There’s another scripture that is heavily emphasized with the second part being pretty much overlooked. For thirty years I was married to a man I thought was a Christian. Our church really emphasized that women should be submissive to their husbands. I believed this and tried my best to conform to whatever my husband wanted me to be. However there was a second part of the scripture which was not stressed - and that was the part that said men should love their wives and care for them as their own bodies. If this scripture is not wholly followed by both parties, it can be disastrous. If a woman is stubborn, willful, selfish and rebellious, it’s a disastrous. If the man takes unfair advantage of his role as authority, becoming tyrannical and overly proud, withholding every kindness from his wife, that, too, is a disastrous.
Thank you for sharing this, it's so true. I see woman using these verses, submitting to their husbands and their husbands dont honor their part, abusing their authority. Plus marriages crumple so quickly, bc the husband and wife think that marriage is two people. Not seeing it's 3 people - the man, woman plus Jesus. Marriage is never 2 people, and satan knows that.If Jesus is not in the marriage, then satan inserts himself as Jesus. Only to destroy the relationship...satan is clever, he will wait for children to come into the marriage, and then really cause havoc...but when you include Jesus, satan is forbidden to enter. Also, not only must Jesus be included by both man and woman...he and she both look to Jesus first, not both look to each other and then to Jesus. Look at an arch, it has a keystone in the middle, that holds the whole arch bridge together, remove the keystone, and bridge collapses....same with marriage, the keystone is Jesus.
Yes, my sister in Christ, you are EXACTLY right! I hope things are not beyond repair for you all. Sometimes we can live our whole lives the right way until something happens and end up straying from the path. Even if it seems hopeless, God can do ANYTHING! I hope he returns to our Savior, our Helper, our Redeemer, our Healer & our Friend Jesus The Christ and seeks His Face in God's Word, realizes his shortcomings & failures, repents & turns away from them and & asks for God's forgiveness and yours, then get back on track to run the race & finish the fight victoriously. A person can start out good but stray away just to die in their sin at the end. Another can live in sin their entire lives & finally come to know Christ at the end & yet another can start right, stray away & backslide into sin, but finally return to The King & finish this race to win the prize, AMEN? But always remember that no matter what, & I know it's hard to do this, but no matter what, don't turn your heart away from a forgiving spirit. Always be willing to forgive anyone and everyone... just like our Redeemer does for each one of us that TRULY repents from a broken, contrite spirit & seeks His forgiveness, AMEN? For He is faithful & just to forgive us of sin & cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness. God bless you! In His Love & in prayer, your brother in Christ, - Jonathan
Yup I love when they ALL KNOW one part but don’t know shit about the rest … Christ literally says you treat treat your wife like your ARM 🤷🏿♀️ an extension of yourself and you are to lead the household, not by what you think is best but through scripture and discernment of the Holy Spirit❤….. but all they can tell you is that the Bible also says wives. Don’t be like a leaking faucet to your husband‘s mind. You the husband’s nowadays quoting it. They’re not God-fearing. They wouldn’t know the difference between an angel and a demon they’re selfish. They have no discipline and they’re stupid enough to quote scripture and they have no idea what it means.🤷🏿♀️
The individuals that quote these trigger phrases, usually only part of a scripture God doesn’t recognize them as men much less husband material🤣 But 🤫 don’t tell them
Thank you for reading that scripture my mother is and her 90s at times she acts like she is very loving but then turns around and is so vicious with her mouth she doesn't go to church will read the Bible I am starting to do a Bible study to know how to deal with all the negativity in my life and there is a lot for my family! Please pray for me 🙏🏽
Please go to someone who knows scripture for this verse he doesn't know what he is saying is not qualified to do this for bible scriptures. Please go to a different translation and be blessed
My mom and dad are good people, but flawed. They taught me to react with anger and wrath and to hold on to grudges and resentment. I’m coming to realize that my mother crossed a lot of lines with me as a child. But I want to make this right with my future children. I’ll be the best mother anyone ever saw.
I have come to learn that if we set out to accomplish anything, we need to put Jesus first! Anyone's parenting will be flawed, and even with Jesus, we make mistakes sometimes. However, with Jesus success is a lot more likely. Not to mention, if our children have that relationship with him, they have a second teacher that is far better than any earthly parent anyway
@@aoglifestyle2020 True. I have a lot of work to do, but as a parent, you should set the example of putting Jesus before your earthly feelings of wrath and anger. Do you know of any prayers for those with anger issues?
@wendyblair3079 Honestly anger is a tricky one to overcome. I would say if you just pray continually for control over your emotions and by continually I would say at least daily. Finding other people that struggle like this can also be very helpful. Praying for the ability to realize when your boiling over would be a good start. Over all I would say though just pray about it specifically as often as possible and don't be afraid to reach out for help from other Christians and mentors. Hope that helps at least a little bit.
@@wendyblair3079 read: proverbs think before you speak and act. Proverbs 20:3 - avoid or stop a fight with love and forgiveness this brings unity in Jesus Christ- unity. Starting a quarrel for no reason is not wise Do everything in love n forgiveness. Clarify and take counsel with scriptures or friends or parents - is wise. Proverbs 1:10 say No to sin. Proverbs 22:3 - confused/ not sure/ not understanding - say No. Don't do it, don't go after and don't believe and take counsel ask friends,parents , scriptures and I will pray about it. Self control is saying No sin. For the grace of teaches us No to sin. Basic foundation: Matthew 5,6,7 and Romans 12: 9-21. Forgiveness inside church as brother and sister- Matthew 18. Outside forgiveness - Matthew 5. Bless, love, forgive n leave in love those who curse,insult. False doctrine: love, forgive, bless , leave in love n share the biblical truth in love n leave.
I have a father who told me that I must obey my mother and father no matter what age I am, and where did it get me ? Absolutely nowhere! Just down a path to self destruction 😭
Well there comes a point where we are adults and we make our own decisions. We may still consider our parents advice respectably all our lives, but they are not always our decision makers. Especially after you get married then it's between you and your spouse. Not to mention if your parents are not on God's will they won't give you good advice all the time anyways.
Usually when people say This they were disobedient… Isaac always listen to his father and mother m; I believe he was 40 years old when he got Married and it was arranged …. People don’t listen to There parents these days And especially if they Are older.. they don’t respect their parents because they know more than their parents. This is one of the commandments if you are obedient to your parents and you listen to them then that means that G-D is in your life But if you can’t … Be obedient to your Parents how can you be Obedient to the word of G-D this is why it’s in The 10 Commandments 😂
The Bible says: Obey and honor your parents...if you live with them, regardless of your age, you must respect their rules. And if you don't live at their house and have your own children and family, you should have your own rules at your house, but always when you speak to your parents or if you go to their house even for a few hours, don't forget to listen, obey and honor them.
I’m so glad you’ve spoke about this, my mom and dad 🤦🏽♀️ They hated when I said vs 4 and now when Evangelizing I have both men and women speak this to me and when I ask “what have you taught your children about GOD while they were growing up?” I generally don’t get a response, stiffnecks always stay with that “honor your mother and father” I’ll tell them “you can’t take what you want out the Bible and misuse it”.
At 17 years old our mother threw us out (me and my siblings) after meeting our stepfather. It’s only last year after 23 years that I/we decided to forgive her, and we went to her to try to build a road to reconciliation, unity, and forgiveness. So even after we tried to do the right thing, from there she tried to divide us, of which she partly succeeded so we’re not close as siblings now as I speak, she is unrepentant about everything and wouldn’t want to do the right thing, she wouldn't even dare apologize or look us straight into the eye. Clearly she has made a covenant with the devil, so I decided to just block her on my phone as I wouldn’t stand her divisive tactics anymore and look at Jesus Christ only for my healing, and he has already started uprooting the roots of rejection and abandonment and heal my wounds. Through anxiety ,fear and depression I have never given up. I will never honor her because she isn't doing any will of God and she is a staunch member of a cult and she has been for years. I gave my life to the Lord in 2018.
@@aoglifestyle2020 Why can't you come up with biblical scripture that protects children from their parents and also that warns parents against their children, when will you publish a new edition 2022? Stupid as hell when evil people use the Bible to defend themselves. I believe in God but not the Bibles written by people with personal agendas!
@Wtf I'm saying your not being dishonorable by not following in their every command when their not Godly themselves especially when you get old enough to discern for yourself
Bottom line again I will never honor abusers no matter who it is but especially parents it's unacceptable..they have to be accountable for their behavior.. and suffer the consequences...and in my case they did...
Amen! Also, God says obey parents IN THE LORD. That means if your parents are wanting you to do something that's not right then no we don't obey them but obey God. God bless!
Thank you for this comment. I was talking to my little brother about this few minutes ago. And I pray I don't lead him or anyone astray but I was saying to him yes God said to respect and obey our parents but if our parents are telling us to do what God clearly said not to do, we must obey the voice and the word of God. Not only in words but in deeds. It's tough because sometimes it looks like respect is doing whatever our parents tells us to do. Thank you so much. And this topic will forever stay relevant!
This topic I believe is one that will stay relevant. Thank you for sharing. I was just talking to my brother about this. And being scared that I might have been wrong and misled him I came to TH-cam to learn a bit more on this subject
My Father was an alcoholic since I was a kid, he abandoned us as a family... He had his own demons to deal with, i guess, Due to which we had to go through real painful times for decades.. .. till we were really independent ..that's where the obeying & honouring comes in ... Well.. I'm still doing my best... But Which always falls short, & u know where it's all coming from 🤔🙄 🙏 !!!
Because most people know of this from O.T. 10 Commandments, it is critical to remember "honoring" an ungodly parent (or even hypocritical parent) would actually violate the principle behind "thou shalt not lie." In other words, if you can't tell them how they hurt you, they and you must be living a lie AND the principle behind "thou shalt not bear false witness" would also be violated if you will be forced to lie to yourself, calling something love and godly and good, when it is NOT. Also, the original Hebrew "honor" means 'to give weight to instruction.' So if they don't instruct and prepare you for your future in God - this verse can't be applied in context. Additionally, Jesus spoke clearly about the repercussions in Him when he said it would be better that a millstone be hung around a parent's neck and he/she be drowned. What this means is, they become like a reprobate, and no child can save a parent from the wrath of God. Jesus also said our parents and even siblings need to be those that DO the will of God. Jesus also spoke we must love Him more than our parents or we're not worthy of Him Jesus also said even when parents are about to die, His disciple needs to allow the spiritually dead bury their dead parents. Finally. Jesus also gave the parable about the fruitless tree, and how the person asked for another year to see if it became fruitful, but if not it needs to be cut down. In other words: never nurture or honor a relationship that isn't producing fruit in God. Out efforts are in vain if the Lord Himself isn't building the parents up; from the principle of "unless the Lord builds the house/home/Family, they labor in vain that try to build it up."
Thanks for the comment! And all very good pointa God comes first all the time. Honoring your parents is no different if they dont honor God they dont get a childs honor in return. A relationship always works both way biblically
Whoever you are my sister, God spoke to me through you right now, I have been having a struggle of guilt towards a mother who has been nothing but a monster to us her children, the commandment about honoring my father and mother has been making me feel guilty and condemned, until I read this comment. At 17 years old our mother threw us out (me and my siblings) after meeting our stepfather. It’s only last year after 23 years that I/we decided to forgive her, and we went to her to try to build a road to reconciliation, unity, and forgiveness. So even after we tried to do the right thing, from there she tried to divide us, of which she partly succeeded so we’re not close as siblings now as I speak, she is unrepentant about everything and wouldn’t want to do the right thing, she wouldn't even dare apologize or look us straight into the eye. Clearly she has made a covenant with the devil, so I decided to just block her on my phone as I wouldn’t stand her divisive tactics anymore and look at Jesus Christ only for my healing, and he has already started uprooting the roots of rejection and abandonment and heal my wounds. Through anxiety ,fear and depression I have never given up. I gave my life to the Lord in 2018.
