I love the “are you refusing to do work right now?”. I tried this with a smirk in an exaggerated sarcastic tone to one of my tough kids. The whole class got quiet and the tough kid said “refusing is a crazy accusation mister” rest of the class he was focused. I have no idea how this worked 😂
I'm in my second year of teaching and the "are you refusing" question is still yet to let me down. Thanks for sharing all that you've figured out over your years of teaching - it's especially helpful for us newbies!
I realise that I am always so close to these techniques, but falling so short next to it. Thanks for laying this out. It makes a lot of sense. Even the "how to talk to parents" part, because I am always so stressed about that part.
This is the exact video I was looking for today! I watched it over the summer but needed to review your "talk in the hallway" as I'm finding that I need it lately. Thank you so much for posting all of these tips!!
I am a special ed teacher in Philly and my students come from various situations and housing. I push-in to classrooms. The second grade class I push in to has a teacher that makes a huge deal about calling home in front of the entire class and then calls the parent and tells them exactly what is going on and ends with if the behavior does not stop then I am going to have to ask you to come and sit in the class with your child. I agree with you, this is embarrassing and does not work. My school uses an app for behavior support and has a team that will be alerted and come and remove the student. The problem is that the their consequences never align with what happened in my classroom. A common consequence is always taking away recess. Students need that time to get their energy out to prevent these behaviors from happening. I love all of these ideas that you shared and would like to be more conscious on how I speak to my students and try to implement some of these ideas. Being that I teach special ed, I have some students with behaviors that happen constantly and it is hard to not get frustrated in the moment and react in a way that I should not. One question, how do you deal with the student that acts confused with you ask them to stop doing something? They play dumb and pretend they have no idea what you are talking about.
Reynolds this sprinkling of magic has been such a game changer. It really does change the gambit of the relationships I have with my students. It's de-escalating the situation and just letting the students know that you're discussing the behavior and not outing them as a person. I think you use this phrase in one of your previous videos that I've fostered in my own practice, "You're not bad (addressing the student), but I am not happy with your actions." Being clear with the students and knowing that their actions are separate from how we view them as people is crucial. As always, thank you for what you do!
Mr. Reynolds I love how you act out many different scenarios because we all know this can play out in all kinds of ways. I can tell you I’ve already tried it and it worked beautifully. Curiosity and empathy ruled the rule breaker!
I take things way too personally. I know I do it, and I do my best to catch it in the moment. This sort of script gives me a pathway to success, I think. And thanks for advice on how to approach phone calls
Thank you for putting together this video. I will be playing it back often. I’m almost done with my 7th year and I most definitely had to grow in not taking things personally. It took years; however, for those occurrences that are just awful, it does take me 3 - 24 hours to stop taking an incident personally.
Taking a team approach usually works best. Although I have called home in the middle of class during independent work and saw almost immediate improvement for most kids the few times I've strategically done it.
I have had several students refuse to talk to me in the hall. I feel like it helps when I take a second to get my energy back down so I can ask more casually.
I've hesitated to take a student out because then the rest of the class has nothing to do and they sometimes start to act out. Also, how to juggle this and not have the lesson constantly interrupted?
I do love this, Mr. Reynolds. I think your first bit is great for teachers who have students in the classroom for longer periods of time. Great for relationship building and most teachers in standard classroom settings. For smaller classes of about 10, under 30 minutes, a language barrier, and a boss who doesn’t allow you to talk to parents… what might you recommend?
This video is really helpful! I just had one question. What would you do if your school started to enforce a "students are not allowed to eat in class" rule and you have a student who comes in and starts eating? I tried to talk to one of my students but it became a power struggle and somehow made me feel like I was being silly for asking them to stop eating in class even though that previous period was lunch for all students in all grade levels
Im having trouble with 4 students I separate them, they continue to shout across the room they cannot stay still I’ve been listening to all your videos and I’m frustrated with them. I need help and it’s only the first week. So far I contacted parents
I’m confused because I saw another video you had with 5 ways of classroom management and one was to act like you were calling home either with a problem in class or something to brag on a student. I teach 2nd grade and so far nothing I have done keeps this class from constantly talking out very loudly. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Great Video! I'm in my third year teaching elementary in China. I've had one on one discussions with my kids, but I don't know how these strategies would work with students who are low level ESL. They sound great in an educational environment where all parties speak the same language, but how would this work with students who cannot speak the target language (and you cannot speak their native language)? Would a translator help? A bilingual teacher? Do I have to learn Chinese really fast?
