joke about it all the time :(
My brother never dated or kissed anyone til he met his now wife. they met when he was 20 he's almost 24 now
I'm 22 and I've never been on a date. Don't worry about it too much, because when it does happen, it'll be that much more special.
yes, i do agree with you, sometimes it's just hard not to forget it
He's such a pretty person, just such a pretty pretty person 😊
am I pretty too :[
Sabrina Brar yes 💜💜
Sabrina Brar yes you're beautiful
He should be cast on the CW show Supernatural, he's so pretty. xD
Rachel Lynn Cross now that I look at him more carefully, he DOES look like Dean's long lost son! hahahaha xD
*My life is falling apart, no clickbait* I laughed so hard
Hello Connor,
I recently admitted to myself the following statement, I am bisexual.
It is something I have always hidden deep down and actually wasn't planning on telling people since I was still hiding it from myself. I lied to people and I lied to myself. I have known for sure that I was bi since last year but still didn't want people to know.
I was afraid people especially my closest guy friends wouldn't understand. The thing is I grew up with them and them pushing me away is a thought that was just too painful to think about. Since we go to different schools one of my best friends told me his new year resolution was to spend more time with me. I told him mine was to be more honest to myself and then I came out to him has bisexual.....His response was so supportive and amazing I am so thankful.
I want to thank you because I think I can relate with a lot of things you said in your coming out video. You inspired me to be honest with myself and I am so thankful for that.
Thank you Connor Franta
I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 16. People say I'm young, but I feel like I'm losing out on high school experiences.
Sarah Wolkowitz i feel you so bad
Sarah Wolkowitz same here
Sarah Wolkowitz honestly high school isn't all about dating, take it from a senior lol enjoy your high school with close friends. go to football games, I was water girl and honestly it was fun. i get along with most of the guys, they're like brothers. join clubs. I'm in the drama club and its pretty cool, you get to meet new people. enjoy your high school years, they're the best.
Sarah Wolkowitz Don't even worry about it. Just live your life. Studies have shown that people aren't growing up as fast as they used to. Meaning that most people growing up in the 80's or something would've gotten their first kiss and lose their virginity in early high school but nowadays most of the important experiences are now happening to people while they are in college or even later. So it's normal that you want to grow up really fast because that's what media has taught you, but it's for the best that you go at your own pace and go slow. The last thing you want is to feel like you grew up too fast.
Sarah Wolkowitz couldn't agree more!!!!
Definitely not alone on this!!
I was always so nervous & awkward to chat to my crush....not much has changed tbh ha 👍😅
Mark Ferris Same here, Mark! 😩💖
omg same i've never done anything in my life and i still dont and im so insure about my fea haha
Mark Ferris I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MARK
Mark Ferris hey Mark I love ur channel and personality xxxxx
Mark Ferris Just do it Mark, you have an amazing way about you. they probably feel the same.
I'm 18 and I haven't had my first kiss or first boyfriend. I've had a few opportunities to, but I don't feel the same way about the guy as they feel about me. I want my first kiss/relationship to be with someone I like as much as they like me, I don't want to settle and I think that's okay. Some of my friends tease me about it sometimes, but I know I am being true to myself and waiting feels right to me. I know it will happen one day.
Carlie Doll Wow i am on the exact same page as you. You've written what i have been unable to explain to my friends and family as to why I've never had a boyfriend.Just that i am 19...20 in September 😅
aylin lugo I'm glad I could help you explain what you are feeling! We just need to remember that we will meet "the one" at some point and he's going to be worth the wait❤
Carlie Doll yasss mee too ik my values but it can be hard to feel like its ok or normal or acceptable idk part of me is like get it over with but for what? For society?
I can totally relate... Single, 18 years, straight, never been kissed & never dated. & tbh I'm not sure if I'm ready to date.
This is a good move guys. Last winter at college, 18 years old, without having had my first kiss I wanted to get it out of the way so badly. I ended up settling and kissing some girl I wasn't attracted to at all. She wasn't gross but she just wasn't my type and I did not enjoy it at all. Plus I feel pretty bad for giving her hope or stringing her along. It's not a complete loss though because now I realize the value in being involved with somebody I have deep feelings for. Also, I hope you don't have friends as obnoxious as mine who will make fun of you for waiting. Stay true to your values, you won't regret that.
I came out when I was 15 years old. im 27 now. I have definitely had all of those experiences when I was young bit to be quite honest I regretted them because I wasnt really ready and I felt a ton of guilt because of a religious upbringing. Now that an older and more mature I realize that those experiences helped to shape me into the fabulous gay man I am today.
The point is, so what, you missed out on those opportunities when you were younger. Embrace the now baby. Get out there and sow your wild oats now. There's no time like the present. ;-)
Tony Hardy I҉ S҉T҉A҉N҉ T҉H҉I҉S҉ C҉O҉M҉M҉E҉N҉T҉
OHHH MY GAWD. WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT THE WHOLE CONVINCING URSELF YOU ONLY LIKED THEM AS A PERSON! is that a thing? I remember I talked to my mum once about my sexuality and she'd told me I didn't actually like the girl I just admired her. and I convinced myself that too. ahhh I'm so confused now whàaaaat
X D i think it is a thing. before i came out i thought i admired these guys and wanted to be like them or be friends with them. that was way wrong tho lol
X D it's totally a thing. Especially with girls, it's so normal to have a "girl crush" where girls convince themselves they only like a girl platonically and just really want to be like them or be their friend. In hind sight that's how I justified my love for girls in middle and high school
ughhhh my brainnnn. I thought I was over this lol. I thought I was straight bam done. then again.. I do look at boobs a lot. that's probably not a straight thing to do😂😅😭
X D You could be bi. Just try to figure it out slowly, step by step. Just because you're attracted to another girl/guy, doesn't mean you're immediately lesbian/gay lol It's better not to put a name on it at the beginning, it will come naturally, trust me
Well, if it is..... Sh*t.
