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Good manners will open doors that the best education can not Don't know who to credit for that bit if wisdom As my mother would say "Manners maketh the man" Are manners and etiquette the same thing ?
Thanks for the video. I disagree with a number of issues, but great you are keeping the issue of presentation in the conversation. In relation to the jacket without the tie with a pocket square, I think you'd look far more put together with a neck tie. Just my opinion, keep up the great work.
At my daughters high school graduation, I swear, I was the only person there wearing a suit and tie out of hundreds of people. I believe this shows respect to her and her accomplishments but apparently these standards are falling by the wayside.
@@kaziiqbal7257 Many chefs just don't do it. The HR people and hotel directors like it, though. Working as a chef can mean many things. Some positions require more a worker type and some more a manager type.
I was a chef for years before a mid life career change. I wore suits to interviews, for meetings or work outings that didn't have me in my chef coat. Not all of us did though.
For interviews or business meetings dress 1 level up from the job or manager. Unless they wear uniforms. I've worn suits & sports coats then the boss or mgr had 👕 , shorts.
I was shopping last week and it started to rain. When I was about to cross the street, a guy with a umbrella offered to walk with me. It was one of the sweetest things that happened with me this year
Etiquette consultant here! The elbows rule actually comes from the British navy. The British desperately needed sailors in their navy and if you had your elbows on the table at the pub, it meant you had experience on a ship eating to not let your food slide around. You would get knocked out with a 2x4, then wake up on a boat on the way to Shanghai. They’d say, “Welcome to the British Navy”. Also, if you’re French, elbows are perfectly admissible on the table.
This reminds me of a job interview I went to. We were required to show up in ‘smart dress’. So I show up wearing my best navy suit, black oxfords, white shirt and tie. Everybody else was smart casual. I swear, even the person interviewing me was a little intimidated. ‘Has the out of town boss showed up?’
That's the price for dressing sharp and dressing good. Sometimes you'll feel overdressed ane the only thing we can do is to get used to it because there will only be some people that take care how to dress.
Interviewed for a different management consultancy firm and exactly the same thing happened / I wore a navy suit whilst everybody else was smart casual.
You made the right choice. I'm in fashion and I can tell you that it's better to be overdressed than underdressed. The company can have a casual dress code or smart casual for employees, but it doesn't apply to an interview. Dressing in a suit shows professionalism and respect, which the others obviously didn't. If I were the interviewer, you'll be on top my list already.
I hate those types of vague descriptions of dress requirement. It's comes off as if HR or the person who came up with the preferred interview standard tried to be smarter than they were. I prefer just stating what you require: jacket/no jacket, button down shirt with a collar/no tee shirts, tie/no tie, dress slacks/no jeans/no khaki a.k.a no cotton slacks, dress shoes/no sneakers. For one job interview the HR rep actually stated "please don't show up wearing western boots". I wore my pair of semi brouges chukkas just to push the limits. The interview went great, but did not get the job.
Excellent video. As an older guy who still always wears a Stetson even in town I get very uncomfortable wearing my hat indoors but have grown accustomed to always wearing it for the reasons you stated. You still can’t get away with a white or straw hat after Labor Day though-it’s not a status thing-white and straw hats are only for Summer weather.
Didn't know the one walking to the left of a woman. I know the rule slightly differently: It doesn't matter which side you walk on as long as you walk on the side closer to the road. Another Thumbs up from me :) Great video.
My wife walks to my left so my strong hand (right) is always free to deal with "worldly intrusions." Elbows off the table, especially if there is a table cloth. An accidental tug on the cloth can upset the setting, and you don't want to be the cause of wine spilling on the hostess: bad form.
Deen Hubin I do the same when I have a lady with me. She is on my left so I can react accordingly if there is a threat of any kind with my dominant hand, and if need be draw my 1911 from concealed carry. Good Day to You!
jamepearson Yes, absolutely. If you must be on the phone for any reason, hold it with your non dominant hand. I’ve seen so many different types of uniformed personnel, wether it’s LEO’s or armed security guards at different events & they’ll be on the cell phone with their dominant hand leaving their duty weapon in the gun belt holster completely exposed & up for grabs by a person with ill intent. Common sense & experience in the real world should have these guys hold the damn phone with the off hand that way you are able to react to a situation if need be & you always have your arm at your side by the holstered weapon to prevent someone from trying to grab it. Not that it will happen but it has been documented to occur & the outcome is never good. Good Day to You!
When I was about eighteen years old, I opened the door for a woman who was approaching it. She may have been about thirty years old. She huffed at me, saying "you don't have to open the door for me because of my sex!" I responded with "I wasn't opening it because of your sex. I was opening it because of your age."
I was taught different rules. You could put your elbows on the table after you are done eating, but not during eating, because while eating your elbows go to the side so you can reach the food and then you take a lot of space. You could wear hat indoors if it a public space like a shop or something. But not when you enter someone's house.
I walk nearest the street while my wife is on the inside. Also sit on outer portion of restaurant booth and I try to get a booth facing front door to watch for bad guys.
Mike Ramirez, when we go out my ladyfriend always wears high heeled shoes. If stairs are encountered I insist she goes UPstairs ahead of me and DOWNstairs behind me.
I can understand about a manual laborer, but as a project manager, I will always suit-up for an interview. I've noticed that in any office setting, that is still the norm. I follow the "dress for the occasion" rule. I've gone to casual settings before in a suit, but I carry a tie in my jacket just in case it's needed.
