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@@rastablack5427 *CORONA IS CROWN & BIBLE HAS NOT ENDED* 6 Men can only reproduce human life, but the Holy Spirit gives new life from heaven; 7 so don’t be surprised at my statement that 💥🐍💥 *you must be born again!* 💥🐍💥 They ate and drank and married-everything just as usual right up to the day when Noah went into the ark and the Flood came and 💣💣 destroyed them all. 💣💣
for the past almost more than few months..I was trying my level best to get some help in very desperate, desperate, hopless state..Watched may be more than hundred videos..when since last week started watching ur channel...which is very interesting...but it was u till now 4:30 AM that I bumped into your video on 5th dimension...in which You really talked to me..You really made that video for me...thank you...I feel crying...infact crying...to learn from you how to heal my scars ...my childhood horrible experiences which ruined my emotional psychological and mental health...for decades..Now I got a light in this dark long tunnel..how to over come and heal my self from the bitter pain inflicted by the most near one.. Thank you so much..jazak Allahu khair..wish you all the best in both the worlds.
But how do you approve yourself and how does that work?? I already know I'm real and my experience is real, but it doesn't matter because that doesn't change feeling like nobody else understands and that giving me self doubt, and feeling like if I decide to be strong in myself, that I'm going to get push back from the whole world and everyone around me and I will be shunned from society, just for seeing things the way they are. Because I don't know if that's the way they are because it feels like everyone else tells me "no that's not real, your whole reality isn't real" and my whole reality is that I don't feel validation for my emotions and the way I feel, that I felt unheard and unseen and felt like an alien and completely unrelatable in my experience, like nobody saw me as a human and everyone thinks I'm retarded in some way. How do I give my own self validation? I am not other people, and other people supposedely say "no that makes no sense" through their face and emotions and interactions, so why should I trust myself when it feels like everyone is giving me the message I'm being a narcissist or sociopath or psychopath or that I'm just being in my own head twisting around the wrong things I'm thinking to serve my own selfish needs? When it feels like all I'm doing is validating my experience that I experienced what I experienced and it was traumatic and it didn't have to mean that I needed to be stuck in it?
@@alexandraaikonika look up the topic and then put aaron doughty he has many powerful exercises Like "aaron doughty overthinking" He covers everything Or watch infinite waters
1. Stop abandoning yourself. Always hold your hand. See, hear, understand and accept yourself. 2. Stay true to your inner voice. Only Make choices that are true to who you are. When you look at the outer world you dream, when you look inside you awaken. Stay connected and true to that. 3. Arrange your values. Think about and finalize values that are true to who you are, your success and happiness. Values that are a good formula for what you want.
Yeah, and even if it isn't, you don't care 😄 You get it from other sources, ie. yourself, nature, animals, etc. Just remember, you're just the witness, no matter what is going on outside of yourself ✌️ & 💓
And then some agitated a-hole will come along and do anything they can to dim that light. Guess it's just important not to take it personally. And try to love anyway.
Yes yes ...iam indeed in love with myself !!!!! Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe!!! I got a question are you a doctor i wondering why the upper of my lip is darker the bottom of my lip is like splash pink mix ...i just need help please ...life hasn't been easy for me at all ...i have been experiencing cptsd , trauma , anxiety , etc....
Allow your heart the space it needs to manifest your highest desires into existence. When you really just let things be, and detach from all outcomes, you give life the opportunity and space to work in your favour. When there is space you can manifest even more and finally receive what you have been waiting for. I set another intention for anyone who reads this, I promise what you desire is on its way. I am sending you love and strength. You are Appreciated & Loved You are Accepted and Supported. Trust in yourself and Trust in life. ~ Much love from a Law Of Attraction TH-camr💜
We are all worthy we just have to believe it. May we all gently heal, be in great health, enjoy abundance and feel love. All good well being. Love and light ✨🐎✨🐎self care is self love
Never be-lie-ve. KNOW! Belief leaves room for doubt. Belief helps people who start to realize keep a little room for doubt. It's part of this world artificial programming.
@@GodofLovers *CORONA IS CROWN & BIBLE HAS NOT ENDED* 6 Men can only reproduce human life, but the Holy Spirit gives new life from heaven; 7 so don’t be surprised at my statement that 💥🐍💥 *you must be born again!* 💥🐍💥 They ate and drank and married-everything just as usual right up to the day when Noah went into the ark and the Flood came and 💣💣 destroyed them all. 💣💣
@@BestIsntEasy You are correct about being born again(reincarnated). Though the entire teaching of Jesus the Christ is not I'm the bible, and the old test is about the ignorant blind God, the demiurge. Not Christ's heavenly father mother.