"I like them so much as a person. I want to be their friend." - the story of my Before-I-Discovered-Sexual-Orientations life :P
That was exactly me.
same same same
Rohan Rahinwal Still my asexual self. It's called a squish 😂
Rohan Rahinwal I relate a lot
OMG yes
Never kissed anyone, and I'm 20 and straight. I've had crushes before, but I never got to experience a relationship. I too feel like life cheated me xD
Nelly Thomas 17 and same (although I am probably lebian or bi)
I did kiss very few times while in my teens but it felt so akward and wrong, like i cheated myself or something because I didn't know/like the person until my 20s actually. I learned that only by having a special bond with someone, can I make a move by will. 22 currently.
Nelly Thomas no girl, yous just independent AF girl
Omg I'm fifteen and this comment relieved me so much
I was 24 when I had my first kiss.... I'm a totally normal human being, it just didn't happen. I have since dated plenty and was married and have 2 kids... don;t freak out it will happen. it's not as unusual as you are made to think it is.
I kinda understand where you're coming from. I'm a 21 year old guy who's bisexual (at least I think i am but that's a story for another day) and who's never really had a boyfriend or had gone through the whole experimenting/crushing phase. I had small crushes on girls in middle school and high school but only started realizing I'm attracted to men in my last year of high school. I'm kinda a part of hookup culture, but as of recently I feel like I'm missing something. I'm never quite satisfied with hooking up with someone or one night stands. I wish I had a boyfriend so I could experience what it's like but I've been single for almost 3 years now and every crush I have on someone ends up in shambles, so I guess you could say I'm missing out on that part. I only wish it were easier to just talk to someone you have feelings towards and have them feel the same way. 🙁
I'm 15, IM HELLA GAY! But I am WAY too shy to talk to boys or make a move on them at teenage nights at nightclubs
It makes me feel sad not having a cute boyf in my life but it all comes back to me being too shy to ask or even say hi to a guy I find attractive.
Irish Gays, come find me
IanTheBookler aha that's exactly me when I see cute girls😂
IanTheBookler Ugh, Irish teenage discos give me anxiety
Hi other Irish people!🇮🇪😊
Sorcha Maebh Irish teenage discos are a nightmare omg
Like underage discos?
CONNOR WE LOVE YOU OKAY! ❤ anyone else love Connor? Cause I do so 🙌
Sam Mansfield me
Sam Mansfield YES CONNOR IS AMAZING
Sam Mansfield connor is king❤️❤️ (also we have the name first and last name wowie)
Sam Mansfield I DO!!!♡✋🙋🙌
Sam Mansfield omf yes he's amazingggg
I'm literally one of the only people in my grade who have never hooked up or kissed someone. I'm in 12th grade. Most people in my grade, heterosexual or in the lgbtq+, experiencing things or doing this from love, has done this and I have NEVER! Oops
Lynn Levy girl same
Lynn Levy I know, same. Im thinking if I should be having those experiences that they are when kissing boys and just having fun. Im a wee bit younger than you (9th grade) but I still havent kissed anyone.
SAME OMFG LEGIT I THINK THE ONLY ONE IN GRADE 11(almost 12) IN MY SCHOOL AND BETWEEN MY FRIENDS WHO HAVNT HOOKED UP OR EXPERIENCED THINGS
Lynn Levy Idk what your grades mean like I'm from Sweden but I'm fifteen years old (sixteen this year) and I haven't even kissed anyone :(( also I'm bisexual so there's many options but still...
Lynn Levy omg me, I'm a senior too and I honestly don't understand why I just could never get in a relationship :(
reading the comment section itself is helping me A LOT. this is why i love the internet.
FROM PARIS, France 🇫🇷 ❤
Edward Sad sameeee
Edward Sad On est là 🇫🇷
the colours in this video are so soft i love it
Oh Connor! I feel like we have a lot in common! Growing up as a closeted gay in a religious and homophobic community, I didn't have my first kiss until I was 21 years old (my first kiss wasn't what I've expected because that guy kissed me without my permission and I am still pissed that it isn't as special as I have hoped it'd be!) and I was a virgin until a year later, when I gave it to someone who didn't love me back. So, watching this video, I kept thinking how the two of us have so many things in common. I'm not sure about you, but in my case, my closet was basically open the entire time, it's just that I've been so afraid of how people would react if I come out of it that, I just shut myself inside the closet for as long as I could and I literally hated myself every single day because of it. I wasn't able to be who I truly am because I was just so afraid of how people see me as a person. And though I have come out to my best friends over the years while I was still in the closet, the fear of losing them when they knew (and when anybody knew) is so hard for me to come to terms with. Like you, I've had so many crushes on boys in my junior school, middle school, high school and college. But, unlike you, they always found out that I was in a huge crush with them because I have such difficulty looking at them in the eye or talk to them normally; I would text them continuously and would like and comment on all of their posts (that's when facebook has started to become a thing)... it was just so obvious that I have a huge crush on them. it has always been so obvious. and it never helped the fact that all my crushes are straight. so I ended up ending a lot of friendships because I couldn't control my own lust for wanting to be with them and do things with them. if you know what I mean. haha.
as I grow older, I began to not care much about what other people think. especially when people are starting to become more and more acceptable of the LGBT community. But, that doesn't mean that I'm completely out of the closet yet. like I said earlier, this is still a religiously homophobic Asian country. I would only be comfortable telling people that I'm gay when I know them for a while and I know that they're going to love me for who I am anyways. :)
I only had my first boyfriend when I was 23, but that didn't end well coz we just broke up recently and he finally admitted that he never was a fan of how feminine I act out and it bugs him a lot that I'm not masculine as he had liked me to be. it hurts more knowing that I've done a lot of things way out of my league to impress him and to make him happy; I have done a lot of sacrifices (he has too, but who doesn't when it comes to a relationship, am I right?) but I've always thought that we could make it through if we are honest with each other and never give up despite all of our problems. but after 1.5 years, we finally called it quits because we are becoming more and more bitter and we no longer feel happy and sweet the way we did when we first got together. what I'm trying to say is, take your time, Connor. I used to want to experience kissing boys, making out with them, having sex with them, getting in a committed relationship with them, growing old with them... things like that. and I have done a lot of things I regret in order to achieve those "goals". but, if I were given another chance, I'd slowly wait and just use that time to build the best version of me so the right person can come at the right time. :)
Joey Chen an inspirational story! great advice I will be taking! thank you so much for commenting! 💗
Mellow Yellow all the best to you Mellow Yellow! :)
As an asexual, hookup culture is so weird to me! It just doesn't make much sense. However, I'm so happy that you are happy now that you are out.
