So the stepsister is marrying the OP's cheating ex and is losing her mind because OP is now dating her unrequited crush? That is so pitiful that it's funny.😂
I think what this is really all about is that mother hates the OP for whatever reason, has replaced her with SS and the only point of all this is to humiliate the OP by condoning the marriage of SS to cheating ex bf while forcing the OP to attend, smiling bravely with some date that they had to arrange for her, which they probably see as even more pitiful than no date at all. The OP is smart to avoid all of the drama all together but if she really wanted to be vindictive she and current bf could arrange to have the ex bf catch SS in her crush's arms. Good thing OP isn't vindictive.
This really, really sounds like a bad FanFiction or soap opera. Good gosh, what is going on inside that stepsister's puddle of an already melted brain?🤦♀️
@@brunaschroeder7517 I don't think he is going to marry her. I believe step sis lied and trapped OP's exbf. Lied that she had someone else, and offered herself. I don't excuse him, I just think he was manipulated too. He thought step sis loved him, she just wants to see OP miserable and alone.
Step sister: I am gonna marry your ex Also step sister: how dare you date my crush. Mom: you need to support your step sister marrying your ex Also mom how dare you date your step sister's old love the hypocrisy is strong in this family
I said it before, I say it again: There is obviously something wrong with that crazy SS. I bet she had a crush on that guy because she could tell he liked OP and never stopped. And then she got hold of OPs (cheating!) ex the moment she gets a chance. If that's not pathological, I don't know what is. She wants no men to like OP and leave her miserable for some reason and that nauseating "mother" makes OP bend backwards for her and the other family and treats her like she hasn't the right to have feelings and support. I want to puke.
Exactly 😂 the stepsister dating op's ex is fine but op dating someone the ss had a crush on, not even a relationship is betrayal? What type of a family is that full of id1ots
First story: The entitlement and blatant hypocrisy of both the mother and step sister is what shocked me the most in this story. How can people be so unaware of them selves??!
Because they're stupid people. I have learned it takes stupidity to do this kind of stuff. If they were smart, this would never have been a problem in the first place. It wouldn't have even been a story on Reddit.
Funny it went from "please show up so we can pretend we're a family with no issues" to "we'll cutting you off for doing what your step sister did first", and it was not even on the same level of what step-sis did first.
Because they don't see OP eye to eye. She is a doormat for them, obviously. Her feelings don't matter and it's her who has to bend backwards to make them happy. Nasty sh*ts.
It's like OP said in her update, her mom wanted to move on and op was sort of a hold-over from her first marriage. Sometimes, when one partner loses the other, they put all their energy and attention into their new family and SO while neglecting anything from their first marriage, most often the kids. That's how you get situations like this, where OP stepsister is given more favor and attention than she did after the marriage. This isn't the first time something like this has happened and it sadly won't be the last. I just hope, if there is a Heaven and Hell, that OP's mom is denied entry and is told exactly why before she gets tossed into the pits of Hell.
"How could you do this to me?!" Do what? She's engaged. She's about to get married. If she still has feelings for an old crush to the point where she thinks OP dating him is a personal attack on her, she is not ready to get married. I hope SS's and incubator's relationships implode and I hope OP lives happily ever after.
Yeah, that's the only thing I never got an answer about SS. She claims that she's marrying her true love (OP's ex-bf) and everyone should grow up, but turns around also going childishly insane after finding out about OP's love life. It left me wondering if OP's ex/stepsister's fiancé knows that his future wife is still madly in love with someone else?
@@LadyCeag840 He may. Who knows what is going on in these people's heads. I think OP did the right thing blocking the ex; whatever is happening in SS's relationship is SS's fault. Let them handle it. I also want to know why men marry women who are about as emotionally mature as a toddler. How is ex not seeing this as a huge red flag?
@@LadyCeag840 So true! I sure would be devastated knowing that my future fiance is losing her sh*t over an old (and not even reciprocated) crush being spoken for instead of being happy for our future together.
Yeah that's a big old red flag. If you're engaged but you're still in love with a guy you had a crush on in high school you need to get some help. But then again this whole family pretty much needs therapy I am really glad that OP has her new boyfriend who is being emotionally there for her
How much a weak ass trick do you have to be to call your own child a "vindictive hag" because you're just THAT in love with your new husband? How could one so openly recklessly vilify their daughter over the toxic actions of someone she has no real ties other than documents and a shitty ring? That reduces her to nothing but a warm hole to me as she is no mother. OPs new BF sounds like a keeper though; he was persistent, yet respectful. Also, the fact that he wants to remove OP from the toxicity gives me good feelings about their future together.
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That mom in the first story is worst than the stepsister. For her to tell her OWN DAUGHTER that she would make it her mission to ruin her relationship is disturbing. Like how much do you have to hate your own kid to side with the people who betrayed her then try everything to ruin her life because she upset your golden step child?
I have a feeling that she doesn’t even really care about step-daughter she only cares that if she is unhappy then husband is unhappy and he is her meal ticket. She doesn’t care about people just the optics and what it can get her. People are just pawns and only have value if they can do something for her or make her look good to others.
If i were OP i would screenshot and send every piece of abusive message to a lawyer, have the lawyer craft a cease and desist and send that plus all the evidence to her Step Father (don't even warn him beforehand and just do it randomly so he gets the shock of his life) with a message of something along the lines of "You need to do a better job of keeping your wife and daughter in line" and then inform everyone else in the family who is attending the wedding (including the Ex BF and her mom and step sister and step father) about what is going on in one massive group email with all the appropriate information. I know, I know, probably won't happen But then again I guess i'm just petty like that.
I’m convinced that the ex was cheating with the step sister. That said, op should cut them off and go to therapy if she’s able and surround herself with her friends and the family who does support her
Like the fact the mom wants op to get over the ss cheating with and getting OPs ex but op is horrible for dating a guy who had no interest in her, that she never dated?
@@maheenahmed6653 This was because mom knew it would hurt and tick off ss and she didn't want it to possibly cause hubby to divorce her over her daughter hurting his daughter.
@@pollypockets508 Friends of OP had pointed out to her they wondered if the person he had cheated on her with was ss. It really was. This reading left off half of the story/updates.
Step-sister: Yes, I'm dating your ex, but you honestly need to get over it, come to my wedding, and be happy for me. Also step-sister: How could you get with the guy I STILL have a crush on even while I'm getting married???
@@fanfictiondreamer7836 She is STILL into this guy! Maybe she was hoping to wear him down and have him as a back-up because she doesn’t really want OP’s ex and the CB is the real prize here?
Story 1: The double standards are strong in this one. “Your sister is marrying your ex who cheated on you but you should move on and give them your blessing”, also “How dare you date your sister’s old crush?”.
OP's family is a real dumpster fire! Mom has turned into a giant bootlicking simp for her new husband, and step-sister has some nerve acting like she's the betrayed one! EFF the lot of them. I hope OP blocked them everywhere and moved on to live her best life. When mom inevitably reaches out to demand help from OP, attend her wedding, see her kids, whatever, I hope OP tells her exactly where, and how hard, she can shove it!
Stepsister is also being ridiculous in the fact that she has a fiance yet she still feels entitled to have another man. I just know she will cheat on him once they are married since she is this entitled.
@@JohnnyDominion What about OP thinking that she has some say over the relationship of her ex and her stepsister? She has none. What she has is mommy issues and a need to grow the fuck up.
@@Snipergoat1 she doesn't give a crap about their relationship anymore and hasn't. Did you not listen to the whole damn story? She never demanded they break up she never told them they couldn't get married. OP was betrayed by her step sister she was betrayed by not only her step sister but her Mother as well. Where the hell, in that story, did you hear OP demand any say in their relationship? Give us a time stamp. What good siblings would be ok with dating their siblings cheater ex? Barely 5 months after the breakup? Who would be that cold as to force their sibling to interact with someone who betrayed and destroyed them like that? And what good mother wouldn't stand up for her child and comfort them or validate their pain? The ONLY person who believed they had ANY right to demand anything of anyone's relationship was OP's mother. Who very literally demanded OP break up with her boyfriend. Tried to forbid her from staying with her boyfriend. Even went so far as to threaten her to make it a priority to break them up. Funny how they think OP, who waited 5 years, betrayed to step sister for dating a guy she used to have a crush on, that she NEVER dated. Yet in the same breath say it's perfectly exceptable for stepsister to date OP's ex FÍANCE not even 5 months not their breakup? Maybe you should go back and listen again and pay attention this time. I promise it's free.
What I love is that OP didn't have to go to the wedding to have stepsister discover she was with ss crush. I wonder if ss is still going through with the wedding? I wonder if OP's ex will ever discover he is a poor substitute for OP's boyfriend?
@@lyndatuttle Bingo,thats exactly what this boils down to,SS wants whatever OP has and if she has to cheat behind OP back to get it,she will....OP ex is just another person for SS to hurt on her way of having everything OP had/s,I am glad CB isn't fooled by SS and OP family
Put aside the question of step-sis betraying OP for a second. Where's the family concern that step-sis is getting married to someone they KNOW cheated on his last fiance? Ahh, this family -- failing the golden child step sis just as bad as they're failing OP.
It's because everyone wants to think they're the exception kind of like "that won't happen to me I'm different because X/Y/Z" The mother has thought of her own daughter as an inconvenience and of course something bad as cheating will happen to the inconvenience child but oh the so brilliant pretty child with the new and shiny stepfather is special because she isn't an inconvenience she will have the happy ever after with whoever she wants. The stepsister thinks she is special because she was made to believe she was better than her sister and "winning" the boyfriend of the OP proves she is better and of course he wouldn't cheat on her but how many stories do we see of affair partners getting their hearts broken because they get cheated on by the person they cheated with
@@yunuenhagane3495 There is an old saying. "When you marry the mistress you create a vacancy" which means once a cheater always a cheater. They are addicted to the thrill of the secrecy and once that goes they get bored and start looking round for a new person to sneak around with
I love how fragile the relationship of the Stepsister was and it proves that the success of her relationship depends on her having taken something from her sister, maybe Op is more beautiful or attractive than her and when she won she needed the Op's distress to make herself feel good and this gave it's worth to her relationship (this by telling Op in person she was dating and getting married in person) so when she found out she really didn't won, op is dating the guy she is still trying to get with while having a fiance, then Op winning in her eyes takes the whole worth of her relationship and now she doesn't want it anymore and the exbf notices she doesn't like him anymore and is finding out she would cheat on him in a heartbeat, thinking she hasn't cheated on him or him cheated on her too, so now he is hurt and is acting as the victim
I hadn't thought of that. Perhaps she became interested in OP's current boyfriend because she realized they had a good relationship and perhaps OP was interested in him (but OP hadn't realized because of her loyalty to her ss).
Oh, common. There is obviously something wrong with that crazy SS. I bet she had a crush on that guy because she could tell he liked OP and never stopped. And then she got hold of OPs (cheating!) ex the moment she gets a chance. If that's not pathological, I don't know what is. She wants no men to like OP and leave her miserable for some reason and that nauseating "mother" makes OP bend backwards for her and the other family. I want to puke.
