If the lady did not want the gender to be known, she should have said that they didn't know yet. She did not have to be a beotch about it. And it is a normal question to ask.
Exactly some people are more excited to ask the gender than the actual baby sometimes plus a lot of people would’ve asked the gender she could have just said she was growing a gender reveal and didn’t want people to know yet
Her fault, not OP's. All she has to say is "I don't know yet", "We'll have a reveal later" "We're waiting until the baby's born" or my fav, "I'm not telling."
When I don’t want to anybody knows gender, I just say “we don’t know - baby don’t let us see gender”. With second pregnancy it’s was our reality: my baby don’t like ultrasound and every time turned away. Your colleague just rude person.
She very well could have explained that the gender is not being revealed until a later date and thank the OP for the inquiry. Some people don't understand how to be a decent person.
Don’t share personal information if you don’t want people to ask personal questions. Especially if you don’t have answers to questions that you feel comfortable sharing. She, quite literally, could’ve just said “Oh, I’m not telling people yet,” or “oh, I don’t know.” Like women, what?
She's an adult! If she didn't want to tell you before a gender reveal she could have told you so! She can feel sorry for herself for giving it away alteady, but she can't be mad at you!
She should've said she was waiting to tell everyone at a gender reveal, she didn't have to answer with the gender if she didn't want to. Some pregnant women use little crap like this to play the victim as often as possible or treat people as crappy as possible and blame it all on being pregnant and emotional, same with women and their periods. As a woman, and mother, these things are extremely infuriating.
It was an innocent friendly question. All she had to do was say. We aren't telling anyone yet. Simple. I think she didn't want a boy... then was covering herself.
She could have simply laughed it off while explaining she is going to do a gender reveal for the office folk even if she already knew. No one says you have to answer honestly if you're not wanting to.
She literally could have said "oh I already know, but it's a secret until the gender reveal party" and it would have preserved the "magic". Your coworker is a dumbass and rude for blaming you
NO you don't have to feel guilty. YOU did NOT do anything WRONG. I have NEVER heard that it is too personal to ask if the baby's a boy or girl. Never heard of that. All she should have said was I don't know the gender yet or I don't want people to know yet. You're NOT the asshole at all. You did NOT do anything wrong at all.
It feels like she's purposely did it to start drama. And what it feels like is she has no intentions on returning so she wants to cause a lot of drama and use that as the blame of not returning.
You did NOT do anything wrong. In fact, by asking her about a PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT she made, you were being polite and showing interest. If she didn’t want to share the sex of the baby, she could have answered your questions in MANY acceptable ways. For example, she could have said, “It’s going to be a surprise,” “We’re not sure,” “You’ll find out at the ‘Gender Reveal Party’,” “We’re not telling people yet, but thanks for your interest!” The way she spoke to you after you displayed happiness and enthusiasm at her announcement was rude, condescending, mean, and unnecessary!!! Don’t feel badly for another second!
It’s her problem she could have said she’s not telling anyone yet because she wants to do a reveal to everyone, you did not force her, she’s the A H and she’s rude too do not apologise for asking a question and being interested, if you hadn’t she sounds like the type who would have berated you for being uninterested, you won’t win. Just stay away from someone like that,nyou don’t need her in your life.
Drama queen much?! She could have just said she didn't want to say or hadn't found out yet keeping it until birth or anything really... oh well... just blame it on pregnancy hormones i guess
She literally could have just said “we’re gonna do a gender reveal later so it’s a secret! ;)” like literally I swear, some pregnant women act like they’re the most important person in the world and everyone should just automatically know what they’re thinking or feeling. She can’t be mad at OP for asking a “personal” question when she herself shared the personal info of being pregnant. Nobody forced her to share the gender, if she said she did t want to share and OP persisted I could see that as being inappropriate. But OP was not in the wrong. Pregnant lady needs to chill.
Was this elevator Truth or Dare? Who TF answers 'personal' questions they don't want to? Also, asking the gender of the baby is 100% normal. If it was being kept a secret for a gender reveal, she is the WORST in the world at keeping secrets.
I mean you also have to consider that many people don’t consider “gender” reveal party’s okay. Like it’s not the child’s gender, it’s their assigned sex
ah well... i don't consider these partys ok only because its idiotic behaviour and only for the parents to be to have one more occasion to party (thats ok who wants it, but for me its idiotic). and its not even sure if they get the right gender. As my mother told me, the doctors and ultrasound was telling she's getting a girl. and then, i came out, a boy. they were all surprised. and by another amily member all said it is a boy, ultrasound, docs... and then, there was born a girl.
