While I don't personally drink or do recreational drugs, being diligent and stoic does not make a man attractive. If a man is invisible or rejected for a lack of physical attraction, the woman will never see how stoic or in control of his emotions he really can be. Having "strong character" goes unnoticed if a man never gets the opportunity to show it in the first place. Additional point: That's why serial killers and criminals _tooootally_ in control of their emotions with strong character traits never get any attention from women, right?
DIsclaimer - a woman has to find you physically attractive first before any of this comes into play ie you have to be Chad but at that point none of this matters
Definitely true, by putting women aside and no longer desiring them or feeling like you need them, you stop giving your power away and no longer need them in order to be happy. It's extremely freeing and ironically it makes women more attracted to you. Give up, or don't give into lust (porn, sexual thoughts, sexual desire for women) and your life will be much more enjoyable. It can take a bit of effort and discipline but the reward is worth it. Then you can have actually meaningful relationships based on love and connection instead of purely sexual desire.
As a man I have gave up drinking, gambling, watching sports, porn etc but still.. nothing. If I were in a relationship, I could easily continue to go without It's the fact that I am so often alone, that I am tempted to start drinking and gambling again (nothing too crazy) I won't ever watch porn. I'm starting to doubt that women actually like a disciplined man and really do go for the losers
You can watch porn. Just stay away from alcohol and gambling. Alcohol makes you depressed and feel like crap and wastes your money. If you watch porn you know you still have libido as a man. God made masterbation for men when your wife is not in the mood. It saves marriages. But I must still get sex 3 times a week. My wife knows.
But still "nothing" what? What do you mean when you say "nothing"? "Nothing" as contrary to what? I know what you mean of course, you are discouraged because giving up those things didn't result in magically conjuring up females for you. Doesn't work like that. Giving up those things are absolutely the right path for you, but it should not have ANYTHING to do with getting girls to like you or getting you into a relationship. Although obviously chances of that happening will improve by it. But that should NOT be the point, it should not be the reason, shouldn't be your motivation. Become your best self. Follow the inner calling of your soul, who you truly are and would like to become, respect it by taking it seriously. Stop thinking about getting girls or a girlfriend or a relationship, just completely stop it. Focus instead on becoming the best you. Hit the gym an hour every day. Or punch on that boxing bag; or you know do whatever it is that really makes you happy about yourself and helps improve you towards who your soul is and who you would like to be (to me it's fitness, boxing, weights etc, I get in such a good mood when I do it, and I feel super proud about myself, that I consistently do what I decided upon, AND I do something healthy for myself, AND I know that it makes me look really good which really help my confidence. Which I really need; I need it a little less now, but I still need it). And I suggest to join a community of people that are like you; of like minded people. People who are tolerant and welcoming of someone like you (whoever and however you may be). The last one is very important. It's not always so easy for everyone to become a part of a group; but there is ALWAYS others like you or others that like the kind of soul that YOU are, and chances are you like them too. And Im not talking romance or sex or girls here; Im talking people, other souls that you can spend time with, perticipate in common interests and hobbies for example, and experience the sense of community that Im convinced we all need more or less depending on who and how we are. Do not let your soul wither and die. Carpe diem, set your soul free. Im not saying this as a clichee, I really mean it.
@@CrazyGaming-ig6qq it's the fact that I worked hard to give all that up but some women who have rejected or ghosted me say that's the type of man they want. Only to get with a loser. But hey, it's their life, their choice. They made the wrong one. I'm in the gym and making good money now
@@derwoodhamburger / @CrazyGaming-ig6qq: "I'm starting to doubt that women actually like a disciplined man and really do go for the losers." "What do you mean when you say "nothing"?" "I'm in the gym and making good money now" @Jessica Watt - You can't hold a microphone and simultaneously hold two sock puppets.
*It’s amazing how much attraction is about how you carry yourself rather than just physical appearance. Solid advice for anyone looking to improve their game!*
The only men that are having a hard time with women are introverts. I agree to some extent about looks, I know a good looking lad and his success in not as good as average lads. The big reason for this is introversion in western culture and the stigma it holds. This doesnt happen in eastern european countries, asian countries, germanic countries. Its happening in western/southern europe, the US and South America. These regions value extroversion - talkative, chit-chat, small talk, positive affect as a baseline (not just a normal, even-keeled disposition). Women in these countries wont look at a guy whose a little more complex, a little more serious, introspective, more of a thinker etc. They just dont and you cant ask these men to just be something they're not. Women in extroverted countries find these mens aura a bit off, strange, intangible, hard to read. Its not like that in other countries where intellectualism is appreciated and not deemed an ick. This is why you have passport bros going to asia, even good looking ones - being a bit more reserved and less animated is considered a big ick. Its a sign of where culture is going if women are selecting simple, cheerful guys Mr EveryDay Man a la Manchester Lad culture over men who are more complex, deep and thoughtful.
