That is a good point. OP is adressing it from what he should be doing out of respect to her mother, but she should also be looking at it from him not supporting her. All his talk about helping the living, and he still didn't help his wife.
I lost my mother at 16, and I was by her side when she died. I've had to take years of therapy to not blame myself, to cope with the loss of one of the best things in my life. I had to cope with the fact I'll never see her again. But hearing shit Henry said had my blood BOILING. I hated the whole "they're in a better place" I was fed when my mom died, and hearing it here made me just as mad.
I'm in the same boat as you. I lost my mum at 19, and my younger sister was 16. It was dreadful, and therapy wasn't available (UK). It was sudden, and although it was a long time ago, it's something that's always with you. My ex was sympathetic at first.His mother would have torn him apart if he hadn't been! It didn't last long though! He took my sadness and distraction to start a string of affairs!
There is nothing anyone can say that can comfort you in that moment. And people dont know what to say in that moment. So they say usual things they heard people say in such case. When your parents die, especialy mother, you realize that now you dont feel like a child anymore. Even grown up people. Whilst mothers are alive you can talk to them, tell them anything, ask for advice. Even if she cant help. At least she's there. But once she's gone you cant have that anymore. I m sorry you had to go through that so young. Mine died when I was an adult, but still I miss her. This guy is an idiot My husband would willingly figt actual demons for me if needed
So your selfish ass would want her to suffer more wow your a piece of shit people don't die early for no reason its not peaceful for I have seen it way more then one time and at a younger age your just selfish
My dad died 30 years ago next month. I received a phone call and had to fly for more than 12 hours sobbing uncontrollably . To this day the crushing guilt and pain I feel is because I never got to say goodbye. I am fearful of getting the same call regarding my mom.
Never ever say what Henry said to his wife while she is grieving. Be there by listening to what they say and validate how they feel. Don't say "it was a good death" or anything like that. If your in-law passes away, if you can (unless sick or injured) go to the funeral
he is a huge shittly of bains, this person sounds alot as my aunt's, who was my dad's sister, her soso called 'husband' had a narrsitc personaily disorder and he didn't have us, the family of 6 come to the funnel, and she passed away of cancer, but from i heard from my other aunt is that the dbag made a fool of himself in front of everyone.
For all that talk about bad luck and demons..I see the mother watching what’s going on with Henry and his own mother with a smirk on her face, pleased that she was able to get her daughter away from them in a way.
I recently lost my mom, and so this really touched a nerve. The husband really ticked me off. When you're grieving, the worst thing a person can say to me is to not be sad. Also, I couldn't have made it through my mom's funeral without my partner. Her husband is a lousy one for deserting her.
Sending virtual hugs and condolences to you and your family. I hope your partner continues to be a source of strength, comfort, and encouragement as you grieve.
Honestly, I’m happy for the OP when she eventually divorce is Henry.because people like this to show their true colors in bad situation.the fact that Henry looks down on his deceased mother-in-law refuses to comfort or support his grieving wife, but instead dismisses her feelings, talking about how she’s overreacting it is nothing more than a selfish greedy narcissist him trying to use his superstitions as an excuse to not go to his mother-in-law‘s funeral I’m just generally showing no empathy or remorse heck, even has the audacity to contact his wife, telling her to get dinner started and never bothers to even try and comfort her while she’s suffering. The loss of your mother even tries to throw a bit of emotional manipulation using her mother’s name just the sheer audacity of this guy.on top of that The moment he hears about his mother-in-law again he basically looks down on her only to realize that she may have something of value Monetary to him and he immediately tries to pull the we’re married, so whatever you get for inheritance is also mine bull crap honestly good riddance this is a heartless, selfish greedy, narcissistic jerk bag.
If his parents pass, he would probably only attend because the rest of his family would belittle him or he wants to know what HE'S going to get out of it.
This one hit me hard. I lost my mother last month, and, even though she passed at 82, I've had people tell me some of these same things the husband said at first. I get that some people don't know what to say in situations like these, but it still makes my blood boil that someone tries to tell me that I shouldn't be broken over her death. Rest in Peace, Mom. If I don't see you in Heaven, I'll meet you in Valhalla. Edit: Thanks to those who offered their condolences. I wasn't expecting that at all, and this little internet stranger greatly appreciates it.
I will admit, there are people that don't want to attend funerals mostly because they don't want their last memory of seeing the deceased in the casket. It's not they don't care or something but they rather keep a last memory of when the person was alive. I'm not excusing this guy of course.
Yep. I try to avoid funerals for that reason. Too many memories ruined and replaced by that bad final image. I don't go to the casket if I can help it, when I do go.
