I love how she fully embraces it with such joy. She does not have any shame or ask why she has it. She takes pride in it. We can all learn a lesson from her taking pride in our differences!!
@@LenkaSaratoga because, when you spend your life knowing that you are THAT different, but maybe having people dismissing your worries and experiences with no apparent reason, or experiences or an understanding of things that the majority of your peers don't have, having this kind of answer not only help you explain your difference to yourself and to others, but also gives you a toolset to tackle life and to thrive by working on your traits in a way that makes sense in your brain.
I’m a 14 year old girl, and I also want to be tested for autism. I’ve done a lot of research just in the way I’m guessing she did, and I’m almost positive I have it. This gives me a lot of hope, and it makes me so happy to see her so excited about her diagnoses! It must be a relief.
I can really understand her enthusiasm about the diagnosis. I have also wondered about myself for a long time, I'm almost 24 now and will hopefully get my first appointment soon. If I get the diagnosis I'll be so happy and relieved, it'd explain so much and help me understand and hopefully get help to identify my weaknesses and strengths
When I was younger I was told I was just socialy awkward and emotional problems. From the age of 15 I knew I may have autism or Aspergers. When I was 21 I was ill with anxiety, when I was getting better a consultant did a questionaire and said she put me on a waiting list to be tested for autism. Finally when I was 26 I had my assessment and was told I have Asperger mild to moderate. I did ok at school but not many friends. Now with a little help I have a Part time job working with adult with learning difficulties I’m glad you found out early. I like your videos. Greetings from Chatham in Kent England
I have mild to moderate Asperger's as well. My brother does to. I knew I may have autism when I was 12. I'm fourteen now. My brother was lucky enough to get a diagnosis when he was very young, around the age of 4. He is 18 now. I wasn't diagnosed until a few months ago, as before then no one believed me. I was always socially awkward too and I was told that I had "Poor emotional regulation". I've always felt like an alien to the outside world. The only time I ever feel good is when I'm focusing on my special interests (that is sonic the hedgehog) and when I'm alone and under my rock. I don't feel so alone any more.
i was also fobbed off my whole childhood saying i had behavioral problems. i also have alot of other mental health baggage along with adhd, but was finally diagnosed when i was 16 in 2018.
my two boys are on the spectrum and i have always through some things was off about me growing up; I want to be tested too. I found it hard to be at school or to do my course recently, I could see others were grasping it much quicker than I was, I would need more explanation of the task that was needed of me. I could see I was falling behind, took lots of notes, screen shots of the white board where the notes written or the slides shows, but really they meant nothing in the end when I had to go over them in the evenings. I’ve been in admin when I first started work, loved it, getting paid for doing mundane work, loved pleasing my colleagues and supervisor. Later got a job as a receptionist, to me it was the same kind of role, with the added task of answering the phone. Soon found out taking long winded notes was a nightmare for me, I could feel the anxiety, couldn’t keep up. Spelling was hard and writing people’s names was hard, especially if it was a foreign name, I would have to ask them to start again, got conflicting advice, ask for them to spell their name, then, don’t get them to repeat themselves.... ahhhh. Loved it when voicemail was introduced into the office environment or was accepted to transfer clients to the appropriate person so they could leave message on their office phones. (They would know better what they are mumbling about, if you could even hear them properly) Then I worked as a switchboard operator, loved it, not message writing, just transfer to the appropriate department. I would have loved to have been a supervisor at some time in my life, but I feel I didn’t have the mental strength for it. Would any of these issues /downfalls could have been due to being autistic? Making friends, primarily schools and high school, both were hard on me, I couldn’t really make Close friendships.
What a unique situation to have her grow up knowing and seeing the signs and then relating them back to herself! That takes a good amount of self awareness☺️
I was relieved when my son got his diagnosis, as well. It explains a lot of things. He is also very verbal and we didn't get his diagnosis until he was 9. They told us the same thing and didn't want to test him. Thank goodness he has the diagnosis now and he can get the services he deserves.
When I was 12 years old, I got the suspicion that I had autism. I read about a kid in a school magazine who had autism and was a very pick eater, and although I’ve gotten better through the years, I was a really picky eater when I was younger. Although that may not seem like a lot, I knew I had some of the other traits of it too, and so I told my Mom and Dad my theory, and they confirmed that my hunch was right. I was diagnosed with non verbal autism when I was 2, but let’s just say that I learned to talk by the time I was 6, and I’ve been talking ever since. Speech therapy taught me to talk and I continued to do it until I was in 7th grade, I did ABA therapy until 4th grade, and I did occupational therapy until 3rd grade. And even I did do therapy, and improved so much so to the point that I don’t need therapy anymore, I do still struggle with lots of things. I still have some sensory related issues, but I’m getting better with everything, especially the sensory issues. Lots of things that bothered me before don’t bother me anymore. One of the most important days in my life was when I was 15 because I took a risk and told everybody about my autism on Instagram. I’m now 16, and I want to be an advocate for autism. I want to use my TH-cam channel to talk about how I feel about certain things, why I do the things that I do, and maybe, hopefully give autism parents some idea about what might be going on in their kids minds.
Having been diagnosed as an adult, I can absolutely relate to her relief! It’s just so good to realize you’re not crazy and there’s a reason for all these things you’ve been experiencing. It really is something to celebrate! ❤
I am autistic and I love how u said that u dont like the function labels and did good explaining. Most parents who have autistic children dont understand how functional levels hurt us who are autistic
I am a parent of a child with Autism and I think labels are necessary...no one would know that my son is Autistic yet he is put into the same category as kids who have MANY needs and I don't like it. I think until people understand that not all who are on the spectrum are the same then functioning levels need to be used. I am also an educator for special needs (mainly Autism) and functioning levels are ABSOLUTELY used on a daily basis, because I work in varying degrees of care within each classroom and school. I think functioning levels make it easier for people who just don't understand!!
@@michellehartford4937 Please use support labels instead. "Autistic with high sensory support needs" for example. Functioning labels were created by allistic people to corral us into either "not disabled enough" or "too disabled" categories. Support labels are more productive, less oppressive, and tell people the exact accommodations needed for each individual.
@Michelle Hartford An allistic person lecturing autistic people about what labels and language we should prefer is paternalistic and ableist. Also ableist is your use of the words “special needs.” The needs of autistic people aren’t “special;” our needs are human. Obviously no one’s ever told this to you before, but, if you’re not autistic, you don’t get vote. Your job is to advocate for your child, NOT to speak for a community for which you’re not a part.
This is what people’s reactions to a diagnosis of autism should be! Keep up the great work and you have a awesome channel! Also glad to see Sadie stuck to what she knew was true and for you supporting her and all of your kids!😊👍🥳
So many people think diagnosising is just “labeling” and that it’s bad. But I remember when I got my 3 diagnosis I was sooo relieved! I finally understood why I did some things in certain ways and that I’m not weird! So happy for you that she got her diagnoses ☺️
Oh bless her heart saying she’d save up for the testing! I’m still at the beginning of this video, but she’s so sweet & I can tell you guys have such a great bond 😊 My brother was diagnosed with autism recently- I’ve found the diagnosis great for school and places like that to understand & be able to implement new ways to teach him if necessary :) But as a family, the diagnosis didn’t make a great difference as, I’m sure you’ve found it with your daughter too, we already know him so well and what things work best for him :)
I am glad you fought to get her tested. It will help her tremendously. Having an Auditory Processing Disorder, and being told all my life I might then being officially diagnosed later in life has helped me. Now I can get the accommodations at school. I am glad you did this for her cause she can get the support she needs.
Yessssss about functioning labels! Mama, i cried watching you explain this to her!!! YOU GO MAMA!!! how autistic we are (moderate severe etc) is in reference to how our autism affect others. Its gross. Show her the pie chart spectrum, and archie comic if you havent! THANK U FOR BEING SO INCREDIBLE. - autistic mama of 4 autistics
I was diagnosed in 2019, at 23 with high functioning autism, mild to moderate, after years of people saying to me ‘if you are what is the point of a diagnosis at my age as I had already finished school’ which really made me feel upset. I suspected I was on the spectrum since puberty ages I guess. you can be diagnosed at any age and knew in my heart and soul that I was, I went about it myself also, paid the €1200 myself for the assessment because I wanted to know so badly, best thing I could have ever saved for, it took a long time but it was a huge relief but I’m still trying to get services, hopefully this year I will get them as there is no funding where I live.
The term “high-functioning” suggests there’s a “fully functioning” standard of humanity you’re not living up to. As autistics, we have a different neurotype than the average human being, but that doesn’t make us less human.
My 21 year old son is on the spectrum. He was very involved in his diagnosis and aware of his differences. He worked very hard, as did I to help him “adjust to typical” life. He graduated on time with a 3.5 gpa, studying a typical curriculum, with IEP support. During his sophomore year he chose to not use the IEP resources. Sadie, having an answer will help you to understand and get the appropriate resources to help you. Hang in there kid, and just know that you can and will persevere!
