Thank you for this I’ m actually trying to recover from the loss of my mom one year ago I m doing engineering study in Paris very intensive where I need to learn fast and your videos are helping me but I feel like I’ m not really using them properly
-there might be some system failure...- ohhh i love that. it gives me courage to be detective going deep and persevere with emotional bleeding, like rejection
Thanku for this!! I am in the process of healing emotional wounds. Growing up with a sociopath as a mother & and ex who is also a narcissistic sociopath has been very challenging. I’m doing the work though. I’m getting better & better every day!! Videos like this help!! Thanku!! 💚💕
And I’m not convinced! I live alone and quite healthy and happy. I do have a dog and lots of critters in my yard that I feed. After many generations they treat me like another bush in the yard, lol. My hummers won’t get off the feeder when I want to change it. I am loved! My family have all died. I know they are with God and waiting for me. Being “alone” is sometimes only in the mind.
It dawned on me that I needed help when I watched Guy on TED. I realized just how much I need to reach out just after I emerge from a betrayal I never thought was coming. Thanks to his videos, I'm doing well...
This should have so many more views and comments. This is the bedrock of all brilliance. If the brain is too occupied with pain you will not be able to excel!
All feelings, at their root, are being created by Qi (Chi) or life-force. A 5,000-year-old Taoist spiritual technology will allow you to transmute any negative feelings back into the life-force that created the feelings in the first place. The Taoist approach recognizes that this universal medium of the life-force or Qi (Chi), is governing not only our internal world of feelings and thoughts, but also the outer world of nature. For example, in the Taoist approach, it is the Wood Phase of the life-force that creates the human experience of anger, or the virtue of Kindness arising in the Soul. This same Wood Phase is also responsible for making a tree grow and for the expansion of our universe - Excerpt from the book “Emotional Alchemy the love and freedom hidden within painful feelings” by Andrew Kenneth Fretwell.
@@books-for-life i have 2 cats and a dog and they are my babies. Id go insane without them. Winter is here now. I find winter easier though as everyone is locked up indoors keeping warm so it does not feel odd. Still despise going to work and sitting in and Office but glad it is only 3 days a week and rest wfh. Do you work?
My father is passed away he was a dementia patient and living with me for him i leave job and everything from last year he is my centre of universe and i have one friend from last 15 year as my father passed and my friend left me now a days am lost
What an eye opening discussion. I believe anyone who looks at their emotional wounding with curiosity and can start realising (eg: 'aha, when that girl didn't want to date me and I got mad, cried, insulted her, that was a childhood rejection wound that got activated.") Only then, can we begin to be aware, pause, act with intention and eventually, maybe this emotional archaeology could be the antidote to depression and anxiety. Anxiety is fear. A little anxiety is normal, healthy and can be a signpost, but I'm talking about the intense anxiety that plagues people. Anti-depressants do not work in my opinion. Examining and healing your wounds, maybe with a compassionate witness is the way forward.
People act like they want love they just want to know all the right stuff to think. We are obsessed with possessing and winning and competition. Seems that's all that love is... weakness and vulnerability. When I am vulnerable the only ones that seem to appreciate it without taking advantage right now is my kids to be honest. I also work as an ICU nurse and the superficiality of people there burns the wick at the other end. The demands. The manipulation, the burnout seems to confirm my fears. The managers presume to own you in subtle disrespectful ways. I feel trapped in my life and I feel like in running out of fight. I dont feel lonely with my family, but I want people at work to stop trying to manipulate me to work extra and leave me alone. Stop acting like my friend to get something from me. I hate this bitterly
@@sunflower735sunlight5 funny timing I had forgotten I wrote this. Thanks for the encouragement and now I'm in a way better place! And I still work at the same ICU with the same people. We all got closer after covid...by the way love my boxer and mastiff
I know before all this social media.. people will talk on phones and come see you which is so much better. and if you broke up. with someone ..well, you felt bad but you didn't know what they were up too..i feel texting etc...is not a good way to commutate and people use that to often...
What about the people that live alone in the woods and live long happy lives? Do they not feel or consider themselves lonely? Are they themselves possibly their own best company and therefore aren’t considering themselves to be lonely? Or is it potentially animals in place of humans that absorb that feeling of loneliness? Just curious on your thoughts
I am learning in the past 4 mths why the man i fell in love turn into a monster. And when i talk about it more than not people have experienced a narc...mine is a grandiose narcississt..to the highest power. Im still blown away of how the videos ive listened to have described him perfectly...crazy...he is in jail now for hitting me...I could not call police due to threats of a bullet to my head...i was on phone with my daughters bf and he heard it happen and called them..that was on Labor Day..im so traumatized that even typing and thinking about whats happened to me...im trembling...i carry a gun...i barricade my apt door..even though i know he is jail...so hes begging me to not show up at court next week for the preliminary hearing...i scared if i do and if I dont....