This is what happened to me when my father was on his deathbed and died. My husband was terrible and didn't want to see him in hospital or attend the funeral. Two months later I left him after 20 years of marriage with two kids under 10 yo. I realised how selfish he was, and that I was the only one in the marriage.
Good for you for leaving with the kids, my aunt, my dad's sister, though she didn't have kids, should have done the same with her narrssitic personaily disorder husband, before she passed away of cancer 4 years ago. Actully i take that back, she should have Never married the guy who used harassment on younger women at all
This video reminds me of a quote from a Max Allan Collins novel, "Mourn the Living": "Don't waste your tears on the dead... You got to mourn somebody, mourn the living. They got it tougher."
"it's not like if I come to the funeral she will come back to life" Most moronic statement of 2023. Good gosh almighty. Happy Monday y'all from me here in the Lone Star State. 😘
My husband was only able to talk to my dad before he died, but did his ABSOLUTE best to see my mom before she passed, & my in-laws took time off work, booked a hotel, & were at BOTH of my parent's funerals. I can't imagine being in this situation.....
Thank you. We have now lost both of his parents as well. The last was his dad not quite a year ago. It's been very very hard on him, but it's slowly getting better. Again, thank you
ok i haven’t watched yet but i had a boss like this. thought my grandmas cancer was a “demon” and asked if i was in the room when she passed because it could “go into you” when she dies 😬 I was like ma’am?! my grandma just died, keep your religious fanaticism to yourself.
Good for you, standing up to harassment , I hope you have a better person for a boss now, she sounds just as a black female boss that I and severl other women dealt with in 2017, but one of my coworkers made her back down when the white( im white too) female cowrker told her that she wasn't going to take any crap from the female 'manager' at all.
I remember the community (Beulah, Manitoba, Canada) doing that for one of our neighbors as it was a private service 😢💔 We were told that the entire family was extremely grateful for all of the food and condolences 🙏
I'm southern too. If southerners do anything at a funeral besides grieving, it's eating!! Have you ever seen the movie Kingdom Come? The wife lost her husband and before 12:00 on the same day, she had six hams and eight baked chickens!!
Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets a bit surprised whenever the protagonist ends up cursing In these stories cuz it catches me off guard and it's kind of funny but yes seriously screw the husband
Ya I dont view death as a sad thing because I see family members die from multiple strokes and cancer I seen how painful alot of stuff can be death makes them look like they are in peace all their just leaves but that guy is just a worthless stack of shit if he was a seal a shark wouldn't eat him
OP needs to find a lawyer who will really make her ex and his mother believe in demons for real. Also, depending on where they live, he would have no claim on her inheritance.
That beginning encapsulates very well what it feels like having lost a loving mother. I lost my mom quite suddenly, and I didn't really get to say goodbye because she wasn't conscious in the end. Part of me is glad for that, as she was very afraid of death, but it also created a lack of closure. Meanwhile, what Henry said just sounds like trying to bring too much logic to a very emotional thing. Even if it's true on some level, it's emotionally cold, especially when the death is so fresh and the daughter was so close to her mother. Also, I can agree with disliking funerals and I also dislike graveyards, but Henry and some others seem to miss the point entirely. A funeral isn't for the dead, it's for the living left behind. I guess it's better sooner than later when you find out someone who is supposed to care for you can't and/or won't support you through rough times. Hard times are difficult enough to manage without someone who not only doesn't help but actively makes things worse.
I lost my mom 3 days after Xmas (2022)… since I got the news I have wished and wished I was there (She was in East Africa) and I am in Canada. This guy touched every nerve and I swear wherever and whoever the wife is I do hope she got all the hugs and comfort from those who actually care for her.
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔 My Dad passed away on January 10, 2015, and I wish I could have seen him one last time 😭💔 My half-brother and I were not able to attend his funeral, but we were able to attend his memorial service later that year 😢 💔 Our Mom, my half-sister, my half-brother, my brother and I still miss him a lot 😢 💔
Hubby should have gone to the funeral anyway to support his wife. I’m now reminded of when a friend’s dad passed away… my friend’s oldest brother was the only one of the four sons to not attend. My friend admitted that he was also a no show for their mom’s funeral several years earlier. Can’t imagine the other three brothers were pleased about the double no show…!
Good morning from Iowa, where there's snow on the ground and I'm about to start the chores. But first, listening to this while charging up with coffee!
When my dad died my then husband told me he wasn't coming to the funeral because he was Muslim and it was being held in a Christian church. I told my husband if you don't come after everything my dad did for you and support me through my grief then use the time to pack up and get out, I didn't want to see him when I got home and I would file for divorce. Needless to say he showed up at the funeral.