Sadly I've lived that "crazy feminist" moment. I do hold doors open for anyone regardless of what sex they are. I've still had some lunatic scream at me for being sexist when I've done held the door for her. I slammed that door in her face. She looked startled but shockingly didn't carry on screaming at me. This was in a place I used to volunteer and it was in front of staff. Someone tried to get me in trouble for it but the staff thankfully took my side as they saw what transpired and they know I hold the door for anyone. P.S. Interesting fact, she was a part of a group we had there called the "Womens Group"... We also had a "Mens Group" that the Womens Group tried to have shut down on a few occasions. Despite the fact that that the Mens Group was primarily a help and support group for abuse, health, anxiety, sexuality, grief, addiction and various mental health issues.
My personal experience is going dutch on the first date will increase the chances for the second date as it makes her more invested beyond just showing up. I think walking left is more related to being between cars / traffic and her as a buffer zone 😀
I've always been raised to open the door for people, my grandpa really wanted me to understand being what he considered a gentleman and that was being helpful to people and one way I do that is by holding open doors for people..especially if they have a full armload of food at a take out joint or it's a building that doesn't have automatic doors. I also help people in the grocery store try to find what they are looking for if it's very obvious they don't know where it is and I happen to know, or help them reach something they can't if they are a little short or their arms aren't as long as mine. It's just something I was raised to do and I do it on automatic now. I haven't run into one of the raving feminist that hast a fit when a man opens the door for her..maybe it's cause of the area I live in, I live both in the south and an area where there are a lot of older folks who passed on the same kinda thing my grandpa did.
I think all these tips are spot on, except for wearing a hat indoors - its a traditional sign of respect to take your hat off indoors. Alot of guys commented with regards to etiquette with women, I basically want to project to the world that I'm well bred & have a little class.
Good for you... I was raised the same way. One always removes their hat when addressing a lady and removes it when in doors. I would get a more than subtle 'nudge' in the ribs from my Father, Uncle or Grandfather if I didn't remove my hat for either situation - trust me, you didn't forget again. Same for holding a door - I sometimes get the odd comment from the latest feminist oddball - Just ignore and say "You're Welcome anyway" loud enough to embarrass the hell out of them - I always get an approving nod or glance from bystanders (male & female). Reminds me of the scene in "Cahill, US Marshall" - when John Wayne's 'son' refused to tip his hat to a lady - Wayne basically backhanded him off his horse - saying "Pardon Ma'am, a slight oversight in his upbringing..." Am old school - sometimes modern 'ways' are not the best ways. It's the little things - that we simply ignore or let go - that snowballs into bigger indiscretions. Off my soap box 🙂
It’s nice that the pocket square is back. Keep a handkerchief in your jacket pocket. Ties good quality, four in hand or the Old Bertie only knots you need.
Dude....I always thought I was the best. Now, I find myself sharpening my swords. Good job! I don't ever need your advise, but almost everyone I know needs your help. Be well, friend!
idk about the elbows one. I don't think the origin actually matters, the point is it's now a commonly accepted sign of poor table etiquette. Sur eit was once a functional thing, but now it's a cultural/traditional thing and that still matters
It does matter; at a proper table, if you can put your elbows on the table, you are too far forward, making your posture seem to your guest a little invasive. It also brings your hands either to the center of the table, or around your face.
That walk to the left thing I do it.... But because when walking down the street I don't want her to be on the outerside facing traffic so she is on the inner part of the sidewalk makes her feel protected
I tend to agree with everything you have just said. I think a suit is a good choice for an interview as long as the fit is right. Nothing worse than if it is either too tight or too big. Generally as long as you look smart and appear to have taken a bit of trouble over your appearance it gives a good first impression. I would like your opinion on whether socks should be worn at all times with shoes. Personally I find it a bit off putting if a man doesn't wear socks with leather shoes. OK with trainers. What about patterned socks or should socks always be self coloured to match the colour of the trousers. Best wishes from the UK where most men do not wear pocket squares.
One of the class rules is that "a gentleman does not extend his hand toward a woman" to avoid any association with physical assault or improper touching. A gentleman waits for a woman to extend her hand first so that she controls the encounter. If she extends her hand vertically, she expects it to be shaken as an equal; horizontally, she expects it to be kissed as a superior. The hand kiss, actually ring kiss, is also an acknowledgment of her position and an homage to her husband. This may all seem outdated, especially in egalitarian business-oriented America, but given how easily triggered some women are these days, it's wide to err on the side of caution and formal respect. I can tell you that in portions of society, demonstrating knowledge of these rules and their origins raises one's status immediately. When in doubt, read the room.
I disagree with the elbows, I think it still applies. I enforce this rule in my house but the reason I was told growing up is that it makes you look lazy and/or uninterested. Typically when my son has his elbows on the table it's exactly that, he's tired so he rests his head on his hand... not in my house, sit up straight and look respectable. However, if you're done eating it's allowed but I still wouldn't let my son rest his head on his hand.
The only thing I would disagree with is walking on which side of the women. I always walk on the road side, depending which direction would change if she is on the left or right. I hadn't heard some of these trends but liked your thought behind them.
Guess we're a product of our breeding. I'm 70 and was always taught by my parents not to offer my hand to a lady first. I still abide by this rule. Sorry, but I really think people eating in a restaurant while wearing a hat or cap look low class.
I’m with you. Hats indoors is low brow. Especially if it’s a baseball cap. Hang it on your seat. Don’t be a git. If you’re in a sports bar. No one cares. If you’re not, take it off you uneducated gronk
A man should put himself between danger and others (woman, child, elderly, etc.) E.g. The most common use is placing yourself between traffic (auto, trains, etc.) and others. - Note - Some males don't see themselves as Defenders and it shows.