Wow! Really amazing. Such a positive outlook and support. I’m truly speechless about how nice it is to see a change in perspective. Thank you. And a cake!!!!
I watch Fathering Autism, NickyTV, and others learning about the different spectrums of Autism. I have a niece and Nephew that are the mild to moderate spectrum. I’m so happy that she wanted to know. Your daughter is so sweet. It’s weird to say congratulations for a diagnosis of Autism but at least you know and now can verbally tell your point of view. God Bless.
The Fathering Autism channel is a terrible place to learn about the autistic community. They don’t allow their autistic child any privacy, sharing her most intimate and private moments to attract advertisers. They also promote applied behavior analysis, a type of conversion therapy invented by the same man who invented gay/trans conversion therapy.
Your daughter is so mature and self-aware for her age, she is lovely! I have a similar situation, my nonverbal autistic teen sister was diagnosed at age 2 but I was diagnosed in my late adolescence because I was verbal and a great student in school. Very interesting. I also love how you guys are so open about autism, education comes with wisdom and confidence!
The preferred term for someone who cannot speak is “non-speaking.” “Non-verbal” suggests that someone cannot understand or utilize language in any form, which many non-speaking folks rightly take offense at.
Awesome stuff, even when it doesn't seem to cause problems it's really nice to know more about yourself. I know when I was diagnosed I was incredibly relieved! So welcome to to the club Sadie ;)
Thank you for sharing this! My (verbal) 12 year old just got her (severe) diagnosis! I tried to have her tested when she was 8-9, also, and was told she was absolutely not autistic-"no way" and so I also cried with joy and relief when we got her diagnosis!
I am new to your channel. I am a young adult female with Aspergers. (I know they don't use that anymore but it's what I am used to) I was diagnosed at age 16, but had severe sensory issues as a little kid. When I was little you either had severe Autism or no Autism, that is why I did not get diagnosed as a kid. I also do not agree with the functioning labels. I feel like everyone has their own way of doing things and that you can not measure ones intelligence in one way. I still have struggles, but have learned a lot on how to handle things. I love that Sadie is so in tune with herself and that she is really involved in her care and her future. The fact that she wanted a diagnosis for herself is amazing and I really applaud her for taking the initiative to go get that. Having a diagnosis can be very rewarding. We know we are different and having that answer can bring a lot of positive things to ones life. Autism is beautiful and Sadie you are beautiful. I have no doubt that you will do so many great things in life. Also I think it is so wonderful how supportive you guys are as parents. That can make all the difference in the world. Seeing Sadie so proud is something that I hope she always feels and sees. Wonderful video!
“Asperger’s” is a functioning label. Before the term was retired, it was essentially a fancy way of calling an autistic person “high-functioning.” Does calling yourself “autistic” make you uncomfortable? If so, why?
Well, I am giving the video a thumbs up, and a "Welcome to the tribe" A good piece of "Detective Work" studying things in your sisters, looking at your own life, looking for the patterns and the like and following up your suspicions. Pattern finding is often one of our strengths as Autistic people, as is determination when we have our interest and focus on something. You are in the same league as Autistic people many years older who had the same path to diagnosis - seeing some patterns traits, forming that suspicion and then researching, cross checking, more researching and eventually finding that research confirmed at assessment. It is a step well worth a celebration. It is getting the correct manual pages for one's mind. It is getting the general idea about the stuff which might take more work than the general population and also the stuff where we can really make some big successes.
She's amazing. So smart! It is hard even as an adult to recognize yourself. I can't believe how insightful she is! You are so lucky, mom, to have a beautiful, intelligent young lady. I hope my girls are as wise as yours is. Diagnosis at early age is difficult even for school diagnosis.l
as an 18 year old female i've been struggling for years to get any doctors to listen to me about getting autism testing, this video made me tear up bc i can see myself in her
Yaya sweetie pie I'm so happy you found out and what makes me happier is that you are proud of it. I want my son to be proud of who he is too which is wonderful in everyway💐😗💗
Congrats on learning about yourself a little better! It's sweet to see you react so happily, just like it should be. Girls tend to mask soooo much. I hope you can learn to express yourself, traits and all. :)
I LOVE how you explain this to her. Functioning labels stink because with "high functioning" deficits are ignored and with "low functioning" strengths are ignore. Good job mama
I’m here because I believe I have autism. When I first started suspecting this of myself I really had a hard time with it but. This made me feel much better about it. Thank you so much for making this video and thank you, Sadie, for spreading your joy! It’s much appreciated! Much love to you guys! Keep being awesome!! 💖💖💖
My 12 yr old daughter was diagnosed with adhd and emotional disturbance and after testing for autism all they could tell us was that there was a high probability that she has it.. but that they couldn’t say for sure. But I believe that she does and so does some others close to us but its frustrating for her and us because we just want a definite answer and also I feel that with a diagnosis maybe she could get more help that is specific to what she needs.. but yeah I’m so happy for your daughter and y’all that you can finally have that diagnosis. I understand completely:)
It's so good to see that Sadie gets her ANSWERS 💖 it's obviously been important to HER so Idk WHY they WLDNT allow her to test??!! That jus seems so WRONG to deny a kid of THAT especially if she's ASKING for it.. It's so sweet to see y'all together, U can tell U are VERY close to her. Ur great with all ur kid's as well!! So cool that she is HAPPY an relieved to find out for her own identity💖 an now all her an her Sister's are the SAME, that seems to make her happy also. She can TALK for her Sister's 💖💖 U have great kid's girl!! So happy for U all on this one !! Many hugs frm FL 💖💖🌴🌴💖💖
Hi, I’m 26 & I got diagnosed at 23 but I was told by my high school that I wasn’t autistic. But I know I was after learning about it & I had to ask my doctor to send me to be tested. Well done! 😀 xx
So happy for you! I know closure is so important and helpful. I have ADHD myself and working towards going to see someone to ask about an Generalized Anxiety disorder.
Aww I’m glad she’s happy with the answers! I also have ADHD and am on the spectrum. I pretty much self-diagnosed and went to my mom at age 17 asking for testing, too!
I'm really happy to see someone that seems happy with the diagnosis, I got mine at sixteen and was never happier..all the diagnosis videos seemed. To be sad about a diagnosis!
My name is Sadie as well it’s always exciting to hear someone that has that name :). I also have never been tested for autism but I’m pretty sure I have it(also have adhd). I also use my struggles to understand people with disabilities and want to be a paraeducator.
girls have a harder time getting diagnoes cus they mask the symptoms, good at coping others around them. glad she got the test this time and the diagnosses. im also autistic, low functioing, closer to sever side but moderate same time. hard for me to explain . idk loved ur video
“Low-functioning” is a dehumanizing label allistics have put on you. It doesn’t matter what traits, co-occurring conditions or support needs you have. Your human experience is not lesser than anyone else’s.
I was diagnosed with ADHD a year ago ( I'm 11 rn ) and you know when you look at a drawing with dots on it and I look at a dot and if it moves my eyes follow it yeah sometimes it bugs me but I learned to ignore it and I was kinda self conscious but now that she learned to embrace it and shared it with thousands of people she inspired me to be more outward with my ADHD I'm happy you made this video it probably helped thousands of people who had autism thank you so much 💓
This video and these comments from similar age kids, is so wonderful to see. My 15yr old is being tested in a few weeks. I've had a gut feeling since she was a toddler, I was ignored until last year my daughter completely fell apart, the pressure of holding it together finally got to her. I'm FURIOUS that my daughter had to get to this point for doctors and teachers to finally listen. I've been watching videos like crazy and to say that I'm DISGUSTED at the comments from some adults is an understatement. These people that get nasty because a parent is trying to help their child makes no sense. The only thing that I can think is that some have been told their child needs testing and instead of getting them tested and or help they become mad and stricken with denial. "Not my child" as if having autism is something to be ashamed of. It's very sad. To the parents that share their experience and ignore all the hate, they are the ones people should be following and not these fake "perfect" mom V-loggers
I was diagnosed with moderate autism at age 22. The neuropsychologist said she was surprised I wasn't diagnosed early on. I was in speech til 3rd grade, stim most of the day, have neurological motor tics, social, communication and intellectual disabilities, SIB, anxiety and developmental delays. I also have OCD, depression and gastrointestinal problems. Being female I wasn't diagnosed when I should have been, which is too common. Even very severe autism features I wasn't diagnosed til adulthood. My autism is very lonely. I don't want it. My autism makes me sad, anxious and exhausted. Lots of people say autism is just thinking differently, but I don't feel like that's true for me. It is a real problem in my life. I know a lot of autistics are proud of their autism, but I'm sad with my autism. Not being able to connect with others, feel comfortable with hugs, is very isolating. Not to mention the constant bullying. Sorry to bring you down. I really enjoyed this vlog, and subscribed. I feel not alone with other autistic people and their families. Thank you for sharing! I am happy to see your family celebrate and cherish her for who she is.💕
Hello, I've got diagnosed with ADHD and Autism (aspergers) at age 22, which was last year. I did well in school, I wish you all the best with school, I think you'll do very good :) your mom will support you! What a wonderful mum you have :) Greetings, Lisa from Germany.