Your response is normal in the face of abnormal treatment. Do not lie to yourself about what's wrong. What is bad IS bad. Do not bear false witness about what is wrong and hurtful. Note what is bad so you refuse to follow the example. Then leave them in God's hands. God will give you examples, and thank him every time. You WILL be amazed at how he will help you grow, chamge, let go with peace, and begin again... and eventually stand up to help others. Peace is on the way. Receive it with thanksgiving. Declare it every time your mind wanders.
Thank you Dear Brother for your diligence in producing these videos, it is so important to promote a desire to love the Lord by attending to His revealed will. Thank you! We must however always test what is being taught by faithfully using Scripture to interpret Scripture. First, ever since the Fall it is in our sinful nature to cry out: 'Don't you tell me what to do!', but the redeemed life says instead 'what would the Lord have me to do here? Where are my opportunities to Obey the Lord?'. We must also acknowledge that the spirit of our age says: 'Adult children may be required to honour their parents, but they have no duty to obey them'. This position is easily accepted by Christians, but is not found in Scripture. Second, v1-3 is addressed to children specifically of ALL ages (feel free to check the Greek: there are several other words for younger children used by the same author in other places, but the word here [teknon] simply means 'offspring regardless of age'.). See Ephesians 2:3 in the preceding parts of the same letter. Third, v4 is addressed specifically to Fathers, NOT to children as an excuse to fail in their duty to honour and obey their parents in the Lord (in everything that is not contrary to God's clear commandments or impossible to fulfill.). The same Paul in fact teaches the church in Rome to obey the violent, idolatrous, blood-thirsty, blasphemous Roman government (but obviously not in anything that involves sinning against God). See Romans 13 & Acts to understand obedience and valid respectful disobediance. Fourth, if we think about it: ALL of us are actually children, but not ALL of us are fathers. This means that v4 is primarily directed at fathers, especially BECAUSE fathers are prone to fail in their duties, and NOT as a reason for children to disobey their parents. Fifth, considering the promise and blessing that is at stake, ALL children would be well-advised to seek to honour, bless, and obey their parents as often and as much as they can, from a heart of eager thankfulness to the Lord. In circumstances where this is difficult, they should apply to the Lord for grace and wisdom, rather than look for non-biblical excuses to disobey. See Mark 7 and Matthew 15 about the excuses the Scribes and Pharisees were promoting to adults with regards to honouring their parents. Sixth, the statement in v4, that is addressed specifically fathers, has the actual word for 'but' in the middle of the verse. This means that the avoidance of the first half ('don't provoke your children to wrath'), is fulfilled by observing the second half of the verse ('bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.'). The verse is warning fathers that if they don't raise their children in the Lord, they are provoking them to wrath i.e. turning them into Children of Wrath (placing them at greater risk of hellfire). The duty of admonition can include correction that a child may find painful, but that pain is not the definition of 'provocation to wrath'. Hebrews 12:7-11 tells us this exactly with regards to our earthly parents (even 'after their own pleasure') as an example of how to submit to the Lord's chastisement. Finally, children should attend to what the Lord requires of them in Scripture, because they love the Lord, and without non-biblical excuses; and fathers should diligently attend to what the Lord requires of them, because they love the Lord, and will answer for how they bring up children that the Lord has made them responsible for. To say that v4 gives children free pass to disobey their parents is as absurd as saying that fathers are free to provoke their children to wrath if their children are disobedient. Neither children or fathers should make excuses to escape their God-given duties. It may sometimes be a bitter pill to swallow, but the outcome is in the Lord's hands because 'the just shall live by faith'. Thankfully there is also a faithful promise involved! 😊
Thank you for sharing this I was raised by teenage parents who were doing their own thing. I felt like a tagalong. They had me in bar rooms and out late when I should’ve been in bed as a child but I grew up with a grandma who was such a good woman, and took me to church I believed in the Lord, since I was a little bit later in life, I became estranged from my family. My mom said I was twice removed as her daughter I have since tried to interact with my parents with no success. It’s hard when you want to honor the Lord in that way I’m trying not to get bitter. and actually, I am much happier. It’s such a relief not to have to deal with them. That does not mean that I don’t love my parents, but it removes a lot of stress and anxiety and other drama.
Hey! Great sermon! Loved it and connected as a parent. Love that you are attacking this scripture as a young man. IMO you have accurately presented the fact that believers can focus on a verse or two without taking into account the overall scripture and context. Children SHOULD obey their parents.....FROM parents that are honoring His word. In our faith, there is no blind obedience. No works can be done that will earn a place in Heaven. We teach God's word. Well done hermano
My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your favors which You have bestowed on me and on my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds that will please You, and admit me by Your mercy among Your righteous servants.
CHILDREN WILL ALWAYS GET ANGRY WHEN THEY HAVE TO FOLLOW RULES AND REGULATIONS...THAT CAN'T BE HELPED. THEY WILL ALWAYS HAVE WRATH BECAUSE THEY CAN'T HAVE THEIR WAY.
my parents work hard to provide me and my brother a better life; hence, we both never emotionally closed to them. i was raised with a controlling mum, scolded my brother and I with harsh words when we were mischief and literally now we are in adulthood, we reacted the same way back to our parents. We know we cannot be rude or raise our voice to them but when the moment started to blame me or my brother about something, the first reaction will be me lashing back at her...I need a term deliverance for forgiving and be more tolerance towards to mum especially
Or she can follow the part where it states parent's aren't suppose to nag their children which they rarely ever quote. What your stating can be emotional & mental abuse & if it's done more then once in your life then it just plain is so no you don't have to tolerate it more that's called crap fitting & leads to mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical breakdown and or CPTSD all not healthy & by the time you get to that stage your mom won't care and will gaslight and blame you some more!
@destroyraiden true I do quote this in my video it's very important to consider the full text. You don't wanna be so eager to please a abusive person that you ruin your own well being!
Thank you for this video, all preshers leave out verse 4 from this , and is just arming the parent who is keeping this over there children who don't deserve repeated honoring sending there children in to depression trying to keep a abusive relationship going
Yes, it is sad to see. God always wants our relationships to be well-rounded and involve him. He is never going to approve of any kind of abuse or self centered be behavior.
Yes, my sister in Christ, you are EXACTLY right! I hope things are not beyond repair for you all. Sometimes we can live our whole lives the right way until something happens and end up straying from the path. Even if it seems hopeless, God can do ANYTHING! I hope he returns to our Savior, our Helper, our Redeemer, our Healer & our Friend Jesus The Christ and seeks His Face in God's Word, realizes his shortcomings & failures, repents & turns away from them and & asks for God's forgiveness and yours, then get back on track to run the race & finish the fight victoriously. A person can start out good but stray away just to die in their sin at the end. Another can live in sin their entire lives & finally come to know Christ at the end & yet another can start right, stray away & backslide into sin, but finally return to The King & finish this race to win the prize, AMEN? But always remember that no matter what, & I know it's hard to do this, but no matter what, don't turn your heart away from a forgiving spirit. Always be willing to forgive anyone and everyone... just like our Redeemer does for each one of us that TRULY repents from a broken, contrite spirit & seeks His forgiveness, AMEN? For He is faithful & just to forgive us of sin & cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness. God bless you! In His Love & in prayer, your brother in Christ, - Jonathan
The way I understand it it’s obey your parents if there request aligns with the word of God, for instance if your parent is trying to teach a false doctrine you don’t have to listen to them
Yes very true anytime someone goes directly against the God it's can't be tolerated no matter the situation! Sorry for the late reply youtube didn't show me your comment
I just lost my dad suddenly due to a heart attack. Do I still honor him? He had a bad temper and worshipped football and always put others before me. There was a lot of abuse growing up from my dad. He was good at making money, but terrible with money. There was a lot of provoking to anger on a daily basis and I remember my dad said he did that intentionally to teach me to fight people. He said I was a disappointment to him because I didn't play sports
It sounds to me like your dad was far from honoring God when teaching you. I would say distancing yourself from a relationship like that would have been best when it was possible. However you stated that he has passed now all you can do is take the example of what not to do when or if you have a Kid and raid them in more of a loving manor. It's always a difficult situation to lose a loved one. I'm sure you still loved your father and I am praying for you.
@@CJ-wc6lf No problem man. When people close to us or even just ppl we know die suddenly it teaches how important each and every day can be. Also how important sharing the gospel can be.
@@aoglifestyle2020 The good news is he drew close to God before he died. My wife was singing at church on stage, and he had his eyes closed, with the most peaceful look I had ever seen on his face, and was singing. He was worshipping God the last time I saw him shortly before he died. We hugged and said we love each other. It's like he knew his time was near. He even gave me a Bible. The last months of his life being so good made me want to keep him on earth as my daddy forever if he would just stay that way. We were close shortly before he died, but don't don't know why it had to be right before he died. I think a lot of what was so hard is he changed before he died. I really believe he'll be in heaven when Jesus raises him. This is a lot of encouragement to me.
@@CJ-wc6lf There is always comfort in knowing someone knew God before they passed. As Christians we know that death has already been defeated I am very happy to hear his last few days were different.
My father ....well he blamed me for things i didn't do he even called me the devil....I sent him this scripture in Ephesians with the part that says fathers do not anger your children.... he didn't even read that part...He always thinks he's right but he's sometimes wrong....I know i am not useless nor am I the devil.... and I'll make it in due time
There are plenty of people that use the bible for justification. That do not want to understand the true meaning and context of what it actually says. Those people are very good tools for the devil. They pervert the image of Jesus by claiming to know him and follow him. Many people have strayed from christianity for that very reason
Yes. I see a lot of parents act like army sergeants, constantly issuing orders. I feel sorry for these children. I was on the opposite end of the spectrum. I mollycoddled mine......and they have zero respect for me and are totally dishonourable.
That's the thing about biblical relationships the way GOD intended them was to be a give and take. As long as parents are firm and reasonable and teach biblical values their children have no excuse not to listen and most of the time they will. Of course every situation can be very different so nothing can be 100% the same across the board for every parent or child and be successful, but in general I believe if we follow those rules successful and healthy relationships form
I refer back to what Jesus said was The most important Commandment-Love God and love your neighbor as yourself. God is love and all ten Commandments are under the context of love, not abuse. Who is one of a parents closest neighbor? Their child. If a parent is not raising the child in love and protecting, but abusing, THEY are being sinful and children do not need to come under anything not done under the context of love. Wives as well. Do Not submit to an unloving husband. I came from an abusive family and religious abuse. It took years of learning this. I am 61 years old and only had understood this as several years ago
Colossians 3: 20 21 Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or exasperate your children [with demands that are trivial or unreasonable or humiliating or abusive; nor by favoritism or indifference; treat them tenderly with lovingkindness], so they will not lose heart and become discouraged or unmotivated [with their spirits broken].
