My whole childhood my mom was a hoarder. She bought dishes and random stuff from an auction every week. I remember being 7 years old asking her "why do we need another crock pot because we have 5 already?". I never had a friend over, I had to sleep on the couch (my bedroom was full of her junk) and I wore the same cloths days in a row because she didn't do laundry like she should have. Because of how I lived as a child and most of my teenage years I will NEVER allow myself to buy unnecessary items. I keep every inch of my apartment clean and organized ESPECIALLY since I'm expecting my first child early next year. I will never put him through that. I know how isolating it feels....
@@jasminedearmas9915 No unfortunately she still buys junk all the time. About 4 years ago she fell and broke her femur bone. She lived at an in care facility to get therapy for her leg. That was the opportunity me and my sisters took to clean out her house (I was still living there at that time). When she came home she was good about keeping things clean (with my help and encouragement) but unfortunately like I said she still buys and hoards things she doesn't need. It's gotten worse since I've moved out. Actually, today she gave me a small folder for coupons (I don't use coupons nor have I ever) and she got mad at me because I didn't want it (I don't want items I will never use). She thought it was something I absolutely had to have and that it was the best thing ever. She treats almost every item like that.
Im so glad to hear that you didnt resort to hoardering. Its so easy to grow up in that world and think of it as 'normal'. Blessings to u and ur lil one.
I guess you have to treat it like a dementia. I presume your mother is not very old. It seems people that endure this ( I won’t say suffer) seem to be happyish in their situation.Thankyou for being brave enough to share this. Don’t keep your child from his grandmother, as your child gets older, all you have to do is explain that people live differently. Good luck x
Oh my!!!! I really don't want this to be taken the wrong way, or to sound like I don't care, but there comes a time when our elderly should not live alone, especially when they are disabled. This lady needs to be where people will help her and take care of her. This tears my heart out.
@@introvert_scribe3489 Have you considered volunteering at a nursing home? It's starting to be safe again, now, with covid not so common anymore. I think they would let you if you'd got your vaccine. People living in those places get really lonely. They'd love to talk to you.
My father has a hoarding problem. He grew up in a very very poor household and so now finds it so hard to let go of things. I love him with all my heart.
that seems to be what happens with a lot of people, one of my grandparents was like that, the thing which made them change is when we told them if they donate their belongings, more people who were in the situation they were in could enjoy the things which they treated like garbage and hadn't seen in years.
Unfortunately, Olive has lived like this for so many years and she’s not going to change. It is hard for anyone to get that hoard under control let alone a legally blind, 80+ year old lady with no support system. I feel awful for her. My mother was the opposite and everything had to be in order. She didn’t stopped us from playing but, we had to put everything back in its place. We also had to keep our bedrooms in order even though we had a housekeeper. Mom, thank you.
My heart goes out to Janet... Bless her and bless her children, especially her daughter. Hope she gets the help and support she needs to transition into a better place emotionally and mentally. Kudos to her daughter..Keep supporting your mum as you do. Too much love in this family. God bless you Aunty. Love from a fellow Nigerian who knows how devastating depression can be. YOU'RE AMAZING!
sansnom yesss inside and out is the best part. What a dear. There is a documentary where she first helped her own mother with her mothers hoarding issues it’s quite touching her brothers are also in that episode I believe you can find it if you type in her name the hosts name and my own mothers hoarding or something like that anyways she is lovely quite a kind girl and olive really warmed up to her in the end
She is, but I also noticed they used a beautifying face filter in this video, which makes you look better. If you're not familiar with this and would like to know more, you can google search on it.
Sooo, everyone thought the mother was okay just because she was letting them take stuff out? Everyone doesnt explode and lash out, some implode and collapse. By the end of the scene she'd stopped talking. I was very concerned...
On this version they never lash out. I think the American version is more so for drama. I think the therapist unnecessarily agitate the American hoarders for more viewership.
I was wondering about this too, she said she was depressed. I hope she still got support after this, as someone who also suffers with depression I know that I’ve been in very low places even when people have helped me to get my life back on track
True, safety is paramount. But unless the reason why she hoards is addressed she will just refill her home again. At least that's what happened with us.
We are trying to address the reason she hoards and it’s important for her health that she cleans out her home. But things take time she’s been in the hospital for a month so far because of cancer we want her home cleaned out for her health and so she can enjoy her home for the remaining years
No Account mine as well. My aunt went and cleaned it all out, and went over regularly to clean. She put her actual collectibles in nice displays (she lived in Atlanta, home of Coca-Cola, had some great finds), and put a shed out back she could put her yard sale finds in. She hated it, but knew it was better for her. She was never as extreme as these shows, just liked everything she saw.
I've been binge watching these shows n my home has never been cleaner or more organised. Lol. Carrying the phone around watching n listening as I work.
wefinishthis now the best therapist on hoarders was someone called Brendan and he had a mother who was a hoarder and he tried to help her.Unfortunately they only had him for one series.
Thank you so much for spreading public awareness about this very PAINFUL emotional condition.......hoarders need help and we should all be supporting them on their journey to wellness. Hope, healing, and recovery is available:-) so they may move forward enjoying the rest of their lives:-)
i don't understand this disease at all. i feel so bad for hoarders though. cause i do understand that it's not just a simple ( throw away everything ) fix.
because your mind always says , u need them one day , you dont wanna waste it , so you just keep collecting and keeping hoping that you would use it , but no, it just got more and more and it becomes an addiction
It really is that simple. If someone can’t part with items, someone else needs to step in and throw everything away. Once you’re at the point of not being able to function in society, then you have to be treated like a child again and be walked through the steps of adulthood.
