Sometimes I feel like it would be better to talk later. You can get so high on emotions, sometimes all you need is a breather to get your head in the right place!
personally, I think the "can we talk about this later" depends on tone. like if hes saying "UGH lets just talk about this later" like hes brushing it off then thats a hell no. but if its in a "lets talk about this later when we both calm down so neither of us makes an irrational decision/says something mean out of anger" then thats a really green flag.
Came down to say that, the tone and intention is VERY important with this one. I know with my ex he would often do things to upset me but im not good at conveying my emotions so I would express that I'm upset so there's some base level understanding as to why I'm a little off but I need to collect my thoughts and talk later.
I agree. It takes specific things for me to be upset, some are just pet peeves and others are very important to me. Depending on what upset me, I'd probably need to take a break away from the person who triggered me. (I stay mad long enough that family has gotten over THEIR anger, but the moment they see I'M still angry, they get angry again which only triggers me more 😅) So I'd need a break to cool off cuz I don't want to say something mean
"Can we talk about this later" is not that bad. I have poor emotional regulation due to my autism so when i am heated or feel overwhelmed, i ask her this, so i can cool down and clear my head to avoid a meltdown. Always results in better outcomes.
yesss! there r so many ppl w poor emotional regulation for so many reasons that sometimes js need to take a break and come back to it when they feel like they can, it sucks that not everybody can be understanding of that :(
When most people think of "Can we talk about this later" they're thinking of when it's used in a dismissive way to get out of ever having the conversation
When most people think of "Can we talk about this later" they're thinking of when it's used in a dismissive way to get out of ever having the conversation
And yet when you force them to talk about it now and they say something in the heat of anger now you mad…..everyone takes a step back so they can talk the issue out with a level head not full of emotions
Nah I'd be happy if someone genuinely says that to me... atleast I know they aren't ignoring me and want to think through it thoughtfully. However, I would like ask like what time...or how many days so that It won't feel like a "we'll see" or "let's see" type of response
As someone who gets initially upset then settles down and is reasonable, I appreciate a break. But it depends on the circumstance, whether or not the person is just trying to be avoidant and won’t actually come back and have a conversation.
To table a conversation shows you need a moment, or a good bit of time, to reign in big emotions to talk everything out as adults. I mean. In the moment it kinda pisses you off, but realistically, taking a break from a heated conversation can absolutely save a relationship.
“Can we talk about this later” is honestly great. I have a lot of loved ones who will say that to me when I need to talk if they aren’t able to give what I’m saying full attention, and to their credit, they always circle back when they can to hear me out. It’s probably the best way to respond if you’re not in a place where you can offer support at that moment. I may phrase it a little bit gentler, because the tone could make “can we talk about this later” seem dismissive, but the sentiment is good
Girl seems like the type to always think that they’re right and gets super emotional and confrontational during conversations. The negative response to “let’s talk about it later”, is giving that vibe.
No "let's talk about this later" can be good if actually done but she took the "let's talk about this later" as in just stop it, I don't care, I don't feel like talking to you because it's not important for me Both can happen
Personally, I think its best to take some time apart from someone if youre arguing. You dont want to say things in the moment that you cant take away, and it's immature to disreguard someones discomfort with an argument just for the sake of arguing.
The "can we talk about it later" kinda depends in my opinion yes some people use it in a "idc about your problem" way but when im mad i legit need to be left alone for a while so i can calm down
I mean I understand wanting to talk about something later when you're upset and think you might say something you don't mean out of frustration, but I also understand being like "what do you mean talk later? No, I need to talk about this now" lol
If you get to chose when something is spoken about, then that right extends to the other party in the conversation also. Both need to agree to talk about something, but only one is needed to postpone the talk until later. Any other way breeds bad feelings and resentment. If you make unilateral decisions about how to deal with issues in your relationship, you are the de facto dictator of your relationship and dictators usually gets outed in a coup when the population living under dictatorship has had enough.
