@Amina bakir I wish people would stop this two option narrative of "its a valid excuse" or "its not a valid excuse". We're not, or i should say, as a species who now has scientific knowledge, we are not stupid when it comes to psychology. This grandfather just flat out told us that he fundamentally broke his sons understanding of parenting, being a child, being father, and any relationship or responsibility one may have..... and for some reason.... some fuckin weird reason, as we see all the time, people try to boil this down to "its not an excuse". There's a very real possibility that this dude's brain never developed those emotional connections and understanding. And you can tell and adult whatever you want, but in order for them to do these things and act in these ways, they have to make sense. The childhood analogy would be the difference between cramming for a test and understanding the material. Cramming for a test (telling an adult, this emotionally broken) will allow people to pass tests the next day. But they're not going to remember it in the long term, because they don't understand it.
was thinking the same thing... and lets really make him fail! lets give him an obligation that is not possible to meet, so the lovely prison complex can get richer.
@Amina bakir Well... lets see how you do if some judge gets offended because your obviously a low functioning individual and pretty much guarantees you will wind up in prison. But grandpa gonna be right! and those kids will have a great image of their dad as they visit him in prison.
If his dad was verbally abusive to him his entire life, why would he be surprised that he turned out EXACTLY the way he raised him? He got the person HE raised.
@wilmatorres5128 That is not a contradiction at all. You can take on all your responsibilities and more while being verbally abusive. If you treat your son as a worthless loser, he will become one. If the father always acted as he is doing now, he definitely caused the problem!
@@gilbertdelarosa6948 What does this have to do with the comment he said and I quote "I hate to admit but called my son worthless since he was little" if your parents called you worthless since you were a kid wouldn't that mess you up I'm not saying the sons right though he's still a piece of work who's breathing to much good air for the good of humanity but still something led to that
Haha, blame the dad, sure. But I blame the son who received $102,000 and didn't consider his own children OR there future. Did his dad teach him that, to? Should we blame his dad for that as well? We are responsible for our own actions; it's that simple. I made myself a better person despite how I was raised, so why can't he? As far as I'm concerned, the son is worthless. He does nothing for his kids and probably kicked the mother out when he got the settlement.
I had 2 kids and my mom refused to babysit and I was upset at first but realized quickly that she was correct. I got my big girl pants on and grew up and took responsibility for myself. My child visited her but she made sure I knew that was her position. Parents should have their time for themselves and not raise our kids. She's gone now but rest her soul because she taught me valuable lessons. Rip mom Maxine you were and are the best!
My parents were the same way. They watched my oldest on Sat morning only and when my other 2 came, they watched them while my oldest was in school so I could grocery shop with out 2 babies. They only baby sat at night if I was in the hospital giving birth.. LOL other wise hubby and I had to pay a babysitter or have his parents watch them. Never bothered me. Not sure which kind of grandmother I’ll be yet… Lol
My mom and my husband's mom didn't like kids. So in order for us to go out for an evening without kids I had to drive to 3 different places and pay a ton. I wish my kids had grandparents that actually wanted to spend time with them. Well my mom does spend time with my eldest daughter, but she don't like boy's. Both my dad and my husband's dad is dead.
@@stacibayles2085 I’m so sorry for you. I keep my grandkids as birthday gifts and Christmas to myself. I take my granddaughter to daycare on m-w when her mom has to be at work by 5am and my son doesn’t get off work until 7am all while I have to take the 13 year to school that has to be there by 7 am. I kept my granddaughter from the time she was 2wks old to now every Friday night (all night) because I wanted to. It’s takes a village and we work together.
“I’ve been telling him since he was a kid he’s worthless”…. and ya wonder why… this ain’t all the fathers fault. You can’t tell a child they’re worthless their entire life from childhood and expect them to turn out to be great. Not excusing the dad’s behavior, we can all overcome and be better than our parents but when your own father calls you worthless that’s real hard to overcome.
So true. Probably why the son is so careless and working in a low income job. He's had it beaten into his psyche that he is worthless and lives his days that way. Doesn't excuse his behavior but it stems from bad upbringing, low self-esteem and insecurities.
We don't know if he did drugs when he was younger, partied a lot, and didn't do his studies. Maybe dad is fed up with his irresponsible ways. Obviously thought son's first chance at real cash was to spend it on his teeth (which he needs a refund on). I would be a little more sympathetic if he actually spent some of it buying his kids' shoes and clothing. Or even taking them to Disneyland, just something. But nah, his teeth were more important.
The father admits calling his son worthless since he was young and still calling his son worthless. Wonder how his son could possibly have turned out the way he did. I have real concerns for the grandchildren if they make the grandfather mad. Is he telling the kids the same thing. Can you say emotional abuse!
THIS! I mean, the father still made bad decisions undeniably, but the grandfather saying all that since CHILDHOOD?? And he's wondering why his son is the way he is?
Well, once you have made your own kids you cannot site your bad childhood as an excuse for not taking care of your children. If you are not taking care of your own children, you have no right to complain. Don’t make children of you are disturbed and cannot handle yourself.
Judge Vonda, I just love how you take no mess when people act dumb. I think you are awesome judge, plus you are fair when both parties act Cordial. Keep up the great work.
Being told you're worthless since you were a kid can have two effects. You believe it and act according or you use it as fuel to be kick ass in life to prove people wrong.