@@NurrrAyeshahh yep, that sounds kinda familiar. It's a lot about the potential of items... I could sew these pretty buttons onto a new sweater and it would look nice, I could make pickles next fall if I have enough jars, and on and on.
@@asho345 Actually it's not that simple but you are right, someone has to step in and help. Although you cannot just throw everything without involving the hoarder. Its a tandem between a professional organizer and a psychiatrist.
Ghia Ferrari I’m a behavioral therapist, and no one here is approaching the situation from a behavioral perspective. They keep trying to talk and rationalize the irrational. That’s like trying to ask a heroine addict which bag of dope to give away.
How can those 3 people, including her daughter and a therapist/expert, be oblivious to Janets silent anguish? She couldn’t fight that woman anymore and gave up. No real change happened there, just the submission of a severely depressed woman. They all celebrated because THEIR goal was a step closer. Janet however looked bereft and in reality, this will probably make her void/lack/pain worse.
They need to look at the underlying problem. They can't just go oh well she's chucked stuff she is cured. Or it will happen again. I hope she got therepy as well. She seemed to be happy very quick to chuck a lot of things. And from what I've seen before that doesn't fix or cure any issues.
Your not alone, I've suffered many years with it... You've reached out so take the advice, your get through it. Go to your doctors they will take the appropriate steps to get you right.... Stay strong...your be ok
I watched a hoarding show a few days ago. Afterwards I got up and scrubbed my walls in my bedroom three times each wall with all purpose cleaner, shampooed my bedroom rug 3 times, washed my dresser 3 times and same with my desk and I am not even OCD!! Stuff like this makes me OCD lol 😳😳😳
It’s so heartbreaking these ppl have mental challenges and I wish they can get better I throw stuff away all the time When I buy a new article of clothing I throw away 4 pieces of something in my closet I haven’t worn in over 3 yrs It just helps with de cluttering a lot
Just this week (13th nov) a 87 yr old lady from Wales was the same as this lady with her hoarding she was found dead amongst all her things they don’t know how she died or when she died she was just found laid amongst all of the things she had collected bless her.
They didn't really talk about the cause of hoarding. Sometimes it's a trauma or loss, depression and other mental health issues. Cleaning up doesn't fix anything unless you treat the underlying problem. Also the family members that live with them in that environment also have issues also.
This is an extract from a much longer episode also available on TH-cam. Unfortunately this title i.e. the after, does not tell me much about what has happened to these two families. Where is the follow up report please? (TH-cam is 2019 and it's now almost 2 years later in 2021)
We never got to see how it ended for both woman though the second one seemed to be at least making progress . Hope it makes a lasting difference in there lives .
Had an aunt like this. loved her, but it was nuts. Fire department finally put a stop to the nonsense. Like this lady, she wanted to recycle but never got it to the second stage of getting things to someone who could use them!
I always struggle with hoarding documentries, I remember one that was on BBC, it was a elderly Jewish man, they visited him twice and refused to change. As soon as they told his story, I started bussing big boy tears......I remember them filming the local authorities removing some stuff for his safety. He was so angry, for him, it was like a flash back to what the Nazi done, it was too much for him ....and me after watching it....
I can completely understand where this woman is coming from. When you ask for help, people take advantage of your vulnerable situation. It's better to do things by yourself, it's actually less mental stress. People/authority become like sharks and want to take over your life and trample over your options and what matters to you. They don't care about you as a person. 👀
This is how I wish the show hoarders was. People need more time than four days to clean out their hoard. Without having break throughs like this woman did they will just keep hoarding.
I think putting clients in a similar but clean environment/home for a good week then sending them back to their junk pile for a week then ask "Ready to let us help" bet 95% would be completely ready.
because your mind always says , u need them one day , you dont wanna waste it , so you just keep collecting and keeping hoping that you would use it , but no, it just got more and more and it becomes an addiction
Same, buys crap that's used and cheap... so in her mind, it's justified. The worst thing though is her being filfthy. I'm talking never cleaning, cat shit...dog shit all over. I hate going to her house, I try to hide my disgust..but it's getting harder, her HYGIENE is getting bad too. Thing is she has two jobs..hard worker. Her son still lives at home, (he's 33) and she has had the same boyfriend for 17 years living with her. Her bf is a total loser, he does very few things around the house. The son does NOTHING to help. She pays all of their bills. I am finding it harder and harder to be around her and not say anything.
I am a boarder line horder. My problem is I am a disabled widow with no children and no one to help. I wish I had even just 1 person that could help me even a hour a week, but with no money to pay a person I am totally stuck and alone.