its kinda a huge red flag to refuse to calm down and talk later tho???? like idk why yall act like taking a breather to collect your thoughts and understand your emotion is such a bad thing to yall - no wonder yall fight so much
my sister when ever she fought w her ex would say “your acting like (previous ex) rn!” and her ex had the same reaction of like stop saying that.. she would say “than stop acting like how my previous ex did and i will stop saying that”
i do understand where you are coming from but you seem like you have a short temper and it has affected your relationship and emotions before i am not trying to be rude im sorry if it comes off as that
I feel like the this is how my ex used to act isnt nessisarily bad, like could have been an abusive ex and their letting you know that they dont cope with that due to the fact their ex abused them
Some of them I can see being used in a playful argument but a real one, yeah, no. FYI I know she’s talking about a real one, that’s why I made sure to separate the two
BRO I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY UR OVERREACTING OR CAN WE TALK ABT THIS LATER. LIKE I HAVE FEELINGS, IM A HUMAN AND YOU NEED TO STOP AVOIDING THE SITUATION.
Idk the ex thing is tricky. Like imagine your ex was an absolute piece of crap and they knew about it and they started treating you like that while angry like idk
She kinda seems like the kind of person that when your trying to calm down and finish the argument that she'll then follow you to keep arguing becouse how she feels is more important,
Talk about things better, but it is dependent on what it is that is causing an issue. If it needs to be solved due now, then solve it now. Most, if not all the time, it can be solved much later.
Well maybe he doesn't understand because you haven't explained it yet, remember that men have different brains and think differently, you need to explain why you feel certain ways sometimes, that's not his fault, him saying that he doesn't understand is him giving you a cue that he wants you to explain it to him, which means that he at least cares enough to try and figure it out, please don't take that as a red flag ladies, or maybe I'm missing something idk
It's more in the context for the "let's talk later", if it's something where the person isn't obviously just high on emotion, that's kinda a dick move, and telling someone that they're overreacting is rude
“ how bout die “ 😭😭 i love her
That is funny asf, but my boyfriend actually did die, so it’s sad too 🥺
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She a red flag all over
Wtf @@torialexis19
@@butter1434you're a red flag
Sometimes I feel like it would be better to talk later. You can get so high on emotions, sometimes all you need is a breather to get your head in the right place!
ye thats better cuz if you say it later your lesss likely to hurt the other more with choice of words/yelling or actions
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Yeah but a lot of men say that over and over just to avoid talking about it for no real reason.
EXACTLY i was so surprised when she responded negatively
Nah,it's better to resolve the issue now than to drag it on..
personally, I think the "can we talk about this later" depends on tone. like if hes saying "UGH lets just talk about this later" like hes brushing it off then thats a hell no. but if its in a "lets talk about this later when we both calm down so neither of us makes an irrational decision/says something mean out of anger" then thats a really green flag.
Came down to say that, the tone and intention is VERY important with this one. I know with my ex he would often do things to upset me but im not good at conveying my emotions so I would express that I'm upset so there's some base level understanding as to why I'm a little off but I need to collect my thoughts and talk later.
I agree. It takes specific things for me to be upset, some are just pet peeves and others are very important to me. Depending on what upset me, I'd probably need to take a break away from the person who triggered me. (I stay mad long enough that family has gotten over THEIR anger, but the moment they see I'M still angry, they get angry again which only triggers me more 😅)
So I'd need a break to cool off cuz I don't want to say something mean
"Can we talk about this later" is not that bad. I have poor emotional regulation due to my autism so when i am heated or feel overwhelmed, i ask her this, so i can cool down and clear my head to avoid a meltdown. Always results in better outcomes.
yesss! there r so many ppl w poor emotional regulation for so many reasons that sometimes js need to take a break and come back to it when they feel like they can, it sucks that not everybody can be understanding of that :(
When most people think of "Can we talk about this later" they're thinking of when it's used in a dismissive way to get out of ever having the conversation
When most people think of "Can we talk about this later" they're thinking of when it's used in a dismissive way to get out of ever having the conversation
LITERALLY ME (although i don’t have autism) like i get so overwhelmed and i need to take a step away to breathe and get my head back you know??
the switch of anger to “yess, take notes! 😽💗” lolll 😭
“and die” i love her 😭😭😭
"I UNDERSTAND WHY YOU FEEL THIS WAY" IS SO OVERUSED FR 😭😭✋
I hate it. Like nah you don't? You ain't me. You can try to understand and I'll be thankful for that but you never will really understand
@@annafultyn1488 It's not really meant to be literal. It's empathy, lmao.