@@GodofLovers I'm not playing your various games and multitudes of teachings out there. Jeremiah 26-27 Like a thief, the only shame that Israel knows is getting caught. Kings, princes, priests, and prophets-all are alike in this. They call a carved-up wooden post their father, and for their mother they have an idol chiseled out from stone. Yet in time of trouble they cry to me to save them! [6:51] And preach with this (Qu RAn) to those who reverence the summoning before their Lord-they have none beside Him as a Lord and Master, nor an intercessor-that they may attain salvation. wwwDOT submissionDOTorg Health Quarantine [4:15] Those who commit adultery among your women, you must have four witnesses against them, from among you. If they do bear witness, then you shall keep such women in their homes until they die, or until GOD creates an exit for them.* *4:15 A woman witnessed by four people in the act of committing adultery on four different occasions, with four different partners, represents a danger to public health. Such a woman is a depository of germs, and a health quarantine protects the society from her. A good example of an exit that saves a quarantined woman is marriage-someone may wish to marry her, and thus protect her and the society. Islam is a GROUP in submission. Muslim is ONE which has surrendered. Mu'men are believers.
Thank you. A timely reminder that I made a great decision. A female tried to manipulate me. I expressed myself. I had gotten gaslit. The blessing: unfuckwithable. I stood my ground. I see she's unhappy. She isn't my job. I did kadas. I don't allow gaslighting into my life. Resting on a couch and calming my nervous system down. Told someone else. Felt it. Heavy blanket. I am worth taking care of what I need. Which means quiet time. Others leaving me alone when I say so.
AARON I haven’t even watched yet but yesterday this question was literally on my mind all day and I was researching a lot about it…then today you post this video. ❤️
Aaron-I’ve just made this shift, too. Validation and love were things I wanted from others-definitely related to childhood stuff and the shadow you describe. A few weeks back I really connected to an internal trust and confidence that is not dependent on others. IT IS SO LIBERATING!!!! Plus, everyone else just gets to “do them,” and they are liberated, too! Powerful stuff. And your videos are so helpful and straight forward. What a gift to the world. ❤️
Man this really spoke to me...I look at everything in my life and honestly, I don't enjoy anything I do unless I know I get approval or some sort of reverence from others...my therapist asked me this question "woild you rather have 100 million dollars and nobody knows, or woild you rather be broke but everyone thinks you're rich"...I woild choose the second one every single time...and thats a serious issue..I wasn't in control of my own happiness it was all dependent on other people...huge epiphany, where do I go now? I don't know...but this is a start at least
Hi dude this is literally what happens to me. I have even changed my clothing style in order to “pose” as a richer man. What did u do? Have you improved?
i was grounded almost every single day of my life bro I feel you, I was the shy kid who never bothered anyone and my father and step mom abused me, physically, mentally and spiritually, I now have violence on my mind alot
@@Taran532it's normal to want to react with violence because it's what we see all the time but violence makes you feel worse ,you might get hurt, it makes you unattractive,you will regret it later
Yes absolutely right..... Wasn't close to my mum, she was too strict, never had love from her....but yet I felt this need to people please! Found it tough in life to be myself, so I kept on pleasing others until recently, when I realised things had to change.... working on myself, learning to say no to others... ❤️
Since childhood I used to be a topper and got so much praise and respect but now am good in studies but like my childhood but still I seek that kind of validation and appreciation from other which I don't receive and it puts me into constant depression.
This video feels like made for me, I'm on the path to self-worth, I'm doing the 21 days candle flame meditation and doing my best to fill my own cup. My all life I was afraid to be abandoned and that just made people feel my cringe vibe...
I personally feel like abandoning the self for me is more like erasing my existence, cause when I erased my existence, anger wouldn’t turn against me and that’s the only thing I could do to protect myself. But in doing that, you erase your own needs and wants and become dreadfully unhappy, you lose yourself, and if you lose yourself you’ll always look for others to validate you. Thanks for helping me to open my eyes ❤
Yesterday I got a revelation about my childhood and it surprised me cuz I was like damn, I been through shit. This is the 2nd video of yours I've seen, and I like how you help everyone. I need the guidance, thank you for your videos.
I was like this before I know who can he:lp you out text he now. He can solve your problems:: don't waste your time here: you can get ex back::+:1:9:7:2:5:3:4:8:3:9:9 whatzzp me.