Do they have a penis or clitoris? If they have one or the other that’s their assigned gender. No getting around it. None of that lgbt+ shit, it’s as simple as that. (Maybe I misunderstood the comment and if I did I apologize)
All she had to say was she is not telling people yet. Its her fault not yours.
This!
i was thinking the same thing
Or that she didn't know yet, right?
If the lady did not want the gender to be known, she should have said that they didn't know yet. She did not have to be a beotch about it. And it is a normal question to ask.
BYOTCH (mean girls reference)
Exactly 💯
Exactly some people are more excited to ask the gender than the actual baby sometimes plus a lot of people would’ve asked the gender she could have just said she was growing a gender reveal and didn’t want people to know yet
Her fault, not OP's. All she has to say is "I don't know yet", "We'll have a reveal later" "We're waiting until the baby's born" or my fav, "I'm not telling."
She chose to say boy all she had to say was she wasn't sharing.
“oh im planning a gender reveal so its a secret for now” its that simple???
I know right
She could have said ✨ You'll have to wait to find out! ✨
She could of just said oh I’m having a gender reveal so I can’t telll y’all or sum
or say, i didn't want to tell/ know, have no idea cause i didn't ask (yet)...
there many better ways to handle.
Did this lady forget you can say “it’s a surprise!”.
When I don’t want to anybody knows gender, I just say “we don’t know - baby don’t let us see gender”. With second pregnancy it’s was our reality: my baby don’t like ultrasound and every time turned away.
Your colleague just rude person.
She very well could have explained that the gender is not being revealed until a later date and thank the OP for the inquiry. Some people don't understand how to be a decent person.
Don’t share personal information if you don’t want people to ask personal questions. Especially if you don’t have answers to questions that you feel comfortable sharing. She, quite literally, could’ve just said “Oh, I’m not telling people yet,” or “oh, I don’t know.” Like women, what?
She could've not told you. Your were being friendly, that's it.
You did absolutely nothing wrong!! She is the one with the issue!!
She's an adult! If she didn't want to tell you before a gender reveal she could have told you so! She can feel sorry for herself for giving it away alteady, but she can't be mad at you!
Bro could’ve said “oh we’re having a gender reveal party soon so everyone will know then” simple as that
Standard question
She should've said she was waiting to tell everyone at a gender reveal, she didn't have to answer with the gender if she didn't want to. Some pregnant women use little crap like this to play the victim as often as possible or treat people as crappy as possible and blame it all on being pregnant and emotional, same with women and their periods. As a woman, and mother, these things are extremely infuriating.
It was an innocent friendly question. All she had to do was say. We aren't telling anyone yet. Simple. I think she didn't want a boy... then was covering herself.
Up did nothing wrong, I would avoid her except when she absolutely had to speak to her work related
Not your fault! She didn't have to answer!
She could have simply laughed it off while explaining she is going to do a gender reveal for the office folk even if she already knew. No one says you have to answer honestly if you're not wanting to.
Wtf she could have just said everyone will find out at the gender reveal her having this conversation with you after is pointless and stupid
She literally could have said "oh I already know, but it's a secret until the gender reveal party" and it would have preserved the "magic". Your coworker is a dumbass and rude for blaming you
NO you don't have to feel guilty. YOU did NOT do anything WRONG. I have NEVER heard that it is too personal to ask if the baby's a boy or girl. Never heard of that. All she should have said was I don't know the gender yet or I don't want people to know yet. You're NOT the asshole at all. You did NOT do anything wrong at all.
She literally could’ve said to wait for the gender reveal
"i don't know" or "it's a suprise" were totally available answers
Js say "But that's all for today, find out in the next episode"
she could have said she’s waiting till the gender reveal😭
She could have just said she wasnt revealing the gender yet
So she couldn't say I don't know? People are so ridiculous and dramatic 🙄
All she could have done was say “me and my spouse are keeping it a secret” or “I don’t know yet” and None of this would have happened
😊 she just could have gave a simple I do not know yet and that would have been fine. It's not your fault
All she had to say she didn't know yet. It's her fault not yours
NTA. She could have just said "it is a surprise". That's it.
It feels like she's purposely did it to start drama. And what it feels like is she has no intentions on returning so she wants to cause a lot of drama and use that as the blame of not returning.
