This works when you dont act too emotional ( going off on him) in a relationship. It messes with a mans mind when you dont act dramatic. Stay calm works everytime
I hate to say this but women can learn A LOT from men. Most men are about themselves first and foremost. Women especially mothers usually put themselves last unless they learn better. Men will leave or look for what they need elsewhere so quick, while most women will suffer for years out of some fake ass sense of loyalty. We need to mean more to ourselves than anyone else does.
My friend always tells me "be selfish." Those two words of advice is more than enough. 🙌 she's right and most men are simply that (selfish) they don't care about anyone not family no kids no wife no mother nothing
You are 100% right about controlling your emotions. I have been one of those women that has been too emotional and bothered and truthfully it has gotten me no where. The real issues get lost in my reaction and outburst and basically I am giving my power away. Most men keep their cool and don't get pressed about much and women are ranting all the time - it is truly not cute and I have decided to stop the nonsense.
La Leona: I am female with good emotional regulation. IME, women GENERALLY are more over emotional, but men can be real doozies, too. The toughest part of dealing with an “emotionally overloaded” person is that s/he doesn’t want to address serious issues. Instead, everything revolves around “how s/he FEELS” and if I don’t engage then I’m “mean and uncaring of how s/he FEELS.” Here’s the thing. I actually DO CARE if someone else is suffering negative feelings. I’m a compassionate human being and I don’t want ANYONE to suffer. But neither I nor anybody else can ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY for someone else’s feelings. Positive or negative. Obviously I’m not including situations where people deliberately and maliciously verbally and psychologically abuse others.
I was married 19 years and only heard him say he loved me once during the courtship. So, after 19 years, I asked him why he never said he lived me and he replied....wait for it..." I am here aren't I ." So funny that you said that. That is how many men think.lol They ARE different from us in many ways! You are right on!
Love is not about words is it’s about actions! If he SHOWS you that he loves you that’s enough. My ex-bf used to shower me with the sweetest words and I love you and all the drama to just overwhelm my heart to believe him ...in the end he was a lier selfish cheater! Peace
Jaber Martini sure words have power! But some men they don’t know to demonstrate their feelings through words, thats why I said if his action is speaking that is more powerful than empty words.
Omg you don’t know how many times I have to go back and listen to these non emotional videos. Whooooo feels like I have to watch em once a month. Thank you SheRa
Thanks to your videos I've improved by 100% percent. I'm able to control my emotions A LOT better and it has positively affected my personal and professional relationships. Instead of being the problem, I'm the solution and the source for advice. People are viewing me as a balanced, level headed person. When people see that you are in control, they are actually more attracted to you.
I like your response to this person who said you look like grandma. you handle that with such style class like a lady wow im impress. you taught me something thank u Shera.
Funny that any man I dumped or male family member I stop talking to was being selfish/try to take advantage or did take advantage of me... Ladies go for yours, what you want and even if you think you do or don’t deserve it. We need to balance this out once & for all.
A lot of men see it as a sport to take advantage of your kindness, resources and naïveté. Only a few good ones wouldn’t do this...Ladies be smart out there and keep high standards!
This gonna help me so much because I believe that I am a prisoner of my own emotions and feelings, I’m so tired of it. Too sensitive and I speak on it. I’m annoying lol 😂 It’s a new year and I am married now it’s time to change. For myself really and focus on what I need from my man and receive those results.
Some men will keep trying to make you mad so you are the one to leave. Sometimes they come back (after the separation) and try to make it up but if he doesn't I dont see a loss. Sometimes you have to let the universe guide you. ✨️ Speaking a spade isnt always an emotional response but one way to let him know your requirements. We cant act like men (no emotion) and be feminine. No emotion is for the goal oriented side of dating. Some women have no emotion and they age like trolls. So there must exist a medium..he is super attracted or not. Thank you for this video Sheera.❤😊
so many people I had run across are extremely emotional and they love to get an reaction out of me, then they label me as evil just because iam mostly calm and peaceful just because they have no control over their emotions is not my business to teach them, Great informative information.