Hello fellow Aspie! Hang in there. My unsolicited advice to you: find your triggers and don't be afraid to take some time for self care. Find what makes you feel more uncomfortable and anxious, and use things such as stress balls. I also find that lavender is great for anxiety, the smell of it releases endorphins in your brain to calm you. Don't be afraid to fight for support. Good luck to you.
@@sophiekerr8964 Thank you :) I sewed a little pillow with lavender and chamomile (dried) inside. It's next to my pillow when I sleep and it makes me calm down and fall asleep more easily. Lavender is really great. Also I just got accepted into therapy two weeks ago. Do you have any advice on sensory processing difficulties? I sometimes feel like I can't sit still or lay still (when I should be asleep) because my legs are tingling (no neurological causes, I had this checked by doctors, they don't know why). Do you think a weighted vest might help me with sitting still in university? All the best to you!
@@Kessik8 I have ADD, so no hyperactivity, so not sure from personal experience what would help you sit still. Maybe try some calming tea? I don't know, I have the opposite problem. My ADD means I daydream pretty much constantly and can't concentrate for more than about 10 minutes without being exhausted. I have the leg problem too, I have no idea what causes it. If you're in uni, there should be a few studies available to you to work out what suits you. Obviously everybody's experience is different, so I can't say what will definitely work. If you're struggling, maybe email your lecturer and ask for help, they would be more knowledgeable
@@Kessik8 forgot about the processing thing sorry. Sensory is definitely a problem, like I can't eat certain foods not because I'm allergic, but because my texture sensitivity can't handle it. I love the taste of kiwi, but to eat it is horrible because it's pulpy. I'm not sure how much you know about autism, given that you're new to it, but there's this thing called sensory overload. Your brain can't handle much more stimuli, and so you feel anxious. If you're not careful, this can cause an anxiety attack (which suck. Like a lot), so research some coping mechanisms. I always get exhausted after a big event or after a particularly rough day at work, so social batteries are definitely a thing. Don't feel guilty if you feel overwhelmed, don't be afraid to tell your friends if you don't feel up to going out with them.
@@sophiekerr8964 Thank you for taking so much time to type all that to me, I think we have a specialist for pedagogy at the university. Maybe they can help :) I'll ask my therapist too tomorrow. Thanks for all the input.
It helped my son so much to know what was causing his 'divers' reactions to the world. Now that he knows he has ADD/ ASS he is less stressed. We are lucky to be a very neuro divers family were we recognize ourselves in each others behaviour.
I was diagnosed with ASD at 22 and now I’m 26. She is amazing and I am smiling so wide!!! You go girl!! We need more women advocates in the community. 🌟
I would say on the ADOS-2 that the "moderate to severe" means that she has a lot of symptoms in all three areas (not how strong the symptoms are), whereas the diagnosis label would be level 1 (mild), level 2 (moderate), level 3 (severe) which is really about the level of support needed.
My 11 year old was also diagnosed as mild to moderate ASD a few months ago, after many many years of being told to "wait and see if he grows out of it" and he's been a constantly B/C student but everything takes 2x as long and he struggles with reading comprehension and interacting with his peers. He also has auditory processing disorder and adhd- inattentive type I was mad at first because we had been put off so long. And there are therapies that could have been helping him. But now we at least have answers and can start from here.
I have high functioning autism and ADHD and anxiety and depression and learning disabilities and asthma and I have a chromosome Difference and Ian 19 and I graduated from high school in June 8th 2019: and I hate really loud noises and I rock back and forth and i flappy my hands and I make noise and I steam
I’m happy for her that she find out that she’s on the spectrum❤ the best is to get the diagnosis when the child is still young so parents and others can help and understand the child better, sadly many people get the diagnosis in the Teen-years and some when they are adults.😕❤️ ((I wanna share a little story about myself and when I got diagnosed)) - I was around 13/14 years old when I got diagnosed with autism. And I had a really rough time dealing with it and had several behaviour problems and acted out very much. I got bullied a lot in school and didn’t have any friends at all. I had a really bad childhood and was neglected most of the time until I was 12 years old when social services saved me from my home. And it was in a foster care I was in, they noticed that I was “odd and weird” as they said.. and I got tested and got Autism. I didn’t understand what it was and never heard about Autism before, so I immediately thought there was something wrong with me and that autism was something bad. Now when I’m grownup it all make sense of the behaviour I had as a child and wished I got the diagnosis in earlier age, and maybe if my parents was more responsible when I was a toddler I may had a chance to got diagnosed earlier than in my later-teens. As I said I had a rough time dealing with that I was autistic, after all the neglect at home and bullying in school I was desperate to be “normal” and I blamed myself for being autistic and that’s why I didn’t got any friends. Today I know that’s not true! And today when I’m in grownup I understand and accept my autism and myself. It’s very important to understand that the diagnosis isn’t a bad thing. - So to end it, I’m very happy for Sadie that she got her diagnosis and hope she’s doing well ❤ I’ve seen a few of your videos on this channel and what I understand you have more kids that are on the spectrum, and I hope they doing well as to. You are a wonderful mother to your kids❤️❤️❤️❤️
I was diagnosed at 22 with Asperger's/pdd-nos. I got my diagnosis with my reconfirmation of ADHD (inattentive subtype) after a therapist told my mom she thought I might have it. I was still having massive tantrums (on occasion), but my biggest "indicator" was/is my obsession with Disney. Looking back, and learning about all the different symptoms and indicators of autism and Asperger's, I definitely have it, and I can also see why it took so long to get diagnosed. I was originally diagnosed with ADHD at 7, but I guess I learned to mask so well and associated autism with the classic "boy" and more extreme signs and symptoms. I will say it is helpful to know why I have some of the "quirks" I have. I don't say out loud that I have it too often, but I'm not ashamed that as I have it. It's who I am, and nothing will ever change that.
Ugh.. that’s gonna be me.. getting the results sooo late in my life when it won’t even benefit me to know.. it’s too late and it’s ruined a lot of my life and no one understands my differences
I'm really sorry that you're going through that. One good thing about the autistic community is that there are lots of people who aren't formally diagnosed who are part of it, because getting diagnosed can be so difficult. One thing I did when I suspected was I looked up the definition in the DSM-5 online (I just googled it), which was helpful for me because I felt like I checked every box. Then I started looking at various autistic support groups online because they can be great places to find support. I know it isn't ideal. And hopefully someday soon you will be able to pursue that diagnosis. But know that you knowing yourself is a great start, and puts you miles ahead of so many adults (like me) who are just figuring it out when we're decades older. I hope that helps. I know sometimes it can be hard for us parents to come around to the idea at first.
@@olliedino5207 what makes you think you are autistic? I am pretty sure I am and I wanted to see if we have anything in common since you think you are too. (I dont know if this sounds wierd or not)
I was diagnosed at 4 and went through physical therapy, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and various social skills groups. I will say that having mild autism is like a bridge. You are not severely autistic ,but you are not neurotypical either. I have found this interesting because I find myself translating certain meanings to each group. I guess the main struggle is having a disability and being aware of it. And being comfortable that there are things no matter how hard you try you will still struggle with.
No one is “severely” or “mildly” autistic. Those are terms allistics with no concept of what the autistic spectrum actually is came up with. They judge us on how well we mask rather than actually do the work to understand us as individuals.
@@GhostIntoTheFog masking isn't everything, there's also motor skills, strength, occupational skills, communication skills. So there has to be a spectrum in order to classify the development and needs of each individual. It's not how much you can mask but how much you can function or develop on your own. I know some people who forget to eat, and some who even if they masked well they wouldn't survive without assistance.
I was testing for Autism and I’m Moderate on the middle umbrella. I do have it and they also told my parents I had OCD too. Now I’m older I’m having symptoms of ADD and Schizophrenia I’m talking to myself mire and more now and much much louder like my parents think there’s someone in the room or I’m on the phone. That’s a Schizophrenic state I’ve seen it I know. Had a roommate that talked to himself extremely loud. No one was there he thought there was. My Schizophrenia is just in my head I think our loud. Instead of hearing things I have thoughts in my head and i talk out loud
My mom knew I was autistic when I was 2 , and I got tested multiple times I was originally diagnosed with classic but when I was 12 I was diagnosed with mild to high functioning autism , I got diagnosed with severe ADHD at 6 and I had so bad time focusing and paying attention and eventually I had to get medicated for my adhd because I can’t stay still and got distracted by anything and cannot finish anything
My mum tried to get me tested as a child as well and so did my head teacher in primary ect but they never done it. It took till I was an adult I can talk very well but I am on the higher side due to social issues ect. I have a partner and 2 kids and manage to function okay girls show way differently than boys some boys show the same way girls do as well do it can be harder for them to get a diagnosis as well x
I got diagnosed when I was 11 too! But I didn't know anything about autism back then, and I didn't even know what I was getting tested for. But it sounds like the test is still really similar.
