I hate when people only value you if they dont have any other alternatives. As soon as they get in another relationship, you are no one. As soon as they break up with their current relationship, you are the one. Hate that thing.
That's why you have to move on. Walk away. It's going to repeat again. Here's what you do. Slept with that person, but wear a condom. Wear a condom!!!!
Yes they can say iam sorry but before they not accept any failure what they did. its like you were sad beacause of it. But shes not so Let her be like she wants to be even it hurts your self. If youStay strong before you go together with her stay it without you. Cause in my opinion iam even loney i dont want that shes not lonely even she cries that is so hard!
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
I FEEL LIKE HES FORGOT ABT ME AND DONT CARE. Even though he looks at my tik toks he dont know tht i can tell Im so sad 😞 im keep NC but i wanna reach out so bad but i dont but i dont think he cares its been 11 months
@@franklujan8304 Well, sometimes we do make mistakes. You did not gave to her a chance to explain, so we do not know what she was trying to say. Give her a chance, talk to her please
I broke NC, and was given the ok to call but I got comfortable with not hearing from him. I went back to NC. Silence is power. If he wants me, he needs to work for it.
Euphoria, regret, sadness, love, hate, happiness etc are all driven by hormones and chemicals within our bodies. It all depends on the levels of those elements within your exes body as to how they feel about you. Your silence can certainly help their body to produce those hormones and chemicals that are instrumental in having them wake up one day finding they miss you all of a sudden. That's why silence is so powerful.
Yes he used 2 be obsessed with me. The morning, noon, evening calls. For 2yrs 😭😭😭😭 and now its all over, been blue ticking my messages for a week now. I finally deleted his number 2day after several attempts. Im hurting 💔 😞 😢 and now your video explains it exactly how it is. Lord please guve me the strength to let go
I hope your days are getting better love. Mine of 7 years ended a month ago. I followed him while he served in the military, had his back no matter what. Went through a lot of good and bad times. He rebounded RIGHT after the breakup. It’s mind blowing how he has now turned his back on me and is now all over another. It’s been 5 weeks for me now, but I’ve regained the person I’ve suppressed in 7 years for him. I forgot that I’m a hot little badass, and now it’s who I am again. It feels great and having some bad days are ok.
I just found your channel by accident. I love how eloquent, succinct and slow your delivery is on your advice. You look quite young, but there's a lot of wisdom in your talks. Thanks for creating this channel. I feel you put a lot of thought into your content. Continue creating more.
68 Days No contact. Lost 27 lbs, started focusing on me, started spending more time with friends and family and pouring myself into my work and seeing success. Oh and I’ve saved a bunch of money without having to switch to Geico lol. If we never speak again I think I’m ok with it… sure sometimes I miss but I think the version of myself I seeing I am becoming, I am falling in love with. Love videos One question I don’t post on social media at all unless it my business/work related. Is that ok or should I post some of what I’m doing and how I’m progressing without them? I feel great and I don’t really sit and think about getting them back but if that opportunity came I might be open to it. Not sure
I know what you’re going through. I walked away from a three-year and a half relationship July 11, 2024. Don’t look at her post or any of her Instagram because it’s going to trigger you and you gonna get hurt again I’m telling you the truth bud, I I deleted my Instagram not because of her because I want to go forward
I did literally everything that I can for him while we were in the relationship the last act of my love that I can give is for them to enjoy my absence.
I can honestly say that no contact works, it tough because of our child but it works. I broke it and now have to go back to it it wasn’t long enough. We are human and you can’t stop the thoughts on either side. But no contact works. Just look at it as the space that they are asking for. We will all be great one way or another. GOD is great.
14yrs…on again off again… hot and cold. I am so done. I just can’t keep being on this emotional coaster ride anymore. I am not getting any younger but I will say once I truly let go I felt free. No fear. No tactic to get him back. I just want out. I need peace. And I am finding it alone, just finally for the first time in my life LOVING ON MYSELF. I blocked deleted pics and videos- I have never done that. I pray I am done. I pray to heal. I have heard a healed version of yourself will not go back to the same behavior. That is my goal now! Healing. Coach you have helped me for the past couple of years. Thank you! I know your advice has given me the courage to believe I can do better.❤❤❤
Guys whatever you do please don't break no contact. I broke no contact 37 days after her initial breadcrumbs and she didn't respond. My knee jerk instincts were to reach out to another ex set up a date because my mind couldn't predict the future
I have to let him go for good :( I realized and finally accepted that he is highly narcissistic which is how I got manipulated into a almost 1 year situationship. They're incapable of love and only abuse. 4th round of no contact. Almost 5 weeks no contact. I blocked him back on everything too.
It’s been 52 days since our last contact. I’ve broken previous attempts, but this time is different. I know it’s time to heal whatever I am supposed to learn from this situation and move on with or without him. It becomes easier each day, but today is a little harder as it’s his birthday. A part of me feels guilty for not acknowledging him today, but at the same time… I remember the reason why I am here. He didn’t care enough to keep me around for birthdays or stop our relationship from crumbling. Taking things day at a time and rewarding myself for small wins.
It gets so hard to try to protect the person you love from making a decision they may regret, but the hardest fact to accept is that you can't save them from a possible heartache that awaits them.
6 months after ghosting…he calls after a strong storm at 6AM…and had 15 mins of random conversation..’just checking on you’ 😮that’s not all the FOLLOWING night at 11PM… ‘hey, no damage, no power, ya da ya da…” another 15 mins. Since then I have been on a 2 week wonderful vacation…doing what I want and surprised my sons on their birthday..PRICELESS 🎉 Blackademic can you translate for me and instructions from here. I refuse to lower my integrity to call or reach out…
@blacademic-2 K… tell me what’s involved there… I guess this is ‘bread crumbing’? … In the second convo -‘I’ll call you back Mo.’. Seems he forgot and I am not calling. I’m open to this going either way but organically, prayerfully.. I am not lesser than anyone else..