What I find so ironic is how a man can draw you in emotionally over time (by being ALL about "deep feelings" and rushing YOU to develop strong feelings for him in return, love bombing you, playing victim/martyr), and once he drives you crazy with HIS emotions, then you finally hit a breaking point, you put your foot down and call him out on his emotional instability and being overly sensitive to EVERY LITTLE THING he hangs onto that you ever said to him....BUT now he's just manipulated the situation so that YOU look like a crazy, out of control woman by voicing yourself AFTER he finally drove you to the edge ?! And then he drops YOU like a hot potato. SMH . Sorry but that's just flat out hypocritical and pathetic on the man's part. There are definitely men who are slaves to their feelings and emotions just like women, and can be even worse since men have fragile ego's. I'm a Taurus female and this man I'm describing here was also a Taurus, btw.
Yeah I feel you there they know what there doing. Some people are more sensitive then others I think a lot of times it just sinks me further back into depression when they just label us crazy or gaslight us for trying to make a point. It's okay for them to vent but not us. That's just how I'm seeing it from my angle. Most people I deal with just think I'm there shrink. It gets depressing after awhile and feelings are apart of what makes a woman. It just has to be learned to be controlled. I have a different personality i have to use at work. It's hard to do but retail is a good place to start maybe sell make up or work at a salon hear there stories and give yourself breaks from work when needed.
😆 told my husband my phone kept dying and that’s why i can’t answer. He bought me two power packs he keeps charged himself. He sticks one in my bag every once in a while 😆
In various situations I perceived myself to be emotionally intense until I learned that the other party was WAY more emotionally reactive than their demeanor/appearance let on. Turns out their strong emotional tension was apparently just below the surface. I’m more clever and careful now❗️
Perfect subject Shera. I try my best to avoid this but need to work on it even more. But the men i drove away my whole life were dusties so I haven't lost anyhting 😂😂😂😂
yes it’s possible i used to cry at everything and stay up at night worrying about what people thought and did to me and now i just don’t care. i still have bad days but keep watching her videos and try to practice it in your day to day in any situation you can 🙏🏻 i believe in you
LMAO😂😂😂hu hu aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh hahahahahahahahhaahah oo oo i got too breath. Damm the dude channels got the same type of dumm ass questions. I think your game comes with maturity, and a balanced outlook. Hmmm?? a dysfunctional female can't do this game. For the right woman i would drive 3 hours back and forth to work only stopping for gas, but for the wrong one i wouldn't get up to peep through my curtains if i herd her voice outside. As a man i believe in totally careing for a woman without her having any game, but she would have to have some game in her natural mindset to even be the right woman.
That’s right Ms. Shera baby! I tried to navigate life on my own but it flopped lol…I’ll master this one day…I manifested better men but I started to emotionally drown 😩…im back to get my life jacket🤟🏽
A doctor who is 26 years old?! Literally impossible. Who is this guy, Doofy Houser?! People really need to think about what they’re doing and also I realize that guys are great liars!
You need to feel your emotions. Let them be and let them pass. Which doesn’t mean putting them onto other ppl. If you have certain safe ppl when you need but don’t put that shit onto relationships allow yourself to be emotional and figure it out so you can then approach the situation with a level head and sure of what you need and want and how to go about it
There’s no such things as the being friends with the opposite sex when in a relationship. When there’s lack, your energy will gravitate towards that and that’s how relationships forms. Yeah, he may love you and may not want to hurt you, but that energy is going to gravitate towards what it wants and there’s nothing you can do about it. Be everything your man needs, so there’s no need for that “friend”. Sprinkle sprinkle..
I'm gonna binge watch your videos. I'm learning alot about the female psyche. Brothers hate on your videos but I look at it as a blessing. Plz make more, I'm taking notes
Brandon Thomas I wanted you to say because you wanted to date a high value woman. If you keep the attitude you got you won’t have to worry about encountering these type of “females”. They ain’t going.
