I have been reading a lot of the comments.... Thanks! I want to tell you I'm not complaining, just making an observation from my perspective. There have been 800 comments in ten hours (I'm still working my way through them). I do like the split time USA/Philippine idea many have suggested. I'll probably have to save for a couple years to make that work. I'm trying to get Christin and Dale's paperwork in order for travel to USA if necessary. That is definitely in process.
I retired at 40 I was told I would be bored rigid, I used to run a fast-paced business, it took me 2 years to get out of the western work mentality where its all stress pressure keeping up with the Joneses, once I was over that mindset I found the simple things in life were so much better, more time with family, pottering in the garden growing my own food, cooking, etc... remember once dale starts walking you will not be bored believe me bro, plus you are starting to breed pigs, why not breed more to sell, start a wee business over there TIMS TROTTERS best pork in town! Honestly you are living the dream there out of the rat race , how humans were meant to live unlike in the west where its all about material things, we are only on this earth for a short period, just enjoy it my friend. on the exercise front look behind you , go for daily swims , do press-ups squats etc , again lazy westerners use machines not their bodies , all you need to keep fit is arms and legs just like in ye olden days!
Food for thought.... I'm 46 and I want to live there permanently. I like how the focus is on family and just the next meal in the Philippines. Things are less complicated.
Tim I totally understand. I lived and worked there in sin city (yes as military) for more than a year. I was not a drinker nor did I like the clubs. It was a lonely time for me. Don’t get me wrong I really enjoyed the people. It was hard to motivate myself. I was in the medical field and started a free clinic. It turned my life around and gave me purpose. Now it is your turn to find that purpose of yours. Try to think up ideas for your little area. Set a goal. Anything. A business, building your new home, how about a small rec center. Concrete with a roof a couple pool tables, maybe a wet bar and of course karaoke. 😂. You will figure it out. I know you will. Praying for you and your family.
This is purely my own thoughts on your situation over there fella. Firstly you chose to marry a beautiful young lady and live in the Philippine's and now you have added a beautiful young son to your family, your sole thought should not be on yourself but your family and how you can best provide a healthy future for them. The province where you live is like blank canvas just waiting for someone like yourself to develop a business where your family and the whole community will benefit in some way, the options are endless if you have the right frame of mind and heart.
I’ve been living in Anda Bohol for this past year with my wife and two daughters , I really haven’t experienced what your saying , you can be relaxed and laid back as you want or you can be as busy as you like . We built 3 beach style villas that’s kept is very busy , we were even more busy renting them on Airbnb , if we’re not busy with that we are working on the rice fields in the mountains , I guess my point is you can be as lazy as you like but there’s also plenty of opportunity as well . Good luck with all your endeavors Tim .
Tim, I had a friend that married a Filipina and he stayed in the Philippines after marriage. Having worked with his hands all his life, he enjoyed it as a hobby but like you, he soon found himself in the trap you discussed. he accidentally found that word of his hobby of hand carved bowls for his In-Laws had spread after they show some to others that liked them and began asking if he would make sets of bowls for them. He did it gladly because it was what he enjoyed doing. To make a long story short, his gifts of bowls for his In-Laws turned into a business that found him shipping his bowls to England, the US and other countries. He became so successful carving bowls that he eventually began branding the bottom of his bowls with the brand that stated, " Hand Carved in the Philippines". He did that until his death. His hobby expanded from free bowls for family to bowls selling for as much as $900.00US and never did he produce more than 3 or 4 bowls a week. Find a hobby. Find something you enjoy doing and go for it. Even if someone else is already doing it, make yours different because yours are better. Write a book about your life in the Philippines. Write about the love of your life and raising a son mixed in two cultures. I guess what I'm saying in a nut shell is set a goal of accomplishing something you enjoy doing. Make it your Mission, define the parameters of the mission, define and executable time table of the time you will devote to it each day or week and then execute the plan. Above all, remember one thing. In the Philippines, family comes first. Make sure the only thing that can pull you away from your hobby (Mission) is your wife, son or wife's family. I would wish you good luck, but that's not what you need. What you will need is your wife standing there behind you supporting you and ready to put her foot in your butt anytime SHE thinks you are about to waiver from your task.
Realize that it doesn't have to damage your personality, but add a new facet to it. One problem we Americans have is not being able to slow down. My mom worked hard, finally started to slow down and enjoy the fruits of her years of labor, then got cancer and died. Don't wait until you're dead to smell the roses because you cant smell them from inside a casket.
Plant many fruit trees like the locals do, get some land, listen to locals. Hussle to make it work, it will keep you busy and productive. The trees grow as your kid grows. Energy from the sun, to food, to money.
Hello, this not works, Tim cannot get land because a foreigner. Many foreigners going bancrupt drying to go in business in the Philippines. My advice to Tim is, hold open the door in US because there is not future, no for you no for you children. You can stay there only like holliday but not in business. The wil ripped you of any thing. Beginning from the permitts to selling his fruits or meat or anything. I known people who was in the coconuts business, lost all, people raising pigs - lost all, paying a brand new jeepny and lost also. No way to make some business by your own. Last i think his beautiful innocent whife not has the balls to running business.
It is very true. Although I haven't spent a year there, I've gone for 2,3,6 month trips. The more time you spend there, the more you think of how less you might need to be happy. Back in the western world, you are always thinking of next job, next big purchase, next level for anything.
I would think the 90 degree temps and 90% humidity would be a major drain on motivation. Hard to think about doing something when you are sweating your balls off in the shade.
My partner is from calamcan,talisayan.i spent a month there and in that short time I was starting to lose my mind through boredom and lack of stimulation.the constant heat and humidity didn't help as too hot to do most things,I am 62yrs old and thought relaxing would come easy to me but I struggled.
Bird Dog lol yep agreed, you dont need machines to stay fit... remember your basic training (you may not want to lol)... route march (power walk), push ups, squats, ab crunches. Have a daily routine and increase it every week pretty soon you will be doing diamonds or even one armed push ups again lol...
you need to structure your daily life, open a business once this crap is done. fishing boat, hog farming (they love the lechon over there :-) ), heck or a taco place whatever... food and beer always sells!
Sitting in my room and looking at the beach from your Videos, Cuz travels is banned in Lanka, Thank you Tim, Leyte is Amazing And Your area is Spot on Simple and the best Life ❤️
The best way to keep your head clear for whatever is in the future, no matter the circumstances, is to get energy from training and being fit. You need to move in to that direction no matter what...
Yeah Tim . What you are asking is these three questions “ What Im going to do with all my time here “ also “ What am I going to do with the rest of my life “ also “ What am I going to do to earn a few Peso “ . Hopefully it all works out Timbo but it won’t be solved quickly. I’m sure these types of issues are going around in your head right now . Wish you every possible success with life in The Philippines.
"Tim's Gym and Heath Clubs" Western style gym with personal trainers, free weights, machines, spin bike classes, aerobics etc. Locate it near the dive resorts to attract tourists. Monthly memberships for locals. Chrissy can work making smoothies and selling her dads coconut milk. Hanna can sell memberships. Sell franchises in Cebu, Manila and south east Asia.
Hannah's advice of "go with the flow" is the best advice that you'll get. You're not in the US, you're in the Philippines and you won't change it, but it will change you. What I do in the Philippines is to change my priorities, it's no longer about "getting ahead"... it's using my time and energy to try to understand what's going on there and fit in and make the best of it. That's a full-time job and hard work - use your ingenuity and drive to do that ! ;)
Very true about life in PI. I lived there for 4 years, 4 years on Guam and 4 years in Hawaii. PI and Guam are pretty close in life style. I was like you, but I really wanted to slow down after Vietnam and all the fear I had. The slow pace of life let's you enjoy the moment, the time with your family and being away from the hustle and bustle of life here in USA. Maybe you need some friends or best friend to share time with. I am 75 and envy you in your life. After this virus is gone, life will return to some what normal but everyone has to be able to see the big picture of life. Slow is really good. Sit on the beach, soak up the clean air and vistas. Enjoy watching your family and especially your beautiful son grow. Life is great, soak it up.😊😎🤩
Tim I am sure you have heard of the old saying be careful what you ask for you may get it I understand what you're saying but your frame of mine will be the most important thing in the coming up future, you have a beautiful wife that loves and respects you, you have a beautiful child healthy and growing beautifully if you keep focusing on the things that you had or are different you will miss how blessed you are where you are some people go their whole life and do not get or obtain what you have find the Joy of where you are and what you have there and grow into the new tim who understands and appreciates what is new love your sub Francis.