I always hear people saying like "yeah I had my first kiss when I was in 5th grade" and I'm just like I'M IN 9TH GRADE AND I'VE ALWAYS BEEN A LONELY POTATO
Well.... I'm in year 11 (11th grade) so.... It could be worse.. Just saying...
im 20 and still havent kissed anyone :( fml
Someone Like You high key relate
Tulip Paddle same, I'm 21
I had my first kiss the summer going into my freshman year of high school and I cried because i wasn't ready. I wish I could take it back. the boy broke my heart and now he's dating my best friend and they have sex and stuff. im scared and lonely in my world. advice? (on the friend thing not the terrible first kiss)
*the aesthetic. the colors. wow. amazing.*
that light blue hoodie though👏🏻🔥 haha
This is one of my favourite videos I've ever watched of yours, you are so insightful and raw, I love how much I can relate to everything. Thank you Connor
I'm a closeted bisexual boy to my family but I have come out to my friends, I'm 15 years old and I've known I have been bi since I was about 7. Unfortunately I have been brought up in a religious Baha'i family which is okay but my dad and mum and family are homophobic but they don't like to admit it even though they though they say marriage is between a man and a women and the only purpose for sexual intercourse is when you're married and between and man and women which makes me really annoyed. My dad and mum are hugely passionate about the religion and if I left the religion when I'm older they would probably disown me I think even though I know they love me. I would love to be able to kiss a boy once in my life without them knowing or secretly when I'm older date a guy in secret! I'm so scared I'm never going to be able to come out with to them it really upsets me
Adib awh I'm sorry to hear that. just know you're you no matter what and you can't change that. love yourself
Adib hit me up ;) 😂😂
Adib this is so unfair😔, just be strong and don't doubt you will be with a boy some time. Your parents should love you for who you are. You have to think of you and your happiness, and you won't be happy if you live a fake life, I assure you. But each one has a different situation and living in Spain is too easy in my case to be able to understand you.😫 as I said, I can only tell you to be strong and do what will make you happy.
Adib I would suggest not coming out til you are comfortable with it. it's a hard step. when you come out don't take what they say to heart no matter what it is. if they can't accept you for who you are then so be it. they don't need to be in your life as you have plenty of friends that can and will and even do support you. the main thing is to be sure you are safe and comfortable.
One of my closest friends came out as lesbian and got put up for adoption, she survived and joked through the whole thing and is honestly the biggest inspiration I have. Ask yourself if your parents are really SO shitty and unloving that they'd disown you, I know my family is the most accepting on earth so I can't relate but as a fellow bisexual I think it's not really that big of a deal and if your parents are good parents they will "forgive" you for what they THINK you did wrong
I live in India and sexuality really isn't a thing that's acknowledged here as much so when I got feelings for a girl when I was 11 I was so fucking confused??? I was like?? Wait I admire her??? I like her??? More than a friend??? How?? I'm a girl??shes one too???
Boi I had no idea
Same!
Killer Frost I HATE THE NAME CAITLYN!!!
Aanya - I understand. I too live in India, and yeah people just go like "its boy - girl NOT boy-boy or girl - girl. I'm a girl and I have a gf. It's all okay, and it's not our problem if people don't understand.
Thanks for that reference! It really cheered me up!
aito clingerman
That sweater looks so good on you Con
Taehyung Come Fight Me He's had his ear pierced for a while
ARMY bOi
Taehyung Come Fight Me he has it for like 2 months i think? 😁
Taehyung Come Fight Me @ your username same
Taehyung Come Fight Me i'm not even surprised to see army's anymore lol they are everywhere :)
Just bought your book in amazon, and I cannot be more excited to read it. I'm literary going to leave the three books I'm currently reading and deep my head in "Note to Self" by Connor keep that amazing attitude. ❤️forever your fan❤️
I've waited an whole week for this. It's weird to say this but I'm excited for every Monday
same
twentyonepilotsintheblueneighbourhood yourusernamelookslikeyoucouldntfindthespacebar
twentyonepilotsintheblueneighbourhood for me it's every Tuesday morning
Sarah Goldstein maybethatstruesarahgoldstein
twentyonepilotsintheblueneighbourhood i love your username:)
I have never related to a video more than I do right now!
Every single word resonated with my life experience.
Thanks for sharing Connor!
if only connor knew all the people he has helped come out
He does. Trust me.
Brooke Dowling my god yes this. So this!
I came out when I was 25..so I can definitely relate.
I haven't even had my first kiss. I'm 15 oh well
Jenae Wilson don't worry I'm 16 and I just had mine. It'll come soon and if not really it wasn't that great cuz we were both wasted so you're not really missing out on much especially in high school
lol good to know that I'm not missing out to much, were they cute at least?
I was 17 when i had mine lol you got time
Ikr. I'm 15 at the start of April and I've literally never dated anyone. :(
I am 21 and have had NO romantic relations with anyone!
Uhmmmm you're 24......not 64..... Life isn't over.
Get out there.
Oh and you're beautiful.
quantumbits amen
lol i know i know, this is about the past not the present
ConnorFranta Love me!!!!
