The Healing conference at JPII Center was definitely life changing for sure!! Highly recommend for all people to attend in person if able (they have it for purchase to watch at home too). I also was able to get the Be Restored book there 🙌🏼
that story about the father and the three daughters... that's one of the wildest story I've ever heard. I have goosebumps, my heart is breaking. I wasn't expecting to cry listening to this. It's 1am and I'm cramming some work and I'm crying.
This is amazing. This definition of psychological sexual abuse makes absolute sense. Just by defining it can start healing and transformation. Thank you for this. 🙏
Yes, it is. Passive versus active sexual abuse. Overt versus covert, sometimes called. Yes, when we are teased like that, or other degrading remarks, its emasculating for a man, or a woman (not sure what the word would be for a woman).
Not to me. To some extent it has truth but primitive tribes (where people run around half naked and are comfortable with the human body unclothed)… I’d want to know more about whether his paradigm fits there. I guess I’m saying his paradigm is appropriate based on the mores of the society but how universal are they in application to humanity?
I just watched this, and it was eye-opening! I’ve experienced a Healing Retreat with Bob, Bart, and Sister Miriam, but at the time I attended, I wasn’t sure exactly what I needed healing from. When “Restored” came out, my first thought was “that has nothing to do with my life.” I’m very wrong! I ordered the book while watching this video. The Holy Spirit spoke loud and clear. Thank you for this interview. God bless you and Dr. Bob for sharing your faith! Pax et Bonum. ❤️🙏🏻🕊
This was a powerful interview. I regretted that I did not hear enough about prayer. I sense he understands something of the direct interaction of humans that he believes is required for a deep healing. I cannot dispute this but I think healing is even more multidimensional than he expresses here.
Can you speak more on this? I had the sense he didn’t forget the power of prayer and the place it has in psychological and spiritual restoration and healing. Want to know your thoughts on this
Wonderful episode... Dr Bob must definitely start his own TH-cam channel, because although he has books etc, I think youtube would be a much bigger help to people as many more people watch TH-cam. Such a great blessing. Then you Dr Bob and Matt
@Pints With Aquinas, please invite Restore the Glory, onto your podcast again, both of them and have a wonderful long interview please - it would bring such healing, hope, God willing.
36:00 The lack of final efficacy of a spiritual regimen resonates with me. Rosary, scripture reading, fasting, consecrations, confession, Eucharist etc. I have never been tempted to think that these things have no power, or that God doesn't care or cannot help. I have always thought I either am not deeply committed on some level that I am not aware of, or that God allows temptation to continue to keep me from thinking that I broke free by the power of my disciplined regimen. In either event, I have no doubt that He is sovereign, and can completely heal me at any moment He chooses. Whether He does so during life or at the moment of death makes little difference to me (most of the time). Now I wonder whether that isn't a rationalization.
Thanks Matt, been following your YT channel for a year now as I’ve learn a lot of the richness of Catholic faith. One of the very best interviews and guest on your show Dr. Bob Schuchts
Wonderful interview as always. I am in the process of leaving the Protestant Church and reverting back to Catholicism. Im going to miss the community we have developed in our church. Can you do a video on this? On how to deal with letting go? Thank you. At the moment we are attending mass weekly and our old church twice a month for the fellowship ❤🎉
I LOVE Hallow! It doesn't cost very much at all compared to all of the beautiful things that come from it. It is a huge struggle to get our little 8 year old daughter to want to go to Mass. She says it's too boring. She loves praying and loves the things for kids and some other things on there. She also reminds me every morning to turn on her Catholic Sprouts ☺️
I listened to this while in my chapel in the midst of the store. I found it most excellent. I wish this would have been available when I was in seminary formation. Thank you for this. I definitely will be getting the whole series :)
“ living my faith, but my heart in a protective place” describes me perfectly. Both parents abusive with each other. My childhood was a nightmare and that is putting it very mildly. My mom passed when I was 12, losses in between, then lost my baby girl when I was 6 1/2 months pregnant, lost my absolute best friend in my sister when she was 37, and 12/12/21 my husband of 41 years. I do not trust that God is a loving God, or that God loves me.