The first one, opening doors for people. ALWASE if your first you hold the door open and let anybody and everybody go ahead of you even if the next person is 15 feet away then you go in last. Unless another gentleman takes your spot you politely say “good(time of day)”then he goes last. Never ever let the door close behind you if someone is coming in or out
In the accounting world, brown has been frowned upon historically. Supposedly, it's been thought that brown was an "untrustworthy" color. Consequently, I wore my blue suit to interviews and later broke the "brown" with regularity. They also disliked double breasted suits, and I thought they looked cool on Richard Gere in American Gigolo and James Caan in Thief, so I bought a steel blue/grey glen plaid double breasted suit. No one ever said anything to me about it, so I never gave a damn and I kept doing it. For that reason, the accounting world stuck me as overly picayune. They didn't even like unvented suits and sport coats. Strange!
At My age I dress for comfort so it's usually a pair of Sperry boat shoes t-shirt or sweatshirt and an old pair of utilities or khakis depending on the season yes they still fit Semper FI Brother
The big one that you missed, is to let an older person on public transport have your seat if there is no other seat available. This also goes for pregnant women and the disabled. As for where a woman walks, close to the building, away from the traffic.
When walking with a woman, it depends if your walking by a road, you should always walk next to the road, so either left side or right depends on where your walking, its to stop the women being pushed in to the gutter, being splashed from puddles by passing vehicles or if a car was to go on the footpath you could safetly get her out of the way. The sword thing also depended if the swordsman was a lefty or a righty.
Lol I was on a date once and was walking on the left side. We turned the corner and pulled out a move to be on the right side. She thought I was breaking out into song...... I just felt weird being on the left.
One time in a large office with many employees, while approaching a closed door, I let a woman behind me pass first, she didn’t say thank you, smile or nod her head. It felt like I was slapped in the back of the head. This woman was gorgeous and knew all the men in the office talked about her. A few weeks later, guess who was behind me as I approached the door? It felt amazing entering first and watching the door close behind me.
I'm South American and elbows en tablet it's a No. We always open the door to an woman or and elder and we give a kiss in the cheek when we say hello or goodbye
The whole walk to the left of a woman, I was taught by my parents that when you're walking on the sidewalk with a woman, always walk on the side closest to the street to keep her a bit farther from potential harm
Great stuff. Really recommend this channel (but not to people I know as I dont want them in on this ). As for overdressing to a job interview... Ill confess to have done it... the agency sent me to a crappy place and i made sure to overdress to get turned down whilst having some snobbery fun with these clowns. Guys...sometimes its nice not to be accepted and make of that what you will :)
I have mixed navy and black. But you can't mix brown and black. My rule on white is that it can be worn when baseball counts. In other words, opening day until the last game of the World Series. I learned years ago that I was taken more seriously in a suit. Shopping for my wife's engagement ring, I was shown much better merchandise while wearing a suit than in a sweatshirt, jeans, and a ski jacket.
There's a right way and a wrong way to put your elbows on the table. If you look like you're trying to protect your plate or you're hunched over your plate trying to shovel as much food as you can that's the wrong way. A casual elbow on the table well you take a listening pose that's okay. Elbows on the table with your head in your hands and crying into your salad... not okay.
Amen. Absolutely agree. At the end of the day; fashion and a man's clothing choices should be a result of the message they want to send, and to represent "the man you know yourself to be" (i use that line all the time, Antonio!), and it shouldn't be a result of a set of arbitrary or archaic rules.
Winter White is awesome; I adore those 'snow bunny/apres-ski ensembles! :p I find that discussing meal bills prior to a date (when I WAS dating- married); and giving a friendly nod and smile to a person who happens to be male, so they know I definitely won't be offended if they open the door for me, helps. ;)
Antonio, great video, but would qualify the leathers and metals advice. Mixed leathers and mixed metals (never more than silver and gold together as the deviant object) are OK in casual wear, but not for business or dress. Having a brown belt or suspenders with brown leather tabs with black shoes looks weird and uninformed in a business or suit context. I finally got into brown or tan shoes with grey or navy pants even for daily business wear, but shoes and belt need to match for the office or suited event. (IMHO...) On the rare occasions when I wear suspenders/braces (only with a suit and tie), I also match the leathers.
Only two occasions when it's okay to put your elbows on the table. One, when you're in a restaurant, the table is wobbling and you don't have a pack of matches to shove under the short leg, your elbows will keep it steady for everyone. Two, cheeseburger.
Nice Sword Brother. Here is a real reason. If you are carrying a handgun concealed you want to keep your strong hand free and your work area clear. So If I am right handed ,carrying on the right hip then I want my girl to the left. Thanks and watch yer 6 !
I do not agree with some points. I.e. handshake. It is not only women that extend hand first, but also applies for those you are below(age, position, money?, relation-wise). When uncertain dituations, extending hand first may signal confidence for example, but there are rules.
Funny. I always thought the rule was that the man should walk to the right of a woman so that the (generally) right-handed man can draw his sword without having his arm/elbow impeded by having someone standing/walking to his right.
“Always” should be thought of as “most of the time”. Of course you don’t have to always wear a tie... but most of the time you will absolutely look sharper with one than without. Most men do not pull off the no tie look well. It just make you look more bland unless you’re wearing an interesting patterned sport coat or something like that.
Agree with everything except having the female walk on the left side. This rule may not be applicable because we don’t carry swords but with that said while walking the safest place is on the inside. If there was a car accident that happened to jump the curb I’m still in between. I do this with my kids too. When we walk wife and kids are always on my inside.