I think you could learn simple directional language or body language like “sit down” “be quite”. Also, in China, there is one main teacher 班主任 that works with kids most of the time. Talking to that person could definitely readdress norms if it’s out of control.
I feel like I'm close to this, but do you have any suggestions for remembering this in the moment that it's happening. Like students, it can be hard to change some habits. Although I never yell or anything like that, I keep my cool, but I feel like you have a much better progression here. My only thought it is, watch it again and again, then make a note card to have up by me when I teach (I really only have this issue in one class) and refer to it. Maybe? Anyone have any other ideas?
It might also be useful to practice on your own out loud. Imagine a scenario and act it through. You could try role playing with another teacher, friend, or family member or even totally by yourself. That way you “get the words in your mouth” so to speak and it may become easier to remember and feel more confident in the moment. You could also try posting a key word or phrase somewhere in your classroom to trigger your memory of how you want (or don’t want) to handle a situation. For example, I’m not always great about just continuing on with a lesson, so I might put up a reminder for myself “no power struggles” or “just move on.” I also like “What would Reynolds do?” 😁 Whatever is meaningful to you.
Thanks for asking this. I should have put it in the video. I do one of two things. 1. They continue doing the work they were doing. 2. If you have a class that can handle it you ask them to just chill for a moment. Remember that you are not stopping your lesson to talk to a student outside or at your desk. You are asking them to step outside or wait at your desk until you are finished what you are doing. Then you speak with them. Everyone else in class will never be held up for the behavior of another student.
Have you ever asked a student to leave class? I don’t do this but some of my colleagues do and it really bothers me because I feel it shames the student and also I feel like 95% of the time the behavior can be talked out and resolved. (Like you said - it’s HOW you say it)
Kim, sometimes the behavior is so bad or too disruptive that there’s no other option. I’ve rarely had to go this far, but it has been necessary every once in a blue moon.
I like the question are you refusing to do this... im a grownup.. sometimes i gear i refuse to do something. I never outright refuse to do... Sometimes i havent gotten to it. Dont understand why is it so very urgent. Or ive just plain forgotten it beeds done. It gives the child an out. Like anither chance.
Very informative. However, I find difficulty following you because iam not a native speaker so I don't recognize well all your words. If you speak a little bit slower it will be perfect to make use of your magnificent information.
I love the “are you refusing to do work right now?”. I tried this with a smirk in an exaggerated sarcastic tone to one of my tough kids. The whole class got quiet and the tough kid said “refusing is a crazy accusation mister” rest of the class he was focused. I have no idea how this worked 😂
My favorite line. " All I want you to be is successful in my class"
BRILLIANT
The end!❤️
It took me a long time to learn that my own pride was getting in my way of dealing with some students.
Why do each of your videos make me cry????? Its the consistent pouring in of love. Always. No matter what.
Key message: Always demonstrate unconditional positive regards towards ALL of your students. Totally agree with you Mr. Reynolds!
Nicely said
I'm in my second year of teaching and the "are you refusing" question is still yet to let me down. Thanks for sharing all that you've figured out over your years of teaching - it's especially helpful for us newbies!
This is SPOT ON. Works with my 6, 7, 8th graders AND my school's policies. Thank you, CJ.
This is incredibly helpful, you have this down to a science. Thank you for sharing
My pleasure Ryan! ✌🏽
I realise that I am always so close to these techniques, but falling so short next to it. Thanks for laying this out. It makes a lot of sense. Even the "how to talk to parents" part, because I am always so stressed about that part.
This is the exact video I was looking for today! I watched it over the summer but needed to review your "talk in the hallway" as I'm finding that I need it lately. Thank you so much for posting all of these tips!!