Wow...Matt mentions how he's amazed that when his wife sees his bad side come out she doesn't leave but shows mercy and continues to love him. If I were in his place, I would do anything I could to redeem myself by doing good works, or giving her wife good gifts, because otherwise I'd just be ashamed or feel bad about myself cause I did badly, and the main way to feel good about myself would be with doing good things so as to counterbalance and overcompensate for the bad stuff. The idea of deserving punishment also just seems to reinforce the shame, and forgiveness / mercy doesn't seem to relieve that even after it's granted, so the only way to truly get rid of the shame would be to do more good to overcompensate the bad. How does one deal with this attitude though? I think Dr. Schuchts wisely touched on this and hits the nail on the head by explaining how shame can also cause wounds, so God's healing extends even to that, since one of the keys here is that we should see we're still lovable to Him even though we're sinners. And in fact, Scripture itself describes how the ultimate flower of healing eventually means forgetting the past, being a new creation and looking ahead instead of behind, and having one's soul fully purified from sin. To be forgiven by God literally means we're worth forgiving as it's an undeserved gift, and you only give gifts if you consider the other worth gifting. And I think this may be a possible answer. Dr. Schuchts, if you're reading this, what do you think?
Well I am no perfect wife, that’s for sure!! But Matt doesn’t need to lavish gifts or acts of service on me. You cannot “redeem” yourself, nor can my husband. Christ is the Redeemer!!! Best for Matt to Focus on being a good husband to me is the best! It makes me want to be a better wife too!
I think every honest marriage has moments where you wish you could be better and/or ashamed of your own mistakes, and sometimes that awareness doesn’t even happen until you’re in the middle of a difficult moment with your spouse. I think his expression is more common and brutally honest and vulnerable than most people admit and for that, I would say he’s brave. Plus, Cameron seems happy and very much in love.
@@cfradd "...we cannot redeem ourselves.." by works or anything else - boom!💥💥💥As a Protestant I second that reply Cameron!!!🙏😇🏴 Thank you for sharing!👍
Anger is a difficult emotion for me to express. I tend to internalise my feelings. Is it fear of being rejected? I am now an older woman. At times, I find myself crying at inappropriate times. This is more of a psychological question, instead of a spiritual one.
I’m wondering if the emotion feels so large and the skill to express it, in a way that still allows you to feel in control of yourself, is at the root of the problem. Generally, few people tolerate or appreciate being on the receiving end of someone’s anger. I think it helps to sense the emotion arising, early on, in order to set the appropriate boundaries we require. I think it goes down better. I’m guessing... ❤️
Degas was possibly abusing the dancers he painted and ballerinas at that time and place could often be prostitutes on the side... I don't know why I'm saying this just a crazy thing I learned a few months ago (although I did ballet for 16 years!)
They are awesome! I love the fusion of traditional music with traditional Catholicism. I call myself a Hillbilly Catholic. 🥰 I love the Traditional Latin Mass music while in church and Bluegrass outside of church.
Here’s one: some people close to us don’t want us healed. If we are healed it exposes them. That’s a tough one. I guess that’s some sort of dependency issue. And in our brokenness and love we might decide to stay broken out of love for the other and that’s another dependency issue in itself. Just speaking out loud for a friend. This person was called to be a priest and has shelved the calling to walk with the other in their pain. However, is this one with the calling choosing the easy path? They don’t want to abandon the one with abandonment issues, yet their fear for the unknown is a narrower path. Difficult.
Matt L, check with the parishes around you; the (Arch) diocesan offices; and Dr Schuchts' ministry office. If you're in mid-Michigan, contact Lansing parish Church of the Resurrection; they have some folks there who have been trained to pray with people the way Dr Schuchts describes. Otherwise, check with Catholic groups, parishes, and dioceses like Steubenville, OH, Grand Rapids, MI...
Are the conferences or books offered in Spanish?? If not hopefully consider having that available soon. I pray my father could receive this healing but he only speaks spanish.
th-cam.com/users/RebecaBarbaTDC Alex, this person took his course and is now teaching the lessons in Spanish with different topics. Just wanted to share with you, in case you’re interested in checking it out. I have not taken any of the courses, as this is all new to me, but just sharing what I found with you.
Borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. She is in dialectical behavioral therapy. She needs to focus on the Holy Spirit as the source of healing and truth, during those mindfulness of exercises. And yes, both of those disorders are rooted on attachment, like he said. Never having a place where you can truly rest and trust those around you.
I think he was actually very careful in not doing that. He is very aware of varying degrees of abuse (he mentions working with people who've been through horrific experiences) and in no way is he leaning towards relativism. I personally am thankful for his insight into all levels of sexual abuse because it helps in shedding light on sin and aids in healing.