So true. Don't get caught up in a western mindset of achievement and production. I though it was funny when Tim said, "...we're put on this earth to make use of everything around us". We are? Who says so? Why do you suppose most westerners think that way? Well, as with most things in life it's social and religious programming stemming back hundreds, if not thousands of years. And that particular mindset can be traced back to religious dogma within the protestant and puritan religions. Remember those founding families from a few hundred years ago in the east coast of 'Merica? The idea being that the best, perhaps only way to get in 'God's good book" (ie: a free pass into heaven) was to work your ass off. If you're not working, then you must be sinning. That's why so many people with a protestant upbringing feel guilty when they're not working. Sad thing is, you don't have to be protestant or even religious anymore - that programming is so deeply ingrained now in societal group think in the west. Crazy how your brain get programmed like that - just like a PC with MS Office. Sure the American industrial complex has created some amazing things that have made life much better, but they also created the atom bomb and the disposable product society. Limitless growth in a finite planet - now that's crazy. If more of us had the 'province' mindset we might not be in this climate change, global pollution mess. Learn to relax my friend and enjoy!!
A few years ago when I found that my living situation left me alone, a friend gave me some advice. I didn't understand it then, but I do now. And, it applies to you I think as well. She said that "I had to learn to like myself so that I could live with myself." It has made a difference in my outlook on life.
Tim, I totally get it. I came from SE-Asia where life was (and still is) simple and relax. Coming to the US was (and still is) a cultural shock. I learn new things every day, even after 35+ years of settling here in the US. I have seen the good and bad of being in a culture that you are not accustomed to growing up. Those that made it generally bridge the positive sides of each world and live by them; those that usually fail or blame on others are the ones who picked on the bad ones from both worlds. If anything at all, I would suggest that you just need to be yourself, and do things that the mainstream do - in your case, how the Philippino does. I know - being two different personalities in one place can be a challenge, but you need to walk this fine line, to make a difference in yourself, your family, and the community in which you live - at least, this is what I found contributing the most strengths to my motivation and at the same time helping those whom I am surrounded with.
How old are you? Maybe your too young to start living a retired lifestyle. I love it there. All I require is a good daily workout and I’m always happy.
I live in the U.S. I spend a lot of my time exploring, hiking, biking I love photography I think you're in a paradise environment for that. I don't think I could handle the rooster noise everyday😁
I understand where your coming from Tim. Your feeling unproductive and it makes you question your self worth. I think lots of people around the world are feeling this because of this dam virus. Just hang in there Tim. Put these thoughts on the shelf for awhile and put that energy into your extremely beautiful wife and your son. Better times ahead. More adventures away from there with the family..
Firstly we have a situation now you need to let pass before you make any hard decisions. I am in the US and done with the life and so want to me more or less in your shoes, but then we are all different and doing things alone or keeping sort of busy with myself is not a problem for me because I'm already doing it. I'm not motivated by a job/career I try to enjoy my wife and my hobbies the work is just a vehicle to allow you to live and enjoy what you can in life. Many people fall in that I'm bored and nothing to do trap in just retirement alone without living in another country. Find your hobby or hobbies besides the Vlog, take up sailing (my new thing) you can get a boat later if you really want your in the perfect place, learn, take lessons, gain some experience, get some sea legs be a Capt. Exercise as mentioned but it's a marathon not a sprint, get a trainer later, walk...walk a lot, change it up at times, you will see it melt away. Your a traveler/explorer and a decent people person so your being hampered by the current situation and a new family, just change it up a bit for now you can do it all! you have the time there's no rush, you left the rat race behind. Cheers!
Hey Tim,. It is common to experience culture shock when living in a foreign country. ... Accept and Adapt. ... Learn and be Open-Minded. ... Positive Attitude. ... Touch Base with Home. ... Don't Compare. ... Stay Active. ... Explore.
You can do it bro, your already winning in life!! You have a beautiful family and house to live in with beautiful scenery!! Stay simple but I have a an positive mindset with your goals in the future!! Keep coming with content. I enjoy your vlogs!!
Sounds like you need a new list of goals. In the USA it's a little easier to create them because you don't really have time to do much since it's mainly work work work. It's also much easier to communicate with friends and colleagues about dreams and goals.
Tim, I’ve been watching your videos. From telling your story that you have another son but the mother doesn’t want to communication. Enjoy your time there. Tin and Dale is your blessings . Think positive. Come to the states make money then go back. I’m sure you will think of ways. Stay safe, love all your videos. From SD, Ca.
Tim I understand what your saying I've been in Cebu almost a year now feeling similar.. Soon as the lockdowns done.. I'm gonna come train with you at the gym buddy we around the same size. In the meantime keep your head up don't stress to much my friend.
Tim, you are so right about how some of us in the West work and live. I spent 6 years in The Army and retired after working 35 years for McDonnell Douglas, IBM, & Boeing in a daily stressful pressure cooker. I am 67 and have been retired 6 years and I could never motivate myself to work like that again after my leisurely retirement. Your warning to Expats should be heeded for those people that still want to maintain an entrepreneur spirit. Thank you for a powerful life lesson on and from Paradise!
Ken, I think I mentioned that this frustration was more geared toward the middle age instead of retirement.... but sometimes I just talk and cant remember a thing I say :) ! But yea, you have earned it for sure.
I hear you. My daughter always said that I am a 'Project' person. I always put my mind on something and I drive everybody hard till it's finished and then I look for the next project. Find yourself a project within your field of interest (it can be at home) and work on it Example: What about designing and building a jungle playground for your son, soon, he will be big enough to enjoy it. It's a long project, but it gives you time to design and build an interesting playground. And of course, it's your specialty, you will derive a lot of pleasure from it. With time, you will look back and be proud of your creativity and variety of objects that forms part of a theme in your own backyard.
Interesting subjekt, I belive in US you are to stressed and in Philippines you are to relaxed, neither is optimal. Strive to be somewhere inbetween. Best luck for you and your family!
Tim, I think you’re feeling the effects of the lock down.You’re in Paradise, you have a Beautiful wife and family .. I’m 53 and looking forward to getting out of the rat race . I hate the traffic everyday here going to work , long hours at work. I plan to retire in Thailand in 9 years by the beach. Slowing down is all I think about and living by the ocean with my wife. Take care Tim sure it will feel different in a month or so when this whole virus thing passes .
your field of dreams is the ocean,get a cheap fishing boat,you love the water,learn a bit of carpentary ,build your own boat for trips,and fishing,i dont know there prices,ask about,cheers tim
Kristin is right Tim! You should go with the flow, you’ve worked so hard to get where you are, something you had to do in the States! Now and only for now is a time to reflect on how to be smart!! You’ve been there for a little over a year and you’ve seen so many things that you can probably help out on! You are being hard on yourself, stop being selfish and focus on what you have now! Take what you know and educate! Good luck! You have many friends here that won’t let you down when you need them
You are right that you are in the prime of your life. Your mind will rot of boredom if you and your wife don’t get to the US. There are many communities in Cali that would make her comfortable including Jolly Bee. Your son needs opportunities when he grows up and a good education. Bring the parents if you have to and go back to Leyte when you are ready to retire and can afford to build a beautiful home on the beach with no need to work. Just my 2 cents..
Brother... it means you are super relaxed! I need that so much! You have everything you need... in a beautiful place, with a beautiful family. Do what you enjoy and stay busy brother! You have achieved the dream!
Agree on this one. Tim, you said you are creative and innovative.. Start small at the local town center. Maybe a store, a trade, anything that you are passionate about.
Yeah i was thinking that, start a little shop selling groceries or whatever, Tim has lived there long enough now to find a nice little gap in the market there so sell whats most needed, He would surely have enough help running the shop what with Chrissy's family/friends etc then if that goes well maybe purchase some plots of land to build rental cottages or appartments which in turn would be more custom for the shop, if that doesn't keep Tim's mind occupied then i dont know what else will!!