Get that d!!! ly
quantumbits but his looks are already starting to tank... I mean he is balding and his personality is not very attractive
I've never dated anyone, I've never had a Valentine, and I've never had the experience of kissing a person. I don't think that's never going to happen. I'm forever alone. 😟💔😓
Ari Butera same
same, omg. let's just have a huge party on valentine's day for single ppl like us lmao
Ari Butera ur an ariana stan you deserve all the love
same, don´t worry you are not the only one
roses really love that idea!
My friends have came out to me I support them the lgbt community is nothing to be ashamed of!! I am a huge supporter I am in 7th grade and all these people aren't scared to show their sexuality! I am glad that I found you Connor and got to hear your story!! Lgbt is something that shouldn't be judged and you shouldn't be scared to come out but I'm glad I was born in a generation that supports me and my friends! luv you Connor
the colour correction in this video is so perfect
imagine growing up with Muslim homophobic parents.... rip me definitely can't come out
Phan! AtTheChemicalPilots I hope you find a place where you can❤️
Phan! AtTheChemicalPilots wait that's my life
Phan! AtTheChemicalPilots hey, just know we of the internet will love you. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to come out, the most important part about coming out is feeling safe. As for your parents they only want the best for you, and so in their eyes that may mean a heterosexual lifestyle, but I'm sure they come to accept you over time if not right away, some people just take time. I hope you are well, and good luck coming out when you do :)
thank you so much
No problem, I just felt like you needed some cheering up :)
my friends and i never really took part in hookup culture in high school. we were the socially selective introvert type. i feel like i never got the teenage experience really. i never went to parties or drank or anything. i didn't even have a regular hangout with my friends. during the week, we went to school, then went home to baby sit, do music lessons or dance lessons, go to church or whatever, and on the weekends we did the same. also, i never had guy friends and i never really talked to guys. i'm working on it :/
kelly w. That's actually good. I used to hang out with the extrovert group but now I don't and I don't miss it or feel I'm missing out because it was just drama, criticism, everyone hooking up with everyone even people that had a relationship, everyone drinking and passing out not remembering what they had done. Personally I think it's nicer to do something that you will actually remember that you'll be able to share with someone proudly like knowing how to play and instrument instead of showing off how bad you puked when you were drunk, that's pretty useless.
And about talking to guys I wish you best of luck, and just be yourself always. Guy's really like that!
Oh my gosh, I feel exactly the same way. But I'm in the middle of high school and I really want to have that high school experience. But I'm just too scared
Omg, you just described my high school experience! ): and now I feel the same thing is happening for me at university...
same! except this time i don't have a friend group :/ i have good friends from high school but none at uni. i just do my own thing and try to be friendly to people in class :P
sorry for the late answer! But same... though I feel like I'm getting a friend group now on my 4th semester, which is great, but I still feel like I'm missing out on all the party stuff ): and I hope you find a some good friends!
i love him and so proud of how far he has come ❤ i love you connor!!!
I relate to this so much not because I'm gay but because I'm so shy. Whenever I would see my friends hooking up with people at parties in high school I would always feel so jealous of them because they were so outgoing and could just go kiss boys if they wanted to and I was never like that. Now I'm 18, I'm out of high school, and not in college yet so I never actually go to parties that much anymore and I barely ever hang out with people anymore and I feel like I've missed my opportunity to be young and adventurous and just hook up with random people which is so stupid because I'm only 18 and I know I will go to college and have that chance but I'm still not so sure I'll ever be brave enough to just kiss a boy ya know. The only times I've ever hooked up with boys was with a huge lead up to it and us talking for weeks, never just a last minute decision that I think someones cute so I'm gonna kiss them. I've only ever drunkenly made out with my friends at parties because we're girls and girls making out with other girls is so over sexualized that it's just the normal thing to do haha. Yea I don't know I just relate to how you're feeling I guess.
Jordanne Marie that's 100% me. I didn't kiss a boy until I was 17, and I didn't have sex until I was 19. I'm 20 now and I've still only had sex literally once (''twas a bad experience ngl so I feel I've been put off) but it's so hard because like... everyone else has just DONE everything and you feel so behind and it's awkward to tell someone that you're not very experienced because they get all awkward about it and I'm jut stuck in this space where i really wanna just have fun and get with people and stuff but I'm so paranoid/insecure/scared to do it and the older I am the worse I'm feeling tbh lmao... sex in general it's just such a bad anxiety of mine idk
Becca Good Yes!!! That's exactly me! The older I get the more insecure I am admitting that I'm a virgin because people feel weird about it especially when it's a guy and they want to be with someone who's experienced. Now all my friends are off at college and texting me non stop about all these people they've hooked up with and I'm just like uggggh. Cause it's easy for them because they do it all the time but if I were to hook up with someone it would be like a big life changing thing
I'm gay and shy so the struggle is compounded for me
i feel you. im 20 now and have been to tons of college parties but i still havent hooked up with any guy or even dated anyone. :( sometimes i feel like im going to be forever alone
i used to feel the exact same! but really, it's only a big deal in your own head. no one else knows what you're thinking or feeling. i know it's easier to say than do but if you're feeling yourself one night just go for it! make eye contact with boys or girls or whoever, try to make some sort of conversation which can be easier with alcohol (not completely wasted though lol), then judge the mood see if they're into it and just yolo it (so fucking 2013 but it's tru). like u can't ever predict when or what's going to happen but the hardest thing is putting yourself out there and once u do who knows what will happen ;) basically, make it less of a huge deal in your head, know that you can talk to boys/girls and even if they don't want to or whatever that doesn't make you 'not a hookup person' it's just they might not want to for a whole range of reasons, but someone else might and will another time! good luck to you xx
Can I say, I am bisexual and openly because of you. 😊😊💙💙
When i see gay couples in public, i melt because i know how long they've been hiding just to have love now.
i love you for this comment
YES. THIS EXACTLY
About half of all homosexuals have been molested and there is a similarly strong correlation to family mental illness and sky high HIV infection rates. 60% of black Atlanta gays have HIV by age 30. And rising because youtube is telling the world that it's a beautiful thing and everyone else is the problems.
