Not true for all women…I was with a struggling man,still I am…now he has become a little bit of successful…I would be with him throughout his each and every journey….m not talking about only me…I agree that some of them are gold diggers but not all…if they truly love someone,they cannot leave those struggling boys…struggle ek common phrase hain,it prevails in each and everybody’s life..
I was watching this but as soon as she said that men do this, I stopped watching it. She don't even know reality, In todays world its mostly mens who gets cheated. Saying from personal experience as well
I really appreciate the work done by Humans of Bombay and while I really liked this conversation, I think that the explanation of attachment styles is quite reductive. It is A- not secure, avoidant and anxious. Attachment styles fall under the broad categories of secure and insecure and then insecure attachment consists of avoidant, anxious and disorganised attachment. B- There are several models that define attachment under which you can look at attachment from a dynamic and a categorical perspective, however, Ekta completely convoluted the point here. I am pointing this out because she mentioned research quite a few times. C- It is high time, we take the onus away from the mother in fundamentals of attachment and instead put it on both primary caregivers, which includes same sex parent, fathers etc. It is not fair to quote mother as an example every time we are talking about attachment because research shows attachment also stems from father being distant or proximal as well. I understand that you are trying to communicate complex ideas to a broad audience, but I do feel that our facts need to be right and well-informed otherwise this can very easily go into mis-information.
Most of her relationship understanding/ advice is only applicable to urban youth / genz. Not for old school millennials who want to get married or are looking for a serious relationship. More like catering to teenagers / college audience.
You said men are not ready when they are not financially stable. Tell me how many girls are ready to be with a guy who is financially unstable but a great guy? The society's pressure is on men right? Would like the the guest to answer these questions too.
I don't think so because unemployment is uncertain. This can happen after you get married too. There are some girls who are ready to commit and do not care about the financial status of a guy. If they both want, they can build their empire from scratch and I think we all should normalize this.
@@rahartistic7653 bhn shaadi hoe jab ke lie rakh ye que , gf bf tk sab chlta hai , even my gf wanted to marry me even when I was unemployed at that time so I agree this type of girls exist but very rare
Came here for the thumbnail only: Bunny wasn't a red flag because he didn't know himself or got into casual hookups (everyone is not self aware and perfectly put together and serious from the get go, and they don't have to be!), but he WAS a red flag because he was extremely self involved. He was an absolute dick to Avi, even after coming back. If exploring the world was Bunny's "growing up phase", coming back to India wasn't his "mature phase" which should have been. Insulting his friend while knowing absolutely nothing, and not even being genuinely interested in what's up with him, or Aditi for that matter. Even his confession to Naina was all about himself - I want this, I felt this, bas ho gaya. He's not a bad person, but as a friend or a partner he's awful. These kind of people are so much better off alone, and I don't say this unkindly. Not everyone is made for relationships. IMO Naina loved Bunny because Bunny loved himself, unlike Naina who hadn't yet learned to love herself. He was confident, passionate about his dreams, and those are really good qualities in a person.
dear host , its really appreciable , if your facial expressions could appear more welcoming in return to her perspective statements in some cases , no offense but felt like it should reach you , take care , thanks for this episode !
Women don't want his money. She wants him for the way he makes her feel. She wants him to have an interactional(communication) intelligence grasp, creativity in using words , always responding to the ways she wants him to , and we can say she wants someone customized, irrespective of his family archetype, background, job he is doing, boss he is working under, past traumas. She will analyze him on the basis of parameters she has set after watching 100s of web series, completing 100s of novels , and she will not merely love him only because he is putting efforts and really wants her to accept his proposal. We men are told to be practical and logical to fulfill our social responsibilities, but We men are able to figure out these whole concepts after we go through that phase. Girls test us through number of p
I learnt about the attachment styles . Cause I was very curious on why things were not working. I told him that this is the reason as to why we are fighting a lot. I talked to him about it. I talked about our attachment styles. He learnt about them and went back to square 1. So yeah. It’s really going to be hard for a person who has anxious attachment. Cause the other person doesn’t care. No matter what you do. Anxious attachment style should face their fears of being left alone, or the fear of cheating, or whatever insecurity. Cause no matter how much you want to work upon your relationship if the avoidant person has zero intention or is too scared to work on it. Then u better leave the connection.