I'm a 15 YO trans guy, I have also done a lot of research and I'm 90% sure I have it, I have mentioned it to my therapist but we haven't gone anywhere with it yet... I am scared taht because I'm so bad at explaining the way I feel, this might just never be spoken of again... It (ASD) makes sense to the point it fixes all the scrambled pieces in my mind together, a diagnosis will be a relief, even if negative, I just need to know... I hope someone can relate or help...
When we made this video I (Sadie’s mom) hadn’t been diagnosed yet. But because of her diagnosis I was a few months later. And I can definitely relate to feeling hugely relieved with getting the diagnosis. I felt like it made so many pieces of my life make sense, even though it didn’t change anything in how my life actually is in terms of support. I think it’s changed some things in terms of how I treat myself, like not being as hard on myself. I don’t know if that helps, but I do know being relieved seems to be pretty common amongst teens and adults who find out. If you feel comfortable I’d definitely bring it up again with your therapist.
Big Oreo hey! I’m on the spectrum and just wanted to suggest that when you talk about it with your therapist again try writing out your reasons! A lot of us on the spectrum are better at explaining our feelings through writing than verbalizing. Plus, keep in mind that a lot of therapists aren’t taught much about Autism so they may brush it off because they don’t think you fit the stereotype in their head. So keep trying and, if they don’t listen, don’t be afraid to ask for a referral to a specialist from them or your doctor. And a diagnosis can not only be relieving but also open up a lot of opportunities for help as well, especially in school! I wish I had known in high school because it would have helped a lot more than I realized. Plus, I know that’s since I found out, I’ve been a lot kinder to myself and don’t push myself as much (I can recognize when I need to take breaks or use ear defenders etc and I don’t make myself try to “just get through it”) and it’s helped those who love me understand me better and be more patient with me. Keep going, keep being patient with yourself, and keep speaking up for yourself! You’ve got this 👍🏻
You can see differences on brain scans. There’s a structural and functional difference for certain brain pathways. Some researchers suggest that giving MRIs to children can flag young children for early intervention rather than waiting for other diagnostics.
@@GhostIntoTheFog Early intervention is an education term. It means supports like accommodations, modifications, and supplemental instruction that neurotypical students are not eligible to receive.
Presentation isn’t inherent to gender. Some of it has to do with social upbringing, and some of it just depends on the person. So sometimes an autistic girl will present the “typical” signs that are usually looked for, or an autistic boy won’t. What’s important is to recognize a wide array of possible presentations and not to abide by preconceived notions.
@Liah Shoemaker I’m aware! I’m just saying that it’s not only girls who mask, and someone who knows their stuff should be well-versed in how to spot less “obvious” autism, regardless of who it is that walks through their door for an eval.
@@exusemyignorancebutwhatexa5285 you are right but only because of gender roles, people think that girls tend be shy and passive, so many autistic girls tjat present those traits, but because of autism, are overlooked
Cammie, watching this video today, after watching your other one where you received your diagnoses, I couldn't help but smile a little bit. "They said you still have ADHD ... oh, your eyes look really green right now!" SQUIRREL!!! lol
I just found out my daughter is diagnosed with autism in level 2. I just want people to tell me more about it I have no idea what that is I have search so much. I’m very tense. I wan to know what should I do. She is 3 years and 7 months old.
Sabss Hi! My daughter Suki was diagnosed with Autism level 2 just before she turned 3. I remember that it was a very stressful and confusing time. However, early detection is the best outcome. For Suki her speech was delayed, no one could understand her but my husband and I. She was actually delayed in almost everything. But because we found out so early we had her seeing a speech pathologist, occupational therapist, physiotherapist, psychiatrist, psychologist and we learned that just because she was given this diagnosis of Autism level 2, it didn’t mean that she would have exactly the same problems as other kids in level 2. Suki is now 11 (she will be12 in November), goes to a mainstream school and is in a mainstream class with help from her aide. I think the best advice I could give you would be to get as much help, support and information that you can. But continue to remind yourself that each child is unique with their symptoms. 🤗❤️🇦🇺🧩
Joanna Eaton thank you so much for ur hope and lovely understandable message. My daughter still doesn’t talk. Just wanted to know how did u go with toilet training? And how is she now? Is she like normal kids so is she different from others.
Main differential or comorbid (depends on who you ask) diagnosis for this (Asperger's syndrome or high functioning autism) is schizoid personality disorder. Which is especially problematic because SPD is one of the most poorly understood and researched psychiatric diagnoses in the DSM. Not much has been written about it, most clinicians aren't familiar with the multiplicity of its phenotypic presentations. This is mainly because these people traditionally didn't come in for treatment, preferring to remain withdrawn. DSM only describes the most extreme kind of symptom presentation, most schizoid psychopathology is closer to the avoidant PD construct, though that syndrome has its own definition problems too.
“Asperger’s” hasn’t been a recognized diagnosis in the United States since 2013. She was diagnosed with ASD, which is an actual diagnosable condition. Thanks for pointing out that “Asperger’s” and “high-functioning” are synonymous, though.
I didn’t get to finish writing because i accidentally hit send but i was hoping that Sadie and you could give me some advice on how to get my parents to take me to get tested
I don't understand why the doctor said it was unnecessary because she is doing good in school. Like I don't know but it makes me angry because when you know it just makes easier to understand yourself.
I am getting an autism testing done also. The virtual appoment is on Aug 19th for an hour, and then after they will give me a date and time to go in the office to get tested. it will be between 6 - 12 hours so they was saying, I will be there from 8 A.M to probs 3 or 4 P.M and if we didn't get done then I will have to come back the next day, So I will have to bring a drink and lunch with me. I know I have autism, my dad also knows I have autism also. He knew since I was a baby but all they said was oh she has ID. I didn't walked until age 3 or 4 and I couldn't talk until I was 4 but even when I started talking, No one could understand me, I had ST when i was a baby/toddler and my dad beilives if I didn't had ST when I was little, then I probs wouldn't been able to talk. I had been having meltdowns everyday which sucks. I do a lot of Stimming, Going to stores are 100% stressful for me. I have noise canceling headphones that I do wear a lot. And after the evaluation, I am going to be starting ABA.
“High-functioning” judges autistic people’s worth based on how well we mask our traits. If someone referred to you as a less-than-fully-functioning human being, would you take that as a compliment?
"I smelled some essential oils...it wasn't part of the test, but I smelled it anyway" 😄 adorable
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I love how she fully embraces it with such joy. She does not have any shame or ask why she has it. She takes pride in it. We can all learn a lesson from her taking pride in our differences!!
Her response to ADHD is ok whatever and her response to having autism is over the moon happiness. That was so endearing!
It's definitely nice to get an understanding and a word to put to what describes you
I'm 36 and just found out I'm an Aspie.
Damn I'm happy about that! The world makes more sense now :D
So I really can relate. :)
It’s that “ahhh so that explains everything” feeling! It’s the best..
Why is the girl so happy about diagnosis?
@@LenkaSaratoga because, when you spend your life knowing that you are THAT different, but maybe having people dismissing your worries and experiences with no apparent reason, or experiences or an understanding of things that the majority of your peers don't have, having this kind of answer not only help you explain your difference to yourself and to others, but also gives you a toolset to tackle life and to thrive by working on your traits in a way that makes sense in your brain.
I’m a 14 year old girl, and I also want to be tested for autism. I’ve done a lot of research just in the way I’m guessing she did, and I’m almost positive I have it. This gives me a lot of hope, and it makes me so happy to see her so excited about her diagnoses! It must be a relief.
Wow, inspiring! Thanks Gay Idiot
@Angella Mari thats op's username.
@Angella Mari that's the bametag, not a Insult
@Angella Mari that's the username of the person who commented this..
I’m 14 and I feel the same way I hope you can get tested :)
I can really understand her enthusiasm about the diagnosis. I have also wondered about myself for a long time, I'm almost 24 now and will hopefully get my first appointment soon. If I get the diagnosis I'll be so happy and relieved, it'd explain so much and help me understand and hopefully get help to identify my weaknesses and strengths
When I was younger I was told I was just socialy awkward and emotional problems. From the age of 15 I knew I may have autism or Aspergers. When I was 21 I was ill with anxiety, when I was getting better a consultant did a questionaire and said she put me on a waiting list to be tested for autism.
Finally when I was 26 I had my assessment and was told I have Asperger mild to moderate. I did ok at school but not many friends.
Now with a little help I have a Part time job working with adult with learning difficulties
I’m glad you found out early. I like your videos.