Tim.dont make your situation complicated dont confuse yourself with uncertain thoughts.dont get tangled up with wrong ideas.work on your own peace of mind.learn to know about the inner you.Your in a good position, in a province that's idyllic,relaxing.lovely scenery.clean fresh air.Most of all you have the time to reflect and look inwardly and exam the real you.to move foreward and elevate yourself onto a new dimension of wellbeing.move away from negative thoughts mixed feelings.dont waste energy on these sort of useless emotions. Be realistic know who you are so you can be what you are consistently.dont throw doubt or uncertainty into the mix,that only stirs up unhealthy thoughts which is not conducive to your wellbeing.Remember you are where you are because that's the choices you made.But if you didnt think it through carefully enough,only you will know that,however that doesn't mean to say you made a mistake,it just means you have to give it more thought( it's not to late)and make adjustment and adaptations to your present situation.Right now many guys would give there right hand to be were your at right now.I have a filipina girlfriend with a 2yr old daughter.we are based in Cavite.Its not for me but, not much choice under the present circumstances.This coronavirus and the lockdowns that's in affect is putting a hold on everyone's life.one final word, you are what you are if you know who you are.You are more likely to keep your sanity and peace of mind were you are now than in the hectic overcrowded polluted noisy cities.You and your family will all benefit in the long term.
Mr. Tim. I know you are having a Lil melancholic moment, missing Our country, is normal, I've been here in Manila for almost 4 years, perhaps I miss My country, the food, my family, friends and all the activities I used to do. When I came here I left a brand new car, but a friend He got tired of taking care of it, that He told me that the car is his, so, I told him OK fine, I haven't done my income tax return from 2017, I gonna come back, for sure, I like Philippines, but, I'm still young, I need to go back to work and let's see what happens later. Good luck with your life, don't give up man, just think positive, you have a baby and just focus on your wife and baby. Bye bye.
Chin up Tim... we are enjoying your videos because many of us have the same interest as you loving life in the Philippines. Regardless of the covid-19 and the meteor coming close to earth April 29, 2020 many of us would love to be in your shoes as the Philippine culture is happy regardless of situations. Stay positive and love your family like you have been. Live life to its fullest. Peace
Tim you are living the dream this is what life is meant to be relaxing. I’m from Canada TORONTO Ontario grew up here all my life our DNA is to work smart and hard to achieve . I have said before you are my first subscriber I like your videos your a great guy and your blessed to live there. Anyways peace and love brother.
Tim, I am surprised to hear your statements. Your thought process is dead on correct! Live and learn, grow and prosper! You are doing exactly that, but in an area, the Philippines, that may require more pondering, and reflection than if you were in CA. You've experienced new things many of us don't have to worry about or take into consideration. We have no idea what leading a sedentary life is all about, except we older folk of course. lol You can choose a happy medium (I think this is where you are now) which will probably net you a decent life here on TH-cam, or you could go balls to walls, and possibly get the success I think you are after, much quicker. Don't forget to include Chrissy, and your in-laws in your decision process as they will either want to support you, or will go against you depending upon how you relate the situation to them. If you spring something on them without having included them in your thought process along the way, they are likely to balk! You have at least a few months (with the problems we are all facing) to think where you want to take this, and what your options are. Good luck to you in any case, and stay safe!
Hi Tim! Maybe you and Crissy could talk about moving in a place where it is close to the City. Where you can still do some things you want to do and you can visit Crissy's family anytime, you have a car.
Hey tune I’ve been watching you for a long time and I noticed the other day when you were talking about missing having guys to talk to and I respect that I just retired from the fire service over 30 years and I was concerned about that myself not having my friends around all the time. But it gets better and I have people check on me and I check on them but I hope you’re holding up OK this other video that you just put out talking about how chill it is there it is a beautiful place to live.Which I know you know that but it’s more like a place for Americans to go for vacation to live there is a big culture change I hope you can get through this rough spot I guess that you’re going through with the changes and I hope we can get better for you. Congratulations again to you and Christie for your new baby boy you guys look great stay happy and safe. Much love
Tim , you are such a gifted individual. Your experiences in life have given you a level of wisdom that is evident in your manner of public speaking . Just believe in yourself that you are truly unique for that is what all your viewers are thinking (minus the haters) ! God Bless you brother .
I understand you, you're right, I am ex military also it's like you're in your 40"s in a nursing home and your looking around and everybody has slowed down even the thinking process has stopped our human nature was built on challenging and motivation and once you take that away you stop existing and you become part of your surroundings unfortunately !!!
You make good points. The fact that you realize the pitfalls is half the battle. As a retired person I’m not qualified to offer advice but you’re more than intelligent enough to figure this out. Best of luck to you Tim in that adventure.
i dont think a radical change in our lifestyle is a danger. i think that if you'r looking for it it's because u r dissatisfied with your previous life and if while keeping some of your habits, u need to find different facets completing your own life
Must be tough to transition to that life. My wife keeps trying to get me to move there (because she was born and raised in the Phillipines) but I'm not ready to in my mid 30's. Basically for the same reasons, I want to live that fast life for as long as I'm capable and make as much money as I can before I settle down like that. I can tell that it's taking a toll on you. Just make the best of your situation and enjoy your family.
yeah i hear you, when i was there trying to make sure my filipina gf and I had things booked, it was the carefree "i dunno or it will be ok" attitude got me frustrated, its more laid back, the longer your there the more you fall into the Filipino culture, mid day naps, thats why the roosters crow all day...
Definitely solid points and my experience when I live in Chile a few years ago, which eventually I was tired of. In this sense I like to live in Eastern Europe, feels more similar to what I am use to and somewhere I could stay long-term. One thing that may help your progression Tim, is to learn the language of that country which will really set you apart.
Dino Josh P exactly just like in the pacific, there is island time and then there is village island time... I understand Chrissie needs to be close to her family right now but once the lockdown ends you can revise your situation, just dont go making any rash decisions...
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and how your culture clash has effected your life. One thought that I had immediately, is to set up a beach side school, to teach your skills and knowledge to others ! Stay safe, 😷 well 🧼😷🧼 and motivated !
Tim, be encouraged because it's the same in America. I live in Florida and everything is being controlled, right now. You must learn and adapt to your current situation. This week coming the surgeon general already is warning people to stay home, can you imagine the chaos that will be going. Look on the bright side soon when this thing is over, you can bring your family to the US. You will be grateful for living in the Philippines if you play your cards right. Praying for you Tim and Chrissy.everything will be ok.
Nice back drop Tim. I have enjoyed watching your videos. I think though she is younger, Chrissy is a good influence for you. Just watching your face, it seems you are becoming more and more relaxed and content. Fatherhood gives you a whole new perspective doesn't it?
Sounds like there’s a little bit of everything in this clip. Lots of figuring out. Use your situation to your advantage . You’re a smart guy. Now one advice if I may is to not panic. Number two is don’t be afraid to start doing something to do. An idea you have in mind to make things better for you and your family. Number three is do not stop. Keep pushing yourself. No one is going to do this for you. Especially in laid back Leyte. You have all the tools you need to succeed. Start ASAP soldier! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. That is very courageous of you!!!
Tim, take a step back and have a breather. It’s always hard to adapt weather you’ve been there a year or 10. Your doing great. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Go back and use the shit gym equipment. It doesn’t need to be pretty. Go for a jog along that beautiful scenery everyday. Start small and keep progressing
hate to tell you the cure costs money, but it is somewhat relative to the nature of the experience there (especially in the province) - create a set of mini businesses - "don't expect anything from them" (this mentality there is very important) - the expectation for a Kano/Joe should be more hobby like, so don't dump more than is comfortable into it - you can always strive to make profits but be ok with 'sustainability' (which is hard enough in that culture) - nothing big to attract attention from local taxing ...organizations, government, etc... but strive to make your family sustainable while providing you more resources ...examples... one or two trikes for hire, she'll have cousins that can operate them (they always have lots of 'cousins', lol)... purchase one of the the small fishing boats (not a dive boat), and again she'll have family or 'cousins' that will effectively use them - sari-sari/sundry, but you'll need a small building/pantry easily secured - keeping in mind that several aspects of this concept will keep you busy but can make life there much easier for yourself and family "if done correctly" - and more in keeping with your current interests, small scale home style 'baboyang walang amoy' or oderless pigpens (do a Utube search for ideas) ...keep it small and "always" focus on 'odorless processes' - same can be done with chickens for meat and egg production (very important to "diversify" the portfolio like any other investment in life, and you'll figure out over time what works and doesn't within your family group) you have to 'teach' your family about the concepts of responsible re-investment and maintenance as the culture there is not to maintain but that all daily revenue is simply profit for 'use now' ...they won't want to restock the sundry pantry, shelves will go bare, and they'll look back to you for capitol to restock, lol ...no maintenance will be preformed on the trikes until they break down, then they won't have the money to fix ('you' have to skim/rake the table and create a fund 'with that' to schedule and preform maintenance), but in the meantime you'll (and your family) have another transportation resource available that pays for itself over time ...you rake a take from the fishing boat, small amount of peso's for another maintenance schedule and the rest in fish for your family (more built in stainable resources for the family) - there are places in the Phil's there you can send family members for training regarding 'organic farming' and odorless piggery processes (do send 'family', not just yourself - as they'll need to 'understand' elements of the process during times you may be traveling) understand up front, they will steal from you (they won't call it that, lol) through short changing you of profits and goods, they'll short your rake (you'll learn the politics of that over time) - that becomes your mental challenge there, keeps you busy, the sustainability of your portfolio of family micro businesses - teach your wife the expectations of the model to profit and then be satisfied with sustainability, lol - she handles any negative interaction between members of the family and you simply learn to support her (it keeps the peace, lol) - never put 'so much' into it financially or mentally that you couldn't one day walk away without regret, and "understand that up front" - just a few idea's to ponder, lol just ask if you have questions good luck
Tim sounds like are having the daddy blues. I went through that as well, thinking that i should be doing more. Give it time, setup a plan and follow it as good as possible. U have leaders and followers, sounds like u wanna be a leader. Specially as a dad, so focus onnyour ambitions.