You did NOT do anything wrong. In fact, by asking her about a PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT she made, you were being polite and showing interest. If she didn’t want to share the sex of the baby, she could have answered your questions in MANY acceptable ways. For example, she could have said, “It’s going to be a surprise,” “We’re not sure,” “You’ll find out at the ‘Gender Reveal Party’,” “We’re not telling people yet, but thanks for your interest!” The way she spoke to you after you displayed happiness and enthusiasm at her announcement was rude, condescending, mean, and unnecessary!!! Don’t feel badly for another second!
Or she could just say "I don't know yet" and end it right there. I swear people are just waiting for the opportunity to make you feel bad
She could just say: I can't say right now because I'm planning a gender reveal.
If she was throwing a gender reveal party she should have said “You’ll find out at the gender reveal party”
She could of just said you have to wait till the gender reveal, she didn't have to answer
I’d say “do you know if it’s a boy or girl?” Cause then she could’ve said “oh we’re keeping it secret” or whatever
Ngl she could have just said she didn't want to tell her no one forced her to tell she could have just politely declined
IT WAS HER AND HER HORMONES AND YOU DONE NOTHING WRONG ❤
The question was fine..... pregnancy hormones are killlleeeerrr!!!
All she had to say was it’s a surprise or I’m not ready to reveal that yet
It’s her problem she could have said she’s not telling anyone yet because she wants to do a reveal to everyone, you did not force her, she’s the A H and she’s rude too do not apologise for asking a question and being interested, if you hadn’t she sounds like the type who would have berated you for being uninterested, you won’t win. Just stay away from someone like that,nyou don’t need her in your life.
She didn't have to answer.... she ta
She could have just said “I want to keep it a surprise until the party” she’s trippin
but u didnt force her to say it? she couldve said “oh im waiting to announce it” or smth. smh some people make everything a big deal.
She didn't have to answer she could have said not yet
She could have told you! This is her fault.
This isn’t on you. She is nuts. She didn’t have to tell you.
That’s not your fault. She chose to tell you. She could have said it’s going to be a surprise, or we’re not revealing just yet. She’s being dramatic.
A simple its a suprise would have been fine. She is a Drama queen
Just keep it mind next time you ask questions like that some people take it really seriously and like to keep it a secret
she's crazy
Just don’t answer the question 🤷🏾♀️
Drama queen, she could said that she will tell them later...
Say it will be a suprise
She can grow up then
She made it really weird, not u
Drama queen much?! She could have just said she didn't want to say or hadn't found out yet keeping it until birth or anything really... oh well... just blame it on pregnancy hormones i guess
She literally could have just said “we’re gonna do a gender reveal later so it’s a secret! ;)” like literally I swear, some pregnant women act like they’re the most important person in the world and everyone should just automatically know what they’re thinking or feeling. She can’t be mad at OP for asking a “personal” question when she herself shared the personal info of being pregnant. Nobody forced her to share the gender, if she said she did t want to share and OP persisted I could see that as being inappropriate. But OP was not in the wrong. Pregnant lady needs to chill.
Was this elevator Truth or Dare? Who TF answers 'personal' questions they don't want to? Also, asking the gender of the baby is 100% normal. If it was being kept a secret for a gender reveal, she is the WORST in the world at keeping secrets.
Pregnant women do be annoying all the times anyway, it's not OP's fault 😂😂😂
You're kidding me! All she needed to say was we don't want to tell until the gender reveal. What a drama queen!
She Is just searching for problems she didn't have to tell anyone and Is just Drama seeking
The lady should have just said she wouldn't tell until the gender reveal party
IKR
She didn’t have to say. She wasn’t being forced or anything
I mean you also have to consider that many people don’t consider “gender” reveal party’s okay. Like it’s not the child’s gender, it’s their assigned sex
Oh boy
@@moimeself1088 Oh boy indeed 😅
I agree, and “gender reveal” parties are frankly stupid anyway 💀 op is not the AH
ah well... i don't consider these partys ok only because its idiotic behaviour and only for the parents to be to have one more occasion to party (thats ok who wants it, but for me its idiotic). and its not even sure if they get the right gender. As my mother told me, the doctors and ultrasound was telling she's getting a girl. and then, i came out, a boy. they were all surprised. and by another amily member all said it is a boy, ultrasound, docs... and then, there was born a girl.
Do they have a penis or clitoris? If they have one or the other that’s their assigned gender. No getting around it. None of that lgbt+ shit, it’s as simple as that. (Maybe I misunderstood the comment and if I did I apologize)