Greetings from Chatham in Kent England
I have mild to moderate Asperger's as well. My brother does to. I knew I may have autism when I was 12. I'm fourteen now. My brother was lucky enough to get a diagnosis when he was very young, around the age of 4. He is 18 now. I wasn't diagnosed until a few months ago, as before then no one believed me. I was always socially awkward too and I was told that I had "Poor emotional regulation". I've always felt like an alien to the outside world. The only time I ever feel good is when I'm focusing on my special interests (that is sonic the hedgehog) and when I'm alone and under my rock. I don't feel so alone any more.
i was also fobbed off my whole childhood saying i had behavioral problems. i also have alot of other mental health baggage along with adhd, but was finally diagnosed when i was 16 in 2018.
my two boys are on the spectrum and i have always through some things was off about me growing up; I want to be tested too.
I found it hard to be at school or to do my course recently, I could see others were grasping it much quicker than I was, I would need more explanation of the task that was needed of me. I could see I was falling behind, took lots of notes, screen shots of the white board where the notes written or the slides shows, but really they meant nothing in the end when I had to go over them in the evenings.
I’ve been in admin when I first started work, loved it, getting paid for doing mundane work, loved pleasing my colleagues and supervisor. Later got a job as a receptionist, to me it was the same kind of role, with the added task of answering the phone. Soon found out taking long winded notes was a nightmare for me, I could feel the anxiety, couldn’t keep up. Spelling was hard and writing people’s names was hard, especially if it was a foreign name, I would have to ask them to start again, got conflicting advice, ask for them to spell their name, then, don’t get them to repeat themselves.... ahhhh.
Loved it when voicemail was introduced into the office environment or was accepted to transfer clients to the appropriate person so they could leave message on their office phones. (They would know better what they are mumbling about, if you could even hear them properly)
Then I worked as a switchboard operator, loved it, not message writing, just transfer to the appropriate department.
I would have loved to have been a supervisor at some time in my life, but I feel I didn’t have the mental strength for it.
Would any of these issues /downfalls could have been due to being autistic?
Making friends, primarily schools and high school, both were hard on me, I couldn’t really make
Close friendships.
What a unique situation to have her grow up knowing and seeing the signs and then relating them back to herself! That takes a good amount of self awareness☺️
Sadie is sooo articulate. Cannot wait to see what her insanely bright future brings her.
I like that your asked her consent before sharing.
I was relieved when my son got his diagnosis, as well. It explains a lot of things. He is also very verbal and we didn't get his diagnosis until he was 9. They told us the same thing and didn't want to test him. Thank goodness he has the diagnosis now and he can get the services he deserves.
When I was 12 years old, I got the suspicion that I had autism. I read about a kid in a school magazine who had autism and was a very pick eater, and although I’ve gotten better through the years, I was a really picky eater when I was younger. Although that may not seem like a lot, I knew I had some of the other traits of it too, and so I told my Mom and Dad my theory, and they confirmed that my hunch was right. I was diagnosed with non verbal autism when I was 2, but let’s just say that I learned to talk by the time I was 6, and I’ve been talking ever since. Speech therapy taught me to talk and I continued to do it until I was in 7th grade, I did ABA therapy until 4th grade, and I did occupational therapy until 3rd grade. And even I did do therapy, and improved so much so to the point that I don’t need therapy anymore, I do still struggle with lots of things. I still have some sensory related issues, but I’m getting better with everything, especially the sensory issues. Lots of things that bothered me before don’t bother me anymore. One of the most important days in my life was when I was 15 because I took a risk and told everybody about my autism on Instagram. I’m now 16, and I want to be an advocate for autism. I want to use my TH-cam channel to talk about how I feel about certain things, why I do the things that I do, and maybe, hopefully give autism parents some idea about what might be going on in their kids minds.
I love how happy she is about her diagnosis and I love what she said about being an advocate for her sisters who are nonverbal. She's a sweetheart!
Having been diagnosed as an adult, I can absolutely relate to her relief! It’s just so good to realize you’re not crazy and there’s a reason for all these things you’ve been experiencing. It really is something to celebrate! ❤
I am autistic and I love how u said that u dont like the function labels and did good explaining. Most parents who have autistic children dont understand how functional levels hurt us who are autistic
I am a parent of a child with Autism and I think labels are necessary...no one would know that my son is Autistic yet he is put into the same category as kids who have MANY needs and I don't like it. I think until people understand that not all who are on the spectrum are the same then functioning levels need to be used. I am also an educator for special needs (mainly Autism) and functioning levels are ABSOLUTELY used on a daily basis, because I work in varying degrees of care within each classroom and school. I think functioning levels make it easier for people who just don't understand!!
@@michellehartford4937 Please use support labels instead. "Autistic with high sensory support needs" for example. Functioning labels were created by allistic people to corral us into either "not disabled enough" or "too disabled" categories. Support labels are more productive, less oppressive, and tell people the exact accommodations needed for each individual.
@Michelle Hartford An allistic person lecturing autistic people about what labels and language we should prefer is paternalistic and ableist.
Also ableist is your use of the words “special needs.” The needs of autistic people aren’t “special;” our needs are human.
Obviously no one’s ever told this to you before, but, if you’re not autistic, you don’t get vote. Your job is to advocate for your child, NOT to speak for a community for which you’re not a part.
This is what people’s reactions to a diagnosis of autism should be! Keep up the great work and you have a awesome channel! Also glad to see Sadie stuck to what she knew was true and for you supporting her and all of your kids!😊👍🥳
So many people think diagnosising is just “labeling” and that it’s bad. But I remember when I got my 3 diagnosis I was sooo relieved! I finally understood why I did some things in certain ways and that I’m not weird! So happy for you that she got her diagnoses ☺️
I have family like that. A label can be important for mental and emotional health.
Oh bless her heart saying she’d save up for the testing! I’m still at the beginning of this video, but she’s so sweet & I can tell you guys have such a great bond 😊 My brother was diagnosed with autism recently- I’ve found the diagnosis great for school and places like that to understand & be able to implement new ways to teach him if necessary :) But as a family, the diagnosis didn’t make a great difference as, I’m sure you’ve found it with your daughter too, we already know him so well and what things work best for him :)
It’s wonderful that she’s not ashamed or embarrassed and it honestly warms my heart 😁
I am glad you fought to get her tested. It will help her tremendously. Having an Auditory Processing Disorder, and being told all my life I might then being officially diagnosed later in life has helped me. Now I can get the accommodations at school. I am glad you did this for her cause she can get the support she needs.
Yessssss about functioning labels!
Mama, i cried watching you explain this to her!!! YOU GO MAMA!!!
how autistic we are (moderate severe etc) is in reference to how our autism affect others. Its gross.
Show her the pie chart spectrum, and archie comic if you havent!
THANK U FOR BEING SO INCREDIBLE.
- autistic mama of 4 autistics
I was diagnosed in 2019, at 23 with high functioning autism, mild to moderate, after years of people saying to me ‘if you are what is the point of a diagnosis at my age as I had already finished school’ which really made me feel upset. I suspected I was on the spectrum since puberty ages I guess. you can be diagnosed at any age and knew in my heart and soul that I was, I went about it myself also, paid the €1200 myself for the assessment because I wanted to know so badly, best thing I could have ever saved for, it took a long time but it was a huge relief but I’m still trying to get services, hopefully this year I will get them as there is no funding where I live.
The term “high-functioning” suggests there’s a “fully functioning” standard of humanity you’re not living up to. As autistics, we have a different neurotype than the average human being, but that doesn’t make us less human.
I love how she takes it as such a positive thing. One day everyone will see as much joy in being on the spectrum, as she does 💕😍
This is so great. I'm proud of Sadie for doing this. Tell her she is no alone when it comes to get a late dx
I see a lot of potential in Sadie when she is older talking about Autism things.
How far we’ve come that 11 is considered a “late diagnosis.”
My 21 year old son is on the spectrum. He was very involved in his diagnosis and aware of his differences. He worked very hard, as did I to help him “adjust to typical” life. He graduated on time with a 3.5 gpa, studying a typical curriculum, with IEP support. During his sophomore year he chose to not use the IEP resources. Sadie, having an answer will help you to understand and get the appropriate resources to help you. Hang in there kid, and just know that you can and will persevere!
Wow! Really amazing. Such a positive outlook and support. I’m truly speechless about how nice it is to see a change in perspective. Thank you. And a cake!!!!
I watch Fathering Autism, NickyTV, and others learning about the different spectrums of Autism. I have a niece and Nephew that are the mild to moderate spectrum. I’m so happy that she wanted to know. Your daughter is so sweet. It’s weird to say congratulations for a diagnosis of Autism but at least you know and now can verbally tell your point of view. God Bless.