Oh, Shabash from USA! What a great video! Thank you for creating it! These are American issues and opportunities too. Dhanyawad. Hushes Ahe Retu and your guest is wonderful too!
Relationship & Marriage is when you Find "Compatible-Matching-Understanding-LIFE-PARTNER ( Mentally, "Physically", Financially ) INSTINCTIVELY... Otherwise it is just a Show-Off of "Adjustment-Contract with your STATUS-SYMBOL-PARTNER Only till Attraction Lasts".....
Informative! To both lovely humans, Hey Hi... and Thanks... I feel sometimes the fillers and acknowledgement used by Karishma Mehta is appropriate for the topic (Seductive tone followed by charming voice to grab the attention of the listeners)
Harsh Truth is ... Women's value peak at the age of 26-27 and thats is when they want to settle down with older matured men and also for men, women are visual creature first and then rest. In case of Man, the value starts increasing after the age of 28-29 so they delay their marriage till they are doing well financially and matured in career , women look for security in man be it emotional and financial first and then rest.
Madamji hum bharat ke rehne wale hai kya aap bata sakate ho ki AAP sabhi podcasts English language me hi karoge.aapki taraf se hame bohot knowledge milta hai plz aapse nivedan hai aap sabhi podcasts Hindi language me hi kare.
I like episode but I think just terming everything in a kind of lable is not good because i think after being familiar with all these terms will lead to choose people fixed path based on flags like red green pink which i dont think is good idea , if one think to go in certain way with his brain but by seeing only different kind of flag just turn back , i dont think is good idea , and also then people will have fixed behaviour . And also everyone not every genz is same or have same kind of actions n not necessarily every mellennial is always right...
Soo many flags, soo many attachment styles. Frist I feel this makes our emotions more complicated and more caged in these terminologies. Why have so many flags just to describe someone ? Humans are way too complex. This podcast was very informative but so many views on do this in relationship do that in relationship i mean give a breather. Agreed there are few people who are walking red signals and some are walking green forest but at the same time I have seen in my life many people who were green flags to some of their partners while red to others. So we can't just compartmentalise everyone. And lastly not just GenZ's but I have seen people from any generation who are serial cheaters. GenZ's just have way more ways of expression and mediums to do so But despite my critical views this podcast was good to listen to😊
In Todays World Beautiful Ladies Always Look For A Life Partner Who Has Big Wallet So That She Can Enjoy Luxurious Life After Marriage.That Is Why Dowry System Still Exists.
Sure! It isn't, rather it helps you know what you don't want. However, the problem with current hookup culture is essentially that the two people are most likely to not be on the same page. It is extremely difficult to establish respectful communication especially around the boundaries and expectations.
Ye kya ho gaya hai samaj ke berojjgaar ya useless faltu content creators ko har koi laundiabaazi ko relationship ka naam dekar discuss kar rahe hai Yaha dekho ye dono Nibbiyan bhi yahi kar Rahi hai 30+ ki ho gayi hai iske baad bhi laundiyaa baazi nhi ja rahi hai.
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So informative. Love the attachment styles especially. Really really good information!
So comprehensive! ❤️
Sooo good @karishmamehta3337 & HOB ❤
The only thing I would like to say- it goes both ways. You can't expect ANYTHING that you're not ready to give
Men think that they shouldn't get into a relationship if they're not financially stable because 'RESEARCH' says that women leave struggling men.
Not true for all women…I was with a struggling man,still I am…now he has become a little bit of successful…I would be with him throughout his each and every journey….m not talking about only me…I agree that some of them are gold diggers but not all…if they truly love someone,they cannot leave those struggling boys…struggle ek common phrase hain,it prevails in each and everybody’s life..