Do not put elbows on the table. Specially in a formal setting . And of course place your napkin on your lap. This should be considered a timeless proper behavior while dining.?
Antonio, Excellent video. I agree with most of the tips, for example, I still believe the guy should always pay for the date. Absolutely! The hat rules... Spot on! On a side note, I have that Anson navy blue and metal buckle combo you displayed towards the end. I literally wore it last night. Nice!! Regards, Mike
My take: I have always opened doors for everybody. I don't date. I don't think a handshake is a very appropriate greeting for a lady under any circumstances. Elbows on the table doesn't matter. Shirts being tucked or untucked depends on the shirt/situation. The color rules are stupid "secret club" rules that a mature gentlemen would have no interest in. Suits are not always appropriate for interviews/ business meetings. Wear your hat whenever you want. Match anything that looks good together. Ditto.
As a regular fedora wearer and a U. S. Navy retiree, I have researched this topic but have not achieved clarity. The 2 attached links discuss the issue. My understanding is that during events honoring the U. S. Flag, veterans not in uniform have the option of either rendering a military salute or holding the hat over the left shoulder with the right hand over the heart. “The military salute is a unique gesture of respect that marks those who have served in our nation’s armed forces,” said Secretary of Veterans Affairs Dr. James B. Peake. “This provision allows the application of that honor in all events involving our nation’s flag.” The problem seems to be ambiguous wording, specifically the word “may.” The wording does not seem to clearly offer only those two options. The linked newspaper article discusses a Marine who was apparently told at separation to remain covered but to simply “stand at attention.” I have no problem with this, as “standing at attention” is another form of showing respect, whether or not the hat is removed. Can veterans wear hats in the National Anthem? - Apr 16, 2014 www.willistonherald.com/opinion/columnists/can-veterans-wear-hats-in-the-national-anthem/article_89130ba0-c57b-11e3-bce8-0019bb2963f4.html New Law Authorizes Veterans’ Salutes during National Anthem - October 30, 2008 www.va.gov/opa/pressrel/pressrelease.cfm?id=1609
@@chasatch Well, from the research I've done, removing ones hat became a custom symbolizing respect, or more accurately, meaning no threat, when warriors or knights wore headgear with face masks. The purpose of removing the headgear was to reveal your face and make yourself more vulnerable, thus showing you're not a hostile visitor. Therefore, the tradition of removing ones hat to show "respect," no longer makes sense and therefore can be done away with.
I still open door for everyone and I still take my hat off in a building I'm a laid on the chair next to me and I still do not put my elbows on the table I was always taught not to put your elbows on the table I still don't do it
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Great video Antonio
Good manners will open doors that the best education can not
Don't know who to credit for that bit if wisdom
As my mother would say
"Manners maketh the man"
Are manners and etiquette the same thing ?
What can I say, I was brought up to believe that all girls were princesses. This may be very far from the truth but, I still act my part on a date.
Thanks for the video. I disagree with a number of issues, but great you are keeping the issue of presentation in the conversation. In relation to the jacket without the tie with a pocket square, I think you'd look far more put together with a neck tie. Just my opinion, keep up the great work.
A man should pay... simple
Idk how the hell you kept a straight face when you pulled out the sword
He's a Marine, swords are commonplace in the Marine Corps
He's a United States MARINE, for pete sakes!
Practice, practice, practice ...
@@brenttesterman1198 Idk how united states marines keep straight faces either.
Right because we all know who carries the swords or saber.
At my daughters high school graduation, I swear, I was the only person there wearing a suit and tie out of hundreds of people. I believe this shows respect to her and her accomplishments but apparently these standards are falling by the wayside.
I wear suits to interviews while being a chef. I think it shows respect to the position offered.
Me too Every hotelier is taught to wear suit during their interviews
Max Sievers I thought being a chef is a position of moderate power and warrants a suit when not in uniform anyway.
@@kaziiqbal7257 Many chefs just don't do it. The HR people and hotel directors like it, though. Working as a chef can mean many things. Some positions require more a worker type and some more a manager type.
I was a chef for years before a mid life career change. I wore suits to interviews, for meetings or work outings that didn't have me in my chef coat. Not all of us did though.
For interviews or business meetings dress 1 level up from the job or manager. Unless they wear uniforms. I've worn suits & sports coats then the boss or mgr had 👕 , shorts.
I was shopping last week and it started to rain. When I was about to cross the street, a guy with a umbrella offered to walk with me. It was one of the sweetest things that happened with me this year
At last , a woman who appreciates little things men do !!! Kudos to you!!!
No real "man" carries an umbrella
"Is that an umbrella in your pocket or are ya just glad to see me?"
Antonio is the type of Centeno who carries a sword to a restaurant to cut his steak precisely.
This is too funny!
But can he hang his hat on the sword? Well maybe not after a steak; touché pussy cat!
Adeel Ali Mohamedi hahaha and what about the fork ??
Well I'm a sikh so I literally always carry a dagger with me
It's a religious thing buddy
@@majormalfunction3757 I love those things.
1. Be a door man.
I prefer opening the door for women. And hold the door open for men.
I remember bedazzled. Poor Elliot
2. Don't be a doormat.
🤣 I love you, Danni Anderson
Yeah, I completely disagree with 1. To each their own, i reckon.