I'm kinda in a tricky spot, where I realized that my main life driving force is seeking validation in two things. First is girls, I would date multiple girls, once I got the validation I would leave them (commitment phobia triggers) and in other people. At this point, I fully understand this, and the problem is that I don't find joy in things that don't have a validation aspect to them. I don't get excited about going with friends when going to work or doing anything productive. Basically, I threw out all bad habits where I was seeking validations, and now I'm at a depressing point where I don't find anything exciting at all. Has anyone had a similar thing? How did you get out from that point of despair and hopelessness? This weight in my chest and huge doubt is taking a toll on me. Aaron told me to self validate, and since nothing excites me that self validates me, it's a pain to do. Job, gym, self-development, friends, etc..
kistmalen maybe your hate of the idea of commitment isnt a phobia, phobia is irrational, a hate of the idea of commitment isnt irrational in my opinion, as for your stopping chasing all outside validation and then becoming depressed, i believe what you should have done is continue doing all of those things you were doing to chase validation, but be authentic instead, watch alpha male strategies channel,
I have a hyper lil dog, and I struggle to calm her down she’s only a year old. When I listen to you Aaron my dog stops everything and sits on my lap only for the duration of the video. My dog hears your voice and is calmed by your balanced tone n over all energy. I think that is so Awesome! Thank you Aaron for helping me grow and my lil dog too 🤗💖🙏
Aaron I really really admire how open you are because it’s so key, it really hits home hard and that’s always needed, it’s the only way to actually heal and I’m really grateful for you and your channel✨it’s a pathway... Thank you so so so much 💕
I look back and wonder what I was doing too and realise how different I would’ve handled certain situations and people now and I love this woman I’m healing and becoming. It took so much inner work and I started setting boundaries and stopped abandoning my own self, even though I have temporarily setbacks at time. And I’m so grateful to you… Aaron, can you help us with a few techniques of shadow work please…
I’ve never felt seen, heard or validated. Now I’m constantly trying to seek external validation but I never get that validation I crave and it leaves me feeling so alone and depressed.
I've been lonely, very much so for .. 2+ years?... It's a mindset, based on the heart's perception of reality and expectations. Not to say it isn't always valid/ warranted ... Ugh hard to explain, really really do highly recommend the Krishnamurti book about loneliness, the best. Far from just a "self transformation" or "philosophy" book, hard to pin it... Real change and acceptance comes from within. The more we give away power to others to have them decide who we are or what we should be... It can be lovely when it works, risky and hell when it doesn't. Just some of my personal thoughts. And of course we have many relations not just with people, but the environment, ourselves (! The most important one of our lives, Very very usually overlooked), family (but don't have to get too close if/ when they're toxic, and don't just accept their rigid expectations if they have em and you've outgrown them...) But yeah, we can never stop 100% seeking validation and that's fine, but of course don't have to define our worth based on external factors largely in the realm of luck & many many factors outside of our true control yes
@@Dman9fp I’m not sure why I’m only seeing this comment now but I’m pretty sure it’s because it wasn’t relevant to me at that time. Your comment though ✨🥰
I've been following you since 3 years now and honestly I can see you are in your truest authentic form today and you speak with so much power... and its all because you approved yourself! Love your work, love your videos, keep shining dude! 💜💜💜🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
This is a good 10 min study 📖 the only validation is yourself not from them just you. People won’t like it and some will either way who cares the only person who should care is you. Do what you love but always remember your own values
As much shadow work as I've done and do a lot I still find myself slipping into that mind-set of seeking approval...old shadows run deep I suppose so what has been helping me the most is learning how to flip my mind and instead of being those feelings of insecurity, or lack of self value I step out of myself and I observe these feelings in action but do not identify them as "me"..so then I am no longer the shadows, or the program..I am simple observing the program in action...we get programmed through repetition so the more I do this the more I purge the programming and adopt new programming also through the power of repetitions....and the healthier I become..at 62 I'm healthier than I've ever been. I hope this comment helps somebody. Namaste.
Thanks for your honesty 🙏🏻 I think I’ve been doing a similar process. To continue to feel the validation and internal love and trust, I meditate on that feeling, because I’ve felt it and want to connect with it regularly and become intimately familiar with it. The feeling-without any words or expectations- seems powerful to me. It’s growing stronger. All the best to you ❤️🙏🏻
This could be a great content for your next video. Just sharing some insight. How do you know the difference between losing yourself in the process and working really hard to achieve a goal and not allow losing yourself in the process. Seems like hard work which has a positive connotation can also mean losing yourself in the process. The answer to not needing external validation being Don’t abandon your self is a really difficult thing to understand. I don’t even understand it, it is incredibly vague and expressive.
Holy shit I had no idea how much we had in common. From the 7-15 yrs old life to seeking validation in content creation. I’m new to my spiritual journey but this video has helped tremendously! Thank you my soul brother
Really well said. I still think aside from this issue you have a passion to be of service to humanity, to offer wisdom to better the world. I don't think it was only about looking for approval. I think that was an issue that was peripheral and you are able to heal it as you travel on your authentic path.
Thank you very much for this video. I have been feeling something wasn't right, and although I do not always say "YES", most of the times I agree in things I normally do not but only cause I only say the yes but never commit to it.