@@prarthanapathak8100same we started with nothing.Never had fights about financial issues.
@@prarthanapathak8100 you're exception. Most woman not like the struggle. They're papa ki Pari.
yeh sach aise nahi bolna tha@@bonniewright1103
I was watching this but as soon as she said that men do this, I stopped watching it. She don't even know reality, In todays world its mostly mens who gets cheated. Saying from personal experience as well
I really appreciate the work done by Humans of Bombay and while I really liked this conversation, I think that the explanation of attachment styles is quite reductive. It is A- not secure, avoidant and anxious. Attachment styles fall under the broad categories of secure and insecure and then insecure attachment consists of avoidant, anxious and disorganised attachment. B- There are several models that define attachment under which you can look at attachment from a dynamic and a categorical perspective, however, Ekta completely convoluted the point here. I am pointing this out because she mentioned research quite a few times. C- It is high time, we take the onus away from the mother in fundamentals of attachment and instead put it on both primary caregivers, which includes same sex parent, fathers etc. It is not fair to quote mother as an example every time we are talking about attachment because research shows attachment also stems from father being distant or proximal as well. I understand that you are trying to communicate complex ideas to a broad audience, but I do feel that our facts need to be right and well-informed otherwise this can very easily go into mis-information.
Manual to complicate simple things ,nothing personal 😊
At least introduce the guest first. I had to go search in the description to find out who Ekta is.
Karishma's voice is so soothing I can listen to her speak all day ❤
Highly cultured lady is she
Loved how she decoded ghosting & attachment styles! So informative 🙌🏻
Wow...Just wow conversation
I learned alot!!
Thankyou guys!
Most of her relationship understanding/ advice is only applicable to urban youth / genz. Not for old school millennials who want to get married or are looking for a serious relationship. More like catering to teenagers / college audience.
agree being a millennial
I Agree being a millineal
Very insightful conversation specially types of attachment
Many people needs to understand this... I'm tired of dating the avoidantly attached persons who don't understand what's wrong with them
You said men are not ready when they are not financially stable. Tell me how many girls are ready to be with a guy who is financially unstable but a great guy? The society's pressure is on men right? Would like the the guest to answer these questions too.
Very very true 👍
I don't think so because unemployment is uncertain. This can happen after you get married too. There are some girls who are ready to commit and do not care about the financial status of a guy. If they both want, they can build their empire from scratch and I think we all should normalize this.
@@rahartistic7653 are u one of those girls of whom u takking about ??
@@Rehamkarmuzpemaavaishnodevi of course. My partner is still growing and we are there for each other in every step.
@@rahartistic7653 bhn shaadi hoe jab ke lie rakh ye que , gf bf tk sab chlta hai , even my gf wanted to marry me even when I was unemployed at that time so I agree this type of girls exist but very rare
Great podcast....
Learnt many things...
Thanku 😊✨...
Love this thank you for breaking love down! ❤
Came here for the thumbnail only: Bunny wasn't a red flag because he didn't know himself or got into casual hookups (everyone is not self aware and perfectly put together and serious from the get go, and they don't have to be!), but he WAS a red flag because he was extremely self involved. He was an absolute dick to Avi, even after coming back. If exploring the world was Bunny's "growing up phase", coming back to India wasn't his "mature phase" which should have been. Insulting his friend while knowing absolutely nothing, and not even being genuinely interested in what's up with him, or Aditi for that matter. Even his confession to Naina was all about himself - I want this, I felt this, bas ho gaya. He's not a bad person, but as a friend or a partner he's awful. These kind of people are so much better off alone, and I don't say this unkindly. Not everyone is made for relationships.
IMO Naina loved Bunny because Bunny loved himself, unlike Naina who hadn't yet learned to love herself. He was confident, passionate about his dreams, and those are really good qualities in a person.
dear host , its really appreciable , if your facial expressions could appear more welcoming in return to her perspective statements in some cases , no offense but felt like it should reach you , take care , thanks for this episode !