@@Hero_Of_Old amen. It's one of the elephants in the room that is not being acknowledged. This is why PUA is still big, they capitalize on quiet, more reserved guys insecurities, try make them your typical extroverted laddie, make him sauve or a bit of a geezer, and it goes nowhere. What starts to happen is these types of men just withdraw and do the least possible as the rewards aren't there. Now you gotta be a cheerful chappy, a joe normie or off to Eastern Europe or Asia with you
Hi Jess, having seen all these heavily drunk guys behaving in an annoying and repulsive way being surrounded by girls all the time at parties, streets, university,… is quite a contradiction to what you are saying. Sure, it’s temporary, but most girls are heavily into that anyway. Same with smoking, eating fast food,…
1. Attraction is not a choice. 2. Looks matter. 3. Once she is attracted to you, then the rest of the stuff she says matters.. If you dont get past 2. Nothing else matters, unless you are rich. This is the truth.
I don't drink, I don't gamble, I don't do drugs, I don't shop excessively, I don't sleep around. I do agree that control is important, but the issue with male masturbation though is something that is inherent, it is not something that is created externally by adult material. I'm older now, but I remember the days when I was 15, the urge was almost painful. If a man told me that he didn't relieve himself at that age, I would probably think that something was wrong with him. Now, it matters what adult material you consume, or whether the release turns into something more sinister, such as a substitute for intimacy. But that is a separate question from my perspective. Second point: I do believe that some inner work can help, but it is something that will help you primarily. It doesn't automatically translate into attractiveness, meaning that there may be other obstacles that are still to be addressed.
Hi there, cannot confirm… at all. Have been doing inner work for over a year and I can honestly say that the positive changes do NOT translate to any increase in dating opportunities at all. I do better personally, friendships are better, but women in my country are just as avoidant / self-centered / self-conscious / closed-minded as always. What am I supposed to do if open-minded attractive women are scarce as a unicorn around here?
@@isoigushbnfgioushg-ip5st is there any chance believing women are avoidant, self centred, self conscious and closed minded is attracting more of these women to you?
Hi, thanks for the reply. I don’t think so, such is the pool of women here in southern Germany. Of course, I don’t meet them on purpose, I am just wondering how to meet suitable women if daily life, including trying out different activities, doesn’t connect you with the right people. Having lived in multiple countries and having met foreigners of various backgrounds, I can definitely say that experience with women (or its lack of) heavily depends on culture and upbringing. For example, it’s easy to at least have a random chat with a Latina or Asian woman as these cultures tend to have much higher openness towards strangers. In contrast, women in southern Germany are raised avoidant to strangers, so it is very rare to even have a chat, let alone to connect if you happen to be more on the self-made side of personality. And even if you do, the very few quality women are almost always taken. The numbers are just not out there. On top of that, many men that I talked to prefer foreign women as well, it sometimes feels like there is 100 men per available woman, assuming acceptable attractiveness. The situation is so ridiculous.
1. Attraction is not a choice. 2. Looks matter. 3. Once she is attracted to you, then the rest of the stuff she says matters.. If you dont get past 2. Nothing else matters, unless you are rich. This is the truth.
Attraction IS a choice, an indirect one. Based on your decisions, intentions, priorities. Everybody can shape that. But women usually go the easy route of expecting without contributing…
I appreciate your point of view and you are a women so you'd know better than me obviously but from a man's point of view I'd have to say, nah. Inner work, what does that even mean? As a dude I'd say just be you and don't make finding a women the center of your world. Lot's of things to enjoy in life, be friends with people, men and women, and always be willing to walk away from something that destroys your peace. Nothing wrong with wanting to be involved with a women, just don't make it your entire life. Don't make anything your entire life. Balance.
@@justenjoy-rr7ho Thanks for sharing. Inner work, in my own language is the thinking and beliefs we have about ourselves. I’ve seen in both women and men that where the thinking and beliefs are in harmony we create lots of joyful, peaceful and meaningful experiences for ourselves. I agree, balance absolutely and yes making a woman your entire world is not going to be helpful because you exist too. It’s the same for women.