Why is her voice so comforting like I feel at peace
The most PERFECT 😍BEAUTIFUL and natural PERSON I ever seen . Her vibes, her eyes SMILE ❤🩷❤
She always makes me laugh 😂
"no we cant talk about it later cause i wanna talk about it now and if i wanna talk bout it now we're gonna talk about it now" YESS you tell them girl
but what if someone needs some time to decompress and think before talking🥲
Honestly I can see how both people taking a break to calm down first then discussing the issue calmly can help but it depends on the situation
And yet when you force them to talk about it now and they say something in the heat of anger now you mad…..everyone takes a step back so they can talk the issue out with a level head not full of emotions
Nah I'd be happy if someone genuinely says that to me... atleast I know they aren't ignoring me and want to think through it thoughtfully. However, I would like ask like what time...or how many days so that It won't feel like a "we'll see" or "let's see" type of response
As someone who gets initially upset then settles down and is reasonable, I appreciate a break. But it depends on the circumstance, whether or not the person is just trying to be avoidant and won’t actually come back and have a conversation.
To table a conversation shows you need a moment, or a good bit of time, to reign in big emotions to talk everything out as adults. I mean. In the moment it kinda pisses you off, but realistically, taking a break from a heated conversation can absolutely save a relationship.
i love the way she speaks
“Can we talk about this later” is honestly great. I have a lot of loved ones who will say that to me when I need to talk if they aren’t able to give what I’m saying full attention, and to their credit, they always circle back when they can to hear me out. It’s probably the best way to respond if you’re not in a place where you can offer support at that moment. I may phrase it a little bit gentler, because the tone could make “can we talk about this later” seem dismissive, but the sentiment is good
yo why she so good at this also THANK YOU your comments were just chef’s kiss 💋
i love how she's genuinely getting mad at these 😂
Talking later is helpful, I have a hard time talking in arguments and freeze up and say things that dont even make sense lmfao
Telling someone to die because they said smth you didn’t like sure is something 😭 /lh
Her clocking everyone she sees 😂😂
Some of her reactions are pretty big red flags "no, we are gonna talk about this now because I want to"? Damn, you really are the main character
Girl seems like the type to always think that they’re right and gets super emotional and confrontational during conversations. The negative response to “let’s talk about it later”, is giving that vibe.
No "let's talk about this later" can be good if actually done but she took the "let's talk about this later" as in just stop it, I don't care, I don't feel like talking to you because it's not important for me
Both can happen
Lemme guess, that's why she left?
this made me even like her more I literally laughed at the first word I love her protect this girl at all cost hahahahahaha I love you Sahar
THIS IS SO REAL LOVE HER
Personally, I think its best to take some time apart from someone if youre arguing. You dont want to say things in the moment that you cant take away, and it's immature to disreguard someones discomfort with an argument just for the sake of arguing.
I get so hangry without even realizing that bringing me food is probably the best way to win an argument lol
The "can we talk about it later" kinda depends in my opinion yes some people use it in a "idc about your problem" way but when im mad i legit need to be left alone for a while so i can calm down
I mean I understand wanting to talk about something later when you're upset and think you might say something you don't mean out of frustration, but I also understand being like "what do you mean talk later? No, I need to talk about this now" lol
"can we talk about this later" is unironically a green flag though?