@robin mcgregor I did...put signs in 3 churches and on cregs list and on let go. Even saying if they helped me run a yard sale in the spring I would split it with them 50/50. I even have my property for sale with a contract pending. Not my house just the land, I have 11 acres and I get to keep almost 1 ac and my house on a life right. After the closing the buyer pays everything taxas, water, sewer, insurance and even maintains my lawn for the rest of my life. 10 acres in my area is worth about a million dollars, but would take a long time to sell and I don't have time. He is getting the whole thing for $350,000 after I pay off the back taxas and mortgage still owed it will leave me about $200,000. If I watch my penny's and my soc security of $618 a month I should be fine. I found out fast that how many friends you don't have when you have no money. I even offered to give them $10 or $12 an hour once the property closes, and said I would put it in writing, but not 1 call. I really have tried. Even my brother and sister seem not to care at all either. I took care of my parents mostly mom for over 6 yrs she was sick. All I cared about was taking care if them. Little did I know my siblings were sceeming behind the scenes. I didn't know my dad had so much money my sister maneuvered my father into signing everything over to her after mom died. Dad had dementia when he signed those papers she had him sign. My sister was not even part of the family for over 10 yrs. She did not even come to moms funeral. Mom had told me they were putting their big house in NJ and property in Fla in my brothers name so if God forbid anything happened the state would not take the house. She told me after they both passed my brother was to sell the house or mortgage it and pay me off half of its value. I totally understood. After they passed dad just passed a month ago. My sister swooped up all the money and all the antiques etc in the house and my brother said" OH NO, They gave me the houses". So I am chit out of luck there also. To keep my spirits up a bit, I just say God must be testing me and when our times come he will know who belongs in heaven and who is going to be HOT for a very very long time.
@Naturewomenproductions There is a organisation that helps ppl it is called social services (welfare). I went to them for some kind of help food stamps, medical, perscriptions, glasses (I need a pair real bad) help with the house. They have a lot of help if you are a bumm!! I worked my entire life so I get $1003 soc security, out of that They take $145 a month for hospital insurance, $87 a month for perscription plan. Here is the catch.....they go by gross income, not by what you actually get. So the cut off is $1000 I make $3 to much. I started to write a arrival I want to send into the news paper. "Better to be a Bum in NJ", if I never worked and partied my whole life or if I were a druggie and decided to stay high instead of getting a job and working busting up my back the state of NJ would...GET THIS...give me an apartment all I have to pay is 10% of the rent. All I have to do is work 20 hour a week and I get to keep the money. They pay the utilities etc. They give you up to $250 a month in food stamps. They give you up to $200 a month in cash on a card you can spend anyway you want, just take it out of a ATM. They pay for all your doctors medical, get you glasses and a dentist for free. They will give you help with house work etc. Wait it gets better....they provide you with uber transportation to all doctors. If you are a druggie and now take methadone or something else so you don't do the illegal drugs, the state if NJ pay you 55 cents a mile to drive yourself to the doctors and methadone clinic every day. But if you are struggling, need a little help, worked all your life NOTHING!!!!
I forgot to add the strange thing is she had a 50 yr old daughter who lived with her the neighbours did a welfare call because they hadn’t been see for four years the paramedics took the daughter in hospital she had severe Dehydration it took the police three days searching and emptying the other part of the cottage and the 87 yr old was finally found well what was left of her they just said remains had been found and it’s going to be very difficult to find out how and when she died it’s a strange but sad story
Mortuary Artist some help to get indoors is needed. In Many ways , you are correct as to let her be happy. But with some comforts and friends to look in and help w recycling chores. She donated the recycling funds .Shes a love 💕
When you are 87 years old, and are not able to take care of yourself (she is basically a homeless woman), I think you need to rather live in a old age home.
It's hard for me to feel sorry for these people. This is the most impractical and nonsensical condition to me. If you can't use your own house, surely 'recycling' should stop being a priority??!! These people are annoying. They claim to want help and then refuse it. So annoying.
Part of the is due the fact that Western culture is all about getting more and more and not accepting the temporary nature of everything. We go through life with blinders on, not accepting that it is all going to end.
The lady who is there to help her get this somewhat under control needs to remember that the lady is old. She's not deaf. I would think the way she is talking about the inside of the woman's house was quite insulting to the woman she was supposedly there to help and didn't do much to make that woman want to accept her help. I would imagine nearly everyone would find the inside of her house "shocking" but not much is accomplished by saying that where the old lady can hear her. "I don't hoard. I keep stuff." Glad she cleared that up. She only picks up things that she might need someday. One never knows when an 80 year old woman might need a good pram. You would think that her neighbors might have some complaints to file about the state of her back yard. Not only is it an eyesore but I would think it would also be rat heaven. As many of these shows as I have seen I still am no closer now to understanding it than I was the first time I saw such a show. There is nothing that inspires me to get rid of stuff better than watching a hoarders show. I followed the Marie Kondo method (sort of ) to clear out my closet. I grouped all my tops and all my slacks and all my dresses. Because they were all grouped together for the first time I saw how many pairs of slacks I had. It was 60 (that's six oh) pairs of slacks. I IMMEDIATELY got rid of exactly half of them and then I ONLY had 30 pairs. Since that time I have been periodically going through stuff (not just clothing) and getting rid of things. I don't exactly follow Marie Kondo because the thought of taking all of ANYTHING in my house and piling it in the floor so that I have to sort through all of them and hang up or fold all clothing I want to keep or washing and organizing items other than clothing, makes me break out in hives. I have found that just telling myself to cut everything in half works very well for me. I had four sets of dishes so I gave two sets to a friend, I had a dozen SETS of sheets and I got rid of six sets, I had 20 bath towels, I got rid of 10, etc. I also had watched a rather morbid but interesting video about "death cleaning". I forget which country this originated in but it seems like it might have been one of the Scandinavian countries. The concept of "death cleaning" is when you go through your house and get rid of things that you do not want your children, or whoever your heirs might be, to have to sort through and discard after your death. Like I said, it's rather morbid but our kids will be grateful that we did this after we die and they don't have 40 or 50 years of "Mom's stuff" to go through.