Tim , set up a service for Americans wanting to spend time there . You can market your experience and help them avoid mistakes , pitfalls and guide them through the unfamiliar red tape that they would otherwise encounter without guidance . All for a consultant fee of course .
Really don't see how your 'danger' is dangerous. It's about quality of life, money and career may help with that, but if I look at myself and look at the world, beyond a certain point money is no longer important. If you can live a decent life that's enough. Just look at the US, sure economically they do well, but it struggles with massive obesity and mental health issues. The stress of an achievers culture and looking at things through an economical lens is at least part of the cause.
Awesome! background it is an instagramable view, I feel you what you said but you have a happy beautiful family like Chrissy, cute baby Dale. Just stay positive for the goodness of your Family. You can both make business there in the Philippines and California, USA. Cheers!👍😇🙏
Hi Tim, As suggested by one of the subscribers, you can explore the possibility of starting a travel consultancy for Leyte and near by islands . You can book tours, hotels and also show beautiful tourist destinations to the tourists.
Tim, 10 years ago I moved from Baltimore, MD to a much smaller beach town which looks like Leyte during the off-season. I recommend trying to stay busy, keeping a routine. It takes time to adjust from big city boy to small town Leyte. You're a smart guy you'll find another opportunity soon enough just relax and enjoy your beautiful wife and son. Good luck my friend!
Use your construction background and family resources to built start a B&B, island and snorkeling tours. Are you allowed to start a business or do you need to buy into the country? Different type of Visa?
Try running from your house down to far end of beach. Jump in the water freestyle as long as you can then . Walk back to starting point and repeat. Do this 3x day and you will get fit az.
We’re here with you bud your family will get through this just stay strong we are , in our state Michigan we have over 560 deaths already we will all get through it
Hi Tim! I remember going way back to the beginning of your videos, when you first started your TH-cam channel, you said you never wanted to be known as Tim from the Philippines. However, that was before your son was born. You do have that vibe of being a go getter. I do agree with you about the calm life versus a busy life. Maybe once Chrissy gets her passport to travel you can feel that busy life & calmness touring other countries. This may not be possible at least for a few years. Thank you for the beautiful scenery
Dude, your in lockdown, of course there is challenges. I lived 4 years in Cebu and had to adjust like everyone else. Find a hobby to keep you busy. Enjoy the slower pace and know it will extend your life. Eat well, keep in shape, and love what U have going for U there. Times will change for the better.
I understand how you feel and think knowing where you’re coming from. Just be grateful for now that you’re in Leyte when CoVid19 became a pandemic. We’re in one of the state right now under quarantine and wishing we are in your place like Leyte. We’re not doing anything in our homes except watch TV, read, cook, eat, exercise, shop for food once every three weeks, no work, being fearful of getting the virus and being stressed about it. We’ve been stuck in our homes for more than three weeks now. Maybe when this pandemic is over we can all be more creative again. Right now, we are so envious of you. You have the beach and sea in front of you. CoVid 19 hasn’t touched Leyte. We are so close to New York and we might be the next state to experience the worst. God forbid. You’re more blessed. Be thankful that you and your family are shielded from all these. You don’t want to be where we are at this time. Stay fit, stay healthy for baby Dale and Crissy, be safe and most of all be thankful.
Tim I have spent a lot of time in Cebu City over the past five years. As the old saying goes if your with lemons make lemonade. I would say your a personable guy you could easy setup tours around the island and find those unique and different places off the beaten track in Leyte. I am still in Vancouver BC Canada working but I go back twice per year. Your only limited by the constraints you place upon yourself. Do it, move it, make it happen anywhere anytime. Lots of opportunity, create, imagine, nothing ever comes easy, but being busy and productive can be extremely rewarding. If you want more ideas message me. All the best WC
I tell yea TIm, I'm 51, weighed 350 lbs and had a very high stress job. I lost 110 lbs in 7 mo. by changing my diet and cutting out beer, pizza, soda and really focused on my diet.I've kept the weight off for over a year. I stretch and run 3.5 miles four times a week. I can tell you this when i would go down to Fla the heat would kill me. After I lost all the weight the heat didn't even bother me. I see what i use to be when i look at your videos. The HEAT there has got to be miserable. What's your WHY? what is motivating you to lose weight and live a better life? Start with some healthy motion, Start out by walking. If you're searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror. you can do it! But YOU have to Want it!
Hey Tim how u doing today. Since the first time I started watching your video’s I said to my self this a down to earth guy and I watch them all And you talked about a gym but that there equipment is no good you ever try resistant bands . Prayers go out your way be strong minded my brother and God bless.
Hi Tim I'm not sure where you are in the Phils.I have spent roughly 2 and a half years there,over the course of 20 yrs,so I have a bit of experience.I would refrain from opening a business,as most Filipinos would see this as competition,and do everything to subvert your efforts,so be very careful.I always thought I would retire there and start a business with my Filipina wife,but after reading about all the robberies/murders of foreign business owners, it's probably not a good idea.I think finding a hobby,exercising,hiking,reading,possibly boat building if you are good with your hands .Meditation might be good to calm your mind.Maybe there is something you could teach to the local kids? They are always so eager to be around westerners.Good luck !
I have been reading a lot of the comments.... Thanks! I want to tell you I'm not complaining, just making an observation from my perspective. There have been 800 comments in ten hours (I'm still working my way through them). I do like the split time USA/Philippine idea many have suggested. I'll probably have to save for a couple years to make that work. I'm trying to get Christin and Dale's paperwork in order for travel to USA if necessary. That is definitely in process.
Gotcha .. keep the vids coming thx
Roosters crowing in the background. The theme song of the Philippines.
I retired at 40 I was told I would be bored rigid, I used to run a fast-paced business, it took me 2 years to get out of the western work mentality where its all stress pressure keeping up with the Joneses, once I was over that mindset I found the simple things in life were so much better, more time with family, pottering in the garden growing my own food, cooking, etc... remember once dale starts walking you will not be bored believe me bro, plus you are starting to breed pigs, why not breed more to sell, start a wee business over there TIMS TROTTERS best pork in town! Honestly you are living the dream there out of the rat race , how humans were meant to live unlike in the west where its all about material things, we are only on this earth for a short period, just enjoy it my friend. on the exercise front look behind you , go for daily swims , do press-ups squats etc , again lazy westerners use machines not their bodies , all you need to keep fit is arms and legs just like in ye olden days!
Food for thought.... I'm 46 and I want to live there permanently. I like how the focus is on family and just the next meal in the Philippines. Things are less complicated.
Tim I totally understand. I lived and worked there in sin city (yes as military) for more than a year. I was not a drinker nor did I like the clubs. It was a lonely time for me. Don’t get me wrong I really enjoyed the people. It was hard to motivate myself. I was in the medical field and started a free clinic. It turned my life around and gave me purpose. Now it is your turn to find that purpose of yours. Try to think up ideas for your little area. Set a goal. Anything. A business, building your new home, how about a small rec center. Concrete with a roof a couple pool tables, maybe a wet bar and of course karaoke. 😂. You will figure it out. I know you will. Praying for you and your family.