I wish i can meet this judge, she is my new hero. If we can have more judge with her mentality i think alot of people will tgink twice before doing stupid shit like these....I Salute you Ma'am
Sad but true as a grandmother I have raised my two grandson since they were babies because of their parents situation.... but watching this clip gave me the credit to all the grandparents we love our grandchildren’s and as a grandmother myself we are not asking for much all we are asking is a bit of a support and help....is that too much to asked for 😞
@TheRealBandito no, it isn't, this is why this court exists so deadbeat parents can be obligated to pay child support for children they're not taking care of
This is a skit. The parents & grandparents are actors. I guarantee you she doesn't act like this in real court. One of the reasons she stopped making the videos is because she said it showed her being biased which is not allowed in real court
His dad is wrong talking about his son like that. Especially publicly. However, I absolutely understand where he is coming from. The son needs to step up for his kids. No matter how often his dad told him he was 'worthless'.
It can be very difficult to get a full-time job, particularly because businesses will deliberately keep someone part-time so as not to provide health insurance/benefits. And if you have a history of drug abuse or a conviction on your record, getting a good job is made even harder. This isn’t in defense of him, it’s just a fact :(
Alot of single parents will work part time. Because it's all they can do. While still being able to care for their kids. I done that for years. Had no choice. Couldn't afford child care either. This stiff happens.
Having a shitty up bringing has nothing to do with how you turn out. I was used and abused growing up and raised to hate black people. I wouldn't hurt anyone unless they strike me first and I no longer hate anyone. I was told I was trash my whole life but now I own my own home with 3 amazing kids and an amazing husband. I stopped abusing people years ago and will never go back to that.
@@sarahleroy465 Having a shitty up bringing has nothing to do with how you turn out LMAO. Glad you came out ok, but you are the exception rather than the rule.
@@sarahleroy465 it sounds like your upbringing did have a negative affect on you in your teenage/adult years. "i stopped abusing people years ago", is the indicator
I am thankful that my son has learned from the life lessons I have taught him: Honour, integrity & honesty, which encompasses a sense of responsibility for your actions. It is clear the son ignored such salient advice from his Father; what is more telling, is that the Grandfather does not necessarily need his son's money, but rather on a point of principle - it'll probably be the only lesson he learns in his life, which is regrettable.
The old man has an old school approach. The type of guy who expects his kids to be good ambassadors for the family and focus on making the family look good. When they don't measure up despite tons of resources and advantages being directed at them then they are shunned without shame by the person/s doing the shunning.
This makes no sense. How do you know what resources were available to him growing up??? The old man admitted that he never expected anything valuable from his son since he was a child. He wasn't just calling his son worthless because he wasn't supporting his two kids. He's been calling him worthless his entire life, he admitted it. And I honestly don't feel bad for the old man. He AGREED to take full custody of his two grandkids aka taking full responsibility for them (including financial responsibilities!)
The reason why the man had that crazy smile and look on his face is because after he got his child support sentence payment he knew already he was gonna quit his job I guarantee you.
I would too. Probably off myself too. I make 25 an hour and I could not afford that in this day and age. I'd be further in debt every month. Some of these ruling are rediculous. I understand he's gotta be a father. But where is the mother. I guess she doesn't need to pay. That hundred thousand doesn't last long and its not constant flow of income. Even 1000 a month is way too high. I think even 500 a month is too much for 1 kid. There is no way people with 1 or 2 or more kids are spending 200 a month on each kid let alone 500 or more for each kid.
@@Talyis84 And the reason why child support payments are so high now is because you're paying for all the dead beats and they're always going to put you in a higher tax bracket to get you in debt . and then to have you make payments. And in the great state of Alaska if you get with a woman that already has children .and you marry her since they're not your biological children. But you played the role you can also be taken to court for child support to take care of children that aren't yours.👌🏽💯💯 And all the States now are adopting that program.
Wow! I have 4 kids, my husband I both worked, housing, clothes, medical insurance, after school activities, a lot more than $500. Each, guess you want a miserable life for your children. Ugh!
Three things. One) if you intentionally stop working they can still use the higher rate to calculate payment Two) You come back later to get it readjusted Three) Literally just following what the law says. Its just a straight up calculation @@Talyis84
@@Talyis84actually you spend more on your kid than that a month, it’s really wild to budget a kid into your life. And it’s even crazier because you have to budget your kid in and each year their wants and needs change, but your source of income might stay the same.
it was over when he started to smile, do these people realize how serious these court appearances are? you have to show up on your a game, no giggling, smiling, laughing, cross-talking to the co-parent and remember that you're not in the park, on the street or at your favorite hang out talking to you buddies/girlfriends you're in a courtroom, and it's "Yes Your Honor" and "No Your Honor" it may seem small thing to do, but that little respect toward the Judge may help you out a bit, and what your tone.
My mother did the same to me…I grew up fast. I had gotten my first job and needed her to babysit while I worked. Well one day I snuck out to go to work without asking her to babysit and after a couple of hours she brought my son to my job in his carrier, put him on the counter and walked out. Lesson learned.
I may not have a good relationship with my grandparents, but I’m super appreciative that they took me in to get my sh!t together to set up a future for myself. They did not have to do any of that but they did. Be grateful and thankful for your blessings because it’ll bite you in the ass in the future
It happens all the time so I'm glad kids have loving grandparents who can jump in and raise those kids and also aunts and uncles also raising their siblings children too if grandparents ain't around.
@@gaylenewood7707 I completely agree my aunt raised my cousin's oldest daughter and my cousin contributed as well as the father even though he was in prison at the time his girlfriend helped out on his behalf. My mother used to work as a private duty nurse her last patient was taken care of by the niece she raised because the niece's parent's passed away a year apart when she was a child.
