Keeping sex off the table can bring so much clarity to the relationship and weed out the liars and manipulators. They will exit stage left once they see you are dead serious.
Yep. My friends think I’m crazy because I haven’t been in a serious relationship in years, but it’s because I can weed people out fast. They cloud sex with emotions and stay in stuff much longer than necessary
I met a guy 4 weeks ago. We went on 2 dates, after that, the 1st time I went to his house he wanted to have sex and I told him no. The 2nd time i went to his house he tried to have sex again. I had to ask him to stop twice. I simply told him, we don't really know each other well enough to go there yet. Long story short, I haven't heard from him in 3 days. So glad I went with my 1st mind.. cuz now I see that's all he wanted ✌🏽🙃
Wow!! I mean the 'Life with him is like heaven on earth' saying.....That was very inspiring! Especially. Nowadays when it hardly appears that there are no more awesome men left. Thanks for Sharing!
@@lonagwegwe wives are usually married by 23-25 years old. The sexual marketplace doesn’t leave fit, feminine and submissive women unaccounted for. They’re snatched up.
@@kamronwilliams2634 thank you for your opinion, the point is she became a wife at 44 years of age and she is happy. Not everyone is ready to get married by 23-25.
I dont agree with "a women cant appreciate a man if she doesnt have a father". I didnt chose to be raised by only a women but I take responsibility on how I operate, what i can control Other than that, great message!
Divorce laws are rendered by state. The south is far less complicated than more progressive states. A 30-day waiting period could cause that woman her life.
I disagree as well. What I have found among my peers and mentors that women who was raised with the absence of a father are more proactive in their marriages. And tend to love their husband deeply because they are finally experiencing receiving and giving love. As well as being validation for the first time from a man. Two of my spiritual mothers were raised in a home absent of a father. And both women are excellent and devoted wives. One has been married for 63 years and the other 66 years.
@@sonjadf47she knows right from wrong correct. She would know not to generalize all males. Her father is her father. Doesn't mean she'll follow ik her mother's footsteps. Just like anything else on life. Why yall like to cripple and victimize yourself is crazy.
I shared the comment that if her car isn't clean, she's not ready to be a wife with my friend from England. He wrote back and said " Don't worry about that. I'll keep your car clean for you." You got to love his comment. I just can't do it all. ~Muzette
My husband is younger than me. He was 24 and I was 29 turning 30 in 18 days after our wedding. We’re married 22 years w 3 adult children and 2 puppies. We’re college graduates and our children graduate next year. So, I guess everyone is different. We really like each other and he’s a great provider. P.S. I own 2 businesses and he owns 3.
This is a very interested panel but no everyone is not covered in every situation. Every situation is different this is interesting, but of course, like anything I can’t speak for every woman every man because back in the days majority wasn’t covered they was just existing in the marriage, and I’ve heard many true stories
I appreciate my married friends still wanting and allowing our friendship even though I’m single. I’m able to observe their interactions with their husband, how to navigate my softness but still maintaining my boundaries, what it looks like to be covered and the reverence they have for their husbands. Some things can’t just be directed to but observed and experienced.
That part. I have both married and single friends, and I am able to hang out with both. I've learned so much from my married friends about marriage itself.
Okay, I’m a mature 62 yo female. All women who don’t want a husband are not damaged. I love my life and the freedom to explore me in many areas of life. I don’t want a husband but would accept a companion. I like me and my company. I’ve realized through my life journey, that connection and wholeness of being comes from within. Being connected deeply with in brings a contentment that is that is beyond the mind and relationships. Not talking about religion either. We’ve got to discover that we are more than a 3D dimensional form or body. There is a part of our nature that is timeless and here in the now. Great show Guys!
@@LovelyVibrations Her oppositional attitude suggest that she won't find a quality man who will provide the things she desires on her terms. She's obviously currently without such a man and if she subscribes to your thinking she'll be posting the same comment 10, 15, 20 years from now.
@@charlesdonahue3667 so if she wants to be cherished, loved and valued and not treated like property she won’t get a man?? This is probably the reason many women would prefer to stay single if this is the case. Peace of mind feels good!! You telling us to get a dog is not a threat !! Men benefit more from having us as partners..,
It was casual conversation where I expressed to my ex that it shouldn’t take a year for us to figure out if we want to be married. As we came upon 11 months I knew he was going to propose but I still wasn’t sure, so I ended the relationship. God is not the author of confusion, it was time to stop ignoring the signs we were not right for one another, although he checked all the boxes that were not character boxes.
This was definitely a great show. I’m 27 in a long term relationship and realized I need to take accountability for my actions. I want to be a wife and this taught me a lot.
Where in the world are these ladies from? A woman who was raised by a single mother or predominantly women CERTAINLY CAN appreciate men! Also women CERTAINLY are in a position to vett men! One of them doesn’t align with sisterhood?! Giirrl!
I appreciate both Women's perspectives. The Marriage Counselor is a little more open minded and a progressive thinker. The other guest brings traditional values that are not prevalent amongst modern generations. The Marriage Counselor has a serious head nod, she agrees w a lot of what her fellow guest is saying.
I am a single woman who is divorced but I still have the mindset of a wife and becoming a wife again one day. I have married friends and I honor their relationships because I know what the santity of marriage means. So with that being said, I think you have to be around people with like minds, married or single! Just my opinion 🙏🏽.... I am enjoying the information.
@@zozozizi6688 If you read my response properly before firing your response you would have seen that I desire to be a wife again when God sends the right man. I don't think anywhere in my response stated that I just have single friends... I think I stated I also have married friends. Please in all that you get, get understanding first before you comment on someone else's comment 🙏🏽🙏🏽. And please don't at me because this conversation is clearly over... Thanks!!!
I was married for 18 years, and I have been divorced for 16 years. I know who I am, what I want and need. I still cannot meet a man that wants a real relationship. I understand the difference between a married person and a single person. I believe they can co-exist in a friendship if they understand and respect the boundaries of a married person. All my friends are married with the exception of two. We all are childhood friends.
Same. Widowed after a 20 year relationship, single for last 15 years. Now I’m centering my own joy because men I’ve met haven’t done their own emotional healing or have their act together. My kids are young adults so it’s not a priority anymore. I feel the most joyful I ever have.
As a single parent of an adult child, that's one of my key rules; I'll always choose a man who has experienced parenthood and preferably marriage also.
@@timothyrobinson3938Black people have terrible credit histories. Background checks reveal Black men's past arrests & child support judgements. & STD testing needs to be done throughout since women are susceptible due to believing their relationship is monogamous.
A married woman can teach a single woman a lot of things, do not rule them out. Seize the person up and use discretion. We must prepare this generation for marriage, a lot of them don’t know what that looks like! You can be friends with a single woman. Overall, great conversation!!!
I can't believe she was a single parent and still has this logic of not entertaining single women. That's really interesting to me. She's about status, not character.
I can’t put into words how this show has helped me understand what I did wrong in my marriage of 26 years!!! I was in tears the entire time of this show!! Amazing!!! Thank you all so much!!