Very very wise thank you ,just helped me with a lifetime problem I've always had with my parents I do everything to honor them but they make as if it's one sided that my worthiness is not relevant
I am glad that it helped! It helps me knowing that the topics I talk about actually are reaching people and helping them. Your comment means alot! I will be praying for your relationship with your parents.
I'm 25 years old I've grow up knowing I need to honor my mother and father my father come and goes alot I help him get a way to stores get him outta trouble I'm tried yet I can't ever get the attention I feel I need as a father figure I try to help him and his gf get money that ended on a money scam on my end and I can't even get part of accountability from them I wanna do what God wants but what my dad wants from me is killing me financially
My father attacked me on my proper use of a can opener. Yelling, provoking. All over a can of sour evaporated milk. Im 38. It was ridiculous. I tried to keep my cool and i think i did. It was all I could do to walk away while he just kept yelling about why he was yelling. So end if the day my sister thinks im dishonoring my father. Super dogmatic without reading the very next verse. To me that itself is evil. To read it particularly but applies it fully
If my parents are Muslim and I am following Christ, yet they curse and mock and scorn me with abuse nearly every day. What should I do since I am new to this faith and I have tried my best to live with them however they do not want to treat me with love and kindness they only know me when they need and want something and I felt used my whole life and the black sheep. So I will pray for them and ask the Lord to forgive them but I will have to love them from a distance.
@ChristmyCommander loving someone from a distance can be one of the most honoring things you do. I would just encourage to continue to pray and extend olive branches from time to time.
The first part does not negate the second part or vice versa. Children are going to be with wrath. Especially if you’re teaching them. Because today’s children are different than those from former years. And to know God is to share God, especially as parents. Let’s not twist scripture to fit agendas or to keep kids from being obedient or honoring. Study to show yourself approved.
I do not believe biblically that either negate each other. What I do believe is that when either party is acting outside of what the bible is teaching, you may negate the other parties ability to stick to scripture. You also may have no affect, but if you're a parent not following scripture, how can you expect a child to live according to the scripture.
I have a question about obeying parents? My wife is 37 and is being obedient to her father. I found wrote 200 times on four pages. I will be a obedient daughter?
Some parents do take advantage of these scriptures for selfish agenda , they use as a tool to get their selfish desires met sometimes they say words like " I'm doing it for you " most parents will take advantage of light hearted children specially financially,they will use you for their own image out there , I work in construction as a laborer my dad took me to the dealership to buy him a car that costed 15k before taxes ( he never worked for 22 years here in Canada) he goes on to say the Lord will bless you , and my mom once called me to tell me that she did business and things didn't go well now she owes 35k and wants me to pay it and the Lord will bless me , some parents abuse light hearted children they will suck you dry soon as you try to say no they start to preach condemnation, they say things like your disrespectful, you make no sense , on and on so being a light hearted is bad in many ways you're taken advantage of alot
Yeah I agree you have to be able to meek and humble with a good understanding when it's time to flip a switch and make hard choices or take action and defend yourself.
@@aoglifestyle2020 my mom got to a point where she told I want you to marry my friends sister, sometimes they will strengthen relationships with their friends by blood and weakest child it's always the sacrifice
hi could you give me an opinion? My mom and family have raised me in the church which I’m so thankful for. But she has honestly provoked me and said pretty harsh things to me which has accumulated over time. One night it got so bad and I felt done, that I decided to go stay at a friends house. She has been telling me “children obey your parents” but still constantly provoking me. She says that I’m gonna struggle basically. That I’d end up like her brother or her sister, one on the streets and the other “40 and struggling” apparently. It’s so toxic there and the family as a whole like my grandmas kids are dysfunctional. I’ve always wanted to leave that place and her toxic traits, and now that I have she is saying my life is going to be basically unfruitful. I haven’t done anything but try to help her and yes we’d argue but I feel it’s kind of because she stopped nurturing me too early and I matured early. She thinks I see her as my equal but I think she sees me as hers if anything. What should I do though, God will never leave me and I know that for certain but I guess it’s just fear for the future my mom told me I’d have. Pls respond haha thanks ❤
Hey I love when ppl are willing to share we all have similar issues including myself. It sounds like your mom is living in Fear to be honest of multiple things and she's letting it cloud judgement related to how she treats you. What I would do is just continue seeking Jesus and following his purpose as close and best I can. I would also ask God to allow me to see things from my mother's perspective and to help not have resentment towards her. I'm not saying you do, but I know it's hard not to sometimes when you have issues with parents.
Here is the deal, does your Mother honor GOD?? Does she faithfully honor the LORD in obedience and love??.....bc if she is, then you need to honor her faithfully as the bible verses command us to do. Now, if your mother does not honor the LORD, going to church but living a different life, like a jezebel, being a narcissist, manipulative, combative abusive, causing strife and division, and basically being a tyrant and ruling over the family like she is a GOD....then run, please run, dont look back and go and live your life. End of Story. The damage and abuse that Mothers can do to their kids can be catastrophic, you need to guard your heart of hate, or you will never forgive her. Sometimes no contact is the best way to forgive her and guard your heart. Also you belong to Jesus not your mother, you are a child of his kingdom, or better a slave of HIS KINGDOM, not a slave to your mother. Go and work for the Kingdom of GOD, and bring souls to the cross, thats what matters, not some verse that is so abused and manipulated. Remember even the devil uses GODs word to put us in bondage.
@@aoglifestyle2020 I did watch your video and you did cover this area. It's simple for me and nothing complicated here.... honor thy mother and father is a beautiful and powerful verse and GOD will bless you, no doubt....but that is not the gospel, that is not salvation, that is not Genesis to Revelations. Our lives are based on repentance and the blood of Jesus covering our sins. Mothers need to stop using this verse and ignoring the rest of the bible. This is what the Pharisees did, they honored certain commandments bc it was beneficial to them, as to manipulate others and have them serve their will, and not serve GOD. These verses are meant to be understood and honored for parents who are saved and covered by the blood of the lamb, this is not a verse that applies to godless parents. If they are honoring satan, being wicked, self righteous, arrogant, etc etc, then this verse does not apply.....go and honor Jesus Christ FIRST, before putting yourself in bondage to your mother or father. And yes forgive your parents, bc GOD will not waiver there, you must forgive ....but you dont bow to your parents when they honor their father of lies and live godless lives.
People dont understand that certain verses or titles in the bible does not apply to everyone, it applies only to the children of GOD. We must understand when GOD is addressing the people of the world, and when he is talking to HIS Children. Same goes to honoring our Parents. He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” 49 Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. 50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”
HELP ME PLEASE IM SO STR STRESSED RN MY MOM IS TELLING ME NOT TO PLAY THIS WITCH GAME {BUT I KNOW WHAT WITCHCRAFT IS AND THE GAME I PLAY IS NOT ACTUALLY WITCHCRAFT} sir she is wrong should I still listen to her even thow she is confused😢😢😢
I would try speaking with her best you can, However it is hard to say because I don't know all the details. Without knowing much I'm gonna say it is probably best in this case to honor you parents wishes.
Well are your parents saved? If not the first steps I would take is trying to introduce them to Jesus. A lot of times tho these situations don't get better until there willing to admit they need help. Praying is always a powerful option
Okay what happens when a child is made too choose sides in a marriage conflict? Seems like people put burdens on kids they don’t live themselves. I mean how do you get respect honor when you don’t give anyone anything too respect and honor?
@kevindavis4709 It would take a lot and it would be a hard choice. This is why God is against divorce and in the video I talk about not provoking your children to wrath. A divorce could easily do that.
I was adopted illegally so I don't know how I can honor that when another family could have had me but instead my illegal adoption led me to physical abuse sexual abuse mental and emotional abuse and I am asking anyone who knows anything about this, does God still want me to honor them? If so I'm going to want to know why
None of what your adopted parents did to you is Godly. Honoring what God wants you to do to abusive parents that also abandon you would be to simply forgive and move on.
Ephesians 6 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 "Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise-- 3 "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." [1] 4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. 5 Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 6 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. 7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men, How did what you just said translate to the above
@@aoglifestyle2020 I removed myself from them for a while to see if that will help. I blocked my whole family, I always honor them, but Jesus said, My mother and brother are the ones who do the will of my Father.
@rabbithabbit Every situation is, but I have found the best way to lead stubborn ppl to Jesus is by being an example of how Jesus would treat people. Whether they are Luke warm or completely lost
Absolutely not your parent must adhere to morality just like anyone else. If their not God centered, it becomes increasingly hard to follow their lead.
Proverbs 1:8-9 "My son, hear the instruction of your father, And do not forsake the law of your mother; For they will be a graceful ornament on your head, And chains about your neck." Nowhere does God say to honor them only if they are the kind of parents you want. Often adult children interpret the actions of their parents as mean when they were the best for them. Especially in our day when disrespect toward parents is promoted by the culture as a whole. We are not to provoke our children, and the children are not to provoke their parents. Each one must evaluate themselves to see if they are obeying God. The Holy Spirit will tell anyone who wants to know if they are acting properly.
@@aoglifestyle2020 relationship? What the heck are you talking about? Child vs parents is not a relationship, child is completely dependent on an adult who is RESPONSIBLE for child’s PROPER development. Child is not RESPONSIBLE for anything …except child is naturally listening what parent and other adults are saying, what makes child completely vulnerable. So when child is abused and develops bunch of disorders, make many mistakes based on what was said, when than this broken adult refuse to HONOR his or her parents now there is a problem. Now somehow “ parents” don’t remember what happened, if they do they play the victim, they didn’t know any better you should forgive and forget and take responsibility for your life because you are an adult, right? But when they are being called out for NOT BEING RESPONSIBLE, for neglect, for DELIBERATELY sabotaging their own child’s life, NO, we can’t talk about it! Smh.
@Gavroche every child has a relationship with their parents especially once in the teen years. Then the ability to communicate etc.. is even more important. A child is responsible for how they listen and obey their parents. Once again especially as they begin to get older and out of the toddler years. We should even be teaching them to take responsibility for their own actions so I'm not sure how you think a child is not responsible for anything unless your speaking on behalf of very small children alone
"Children, obey your parents IN THE LORD." This does not mean children should blindly follow everything and anything their parents say. Parents are supposed to live in a biblical way and teach their children to live according to God's word. They do not have to unquestioningly obey something that goes against biblical teaching. This gets left out as well: "Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."
JESUS WILL HANDLE THE PARENTS, THAT IS NOT YOUR JOB. DO YOUR JOB AND LET JESUS DO HIS. YOUR JOB IS TO OBEY, RESPECT, HONOR AND TREAT YOUR PARENTS WITH THE HIGHEST OF VALUE. IF YOUR PARENTS ARE TOXIC, JESUS WILL HANDLE THEM.
@@SheilaTrueLove the Bible doesn’t mention anything about parents respecting their children or does it??? Because respect should be mutual… but the Bible does tell parents not to provoke their children to wrath, and for some reason… parents never mention that passage…
Not when you are an 'adult'. In biblical days you didn't bring disgrace to the family 'name' bc all commerce were done by reputation. If you parent is crazy or racist you do not have to accept their un-godly behavior. Honor will come in old age. Do not turn your back on them when in il health. My father abandoned me and turned his back on me years ago.
Admonition comes from admonish meaning a firm of CORRECTING/DISPLINING your children . If a child is angry for being corrected admonished disciplined that's to be admonished. Its not right to be angry for being disciplined/corrected in the ways of God by your patents. Thats an obligation given to parents by God. A child should not get angry or have wrath toward a parent for instructing as God had instructed the parent to instruct the children. For a child to do so indeed will bring the not going well for them part.
