“The Crushing Stress of Living as an Alcoholic”
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- As a Former Heavy Drinker & Subsequent Alcoholism My Life Was Hampered by The Curse of Alcohol
It Was a Very Stressful Time of my Life & My World Was Swallowed by Alcohol.
Being an Alcoholic is an Extremely Stressful & Destructive Way of Life
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Pushing hard now to stop. I wouldn’t class myself as a clinical alcoholic but I’m definitely a problem drinker and I tend to binge a bit too often.
Your videos have been a great help, thank you Sir.
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Now is the time to knock this on the head. It’s great that you have identified where you are on the scale of addiction. It takes no time at all to graduate from sub clinical to full blown addiction. Please dont wait, do absolutely everything in your power to give up. The sober life has so much joy and peace then I ever four in the bottom of a bottle. Much love and light ❤
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I shall never forget the darkness of Monday mornings, my alarm clock going off 5:00am after a feverish and sleepless night. Some mornings I'd still be slightly drunk as well as tired and hungover. Laying alone and despondent, agonzing as to whether to throw another sicky - knowing how suspicious it would look. The anxiety and paranoia all the way to work, feeling sweaty and nauseous and strangely detached from the outside world, and wondering whether colleagues would notice anything amiss when I arrived at the office. Replaying the conversations I'd had in the pub the day before, and sometimes finding names and number written down on scraps of paper in my pockets that meant nothing to me. Desperately trying to sleep on the train, but heart thumping like a broken clock.
I haven't been in a pub since 2020, and am still amazed at how easy Monday mornings are now. Enjoyable, even. Sometimes I go for an early-morning run, and afterwards reflect on those dark Mondays of yore. Freeing myself from the tyranny of booze was absolutely the best thing I ever did; I'd recommend it to anybody.
@@benholmes1608Best decision ever to get free of Alcohol ❤️
Hi mate. I tried to work out how much I spent when boozing. I tried to estimate not only the costs of the drink but also the add ons like eating out, taxis, paying for others, tipping etc.
Probably about £20 a day
After a year I realised I’d underestimated this. Should have been about £30 a day!
570 days booze free and I’m two months away from having zero debt and I’m going to save save save!
@@ukraine7249 Amazing…soon adds up ..please subscribe And share the channel to help spread the word 👍
Best channel on TH-cam,you can keep people gripped when telling a story,cheers Steve
@@globalital Thank you so much…You have no idea how much this means to me ❤️
I drank beacuse of anxiety but it only leads to more anxiety.
Me too mate 👍
Yes the medicine becomes the enemy. We drank because we were anxious and the remedy became the tormentor.
the problem and the solution...
What makes you bad, makes you better .
Self medicating to find some calmness with the same substance that’s got you in this state in first place.
It goes on and on and on.
It’s horrendous
Being a quiet, fairly introverted 18 year old going into banking, the drinking culture within the working environment in the 90s (working lunch, drink after work) seemed to help me "come out of my shell" and be have confidence to socialise with colleagues....it worked...or so I thought. By 23 I was a bank manager, married, daughter, nice house, perfect life...... gradually the alcohol caused more problems than it "fixed". I drank more to help the stress, started hiding it and spiralled in losing job, wife and home and ending up in a secure locked NHS ward. I lost everything. 7 years sober, I have now been able to rebuild my life and work as a mentor for the NHS, supporting individuals through their own lived experience of mental health problems and addiction. I never take a day for granted.❤
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Well said steven I've had a bad year on the beer and I've noticed it get worse. I've listened to the videos and u hit the nail on the head everytime. I'm now off it and have been for 6 weeks and feel my old self. Thanks to u is that. I will have a pint again but never go back to every day again. Thanks
Well done for being off it for six weeks. You can do this. 🎉❤
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Nailed it. It is indeed a full time job in so many ways and none of it is fun, especially when you realize you are addicted. How to get out of it?
The thing with alcohol as we know is this: there is a short term alleviation of stress, but it comes back around when the booze wears off. So this is a classic example of a vicious circle ⭕️ because you’re chasing your tail and meantime the alcohol is causing more damage to your mind and body.
Then you have the problem (too often forgotten) where it’s actually dangerous to stop.
This is a confusing and dangerous setup and you can see how people end up in very bad places.