Yesterday, he called x2. 1st cal I declined with ‘I’ll call you back’ customized text as I was soo busy at that time. It was 11:55 am - Fridays are rough. I had no anxiety or nervousness or push to answer immediately like before. At around 2:45pm I returned the call..”hi..sorry I was engaged doing something else when you called just got a free moment, what’s up?” Response: Oh hey no that’s not a problem at all…I was just checking are you finished building😲? Me: Or well you know one is never truly quite finished….WHY? Response: well I can come up and do the clean up and used material you don’t want I can use on my project…one man’s trash is another’s reward😳 I was really!! I thought you completed that, but now he want to add a roof. Well another call came in for him and asked me to hold..ME?!! After 1 minute holding I hung up. He called back at 5:30 to continue and apologized about the “hold”..but I was on another call and I apologized as I had to go into recording and could not speak. Happily he obliged and “talk soon”…He can’t be for real it must be another piece of bread he dropped this same building I asked his support in any way…this is where ghosting began… now you want my materials…Home Depot mo..
None of the coaches talk about the Avoidant walking away in anger. Everyone talks about the break-up being premeditated. Is the anger just something to hang on to for later? An excuse? Mine left (and is blaming me) over an electric toothbrush conversation😳
My ex asked that we be friends because they wanted to be ‘free’. Said they were having thoughts and didn’t want to hurt me. But wanted to remain friends.
I’m down bad. We would be celebrating 1Y 9/1. I love him BADDDDD. 7/12/2024 - I’m literally having all of these emotions. When it first happened I found myself reaching out 1x/week (text or call). He had been so cold and dry those times and I decided I didn’t want to feel rejected anymore. I’ve now been in NC for 2wks. He randomly added 100+ songs to our shared playlist then 5 days later unsubscribed. We have shared notes and photo albums that were both still synced to; this is my only hope. I don’t look at his socials at all. I don’t want to. I want reconciliation and restoration at GOD’S WILL. But I am struggling.
She reached out to me after I met her at a festival after 4 weeks of no contact. She wasn't amused. Few days later the letter arrived, she actually came back to me and really pointed to that letter with thankfulness 3 times. But she didn't change her mind after a month. So when she took one comment from a friend of her that was a friend of mine (not anymore after that talk) she sought a conflict again. When she said devaluing things again I blocked her off to protect myself. She reached out to me on email. Haven't responded to that yet but she has apologized really a tiny bit. Not to the derogatory words she said but just said sorry for her emotions, to continue saying: this is not nice, that is not nice.. and leave with a: I wish you truly the best, thank you for putting in so much effort in that letter. So honestly, this no contact is only working for me to calm my nerves down, but this toxic traits of her almost made me point out the derogatory tone she had and wish her the best, saying i'm letting you go. But I haven't. Honestly, every breakup is different
what if they did reach out and it didn’t go great? right after the breakup he reached out multiple times with memes and i didn’t respond. he then asked, “let’s talk at some point.” I got excited, but wanted to make sure to ensure the boundaries, so I said, “let’s revisit when you have a more concrete plan in mind.” He responded, “Concrete plan? Aha just asked you to talk at some point that is the plan? But nvm all good Catherine” I finished the conversation with, “No worries at all. Just let me know when you’re ready to talk.” This is now two weeks ago. He hasn’t said anything. He unfollowed me but then watches every story. What do I do?
NC and break up started on the 4th of July. She bread crumbed me 3 weeks later with “Hey just wanted to say hope you’re okay.” I didn’t reply. Her bday was the 2nd week of August. I stayed in NC since the 4th of July. 10 years together. She’s been clinically diagnosed Bi-Polar. I wonder if these methods work for someone with that diagnosis. For some reason the last 2 days have been rough for me. Any words of encouragement are appreciated.
You have to ask yourself if you really want this “life sentence”. My husband was clinically diagnosed with BPD and pushed away everyone and everything good in his life- quit his job, stopped building our house and shut down all social media. I gave him so much “no-contact” I made his head spin. I came to realize this manic-depressive actions would be more of a life sentence than a partnership especially if he doesn’t value me or our marriage. Dealing with a partner with this Mental illness is not a good life. Look on you tube where you will find many examples of people “living this hell”. 🥺 in the end, I believe my husband gave me a gift by pushing Me away.
You have a lot of great content on ex’s and I’m finding a lot of it to be true could you do a video on no contact with an ex when you have children I know there are other videos out there but you have a different understanding and your explanations are better
Married 14 years altogether. Five kids 4 girls and one boy ages 13, 10, 9, 8 and 4. My son is the youngest . She's 38 and I'm 41. She recently divorced men back in 4/29 2024. Bro y'all just go y'all way if it's it real then it'll happen. Me I kinda won't her back and apart of me doesn't.
My ex called me last minute wanting to take me out on a Friday night date I politely replied with i already made plans for tonight, he seemed very anxious but I'm good. After a month of no contact with him I understand I'm really too good for him and we are unequivocally yoked.
she broke up with me twice we had property together we been over 3 years together even proposed to her ... we even had two cats and a dog we raised together since there were babies she decided to leave me again and took the fur babies but you know what i was still being nice in letting her keep them because i didn't want to separate them since they grew up together i still ended up being nice even after her destroying what we had now she went radio silence on me blocked me from everywhere and not one care about me ... but you know what i still wish her all the best of luck and everything but this time is when i am disappearing for good if she decides one day to reach out to me i will listen to her but till then i am disappeared and working on my self
Hi Coach, thank you for the new video. They always help me😊. I have the following question: ex reached out after 5 months NC, he initiated all the texts and there have been 4 dates over a period of 1,5 months now. I reciprocate a lttle bit but am still holding back. What if he says he feels like it all has to come from him, can I simply answer in all honesty: yes, you are the one who broke it so niw you are the one that needs to fix it if thats what you want. Or is that too harsh to just say it like that ?