Children might not like what God sets forth but the parent can't change Gods commands to appease the child or to get on the grown child's good favor. To do so is the parent then not obeying or relaying to the child Gods will.
What would have happened if at his old age, Noah's children didn't listen or obey their parents and refused to help them ? What would the outcome have been ??
Well you need to also explain what is provoking your children is about, "if you ask your children to do something and theu get mad or resp5with a negative attitude or answer, like do your homework, clean your room , brush your hair do your chores" that is not provoking your children. Most kids think and say that's what us as parents are doing to them when we ask them to do these things!!!!!
That is true their view is not always what's best, and the definition of what provoking them could be different depending on who you ask. I believe the answer to that would be making sure you involve God in all aspects of your parenting and being willing to communicate with other christian parents. It's definitely not easy to always see when we mess up.
I was adopted illegally back in 1983 and I grew up being told I'm going to hell No matter what by my own mother and my father was just evil man. It's really hard for me to honor anybody who's going to sit there and tell me I'm going to hell regardless what I do and someone who adopted me illegally. When I learned that I knew there was a reason why I felt like I was the outcast of the family because I'm actually not supposed to be here in this family.
Yeah man it is hard to honor parents like that and I believe they were treating you the opposite of what God would have wanted them to. The last half of of my video talks about it a little bit. Also no one can dictate your afterlife destination except GOD as long as you have Faith in Jesus no one can take heaven from you.
@@aoglifestyle2020 thanks for the reply I saw the video from beginning to end. I really wish I was raised in the church honestly but there was a reason why I wasn't other than the parents and my own will of staying out of the church for many years. So when I have an issue about my parents I always stick it with God and ask him to send me on the right path. That's all I can really do and go from there again thank you brother
@@liamshepherd5802 no problem man I wasn't in church much at a young age either just off and on. The good thing is there is not time like the present. Most of my growth in faith has been in the last 5 years
My friendi gotta tell you that that's not the first commandment with a promise. The first commandment with a promise is the fourth commandment. Exit 20 verse 8. If you're not familiar with the Bible or maybe you don't believe on that first command with with a promise that remember the sabbath day, which is the 7th day, which is Saturday to keep it holy. 6. Es days shelled all labor and do all that work.But the 7th day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God.There's a blessing greater than any commandment that comes with that , my friend
Where did you get the interpretation of what the Bible states? The first Commandment is Honor Thy Mother and Father! When a child is raised by a narcissistic mother to hate their own father is a sin. When an adult child stands in their parents face and speaks vile and disrespectful comments is a serious sin!
Of course it is. The point of the video is you cant go against what GOD has said a parent should be or how a parent should act. While also not teaching the child about who Jesus is and expect the child to then turn out Godly or respectful.
Plus I never stated that it wasnt sinful in the video. Often times when the bible speaks about a relationship they are two sided and when one part of the relationship fails according to how they should be in scripture. it is much harder for the other half in the relationship to follow Gods will. Even though they should
@@aoglifestyle2020 I have never done anything to be treated like a enemy. This started years ago with Parental Alienation. I have been the target parent for 25+ years. How do you tell a grown child about God when her boyfriend is a satanist? What would you do if your only son who once loved you stands in your face and calls you vile names? He is a police officer, so how can he respect the public when he cant respect his own father who nurtured him with love and yes taught him about our Savior. I watched him be Baptized and give his life to Jesus at 16 years old. So tell me how do you handle this situations? I believe your heart is in the right place. So why not do some research on Parental Alienation? My name I go by is JC!
@@americanpatriot2568 if you did everything you could all you can do is pray. This concept is very similar to the wife and husband relationship. Essentially if one or the other in the relationship goes against Gods word it is unwise for the counter part to continue to obey or follow. Because God is the ultimate authority. If you were following Gods word and Jesus example then the child has no excuse for his disrespect and he is in sin for the disobediance
No adult man with a wife and kids can afford to obey parents. The verse clearly speaks to children. Adults are excluded. That is the most important point. Missed.
As adults we still honor our parents we never stop being their children. They may not give commands anymore but we can still be dishonorable or honorable as we grow older
@AOG Lifestyle agreed, the words obey does not speak to adults making me believe that its not a verse for adults as its simply impossible to be an adult and obey at th3 same time. The distinction was never made in the video.
@Kosie Koos True I am always learning too I will remake the video one day maybe this will be included although I think it's implied it's mainly heard and used while still under there roof because I talk about hearing it growing up.
@Kosie Koos I enjoy hearing people's advice and perspectives never feel afraid to share them! It is a perspective I hadn't thought of in regards to this particular verse.
@@aoglifestyle2020 what’s so sad is the parents have fallen so far away from the word and living a life of righteousness that they have nothing to give to their children, thus giving their children over to satan and the result is death.
@@aoglifestyle2020 and we can’t be afraid to speak aloud. Society shames believers and works so hard on silencing our voices. We have to spare not and be steadfast. We’re seeing the end nearing. This is the time to get the word out!
Oh yes, honor your parents who are allowed to mentally and physically abuse you but don't you dare disobey your parents because the bible says if kids don't listen then take them out into the public streets and have them stoned to death. 😂 ahhh, that book needs to be banned from the world and anyone caught talking about it needs to be jailed.
The bible says the long hair is glory to the women. What if she can't grow her hair? Does that mean she is dishonoring the word of God? I think you don't know how to read the bible. The letters of Paul to church is specifically written for that particular churches that misusing or representing things in bad way. Everything is good, but anything that is used for evil purpose, that ungodly. Jesus said, ask in my name. So asking in his name is good, but using his name and do fake miracle is evil.
Are you saying I'm a false teacher? Definitely just following what these verses say. You should follow your parents closely if they are Godly people. If they are not there reaches a point where this is unfeasible
No. Having children is immoral. The child does not have any say about being born, and they are subjected to whatever they are thrown into because someone called it a blessing. Christianity is the ultimate gaslighting: The world god made is broken and it's your fault.
@@aoglifestyle2020 It's immoral when a sentient being is forced into an existence they did not choose, and they have to live through all suffering of it until they die. If that isn't immoral, nothing is. Having children is a generational Ponzi scheme.
A confusing appearence. Looks more like a female, but the voice is male. Try to obey the Bible in maintaining your appearence also please. Men please ...avoid long hair.
Have you seen Jesus? What if he comes with long hair, are you going to reject him also? "a confusing appearance" in other words "judging the book by it's cover".
I was taught something similar, like this lady's reply. However I knew the idea a man cannot have long hair would violate the O.T. Nazarite vow Jews and Christian Jews were taking. After careful study, I found Paul's comment from 1 Cor 11 is referencing the boys vs man quality from that time. Let me school you: Boys kept long hair, and only after a certain age they became a man - and their hair got cut. Also, the man needed to decide for himself, just like the verses state explicitly. The Nazarite vow was also taken by women btw - which meant they would also CUT their hair, as God allowed them to do by pure choice. Don't be fooled by those who love taking things out of context! That's the twisted work of the enemy there. Watch out.
@@justinaelizabeth5547 so are you saying long hair is bad or good? Because the context of the times matters a lot, and culturw back then was that man shouldnt have long hair. The story of samson comes to mind why would his strength come from his hair if it was also dishonring to God or are you saying God changed his mind? Because the bible also says God doesnt change he stays the same
@Pedal and Pop English Armour pronunciation is used more in Britain not America although I don't see the point in splitting hairs over something like this
There’s another scripture that is heavily emphasized with the second part being pretty much overlooked. For thirty years I was married to a man I thought was a Christian. Our church really emphasized that women should be submissive to their husbands. I believed this and tried my best to conform to whatever my husband wanted me to be. However there was a second part of the scripture which was not stressed - and that was the part that said men should love their wives and care for them as their own bodies. If this scripture is not wholly followed by both parties, it can be disastrous. If a woman is stubborn, willful, selfish and rebellious, it’s a disastrous. If the man takes unfair advantage of his role as authority, becoming tyrannical and overly proud, withholding every kindness from his wife, that, too, is a disastrous.
Very true God always defines relationships in a way that each have a role, and both are equally important
Thank you for sharing this, it's so true. I see woman using these verses, submitting to their husbands and their husbands dont honor their part, abusing their authority. Plus marriages crumple so quickly, bc the husband and wife think that marriage is two people. Not seeing it's 3 people - the man, woman plus Jesus. Marriage is never 2 people, and satan knows that.If Jesus is not in the marriage, then satan inserts himself as Jesus. Only to destroy the relationship...satan is clever, he will wait for children to come into the marriage, and then really cause havoc...but when you include Jesus, satan is forbidden to enter. Also, not only must Jesus be included by both man and woman...he and she both look to Jesus first, not both look to each other and then to Jesus. Look at an arch, it has a keystone in the middle, that holds the whole arch bridge together, remove the keystone, and bridge collapses....same with marriage, the keystone is Jesus.
Yes, my sister in Christ, you are EXACTLY right! I hope things are not beyond repair for you all. Sometimes we can live our whole lives the right way until something happens and end up straying from the path. Even if it seems hopeless, God can do ANYTHING! I hope he returns to our Savior, our Helper, our Redeemer, our Healer & our Friend Jesus The Christ and seeks His Face in God's Word, realizes his shortcomings & failures, repents & turns away from them and & asks for God's forgiveness and yours, then get back on track to run the race & finish the fight victoriously. A person can start out good but stray away just to die in their sin at the end. Another can live in sin their entire lives & finally come to know Christ at the end & yet another can start right, stray away & backslide into sin, but finally return to The King & finish this race to win the prize, AMEN? But always remember that no matter what, & I know it's hard to do this, but no matter what, don't turn your heart away from a forgiving spirit. Always be willing to forgive anyone and everyone... just like our Redeemer does for each one of us that TRULY repents from a broken, contrite spirit & seeks His forgiveness, AMEN? For He is faithful & just to forgive us of sin & cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness. God bless you! In His Love & in prayer, your brother in Christ, - Jonathan
Yup I love when they ALL KNOW one part but don’t know shit about the rest … Christ literally says you treat treat your wife like your ARM 🤷🏿♀️ an extension of yourself and you are to lead the household, not by what you think is best but through scripture and discernment of the Holy Spirit❤….. but all they can tell you is that the Bible also says wives. Don’t be like a leaking faucet to your husband‘s mind. You the husband’s nowadays quoting it. They’re not God-fearing. They wouldn’t know the difference between an angel and a demon they’re selfish. They have no discipline and they’re stupid enough to quote scripture and they have no idea what it means.🤷🏿♀️
The individuals that quote these trigger phrases, usually only part of a scripture God doesn’t recognize them as men much less husband material🤣 But 🤫 don’t tell them
Thank you for reading that scripture my mother is and her 90s at times she acts like she is very loving but then turns around and is so vicious with her mouth she doesn't go to church will read the Bible I am starting to do a Bible study to know how to deal with all the negativity in my life and there is a lot for my family! Please pray for me 🙏🏽
I will definitely be praying for you! Thanks so much for sharing!
Please go to someone who knows scripture for this verse he doesn't know what he is saying is not qualified to do this for bible scriptures. Please go to a different translation and be blessed
Sorry I don't have to be abused just because it's ur mom
My mom and dad are good people, but flawed. They taught me to react with anger and wrath and to hold on to grudges and resentment. I’m coming to realize that my mother crossed a lot of lines with me as a child. But I want to make this right with my future children. I’ll be the best mother anyone ever saw.