On a biological level-it’s about Dopamine and serotonin. Dopamine is about getting more (there is a book, the molecule of more talks about this). Serotonin is about being content with what you have. Understanding yourself on a biological level is useful.
This is the first time I see someone else who wasn't allowed to go outside, have friends, meet anyone, miss school activities. I was raised that way. My father hardly took me out for something. I thought I was the very few people this way.
I’ve been aware that I need validation and I change myself for other people to get validation and I can’t seem to change myself it’s to the point where I don’t even know who I am or what I want I just people please and it literally gives me major anxiety and I feel horrible I’ve tried multiple times to turn into a “high value person” and can’t
its funny how its all connected. I wanted just accept that my past was before and now I'm me, more experienced me but all I cared about was that if others got to know about it, they'll hate me, they won't accept me which was obviously caused by my need to seek external validation which was caused by low self-esteem and low self love.
I recently learnt doing this work that it's not just the narc it's the other enabling parent that allowed it. Painful as this is usually the one we trust.
Step by step guide to start living your life, if you need to start from this video *1st is to gain self-esteem and start accepting, loving yourself* (Robert Greene explained in his book that need for validation is caused by absence of value of yourself) *2nd is to stop seeking external validation* *3rd is finally to stop living in the past, you're the new you, learn a lesson from it* *4th is to stop overthinking by starting to live in present* (past cannot be altered all we can do is learn from it, future can be formed not by your imagination but by your actions now)
I‘ve been following you on youtube and instagram for a while now and heard about your childhood story a couple times. But it is only now that I realize we share the same story. Or let’s say, a part of mine is very similar to yours. I‘ve been focusing so much on healing from other experiences in my life that I kind of forgot/ignored/suppressed that part. Thank you!
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Awesome I'm going to check it out now!
Thankyou 🙏
Me toooo!!!!
@@rastablack5427 *CORONA IS CROWN & BIBLE HAS NOT ENDED*
6 Men can only reproduce human life, but the Holy Spirit gives new life from heaven; 7 so don’t be surprised at my statement that 💥🐍💥 *you must be born again!* 💥🐍💥
They ate and drank and married-everything just as usual right up to the day when Noah went into the ark and the Flood came and 💣💣 destroyed them all. 💣💣
for the past almost more than few months..I was trying my level best to get some help in very desperate, desperate, hopless state..Watched may be more than hundred videos..when since last week started watching ur channel...which is very interesting...but it was u till now 4:30 AM that I bumped into your video on 5th dimension...in which You really talked to me..You really made that video for me...thank you...I feel crying...infact crying...to learn from you how to heal my scars ...my childhood horrible experiences which ruined my emotional psychological and mental health...for decades..Now I got a light in this dark long tunnel..how to over come and heal my self from the bitter pain inflicted by the most near one.. Thank you so much..jazak Allahu khair..wish you all the best in both the worlds.
Key advice right here… We're all so busy chasing the approval of others that we forget to approve of ourselves! Great vid, man! 👊
I say thanks to you legend.Probably you will never know how much you you have helped me. And you are fine with that. ❤❤
A man himself
But how do you approve yourself and how does that work?? I already know I'm real and my experience is real, but it doesn't matter because that doesn't change feeling like nobody else understands and that giving me self doubt, and feeling like if I decide to be strong in myself, that I'm going to get push back from the whole world and everyone around me and I will be shunned from society, just for seeing things the way they are. Because I don't know if that's the way they are because it feels like everyone else tells me "no that's not real, your whole reality isn't real" and my whole reality is that I don't feel validation for my emotions and the way I feel, that I felt unheard and unseen and felt like an alien and completely unrelatable in my experience, like nobody saw me as a human and everyone thinks I'm retarded in some way. How do I give my own self validation? I am not other people, and other people supposedely say "no that makes no sense" through their face and emotions and interactions, so why should I trust myself when it feels like everyone is giving me the message I'm being a narcissist or sociopath or psychopath or that I'm just being in my own head twisting around the wrong things I'm thinking to serve my own selfish needs? When it feels like all I'm doing is validating my experience that I experienced what I experienced and it was traumatic and it didn't have to mean that I needed to be stuck in it?
💯
So true
*5 things to quit right now:*
*1. Overthinking*
*2. Trying to make everyone happy*
*3. Living in the past*
*4. Worrying*
*5. Doubting yourself*
Thank you!😊
How though? 🥺
@@alexandraaikonika by seeking god and living for him, Jesus .
Love you, Ahmet!
Grrrrreat advice, thank 🙏 you ❣❣❣
@@alexandraaikonika look up the topic and then put aaron doughty he has many powerful exercises
Like "aaron doughty overthinking"
He covers everything
Or watch infinite waters
When I stopped looking for praise from everyone else, that’s when I was finally FREE 😌
“We tend to abandon ourselves when seeking external validation” wow. I’m crying!! Needed these words
Best affirmation ever:
*I am naturally whole and complete* ✨🥰
-Aaron doughty
1. Stop abandoning yourself. Always hold your hand. See, hear, understand and accept yourself.
2. Stay true to your inner voice. Only Make choices that are true to who you are. When you look at the outer world you dream, when you look inside you awaken. Stay connected and true to that.
