Little add in- I think it’s okay to raise your voice with your child occasionally. In Lord of the Rings, Gandalf raises his voice at Bilbo to finally get his attention. It was still out of love and you can feel that. Hah so yeah, if you ever feel guilty, just think of Gandalf in that moment👌
I don't know if this helps anyone, but I used to volunteer at an animal shelter in NYC. It was technically a 'kill shelter' and every week they'd put a list out of animals that were going to be killed. Initially I was appalled but quickly learned that often times animals remain in the shelter indefinitely (years). When they ended up on the list they were almost ALWAYS immediately saved by either breed specific rescues or volunteers who could shelter the animal (sick ones who just needed to be quarantined for a while and could be adopted later). I asked the person running it why she needed to put out the list and she said 'no one responds when we ask for assistance, but if we go to extremes we get the help we need'. Which although incredibly heartbreaking does make sense. The entire time i volunteered (2+ yrs), I never saw an animal who wasn't saved off the list. I know not all shelters are like that, but figured I'd share.
I went 16 years of parenting with no broken bones, and now we have had 5 broken bones in like 2 years! Mainly due to sports. 2 were from bouncy houses. They always got waterproof casts but the hospital told us that it HAS to be submerged in water daily so the lining doesn’t stick to the skin, which makes it a horrible experience when they take it off. Sarah, I would double check to see if it does need to be gotten wet daily, just in case :)
Girls, this was so fun again! I’m looking forward to each new episode 🙏🏻 Can you talk a little bit about cleaning the house? How do you keep up with all the kids, animals, beach activities (sand in the house) birthday party’s etc. I would love to hear how you are all doing it. Because I wish my house would be clean for once 😂
I recommend Eli Harwood! She is awesome. A therapist and she has super inspirations for connection with kids! It would be freaking awesome if you guys had her on your podcast! ❤
My children are all in their early 20's, (3 children in 12 months & 3 weeks apart) however when they would start something along those lines I would speak softer to silent and they all new I could deafen a room with my silence. Also, calling a sibling or other family member out of name was not tolerated. The thing they never could say was "Shut Up"!!!
I absolutely love this podcast! All of them, but this one was exceptionally helpful!🙏🏻 I’m a first time mom to a 18 month old and I’m really trying to learn how to communicate and discipline her gently without yelling if possible as she’s starting to test us/her boundaries as well. Do you have any book recommendations or ways you learned how to discipline /parent for that age/any age? 🤍🤍🤍
Don't have any book recommendations but (something from Brene Brown actually whose husband was a pediatrician) - most IMPORTANT rule for this, is follow through. It's truly the hardest thing, but following through with your words/ disciplinary warnings ie if you do that again we are leaving (safe, reasonable stuff) teaches your kid to take you seriously, & will really aid this process. I work with 20kids at a time at a daycare & a lot of them who won't listen to ANYONE just get 1 look from me and will stop acting up lol. Cause they know if I say something, i mean it. I dont give excessive, meaningless warnings or unhealthy fake threats. And they're the most bonded to me as a result. Consistently holding boundaries makes kids feel WAY safer with you because they know what to expect, its never a surprise or unreasonable response. That's the key, healthy, strong attachment with consistent rules. It may feel like a lot of work to keep this sort of parenting up, but you have to remember that the more you do this now (and it will be exhausting sometimes) the easier your/their WHOLE life will be, like youll minimize challanging behaviour SO MUCH. The TH-cam channel "toddlers can read" is also great for teaching us to use language that makes sense to kids & guides them in a clear (but loving) kind of way. Good luck! You got this
Also, anger is an important emotion. Yelling is not always the best way/answer but I find a lot of gentle parenting tactics negate the fact that kids need to learn to embrace their anger healthily, and that means WE have to display ours healthily. So if they do something that crosses your boundary, not listening for the 20th time, and you respond in a way that doesn't scare them, but expresses your anger, that is healthy. Just like teaching them to express their anger healthily is important. We really distort that in the West. It ironically ends up meaning we express our anger way more unhealthily and in ways that do scare/hurt/harm each other. Irene Lyons somatic work is a great resource for that topic (always feels worth mentioning when parents are REASONABLY struggling with anger and shame related to such)
@@lookin4answers this is so true! I read this before I had my daughter about them feeling safe when we follow through in all aspects with fun activities , rules etc. and I love that you mentioned that! Thank you so much 😊🤍
@@lookin4answers wow thank you!!! I 100% agree with us demonstrating all of the emotions in a healthy way ! I learned that in somatic therapy so it’s all making sense now🥰 I also think it’s so important kids can show anger when they feel it, sadness etc. I love all of this advice thank you so much!!
How are you ladies making money out of this ? I feel like Sarah is not a great friend to Teresa . I wouldn’t encourage my friends to get on these platforms and spill the beans on everything that happened in my life. Not sure… It is the equivalent of sharing a catch up to the world .
Sarah’s story about the raising her voice is SO relatable. I always have Instant guilt! Love you ladies!