The Fathering Autism channel is a terrible place to learn about the autistic community. They don’t allow their autistic child any privacy, sharing her most intimate and private moments to attract advertisers. They also promote applied behavior analysis, a type of conversion therapy invented by the same man who invented gay/trans conversion therapy.
getting a diagnosis can be so relieving. happy for you all 💓
Your daughter is so mature and self-aware for her age, she is lovely! I have a similar situation, my nonverbal autistic teen sister was diagnosed at age 2 but I was diagnosed in my late adolescence because I was verbal and a great student in school. Very interesting. I also love how you guys are so open about autism, education comes with wisdom and confidence!
The preferred term for someone who cannot speak is “non-speaking.” “Non-verbal” suggests that someone cannot understand or utilize language in any form, which many non-speaking folks rightly take offense at.
Awesome stuff, even when it doesn't seem to cause problems it's really nice to know more about yourself. I know when I was diagnosed I was incredibly relieved! So welcome to to the club Sadie ;)
Thank you for sharing this! My (verbal) 12 year old just got her (severe) diagnosis! I tried to have her tested when she was 8-9, also, and was told she was absolutely not autistic-"no way" and so I also cried with joy and relief when we got her diagnosis!
I am new to your channel. I am a young adult female with Aspergers. (I know they don't use that anymore but it's what I am used to) I was diagnosed at age 16, but had severe sensory issues as a little kid. When I was little you either had severe Autism or no Autism, that is why I did not get diagnosed as a kid. I also do not agree with the functioning labels. I feel like everyone has their own way of doing things and that you can not measure ones intelligence in one way. I still have struggles, but have learned a lot on how to handle things. I love that Sadie is so in tune with herself and that she is really involved in her care and her future. The fact that she wanted a diagnosis for herself is amazing and I really applaud her for taking the initiative to go get that. Having a diagnosis can be very rewarding. We know we are different and having that answer can bring a lot of positive things to ones life. Autism is beautiful and Sadie you are beautiful. I have no doubt that you will do so many great things in life. Also I think it is so wonderful how supportive you guys are as parents. That can make all the difference in the world. Seeing Sadie so proud is something that I hope she always feels and sees. Wonderful video!
“Asperger’s” is a functioning label. Before the term was retired, it was essentially a fancy way of calling an autistic person “high-functioning.” Does calling yourself “autistic” make you uncomfortable? If so, why?
Well, I am giving the video a thumbs up, and a "Welcome to the tribe" A good piece of "Detective Work" studying things in your sisters, looking at your own life, looking for the patterns and the like and following up your suspicions. Pattern finding is often one of our strengths as Autistic people, as is determination when we have our interest and focus on something. You are in the same league as Autistic people many years older who had the same path to diagnosis - seeing some patterns traits, forming that suspicion and then researching, cross checking, more researching and eventually finding that research confirmed at assessment.
It is a step well worth a celebration. It is getting the correct manual pages for one's mind. It is getting the general idea about the stuff which might take more work than the general population and also the stuff where we can really make some big successes.
She's amazing. So smart! It is hard even as an adult to recognize yourself. I can't believe how insightful she is! You are so lucky, mom, to have a beautiful, intelligent young lady. I hope my girls are as wise as yours is. Diagnosis at early age is difficult even for school diagnosis.l
as an 18 year old female i've been struggling for years to get any doctors to listen to me about getting autism testing, this video made me tear up bc i can see myself in her
Yaya sweetie pie I'm so happy you found out and what makes me happier is that you are proud of it. I want my son to be proud of who he is too which is wonderful in everyway💐😗💗
Congrats on learning about yourself a little better! It's sweet to see you react so happily, just like it should be. Girls tend to mask soooo much. I hope you can learn to express yourself, traits and all. :)
I LOVE how you explain this to her. Functioning labels stink because with "high functioning" deficits are ignored and with "low functioning" strengths are ignore. Good job mama
Functioning labels also suggest that there’s a “fully functioning” standard of humanity we’re not living up to, which is dehumanizing.
Awww she's adorable and it's so nice to see how happy she is about the whole thing 🤗
I’m here because I believe I have autism. When I first started suspecting this of myself I really had a hard time with it but. This made me feel much better about it. Thank you so much for making this video and thank you, Sadie, for spreading your joy! It’s much appreciated! Much love to you guys! Keep being awesome!! 💖💖💖
My 12 yr old daughter was diagnosed with adhd and emotional disturbance and after testing for autism all they could tell us was that there was a high probability that she has it.. but that they couldn’t say for sure. But I believe that she does and so does some others close to us but its frustrating for her and us because we just want a definite answer and also I feel that with a diagnosis maybe she could get more help that is specific to what she needs.. but yeah I’m so happy for your daughter and y’all that you can finally have that diagnosis. I understand completely:)
It's so good to see that Sadie gets her ANSWERS 💖 it's obviously been important to HER so Idk WHY they WLDNT allow her to test??!! That jus seems so WRONG to deny a kid of THAT especially if she's ASKING for it.. It's so sweet to see y'all together, U can tell U are VERY close to her. Ur great with all ur kid's as well!! So cool that she is HAPPY an relieved to find out for her own identity💖 an now all her an her Sister's are the SAME, that seems to make her happy also. She can TALK for her Sister's 💖💖 U have great kid's girl!! So happy for U all on this one !! Many hugs frm FL 💖💖🌴🌴💖💖
Hi, I’m 26 & I got diagnosed at 23 but I was told by my high school that I wasn’t autistic.
But I know I was after learning about it & I had to ask my doctor to send me to be tested.
Well done! 😀 xx
I love how happy she is about it and her mother too, normally parents are solemn. But they both embrace the diagnosis so much! 😊
So happy for you! I know closure is so important and helpful. I have ADHD myself and working towards going to see someone to ask about an Generalized Anxiety disorder.
It’s so cute that she’s happy about it it’s so adorable 😍
Aww I’m glad she’s happy with the answers! I also have ADHD and am on the spectrum. I pretty much self-diagnosed and went to my mom at age 17 asking for testing, too!
What an incredible young lady ❤
I love her pride. ❤️❤️
I'm really happy to see someone that seems happy with the diagnosis, I got mine at sixteen and was never happier..all the diagnosis videos seemed. To be sad about a diagnosis!
My name is Sadie as well it’s always exciting to hear someone that has that name :). I also have never been tested for autism but I’m pretty sure I have it(also have adhd). I also use my struggles to understand people with disabilities and want to be a paraeducator.
I’m 19 and I was diagnosed when I was 18. This video made me so happy 🥰
girls have a harder time getting diagnoes cus they mask the symptoms, good at coping others around them. glad she got the test this time and the diagnosses. im also autistic, low functioing, closer to sever side but moderate same time. hard for me to explain . idk loved ur video
“Low-functioning” is a dehumanizing label allistics have put on you. It doesn’t matter what traits, co-occurring conditions or support needs you have. Your human experience is not lesser than anyone else’s.
I was diagnosed with ADHD a year ago ( I'm 11 rn ) and you know when you look at a drawing with dots on it and I look at a dot and if it moves my eyes follow it yeah sometimes it bugs me but I learned to ignore it and I was kinda self conscious but now that she learned to embrace it and shared it with thousands of people she inspired me to be more outward with my ADHD I'm happy you made this video it probably helped thousands of people who had autism thank you so much 💓
I had more to say but I don't wanna be annoying and comment alot I'm just saying thank you for posting this video
This video and these comments from similar age kids, is so wonderful to see.
My 15yr old is being tested in a few weeks. I've had a gut feeling since she was a toddler, I was ignored until last year my daughter completely fell apart, the pressure of holding it together finally got to her. I'm FURIOUS that my daughter had to get to this point for doctors and teachers to finally listen.
I've been watching videos like crazy and to say that I'm DISGUSTED at the comments from some adults is an understatement. These people that get nasty because a parent is trying to help their child makes no sense. The only thing that I can think is that some have been told their child needs testing and instead of getting them tested and or help they become mad and stricken with denial. "Not my child" as if having autism is something to be ashamed of. It's very sad.
To the parents that share their experience and ignore all the hate, they are the ones people should be following and not these fake "perfect" mom V-loggers
I'm 22 and my testing is on the 17th. I'm so ready to know!!
How did it go?
I wasn’t diagnosed with autism until I was 23. I’m 36 now. I had symptoms since 6 months old though.
What an awesome young lady. You shd be so proud of her. She wanted to be able to help her non-verbal siblings.
I was diagnosed with moderate autism at age 22. The neuropsychologist said she was surprised I wasn't diagnosed early on. I was in speech til 3rd grade, stim most of the day, have neurological motor tics, social, communication and intellectual disabilities, SIB, anxiety and developmental delays. I also have OCD, depression and gastrointestinal problems.
Being female I wasn't diagnosed when I should have been, which is too common. Even very severe autism features I wasn't diagnosed til adulthood.
My autism is very lonely. I don't want it. My autism makes me sad, anxious and exhausted. Lots of people say autism is just thinking differently, but I don't feel like that's true for me. It is a real problem in my life. I know a lot of autistics are proud of their autism, but I'm sad with my autism. Not being able to connect with others, feel comfortable with hugs, is very isolating. Not to mention the constant bullying.