The biggest problem is she focuses it on the husband saying goodbye. What she needs is her husband to be there for her during her grief. I actually do agree with his arguments as a general rule. To me the person is gone and lives in my memories. The body is a shell and isn’t the person. I don’t need a funeral to say goodbye. So funerals have little meaning for me. However, I am not afraid of dead spirits. Now changing mind due to inheritance then changes things. If you are going to have a legit fear of death, I can understand. But he is just shallow.
My wife and I met shortly after we both lost our fathers, and in the last 12 years we both lost our mothers. She kept me sane and sober during my mom's funeral, as I did for her during her mom's. I can't imagine not being there. That kind of callousness is both unbelievable and intolerable.
If it were me: "I buried the money with my mother! If you take it, there's bad energy and demons!" Henry: "I lied about the bad energy and demons! Tell me where's her grave?? Tell Me!!!"
I'm a believer in the existence of supernatural beings, and I can say for certain that Henry's actions did exactly the opposite of what he was trying to avoid. Shunning his wife is exactly what drew the bad mojo to him that he was so afraid of. The number one rule of my belief is that you NEVER use the existence of spirits as an excuse to avoid your responsibilities in the mortal realm, especially when you hurt others in the process. They are there to help support you in your support of others, and do not appreciate being used for purely selfish reasons. If Henry really was afraid of bad vibes, he could have helped himself in other ways...wearing the right charm to the funeral, getting a cleansing ritual done before or after (or both), or saying a prayer of protection.
Another stupid and clueless husband, sympathy for no one except him and his mommy. I was a Mama's Boy and she actually taught me how to treat another human being.
I lost my father 5 years ago this July a week after I moved to a different part of Florida. The first few months was hard for me. Henry was a jerk for not attending his mil's funeral and to help his then wife to cope with the passing of her mom
Putting the life of the living first before the ones who are dead is normal. That is why people support the SURVIVORS in their time of grief. There’s also nothing wrong with doing one’s duty as a son or daughter, but duty to one’s spouse is extremely important as well, especially in this kind of situation.
When my mom's mom passed away, my dad, when at the funnuel do not leave my mom's side at all, it was the other way around when my dear sianted aunt passed away of cancer four years ago, though my family wasn't intivted to my aunt's fuennel by her 'husband', who was a horrible, sexist person. My family were my aunt's family first way before she met the shittly male person
If you can't be there at someone's worst, you don't deserve to be there at the best. She chose the best path for herself. I've been there that level of support is needed at those times.
Ok henery was doing alright at first then he got to the "good death" and just lost me. I've had people tell me "you shouldn't be sad" or "they are in a better place" and tbh I got mad at first but then I took a step back and actually thought about it(before just going by emotions) the reason we always smile after funerals is bc we should be happy they don't have to suffer we sit around in a circle and only think about the positive, funny things that made us laugh/smile when that person was alive. There is no need to be sad be happy bc that is what the deceased would have wanted. I see a lot of people saying that's part of the reason why they got mad etc and I can't tell yall how to feel but do you really think your loved ones want you to be mad at people who are only trying to help? At least they aren't like henery and didn't show up. Do you think your loved one wants you to cry/be sad? That's the point of people saying they are in a better place or dont be sad bc what they say is true you being mad at them or the world isn't going to bring them back it's really not itll just bring you more pain and you wouldn't want to sully their memory so the best way to send a loved one off IS in fact to smile and dont be sad I know some people won't agree and that's fine but I've learned that the best way to say farewell is with a smile bc I know one day we will meet again.
When times are at their worst is when you see people for who they really are. Never forget how people treat you when they think you have nothing of value to take from you. The ones who will kick you when you're down for no reason are the ones you HAVE to cut out of your life.
Both of my parents have passed. I'm 48 y/o and I still feel like an orphaned little girl, as I'm sure most people who have lost either or both parents would feel. Hearing this guy, not only disrespect his MIL and his wife, but to not even feel saddened by the loss or comfort his own wife, is disgusting.
Henry needs to get lost! Hes such a horrible husband that definitely needs to never be married again. No one deserves to have to put up with his horribleness.
I lost my mother just over seven years ago, she was 93, sadly my wife was unable to come to the funeral as her visa had expired and she couldn't get a replacement in time, but she had helped me care for my mother. I was pleased that I had been able to take my mother to visit her sister, that was less than one week before my mother's death.
Texts at the start moved me and Henry's reply made sense - If someone is living with great pain daily, it is best to let them go. But then Henry went completely off the rails. Wonder if he will have the same attitude when it is time for HIS mother. I seriously doubt it.
