Okay first guy, if she went from "I'm free" to "I made plans" the second you wanted to go somewhere she was never interested, delete the number and move on.
from what I've experienced in the Tokyo area, you're gonna hear the "I made plans" line a lot. Japanese girls seem to be very picky with the types of foreigners they actually want to seriously go out with. they'll be really interested in where you're from and learning some English words but when it comes to getting anywhere close to dating, it'll be hard to get close with most of them.
@@MichaelH-1 Despite what others are saying, I think you're wise to give her at least a couple chances. I dunno about any more than two. But yes, work can be brutal over there, so there is a chance that she genuinely can't make the date, but will make it next time!
I think most foreigners don't understand Japanese culture of 告白 Kokuhaku and the tradtions of how it can be important when dating in Japan. Culturally, Japanese women want the expression of love through action rather than words. But I think this is where the wires get crossed because western culture has a very one way approach to saying you like someone. Japanese women are more or less appreciative of words but they are more interested in action by a male party. Hence why it seems like Japanese women are very status driven, because the act of providing for is an action to saying you care for that person. Don't just say it, do it...sort of thing. Love for Japanese is built through everyday actions not through the conversations about actions.
I also prefer action rather than words. Than why is it so, that japanese men showing the least action. I have dated some and have some japane friends. But they are poor in words and action😅
I get the sentiment however, it's very hard to be proactive when you don't know where you stand before or after a date. Action will only be given if one knows the intention of the other party. Otherwise, you're just taken for a ride. This has never happened to me but to one of my friends, he was just messed around and spent a bunch of money on stuff that went nowhere.
Huh? Everybody knows action speak louder than words but laughter is how to win them over. Everybody make like it’s this big secret or so complicated it ain’t there are differences but it is not rocket science Jeez
@@kurovader4078 Sure, laughter can win them over if the sense of humor is the same. Being from the US vs UK for example offers different styles of humor. One tends to be more silly (US) while the other is dry (UK). Yeah, its not rocket science but it is cultural. Imagine trying to tell a joke to someone who has no idea how humor works from your respective country. I can speak 3 languages at a very high level (Japanese is not one) and I promise you that sense of humor doesn't work everywhere. Enough with the cap.
@@lawrencegeorge6089 Lol I can see your point. True knowing the culture would enhance your appeal but I speak two languages. ( Japanese is one of them) and when I went to Korea , Japan, Mexico I used laughter and 7 out of 10 times it worked. No cap all cape ( meaning super)
I think when people say deep conversations it just means abstract conversations or about personal experiences or opinions. Superficial conversations are like what food do you like or what are your hobbies.
Japanese people really work that "Honne Tatemae". Getting a direct statement of how they truly feel seems impossible. The "hints" are there and I guess they expect people to "get it" eventually. Those hints can turn real creative - "Supermarket jingle? What are those lyri...- OH!" The "dating game" feels more like an exam than a relationship...
Learn to play along it's how I met my Japanese girlfriend. The level of social accuracy/acuity and intelligence you'll need to have IN YOUR HOME COUNTRY WILL HAVE TO BE ABLE TO TRANSMIT ACROSS INTO ANOTHER CULTURE AND THEIR LANGUAGE. JAPAN ISN'T FOR THE AVERAGE CITIZEN OF YOUR HOME COUNTRY IT'S FOR THE ABNORMAL PEOPLE OF YOUR HOME COUNTRY BECAUSE OF THE NUANCE JAPAN HAS. NOTICE THAT CATHY CAT WEARS A DAMN COSTUME IN PUBLIC ....HMMMMMM WOULD YOU BE MAN OR WOMAN ENOUGH TO WALK AROUND 50% OF THE DAY IN A COSTUME IN YOUR OWN COUNTRY..... PROBABLY NOT. SOOOOOOOO IF YOU THINK ABOUT THE AVERAGE FOREIGNER WHO DOES WELL WITH LIFE THERE TO THE STRANGE FOREIGNER WHO DOES THINGS IN JAPAN HANDS DOWN THE STRANGE FOREIGNER USUALLY FITS RIGHT IN.
I don't live in Japan. The experiences are with Japanese expats in Europe. Cant complain about a cultural norm, true. And there are many things that I really like and respect about the Japanese culture. However, I think that clarity in communication is objectively a good thing. "Reading the air" works only up to a point and for a serious relationship that point might not be enough
why there is some who can get japanese girlfriends.... only because they got a good eyesight and be fluent in japanese? it's stupid. japanese only swears by big priviledges. that's why they're not trustworthy
Yeah they all had really great answers. They gave some better ones than some others I’ve come across before on other shows on the streets. Plus, she also gave them some really handy advice which isn’t too common as most the time the interviewers just asked questions.
Just use hello talk or tandem to meet people. They're already interested in English and it's a good start. Get the small talk stuff out of the way early before you actually meet and you can easily tell if you're wasting your time. Edit: She mentioned it at 4:00 lol. She's exactly right.
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 I've had better success on hello talk. Just start with normal small talk and see where it goes. I know it might sound bad, but it's a numbers game. Message hundreds of girls. I guarantee you'll find one that you match with.
@@Dan-mf4ox Lol I definitely have. But it all depends on you too. If you're not funny or interesting then it's more difficult. I joke a lot and it always works. I'm not saying it works with every girl but it's a numbers game. Message hundreds of people and you'll definitely match with a few. But I always get all of the hard work out of the way before I actually meet in real life. Like, I know 100% that she likes me before we ever meet.
@@Dan-mf4ox It not only help you online, but in life if you start to open up a little bit and joke around. It's so much easier online because you don't have to feel embarrassed since they're not looking at you. Just be different than others. I always say stupid things like "ohayooooooooooo insert name". Stupid things like that catch people off guard and a lot of girls like that. That's just a stupid example. I don't know, man. I'm really outgoing and I've never really had an issue getting girls. I'm definitely not bragging or anything. I think step 1 is to just get more confident. Don't be afraid to look stupid lol. What's the worst thing that can happen? They don't reply. Literally that's it. Just message a lot of people and see what happens.
Heres my take and it's just not a Japanese thing but if you really want to go on a date with someone you should have a plan in mind. Don't show up on a date unprepared and just wing it. The impression women are getting is you're not serious.
I would love to see this channel do a video on people in Japan who absolutely don’t have or interact with any form of social media at all, simply because they are getting too political and try to sway the masses to one side or the other, I believe the companies that own the social media platforms shouldn’t have that much power in the world. I’ve noticed that in Japan social media seems to play a big roll in how people hook up and meet but it would be interesting to hear from the people who absolutely aren’t engaged in this social media era.
Thank you for the great content 🙏🏼 I noticed you ask the same people for different episodes . If you could try to ask people from different regions 👍🏼😁
Interviewing women in their 30s, 40s and hearing about their insights about dating would be nice. It's probably really frustrating dating as a young adult these days🤷♂️ the younger the person being interviewed, it seems the higher the expectations or assumptions are for both Japanese and foreigners who speak in the videos. It's really interesting.
Can you do an ask Japanese about people’s opinion about not allowing back tourists (as it used to be before covid) Unless you book through an agency and set an strict itinerary…:/
Language exchange app are actually the best. Because they have their wall down etc. And you are already meeting people who are interested in western culture. Usually.
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 Make sure you have a face photo and you don't come off as having a specific intention. But yeah I've been with so many girls on there. It's pretty easy. Or even language exchange events. Easy pz
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 don't say that. Just say "Hello, what's up?" Maybe "nice to meet you" don't say "I want to chat" that's like asking them permission. Be a man. Just tall to them. It's very rare a girl doesn't reply ro me. When when I was obese it was easy to talk on there. Or go to events.