Sorry to bring you down. I really enjoyed this vlog, and subscribed. I feel not alone with other autistic people and their families. Thank you for sharing! I am happy to see your family celebrate and cherish her for who she is.💕
I understand what you mean...that’s how I feel. Really sad.
Hello, I've got diagnosed with ADHD and Autism (aspergers) at age 22, which was last year.
I did well in school, I wish you all the best with school, I think you'll do very good :) your mom will support you! What a wonderful mum you have :)
Greetings, Lisa from Germany.
Hello fellow Aspie! Hang in there. My unsolicited advice to you: find your triggers and don't be afraid to take some time for self care. Find what makes you feel more uncomfortable and anxious, and use things such as stress balls. I also find that lavender is great for anxiety, the smell of it releases endorphins in your brain to calm you. Don't be afraid to fight for support. Good luck to you.
@@sophiekerr8964 Thank you :) I sewed a little pillow with lavender and chamomile (dried) inside. It's next to my pillow when I sleep and it makes me calm down and fall asleep more easily. Lavender is really great.
Also I just got accepted into therapy two weeks ago.
Do you have any advice on sensory processing difficulties? I sometimes feel like I can't sit still or lay still (when I should be asleep) because my legs are tingling (no neurological causes, I had this checked by doctors, they don't know why). Do you think a weighted vest might help me with sitting still in university?
All the best to you!
@@Kessik8 I have ADD, so no hyperactivity, so not sure from personal experience what would help you sit still. Maybe try some calming tea? I don't know, I have the opposite problem. My ADD means I daydream pretty much constantly and can't concentrate for more than about 10 minutes without being exhausted. I have the leg problem too, I have no idea what causes it. If you're in uni, there should be a few studies available to you to work out what suits you. Obviously everybody's experience is different, so I can't say what will definitely work. If you're struggling, maybe email your lecturer and ask for help, they would be more knowledgeable
@@Kessik8 forgot about the processing thing sorry. Sensory is definitely a problem, like I can't eat certain foods not because I'm allergic, but because my texture sensitivity can't handle it. I love the taste of kiwi, but to eat it is horrible because it's pulpy. I'm not sure how much you know about autism, given that you're new to it, but there's this thing called sensory overload. Your brain can't handle much more stimuli, and so you feel anxious. If you're not careful, this can cause an anxiety attack (which suck. Like a lot), so research some coping mechanisms. I always get exhausted after a big event or after a particularly rough day at work, so social batteries are definitely a thing. Don't feel guilty if you feel overwhelmed, don't be afraid to tell your friends if you don't feel up to going out with them.
@@sophiekerr8964 Thank you for taking so much time to type all that to me, I think we have a specialist for pedagogy at the university. Maybe they can help :) I'll ask my therapist too tomorrow. Thanks for all the input.
I can't believe how beautiful, cute, gorgeous and so adorable she is. OMG!!!😍
It helped my son so much to know what was causing his 'divers' reactions to the world. Now that he knows he has ADD/ ASS he is less stressed. We are lucky to be a very neuro divers family were we recognize ourselves in each others behaviour.
I was diagnosed with ASD at 22 and now I’m 26. She is amazing and I am smiling so wide!!! You go girl!! We need more women advocates in the community. 🌟
She is so sweet. And she is good at focusing!! Which is especially difficult for some children with autism.
I would say on the ADOS-2 that the "moderate to severe" means that she has a lot of symptoms in all three areas (not how strong the symptoms are), whereas the diagnosis label would be level 1 (mild), level 2 (moderate), level 3 (severe) which is really about the level of support needed.
My 11 year old was also diagnosed as mild to moderate ASD a few months ago, after many many years of being told to "wait and see if he grows out of it" and he's been a constantly B/C student but everything takes 2x as long and he struggles with reading comprehension and interacting with his peers. He also has auditory processing disorder and adhd- inattentive type
I was mad at first because we had been put off so long. And there are therapies that could have been helping him. But now we at least have answers and can start from here.
I have high functioning autism and ADHD and anxiety and depression and learning disabilities and asthma and I have a chromosome Difference and Ian 19 and I graduated from high school in June 8th 2019: and I hate really loud noises and I rock back and forth and i flappy my hands and I make noise and I steam
I’m happy for her that she find out that she’s on the spectrum❤ the best is to get the diagnosis when the child is still young so parents and others can help and understand the child better, sadly many people get the diagnosis in the Teen-years and some when they are adults.😕❤️
((I wanna share a little story about myself and when I got diagnosed))
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I was around 13/14 years old when I got diagnosed with autism.
And I had a really rough time dealing with it and had several behaviour problems and acted out very much.
I got bullied a lot in school and didn’t have any friends at all.
I had a really bad childhood and was neglected most of the time until I was 12 years old when social services saved me from my home. And it was in a foster care I was in, they noticed that I was “odd and weird” as they said.. and I got tested and got Autism.
I didn’t understand what it was and never heard about Autism before, so I immediately thought there was something wrong with me and that autism was something bad.
Now when I’m grownup it all make sense of the behaviour I had as a child and wished I got the diagnosis in earlier age, and maybe if my parents was more responsible when I was a toddler I may had a chance to got diagnosed earlier than in my later-teens.
As I said I had a rough time dealing with that I was autistic, after all the neglect at home and bullying in school I was desperate to be “normal” and I blamed myself for being autistic and that’s why I didn’t got any friends. Today I know that’s not true! And today when I’m in grownup I understand and accept my autism and myself. It’s very important to understand that the diagnosis isn’t a bad thing.
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So to end it, I’m very happy for Sadie that she got her diagnosis and hope she’s doing well ❤ I’ve seen a few of your videos on this channel and what I understand you have more kids that are on the spectrum, and I hope they doing well as to. You are a wonderful mother to your kids❤️❤️❤️❤️
My daughter is 10 Autistic non verbal. Great content! I subscribed to your channel.
I was diagnosed at 22 with Asperger's/pdd-nos. I got my diagnosis with my reconfirmation of ADHD (inattentive subtype) after a therapist told my mom she thought I might have it. I was still having massive tantrums (on occasion), but my biggest "indicator" was/is my obsession with Disney. Looking back, and learning about all the different symptoms and indicators of autism and Asperger's, I definitely have it, and I can also see why it took so long to get diagnosed. I was originally diagnosed with ADHD at 7, but I guess I learned to mask so well and associated autism with the classic "boy" and more extreme signs and symptoms. I will say it is helpful to know why I have some of the "quirks" I have. I don't say out loud that I have it too often, but I'm not ashamed that as I have it. It's who I am, and nothing will ever change that.
Ugh.. that’s gonna be me.. getting the results sooo late in my life when it won’t even benefit me to know.. it’s too late and it’s ruined a lot of my life and no one understands my differences
@Creative Sparks It’s never too late to be diagnosed and to start a new chapter in your life. There are even those diagnosed as senior citizens.
I kept on telling my mum I think I’m autistic and so do some of my classmates but she kepts on telling me I’m not and we’re not going to test me
I'm really sorry that you're going through that. One good thing about the autistic community is that there are lots of people who aren't formally diagnosed who are part of it, because getting diagnosed can be so difficult. One thing I did when I suspected was I looked up the definition in the DSM-5 online (I just googled it), which was helpful for me because I felt like I checked every box.
Then I started looking at various autistic support groups online because they can be great places to find support. I know it isn't ideal. And hopefully someday soon you will be able to pursue that diagnosis.
But know that you knowing yourself is a great start, and puts you miles ahead of so many adults (like me) who are just figuring it out when we're decades older. I hope that helps. I know sometimes it can be hard for us parents to come around to the idea at first.
Autmazing thanks 💙
@@olliedino5207 what makes you think you are autistic? I am pretty sure I am and I wanted to see if we have anything in common since you think you are too. (I dont know if this sounds wierd or not)
@@gabriellajaramillo8853 its different for everyone so that probably won't work
I was diagnosed at 4 and went through physical therapy, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and various social skills groups. I will say that having mild autism is like a bridge. You are not severely autistic ,but you are not neurotypical either. I have found this interesting because I find myself translating certain meanings to each group. I guess the main struggle is having a disability and being aware of it. And being comfortable that there are things no matter how hard you try you will still struggle with.
No one is “severely” or “mildly” autistic. Those are terms allistics with no concept of what the autistic spectrum actually is came up with. They judge us on how well we mask rather than actually do the work to understand us as individuals.
@@GhostIntoTheFog masking isn't everything, there's also motor skills, strength, occupational skills, communication skills. So there has to be a spectrum in order to classify the development and needs of each individual. It's not how much you can mask but how much you can function or develop on your own. I know some people who forget to eat, and some who even if they masked well they wouldn't survive without assistance.
She is so cute and charming. Best of luck to you and God bless you!
