I did the record-review-reflect just now where I discussed the word, "fever" (from a random word generator). I realized I'm - 6/10 nonverbal, - 6/10 verbal, and - 4/10 (max!) on content. For the 6/10 on my nonverbal, I have two responses to uncertainty while I'm communicating: - I do this thing where my eyes literally look up and around when I'm searching hard for an idea... It's natural, sure, but I could see it interrupt the flow of communication - I bunch up my right fist in tension when I feel uncertain on what I'm talking about. For the 6/10 on verbal: - I'm happy with pauses (I do a lot of meditation/emotional release), so I don't have many filler words... - but I had no idea I was this much of a one-key person. My voice is so monotone haha. For the 4/10 (max!) content, I haven't gotten it on Loom yet, so it's not transcribed, but: - I know I struggled with the content (4/10 at best). The random word was "fever", so I was telling a story about a time I got sick because the A/C broke... And I ended up "trapped" in that hot room b/c I was too sick to leave ha. - While it was interesting, it felt like it lacked structure / aim. My guess is I need to focus more on the big picture as I speak, going into the details later. This all said, I think improving this will be a gift to my coworkers and family lol.
In relation to this record-review-reflect habit what role does practicing these skills in everyday conversations play? My guess is that this habit just helps build low-moderate conscious competence with certain communication skills and then that can become unconscious competence when you practice those skills in everyday contexts.
You've got to make sure to practice this deliberately outside of convos. The practice outside of convos will then slowly start to trickle into your day to day convos. To develop unconscious competence at the higher levels, it often takes months and very high levels of awareness and reflection.
I did the record-review-reflect just now where I discussed the word, "fever" (from a random word generator). I realized I'm
- 6/10 nonverbal,
- 6/10 verbal, and
- 4/10 (max!) on content.
For the 6/10 on my nonverbal, I have two responses to uncertainty while I'm communicating:
- I do this thing where my eyes literally look up and around when I'm searching hard for an idea... It's natural, sure, but I could see it interrupt the flow of communication
- I bunch up my right fist in tension when I feel uncertain on what I'm talking about.
For the 6/10 on verbal:
- I'm happy with pauses (I do a lot of meditation/emotional release), so I don't have many filler words...
- but I had no idea I was this much of a one-key person. My voice is so monotone haha.
For the 4/10 (max!) content, I haven't gotten it on Loom yet, so it's not transcribed, but:
- I know I struggled with the content (4/10 at best). The random word was "fever", so I was telling a story about a time I got sick because the A/C broke... And I ended up "trapped" in that hot room b/c I was too sick to leave ha.
- While it was interesting, it felt like it lacked structure / aim. My guess is I need to focus more on the big picture as I speak, going into the details later.
This all said, I think improving this will be a gift to my coworkers and family lol.
This is awesome, I love this mindset, how your self improvement will be a gift to other people.
7:42 Never knew you spoke French Tanzeer, super
Jokes aside time to record 2 mins and apply what you've taught :)
😂😂😂 spot on man. Happy implementing!
In relation to this record-review-reflect habit what role does practicing these skills in everyday conversations play? My guess is that this habit just helps build low-moderate conscious competence with certain communication skills and then that can become unconscious competence when you practice those skills in everyday contexts.
You've got to make sure to practice this deliberately outside of convos. The practice outside of convos will then slowly start to trickle into your day to day convos.
To develop unconscious competence at the higher levels, it often takes months and very high levels of awareness and reflection.