I don’t wanna judge but why is the first guy looking for a girlfriend when he just moved to Japan lol He even said he downloaded the app before moving… bro calm down
Many people who come to Japan are like him. For some reason, they have a prejudice that foreigners are popular with Japanese women and they never even try to speak Japanese. But in reality, just because you are a foreigner, you will never be popular with Japanese women. And when they find out the reality, they complain like "Japanese people are racists!" lol To be realistic, most Japanese women are not interested in foreigners. Only a few Japanese women who have a yearning for a foreign country are interested in foreign men. Moreover, many of them want to date foreign men simply because they want to move abroad or have half-Japanese children or for some other silly reason.
@@asdfghjjhgf lmaoooo 😂 but even if there are some women who like foreigners, the fact that some men are so thirsty for women is a huge turn off for me Like, don’t you have any other interests in life? Pathetic I would say
Ikr. The first year should be dedicated to learning the culture, the language, getting used to the environment, making as many friends as possible, not looking for a girlfriend.
Oh god this entire video is a mood... talking about serious stuff online and stuff and then when it comes to meeting up... crickets. Could at least reject if they dont actually want to do anything anymore
If a girl keeps on postponing meetups, just cut off contact. She is not interested! Most girls here like simps. Way too many people here are starving for validation.
The mind games from the girl that said I’m free and then I made plans really just seems like indirect rejection, I’d take it that way for sure since you know when someone’s interested in you they’ll try to make time for you a different day and even tell you when to hang out. That being said I feel like that specific explanation of Japanese girls reminds me a bit of Ecuadorian girls. Not the same but I had a similar experience 🥲
Thx Cathy. I think it would be great if you could discuss the third date rule...I'm not sure of the exact term. You are supposed to confess your love on the third date or break up...I think? It's something like that...very different from the US where it could be months and many dates before you talk about love.
TAKE A HINT! She keeps putting you off, that means she doesn't want to date you. If you understand 'Face', you'll understand Japanese don't want to hurt your face so they won't say they don't like you directly... you HAVE to understand them. One of the first things to understand in Japanese dating is 告白 (Kokuhaku). Dating is different in Japan and understanding the system is important if you are planning on dating.
I’m sorry but if you don’t know Japanese…what do you expect?? The whole back and forth with language exchange doesn’t work well unless you at least have N4 knowledge and can communicate a fair bit in their language so they don’t have to shoulder the ENTIRE burden of having to explain shit to you and trying to do so in their non-native language especially after having such long days at work, school, or both.
N4 or the equivalent doesn't really seem like that much of a burden, in any language. I think N3 or N2 would probably be the minimum for being in a relationship comparable to what you'd have with someone in your home country
The last guy has the same conclusion as me, I can perfectly read a western woman, but a Japanese woman I've countless of examples where I thought "It's not gonna work" and end up in crazy night and other way around when I thought she liked me and there is good vibe but it didn't proceed. I like when there are some signs but here you need to be quiet pushy, they are really passive for most if they are not drunk.
I am Asian live in Europe. Asian women ( except Japanese ) and Western women are quite similar on the date. You can read if they like you or not. Their signs are real .
A lot of places are too damaged socially to take seriously things like ''What is my opinion about japanese women''. The ones I met, (asian women i mean, dated a chinese one a couple of times) says that Europe (im from Spain) is like a total different world, in almost all aspects of life, and the society, and they usually 99% of times change, and are more like women around here. Women (and men) in Japan, from 35 years to 17 years nowadays are soooo shy, introvert, neutral minded, and they dont have any (almost) any kind of... ambition outside what their parents and society tells them (and almost obligate to follow) is severely squashed and marred with problems (hence they are up there in top suicide rates and bad psychological health) that they don't even show their personality properly. My take? be ready to blow their minds and hearts if you fall for a japanese woman (and their family) to throw their ideas out of the window and make them think and feel a little more like you; if not, i hope you are chameleon-ish enough to go past their racism when you try to insert yourself in their culture, country and society.
It goes both ways, my man. Good and bad parts of both environments. I like your ideas but be careful. I'm getting a slight colonial liberation vibe here. You do not 'liberate them' (blow their minds), you learn from each others cultures. Listen before you judge, and I emphasise 'listen', not only to words but also feelings, ideas, cultures. And no, only a minority, maybe a large minority, are shy and introverted. You seem to be basing your understanding of 'them' through your own ideas, culture and way of thinking. However cast that aside, clean slate and then try to understand what is vastly different in culture, ideology, priority and personality from 0 preconceived ideas. But I know you mean the best, Kind regards, from someone who likes to self reflect.
@@SukaiTheKleptomaniac Hey, not being colonialist, but Japan try real hard to drive away people that are not japanese and want to make their life there. Here in Spain (or europe, yes it has a lot of nuances, you need a visa if not european, learn languages, have a job, and other screening processes, but you will never EVER be told, flatly, ''we dont rent to foreigners'', and if you do go to the authorities, it will be solved quickly) no WAY in hell you will be denied a rent for being Asian, but it happens in Japan, Korea and other asian places (maybe with a heavier outside influence in their history). Also, obviously you are not going anywere in terms of relationships if you dont learn and appreciate their culture, is obvious. And i know asian people, ones that live here, ones that returned, ones that simply i met online and talk to me about their countries. It may sound bad or something, but every place suffers from unique things, I just talked about the specific conundrum about a foreigner dating and meeting Japanese women. Also yes, young people is hella shy and introvert and has problems because of their society, if not, tell me why you have highest young people suicide rate, lowest birth rates, and there is more people with 45+ years than young people...
@@DuendeBoss Stop looking at news headlines... yes it is a problems but still a minority... It's like unemployment rates in Australia, a rise will make it too the news but still only a 0.3% rise... to make a total of 1% of the entire population! It's the same with suicide rates, large problem but still small percentage. Japan is recovering from a economy burst which will (of course) result in a low(er) birthrate because of money. (Booming economy= high birth rate compared to struggling economy = low birthrate) Of course the percentages are going to be vastly different! How many hikomori do you actually think are in Japan!!! Around 1%!! Anyone living in Japan knows this one rule! Don't mistake shy for being reserved, we westerners are straight up 'friendly' and just because that is not Japanese culture does not mean everyone is shy. Maybe they are shy to speak English? I don't know your experiences. Also why are you referring as 'Asian', which one?? The Asian countries are vastly different. Something a chinese girl you know says, does not translate in this conversation.
I don't know why I am even commenting. You can have your own opinion, I just want people not to jump to major generalising judgements off limited experiences, this is the stem of racism in my opinion. Maybe that's not what you are doing but your way of typing comes across as if you are. But that guy declining you an apartment because you are 'foreigner' has the same mindset and assumptions as you are making here. Sticking to a stereotype generalisation of all foreigners are bad tennants. Ironic.