Taking dating advice from woman is retarded. Especially these youtube channels telling you to " do this and woman will be attracted to you" LMAO. 1. Attraction is not a choice. 2. Looks matter. 3. Once she is attracted to you, then the rest of the stuff she says matters.. If you dont get past 2. Nothing else matters, unless you are rich. This is the truth.
Step 1.: Be good looking Step 2.: Be rich (optional, only applies if step 1 is achieved) If you failed at step one: don't watch porn, don't do drugs, don't drink alcohol, don't drive a cheap car, don't play video games, don't do sports, don't be a nerd, don't be introverted, don't start balding, go to the gym, eat healthy, lose weight, find hobbies (important: only hobbies that women like, not ones that you enjoy), be stylish, be assertive, be confident, be ambitious, be hard-working, be intelligent, be charismatic, be funny, be self-aware, speak multiple languages, be well-read, be religious (also don't be religious), be mature, be responsible, be financially stable (meaning: millionaire), have your own house(s) and car(s), etc. If still no women find you attractive after doing all these things: YoU aRe NoT eNtItLeD tO a GiRlFrIeNd!
No porn no alcohol no weed have not made me feel sexy or wanted ecstasy was one that made me feel every move i made and my walk comed almost dance it self then i felt first fucking time really desireable for while you can replicate sexinesss aftor those experiences trough hard self afrimation and letting go and feeling you body moving and feeling you sexiness inside listen or not listen womans and their opinion choise is your and you are in control of you mind state dont let this overall world crush you let go everything and freeball for while
Whole thing is about hiding feelings. And masking it. For me, it's about my workouts (in community with other men), my church, my professional work, my civic work. All very fulfilling. That creates a glow and its long term. Too many men don't do it. And they can't relate to a potential partner. If you get out of that then you will separate yourself very quickly from the rest of the pack. As in you are in the 1% and the others are in the lower 99%. Discipline matters! And women notice.
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While I don't personally drink or do recreational drugs, being diligent and stoic does not make a man attractive. If a man is invisible or rejected for a lack of physical attraction, the woman will never see how stoic or in control of his emotions he really can be. Having "strong character" goes unnoticed if a man never gets the opportunity to show it in the first place.
Additional point: That's why serial killers and criminals _tooootally_ in control of their emotions with strong character traits never get any attention from women, right?
DIsclaimer - a woman has to find you physically attractive first before any of this comes into play ie you have to be Chad but at that point none of this matters
Definitely true, by putting women aside and no longer desiring them or feeling like you need them, you stop giving your power away and no longer need them in order to be happy. It's extremely freeing and ironically it makes women more attracted to you.
Give up, or don't give into lust (porn, sexual thoughts, sexual desire for women) and your life will be much more enjoyable. It can take a bit of effort and discipline but the reward is worth it. Then you can have actually meaningful relationships based on love and connection instead of purely sexual desire.
As a man I have gave up drinking, gambling, watching sports, porn etc but still.. nothing.
If I were in a relationship, I could easily continue to go without
It's the fact that I am so often alone, that I am tempted to start drinking and gambling again (nothing too crazy)
I won't ever watch porn.
I'm starting to doubt that women actually like a disciplined man and really do go for the losers
You can watch porn. Just stay away from alcohol and gambling. Alcohol makes you depressed and feel like crap and wastes your money. If you watch porn you know you still have libido as a man. God made masterbation for men when your wife is not in the mood. It saves marriages. But I must still get sex 3 times a week. My wife knows.
But still "nothing" what? What do you mean when you say "nothing"? "Nothing" as contrary to what? I know what you mean of course, you are discouraged because giving up those things didn't result in magically conjuring up females for you. Doesn't work like that. Giving up those things are absolutely the right path for you, but it should not have ANYTHING to do with getting girls to like you or getting you into a relationship. Although obviously chances of that happening will improve by it. But that should NOT be the point, it should not be the reason, shouldn't be your motivation.
Become your best self. Follow the inner calling of your soul, who you truly are and would like to become, respect it by taking it seriously. Stop thinking about getting girls or a girlfriend or a relationship, just completely stop it. Focus instead on becoming the best you. Hit the gym an hour every day. Or punch on that boxing bag; or you know do whatever it is that really makes you happy about yourself and helps improve you towards who your soul is and who you would like to be (to me it's fitness, boxing, weights etc, I get in such a good mood when I do it, and I feel super proud about myself, that I consistently do what I decided upon, AND I do something healthy for myself, AND I know that it makes me look really good which really help my confidence. Which I really need; I need it a little less now, but I still need it). And I suggest to join a community of people that are like you; of like minded people. People who are tolerant and welcoming of someone like you (whoever and however you may be). The last one is very important. It's not always so easy for everyone to become a part of a group; but there is ALWAYS others like you or others that like the kind of soul that YOU are, and chances are you like them too. And Im not talking romance or sex or girls here; Im talking people, other souls that you can spend time with, perticipate in common interests and hobbies for example, and experience the sense of community that Im convinced we all need more or less depending on who and how we are.