Anyway Happy Thanksgiving to all 🙏
@@quantum5652 Thank you for your insightful message …Happy thanksgiving to you ❤️
If we had guests due for dinner I would always pour vodka into a 2L bottle of coke, hidden in the bedroom, from where I used to fill up my glass because I didnt want to share it. That was MY fix for the night. It was always a big mission to arrange all of this without anyone seeing. Plus making sure the straight coke was available downstairs for guests, and not mix up my loaded bottle with the straight bottles. Then the following day work out a strategy for getting rid of all the empties. Bloody hard work
I can relate to the planning and scheming!! If we could put as much thought and energy into solving world problems as we do to managing our addiction, there would be peace on earth in ten minutes. Oh just the thought of going back to those days of chaos and deceit is both exhausting and terrifying. Sobriety is SO worth it. 😊
It is such hard work..Alcoholism is 24:7
100% hard work plus overtime 👍
@@stevencurry215yep slave labour and the boss is an absolute bastard 😂
We all seemed to think we're in control at the time which we know now is utter nonsense.!!..stress and anxiety rules your life and its bloody awful existence. So glad we all in a better place now. Your stories of these horrors steve are life changing mate..God bless ❤
Thank you Gary .we are doing well helping each other 👍
Some really good people on here Steve either clean or struggling a bit. But your truth and honesty shines thru to us all and I know your doing a fantastic job.👍
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I’m a recently retired first responder, and I drank seven days a week, just to deal with the stress of my job. I drank after work just to shut my brain off, but on the weekends I would get hammered just to forget the week. Now I struggle to process 29 years of service 24 hours at a time. And most days I lose to alcohol….
It’s exhausting!
Hi Albert I know how you are feel .. life was such a struggle with Alcohol in the mix ..
If I can get off it you can
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You’re a wonderful man, I went through exactly what you did, thankfully I’m off it 14 years ❤️
@@Kevin-lo1leThank you Kevin for your kind words….14 years is amazing..
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@ I certainly will and again you are a kind sweet caring man, you are helping so many people to get out of hell , only people like you and me understand the nightmare we were in , I was so bad I couldn’t even commit suicide, love your channel and again, thank you 🙏 ☘️🇮🇪
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Yes Steve, this is exactly how it all unfolds. Though not an alcoholic, I was a stage 2 into 3 drinker, with several near miss bad situations I got into, narrowly avoiding job loss, arrest, serious injury to me or others and maybe worse. Over the years I've done a couple of years here and there off the drink. I'm now 100% finished, coming up to 2 years off. The difference in the quality of life and health is massive. I've been in pubs and just have soft drinks or zero%. Today I have plans to go to a local cozy winter pub. I have no worries and know I won't drink. As an aside I listened to a radio debate about the demise of pubs and no-one mentioned the harm alcohol causes. It was all about the cozy community centres pubs were/are. Thanks for your videos Steve, they strengthen my already firm resolve to never drink. And whilst your helping others I hope you're getting the help and support that you will need.
Hi thank you for sharing your experiences…so pleased you have been off it for 2 years..it controls every aspect of our lives …
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Hi Steve, The next day was definitely the worst for me, panicky, worrying & generally feeling full of anxiety. It did ease a bit after a few early drinks. Great video again, and I hope you're well 👍
Hi Chris ..one of the major issues with Alcohol & most people mention it is Anxiety..👍
New subscriber looking forward to watching your videos as a recovering alcoholic all my life (sober 6 months one day at a time) im now in a good place good days bad days that is to be expected all about learning to stay sober and of course WILLPOWER ..everything your saying is very TRUE ❤❤
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Great message today Steven, thank you. Today is Thanksgiving in the USA. I remember getting so drunk the night before Thanksgiving that i was so sick during Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is for many US workers a 4 day long weekend. I would drink non stop all 4 days. When it was time to go back to work the following Monday, i was a total mess. Shaking, pale, bloated, not thinking clearly. Today on this Thanksgiving, I'm living sober and i have been productive today. You have the most important channel on TH-cam because your awesome channel saves lives ❤
@@honestmicky Happy thanksgiving to you too…I bet it was hard to return to work after 4 days heavy drinking 👍
When you’re drunk, you don’t know how you behave or act. If someone filmed you, it would be a massive shock, but thankfully it never happened to me. I remember one time I volunteered to drive. It was interesting watching everyone get slowly inebriated while I was on my water and completely sober.
@@Hedgehogsinthemist123 Good point …now I’m sober it’s an eye opener watching others drinking 👍
The root cause of my addiction was anxiety going right back to my childhood, if you can identify the root cause you stand a much better chance of recovery.
My GP was fantastic but that was back in the day when doctors had more time for face to face appointments.
Hi Mick ..I think a lot of us drank out of anxiety…the Drs had much more time back in the day
Heal the inner child and the rest takes care of itself. My root cause is in childhood trauma, as is the case for so many of us. We carry the trauma in the body, usually showing up as anxiety, depression etc. My quest is to make peace with my past and free up my present and future. Onwards and upwards but only after glancing in the rear view mirror and making sure that the child is now safe and whole. ❤️
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Great seeing your channel continuing to grow mate, one of the most inspiring and relatable pages going 👏
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my anxiety could be termed 'a sense of impending doom', I was a terrible drink driver, might come home after drinking a bit at a function and keeping it together , just, I would leave early so I could drink at home like I preferred, however after a few hours the mad part in me would crave action, so I might go out again, often in a black out. I knew it was one mistake away from killing someone or injuring myself , I feared police, losing my flat, my pets, my job , in fact I was terrified of most things. I was terrified of who I had become, I saw myself as a 'happy hippy', in reality a snarling, drooling, angry unpredictable violent bully. Thats not who my parents taught me to be. Nowadys (11years sober), I am the happy hippy, I don't suffer anxiety now.