If your son is worthless. It’s on you and your wife who brought him into this world and raised him. Sad any parent would say this to a child,now adults.Never gave the son a chance to even say he received a settlement
Grandad needs educating. If you constantly tell a child they are worthless it destroys their sense of self worth. He has created the man his son is. I only hope he isn't treating his grandchildren the same way
Curious. If the $100,000 is calculated into the monthly child support, what happens when the settlement money is exhausted? Would this require another session to adjust the monthly child support fees to lower the expected monthly payment?
Exactly this! This is a one-time payment, not a yearly salary. Grandpa was upset he didn't get any money from it. I believe that it's also illegal to consider that as income, since it isn't taxed. The only agencies that have access to it are social security, social services, and BACK child support/spousal alimony. But it's Texas...
The grand dad raising his sons kids would so appreciate the EFFORT of payment per his son. Son prob thinks "He thinks Im worthless anyway, might as well live up to my expectations" Its the effort that means so much to the older generation. Too bad it doesnt mean anything to my generation. Sorry about generalizing. Im on the phone all day with people in their 40's and 50's. The sense of entitlement and lack of work ethic blows me away.
I live in Mississippi, and I am so thrilled that I decided, when I was 14, to NEVER have children - also to NEVER get married. From my POV, getting married/divorced and having children in today's legal climate for men is bullshit. If I was forced to pay child support for any future children( which is not going to happen ), I would make sure to have the court stipulate that I turn over my monthly child support over to either the court or the state's welfare office. This way, there will be complete documentation from a third party that I can use as proof that I have been paying my child support should the mother tries any crap by taking me back to court for more money. I would also have the court stipulate that any other support beyond the normal support payments will also be turned in to the welfare department for recording of said expenses. After that, then all that I would need to do is get my visitation with my kids, and not have anything to do with the mother.
I was on the grandfathers side right up until he said he has told his son he is worthless since he was a kid! no wonder the son has ended up like this!
This grandfather is doing his best raising his grandchildren. These children belong to the son and he should be responsible for them, financially and raising them. The grandfather probably has been trying to teach his son since he was a child to be responsible with money, chores etc. So people just think life is a joke, don't care about the future or money, can't budget. Some people just live for today and spend their paycheck before they get paid. So when you have an adult son who still hasn't learned and probably never change ,it's hard not to be critical of your son, especially since it's impacting his own children.
@@brendacarlson6575 why do people always say "they're doing the best they can"... Telling your son that he's worthless when he's a literal child is not doing the best you can. It doesn't sound like the dad was teaching him at all growing up. It sounds like he was criticizing him because he didn't already know and function the way an adult should. SO many parents expect their children to have adult skills to the point of perfection. And if they fall short, they criticize and discipline them. It's pathetic. Yeah, the son has a choice once he grows up as an adult But to pretend like we aren't affected by our environments and how we grow up is absolutely reckless
Grandpa should look in the mirror, and remember that he raised his "loser" child. He is due the money, but the lack of respect is because of how he's been raised.
That was a wake up call for the father, but why is the mother not involved in her children's lives? Its time for her to step up also, children need their mother also!
That dad never mentioned his kids once. He soent his settlement on his self and never even thought of his kids. Neither parent thought about the kids, just the grandfather stepping up for them.
Ok, he should pay the fair amount, but some of these calculations are designed to send innocent man to jail. Esto es una locura. Me alegro que no soy residente de Texas.
@@JudgeVondaB Hey, I don't blame the honorable judges, most are doing their jobs, but lawmakers need to take a look at other factors to modify the current system because many honest men are in jail because the employer terminated his employment or replaced by automation, so why you blame them? Automation is transforming business. You can't expect people get hired automatically.
How can she include a settlement when he doesn’t have that anymore and it’s not wages? He is just going to appeal. He does need to be paying something.
It would be hard not to become calloused dealing with people like this. I can’t believe how much somebody would want to mooch off their parents. Normally I would be shocked at the amount of child support but I can see that he needed a reality check.
these settlements based on assets, inherited assets, and such, do bother me. Not that the person has to "pay", but its a 1 time "winfall" and yet the courts do not say they will "revisit" after x months. At most it should apply to 1 year, or have the option for 1 year payout of a lump sum judgement, so calculating 100k to 1881/month or 22,572, as a 1 time pay out or spread over 1 year as installments then the next year dropping down to the 15/hr. The other thing is, i have seen this kind of thing, where the person has received a payout, for medical, father was in a car accident, badly injured, had nearly 225k in medical expenses, which included surgery, hospital stay, physio recovery. The law suit covered medical expenses and lost wages. tallying an extra 18,144. FROM that 18144, he had been paying his child support, for 6 months.. because that was essentially the 6 months of "back child support" while hospitalized. now that make sense.. BUT... the courts decided that that 225k medical... should be treated as a winfall and paid in child support... no... that money was medical expenses used for medical bills. I've seen courts claim that "car insurance" payouts... be considerd a winfall, when its meant to buy a new car because, of course the parent doesn't NEED a car... And with things like this you wonder why many parents go into default or simply stop paying and vanish... because they are assigned support beyond their means... can't work because they had to sell everything they had to pay the support... And the courts often don't care one bit.
I have 4 children and not once have I asked the grandparents to look after them..not even for 1 overnight as I made the decision to have children they are my responsibility period
I think that no matter what he’s taught or not taught? To your kids, shouldn’t be a crutch for them to become dead beats!! That monthly obligation took the laughter out of him!!😂
Are these cases real??? After the verdict or decision is made by the judge both parties stay for the educational part of hearing. Just doesn't makes sense.
I don't know if they're actors or not but in the last episode I watched, the lady that lost and ended up paying, was in the audience at the end and she looked pissed. Maybe contract breach not to sit their a** in that seat.
My parents were verbally abusive like this, I'm a single mom now. I strive to be better than they told me i was. I still hear "You're a bad mom" constantly. 😅 But i would never abondon my child with my parents, especially with the way they raised me.