Do not let your soul wither and die. Carpe diem, set your soul free. Im not saying this as a clichee, I really mean it.
@@CrazyGaming-ig6qq it's the fact that I worked hard to give all that up but some women who have rejected or ghosted me say that's the type of man they want. Only to get with a loser. But hey, it's their life, their choice. They made the wrong one. I'm in the gym and making good money now
@@derwoodhamburger / @CrazyGaming-ig6qq:
"I'm starting to doubt that women actually like a disciplined man and really do go for the losers."
"What do you mean when you say "nothing"?"
"I'm in the gym and making good money now"
@Jessica Watt - You can't hold a microphone and simultaneously hold two sock puppets.
*It’s amazing how much attraction is about how you carry yourself rather than just physical appearance. Solid advice for anyone looking to improve their game!*
The only men that are having a hard time with women are introverts. I agree to some extent about looks, I know a good looking lad and his success in not as good as average lads. The big reason for this is introversion in western culture and the stigma it holds. This doesnt happen in eastern european countries, asian countries, germanic countries. Its happening in western/southern europe, the US and South America. These regions value extroversion - talkative, chit-chat, small talk, positive affect as a baseline (not just a normal, even-keeled disposition). Women in these countries wont look at a guy whose a little more complex, a little more serious, introspective, more of a thinker etc. They just dont and you cant ask these men to just be something they're not. Women in extroverted countries find these mens aura a bit off, strange, intangible, hard to read. Its not like that in other countries where intellectualism is appreciated and not deemed an ick.
This is why you have passport bros going to asia, even good looking ones - being a bit more reserved and less animated is considered a big ick. Its a sign of where culture is going if women are selecting simple, cheerful guys Mr EveryDay Man a la Manchester Lad culture over men who are more complex, deep and thoughtful.
As an introverted, introspective, very deep thinking man. I agree. Its tough and lonely out there, even if you are good looking.
@@Hero_Of_Old amen. It's one of the elephants in the room that is not being acknowledged. This is why PUA is still big, they capitalize on quiet, more reserved guys insecurities, try make them your typical extroverted laddie, make him sauve or a bit of a geezer, and it goes nowhere. What starts to happen is these types of men just withdraw and do the least possible as the rewards aren't there. Now you gotta be a cheerful chappy, a joe normie or off to Eastern Europe or Asia with you
Hi Jess, having seen all these heavily drunk guys behaving in an annoying and repulsive way being surrounded by girls all the time at parties, streets, university,… is quite a contradiction to what you are saying. Sure, it’s temporary, but most girls are heavily into that anyway. Same with smoking, eating fast food,…
1. Attraction is not a choice. 2. Looks matter. 3. Once she is attracted to you, then the rest of the stuff she says matters.. If you dont get past 2. Nothing else matters, unless you are rich. This is the truth.
I don't drink, I don't gamble, I don't do drugs, I don't shop excessively, I don't sleep around. I do agree that control is important, but the issue with male masturbation though is something that is inherent, it is not something that is created externally by adult material. I'm older now, but I remember the days when I was 15, the urge was almost painful. If a man told me that he didn't relieve himself at that age, I would probably think that something was wrong with him. Now, it matters what adult material you consume, or whether the release turns into something more sinister, such as a substitute for intimacy. But that is a separate question from my perspective. Second point: I do believe that some inner work can help, but it is something that will help you primarily. It doesn't automatically translate into attractiveness, meaning that there may be other obstacles that are still to be addressed.
Hi there, cannot confirm… at all. Have been doing inner work for over a year and I can honestly say that the positive changes do NOT translate to any increase in dating opportunities at all. I do better personally, friendships are better, but women in my country are just as avoidant / self-centered / self-conscious / closed-minded as always. What am I supposed to do if open-minded attractive women are scarce as a unicorn around here?
@@isoigushbnfgioushg-ip5st is there any chance believing women are avoidant, self centred, self conscious and closed minded is attracting more of these women to you?