That feeling of impending doom is just horrendous. Your story resonates so much with my own. Sober for three years now and have finally found my Nirvana. Simplicity, gratitude and peace!! Love and light ❤️🙏
Impending doom is the best description I Have heard I will do a video on that ❤️
100% Impending doom
Brilliant description ❤️
@@magicalgirl1960 people talk about how hard life would be without the booze ... pffffftt I say, you and me know.. an alcoholic life is sheer living hell, I love being sober !
Thanks so much for sharing your content! I have to say, this episode really speaks to me. I don't experience hangovers in the usual sense, but the anxiety and apathy are really taking a toll. I did "sober October" and found my mental state and productivity improved dramatically. Why do we do this to ourselves? I know I'll get there, though. I feel another break is soon due for me.
@@casesean Hi ..Alcohol is a highly addictive drug…so we find it hard to stop
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Can totally relate to everything u said mate…. Keep ur head up…. Johnny from Australia 😊
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Only just found ur channel mate I nearly died with liver failure nearly 2 years ago they thought I was dead so can totally relate to u o was having to learn to walk again and could not get out of bed without assistance…. Shat myself in hospital was so embarrassing the worst was the pain I caused my mum and dad and sisters…. I’ve had a relapse and am so disappointed in myself not that I worry about myself just my family…. I was so good at hiding liquor all around the house even bury vodka in the garden and electricity meter but yeah getting rid of the evidence and the lies u had to tell was the hardest sorry to rant on and bother u but please keep ur content up it’s starting to heal me someone I can relate to and speaks honestly…. God bless u bro ❤
Thanks Steven
@@sarahlaver-holland9931 Welcome Sarah 👍
I'm ashamed to admit it but I used to buy real beer and non-alcoholic beer from the shop, then outside the front door pour away the zero alcohol beer, decant the real beer into the non-alcoholic bottles and throw away the empty real beer bottles in the street wastebin. Then it appeared to my wife I was drinking non-alcoholic beer.
Being an alcoholic turned me into an appalling liar. I've been working hard to rebuild the trust since jacking it in. I'm glad it's behind me.
I would hide bottles of wine under my bed… I couldn’t put them in the bin because I was meant to be “sober” so would down a bottle of wine then drink a few coffees to “sober” up.. the insanity… and then the piles of wine bottles under my bed… anytime I had on my own.. I couldn’t wait to get to the drink… my life revolved around it and I wasn’t fooling anyone.. let alone myself.. horrible addiction. Thanks Steve. ❤🎉
We were master magicians. My bag of “magic tricks” to cover up the reality of my drinking was huge. Bloody hell, it got so heavy that I could barely carry it around. Being sober has freed so much space in my head to deal with life on life’s terms and in fact rejoice in being able to problem solve as opposed to creating problems.
Hi it’s a familiar story ..we really do mess things up when we drink …it’s chaotic
Hope you’re well ❤️
Absolutely, this disease doesn't discriminate, doesn't care who you are, what you do , or how rich or poor you are.. it will take everything you hold dear, then come back for you.. it's brutal.
@@alanthompson2313 Thanks Alan….powerful message 👍
God yea, hair o the dog.. once after a wedding here in Ireland, drinking carlsberg 🤢 worst beer ever. However, I used to be a regular drinker in S. Africa in my 20's and enjoyed the beer more. Warmer climates are much easier to down the beer.. this year in Spain, I lost my phone, or was it stolen? I can't tell because I was drinking, so really in all countries, the beer made me over do it, but never to the extent that Covid did. I was drinking 3/4 bottle of whiskey every day or so.. that's the worst I've been 🙂↔️ covid must've been rough for many with the booze
@@danzolion8758 Hi …the whiskey…a lot of spirit …agreed re COVID,…it was definitely a difficult period for a lot of people 👍
Very true Steven,well said. Awesome video as always 👍❤️ lee
Glad you enjoyed it 💪
Thank you for your loyal support ❤️
@@stevencurry215 no worries my man,you are helping me more than anything just being able to listen to people with the same problem is very helpful to me 👍👍❤️
@@stevencurry215 I’m still up for a meet up Steven I just don’t no how to give you my details privately I don’t mind giving them to you but Obviously I don’t want to put them on here x👍
@@TR1L.16my son has this quote “I am not a lonely man, I have found my clan”. The kinship of a group like this means so much to recovering addicts. Being able to share with folk who really get it is powerful medicine. ❤️
Two weeks ago, I believe, you had just over 6.2 K subs. Now you have 7+ subs. Remember what I said. Even though we are separated by distance, we still have one thing that draws us together. 💪
Yes I recall that ..it’s incredible how quickly this community has grown..I am humbled by the amazing support 👍❤️
@@stevencurry215 We are all in this together no matter which stage of recovery we at.