This is what happens when you spoil your step daughter to appease your husband. SS feels like she's entitled to anything she wants, because she was shown that she can. OP on the other hand was a tag along, because mom wanted "a new start" and couldn't have it with daughter from previous marriage. What a poor excuse of a mom op's parent is :|
OP's stepsister has a lot of nerve for being jealous of her for her current relationship. CB was never interested in SS and she is marrying another man. She can't have it both ways. SS is wrong (& the AH) for trying to control the life of a man she's not involved with. Good Luck to OP.
There is obviously something wrong with that crazy SS. I bet she had a crush on that guy because she could tell he liked OP and never stopped. And then she got hold of OPs (cheating!) ex the moment she gets a chance. If that's not pathological, I don't know what is. She wants no men to like OP and leave her miserable for some reason and that nauseating "mother" makes OP bend backwards for her and the other family. I want to puke.
Last story: he was using pick-up artist techniques to keep you chasing him. It backfired. He wanted you to get upset and fight for him, he wanted to present himself as an alpha male, and when you agreed to his “terms”, you shocked him. You handled this perfectly.
that's what i was thinking. it sounded like him trying to "undervalue" her (or w/e slimey terminology they use for their slimey ways) in order to put himself above her and thus be "more desirable"
🤣. He has been reading too much of those stupid books on how to keep a woman running after you......he thinks he is alpha. OP did a Xena Warrior Princess move on his ass.
So he wanted a relationship that was based on his "terms" in which he had all the "power" in the relationship and she had none of it? So it would be something close to "friends with benefits" under the guise of a "serious" couple relationship without the "responsibility" that comes from the relationship between the couple much less the quality of equal stance between them, rather it would be like you said him wanting to be the "alpha" male and she being the "omega" female or am I perhaps reading to deeply into this and gone completely of the rail? Either way he tried to play some experienced playboy where a pretty girl would be so deeply in love with him that even if he broke up with her, she would be so infatuated in him that she wouldn't stop "hunting" him for a relationship in which he would simply lead her on a relationship based on his terms rather then the equal terms that one usually would think of between couples!! At least OP not only managed to turn the tables on him in his own game, but also avoid that trap altogether, good for her.
@@damien678I don't think he was playing. I think he 100% meant to make her casual, but when she hit his ego, he tried to do everything to switch her mind. This happened to a friend of mine, she called crying that the guy see was seeing told her they should just be friends while still nked in bed after doing it. I told her to text him, and she was really happy to know he wanted to be just friends because even if she liked spending time with her, it's exhausting to date a man whom you have to fake orgsms, and that way they can still hang without her needing to act like he was good in bed. It's been 7 months and he's still trying to get her to sleep with him and date him.
Can't think of a story where so many people (Cheating BF, step sis, AH step dad, psychotic mom, possibly the other two sisters) did OP such a favor by showing who they are and taking themselves off the board. If OP sees this for the gift it is, she has just been saved from a lifetime of what comes with being surrounded by people like these.
Story 1, sounds like things are working out well SS and ex-bf deserve each other and toxic mother has taken herself out, too. CB sounds like a good guy. Love Story 2, too!
This wedding is not going to happen. Especially now that the groom finds out she is interested in his ex new boyfriend and sees her reaction first hand.
Honestly, both the step sister and the mom are toxic hypocrites, they are perfect mother and daughter for each other. Op need to move to the moon to stay away form them. Even change names and everything
The fact that the stepsister is sooooo heated about OP dating an old crush of hers tells me that she doesn't love her current FIANCÉE and is only marrying him/cheated with him as maybe a sick competition against OP. Methinks stepsister is jealous of OP and wants to ruin all of op relationships. Its really sad. Also, why the hell would she marry her fiancee knowing he's a cheater. As the saying goes, "if he cheats WITH you, he will cheat ON you" I wish op nothing but happiness with her new love and I hope stepsister and mother get their karma.
Yeah, this is what I think too. I doubt she was ever in love with ex. She just saw someone she could take from OP and when Op naturally came to love her supposed crush, that's when she lost it.
Dont you just love watching people self destruct their own lives trying to ruin someone elses life. The SS is so vengeful and focused on hating everything her sister has that she's marying a guy her sister dumped. Pathetic people. She probably wont stop until she ends up in jail still blaming the sister for everything. Narcissistics cant be happy unless they are hurting someone
It amazes me how the SS and mom think OP dating someone who wasn’t ever in any sort of relationship with CB is treasonous, but ignore that what SS did was oh, so much worse.Very hypocritical. “How could you do this to me?” Right back at ‘ya sister. The ovaries on some people astounds me.
Op should just go completely NC and if they "threaten" to cut her off then she should thank them and move in with her new bf and move on with her life, counting her blessings
I believe mom is playing favorites point blank. If that was me I would go either no contact or get a restraining order against her. She's too damn toxic. OP deserves a better life.
Last story: I would have said, "Oh, thank God you said something! I was trying to figure out how to tell you the sex was...lacking... Yes, we should definitely see other people and casually go our separate ways, great idea! Best of luck!"
Story 1: The irony of the mom calling OP a pathetic vindictive hag for "stealing" and hooking up with SS's _crush_ as if SS didn't literally steal Op's _boyfriend_ and is getting married to him is astounding. Also, if I were the Ex in that situation, I'd be more focused on my fiancee getting butthurt and having a tantrum over her sister dating an old crush than anything else. Like, miss ma'am you took your sister's boyfriend and got _engaged_ to him, you don't get to still have some sort of "claim" on the other guy once you're with someone else. "How could you do this to me" so you can completely wreck a relationship in order to have your way but god forbid your sister date someone who clearly never wanted you or showed interest at any point to begin with?
Step sister doesn't get a harem. She doesn't get to claim dibs on other guys while about to marry someone else 🤦♀️. If she thinks her reputation is bad now, wait til they find out she wants to take OP's current guy while being engaged to OP's previous guy.
I love story 2. She is the skills champion of passive-agressiveness, and that pathetic weasel is completely out-matched. She's definitely using her super-powers for a well-deserved petty revenge.
The mom is desperate to keep a man to the extent of devaluing her daughter, she set the precedent, mistreating her daughter so much to keep her husband happy & everyone else in the family seems to mistreat OP bcs mom set the tone. It's primarily the moms fault. She probably treated OP badly ever since she remarried & favored the step sis 2 gain stepdads affection even more. I dislike parents that put partners b4 their own kids. Stepsis knew she could get away with it. Mom probably never stood up 4 OP & that's the root of the problem. OPs situation could have possibly been avoided if mom valued & supported her.
I have a feeling the OP's step-sister from the first one is the one who's going to end up alone after her fiance finds out exactly why she was so upset about her old crush being there. That is just one massive pile of shit hitting an equally sized fan.
I think there was an update and the family was doubling down on op because the ex left the sister for being so bent out of shape over a guy she didn't even date.
Story1: So it's okay for your ex to cheat on you, and for your stepsister to marry him and force you to attend the wedding, but it's not okay for you to date someone the stepsister never actually dated? Why is she even getting married if she still feels so strongly for your bf? I feel like it might be for the best to get cut off from this family. Better to have no contact than to have them constantly spewing negativity. And over stuff that THEY did to YOU, no less.
Of course it is! Mom was ALWAYS resentful to OP existance because was "baggage" from a past she wants to forgot! Won't be a surprise that the sisters (younger) can see through their mother's shitty behavior and favoring their elder sister (the stepdaughter) to placate Dad! Stepdad TOLERATES OP and like resents having to take her on, hence making her feel unwelcome, though no one told him to go for a single mother so if he feels that way, he can fuck off! Stepdaughter does NOT get along with OP mother, she tolerates her for the sake of "daddy" and the butt kissing is a plus! But I figure she knows her stepmother is just a asskisser who is quick to betray She went on hard on OP because you can see from OP update on how her mother reacted that she's pissed OP chose to defy her by "not doing what she's told!" OP learned this was ALL that was expected of her from her rotten Egg Donor! She has to be an "Evil brat that parasited on her" in order to be the victim! But at least one thing is clear, if OP and BF disapper and they can't find them, you can imagine her sweating bullets as Stepdaughter gets more unhinged from losing to OP (in a game OP never played no less. Got to love assholes like Stepsister) that Mom...no "EGG Donor" will be walking on egg shells as Stepsister whines and cries, Stepdad gives Egg Donor "the look of displeasure" that her "daughter" made his "cry" and she's doing nothing! and she doesn't know what to do since OP and BF are out of sight and reach as she calls OP every name in the book to placate them. Only this time, it's not going to work. As long as Stepsister is acting as she is because OP is living happily with her "crush" (that she never got over) Egg Donor will never have peace, no surprise if Stepdad starts avoiding her to express his "support for his little brat" by not laying with the mother of "the girl who's bullying her" (cause you know, enabling spineless father) and Egg Donor inwardly wishes she "Aborted" OP as she doubles down in her own mind that nothing is her fault, it's all OP for not doing as she's told!) As I said, hope the younger sisters dump the three loonies and reconnect with OP some day! That would be the ULTIMATE defeat as I'm sure stepsister is HORRIBLE to them that they register OP as their ONLY older sister and see Mom and dad are doing nothing to control her! And for Ex, well he made his bed, he can sleep in it!
The tantrum that SS had, and the fact that the SS thinks that OP got with her (unrequited) crush, just to spite her...shows the reality of SS and Ex's relationship, freaking weak and that marriage won't last at all
The cheating exbf is just a pawn in the step sis scheme. He thought he was loved, he was probably even conned into believing OP cheated by step sis...now he realizes she doesn't even love him.
@@ditzyhere3138 Mom is projecting! It just shows the indifference OP felt from her growing up was true and she never cared for her beyond "if she never became an inconvenient to her!" Mom can't stand that OP isn't listening to her anymore (Read: Doing as she's told, which is to be SS Punching bag to feel better about herself! IT was good when the two were close, but it was clear SS just wanted someone to talk to! Like a Noble Lady may be friendly with her handmaiden, but said handmaiden is still a servant at the end of the day, someone she'll feel bad to lose, but otherwise, nothing she'll be too heartbroken about! Hell her pet poodle dying will have more feels from her then "the help!")
The only bitter hag I see is OP's mum.She is the one that will end up alone, and when she tries to reach OP for help, all she'll get is _TOOT.TOOT.TOOT._
Wow, never been this early! I've heard the first story before. And I'm constantly amazed by the mental gymnastics of the mother. She's enraged that OP is dating her current boyfriend, who has never dated the SS. And she needs to break up with him. But, it's perfectly acceptable for the SS to marry her former fiance who cheated on OP, possibly WITH SS.
Yes xD someone who gains their self worth invalidation from leading people on and then rejecting them. He's a POS who deserves to get the same treatment
I'm gritting my teeth enraged reading 1st story. Her mother... Her own mother could do this to her daughter. Oh gosh. Like op is nothing to her. Moving to another city is the best choice. NC with all of them. Pity op
Maybe the OP should remain in contact with selected members of her extended family. I got the impression that it was the mother, step-father and step-sister being concerned that members of the extended family were concerned on OP's behalf.