3. Arrange your values. Think about and finalize values that are true to who you are, your success and happiness. Values that are a good formula for what you want.
find the love within and it will be projected outwards
Yeah, and even if it isn't, you don't care 😄 You get it from other sources, ie. yourself, nature, animals, etc. Just remember, you're just the witness, no matter what is going on outside of yourself
✌️ & 💓
That’s really all we can do, to change the 🌎 we have to start with ourselves 😌
Yes!!❤️🙏🏻
Absolutely love this,Thank you. 😍😁✌💖😀
And then some agitated a-hole will come along and do anything they can to dim that light. Guess it's just important not to take it personally. And try to love anyway.
The only person you should be trying to prove anything to is yourself. Only you can validate you.
Realizing my own self worth has been life changing experience. Giving up on External Validation and be ok with the Now ✨🙌🏻 Be Seen by your inner self!
Yes yes ...iam indeed in love with myself !!!!! Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe!!! I got a question are you a doctor i wondering why the upper of my lip is darker the bottom of my lip is like splash pink mix ...i just need help please ...life hasn't been easy for me at all ...i have been experiencing cptsd , trauma , anxiety , etc....
See finding that for myself is hard, I try but the more I try the worse it becomes even though I know there are things I should feel worthy of
Allow your heart the space it needs to manifest your highest desires into existence. When you really just let things be, and detach from all outcomes, you give life the opportunity and space to work in your favour. When there is space you can manifest even more and finally receive what you have been waiting for. I set another intention for anyone who reads this, I promise what you desire is on its way. I am sending you love and strength. You are Appreciated & Loved You are Accepted and Supported. Trust in yourself and Trust in life.
~ Much love from a Law Of Attraction TH-camr💜
Love and Light 💓
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We are all worthy we just have to believe it. May we all gently heal, be in great health, enjoy abundance and feel love. All good well being. Love and light ✨🐎✨🐎self care is self love
Never be-lie-ve. KNOW! Belief leaves room for doubt. Belief helps people who start to realize keep a little room for doubt. It's part of this world artificial programming.
Well spoken baby girl!!!!
@@GodofLovers *CORONA IS CROWN & BIBLE HAS NOT ENDED*
6 Men can only reproduce human life, but the Holy Spirit gives new life from heaven; 7 so don’t be surprised at my statement that 💥🐍💥 *you must be born again!* 💥🐍💥
They ate and drank and married-everything just as usual right up to the day when Noah went into the ark and the Flood came and 💣💣 destroyed them all. 💣💣
@@BestIsntEasy You are correct about being born again(reincarnated). Though the entire teaching of Jesus the Christ is not I'm the bible, and the old test is about the ignorant blind God, the demiurge. Not Christ's heavenly father mother.
@@GodofLovers I'm not playing your various games and multitudes of teachings out there.
Jeremiah 26-27 Like a thief, the only shame that Israel knows is getting caught. Kings, princes, priests, and prophets-all are alike in this. They call a carved-up wooden post their father, and for their mother they have an idol chiseled out from stone. Yet in time of trouble they cry to me to save them!
[6:51] And preach with this (Qu RAn) to those who reverence the summoning before their Lord-they have none beside Him as a Lord and Master, nor an intercessor-that they may attain salvation. wwwDOT submissionDOTorg
Health Quarantine
[4:15] Those who commit adultery among your women, you must have four witnesses against them, from among you. If they do bear witness, then you shall keep such women in their homes until they die, or until GOD creates an exit for them.*
*4:15 A woman witnessed by four people in the act of committing adultery on four different occasions, with four different partners, represents a danger to public health. Such a woman is a depository of germs, and a health quarantine protects the society from her. A good example of an exit that saves a quarantined woman is marriage-someone may wish to marry her, and thus protect her and the society.
Islam is a GROUP in submission. Muslim is ONE which has surrendered. Mu'men are believers.
You dont have to become anything to feel good, youre already whole and complete on your natural state
ooof this hit me hard
Thank you. A timely reminder that I made a great decision. A female tried to manipulate me. I expressed myself. I had gotten gaslit.
The blessing: unfuckwithable. I stood my ground. I see she's unhappy. She isn't my job. I did kadas. I don't allow gaslighting into my life. Resting on a couch and calming my nervous system down. Told someone else. Felt it. Heavy blanket. I am worth taking care of what I need. Which means quiet time. Others leaving me alone when I say so.