@@SukaiTheKleptomaniac Is deeper than that, there is almost NO LITERAL WORDS to express love in 90% of asian languages. SAME for a lot of feelings and situations. Also asia has the most stigmatized mental healthcare in all the world (and i mean first and developing worlds where dying by natural causes is more common than a bullet or a knife). And not only chinese, i love light and web novels, manwhas, a lot of asian media an culture, i even like philipines, singapore, thailand and myanmar finction, so much learned some japanese and too little of every language so i can edite machine translations to be readable, so i went to tons of asian (japanese in this conversation) discords, forums and sites, spoke to tons of japanese people, in and out of the country, and let me tell you, Japanese and South Korean people (the most westernized asian countries because of history) are still hella racist, because JUST LIKE IN SPAIN there is a lot of people that lived through hard times, they are even more in Japan, which makes their cultural and social mentality naturally averse to changes and foreigners, they cant help it and they strafe around bad things just to keep their culture free of foreign factors. That translates to a lot of things, and yes they are cultural things and are not inherently bad, but let me tell you, you need, as a westerner, to do very more bigger and serious things to just live there than the other. That also translates to a lot of things that individuals think and do. Just like if you go to the worst places in south america you are likely to get kidnapped or worst, and USA has this many social problems too with people shooting a school every three months, and just like IN SPAIN WE VOTE THE GOV THAT are the worst because we are dumbs, and just like in Africa is normal to die as a forestal guard protecting endangered species to illegal hunters, in Japan, people is usually awkward socially because is discouraged to express yourself, and dont deny it because as i said before there is no word for half my states of minds and no words to express them. Dont make me start with things like bullying and naming Aokigahara the mount/valley of suicides.
That's because DC doesn't have a state as it's the U.S. capital. DC is in Maryland but not a part of it. Their taxes are seperate and everything. You will never hear a person from DC say they are from Maryland because they're technically not.
I'd say that Japanese girls and women (men somewhat less) are basically like the stereotype of Americans (sorry! I know there are lots of Americans who are not like that) of asking "How do you do?", but they are not interested in your reply, it's just something to say with "Hello!". You cannot have a deep conversation with Japanese women, since the whole society here is taught to not really express their own opinions, it's all about the "group mentality", so you cannot say what you think, since it could cause negative emotions in others. Also, Japanese don't listen at all, you can tell the same things 10 times to the same people and they never remember...and you realise that they never listened in the first place. They just say something, since you're supposed to say something but they don't really care what you say. So once I understood that, I don't really make a real effort to talk to Japanese women (mama-tomo *shudder*) since it's just empty words and waste of time to them and me. Maybe if you manage to get a bosom-buddy here, it could be different, but even my mother-in-law, who I talk and see almost every day, is kind of like that, although after about 10 years, she has started to take it in about 50% or something. And we get along really well, so it's not like she does it on purpose since she does not like me! So yes, do not expect to have really deep conversations and exchange of ideas in Japan....or someone really really listening, unless they are family.
The part about Americans is 100% true. I'm an American and it's still hard for me to know when someone is being genuine or not. We'll ask how you are out of habit but really not care. If you say a response past the typical "I'm fine" you will get a strange look no doubt. We call it small talk...like "How was your weekend?" "How are the kids?" "Great weather we're having, huh" "Let's meet up some time"...when the person intends to never see you again lol. It's supposed to be considered polite, but you never get to really know most people past the surface level here. Japan sounds similar.
Oh my gosh. I feel that first guy 100%. I gave up on language exchange as they spoke English nearly 100% of the time. I didn't feel they liked my personality and just wanted an English lesson.
I'm a young man whose all japanese friends are women, I started to create bonds on twitter with Japanese artists, I highlight the fact that they all like BL, so at first they are really interesed in English, then we moved to BL topic and now I have many close japanese friends, to be honest I think it was easier because I'm a foreigner who learned and is still enhancing the Japanese skills, they really love when foreigner try to speak their language, then as very few men in japan like BL, it was rare, etcetc. But as for me it was easy
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 Many Asian girls that are into foreigners would also date anyone as long as he is a foreigner, especially if he is white.
One thing I've noticed about Asian girls, in general, is that they're very smart. With a girl that's smart you have to be her intellectual equal, not just a physical match, also which is tough to accomplish if you're not great at speaking Japanese.
Pretty much. Physical attraction are usually not the very top priority in long term relationships. It's financial stability. Intellect can of course be very important, and I agree that from my experience, Asian ladies seem to come off as smart, or certainly smart enough to know when to be reserved about things they may not understand
Agreed: gaining some depth in your Japanese is critical if you want to be able to converse at a level that really gives you insight into each other's thinking, intelligence, etc.
Usually in the USA if you get to speak to a woman at all on a dating app, the conversation will be short and pointless, ending quickly in a ghost. I've spoken to 100s of women on dating apps over decades, and one piece of advice I can offer is to say virtually nothing and act completely uninterested in them. If you say anything they will think you talk too much, and many will tell you that you talk too much for a man. If you let them talk for an hour and you talk for 5 minutes, that's too much. Avoid any sort of compliments. Do the boilerplate and then ask them to meet you. If they won't, move on.
That Phoenix dude is a caricature of all the bad stereotypes of foreigners in Japan. Can't stand that guy or his channel. His racist micro aggressions are too much.
In my opinion if you try to do a language exchange but she won’t go 50/50 then that’s a sign you don’t want to continue the relationship. However, this will exclude about 50% of all Japanese girls right away 😆
11:22 - "She was actually one of the Miss Waseda contestants that year"..."I think she still does modeling to this day"..."She took me to X, Y, and Z"..."I fell in love..............with that restaurant."
I've only dated Japanese women in the US. They were all very talkative and interesting. Things didn't work out for different reasons. One girl seemed too depressed and burnt out, another wanted marriage and babies sooner than I would have liked, another I think just wanted free food haha. My main complaint is they're not clear enough about if they're interested or not. Lots of mixed signals. A little known tip. Owning a bidet helps a lot especially a heated one haha. One girl grabbed my arm and jokingly said "we can get married now" when she found out.
Dudes, you need to understand the difference between "Mind Games" and "I'm politely trying to give you a *VERY BIG HINT* that I'm not remotely into you". Also, understand that girls can smell the desperation as keenly as they could smell the stink if you were wearing rotting flesh around your neck. There are lots of girls. If a girl isn't interested, that's ok. Be mature about it, respect it, and look for someone else.
I’ve been here in Japan for 30 years now, and in a nutshell Japanese men and women are friendly, yes. Are Japanese girls easy to pick up? As easy as going to the conbini, but forget ever having a real relationship like you might in western countries. If you think you can have a serious relationship it’s an illusion. Some people live their whole lives in this illusion that they have a wonderful interracial marriage when they’d be much happier marrying someone their own color. I’m saddened to see other foreigners so unaware. Just be friends with them and leave it at that.
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 no it’s not my point the difference here is where u grew up or ur culture. A foreigner and a Japanese man/women are going to have culture clash. And it goes for everyone that is dating someone from a different culture. Some cultures are pretty similar so there isn’t much difference but some are totally different such as western culture and Asian culture.
People in a city this damn big are on timers. Meet them on their "meet people" timer? Golden. Meet them on the "get the fuck home because I'm tired from work"? Lose. We all get on these timers after a while here and the more time you spend, you can read it. Found a wife here FWIW :)
"It's tough to figure them out" ... eh, maybe try asking them ? And if you don't get a straight answer, press them on it. And if you still don't get a straight answer, then move on. It's very simple : move on.
6:29 the thing about deep conversations mentioned here that are "not happy talk" is probably the reason why Japanese are not keen in engaging in such conversations. They spent more than 10 hours commuting, and working in stressful jobs so the last thing they want to do is talk deeply about something that will bring them down
Didn’t know that. Many unqualified full time English teachers in China earn at least twice as much as an average Chinese person. I thought it would be the scenario in Japan.