Olive breaks your heart, but I have to wonder why the council has not taken back the property and let it get to this. So many people waiting for a council house and Olive cannot even use hers.
What a danger... Things get this cluttered. They should have to find somewhere else to live, or be put up in a Hotel until the situation is much better. If smoke fills their house, It would be too difficult to find a path out because there's clutter everywhere. Sorry to say that they won't make it out in time due to ...
Fyi asking someone the same thing over and over could have caused her to change her mind. Once she said she wanted to get rid of luggage and what's in them then it is what it is.. why keep asking her literally 6 times.. I dont agree with that method
Olive is greedy. She talks about recycling and picking up useful things. But she doesn't recycle or donate useful items. She just grabs and holds everything she can get her hands on.
Oh grow up! what a stupid and heartless thing to say! You obviouslyt know absolutely nothing about the subject so if you have nothing constructive to say best keep quiet.
My whole childhood my mom was a hoarder. She bought dishes and random stuff from an auction every week. I remember being 7 years old asking her "why do we need another crock pot because we have 5 already?". I never had a friend over, I had to sleep on the couch (my bedroom was full of her junk) and I wore the same cloths days in a row because she didn't do laundry like she should have. Because of how I lived as a child and most of my teenage years I will NEVER allow myself to buy unnecessary items. I keep every inch of my apartment clean and organized ESPECIALLY since I'm expecting my first child early next year. I will never put him through that. I know how isolating it feels....
Mikayla Myers how is she doing now? Did she get help or sort it out herself?
@@jasminedearmas9915 No unfortunately she still buys junk all the time. About 4 years ago she fell and broke her femur bone. She lived at an in care facility to get therapy for her leg. That was the opportunity me and my sisters took to clean out her house (I was still living there at that time). When she came home she was good about keeping things clean (with my help and encouragement) but unfortunately like I said she still buys and hoards things she doesn't need. It's gotten worse since I've moved out. Actually, today she gave me a small folder for coupons (I don't use coupons nor have I ever) and she got mad at me because I didn't want it (I don't want items I will never use). She thought it was something I absolutely had to have and that it was the best thing ever. She treats almost every item like that.
Mikayla Myers wow what a story. I can’t imagine living w a hoarder. Do you think her being a hoarder made you OCD?
Im so glad to hear that you didnt resort to hoardering. Its so easy to grow up in that world and think of it as 'normal'. Blessings to u and ur lil one.
I guess you have to treat it like a dementia. I presume your mother is not very old. It seems people that endure this ( I won’t say suffer) seem to be happyish in their situation.Thankyou for being brave enough to share this. Don’t keep your child from his grandmother, as your child gets older, all you have to do is explain that people live differently. Good luck x
Oh my!!!! I really don't want this to be taken the wrong way, or to sound like I don't care, but there comes a time when our elderly should not live alone, especially when they are disabled. This lady needs to be where people will help her and take care of her. This tears my heart out.
She’s like 45
@@aaronaldo14 0:15 She's 87 at the time of filming
I agree. In fact, I want to be with the elderly because they have this warmth and I want to listen to their wisdom and stories.
@@introvert_scribe3489 Have you considered volunteering at a nursing home? It's starting to be safe again, now, with covid not so common anymore. I think they would let you if you'd got your vaccine. People living in those places get really lonely. They'd love to talk to you.
If they want to live in sheltered accommodation then they do, if they don't then you cant force them
My father has a hoarding problem. He grew up in a very very poor household and so now finds it so hard to let go of things. I love him with all my heart.
My parents grew up in the depression era thank God they never did this
that seems to be what happens with a lot of people, one of my grandparents was like that, the thing which made them change is when we told them if they donate their belongings, more people who were in the situation they were in could enjoy the things which they treated like garbage and hadn't seen in years.
Unfortunately, Olive has lived like this for so many years and she’s not going to change. It is hard for anyone to get that hoard under control let alone a legally blind, 80+ year old lady with no support system. I feel awful for her. My mother was the opposite and everything had to be in order. She didn’t stopped us from playing but, we had to put everything back in its place. We also had to keep our bedrooms in order even though we had a housekeeper. Mom, thank you.
Its a lot to do with not being able to move on from the grief stage.
Some people unfortunately are unwilling to get help and become stuck
@@lisapinfold506unwilling to get help is actually part of this disorder.
@@lisapinfold506 oh LORD DEAR LORDHAVE MERCY ON ME TOO...
Every "hoarder" has a huge heart with a huge hole.
And now I'm cleaning my room
Lol....
hahahaha
Well done
Absolutely. As disgusting as some of the episodes are to watch. Its a great motivation to clean my own house.