AARON I haven’t even watched yet but yesterday this question was literally on my mind all day and I was researching a lot about it…then today you post this video. ❤️
You want some free external validation real quick? 🙄🤔👹
Here's a tip (say no)
Yesssssssssssssssssssssss this is me right now. Working on my validation issues, I see the light! 💃 💃 💃
Aaron-I’ve just made this shift, too. Validation and love were things I wanted from others-definitely related to childhood stuff and the shadow you describe. A few weeks back I really connected to an internal trust and confidence that is not dependent on others. IT IS SO LIBERATING!!!! Plus, everyone else just gets to “do them,” and they are liberated, too! Powerful stuff. And your videos are so helpful and straight forward. What a gift to the world. ❤️
Man this really spoke to me...I look at everything in my life and honestly, I don't enjoy anything I do unless I know I get approval or some sort of reverence from others...my therapist asked me this question "woild you rather have 100 million dollars and nobody knows, or woild you rather be broke but everyone thinks you're rich"...I woild choose the second one every single time...and thats a serious issue..I wasn't in control of my own happiness it was all dependent on other people...huge epiphany, where do I go now? I don't know...but this is a start at least
Hi dude this is literally what happens to me. I have even changed my clothing style in order to “pose” as a richer man. What did u do? Have you improved?
Thank you Aaron, Absolutely beautiful, I don't fear abandonedment or rejection, Inner validation is key.😀💖✌😁
*Growth and change is painful, but nothing is painful as being stuck where you don't belong.*
Love from a small youtuber 🖤
Perfectly said.
i was grounded almost every single day of my life bro I feel you, I was the shy kid who never bothered anyone and my father and step mom abused me, physically, mentally and spiritually, I now have violence on my mind alot
I'm sorry to hear that just learn to love yourself and know your worth!!!!
Is it possible to be high vibe/conscious and in some situations you believe you would still respond with violence? I struggle with this.
@@Taran532it's normal to want to react with violence because it's what we see all the time but violence makes you feel worse ,you might get hurt, it makes you unattractive,you will regret it later
@Jeannette Vlogs thank you i felt that, your energy is strong❤️
I swear every time I have a shadow to face. Aaron is always here for me. Thank you brother ❤
I’m still here Aaron. I love when you talk about selling women’s shoes 😉
Greetings
Validation is for parking!
Namaste 🙏🏽
Yes absolutely right..... Wasn't close to my mum, she was too strict, never had love from her....but yet I felt this need to people please! Found it tough in life to be myself, so I kept on pleasing others until recently, when I realised things had to change.... working on myself, learning to say no to others... ❤️
My god this makes so much sense for me. I feel like a new level in my mind has been unlocked watching this. It's exactly what I needed to wake up.
Since childhood I used to be a topper and got so much praise and respect but now am good in studies but like my childhood but still I seek that kind of validation and appreciation from other which I don't receive and it puts me into constant depression.
This video feels like made for me, I'm on the path to self-worth, I'm doing the 21 days candle flame meditation and doing my best to fill my own cup. My all life I was afraid to be abandoned and that just made people feel my cringe vibe...
Aaron, your videos have helped me “expand my consciousness” and improved my quality of life. ✌🏼🤟🏽🙏🏼🖖🏼
I personally feel like abandoning the self for me is more like erasing my existence, cause when I erased my existence, anger wouldn’t turn against me and that’s the only thing I could do to protect myself. But in doing that, you erase your own needs and wants and become dreadfully unhappy, you lose yourself, and if you lose yourself you’ll always look for others to validate you. Thanks for helping me to open my eyes ❤
I am happy and complete within me. I am my own source of validation because I am worthy
Yesterday I got a revelation about my childhood and it surprised me cuz I was like damn, I been through shit. This is the 2nd video of yours I've seen, and I like how you help everyone. I need the guidance, thank you for your videos.
I was like this before I know who can he:lp you out text he now. He can solve your problems:: don't waste your time here: you can get ex back::+:1:9:7:2:5:3:4:8:3:9:9 whatzzp me.
I'm kinda in a tricky spot, where I realized that my main life driving force is seeking validation in two things. First is girls, I would date multiple girls, once I got the validation I would leave them (commitment phobia triggers) and in other people. At this point, I fully understand this, and the problem is that I don't find joy in things that don't have a validation aspect to them. I don't get excited about going with friends when going to work or doing anything productive. Basically, I threw out all bad habits where I was seeking validations, and now I'm at a depressing point where I don't find anything exciting at all. Has anyone had a similar thing? How did you get out from that point of despair and hopelessness? This weight in my chest and huge doubt is taking a toll on me. Aaron told me to self validate, and since nothing excites me that self validates me, it's a pain to do. Job, gym, self-development, friends, etc..
kistmalen maybe your hate of the idea of commitment isnt a phobia, phobia is irrational, a hate of the idea of commitment isnt irrational in my opinion,
as for your stopping chasing all outside validation and then becoming depressed, i believe what you should have done is continue doing all of those things you were doing to chase validation, but be authentic instead, watch alpha male strategies channel,
It's kinda same here.