I have come to learn that if we set out to accomplish anything, we need to put Jesus first! Anyone's parenting will be flawed, and even with Jesus, we make mistakes sometimes. However, with Jesus success is a lot more likely. Not to mention, if our children have that relationship with him, they have a second teacher that is far better than any earthly parent anyway
@@aoglifestyle2020 True. I have a lot of work to do, but as a parent, you should set the example of putting Jesus before your earthly feelings of wrath and anger. Do you know of any prayers for those with anger issues?
@wendyblair3079 Honestly anger is a tricky one to overcome. I would say if you just pray continually for control over your emotions and by continually I would say at least daily. Finding other people that struggle like this can also be very helpful. Praying for the ability to realize when your boiling over would be a good start. Over all I would say though just pray about it specifically as often as possible and don't be afraid to reach out for help from other Christians and mentors. Hope that helps at least a little bit.
@@wendyblair3079 read: proverbs think before you speak and act. Proverbs 20:3 - avoid or stop a fight with love and forgiveness this brings unity in Jesus Christ- unity. Starting a quarrel for no reason is not wise
Do everything in love n forgiveness. Clarify and take counsel with scriptures or friends or parents - is wise.
Proverbs 1:10 say No to sin.
Proverbs 22:3 - confused/ not sure/ not understanding - say No. Don't do it, don't go after and don't believe and take counsel ask friends,parents , scriptures and I will pray about it.
Self control is saying No sin. For the grace of teaches us No to sin. Basic foundation: Matthew 5,6,7 and Romans 12: 9-21. Forgiveness inside church as brother and sister- Matthew 18. Outside forgiveness - Matthew 5. Bless, love, forgive n leave in love those who curse,insult.
False doctrine: love, forgive, bless , leave in love n share the biblical truth in love n leave.
I have a father who told me that I must obey my mother and father no matter what age I am, and where did it get me ? Absolutely nowhere! Just down a path to self destruction 😭
Well there comes a point where we are adults and we make our own decisions. We may still consider our parents advice respectably all our lives, but they are not always our decision makers. Especially after you get married then it's between you and your spouse. Not to mention if your parents are not on God's will they won't give you good advice all the time anyways.
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The Bible says: Obey and honor your parents...if you live with them, regardless of your age, you must respect their rules. And if you don't live at their house and have your own children and family, you should have your own rules at your house, but always when you speak to your parents or if you go to their house even for a few hours, don't forget to listen, obey and honor them.
Thank you for sharing this message! Because, the 2nd part of the scripture about obeying your parents is often left unquoted.
It is rarely shared, but i find it to be equally important
Most time the part of father don't provoke your child is left out
I’m so glad you’ve spoke about this, my mom and dad 🤦🏽♀️
They hated when I said vs 4 and now when Evangelizing I have both men and women speak this to me and when I ask “what have you taught your children about GOD while they were growing up?” I generally don’t get a response, stiffnecks always stay with that “honor your mother and father” I’ll tell them “you can’t take what you want out the Bible and misuse it”.
@Herpropheticministry very true you need context of the full verse and sometimes even the chapter
Amen, so many people like to take advantage of verses like that 😑 Thank you for sharing your Truth.
At 17 years old our mother threw us out (me and my siblings) after meeting our stepfather. It’s only last year after 23 years that I/we decided to forgive her, and we went to her to try to build a road to reconciliation, unity, and forgiveness. So even after we tried to do the right thing, from there she tried to divide us, of which she partly succeeded so we’re not close as siblings now as I speak, she is unrepentant about everything and wouldn’t want to do the right thing, she wouldn't even dare apologize or look us straight into the eye. Clearly she has made a covenant with the devil, so I decided to just block her on my phone as I wouldn’t stand her divisive tactics anymore and look at Jesus Christ only for my healing, and he has already started uprooting the roots of rejection and abandonment and heal my wounds. Through anxiety ,fear and depression I have never given up. I will never honor her because she isn't doing any will of God and she is a staunch member of a cult and she has been for years. I gave my life to the Lord in 2018.
I am sorry you had to go through all that. It is good that you found a way to forgive . I know that must of been hard
@@aoglifestyle2020 Why can't you come up with biblical scripture that protects children from their parents and also that warns parents against their children, when will you publish a new edition 2022? Stupid as hell when evil people use the Bible to defend themselves. I believe in God but not the Bibles written by people with personal agendas!
@@theboyzlounge the Bible does protect against both of these if you listen to the entire video I talk about both sides
@@theboyzlounge the fact that your comment says that actually tells me you watched 30 seconds of the video and clicked off of it
@@theboyzlounge well right after it says father's don't provoke your children but most church leave that out I have to read ur bible
My parents were toxic and angry they were abusive... I won't honor abusers.. thanks for sharing
Hopefully you watched all the way through the video! Because abuse doesn't honor scripture either
@@aoglifestyle2020 yea but them honoring scripture and u honoring scripture is different. Are u saying if ur parents are bad u can be bad?
@Wtf I'm saying your not being dishonorable by not following in their every command when their not Godly themselves especially when you get old enough to discern for yourself
Bottom line again I will never honor abusers no matter who it is but especially parents it's unacceptable..they have to be accountable for their behavior.. and suffer the consequences...and in my case they did...
@@aoglifestyle2020 yea I get that, but it never says if they treat you bad it’s ok to dishonor them.
Amen! Also, God says obey parents IN THE LORD. That means if your parents are wanting you to do something that's not right then no we don't obey them but obey God. God bless!
Thanks for the comment! And yes it does good point!
Thank you for this comment. I was talking to my little brother about this few minutes ago. And I pray I don't lead him or anyone astray but I was saying to him yes God said to respect and obey our parents but if our parents are telling us to do what God clearly said not to do, we must obey the voice and the word of God. Not only in words but in deeds. It's tough because sometimes it looks like respect is doing whatever our parents tells us to do. Thank you so much. And this topic will forever stay relevant!
@@JustWomanOfWorth Amen. God bless!
This topic I believe is one that will stay relevant. Thank you for sharing. I was just talking to my brother about this. And being scared that I might have been wrong and misled him I came to TH-cam to learn a bit more on this subject
@@JustWomanOfWorth well I hope that this video helped. I don't know everything, but I try to share as much knowledge as I can to help people.
My Father was an alcoholic since I was a kid, he abandoned us as a family... He had his own demons to deal with, i guess, Due to which we had to go through real painful times for decades.. .. till we were really independent ..that's where the obeying & honouring comes in ... Well.. I'm still doing my best... But Which always falls short, & u know where it's all coming from 🤔🙄 🙏 !!!
Sometimes all we can do is our best and pray for strength 💪
Struggling with my siblings, putting my Mom in a home far away and I won't be able to get there. This is not what my parents wanted. 😢💔🙏
Because most people know of this from O.T. 10 Commandments, it is critical to remember "honoring" an ungodly parent (or even hypocritical parent) would actually violate the principle behind "thou shalt not lie." In other words, if you can't tell them how they hurt you, they and you must be living a lie AND the principle behind "thou shalt not bear false witness" would also be violated if you will be forced to lie to yourself, calling something love and godly and good, when it is NOT.
Also, the original Hebrew "honor" means 'to give weight to instruction.' So if they don't instruct and prepare you for your future in God - this verse can't be applied in context.
Additionally, Jesus spoke clearly about the repercussions in Him when he said it would be better that a millstone be hung around a parent's neck and he/she be drowned. What this means is, they become like a reprobate, and no child can save a parent from the wrath of God.
Jesus also said our parents and even siblings need to be those that DO the will of God.
Jesus also spoke we must love Him more than our parents or we're not worthy of Him
Jesus also said even when parents are about to die, His disciple needs to allow the spiritually dead bury their dead parents.
Finally. Jesus also gave the parable about the fruitless tree, and how the person asked for another year to see if it became fruitful, but if not it needs to be cut down. In other words: never nurture or honor a relationship that isn't producing fruit in God.
Out efforts are in vain if the Lord Himself isn't building the parents up; from the principle of "unless the Lord builds the house/home/Family, they labor in vain that try to build it up."
Thanks for the comment! And all very good pointa God comes first all the time. Honoring your parents is no different if they dont honor God they dont get a childs honor in return. A relationship always works both way biblically
Whoever you are my sister, God spoke to me through you right now, I have been having a struggle of guilt towards a mother who has been nothing but a monster to us her children, the commandment about honoring my father and mother has been making me feel guilty and condemned, until I read this comment.
At 17 years old our mother threw us out (me and my siblings) after meeting our stepfather. It’s only last year after 23 years that I/we decided to forgive her, and we went to her to try to build a road to reconciliation, unity, and forgiveness. So even after we tried to do the right thing, from there she tried to divide us, of which she partly succeeded so we’re not close as siblings now as I speak, she is unrepentant about everything and wouldn’t want to do the right thing, she wouldn't even dare apologize or look us straight into the eye. Clearly she has made a covenant with the devil, so I decided to just block her on my phone as I wouldn’t stand her divisive tactics anymore and look at Jesus Christ only for my healing, and he has already started uprooting the roots of rejection and abandonment and heal my wounds. Through anxiety ,fear and depression I have never given up. I gave my life to the Lord in 2018.
Your response is normal in the face of abnormal treatment. Do not lie to yourself about what's wrong. What is bad IS bad. Do not bear false witness about what is wrong and hurtful. Note what is bad so you refuse to follow the example. Then leave them in God's hands. God will give you examples, and thank him every time. You WILL be amazed at how he will help you grow, chamge, let go with peace, and begin again... and eventually stand up to help others. Peace is on the way. Receive it with thanksgiving. Declare it every time your mind wanders.
Well said!
Thank you Dear Brother for your diligence in producing these videos, it is so important to promote a desire to love the Lord by attending to His revealed will. Thank you! We must however always test what is being taught by faithfully using Scripture to interpret Scripture.
First, ever since the Fall it is in our sinful nature to cry out: 'Don't you tell me what to do!', but the redeemed life says instead 'what would the Lord have me to do here? Where are my opportunities to Obey the Lord?'. We must also acknowledge that the spirit of our age says: 'Adult children may be required to honour their parents, but they have no duty to obey them'. This position is easily accepted by Christians, but is not found in Scripture.
Second, v1-3 is addressed to children specifically of ALL ages (feel free to check the Greek: there are several other words for younger children used by the same author in other places, but the word here [teknon] simply means 'offspring regardless of age'.). See Ephesians 2:3 in the preceding parts of the same letter.
Third, v4 is addressed specifically to Fathers, NOT to children as an excuse to fail in their duty to honour and obey their parents in the Lord (in everything that is not contrary to God's clear commandments or impossible to fulfill.). The same Paul in fact teaches the church in Rome to obey the violent, idolatrous, blood-thirsty, blasphemous Roman government (but obviously not in anything that involves sinning against God). See Romans 13 & Acts to understand obedience and valid respectful disobediance.
Fourth, if we think about it: ALL of us are actually children, but not ALL of us are fathers. This means that v4 is primarily directed at fathers, especially BECAUSE fathers are prone to fail in their duties, and NOT as a reason for children to disobey their parents.