Only real way to learn the language is to live in the country and talk with locals everyday. That language exchange shit doesn’t work as you aren’t fully immersing yourself
@@MultiKashi1234 thanks man. You can have that too bro,if you in Japan just go to the festivals and talk to as many women as possible. That’s like how I met my last 3 girlfriends
when I go next year I think i'll stick to akiba and target the nerds. at least we have something in common. might be difficult i know. but if i can find a girl that can at least get a round on me in guilty gear i'd be happy 🤣
Alot of these comments are basically "dude just know without being told" when not even japanese guys know how to deal with this. Imagine a world where yes actually means no 80% of the time.
Yeah the thing about "deep conversation" I don't think it is something you want to share with people you barely know. There's intimacy in deep conversation and sometimes people just not ready to have it with someone they don't really know that well. I'm from europe too but I wouldn't want to have any deep conversation with anyone other than with my bf or close friends.
These two boys in the beginning need to beef up their man game by subbing Alpha Male Strategies. Right now they're playing beta game and that's why they're striking out. Also, it's just foolish to live in Japan w/o a working knowledge of their language.
Interesting interviews. I dated in Japan but found the majority of women dull and boring. No real passion. Add in the women in their late 20s seemed in a hurry to get married. Ended up moving to Thailand and married a great outgoing Thai woman.
Not sure whats going on here with these two guys but Japanese girls are so amazing! They are not hard to speak to and they are easy to hang out with and date but I think its how they are approaching the situation. I lived in Japan for 5 years and within the first month I met several Japanese girls that remained my friend for years. So these weren't foreigners fan fling situations lol i had friends with benefits until I went steady with one, long term. It is really how you read others too. I had the best 5 years of my life and did not want to leave Japan.
Friends with benefits?! Sweet! I didn't know that was possible in Japan because everyone has been saying that Japanese women are very conservative when it comes to sex.
Japanese girls in the smaller cities have more charcter and and seem more real while tokyo area girls are pretty boring and drained from thier commutes and jobs
Whatever you do don't get a Japanese girl to wife up, They're a nightmare walking I've seen so many stories in Foreign mens groups, Just Smash and Dash
Getting home from rough day at work and majority of western woman would do did you take out the trash yet? meanwhile Japanese woman cooks you a dinner!
The first guy…you have to understand: you are not a blonde blue eyed american. Its not going to be as easy as you thought. Period. Notice the big difference with the last guy…dating models, lots of ex girlfriends who were all over him despite being fat kind of average face….but blue eyed blonde.
Hi American guys , let me tell u something . There were not playing games , that was their nicest ways to say no .. but thanks for asking . But don't want to hurt your feelings , please don't get hurt . Example . Let see you are a top notch popular guys .. u were for years .. u had girls asking u out directly for ever n u are in a point where u dont want to hurt them.. so u talk to them u know what's up , but u try to dodge but they don't get it , so u dodge the best way u can not trying to hurt them but has to be a no . Not saying they are popular n you guys are not , It's just an examlpe , Women get asked out all the time .
Okay first guy, if she went from "I'm free" to "I made plans" the second you wanted to go somewhere she was never interested, delete the number and move on.
from what I've experienced in the Tokyo area, you're gonna hear the "I made plans" line a lot. Japanese girls seem to be very picky with the types of foreigners they actually want to seriously go out with. they'll be really interested in where you're from and learning some English words but when it comes to getting anywhere close to dating, it'll be hard to get close with most of them.
@@c-red4637 Yup, just smash a few times and then disappear. Often that's what they want also.
I think I'd give her a few chances....things happen when you're busy with work
@@MichaelH-1 I wouldn't. Move on, someone who doesn't respect your time does not respect you.
@@MichaelH-1 Despite what others are saying, I think you're wise to give her at least a couple chances. I dunno about any more than two. But yes, work can be brutal over there, so there is a chance that she genuinely can't make the date, but will make it next time!
To the guy in the 1st interview had a battle plan. He was getting ready since day one. I gotta respect that
Mad respect for that guy!!!!
I think most foreigners don't understand Japanese culture of 告白 Kokuhaku and the tradtions of how it can be important when dating in Japan. Culturally, Japanese women want the expression of love through action rather than words. But I think this is where the wires get crossed because western culture has a very one way approach to saying you like someone. Japanese women are more or less appreciative of words but they are more interested in action by a male party. Hence why it seems like Japanese women are very status driven, because the act of providing for is an action to saying you care for that person. Don't just say it, do it...sort of thing. Love for Japanese is built through everyday actions not through the conversations about actions.
I also prefer action rather than words. Than why is it so, that japanese men showing the least action. I have dated some and have some japane friends. But they are poor in words and action😅
I get the sentiment however, it's very hard to be proactive when you don't know where you stand before or after a date.
Action will only be given if one knows the intention of the other party. Otherwise, you're just taken for a ride. This has never happened to me but to one of my friends, he was just messed around and spent a bunch of money on stuff that went nowhere.
Huh? Everybody knows action speak louder than words but laughter is how to win them over. Everybody make like it’s this big secret or so complicated it ain’t there are differences but it is not rocket science Jeez
@@kurovader4078 Sure, laughter can win them over if the sense of humor is the same. Being from the US vs UK for example offers different styles of humor. One tends to be more silly (US) while the other is dry (UK).
Yeah, its not rocket science but it is cultural. Imagine trying to tell a joke to someone who has no idea how humor works from your respective country. I can speak 3 languages at a very high level (Japanese is not one) and I promise you that sense of humor doesn't work everywhere.
Enough with the cap.
@@lawrencegeorge6089 Lol I can see your point. True knowing the culture would enhance your appeal but I speak two languages. ( Japanese is one of them) and when I went to Korea , Japan, Mexico I used laughter and 7 out of 10 times it worked. No cap all cape ( meaning super)
"Now it turns out Tapple, oh actually for both apps you're supposed to know Japanese, at least" I mean shit, it's an app entirely for JAPAN
But the fact that he has just moved to Japan and is already trying to date girls? Boy at least try to figure out where you are first
@@ChocoParfaitFra bro that’s what I thought like why he so desperate to date them
@@chansbeanie3946 yeah, HUGE red flag
Desperate, immature and pathetic imo
I think when people say deep conversations it just means abstract conversations or about personal experiences or opinions. Superficial conversations are like what food do you like or what are your hobbies.
You‘re right. It doesn’t even have to be that "deep", but even asking about where you work is too personal for Japanese people 🥴
Japanese people really work that "Honne Tatemae". Getting a direct statement of how they truly feel seems impossible. The "hints" are there and I guess they expect people to "get it" eventually. Those hints can turn real creative - "Supermarket jingle? What are those lyri...- OH!" The "dating game" feels more like an exam than a relationship...
It is difficult for even Japanese men to understand the true feelings of Japanese women.
Learn to play along it's how I met my Japanese girlfriend. The level of social accuracy/acuity and intelligence you'll need to have IN YOUR HOME COUNTRY WILL HAVE TO BE ABLE TO TRANSMIT ACROSS INTO ANOTHER CULTURE AND THEIR LANGUAGE. JAPAN ISN'T FOR THE AVERAGE CITIZEN OF YOUR HOME COUNTRY IT'S FOR THE ABNORMAL PEOPLE OF YOUR HOME COUNTRY BECAUSE OF THE NUANCE JAPAN HAS. NOTICE THAT CATHY CAT WEARS A DAMN COSTUME IN PUBLIC ....HMMMMMM WOULD YOU BE MAN OR WOMAN ENOUGH TO WALK AROUND 50% OF THE DAY IN A COSTUME IN YOUR OWN COUNTRY..... PROBABLY NOT. SOOOOOOOO IF YOU THINK ABOUT THE AVERAGE FOREIGNER WHO DOES WELL WITH LIFE THERE TO THE STRANGE FOREIGNER WHO DOES THINGS IN JAPAN HANDS DOWN THE STRANGE FOREIGNER USUALLY FITS RIGHT IN.