Etiquette consultant here! The elbows rule actually comes from the British navy. The British desperately needed sailors in their navy and if you had your elbows on the table at the pub, it meant you had experience on a ship eating to not let your food slide around. You would get knocked out with a 2x4, then wake up on a boat on the way to Shanghai. They’d say, “Welcome to the British Navy”. Also, if you’re French, elbows are perfectly admissible on the table.
This reminds me of a job interview I went to. We were required to show up in ‘smart dress’. So I show up wearing my best navy suit, black oxfords, white shirt and tie. Everybody else was smart casual. I swear, even the person interviewing me was a little intimidated. ‘Has the out of town boss showed up?’
That's the price for dressing sharp and dressing good. Sometimes you'll feel overdressed ane the only thing we can do is to get used to it because there will only be some people that take care how to dress.
Interviewed for a different management consultancy firm and exactly the same thing happened / I wore a navy suit whilst everybody else was smart casual.
You made the right choice. I'm in fashion and I can tell you that it's better to be overdressed than underdressed. The company can have a casual dress code or smart casual for employees, but it doesn't apply to an interview. Dressing in a suit shows professionalism and respect, which the others obviously didn't. If I were the interviewer, you'll be on top my list already.
@@KarinaSwan Thank you, Karina. :-)
I hate those types of vague descriptions of dress requirement. It's comes off as if HR or the person who came up with the preferred interview standard tried to be smarter than they were.
I prefer just stating what you require: jacket/no jacket, button down shirt with a collar/no tee shirts, tie/no tie, dress slacks/no jeans/no khaki a.k.a no cotton slacks, dress shoes/no sneakers. For one job interview the HR rep actually stated "please don't show up wearing western boots". I wore my pair of semi brouges chukkas just to push the limits.
The interview went great, but did not get the job.
He took out the sword I was like "damn " 😂😂 scared af
Excellent video. As an older guy who still always wears a Stetson even in town I get very uncomfortable wearing my hat indoors but have grown accustomed to always wearing it for the reasons you stated. You still can’t get away with a white or straw hat after Labor Day though-it’s not a status thing-white and straw hats are only for Summer weather.
Didn't know the one walking to the left of a woman. I know the rule slightly differently: It doesn't matter which side you walk on as long as you walk on the side closer to the road. Another Thumbs up from me :) Great video.
My wife walks to my left so my strong hand (right) is always free to deal with "worldly intrusions."
Elbows off the table, especially if there is a table cloth. An accidental tug on the cloth can upset the setting, and you don't want to be the cause of wine spilling on the hostess: bad form.
I always thought that either right or left, man should always be between lady and road
@S C Life is dangerous.
Enjoy your unicorns and rainbows!
Deen Hubin I do the same when I have a lady with me. She is on my left so I can react accordingly if there is a threat of any kind with my dominant hand, and if need be draw my 1911 from concealed carry. Good Day to You!
Deen Hubin And you sure your phone isn’t in your right hand at these times. Just saying. Sounds good tho.
jamepearson Yes, absolutely. If you must be on the phone for any reason, hold it with your non dominant hand. I’ve seen so many different types of uniformed personnel, wether it’s LEO’s or armed security guards at different events & they’ll be on the cell phone with their dominant hand leaving their duty weapon in the gun belt holster completely exposed & up for grabs by a person with ill intent. Common sense & experience in the real world should have these guys hold the damn phone with the off hand that way you are able to react to a situation if need be & you always have your arm at your side by the holstered weapon to prevent someone from trying to grab it. Not that it will happen but it has been documented to occur & the outcome is never good. Good Day to You!
I'm adding a sword to my EDC!
Maybe don't jump straight to the sword but start with a Cold Steel Espada XL. It is a good stepping stone from pocket knife to sword. Trust me.
And if you wanna show off your military heritage, I recommend a well cleaned MP40
Get the svord! Look it up
Perfectly legal in Texas
When I was about eighteen years old, I opened the door for a woman who was approaching it. She may have been about thirty years old. She huffed at me, saying "you don't have to open the door for me because of my sex!" I responded with "I wasn't opening it because of your sex. I was opening it because of your age."
I guess I'm just old school wearing a suit to any interview gives a great impression, and show potential employers that your taking it series.
I was taught different rules. You could put your elbows on the table after you are done eating, but not during eating, because while eating your elbows go to the side so you can reach the food and then you take a lot of space. You could wear hat indoors if it a public space like a shop or something. But not when you enter someone's house.
Agree with everything, except the hat thing, in my personal opinion a man must always take of a hat when he enters a building
I walk nearest the street while my wife is on the inside. Also sit on outer portion of restaurant booth and I try to get a booth facing front door to watch for bad guys.
Mike Ramirez same, same and same
I carry concealed appendix slightly toward my right hip. My lady is always on my left in case I have to draw which will be from my right.
@tinylilmatt I do... Really freaks them out.
Mike Ramirez, when we go out my ladyfriend always wears high heeled shoes. If stairs are encountered I insist she goes UPstairs ahead of me and DOWNstairs behind me.
Do you also carry? Sounds like you might. I have similar MO.
I can understand about a manual laborer, but as a project manager, I will always suit-up for an interview. I've noticed that in any office setting, that is still the norm. I follow the "dress for the occasion" rule. I've gone to casual settings before in a suit, but I carry a tie in my jacket just in case it's needed.
Sadly I've lived that "crazy feminist" moment. I do hold doors open for anyone regardless of what sex they are. I've still had some lunatic scream at me for being sexist when I've done held the door for her. I slammed that door in her face. She looked startled but shockingly didn't carry on screaming at me. This was in a place I used to volunteer and it was in front of staff. Someone tried to get me in trouble for it but the staff thankfully took my side as they saw what transpired and they know I hold the door for anyone.