Brandon Thomas LoL I do the same thing on the alpha male Strategies videos. I watch so I can spot an so called alpha. If I where you I’d go there to. To pick up game so you can run off pickmisha. 😂😂😂
Yeah but my ex is emotional he left me but he acted like I left him always speaking bad about me to other people...I did not respond or defend myself...then started retaliating and even stalking... it was crazy and still watching my Facebook page too sigh...it’s the men too with that over emotional stuff
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This works when you dont act too emotional ( going off on him) in a relationship. It messes with a mans mind when you dont act dramatic. Stay calm works everytime
I hate to say this but women can learn A LOT from men. Most men are about themselves first and foremost. Women especially mothers usually put themselves last unless they learn better. Men will leave or look for what they need elsewhere so quick, while most women will suffer for years out of some fake ass sense of loyalty. We need to mean more to ourselves than anyone else does.
You are right!
Exactly!
Nothing but the truth!
Truth
@FitGirlism Tell it girl!!
"At 19, nobody is taking you seriously, and you shouldn't take nobody seriously neither."
Love this!!!
I'm 20, trying to reach this level up game.
Whoever said "you must cheat on a man every chance you get" was wildin😂😂😂
My friend always tells me "be selfish." Those two words of advice is more than enough. 🙌 she's right and most men are simply that (selfish) they don't care about anyone not family no kids no wife no mother nothing
Your friend is wise 😌💕
Period! These men would never sign up for arrangements that doesn’t benefit them.
Men do care for children I think
@@Jeniffer61867 they don’t. My dad abandoned us and never looked back
@@tinasnow2006 same I was 5 month old
Anyone that calls Shera just a gold digger is an idiot. This person is so smart 🙌
Exactly
You are 100% right about controlling your emotions. I have been one of those women that has been too emotional and bothered and truthfully it has gotten me no where. The real issues get lost in my reaction and outburst and basically I am giving my power away. Most men keep their cool and don't get pressed about much and women are ranting all the time - it is truly not cute and I have decided to stop the nonsense.
La Leona: I am female with good emotional regulation. IME, women GENERALLY are more over emotional, but men can be real doozies, too. The toughest part of dealing with an “emotionally overloaded” person is that s/he doesn’t want to address serious issues. Instead, everything revolves around “how s/he FEELS” and if I don’t engage then I’m “mean and uncaring of how s/he FEELS.”
Here’s the thing. I actually DO CARE if someone else is suffering negative feelings. I’m a compassionate human being and I don’t want ANYONE to suffer. But neither I nor anybody else can ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY for someone else’s feelings. Positive or negative.
Obviously I’m not including situations where people deliberately and maliciously verbally and psychologically abuse others.
Men eventually have their outbursts but they’re not worthy of getting one out of us.
story of my life 😟
Same
💯 💪🏽
You are a mastermind, the most brilliant woman I have ever met
FACTS
I need to watch this video 1000 times
Girl
😂😂😂 its my 2nd time
@@TheSoftLifeMeditations me too
I'm 25 and I'm learning so much. I used to be emotional and chase people especially the dusty I was with... now I'm learning that's not the way.
I was married 19 years and only heard him say he loved me once during the courtship. So, after 19 years, I asked him why he never said he lived me and he replied....wait for it..." I am here aren't I ." So funny that you said that. That is how many men think.lol They ARE different from us in many ways! You are right on!
Jaber Martini 😂
Yes, thanks Jaber! My life is complete now! Lol
Love is not about words is it’s about actions! If he SHOWS you that he loves you that’s enough. My ex-bf used to shower me with the sweetest words and I love you and all the drama to just overwhelm my heart to believe him ...in the end he was a lier selfish cheater! Peace
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Jaber Martini sure words have power! But some men they don’t know to demonstrate their feelings through words, thats why I said if his action is speaking that is more powerful than empty words.
Sisters and your own mother and your girlfriends can be your worse enemies! Stay away from their help or advice when dating wealthy or handsome men!
They were all Jezabels in my family.
Omg you don’t know how many times I have to go back and listen to these non emotional videos. Whooooo feels like I have to watch em once a month. Thank you SheRa
Ho me too its like a therapy 😂😂😂😂
Me 2
Same...I want the information ingrained in my brain😅
Dear Women, Whenever we feels emotional , comeback to this video. Thanks Shera.
Thanks to your videos I've improved by 100% percent. I'm able to control my emotions A LOT better and it has positively affected my personal and professional relationships. Instead of being the problem, I'm the solution and the source for advice. People are viewing me as a balanced, level headed person. When people see that you are in control, they are actually more attracted to you.