Though, until the stepsis discovered that OP was dating the guy she liked, I would have suggested that OP go to the wedding only if her bf agreed to go as her plus 1.
Story 2: OOOOOOOOO....I did that to a guy who had a rep for being a player. I've always thought more like a man than a woman, so when he asked me out, I already had an idea of how things would go. So, I went out with him a few times, eventually bedded him, then kicked him out when we were done so I could get some sleep (the look of surprise on his face when I told him to go home instead of asking him to stay the night (like the others apparently did) was truly priceless). In short, I treated him EXACTLY like he'd treated every other girl he'd dated. My indifference and dismissal of him, actually led this guy to start pursuing me. He sent me flowers, chocolates, asked me to concerts, followed me around school (high school) and ignored the other girls around him. Too bad for him I didn't care. I knew that he was only interested because I'd thrown him for a loop and if I'd given in, we'd have dated, he'd get bored and go right back to his old habits. Besides, our encounter hadn't been that........noteworthy.
@@ravenfox926 is that man or women thinking? See, I can't seem to keep it straight. Tell me oh wise seperater of gender thoughts, what gender is pure panic for my missing pet? Or the impulse to distroy the person who lost him? Is that a guy thought, since it isn't about hair and nails? What is your friend group like? Do the talk about 'all girls' while you laught and pat yourself on the back for being 'not like other girls' because putting everyone else into boxes makes you feel special? Find better friends.
@@fleurpouvior2967 Gender is irrelevant. I base my reactions on the individual and their specific attitude, personality and mindset. I observed, speculated and treated him based on all that. I'd have done the same if he'd been female.
If it was me I'd have answered Exes phone call, then politely explained why step sis was so angry. I find the best revenge is just to live your life and let the evil ones set themselves on fire. Telling him step sis was still in love with her crush (which I doubt, it feels more like obsession and if she can't have him nobody can) then let him decide if he still wants to go through with the wedding. A truthful word can often be more damaging than a lie, as a lie can be disproved.
"Is it to do with you not having a plus 1?" "No stepsister, it's because he cheated on me and I don't want him in my life. You marrying him is bringing him back into my life and I want nothing to do with your wedding". I can't believe stepsister is that dense that she can't at least figure out why op does not want to attend her wedding. Edit: she's even more dense than I initially thought if other family have already gotten on her case for dating and marrying ops ex and she still doesn't get it.
Story 1: I'd email the mom the following: "Hi, Mom. I received your email in which you paint me as some homewrecker and a witch. I don't care what you call me as you were always more interested in my stepdad and stepsister's happiness than my own. That is your choice and I can't change that. I can, however, change our situation. You want to cut contact with me? I'm fine with that. I'm not going to break up with CB just to appease to my stepsister's ego yet again. Both them and my ex can get married for all I care. I will not break with CB, I'll not attend the wedding and I don't care about yours or stepdad's opinion on this matter. I hope that one day, you will get over yourself and realise that you lost your own bio daughter to appease to others. Hope it was worth it. OP" I'm sending this just to spite her more. The whole family is toxic and OP should cut them off because nothing good will happen if they stay in her life.
Yeah...not gonna lie, I doubt that the SS and ex only started dating after six months of the breakup. Then again, I'm the kind of sibling that if someone cheats on my sibling that person better not show their cheating face to me ever again. So... The SS is getting married and she still reaches out to the crush...? Wow...
Story 1 reminds me of a movie from the 80s called "16 candles ". The older spoiled sister planned her wedding on her younger sister's 16th birthday. The parents completely forgot about younger sisters sweet 16. Many parents claim they love all their kids, but it's really NOT true. Many pick the 1 they like and ignore the rest. 🤔
Op needs to contact the other family members that don’t like what ss is doing and make sure they get the true story instead of whatever yarn of innocence that mother and ss are weaving !
All women should take a page out of OP 2s book: these egotistical Fbois wanna consider all their ‘options’ but can’t stand be considered only an option themselves. OP2 is a queen
Story 1. Don't negotiate with terrorists, especially when extended family have your back. As someone who doesn't have a great relationship with my own mom (she favored other siblings and didn't have time for me growing up-this continues on though today as an adult). Kudos to you for making an attempt to address it. All you could do was try, accept you can't fix it. Their actions are on them. Go on with your life and enjoy it. Sounds like you have a good one w/your current man.. Story 2-I laughed and laughed. Good for OP!
Dude it drives me nuts when people on Reddit defend the bridezillas. Saying all women behave like that when they're planning a wedding.Normal rational women don't suddenly turn into irrational bridezillas when they start planning the wedding. They were ALWAYS like that and have just managed to hide it long enough to get engaged. Just because you're stressed out that doesn't give you the right to scream and take out your anger on other people. In fact if the woman you're going to marry starts acting like a bridezilla RUN! RUN FAR AWAY. Because if she acts irrationally entitled and takes out the stress and anger on other people that is how she will act under ALL stress. And you better believe you're the one who is going to bear the brunt of her irrational anger for years if you marry her. It's far better to cancel a wedding than have to go through a messy divorce.
I am shocked at how many times a sibling hooks up with a sibling’s partner.used to be a code. No getting with sibs, friend’s partners or Exes.I can’t imagine how awful these people are to get with step sister’s partner. What to do? Forget them.
Story one. Never understood why the toxic family is in denial. Everyone has been chewing out stepsis for her decision and she is still going through with it. I wouldn’t be surprised if she gets cheated on.
So....in a nutshell........stepsis (most likely) stole OP'S fiance, got engaged to him herself, demands OP be a bridesmaid in order to stop the hate on her and ex.....gets OP'S mom to force the issue......goes uninvited to OP'S home to further pressure her... then, when she sees HER high school crush in OP'S house and realizes their now together........she throws a jealous tantrum.....and in front of the man she's SUPPOSED to marry?! Where does she get off getting mad at OP for this when she literally stole and plans to marry OP'S scumbag ex?
Can you imagine SS trying to explain to her confused fiance what happened at OP's house in a way that maintains her victimhood, but doesn't end her current relationship 😆. I wonder if ex has enough self awareness to see the hypocrisy or not.
The problem is that you that have to assume that sis was the one whom the ex cheated with. Don't you think OP would mention that if it happened? All we have is that step sister picked up on OPs ex. That is it, OP has no valid complaint.
@@meiimacca4054 Correct, neither of these jackasses have any cause to be angry at each other. Further the original letter is from OP having mommy issues. I am stumped by this outpouring of sympathy for OP and her envy but damning the sister for the same thing.
Oh there’s plenty to say about the mother, but not enough time. As for SS, she clearly doesn’t love her fiancé, but I believe at this point that she was his cheating partner when he was with OP. She knew who he was and what he did and still got together with him. She knew how bad this was because the extended family was rightfully disgusted with her, so she tried to make OP be part of the wedding and “move on”. And she’s still DMing a guy whom she had a crush on back in high school and got upset because OP was “betraying her” all the while still trying to convince OP to “move on” for the security of her marriage.
@@Snipergoat1 I have to ask. Are you OPs toxic asshole mom. Because OP clearly has a reason to be pissed about being expected to be supportive of SS marrying her cheating ex and expecting her to attend the wedding. I am not going to the wedding of someone who cheated on me. And I am also not going to go to the wedding of a family member or friend who is marrying a person who they know is a cheater, because it is a waste of a wedding gift. OP decided that she just didn't want to be a part of a marriage that is already doomed. Her decision was to not attend. OP did not demand her SS not marry the cheater, she did not tell any of the family that if they went to the wedding she would cut them out of her life. She just said, I will not be attending. OP does not owe anyone her going to a wedding she has no desire to go to. And I can say this too. OP also could have, and being the bitch I am probably should have told her family yes I will come and I have a plus one. Than showed up to SS wedding with her current boyfriend on her arm. (Although she would owe it to him to give him a heads up on what kind of shit they would be causing). Now that would have been wonderful as far as I am concerned. But OP was decent enough to tell her mom (who is the biggest piece of shit I havp ever heard of) that part of the reason she will not attend is that her current BF is the guy her SS had a crush on. The idea that her mom went ballistic and demanded her to break up with him and threatened OP that it will be her life mission to break them up actually tells me everything I need to know about Why OP doesn't want to play happy family. OP and her CBF are the only decent people in this story. Joe--you are a toxic major asshole, so if you are not the mom, or the step sister you are the stupidest, most clueless, troll that ever posted a comment on this reddit.
I think if I was CB and I received that message, I would've shot back with something. Maybe something like "What exactly happened to your conscience? Did it just get permanently overridden by your sense of self-preservation... or was it ever even there in the first place? You may want to take a moment and consider how your one _actual_ daughter will remember you when you're gone."
OP's sister: "how could you do this to me?!?" Um, your crush is no longer an option since YOURE GETTING MARRIED, you NEVER tried to date him anyway so...
So SS can marry the guy that cheated on OP, but of course OP cannot even be with the guy SS had a crush on in high school and never dated (ESPECIALLY NOW THAT SS IS GETTING MARRIED). The hypocrisy of the mother and the SS is astonishing
I don't know, man. I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my days getting my back blown out by the same guy that was playing genital peekaboo with my sister. Keeping it in the family doesn't need to apply for every scenario.
I hope she gets a restraining order and never talks to them again. Honesty, I'd sue them for libel & defamation. I hope they get married and have beautifil kids, while the stepsister is getting cheated on and being infertile. So no grandkids for the birthgiver
Pretty ironic that the OP in story one needs to move on after her ex cheats on her then hooks up with/gets engaged to her stepsister, but the stepsister is allowed to wallow in her unrequited love for a crush for years and the OP is not allowed to date him even though stepsister is getting married soon! Does the ex know that his fiancé is still pining for a guy who isn’t him?
The ex seems to have found out when he and the step-sister dropped in to OP and they found the OP's current boyfriend. The OP was correct, in my opinion, to block him after that incident, but part of me wonders what he would have said or asked if she hadn't have blocked him.
Very cool mom to sit there fuming when your blood daughter is opening her heart and explaining all the wayS she’s been a bad mom but the ONLY thing she seemed to hear was something that could upset her STEP-daughter. “I don’t want to go public with my relationship right now.” “OH MY GOD HOW CAN YOU BE DATING THIS GUY KNOWING IT WILL HURT MY PRECIOUS STEP-DAUGHTER?” “Uh- what?” That mom is mental.
Definitely. Sounds like she's doing anything to keep her husband, even if it means shitting on her bio daughter. I hope OP stays resolute in no contact with that toxicity and moves away with CB.
Story 1: My advice, ask to meet somewhere public, the more family the better. And UNLOAD ON HER. Every harsh word you have for her, every grievance, every insult. And after your done look her straight in the eye and say “Get over the hurt” and walk away.
Had heard the first half of 1st story before, but never the update. Thank you so much LG, so nice to get to hear how it ended. I think stepsister clearly lacks something in the logic department. She sees nothing wrong in her dating OP's ex bf, but throws the toys out of the pram because OP is now dating someone she's simply had/has a onesided crush on.