I drank at home in the evenings because I was so bored. Now I go out to exercise in the evenings and come home an asleep by 10pm. Now I am £400 a month better off, thinner and fitter.
Still miss beer with all my heart, so never let your guard down people.
@@lrdisco2005 well said “Never let your guard slip “
@@lrdisco2005 Big saving
Shouldn't laugh but oh what we drinkers do / did 😂 I used to do the same with low alcohol wine, drink it then fill up with the strong stuff
😂 I think it’s okay to have a bit of a laugh about some of our antics. In hindsight they are pretty ingenious. Humour is a great healer. ❤
We had a crazy life didn’t we ?..😆❤️
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@@stevencurry215you wouldn’t read about it! Truth I stranger than fiction 😅
@@georgiahumphreys3881 I kept my special brew in the fridge which my partner obviously knew about but I kept a half bottle of whisky in the toilet cistern, got found out eventually when the handle got stuck 🚽 🙈
awesome
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You would deny it buy your family are no fools they knew if you were drunk i would drink 9pints and then i would bring cans home with you i would drink 8 cans the 9 pints would not be enough in the pub i would get more drunk at home and make a fool of myself im heading into my 4th weekend in a row with out tohching a drink its 4 weeks also that i havent touched a can of beer.I will probably get a few cans of the 0.0 cans of guinness im used to not having a drink and do you know something steven i dont miss the drink i thought i might but i dont i feel great im sleeping well and eating healthly i fell fresh no more hangovers which is great and id say my liver has healed since i stopped drinking.Well done steven on giving up the drink keep it up dont ever relapse your better off the drink.I heard a sad story to day here in ireland i think it was in cork this is a horrific story a woman killed her best freind she was drink driving she had 12 alcoholic drinks one day at the begining of this year and i think her freind was either in the car with her or she was in her own car when she lost control of her car and drove into her freinds car her freind died 2 days later in hospital and there was an inquest where it was discovered she was 2 times over the limit when she crashed into her freind.The freinds said in the victim statement that it was her own choice to drink and drive and i agree with them 100 percent.Drink drivers are selfish i hate drink drivers her poor freind my heart goes out to her kids family and freinds may she rip.There should be tougher penelties on drink drivers throwing the book at them like the juge does heere in ireland is not enough they should be made an example of and get a severe jail sentence And named and shamed.
Hi thank you for this ..it’s frightening the numbers of people injured or killed by drink drivers 👍
Drink kills the future, literally. Its just one drink to the next, whether thats every 5 minutes, every day or every week, it just kills off all ambition.
I notice when im sober that idea's come back and over time dreams build (or just getting your shite together), you can see into the future and walk into it.
Well said Mike ..Alcohol takes over & ambitions dissolve
Hope you are well
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Hair of the dog= Alcoholic
@@mackfin8869 100% agreed without question 👍
We drink, purely to make things less boring. The problem is it's a poison. Obviously, it's not something you want to drink, but we do. Life is tough. Alcohol never helps.
Agreed …short term gain… long term pain ..not good
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My biggest stress when I was in the Madness was will I run out of Booze ? Where can I get some from if I do , Todays biggest stress is do I have enough Ciggies same diference when you are in a Addiction
Hi my anxiety was through the roof when I worried about running out of drink ..
It took me years and serious illness until i finally stopped
Good luck with the cigarettes
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HOW DID YOU STOP 🤔👍
I was hospitalised..and was told in 2019 that if I drank again I would be dead in 6 months..kind of my last chance 👍
@stevencurry215 So how did you go about stopping drinking, meaning like something to replace it with something else ? to get you off it ? 👍
7pounds 50 that's ok😅
@@alanbell1821 😊 hi how’s you ?
Working in bars, restaurants and kitchens for year now - extremely stressful work. I’d find myself drinking up to 9 beers every night after work, just to calm myself down after a hectic night. The hangovers were starting to get unbearable, so I i’ve managed to cut down for drinking 7 times a week, to twice on my days off - would like to eventually cut down to just beers once a week. Seems like a big achievement, as i’ve been drinking like this for a good 13 years, though i’ve never felt dependent on, like the need to drink first thing in the morning etc. I think moderation is good, if possible
Hi thank you for sharing this ..Working in bars etc got to be tempted to drink.. I know a few landlords of pubs who drink very heavily..
Moderation is indeed the only way
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