$15 an hour? My husband makes $11 ph and still supports our children just fine. They never go without anything. He could make it work on $15. When your a parent, you make it work. Even if you yourself goes without. But the father shouldn't call his son worthless. No matter what that is still his son. Bring him up and try to help him better himself before you go and call him worthless.
So the Father called his son worthless his whole childhood then is surprised that’s the way he turned out that way. It’s the first time I felt the slightest sympathy for the bad parent.
I couldn't watch no more this was a no brainer. I stopped at the part before you were getting read this sentence the child support payment. he should have been forthcoming to you to his father and help his children when you get settlements like that.
How can two parents just abandon their children?? It's insane that he would expect his own father to raise the children and not pay anything towards them. A few visits doesn't do anything.
What a horrible father! He spent the insurance settlement on himself! Will his wages be garnished? I'm not living in the US so I don't know what happens there.
The judge only asked about work. The father did not have a chance to talk of settlement. The grandfather has shown he has all reasons to lie. This is a one time payment, not a recurring amount. She sets him up for failure.
Judge vonda I love your videos you are fair and dare I say, fun haha. What I’m wondering, what about when his settlement runs out and he on that 15 an hour, how he gonna afford to keep the payments up or would he have to come back once it’s run out for a reassessment
So it that for child support for the 1 year with the settlement? Will they need to come back the following year to change the amount of support because he will not make 100k the following year?
Maybe the reason the son is the way he is has to do with the way he was raised! If you hear you're worthless your whole life, you are going to either be that, or over come it! Dad needs to take some blame in the way this man turned out!
“This is my worthless... um sorry son” 😂😂 Grandpa got in with that one.🤣🤣
He sure did! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right🤣🤣🤣
Yea Grandpa you did a fine job raising, lets give you dad of the year.
Started off throwing jabs lol
LMFAO 😂😂😂
Mom needs to go to court too...
You're definitely right
@@debbiethomas4472 Mom left the building per say
Yup. Grandpa needs to look for her ass and file for support.
Your right mom should pay to not just dad
Good luck with that.
He told him since he was a kid he was worthless. He spoke it into existence on his son now he is mad because it manifested.🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
But now he’s a parent and he should deal with his own personal issues and not project on his kids.
Looks like the son learned that kids are “worthless” from his dad. Very sad to see. :/
@Amina bakir I wish people would stop this two option narrative of "its a valid excuse" or "its not a valid excuse".
We're not, or i should say, as a species who now has scientific knowledge, we are not stupid when it comes to psychology.
This grandfather just flat out told us that he fundamentally broke his sons understanding of parenting, being a child, being father, and any relationship or responsibility one may have..... and for some reason.... some fuckin weird reason, as we see all the time, people try to boil this down to "its not an excuse".
There's a very real possibility that this dude's brain never developed those emotional connections and understanding. And you can tell and adult whatever you want, but in order for them to do these things and act in these ways, they have to make sense. The childhood analogy would be the difference between cramming for a test and understanding the material.
Cramming for a test (telling an adult, this emotionally broken) will allow people to pass tests the next day. But they're not going to remember it in the long term, because they don't understand it.
was thinking the same thing... and lets really make him fail! lets give him an obligation that is not possible to meet, so the lovely prison complex can get richer.
@Amina bakir Well... lets see how you do if some judge gets offended because your obviously a low functioning individual and pretty much guarantees you will wind up in prison. But grandpa gonna be right! and those kids will have a great image of their dad as they visit him in prison.
If his dad was verbally abusive to him his entire life, why would he be surprised that he turned out EXACTLY the way he raised him? He got the person HE raised.
@wilmatorres5128
That is not a contradiction at all.
You can take on all your responsibilities and more while being verbally abusive.
If you treat your son as a worthless loser, he will become one. If the father always acted as he is doing now, he definitely caused the problem!
No he didn't the son brought it on himself just trying to take advantage of his father's kindness stop pampering that lazy guy he's a grown man ❤
So True
@@gilbertdelarosa6948 What does this have to do with the comment he said and I quote "I hate to admit but called my son worthless since he was little" if your parents called you worthless since you were a kid wouldn't that mess you up I'm not saying the sons right though he's still a piece of work who's breathing to much good air for the good of humanity but still something led to that
Haha, blame the dad, sure. But I blame the son who received $102,000 and didn't consider his own children OR there future. Did his dad teach him that, to? Should we blame his dad for that as well?
We are responsible for our own actions; it's that simple. I made myself a better person despite how I was raised, so why can't he?
As far as I'm concerned, the son is worthless. He does nothing for his kids and probably kicked the mother out when he got the settlement.
I had 2 kids and my mom refused to babysit and I was upset at first but realized quickly that she was correct. I got my big girl pants on and grew up and took responsibility for myself. My child visited her but she made sure I knew that was her position. Parents should have their time for themselves and not raise our kids. She's gone now but rest her soul because she taught me valuable lessons. Rip mom Maxine you were and are the best!
Nice
My parents were the same way. They watched my oldest on Sat morning only and when my other 2 came, they watched them while my oldest was in school so I could grocery shop with out 2 babies. They only baby sat at night if I was in the hospital giving birth.. LOL other wise hubby and I had to pay a babysitter or have his parents watch them. Never bothered me. Not sure which kind of grandmother I’ll be yet… Lol
@@lulujac9196 grand parents get to choose what they would like to do. So you get to choose. You had a great mom that taught you valuable lessons
My mom and my husband's mom didn't like kids. So in order for us to go out for an evening without kids I had to drive to 3 different places and pay a ton. I wish my kids had grandparents that actually wanted to spend time with them. Well my mom does spend time with my eldest daughter, but she don't like boy's. Both my dad and my husband's dad is dead.