@@mistyaprilartist Taking a lot of bad advice from others an exchange for them to listen. I had a great man. It’s more I am still dealing with the pain of it all! Listen to your woman’s intuition before you take some peoples advice. Get counseling if it’s needed. Mostly important of all learn, love and make time to know you! When you get in a relationship don’t lose yourself. Meaning make sure you still do things you like to do alone…. If I tell you my story you would be in tears!!!
I was not interested in listening to this episode, I am so happy I had a change of heart. I never sought advice from my mother or other women for my relationships. I could only receive empathy from other women. This is not to be confused with my growth into womanhood. I would always go to my father for relationship advice. I realized early that a woman could not give me advice about a man’s needs and desires. My father never me bad relationship advice.
I’m 71 soon 72 years and single for 13 years looking to be married again. This session with these two fantastic women you have as your guest is wonderful I even learned some awesome information.
I would love to be married, but it's hard today to find that one for you. I have been with my guy now for 6 years, hoping he wants to make that move, but he's not making any moves to move forward together.
@@dorotheniagoodson2464 If marriage is what you want you should have an honest conversation with him about it. If he say he's not ready yet then you have to be ready to walk away. Otherwise you will continue to give him your best years and he could marry the very next woman. Sometimes women have to find out if you are even what he desires or he's with you for convenience. Hard truths.
@@sinverrette9803 I do there are universal truths that people can give no matter their background. However vehemently I disagree with them, both these women have been married...she's divorced.
definitely. its just the same as being weary of the person that says they have zero friends like not one that people always do them wrong... is it them...are you not the common denominator? hard side eye warranted
I’m married and I’m not down with the sisterhood either. When I was a singer women my friends were single too. We moved different. One by one we started getting married….. and we are still friends and do a lot of couple outing. We do ladies outings and it’s true married women move differently than single women. It is what it is.
As I listen to this podcast, at 22, it is just so confirming to how I want my life to be. I have so many people in my ear saying things like “you’re still young and have time” but in a “live your life” tone. And I’m not here for that. This just showed me to keep on the journey with God, that I am on even though I am young. Very interesting and amazing conversation to tune into!
that statement u do [did] not have a "dad" ughhhhh.. u should be getting Married (12-27yrs) "20s" do not HIT THE WALL-----get under the leadership/protection of a husband ---> if it's the Christian "God" u should know this [ notwithstanding ] need to find u sound Bible teaching Church to bring u up to speed and/or, ask Qs that will stir u thru the Scripture(s)😇
I totally relate to the guest who says she dates younger men. For the same exact reason, my boyfriend is younger than me as well as a previous relationship. Five years younger seems to be my sweet spot. My own theory is because I do not have children, I ‘move’ a little different than friends of mines with kids/grandkids. I just have not come across a man my age (55) that enjoys the same things I do or the time/flexibility that I have. She is spot on !!
You guy's content is awesome, what I did as a single woman was attend a marriage seminar at my church alone-- a complete 360 for me mentally and emotionally understanding not only what a relationship should look like, but also what lasting marriages is. The couples (instructors) were 14-40 years in whole some, happy marriages. I attend BFM ( Myles Munroe's church btw) so I definitely can vouch that you're truly reading quality. I've read many of his books including the purpose and power of woman devotional and currently reading Waiting and Dating. Once you choose God he will keep no good thing from you! Blessings to you all. T❤
i have to disagree with the idea that women raised by women are "man haters" lol. I think the dislike for men comes from the bitterness of experiences with men. personally ive had some bad experiences and ive been raised by women but honeyyyyyyy i praise me some men! and i love love and id consisder myself to be rather submissive. Its really up to the women herself to choose her line of thought and feeling either choose to inherit bitterness or choose to a whole new lane.
Panic attacks are from past traumas, and panic attacks are from the person keeping worries and abuses to themselves. male and females both have panic attacks. They need to talk to a therapist. Sometimes, a spouse won't understand or be able to help them. That is why we have therapists, religions, and friends if we need to talk about our problems.
I am a married woman that grew up in a fatherless home, and it is absolutely true that it was difficult to appreciate my husband. It took a lot of prayer and a lot of humbling myself in the Lord.
My coummunity had a Mr and a Mrs. The men were considered kings of their castle because they worked and provided for the families. Even if it meant going to communist Cuba, they worked there..
This was one of the best conversations i've listened to and seen to date! These women are extremely wise and pretty much everything they mentioned I could agree or align with. Loved it!
It’s so many variables and levels to this love, relationship, marriage stuff….not one size fits all. Through the journey of love, you will go through some things and grow through some things. Connecting with the right person is pretty much everyone’s desire. Blessings to all that’s on this journey, it does take time and work at ANY stage or age, and certainly not an expiration on age!
My close friend is a married 72 year old woman. Best conversations ever and I’m single seeking my husband. To build a wall saying because you not married I don’t even talk to you is so shallow and disgusting.
1:03:55 I do believe there are single, sobre women who are able to give good counsel to prospective wives. One doesn't have to be married to be competent. Likewise, not all married women give good relationship advice. One just have to assess each individual and determine the value they can bring based on their own merit.
My moms is 58 now. She was telling me the same thing 38:48 get to know everything, go to their home and try to know everyone. With all the discretion and class ofcourse . Solid show guys 👍🏾
We really need to encourage men to marry younger. Men used to marry younger a long time ago. If you’re old enough to have sex and have babies, you’re old enough to get married. This is the problem with our society today. We don’t value God’s standards anymore. If a young man can become mature in Christ, meaning his mind has been renewed by God’s word. Men and women also need to learn how to respect each other and manage anger.
I agree! We should not endorse men sleeping around and “sowing their wild oats” and attempt to convince a younger women to reward this by giving up her youth for this. No young woman wants an old man that will only make her a nurse when she is in her 50s. This is just a sad reality today..
I’m always confused when people online are debating about men being a little older when this was been the norm from long ago. It’s always worked better when the man is older than the woman .
This conversation was phenomenal! So much wisdom and I appreciate their perspectives. I'll also add, I'm single at the moment, but most of my friends are married or in committed relationships heading to marriage. I respect their relationships/marriages and strongly advise them to work on their relationships/marriages and put in the work while seeking God and wise counsel. Also, married women shouldn't be closed off to single women and in the right spaces they can aid each other. Mentorship and wisdom is needed and marital status shouldn't be a block to that.
Interesting conversation. I can appreciate both ladies’ points of view. And can really appreciate a woman saying that she wants companionship/relationship instead of marriage. More and more women in my age group are saying this.