She's some sort of emotional monster. Can't tell of sociopath, stalker, jealous, some kind of projection, but she wants the men that desire OP. She never liked OP's exbf, she took him because she wanted to have what OP had. She probably hit on OP's new fiancee because she knew he liked OP. Step sis sounds like she wants to be OP.
I honestly really wished OP in the first story would've just 'complied' with the request and brought her new boyfriend as her plus one. Sure it would've been a little spiteful, but SS would've thrown an absolute fit and OP could've pretended not to have known. With the amount of people that already gave SS crap about it, they would likely not be taking her side and the cheating ex may have left SS at the altar when he realizes she still has feelings for the other guy. I would've made sure to bring popcorn though, because the level of drama I would've expected to follow over that would require popcorn to watch. XD
Step sis is dating her ex; started dating him after they broke up. It's not as if she started having an affair with him while they were dating. If he's a cheater, he'll eventually cheat on step sis. That's when I'd look at step sis and just say karma
Story 1: So OP respected stepsister rejected the crush back in high school. Stepsister seduced the ex after the cheating scandal. That respect went flying out the window the moment stepsister betrayed her. I'm glad OP and current boyfriend are happy together and leaving all that toxicity behind. Also, the guy never really knew stepsister!!! Why would he care about her when she was basically his stalker?
The entire foundation of the stepsister's relationship with her sister's ex-boyfriend hinged on "taking" something away from OP. It was probably why she freaked out when she realized that not only is her sister moving on from her old leftovers, but it's with the same guy who rejected her lmao
I think if I was her, I'd show up with current boyfriend and have him mention in front of people "I'm surprised she's getting married since she's constantly texting me for dick appointments. But I guess they have an open relationship." Then SS freaking out about it will cause the cheater ex to get paranoid and let cheaters guilt ruin the rest of it.
If sister thinks OP's ex won't cheat on her she has another thing coming. Also love the hypocricy of her asking OP how she could do this to her when she didn't even date CB but what she did do was get with Op's ex. So it's okay for her to date someone who wronged OP but OP can't date someone she didn't even date? Did mother dearest think that OP wouldn't show CB the email.? How much you wanna bet SS is going to try to get with CB even harder now and will become a part of mommy dearests plot of breaking them up. All while staying with OP's ex. I wonder what Op's mom thought when CB deleted his social media.
#1 - OP should go to the wedding. And make a speech. And wear a knockout dress. Even if you go alone. Make her, and everyone, regret her being invited.
The best thing that can happen is for OP to go NC with her mom and stepsister. If the younger half-sisters want to get in touch later, she can take that as it comes.
I still don't understand why people get with people they KNOW cheated on someone before. Worse yet, he cheated on a family member. Does she not know that if he's willing to cheat on OP, he's willing to cheat on her too?
I will never understand parents who keep one child as a whipping boy. Sibling A did bad on a test? Whipping boy gets in trouble because WB should have tutored Sibling A or found some way to take the test FOR Sibling A, who cares if WB gets in trouble. That’s the ACTUAL definition: a person who is blamed or punished for the faults or incompetence of others. I feel horrible for WB children. I daydream sometimes about ways to help. Breaks my, to small for my chest, heart. 💔
so OP's mother goes mental about OP's boyfriend is stepsister's crush. who was never with stepsister. but OP is supposed to be fine with StepSister marrying her ex-fiance. that makes so much sense.
I'd maliciously comply on story no.1. Bring the boyfriend, wear a red dress and choose violence for the day. If I'm going to be the asshole, I'm going to be the ultimate Bond villain in this story.
If i was op i would send a Group message Out stating what happened in the past and that your egg donor has always picked her golden child step. Daughter over you, you went no contact for a while. You decided to give her one last chance and invite her to your wedding. She came up with because she couldn't be asked to come. Therefore, I have come to the decision for my own mental health. That my egg donor will not be in my life. I do not want to hear anything about my egg donor. She is blocked from my life. If my egg donor tries to get in contact, she will be reported to the police for stalking and harassment. Anyone attempting to aid her in? Finding out information about me will be blocked. And given a restraining order, my mental health comes first after years of mental abuse from this woman.
I personally would have put on the sexyest little black dress I could find, i am talking borderline inappropriate. Dress boyfriend up in a well fitted suit, and go to the wedding like a boss. Then be the most gracious and classy guest anyone has ever seen. This will absolutely boil your sister, the best revenge is to live well.
I would have gone to a dress salon and told them I wanted a dress to wear to my stepsisters and ex fiance's wedding. BF is optional, but having him show for the dancing would be perfect.
@@lorifiedler13 No, because it would turn the narrative in favor of stepsis. By showing up unannounced with CB, stepsis would have lost it. I would have purchase so many photos or her crying.
Sound like the description of the "revenge" dress worn by Diana, Princess of Wales. Her husband had a television interview planned, where he admitted his adultery and trying for some sympathy. But the next day, the press was more interested in her dress than his interview.
I would have been tempted to attend the wedding with my current boyfriend just to see her face. Petty? Yes! Satisfactory? No doubt! I hope OP’s mom, sister-in-law and ex- boyfriend have a wonderful life! (stated with voice dripping with sarcasm).They deserve each other!
Because I'm PAF, I would go on a romantic getaway with boyfriend, take plenty of pictures, post them on Facebook, tag her in everyone, then put "Bet you wish you were here!"
I would absolutely go as a guest and bring my boyfriend who SS has apparently had a huge crush on, and be extremely romantic with him throughout the entire wedding.
So the step sister steals your boyfriend and you don't want to attend the wedding but you're the ahole?! I don't blame you for not going and that fact your own mother is taking everyones side but not yours. I would limit the time you spend with them as they are not worth the energy. Going just helps them look less aholish.
Wait…..So according to OP’s Own MOTHER, it’s perfectly Acceptable & Fine that SS is Marrying OP’s Ex-FIANCÉ and let’s be honest, SS is probably the One he was Cheating On OP With….but it’s NOT Acceptable or Ok that OP is Dating SS’s CRUSH, a Guy she had NO Actual Relationship With & who Never Reciprocated Her Feelings??!! WHAT??!!! Mom is a Pathetic Excuse For a Mother!!! The Favoritism is so Blatant, I’m absolutely Astonished & incredibly Pissed Off on OP’s Behalf!!! That Whole Family is Toxic AF!! She needs to just DROP THEM! Wow..Just WOW 😮
Clear to say mom saw too much of her former husband (rip) in OP of the first story and just didn’t want to be reminded of him maybe? Maybe she held some resentment for OP’s dad leaving their lives so soon? Doesn’t excuse her actions one bit, but maybe there was also some deeper resentment behind the scenes? Clearly as stated by OP, mother wanted nothing to do with her previous life and threw OP under the bus in the process. Really hope OP found her one in her sister’s old crush cause even if OP doesn’t view it like that, she still took the best revenge possible by coming out with the better partner for her.
The first story would seem unbelievable to those who've never endured narcissistic abuse. But sadly, it hits home to those of us who have. 2. A lot of players like to get women to chase them. I briefly dated a serial cheater (just for the sex, which ended up being terrible anyway). He kept leading on his ex's, inviting them to parties, letting them fight over him.
I really liked ALL the stories today Three strong well balanced women. Took no manipulation from anyone. Congrats to all deepest sympathy to OP of the first story.Good Luck and many many Blessings to ALL!
So the stepsister is marrying the OP's cheating ex and is losing her mind because OP is now dating her unrequited crush? That is so pitiful that it's funny.😂
Exactly!
Best part is that the trash threw itself out when mom decided to cut OP from family 😁 oh the irony!
stepsis still love the dude and is marrying a cheater lol
I think what this is really all about is that mother hates the OP for whatever reason, has replaced her with SS and the only point of all this is to humiliate the OP by condoning the marriage of SS to cheating ex bf while forcing the OP to attend, smiling bravely with some date that they had to arrange for her, which they probably see as even more pitiful than no date at all. The OP is smart to avoid all of the drama all together but if she really wanted to be vindictive she and current bf could arrange to have the ex bf catch SS in her crush's arms. Good thing OP isn't vindictive.
This really, really sounds like a bad FanFiction or soap opera. Good gosh, what is going on inside that stepsister's puddle of an already melted brain?🤦♀️
@@brunaschroeder7517 I don't think he is going to marry her. I believe step sis lied and trapped OP's exbf. Lied that she had someone else, and offered herself. I don't excuse him, I just think he was manipulated too. He thought step sis loved him, she just wants to see OP miserable and alone.
Step sister: I am gonna marry your ex
Also step sister: how dare you date my crush.
Mom: you need to support your step sister marrying your ex
Also mom how dare you date your step sister's old love
the hypocrisy is strong in this family
I said it before, I say it again: There is obviously something wrong with that crazy SS. I bet she had a crush on that guy because she could tell he liked OP and never stopped. And then she got hold of OPs (cheating!) ex the moment she gets a chance. If that's not pathological, I don't know what is. She wants no men to like OP and leave her miserable for some reason and that nauseating "mother" makes OP bend backwards for her and the other family and treats her like she hasn't the right to have feelings and support. I want to puke.
@@nela3986 Whatever crazy SS has, she inherited it from the mom.
And those two aren't even related
Exactly 😂 the stepsister dating op's ex is fine but op dating someone the ss had a crush on, not even a relationship is betrayal? What type of a family is that full of id1ots
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
First story: The entitlement and blatant hypocrisy of both the mother and step sister is what shocked me the most in this story. How can people be so unaware of them selves??!
Because they're stupid people. I have learned it takes stupidity to do this kind of stuff. If they were smart, this would never have been a problem in the first place. It wouldn't have even been a story on Reddit.
Funny it went from "please show up so we can pretend we're a family with no issues" to "we'll cutting you off for doing what your step sister did first", and it was not even on the same level of what step-sis did first.
Because they don't see OP eye to eye.
She is a doormat for them, obviously. Her feelings don't matter and it's her who has to bend backwards to make them happy. Nasty sh*ts.
It's like OP said in her update, her mom wanted to move on and op was sort of a hold-over from her first marriage. Sometimes, when one partner loses the other, they put all their energy and attention into their new family and SO while neglecting anything from their first marriage, most often the kids. That's how you get situations like this, where OP stepsister is given more favor and attention than she did after the marriage. This isn't the first time something like this has happened and it sadly won't be the last. I just hope, if there is a Heaven and Hell, that OP's mom is denied entry and is told exactly why before she gets tossed into the pits of Hell.
You would be surprised but some people really cannot see beyond a certain radius, they're "too important" to see anything other than themselves.
"How could you do this to me?!" Do what? She's engaged. She's about to get married. If she still has feelings for an old crush to the point where she thinks OP dating him is a personal attack on her, she is not ready to get married. I hope SS's and incubator's relationships implode and I hope OP lives happily ever after.
Yeah, that's the only thing I never got an answer about SS. She claims that she's marrying her true love (OP's ex-bf) and everyone should grow up, but turns around also going childishly insane after finding out about OP's love life. It left me wondering if OP's ex/stepsister's fiancé knows that his future wife is still madly in love with someone else?
She thinks the world revolves around her.