@@stacibayles2085 I’m so sorry for you. I keep my grandkids as birthday gifts and Christmas to myself. I take my granddaughter to daycare on m-w when her mom has to be at work by 5am and my son doesn’t get off work until 7am all while I have to take the 13 year to school that has to be there by 7 am. I kept my granddaughter from the time she was 2wks old to now every Friday night (all night) because I wanted to. It’s takes a village and we work together.
“I’ve been telling him since he was a kid he’s worthless”…. and ya wonder why… this ain’t all the fathers fault. You can’t tell a child they’re worthless their entire life from childhood and expect them to turn out to be great.
Not excusing the dad’s behavior, we can all overcome and be better than our parents but when your own father calls you worthless that’s real hard to overcome.
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So true. Probably why the son is so careless and working in a low income job. He's had it beaten into his psyche that he is worthless and lives his days that way. Doesn't excuse his behavior but it stems from bad upbringing, low self-esteem and insecurities.
Yep. Makes perfect sense why this guy ended up not being a stellar dad either.
We don't know if he did drugs when he was younger, partied a lot, and didn't do his studies. Maybe dad is fed up with his irresponsible ways. Obviously thought son's first chance at real cash was to spend it on his teeth (which he needs a refund on). I would be a little more sympathetic if he actually spent some of it buying his kids' shoes and clothing. Or even taking them to Disneyland, just something. But nah, his teeth were more important.
You got that right. What you fear, you create.
The father admits calling his son worthless since he was young and still calling his son worthless. Wonder how his son could possibly have turned out the way he did. I have real concerns for the grandchildren if they make the grandfather mad. Is he telling the kids the same thing. Can you say emotional abuse!
THIS! I mean, the father still made bad decisions undeniably, but the grandfather saying all that since CHILDHOOD?? And he's wondering why his son is the way he is?
Well, once you have made your own kids you cannot site your bad childhood as an excuse for not taking care of your children. If you are not taking care of your own children, you have no right to complain. Don’t make children of you are disturbed and cannot handle yourself.
A lot of grandparents are raising their grandchildren. The story I always hear is drugs. Such a pity. Hooray grandparents
Very true!
Yeh...but they failed to raise their kids..hopefully their grandkids are raised better
Raise our grandchildren 14 hrs a day
What a piece of work the children's father is!
Thank goodness the children have their Grandfather to care for them.
Let's hope he don't call them useless all the time like he did for his own kid.
the grandfather failed when raising his son, why should he do better with his grandchildren?
Hes the one that raised the childrens father... the reason the father is the way he is, is because his grandfather. Put the blame where it belongs
The grandfather isn’t a good person either…
the grandfather really knows his son...worthless. the look on his face when told how much he was responsible for was priceless
And the fact that he said “sired” 😅 I’m sure there are exceptions, but isn’t that typically a term you use for horses?! 😂
@@janetmecham1059 yes it’s a term for horses lol
Yea he might actually be a little worthless bruh 😂
Most likely been put into his head from a child.
This show is a joke they are actors look it up I did
Judge Vonda, I just love how you take no mess when people act dumb. I think you are awesome judge, plus you are fair when both parties act Cordial. Keep up the great work.
Thank you so much!
Yes i loved it when she snapped back at the son in a nice nasty way!
@@JudgeVondaB Quick quibble: numbers on screen were reflective of the 102k settlement- how do you add the $15/hr income when hours vary?
This is fake
Being told you're worthless since you were a kid can have two effects. You believe it and act according or you use it as fuel to be kick ass in life to prove people wrong.
it did bother me when the grandfather said that
When you've never been through anything like that it's easy to pass judgements
I wish i can meet this judge, she is my new hero. If we can have more judge with her mentality i think alot of people will tgink twice before doing stupid shit like these....I Salute you Ma'am
Sad but true as a grandmother I have raised my two grandson since they were babies because of their parents situation.... but watching this clip gave me the credit to all the grandparents we love our grandchildren’s and as a grandmother myself we are not asking for much all we are asking is a bit of a support and help....is that too much to asked for 😞
@TheRealBandito no, it isn't, this is why this court exists so deadbeat parents can be obligated to pay child support for children they're not taking care of
Me too
I fricking love this no nonsense judge all courts need judges like her
This is a skit. The parents & grandparents are actors. I guarantee you she doesn't act like this in real court. One of the reasons she stopped making the videos is because she said it showed her being biased which is not allowed in real court
His dad is wrong talking about his son like that. Especially publicly.
However, I absolutely understand where he is coming from. The son needs to step up for his kids. No matter how often his dad told him he was 'worthless'.
Hope he isn't treating his grandkids the same way.
Truth hurts; facts over feelings! He didn't lie. His son did turn out to be a pos!
PLEASE, THATS A GROWN ASS MAN. HE WILL GET OVER IT!
@@stephaniemorales744 he never gave indication that he did.
@@raneshiaprice3718 How do you know that?
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You’re welcome.
She wiped that smile right off of his face, great job judge
A grown man with a part-time job? How does a person survive on that? It was refreshing seeing Sonny get his WAKE UP CALL.
It can be very difficult to get a full-time job, particularly because businesses will deliberately keep someone part-time so as not to provide health insurance/benefits. And if you have a history of drug abuse or a conviction on your record, getting a good job is made even harder. This isn’t in defense of him, it’s just a fact :(
Alot of single parents will work part time. Because it's all they can do. While still being able to care for their kids. I done that for years. Had no choice. Couldn't afford child care either. This stiff happens.