I absolutely love what this women are doing! This was definitely informative as I am a single women looking to become a wife. Thank you ladies, Tysean and Ryan
if u had obeyed/submitted to ur "dad's" Authority OVER YOU u would have reverenced ur "dad" instead to [women] it's a good bet ur 27yrs+ HIT THE WALL-----consider getting a dog/companion👍😎
Great show overall. I love being in the presence and listening to wise and mature women regardless of age. So refreshing to subscribe to a channel for mature audiences only. The ability to communicate effectively is so needed in these spaces. True dialogue and not the debates where the goal is the need to be right. Listening to get an understanding, respecting each other's opinions, learning from each other, agreeing to disagree, and solution based. Definitely my kind of vibe. Great job ladies and keep growing gentlemen! 👏🏽🙏🏽❤️
What Tysean described about older men in their 40s going to the doctor and then wanting to get married is REAL💯 Women please beware of becoming the Hospice Care Wife! These men get old and want a caretaker, it’s not about love. 👀
This was a much needed conversation and reality check for a lot of us women. The majority of ladies DO NOT like to take responsibility for their actions in a relationship! A lot of women grew up in single mother homes and allowed their mothers (or women in the family) hurt and immaturity to mold their perspective of who all men are and how they should be treated. That's completely unfair and our men need more credit than we give them at times. As I've gotten older, I realized how my own mother's hurt affected how I showed up in my previous relationships. Although my parents were high school sweethearts and I was fortunate to experience both parents in the household, there were things I had to unlearn as I started navigating the dating space. Ladies, it's okay to admit our mothers were not always the standard; our fathers too! If we want to be better, we have to move better. One thing we must embrace is being SINGLE. We simply cannot be one in partnership if you've never done the inner work to find value in yourself. Remember, people (not even just men) will only treat you the way they see you treat yourself. It's time to raise your standards ladies! Good luck!! ❤ This was by far my FAVORITE EPISODE! Greaaaat show, fellas!!! I'd love to see more of these two ladies in the future!!
This was an amazing interview. These Old G's spoke truth. I am 67 years old and wish I had this kind of knowlege when I was much younger. Would have saved myself a lot of heartache. Totally agree with the idea of women being more accountable for their circumstances and for the way we show up in relationships. Good job guys! Love your podcast.
What I’ve experienced is that most men don’t want advice from Other men. That also transfers over to why there are more women than men in the church. Men don’t want to hear another man tell him how to run his home.
Was absolutely the case in my marriage. And the men in our life group acknowledged it...and it just was what it was. That's why I'm so perplexed by these "It's mostly women who are avoiding accountability." I was ALWAYS the one dragging us to counseling and unbiased 3rd parties. TELL ME! Him? Still running from therapy and causing problems.
I will say I’m loving these two women they are spot on, I truly wish there were more women that think the way they think it’s half the way they talked. I feel the black community he will be in a lot better place.
She's right. Most women do not remarry once they get divorced. 27:57 I'm not risking anyone getting my assets so we are just going to date forever and that will have to be good enough.
I meet my husband while I was pregnant. We didn't jump into a relationship. I was 29 and he was 36 when we meet. We built a phenomenal friendship and we have been married for 1 year and 10months. I enjoy being married to my husband, our age difference brings a lot of wisdom, we put God and each other first in our marriage.
A woman who was raised by only her mother without a man in the home, can appreciate a man, but is also disillusioned by the actions of their father. That is it, that is all. When you grow up seeing men abandon their children or women you can still love a man, but now you also understand that people are not possessions and tend to not overly attach.
I don’t agree it’s the woman’s responsibility to manage the man’s internal state. I do believe the woman should be there to listen and be receptive to his vulnerability and treat it with the utmost care and respect. All we can do is love him through his struggles and listen intently. We can provide perspective if he needs it, but the actual work is up to him to do just as it is for women as well. Healing can be assisted, but at its core, it’s an inside job.
REAL; This is my first time learning about this dynamic duo; I normally listen for my son's but the level of conversation that you two young cats bring to the table is efficacy at best!!!
SB you were amazing. I have been following you for two years now and you have never changed. Always consistent and remaining solid in your purpose. Keep letting the world know marriage works when we do it right with the right person. You looked beautiful and classy as usual. Much love❤
This is a mature conversation! When the panelist said (at 2:27:25) that she didn't like her ex and therefore couldn't follow.......whew I understand! Love the level of accountability being discussed here 😊
This was an episode that was rather controversial to me and I appreciate it. these women have some strong opinions and perspectives some I agree with and some I don't. I'm not surprised to hear that many women disagree with them however I do appreciate their difference and wisdom they offer. Not everything is for everybody. Great conversation overall.
@lady_better - Because even the women can see through their bullshit. These two are just talking for dollars. If a married women is talking the same nonsense as an unmarried woman, then you know bullshit is being sold.
The conversation was sooo refreshing and so necessary! The wisdom shared by SB needs to be circulated in all our favourite bookstores! Thank you for this great episode guys.
I like the idea of waiting 30 days before you rush into a decision. That's actually really good advice. Don't make any decisions when your emotions are running high..
Im 67 and my boyfriend is 50, been together 4 years. Ive never dated men my age or older. Only younger men have pursued me. I use to say No, then said yes, cause that is what's always in front of me. He wants to get married. We had friendship first and he took it to another level. Now marriage considered. I dont see his age because he's mature and feel status compatible. Required a spiritual relationship. He has the Spiritually no one till date possessed. God chose him, he found me, following his lead
1:25:31 I’m so glad she said this! I have found it strange how so many complain about doing things for the man/husband they are happy to do for the kids. Meanwhile if men didn’t do something for the women/wives and only for kids we would seem spiteful or cruel.
This was so good! These young ladies were very balanced ,real ,wise, And true Blessing!!! They covered a lot of ground! Thank you so much! I Love this podcast I am new! Keep doing what you do!
I am a new subscriber and love this episode!!!!! I’m too initiated. My soon to be husband is 7 years younger. I’ll be 40 in January. He loves me like I never been loved before! I am more submissive than I have ever been before. I love love love this man. The older I get the more younger men was approaching me and I even tried dating a few guys under 30. The youngest 25 and younger men ain’t it for me however my 32 year old takes care of me. We take care of each other
Men don't do husbandly thing either. Being a husband does not just mean paying all the bills. We discuss this on other ep. and it was actual men who led the charge. Men don't like to connect with each other, let alone there women. Your emotionally disconnected from your women, men barely listen, don't wanna talk but expect head rubs. Where not even in tune with eachother. Theres more men then not that are emotionally disconnected. Question If you are an emotionally intelligent women with her ish together... why is it still hard for her to find 1 good man? One of the ladies is married, I don't think the other one is, if she isn't married, then what say you. Why haven't you find the one yet? Since they out here and all. Do they actually care for our mental? You saying women just want men to shut up and not talk that's a lie. If you look on line it actually the other way around. I can't agree
These women are so wise, and educated to LIFE! God bless them. I loved the way black people showed up to conversation for GROWTH and GOOD! I loved how SB in all her marriage wisdom, sar quietly on topics she may not speak to with the highest expertise. Thats a sign of real wisdom. They gave so many pearls, for ALL with an ear to hear. This was really good stuff. Please know it has an effect. Ive been them all: married, single, and divorced mother. I find all of this so relevant, practical and real to life. All they are asking us to do...is think and learn ourselves.
I’m offended that married women feel that having single friends is a bad thing. I often feel married women are threatened by single women and always feel we want your man but why?