This is purely my own thoughts on your situation over there fella. Firstly you chose to marry a beautiful young lady and live in the Philippine's and now you have added a beautiful young son to your family, your sole thought should not be on yourself but your family and how you can best provide a healthy future for them. The province where you live is like blank canvas just waiting for someone like yourself to develop a business where your family and the whole community will benefit in some way, the options are endless if you have the right frame of mind and heart.
I’ve been living in Anda Bohol for this past year with my wife and two daughters , I really haven’t experienced what your saying , you can be relaxed and laid back as you want or you can be as busy as you like . We built 3 beach style villas that’s kept is very busy , we were even more busy renting them on Airbnb , if we’re not busy with that we are working on the rice fields in the mountains , I guess my point is you can be as lazy as you like but there’s also plenty of opportunity as well . Good luck with all your endeavors Tim .
Tim, I had a friend that married a Filipina and he stayed in the Philippines after marriage. Having worked with his hands all his life, he enjoyed it as a hobby but like you, he soon found himself in the trap you discussed. he accidentally found that word of his hobby of hand carved bowls for his In-Laws had spread after they show some to others that liked them and began asking if he would make sets of bowls for them. He did it gladly because it was what he enjoyed doing. To make a long story short, his gifts of bowls for his In-Laws turned into a business that found him shipping his bowls to England, the US and other countries. He became so successful carving bowls that he eventually began branding the bottom of his bowls with the brand that stated, " Hand Carved in the Philippines". He did that until his death. His hobby expanded from free bowls for family to bowls selling for as much as $900.00US and never did he produce more than 3 or 4 bowls a week.
Find a hobby. Find something you enjoy doing and go for it. Even if someone else is already doing it, make yours different because yours are better. Write a book about your life in the Philippines. Write about the love of your life and raising a son mixed in two cultures. I guess what I'm saying in a nut shell is set a goal of accomplishing something you enjoy doing. Make it your Mission, define the parameters of the mission, define and executable time table of the time you will devote to it each day or week and then execute the plan. Above all, remember one thing. In the Philippines, family comes first. Make sure the only thing that can pull you away from your hobby (Mission) is your wife, son or wife's family. I would wish you good luck, but that's not what you need. What you will need is your wife standing there behind you supporting you and ready to put her foot in your butt anytime SHE thinks you are about to waiver from your task.
Tim, run a hostel or B&B. Then you will be able to interact with a lot of people from the world. You would make a great host.
Excellent Idea!
He could also use his youtube channel and base to advertise it, win win
I would actually love that. Hopefully in a few years I can make that happen. Right now it is a problem of capital.
Realize that it doesn't have to damage your personality, but add a new facet to it. One problem we Americans have is not being able to slow down.
My mom worked hard, finally started to slow down and enjoy the fruits of her years of labor, then got cancer and died. Don't wait until you're dead to smell the roses because you cant smell them from inside a casket.
Plant many fruit trees like the locals do, get some land, listen to locals. Hussle to make it work, it will keep you busy and productive.
The trees grow as your kid grows. Energy from the sun, to food, to money.
Hello, this not works, Tim cannot get land because a foreigner. Many foreigners going bancrupt drying to go in business in the Philippines. My advice to Tim is, hold open the door in US because there is not future, no for you no for you children. You can stay there only like holliday but not in business. The wil ripped you of any thing. Beginning from the permitts to selling
his fruits or meat or anything. I known people who was in the coconuts business, lost all, people raising pigs - lost all, paying a brand new jeepny and lost also. No way to make some business by your own. Last i think his beautiful innocent whife not has the balls to running business.
Excellent idea , i would plant lots of fruit trees and veggies for sure .
It is very true. Although I haven't spent a year there, I've gone for 2,3,6 month trips. The more time you spend there, the more you think of how less you might need to be happy. Back in the western world, you are always thinking of next job, next big purchase, next level for anything.
Totally agree. It's a place for people to relax and enjoy and rejuvenate. It's a heaven for pensioners. And it's tourist paradise.
I would think the 90 degree temps and 90% humidity would be a major drain on motivation. Hard to think about doing something when you are sweating your balls off in the shade.
So by that logic people in Florida, Texas etc should be the same
So true.. 🤣
Try working out more like you said. You don’t need any weights to get results. Don’t make excuses just do it.
My partner is from calamcan,talisayan.i spent a month there and in that short time I was starting to lose my mind through boredom and lack of stimulation.the constant heat and humidity didn't help as too hot to do most things,I am 62yrs old and thought relaxing would come easy to me but I struggled.
Bird Dog lol yep agreed, you dont need machines to stay fit... remember your basic training (you may not want to lol)... route march (power walk), push ups, squats, ab crunches. Have a daily routine and increase it every week pretty soon you will be doing diamonds or even one armed push ups again lol...
agree100%! push ups, sit ups, stretching, planks, squats, he can start out walking then incorporate some running. he's go to WANT IT!
I'm working on that.... but recently I almost got arrested for running outside LOL
Your thinking that way now, but when you get older your mindset will start to change no matter where you live
Plot twist tim is being held captive & his secretly trying to hint to us that he needs help for his life
you need to structure your daily life, open a business once this crap is done. fishing boat, hog farming (they love the lechon over there :-) ), heck or a taco place whatever... food and beer always sells!
Tim, I would help her dad with his business. Gives you something to do, and a workout...best to you and your family...
Sitting in my room and looking at the beach from your Videos, Cuz travels is banned in Lanka, Thank you Tim, Leyte is Amazing And Your area is Spot on Simple and the best Life ❤️
Hi Jeremy 👍👍👍🏴 hope you and family are good.
The best way to keep your head clear for whatever is in the future, no matter the circumstances, is to get energy from training and being fit. You need to move in to that direction no matter what...
Mr N
Yes especially with a killer virus out there that apparently likes to strike with a deadly force those that are heavier than normal.
Yeah Tim . What you are asking is these three questions “ What Im going to do with all my time here “ also “ What am I going to do with the rest of my life “ also “ What am I going to do to earn a few Peso “ . Hopefully it all works out Timbo but it won’t be solved quickly. I’m sure these types of issues are going around in your head right now . Wish you every possible success with life in The Philippines.
"Tim's Gym and Heath Clubs" Western style gym with personal trainers, free weights, machines, spin bike classes, aerobics etc. Locate it near the dive resorts to attract tourists. Monthly memberships for locals. Chrissy can work making smoothies and selling her dads coconut milk. Hanna can sell memberships. Sell franchises in Cebu, Manila and south east Asia.
I agree with you @Rich Chinery👍😇🙏
I lasted 5 years and had to go back to UK because the boredom got to me I'm 58 .so now I just go back and forward
Hannah's advice of "go with the flow" is the best advice that you'll get. You're not in the US, you're in the Philippines and you won't change it, but it will change you. What I do in the Philippines is to change my priorities, it's no longer about "getting ahead"... it's using my time and energy to try to understand what's going on there and fit in and make the best of it. That's a full-time job and hard work - use your ingenuity and drive to do that ! ;)
Very true about life in PI. I lived there for 4 years, 4 years on Guam and 4 years in Hawaii. PI and Guam are pretty close in life style.
I was like you, but I really wanted to slow down after Vietnam and all the fear I had. The slow pace of life let's you enjoy the moment, the time with your family and being away from the hustle and bustle of life here in USA. Maybe you need some friends or best friend to share time with. I am 75 and envy you in your life. After this virus is gone, life will return to some what normal but everyone has to be able to see the big picture of life. Slow is really good. Sit on the beach, soak up the clean air and vistas. Enjoy watching your family and especially your beautiful son grow. Life is great, soak it up.😊😎🤩
Tim I am sure you have heard of the old saying be careful what you ask for you may get it I understand what you're saying but your frame of mine will be the most important thing in the coming up future, you have a beautiful wife that loves and respects you, you have a beautiful child healthy and growing beautifully if you keep focusing on the things that you had or are different you will miss how blessed you are where you are some people go their whole life and do not get or obtain what you have find the Joy of where you are and what you have there and grow into the new tim who understands and appreciates what is new love your sub Francis.