Matt you are doing such a service to the Body of Christ by presenting these programs about healing. ❤️🩹 Thank you! He is right about this day and age about everyone being sexually abused in someway. People just aren’t educated about what it is. He is right about healing porn addiction is not just acknowledging it’s a sin. That is just the first step. Giving grace is not freedom. Abuse needs to be relived and emotions processed. But I totally disagree agree with the way this therapist worked with this family that suffered incest at the hands of the father. Healing of the daughters should have been first priority and never should have daughters been exposed to the perpetrator until they were healed first. Everyone need to be handled on an individual basis and remained so.
I so need healing and this interview was helpful. I think the church in general needs to amplify this area a lot more.
Agreed! ❤️
Matt you are so genuinly down to earth; I love listening to you interviewing your guests and being so attentive...from South Africa
The Healing conference at JPII Center was definitely life changing for sure!! Highly recommend for all people to attend in person if able (they have it for purchase to watch at home too). I also was able to get the Be Restored book there 🙌🏼
Yes, totally agree!!
Life changing experience for me too!
@@isabelgranados296 I’m so glad Isabel! I think everyone should attend this conference at least once in their lifetime!
Divorce is a primary reason for the destruction of so many
that story about the father and the three daughters... that's one of the wildest story I've ever heard. I have goosebumps, my heart is breaking. I wasn't expecting to cry listening to this. It's 1am and I'm cramming some work and I'm crying.
I’ve been waiting to “meet” Dr. Bob. He seems awesome. Buying his book right now. Can’t wait to read it!
I heard that marriage is like two rough rocks in a tumbler who eventually polish each other smooth enough to reflect the light of truth.
This is amazing. This definition of psychological sexual abuse makes absolute sense. Just by defining it can start healing and transformation. Thank you for this. 🙏
Yes, it is. Passive versus active sexual abuse. Overt versus covert, sometimes called. Yes, when we are teased like that, or other degrading remarks, its emasculating for a man, or a woman (not sure what the word would be for a woman).
Not to me. To some extent it has truth but primitive tribes (where people run around half naked and are comfortable with the human body unclothed)… I’d want to know more about whether his paradigm fits there. I guess I’m saying his paradigm is appropriate based on the mores of the society but how universal are they in application to humanity?
His podcast Restore the Glory is a wonderful gift. Everyone should listen to it 🌷
This is great. I got one of the books! I plan to gift it to my sister who works in the diocesan office for victims of abuse
I just watched this, and it was eye-opening! I’ve experienced a Healing Retreat with Bob, Bart, and Sister Miriam, but at the time I attended, I wasn’t sure exactly what I needed healing from. When “Restored” came out, my first thought was “that has nothing to do with my life.” I’m very wrong! I ordered the book while watching this video. The Holy Spirit spoke loud and clear. Thank you for this interview. God bless you and Dr. Bob for sharing your faith! Pax et Bonum. ❤️🙏🏻🕊
Love dr.bob. Just a few seconds hearing him talk the first time made me tear up, he seems like such a beautiful soul.
I love You Dr. Bob ❤TY for speaking to my heart
Great questions, Matt. Very helpful.
I love Dr. Bob!! I just went to his healing retreat in Miami and was blown away!
Thank you for your ministry, Matt. Such amazing content thanks to you and your guests.
This is the 7th day in a row i have been called to look into the jp2 healing center....and i live in his town.
This was a powerful interview. I regretted that I did not hear enough about prayer. I sense he understands something of the direct interaction of humans that he believes is required for a deep healing. I cannot dispute this but I think healing is even more multidimensional than he expresses here.
Can you speak more on this? I had the sense he didn’t forget the power of prayer and the place it has in psychological and spiritual restoration and healing. Want to know your thoughts on this
Wonderful episode... Dr Bob must definitely start his own TH-cam channel, because although he has books etc, I think youtube would be a much bigger help to people as many more people watch TH-cam. Such a great blessing. Then you Dr Bob and Matt
@Pints With Aquinas, please invite Restore the Glory, onto your podcast again, both of them and have a wonderful long interview please - it would bring such healing, hope, God willing.
36:00 The lack of final efficacy of a spiritual regimen resonates with me. Rosary, scripture reading, fasting, consecrations, confession, Eucharist etc. I have never been tempted to think that these things have no power, or that God doesn't care or cannot help. I have always thought I either am not deeply committed on some level that I am not aware of, or that God allows temptation to continue to keep me from thinking that I broke free by the power of my disciplined regimen.
In either event, I have no doubt that He is sovereign, and can completely heal me at any moment He chooses. Whether He does so during life or at the moment of death makes little difference to me (most of the time).
Now I wonder whether that isn't a rationalization.