My ex,he was my first and I always thought and wanted him to be my last but he is not the one for me.We always fall back into a relationship.It's has been on and off since I was 18 years old.He was much older than me.He was 35 years old.I am now 35 years old and I am in a space we're I want to close the chapter on us for good and move forward.But I don't know how to move forward without him.He all I know.And he won't let me go.We have the cycle of always running back to each other,we're not good for eachother.I hope one day I can move forward.
I love to talk private but not able to pay atm my wife made me buy a new house a car and then decided to leave and move in with her fitness instructor, i love her always did she is the mother of our son and for him its hard also 😢
Im having too those panic moments when my mind starts to come up with all kind of scenarios. But whenever I get those feelings and thoughts I try to stop them IMMEDIATELY and pick up better thoughts and scenarious and i repeat them until i feel calm and some kind of happiness and warmth from my heart
So, weird stuff. No contact normally goes easy for me, but lately my bestfriend has been growing closer to my ex as in a friendship. She met up with my bestfriend and I randomly saw her in his house in week 3 of No contact which got me a bit paranoid. When she was gone I was upset at my friend that he did not let me know she was there. (No contact broken) 2 weeks later my friend and I find eachother in the bar and she is with him again. We did 2 drinks and I ignored her most of the time, but again No contact broken. She just keeps showing up at places where im at and I don’t know how to deal with it.
Be cordial as you would any co-worker. Treat them as you would anyone you work with - be a good employee but remain indifferent with respects anything else.
Been in 1 year of long distances relationship with him. I give him my all. I never talk to another guys I let him see the ugly and the pretty me but in the beginning of this month he just message me that he had lost feeling for me and ask for break up, after I said yes and start to disappear (no posting story no drama no like or repost something). He must be wondering where am I coz I always active in instagram. But last week i received notification from tiktok that he checking out my profile.
Me and my ex broke up in December as she was suddenly very silent, I suggested a break which she turned into a breakup. And giving me some BS that she needs to work on herself. A month ago she suddenly removed me from IG and blocked me on WhatsApp. Not much later I was suddenly unblocked and in a very short time span she changed her profile picture to one that I made from her when we were together. Now I’m blocked again. Is this breadcrumbing? Why would she block me again?
I managed to reconnect with her I mean talk to her but she still blocks my number. How do you think? as at times she looked fine and another time she became mad. We are working at the same company in fact. I guess nobody knows about the severity of our case. Advice please!
Coach Blac, I did no contact for 3 weeks & she called me . She claims she left a pair of shoes behind. Then asks me to Zelle her 40 dollars. Because she claimed i owed her money for the item she left behind. I paid her 40 dollars & am back on no contact. It has been 1 week since then. What do you suggest i do from this point? I'm back on No Contact again.
Hello Coach...My ex girlfriend who has been acting distant for a while after moving into another country for her new job, I and her met in person for couple of times and we had good interaction spending quality time together. However, after both the meet ups, I noticed that after we parted ways, she again got distant and wasn't much interactive over watsapp or video call. This frustrated me and eventually I told her that I need to work on my healing as she is still distant to which she respinded with a thumbs up. After that I blocked her and that blew her mind and she broke up with me asking to take a break and heal. How do I handle this situation ? Please help.
What if your ex left few weeks after having a baby and said they moved on snd already have a “friend”. Then tells you that the baby needs his father, yet he doesn’t try to see the baby at all or ask about the baby.
What happened if my ex wearing my clothes that I bought for him daily? Because all his clothes I was the one who got him, is it mean anything? We are physically separate 2.5 months and NC 1.5 month. This is not a breakup but I filed divorce (together 18 years).
how about if he went abroad then he broke up with you.. is it possible that no contact can still work? Im worried he will finally move on because he’s in new country new environment and friends. he can do whatever he wants..
Hey guys .... Mind if I ask something, iv 🐝 in no contact with my ex for months n months now and it's really been long but last week Friday they texted but deleted it again I hadn't seen the text nor asked why that did that till today ...... In my head I was just wondering what the hell was going on , did they make a mistake or what
Coach black !! My question is, what if my ex-girlfriend is datting another man few months before she breaks up our 8 years relationship ,she was monckey branching.
I left her on delivered for 2 weeks no contact and she messaged me a day ago with a boring text just saying Jamie (my name) i left her message on open as if she wants my attention she has to do more if she wants to be in my life again.
My ex moved on but there is no proof of it..she even posted I'm keeping my bf private the last one wasn't worth the hype..do I stand a chance w her is her bf even real?
What should you do if after 48 days of no contact your ex reaches out , wants to meet up and then ghosts you ? I immediately went back to no contact but dk what to do if she reaches out again
So what do you do when you get mixed signals? My ex and I officially stopped talking in April with “closure.” But it didn’t seem like what either one of us wanted. Fast forward to my bday which was in. My ex texted to check in on my kid which I thought, no harm, no foul. After that my birthday. I received a happy birthday text and I politely said thank you. That’s been over a month ago. We live in different cities. Still feel the energy a lot and the love is still there. I used to sit and count the days but now I’m just learning to just be. I was blocked on social media because they couldn’t handle seeing me on there. So I guess my question is are these breadcrumb moves? Should I have done anything? How will my notice anything without the social media attached? Just looking for some opinions.
Thank you for your advice. I & my boyfriend is around 60 now. Been in a relationship for almost 2years. Everything was just fine. 2weeks ago he’s brother died for sudden heart attack. He called me that day & say he love me & miss me. Then he disappeared since then, 2weeks ago I text ed him saying how is things going? He hasn’t reply yet. What should I do? I’m shocked. We didn’t break up. He disappeared. I did contact him except for that last text. Thank you for your insight & what should I do?
Thank you for applying. Do you think he ever come back? I won’t reach out bc he’s the one stop talking & I have a no respect for those behaviors. I’ll stay silence.
@chomyunleccadito4109 since there was no communication about the breakup, I would call or message them that you are moving on so he can't accuse you of of cheating.