Learn to live with it IF YOU ***LIVE*** IN JAPAN. OR LEAVE. OR BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD AND LEARN MORE
I don't live in Japan. The experiences are with Japanese expats in Europe. Cant complain about a cultural norm, true. And there are many things that I really like and respect about the Japanese culture. However, I think that clarity in communication is objectively a good thing. "Reading the air" works only up to a point and for a serious relationship that point might not be enough
why there is some who can get japanese girlfriends.... only because they got a good eyesight and be fluent in japanese? it's stupid. japanese only swears by big priviledges. that's why they're not trustworthy
She picked out the most based dudes, they all had great answers
Yeah they all had really great answers. They gave some better ones than some others I’ve come across before on other shows on the streets. Plus, she also gave them some really handy advice which isn’t too common as most the time the interviewers just asked questions.
@@danielwhyatt3278 bruh
Just use hello talk or tandem to meet people. They're already interested in English and it's a good start. Get the small talk stuff out of the way early before you actually meet and you can easily tell if you're wasting your time.
Edit: She mentioned it at 4:00 lol. She's exactly right.
But they always add me and then ignore me lmao
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 I've had better success on hello talk. Just start with normal small talk and see where it goes. I know it might sound bad, but it's a numbers game. Message hundreds of girls. I guarantee you'll find one that you match with.
@@Dan-mf4ox Lol I definitely have. But it all depends on you too. If you're not funny or interesting then it's more difficult. I joke a lot and it always works. I'm not saying it works with every girl but it's a numbers game. Message hundreds of people and you'll definitely match with a few. But I always get all of the hard work out of the way before I actually meet in real life. Like, I know 100% that she likes me before we ever meet.
@@Dan-mf4ox It not only help you online, but in life if you start to open up a little bit and joke around. It's so much easier online because you don't have to feel embarrassed since they're not looking at you. Just be different than others. I always say stupid things like "ohayooooooooooo insert name". Stupid things like that catch people off guard and a lot of girls like that. That's just a stupid example. I don't know, man. I'm really outgoing and I've never really had an issue getting girls. I'm definitely not bragging or anything. I think step 1 is to just get more confident. Don't be afraid to look stupid lol. What's the worst thing that can happen? They don't reply. Literally that's it. Just message a lot of people and see what happens.
So are you dating a japanese now? And what's the best dating app there? I've seen a lot of people who have success in tinder.
Heres my take and it's just not a Japanese thing but if you really want to go on a date with someone you should have a plan in mind. Don't show up on a date unprepared and just wing it. The impression women are getting is you're not serious.
Not a japanese thing, but especially important with Japanese girls, taking the lead will instantly award you a lot of points
Bullseye 🎯
I would love to see this channel do a video on people in Japan who absolutely don’t have or interact with any form of social media at all, simply because they are getting too political and try to sway the masses to one side or the other, I believe the companies that own the social media platforms shouldn’t have that much power in the world. I’ve noticed that in Japan social media seems to play a big roll in how people hook up and meet but it would be interesting to hear from the people who absolutely aren’t engaged in this social media era.
Thank you for the great content 🙏🏼
I noticed you ask the same people for different episodes .
If you could try to ask people from different regions 👍🏼😁
I think it's a covid thing, random people might not be so open to these kinds of interviews at the moment
@@KawamotoKe i see !! Never though about it from thia prespictive .
Thank you 🙏🏼👍🏼🌸🌸🌸
Interviewing women in their 30s, 40s and hearing about their insights about dating would be nice. It's probably really frustrating dating as a young adult these days🤷♂️ the younger the person being interviewed, it seems the higher the expectations or assumptions are for both Japanese and foreigners who speak in the videos. It's really interesting.
9:17 one can see this man has been a while in Japan hahaha he does the "uhm...uhm..." to let you know hes listening
Can you do an ask Japanese about people’s opinion about not allowing back tourists (as it used to be before covid) Unless you book through an agency and set an strict itinerary…:/
Yes I would definitely like to see that too.
Language exchange app are actually the best. Because they have their wall down etc. And you are already meeting people who are interested in western culture. Usually.
this is how I met my Japanese husband ! So I would have to agree with this !!!! :)
I met my Japanese husband on LANGMATE !
They kept ignoring me despite sending friend request lmao
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 Make sure you have a face photo and you don't come off as having a specific intention. But yeah I've been with so many girls on there. It's pretty easy. Or even language exchange events. Easy pz
@@Oversurge_ i have duh and i just say i want to chat
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 don't say that.
Just say "Hello, what's up?" Maybe "nice to meet you" don't say "I want to chat" that's like asking them permission. Be a man. Just tall to them. It's very rare a girl doesn't reply ro me.
When when I was obese it was easy to talk on there. Or go to events.
I don’t wanna judge but why is the first guy looking for a girlfriend when he just moved to Japan lol
He even said he downloaded the app before moving… bro calm down
Many people who come to Japan are like him. For some reason, they have a prejudice that foreigners are popular with Japanese women and they never even try to speak Japanese. But in reality, just because you are a foreigner, you will never be popular with Japanese women. And when they find out the reality, they complain like "Japanese people are racists!" lol To be realistic, most Japanese women are not interested in foreigners. Only a few Japanese women who have a yearning for a foreign country are interested in foreign men. Moreover, many of them want to date foreign men simply because they want to move abroad or have half-Japanese children or for some other silly reason.
@@asdfghjjhgf lmaoooo 😂 but even if there are some women who like foreigners, the fact that some men are so thirsty for women is a huge turn off for me
Like, don’t you have any other interests in life? Pathetic I would say
Ikr. The first year should be dedicated to learning the culture, the language, getting used to the environment, making as many friends as possible, not looking for a girlfriend.
The guy more then likely has yellow fever and would just date any woman no matter what east Asian country it was
If anything, he should just be looking to meet a lot of people because Japan (especially Tokyo) is a melting pot of many cultures
Oh god this entire video is a mood... talking about serious stuff online and stuff and then when it comes to meeting up... crickets. Could at least reject if they dont actually want to do anything anymore
If a girl keeps on postponing meetups, just cut off contact. She is not interested!
Most girls here like simps. Way too many people here are starving for validation.
all the US Americans here seemed genuinely nice and fun to hang out with😃
The mind games from the girl that said I’m free and then I made plans really just seems like indirect rejection, I’d take it that way for sure since you know when someone’s interested in you they’ll try to make time for you a different day and even tell you when to hang out. That being said I feel like that specific explanation of Japanese girls reminds me a bit of Ecuadorian girls. Not the same but I had a similar experience 🥲
Thx Cathy. I think it would be great if you could discuss the third date rule...I'm not sure of the exact term. You are supposed to confess your love on the third date or break up...I think? It's something like that...very different from the US where it could be months and many dates before you talk about love.
Love you Cathy cat!!!! Yay new update!
Hello director are you having a good day 😊
Can't go wrong with cat cafes.
TAKE A HINT! She keeps putting you off, that means she doesn't want to date you. If you understand 'Face', you'll understand Japanese don't want to hurt your face so they won't say they don't like you directly... you HAVE to understand them.
One of the first things to understand in Japanese dating is 告白 (Kokuhaku). Dating is different in Japan and understanding the system is important if you are planning on dating.
I’m sorry but if you don’t know Japanese…what do you expect??