Thank you shera. You have helped us alot. :)
Facts
"the ONLY thing that need to be complicated is your makeup" 😂 this SHera Kill me
Oh wow! She is spot on! When I was very emotional and couldn't control my feelings and my actions I would try to control the other party.
Shera you’re a life saver ❤️ Im so glad I found your channel. Im 32 wishing I found you in my twenties, but its never too late!
I like your response to this person who said you look like grandma. you handle that with such style class like a lady wow im impress. you taught me something thank u Shera.
Funny that any man I dumped or male family member I stop talking to was being selfish/try to take advantage or did take advantage of me... Ladies go for yours, what you want and even if you think you do or don’t deserve it. We need to balance this out once & for all.
A lot of men see it as a sport to take advantage of your kindness, resources and naïveté. Only a few good ones wouldn’t do this...Ladies be smart out there and keep high standards!
@@BlackCulturalPreservation2023 I agree sis, save and protect your energy.
I swear sometimes I feel when you're happy your own mother feels jealous and tries to break you down! #CrazyLife
Yes, could relate.. they subconsciously don't want us to be so happy than them.
This gonna help me so much because I believe that I am a prisoner of my own emotions and feelings, I’m so tired of it. Too sensitive and I speak on it. I’m annoying lol 😂 It’s a new year and I am married now it’s time to change. For myself really and focus on what I need from my man and receive those results.
HANDS DOWN THIS HAS TO BE ONE OF YOUR BEST VIDEOS..
U NAILED EVERYTHING IN THIS TITLE‼️ THANK YOU 👑
You are the best i stop caring ever since i join your channel. Thank you that how i do my life carefree.
I hollered when you said DUSTY GAMES🤣😂😂🤣😂🤣. JUST LEAVE! THROW THE WHOLE DUSTY AWAY AND START AGAIN!!! *CRYING*
"If he still there, he like you" LMAOOOOOOOOOOO Shera girl you are a mess. IDK about y'all but this took me out lol lol
😂😂 she ate
I knew I was gonna be upset with myself with the content in this video. Lol. But I'm glad I watched this!
Your voice, your walk, your attitude!
There's a difference between reaction and action thank you
I have to get that on a print, "the only thing that should be complicated is your make-up". 😁👌👌 Touché ! 💖
Im not even counting days, because I have a new person😭🤣😂😂😩 I felt that!
SheRa never ceases to amaze me!! Her words, the narratives, everything about her delivery......brings it home!!
"Take your bipolar medications." Lmao many people need to take them 😅
Maha Alotaibi fr😂
😂😂😂😂 that took me out too!
😂😂
😂😂😂
Some men will keep trying to make you mad so you are the one to leave. Sometimes they come back (after the separation) and try to make it up but if he doesn't I dont see a loss. Sometimes you have to let the universe guide you. ✨️ Speaking a spade isnt always an emotional response but one way to let him know your requirements. We cant act like men (no emotion) and be feminine. No emotion is for the goal oriented side of dating. Some women have no emotion and they age like trolls. So there must exist a medium..he is super attracted or not. Thank you for this video Sheera.❤😊
so many people I had run across are extremely emotional and they love to get an reaction out of me, then they label me as evil just because iam mostly calm and peaceful just because they have no control over their emotions is not my business to teach them, Great informative information.
“You Tryna moon walk and do the running man at the same time” 😂
What I find so ironic is how a man can draw you in emotionally over time (by being ALL about "deep feelings" and rushing YOU to develop strong feelings for him in return, love bombing you, playing victim/martyr), and once he drives you crazy with HIS emotions, then you finally hit a breaking point, you put your foot down and call him out on his emotional instability and being overly sensitive to EVERY LITTLE THING he hangs onto that you ever said to him....BUT now he's just manipulated the situation so that YOU look like a crazy, out of control woman by voicing yourself AFTER he finally drove you to the edge ?! And then he drops YOU like a hot potato. SMH . Sorry but that's just flat out hypocritical and pathetic on the man's part. There are definitely men who are slaves to their feelings and emotions just like women, and can be even worse since men have fragile ego's. I'm a Taurus female and this man I'm describing here was also a Taurus, btw.