Thanks Matt, been following your YT channel for a year now as I’ve learn a lot of the richness of Catholic faith. One of the very best interviews and guest on your show Dr. Bob Schuchts
Wonderful interview as always. I am in the process of leaving the Protestant Church and reverting back to Catholicism. Im going to miss the community we have developed in our church. Can you do a video on this? On how to deal with letting go? Thank you. At the moment we are attending mass weekly and our old church twice a month for the fellowship ❤🎉
Great interview - thank you!
I LOVE Hallow! It doesn't cost very much at all compared to all of the beautiful things that come from it. It is a huge struggle to get our little 8 year old daughter to want to go to Mass. She says it's too boring. She loves praying and loves the things for kids and some other things on there. She also reminds me every morning to turn on her Catholic Sprouts ☺️
I listened to this while in my chapel in the midst of the store. I found it most excellent. I wish this would have been available when I was in seminary formation. Thank you for this. I definitely will be getting the whole series :)
this is a great man.
I went through alot of this stuff in therapy/recovery. I wish I could write a book like that.
Perhaps you can, God bless
Ty for the free book!
Well done Mr Fradd. Well done. 🍻
Excellent program . Thank you Matt.
Love Dr. Bob and his team. Been to two Healing the Whole Person retreats and the I AM Prayer Training! ❤️
Just finding this one today...
And I needed this one so much!
Today especially...
Wonderful session. Thanks
I love Dr. Bob!
Powerful talk. As a Anglican in the UK Matt's channel has renewed my walk. Can I get Bob's book here. He is inspiring. Thank you.
“ living my faith, but my heart in a protective place” describes me perfectly. Both parents abusive with each other. My childhood was a nightmare and that is putting it very mildly. My mom passed when I was 12, losses in between, then lost my baby girl when I was 6 1/2 months pregnant, lost my absolute best friend in my sister when she was 37, and 12/12/21 my husband of 41 years. I do not trust that God is a loving God, or that God loves me.
I'm so sorry. Sending love.
Im looking forward to reading this book!
insightful like a few others
Incredible
Wow...Matt mentions how he's amazed that when his wife sees his bad side come out she doesn't leave but shows mercy and continues to love him. If I were in his place, I would do anything I could to redeem myself by doing good works, or giving her wife good gifts, because otherwise I'd just be ashamed or feel bad about myself cause I did badly, and the main way to feel good about myself would be with doing good things so as to counterbalance and overcompensate for the bad stuff. The idea of deserving punishment also just seems to reinforce the shame, and forgiveness / mercy doesn't seem to relieve that even after it's granted, so the only way to truly get rid of the shame would be to do more good to overcompensate the bad. How does one deal with this attitude though?
I think Dr. Schuchts wisely touched on this and hits the nail on the head by explaining how shame can also cause wounds, so God's healing extends even to that, since one of the keys here is that we should see we're still lovable to Him even though we're sinners. And in fact, Scripture itself describes how the ultimate flower of healing eventually means forgetting the past, being a new creation and looking ahead instead of behind, and having one's soul fully purified from sin. To be forgiven by God literally means we're worth forgiving as it's an undeserved gift, and you only give gifts if you consider the other worth gifting. And I think this may be a possible answer. Dr. Schuchts, if you're reading this, what do you think?
Well I am no perfect wife, that’s for sure!! But Matt doesn’t need to lavish gifts or acts of service on me. You cannot “redeem” yourself, nor can my husband. Christ is the Redeemer!!! Best for Matt to Focus on being a good husband to me is the best! It makes me want to be a better wife too!
I think every honest marriage has moments where you wish you could be better and/or ashamed of your own mistakes, and sometimes that awareness doesn’t even happen until you’re in the middle of a difficult moment with your spouse. I think his expression is more common and brutally honest and vulnerable than most people admit and for that, I would say he’s brave. Plus, Cameron seems happy and very much in love.
th-cam.com/video/s-iLc9Q4rHE/w-d-xo.html
@@cfradd "...we cannot redeem ourselves.." by works or anything else - boom!💥💥💥As a Protestant I second that reply Cameron!!!🙏😇🏴 Thank you for sharing!👍
Anger is a difficult emotion for me to express. I tend to internalise my feelings. Is it fear of being rejected? I am now an older woman. At times, I find myself crying at inappropriate times. This is more of a psychological question, instead of a spiritual one.
I’m wondering if the emotion feels so large and the skill to express it, in a way that still allows you to feel in control of yourself, is at the root of the problem. Generally, few people tolerate or appreciate being on the receiving end of someone’s anger. I think it helps to sense the emotion arising, early on, in order to set the appropriate boundaries we require. I think it goes down better. I’m guessing... ❤️
Is Matt Fradd wearing a shirt with Edgar Degas dancers? That is cool.