The whole back and forth with language exchange doesn’t work well unless you at least have N4 knowledge and can communicate a fair bit in their language so they don’t have to shoulder the ENTIRE burden of having to explain shit to you and trying to do so in their non-native language especially after having such long days at work, school, or both.
N4 or the equivalent doesn't really seem like that much of a burden, in any language. I think N3 or N2 would probably be the minimum for being in a relationship comparable to what you'd have with someone in your home country
動画を見て思ったこと。あなた方は外国人で良かったね。日本人が同じことすると”ストーカー”と呼ばれるんですよ（笑）
どういう意味ですか？外国人女性として意味分かりません。説明してください。
@@NothinHoldTheFalling 外国人の場合は文化や習慣が違うという風に捉えられますが日本人同志だと（男でも女でも）即ストーカー扱いされます。いかに好意があろうと、しつこく声をかけるなどの行為は相手の気持ち次第で、相手が不快な思いを抱いた時点でストーカー扱いされます。
昨今、コンプライアンスを持ち出す人が多いので。。。日本人同志の付き合いが窮屈になっているんですよ（笑）
Lanita san,日本人女子／女性は、タイプでも無い男子/男性から話しかけられる事を極端に嫌います。小中学生の頃もそうでしたよ。1970年代からそうでした。ここ数年はネットで女性の本音がわかるようになって、35歳過ぎの女性が結婚出来ない状況が続いて深刻化しています。(多くの婚活女性がATM婚、上昇婚を狙っているので！！！）2040年には、人口の半分が未婚になるという統計も出ています。(私は50代前半、アメリカ🇺🇸で25年以上住んでいます。）
@@NothinHoldTheFalling 僕は日本人でもないが、他人の二つのコメントの内容から言うと、日本人同志の間の付き合い文化においては、タイプでない人になんだか嫌な事を言われた場合、そんなことを言った人が「ストーカー」として扱われるようです。それだけで、Cathyが言った事や聞いた質問から言うと、彼女は日本人だったらそんなストーカーっていう人として扱いされるかもしれません。日本語が上手じゃないので、ミスを許してください。
The last guy has the same conclusion as me, I can perfectly read a western woman, but a Japanese woman I've countless of examples where I thought "It's not gonna work" and end up in crazy night and other way around when I thought she liked me and there is good vibe but it didn't proceed. I like when there are some signs but here you need to be quiet pushy, they are really passive for most if they are not drunk.
I am Asian live in Europe. Asian women ( except Japanese ) and Western women are quite similar on the date. You can read if they like you or not. Their signs are real .
A lot of places are too damaged socially to take seriously things like ''What is my opinion about japanese women''. The ones I met, (asian women i mean, dated a chinese one a couple of times) says that Europe (im from Spain) is like a total different world, in almost all aspects of life, and the society, and they usually 99% of times change, and are more like women around here. Women (and men) in Japan, from 35 years to 17 years nowadays are soooo shy, introvert, neutral minded, and they dont have any (almost) any kind of... ambition outside what their parents and society tells them (and almost obligate to follow) is severely squashed and marred with problems (hence they are up there in top suicide rates and bad psychological health) that they don't even show their personality properly.
My take? be ready to blow their minds and hearts if you fall for a japanese woman (and their family) to throw their ideas out of the window and make them think and feel a little more like you; if not, i hope you are chameleon-ish enough to go past their racism when you try to insert yourself in their culture, country and society.
It goes both ways, my man. Good and bad parts of both environments. I like your ideas but be careful. I'm getting a slight colonial liberation vibe here. You do not 'liberate them' (blow their minds), you learn from each others cultures.
Listen before you judge, and I emphasise 'listen', not only to words but also feelings, ideas, cultures. And no, only a minority, maybe a large minority, are shy and introverted.
You seem to be basing your understanding of 'them' through your own ideas, culture and way of thinking. However cast that aside, clean slate and then try to understand what is vastly different in culture, ideology, priority and personality from 0 preconceived ideas.
But I know you mean the best, Kind regards, from someone who likes to self reflect.
@@SukaiTheKleptomaniac Hey, not being colonialist, but Japan try real hard to drive away people that are not japanese and want to make their life there. Here in Spain (or europe, yes it has a lot of nuances, you need a visa if not european, learn languages, have a job, and other screening processes, but you will never EVER be told, flatly, ''we dont rent to foreigners'', and if you do go to the authorities, it will be solved quickly) no WAY in hell you will be denied a rent for being Asian, but it happens in Japan, Korea and other asian places (maybe with a heavier outside influence in their history). Also, obviously you are not going anywere in terms of relationships if you dont learn and appreciate their culture, is obvious. And i know asian people, ones that live here, ones that returned, ones that simply i met online and talk to me about their countries.
It may sound bad or something, but every place suffers from unique things, I just talked about the specific conundrum about a foreigner dating and meeting Japanese women.
Also yes, young people is hella shy and introvert and has problems because of their society, if not, tell me why you have highest young people suicide rate, lowest birth rates, and there is more people with 45+ years than young people...
@@DuendeBoss Stop looking at news headlines... yes it is a problems but still a minority... It's like unemployment rates in Australia, a rise will make it too the news but still only a 0.3% rise... to make a total of 1% of the entire population! It's the same with suicide rates, large problem but still small percentage. Japan is recovering from a economy burst which will (of course) result in a low(er) birthrate because of money. (Booming economy= high birth rate compared to struggling economy = low birthrate) Of course the percentages are going to be vastly different! How many hikomori do you actually think are in Japan!!! Around 1%!!
Anyone living in Japan knows this one rule!
Don't mistake shy for being reserved, we westerners are straight up 'friendly' and just because that is not Japanese culture does not mean everyone is shy. Maybe they are shy to speak English? I don't know your experiences.
Also why are you referring as 'Asian', which one?? The Asian countries are vastly different. Something a chinese girl you know says, does not translate in this conversation.
I don't know why I am even commenting. You can have your own opinion, I just want people not to jump to major generalising judgements off limited experiences, this is the stem of racism in my opinion. Maybe that's not what you are doing but your way of typing comes across as if you are.
But that guy declining you an apartment because you are 'foreigner' has the same mindset and assumptions as you are making here. Sticking to a stereotype generalisation of all foreigners are bad tennants. Ironic.
@@SukaiTheKleptomaniac Is deeper than that, there is almost NO LITERAL WORDS to express love in 90% of asian languages. SAME for a lot of feelings and situations. Also asia has the most stigmatized mental healthcare in all the world (and i mean first and developing worlds where dying by natural causes is more common than a bullet or a knife). And not only chinese, i love light and web novels, manwhas, a lot of asian media an culture, i even like philipines, singapore, thailand and myanmar finction, so much learned some japanese and too little of every language so i can edite machine translations to be readable, so i went to tons of asian (japanese in this conversation) discords, forums and sites, spoke to tons of japanese people, in and out of the country, and let me tell you, Japanese and South Korean people (the most westernized asian countries because of history) are still hella racist, because JUST LIKE IN SPAIN there is a lot of people that lived through hard times, they are even more in Japan, which makes their cultural and social mentality naturally averse to changes and foreigners, they cant help it and they strafe around bad things just to keep their culture free of foreign factors. That translates to a lot of things, and yes they are cultural things and are not inherently bad, but let me tell you, you need, as a westerner, to do very more bigger and serious things to just live there than the other. That also translates to a lot of things that individuals think and do. Just like if you go to the worst places in south america you are likely to get kidnapped or worst, and USA has this many social problems too with people shooting a school every three months, and just like IN SPAIN WE VOTE THE GOV THAT are the worst because we are dumbs, and just like in Africa is normal to die as a forestal guard protecting endangered species to illegal hunters, in Japan, people is usually awkward socially because is discouraged to express yourself, and dont deny it because as i said before there is no word for half my states of minds and no words to express them. Dont make me start with things like bullying and naming Aokigahara the mount/valley of suicides.
did that first dude say he was from Washington dc after being asked what state? l0l
Lmao didn't even catch that either🤣 I'm not even from DC . Most people never heard of Maryland so I just say DC to make things easier
That's because DC doesn't have a state as it's the U.S. capital. DC is in Maryland but not a part of it. Their taxes are seperate and everything. You will never hear a person from DC say they are from Maryland because they're technically not.