Women don't want his money. She wants him for the way he makes her feel. She wants him to have an interactional(communication) intelligence grasp, creativity in using words , always responding to the ways she wants him to , and we can say she wants someone customized, irrespective of his family archetype, background, job he is doing, boss he is working under, past traumas. She will analyze him on the basis of parameters she has set after watching 100s of web series, completing 100s of novels , and she will not merely love him only because he is putting efforts and really wants her to accept his proposal. We men are told to be practical and logical to fulfill our social responsibilities, but We men are able to figure out these whole concepts after we go through that phase. Girls test us through number of p
31:00 Loved this part!
Nice epsiode. Karishma always asks the right questions! Loved this
Absolutely! Thank you for watching! ❤️
I learnt about the attachment styles . Cause I was very curious on why things were not working.
I told him that this is the reason as to why we are fighting a lot.
I talked to him about it. I talked about our attachment styles.
He learnt about them and went back to square 1.
So yeah. It’s really going to be hard for a person who has anxious attachment. Cause the other person doesn’t care. No matter what you do.
Anxious attachment style should face their fears of being left alone, or the fear of cheating, or whatever insecurity. Cause no matter how much you want to work upon your relationship if the avoidant person has zero intention or is too scared to work on it. Then u better leave the connection.
Great conversation, touched the root of problems and complications genz go through today. Described what love is a very apt way. Enjoyed watching it.
Oh, Shabash from USA! What a great video! Thank you for creating it! These are American issues and opportunities too. Dhanyawad. Hushes Ahe Retu and your guest is wonderful too!
ohh godddd such an amazing podcast!
Ekta dixit❤💯
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relationships helps to grow in career
I agree. My situationshipa gave me enough validation to grow
Great podcast anyways! much needed.
Thank you! ❤️
Ahh finally someone's explaining stuff
We’re glad it helped! ❤️
I like Kari....she is sooo cute so beautiful....her smile nd voice is really amazing ❤️🥰😍😊
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This type of things is just for rich people. Not for all Gen z.😂
This comparison doesnt make sense
8:00 Hypergamy
16:22 Men
Relationship & Marriage is when you Find "Compatible-Matching-Understanding-LIFE-PARTNER ( Mentally, "Physically", Financially ) INSTINCTIVELY...
Otherwise it is just a Show-Off of "Adjustment-Contract with your STATUS-SYMBOL-PARTNER Only till Attraction Lasts".....
People 🔎 search right one but don't b right one that's shocking
Wht r u searching for ?
@@itsU017 I don't search just be right one care support love respect give don't search
@@SUNNY-o7p9l Charan kha h Devi ji aapke
This is gold .. the pay it in every school
I don't want to please someone to be loved ❤
Wow my dream episode
We’re glad! 😁❤️
*There is a famous saying,”Divorce starts in Bedroom and ends in Courtroom”.* ❤fy
It was really good podcast ❤
Informative!
To both lovely humans, Hey Hi... and Thanks...
I feel sometimes the fillers and acknowledgement used by Karishma Mehta is appropriate for the topic
(Seductive tone followed by charming voice to grab the attention of the listeners)
Karishma M ✨💯🥇☀️🌟⭐🇮🇳
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Harsh Truth is ...
Women's value peak at the age of 26-27 and thats is when they want to settle down with older matured men and also for men, women are visual creature first and then rest.
In case of Man, the value starts increasing after the age of 28-29 so they delay their marriage till they are doing well financially and matured in career , women look for security in man be it emotional and financial first and then rest.
Madamji hum bharat ke rehne wale hai kya aap bata sakate ho ki AAP sabhi podcasts English language me hi karoge.aapki taraf se hame bohot knowledge milta hai plz aapse nivedan hai aap sabhi podcasts Hindi language me hi kare.
Hindi is not my lingo but im indian
Hindi toh hamlogi ka national language hai bhi nahi💀
Helpful ❤
Loved the episode ♥️
15:15 So true!