Should I acknowledge my wedding anniversary with my wife and get her a gift even though she separated from me 8 months ago and is getting divorce papers ready because I did not love her enough or give her the proper attention?
Heello coach i ve broken up with my ex she had 3 kids already and divorce now she is seeing our HR boss now we just doesnt talk and she said i am like a brother ro her she is 20 years older than me. What do i do please
Me and my ex was talking thru the summer now it’s nothing from her now so I haven’t been posting on snap purposely cause she be watching my page so I just wanna see what gonna happens I wanna speak to her and I wanna see her but it’s like she playing so now idc I gotta let it just be 😢
Update bro my ex text my this morning hey Taylor I’m sorry I went Mia getting caught with the kids going to back to school and overwhelmed with work my response was good morning it’s all good was that bad response I did or a good response I need help on this coach blak 😂✊🏾
It’s been 2 weeks cold turkey no contact and I feel great he was the cause of our break up at first I was sending text getting no response or a one worded response(he was feeling himself) one day I looked at my text and said I’m done blocked him on everything. I have a peace of mind and started engaging with men that have a real interest in me I’m not looking for anything serious just seeing what’s out there I am working on my skin care line and feel great I put me first I got tired and bored of being the one he run to when all else fails.
Dear Coach Blac 🙏 Your video lessons really helped me to get over my ex and move along with my life. I don't even care if he will call me or not. I am busy with my own peace of mind and growing. Everything you say is absolutely true. Thank you so much 🙏❤😊 God bless you 🙏 Oh....and he has birthday today but I will treat him like a stranger, no contact, no call for his birthday....as you say 😊
I was doing great and now at day 53 I’m doing bad again lol . Last time we talked was 13 days ago, she texted me first where she said oh I miss you and think about you every day but I still don’t think it’s a good idea to talk . Maybe in a month or 2 when we’re fully healed we can meet up 🤷 It makes it even more difficult when I have very vivid dreams of her
@@igchannel2174 it’s terrible when you first wake up and you get a little excited thinking it’s real and your back together. My thing is I’m not even thinking of her before I fall asleep but it just keeps happening
Hey coach . I break up with my ex after an on off relationship.. this time the reason was because he caught me cheating. I was begging and pleading to him and he was still having resentment. So I stop reaching out . I do no contact .. and after 40days of no contact he changed his number and deleted all the apps that are connected with me .. is there still chance to get back together ?? I love him 😢😢
@@basicinfo2022 so our relationship wasn’t going well and i caught him meeting his ex ( this girl still trying to get him back despite she knows that im with him) . When i confronted him, he was sorry and promised to stop responding to her messages. Yes he stopped. But i still holding grudge so i decided to go out with other dude too..
@@basicinfo2022 so our relationship wasn’t going well and i caught him meeting his ex ( she still trying to get him back) . When i confronted him, he was sorry and promised to stop responding to her messages. Yes he stopped. But i still holding grudge so i decided to go out with other dude too..
@@Qwerty-2812-m3s were u intimate with this new dude, or where u just hanging out with him? If u were just hanging out, u could reach to ur ex and give him a proper apologize. That the act u made was an immature one and u feel ashamed of that, if u did it out of spite/revenge. If u were intimate with this dude , then the trust is gone
He broke up with me it’s been 1 month now…. I want to go no contact but he has something of mine that’s really important and he’s full of reasons to give it back to me!!!… I told him I want that thing so that I don’t have to reach out but he is full of reasons…. And whenever I reach out he complains that I am disturbing him
I hate when people only value you if they dont have any other alternatives. As soon as they get in another relationship, you are no one. As soon as they break up with their current relationship, you are the one. Hate that thing.
That's why you have to move on. Walk away. It's going to repeat again. Here's what you do. Slept with that person, but wear a condom. Wear a condom!!!!
True 💔
Yes they can say iam sorry but before they not accept any failure what they did. its like you were sad beacause of it. But shes not so Let her be like she wants to be even it hurts your self. If youStay strong before you go together with her stay it without you. Cause in my opinion iam even loney i dont want that shes not lonely even she cries that is so hard!
It’s called fake love better yet.. convenient love. The love you have is pure… don’t ever let your heart be manipulated by someone like that.
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
Especially when you and your ex absolutely loved each other so much. Then the break up hurts both you and your ex.
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I FEEL LIKE HES FORGOT ABT ME AND DONT CARE. Even though he looks at my tik toks he dont know tht i can tell Im so sad 😞 im keep NC but i wanna reach out so bad but i dont but i dont think he cares its been 11 months
@@franklujan8304 why didnt u answer to her?
@@franklujan8304 Well, sometimes we do make mistakes. You did not gave to her a chance to explain, so we do not know what she was trying to say.
Give her a chance, talk to her please
@@igchannel2174too hurt same thing with me..
I broke NC, and was given the ok to call but I got comfortable with not hearing from him. I went back to NC. Silence is power. If he wants me, he needs to work for it.
Euphoria, regret, sadness, love, hate, happiness etc are all driven by hormones and chemicals within our bodies. It all depends on the levels of those elements within your exes body as to how they feel about you. Your silence can certainly help their body to produce those hormones and chemicals that are instrumental in having them wake up one day finding they miss you all of a sudden. That's why silence is so powerful.
Eight months of silence… sometimes I wonder about his experience, his feelings, and what thoughts run through his mind.
Yes he used 2 be obsessed with me. The morning, noon, evening calls. For 2yrs 😭😭😭😭 and now its all over, been blue ticking my messages for a week now. I finally deleted his number 2day after several attempts. Im hurting 💔 😞 😢 and now your video explains it exactly how it is. Lord please guve me the strength to let go
I hope your days are getting better love. Mine of 7 years ended a month ago. I followed him while he served in the military, had his back no matter what. Went through a lot of good and bad times. He rebounded RIGHT after the breakup. It’s mind blowing how he has now turned his back on me and is now all over another. It’s been 5 weeks for me now, but I’ve regained the person I’ve suppressed in 7 years for him. I forgot that I’m a hot little badass, and now it’s who I am again. It feels great and having some bad days are ok.
it gets better. Eventually. Time heals.