Lmao I was just thinking the same thing 😂 I sat up and started looking around my room to see what I can clean 😂
My heart goes out to Janet... Bless her and bless her children, especially her daughter. Hope she gets the help and support she needs to transition into a better place emotionally and mentally. Kudos to her daughter..Keep supporting your mum as you do. Too much love in this family. God bless you Aunty. Love from a fellow Nigerian who knows how devastating depression can be. YOU'RE AMAZING!
That poor old lady broke my heart glad she's getting help
I’m about to donate all my belongings to
Charity 😂 and become a minimalist
😂😂
watch Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners! That'll get you in the mood!
I'm doing that too! Watching this series to give me motivation whilst I pack things to be taken away
I think that the host of the show is genuinely beautiful.
sansnom yesss inside and out is the best part. What a dear. There is a documentary where she first helped her own mother with her mothers hoarding issues it’s quite touching her brothers are also in that episode I believe you can find it if you type in her name the hosts name and my own mothers hoarding or something like that anyways she is lovely quite a kind girl and olive really warmed up to her in the end
Carol Johanson intresting whats it called
Cherry T Beautiful is a perfect description in my opinion (I’m Johns’ wife so I’m not a dude)
She is, but I also noticed they used a beautifying face filter in this video, which makes you look better. If you're not familiar with this and would like to know more, you can google search on it.
Sooo, everyone thought the mother was okay just because she was letting them take stuff out? Everyone doesnt explode and lash out, some implode and collapse. By the end of the scene she'd stopped talking. I was very concerned...
canessa johnson WOW, so astute.
On this version they never lash out. I think the American version is more so for drama. I think the therapist unnecessarily agitate the American hoarders for more viewership.
@@themagnoliaproject864 gotta lov America for that
Yep u r right, She was a real chatterbox b4! smh
I was wondering about this too, she said she was depressed. I hope she still got support after this, as someone who also suffers with depression I know that I’ve been in very low places even when people have helped me to get my life back on track
I wanted to give the granny a good hug...this is heart breaking
My grandma is a hoarder my family is trying to help her downsize but we’re also trying to understand why she feels she needs these things.
You can’t rationalize the irrational. If her health is at risk, someone needs to step in and take control.
True, safety is paramount. But unless the reason why she hoards is addressed she will just refill her home again. At least that's what happened with us.
@@S_H9260 you said it perfectly. The root of the cause has to be address first.
@@asho345 Yeah, it's one of those irrational fears people can't tihnk their way out of. I just wonder why it's gotten so prevalent.
We are trying to address the reason she hoards and it’s important for her health that she cleans out her home. But things take time she’s been in the hospital for a month so far because of cancer we want her home cleaned out for her health and so she can enjoy her home for the remaining years
In a way ..shes right ..its hard to see things that are useable in the trash ....recycleing is important but.....
This made me cry. Cause it's a mental illness that probably comes from a deep-rooted place. Government should offer them help.
Janet can't really hold a conversation or look anyone in the eye. She is severely depressed.
AfricancoolChic poor lady. I love her from the bottom of my heart. She deserves so much love. Only love just love.
@@superbadgaming4660 You're right, that's probably the only thing that can heal her. 💕 I'm sure her life changed for the better ...
this is such an underrated problem, my nan was a **horder too and it's not someone you see people getting help with
No Account mine as well. My aunt went and cleaned it all out, and went over regularly to clean. She put her actual collectibles in nice displays (she lived in Atlanta, home of Coca-Cola, had some great finds), and put a shed out back she could put her yard sale finds in. She hated it, but knew it was better for her. She was never as extreme as these shows, just liked everything she saw.
Wow both of your aunts are borders where are they stationed?
that one asian dude hahah i didn't notice the typo thanks for pointing it out 😂
At least Janet wants help. The best Hoarders episode I've seen. Hope she keeps it up.
I've been binge watching these shows n my home has never been cleaner or more organised. Lol. Carrying the phone around watching n listening as I work.
So sad :( its because of loneliness and depression. Glad theyr getting the help they need.☺️
if suffer run to Yesus Christ ...He can do any thing .He make earth , star n moon , sun .Your suffer just a little dear
So... where's the "after"?
Wtf i kno rt
My thought exactly. Click bait!
Jasmine is better than the trained psychologists from the other hoarder shows because she actually understands them.
wefinishthis now the best therapist on hoarders was someone called Brendan and he had a mother who was a hoarder and he tried to help her.Unfortunately they only had him for one series.
I always watch hoarders an shit before I clean my room
Always makes me clean up extra good lmai
Jane Dough I am here procrastinating but Um this just became motivation !
Thank you so much for spreading public awareness about this very PAINFUL emotional condition.......hoarders need help and we should all be supporting them on their journey to wellness. Hope, healing, and recovery is available:-) so they may move forward enjoying the rest of their lives:-)
i don't understand this disease at all. i feel so bad for hoarders though. cause i do understand that it's not just a simple ( throw away everything ) fix.
because your mind always says , u need them one day , you dont wanna waste it , so you just keep collecting and keeping hoping that you would use it , but no, it just got more and more and it becomes an addiction
It really is that simple. If someone can’t part with items, someone else needs to step in and throw everything away. Once you’re at the point of not being able to function in society, then you have to be treated like a child again and be walked through the steps of adulthood.
@@NurrrAyeshahh yep, that sounds kinda familiar. It's a lot about the potential of items... I could sew these pretty buttons onto a new sweater and it would look nice, I could make pickles next fall if I have enough jars, and on and on.