I am a special ed teacher in Philly and my students come from various situations and housing. I push-in to classrooms. The second grade class I push in to has a teacher that makes a huge deal about calling home in front of the entire class and then calls the parent and tells them exactly what is going on and ends with if the behavior does not stop then I am going to have to ask you to come and sit in the class with your child. I agree with you, this is embarrassing and does not work. My school uses an app for behavior support and has a team that will be alerted and come and remove the student. The problem is that the their consequences never align with what happened in my classroom. A common consequence is always taking away recess. Students need that time to get their energy out to prevent these behaviors from happening. I love all of these ideas that you shared and would like to be more conscious on how I speak to my students and try to implement some of these ideas. Being that I teach special ed, I have some students with behaviors that happen constantly and it is hard to not get frustrated in the moment and react in a way that I should not.
One question, how do you deal with the student that acts confused with you ask them to stop doing something? They play dumb and pretend they have no idea what you are talking about.
Reynolds this sprinkling of magic has been such a game changer. It really does change the gambit of the relationships I have with my students. It's de-escalating the situation and just letting the students know that you're discussing the behavior and not outing them as a person. I think you use this phrase in one of your previous videos that I've fostered in my own practice, "You're not bad (addressing the student), but I am not happy with your actions." Being clear with the students and knowing that their actions are separate from how we view them as people is crucial. As always, thank you for what you do!
But I do judge people by their behavior
Mr. Reynolds I love how you act out many different scenarios because we all know this can play out in all kinds of ways. I can tell you I’ve already tried it and it worked beautifully. Curiosity and empathy ruled the rule breaker!
Be curious, not furious!
I take things way too personally. I know I do it, and I do my best to catch it in the moment. This sort of script gives me a pathway to success, I think. And thanks for advice on how to approach phone calls
I still take things to personally. I just got better at dealing with it. Glad to help!
Thank you for putting together this video. I will be playing it back often.
I’m almost done with my 7th year and I most definitely had to grow in not taking things personally. It took years; however, for those occurrences that are just awful, it does take me 3 - 24 hours to stop taking an incident personally.
Im still struggling with it. Especially in the 1st and second grading period. I teach Art and students see no value
Getting close to the school year. These videos make me feel so excited
Reynolds! This is SUCH a helpful video. THANK YOU THANK YOU!!
Taking a team approach usually works best. Although I have called home in the middle of class during independent work and saw almost immediate improvement for most kids the few times I've strategically done it.
Thank you! This is so very helpful!
I have had several students refuse to talk to me in the hall. I feel like it helps when I take a second to get my energy back down so I can ask more casually.
This is really helpful. Thank you for sharing these brilliant ideas.
Love this guy! A great teacher and role model.
Super helpful and definitely fits with my style of teaching! I love the concrete examples. Thank you.
OMG ❤ YOUR TECHNIQUES AND MESSAGE.
I've hesitated to take a student out because then the rest of the class has nothing to do and they sometimes start to act out. Also, how to juggle this and not have the lesson constantly interrupted?
I do love this, Mr. Reynolds. I think your first bit is great for teachers who have students in the classroom for longer periods of time. Great for relationship building and most teachers in standard classroom settings.
For smaller classes of about 10, under 30 minutes, a language barrier, and a boss who doesn’t allow you to talk to parents… what might you recommend?
Very helpful! Look forward for more !
I love this insight. As a future educator this is very helpful.
what a GREAT video THANK YOU !!!!!!
So true on the Aaron comment--SAME! lol
I'm in Turkiye and my rule breakers are named Eren.
Defense to offense...exactly.
Loved this! Great examples and concrete responses to have with the student :)
“Leaders are repeaters”
Thank you. This is really helpful.
My pleasure Sharon! ✌🏽
Thank you 🙏
I like the tips. However, I can not open the door and step outside with a student. Safety issue.
For sure. Having a kid step back to your desk works just as well. Just have their back to the class.
I love this sir.
Thank you! I’m happy to have made it for you☺️
GOLD.