@@LadyCeag840 He may. Who knows what is going on in these people's heads. I think OP did the right thing blocking the ex; whatever is happening in SS's relationship is SS's fault. Let them handle it. I also want to know why men marry women who are about as emotionally mature as a toddler. How is ex not seeing this as a huge red flag?
@@LadyCeag840 So true! I sure would be devastated knowing that my future fiance is losing her sh*t over an old (and not even reciprocated) crush being spoken for instead of being happy for our future together.
Yeah that's a big old red flag. If you're engaged but you're still in love with a guy you had a crush on in high school you need to get some help. But then again this whole family pretty much needs therapy I am really glad that OP has her new boyfriend who is being emotionally there for her
How much a weak ass trick do you have to be to call your own child a "vindictive hag" because you're just THAT in love with your new husband? How could one so openly recklessly vilify their daughter over the toxic actions of someone she has no real ties other than documents and a shitty ring? That reduces her to nothing but a warm hole to me as she is no mother. OPs new BF sounds like a keeper though; he was persistent, yet respectful. Also, the fact that he wants to remove OP from the toxicity gives me good feelings about their future together.
@BeeDubyah Gurl, you had me at "weak ass trick" 🤣😂🤣💯🤣😂🤣💯🤣😂🤣
@@berylwheaten9385 TH-cam wouldn't let me say what I really wanted to lol I'm honestly surprised I got away with that lol knock on wood
@@Bijecarli let's knock on wood together 🤣😂🤣
At 63 years old, I am learning so many new phrases by following this channel. Thank you for the education!(Writes "weak ass trick" in " new phrase notebook")
@@lyndatuttle my new you tube phrase is weasel words instead of gaslighting
That mom in the first story is worst than the stepsister. For her to tell her OWN DAUGHTER that she would make it her mission to ruin her relationship is disturbing. Like how much do you have to hate your own kid to side with the people who betrayed her then try everything to ruin her life because she upset your golden step child?
She probably had the kid in the first place as a meal ticket or to trap OP's bio father. She failed, so OP is of no use to her now.
I have a feeling that she doesn’t even really care about step-daughter she only cares that if she is unhappy then husband is unhappy and he is her meal ticket. She doesn’t care about people just the optics and what it can get her. People are just pawns and only have value if they can do something for her or make her look good to others.
If i were OP i would screenshot and send every piece of abusive message to a lawyer, have the lawyer craft a cease and desist and send that plus all the evidence to her Step Father (don't even warn him beforehand and just do it randomly so he gets the shock of his life) with a message of something along the lines of "You need to do a better job of keeping your wife and daughter in line" and then inform everyone else in the family who is attending the wedding (including the Ex BF and her mom and step sister and step father) about what is going on in one massive group email with all the appropriate information. I know, I know, probably won't happen But then again I guess i'm just petty like that.
I love the pettiness! @@Toonwalla2010
I’m convinced that the ex was cheating with the step sister. That said, op should cut them off and go to therapy if she’s able and surround herself with her friends and the family who does support her
Like the fact the mom wants op to get over the ss cheating with and getting OPs ex but op is horrible for dating a guy who had no interest in her, that she never dated?
The ex was cheating with the step sister, and the step sister is not over the new boyfriend. The marriage is doomed from the start :D
OP didn't make that clear.
@@maheenahmed6653
This was because mom knew it would hurt and tick off ss and she didn't want it to possibly cause hubby to divorce her over her daughter hurting his daughter.
@@pollypockets508
Friends of OP had pointed out to her they wondered if the person he had cheated on her with was ss. It really was. This reading left off half of the story/updates.
Step-sister: Yes, I'm dating your ex, but you honestly need to get over it, come to my wedding, and be happy for me.
Also step-sister: How could you get with the guy I STILL have a crush on even while I'm getting married???
@@fanfictiondreamer7836 She is STILL into this guy! Maybe she was hoping to wear him down and have him as a back-up because she doesn’t really want OP’s ex and the CB is the real prize here?
*Yes I cheated with your ex
I don't believe for one second that they didn't cheat
It's about taking guys that have interest in OP, not loving them herself.
@@Bleg94 Seems to be fairly fast work if they didn't cheat.
@@NickM_FirstofHisName yep, stepsister loves taking things from op
Story 1: The double standards are strong in this one. “Your sister is marrying your ex who cheated on you but you should move on and give them your blessing”, also “How dare you date your sister’s old crush?”.
OP's family is a real dumpster fire! Mom has turned into a giant bootlicking simp for her new husband, and step-sister has some nerve acting like she's the betrayed one! EFF the lot of them. I hope OP blocked them everywhere and moved on to live her best life. When mom inevitably reaches out to demand help from OP, attend her wedding, see her kids, whatever, I hope OP tells her exactly where, and how hard, she can shove it!
Stepsister is also being ridiculous in the fact that she has a fiance yet she still feels entitled to have another man. I just know she will cheat on him once they are married since she is this entitled.
@@JohnnyDominion What about OP thinking that she has some say over the relationship of her ex and her stepsister? She has none. What she has is mommy issues and a need to grow the fuck up.
@@Snipergoat1 she doesn't give a crap about their relationship anymore and hasn't. Did you not listen to the whole damn story? She never demanded they break up she never told them they couldn't get married. OP was betrayed by her step sister she was betrayed by not only her step sister but her Mother as well. Where the hell, in that story, did you hear OP demand any say in their relationship? Give us a time stamp. What good siblings would be ok with dating their siblings cheater ex? Barely 5 months after the breakup? Who would be that cold as to force their sibling to interact with someone who betrayed and destroyed them like that? And what good mother wouldn't stand up for her child and comfort them or validate their pain? The ONLY person who believed they had ANY right to demand anything of anyone's relationship was OP's mother. Who very literally demanded OP break up with her boyfriend. Tried to forbid her from staying with her boyfriend. Even went so far as to threaten her to make it a priority to break them up. Funny how they think OP, who waited 5 years, betrayed to step sister for dating a guy she used to have a crush on, that she NEVER dated. Yet in the same breath say it's perfectly exceptable for stepsister to date OP's ex FÍANCE not even 5 months not their breakup? Maybe you should go back and listen again and pay attention this time. I promise it's free.
What I love is that OP didn't have to go to the wedding to have stepsister discover she was with ss crush. I wonder if ss is still going through with the wedding? I wonder if OP's ex will ever discover he is a poor substitute for OP's boyfriend?
@@lyndatuttle Bingo,thats exactly what this boils down to,SS wants whatever OP has and if she has to cheat behind OP back to get it,she will....OP ex is just another person for SS to hurt on her way of having everything OP had/s,I am glad CB isn't fooled by SS and OP family
Put aside the question of step-sis betraying OP for a second. Where's the family concern that step-sis is getting married to someone they KNOW cheated on his last fiance?
Ahh, this family -- failing the golden child step sis just as bad as they're failing OP.
It's because everyone wants to think they're the exception kind of like "that won't happen to me I'm different because X/Y/Z"
The mother has thought of her own daughter as an inconvenience and of course something bad as cheating will happen to the inconvenience child but oh the so brilliant pretty child with the new and shiny stepfather is special because she isn't an inconvenience she will have the happy ever after with whoever she wants.
The stepsister thinks she is special because she was made to believe she was better than her sister and "winning" the boyfriend of the OP proves she is better and of course he wouldn't cheat on her but how many stories do we see of affair partners getting their hearts broken because they get cheated on by the person they cheated with
Step-sis is also betraying her fiance (ex-BF) by cntinuing to text and DM CB.
@@davidransom4476 oh don't doubt that a bit, i think she might be a cheater too
I agree and was thinking exactly this as I listened.
@@yunuenhagane3495 There is an old saying. "When you marry the mistress you create a vacancy" which means once a cheater always a cheater. They are addicted to the thrill of the secrecy and once that goes they get bored and start looking round for a new person to sneak around with
I love how fragile the relationship of the Stepsister was and it proves that the success of her relationship depends on her having taken something from her sister, maybe Op is more beautiful or attractive than her and when she won she needed the Op's distress to make herself feel good and this gave it's worth to her relationship (this by telling Op in person she was dating and getting married in person) so when she found out she really didn't won, op is dating the guy she is still trying to get with while having a fiance, then Op winning in her eyes takes the whole worth of her relationship and now she doesn't want it anymore and the exbf notices she doesn't like him anymore and is finding out she would cheat on him in a heartbeat, thinking she hasn't cheated on him or him cheated on her too, so now he is hurt and is acting as the victim
I hadn't thought of that. Perhaps she became interested in OP's current boyfriend because she realized they had a good relationship and perhaps OP was interested in him (but OP hadn't realized because of her loyalty to her ss).
@@heraclito3114 maybe but i think when you think you're better than someone and you don't have something they have then she thinks it's unfair
Oh, common. There is obviously something wrong with that crazy SS. I bet she had a crush on that guy because she could tell he liked OP and never stopped. And then she got hold of OPs (cheating!) ex the moment she gets a chance. If that's not pathological, I don't know what is. She wants no men to like OP and leave her miserable for some reason and that nauseating "mother" makes OP bend backwards for her and the other family. I want to puke.
@@nela3986 The mother is indeed disgusting!
This is what happens when you spoil your step daughter to appease your husband.
SS feels like she's entitled to anything she wants, because she was shown that she can.
OP on the other hand was a tag along, because mom wanted "a new start" and couldn't have it with daughter from previous marriage. What a poor excuse of a mom op's parent is :|
OP's stepsister has a lot of nerve for being jealous of her for her current relationship. CB was never interested in SS and she is marrying another man. She can't have it both ways. SS is wrong (& the AH) for trying to control the life of a man she's not involved with. Good Luck to OP.
I'm 95% sure that it's a race at this point. Who will cheat first, the husband or the wife? place your bets!
Yeah she is marrying ex so she shouldn't be throwing tantrum like that about another guy.
There is obviously something wrong with that crazy SS. I bet she had a crush on that guy because she could tell he liked OP and never stopped. And then she got hold of OPs (cheating!) ex the moment she gets a chance. If that's not pathological, I don't know what is. She wants no men to like OP and leave her miserable for some reason and that nauseating "mother" makes OP bend backwards for her and the other family. I want to puke.
Step sis just wants the men that want OP. It's a competition, that's it. She probably don't even love those guys.
Last story: he was using pick-up artist techniques to keep you chasing him. It backfired. He wanted you to get upset and fight for him, he wanted to present himself as an alpha male, and when you agreed to his “terms”, you shocked him. You handled this perfectly.
that's what i was thinking. it sounded like him trying to "undervalue" her (or w/e slimey terminology they use for their slimey ways) in order to put himself above her and thus be "more desirable"
I don't understand why ppl have need to play this sort of games.
OP handled this like a pro :D awesome revenge!
🤣. He has been reading too much of those stupid books on how to keep a woman running after you......he thinks he is alpha. OP did a Xena Warrior Princess move on his ass.
So he wanted a relationship that was based on his "terms" in which he had all the "power" in the relationship and she had none of it?
So it would be something close to "friends with benefits" under the guise of a "serious" couple relationship without the "responsibility" that comes from the relationship between the couple much less the quality of equal stance between them, rather it would be like you said him wanting to be the "alpha" male and she being the "omega" female or am I perhaps reading to deeply into this and gone completely of the rail?