Fifth, considering the promise and blessing that is at stake, ALL children would be well-advised to seek to honour, bless, and obey their parents as often and as much as they can, from a heart of eager thankfulness to the Lord. In circumstances where this is difficult, they should apply to the Lord for grace and wisdom, rather than look for non-biblical excuses to disobey. See Mark 7 and Matthew 15 about the excuses the Scribes and Pharisees were promoting to adults with regards to honouring their parents.
Sixth, the statement in v4, that is addressed specifically fathers, has the actual word for 'but' in the middle of the verse. This means that the avoidance of the first half ('don't provoke your children to wrath'), is fulfilled by observing the second half of the verse ('bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.'). The verse is warning fathers that if they don't raise their children in the Lord, they are provoking them to wrath i.e. turning them into Children of Wrath (placing them at greater risk of hellfire). The duty of admonition can include correction that a child may find painful, but that pain is not the definition of 'provocation to wrath'. Hebrews 12:7-11 tells us this exactly with regards to our earthly parents (even 'after their own pleasure') as an example of how to submit to the Lord's chastisement.
Finally, children should attend to what the Lord requires of them in Scripture, because they love the Lord, and without non-biblical excuses; and fathers should diligently attend to what the Lord requires of them, because they love the Lord, and will answer for how they bring up children that the Lord has made them responsible for.
To say that v4 gives children free pass to disobey their parents is as absurd as saying that fathers are free to provoke their children to wrath if their children are disobedient.
Neither children or fathers should make excuses to escape their God-given duties.
It may sometimes be a bitter pill to swallow, but the outcome is in the Lord's hands because 'the just shall live by faith'.
Thankfully there is also a faithful promise involved! 😊
Your speaking truth God bless you for holding parents and children accountable and doing it in love, you have beautiful obedience keep going!!!
Thank you! I appreciate the words of encouragement means a lot!
Thank you for sharing this I was raised by teenage parents who were doing their own thing. I felt like a tagalong. They had me in bar rooms and out late when I should’ve been in bed as a child but I grew up with a grandma who was such a good woman, and took me to church I believed in the Lord, since I was a little bit later in life, I became estranged from my family. My mom said I was twice removed as her daughter I have since tried to interact with my parents with no success. It’s hard when you want to honor the Lord in that way I’m trying not to get bitter. and actually, I am much happier. It’s such a relief not to have to deal with them. That does not mean that I don’t love my parents, but it removes a lot of stress and anxiety and other drama.
Thank God for your Grandma then! Child parent relationships can be so complicated sometimes. Especially when they don't honor God.
Hey! Great sermon! Loved it and connected as a parent. Love that you are attacking this scripture as a young man. IMO you have accurately presented the fact that believers can focus on a verse or two without taking into account the overall scripture and context.
Children SHOULD obey their parents.....FROM parents that are honoring His word. In our faith, there is no blind obedience. No works can be done that will earn a place in Heaven. We teach God's word.
Well done hermano
Thank you for the encouraging comment! Helps me a lot in continuing my videos.
My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your favors which You have bestowed on me and on my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds that will please You, and admit me by Your mercy among Your righteous servants.
What are you doing? Who was all that for utube viewers are GOD?
@@stanfen
This verse is from the Holy Quran
But it also says,,fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord” (Eph. 6:4 NKJV)
Yes and I got over that in the video
CHILDREN WILL ALWAYS GET ANGRY WHEN THEY HAVE TO FOLLOW RULES AND REGULATIONS...THAT CAN'T BE HELPED. THEY WILL ALWAYS HAVE WRATH BECAUSE THEY CAN'T HAVE THEIR WAY.
Lol I said that to my dad after he said honor ur parents so ur days are long . I know what hr said after fuck the bible my face 😧😧😳😱
my parents work hard to provide me and my brother a better life; hence, we both never emotionally closed to them. i was raised with a controlling mum, scolded my brother and I with harsh words when we were mischief and literally now we are in adulthood, we reacted the same way back to our parents. We know we cannot be rude or raise our voice to them but when the moment started to blame me or my brother about something, the first reaction will be me lashing back at her...I need a term deliverance for forgiving and be more tolerance towards to mum especially
Sometimes it can be hard just gota pray and spend time with God. Reach out for help in everything we desire to do
Or she can follow the part where it states parent's aren't suppose to nag their children which they rarely ever quote.
What your stating can be emotional & mental abuse & if it's done more then once in your life then it just plain is so no you don't have to tolerate it more that's called crap fitting & leads to mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical breakdown and or CPTSD all not healthy & by the time you get to that stage your mom won't care and will gaslight and blame you some more!
@destroyraiden true I do quote this in my video it's very important to consider the full text. You don't wanna be so eager to please a abusive person that you ruin your own well being!
I know one thing for sure and that's, that I felt the peace of The Lord on you as I was listening...I'm going to listen to the other videos😁🌈🌈🌈
Very encouraging to hear that
Thank you for this video, all preshers leave out verse 4 from this , and is just arming the parent who is keeping this over there children who don't deserve repeated honoring sending there children in to depression trying to keep a abusive relationship going
Yes, it is sad to see. God always wants our relationships to be well-rounded and involve him. He is never going to approve of any kind of abuse or self centered be behavior.
Thx alot bro i needed that am 30 years of age and this is the first time ive ever heard this part...
No problem man! I'd says a lot of people are in the same boat
@@aoglifestyle2020 facts
Yes, my sister in Christ, you are EXACTLY right! I hope things are not beyond repair for you all. Sometimes we can live our whole lives the right way until something happens and end up straying from the path. Even if it seems hopeless, God can do ANYTHING! I hope he returns to our Savior, our Helper, our Redeemer, our Healer & our Friend Jesus The Christ and seeks His Face in God's Word, realizes his shortcomings & failures, repents & turns away from them and & asks for God's forgiveness and yours, then get back on track to run the race & finish the fight victoriously. A person can start out good but stray away just to die in their sin at the end. Another can live in sin their entire lives & finally come to know Christ at the end & yet another can start right, stray away & backslide into sin, but finally return to The King & finish this race to win the prize, AMEN? But always remember that no matter what, & I know it's hard to do this, but no matter what, don't turn your heart away from a forgiving spirit. Always be willing to forgive anyone and everyone... just like our Redeemer does for each one of us that TRULY repents from a broken, contrite spirit & seeks His forgiveness, AMEN? For He is faithful & just to forgive us of sin & cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness. God bless you! In His Love & in prayer, your brother in Christ, - Jonathan
A good word. Sorry for the late reply
The way I understand it it’s obey your parents if there request aligns with the word of God, for instance if your parent is trying to teach a false doctrine you don’t have to listen to them
Yes very true anytime someone goes directly against the God it's can't be tolerated no matter the situation! Sorry for the late reply youtube didn't show me your comment
I just lost my dad suddenly due to a heart attack. Do I still honor him? He had a bad temper and worshipped football and always put others before me. There was a lot of abuse growing up from my dad. He was good at making money, but terrible with money. There was a lot of provoking to anger on a daily basis and I remember my dad said he did that intentionally to teach me to fight people. He said I was a disappointment to him because I didn't play sports
It sounds to me like your dad was far from honoring God when teaching you. I would say distancing yourself from a relationship like that would have been best when it was possible. However you stated that he has passed now all you can do is take the example of what not to do when or if you have a Kid and raid them in more of a loving manor. It's always a difficult situation to lose a loved one. I'm sure you still loved your father and I am praying for you.
@@aoglifestyle2020 Thanks so much. It's harder than I thought even though he didn't care for me that much if any.
@@CJ-wc6lf No problem man. When people close to us or even just ppl we know die suddenly it teaches how important each and every day can be. Also how important sharing the gospel can be.
@@aoglifestyle2020 The good news is he drew close to God before he died. My wife was singing at church on stage, and he had his eyes closed, with the most peaceful look I had ever seen on his face, and was singing. He was worshipping God the last time I saw him shortly before he died. We hugged and said we love each other. It's like he knew his time was near. He even gave me a Bible. The last months of his life being so good made me want to keep him on earth as my daddy forever if he would just stay that way. We were close shortly before he died, but don't don't know why it had to be right before he died. I think a lot of what was so hard is he changed before he died. I really believe he'll be in heaven when Jesus raises him. This is a lot of encouragement to me.
@@CJ-wc6lf There is always comfort in knowing someone knew God before they passed. As Christians we know that death has already been defeated I am very happy to hear his last few days were different.
Amen. Very, very good. And true
Glad you enjoyed!
Great topic and way to stick to the scriptures!
Thanks!
My father ....well he blamed me for things i didn't do he even called me the devil....I sent him this scripture in Ephesians with the part that says fathers do not anger your children.... he didn't even read that part...He always thinks he's right but he's sometimes wrong....I know i am not useless nor am I the devil.... and I'll make it in due time
There are plenty of people that use the bible for justification. That do not want to understand the true meaning and context of what it actually says. Those people are very good tools for the devil. They pervert the image of Jesus by claiming to know him and follow him. Many people have strayed from christianity for that very reason
Yes. I see a lot of parents act like army sergeants, constantly issuing orders.
I feel sorry for these children.
I was on the opposite end of the spectrum.
I mollycoddled mine......and they have zero respect for me and are totally dishonourable.
That's the thing about biblical relationships the way GOD intended them was to be a give and take. As long as parents are firm and reasonable and teach biblical values their children have no excuse not to listen and most of the time they will. Of course every situation can be very different so nothing can be 100% the same across the board for every parent or child and be successful, but in general I believe if we follow those rules successful and healthy relationships form
Soo good! Thank you!!!
Your welcome!
Awesome testimony
Thank you
I refer back to what Jesus said was The most important Commandment-Love God and love your neighbor as yourself. God is love and all ten Commandments are under the context of love, not abuse. Who is one of a parents closest neighbor? Their child. If a parent is not raising the child in love and protecting, but abusing, THEY are being sinful and children do not need to come under anything not done under the context of love. Wives as well. Do Not submit to an unloving husband. I came from an abusive family and religious abuse. It took years of learning this. I am 61 years old and only had understood this as several years ago
Very true! Love always comes first
Colossians 3: 20
21 Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or exasperate your children [with demands that are trivial or unreasonable or humiliating or abusive; nor by favoritism or indifference; treat them tenderly with lovingkindness], so they will not lose heart and become discouraged or unmotivated [with their spirits broken].
Very good quote
Very very wise thank you ,just helped me with a lifetime problem I've always had with my parents I do everything to honor them but they make as if it's one sided that my worthiness is not relevant
I am glad that it helped! It helps me knowing that the topics I talk about actually are reaching people and helping them. Your comment means alot! I will be praying for your relationship with your parents.
@@aoglifestyle2020 thank you very much and God bless
I'm 25 years old I've grow up knowing I need to honor my mother and father my father come and goes alot I help him get a way to stores get him outta trouble I'm tried yet I can't ever get the attention I feel I need as a father figure I try to help him and his gf get money that ended on a money scam on my end and I can't even get part of accountability from them I wanna do what God wants but what my dad wants from me is killing me financially
@rhondakay4404 honoring your parents is sometimes telling them no
Thank you and amen 🙏
My father attacked me on my proper use of a can opener. Yelling, provoking. All over a can of sour evaporated milk. Im 38. It was ridiculous. I tried to keep my cool and i think i did. It was all I could do to walk away while he just kept yelling about why he was yelling. So end if the day my sister thinks im dishonoring my father. Super dogmatic without reading the very next verse. To me that itself is evil. To read it particularly but applies it fully
Yeah we have to look at the full meaning and context of every verse to really understand what God is trying to teach us
Good topic man! Keep it up
Thanks for the comment man! And the support just subscribed to your channel you got some good content your self! @wally Pride
If my parents are Muslim and I am following Christ, yet they curse and mock and scorn me with abuse nearly every day. What should I do since I am new to this faith and I have tried my best to live with them however they do not want to treat me with love and kindness they only know me when they need and want something and I felt used my whole life and the black sheep. So I will pray for them and ask the Lord to forgive them but I will have to love them from a distance.