Hi, thanks for the reply. I don’t think so, such is the pool of women here in southern Germany. Of course, I don’t meet them on purpose, I am just wondering how to meet suitable women if daily life, including trying out different activities, doesn’t connect you with the right people. Having lived in multiple countries and having met foreigners of various backgrounds, I can definitely say that experience with women (or its lack of) heavily depends on culture and upbringing. For example, it’s easy to at least have a random chat with a Latina or Asian woman as these cultures tend to have much higher openness towards strangers. In contrast, women in southern Germany are raised avoidant to strangers, so it is very rare to even have a chat, let alone to connect if you happen to be more on the self-made side of personality. And even if you do, the very few quality women are almost always taken. The numbers are just not out there. On top of that, many men that I talked to prefer foreign women as well, it sometimes feels like there is 100 men per available woman, assuming acceptable attractiveness. The situation is so ridiculous.
1. Attraction is not a choice. 2. Looks matter. 3. Once she is attracted to you, then the rest of the stuff she says matters.. If you dont get past 2. Nothing else matters, unless you are rich. This is the truth.
Attraction IS a choice, an indirect one. Based on your decisions, intentions, priorities. Everybody can shape that. But women usually go the easy route of expecting without contributing…
I appreciate your point of view and you are a women so you'd know better than me obviously but from a man's point of view I'd have to say, nah. Inner work, what does that even mean? As a dude I'd say just be you and don't make finding a women the center of your world. Lot's of things to enjoy in life, be friends with people, men and women, and always be willing to walk away from something that destroys your peace. Nothing wrong with wanting to be involved with a women, just don't make it your entire life. Don't make anything your entire life. Balance.
@@justenjoy-rr7ho Thanks for sharing. Inner work, in my own language is the thinking and beliefs we have about ourselves. I’ve seen in both women and men that where the thinking and beliefs are in harmony we create lots of joyful, peaceful and meaningful experiences for ourselves. I agree, balance absolutely and yes making a woman your entire world is not going to be helpful because you exist too. It’s the same for women.
Taking dating advice from woman is retarded. Especially these youtube channels telling you to " do this and woman will be attracted to you" LMAO.
1. Attraction is not a choice.
2. Looks matter.
3. Once she is attracted to you, then the rest of the stuff she says matters.. If you dont get past 2. Nothing else matters, unless you are rich.
This is the truth.
Step 1.: Be good looking
Step 2.: Be rich (optional, only applies if step 1 is achieved)
If you failed at step one: don't watch porn, don't do drugs, don't drink alcohol, don't drive a cheap car, don't play video games, don't do sports, don't be a nerd, don't be introverted, don't start balding, go to the gym, eat healthy, lose weight, find hobbies (important: only hobbies that women like, not ones that you enjoy), be stylish, be assertive, be confident, be ambitious, be hard-working, be intelligent, be charismatic, be funny, be self-aware, speak multiple languages, be well-read, be religious (also don't be religious), be mature, be responsible, be financially stable (meaning: millionaire), have your own house(s) and car(s), etc.
If still no women find you attractive after doing all these things: YoU aRe NoT eNtItLeD tO a GiRlFrIeNd!
The comment about “Why should we try” getting deleted off of the comment section is insane. The truth is dropped and it just gets nuked, ofc.
The thing is though, how are women going to know I'm not consuming X, Y and Z ?
- money
No porn no alcohol no weed have not made me feel sexy or wanted ecstasy was one that made me feel every move i made and my walk comed almost dance it self then i felt first fucking time really desireable for while you can replicate sexinesss aftor those experiences trough hard self afrimation and letting go and feeling you body moving and feeling you sexiness inside listen or not listen womans and their opinion choise is your and you are in control of you mind state dont let this overall world crush you let go everything and freeball for while
What if you have a high sex drive and you're currently single? Are you to avoid masturbation altogether?!
No, there are physiological reasons why men need to do that on a regular basis. Basically about every four days according to medical science.
Do what you want. Don't change anything for w-m-n. If she does not like it too bad. Treat w-m-n as an extra, not the main thing.
À pretty face ?? What else really !
With the porn its loneliness also.
Whole thing is about hiding feelings. And masking it. For me, it's about my workouts (in community with other men), my church, my professional work, my civic work. All very fulfilling. That creates a glow and its long term. Too many men don't do it. And they can't relate to a potential partner. If you get out of that then you will separate yourself very quickly from the rest of the pack. As in you are in the 1% and the others are in the lower 99%. Discipline matters! And women notice.
So True...
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The more i think of you, the less i think if you.
Your content is great. May I respectfully suggest that you get a much better camera? Thanks!
I'm glad you are enjoying the content and yes you can :)
Finally a women’s perspective. Good on ya. 👍
@@markmasson5746 thank you Mark I appreciate your kindness. I’m glad the video was helpful for you ❤️🙏