So true. Don't get caught up in a western mindset of achievement and production. I though it was funny when Tim said, "...we're put on this earth to make use of everything around us". We are? Who says so? Why do you suppose most westerners think that way? Well, as with most things in life it's social and religious programming stemming back hundreds, if not thousands of years. And that particular mindset can be traced back to religious dogma within the protestant and puritan religions. Remember those founding families from a few hundred years ago in the east coast of 'Merica? The idea being that the best, perhaps only way to get in 'God's good book" (ie: a free pass into heaven) was to work your ass off. If you're not working, then you must be sinning. That's why so many people with a protestant upbringing feel guilty when they're not working. Sad thing is, you don't have to be protestant or even religious anymore - that programming is so deeply ingrained now in societal group think in the west. Crazy how your brain get programmed like that - just like a PC with MS Office. Sure the American industrial complex has created some amazing things that have made life much better, but they also created the atom bomb and the disposable product society. Limitless growth in a finite planet - now that's crazy. If more of us had the 'province' mindset we might not be in this climate change, global pollution mess. Learn to relax my friend and enjoy!!
Your username is Frances but you signed with Francis. I'm curious as to why..
What a sentence.
A few years ago when I found that my living situation left me alone, a friend gave me some advice. I didn't understand it then, but I do now. And, it applies to you I think as well. She said that "I had to learn to like myself so that I could live with myself." It has made a difference in my outlook on life.
Tim, I totally get it. I came from SE-Asia where life was (and still is) simple and relax. Coming to the US was (and still is) a cultural shock. I learn new things every day, even after 35+ years of settling here in the US. I have seen the good and bad of being in a culture that you are not accustomed to growing up. Those that made it generally bridge the positive sides of each world and live by them; those that usually fail or blame on others are the ones who picked on the bad ones from both worlds.
If anything at all, I would suggest that you just need to be yourself, and do things that the mainstream do - in your case, how the Philippino does. I know - being two different personalities in one place can be a challenge, but you need to walk this fine line, to make a difference in yourself, your family, and the community in which you live - at least, this is what I found contributing the most strengths to my motivation and at the same time helping those whom I am surrounded with.
How old are you? Maybe your too young to start living a retired lifestyle. I love it there. All I require is a good daily workout and I’m always happy.
I live in the U.S. I spend a lot of my time exploring, hiking, biking I love photography I think you're in a paradise environment for that. I don't think I could handle the rooster noise everyday😁
I understand where your coming from Tim. Your feeling unproductive and it makes you question your self worth. I think lots of people around the world are feeling this because of this dam virus. Just hang in there Tim. Put these thoughts on the shelf for awhile and put that energy into your extremely beautiful wife and your son.
Better times ahead. More adventures away from there with the family..
Firstly we have a situation now you need to let pass before you make any hard decisions. I am in the US and done with the life and so want to me more or less in your shoes, but then we are all different and doing things alone or keeping sort of busy with myself is not a problem for me because I'm already doing it. I'm not motivated by a job/career I try to enjoy my wife and my hobbies the work is just a vehicle to allow you to live and enjoy what you can in life. Many people fall in that I'm bored and nothing to do trap in just retirement alone without living in another country.
Find your hobby or hobbies besides the Vlog, take up sailing (my new thing) you can get a boat later if you really want your in the perfect place, learn, take lessons, gain some experience, get some sea legs be a Capt. Exercise as mentioned but it's a marathon not a sprint, get a trainer later, walk...walk a lot, change it up at times, you will see it melt away. Your a traveler/explorer and a decent people person so your being hampered by the current situation and a new family, just change it up a bit for now you can do it all! you have the time there's no rush, you left the rat race behind. Cheers!
Hey Tim,. It is common to experience culture shock when living in a foreign country. ...
Accept and Adapt. ...
Learn and be Open-Minded. ...
Positive Attitude. ...
Touch Base with Home. ...
Don't Compare. ...
Stay Active. ...
Explore.
You can do it bro, your already winning in life!! You have a beautiful family and house to live in with beautiful scenery!! Stay simple but I have a an positive mindset with your goals in the future!! Keep coming with content. I enjoy your vlogs!!
I think you should adhere 2 things at this place. Physical fitness (regularly sports) and no drinking, except at special days.
Hi Markus, thats the best advice you can giving him. Mostly foreigners drinking there and step by step lost there personality.
Sounds like you need a new list of goals. In the USA it's a little easier to create them because you don't really have time to do much since it's mainly work work work. It's also much easier to communicate with friends and colleagues about dreams and goals.
Tim, I’ve been watching your videos. From telling your story that you have another son but the mother doesn’t want to communication. Enjoy your time there. Tin and Dale is your blessings . Think positive. Come to the states make money then go back. I’m sure you will think of ways. Stay safe, love all your videos. From SD, Ca.
Hello from Norway. It is so nice to hear yous thoughts. I love the way you excplain your life. Stay safe, and look after yourself
The province there should be your vacation home. Move to the city and establish a small business with your family.
Tim I understand what your saying I've been in Cebu almost a year now feeling similar..
Soon as the lockdowns done.. I'm gonna come train with you at the gym buddy we around the same size. In the meantime keep your head up don't stress to much my friend.
Tim, you are so right about how some of us in the West work and live. I spent 6 years in The Army and retired after working 35 years for McDonnell Douglas, IBM, & Boeing in a daily stressful pressure cooker. I am 67 and have been retired 6 years and I could never motivate myself to work like that again after my leisurely retirement. Your warning to Expats should be heeded for those people that still want to maintain an entrepreneur spirit. Thank you for a powerful life lesson on and from Paradise!
Ken, I think I mentioned that this frustration was more geared toward the middle age instead of retirement.... but sometimes I just talk and cant remember a thing I say :) ! But yea, you have earned it for sure.
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You have to compare living in the province to living in the country here, life is slower. If you want it to be fast move to Manila or other big city.
I hear you. My daughter always said that I am a 'Project' person. I always put my mind on something and I drive everybody hard till it's finished and then I look for the next project. Find yourself a project within your field of interest (it can be at home) and work on it Example: What about designing and building a jungle playground for your son, soon, he will be big enough to enjoy it. It's a long project, but it gives you time to design and build an interesting playground. And of course, it's your specialty, you will derive a lot of pleasure from it. With time, you will look back and be proud of your creativity and variety of objects that forms part of a theme in your own backyard.
Interesting subjekt, I belive in US you are to stressed and in Philippines you are to relaxed, neither is optimal. Strive to be somewhere inbetween. Best luck for you and your family!
Tim, I think you’re feeling the effects of the lock down.You’re in Paradise, you have a Beautiful wife and family .. I’m 53 and looking forward to getting out of the rat race . I hate the traffic everyday here going to work , long hours at work. I plan to retire in Thailand in 9 years by the beach. Slowing down is all I think about and
living by the ocean with my wife. Take care Tim sure it will feel different in a month or so when this whole virus thing passes .
your field of dreams is the ocean,get a cheap fishing boat,you love the water,learn a bit of carpentary ,build your own boat for trips,and fishing,i dont know there prices,ask about,cheers tim
Hey thats my plan!😎
Tim, good message. I’m a Texan in Thailand, similar struggles.
Kristin is right Tim! You should go with the flow, you’ve worked so hard to get where you are, something you had to do in the States! Now and only for now is a time to reflect on how to be smart!! You’ve been there for a little over a year and you’ve seen so many things that you can probably help out on! You are being hard on yourself, stop being selfish and focus on what you have now! Take what you know and educate! Good luck! You have many friends here that won’t let you down when you need them
You are right that you are in the prime of your life. Your mind will rot of boredom if you and your wife don’t get to the US. There are many communities in Cali that would make her comfortable including Jolly Bee. Your son needs opportunities when he grows up and a good education. Bring the parents if you have to and go back to Leyte when you are ready to retire and can afford to build a beautiful home on the beach with no need to work. Just my 2 cents..
Brother... it means you are super relaxed! I need that so much! You have everything you need... in a beautiful place, with a beautiful family. Do what you enjoy and stay busy brother! You have achieved the dream!
Yeah it’s just life and being happy. Only natural to compare.
Hi Tim, may be look at a local business to set up. Relax and enjoy where you are it’s beautiful . All the best from Scotland .
Agree on this one. Tim, you said you are creative and innovative.. Start small at the local town center. Maybe a store, a trade, anything that you are passionate about.
Yeah i was thinking that, start a little shop selling groceries or whatever, Tim has lived there long enough now to find a nice little gap in the market there so sell whats most needed, He would surely have enough help running the shop what with Chrissy's family/friends etc then if that goes well maybe purchase some plots of land to build rental cottages or appartments which in turn would be more custom for the shop, if that doesn't keep Tim's mind occupied then i dont know what else will!!