Sounds like he didn’t have the best bring up from his father. I can see why he’s in the position he’s in.
I only work part time and I'm doing just fine. I live alone and have 2 horses that I have more time with
That's the problem right there the father told the son he was worthless since he was a kid and you expected him to turn out any better..
Having a shitty up bringing has nothing to do with how you turn out. I was used and abused growing up and raised to hate black people. I wouldn't hurt anyone unless they strike me first and I no longer hate anyone. I was told I was trash my whole life but now I own my own home with 3 amazing kids and an amazing husband. I stopped abusing people years ago and will never go back to that.
@@sarahleroy465 Having a shitty up bringing has nothing to do with how you turn out LMAO. Glad you came out ok, but you are the exception rather than the rule.
That is horrible I hope he doesn’t treat his grandchildren that way
@@sarahleroy465 it sounds like your upbringing did have a negative affect on you in your teenage/adult years. "i stopped abusing people years ago", is the indicator
@@caitmoore131 isn't that what she said. No need for indicators.
“What kinda crazy do you think I am?” Oh lordt, I’m dead! Love her!❤❤❤
I am thankful that my son has learned from the life lessons I have taught him: Honour, integrity & honesty, which encompasses a sense of responsibility for your actions. It is clear the son ignored such salient advice from his Father; what is more telling, is that the Grandfather does not necessarily need his son's money, but rather on a point of principle - it'll probably be the only lesson he learns in his life, which is regrettable.
My Husband and I raised our granddaughter and we never got child support from them. so good for the grandfather.
Thank God for grandparents 🙌
The old man has an old school approach. The type of guy who expects his kids to be good ambassadors for the family and focus on making the family look good. When they don't measure up despite tons of resources and advantages being directed at them then they are shunned without shame by the person/s doing the shunning.
This makes no sense. How do you know what resources were available to him growing up??? The old man admitted that he never expected anything valuable from his son since he was a child. He wasn't just calling his son worthless because he wasn't supporting his two kids. He's been calling him worthless his entire life, he admitted it. And I honestly don't feel bad for the old man. He AGREED to take full custody of his two grandkids aka taking full responsibility for them (including financial responsibilities!)
“I’ve told him, since he was a kid, that he was worthless.” Self fulfilling prophecy. Grandpa is a bit of an ass, right along with his son.
She's only figuring for a year. Kids are 13 & 15, after a year child support will almost equal his part time income.
That's when he goes back to court
His faces is the best when she said she gonna read off the number he gonna have to pay
Love your show . You need to be on tv so people know when they leave their children on others.
Amazing how quick that smile got whipped off he’s face
Good for this Dad, taking his son to court- He made the babies not the Grandparent
But the grandparent chose to take full custody of them.... He's fully responsible for them now, just like adopting any child.
The reason why the man had that crazy smile and look on his face is because after he got his child support sentence payment he knew already he was gonna quit his job I guarantee you.
I would too. Probably off myself too. I make 25 an hour and I could not afford that in this day and age. I'd be further in debt every month. Some of these ruling are rediculous. I understand he's gotta be a father. But where is the mother. I guess she doesn't need to pay. That hundred thousand doesn't last long and its not constant flow of income. Even 1000 a month is way too high. I think even 500 a month is too much for 1 kid. There is no way people with 1 or 2 or more kids are spending 200 a month on each kid let alone 500 or more for each kid.
@@Talyis84 And the reason why child support payments are so high now is because you're paying for all the dead beats and they're always going to put you in a higher tax bracket to get you in debt . and then to have you make payments. And in the great state of Alaska if you get with a woman that already has children .and you marry her since they're not your biological children. But you played the role you can also be taken to court for child support to take care of children that aren't yours.👌🏽💯💯 And all the States now are adopting that program.
Wow! I have 4 kids, my husband I both worked, housing, clothes, medical insurance, after school activities, a lot more than $500. Each, guess you want a miserable life for your children. Ugh!
Three things.
One) if you intentionally stop working they can still use the higher rate to calculate payment
Two) You come back later to get it readjusted
Three) Literally just following what the law says. Its just a straight up calculation @@Talyis84
@@Talyis84actually you spend more on your kid than that a month, it’s really wild to budget a kid into your life. And it’s even crazier because you have to budget your kid in and each year their wants and needs change, but your source of income might stay the same.
it was over when he started to smile, do these people realize how serious these court appearances are? you have to show up on your a game, no giggling, smiling, laughing, cross-talking to the co-parent and remember that you're not in the park, on the street or at your favorite hang out talking to you buddies/girlfriends you're in a courtroom, and it's "Yes Your Honor" and "No Your Honor" it may seem small thing to do, but that little respect toward the Judge may help you out a bit, and what your tone.
Judge you are my absolute favorite! Such a boss! I admire you so much! ♥️
The son was no longer joking, smiling when the Judge read the monthly amount !🤣🤣🤣
My mother did the same to me…I grew up fast. I had gotten my first job and needed her to babysit while I worked. Well one day I snuck out to go to work without asking her to babysit and after a couple of hours she brought my son to my job in his carrier, put him on the counter and walked out. Lesson learned.
I'll never understand parents that get upset that they're asked to babysit while their child is WORKING
I may not have a good relationship with my grandparents, but I’m super appreciative that they took me in to get my sh!t together to set up a future for myself. They did not have to do any of that but they did. Be grateful and thankful for your blessings because it’ll bite you in the ass in the future
I’m just curious if he put the 102000 in college fund and proved it for each kid would it be used to to calculate child support
I dont think it matters tbh. The child support is calculated off the yearly income which for that year included the $102,000
Nope
@@ravenclawhouse9616 b
Both parents should be paying. But what kind of father calls a child worthless all the time? How does he treat the grandchildren?