Green flags are all exists in karan johar movies.bunnys happiness was in pursuing his passion which is more real character trait.
Loved it!!
16:49 😂😂😂😂😂
Very informative.
Thank you Humans of Bombay 😊
I like episode but I think just terming everything in a kind of lable is not good because i think after being familiar with all these terms will lead to choose people fixed path based on flags like red green pink which i dont think is good idea , if one think to go in certain way with his brain but by seeing only different kind of flag just turn back , i dont think is good idea , and also then people will have fixed behaviour . And also everyone not every genz is same or have same kind of actions n not necessarily every mellennial is always right...
How to find out what are my non negotiables? What are the questions to ask from my own self that what I want in a person?
Your non-negotiables should be things like respect, boundaries, morals, values ,etc.
Soo many flags, soo many attachment styles. Frist I feel this makes our emotions more complicated and more caged in these terminologies.
Why have so many flags just to describe someone ? Humans are way too complex. This podcast was very informative but so many views on do this in relationship do that in relationship i mean give a breather.
Agreed there are few people who are walking red signals and some are walking green forest but at the same time I have seen in my life many people who were green flags to some of their partners while red to others.
So we can't just compartmentalise everyone.
And lastly not just GenZ's but I have seen people from any generation who are serial cheaters.
GenZ's just have way more ways of expression and mediums to do so
But despite my critical views this podcast was good to listen to😊
There are many fishes in the pond....keep dating couple of people until u find the right one.
New Indian woman
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@@mohitanand1844 Kyu bhai machli Khali ladke hi uthate hai kya? Sahi toh boli ladki..ap thoda modern ban jao..
@@parnalidas0kha machli tutha thi he ladki mene toh aaz tak nhi dekha 😂
Then the girl need to have surgery for her innocent husband 😅
i love it i love watching your podcast 😍
Thank you so much for watching! Hope you have subscribed! 🙏🏻❤️
yesss i do@@humansofbombay2801
shed did not talk about fearful avoidant
Even the millenials not just the GenZ
Please Invite Sandeep Maheswari Sir.. Please Ma'am
We definitely will! 🙏🏻❤️
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Thank you ma'am... One more request, Divya Dutta ma'am also...
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Didn't made justice to Title of episode😅
Heyy! When are you going to release the episode with Avinash tiwary , it's been more than a month.
Soon! ❤️
Everything is non negotiable withvwomen except money n her ego...total gynocentric shit talk
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Someone plz call ekta dixit's bf to any of the shows
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90percent rubbish 10 percent knowledge
host is so cringe and disguisting
Yes, She is
In Todays World Beautiful Ladies Always Look For A Life Partner Who Has Big Wallet So That She Can Enjoy Luxurious Life After Marriage.That Is Why Dowry System Still Exists.
yeh log discuss karte hi rah jayenge shaadi kabhi nhi ho payegi
Both have each other though 😂
Ye Ekta naam ki ladkiyon ko relationship mein kya dilcaspi hai bhai Pehle Kapoor ab Dixit inko aur koi jindagi me kaam nhi hai kya
Casual hookup is not bad either.
Sure! It isn't, rather it helps you know what you don't want. However, the problem with current hookup culture is essentially that the two people are most likely to not be on the same page. It is extremely difficult to establish respectful communication especially around the boundaries and expectations.
What's orange flag?
Ye kya ho gaya hai samaj ke berojjgaar ya useless faltu content creators ko har koi laundiabaazi ko relationship ka naam dekar discuss kar rahe hai Yaha dekho ye dono Nibbiyan bhi yahi kar Rahi hai 30+ ki ho gayi hai iske baad bhi laundiyaa baazi nhi ja rahi hai.
Non sense
Bhai is relationship expert ka khud ka koi successful relationship nahi hoga aur dusro ko batati hai apna beda garak dusro ka bhi acha tarika hai paisa kamane ka
So informative. Love the attachment styles especially. Really really good information!
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