@@tellallyourfriends27 DC is not in Maryland. The land was acquired from MD, but it's a separate territory.
@@aragorn767 he means where it's located geographically. It's mostly surrounded by Maryland
Just curious, how are you supposed to answer the question if you are from DC?
I'd say that Japanese girls and women (men somewhat less) are basically like the stereotype of Americans (sorry! I know there are lots of Americans who are not like that) of asking "How do you do?", but they are not interested in your reply, it's just something to say with "Hello!". You cannot have a deep conversation with Japanese women, since the whole society here is taught to not really express their own opinions, it's all about the "group mentality", so you cannot say what you think, since it could cause negative emotions in others.
Also, Japanese don't listen at all, you can tell the same things 10 times to the same people and they never remember...and you realise that they never listened in the first place. They just say something, since you're supposed to say something but they don't really care what you say. So once I understood that, I don't really make a real effort to talk to Japanese women (mama-tomo *shudder*) since it's just empty words and waste of time to them and me.
Maybe if you manage to get a bosom-buddy here, it could be different, but even my mother-in-law, who I talk and see almost every day, is kind of like that, although after about 10 years, she has started to take it in about 50% or something. And we get along really well, so it's not like she does it on purpose since she does not like me!
So yes, do not expect to have really deep conversations and exchange of ideas in Japan....or someone really really listening, unless they are family.
The part about Americans is 100% true. I'm an American and it's still hard for me to know when someone is being genuine or not. We'll ask how you are out of habit but really not care. If you say a response past the typical "I'm fine" you will get a strange look no doubt. We call it small talk...like "How was your weekend?" "How are the kids?" "Great weather we're having, huh" "Let's meet up some time"...when the person intends to never see you again lol. It's supposed to be considered polite, but you never get to really know most people past the surface level here. Japan sounds similar.
Oh my gosh. I feel that first guy 100%. I gave up on language exchange as they spoke English nearly 100% of the time. I didn't feel they liked my personality and just wanted an English lesson.
1:57 that means no! stop texting her. next.
"it was really really really bad" got damn
Cincinnati man needs a new mask 😂
I'm a young man whose all japanese friends are women, I started to create bonds on twitter with Japanese artists, I highlight the fact that they all like BL, so at first they are really interesed in English, then we moved to BL topic and now I have many close japanese friends, to be honest I think it was easier because I'm a foreigner who learned and is still enhancing the Japanese skills, they really love when foreigner try to speak their language, then as very few men in japan like BL, it was rare, etcetc. But as for me it was easy
it's not a good idea to befriend them.
@@maegalroammis6020 why then? Can you provide your argument?
@@denilsonzaslavski1989 they abuse of their tatemae and "nihongo jouzu"
Haha a lot don't like it when you speak their language
the dude talking about him having a date with the model go HUSTLED lol.
Why so desperate to date Japanese ???
Ikr it's weird. Getting fetish vibes..
@@tellallyourfriends27 it seems like they would date anyone as long as it is Japanese 🤣😂
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 Many Asian girls that are into foreigners would also date anyone as long as he is a foreigner, especially if he is white.
@@joseph3036 those that knew expect every foreigner to look like robert pattison (i mean when he was hot)
Because they live in Japan? Unless they came to Japan just for women, they're just trying to date period. Do you date people that live near you?
One thing I've noticed about Asian girls, in general, is that they're very smart. With a girl that's smart you have to be her intellectual equal, not just a physical match, also which is tough to accomplish if you're not great at speaking Japanese.
Pretty much. Physical attraction are usually not the very top priority in long term relationships. It's financial stability. Intellect can of course be very important, and I agree that from my experience, Asian ladies seem to come off as smart, or certainly smart enough to know when to be reserved about things they may not understand
Agreed: gaining some depth in your Japanese is critical if you want to be able to converse at a level that really gives you insight into each other's thinking, intelligence, etc.
Usually in the USA if you get to speak to a woman at all on a dating app, the conversation will be short and pointless, ending quickly in a ghost. I've spoken to 100s of women on dating apps over decades, and one piece of advice I can offer is to say virtually nothing and act completely uninterested in them. If you say anything they will think you talk too much, and many will tell you that you talk too much for a man. If you let them talk for an hour and you talk for 5 minutes, that's too much. Avoid any sort of compliments. Do the boilerplate and then ask them to meet you. If they won't, move on.
That Phoenix dude is a caricature of all the bad stereotypes of foreigners in Japan. Can't stand that guy or his channel. His racist micro aggressions are too much.
Damn what did he do?
Which one?
@@theluffy99 if anyone uses the phrase "racist micro aggresions" its probably not worth figuring out what they're talking about lol
@@mpforeverunlimited cringe dn
Mind games can be translated to Kakehiki in Japanese, by the way.
駆け引き? This?
that one guy can't even properly operate a mask
This is why I stick with my own even in Japan. Less hassle, stress, problems and misunderstandings
I think many of us go to other places so that we don't stick with our own there, but if this works you that's great
I agree.
then why go there? lol
@@Purwapada You can go to Japan for reasons other than dating Japanese people
Or you can get Chinese-Japanese or Thai-Japanese friends. They are still Asian, but are more open minded.
In my opinion if you try to do a language exchange but she won’t go 50/50 then that’s a sign you don’t want to continue the relationship. However, this will exclude about 50% of all Japanese girls right away 😆
Guy in orange was prepared and READY to try to mack on some Japanese girls lol
11:22 - "She was actually one of the Miss Waseda contestants that year"..."I think she still does modeling to this day"..."She took me to X, Y, and Z"..."I fell in love..............with that restaurant."
honestly just seeing japanese girls on daily basis is enough for me
Lmao
Weird
Huhh
😭😭
I've only dated Japanese women in the US. They were all very talkative and interesting. Things didn't work out for different reasons. One girl seemed too depressed and burnt out, another wanted marriage and babies sooner than I would have liked, another I think just wanted free food haha. My main complaint is they're not clear enough about if they're interested or not. Lots of mixed signals. A little known tip. Owning a bidet helps a lot especially a heated one haha. One girl grabbed my arm and jokingly said "we can get married now" when she found out.
A bidet…..? Nigga what…🤨
@@DavisMoto yes he's actually accurate
Guys describing Japanese girls: can't tell what they're thinking..
Me: So basically they're just normal girl
Dudes, you need to understand the difference between "Mind Games" and "I'm politely trying to give you a *VERY BIG HINT* that I'm not remotely into you". Also, understand that girls can smell the desperation as keenly as they could smell the stink if you were wearing rotting flesh around your neck. There are lots of girls. If a girl isn't interested, that's ok. Be mature about it, respect it, and look for someone else.
damn I wish someone would do this interview to me, im married to Japanese now, but I have so many opinions and thoughts on this topic
@@SageLucas I could write a book lol
@@jinz0 shes gonna leave you lmaooo enjoy the divorce.