It must have not too bad or the Dad would have left his kids with an abuser
@@loverules1667 You would hope that, but this is real life & people have done far far worse than leaving their kids with unsuitable caretakers
You got to love this judge!
My favorite part is the educational portion. Oh ya great to see how TX works in comparison to my home state or where I currently live.
Deadbeat dad🤬😡 Thank God those kids have their grandfather ❗❗
Support
Ya the very grandparent that raised the dead beat dad...haha surly they will turn out better after papa calls them worthless......
If we had more fathers like this guy, in the world. We would have so many better men raising their families or just being responsible.
I really love this woman she is really real and that is great
Judge VB - you are everything!
THE FATHER IS RIGHT. NOTHING ELSE TO BE SAID.
Father said he was worthless, and the son proved him right.
Grandparents should not be raising their grandchildren when the parents are more than capable of raising their own children.
It happens all the time so I'm glad kids have loving grandparents who can jump in and raise those kids and also aunts and uncles also raising their siblings children too if grandparents ain't around.
@@gaylenewood7707 I completely agree my aunt raised my cousin's oldest daughter and my cousin contributed as well as the father even though he was in prison at the time his girlfriend helped out on his behalf. My mother used to work as a private duty nurse her last patient was taken care of by the niece she raised because the niece's parent's passed away a year apart when she was a child.
Victoria Martin Exactly right!!"MAKE child more responsible and grow the hell UP.
You cant put grandkids in danger.
What a waste of space father he is. Fortunate the kids have. Good grandfather.
I feel so blessed that I have 2 daughters and their spouses/partners who support their own children ❤ and don't bring me into court !
I'm glad the father had enough common sense to bring this information to court SMH
Wonder if he's still smiling after paying 1800 a month
If your son is worthless. It’s on you and your wife who brought him into this world and raised him. Sad any parent would say this to a child,now adults.Never gave the son a chance to even say he received a settlement
Grandpa says "I've been telling him he's useless all his life" and then we all wonder why he acts that way?
Grandad needs educating. If you constantly tell a child they are worthless it destroys their sense of self worth. He has created the man his son is. I only hope he isn't treating his grandchildren the same way
Curious. If the $100,000 is calculated into the monthly child support, what happens when the settlement money is exhausted? Would this require another session to adjust the monthly child support fees to lower the expected monthly payment?
Yes
Exactly this! This is a one-time payment, not a yearly salary. Grandpa was upset he didn't get any money from it.
I believe that it's also illegal to consider that as income, since it isn't taxed. The only agencies that have access to it are social security, social services, and BACK child support/spousal alimony.
But it's Texas...
telling a kid they’re worthless is teaching them not to disappoint and predisposing their future.
He acts like a spoiled brat🤔
The way the dad said “ he’s such a loser” is killing me like that’s so mean 😭
The grand dad raising his sons kids would so appreciate the EFFORT of payment per his son. Son prob thinks "He thinks Im worthless anyway, might as well live up to my expectations" Its the effort that means so much to the older generation. Too bad it doesnt mean anything to my generation. Sorry about generalizing. Im on the phone all day with people in their 40's and 50's. The sense of entitlement and lack of work ethic blows me away.
I live in Mississippi, and I am so thrilled that I decided, when I was 14, to NEVER have children - also to NEVER get married. From my POV, getting married/divorced and having children in today's legal climate for men is bullshit. If I was forced to pay child support for any future children( which is not going to happen ), I would make sure to have the court stipulate that I turn over my monthly child support over to either the court or the state's welfare office. This way, there will be complete documentation from a third party that I can use as proof that I have been paying my child support should the mother tries any crap by taking me back to court for more money. I would also have the court stipulate that any other support beyond the normal support payments will also be turned in to the welfare department for recording of said expenses. After that, then all that I would need to do is get my visitation with my kids, and not have anything to do with the mother.
These days i see men have kids without mothers. The moment u involve yourself with another expect such to happen in future.
I was on the grandfathers side right up until he said he has told his son he is worthless since he was a kid! no wonder the son has ended up like this!
Yeah, but son has a choice, and he made the wrong ibe. And man, is he a selfish piece of work.
This grandfather is doing his best raising his grandchildren. These children belong to the son and he should be responsible for them, financially and raising them. The grandfather probably has been trying to teach his son since he was a child to be responsible with money, chores etc.
So people just think life is a joke, don't care about the future or money, can't budget. Some people just live for today and spend their paycheck before they get paid. So when you have an adult son who still hasn't learned and probably never change ,it's hard not to be critical of your son, especially since it's impacting his own children.
@@brendacarlson6575 why do people always say "they're doing the best they can"... Telling your son that he's worthless when he's a literal child is not doing the best you can. It doesn't sound like the dad was teaching him at all growing up. It sounds like he was criticizing him because he didn't already know and function the way an adult should. SO many parents expect their children to have adult skills to the point of perfection. And if they fall short, they criticize and discipline them. It's pathetic. Yeah, the son has a choice once he grows up as an adult But to pretend like we aren't affected by our environments and how we grow up is absolutely reckless
I believe the grandfather has been putting his son down his whole life and has stunted his maturity.
Grandpa should look in the mirror, and remember that he raised his "loser" child. He is due the money, but the lack of respect is because of how he's been raised.
That was a wake up call for the father, but why is the mother not involved in her children's lives? Its time for her to step up also, children need their mother also!
That dad never mentioned his kids once. He soent his settlement on his self and never even thought of his kids. Neither parent thought about the kids, just the grandfather stepping up for them.