Degas was possibly abusing the dancers he painted and ballerinas at that time and place could often be prostitutes on the side... I don't know why I'm saying this just a crazy thing I learned a few months ago (although I did ballet for 16 years!)
@@capucinetosi8361 yeah, you're right, he probably was.
super helpful thank you
Matt I wonder if you know the hillbilly thomists ? It's a bluegrass band made of Dominican monks... Would love to see them here one day !
They are awesome! I love the fusion of traditional music with traditional Catholicism. I call myself a Hillbilly Catholic. 🥰 I love the Traditional Latin Mass music while in church and Bluegrass outside of church.
Great video
Hey Matt. How about doing a debate about the Shroud of Turin (maybe Fr Robert Spitzer vs. )???
Here’s one: some people close to us don’t want us healed. If we are healed it exposes them. That’s a tough one. I guess that’s some sort of dependency issue. And in our brokenness and love we might decide to stay broken out of love for the other and that’s another dependency issue in itself. Just speaking out loud for a friend. This person was called to be a priest and has shelved the calling to walk with the other in their pain. However, is this one with the calling choosing the easy path? They don’t want to abandon the one with abandonment issues, yet their fear for the unknown is a narrower path. Difficult.
Where do I find someone like Dr Bob? I am on board with his message but there's no one around to go through the process with.
Matt L, check with the parishes around you; the (Arch) diocesan offices; and Dr Schuchts' ministry office. If you're in mid-Michigan, contact Lansing parish Church of the Resurrection; they have some folks there who have been trained to pray with people the way Dr Schuchts describes. Otherwise, check with Catholic groups, parishes, and dioceses like Steubenville, OH, Grand Rapids, MI...
It's worth it to go to a retreat. I've been and they are wonderful.
Are the conferences or books offered in Spanish?? If not hopefully consider having that available soon. I pray my father could receive this healing but he only speaks spanish.
I would love to know too!
th-cam.com/users/RebecaBarbaTDC
Alex, this person took his course and is now teaching the lessons in Spanish with different topics. Just wanted to share with you, in case you’re interested in checking it out. I have not taken any of the courses, as this is all new to me, but just sharing what I found with you.
@@lupsy54 thank you 🙏
Where do I get a bottle of beer like that? I just keeps pouring and pouring and pouring!
How about the conversion of Saul/Paul as a deeply emotional and spiritual healing in order to carry the message?
Where in Hallow are those meditations. I have Hallow....but don't see those. Please respond. Thanks!
Hey Matt, that's me, I'm a loser, live in Northeast Ohio! 😃
BPD = borderline personality disorder
DBT = Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
Borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. She is in dialectical behavioral therapy. She needs to focus on the Holy Spirit as the source of healing and truth, during those mindfulness of exercises. And yes, both of those disorders are rooted on attachment, like he said. Never having a place where you can truly rest and trust those around you.
A book that would help is "I believe in Love" by Fr. Jean C.j d'Elbee. Any resources you would recommend for attachment? Thank you.
@@paxchristi1661 not sure, but I like "Search for the Real Self" by Dr. James Masterson. Also, "Living from the heart Jesus gave you".
Wouldn't it be great if this was true for all of us? But I think some of us have gone too far down the road to turn back...
Never too far 💛 truly.
Peter had an emotional healing and damage memory. Its called deep healing.
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Impossible to find a Catholic therapist that’s actually Catholic. All seem to be nominal at best. Discouraged. So tired.
When you expand the definition of abuse so broadly, it does a disservice to those who have experienced actual sexual abuse, imo.
I think he was actually very careful in not doing that. He is very aware of varying degrees of abuse (he mentions working with people who've been through horrific experiences) and in no way is he leaning towards relativism. I personally am thankful for his insight into all levels of sexual abuse because it helps in shedding light on sin and aids in healing.
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Matt you are doing such a service to the Body of Christ by presenting these programs about healing. ❤️🩹 Thank you! He is right about this day and age about everyone being sexually abused in someway. People just aren’t educated about what it is. He is right about healing porn addiction is not just acknowledging it’s a sin. That is just the first step. Giving grace is not freedom. Abuse needs to be relived and emotions processed. But I totally disagree agree with the way this therapist worked with this family that suffered incest at the hands of the father. Healing of the daughters should have been first priority and never should have daughters been exposed to the perpetrator until they were healed first. Everyone need to be handled on an individual basis and remained so.
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