Tim.dont make your situation complicated dont confuse yourself with uncertain thoughts.dont get tangled up with wrong ideas.work on your own peace of mind.learn to know about the inner you.Your in a good position, in a province that's idyllic,relaxing.lovely scenery.clean fresh air.Most of all you have the time to reflect and look inwardly and exam the real you.to move foreward and elevate yourself onto a new dimension of wellbeing.move away from negative thoughts mixed feelings.dont waste energy on these sort of useless emotions. Be realistic know who you are so you can be what you are consistently.dont throw doubt or uncertainty into the mix,that only stirs up unhealthy thoughts which is not conducive to your wellbeing.Remember you are where you are because that's the choices you made.But if you didnt think it through carefully enough,only you will know that,however that doesn't mean to say you made a mistake,it just means you have to give it more thought( it's not to late)and make adjustment and adaptations to your present situation.Right now many guys would give there right hand to be were your at right now.I have a filipina girlfriend with a 2yr old daughter.we are based in Cavite.Its not for me but, not much choice under the present circumstances.This coronavirus and the lockdowns that's in affect is putting a hold on everyone's life.one final word, you are what you are if you know who you are.You are more likely to keep your sanity and peace of mind were you are now than in the hectic overcrowded polluted noisy cities.You and your family will all benefit in the long term.
Mr. Tim. I know you are having a Lil melancholic moment, missing Our country, is normal, I've been here in Manila for almost 4 years, perhaps I miss My country, the food, my family, friends and all the activities I used to do. When I came here I left a brand new car, but a friend He got tired of taking care of it, that He told me that the car is his, so, I told him OK fine, I haven't done my income tax return from 2017, I gonna come back, for sure, I like Philippines, but, I'm still young, I need to go back to work and let's see what happens later. Good luck with your life, don't give up man, just think positive, you have a baby and just focus on your wife and baby. Bye bye.
Chin up Tim... we are enjoying your videos because many of us have the same interest as you loving life in the Philippines. Regardless of the covid-19 and the meteor coming close to earth April 29, 2020 many of us would love to be in your shoes as the Philippine culture is happy regardless of situations. Stay positive and love your family like you have been. Live life to its fullest. Peace
Tim you are living the dream this is what life is meant to be relaxing. I’m from Canada TORONTO Ontario grew up here all my life our DNA is to work smart and hard to achieve . I have said before you are my first subscriber I like your videos your a great guy and your blessed to live there. Anyways peace and love brother.
Tim, I am surprised to hear your statements. Your thought process is dead on correct! Live and learn, grow and prosper! You are doing exactly that, but in an area, the Philippines, that may require more pondering, and reflection than if you were in CA. You've experienced new things many of us don't have to worry about or take into consideration. We have no idea what leading a sedentary life is all about, except we older folk of course. lol You can choose a happy medium (I think this is where you are now) which will probably net you a decent life here on TH-cam, or you could go balls to walls, and possibly get the success I think you are after, much quicker. Don't forget to include Chrissy, and your in-laws in your decision process as they will either want to support you, or will go against you depending upon how you relate the situation to them. If you spring something on them without having included them in your thought process along the way, they are likely to balk! You have at least a few months (with the problems we are all facing) to think where you want to take this, and what your options are. Good luck to you in any case, and stay safe!
Hi Tim! Maybe you and Crissy could talk about moving in a place where it is close to the City. Where you can still do some things you want to do and you can visit Crissy's family anytime, you have a car.
Hey tune I’ve been watching you for a long time and I noticed the other day when you were talking about missing having guys to talk to and I respect that I just retired from the fire service over 30 years and I was concerned about that myself not having my friends around all the time. But it gets better and I have people check on me and I check on them but I hope you’re holding up OK this other video that you just put out talking about how chill it is there it is a beautiful place to live.Which I know you know that but it’s more like a place for Americans to go for vacation to live there is a big culture change I hope you can get through this rough spot I guess that you’re going through with the changes and I hope we can get better for you. Congratulations again to you and Christie for your new baby boy you guys look great stay happy and safe. Much love
Tim , you are such a gifted individual. Your experiences in life have given you a level of wisdom that is evident in your manner of public speaking . Just believe in yourself that you are truly unique for that is what all your viewers are thinking (minus the haters) ! God Bless you brother .
Thanks Alan.
I understand you, you're right, I am ex military also it's like you're in your 40"s in a nursing home and your looking around and everybody has slowed down even the thinking process has stopped our human nature was built on challenging and motivation and once you take that away you stop existing and you become part of your surroundings unfortunately !!!
You make good points. The fact that you realize the pitfalls is half the battle. As a retired person I’m not qualified to offer advice but you’re more than intelligent enough to figure this out. Best of luck to you Tim in that adventure.
i dont think a radical change in our lifestyle is a danger. i think that if you'r looking for it it's because u r dissatisfied with your previous life and if while keeping some of your habits, u need to find different facets completing your own life
Wow, this camera quality looks fantastic. What are the camera settings
LOL... Iphone XS Max straight up with crappy microphone
@@TimKyoutube I will look for sales on the iphone mic
I agree. I typed the same thing above before seeing your comment. Very sharp
@@JayCeeMax amazing video quality, i agree bro
Must be tough to transition to that life. My wife keeps trying to get me to move there (because she was born and raised in the Phillipines) but I'm not ready to in my mid 30's. Basically for the same reasons, I want to live that fast life for as long as I'm capable and make as much money as I can before I settle down like that. I can tell that it's taking a toll on you. Just make the best of your situation and enjoy your family.
yeah i hear you, when i was there trying to make sure my filipina gf and I had things booked, it was the carefree "i dunno or it will be ok" attitude got me frustrated, its more laid back, the longer your there the more you fall into the Filipino culture, mid day naps, thats why the roosters crow all day...
Definitely solid points and my experience when I live in Chile a few years ago, which eventually I was tired of. In this sense I like to live in Eastern Europe, feels more similar to what I am use to and somewhere I could stay long-term. One thing that may help your progression Tim, is to learn the language of that country which will really set you apart.
You are in a place where its a bit extreme. Just dont push the panic button. Hehe
Dino Josh P exactly just like in the pacific, there is island time and then there is village island time... I understand Chrissie needs to be close to her family right now but once the lockdown ends you can revise your situation, just dont go making any rash decisions...
Great video brother I understand totally were you're coming from just knowing my girl has changed my go. Go go. Attitude !! She's mellod me out
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and how your culture clash has effected your life. One thought that I had immediately, is to set up a beach side school, to teach your skills and knowledge to others !
Stay safe, 😷 well 🧼😷🧼 and motivated !
Tim, be encouraged because it's the same in America. I live in Florida and everything is being controlled, right now. You must learn and adapt to your current situation. This week coming the surgeon general already is warning people to stay home, can you imagine the chaos that will be going. Look on the bright side soon when this thing is over, you can bring your family to the US. You will be grateful for living in the Philippines if you play your cards right. Praying for you Tim and Chrissy.everything will be ok.
Look into Dropshipping, Print on Demand and Stock Trading. All businesses you can run from your laptop.
Nice back drop Tim. I have enjoyed watching your videos. I think though she is younger, Chrissy is a good influence for you. Just watching your face, it seems you are becoming more and more relaxed and content. Fatherhood gives you a whole new perspective doesn't it?