Either way he tried to play some experienced playboy where a pretty girl would be so deeply in love with him that even if he broke up with her, she would be so infatuated in him that she wouldn't stop "hunting" him for a relationship in which he would simply lead her on a relationship based on his terms rather then the equal terms that one usually would think of between couples!! At least OP not only managed to turn the tables on him in his own game, but also avoid that trap altogether, good for her.
@@damien678I don't think he was playing. I think he 100% meant to make her casual, but when she hit his ego, he tried to do everything to switch her mind. This happened to a friend of mine, she called crying that the guy see was seeing told her they should just be friends while still nked in bed after doing it.
I told her to text him, and she was really happy to know he wanted to be just friends because even if she liked spending time with her, it's exhausting to date a man whom you have to fake orgsms, and that way they can still hang without her needing to act like he was good in bed. It's been 7 months and he's still trying to get her to sleep with him and date him.
Can't think of a story where so many people (Cheating BF, step sis, AH step dad, psychotic mom, possibly the other two sisters) did OP such a favor by showing who they are and taking themselves off the board.
If OP sees this for the gift it is, she has just been saved from a lifetime of what comes with being surrounded by people like these.
Like she's the only one in this family of crazy people who has morals.
The half sisters are still minors who must obey their mom so they really can't be seen as anything good or bad yet.
@@cisio64123 true they are minors, but the mom will surely would poisen the girls brains about op
Yes, the trash took itself out.
Story 1, sounds like things are working out well SS and ex-bf deserve each other and toxic mother has taken herself out, too. CB sounds like a good guy. Love Story 2, too!
OP in that first story should have told them “I don’t negotiate with terrorists” which is what her “family” is being to her.
This wedding is not going to happen. Especially now that the groom finds out she is interested in his ex new boyfriend and sees her reaction first hand.
Honestly, both the step sister and the mom are toxic hypocrites, they are perfect mother and daughter for each other. Op need to move to the moon to stay away form them. Even change names and everything
Sooner or later, step dad will leave mom, and all that sacrificing of op will be for nothing.
The fact that the stepsister is sooooo heated about OP dating an old crush of hers tells me that she doesn't love her current FIANCÉE and is only marrying him/cheated with him as maybe a sick competition against OP. Methinks stepsister is jealous of OP and wants to ruin all of op relationships. Its really sad. Also, why the hell would she marry her fiancee knowing he's a cheater. As the saying goes, "if he cheats WITH you, he will cheat ON you"
I wish op nothing but happiness with her new love and I hope stepsister and mother get their karma.
Yeah, this is what I think too. I doubt she was ever in love with ex. She just saw someone she could take from OP and when Op naturally came to love her supposed crush, that's when she lost it.
@@maubrey2095 She didn't love OP's new fiancee either. She knew he liked OP, that's why she wanted to have him. She wants OP to be miserable.
Dont you just love watching people self destruct their own lives trying to ruin someone elses life. The SS is so vengeful and focused on hating everything her sister has that she's marying a guy her sister dumped. Pathetic people. She probably wont stop until she ends up in jail still blaming the sister for everything. Narcissistics cant be happy unless they are hurting someone
Story2: LMAO! OP played this lying chump like a cheap fiddle! But yeah, she shouldn't waste any more time on this clown. He's not worth it.
It's the classic "Pick me! Pick me!" Dance. So glad OP didn't fall for it. Too many women and men do though.
It amazes me how the SS and mom think OP dating someone who wasn’t ever in any sort of relationship with CB is treasonous, but ignore that what SS did was oh, so much worse.Very hypocritical. “How could you do this to me?” Right back at ‘ya sister. The ovaries on some people astounds me.
Op should just go completely NC and if they "threaten" to cut her off then she should thank them and move in with her new bf and move on with her life, counting her blessings
OP doesn't needs enemies when she has a family like that...
Yes, in Reddit the majority of the time threats are blessings in disguise.
Yeah-- if someone threatens me with being cut off, I say, "Promise?", hang up, and block them.
"Don't threaten me with a good time!"
"Sweet! Now, I don't have to deal with this hot mess!"
I believe mom is playing favorites point blank. If that was me I would go either no contact or get a restraining order against her. She's too damn toxic. OP deserves a better life.
Last story: I would have said, "Oh, thank God you said something! I was trying to figure out how to tell you the sex was...lacking... Yes, we should definitely see other people and casually go our separate ways, great idea! Best of luck!"
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Story 1: The only vindictive hag in this story is the mom. She has a screw loose and obviously doesn't value OP
Story 1: The irony of the mom calling OP a pathetic vindictive hag for "stealing" and hooking up with SS's _crush_ as if SS didn't literally steal Op's _boyfriend_ and is getting married to him is astounding.
Also, if I were the Ex in that situation, I'd be more focused on my fiancee getting butthurt and having a tantrum over her sister dating an old crush than anything else. Like, miss ma'am you took your sister's boyfriend and got _engaged_ to him, you don't get to still have some sort of "claim" on the other guy once you're with someone else. "How could you do this to me" so you can completely wreck a relationship in order to have your way but god forbid your sister date someone who clearly never wanted you or showed interest at any point to begin with?
I'd expose the mother to the family. Show the message and the text.
If I was the ex in that situation, I would think that I chose the wrong one. However, he has blotted his copybook with OP.
That's probably why the ex reached out to OP.
@@RavenKnighthawk That's what I was wondering, too.
That last guy probably paid a lot of money for some stupid dating course that endorsed that behavior. He should request a refund.
🤣 right?! It backfired so beautifully
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Step sister doesn't get a harem. She doesn't get to claim dibs on other guys while about to marry someone else 🤦♀️. If she thinks her reputation is bad now, wait til they find out she wants to take OP's current guy while being engaged to OP's previous guy.
I love story 2. She is the skills champion of passive-agressiveness, and that pathetic weasel is completely out-matched. She's definitely using her super-powers for a well-deserved petty revenge.
She needs to hold classes in this!
The mom is desperate to keep a man to the extent of devaluing her daughter, she set the precedent, mistreating her daughter so much to keep her husband happy & everyone else in the family seems to mistreat OP bcs mom set the tone. It's primarily the moms fault. She probably treated OP badly ever since she remarried & favored the step sis 2 gain stepdads affection even more. I dislike parents that put partners b4 their own kids. Stepsis knew she could get away with it. Mom probably never stood up 4 OP & that's the root of the problem. OPs situation could have possibly been avoided if mom valued & supported her.
The daughter was nothing but a meal plan. Or to handcuff OP's father. When that failed, OP was of no use to her birther.
I have a feeling the OP's step-sister from the first one is the one who's going to end up alone after her fiance finds out exactly why she was so upset about her old crush being there. That is just one massive pile of shit hitting an equally sized fan.
I think he already has his doubts. Wish we got an update!
I think there was an update and the family was doubling down on op because the ex left the sister for being so bent out of shape over a guy she didn't even date.
First op should save all those messages for when her mom tries to reach out in the future so she can remind her of who she is
Or get a r.o.
Story1: So it's okay for your ex to cheat on you, and for your stepsister to marry him and force you to attend the wedding, but it's not okay for you to date someone the stepsister never actually dated? Why is she even getting married if she still feels so strongly for your bf? I feel like it might be for the best to get cut off from this family. Better to have no contact than to have them constantly spewing negativity. And over stuff that THEY did to YOU, no less.
Of course it is! Mom was ALWAYS resentful to OP existance because was "baggage" from a past she wants to forgot! Won't be a surprise that the sisters (younger) can see through their mother's shitty behavior and favoring their elder sister (the stepdaughter) to placate Dad! Stepdad TOLERATES OP and like resents having to take her on, hence making her feel unwelcome, though no one told him to go for a single mother so if he feels that way, he can fuck off! Stepdaughter does NOT get along with OP mother, she tolerates her for the sake of "daddy" and the butt kissing is a plus! But I figure she knows her stepmother is just a asskisser who is quick to betray
She went on hard on OP because you can see from OP update on how her mother reacted that she's pissed OP chose to defy her by "not doing what she's told!" OP learned this was ALL that was expected of her from her rotten Egg Donor! She has to be an "Evil brat that parasited on her" in order to be the victim! But at least one thing is clear, if OP and BF disapper and they can't find them, you can imagine her sweating bullets as Stepdaughter gets more unhinged from losing to OP (in a game OP never played no less. Got to love assholes like Stepsister) that Mom...no "EGG Donor" will be walking on egg shells as Stepsister whines and cries, Stepdad gives Egg Donor "the look of displeasure" that her "daughter" made his "cry" and she's doing nothing! and she doesn't know what to do since OP and BF are out of sight and reach as she calls OP every name in the book to placate them. Only this time, it's not going to work. As long as Stepsister is acting as she is because OP is living happily with her "crush" (that she never got over) Egg Donor will never have peace, no surprise if Stepdad starts avoiding her to express his "support for his little brat" by not laying with the mother of "the girl who's bullying her" (cause you know, enabling spineless father) and Egg Donor inwardly wishes she "Aborted" OP as she doubles down in her own mind that nothing is her fault, it's all OP for not doing as she's told!)
As I said, hope the younger sisters dump the three loonies and reconnect with OP some day! That would be the ULTIMATE defeat as I'm sure stepsister is HORRIBLE to them that they register OP as their ONLY older sister and see Mom and dad are doing nothing to control her! And for Ex, well he made his bed, he can sleep in it!
The tantrum that SS had, and the fact that the SS thinks that OP got with her (unrequited) crush, just to spite her...shows the reality of SS and Ex's relationship, freaking weak and that marriage won't last at all
Exactly, they got together out of spite for OP and now that OP is moving on and happy they have nothing over her.
The mom thinking OP deliberately let ss know about the relationship like that is so crazy when OP didn’t even know they would be coming over.
The cheating exbf is just a pawn in the step sis scheme. He thought he was loved, he was probably even conned into believing OP cheated by step sis...now he realizes she doesn't even love him.
@@ditzyhere3138 Mom is projecting! It just shows the indifference OP felt from her growing up was true and she never cared for her beyond "if she never became an inconvenient to her!" Mom can't stand that OP isn't listening to her anymore (Read: Doing as she's told, which is to be SS Punching bag to feel better about herself! IT was good when the two were close, but it was clear SS just wanted someone to talk to! Like a Noble Lady may be friendly with her handmaiden, but said handmaiden is still a servant at the end of the day, someone she'll feel bad to lose, but otherwise, nothing she'll be too heartbroken about! Hell her pet poodle dying will have more feels from her then "the help!")
The only bitter hag I see is OP's mum.She is the one that will end up alone, and when she tries to reach OP for help, all she'll get is _TOOT.TOOT.TOOT._
Story 2 makes my insides smile. He thought he could have you on a leash chasing him and pulled that dream from him and now he’s confused. Love it all
Wow, never been this early!
I've heard the first story before. And I'm constantly amazed by the mental gymnastics of the mother. She's enraged that OP is dating her current boyfriend, who has never dated the SS. And she needs to break up with him.