By the way you are STUNNING drop dead gorgeous like wow and you’re funny
YES I AGREE SAHAR! if someone ever said “stop being so dramatic” to me, that’s it. i’m done. like stfu-
dont tell em girl 🤦♂️
How is hair so pretty 😭
Her hair*
If you get to chose when something is spoken about, then that right extends to the other party in the conversation also. Both need to agree to talk about something, but only one is needed to postpone the talk until later. Any other way breeds bad feelings and resentment. If you make unilateral decisions about how to deal with issues in your relationship, you are the de facto dictator of your relationship and dictators usually gets outed in a coup when the population living under dictatorship has had enough.
its kinda a huge red flag to refuse to calm down and talk later tho???? like idk why yall act like taking a breather to collect your thoughts and understand your emotion is such a bad thing to yall - no wonder yall fight so much
my sister when ever she fought w her ex would say “your acting like (previous ex) rn!”
and her ex had the same reaction of like stop saying that..
she would say “than stop acting like how my previous ex did and i will stop saying that”
Girly...WHY ARE YOU SO RELATABLE
she my spirit animal fr😭✋
STOP THE MOM GIVING FRUIT INSTEAD OF APOLOGIZING IS SO REAL
i do understand where you are coming from but you seem like you have a short temper and it has affected your relationship and emotions before i am not trying to be rude im sorry if it comes off as that
“How bout die😙😌” Lmao
idk who this is but i love her 😭😭😭
whenever i got mad and stormed of mom always says here we go again
If they bring me food, the problem is gone 😂😂. Unless it’s a *really* serious problem that we have to talk about.
it all depends on the situation.
She givin Loralai Gilmor vibes.
You sound exactly like my bio teacher
The bring them food depends on the food. If it's a green bean, I'm going to jail. If it's a burger, then we'll work this out 😂
I feel like the this is how my ex used to act isnt nessisarily bad, like could have been an abusive ex and their letting you know that they dont cope with that due to the fact their ex abused them
I think sometimes you need to talk later though
Girl is not playing 😭
Some of them I can see being used in a playful argument but a real one, yeah, no. FYI I know she’s talking about a real one, that’s why I made sure to separate the two
BRO I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY UR OVERREACTING OR CAN WE TALK ABT THIS LATER. LIKE I HAVE FEELINGS, IM A HUMAN AND YOU NEED TO STOP AVOIDING THE SITUATION.
Yeah, but what about boundaries?
Nah she a red flag
NO BC ANY TIME ME AND MY MUM GET IN A FIGHT SHE ALWAYS GIVES ME FRUIT AS AN APOLOGY😭😭
Idk the ex thing is tricky. Like imagine your ex was an absolute piece of crap and they knew about it and they started treating you like that while angry like idk
Does anyone know what this filter is called? And where I can find it
You remind me of my color guard coach lol 😝
She kinda seems like the kind of person that when your trying to calm down and finish the argument that she'll then follow you to keep arguing becouse how she feels is more important,
Talk about things better, but it is dependent on what it is that is causing an issue. If it needs to be solved due now, then solve it now. Most, if not all the time, it can be solved much later.
girl, be open to talking about things later.. tf
thisss! bc forcing someone to talk is borderline emotional abuse🥴
Well maybe he doesn't understand because you haven't explained it yet, remember that men have different brains and think differently, you need to explain why you feel certain ways sometimes, that's not his fault, him saying that he doesn't understand is him giving you a cue that he wants you to explain it to him, which means that he at least cares enough to try and figure it out, please don't take that as a red flag ladies, or maybe I'm missing something idk
If all of these annoy you, then the problem is you.
So iconic
The one at the top is fine UNLESS it is followed up by 'but'
"I react the perfect amount" um chill maybe ur the problem sometimes
my bf does everything right lol
literally me core
i’m sorry but i understand why u feel this way seems like something chatgpt would suggest
Literally every girl I've ever loved has at some point been possessed by the same demon. So yeah I recognize that and cast it out
bro what are you even saying
Jesus loves you
Lmao
Half of these made me think that your a red flag by the way your reacting to some of them- (the let’s talk about this later and the overreacting one)
It's more in the context for the "let's talk later", if it's something where the person isn't obviously just high on emotion, that's kinda a dick move, and telling someone that they're overreacting is rude
Your mom lol
“And I don’t understand why your not more understanding…how bout that “ so real