@@asho345 Actually it's not that simple but you are right, someone has to step in and help. Although you cannot just throw everything without involving the hoarder. Its a tandem between a professional organizer and a psychiatrist.
Ghia Ferrari I’m a behavioral therapist, and no one here is approaching the situation from a behavioral perspective. They keep trying to talk and rationalize the irrational. That’s like trying to ask a heroine addict which bag of dope to give away.
How can those 3 people, including her daughter and a therapist/expert, be oblivious to Janets silent anguish? She couldn’t fight that woman anymore and gave up. No real change happened there, just the submission of a severely depressed woman. They all celebrated because THEIR goal was a step closer. Janet however looked bereft and in reality, this will probably make her void/lack/pain worse.
I thought I was trippin... Seemed very sketchy I hope they offered her some kind of therapy cuz seemed very detached. Deff agree with your comment lol
You said it so right! I felt the same.
Janet broke my heart...I hope she’s doing better.
Awww bless her she definitely needs help and get her house in order for her to stay their in the warmth fingers crossed she gets the help she needs
Olive reminds me of my grandmother. This is so sad. I wish they would do updates on these people. I would love to see what is going on with her now.
They need to look at the underlying problem. They can't just go oh well she's chucked stuff she is cured. Or it will happen again. I hope she got therepy as well. She seemed to be happy very quick to chuck a lot of things. And from what I've seen before that doesn't fix or cure any issues.
Janet just made me cry. "I suffer from depression. I need help."
Please seek help from family and friends or local church. Ur not alone🤗 u will smile again!!!
Your not alone, I've suffered many years with it... You've reached out so take the advice, your get through it. Go to your doctors they will take the appropriate steps to get you right.... Stay strong...your be ok
Aww so do I find someone to talk to i ask the Lord to help me and he does day to day!!!!
I watched a hoarding show a few days ago. Afterwards I got up and scrubbed my walls in my bedroom three times each wall with all purpose cleaner, shampooed my bedroom rug 3 times, washed my dresser 3 times and same with my desk and I am not even OCD!! Stuff like this makes me OCD lol 😳😳😳
@THE CANADIAN INFIDEL you are OCD and the number 3 is present. But it's all good at least you cleaned.
@@VirgoAsphyxia I don't clean like that every day lol
@@LiberateAlberta1907 But you cleaned and that's what's important!
@@VirgoAsphyxia Yep!
I’m so glad I’m the opposite and cannot stand junk! I love having clean outs it makes me feel good!
Go Janet! I watch a lot of hoarder shows and you don't often see them do a 180 like that.
It’s so heartbreaking these ppl have mental challenges and I wish they can get better
I throw stuff away all the time
When I buy a new article of clothing I throw away 4 pieces of something in my closet I haven’t worn in over 3 yrs
It just helps with de cluttering a lot
Poor people, I hope that they can all be helped!
Love people not things
This is mantra to keep our home clean
Olive has lived there all her life!
Just this week (13th nov) a 87 yr old lady from Wales was the same as this lady with her hoarding she was found dead amongst all her things they don’t know how she died or when she died she was just found laid amongst all of the things she had collected bless her.
That was disrespectful for the lady to climb further behind the door because the older lady was on the phone.
I think she was trying to test her boundaries
I really love it when they get things sorted quite easily.
I'm not claustrophobic but just looking at that assorted stuff my lungs can't breathe just looking at it
They didn't really talk about the cause of hoarding. Sometimes it's a trauma or loss, depression and other mental health issues. Cleaning up doesn't fix anything unless you treat the underlying problem. Also the family members that live with them in that environment also have issues also.
This is an extract from a much longer episode also available on TH-cam. Unfortunately this title i.e. the after, does not tell me much about what has happened to these two families. Where is the follow up report please? (TH-cam is 2019 and it's now almost 2 years later in 2021)
We never got to see how it ended for both woman though the second one seemed to be at least making progress . Hope it makes a lasting difference in there lives .
I could not live like this... I'm a virgo...i could not deal with this..
Hairbyme 2019 for a Virgo cleanliness is next to Godliness
I also have a tendency to keep things, so I watch these to help me and throw things away
Had an aunt like this. loved her, but it was nuts. Fire department finally put a stop to the nonsense. Like this lady, she wanted to recycle but never got it to the second stage of getting things to someone who could use them!
They are missing smomeone who loves them
Brighter God loves them they need to clear away all this junk and make room so God can move in.
Great job!! We all need some help now and again.
I always struggle with hoarding documentries, I remember one that was on BBC, it was a elderly Jewish man, they visited him twice and refused to change. As soon as they told his story, I started bussing big boy tears......I remember them filming the local authorities removing some stuff for his safety. He was so angry, for him, it was like a flash back to what the Nazi done, it was too much for him ....and me after watching it....
The host has the most beautiful skin I’ve ever seen. Reminds me of jlo a little bit
I can completely understand where this woman is coming from. When you ask for help, people take advantage of your vulnerable situation. It's better to do things by yourself, it's actually less mental stress. People/authority become like sharks and want to take over your life and trample over your options and what matters to you. They don't care about you as a person. 👀
I love throwing ways stuffs that I don’t use and need...I wish I can empty my, kitchen and my whole house
Jeanette broke my heart 💔😭😭😭 I'm bawling 😭😭😭
This honestly motivated me to clean my room
Janice was amazing by allowing them to just take her hoard with no resistance really.