@@sleeperboi8701 no ill leave her if anything, she seems like she would stay for life
I’ve been here in Japan for 30 years now, and in a nutshell Japanese men and women are friendly, yes. Are Japanese girls easy to pick up? As easy as going to the conbini, but forget ever having a real relationship like you might in western countries. If you think you can have a serious relationship it’s an illusion. Some people live their whole lives in this illusion that they have a wonderful interracial marriage when they’d be much happier marrying someone their own color. I’m saddened to see other foreigners so unaware. Just be friends with them and leave it at that.
Why they will be happier marrying own race
Because they will be more compatible! @@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438
@@hognin4642 compability is just about race?
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 no it’s not my point the difference here is where u grew up or ur culture. A foreigner and a Japanese man/women are going to have culture clash. And it goes for everyone that is dating someone from a different culture. Some cultures are pretty similar so there isn’t much difference but some are totally different such as western culture and Asian culture.
@@hognin4642 but i dont get along with ppl from same race. I get along with ppl from different race🤔
People in a city this damn big are on timers. Meet them on their "meet people" timer? Golden. Meet them on the "get the fuck home because I'm tired from work"? Lose. We all get on these timers after a while here and the more time you spend, you can read it. Found a wife here FWIW :)
Oh, try to actually learn Japanese or you'll be forever disappointed...
Cincinnati buy a mask that fits!!!
"It's tough to figure them out" ... eh, maybe try asking them ? And if you don't get a straight answer, press them on it. And if you still don't get a straight answer, then move on. It's very simple : move on.
6:29 the thing about deep conversations mentioned here that are "not happy talk" is probably the reason why Japanese are not keen in engaging in such conversations. They spent more than 10 hours commuting, and working in stressful jobs so the last thing they want to do is talk deeply about something that will bring them down
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The first two guys, military for sure haha
I assume the big issue japanese girls have with foreigners is that English teaching salaries are low.
Didn’t know that. Many unqualified full time English teachers in China earn at least twice as much as an average Chinese person. I thought it would be the scenario in Japan.
@@joseph3036 an English teacher is a little above the convenience store wage but if you factor in lesson prep or homework it’s about the same.
Why go to japan and try to date over there learn the language I'm 8 months deep right trust me it helps alot
Only real way to learn the language is to live in the country and talk with locals everyday. That language exchange shit doesn’t work as you aren’t fully immersing yourself
@@Rico401Prov im not doing exchange im learning from native speakers all three are native speakers
@@MultiKashi1234 good bro. My girl is Japanese and without her I wouldn’t be where I’m at
@@Rico401Prov wow sounds like you have wonderful woman in your life congrats
@@MultiKashi1234 thanks man. You can have that too bro,if you in Japan just go to the festivals and talk to as many women as possible. That’s like how I met my last 3 girlfriends
when I go next year I think i'll stick to akiba and target the nerds. at least we have something in common. might be difficult i know. but if i can find a girl that can at least get a round on me in guilty gear i'd be happy 🤣
any girl in akiba is not intrested in u my man they perfer pretty anime boys lol got to a smaller city or osaka don't waste your entire trip in Tokyo
No there not easy to meet
Japanese girls are cute and pretty. It is what it is. Haha
Not all duh lmao
Alot of these comments are basically "dude just know without being told" when not even japanese guys know how to deal with this. Imagine a world where yes actually means no 80% of the time.
The first guy in the orange shirt sounds like such a weeb. Maybe they're just not into you man you ever just think of that
Yeah the thing about "deep conversation" I don't think it is something you want to share with people you barely know. There's intimacy in deep conversation and sometimes people just not ready to have it with someone they don't really know that well. I'm from europe too but I wouldn't want to have any deep conversation with anyone other than with my bf or close friends.
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These two boys in the beginning need to beef up their man game by subbing Alpha Male Strategies. Right now they're playing beta game and that's why they're striking out. Also, it's just foolish to live in Japan w/o a working knowledge of their language.
I don't know what it is about Japanese girls, they are just unique to me, idk im weird.
No, you are not. And if so, it makes 2 now.
The femininity and their faces are beautiful because they're different..it's a dream for most guys lol
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sick of the language barrier excuse your phone can translate pretty much all languages and to make life more fun communicate like charades lol
i like the french lady!
ah channel like these show me why there should be no foreignes or at least no americans in japan
It Sounds so funnyyy
I feel what Japanese guys go through now lol
Interesting interviews. I dated in Japan but found the majority of women dull and boring. No real passion. Add in the women in their late 20s seemed in a hurry to get married.
Ended up moving to Thailand and married a great outgoing Thai woman.
I hope she is not a Lady man 😂
Hahaha gonna tell my buddy Japanese girls are hard to get. Lol
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Not sure whats going on here with these two guys but Japanese girls are so amazing! They are not hard to speak to and they are easy to hang out with and date but I think its how they are approaching the situation. I lived in Japan for 5 years and within the first month I met several Japanese girls that remained my friend for years. So these weren't foreigners fan fling situations lol i had friends with benefits until I went steady with one, long term. It is really how you read others too. I had the best 5 years of my life and did not want to leave Japan.
Friends with benefits?! Sweet! I didn't know that was possible in Japan because everyone has been saying that Japanese women are very conservative when it comes to sex.
It depends .
Bro why you not masking?
"digital media professional". Wow, that's how they call themselves now. I'm digital begger sounds more natural and realistic.
1:50 thats every asain girl
Japanese girls in the smaller cities have more charcter and and seem more real while tokyo area girls are pretty boring and drained from thier commutes and jobs
If you do not expect so much respect from Japanese people, you life will be much easier in there thb.:)
The first two dudes just take leave from the military and go to Thailand or Philippines
I wish my japanese ex gf was actually that nice.
Whatever you do don't get a Japanese girl to wife up, They're a nightmare walking I've seen so many stories in Foreign mens groups, Just Smash and Dash
Cathy selalu cantik ... Wkwk ...
Japanese Women are great chefs
"Where are you from? : From America " .....dude that's a whole continent.....you are from the US
sometimes Japan is their own worst enemy
No its not
Getting home from rough day at work and majority of western woman would do did you take out the trash yet? meanwhile Japanese woman cooks you a dinner!
JA!JA!JA! ( just kidding, im old...
i am intrested about Japanese girls mouth smell. is it true that there are so many girls that don't care about their teeth?
It is more of orthodontic issue than a mouth health one.
@@feliad6401 no, they have a reputation for bad breath. Its not just the lack of braces
The first guy…you have to understand: you are not a blonde blue eyed american. Its not going to be as easy as you thought. Period. Notice the big difference with the last guy…dating models, lots of ex girlfriends who were all over him despite being fat kind of average face….but blue eyed blonde.
If you wear blue contacts the girls can't tell its not natural hahahaha. Also try wearing 100 wigs until you find what attracts the most girls.
@@aoeu256 blue eyed blonde haired has other connotations besides the actual eyes and hair
Hi American guys , let me tell u something . There were not playing games , that was their nicest ways to say no .. but thanks for asking . But don't want to hurt your feelings , please don't get hurt .
Example . Let see you are a top notch popular guys .. u were for years .. u had girls asking u out directly for ever n u are in a point where u dont want to hurt them..
so u talk to them u know what's up , but u try to dodge but they don't get it , so u dodge the best way u can not trying to hurt them but has to be a no .
Not saying they are popular n you guys are not , It's just an examlpe ,
Women get asked out all the time .
I agree with the first guy, they're not very interested in teaching you Japanese it's really one sided, avoid those types
Take those masks off ffs
Lol evaluated?