But, it's perfectly acceptable for the SS to marry her former fiance who cheated on OP, possibly WITH SS.
I think we've all dated someone like the guy in the last story. That was beautifully handled.
Yes xD someone who gains their self worth invalidation from leading people on and then rejecting them. He's a POS who deserves to get the same treatment
I'm gritting my teeth enraged reading 1st story. Her mother... Her own mother could do this to her daughter. Oh gosh. Like op is nothing to her. Moving to another city is the best choice. NC with all of them. Pity op
Maybe the OP should remain in contact with selected members of her extended family. I got the impression that it was the mother, step-father and step-sister being concerned that members of the extended family were concerned on OP's behalf.
Don't go to the wedding if you don't bless the marriage.
How else can you publicly object to your beloved step-sister marrying a known cheater while also clearly being in love with another man?
Though, until the stepsis discovered that OP was dating the guy she liked, I would have suggested that OP go to the wedding only if her bf agreed to go as her plus 1.
Story 2: OOOOOOOOO....I did that to a guy who had a rep for being a player.
I've always thought more like a man than a woman, so when he asked me out, I already had an idea of how things would go.
So, I went out with him a few times, eventually bedded him, then kicked him out when we were done so I could get some sleep (the look of surprise on his face when I told him to go home instead of asking him to stay the night (like the others apparently did) was truly priceless).
In short, I treated him EXACTLY like he'd treated every other girl he'd dated.
My indifference and dismissal of him, actually led this guy to start pursuing me. He sent me flowers, chocolates, asked me to concerts, followed me around school (high school) and ignored the other girls around him.
Too bad for him I didn't care. I knew that he was only interested because I'd thrown him for a loop and if I'd given in, we'd have dated, he'd get bored and go right back to his old habits.
Besides, our encounter hadn't been that........noteworthy.
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The fact that you think men and women apparently only think one way per gender, makes me assume you don't talk to many people...
@@fleurpouvior2967 Well, you know what they say: "Assumption is the mother of all fuckups".
@@ravenfox926 is that man or women thinking? See, I can't seem to keep it straight. Tell me oh wise seperater of gender thoughts, what gender is pure panic for my missing pet? Or the impulse to distroy the person who lost him? Is that a guy thought, since it isn't about hair and nails?
What is your friend group like? Do the talk about 'all girls' while you laught and pat yourself on the back for being 'not like other girls' because putting everyone else into boxes makes you feel special? Find better friends.
@@fleurpouvior2967 Gender is irrelevant. I base my reactions on the individual and their specific attitude, personality and mindset. I observed, speculated and treated him based on all that. I'd have done the same if he'd been female.
If it was me I'd have answered Exes phone call, then politely explained why step sis was so angry. I find the best revenge is just to live your life and let the evil ones set themselves on fire. Telling him step sis was still in love with her crush (which I doubt, it feels more like obsession and if she can't have him nobody can) then let him decide if he still wants to go through with the wedding. A truthful word can often be more damaging than a lie, as a lie can be disproved.
"Is it to do with you not having a plus 1?" "No stepsister, it's because he cheated on me and I don't want him in my life. You marrying him is bringing him back into my life and I want nothing to do with your wedding". I can't believe stepsister is that dense that she can't at least figure out why op does not want to attend her wedding.
Edit: she's even more dense than I initially thought if other family have already gotten on her case for dating and marrying ops ex and she still doesn't get it.
Story 1: I'd email the mom the following:
"Hi, Mom.
I received your email in which you paint me as some homewrecker and a witch. I don't care what you call me as you were always more interested in my stepdad and stepsister's happiness than my own. That is your choice and I can't change that.
I can, however, change our situation. You want to cut contact with me? I'm fine with that. I'm not going to break up with CB just to appease to my stepsister's ego yet again. Both them and my ex can get married for all I care. I will not break with CB, I'll not attend the wedding and I don't care about yours or stepdad's opinion on this matter.
I hope that one day, you will get over yourself and realise that you lost your own bio daughter to appease to others. Hope it was worth it.
OP"
I'm sending this just to spite her more.
The whole family is toxic and OP should cut them off because nothing good will happen if they stay in her life.
Yeah...not gonna lie, I doubt that the SS and ex only started dating after six months of the breakup. Then again, I'm the kind of sibling that if someone cheats on my sibling that person better not show their cheating face to me ever again. So...
The SS is getting married and she still reaches out to the crush...? Wow...
Story 1 reminds me of a movie from the 80s called "16 candles ". The older spoiled sister planned her wedding on her younger sister's 16th birthday. The parents completely forgot about younger sisters sweet 16. Many parents claim they love all their kids, but it's really NOT true. Many pick the 1 they like and ignore the rest. 🤔
Op needs to contact the other family members that don’t like what ss is doing and make sure they get the true story instead of whatever yarn of innocence that mother and ss are weaving !
All women should take a page out of OP 2s book: these egotistical Fbois wanna consider all their ‘options’ but can’t stand be considered only an option themselves. OP2 is a queen
Story 1. Don't negotiate with terrorists, especially when extended family have your back. As someone who doesn't have a great relationship with my own mom (she favored other siblings and didn't have time for me growing up-this continues on though today as an adult). Kudos to you for making an attempt to address it. All you could do was try, accept you can't fix it. Their actions are on them. Go on with your life and enjoy it. Sounds like you have a good one w/your current man.. Story 2-I laughed and laughed. Good for OP!
Story 1: I would never forgive the mom.
Story 2: Loved how OP handled that situation.
love how she , last story, managed to keep her cool and put on the KICK ASS boots
Hopefully, OP has her dad's side of the family and cut this toxicity out of her life.
Oh a wedding episode, must be a bridezilla episode
Thanks for the stories LG. Have a great day
Dude it drives me nuts when people on Reddit defend the bridezillas. Saying all women behave like that when they're planning a wedding.Normal rational women don't suddenly turn into irrational bridezillas when they start planning the wedding. They were ALWAYS like that and have just managed to hide it long enough to get engaged. Just because you're stressed out that doesn't give you the right to scream and take out your anger on other people. In fact if the woman you're going to marry starts acting like a bridezilla RUN! RUN FAR AWAY. Because if she acts irrationally entitled and takes out the stress and anger on other people that is how she will act under ALL stress. And you better believe you're the one who is going to bear the brunt of her irrational anger for years if you marry her. It's far better to cancel a wedding than have to go through a messy divorce.
I am shocked at how many times a sibling hooks up with a sibling’s partner.used to be a code. No getting with sibs, friend’s partners or Exes.I can’t imagine how awful these people are to get with step sister’s partner. What to do? Forget them.
Story one. Never understood why the toxic family is in denial. Everyone has been chewing out stepsis for her decision and she is still going through with it. I wouldn’t be surprised if she gets cheated on.
So....in a nutshell........stepsis (most likely) stole OP'S fiance, got engaged to him herself, demands OP be a bridesmaid in order to stop the hate on her and ex.....gets OP'S mom to force the issue......goes uninvited to OP'S home to further pressure her... then, when she sees HER high school crush in OP'S house and realizes their now together........she throws a jealous tantrum.....and in front of the man she's SUPPOSED to marry?!
Where does she get off getting mad at OP for this when she literally stole and plans to marry OP'S scumbag ex?
Can you imagine SS trying to explain to her confused fiance what happened at OP's house in a way that maintains her victimhood, but doesn't end her current relationship 😆. I wonder if ex has enough self awareness to see the hypocrisy or not.
@@cloiebuggeater Doubt it since he's marrying her.
The problem is that you that have to assume that sis was the one whom the ex cheated with. Don't you think OP would mention that if it happened? All we have is that step sister picked up on OPs ex. That is it, OP has no valid complaint.
@@Snipergoat1 then her mom nor stepsis has no valid complaint for OP dating who she is either.
@@meiimacca4054 Correct, neither of these jackasses have any cause to be angry at each other. Further the original letter is from OP having mommy issues. I am stumped by this outpouring of sympathy for OP and her envy but damning the sister for the same thing.
Oh there’s plenty to say about the mother, but not enough time. As for SS, she clearly doesn’t love her fiancé, but I believe at this point that she was his cheating partner when he was with OP. She knew who he was and what he did and still got together with him. She knew how bad this was because the extended family was rightfully disgusted with her, so she tried to make OP be part of the wedding and “move on”. And she’s still DMing a guy whom she had a crush on back in high school and got upset because OP was “betraying her” all the while still trying to convince OP to “move on” for the security of her marriage.
Story 1: Gift them a Cease and Desist as a wedding present. With a side of Restraining Order from both of you....
Side note: Did you notice how LG's voice gets deeper when they're angry about the situation in the first story
I did notice!! I thought it was just me! LOL 😹💚😺
Surprising too, OP has no cause to be angry and LG is not usually so fucktardedly wrong.
@@Snipergoat1 I have to ask. Are you OPs toxic asshole mom. Because OP clearly has a reason to be pissed about being expected to be supportive of SS marrying her cheating ex and expecting her to attend the wedding. I am not going to the wedding of someone who cheated on me. And I am also not going to go to the wedding of a family member or friend who is marrying a person who they know is a cheater, because it is a waste of a wedding gift. OP decided that she just didn't want to be a part of a marriage that is already doomed. Her decision was to not attend. OP did not demand her SS not marry the cheater, she did not tell any of the family that if they went to the wedding she would cut them out of her life. She just said, I will not be attending. OP does not owe anyone her going to a wedding she has no desire to go to.
And I can say this too. OP also could have, and being the bitch I am probably should have told her family yes I will come and I have a plus one. Than showed up to SS wedding with her current boyfriend on her arm. (Although she would owe it to him to give him a heads up on what kind of shit they would be causing). Now that would have been wonderful as far as I am concerned. But OP was decent enough to tell her mom (who is the biggest piece of shit I havp ever heard of) that part of the reason she will not attend is that her current BF is the guy her SS had a crush on. The idea that her mom went ballistic and demanded her to break up with him and threatened OP that it will be her life mission to break them up actually tells me everything I need to know about Why OP doesn't want to play happy family. OP and her CBF are the only decent people in this story.
Joe--you are a toxic major asshole, so if you are not the mom, or the step sister you are the stupidest, most clueless, troll that ever posted a comment on this reddit.
I think if I was CB and I received that message, I would've shot back with something. Maybe something like "What exactly happened to your conscience? Did it just get permanently overridden by your sense of self-preservation... or was it ever even there in the first place? You may want to take a moment and consider how your one _actual_ daughter will remember you when you're gone."
OP's sister: "how could you do this to me?!?" Um, your crush is no longer an option since YOURE GETTING MARRIED, you NEVER tried to date him anyway so...
The funny part would be CB sending the texts and DM's of SS to OP's Ex-BF.
MOM LOGICS: dating your ex fiance ( love is love )
Dating your stepsister crush ( you should be ashamed of yourself)
So SS can marry the guy that cheated on OP, but of course OP cannot even be with the guy SS had a crush on in high school and never dated (ESPECIALLY NOW THAT SS IS GETTING MARRIED). The hypocrisy of the mother and the SS is astonishing
I don't know, man. I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my days getting my back blown out by the same guy that was playing genital peekaboo with my sister. Keeping it in the family doesn't need to apply for every scenario.