Yeah I feel you there they know what there doing. Some people are more sensitive then others I think a lot of times it just sinks me further back into depression when they just label us crazy or gaslight us for trying to make a point.
It's okay for them to vent but not us. That's just how I'm seeing it from my angle.
Most people I deal with just think I'm there shrink. It gets depressing after awhile and feelings are apart of what makes a woman. It just has to be learned to be controlled. I have a different personality i have to use at work.
It's hard to do but retail is a good place to start maybe sell make up or work at a salon hear there stories and give yourself breaks from work when needed.
Yes everybody can control themselves if they want to 💯
I’m so glad I found her channel it’s amazing how the universe work. I was praying to change my ways
😆 told my husband my phone kept dying and that’s why i can’t answer. He bought me two power packs he keeps charged himself. He sticks one in my bag every once in a while 😆
So blessed I come across your channel
You’re right about the narcissism, you’re not. You’re just a Smart woman!! Thx👍🏽
In various situations I perceived myself to be emotionally intense until I learned that the other party was WAY more emotionally reactive than their demeanor/appearance let on. Turns out their strong emotional tension was apparently just below the surface. I’m more clever and careful now❗️
Am a pisces and mastering my emotions let me live life ON TOP OF THE WORLD. It's difficult first then it feels like you are mocking life
1:23:01 stop caring. Strategize / have an end goal in mind
James is soo cute .. how are you? Yup that's a man who loves his woman ..
“Take bipolar meditation” that is me😂😂😂😂
This is wonderful video. Don't always agreed but I love everything said here. Women need to be less emotional and more analytical when leveling up.
I can’t believe how much weight you’ve lost! You’re looking sensational but you always looks great in any event 🙂
Listen , this video was the gut punch that I needed ! Thank you for this and everytime I get overly emotional I will watch this ! Love you girl !
I do as well
Perfect subject Shera. I try my best to avoid this but need to work on it even more. But the men i drove away my whole life were dusties so I haven't lost anyhting 😂😂😂😂
@referral madness absolutely
Acting and reacting know the difference and implement!
One the best ones and best topics!! 👌🏼✨
Great topic i can admit my emotions gkt the best of me and learning to control been very less stressful i should've been figured out
Girllllllllllll I love your rawness 💯❤ thanks goddess 😘
I just realized I wasn't subscribed but watched almost all of your videos.... Fixed the mistake and subscribed.
You need a podcast so I can run and listen to this.
Anyone on here was able to transform their personality from sensitive and emotional to more level headed and detached?
yes it’s possible i used to cry at everything and stay up at night worrying about what people thought and did to me and now i just don’t care. i still have bad days but keep watching her videos and try to practice it in your day to day in any situation you can 🙏🏻 i believe in you
@@brawlstarzgurly 💛🫶 thank you for your encouragement:)
Read the book Triggers
I did
Now I give zero F"s. Happier now.
Them eyebrows though! 👍🏽👏🏾💃🏽
One of your best videos you have done hands down.
Moonwalk and doing the running man at the same time 😂😂..take your meds
@FitGirlism right!
LMAO😂😂😂hu hu aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh hahahahahahahahhaahah oo oo i got too breath. Damm the dude channels got the same type of dumm ass questions. I think your game comes with maturity, and a balanced outlook. Hmmm?? a dysfunctional female can't do this game. For the right woman i would drive 3 hours back and forth to work only stopping for gas, but for the wrong one i wouldn't get up to peep through my curtains if i herd her voice outside. As a man i believe in totally careing for a woman without her having any game, but she would have to have some game in her natural mindset to even be the right woman.
This woman’s mindddddd🔥
That’s right Ms. Shera baby! I tried to navigate life on my own but it flopped lol…I’ll master this one day…I manifested better men but I started to emotionally drown 😩…im back to get my life jacket🤟🏽
A doctor who is 26 years old?! Literally impossible. Who is this guy, Doofy Houser?! People really need to think about what they’re doing and also I realize that guys are great liars!
In some countries people can go to medical school right out of high school.
That’s so cool. The United corporation of America sucks. LOL!
Devan Spence no - it’s closer to 30, with the residency
Devan Spence so you want somebody with no experience practicing and experimenting on you?