Wow what a great episode. You guys are really putting out some amazing and HELPFUL content!! Such a breathe of fresh air. Listen...SB dropped sooooo many gems that i had to find her channel to subscribe to hers too. As a Christian wife, mom and stepmom i co sign on EVERYTHING she said. A lot i had to learn that hard way because i was raised by single mother in folly. Younger ladies listen up and apply this wisdom
Since SB seems to believe that everything that goes wrong in a marriage is the woman’s fault? When a man isn’t controlling himself, for instance, domestic violence, HIS cheating, etc. , the MAN is responsible for HIS bad behavior. No woman need to blame herself for his bad behavior.
1:23:15 A *GOOD* woman isn't just filing for divorce. She has begged. She has pleaded. She doesn't just switch up on you. Her truest desire is YOU...the union. But are you listening to her? We all have to understand that Love is a verb, not a feeling. It requires sacrifice on both parts and a desire to serve each other.
I love the conversation of integrating the feminine & masculine. This concept is very powerful because it illustrates our true God-given identity, the image of God. ❤
I love my husband too and I like him even moreso!! That is very, very important in a long-term marriage! Love alone is not always fun nor enough!! Great and informative podcast as always!! 🤸🏽🙌🏽💯💯❤️🧡❤️🧡
That's ridiculous to say a woman can't appreciate a man if she doesnt have a father. There are more father figures than bio fathers. Even if she doesn't have a dad in the home she may still be taught to respect AND appreciate a man.
Well, legally, the married man is responsible for the child. But, he shouldn’t have been cheating on his wife. Whether or not his mistress should date while she is pregnant or not, isn’t the issue. HE has FAR MORE problems than she does.
And she shouldn't be sleeping with folks unprotected. Why is that still a thing? I can guarantee she didn't even know his last name. Regardless women need to stop that bs.
@@sinverrette9803 it takes two to have sex. it's BOTH. men scream all day long about child support but shirk condoms. and women cry about side-effects of bc when there are different types.
Thank you! For the second woman speaking… There are a lot of “older” women out here in there 50s and 60s dating younger men for exactly the same reasons she Mentioned and she is right on point. Nice to have opposing perspectives.
I run background checks as well. My brother told his daughter than she should do that. I admitted to them that I had started doing that and they both were shocked. I said I need to know so I won't waste my time.
God Bless you guys for hosting this episode and so grateful for the wisdom shared by the women here. So many jewels shared by the women on the show. I will be watching this episode with any woman I take seriously in dating. It includes everything needed.
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Keeping sex off the table can bring so much clarity to the relationship and weed out the liars and manipulators. They will exit stage left once they see you are dead serious.
Are you a virgin woman? Probably NOT
Yes … sex off the table is the best way to get a clear view of which way the relationship is going…
Yep. My friends think I’m crazy because I haven’t been in a serious relationship in years, but it’s because I can weed people out fast. They cloud sex with emotions and stay in stuff much longer than necessary
I met a guy 4 weeks ago. We went on 2 dates, after that, the 1st time I went to his house he wanted to have sex and I told him no. The 2nd time i went to his house he tried to have sex again. I had to ask him to stop twice. I simply told him, we don't really know each other well enough to go there yet. Long story short, I haven't heard from him in 3 days. So glad I went with my 1st mind.. cuz now I see that's all he wanted ✌🏽🙃
@@keke2296 respectfully you shouldn't be going to a man's house unless you plan on having sex
I married my husband when I was 44 and he’s 9.5 years older and we were both divorcees. Life with him is like heaven on earth we met on Match. 💖
Wow!! I mean the 'Life with him is like heaven on earth' saying.....That was very inspiring! Especially. Nowadays when it hardly appears that there are no more awesome men left. Thanks for Sharing!
Thanks sis for giving us hope, I am 35 and I know for sure I am a wife . Even if the right men comes at 40 + it’s ok
@@lonagwegwe wives are usually married by 23-25 years old. The sexual marketplace doesn’t leave fit, feminine and submissive women unaccounted for. They’re snatched up.
@@kamronwilliams2634 thank you for your opinion, the point is she became a wife at 44 years of age and she is happy. Not everyone is ready to get married by 23-25.
I’m so clueless to this I’ve been widowed for 6 years and have not dated but I am scared to get into a relationship
I dont agree with "a women cant appreciate a man if she doesnt have a father". I didnt chose to be raised by only a women but I take responsibility on how I operate, what i can control
Other than that, great message!
So if her father was a wife beater, would she appreciate a man then?
Divorce laws are rendered by state. The south is far less complicated than more progressive states. A 30-day waiting period could cause that woman her life.
I disagree as well. What I have found among my peers and mentors that women who was raised with the absence of a father are more proactive in their marriages. And tend to love their husband deeply because they are finally experiencing receiving and giving love. As well as being validation for the first time from a man. Two of my spiritual mothers were raised in a home absent of a father. And both women are excellent and devoted wives. One has been married for 63 years and the other 66 years.
Yeah that's bs... I'm so sick of the narrative.. no matter if it's vice versa..
@@sonjadf47she knows right from wrong correct. She would know not to generalize all males. Her father is her father. Doesn't mean she'll follow ik her mother's footsteps. Just like anything else on life. Why yall like to cripple and victimize yourself is crazy.
I shared the comment that if her car isn't clean, she's not ready to be a wife with my friend from England. He wrote back and said " Don't worry about that. I'll keep your car clean for you." You got to love his comment. I just can't do it all. ~Muzette
My husband is younger than me. He was 24 and I was 29 turning 30 in 18 days after our wedding. We’re married 22 years w 3 adult children and 2 puppies. We’re college graduates and our children graduate next year. So, I guess everyone is different. We really like each other and he’s a great provider. P.S. I own 2 businesses and he owns 3.
I love your story 🙏🏾💯❤️
That’s not a huge age gap.
Awesome God blees you 2
ur a Married "career" woman is like "jumbo shrimp" okk-----
That is not the norm. Most woman can't submit to a younger man
Do that backgkround check ladies!! Your instincts dont lie.
GOD gifted us with that
Every woman wants to BELONG...NOT OWNED. When you belong you are secure...you are covered.
This is a very interested panel but no everyone is not covered in every situation. Every situation is different this is interesting, but of course, like anything I can’t speak for every woman every man because back in the days majority wasn’t covered they was just existing in the marriage, and I’ve heard many true stories
Exactly using the word or analogy to be owned was a bit twisted.
Thankfully there are other effective ways to council woman.
Owned like we are property? Where is that in the bible? Check yourself.. I think you meant loved and committed to
ur body belongs to ur spouse ADULTERY [forbidden] u OWN each other until death do u part > it's best u stay unMarried😆😆😆
@@christinediaz1953Would you like scripture and verse?
I appreciate my married friends still wanting and allowing our friendship even though I’m single. I’m able to observe their interactions with their husband, how to navigate my softness but still maintaining my boundaries, what it looks like to be covered and the reverence they have for their husbands. Some things can’t just be directed to but observed and experienced.
Good for you!! They didn't discard you to single women wasteland. You must be a great friend 👍🏾
That part. I have both married and single friends, and I am able to hang out with both. I've learned so much from my married friends about marriage itself.