Luke, is being a criminal a choice? like the mob. Do they have a choice? or were they born criminals.
Do pedophiles have a choice? or were they born that way. Does a violent person have a choice?
If you seek the truth you will find it, same as I have.
Luke I'm not aware of any drop in HIV in the last 10 years, indeed it is rising for gay teens because idiotic youtube is telling them that it's a beautiful thing.
And I'm not talking about right and wrong. You have to understand what pedophilia is and you don't. When you don't, you don't know what gay is either. And you don't.
What I love in your videos is that you are so quiet...Like so many youtubers are literally screaming into my ears. It's a nice brake from this. And of course that you are absolutely amazing.
i'm 19 and i'm still bambi lmao. i don't hook up, i've never really "hooked up", i do feel oddly deprived, my life sucks lol
Jupiter I'm 18, and I also don't hook up partly because I'm just not into it (I might be demisexual) and never dated, but I'd actually love to be in a relationship for the connection and closeness
same as both of you , but im 19
Lee Victoria it's when you're exclusively sexually attracted to people you share a deep, emotional bond with! of course, sexuality is a spectrum, so it varies! i'm demisexual as well c:
i always wondered why ariel the mermaid seemed so hot to me when i was little
Saff x I always wondered why I was so obsessed with Emily from the corpse bride
aha same
Saff x omfg😂
Saff x same
I used to have a crush on Goku...
CONNOR LOOKS SO GOOD IN LIGHT BLUE
I literally don't know my sexuality but dodie helped me and so did you. I think I'm bi Jesus Christ omg I don't know what to do
I think I'm bi
Omg
I think I'm bi too. I'm not sure, I'm still figuring out myself.
Y'all don't NEED to do anything. Sexuality and gender are fluid throughout many people's lives, so you may be more bi today, more monosexual later, then return to being bi, or not. (It's not always about being closeted, if a label changes.)
Don't compare your life chapters to what you see others portray--I came out at age 12, once I found out about bisexuality, but I have a bi mom (found out when I came out at 14 to her, after she had come out to me. That was a funny car ride.) and an accepting dad (that was at 12), and I had no clue about how much homophobia kills people until I found it randomly on TH-cam while searching for gay Naruto AMVs. My girly crush had a homophobic single mother, and both of her siblings are also gay, but I seem to recall her having a fluid sexuality at 14 and still figuring it out, even with most of her family accepting and loving her.
Especially when you're adolescent, nothing about you needs to be set in stone. Even after, people are allowed to change, encouraged, even, depending on the environment and circumstances.
TL;DR
You don't need to do anything, except to accept yourself, even if you pull a 180, later on in life.
LeatherLace&NuzzlingYourFace You came out at 12?! I have to congratulate you on that. I'm 14 and I haven't came out to my parents, only to my friends, and they all accept me. It makes me so happy that they still treat me the same. But I don't know if my parents, especially my mom, will be okay with it. My mom's religious, so I'm scared that she may be homophobic. Also, your mom's bi? That's awesome! I just want to congratulate you again for having courage in telling your parents at a young age. It seems like a hard thing to do. And don't let anyone let you down, be you and life will go a lot more smoother.
Random Guy
I've always found that last part to be true.
I don't remember that much bad stuff happening when I started coming out, 2007, when I was 13. I remember people started avoiding me more in the locker room, but that was fine by me. A friend did just up and walk away from me when I said I was bi, but that's the worst.
And if you think you need to stay in the closet to be safe from your mom, you don't need to be in a rush, and you don't need to endanger yourself. You're young and vulnerable. Once you're out of high school / out on your own and self sufficient, then might be a good time, if she is consistently an anxious unknown.
LeatherLace&NuzzlingYourFace Wow, thank you so much! I feel a lot better! :)
I'm only in my first year of high school but I'm the only person who hasn't dated anyone before which I find so weird ! Like what is the rush to date?! Like I've never even had much of any attraction toward someone idk I feel like I'm supposed to have crushes but I don't and honestly I don't want to date
That's totally fine! My crushes are few and far between. I've had one gf and I'm almost 18.
Twenty One Phanatics - danisnotonchairs on ig feel the same way
I'm 20 and I've never been on a date or kissed anyone! I've had crushes in high school but never felt the urge (or had the confidence) to actually date them. I'm in my 3rd year of uni now and I still have no desire really to date. Although sometimes (mainly when I see couples on social media) I feel as though it would be nice to have a boyfriend and do cute couple things e.g. go on dates, be affectionate etc most of the time I'm perfectly content to be single and don't care at all that I've never been kissed! Moral of the story: don't worry about not wanting to date, even if everyone else around you is, as long as you are happy 😊
I didn't date anyone till I was 21, and I'm actually glad for it. Don't feel the need to date anyone unless you want to! I imagine being in a relationship you don't to be in is pretty painful anyways. It's much better to be happy and single.
Twenty One Phanatics - danisnotonchairs on ig omg don't worry. first year of high school you're still young. i didn't have my first boyfriend till the end of my second year of high school but to be honest neither of us were ready cuz it was rushed. wait until you feel ready enough.
Omg Same but not cause im gay cause im ugly 😂😂
Audrey Mavis 😂😂😂
SAME
Audrey Mavis me
Audrey Mavis HAHAHHA ME IN A NUTSHELL
haha same
Connor, you should watch SKAM season 3. Its about those things you have felt and its REALLY good.. Also you are gonna be totally obsessed with it....