I just found your channel by accident. I love how eloquent, succinct and slow your delivery is on your advice. You look quite young, but there's a lot of wisdom in your talks. Thanks for creating this channel. I feel you put a lot of thought into your content. Continue creating more.
68 Days No contact. Lost 27 lbs, started focusing on me, started spending more time with friends and family and pouring myself into my work and seeing success. Oh and I’ve saved a bunch of money without having to switch to Geico lol. If we never speak again I think I’m ok with it… sure sometimes I miss but I think the version of myself I seeing I am becoming, I am falling in love with. Love videos
One question I don’t post on social media at all unless it my business/work related. Is that ok or should I post some of what I’m doing and how I’m progressing without them? I feel great and I don’t really sit and think about getting them back but if that opportunity came I might be open to it. Not sure
Just move on. Unless you're okay to get hurt again.
I know what you’re going through. I walked away from a three-year and a half relationship July 11, 2024. Don’t look at her post or any of her Instagram because it’s going to trigger you and you gonna get hurt again I’m telling you the truth bud, I I deleted my Instagram not because of her because I want to go forward
I did literally everything that I can for him while we were in the relationship the last act of my love that I can give is for them to enjoy my absence.
Dude doesn’t have any emotions. Dude is like no one I’ve ever met.
No contact works 💯…. Her parents reached out after over 40 days of no contact cause she wasn’t sure I was going to be receptive of her conversations.
I can honestly say that no contact works, it tough because of our child but it works.
I broke it and now have to go back to it it wasn’t long enough.
We are human and you can’t stop the thoughts on either side.
But no contact works. Just look at it as the space that they are asking for. We will all be great one way or another. GOD is great.
14yrs…on again off again… hot and cold. I am so done. I just can’t keep being on this emotional coaster ride anymore. I am not getting any younger but I will say once I truly let go I felt free. No fear. No tactic to get him back. I just want out. I need peace. And I am finding it alone, just finally for the first time in my life LOVING ON MYSELF.
I blocked deleted pics and videos- I have never done that. I pray I am done. I pray to heal. I have heard a healed version of yourself will not go back to the same behavior. That is my goal now! Healing.
Coach you have helped me for the past couple of years. Thank you! I know your advice has given me the courage to believe I can do better.❤❤❤
Guys whatever you do please don't break no contact. I broke no contact 37 days after her initial breadcrumbs and she didn't respond. My knee jerk instincts were to reach out to another ex set up a date because my mind couldn't predict the future
I have to let him go for good :( I realized and finally accepted that he is highly narcissistic which is how I got manipulated into a almost 1 year situationship. They're incapable of love and only abuse. 4th round of no contact. Almost 5 weeks no contact. I blocked him back on everything too.
Don't give up! I was in the same situation and cut the contact 3 days ago. Stay strong I'm with you ❤
@MojaRacjaTwojPech thanks 👏🩷 6 weeks no contact now... good luck! They always come back because they are stupid and think they can replace us.
Same
It’s been 52 days since our last contact. I’ve broken previous attempts, but this time is different. I know it’s time to heal whatever I am supposed to learn from this situation and move on with or without him. It becomes easier each day, but today is a little harder as it’s his birthday. A part of me feels guilty for not acknowledging him today, but at the same time… I remember the reason why I am here. He didn’t care enough to keep me around for birthdays or stop our relationship from crumbling. Taking things day at a time and rewarding myself for small wins.
It gets so hard to try to protect the person you love from making a decision they may regret, but the hardest fact to accept is that you can't save them from a possible heartache that awaits them.
@blacademicYT How do we discuss it?
6 months after ghosting…he calls after a strong storm at 6AM…and had 15 mins of random conversation..’just checking on you’ 😮that’s not all the FOLLOWING night at 11PM… ‘hey, no damage, no power, ya da ya da…” another 15 mins. Since then I have been on a 2 week wonderful vacation…doing what I want and surprised my sons on their birthday..PRICELESS 🎉 Blackademic can you translate for me and instructions from here. I refuse to lower my integrity to call or reach out…
@blacademic-2 K… tell me what’s involved there… I guess this is ‘bread crumbing’? … In the second convo -‘I’ll call you back Mo.’. Seems he forgot and I am not calling. I’m open to this going either way but organically, prayerfully.. I am not lesser than anyone else..
Yesterday, he called x2. 1st cal I declined with ‘I’ll call you back’ customized text as I was soo busy at that time. It was 11:55 am - Fridays are rough. I had no anxiety or nervousness or push to answer immediately like before. At around 2:45pm I returned the call..”hi..sorry I was engaged doing something else when you called just got a free moment, what’s up?” Response: Oh hey no that’s not a problem at all…I was just checking are you finished building😲? Me: Or well you know one is never truly quite finished….WHY? Response: well I can come up and do the clean up and used material you don’t want I can use on my project…one man’s trash is another’s reward😳 I was really!! I thought you completed that, but now he want to add a roof. Well another call came in for him and asked me to hold..ME?!! After 1 minute holding I hung up. He called back at 5:30 to continue and apologized about the “hold”..but I was on another call and I apologized as I had to go into recording and could not speak. Happily he obliged and “talk soon”…He can’t be for real it must be another piece of bread he dropped this same building I asked his support in any way…this is where ghosting began… now you want my materials…Home Depot mo..
None of the coaches talk about the Avoidant walking away in anger. Everyone talks about the break-up being premeditated.
Is the anger just something to hang on to for later? An excuse? Mine left (and is blaming me) over an electric toothbrush conversation😳
No one cares about an electric tooth brush. It was premeditated. The tooth brush was just the cherry on the cake
There he is 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
My ex asked that we be friends because they wanted to be ‘free’. Said they were having thoughts and didn’t want to hurt me. But wanted to remain friends.
My ex does not have a heart. Unemotional. Don’t give a damn about no one but himself.