@ChristmyCommander loving someone from a distance can be one of the most honoring things you do. I would just encourage to continue to pray and extend olive branches from time to time.
The first part does not negate the second part or vice versa. Children are going to be with wrath. Especially if you’re teaching them. Because today’s children are different than those from former years. And to know God is to share God, especially as parents. Let’s not twist scripture to fit agendas or to keep kids from being obedient or honoring. Study to show yourself approved.
I do not believe biblically that either negate each other. What I do believe is that when either party is acting outside of what the bible is teaching, you may negate the other parties ability to stick to scripture. You also may have no affect, but if you're a parent not following scripture, how can you expect a child to live according to the scripture.
I come from Hong Kong Baptist parents.
For eg if my mom isn’t really that Christian should I still obey what she says especially on matters like who im dating
It's hard to judge based of specific things. The bible does say not to date unbelievers if you are a believer.
I have a question about obeying parents? My wife is 37 and is being obedient to her father. I found wrote 200 times on four pages. I will be a obedient daughter?
Well there's not much detail to the question, but it sounds like her parents are making that difficult.
Some parents do take advantage of these scriptures for selfish agenda , they use as a tool to get their selfish desires met sometimes they say words like " I'm doing it for you " most parents will take advantage of light hearted children specially financially,they will use you for their own image out there , I work in construction as a laborer my dad took me to the dealership to buy him a car that costed 15k before taxes ( he never worked for 22 years here in Canada) he goes on to say the Lord will bless you , and my mom once called me to tell me that she did business and things didn't go well now she owes 35k and wants me to pay it and the Lord will bless me , some parents abuse light hearted children they will suck you dry soon as you try to say no they start to preach condemnation, they say things like your disrespectful, you make no sense , on and on so being a light hearted is bad in many ways you're taken advantage of alot
Yeah I agree you have to be able to meek and humble with a good understanding when it's time to flip a switch and make hard choices or take action and defend yourself.
@@aoglifestyle2020 my mom got to a point where she told I want you to marry my friends sister, sometimes they will strengthen relationships with their friends by blood and weakest child it's always the sacrifice
@kongo tv that is craziness I'll be praying for your family
Run! They are taking advantage of you and are manipulative…
hi could you give me an opinion? My mom and family have raised me in the church which I’m so thankful for. But she has honestly provoked me and said pretty harsh things to me which has accumulated over time. One night it got so bad and I felt done, that I decided to go stay at a friends house. She has been telling me “children obey your parents” but still constantly provoking me. She says that I’m gonna struggle basically. That I’d end up like her brother or her sister, one on the streets and the other “40 and struggling” apparently. It’s so toxic there and the family as a whole like my grandmas kids are dysfunctional. I’ve always wanted to leave that place and her toxic traits, and now that I have she is saying my life is going to be basically unfruitful. I haven’t done anything but try to help her and yes we’d argue but I feel it’s kind of because she stopped nurturing me too early and I matured early. She thinks I see her as my equal but I think she sees me as hers if anything. What should I do though, God will never leave me and I know that for certain but I guess it’s just fear for the future my mom told me I’d have. Pls respond haha thanks ❤
Hey I love when ppl are willing to share we all have similar issues including myself. It sounds like your mom is living in Fear to be honest of multiple things and she's letting it cloud judgement related to how she treats you. What I would do is just continue seeking Jesus and following his purpose as close and best I can. I would also ask God to allow me to see things from my mother's perspective and to help not have resentment towards her. I'm not saying you do, but I know it's hard not to sometimes when you have issues with parents.
Here is the deal, does your Mother honor GOD?? Does she faithfully honor the LORD in obedience and love??.....bc if she is, then you need to honor her faithfully as the bible verses command us to do. Now, if your mother does not honor the LORD, going to church but living a different life, like a jezebel, being a narcissist, manipulative, combative abusive, causing strife and division, and basically being a tyrant and ruling over the family like she is a GOD....then run, please run, dont look back and go and live your life. End of Story. The damage and abuse that Mothers can do to their kids can be catastrophic, you need to guard your heart of hate, or you will never forgive her. Sometimes no contact is the best way to forgive her and guard your heart. Also you belong to Jesus not your mother, you are a child of his kingdom, or better a slave of HIS KINGDOM, not a slave to your mother. Go and work for the Kingdom of GOD, and bring souls to the cross, thats what matters, not some verse that is so abused and manipulated. Remember even the devil uses GODs word to put us in bondage.
@@MBB563 amen why I made the video if you read the other half of the verse that isn't used as often it covers this
@@aoglifestyle2020 I did watch your video and you did cover this area. It's simple for me and nothing complicated here.... honor thy mother and father is a beautiful and powerful verse and GOD will bless you, no doubt....but that is not the gospel, that is not salvation, that is not Genesis to Revelations. Our lives are based on repentance and the blood of Jesus covering our sins. Mothers need to stop using this verse and ignoring the rest of the bible. This is what the Pharisees did, they honored certain commandments bc it was beneficial to them, as to manipulate others and have them serve their will, and not serve GOD. These verses are meant to be understood and honored for parents who are saved and covered by the blood of the lamb, this is not a verse that applies to godless parents. If they are honoring satan, being wicked, self righteous, arrogant, etc etc, then this verse does not apply.....go and honor Jesus Christ FIRST, before putting yourself in bondage to your mother or father. And yes forgive your parents, bc GOD will not waiver there, you must forgive ....but you dont bow to your parents when they honor their father of lies and live godless lives.
People dont understand that certain verses or titles in the bible does not apply to everyone, it applies only to the children of GOD. We must understand when GOD is addressing the people of the world, and when he is talking to HIS Children. Same goes to honoring our Parents.
He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” 49 Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. 50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”
HELP ME PLEASE IM SO STR STRESSED RN MY MOM IS TELLING ME NOT TO PLAY THIS WITCH GAME {BUT I KNOW WHAT WITCHCRAFT IS AND THE GAME I PLAY IS NOT ACTUALLY WITCHCRAFT} sir she is wrong should I still listen to her even thow she is confused😢😢😢
I would try speaking with her best you can, However it is hard to say because I don't know all the details. Without knowing much I'm gonna say it is probably best in this case to honor you parents wishes.
What does it say to do when they are addicts...I'll wait...
Well are your parents saved? If not the first steps I would take is trying to introduce them to Jesus. A lot of times tho these situations don't get better until there willing to admit they need help. Praying is always a powerful option
Okay what happens when a child is made too choose sides in a marriage conflict? Seems like people put burdens on kids they don’t live themselves. I mean how do you get respect honor when you don’t give anyone anything too respect and honor?
@kevindavis4709 It would take a lot and it would be a hard choice. This is why God is against divorce and in the video I talk about not provoking your children to wrath. A divorce could easily do that.
Amen
Yessir thanks for the comment
I was adopted illegally so I don't know how I can honor that when another family could have had me but instead my illegal adoption led me to physical abuse sexual abuse mental and emotional abuse and I am asking anyone who knows anything about this, does God still want me to honor them? If so I'm going to want to know why
I’m should god would not want u to horror your mom or Dad if they gave you up for adoption hope that helps Sorry about the sexually abuse.
None of what your adopted parents did to you is Godly. Honoring what God wants you to do to abusive parents that also abandon you would be to simply forgive and move on.
Will I go to hell if I moved to a different state and never see my parents again?
If you have Faith in Jesus Christ nothing can send you to hell because it isn't about works
Ephesians 6
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Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
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"Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise--
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"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." [1]
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Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
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Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ.
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Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart.
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Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men,
How did what you just said translate to the above
It's translated well thank you!
WHAT IF YOUR PARENTS ARE UNBELIEVERS AND HATES JESUS
There's a lot of variable to that question but if they are unbelievers then the bible won't mean much to them
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Thanks for the comment!
I honor my parents, but they have been Christians for years, and they are lukewarm, I’m a preacher, and I try to teach them but they reject me,
All you can do is put in effort and pray for them sounds like your doing the right thing
@@aoglifestyle2020 I removed myself from them for a while to see if that will help. I blocked my whole family, I always honor them, but Jesus said, My mother and brother are the ones who do the will of my Father.
@rabbithabbit Every situation is, but I have found the best way to lead stubborn ppl to Jesus is by being an example of how Jesus would treat people. Whether they are Luke warm or completely lost
@@aoglifestyle2020 what would Jesus do
@@rabbithabbit Exactly 💯 👏
Bro even if it’s bad orders and bad ideas you must obey?
Absolutely not your parent must adhere to morality just like anyone else. If their not God centered, it becomes increasingly hard to follow their lead.
Proverbs 1:8-9
"My son, hear the instruction of your father, And do not forsake the law of your mother; For they will be a graceful ornament on your head, And chains about your neck." Nowhere does God say to honor them only if they are the kind of parents you want. Often adult children interpret the actions of their parents as mean when they were the best for them. Especially in our day when disrespect toward parents is promoted by the culture as a whole. We are not to provoke our children, and the children are not to provoke their parents. Each one must evaluate themselves to see if they are obeying God. The Holy Spirit will tell anyone who wants to know if they are acting properly.
Amen relationships always have two sides
@@aoglifestyle2020 relationship? What the heck are you talking about? Child vs parents is not a relationship, child is completely dependent on an adult who is RESPONSIBLE for child’s PROPER development. Child is not RESPONSIBLE for anything …except child is naturally listening what parent and other adults are saying, what makes child completely vulnerable. So when child is abused and develops bunch of disorders, make many mistakes based on what was said, when than this broken adult refuse to HONOR his or her parents now there is a problem. Now somehow “ parents” don’t remember what happened, if they do they play the victim, they didn’t know any better you should forgive and forget and take responsibility for your life because you are an adult, right? But when they are being called out for NOT BEING RESPONSIBLE, for neglect, for DELIBERATELY sabotaging their own child’s life, NO, we can’t talk about it!
Smh.
@Gavroche every child has a relationship with their parents especially once in the teen years. Then the ability to communicate etc.. is even more important. A child is responsible for how they listen and obey their parents. Once again especially as they begin to get older and out of the toddler years. We should even be teaching them to take responsibility for their own actions so I'm not sure how you think a child is not responsible for anything unless your speaking on behalf of very small children alone
@@aoglifestyle2020 did you read my comment! No
@@gavroche8620 I did read read it and I replied just now
"Children, obey your parents IN THE LORD." This does not mean children should blindly follow everything and anything their parents say. Parents are supposed to live in a biblical way and teach their children to live according to God's word. They do not have to unquestioningly obey something that goes against biblical teaching. This gets left out as well: "Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."
JESUS WILL HANDLE THE PARENTS, THAT IS NOT YOUR JOB. DO YOUR JOB AND LET JESUS DO HIS. YOUR JOB IS TO OBEY, RESPECT, HONOR AND TREAT YOUR PARENTS WITH THE HIGHEST OF VALUE. IF YOUR PARENTS ARE TOXIC, JESUS WILL HANDLE THEM.