Okay, I’m a mature 62 yo female. All women who don’t want a husband are not damaged. I love my life and the freedom to explore me in many areas of life. I don’t want a husband but would accept a companion. I like me and my company. I’ve realized through my life journey, that connection and wholeness of being comes from within. Being connected deeply with in brings a contentment that is that is beyond the mind and relationships. Not talking about religion either. We’ve got to discover that we are more than a 3D dimensional form or body. There is a part of our nature that is timeless and here in the now. Great show Guys!
Are you talking about connecting in your soul & spirit?
I do not want to be owned by a man. I am not an object or a piece of property. I want to be loved, valued, cherished, chosen, etc.
Get a dog.
@@charlesdonahue3667your comment is totally off. What does getting a pet have to do with her being loved and cherished. It’s biblical.
@@LovelyVibrations Her oppositional attitude suggest that she won't find a quality man who will provide the things she desires on her terms. She's obviously currently without such a man and if she subscribes to your thinking she'll be posting the same comment 10, 15, 20 years from now.
@charlesdonahue3667 your comments are ignorant.
@@charlesdonahue3667 so if she wants to be cherished, loved and valued and not treated like property she won’t get a man?? This is probably the reason many women would prefer to stay single if this is the case. Peace of mind feels good!! You telling us to get a dog is not a threat !! Men benefit more from having us as partners..,
It was casual conversation where I expressed to my ex that it shouldn’t take a year for us to figure out if we want to be married. As we came upon 11 months I knew he was going to propose but I still wasn’t sure, so I ended the relationship. God is not the author of confusion, it was time to stop ignoring the signs we were not right for one another, although he checked all the boxes that were not character boxes.
I can’t agree with 80% of what these women say…..I do love the platform for bringing many perspectives to the forefront in a respectful conversation.
Exactly
I just said the same thing. The one that's married is out of touch and has been married almost 30yrs the other one is divorced
So sad. No wonder our race is in such trouble with fatherless homes, due to out of wedlock births, and confused, tricky, and selfish Black women.
Sadly, these women are
misguiding younger women; especially black women and girls!! I’m sorry these women are treasonists!
Im interested in what makes her view point out of touch. Do you mind sharing? @michelegrant2303
“Men control relationships. Women control sex.”
I say this all the time.
Most women been thru hell and back before they file for a divorce!
This was definitely a great show. I’m 27 in a long term relationship and realized I need to take accountability for my actions. I want to be a wife and this taught me a lot.
Respect
27years+ IN A "long term" relationship [ 1years+ ] translation --> u are not Marriage-material OUCH !!!
Great mindset beautiful young lady! Keep that mindset and you will!❤
@@HowToLoseWeightDailyshe just said she want to take accountability for her actions so she CAN be a wife.
"so she CAN be a wife" means a BELIEF in Marriage ughhhhh.. @letstalkaboutit7879
Where in the world are these ladies from? A woman who was raised by a single mother or predominantly women CERTAINLY CAN appreciate men! Also women CERTAINLY are in a position to vett men! One of them doesn’t align with sisterhood?! Giirrl!
I appreciate both Women's perspectives. The Marriage Counselor is a little more open minded and a progressive thinker. The other guest brings traditional values that are not prevalent amongst modern generations. The Marriage Counselor has a serious head nod, she agrees w a lot of what her fellow guest is saying.
The more I watch this channel the more I want marriage and the more I feel comfortable maintaining one. This was another great one ❤
I pray that your heart desires get granted
sure.. how old are u ???
@@HowToLoseWeightDaily age is just a number my dear 😜,,, maturity is all that matters
I’m 53 and my man is 46. It works for us. My ex husband was 9 years older and once we became empty nesters, we just didn’t make sense.
A lot of what they've said is opinions. Just know I've been married over 21 years and my messy trunk of my car had nothing to do with my wifeship.
I am a single woman who is divorced but I still have the mindset of a wife and becoming a wife again one day. I have married friends and I honor their relationships because I know what the santity of marriage means. So with that being said, I think you have to be around people with like minds, married or single! Just my opinion 🙏🏽.... I am enjoying the information.
I agree with this! It's moreso about the mindset of the person
What does marriage mean?
@@zozozizi6688 If you read my response properly before firing your response you would have seen that I desire to be a wife again when God sends the right man. I don't think anywhere in my response stated that I just have single friends... I think I stated I also have married friends. Please in all that you get, get understanding first before you comment on someone else's comment 🙏🏽🙏🏽. And please don't at me because this conversation is clearly over... Thanks!!!
"sanctity" okk ----> what were ur the "Grounds of your Divorce ???
Amen!🙏
I love "keep it real with yourself" woman. Emotional intelligence is a beautiful brilliance.
I was married for 18 years, and I have been divorced for 16 years. I know who I am, what I want and need. I still cannot meet a man that wants a real relationship. I understand the difference between a married person and a single person. I believe they can co-exist in a friendship if they understand and respect the boundaries of a married person. All my friends are married with the exception of two. We all are childhood friends.
Yes
I agree. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yes I agree !
Same. Widowed after a 20 year relationship, single for last 15 years. Now I’m centering my own joy because men I’ve met haven’t done their own emotional healing or have their act together. My kids are young adults so it’s not a priority anymore. I feel the most joyful I ever have.
u want "real" (double negative)) divorced @ 27yrs+ = HIT THE WALL----get a dog/companion OUCH !!!
As a single parent of an adult child, that's one of my key rules; I'll always choose a man who has experienced parenthood and preferably marriage also.
Almost a MUST!😊
That background check is the real deal.. This was an amazing conversation with MATURE WOMAN…I loved it and will be listening to these ladies podcast..
@@timothyrobinson3938Black people have terrible credit histories. Background checks reveal Black men's past arrests & child support judgements. & STD testing needs to be done throughout since women are susceptible due to believing their relationship is monogamous.
A married woman can teach a single woman a lot of things, do not rule them out. Seize the person up and use discretion. We must prepare this generation for marriage, a lot of them don’t know what that looks like!
You can be friends with a single woman.
Overall, great conversation!!!
Yes not all single or divorced women are checking for your man. Some of us value relationships and want the best for them. Even if we aren't in one.
Exactly my point, I been married for 20yrs and divorced now. I believe, I can bring a lot to the table. That’s what I’m saying, keep an open mind.
I can't believe she was a single parent and still has this logic of not entertaining single women. That's really interesting to me. She's about status, not character.
I felt the same you can't say I don't entertain single ladies, how do we learn who will disciple us.
no ughhhhhhh.. she must be QUALIFIED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I can’t put into words how this show has helped me understand what I did wrong in my marriage of 26 years!!! I was in tears the entire time of this show!! Amazing!!! Thank you all so much!!
Well please share what you learned you did wrong? What was it?
Please share specifically what you feel could have helped the marriage. I'm curious if it is the same ways I fail at relationships, even in general.
I’m Literally enlightened by this video, thanks for these conversations.
@@mistyaprilartist Taking a lot of bad advice from others an exchange for them to listen. I had a great man. It’s more I am still dealing with the pain of it all! Listen to your woman’s intuition before you take some peoples advice. Get counseling if it’s needed. Mostly important of all learn, love and make time to know you! When you get in a relationship don’t lose yourself. Meaning make sure you still do things you like to do alone…. If I tell you my story you would be in tears!!!
@@itsaliskawalker please tell us. We might learn..