Great video. Thank you so much.
Mine just reached out after 15 months. She monkey branched and now she’s miserable. And checking her options to see if I’m still an option
they only see the value in their ex partner once they realize the grass is not greener on the other side.
Who is Blackademic 6?
I’m down bad. We would be celebrating 1Y 9/1. I love him BADDDDD.
7/12/2024 - I’m literally having all of these emotions. When it first happened I found myself reaching out 1x/week (text or call). He had been so cold and dry those times and I decided I didn’t want to feel rejected anymore. I’ve now been in NC for 2wks.
He randomly added 100+ songs to our shared playlist then 5 days later unsubscribed. We have shared notes and photo albums that were both still synced to; this is my only hope.
I don’t look at his socials at all. I don’t want to. I want reconciliation and restoration at GOD’S WILL. But I am struggling.
She reached out to me after I met her at a festival after 4 weeks of no contact. She wasn't amused. Few days later the letter arrived, she actually came back to me and really pointed to that letter with thankfulness 3 times. But she didn't change her mind after a month. So when she took one comment from a friend of her that was a friend of mine (not anymore after that talk) she sought a conflict again. When she said devaluing things again I blocked her off to protect myself. She reached out to me on email. Haven't responded to that yet but she has apologized really a tiny bit. Not to the derogatory words she said but just said sorry for her emotions, to continue saying: this is not nice, that is not nice.. and leave with a: I wish you truly the best, thank you for putting in so much effort in that letter. So honestly, this no contact is only working for me to calm my nerves down, but this toxic traits of her almost made me point out the derogatory tone she had and wish her the best, saying i'm letting you go. But I haven't. Honestly, every breakup is different
Hi Handsome man.Thanks ❤
I really enjoy these videos it helps even though it’s hard hearing lol I typed that part right as you said it in the video😂
what if they did reach out and it didn’t go great? right after the breakup he reached out multiple times with memes and i didn’t respond. he then asked, “let’s talk at some point.”
I got excited, but wanted to make sure to ensure the boundaries, so I said, “let’s revisit when you have a more concrete plan in mind.”
He responded, “Concrete plan? Aha just asked you to talk at some point that is the plan? But nvm all good Catherine” I finished the conversation with, “No worries at all. Just let me know when you’re ready to talk.”
This is now two weeks ago. He hasn’t said anything. He unfollowed me but then watches every story. What do I do?
NC and break up started on the 4th of July. She bread crumbed me 3 weeks later with “Hey just wanted to say hope you’re okay.” I didn’t reply. Her bday was the 2nd week of August. I stayed in NC since the 4th of July. 10 years together. She’s been clinically diagnosed Bi-Polar. I wonder if these methods work for someone with that diagnosis. For some reason the last 2 days have been rough for me. Any words of encouragement are appreciated.
You have to ask yourself if you really want this “life sentence”. My husband was clinically diagnosed with BPD and pushed away everyone and everything good in his life- quit his job, stopped building our house and shut down all social media. I gave him so much “no-contact” I made his head spin. I came to realize this manic-depressive actions would be more of a life sentence than a partnership especially if he doesn’t value me or our marriage. Dealing with a partner with this Mental illness is not a good life. Look on you tube where you will find many examples of people “living this hell”. 🥺 in the end, I believe my husband gave me a gift by pushing Me away.
Just stay strong. Don't break NC
@@Qanitanita99 Thank you. I have been doing the best I can.
You have a lot of great content on ex’s and I’m finding a lot of it to be true could you do a video on no contact with an ex when you have children I know there are other videos out there but you have a different understanding and your explanations are better
I’m going to win this battle. If not, I have other options 😝
Let’s go! 🤞🏿
You are a great soldier, im almost dying😢
I won!!!! 😂😂😂😂hang in there and trust the process.
Thanks love it!
I love your spirit. ❤ thank you for all you do.
Married 14 years altogether. Five kids 4 girls and one boy ages 13, 10, 9, 8 and 4. My son is the youngest . She's 38 and I'm 41. She recently divorced men back in 4/29 2024. Bro y'all just go y'all way if it's it real then it'll happen. Me I kinda won't her back and apart of me doesn't.
My ex called me last minute wanting to take me out on a Friday night date I politely replied with i already made plans for tonight, he seemed very anxious but I'm good. After a month of no contact with him I understand I'm really too good for him and we are unequivocally yoked.
Hey Coach 👑
@@bronzedgold hey thick thighs ❤️
she broke up with me twice we had property together we been over 3 years together even proposed to her ... we even had two cats and a dog we raised together since there were babies she decided to leave me again and took the fur babies but you know what i was still being nice in letting her keep them because i didn't want to separate them since they grew up together i still ended up being nice even after her destroying what we had now she went radio silence on me blocked me from everywhere and not one care about me ...
but you know what i still wish her all the best of luck and everything but this time is when i am disappearing for good if she decides one day to reach out to me i will listen to her but till then i am disappeared and working on my self
Hi Coach, thank you for the new video. They always help me😊. I have the following question: ex reached out after 5 months NC, he initiated all the texts and there have been 4 dates over a period of 1,5 months now. I reciprocate a lttle bit but am still holding back. What if he says he feels like it all has to come from him, can I simply answer in all honesty: yes, you are the one who broke it so niw you are the one that needs to fix it if thats what you want. Or is that too harsh to just say it like that ?
I am the woman who booked a call last week (relationship of 14 months 8 years ago, since then on and off but no more real commitment)
My ex,he was my first and I always thought and wanted him to be my last but he is not the one for me.We always fall back into a relationship.It's has been on and off since I was 18 years old.He was much older than me.He was 35 years old.I am now 35 years old and I am in a space we're I want to close the chapter on us for good and move forward.But I don't know how to move forward without him.He all I know.And he won't let me go.We have the cycle of always running back to each other,we're not good for eachother.I hope one day I can move forward.