He talked about buying the kids braces
Ok, he should pay the fair amount, but some of these calculations are designed to send innocent man to jail. Esto es una locura. Me alegro que no soy residente de Texas.
Jose Rivera LOL, ok.
@@JudgeVondaB Hey, I don't blame the honorable judges, most are doing their jobs, but lawmakers need to take a look at other factors to modify the current system because many honest men are in jail because the employer terminated his employment or replaced by automation, so why you blame them? Automation is transforming business. You can't expect people get hired automatically.
How can she include a settlement when he doesn’t have that anymore and it’s not wages? He is just going to appeal. He does need to be paying something.
Grandpa had that old school shade!
It would be hard not to become calloused dealing with people like this.
I can’t believe how much somebody would want to mooch off their parents.
Normally I would be shocked at the amount of child support but I can see that he needed a reality check.
these settlements based on assets, inherited assets, and such, do bother me. Not that the person has to "pay", but its a 1 time "winfall" and yet the courts do not say they will "revisit" after x months. At most it should apply to 1 year, or have the option for 1 year payout of a lump sum judgement, so calculating 100k to 1881/month or 22,572, as a 1 time pay out or spread over 1 year as installments then the next year dropping down to the 15/hr.
The other thing is, i have seen this kind of thing, where the person has received a payout, for medical, father was in a car accident, badly injured, had nearly 225k in medical expenses, which included surgery, hospital stay, physio recovery. The law suit covered medical expenses and lost wages. tallying an extra 18,144. FROM that 18144, he had been paying his child support, for 6 months.. because that was essentially the 6 months of "back child support" while hospitalized. now that make sense.. BUT... the courts decided that that 225k medical... should be treated as a winfall and paid in child support... no... that money was medical expenses used for medical bills.
I've seen courts claim that "car insurance" payouts... be considerd a winfall, when its meant to buy a new car because, of course the parent doesn't NEED a car... And with things like this you wonder why many parents go into default or simply stop paying and vanish... because they are assigned support beyond their means... can't work because they had to sell everything they had to pay the support... And the courts often don't care one bit.
Agree
Love her. Children need to eat and have a safe warm home, that does not come for free.
I have 4 children and not once have I asked the grandparents to look after them..not even for 1 overnight as I made the decision to have children they are my responsibility period
The settlement is a one time thing. It’s not his weekly income,They shouldn’t be able to add that money.But he does he needs to pay
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Thank you! Blessings to you as well!
Boy, that judge was having none of it!
Matthew McConnaughey is wilding.
That’s why you hire a lawyer
💜💜💜💜Love you Vonda!!! New to your channel!!!!!!
I think that no matter what he’s taught or not taught? To your kids, shouldn’t be a crutch for them to become dead beats!! That monthly obligation took the laughter out of him!!😂
Are these cases real??? After the verdict or decision is made by the judge both parties stay for the educational part of hearing. Just doesn't makes sense.
Allegedly, these are real cases but reanacted by actors. I still call bs though
Real Life scenarios thou, I like her.
I don't know if they're actors or not but in the last episode I watched, the lady that lost and ended up paying, was in the audience at the end and she looked pissed. Maybe contract breach not to sit their a** in that seat.
My parents were verbally abusive like this, I'm a single mom now. I strive to be better than they told me i was. I still hear "You're a bad mom" constantly. 😅 But i would never abondon my child with my parents, especially with the way they raised me.
$15 an hour? My husband makes $11 ph and still supports our children just fine. They never go without anything. He could make it work on $15. When your a parent, you make it work. Even if you yourself goes without. But the father shouldn't call his son worthless. No matter what that is still his son. Bring him up and try to help him better himself before you go and call him worthless.
People like this young man should not make kids imagine what would happened to them if they don’t have this grandpa
Either the "son" is an amazing actor or that person is *actually* on drugs.
He creeps me out...
hes a good actor. Thats my dad and I can confirm he is not on drugs lol.
@@okzoe He needs an award for this. Holy Christ
@@okzoe so how life with your grandfather? 😂
@@karmst1996 😂😂😂
I like this show because Judge Vonda actually thinks about the children, instead of parents whodo not take responsibility of their own children..🎉
So the Father called his son worthless his whole childhood then is surprised that’s the way he turned out that way. It’s the first time I felt the slightest sympathy for the bad parent.
A father who calls his own children worthless, might want to rethink his words!!!😮
I couldn't watch no more this was a no brainer. I stopped at the part before you were getting read this sentence the child support payment. he should have been forthcoming to you to his father and help his children when you get settlements like that.
How can two parents just abandon their children?? It's insane that he would expect his own father to raise the children and not pay anything towards them. A few visits doesn't do anything.
What a horrible father! He spent the insurance settlement on himself! Will his wages be garnished? I'm not living in the US so I don't know what happens there.
The judge only asked about work. The father did not have a chance to talk of settlement. The grandfather has shown he has all reasons to lie. This is a one time payment, not a recurring amount. She sets him up for failure.
Judge vonda I love your videos you are fair and dare I say, fun haha. What I’m wondering, what about when his settlement runs out and he on that 15 an hour, how he gonna afford to keep the payments up or would he have to come back once it’s run out for a reassessment
I want to see that same smile in your face when I read to you these numbers lol … side note: he wasn’t smiling when he heard it 😂 he was like 😧
A Settlement, is for Back Payment for a Years
he got away clean - nice
I luv this judge/cases, it's straight comedy. 😂
So it that for child support for the 1 year with the settlement? Will they need to come back the following year to change the amount of support because he will not make 100k the following year?
Maybe the reason the son is the way he is has to do with the way he was raised! If you hear you're worthless your whole life, you are going to either be that, or over come it! Dad needs to take some blame in the way this man turned out!