I was not interested in listening to this episode, I am so happy I had a change of heart.
I never sought advice from my mother or other women for my relationships. I could only receive empathy from other women. This is not to be confused with my growth into womanhood. I would always go to my father for relationship advice. I realized early that a woman could not give me advice about a man’s needs and desires. My father never me bad relationship advice.
Me too. I thought they were gonna be the typical but they were reasonable and fair-minded
I had the same thoughts about bypassing this episode, however, this was pretty good per usual loaded with information
Hello and yes I would marry a younger men! I have a youthful spirit and free spirit💖❤️💖
some women did not grow up with a father or male role model so that is where the women come in .
I'm a "ferile" women😑
I’m 71 soon 72 years and single for 13 years looking to be married again. This session with these two fantastic women you have as your guest is wonderful I even learned some awesome information.
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I would love to be married, but it's hard today to find that one for you. I have been with my guy now for 6 years, hoping he wants to make that move, but he's not making any moves to move forward together.
@@dorotheniagoodson2464sS sq
@@dorotheniagoodson2464 If marriage is what you want you should have an honest conversation with him about it. If he say he's not ready yet then you have to be ready to walk away. Otherwise you will continue to give him your best years and he could marry the very next woman. Sometimes women have to find out if you are even what he desires or he's with you for convenience. Hard truths.
@@dorotheniagoodson2464
And you are still hoping he will value you enough to make that move after 6 years?!
Keep hope alive sis!😔
My friend did a background check on three fellas for me. They two were married and the other had bounced checks, and didn’t pay rent history
My mom always taught me to get background check
Ladies .. seriously side eye women that don’t embrace sisterhood !! Period.
I also side eye single women trying to tell single women how to date for marriage..
@@sinverrette9803 I do there are universal truths that people can give no matter their background.
However vehemently I disagree with them, both these women have been married...she's divorced.
definitely. its just the same as being weary of the person that says they have zero friends like not one that people always do them wrong... is it them...are you not the common denominator? hard side eye warranted
Some women have been burned. I understand why some don't embrace sisterhood.
I’m married and I’m not down with the sisterhood either. When I was a singer women my friends were single too. We moved different. One by one we started getting married….. and we are still friends and do a lot of couple outing. We do ladies outings and it’s true married women move differently than single women. It is what it is.
As I listen to this podcast, at 22, it is just so confirming to how I want my life to be. I have so many people in my ear saying things like “you’re still young and have time” but in a “live your life” tone. And I’m not here for that. This just showed me to keep on the journey with God, that I am on even though I am young. Very interesting and amazing conversation to tune into!
that statement u do [did] not have a "dad" ughhhhh.. u should be getting Married (12-27yrs) "20s" do not HIT THE WALL-----get under the leadership/protection of a husband ---> if it's the Christian "God" u should know this [ notwithstanding ] need to find u sound Bible teaching Church to bring u up to speed and/or, ask Qs that will stir u thru the Scripture(s)😇
Please!! Voices to lead you astray! Keep your mind sis and I pray that you have a very blessed marriage before God in Jesus ♥️
Good luck
Yes!! 👏🏾
Stay in the word and obedient to God.
I totally relate to the guest who says she dates younger men. For the same exact reason, my boyfriend is younger than me as well as a previous relationship. Five years younger seems to be my sweet spot. My own theory is because I do not have children, I ‘move’ a little different than friends of mines with kids/grandkids. I just have not come across a man my age (55) that enjoys the same things I do or the time/flexibility that I have. She is spot on !!
You guy's content is awesome, what I did as a single woman was attend a marriage seminar at my church alone-- a complete 360 for me mentally and emotionally understanding not only what a relationship should look like, but also what lasting marriages is. The couples (instructors) were 14-40 years in whole some, happy marriages. I attend BFM ( Myles Munroe's church btw) so I definitely can vouch that you're truly reading quality. I've read many of his books including the purpose and power of woman devotional and currently reading Waiting and Dating. Once you choose God he will keep no good thing from you! Blessings to you all. T❤
i have to disagree with the idea that women raised by women are "man haters" lol. I think the dislike for men comes from the bitterness of experiences with men. personally ive had some bad experiences and ive been raised by women but honeyyyyyyy i praise me some men! and i love love and id consisder myself to be rather submissive. Its really up to the women herself to choose her line of thought and feeling either choose to inherit bitterness or choose to a whole new lane.
Panic attacks are from past traumas, and panic attacks are from the person keeping worries and abuses to themselves. male and females both have panic attacks. They need to talk to a therapist. Sometimes, a spouse won't understand or be able to help them. That is why we have therapists, religions, and friends if we need to talk about our problems.
I am a married woman that grew up in a fatherless home, and it is absolutely true that it was difficult to appreciate my husband. It took a lot of prayer and a lot of humbling myself in the Lord.
This would include fatherless homes and homes without effective fathers
I admire you for doing the work and consistently working on it’s most definitely a spiritual journey🤍
My coummunity had a Mr and a Mrs. The men were considered kings of their castle because they worked and provided for the families. Even if it meant going to communist Cuba, they worked there..
This was one of the best conversations i've listened to and seen to date! These women are extremely wise and pretty much everything they mentioned I could agree or align with. Loved it!
"Don't do it! Reconsider! Read some liter-ature on the subject!"
It’s so many variables and levels to this love, relationship, marriage stuff….not one size fits all. Through the journey of love, you will go through some things and grow through some things. Connecting with the right person is pretty much everyone’s desire.
Blessings to all that’s on this journey, it does take time and work at ANY stage or age, and certainly not an expiration on age!
Nothing is one size fits all, anyone trying to push any of that is leading you up a creek without a paddle...
My close friend is a married 72 year old woman. Best conversations ever and I’m single seeking my husband. To build a wall saying because you not married I don’t even talk to you is so shallow and disgusting.
1:03:55 I do believe there are single, sobre women who are able to give good counsel to prospective wives. One doesn't have to be married to be competent. Likewise, not all married women give good relationship advice. One just have to assess each individual and determine the value they can bring based on their own merit.
Black folks helping each other, I'm here for it!❤❤❤
My moms is 58 now. She was telling me the same thing 38:48 get to know everything, go to their home and try to know everyone. With all the discretion and class ofcourse . Solid show guys 👍🏾
I have not watched any podcast as much as this one. I’m listening during working hours. Learning and growing. Thank you.
Let’s gooo Stacey! We need this energy. Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE
Me too😊
We really need to encourage men to marry younger. Men used to marry younger a long time ago. If you’re old enough to have sex and have babies, you’re old enough to get married. This is the problem with our society today. We don’t value God’s standards anymore. If a young man can become mature in Christ, meaning his mind has been renewed by God’s word. Men and women also need to learn how to respect each other and manage anger.
Men are not trying to stop at one or two vaginas. Its not going to happen, it's only going to have them searching on websites or divorced at 30.
I agree! We should not endorse men sleeping around and “sowing their wild oats” and attempt to convince a younger women to reward this by giving up her youth for this. No young woman wants an old man that will only make her a nurse when she is in her 50s. This is just a sad reality today..
@@LovelyVibrations Very well said sis.