P.S. Interesting fact, she was a part of a group we had there called the "Womens Group"... We also had a "Mens Group" that the Womens Group tried to have shut down on a few occasions. Despite the fact that that the Mens Group was primarily a help and support group for abuse, health, anxiety, sexuality, grief, addiction and various mental health issues.
My personal experience is going dutch on the first date will increase the chances for the second date as it makes her more invested beyond just showing up. I think walking left is more related to being between cars / traffic and her as a buffer zone 😀
Elbows on the table are very bad though, still! 😎
I've always been raised to open the door for people, my grandpa really wanted me to understand being what he considered a gentleman and that was being helpful to people and one way I do that is by holding open doors for people..especially if they have a full armload of food at a take out joint or it's a building that doesn't have automatic doors. I also help people in the grocery store try to find what they are looking for if it's very obvious they don't know where it is and I happen to know, or help them reach something they can't if they are a little short or their arms aren't as long as mine. It's just something I was raised to do and I do it on automatic now. I haven't run into one of the raving feminist that hast a fit when a man opens the door for her..maybe it's cause of the area I live in, I live both in the south and an area where there are a lot of older folks who passed on the same kinda thing my grandpa did.
You're grandpa's great man. Keep it up ShinKyubi!
I think all these tips are spot on, except for wearing a hat indoors - its a traditional sign of respect to take your hat off indoors. Alot of guys commented with regards to etiquette with women, I basically want to project to the world that I'm well bred & have a little class.
Good for you...
I was raised the same way.
One always removes their hat when addressing a lady and removes it when in doors. I would get a more than subtle 'nudge' in the ribs from my Father, Uncle or Grandfather if I didn't remove my hat for either situation - trust me, you didn't forget again.
Same for holding a door - I sometimes get the odd comment from the latest feminist oddball - Just ignore and say "You're Welcome anyway" loud enough to embarrass the hell out of them - I always get an approving nod or glance from bystanders (male & female).
Reminds me of the scene in "Cahill, US Marshall" - when John Wayne's 'son' refused to tip his hat to a lady - Wayne basically backhanded him off his horse - saying "Pardon Ma'am, a slight oversight in his upbringing..."
Am old school - sometimes modern 'ways' are not the best ways.
It's the little things - that we simply ignore or let go - that snowballs into bigger indiscretions.
Off my soap box 🙂
It’s nice that the pocket square is back. Keep a handkerchief in your jacket pocket. Ties good quality, four in hand or the Old Bertie only knots you need.
Dude....I always thought I was the best. Now, I find myself sharpening my swords. Good job! I don't ever need your advise, but almost everyone I know needs your help.
Be well, friend!
idk about the elbows one. I don't think the origin actually matters, the point is it's now a commonly accepted sign of poor table etiquette. Sur eit was once a functional thing, but now it's a cultural/traditional thing and that still matters
But it doesn't matter though.
it doesn't matter anymore.
It does matter; at a proper table, if you can put your elbows on the table, you are too far forward, making your posture seem to your guest a little invasive. It also brings your hands either to the center of the table, or around your face.
That walk to the left thing I do it.... But because when walking down the street I don't want her to be on the outerside facing traffic so she is on the inner part of the sidewalk makes her feel protected
I tend to agree with everything you have just said. I think a suit is a good choice for an interview as long as the fit is right. Nothing worse than if it is either too tight or too big. Generally as long as you look smart and appear to have taken a bit of trouble over your appearance it gives a good first impression.
I would like your opinion on whether socks should be worn at all times with shoes. Personally I find it a bit off putting if a man doesn't wear socks with leather shoes. OK with trainers. What about patterned socks or should socks always be self coloured to match the colour of the trousers. Best wishes from the UK where most men do not wear pocket squares.
One of the class rules is that "a gentleman does not extend his hand toward a woman" to avoid any association with physical assault or improper touching. A gentleman waits for a woman to extend her hand first so that she controls the encounter. If she extends her hand vertically, she expects it to be shaken as an equal; horizontally, she expects it to be kissed as a superior. The hand kiss, actually ring kiss, is also an acknowledgment of her position and an homage to her husband. This may all seem outdated, especially in egalitarian business-oriented America, but given how easily triggered some women are these days, it's wide to err on the side of caution and formal respect. I can tell you that in portions of society, demonstrating knowledge of these rules and their origins raises one's status immediately. When in doubt, read the room.
I love when a gentleman opens a door for me.🥰🥰🥰
I disagree with the elbows, I think it still applies. I enforce this rule in my house but the reason I was told growing up is that it makes you look lazy and/or uninterested. Typically when my son has his elbows on the table it's exactly that, he's tired so he rests his head on his hand... not in my house, sit up straight and look respectable. However, if you're done eating it's allowed but I still wouldn't let my son rest his head on his hand.
The only thing I would disagree with is walking on which side of the women. I always walk on the road side, depending which direction would change if she is on the left or right. I hadn't heard some of these trends but liked your thought behind them.
Guess we're a product of our breeding. I'm 70 and was always taught by my parents not to offer my hand to a lady first. I still abide by this rule.
Sorry, but I really think people eating in a restaurant while wearing a hat or cap look low class.
Thank God we’re in 2020
I’m with you. Hats indoors is low brow. Especially if it’s a baseball cap. Hang it on your seat. Don’t be a git. If you’re in a sports bar. No one cares. If you’re not, take it off you uneducated gronk
I have to disagree with a few numbers however a Real Man understands the difference between good advice and poor advice. Great video Antonio!