I have a hyper lil dog, and I struggle to calm her down she’s only a year old. When I listen to you Aaron my dog stops everything and sits on my lap only for the duration of the video. My dog hears your voice and is calmed by your balanced tone n over all energy. I think that is so Awesome! Thank you Aaron for helping me grow and my lil dog too 🤗💖🙏
All I need is inside of me 🥰
Aaron I really really admire how open you are because it’s so key, it really hits home hard and that’s always needed, it’s the only way to actually heal and I’m really grateful for you and your channel✨it’s a pathway...
Thank you so so so much 💕
I look back and wonder what I was doing too and realise how different I would’ve handled certain situations and people now and I love this woman I’m healing and becoming. It took so much inner work and I started setting boundaries and stopped abandoning my own self, even though I have temporarily setbacks at time. And I’m so grateful to you… Aaron, can you help us with a few techniques of shadow work please…
I’ve never felt seen, heard or validated.
Now I’m constantly trying to seek external validation but I never get that validation I crave and it leaves me feeling so alone and depressed.
I legit just finished crying for 45 minutes because of loneliness. Opened TH-cam & this was the first video there 😂💖
Why Im here too. ❤
I've been lonely, very much so for .. 2+ years?... It's a mindset, based on the heart's perception of reality and expectations. Not to say it isn't always valid/ warranted ... Ugh hard to explain, really really do highly recommend the Krishnamurti book about loneliness, the best. Far from just a "self transformation" or "philosophy" book, hard to pin it...
Real change and acceptance comes from within. The more we give away power to others to have them decide who we are or what we should be... It can be lovely when it works, risky and hell when it doesn't.
Just some of my personal thoughts. And of course we have many relations not just with people, but the environment, ourselves (! The most important one of our lives, Very very usually overlooked), family (but don't have to get too close if/ when they're toxic, and don't just accept their rigid expectations if they have em and you've outgrown them...)
But yeah, we can never stop 100% seeking validation and that's fine, but of course don't have to define our worth based on external factors largely in the realm of luck & many many factors outside of our true control yes
@@Dman9fp I’m not sure why I’m only seeing this comment now but I’m pretty sure it’s because it wasn’t relevant to me at that time.
Your comment though ✨🥰
You all are much appreciated and very loved family
So brave of you, Aaron to tell us all that. Thanksss
Thank you Aaron, for getting me through the dark times in my life!.
I remember him always commenting everywhere when he had lol 6K subs hahah. Such a huge way he has come 🙌
I've been following you since 3 years now and honestly I can see you are in your truest authentic form today and you speak with so much power... and its all because you approved yourself! Love your work, love your videos, keep shining dude! 💜💜💜🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thanks Aaron
Wow this really spoke to me. I went through something very similar with step mother. Thank you for sharing - I needed to hear this.
I always enjoy visiting Aaron's page when I need a top up
Wow Aaron - this hits home. The fact that others won't even know. Such an important message :) Thanks for sharing your story and the encouragement
This is a good 10 min study 📖 the only validation is yourself not from them just you. People won’t like it and some will either way who cares the only person who should care is you. Do what you love but always remember your own values
This is my personal favorite video content from you and I enjoy all of it.
DANG YOU HIT HOME!! Thank you so freaking much for this video, seriosly! 🤩 Subbed
As much shadow work as I've done and do a lot I still find myself slipping into that mind-set of seeking approval...old shadows run deep I suppose so what has been helping me the most is learning how to flip my mind and instead of being those feelings of insecurity, or lack of self value I step out of myself and I observe these feelings in action but do not identify them as "me"..so then I am no longer the shadows, or the program..I am simple observing the program in action...we get programmed through repetition so the more I do this the more I purge the programming and adopt new programming also through the power of repetitions....and the healthier I become..at 62 I'm healthier than I've ever been. I hope this comment helps somebody. Namaste.
Thanks for your honesty 🙏🏻 I think I’ve been doing a similar process. To continue to feel the validation and internal love and trust, I meditate on that feeling, because I’ve felt it and want to connect with it regularly and become intimately familiar with it. The feeling-without any words or expectations- seems powerful to me. It’s growing stronger. All the best to you ❤️🙏🏻
this comment definitely helped me
Validate yourself, don't fear abandonment
Oooo, "contorted thing that changes." 🙏
This could be a great content for your next video. Just sharing some insight. How do you know the difference between losing yourself in the process and working really hard to achieve a goal and not allow losing yourself in the process. Seems like hard work which has a positive connotation can also mean losing yourself in the process. The answer to not needing external validation being Don’t abandon your self is a really difficult thing to understand. I don’t even understand it, it is incredibly vague and expressive.