Hey! I’m curious if you ended up going to court or how you’re doing and dealing with all this now? Almost exact same thing and situation here, even protecting myself and having to go to court too. I’m scared to go too but more scared what would happen if I don’t and he gets out :/ Hoping there’s a silver lining to all this! and hope you’re healing 💖🙏
I feel that lonely people choose to be lonely. I wonder if loneliness is also addictive. When you reach out to a lonely person, he or she withdraws and plays hide and seek.
Can’t wait for peace and bliss. I am tired.
Have you found piece and bliss now ?
Just got dumped and am binge-watching Guy's videos ♡
you are in the right place now
Same 🥺
yep..... every time i get lonely or think about her...
Same
Doing the same
Thank you both😊
Can't be done,😢I've seen countless therapists ,counseling over 2 years,counstant violence, and Trama growing up.scared for life
2:40 suffered from this. I always felt i need to be happy to study well for exam now i know why i failed wish i knew this before
Thank you for this I’ m actually trying to recover from the loss of my mom one year ago
I m doing engineering study in Paris very intensive where I need to learn fast and your videos are helping me but I feel like I’ m not really using them properly
I hope you are doing good and the study is going well, give yourself all the time you need to recover from trauma
Got dumped last week, anyone who's going through the same issue, call or text me, we may help each other to recover. But damn it's still painful
I am going through it i have no one to talk to idk what to do
Guy is amazing and so helpful. Thank you for this
-there might be some system failure...- ohhh i love that. it gives me courage to be detective going deep and persevere with emotional bleeding, like rejection
Thanku for this!! I am in the process of healing emotional wounds. Growing up with a sociopath as a mother & and ex who is also a narcissistic sociopath has been very challenging. I’m doing the work though. I’m getting better & better every day!! Videos like this help!! Thanku!! 💚💕
The fact that loneliness is more harmful that smoking cigarettes and obesity is mind blowing. It’s so sad!
And I’m not convinced! I live alone and quite healthy and happy. I do have a dog and lots of critters in my yard that I feed. After many generations they treat me like another bush in the yard, lol. My hummers won’t get off the feeder when I want to change it. I am loved! My family have all died. I know they are with God and waiting for me. Being “alone” is sometimes only in the mind.
It dawned on me that I needed help when I watched Guy on TED. I realized just how much I need to reach out just after I emerge from a betrayal I never thought was coming. Thanks to his videos, I'm doing well...
"Loneliness creates perception distortion"... wow he's so right about that.
This should have so many more views and comments. This is the bedrock of all brilliance. If the brain is too occupied with pain you will not be able to excel!
Amen!
All feelings, at their root, are being created by Qi (Chi) or life-force. A 5,000-year-old Taoist spiritual technology will allow you to transmute any negative feelings back into the life-force that created the feelings in the first place. The Taoist approach recognizes that this universal medium of the life-force or Qi (Chi), is governing not only our internal world of feelings and thoughts, but also the outer world of nature. For example, in the Taoist approach, it is the Wood Phase of the life-force that creates the human experience of anger, or the virtue of Kindness arising in the Soul. This same Wood Phase is also responsible for making a tree grow and for the expansion of our universe - Excerpt from the book “Emotional Alchemy the love and freedom hidden within painful feelings” by Andrew Kenneth Fretwell.
What about if you don't want to connect with people and hate socialising, but also realise your lonely lol
Am feeling sane dont want to socialiaze
@@books-for-life i have 2 cats and a dog and they are my babies. Id go insane without them. Winter is here now. I find winter easier though as everyone is locked up indoors keeping warm so it does not feel odd. Still despise going to work and sitting in and Office but glad it is only 3 days a week and rest wfh. Do you work?
My father is passed away he was a dementia patient and living with me for him i leave job and everything from last year he is my centre of universe and i have one friend from last 15 year as my father passed and my friend left me now a days am lost
@@books-for-life life is suffering :-) xxxxx
Appreciate this conversation Jim and Guy. Its so imperative that we do the work to heal our emotional wounds. This is how we grow as human beings.