No, not amazing... Just with deep depression, unfortunatelly...
1933 Dame that's a long time. She's all most 90
Look at olives garden! OLIVE GARDEN
😂
Bep!
I still have my books from the 7th grade.
This is how I wish the show hoarders was. People need more time than four days to clean out their hoard. Without having break throughs like this woman did they will just keep hoarding.
Right... I doubt it's only four days tho I'm sure there's a lot more time that goes into each episode all the tapping and stuff etc lol
This woman made it very clear she didn’t want the reporter in her house, and she tried to sneak in anyways.
I collect roadside stuff too that could be reused. But I take it to charity shops.
I think putting clients in a similar but clean environment/home for a good week then sending them back to their junk pile for a week then ask "Ready to let us help" bet 95% would be completely ready.
How does a human get so much stuff that you can’t even go through their house?
Koala joke?
because your mind always says , u need them one day , you dont wanna waste it , so you just keep collecting and keeping hoping that you would use it , but no, it just got more and more and it becomes an addiction
Koala one item at a time
I don't hoard! I keep stuff!!! ( kinda like the same thing lady) 🤔🤦
I have a friend who is headed in this direction. Shes obsessed with buying alot of unnecessary stuff and she doesnt like cleaning. Bad combo
Same, buys crap that's used and cheap... so in her mind, it's justified. The worst thing though is her being filfthy. I'm talking never cleaning, cat shit...dog shit all over. I hate going to her house, I try to hide my disgust..but it's getting harder, her HYGIENE is getting bad too. Thing is she has two jobs..hard worker. Her son still lives at home, (he's 33) and she has had the same boyfriend for 17 years living with her. Her bf is a total loser, he does very few things around the house. The son does NOTHING to help. She pays all of their bills. I am finding it harder and harder to be around her and not say anything.
She seems like such a nice lady
What's the point of recycling if you don't allow the council to take it away?
What Moms see when there is 1 shirt on your floor
Thinking about those sweaters I just purchased at the thrift store.... ughhh I’m throwing all my crap outb
Best Friend keeps saying I'm a hoarding...as I am moving?! All things are clean now😎
I feel like disinfecting my phone screen watching these hoarding shows
I love her cat.
I am a boarder line horder. My problem is I am a disabled widow with no children and no one to help. I wish I had even just 1 person that could help me even a hour a week, but with no money to pay a person I am totally stuck and alone.
I'd help you x
@@gaulewaygal You are a sweet heart ❤!!! I wish you lived in NJ.
@robin mcgregor I did...put signs in 3 churches and on cregs list and on let go. Even saying if they helped me run a yard sale in the spring I would split it with them 50/50. I even have my property for sale with a contract pending. Not my house just the land, I have 11 acres and I get to keep almost 1 ac and my house on a life right. After the closing the buyer pays everything taxas, water, sewer, insurance and even maintains my lawn for the rest of my life. 10 acres in my area is worth about a million dollars, but would take a long time to sell and I don't have time. He is getting the whole thing for $350,000 after I pay off the back taxas and mortgage still owed it will leave me about $200,000. If I watch my penny's and my soc security of $618 a month I should be fine. I found out fast that how many friends you don't have when you have no money. I even offered to give them $10 or $12 an hour once the property closes, and said I would put it in writing, but not 1 call. I really have tried. Even my brother and sister seem not to care at all either. I took care of my parents mostly mom for over 6 yrs she was sick. All I cared about was taking care if them. Little did I know my siblings were sceeming behind the scenes. I didn't know my dad had so much money my sister maneuvered my father into signing everything over to her after mom died. Dad had dementia when he signed those papers she had him sign. My sister was not even part of the family for over 10 yrs. She did not even come to moms funeral. Mom had told me they were putting their big house in NJ and property in Fla in my brothers name so if God forbid anything happened the state would not take the house. She told me after they both passed my brother was to sell the house or mortgage it and pay me off half of its value. I totally understood. After they passed dad just passed a month ago. My sister swooped up all the money and all the antiques etc in the house and my brother said" OH NO, They gave me the houses". So I am chit out of luck there also. To keep my spirits up a bit, I just say God must be testing me and when our times come he will know who belongs in heaven and who is going to be HOT for a very very long time.
ItsADogsLife praying for you to find help
@Naturewomenproductions There is a organisation that helps ppl it is called social services (welfare). I went to them for some kind of help food stamps, medical, perscriptions, glasses (I need a pair real bad) help with the house. They have a lot of help if you are a bumm!! I worked my entire life so I get $1003 soc security, out of that They take $145 a month for hospital insurance, $87 a month for perscription plan. Here is the catch.....they go by gross income, not by what you actually get. So the cut off is $1000 I make $3 to much. I started to write a arrival I want to send into the news paper. "Better to be a Bum in NJ", if I never worked and partied my whole life or if I were a druggie and decided to stay high instead of getting a job and working busting up my back the state of NJ would...GET THIS...give me an apartment all I have to pay is 10% of the rent. All I have to do is work 20 hour a week and I get to keep the money. They pay the utilities etc. They give you up to $250 a month in food stamps. They give you up to $200 a month in cash on a card you can spend anyway you want, just take it out of a ATM. They pay for all your doctors medical, get you glasses and a dentist for free. They will give you help with house work etc. Wait it gets better....they provide you with uber transportation to all doctors. If you are a druggie and now take methadone or something else so you don't do the illegal drugs, the state if NJ pay you 55 cents a mile to drive yourself to the doctors and methadone clinic every day. But if you are struggling, need a little help, worked all your life NOTHING!!!!