Its hard no contact when we have a son
I love to talk private but not able to pay atm my wife made me buy a new house a car and then decided to leave and move in with her fitness instructor, i love her always did she is the mother of our son and for him its hard also 😢
Is it normal for the dumpee to also go through the panic stage? The fear of them being in a rebound relationship?
Im having too those panic moments when my mind starts to come up with all kind of scenarios. But whenever I get those feelings and thoughts I try to stop them IMMEDIATELY and pick up better thoughts and scenarious and i repeat them until i feel calm and some kind of happiness and warmth from my heart
@@igchannel2174 They’ll be back begging like they never left. Keep strong💕
@@Millianbabe thank you. yesss he is gonna knock on my door real soon!! Stay strong as well❤️🙏
How about if the fantasy turns out to be true or if the grass was actually greener on the other side?
Then they can’t be for you. Wish them the best and move on
And it also means that you need to work more on your self to be that greener than before...
Mines just reach out to me on sat. But she's giving bread crumbs vibes. Which is little confusing because idk what to do.
Don't accept ANY breadcrumbs
He’s never coming back 😢
What about if it was a healthy relationship & a healthy breakup ? You stayed in contact for months still good & now thinking about distance ?
How do I contact you. I'm scared
So, weird stuff. No contact normally goes easy for me, but lately my bestfriend has been growing closer to my ex as in a friendship. She met up with my bestfriend and I randomly saw her in his house in week 3 of No contact which got me a bit paranoid. When she was gone I was upset at my friend that he did not let me know she was there. (No contact broken) 2 weeks later my friend and I find eachother in the bar and she is with him again. We did 2 drinks and I ignored her most of the time, but again No contact broken.
She just keeps showing up at places where im at and I don’t know how to deal with it.
She’s fucking him bro.
Your friend deserves no contact as well
How you make them wonder if you work with them?
Be cordial as you would any co-worker. Treat them as you would anyone you work with - be a good employee but remain indifferent with respects anything else.
@@CatwalkPurz thank you
It’s been 3 months since she broke up with me outta nowhere. I’ve been in NC ever since but still nothing from her 😔
Been in 1 year of long distances relationship with him. I give him my all. I never talk to another guys I let him see the ugly and the pretty me but in the beginning of this month he just message me that he had lost feeling for me and ask for break up, after I said yes and start to disappear (no posting story no drama no like or repost something). He must be wondering where am I coz I always active in instagram. But last week i received notification from tiktok that he checking out my profile.
Me and my ex broke up in December as she was suddenly very silent, I suggested a break which she turned into a breakup. And giving me some BS that she needs to work on herself.
A month ago she suddenly removed me from IG and blocked me on WhatsApp. Not much later I was suddenly unblocked and in a very short time span she changed her profile picture to one that I made from her when we were together. Now I’m blocked again.
Is this breadcrumbing? Why would she block me again?
She is manipulative
I managed to reconnect with her I mean talk to her but she still blocks my number. How do you think? as at times she looked fine and another time she became mad. We are working at the same company in fact. I guess nobody knows about the severity of our case. Advice please!
Can you go to their church if you both attend the same church?
Coach Blac,
I did no contact for 3 weeks & she called me . She claims she left a pair of shoes behind. Then asks me to Zelle her 40 dollars. Because she claimed i owed her money for the item she left behind.
I paid her 40 dollars & am back on no contact. It has been 1 week since then.
What do you suggest i do from this point? I'm back on No Contact again.
Hello Coach...My ex girlfriend who has been acting distant for a while after moving into another country for her new job, I and her met in person for couple of times and we had good interaction spending quality time together. However, after both the meet ups, I noticed that after we parted ways, she again got distant and wasn't much interactive over watsapp or video call. This frustrated me and eventually I told her that I need to work on my healing as she is still distant to which she respinded with a thumbs up. After that I blocked her and that blew her mind and she broke up with me asking to take a break and heal. How do I handle this situation ? Please help.
What if your ex left few weeks after having a baby and said they moved on snd already have a “friend”. Then tells you that the baby needs his father, yet he doesn’t try to see the baby at all or ask about the baby.
Had one hit me up trying to figure out if should take her back after 8 months no could no contact
What happened if my ex wearing my clothes that I bought for him daily? Because all his clothes I was the one who got him, is it mean anything? We are physically separate 2.5 months and NC 1.5 month. This is not a breakup but I filed divorce (together 18 years).
Do you have a coupon code for your coaching services? 😅😂
Should I send birthday or holiday wishes to my ex during 'no contact'? Should I reply if she sends them first?
how about if he went abroad then he broke up with you.. is it possible that no contact can still work? Im worried he will finally move on because he’s in new country new environment and friends. he can do whatever he wants..
Hey guys .... Mind if I ask something, iv 🐝 in no contact with my ex for months n months now and it's really been long but last week Friday they texted but deleted it again I hadn't seen the text nor asked why that did that till today ...... In my head I was just wondering what the hell was going on , did they make a mistake or what
Coach black !! My question is, what if my ex-girlfriend is datting another man few months before she breaks up our 8 years relationship ,she was monckey branching.
I left her on delivered for 2 weeks no contact and she messaged me a day ago with a boring text just saying Jamie (my name) i left her message on open as if she wants my attention she has to do more if she wants to be in my life again.
My ex moved on but there is no proof of it..she even posted I'm keeping my bf private the last one wasn't worth the hype..do I stand a chance w her is her bf even real?
Coach how can i make a session with you it been 7week since i went nocontact and need your help
What should you do if after 48 days of no contact your ex reaches out , wants to meet up and then ghosts you ? I immediately went back to no contact but dk what to do if she reaches out again
It’s been two years.. fears gone man hahahah
I won’t to fix things
My ex gf told me she doesnt miss and love me anymore. She also told me that i have to forget about her what should I do?