Little add in- I think it’s okay to raise your voice with your child occasionally. In Lord of the Rings, Gandalf raises his voice at Bilbo to finally get his attention. It was still out of love and you can feel that. Hah so yeah, if you ever feel guilty, just think of Gandalf in that moment👌
I don't know if this helps anyone, but I used to volunteer at an animal shelter in NYC. It was technically a 'kill shelter' and every week they'd put a list out of animals that were going to be killed. Initially I was appalled but quickly learned that often times animals remain in the shelter indefinitely (years). When they ended up on the list they were almost ALWAYS immediately saved by either breed specific rescues or volunteers who could shelter the animal (sick ones who just needed to be quarantined for a while and could be adopted later). I asked the person running it why she needed to put out the list and she said 'no one responds when we ask for assistance, but if we go to extremes we get the help we need'. Which although incredibly heartbreaking does make sense. The entire time i volunteered (2+ yrs), I never saw an animal who wasn't saved off the list. I know not all shelters are like that, but figured I'd share.
I went 16 years of parenting with no broken bones, and now we have had 5 broken bones in like 2 years! Mainly due to sports. 2 were from bouncy houses. They always got waterproof casts but the hospital told us that it HAS to be submerged in water daily so the lining doesn’t stick to the skin, which makes it a horrible experience when they take it off. Sarah, I would double check to see if it does need to be gotten wet daily, just in case :)
Girls, this was so fun again! I’m looking forward to each new episode 🙏🏻
Can you talk a little bit about cleaning the house? How do you keep up with all the kids, animals, beach activities (sand in the house) birthday party’s etc. I would love to hear how you are all doing it. Because I wish my house would be clean for once 😂
To be fair the dog is absolutely precious
Thank you for this helpfull episode!!❤
I recommend Eli Harwood! She is awesome. A therapist and she has super inspirations for connection with kids! It would be freaking awesome if you guys had her on your podcast! ❤
Great episode! 🎉
My children are all in their early 20's, (3 children in 12 months & 3 weeks apart) however when they would start something along those lines I would speak softer to silent and they all new I could deafen a room with my silence. Also, calling a sibling or other family member out of name was not tolerated. The thing they never could say was "Shut Up"!!!
I absolutely love this podcast! All of them, but this one was exceptionally helpful!🙏🏻
I’m a first time mom to a 18 month old and I’m really trying to learn how to communicate and discipline her gently without yelling if possible as she’s starting to test us/her boundaries as well.
Do you have any book recommendations or ways you learned how to discipline /parent for that age/any age? 🤍🤍🤍
Don't have any book recommendations but (something from Brene Brown actually whose husband was a pediatrician) - most IMPORTANT rule for this, is follow through. It's truly the hardest thing, but following through with your words/ disciplinary warnings ie if you do that again we are leaving (safe, reasonable stuff) teaches your kid to take you seriously, & will really aid this process. I work with 20kids at a time at a daycare & a lot of them who won't listen to ANYONE just get 1 look from me and will stop acting up lol. Cause they know if I say something, i mean it. I dont give excessive, meaningless warnings or unhealthy fake threats. And they're the most bonded to me as a result. Consistently holding boundaries makes kids feel WAY safer with you because they know what to expect, its never a surprise or unreasonable response. That's the key, healthy, strong attachment with consistent rules. It may feel like a lot of work to keep this sort of parenting up, but you have to remember that the more you do this now (and it will be exhausting sometimes) the easier your/their WHOLE life will be, like youll minimize challanging behaviour SO MUCH. The TH-cam channel "toddlers can read" is also great for teaching us to use language that makes sense to kids & guides them in a clear (but loving) kind of way.
Good luck! You got this
Also, anger is an important emotion. Yelling is not always the best way/answer but I find a lot of gentle parenting tactics negate the fact that kids need to learn to embrace their anger healthily, and that means WE have to display ours healthily. So if they do something that crosses your boundary, not listening for the 20th time, and you respond in a way that doesn't scare them, but expresses your anger, that is healthy. Just like teaching them to express their anger healthily is important. We really distort that in the West. It ironically ends up meaning we express our anger way more unhealthily and in ways that do scare/hurt/harm each other. Irene Lyons somatic work is a great resource for that topic (always feels worth mentioning when parents are REASONABLY struggling with anger and shame related to such)
@@lookin4answers this is so true! I read this before I had my daughter about them feeling safe when we follow through in all aspects with fun activities , rules etc. and I love that you mentioned that! Thank you so much 😊🤍
@@lookin4answers wow thank you!!! I 100% agree with us demonstrating all of the emotions in a healthy way ! I learned that in somatic therapy so it’s all making sense now🥰 I also think it’s so important kids can show anger when they feel it, sadness etc. I love all of this advice thank you so much!!
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Manifesting Ella Mills to be on your podcast 💜
How are you ladies making money out of this ? I feel like Sarah is not a great friend to Teresa . I wouldn’t encourage my friends to get on these platforms and spill the beans on everything that happened in my life. Not sure…
It is the equivalent of sharing a catch up to the world .
Great job ladies, love the solos😊 Sarah, hope Wylie gets along with Moose & Aspen 😅🦮🐕🦺🐕
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