A man should put himself between danger and others (woman, child, elderly, etc.)
E.g. The most common use is placing yourself between traffic (auto, trains, etc.) and others.
- Note - Some males don't see themselves as Defenders and it shows.
Opening doors for everyone - double thumbs up on that
The first one, opening doors for people. ALWASE if your first you hold the door open and let anybody and everybody go ahead of you even if the next person is 15 feet away then you go in last. Unless another gentleman takes your spot you politely say “good(time of day)”then he goes last. Never ever let the door close behind you if someone is coming in or out
In the accounting world, brown has been frowned upon historically. Supposedly, it's been thought that brown was an "untrustworthy" color. Consequently, I wore my blue suit to interviews and later broke the "brown" with regularity. They also disliked double breasted suits, and I thought they looked cool on Richard Gere in American Gigolo and James Caan in Thief, so I bought a steel blue/grey glen plaid double breasted suit. No one ever said anything to me about it, so I never gave a damn and I kept doing it. For that reason, the accounting world stuck me as overly picayune. They didn't even like unvented suits and sport coats. Strange!
At My age I dress for comfort so it's usually a pair of Sperry boat shoes t-shirt or sweatshirt and an old pair of utilities or khakis depending on the season yes they still fit
Semper FI Brother
The big one that you missed, is to let an older person on public transport have your seat if there is no other seat available. This also goes for pregnant women and the disabled. As for where a woman walks, close to the building, away from the traffic.
For western courtesy I was taught to have be on the ladies left so the man is on the traffic side and the lady has better window shopping ability.
When walking with a woman, it depends if your walking by a road, you should always walk next to the road, so either left side or right depends on where your walking, its to stop the women being pushed in to the gutter, being splashed from puddles by passing vehicles or if a car was to go on the footpath you could safetly get her out of the way. The sword thing also depended if the swordsman was a lefty or a righty.
That jacket fits like a glove, I love it
Lol I was on a date once and was walking on the left side. We turned the corner and pulled out a move to be on the right side. She thought I was breaking out into song...... I just felt weird being on the left.
One time in a large office with many employees, while approaching a closed door, I let a woman behind me pass first, she didn’t say thank you, smile or nod her head. It felt like I was slapped in the back of the head.
This woman was gorgeous and knew all the men in the office talked about her.
A few weeks later, guess who was behind me as I approached the door? It felt amazing entering first and watching the door close behind me.
Who even decides it's outdated? Man o man this man. I just viewed this video my mistake and now it won't stop appearing
I'm South American and elbows en tablet it's a No. We always open the door to an woman or and elder and we give a kiss in the cheek when we say hello or goodbye
The no white after Labor Day I think has something to do with Fall weather. White is hard to keep clean when there's snow or mud due to rain.
The whole walk to the left of a woman, I was taught by my parents that when you're walking on the sidewalk with a woman, always walk on the side closest to the street to keep her a bit farther from potential harm
Great stuff. Really recommend this channel (but not to people I know as I dont want them in on this ). As for overdressing to a job interview... Ill confess to have done it... the agency sent me to a crappy place and i made sure to overdress to get turned down whilst having some snobbery fun with these clowns. Guys...sometimes its nice not to be accepted and make of that what you will :)
I have mixed navy and black. But you can't mix brown and black.
My rule on white is that it can be worn when baseball counts. In other words, opening day until the last game of the World Series.
I learned years ago that I was taken more seriously in a suit. Shopping for my wife's engagement ring, I was shown much better merchandise while wearing a suit than in a sweatshirt, jeans, and a ski jacket.
wow now i have noticed that i am already doing most of these.
There's a right way and a wrong way to put your elbows on the table. If you look like you're trying to protect your plate or you're hunched over your plate trying to shovel as much food as you can that's the wrong way. A casual elbow on the table well you take a listening pose that's okay. Elbows on the table with your head in your hands and crying into your salad... not okay.
Amen. Absolutely agree. At the end of the day; fashion and a man's clothing choices should be a result of the message they want to send, and to represent "the man you know yourself to be" (i use that line all the time, Antonio!), and it shouldn't be a result of a set of arbitrary or archaic rules.
Sven Rapheal is shaking insanely right now for saying its ok for elbows on the table .
#1 be a gent to everybody. I love that sir.
Winter White is awesome; I adore those 'snow bunny/apres-ski ensembles! :p I find that discussing meal bills prior to a date (when I WAS dating- married); and giving a friendly nod and smile to a person who happens to be male, so they know I definitely won't be offended if they open the door for me, helps. ;)
Antonio, great video, but would qualify the leathers and metals advice. Mixed leathers and mixed metals (never more than silver and gold together as the deviant object) are OK in casual wear, but not for business or dress. Having a brown belt or suspenders with brown leather tabs with black shoes looks weird and uninformed in a business or suit context. I finally got into brown or tan shoes with grey or navy pants even for daily business wear, but shoes and belt need to match for the office or suited event. (IMHO...) On the rare occasions when I wear suspenders/braces (only with a suit and tie), I also match the leathers.
Whoever asked the other out pays for the date. Simple as that.
Only two occasions when it's okay to put your elbows on the table. One, when you're in a restaurant, the table is wobbling and you don't have a pack of matches to shove under the short leg, your elbows will keep it steady for everyone. Two, cheeseburger.
paying on the first date is so dumb.
Nice Sword Brother. Here is a real reason. If you are carrying a handgun concealed you want to keep your strong hand free and your work area clear. So If I am right handed ,carrying on the right hip then I want my girl to the left. Thanks and watch yer 6 !