I’m always confused when people online are debating about men being a little older when this was been the norm from long ago. It’s always worked better when the man is older than the woman .
This was soo wholesome and valuable. Thank you sooo much. This is community building information that we need sooo bad.
This conversation was phenomenal! So much wisdom and I appreciate their perspectives. I'll also add, I'm single at the moment, but most of my friends are married or in committed relationships heading to marriage. I respect their relationships/marriages and strongly advise them to work on their relationships/marriages and put in the work while seeking God and wise counsel. Also, married women shouldn't be closed off to single women and in the right spaces they can aid each other. Mentorship and wisdom is needed and marital status shouldn't be a block to that.
Interesting conversation. I can appreciate both ladies’ points of view. And can really appreciate a woman saying that she wants companionship/relationship instead of marriage. More and more women in my age group are saying this.
I absolutely love what this women are doing! This was definitely informative as I am a single women looking to become a wife. Thank you ladies, Tysean and Ryan
if u had obeyed/submitted to ur "dad's" Authority OVER YOU u would have reverenced ur "dad" instead to [women] it's a good bet ur 27yrs+ HIT THE WALL-----consider getting a dog/companion👍😎
Great show overall. I love being in the presence and listening to wise and mature women regardless of age. So refreshing to subscribe to a channel for mature audiences only. The ability to communicate effectively is so needed in these spaces. True dialogue and not the debates where the goal is the need to be right. Listening to get an understanding, respecting each other's opinions, learning from each other, agreeing to disagree, and solution based. Definitely my kind of vibe. Great job ladies and keep growing gentlemen! 👏🏽🙏🏽❤️
wise/mature women that's cute----are u Married ???
@@HowToLoseWeightDaily I am! 12 years
@@HowToLoseWeightDaily I am married. 12 years now. Mature and wise has nothing to do with being married though.
What Tysean described about older men in their 40s going to the doctor and then wanting to get married is REAL💯
Women please beware of becoming the Hospice Care Wife! These men get old and want a caretaker, it’s not about love. 👀
It really is a thing!
AAAAAAMMMMEEEEENNNNNN!!!!!
THIS 💯
So sad that you took that from his statement. 🤦🏽♂️
@@st.lucyview8133: It’s sad but it’s real🤣
I’m a young woman and had a man try to get me into that foolishness 🤣
This was a much needed conversation and reality check for a lot of us women.
The majority of ladies DO NOT like to take responsibility for their actions in a relationship! A lot of women grew up in single mother homes and allowed their mothers (or women in the family) hurt and immaturity to mold their perspective of who all men are and how they should be treated. That's completely unfair and our men need more credit than we give them at times.
As I've gotten older, I realized how my own mother's hurt affected how I showed up in my previous relationships. Although my parents were high school sweethearts and I was fortunate to experience both parents in the household, there were things I had to unlearn as I started navigating the dating space.
Ladies, it's okay to admit our mothers were not always the standard; our fathers too! If we want to be better, we have to move better. One thing we must embrace is being SINGLE. We simply cannot be one in partnership if you've never done the inner work to find value in yourself.
Remember, people (not even just men) will only treat you the way they see you treat yourself. It's time to raise your standards ladies! Good luck!! ❤
This was by far my FAVORITE EPISODE! Greaaaat show, fellas!!! I'd love to see more of these two ladies in the future!!
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People treat you how they want to treat you. You have the agency to do what you want with that information.
"partnership".. "in yourself" that's cute----the STANDARD "alpha" men do not do "partnerships" we lead(er) wife helper !!!
Glad to see the OGs. I’m 60 with a very interesting story. Love y’all show!
Thank you. Loved this conversation. I am a 58 year old widow. Agreed with both your guess. Keep it coming guys.
I loved what SB added to the conversation, she is so wise, every woman needs auntie like her!! She will set you straight!
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This was an amazing interview. These Old G's spoke truth. I am 67 years old and wish I had this kind of knowlege when I was much younger. Would have saved myself a lot of heartache. Totally agree with the idea of women being more accountable for their circumstances and for the way we show up in relationships. Good job guys! Love your podcast.
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no "dad" [ no reference ] capacity for accountability she turns into a woMAN-----Run Forst Run 😆😆😆
OWNED! No Ma am! Cherished.. YES!... I am a woman who doesn t want to own ANYONE! Not even my Child.
What I’ve experienced is that most men don’t want advice from Other men. That also transfers over to why there are more women than men in the church. Men don’t want to hear another man tell him how to run his home.
Sadly I agree 😮however this man will find it hard to listen to anyone including his wife
Was absolutely the case in my marriage. And the men in our life group acknowledged it...and it just was what it was. That's why I'm so perplexed by these "It's mostly women who are avoiding accountability." I was ALWAYS the one dragging us to counseling and unbiased 3rd parties. TELL ME! Him? Still running from therapy and causing problems.
I will say I’m loving these two women they are spot on, I truly wish there were more women that think the way they think it’s half the way they talked. I feel the black community he will be in a lot better place.
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Thanks!
She's right. Most women do not remarry once they get divorced. 27:57 I'm not risking anyone getting my assets so we are just going to date forever and that will have to be good enough.
This is profound, wise, impactful and needful. The panelists speaking are teaching an almost lost art. Thanks Ladies and H.I.!!👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤
I meet my husband while I was pregnant. We didn't jump into a relationship. I was 29 and he was 36 when we meet. We built a phenomenal friendship and we have been married for 1 year and 10months. I enjoy being married to my husband, our age difference brings a lot of wisdom, we put God and each other first in our marriage.
To think that the Kady to the right called dating while pregnant, immoral.
God bless your union❤🙏
I was confused about why she said it was immoral... to me, that was CRAZY. It DID NOT bear witness with my spirit. I wish she had explained herself.
A woman who was raised by only her mother without a man in the home, can appreciate a man, but is also disillusioned by the actions of their father. That is it, that is all. When you grow up seeing men abandon their children or women you can still love a man, but now you also understand that people are not possessions and tend to not overly attach.
I don’t agree it’s the woman’s responsibility to manage the man’s internal state. I do believe the woman should be there to listen and be receptive to his vulnerability and treat it with the utmost care and respect. All we can do is love him through his struggles and listen intently. We can provide perspective if he needs it, but the actual work is up to him to do just as it is for women as well. Healing can be assisted, but at its core, it’s an inside job.
REAL; This is my first time learning about this dynamic duo; I normally listen for my son's but the level of conversation that you two young cats bring to the table is efficacy at best!!!
SB you were amazing. I have been following you for two years now and you have never changed. Always consistent and remaining solid in your purpose. Keep letting the world know marriage works when we do it right with the right person. You looked beautiful and classy as usual. Much love❤
@Teeshaw6700 Thank you❤ I Appreciate you and value your support🎉💞
This is a mature conversation! When the panelist said (at 2:27:25) that she didn't like her ex and therefore couldn't follow.......whew I understand! Love the level of accountability being discussed here 😊
This was an episode that was rather controversial to me and I appreciate it. these women have some strong opinions and perspectives some I agree with and some I don't. I'm not surprised to hear that many women disagree with them however I do appreciate their difference and wisdom they offer. Not everything is for everybody. Great conversation overall.