I was testing for Autism and I’m Moderate on the middle umbrella. I do have it and they also told my parents I had OCD too. Now I’m older I’m having symptoms of ADD and Schizophrenia
I’m talking to myself mire and more now and much much louder like my parents think there’s someone in the room or I’m on the phone. That’s a Schizophrenic state I’ve seen it I know. Had a roommate that talked to himself extremely loud. No one was there he thought there was. My Schizophrenia is just in my head I think our loud. Instead of hearing things I have thoughts in my head and i talk out loud
I looked in the description about your family... the name Tessie is so cute!
Love you're post just discovered your channel first video I saw but I subscribed gonna check out past post
I’m glad that they managed to spot it because often in autistic girls they miss autism because we’re so good at masking
Omg she is so cute and smart I love her personality I love that she wanted to get tested
💛 I love how she wants to share her perspective and help with her sisters too.
Just watched the end. This is pretty fantastic! Celebratory cake!
My mom knew I was autistic when I was 2 , and I got tested multiple times I was originally diagnosed with classic but when I was 12 I was diagnosed with mild to high functioning autism , I got diagnosed with severe ADHD at 6 and I had so bad time focusing and paying attention and eventually I had to get medicated for my adhd because I can’t stay still and got distracted by anything and cannot finish anything
I didn’t get diagnosed with High Functional Autism until 2011 and now I’m 36! It’s been a real nightmare trying to get the help.
5:30 that’s exactly why functional labels and severity don’t make sense
My mum tried to get me tested as a child as well and so did my head teacher in primary ect but they never done it. It took till I was an adult I can talk very well but I am on the higher side due to social issues ect. I have a partner and 2 kids and manage to function okay girls show way differently than boys some boys show the same way girls do as well do it can be harder for them to get a diagnosis as well x
I got diagnosed when I was 11 too! But I didn't know anything about autism back then, and I didn't even know what I was getting tested for. But it sounds like the test is still really similar.
I'm a 15 YO trans guy, I have also done a lot of research and I'm 90% sure I have it, I have mentioned it to my therapist but we haven't gone anywhere with it yet... I am scared taht because I'm so bad at explaining the way I feel, this might just never be spoken of again... It (ASD) makes sense to the point it fixes all the scrambled pieces in my mind together, a diagnosis will be a relief, even if negative, I just need to know... I hope someone can relate or help...
When we made this video I (Sadie’s mom) hadn’t been diagnosed yet. But because of her diagnosis I was a few months later. And I can definitely relate to feeling hugely relieved with getting the diagnosis. I felt like it made so many pieces of my life make sense, even though it didn’t change anything in how my life actually is in terms of support. I think it’s changed some things in terms of how I treat myself, like not being as hard on myself. I don’t know if that helps, but I do know being relieved seems to be pretty common amongst teens and adults who find out. If you feel comfortable I’d definitely bring it up again with your therapist.
Big Oreo hey! I’m on the spectrum and just wanted to suggest that when you talk about it with your therapist again try writing out your reasons! A lot of us on the spectrum are better at explaining our feelings through writing than verbalizing. Plus, keep in mind that a lot of therapists aren’t taught much about Autism so they may brush it off because they don’t think you fit the stereotype in their head. So keep trying and, if they don’t listen, don’t be afraid to ask for a referral to a specialist from them or your doctor. And a diagnosis can not only be relieving but also open up a lot of opportunities for help as well, especially in school! I wish I had known in high school because it would have helped a lot more than I realized. Plus, I know that’s since I found out, I’ve been a lot kinder to myself and don’t push myself as much (I can recognize when I need to take breaks or use ear defenders etc and I don’t make myself try to “just get through it”) and it’s helped those who love me understand me better and be more patient with me.
Keep going, keep being patient with yourself, and keep speaking up for yourself! You’ve got this 👍🏻
You can see differences on brain scans. There’s a structural and functional difference for certain brain pathways. Some researchers suggest that giving MRIs to children can flag young children for early intervention rather than waiting for other diagnostics.
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Autistic people need support and accommodation, not “intervention.” Autism is a neurotype, not an addiction.
@@GhostIntoTheFog Early intervention is an education term. It means supports like accommodations, modifications, and supplemental instruction that neurotypical students are not eligible to receive.
Got remember to that Autism doesn’t present in the same way I males as in does in females
Presentation isn’t inherent to gender. Some of it has to do with social upbringing, and some of it just depends on the person. So sometimes an autistic girl will present the “typical” signs that are usually looked for, or an autistic boy won’t. What’s important is to recognize a wide array of possible presentations and not to abide by preconceived notions.
@lynx yeah, but females tend to mask it and build a personality off of other peoples' better, so many don't get diagnosed in till much later.
@Liah Shoemaker I’m aware! I’m just saying that it’s not only girls who mask, and someone who knows their stuff should be well-versed in how to spot less “obvious” autism, regardless of who it is that walks through their door for an eval.
@@exusemyignorancebutwhatexa5285 you are right but only because of gender roles, people think that girls tend be shy and passive, so many autistic girls tjat present those traits, but because of autism, are overlooked
Can't believe u have 3 girls on the spectrum. Congrats on the diagnosis
Cammie, watching this video today, after watching your other one where you received your diagnoses, I couldn't help but smile a little bit. "They said you still have ADHD ... oh, your eyes look really green right now!" SQUIRREL!!! lol
She is sosoo sweet..i just found out few weeks im autsistic and im also so happy to,to me its a blessing..😊
I just found out my daughter is diagnosed with autism in level 2. I just want people to tell me more about it I have no idea what that is I have search so much. I’m very tense. I wan to know what should I do. She is 3 years and 7 months old.
Sabss Hi! My daughter Suki was diagnosed with Autism level 2 just before she turned 3. I remember that it was a very stressful and confusing time. However, early detection is the best outcome. For Suki her speech was delayed, no one could understand her but my husband and I. She was actually delayed in almost everything. But because we found out so early we had her seeing a speech pathologist, occupational therapist, physiotherapist, psychiatrist, psychologist and we learned that just because she was given this diagnosis of Autism level 2, it didn’t mean that she would have exactly the same problems as other kids in level 2. Suki is now 11 (she will be12 in November), goes to a mainstream school and is in a mainstream class with help from her aide. I think the best advice I could give you would be to get as much help, support and information that you can. But continue to remind yourself that each child is unique with their symptoms. 🤗❤️🇦🇺🧩
Joanna Eaton thank you so much for ur hope and lovely understandable message. My daughter still doesn’t talk. Just wanted to know how did u go with toilet training? And how is she now? Is she like normal kids so is she different from others.
I think it’s nice that she’s excited.
Main differential or comorbid (depends on who you ask) diagnosis for this (Asperger's syndrome or high functioning autism) is schizoid personality disorder. Which is especially problematic because SPD is one of the most poorly understood and researched psychiatric diagnoses in the DSM. Not much has been written about it, most clinicians aren't familiar with the multiplicity of its phenotypic presentations. This is mainly because these people traditionally didn't come in for treatment, preferring to remain withdrawn. DSM only describes the most extreme kind of symptom presentation, most schizoid psychopathology is closer to the avoidant PD construct, though that syndrome has its own definition problems too.
“Asperger’s” hasn’t been a recognized diagnosis in the United States since 2013. She was diagnosed with ASD, which is an actual diagnosable condition. Thanks for pointing out that “Asperger’s” and “high-functioning” are synonymous, though.
I didn’t get to finish writing because i accidentally hit send but i was hoping that Sadie and you could give me some advice on how to get my parents to take me to get tested
I don't understand why the doctor said it was unnecessary because she is doing good in school. Like I don't know but it makes me angry because when you know it just makes easier to understand yourself.
That’s cool she was so happy about it.
Such a beautiful and smart young lady I think Sadie is. 11 going on 25
I am getting an autism testing done also. The virtual appoment is on Aug 19th for an hour, and then after they will give me a date and time to go in the office to get tested. it will be between 6 - 12 hours so they was saying, I will be there from 8 A.M to probs 3 or 4 P.M and if we didn't get done then I will have to come back the next day, So I will have to bring a drink and lunch with me. I know I have autism, my dad also knows I have autism also. He knew since I was a baby but all they said was oh she has ID. I didn't walked until age 3 or 4 and I couldn't talk until I was 4 but even when I started talking, No one could understand me, I had ST when i was a baby/toddler and my dad beilives if I didn't had ST when I was little, then I probs wouldn't been able to talk. I had been having meltdowns everyday which sucks. I do a lot of Stimming, Going to stores are 100% stressful for me. I have noise canceling headphones that I do wear a lot. And after the evaluation, I am going to be starting ABA.
One year ago? How is she doing,? She seems high functioning to me is great❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
“High-functioning” judges autistic people’s worth based on how well we mask our traits. If someone referred to you as a less-than-fully-functioning human being, would you take that as a compliment?
I am autistic, and I have ADHD and ADHD. I have level two and add to zoom autistic. I had I have a free which is severe.