FirstPrice Omg yes Connor and everyone needs to watch Skam!!! I'm so obsessed
FirstPrice he had..check his tumblr..it's what made me watch SKAM 😂
oh nice! thx for telling me! :D
FirstPrice where can I watch skam, I always see it on tumblr and twitter and I want tot watch so bad lol
I can help you only if you know Polish or Norwegian..😂
I don’t know if I mentioned this before but Connor you and Tyler are my inspiration. “A Work in Progress” definitely helped me a lot.
I'm straight,maybe bicurious and I didn't even have my first kiss until I was 28. I'm nearly 35 and still a virgin. I'm extremely shy dating wise and self conscious.. I never hooked up at parties because I didn't go to parties.
Dana Healy Same. Didn't have my first kiss or date until 22. I do know I'm straight though.
Same as me!
I have never kissed nor dated nor had sex yet and I am almost 20 and everyone of my friends have but I am kinda afraid of it..
I actually got tears in my eyes reading this. I am soon to be 21, and I've barely ever kissed a boy (or a girl) and I grow more and more insecure about it for each year I'm getting older. It is so nice to finally see someone who's been in the same boat. Thank you so much for sharing this! It gives me hope that everything will be fine.
oh okay so I'm not alone in this thank God. I'm not sure what my sexuality is, i mean i like guys, but I've never kissed anyone or anything and I'm almost 21 now. everyone around me is in a relationship or has been in one and i feel left out? idk
I'm 19, and the closest I ever got to a guy, was holding hands for a school dance when I was 12. xD
Fiona Green in my country kisses r not common!!! So I bet none of my friends even hold hands before marriage
I feel your pain.
Mugdho Ibnat Really? I didn't know that! What country are you from?
Fiona Green Bangladesh dear
Well you're already about a million miles ahead of me lol
I'm 22 and I have never done anything, never had a boyfriend, nothing and I do feel left out. My brother is 15 and has a girlfriend and I'm like weirdly jealous that he has someone. My sister is 20 and recently just came out and she's going on dates with girls and I just don't do things like that. I don't like dating and I don't like hooking up. Every time a boy gives me any attention I freak out and stop talking to them. I am TWENTY TWO. I think I am demisexual or maybe I'm asexual idk, I've had crushes before, plus I am picky af partly bc my parents are divorced and it seriously messed me up but yeah I feel really like inadequate and embarrassed that I've never kissed anyone or anything. I'm a senior in college living in the dorms and I am just silent when people are talking about their hook ups or tinder dates or sex and what not. I hate it. I can't believe I'm writing this on the internet. fuck.
Hey, just writing this to let you know that you are not alone! I am 21 and have also never done anything as well (I have never even held hands with someone in a non-platonic way lol) and I do feel left out kinda? Although I identify as being panromantic (as in I can be attracted to any gender romantically), I feel like I also fall in the demisexual/asexual spectrum. I also feel uneasy when a boy gives me attention, not in a bad way but in a "this is kinda wierd" way. Idk about other genders, as I don't think that they have shown attention to me (that I know of lol). It's a very weird feeling and it does feel like one is missing out, but at the same time I don't feel the need to rush things and feel like if a relationship happens, then it happens. Although I know that each individual experience is different, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and that, in my opinion it isn't inadequate to not date people. If you don't feel like dating or hooking up then you don't have to. Contrary to what society thinks you yourself are a whole person and don't need other people to make you "whole". Wow sorry for the long response but yeah
Tanya Piña Wow, I really needed that. Thank you ❤
no prob, we got this! ^_^
Brooklyn H ugh same here. though i'm 21 and asexual. other than that i recognize everything you say
same here ! I also never hooked up and probably never will also I never had a boyfriend..although I had a lot of crushes
I literally love you, thank you for making me feel myself for 9 minutes 🌻
You shouldn't regret not having come out earlier, since you think you missed out on things like kissing and hooking up. The thing is: the earlier you come out the more alone you are. If you come out early you will be the only one who came out as gay. There is no kissing boys when you come out earlier. You coming out earlier doesnt allow you to go kissing random boys. It only makes you realise you can't kiss random boys instead.
Kinda vague but I hope you realise what I mean :P
Kaz So true I'm the only gay guy I know irl and it's worse k owing it'll never happen 😂😂😂
That's not the case for everyone though. I came out my freshman year of High School, and I knew plenty of gay people. The only reason you would realize you can't kiss random people would be if you were into straight guys which I never get hung up on.
This is so true, I'm the only gay guy from my group of friends that has come out and I see all my crushes which are straight and always feel so alone knowing that I have zero chances with them. I see some friends getting girlfriends and boyfriends, see my crushes get girlfriends and I'm just standing over here like "I love you, let me kiss you!!!!"
White Panda you've got to stop crushing on straight guys. That's a lesson we all have to learn at some point.
the sweater makes your eyes look wicked blue omg
COME ON SCOTCH!
i'm out to my friends and happily kissing girls, except my parents don't know aaaaAAAAaaa
sheedah from the 1975 I did the same thing too girl I was out to all my friends but it took a little more time to tell my parents but I eventually did, you'll tell them one day when your ready ❤️💛💚💙💜💖
I stopped watching Connor for awhile (due to personal issues) and I knew about his coming out awhile back and this is my first time watching the NEW and HAPPIER Connor and I cannot say how happy I am for you Connor. I am very proud that you have decided to come out. I still have friends who are afraid to fully come out. ❤ I can tell a major change in your personality. When you were in the closet, you were closed off more and you werent as open and bubbly as you are now. :) It made me feel good to see you like this!! I am a big supporter.
To everyone saying they are so and so years old and haven't kissed anybody....there's no rush, and it's not a competition, so don't worry about it so much. It's about finding the right person and being in the moment and doing it when you're ready and comfortable. It will happen when it's supposed to, I promise.