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So what do you do when you get mixed signals? My ex and I officially stopped talking in April with “closure.” But it didn’t seem like what either one of us wanted. Fast forward to my bday which was in. My ex texted to check in on my kid which I thought, no harm, no foul. After that my birthday. I received a happy birthday text and I politely said thank you. That’s been over a month ago. We live in different cities. Still feel the energy a lot and the love is still there. I used to sit and count the days but now I’m just learning to just be. I was blocked on social media because they couldn’t handle seeing me on there. So I guess my question is are these breadcrumb moves? Should I have done anything? How will my notice anything without the social media attached? Just looking for some opinions.
How do you do no contact when you work with them?
Thank you for your advice. I & my boyfriend is around 60 now. Been in a relationship for almost 2years. Everything was just fine. 2weeks ago he’s brother died for sudden heart attack. He called me that day & say he love me & miss me. Then he disappeared since then, 2weeks ago I text ed him saying how is things going? He hasn’t reply yet. What should I do? I’m shocked. We didn’t break up. He disappeared. I did contact him except for that last text. Thank you for your insight & what should I do?
@chomyunleccadito4109 either he's grieving and having difficulty coping, or he dumped you without communication.
Thank you for applying. Do you think he ever come back? I won’t reach out bc he’s the one stop talking & I have a no respect for those behaviors. I’ll stay silence.
@chomyunleccadito4109 since there was no communication about the breakup, I would call or message them that you are moving on so he can't accuse you of of cheating.
Let me help every man curious about her being honorable.
We who have been with the hard right left call it, she's not yours, it's just your turn.
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How long do i need to dissappear. I'm 2 months in NC. I want to reach out. Mind you he break up with me.
@blacademic6 if its for free oke. I don't have money to Pay you. So if you're looking for a payed job look somewhere else I'm broke
Should I acknowledge my wedding anniversary with my wife and get her a gift even though she separated from me 8 months ago and is getting divorce papers ready because I did not love her enough or give her the proper attention?
Hell no , are u crazy?
She don't deserve shit but the divorce she asked for . Move on
Hell no , are you crazy?
She don't deserve nothing but the divorce she asked for , move on
Heello coach i ve broken up with my ex she had 3 kids already and divorce now she is seeing our HR boss now we just doesnt talk and she said i am like a brother ro her she is 20 years older than me. What do i do please
We just talk like bread crumnmbs on text.
But what if they are anxious attachment
@blacademicYT funds kinda tight I don't mind speaking here tho
Me and my ex was talking thru the summer now it’s nothing from her now so I haven’t been posting on snap purposely cause she be watching my page so I just wanna see what gonna happens I wanna speak to her and I wanna see her but it’s like she playing so now idc I gotta let it just be 😢
Update bro my ex text my this morning hey Taylor I’m sorry I went Mia getting caught with the kids going to back to school and overwhelmed with work my response was good morning it’s all good was that bad response I did or a good response I need help on this coach blak 😂✊🏾
It’s been 2 weeks cold turkey no contact and I feel great he was the cause of our break up at first I was sending text getting no response or a one worded response(he was feeling himself) one day I looked at my text and said I’m done blocked him on everything. I have a peace of mind and started engaging with men that have a real interest in me I’m not looking for anything serious just seeing what’s out there I am working on my skin care line and feel great I put me first I got tired and bored of being the one he run to when all else fails.
Dear Coach Blac 🙏 Your video lessons really helped me to get over my ex and move along with my life. I don't even care if he will call me or not. I am busy with my own peace of mind and growing. Everything you say is absolutely true. Thank you so much 🙏❤😊 God bless you 🙏
Oh....and he has birthday today but I will treat him like a stranger, no contact, no call for his birthday....as you say 😊
I was doing great and now at day 53 I’m doing bad again lol . Last time we talked was 13 days ago, she texted me first where she said oh I miss you and think about you every day but I still don’t think it’s a good idea to talk . Maybe in a month or 2 when we’re fully healed we can meet up 🤷 It makes it even more difficult when I have very vivid dreams of her
The first 2 months are the hardest. Keep going.
Im having so many dreams about my ex. Even when i take afternoon naps, he is there 😭 i must start seriously do detachment and self love meditation ..
@@igchannel2174 it’s terrible when you first wake up and you get a little excited thinking it’s real and your back together. My thing is I’m not even thinking of her before I fall asleep but it just keeps happening
What if your ex moved to another state and isnt on social media?
If the connection was real and strong, they'll reach out first.
Hey coach . I break up with my ex after an on off relationship..
this time the reason was because he caught me cheating.
I was begging and pleading to him and he was still having resentment.
So I stop reaching out . I do no contact ..
and after 40days of no contact he changed his number and deleted all the apps that are connected with me .. is there still chance to get back together ?? I love him 😢😢
Cheating is usually a dealbreaker when dating. How did you cheat on him?
@@basicinfo2022 so our relationship wasn’t going well and i caught him meeting his ex ( this girl still trying to get him back despite she knows that im with him) . When i confronted him, he was sorry and promised to stop responding to her messages. Yes he stopped. But i still holding grudge so i decided to go out with other dude too..
I dont know the details about ur situation, but usually the trust is gone if cheating happened. Trust is the most important pillar in a relationship.
@@basicinfo2022 so our relationship wasn’t going well and i caught him meeting his ex ( she still trying to get him back) . When i confronted him, he was sorry and promised to stop responding to her messages. Yes he stopped. But i still holding grudge so i decided to go out with other dude too..
@@Qwerty-2812-m3s were u intimate with this new dude, or where u just hanging out with him?
If u were just hanging out, u could reach to ur ex and give him a proper apologize. That the act u made was an immature one and u feel ashamed of that, if u did it out of spite/revenge.
If u were intimate with this dude , then the trust is gone
He broke up with me it’s been 1 month now…. I want to go no contact but he has something of mine that’s really important and he’s full of reasons to give it back to me!!!… I told him I want that thing so that I don’t have to reach out but he is full of reasons…. And whenever I reach out he complains that I am disturbing him
Mind you I am only reaching out to get what is mine and he says he will give it back and he knows how important it is to me
Reaching out or connection to him is not a no contact get your stuff and give him full no contact