Sounds like there’s a little bit of everything in this clip. Lots of figuring out. Use your situation to your advantage . You’re a smart guy. Now one advice if I may is to not panic. Number two is don’t be afraid to start doing something to do. An idea you have in mind to make things better for you and your family. Number three is do not stop. Keep pushing yourself. No one is going to do this for you. Especially in laid back Leyte. You have all the tools you need to succeed. Start ASAP soldier! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. That is very courageous of you!!!
sounds like your are unhappy, man you got a wife and baby get it together, they are 1000's of guys in the states who would take your place.
your background is so beautiful
People fall into that flow in Key West. They call it Keys Disease. haha
Tim, take a step back and have a breather. It’s always hard to adapt weather you’ve been there a year or 10. Your doing great. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Go back and use the shit gym equipment. It doesn’t need to be pretty. Go for a jog along that beautiful scenery everyday. Start small and keep progressing
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Hi Tim I can really see you and chrissy with a shop and litte Dale in the background sorting the fruit out 👍
Beautiful background my brother. Much Love and Respect ✊❤️ from Kentucky 🇺🇸
hate to tell you the cure costs money, but it is somewhat relative to the nature of the experience there (especially in the province) - create a set of mini businesses - "don't expect anything from them" (this mentality there is very important) - the expectation for a Kano/Joe should be more hobby like, so don't dump more than is comfortable into it - you can always strive to make profits but be ok with 'sustainability' (which is hard enough in that culture) - nothing big to attract attention from local taxing ...organizations, government, etc... but strive to make your family sustainable while providing you more resources
...examples... one or two trikes for hire, she'll have cousins that can operate them (they always have lots of 'cousins', lol)... purchase one of the the small fishing boats (not a dive boat), and again she'll have family or 'cousins' that will effectively use them - sari-sari/sundry, but you'll need a small building/pantry easily secured - keeping in mind that several aspects of this concept will keep you busy but can make life there much easier for yourself and family "if done correctly" - and more in keeping with your current interests, small scale home style 'baboyang walang amoy' or oderless pigpens (do a Utube search for ideas) ...keep it small and "always" focus on 'odorless processes' - same can be done with chickens for meat and egg production
(very important to "diversify" the portfolio like any other investment in life, and you'll figure out over time what works and doesn't within your family group)
you have to 'teach' your family about the concepts of responsible re-investment and maintenance as the culture there is not to maintain but that all daily revenue is simply profit for 'use now' ...they won't want to restock the sundry pantry, shelves will go bare, and they'll look back to you for capitol to restock, lol ...no maintenance will be preformed on the trikes until they break down, then they won't have the money to fix ('you' have to skim/rake the table and create a fund 'with that' to schedule and preform maintenance), but in the meantime you'll (and your family) have another transportation resource available that pays for itself over time ...you rake a take from the fishing boat, small amount of peso's for another maintenance schedule and the rest in fish for your family (more built in stainable resources for the family) - there are places in the Phil's there you can send family members for training regarding 'organic farming' and odorless piggery processes (do send 'family', not just yourself - as they'll need to 'understand' elements of the process during times you may be traveling)
understand up front, they will steal from you (they won't call it that, lol) through short changing you of profits and goods, they'll short your rake (you'll learn the politics of that over time) - that becomes your mental challenge there, keeps you busy, the sustainability of your portfolio of family micro businesses - teach your wife the expectations of the model to profit and then be satisfied with sustainability, lol - she handles any negative interaction between members of the family and you simply learn to support her (it keeps the peace, lol)
- never put 'so much' into it financially or mentally that you couldn't one day walk away without regret, and "understand that up front" -
just a few idea's to ponder, lol
just ask if you have questions
good luck
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Tim sounds like are having the daddy blues. I went through that as well, thinking that i should be doing more. Give it time, setup a plan and follow it as good as possible. U have leaders and followers, sounds like u wanna be a leader. Specially as a dad, so focus onnyour ambitions.
Tim , set up a service for Americans wanting to spend time there . You can market your experience and help them avoid mistakes , pitfalls and guide them through the unfamiliar red tape that they would otherwise encounter without guidance . All for a consultant fee of course .
I am 65 and this is my 3rd and final time to the Philippines.
Tim...use your brain and make it work for you!!!
Really don't see how your 'danger' is dangerous. It's about quality of life, money and career may help with that, but if I look at myself and look at the world, beyond a certain point money is no longer important. If you can live a decent life that's enough. Just look at the US, sure economically they do well, but it struggles with massive obesity and mental health issues. The stress of an achievers culture and looking at things through an economical lens is at least part of the cause.
Loving the thoughts on the beach. “The Slow down with Tim K “ my fast paced world needed this.
Awesome! background it is an instagramable view, I feel you what you said but you have a happy beautiful family like Chrissy, cute baby Dale. Just stay positive for the goodness of your Family. You can both make business there in the Philippines and California, USA. Cheers!👍😇🙏
Hi Tim, As suggested by one of the subscribers, you can explore the possibility of starting a travel consultancy for Leyte and near by islands . You can book tours, hotels and also show beautiful tourist destinations to the tourists.
Tim, 10 years ago I moved from Baltimore, MD to a much smaller beach town which looks like Leyte during the off-season. I recommend trying to stay busy, keeping a routine. It takes time to adjust from big city boy to small town Leyte. You're a smart guy you'll find another opportunity soon enough just relax and enjoy your beautiful wife and son. Good luck my friend!
Nice content......Its long since we saw you swim.. did the swimming motivation also disappear?
Use your construction background and family resources to built start a B&B, island and snorkeling tours. Are you allowed to start a business or do you need to buy into the country? Different type of Visa?
Try running from your house down to far end of beach. Jump in the water freestyle as long as you can then . Walk back to starting point and repeat. Do this 3x day and you will get fit az.
We’re here with you bud your family will get through this just stay strong we are , in our state Michigan we have over 560 deaths already we will all get through it
Hi Tim! I remember going way back to the beginning of your videos, when you first started your TH-cam channel, you said you never wanted to be known as Tim from the Philippines. However, that was before your son was born. You do have that vibe of being a go getter. I do agree with you about the calm life versus a busy life. Maybe once Chrissy gets her passport to travel you can feel that busy life & calmness touring other countries. This may not be possible at least for a few years. Thank you for the beautiful scenery
Dude, your in lockdown, of course there is challenges. I lived 4 years in Cebu and had to adjust like everyone else. Find a hobby to keep you busy. Enjoy the slower pace and know it will extend your life. Eat well, keep in shape, and love what U have going for U there. Times will change for the better.
I understand how you feel and think knowing where you’re coming from. Just be grateful for now that you’re in Leyte when CoVid19 became a pandemic. We’re in one of the state right now under quarantine and wishing we are in your place like Leyte. We’re not doing anything in our homes except watch TV, read, cook, eat, exercise, shop for food once every three weeks, no work, being fearful of getting the virus and being stressed about it. We’ve been stuck in our homes for more than three weeks now. Maybe when this pandemic is over we can all be more creative again. Right now, we are so envious of you. You have the beach and sea in front of you. CoVid 19 hasn’t touched Leyte. We are so close to New York and we might be the next state to experience the worst. God forbid. You’re more blessed. Be thankful that you and your family are shielded from all these. You don’t want to be where we are at this time. Stay fit, stay healthy for baby Dale and Crissy, be safe and most of all be thankful.
Tim I have spent a lot of time in Cebu City over the past five years. As the old saying goes if your with lemons make lemonade. I would say your a personable guy you could easy setup tours around the island and find those unique and different places off the beaten track in Leyte. I am still in Vancouver BC Canada working but I go back twice per year. Your only limited by the constraints you place upon yourself. Do it, move it, make it happen anywhere anytime. Lots of opportunity, create, imagine, nothing ever comes easy, but being busy and productive can be extremely rewarding. If you want more ideas message me. All the best WC
The view is as calming and beautiful as your wife Chrissy. Thanks for sharing .
I tell yea TIm, I'm 51, weighed 350 lbs and had a very high stress job. I lost 110 lbs in 7 mo. by changing my diet and cutting out beer, pizza, soda and really focused on my diet.I've kept the weight off for over a year. I stretch and run 3.5 miles four times a week. I can tell you this when i would go down to Fla the heat would kill me. After I lost all the weight the heat didn't even bother me. I see what i use to be when i look at your videos. The HEAT there has got to be miserable. What's your WHY? what is motivating you to lose weight and live a better life? Start with some healthy motion, Start out by walking. If you're searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror. you can do it! But YOU have to Want it!
Hey Tim how u doing today. Since the first time I started watching your video’s I said to my self this a down to earth guy and I watch them all And you talked about a gym but that there equipment is no good you ever try resistant bands . Prayers go out your way be strong minded my brother and God bless.
Hi Tim I'm not sure where you are in the Phils.I have spent roughly 2 and a half years there,over the course of 20 yrs,so I have a bit of experience.I would refrain from opening a business,as most Filipinos would see this as competition,and do everything to subvert your efforts,so be very careful.I always thought I would retire there and start a business with my Filipina wife,but after reading about all the robberies/murders of foreign business owners, it's probably not a good idea.I think finding a hobby,exercising,hiking,reading,possibly boat building if you are good with your hands .Meditation might be good to calm your mind.Maybe there is something you could teach to the local kids? They are always so eager to be around westerners.Good luck !