Thea Mundy yes girl :) totally agree
ive got a really bad illness and I cant go to high school so I dont have friends and I'm not able to go to parties and I feel like Im missing all of high schools & relationships & everything its really stressful
hang in there!! and take it from me, high school is way overplayed :)
thank you so much for commenting that that honestly makes me feel better thank you :)
:/ I know what you mean, but honestly I've never been to a day of high school in my life (I'm homeschooled) and I really don't think we're missing out. it sounds like a lot of stress, awkward social situations, and homework. and personally, I was never a big fan of parties either. :)
dont sweat it's nothing key special you can pass on it.
thank you guys that makes me feel a lot better :)
So, I'm a girl. In the past, I definitely wasn't really accepting of my attraction to girls (I didn't even know there was a term for it haha). I realize now that in the early years of middle school, I actually had a crush on one of my female friends, but I had no idea at the time. The feeling was so foreign and strange and I kept hoping it would go away (it didn't, not for a long time.) Looking back on it, it's pretty hilarious. Way to go, past me.
ѕaвιrdιe OMG ME! I'm a girl and 15 right now and ugh I'm deep in the closet.
I relate so to this so much. That was pretty much my life, but September last year when I turned 19 I realized I was time for me to live a little. I've only hooked up with 2 guys and I'd rather keep it that way until I turn 20, cause that's when I plan to come out. I would say that If you're still in the closet and want to experiment, know your boundaries. Your own ideas about safe sex will be tested by the guys you hook up with, but you need to stick to what you know it's right-- talking from experience. Also, I would recommend that when you're having sex for the first time, you should be the top, unlesd you've had previous experience with bottoming. Have fun but be very meticulous about who you're choosing to have sexual interaction with, not everyone tells the truth about who they are or their sexual health.
notification squad where u at?!?
Kyra May HERE
Kyra May yaaaasssss
Kyra May hi
Heyyy
HELLO IM DAVE
"Oh I just wanna be their friend"
Connor, SAME
WOW CONNOR. I'm doing the same thing, I'm not out yet because my living situation and the society where I am is so harsh I may be closeted until I'm like 87 years old.
I'm 17 rn so I've got 4 years until I break your record 😂💙
i think i might be bisexual
cloudi well, great! take a good time to think about it. Any labels you feel comfortable with yet?
For instance, I usually tell people I'm Bisexual, because they mostly get that, but Polysexual best fits me. So does Ambiamorous (as opposed to polyamorous or monogamous), but I'll mostly tell people that I'm bi and poly, even tho I'm more accurately Demi-Poly-Ambi.
There's a wealth of labels that may end up fitting you, even if you choose a label that effectively means, "labels don't really fit me," like, "queer."
danyall I think I might be too
danyall just take your time lol figure things out!!!! I’m a lesbian so I get it :)
welcome
That plant falling into that candle and then burning your house down would probably be another gay regret
I thought I was Bi until I found out what Pansexual was.
Ava Xx Same
Ava Xx relatable
MEEEEEEE i relate
sameee
i relate
Hey :) Gay, German, 16-yo boy here ^^ Came out of the closet one year ago to all my friends. And it really wasn't a problem to any of them. I'm so happy that the young generation does tolerate and accept me like that. But one problem is still left: My homophobic family, which immigrated from russia two years before my birthday. Since my birth they tell me every day of my life that being gay is a sin and every gay will go to hell. When I found out that I'm gay, I just couldn''t get along with myself. I hated myself, I just wanted to die and was so confused. And thats why I thought that I'm a freak and nobody will accept me. Then I came out of the closet to my best friend, kind of accidently, but she loved it. Thats how I slowly started to accept myself. She was the one, holding me from commiting suicide. So, my friendship with my friends started getting better and better, the one with my parents worse and worse. And you know, for my dad I was never manly enough, he still doesn't know I'm gay, but he threw a table on me just for having "skinny jeans" on, which were one of the most widest ones I found. After I died my hair, he just came and cut my hair off, when I was asleep. My dear Connor, yes - I hooked up with guys in highschool and yes - I kissed boys and made experience, but I would change that all for just getting along an being accepted by my family and espacially my parents. My brother is like them and thinks that homosexuality is an illness and my dad committed some weeks ago, that he would threw one of his childs out if it came out as gay. So yes, I'm in a pretty bad situation... I had a hard time and I can really understand you. It isn't easy for us, huh? Will have to live 2 more years with them and just as I turn 18 I will move out, to be free, to be like I want to be, just to be me :)
MikyMo37 All the Best my friend...one should never deny themselves from happiness 🙂
MikyMo37 well I'm glad it went well! its hard to be in the closet for a long time
MikyMo37 Keine Sorge, wird schon:) Ich meine, du musst deinen Eltern ja eh nichts von deinem Liebesleben erzählen also kannst du schon alles mögliche mit Jungs machen. :)Viel Glück für die nächsten zwei Jahre💚💛❤💗💖💜💙
I feel sorry that you have a homophobic family, everyone should be able to love whoever they want. I'm glad your friend helped you and you didn't commit suicide because you seem like a wonderful person, and if your family doesen't accept you for who you are then they are missing out on getting to know the best member of their family! I know I can't relate with you in an emotional level because I've never gone through a experience like that, but there are a lot of pepole out there that will accept you for who you are, no matter sexuality, race or gender. Stay strong!
MikyMo37 Sorry you to live in such an ignorant, intolerant and hateful environment, but as you said, you'll have to put up with it for only two more years and then you'll be free. But until then, don't let the bastards get you down. You've done nothing wrong for there is nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual or transgender. All that counts is whether or not you are a good, loving, caring and responsible person, and I can tell from your words that you are.
The issues your family have are a reflection of who THEY are, not you. You're fine; they're not. As much as I'm sure you'd love to get their approval or at least acceptance, as we all would, you have to allow for the probability that you will not. But don't let that lack of approval or acceptance adversely affect how you feel about yourself. Don't let their toxic thinking poison your own thoughts and feelings. Hang in there. You're stronger and wiser than you may currently realize. :D
I love how honest you are. You just don't care about what people think about you, you are an absolute role model to many ( to ma aswell) You're just so positive and honest. and adorable.