I hope she gets a restraining order and never talks to them again. Honesty, I'd sue them for libel & defamation. I hope they get married and have beautifil kids, while the stepsister is getting cheated on and being infertile. So no grandkids for the birthgiver
Pretty ironic that the OP in story one needs to move on after her ex cheats on her then hooks up with/gets engaged to her stepsister, but the stepsister is allowed to wallow in her unrequited love for a crush for years and the OP is not allowed to date him even though stepsister is getting married soon!
Does the ex know that his fiancé is still pining for a guy who isn’t him?
The ex seems to have found out when he and the step-sister dropped in to OP and they found the OP's current boyfriend. The OP was correct, in my opinion, to block him after that incident, but part of me wonders what he would have said or asked if she hadn't have blocked him.
@@richardlee653 Yeah, I want an update.
@@NickM_FirstofHisName I’m afraid we can’t have it.
I went to Reddit and I couldn’t find the original post or the OP’s account.
They’re both gone.
First Story: OP needs to make a FB post saying that sister was the one EX cheated with and that Mom and Step-Father knew the whole time
Very cool mom to sit there fuming when your blood daughter is opening her heart and explaining all the wayS she’s been a bad mom but the ONLY thing she seemed to hear was something that could upset her STEP-daughter.
“I don’t want to go public with my relationship right now.”
“OH MY GOD HOW CAN YOU BE DATING THIS GUY KNOWING IT WILL HURT MY PRECIOUS STEP-DAUGHTER?”
“Uh- what?”
That mom is mental.
Definitely. Sounds like she's doing anything to keep her husband, even if it means shitting on her bio daughter.
I hope OP stays resolute in no contact with that toxicity and moves away with CB.
Story 1: My advice, ask to meet somewhere public, the more family the better. And UNLOAD ON HER. Every harsh word you have for her, every grievance, every insult. And after your done look her straight in the eye and say “Get over the hurt” and walk away.
Why does one care about a crush if they're getting married?🤔
BINGO!
Had heard the first half of 1st story before, but never the update. Thank you so much LG, so nice to get to hear how it ended.
I think stepsister clearly lacks something in the logic department. She sees nothing wrong in her dating OP's ex bf, but throws the toys out of the pram because OP is now dating someone she's simply had/has a onesided crush on.
She's some sort of emotional monster. Can't tell of sociopath, stalker, jealous, some kind of projection, but she wants the men that desire OP.
She never liked OP's exbf, she took him because she wanted to have what OP had. She probably hit on OP's new fiancee because she knew he liked OP.
Step sis sounds like she wants to be OP.
It would be interesting to hear whether the step-sister's wedding to the ex was cancelled.
Can you imagine the fit stepsister would have thrown if OP had shown up at wedding with bf? LOL
@@lorifiedler13 It would have been glorious! OP didn't want to be petty, but your mother turning on you, threatening you?
Nah, I'd be vengeful!
I honestly really wished OP in the first story would've just 'complied' with the request and brought her new boyfriend as her plus one.
Sure it would've been a little spiteful, but SS would've thrown an absolute fit and OP could've pretended not to have known. With the amount of people that already gave SS crap about it, they would likely not be taking her side and the cheating ex may have left SS at the altar when he realizes she still has feelings for the other guy.
I would've made sure to bring popcorn though, because the level of drama I would've expected to follow over that would require popcorn to watch. XD
Honestly, I would've done that. Malicious complience, right?
Step sis is dating her ex; started dating him after they broke up. It's not as if she started having an affair with him while they were dating. If he's a cheater, he'll eventually cheat on step sis. That's when I'd look at step sis and just say karma
Story 1: So OP respected stepsister rejected the crush back in high school.
Stepsister seduced the ex after the cheating scandal.
That respect went flying out the window the moment stepsister betrayed her. I'm glad OP and current boyfriend are happy together and leaving all that toxicity behind.
Also, the guy never really knew stepsister!!! Why would he care about her when she was basically his stalker?
The entire foundation of the stepsister's relationship with her sister's ex-boyfriend hinged on "taking" something away from OP. It was probably why she freaked out when she realized that not only is her sister moving on from her old leftovers, but it's with the same guy who rejected her lmao
I think if I was her, I'd show up with current boyfriend and have him mention in front of people "I'm surprised she's getting married since she's constantly texting me for dick appointments. But I guess they have an open relationship."
Then SS freaking out about it will cause the cheater ex to get paranoid and let cheaters guilt ruin the rest of it.
If sister thinks OP's ex won't cheat on her she has another thing coming.
Also love the hypocricy of her asking OP how she could do this to her when she didn't even date CB but what she did do was get with Op's ex. So it's okay for her to date someone who wronged OP but OP can't date someone she didn't even date?
Did mother dearest think that OP wouldn't show CB the email.?
How much you wanna bet SS is going to try to get with CB even harder now and will become a part of mommy dearests plot of breaking them up. All while staying with OP's ex. I wonder what Op's mom thought when CB deleted his social media.
Story 1: Post a picture on social media of you and the new boyfriend- especially if it will enrage your step sister. Don’t go to wedding!
#1 - OP should go to the wedding. And make a speech. And wear a knockout dress. Even if you go alone. Make her, and everyone, regret her being invited.
The best thing that can happen is for OP to go NC with her mom and stepsister. If the younger half-sisters want to get in touch later, she can take that as it comes.
I still don't understand why people get with people they KNOW cheated on someone before. Worse yet, he cheated on a family member. Does she not know that if he's willing to cheat on OP, he's willing to cheat on her too?
Second OP Uno reversed card so hard the guy want a commitment with her 😂
He never wanted a commitment, he thought he had found a low self esteem chick who would want to be his F##k toy, but it didn't turn out how he wanted.
I will never understand parents who keep one child as a whipping boy. Sibling A did bad on a test? Whipping boy gets in trouble because WB should have tutored Sibling A or found some way to take the test FOR Sibling A, who cares if WB gets in trouble. That’s the ACTUAL definition: a person who is blamed or punished for the faults or incompetence of others. I feel horrible for WB children. I daydream sometimes about ways to help. Breaks my, to small for my chest, heart. 💔
Her mother called her an "vindictive hag"? 😅 isn't that called projection?
Indeed, *she* is the witch, not her daughter.
so OP's mother goes mental about OP's boyfriend is stepsister's crush. who was never with stepsister. but OP is supposed to be fine with StepSister marrying her ex-fiance. that makes so much sense.
I like going to this channel because even if I have heard the story before, I know that here I will get the full story.
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I'd maliciously comply on story no.1. Bring the boyfriend, wear a red dress and choose violence for the day. If I'm going to be the asshole, I'm going to be the ultimate Bond villain in this story.
If i was op i would send a Group message Out stating what happened in the past and that your egg donor has always picked her golden child step. Daughter over you, you went no contact for a while. You decided to give her one last chance and invite her to your wedding. She came up with because she couldn't be asked to come. Therefore, I have come to the decision for my own mental health. That my egg donor will not be in my life. I do not want to hear anything about my egg donor.
She is blocked from my life. If my egg donor tries to get in contact, she will be reported to the police for stalking and harassment. Anyone attempting to aid her in? Finding out information about me will be blocked. And given a restraining order, my mental health comes first after years of mental abuse from this woman.
If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat ON you... Ten bucks that the ex is gonna cheat on the stepsister, too...
I personally would have put on the sexyest little black dress I could find, i am talking borderline inappropriate. Dress boyfriend up in a well fitted suit, and go to the wedding like a boss. Then be the most gracious and classy guest anyone has ever seen. This will absolutely boil your sister, the best revenge is to live well.
OP wasn't spiteful! I couldn't believe it. And the mother? She tried to reason with her backstabbing mother?
I would have gone to a dress salon and told them I wanted a dress to wear to my stepsisters and ex fiance's wedding. BF is optional, but having him show for the dancing would be perfect.
@@lorifiedler13 No, because it would turn the narrative in favor of stepsis. By showing up unannounced with CB, stepsis would have lost it. I would have purchase so many photos or her crying.
Sound like the description of the "revenge" dress worn by Diana, Princess of Wales. Her husband had a television interview planned, where he admitted his adultery and trying for some sympathy. But the next day, the press was more interested in her dress than his interview.
I would have been tempted to attend the wedding with my current boyfriend just to see her face. Petty? Yes! Satisfactory? No doubt! I hope OP’s mom, sister-in-law and ex- boyfriend have a wonderful life! (stated with voice dripping with sarcasm).They deserve each other!
Because I'm PAF, I would go on a romantic getaway with boyfriend, take plenty of pictures, post them on Facebook, tag her in everyone, then put "Bet you wish you were here!"
I would absolutely go as a guest and bring my boyfriend who SS has apparently had a huge crush on, and be extremely romantic with him throughout the entire wedding.
6:18 "NO HARD FEELINGS!"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
First story
The way LG said, “no hard feelings” was hilarious 😂
"How could you do this to me?"
That's a good question. How about you answer first?
So the step sister steals your boyfriend and you don't want to attend the wedding but you're the ahole?! I don't blame you for not going and that fact your own mother is taking everyones side but not yours. I would limit the time you spend with them as they are not worth the energy. Going just helps them look less aholish.
Wait…..So according to OP’s Own MOTHER, it’s perfectly Acceptable & Fine that SS is Marrying OP’s Ex-FIANCÉ and let’s be honest, SS is probably the One he was Cheating On OP With….but it’s NOT Acceptable or Ok that OP is Dating SS’s CRUSH, a Guy she had NO Actual Relationship With & who Never Reciprocated Her Feelings??!!
WHAT??!!! Mom is a Pathetic Excuse For a Mother!!! The Favoritism is so Blatant, I’m absolutely Astonished & incredibly Pissed Off on OP’s Behalf!!!
That Whole Family is Toxic AF!! She needs to just DROP THEM!
Wow..Just WOW 😮
Clear to say mom saw too much of her former husband (rip) in OP of the first story and just didn’t want to be reminded of him maybe? Maybe she held some resentment for OP’s dad leaving their lives so soon? Doesn’t excuse her actions one bit, but maybe there was also some deeper resentment behind the scenes? Clearly as stated by OP, mother wanted nothing to do with her previous life and threw OP under the bus in the process. Really hope OP found her one in her sister’s old crush cause even if OP doesn’t view it like that, she still took the best revenge possible by coming out with the better partner for her.
She had OP as a meal ticket. When that failed, she found another one and didn't need OP anymore.
The first story would seem unbelievable to those who've never endured narcissistic abuse. But sadly, it hits home to those of us who have.
2. A lot of players like to get women to chase them. I briefly dated a serial cheater (just for the sex, which ended up being terrible anyway). He kept leading on his ex's, inviting them to parties, letting them fight over him.
I really liked ALL the stories today
Three strong well balanced women. Took no manipulation from anyone. Congrats to all deepest sympathy to OP of the first story.Good Luck and many many Blessings to ALL!
Anybody else Lmao when the mom said "ashamed of hooking up with her old love"