Devan Spence right! MD not valid without experience.
You are preaching to me early this morning with this video! I’m so glad I watched this
Exactly cut the emotions out
Emotions is Energy in motion
Ya done Made Shera cuss!!😂😂😂
😂😂❤
Shera is like a wise bigger sister ❤❤❤
I LOVE THIS LOOK ❤️❤️❤️ YOU ARE SUCH A BOSS !!!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS
Haha wow you have a good singing voice (when you were singing let it go).
Your videos are life changing sis 🙇🏾♀️💁🏾♀️❤
Thank you so much for your videos. Honestly your knowledge is way more effective than any therapy. #onelove
Sheera, I am a fifteen year old girl trying to control my emotions! I just can't seem to get over them right now.
It’s okay you’re just a baby be yourself just take notes practice when u can
You need to feel your emotions. Let them be and let them pass. Which doesn’t mean putting them onto other ppl. If you have certain safe ppl when you need but don’t put that shit onto relationships allow yourself to be emotional and figure it out so you can then approach the situation with a level head and sure of what you need and want and how to go about it
@@Ren44496 hey thanks, gonna be 21 but Shera's advice helped me a lot!
The you deserve love part but u don't give it to yourself .....THAT PART....
I hate the fact this videos are so hard to watch but SO important to watch
“Dusty Games” I’m deadddd 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💕
You DO NOT look like a southern Grandma!! 😂😂
Kari Jozsa
Her clap back though 😂
There’s no such things as the being friends with the opposite sex when in a relationship. When there’s lack, your energy will gravitate towards that and that’s how relationships forms. Yeah, he may love you and may not want to hurt you, but that energy is going to gravitate towards what it wants and there’s nothing you can do about it. Be everything your man needs, so there’s no need for that “friend”. Sprinkle sprinkle..
I'm gonna binge watch your videos. I'm learning alot about the female psyche. Brothers hate on your videos but I look at it as a blessing. Plz make more, I'm taking notes
@referral madness Increase my game of course. So when one of these type females try to run this shyt on me I'll have a defense for it lol
Brandon Thomas I wanted you to say because you wanted to date a high value woman. If you keep the attitude you got you won’t have to worry about encountering these type of “females”. They ain’t going.
Brandon Thomas LoL I do the same thing on the alpha male Strategies videos. I watch so I can spot an so called alpha. If I where you I’d go there to. To pick up game so you can run off pickmisha. 😂😂😂
Ve’rshaylamoriee Martinez 🤣🤣😹
I love your comebacks!😁 And thanks for another great video!🌟
Anuty shera, thank you so much for caring. You are making a difference in the world.
“I live in the South” 😂❤
Yeah but my ex is emotional he left me but he acted like I left him always speaking bad about me to other people...I did not respond or defend myself...then started retaliating and even stalking... it was crazy and still watching my Facebook page too sigh...it’s the men too with that over emotional stuff
Agree!
looks like you are dealing with a narcissist..you dodged a bullet!
The last man I was dealing with wasn't over his ex, and was acting like a lady maniac weirdo so I had to block him. SMH🤦
That sounds like a feminine man, you may aswell have dated a woman and be in a lesbian relationship
@@DD_MENEN hence why he is my ex
We need more videos like this. Thank you Shera
She is so funny without even trying 😅
I really needed this
You looking stunning Shera 😍😍😍
You are so classy, I love it !
u can salvage it by reinventing urself
She’s right let it go tell em
oh gosh shera we need women like helping she our selves thank u
How many starbucks drinks you got Shera ?! LOL. You made me crack up so much all while speaking the truth. Thank you !
Thank you!!!! I needed this
This is AWESOME 👏🏼 LADIES share this!!!!
I’m LMFAO through this entire video😂😂😂😂 Not Gold Shorts!!!
Is she the best woman in the world
Another BOMB video 😍💰💎💵 Thanks for the great advice.
"" I can't help it......I'm an ice witch!!"".......you kill me!!! lol...lol!!!
I needed to here this! You are so bomb thankyou!!!!💕
Yep! Ur on it!!! Mine ask -what I'm doing
Awesome video!
31:45 lmao James 😂😂😂