I didn't realize I had a crush on this girl until we both went to different schools and we never saw each other again.
L. Richards :(((((
L. Richards literally my life story!
Connie, you have no idea how good you make me feel right now, like i feel... Normal? I just see myslef in you and that's kinda cool. Just thank you.
Literally, everyone in the comments is talking about opening gay/bi they are but I barely know people my age who are gay/bi near me
dont believe everything on the internet.....
matt colins True true
Katie Rushton you probably know them but they're closeted.
Rainbow Girl Again, true true 👊
Age? I'm kinda curious
Mmkay I'm bisexual (I think) and I've had about 2 crushes on real girls that I'm away of, but what you said 2:13 I've felt for 2 or 3 additional girlssss!!!!!!
And that was when I was still really denying that I was queer, sO IT MAKES SO MUCH FREAKING SENSE OMG THANK YOU
We love you. Please don't regret anything. You're amazing and incredible and beautiful. 💙
"Please don't regret anything"
Umm nobody is perfect, of course he is going to regret stuff
was anyone else just thinking, 'I will kiss you Connor!!!!!' through the entire video?..... just me? okay 😂😂 I like these reflective videos, they make me think about things and feel all deep and stuff!
oh and I posts videos as well......just saying 😂😂 😘😘
Jason Hyde yo trust me (same)
Jason Hyde Omg same
OMG me too!
i'm 16 and a lesbian and i'm out to my friends and some acquaintances but not to anyone in my family (homophobic) and i can't wait until i go to college so i can Unleash the Gay™️️
Omg same! I fucking hate having homophobic parents n being a lesbian. It's literally the fucking worst!
red why is this exactly me omfg
red cant wait to move out and live the Gay™ life 😩😩
red My goal is to get 2K subscribers by my birthday 🎉 if anyone is reading this please help me out!!! ✨🙏🏻
red hun dont hold it in itll kill you inside i told my family snd my grandparents are racist and homophobes and they still love and accept me :) and my gf i fell in live with she was Arabic/black. YOU never know till you try to explain.
your candid nature is always a pleasure to watch. this is what makes you so unique...you're not leading with sex to create change
"real life footage of my life falling apart" same
This tittle pretty much sums up my life.
Same... :/
Im straight., but this video and these comments are so inspirational
Some of this is what I'm really looking forward to in college. I was a lot more focused on school and didn't really leave a lot of time to have relationships.
tbh gay dudes are the best, example: connor franta
tsuki Hi Tae 😂
sunihmaraonline Hey Hoseok😍
AGREE 100%
Generalization?
Tbh I came out to my friends as bisexual yet nobody from my family knows it since they're kind of homophobes and also criticize bisexual people by saying "They don't know what they want" and that's not true, that's not what bi sexuality is about.
I'm in high school and I've never done anything, never kissed anyone nor hooked up.
I don't feel pressured to do it even though I do feel afraid of kissing someone when I get in a relationship and I am also afraid of getting in a relationship because I'm afraid I'll mess it all up, it's not normal to get to my age without having ever been in a relationship and I know that.
My parents met at 12 and started dating at 17, married with 23, it just makes me feel bad with myself that to them it was so easy to be happy. I don't even get in relationships yet I still hurt and get hurt too
im the gay regret
cody hughes omg ilysm cody
You do a great job! I'm 75 and grew up in a world that LBG wasn't even known except in small circles that I wasn't part of. You think you came out late - how about 52??? Ha ha. But really only because of people like you who are honest and open. I worked in the legal system in Los Angeles and only really came out when I invited myself to a party thrown by a well know gay attorney. He was so surprised he came to me personally to confirm. At the party I ran into the prosecuting attorney in my court - I mean we literally ran into each other going through a door. He said, "Hi Bruce, I know you recognize me and I recognize you. That broke the self imposed block I lived in for so long.
So glad to see the many changes in attitude that have come about. As I had a security clearance I virtually stayed under the radar for years after that. Now I'm out to everyone and only sad when I think of what I missed. Oh well, better late than never! ha ha
I enjoy your vid's - keep up the good work and best of everything in your blossoming career.
I came out when I was 13 and i am now 16 and have never been happier with the confidence of my sexuality :) I love you Connor!! 😊❤
Haililibunnie same for me
I'm 16 and out as trans and gay and HOLY SHIT I just want a boyfriend but no one sees me as a ~real boy~ I hate my life
Screw them! You're awesome and someday you'll find someone who's fucking awesome and loves you for who you are!
Well done! But you are don't let anyone tell you otherwise❤️
Stiles Crabtree who cares your awesome and brave that you came out and I hope you'll find your true boyfriend
Stiles Crabtree if you cant find any cis guys who doesn't get it, why don't you just date another trans guy? :)
Zoe Delane I'm 12 I think I might be gay but I'm not sure I don't want my mum to know either cuz she hates gays but I'm so nervous aswell I'd be so judged at school. Can u help me?
Sometimes I wish I was gay instead of bi cause it's way easier for other people to understand. Any other bi's have that problem?
I'm not bi, but i get what you mean. I'm ace. Most people don't even know what that is.
Melody can you please enlighten me on what ace is?
sansyboi98 Ace is the shortened version of asexual, like gay is the shortened version of homosexual (I think, if I'm wrong, please correct me)
anh2301 thanks for sharing your knowledge :)
sometimes, mostly with my parents but with my peers they all pretty much get it, my friends know and most are hella gay anyway but even the people who ive casually slipped it in conversation to either don't bring it up or are like 'k' and move on....
I know I'm late- but I'm also 24 now and I feel exactly the saaaammeee. Everything you say is such a parallel to my life. I missed out on so much in college because of my shyness and fear. Love your videos Connor