@@SheilaTrueLove the Bible doesn’t mention anything about parents respecting their children or does it??? Because respect should be mutual… but the Bible does tell parents not to provoke their children to wrath, and for some reason… parents never mention that passage…
Yes I mention this in the video if you actually watch the whole thing
@@eheheh3263they do not that why I made this video and mention that specifically in this video
your off a little with this
Not when you are an 'adult'. In biblical days you didn't bring disgrace to the family 'name' bc all commerce were done by reputation. If you parent is crazy or racist you do not have to accept their un-godly behavior. Honor will come in old age. Do not turn your back on them when in il health. My father abandoned me and turned his back on me years ago.
I am sorry to hear that. I pray it is amended one day. Honoring God always comes first
Admonition comes from admonish meaning a firm of CORRECTING/DISPLINING
your children . If a child is angry for being corrected admonished disciplined that's to be admonished. Its not right to be angry for being disciplined/corrected in the ways of God by your patents. Thats an obligation given to parents by God. A child should not get angry or have wrath toward a parent for instructing as God had instructed the parent to instruct the children.
For a child to do so indeed will bring the not going well for them part.
True that. But your parents can't be un Godly either and expect a child to grow up without issues
@@aoglifestyle2020 notice its written in the comment disciplined correct "in the ways God sets forth "
Children might not like what God sets forth but the parent can't change Gods commands to appease the child or to get on the grown child's good favor. To do so is the parent then not obeying or relaying to the child Gods will.
What would have happened if at his old age, Noah's children didn't listen or obey their parents and refused to help them ?
What would the outcome have been ??
@@faithdon5749 alright so when your parent abuses you mentally, emotionally, physically, or sexually still obey? Still honor?
Well you need to also explain what is provoking your children is about, "if you ask your children to do something and theu get mad or resp5with a negative attitude or answer, like do your homework, clean your room , brush your hair do your chores" that is not provoking your children. Most kids think and say that's what us as parents are doing to them when we ask them to do these things!!!!!
That is true their view is not always what's best, and the definition of what provoking them could be different depending on who you ask. I believe the answer to that would be making sure you involve God in all aspects of your parenting and being willing to communicate with other christian parents. It's definitely not easy to always see when we mess up.
So they can disrespect me an I an I have to take it
This is complete none sense
@@theredboyofficialredhot7718 that is not what the video states if u watch the full video
It's obey your tiger parents dreams for your career and marriage and schooling or else it's death.
I was adopted illegally back in 1983 and I grew up being told I'm going to hell No matter what by my own mother and my father was just evil man. It's really hard for me to honor anybody who's going to sit there and tell me I'm going to hell regardless what I do and someone who adopted me illegally. When I learned that I knew there was a reason why I felt like I was the outcast of the family because I'm actually not supposed to be here in this family.
Yeah man it is hard to honor parents like that and I believe they were treating you the opposite of what God would have wanted them to. The last half of of my video talks about it a little bit. Also no one can dictate your afterlife destination except GOD as long as you have Faith in Jesus no one can take heaven from you.
@@aoglifestyle2020 thanks for the reply I saw the video from beginning to end. I really wish I was raised in the church honestly but there was a reason why I wasn't other than the parents and my own will of staying out of the church for many years. So when I have an issue about my parents I always stick it with God and ask him to send me on the right path. That's all I can really do and go from there again thank you brother
@@liamshepherd5802 no problem man I wasn't in church much at a young age either just off and on. The good thing is there is not time like the present. Most of my growth in faith has been in the last 5 years
@@aoglifestyle2020 Amen
@@kennybanks1354 thanks for interacting with the community I subscribed to ya man
My friendi gotta tell you that that's not the first commandment with a promise. The first commandment with a promise is the fourth commandment. Exit 20 verse 8. If you're not familiar with the Bible or maybe you don't believe on that first command with with a promise that remember the sabbath day, which is the 7th day, which is Saturday to keep it holy. 6.
Es days shelled all labor and do all that work.But the 7th day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God.There's a blessing greater than any commandment that comes with that , my friend
@@davidrehmat2257 i never said it was the first commandment
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Where did you get the interpretation of what the Bible states? The first Commandment is Honor Thy Mother and Father! When a child is raised by a narcissistic mother to hate their own father is a sin. When an adult child stands in their parents face and speaks vile and disrespectful comments is a serious sin!
Of course it is. The point of the video is you cant go against what GOD has said a parent should be or how a parent should act. While also not teaching the child about who Jesus is and expect the child to then turn out Godly or respectful.
Plus I never stated that it wasnt sinful in the video. Often times when the bible speaks about a relationship they are two sided and when one part of the relationship fails according to how they should be in scripture. it is much harder for the other half in the relationship to follow Gods will. Even though they should
@@aoglifestyle2020 I have never done anything to be treated like a enemy. This started years ago with Parental Alienation. I have been the target parent for 25+ years. How do you tell a grown child about God when her boyfriend is a satanist? What would you do if your only son who once loved you stands in your face and calls you vile names? He is a police officer, so how can he respect the public when he cant respect his own father who nurtured him with love and yes taught him about our Savior. I watched him be Baptized and give his life to Jesus at 16 years old. So tell me how do you handle this situations? I believe your heart is in the right place. So why not do some research on Parental Alienation? My name I go by is JC!
@@americanpatriot2568 if you did everything you could all you can do is pray. This concept is very similar to the wife and husband relationship. Essentially if one or the other in the relationship goes against Gods word it is unwise for the counter part to continue to obey or follow. Because God is the ultimate authority. If you were following Gods word and Jesus example then the child has no excuse for his disrespect and he is in sin for the disobediance
@@aoglifestyle2020 Thanks for the great reply!
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Too long to get to the second part which is parents do not provoke your children
@@dorisbonet619 i agree I've debated remaking the video a lot. This is my early days of creating
What if your own father want you death
If that is what's going on your earthly Father is going against the heavenly Father's Will.
No adult man with a wife and kids can afford to obey parents. The verse clearly speaks to children. Adults are excluded. That is the most important point. Missed.
As adults we still honor our parents we never stop being their children. They may not give commands anymore but we can still be dishonorable or honorable as we grow older
@AOG Lifestyle agreed, the words obey does not speak to adults making me believe that its not a verse for adults as its simply impossible to be an adult and obey at th3 same time. The distinction was never made in the video.
@Kosie Koos True I am always learning too I will remake the video one day maybe this will be included although I think it's implied it's mainly heard and used while still under there roof because I talk about hearing it growing up.
My comments are merely one man's opinion. Thanks for the video. Keep making them.
@Kosie Koos I enjoy hearing people's advice and perspectives never feel afraid to share them! It is a perspective I hadn't thought of in regards to this particular verse.
These kids are disrespectful don't listen to their parents you can tell them exactly what to do and they don't want to do it
@@deborahdaffron8945 There are a lot of kids like this
Are you disobeying your parents and justifying that!!!
No sir, I am 30 years old lol I no longer see my parents daily
U slow?
This is why so many youth are dying so young. No respect.
If we had parents following Jesus with all their heart and passing it on to their children the world would be a lot different that's for sure
@@aoglifestyle2020 what’s so sad is the parents have fallen so far away from the word and living a life of righteousness that they have nothing to give to their children, thus giving their children over to satan and the result is death.
@P. Dwo This does happen often, just one more reason to represent Jesus everywhere we go. Gota be ambassadors
@@aoglifestyle2020 and we can’t be afraid to speak aloud. Society shames believers and works so hard on silencing our voices. We have to spare not and be steadfast. We’re seeing the end nearing. This is the time to get the word out!
@@PDwo Amen to that
Dead to me
What is?
Oh yes, honor your parents who are allowed to mentally and physically abuse you but don't you dare disobey your parents because the bible says if kids don't listen then take them out into the public streets and have them stoned to death. 😂 ahhh, that book needs to be banned from the world and anyone caught talking about it needs to be jailed.
Well obviously you have not read it if you think that's what it says
How about how men shouldn't have long hair, pretty boy 😂😂
Lol thats not true either if you actually consider the context of the bible
Sorry buddy you’re wrong ✌🏽
@@knucklesaukuso5086 if thats true then we shouldnt trim beards, or edge up our hair etc because the bible also says not to do this
@@knucklesaukuso5086 www.bibleissues.org/men-long-hair/ i cant type it all but this article does a good job of explaining
The bible says the long hair is glory to the women. What if she can't grow her hair? Does that mean she is dishonoring the word of God?
I think you don't know how to read the bible. The letters of Paul to church is specifically written for that particular churches that misusing or representing things in bad way.
Everything is good, but anything that is used for evil purpose, that ungodly.
Jesus said, ask in my name. So asking in his name is good, but using his name and do fake miracle is evil.
You’re justifying disrespectful children there’s parents out there that have done everything for there children but mistreated anyway
How am I justifying that? Plz explain
😂😂😂😂 please go listen to someone who knows how to translate the Bible . False teachers everywhere be vigilant who u allow to teach you
ok know it all
Are you saying I'm a false teacher? Definitely just following what these verses say. You should follow your parents closely if they are Godly people. If they are not there reaches a point where this is unfeasible
No. Having children is immoral. The child does not have any say about being born, and they are subjected to whatever they are thrown into because someone called it a blessing. Christianity is the ultimate gaslighting: The world god made is broken and it's your fault.
If you don't have children then you don't have a society not sure how it's immoral
@@aoglifestyle2020 It's immoral when a sentient being is forced into an existence they did not choose, and they have to live through all suffering of it until they die. If that isn't immoral, nothing is. Having children is a generational Ponzi scheme.
@@athena3865 then are free will should have just been taken then?
A confusing appearence. Looks more like a female, but the voice is male. Try to obey the Bible in maintaining your appearence also please. Men please ...avoid long hair.
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The christian bible does not teach this
Have you seen Jesus? What if he comes with long hair, are you going to reject him also?
"a confusing appearance" in other words "judging the book by it's cover".
I was taught something similar, like this lady's reply. However I knew the idea a man cannot have long hair would violate the O.T. Nazarite vow Jews and Christian Jews were taking. After careful study, I found Paul's comment from 1 Cor 11 is referencing the boys vs man quality from that time. Let me school you:
Boys kept long hair, and only after a certain age they became a man - and their hair got cut. Also, the man needed to decide for himself, just like the verses state explicitly.
The Nazarite vow was also taken by women btw - which meant they would also CUT their hair, as God allowed them to do by pure choice. Don't be fooled by those who love taking things out of context! That's the twisted work of the enemy there. Watch out.
@@justinaelizabeth5547 so are you saying long hair is bad or good? Because the context of the times matters a lot, and culturw back then was that man shouldnt have long hair. The story of samson comes to mind why would his strength come from his hair if it was also dishonring to God or are you saying God changed his mind? Because the bible also says God doesnt change he stays the same
You do realise the spelling is ..armour...
It can be spelled either way just depends on who is interpreting
@@aoglifestyle2020 what language do you speak?
@Pedal and Pop English Armour pronunciation is used more in Britain not America although I don't see the point in splitting hairs over something like this
@@aoglifestyle2020 haha I'm just messing with you my colonial friend, have a good rest of your day 👍
@Pedal and Pop lol a lot of people would be serious with it tho you'd be surprised lol
Amen.
Thanks for the comment!