@lady_better -
Because even the women can see through their bullshit. These two are just talking for dollars. If a married women is talking the same nonsense as an unmarried woman, then you know bullshit is being sold.
Yes I'm here too
I agree
The conversation was sooo refreshing and so necessary! The wisdom shared by SB needs to be circulated in all our favourite bookstores!
Thank you for this great episode guys.
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I love this. Most women want a man that is theirs, alone…… He is my husband. He only has eyes for me
I like the idea of waiting 30 days before you rush into a decision. That's actually really good advice. Don't make any decisions when your emotions are running high..
Im 67 and my boyfriend is 50, been together 4 years.
Ive never dated men my age or older. Only younger men have pursued me. I use to say No, then said yes, cause that is what's always in front of me. He wants to get married. We had friendship first and he took it to another level. Now marriage considered. I dont see his age because he's mature and feel status compatible. Required a spiritual relationship. He has the Spiritually no one till date possessed. God chose him, he found me, following his lead
1:25:31 I’m so glad she said this! I have found it strange how so many complain about doing things for the man/husband they are happy to do for the kids. Meanwhile if men didn’t do something for the women/wives and only for kids we would seem spiteful or cruel.
People don’t determine whether or not you should stay married. There were more circumstances that was the causes of Samatha’s marriage.
Thanks for saying this no one is exploring this fact
"1 is a whole number." Thank you, Coach Anita! 😊
This was so good!
These young ladies were very balanced ,real ,wise,
And true Blessing!!!
They covered a lot of ground!
Thank you so much!
I Love this podcast
I am new!
Keep doing what you do!
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I am a new subscriber and love this episode!!!!! I’m too initiated. My soon to be husband is 7 years younger. I’ll be 40 in January. He loves me like I never been loved before! I am more submissive than I have ever been before. I love love love this man. The older I get the more younger men was approaching me and I even tried dating a few guys under 30. The youngest 25 and younger men ain’t it for me however my 32 year old takes care of me. We take care of each other
Men don't do husbandly thing either. Being a husband does not just mean paying all the bills. We discuss this on other ep. and it was actual men who led the charge. Men don't like to connect with each other, let alone there women. Your emotionally disconnected from your women, men barely listen, don't wanna talk but expect head rubs. Where not even in tune with eachother. Theres more men then not that are emotionally disconnected. Question If you are an emotionally intelligent women with her ish together... why is it still hard for her to find 1 good man? One of the ladies is married, I don't think the other one is, if she isn't married, then what say you. Why haven't you find the one yet? Since they out here and all. Do they actually care for our mental? You saying women just want men to shut up and not talk that's a lie. If you look on line it actually the other way around. I can't agree
These women are so wise, and educated to LIFE! God bless them. I loved the way black people showed up to conversation for GROWTH and GOOD! I loved how SB in all her marriage wisdom, sar quietly on topics she may not speak to with the highest expertise. Thats a sign of real wisdom. They gave so many pearls, for ALL with an ear to hear. This was really good stuff. Please know it has an effect. Ive been them all: married, single, and divorced mother. I find all of this so relevant, practical and real to life. All they are asking us to do...is think and learn ourselves.
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So, speaking from a woman who is 55. I desire marriage.
Agreed. I deserve better and love
Same ❤️
These ladies had some key points, and some good insight. What I took away ftom this episode was to learn to be accountable for my actions.
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I’m offended that married women feel that having single friends is a bad thing. I often feel married women are threatened by single women and always feel we want your man but why?
Remember she came into her marriage with a child: she also placed her man above her kids. That tells you everything one needs to know.❤
Tysean and Ryan, I'm very proud of the work you do!! Also, thank you to Better Love Movement and SBU Live for dropping your wisdom. 👏🏽 💯💯💯
A SEPARATE MAN IS STILL “MARRIED”💯‼️📌📌
Wow what a great episode. You guys are really putting out some amazing and HELPFUL content!! Such a breathe of fresh air.
Listen...SB dropped sooooo many gems that i had to find her channel to subscribe to hers too.
As a Christian wife, mom and stepmom i co sign on EVERYTHING she said. A lot i had to learn that hard way because i was raised by single mother in folly.
Younger ladies listen up and apply this wisdom
Since SB seems to believe that everything that goes wrong in a marriage is the woman’s fault? When a man isn’t controlling himself, for instance, domestic violence, HIS cheating, etc. , the MAN is responsible for HIS bad behavior. No woman need to blame herself for his bad behavior.
No but blame yourself for staying and continuing to subject yourself to all that happens their after.
1:23:15 A *GOOD* woman isn't just filing for divorce. She has begged. She has pleaded. She doesn't just switch up on you. Her truest desire is YOU...the union. But are you listening to her? We all have to understand that Love is a verb, not a feeling. It requires sacrifice on both parts and a desire to serve each other.
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I love the conversation of integrating the feminine & masculine. This concept is very powerful because it illustrates our true God-given identity, the image of God. ❤
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Such adult conversation, much needed.
I love my husband too and I like him even moreso!! That is very, very important in a long-term marriage! Love alone is not always fun nor enough!! Great and informative podcast as always!! 🤸🏽🙌🏽💯💯❤️🧡❤️🧡
husband "I respect you" cards (no) "I love you" cards (yes) the wife is to RESPECT husband or gets dismissed "fun" that😆😆😆
That's ridiculous to say a woman can't appreciate a man if she doesnt have a father. There are more father figures than bio fathers. Even if she doesn't have a dad in the home she may still be taught to respect AND appreciate a man.
Well, legally, the married man is responsible for the child. But, he shouldn’t have been cheating on his wife. Whether or not his mistress should date while she is pregnant or not, isn’t the issue. HE has FAR MORE problems than she does.
And she shouldn't be sleeping with folks unprotected. Why is that still a thing? I can guarantee she didn't even know his last name. Regardless women need to stop that bs.
@@sinverrette9803 it takes two to have sex. it's BOTH. men scream all day long about child support but shirk condoms. and women cry about side-effects of bc when there are different types.
REAL, I’m loving this candid conversation and wisdom that SB and Anita are sharing with us. Hardly initiated 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Love that you had men calling in. Love the channel guys keep it it👏🏾❤️
Thank you! For the second woman speaking… There are a lot of “older” women out here in there 50s and 60s dating younger men for exactly the same reasons she
Mentioned and she is right on point. Nice to have opposing perspectives.
I run background checks as well. My brother told his daughter than she should do that. I admitted to them that I had started doing that and they both were shocked. I said I need to know so I won't waste my time.
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What service do you use?
God Bless you guys for hosting this episode and so grateful for the wisdom shared by the women here. So many jewels shared by the women on the show. I will be watching this episode with any woman I take seriously in dating. It includes everything needed.
Enjoyed this discussion. This was GOOD!! 💎💎💎 You guys should invite Kerry & Rebecca Lynn Pope to an interview. That would be powerful too!
Excellent suggestion. I love them.
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Awesome suggestion
This was a very real fun video. Thank you all for your honesty. It has definitely made me think of why my dating life has been stagnant.