Rejected from housing because of my disabilities (& BOOK HAUL)

Hi friends!
This video is another sit down chat/life update (and also a lovely book haul!). I wanted to share honestly with you about how my process of looking for a home is going, and about some recent revelations regarding the UK housing system and the discrimination I've experienced as a disabled person. I hope that this will feel validating to other folks who might be experiencing a similar thing.
Also, we delve into a good few books I've purchased recently and some I've already read! So get yourself cosy and enjoy this combo video!
Big love 🧡
Max x
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[@maybreathingstone]

This housing story breaks my heart because I know what it feels like and it's so fricking unfair.
A couple years ago I had the hardest time finding a long-term housing place. Without even being diagnosed yet (I'm in the process at the moment), I was far from fulfilling what the society expects from a grown up adult and was integrally relying on my parents and the government's financial help - I live in France, by the way.
To put it shortly, I was an underdog.
The thing is, because of my specificities, I can't just live anywhere. I can barely live with another person (even with one of my parents) because I need my personal space to be completely shielded from any social stimulations. I also need a very calm, peaceful environment, at least one room with no window so I can be in the dark if necessary, and above all, no f*cking cigarette smoke must ever enter my place. Turns out these conditions are not so common to find in a low-budget city flat.
And, as a (probably) autistic person, my home is a VERY important part of my life, which means I can only be ok if I can feel at home where I live.
Before I finally found my current flat, which was literally heaven-sent, I had to move from a place that I liked but where a gigantic construction work had started right below my windows, to another that I rented without a legal contract because it was all I could find, which led to a lot of issues with the landlords that caused me much anxiety and significantly impacted my mental health.
I remember just how hurtful it was to realize that, when I was in a position where I clearly needed understanding and support considering that I was very isolated and quite severely depressed, the only thing people seemed to care about was if I was going to be able to pay the rent, when they themselves were not even in need.
I'm fine now and I live in this lovely little flat where I feel like I belong. Found it with my mum's help via an estate agency whose ruler has an interest in spirituality and an uncommonly open mind.
I think the turning point that allowed my situation to shift was an epiphany I had about myself. I'd always had this feeling of illegitimacy about existing, like I was a useless alien that had ended up on Earth by mistake. Like I myself was a mistake. Then somehow I realized this crazy world needs whatever I'm bringing to the table. I needs my vibe, my color. I'm not just a burden, I'm here to help reestablish some kind of balance in the global energy of this place. I know it sounds quite abstract but the feeling itself was very clear.
I found that belonging feeling inside of me - then I found my home.
There's still some money involved obviously, it's not all just cupcakes and rainbows. Yet I think this self-worth realization thing is an important clue to exit the maze. So I'm sharing this whole story hoping it will inspire you.

[@pjsandpages92]

I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time finding a house! It’s not fair at all!
I read The Cloisters a while back when it was first published and loved it! Hope you enjoy it as I did.

[@its.maxday]

My fingers are crossed that the right place will come along at the right time.
Yes oh my gosh I enjoyed the Cloisters so much!