Isn't it also more about how do we control our expression of our reactive emotions (anger, fear, anxiety, etc.). These are all natural responses - it's ok to feel them and necessary to express them even (otherwise they remain locked within us as acid). If we notice and change the reactive story we create in our minds, we can control our reactions and change our responses. I'm not sure if it's helpful to always over analyse why we feel what we feel? Just notice that we do.
That is a weak postulate that the child is "unconscious." Of course, it isn't true. What if the question had been, "My child was not paying attention?" That most likely is true. But, is it fair to hold the child responsible for an action with high probability of happening?
What about the story behind the spilling of the milk? Mom works all day. Laundry is piled up. I told my child 5 times to move the milk away from the edge of the table? This is where the world went wrong. Where is the reality?
Maybe the child needs a sippy cup??? The problem is solved. She could have poured the milk into the sippy cup and gave it to the child. Instead she let the child spill the milk and she got mad. Also, watch Bob Newhart-Stop It Byron Katie had us watch this at her school for the work years ago and it is awesome!! Hope you all enjoy it!!! I have been doing the work for about 20 years now and it truly has saved my life. The milk is such a small incident. I just found out that I will be taking care of my 11 year old great granddaughter. Instead of getting upset because the people in her life either drink or do drugs or they are in jail. I decided to find the good. I cannot change the situation so I will do my best to make her life and my life and my husband's the best way that I can. I just finished 20 chemo's and 20 radiations and I really wanted whatever time I have left to be peaceful and not deal with a pre-teen. But because of the work I have learned you cannot argue with reality. This is what is happening so I need to make the best of it. End of story...deal with it. Also her book Cancer Meets Inquire helped me so much 12 years ago with Ovarian Cancer and now Angio Sarcoma Cancer this year. This is reality and do not argue with it. When you truly learn this then life is better. Blessings to All
The world is not wrong it's what we think about it. Mom shouldn't work all day, the laundry shouldn't pile up, the milk shouldn't be at the edge of the table and child should be functioning accordingly. The reality is all these things and the way they are, because that is what is. My mind says "it should be different"! and goes to war with the world, the reality, the child and myself and creates pain for me and others. Can I accept or even love what is? Can I be at peace with my exhaustion, the pile of laundry, the spilled milk, my child, my mind, myself in that situation? Can I?
@@magk7049 right, or, u could mentally get urself so riled up, full of resentment, lash out, then justify it & repeat.. ..until u end up in a clock tower!
So true-if behind closed doors you aren’t living your best life then how can you be your best outside those doors. I love this.
I am learning from Byron Katie and others that this type of self-examination is soooo powerful in my life. Thanks to hear and my other teachers
Thank you Katie for that great explanation. I practice The Work for many years and it changed my life.
excellent and it was exactly the subject i needed to solve thank you 🙏🏽 thank you ❤
Amazing!!! Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Excellent stuff, a revolutionary approach
Fantastic !!!
Omg I need a lifetime for this ,🙃
Oh wait I have one 🙏
First exposure to BK. I hear you! Thanks.
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Isn't it also more about how do we control our expression of our reactive emotions (anger, fear, anxiety, etc.). These are all natural responses - it's ok to feel them and necessary to express them even (otherwise they remain locked within us as acid). If we notice and change the reactive story we create in our minds, we can control our reactions and change our responses.
I'm not sure if it's helpful to always over analyse why we feel what we feel? Just notice that we do.
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Thank you. Flow 444 🙏😇
I really dont get it :(
I thought I was the only one 😮
That is a weak postulate that the child is "unconscious." Of course, it isn't true. What if the question had been, "My child was not paying attention?" That most likely is true. But, is it fair to hold the child responsible for an action with high probability of happening?
What about the story behind the spilling of the milk?
Mom works all day. Laundry is piled up. I told my child 5 times to move the milk away from the edge of the table?
This is where the world went wrong.
Where is the reality?
Maybe the child needs a sippy cup??? The problem is solved. She could have poured the milk into the sippy cup and gave it to the child. Instead she let the child spill the milk and she got mad. Also, watch Bob Newhart-Stop It
Byron Katie had us watch this at her school for the work years ago and it is awesome!! Hope you all enjoy it!!!
I have been doing the work for about 20 years now and it truly has saved my life. The milk is such a small incident. I just found out that I will be taking care of my 11 year old great granddaughter. Instead of getting upset because the people in her life either drink or do drugs or they are in jail. I decided to find the good. I cannot change the situation so I will do my best to make her life and my life and my husband's the best way that I can. I just finished 20 chemo's and 20 radiations and I really wanted whatever time I have left to be peaceful and not deal with a pre-teen. But because of the work I have learned you cannot argue with reality. This is what is happening so I need to make the best of it. End of story...deal with it. Also her book Cancer Meets Inquire helped me so much 12 years ago with Ovarian Cancer and now Angio Sarcoma Cancer this year. This is reality and do not argue with it. When you truly learn this then life is better. Blessings to All
The world is not wrong it's what we think about it. Mom shouldn't work all day, the laundry shouldn't pile up, the milk shouldn't be at the edge of the table and child should be functioning accordingly. The reality is all these things and the way they are, because that is what is. My mind says "it should be different"! and goes to war with the world, the reality, the child and myself and creates pain for me and others. Can I accept or even love what is? Can I be at peace with my exhaustion, the pile of laundry, the spilled milk, my child, my mind, myself in that situation? Can I?
@@magk7049
right, or, u could mentally get urself so riled up, full of resentment, lash out, then justify it & repeat..
..until u end up in a clock tower!
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