I forgot to add the strange thing is she had a 50 yr old daughter who lived with her the neighbours did a welfare call because they hadn’t been see for four years the paramedics took the daughter in hospital she had severe Dehydration it took the police three days searching and emptying the other part of the cottage and the 87 yr old was finally found well what was left of her they just said remains had been found and it’s going to be very difficult to find out how and when she died it’s a strange but sad story
It's quite sad really. God help her. 😢
Bless Vicky x
Did anyone else notice, that the man and the old lady, keep switching hats?? Blue, black, blue black...
Unfortunately olive will always be alone. No family, no one but her cat. Best to leave her with her life that has been whatever it has been.
Mortuary Artist some help to get indoors is needed. In
Many ways , you are correct as to let her be happy. But with some comforts and friends to look in and help w recycling chores. She donated the recycling funds .Shes a love 💕
When you are 87 years old, and are not able to take care of yourself (she is basically a homeless woman), I think you need to rather live in a old age home.
So, let’s see the end result.
I've aways been a mini hoarder
At 87 you don’t need a pram. If it does work, donate it......get IT sorted then Olive will be sorted.
This organizer/therapist is dedicated. Olive needs Kim Woodburn!
It's hard for me to feel sorry for these people. This is the most impractical and nonsensical condition to me. If you can't use your own house, surely 'recycling' should stop being a priority??!! These people are annoying. They claim to want help and then refuse it. So annoying.
WHERE'S PART 2
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Boiling the beans
Hoarding is nothing but Depression Unchecked.
Part of the is due the fact that Western culture is all about getting more and more and not accepting the temporary nature of everything. We go through life with blinders on, not accepting that it is all going to end.
The lady who is there to help her get this somewhat under control needs to remember that the lady is old. She's not deaf. I would think the way she is talking about the inside of the woman's house was quite insulting to the woman she was supposedly there to help and didn't do much to make that woman want to accept her help. I would imagine nearly everyone would find the inside of her house "shocking" but not much is accomplished by saying that where the old lady can hear her.
"I don't hoard. I keep stuff." Glad she cleared that up. She only picks up things that she might need someday. One never knows when an 80 year old woman might need a good pram. You would think that her neighbors might have some complaints to file about the state of her back yard. Not only is it an eyesore but I would think it would also be rat heaven. As many of these shows as I have seen I still am no closer now to understanding it than I was the first time I saw such a show. There is nothing that inspires me to get rid of stuff better than watching a hoarders show.
I followed the Marie Kondo method (sort of ) to clear out my closet. I grouped all my tops and all my slacks and all my dresses. Because they were all grouped together for the first time I saw how many pairs of slacks I had. It was 60 (that's six oh) pairs of slacks. I IMMEDIATELY got rid of exactly half of them and then I ONLY had 30 pairs. Since that time I have been periodically going through stuff (not just clothing) and getting rid of things. I don't exactly follow Marie Kondo because the thought of taking all of ANYTHING in my house and piling it in the floor so that I have to sort through all of them and hang up or fold all clothing I want to keep or washing and organizing items other than clothing, makes me break out in hives. I have found that just telling myself to cut everything in half works very well for me. I had four sets of dishes so I gave two sets to a friend, I had a dozen SETS of sheets and I got rid of six sets, I had 20 bath towels, I got rid of 10, etc.
I also had watched a rather morbid but interesting video about "death cleaning". I forget which country this originated in but it seems like it might have been one of the Scandinavian countries. The concept of "death cleaning" is when you go through your house and get rid of things that you do not want your children, or whoever your heirs might be, to have to sort through and discard after your death. Like I said, it's rather morbid but our kids will be grateful that we did this after we die and they don't have 40 or 50 years of "Mom's stuff" to go through.
Olive breaks your heart, but I have to wonder why the council has not taken back the property and let it get to this. So many people waiting for a council house and Olive cannot even use hers.
At 87 years of age, is there really any hope of changing her way of life?
"It keeps me fit" lol... Kinda sad tho I guess I don't really understand how ppl live like this
Poor lady......surely this isnt good for both her health and the health of the cat?
No after?
What a danger... Things get this cluttered. They should have to find somewhere else to live, or be put up in a Hotel until the situation is much better. If smoke fills their house, It would be too difficult to find a path out because there's clutter everywhere. Sorry to say that they won't make it out in time due to ...
Fyi asking someone the same thing over and over could have caused her to change her mind. Once she said she wanted to get rid of luggage and what's in them then it is what it is.. why keep asking her literally 6 times.. I dont agree with that method
I just cleaned my whole apt w help
Olive is greedy. She talks about recycling and picking up useful things. But she doesn't recycle or donate useful items. She just grabs and holds everything she can get her hands on.
Oh grow up! what a stupid and heartless thing to say! You obviouslyt know absolutely nothing about the subject so if you have nothing constructive to say best keep quiet.