Why does no one ever address those of us who are actually alone. Not surrounded by people and feel alone. But actually physically alone.
a wealth of knowledge....reaching out is scary and very much a limiting belief. see you in dubai next feb Jim!
I am feeling like shit idk
I feel stressed anxious insecure
Omg i can't believe that my relationship ended omg
I Love his emoji go to!! Great advice!! 😃
What an eye opening discussion. I believe anyone who looks at their emotional wounding with curiosity and can start realising (eg: 'aha, when that girl didn't want to date me and I got mad, cried, insulted her, that was a childhood rejection wound that got activated.") Only then, can we begin to be aware, pause, act with intention and eventually, maybe this emotional archaeology could be the antidote to depression and anxiety. Anxiety is fear. A little anxiety is normal, healthy and can be a signpost, but I'm talking about the intense anxiety that plagues people. Anti-depressants do not work in my opinion. Examining and healing your wounds, maybe with a compassionate witness is the way forward.
People act like they want love they just want to know all the right stuff to think. We are obsessed with possessing and winning and competition. Seems that's all that love is... weakness and vulnerability. When I am vulnerable the only ones that seem to appreciate it without taking advantage right now is my kids to be honest. I also work as an ICU nurse and the superficiality of people there burns the wick at the other end. The demands. The manipulation, the burnout seems to confirm my fears. The managers presume to own you in subtle disrespectful ways. I feel trapped in my life and I feel like in running out of fight. I dont feel lonely with my family, but I want people at work to stop trying to manipulate me to work extra and leave me alone. Stop acting like my friend to get something from me. I hate this bitterly
jms it sounds like your suffering from burn out. I hope your better now but burn out can be very serious and have serious consequences.
It is part of the issues of the time: materialism and lost of spirit.
@@sunflower735sunlight5 funny timing I had forgotten I wrote this. Thanks for the encouragement and now I'm in a way better place! And I still work at the same ICU with the same people. We all got closer after covid...by the way love my boxer and mastiff
I know before all this social media.. people will talk on phones and come see you which is so much better. and if you broke up. with someone ..well, you felt bad but you didn't know what they were up too..i feel texting etc...is not a good way to commutate and people use that to often...
Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you!!
Timothy Harris 😀🦋
Definitely inspired me to talk therapy through my healing by starting my TH-cam Channel
Ooooh congratulations on your channel and on your recovery. I want to start one too. How's it helping you?
What about the people that live alone in the woods and live long happy lives? Do they not feel or consider themselves lonely? Are they themselves possibly their own best company and therefore aren’t considering themselves to be lonely? Or is it potentially animals in place of humans that absorb that feeling of loneliness? Just curious on your thoughts
He's talking about feeling lonely, not inherently being alone.
Very helpful and thanks for sharing with us guys ❤️
Every single thing you said in this video I truly believe.
Beautiful! Thank you!
Amazing talk. Thank you!
A lot of great stuff in this video, very insightful. God knows I need it. Much love to you both!
Jim has such a monotone voice, no real expression
Interesting story! Thanks for telling us about it sir, it's sounds very interesting.
I am learning in the past 4 mths why the man i fell in love turn into a monster. And when i talk about it more than not people have experienced a narc...mine is a grandiose narcississt..to the highest power. Im still blown away of how the videos ive listened to have described him perfectly...crazy...he is in jail now for hitting me...I could not call police due to threats of a bullet to my head...i was on phone with my daughters bf and he heard it happen and called them..that was on Labor Day..im so traumatized that even typing and thinking about whats happened to me...im trembling...i carry a gun...i barricade my apt door..even though i know he is jail...so hes begging me to not show up at court next week for the preliminary hearing...i scared if i do and if I dont....
Hey! I’m curious if you ended up going to court or how you’re doing and dealing with all this now?
Almost exact same thing and situation here, even protecting myself and having to go to court too. I’m scared to go too but more scared what would happen if I don’t and he gets out :/ Hoping there’s a silver lining to all this! and hope you’re healing 💖🙏
THANK U
I don't believe.
I feel that lonely people choose to be lonely. I wonder if loneliness is also addictive. When you reach out to a lonely person, he or she withdraws and plays hide and seek.
If you watch other videos by Guy, he dispels that theory 😉
It's a fear of rejection, which would increase the pain they're already feeling.
Instead of judging, be compassionate and patient.
Are you from Germany Guy?
I believe Guy is from Israel originally.
Great. I am already dead then 🤣
In German Pls 😭