Thank you friend. Exactly what I’ve been looking for. Its nice to hear someone else say it
This is wat I was looking for thank you for letting me know what not to do u deserve ur subs now power too u🎉
Thank you so much for your information. I'm literally crying from Inside
Thank you for making this video
Well articulated chief thanks!
Holy shit I had no idea how much we had in common. From the 7-15 yrs old life to seeking validation in content creation. I’m new to my spiritual journey but this video has helped tremendously! Thank you my soul brother
I adore your vulnerability.
Aaron Doughty , i think that youre an earth angel or something .. 😄 love your energy! Peace 🙏
How do you always make a video on exactly what I’m struggling with at the moment? Thank you spirit guide Aaron 🙏🏽✨
Thank You Aaron.
This hits so hard....
Whilst doing shadow work I've been thinking about this a lot lately & your explanation of this is just on point
Really well said. I still think aside from this issue you have a passion to be of service to humanity, to offer wisdom to better the world. I don't think it was only about looking for approval. I think that was an issue that was peripheral and you are able to heal it as you travel on your authentic path.
Thank you very much for this video. I have been feeling something wasn't right, and although I do not always say "YES", most of the times I agree in things I normally do not but only cause I only say the yes but never commit to it.
On a biological level-it’s about
Dopamine and serotonin. Dopamine is about getting more (there is a book, the molecule of more talks about this). Serotonin is about being content with what you have. Understanding yourself on a biological level is useful.
Absolutely- they are also involved in feelings of self esteem and confidence.
I'm really impressed with your explanation straight to the matter in hand cool stuff.
The way THIS video made me feel heard
This is really great advice man .. thanks for the enlightenment 🙏 namaste
this is my first time commenting on TH-cam video , it help me a lot thanks to ❤️🤘
Thank you Immensely Aaron and Divine Souls of Light My Soul Embraces your Amazings Souls Namaste 🙏❤
So amazing, as always. Your channel has been so healing to me! Thank you very much
Thank you so much for this it resonates with my soul! Much Love!
Great video, you explain things in a way that can be applied immediately to life and that's gold.
Wow that’s really enlightening! Thanks Aaron for helping fellow people
This is the first time I see someone else who wasn't allowed to go outside, have friends, meet anyone, miss school activities. I was raised that way. My father hardly took me out for something. I thought I was the very few people this way.
Stop abandoning self! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Life changing for me Aaron U are brill thankyou much love from Australia xx
Thank you my guy :)
Side note: gotta hear the products you use in your hair looks fantastic
I’ve been aware that I need validation and I change myself for other people to get validation and I can’t seem to change myself it’s to the point where I don’t even know who I am or what I want I just people please and it literally gives me major anxiety and I feel horrible I’ve tried multiple times to turn into a “high value person” and can’t
Insightful bro I appreciate it 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for this eye-opening video! We all need to be aware that we are worthy and our own source of validation.
its funny how its all connected. I wanted just accept that my past was before and now I'm me, more experienced me but all I cared about was that if others got to know about it, they'll hate me, they won't accept me which was obviously caused by my need to seek external validation which was caused by low self-esteem and low self love.
Thank you brother. Deeply
I recently learnt doing this work that it's not just the narc it's the other enabling parent that allowed it. Painful as this is usually the one we trust.
Facts. I've been looking for external validation because I used to get it a lot as a kid, and as a teen.
This video is so accurate! I fall prey to this so many times ..makes it uncomfortable
i relate SO HARD with all you said! ty
Thank you 🙏
Step by step guide to start living your life, if you need to start from this video
*1st is to gain self-esteem and start accepting, loving yourself* (Robert Greene explained in his book that need for validation is caused by absence of value of yourself)
*2nd is to stop seeking external validation*
*3rd is finally to stop living in the past, you're the new you, learn a lesson from it*
*4th is to stop overthinking by starting to live in present* (past cannot be altered all we can do is learn from it, future can be formed not by your imagination but by your actions now)
I am seeing myself the way i would've wanted to be seen by them.
I‘ve been following you on youtube and instagram for a while now and heard about your childhood story a couple times. But it is only now that I realize we share the same story. Or let’s say, a part of mine is very similar to yours. I‘ve been focusing so much on healing from other experiences in my life that I kind of forgot/ignored/suppressed that part.
Thank you!
*Key to self validation: Stop abandoning yourself, give yourself validation, fill your own cup of desires.
*self esteem and love for yourself. Robert Greene in his book explained that this is caused by absence of value for yourself
thank you so much
Wow. Thank you. I loved your message.
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thank u thank uuu !!
Thank you for this. Really helped me!