Brilliant video! Totally agree!
This video is so helpful.
Thanks so much for your knowledge
3:41 Now That is a REAL MAN! Ataturk!
Yeah the problem is i am old skool
I like how deadpan Antonio was when pointing out how ridiculous the walking rule is 😆
I do not agree with some points. I.e. handshake. It is not only women that extend hand first, but also applies for those you are below(age, position, money?, relation-wise). When uncertain dituations, extending hand first may signal confidence for example, but there are rules.
This was SOLID!
Can't wear a sports watch with a dinner jacket? Well, James Bond did it in Dr. No, so now we all can!
Funny. I always thought the rule was that the man should walk to the right of a woman so that the (generally) right-handed man can draw his sword without having his arm/elbow impeded by having someone standing/walking to his right.
Bleep bloop downloading handshake procedure.
Listen to this man!
“Always” should be thought of as “most of the time”. Of course you don’t have to always wear a tie... but most of the time you will absolutely look sharper with one than without. Most men do not pull off the no tie look well. It just make you look more bland unless you’re wearing an interesting patterned sport coat or something like that.
what you’re saying ultimately is wear whatever one what as long as one is confident? That would make you and all your past videos useless.
Agree with everything except having the female walk on the left side. This rule may not be applicable because we don’t carry swords but with that said while walking the safest place is on the inside. If there was a car accident that happened to jump the curb I’m still in between. I do this with my kids too.
When we walk wife and kids are always on my inside.
Elbows OFF the table 90% of the time
Do not put elbows on the table. Specially in a formal setting . And of course place your napkin on your lap. This should be considered a timeless proper behavior while dining.?
Black with blue or brown with blue or pink with gray these suit well
These combinations work well. How about black with brown?
@@RealMenRealStyle I do that in winter evening
I always walk my girl on the right. I feels better if I am on the outer side and she is on inner
Elbows on the table is still a very big no-go and shows that somebody has no table manners.
Antonio,
Excellent video.
I agree with most of the tips, for example, I still believe the guy should always pay for the date. Absolutely!
The hat rules... Spot on!
On a side note, I have that Anson navy blue and metal buckle combo you displayed towards the end. I literally wore it last night. Nice!!
Regards,
Mike
I still say no black shoes with brown belt and vice versa
Antonio I always walk to the outside of the sidewalk towards the street so the lady wont get splashed or knicked by cars.
I've never seen Antonio keep his arms straight in a video
I liked your video as it is very updated and takes care of the latest fashion trends as well of the society in general.
Great video 👍🏽
I tuck my shirt.. Not only into my pants, but my underwear too.. I then pull the underwear seam up for "brand positioning"
Elbows on tables - ok, there's history. Still... no. but THAT SWORD!!!!!!
My take:
I have always opened doors for everybody. I don't date. I don't think a handshake is a very appropriate greeting for a lady under any circumstances. Elbows on the table doesn't matter. Shirts being tucked or untucked depends on the shirt/situation. The color rules are stupid "secret club" rules that a mature gentlemen would have no interest in. Suits are not always appropriate for interviews/ business meetings. Wear your hat whenever you want. Match anything that looks good together. Ditto.
Every point, nailed it. Useful and educational!
This was genuinely good. Quite different from the videos which repeat the same things.
We'll definitely film more of these things :)
Taking your hat off for the national anthem (or other situations) because somehow it symbolizes "respect". Thoughts?
As a regular fedora wearer and a U. S. Navy retiree, I have researched this topic but have not achieved clarity. The 2 attached links discuss the issue. My understanding is that during events honoring the U. S. Flag, veterans not in uniform have the option of either rendering a military salute or holding the hat over the left shoulder with the right hand over the heart.
“The military salute is a unique gesture of respect that marks those who have served in our nation’s armed forces,” said Secretary of Veterans Affairs Dr. James B. Peake. “This provision allows the application of that honor in all events involving our nation’s flag.”
The problem seems to be ambiguous wording, specifically the word “may.” The wording does not seem to clearly offer only those two options. The linked newspaper article discusses a Marine who was apparently told at separation to remain covered but to simply “stand at attention.” I have no problem with this, as “standing at attention” is another form of showing respect, whether or not the hat is removed.
Can veterans wear hats in the National Anthem? - Apr 16, 2014 www.willistonherald.com/opinion/columnists/can-veterans-wear-hats-in-the-national-anthem/article_89130ba0-c57b-11e3-bce8-0019bb2963f4.html
New Law Authorizes Veterans’ Salutes during National Anthem - October 30, 2008 www.va.gov/opa/pressrel/pressrelease.cfm?id=1609
@@chasatch Well, from the research I've done, removing ones hat became a custom symbolizing respect, or more accurately, meaning no threat, when warriors or knights wore headgear with face masks. The purpose of removing the headgear was to reveal your face and make yourself more vulnerable, thus showing you're not a hostile visitor.
Therefore, the tradition of removing ones hat to show "respect," no longer makes sense and therefore can be done away with.
You folks aren’t opening doors for other people?
Texas confusion
I still open door for everyone and I still take my hat off in a building I'm a laid on the chair next to me and I still do not put my elbows on the table I was always taught not to put your elbows on the table I still don't do it
Yet you weren't taught to use clear.and concise text when writing or typing? ;-)
i am improving my personality credit goes to RMRS. Thanks Antonio you making a man a Gentleman
You are much better than that mexican youtuber guy who copied alpham style. 👍👍👍
Apparently Mr. Centeno refuses to respond to any comment which disagree with him.