Thanks Andrey! Happy to help. ☺️
This video is really helpful! I just had one question. What would you do if your school started to enforce a "students are not allowed to eat in class" rule and you have a student who comes in and starts eating? I tried to talk to one of my students but it became a power struggle and somehow made me feel like I was being silly for asking them to stop eating in class even though that previous period was lunch for all students in all grade levels
Im having trouble with 4 students I separate them, they continue to shout across the room they cannot stay still I’ve been listening to all your videos and I’m frustrated with them. I need help and it’s only the first week. So far I contacted parents
When you tell them about the call, are you doing it where the whole class can hear, out in the hallway again, or kind of whispering it to them?
Any suggestions for younger kids (kindergarten)? And for substitute teachers?
I like to say, "On task looks/is like...".
I’m confused because I saw another video you had with 5 ways of classroom management and one was to act like you were calling home either with a problem in class or something to brag on a student. I teach 2nd grade and so far nothing I have done keeps this class from constantly talking out very loudly. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Is there a way I could contribute with Dutch subtitles for this? :) Would love to make it accessible to more of my colleagues.
Hi Roos! I’d like to figure that out. Can you email our team at realrapwithreynolds@gmail.com
Great Video! I'm in my third year teaching elementary in China. I've had one on one discussions with my kids, but I don't know how these strategies would work with students who are low level ESL. They sound great in an educational environment where all parties speak the same language, but how would this work with students who cannot speak the target language (and you cannot speak their native language)? Would a translator help? A bilingual teacher? Do I have to learn Chinese really fast?
I think you could learn simple directional language or body language like “sit down” “be quite”. Also, in China, there is one main teacher 班主任 that works with kids most of the time. Talking to that person could definitely readdress norms if it’s out of control.
I have many English teachers, most of them if not all, don’t speak Chinese at all, I think this will be fine to not learn Chinese while teaching ESL,.
I feel like I'm close to this, but do you have any suggestions for remembering this in the moment that it's happening. Like students, it can be hard to change some habits. Although I never yell or anything like that, I keep my cool, but I feel like you have a much better progression here. My only thought it is, watch it again and again, then make a note card to have up by me when I teach (I really only have this issue in one class) and refer to it. Maybe? Anyone have any other ideas?
It might also be useful to practice on your own out loud. Imagine a scenario and act it through. You could try role playing with another teacher, friend, or family member or even totally by yourself. That way you “get the words in your mouth” so to speak and it may become easier to remember and feel more confident in the moment.
You could also try posting a key word or phrase somewhere in your classroom to trigger your memory of how you want (or don’t want) to handle a situation. For example, I’m not always great about just continuing on with a lesson, so I might put up a reminder for myself “no power struggles” or “just move on.” I also like “What would Reynolds do?” 😁 Whatever is meaningful to you.
But what do you do with the other students when you are having "the conversation" with Aaron?
Thanks for asking this. I should have put it in the video. I do one of two things.
1. They continue doing the work they were doing.
2. If you have a class that can handle it you ask them to just chill for a moment.
Remember that you are not stopping your lesson to talk to a student outside or at your desk. You are asking them to step outside or wait at your desk until you are finished what you are doing. Then you speak with them. Everyone else in class will never be held up for the behavior of another student.
@@CJReynolds Thanks for taking the time to explain
Have you ever asked a student to leave class? I don’t do this but some of my colleagues do and it really bothers me because I feel it shames the student and also I feel like 95% of the time the behavior can be talked out and resolved. (Like you said - it’s HOW you say it)
Kim, sometimes the behavior is so bad or too disruptive that there’s no other option. I’ve rarely had to go this far, but it has been necessary every once in a blue moon.
I like the question are you refusing to do this... im a grownup.. sometimes i gear i refuse to do something.
I never outright refuse to do...
Sometimes i havent gotten to it. Dont understand why is it so very urgent. Or ive just plain forgotten it beeds done. It gives the child an out. Like anither chance.
*personally! 😢😅🤔
Nice board btw
It’s a Samsung board. I love it!
It’s also pretty great to play video games on 😂
Very informative. However, I find difficulty following you because iam not a native speaker so I don't recognize well all your words. If you speak a little bit slower it will be perfect to make use of your magnificent information.
You could read the transcript and then read what he says at your own pace. Hope that helps!
Also, you can slow down the speed on the video settings.