The lack of empathy is jawdropping. The husband is a waste of oxygen. "Braindead: is perfect, grocery shopping and cooking by the wife while dodging her mom's funeral, just wow. And then he expected to get a share of the estate? Oh, no..there's bad vibes and spirits attached to the inheritance. He can't possibly want that money
While the end of pain is a good thing, that does not mean you want to hear it! Also, my father's funeral was during the polar vortex in January 2015. We received apologies from my in-laws, as it was considered unsafe for them to drive that distance unless it was absolutely necessary. My mother and I agreed, the last thing we wanted was another funeral! But my husband came.
Ok so Henry was actually trying to help in the beginning. In fact what he said wasn't really wrong. The only thing that may be a little insensitive was saying it was a "good death" IN THE BEGINNING. The rest is definitely insensitive the whole "bad vibes" thing and refusal to go to the funeral is rude and gross.
Idk something about saying 'is that so' after your heartbroken spouse tells you their mother passed away didn't sit right with me. Not only that but telling her "my mommie said I can't go to the funeral" and "me going won't bring her back" didn't give me that impression.
Yeah, I was okay with him until he got to the 'good death' too. I was done with him when he started that "my mommy said" crap and wouldn't go. It doesn't matter so much what his MIL had done for him in life, and it wouldn't even matter if she had been mean to him and he hated her - he should have gone to the funeral as support for his wife.
My father died several years ago. I didn't make it to the funeral due to health and lack of money. However, I did go and visit him while he was in hospital because my FIL gave me the money to do so. It was a very uncomfortable flight, and I had to deal with some unpleasant people, but I was happy to be with my Dad for that time. I told my mother that I wouldn't have the funds to attend the funeral (we knew it was just a matter of time) and she was in agreement that there wouldn't be anyplace for me to stay or anyone to pick me up at the airport. I spoke to him for the last time a month later while he was hospices at home. He died 20 mins after I hung up.
I have been to a funeral 3 or 4 times since I was a kid to adult last time I lost my mom. My sister and I were disheartening grief for our mom. This (ex) husband said like nothing emotional support to his wife she needed him to be there as mortal support. He talked and the guilty trip about her mom pissed me off and blood boiled up. Don't ever say like these to who grief. Shame on him and his mom. Who cares if her lost mom is rich or poor? Her life is none of your business.
I really wish the protagonists would cuss more. It would provide me with some relief at how angry I get for them at the antagonists and their stupidity/evilness.
Unfortunately there are trash excuses for humans like Henry and his mother IRL! And people? Stop telling people "they're in a better place now!" That is cold comfort for anyone suffering for a loss! If you can't think of what to say, just think of how your friend/co-worker/acquaintance is suffering and just be a decent human being to them! Even if their parent was the worst person in the world, your friend/co-worker/acquaintance needs comfort from you! Sheesh! It never ceases to amazes me how even THAT MUCH is beyond most people!
Is he a kid? I've had paranormal experiences since i was a kid but i've still attended a funeral even though i barely knew the person that died as he was a family member that i've met only once. If he's so worried about "demons" he could've gotten himself some items to ward off evil like an evil eye or similar items especially for someone who 's done a lot of things for him and that's very close to him family wise
Please accept my deepest condolences 😢😭💔 My Dad passed away on January 10, 2015 😭💔 We, our Mom, my half-sister, my half-brother, my brother, and I miss him a lot 😭💔
He is not right to say it, because it is is not going to make anyone feel better, when you are missing someone so badly you want all of the bad things to not have happened, not told they're better off now!
Geez is Henry that thoughtless? There is no such thing as a good or bad death. I miss my mom when she passed away in September of 2021. I would have given him a good piece of my mind. I would give anything to have one more day with her.
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 My Dad passed away on January 10, 2015, and we, our Mom, my half-sister, my half-brother, my brother, and I miss him a lot 😢 💔
For someone that complained about going saying it’d be bad luck it turns out not going became bad luck Irony his MIL was such a caring person & he chose not to go to the funeral the after the divorce he realizes the mom he chose to skip out with isn’t that good after all
So. He couldn’t be there for a woman that was there for his mom when her husband died, but neither one of them can be bothered to be there for her and her daughter. But as soon as money is involved the very same woman suddenly becomes the most important person to him and his mother. Make it make sense. Money is more important than human life. You can even overcome the fear of demons and dying to acquire it. Hmmmmm, interesting. 🤔
Omfg what is wrong with this guy? I lost my mum almost 3 yrs ago she was only 66 and if my husband said he wouldn't go to her funeral that would be it for us. 😢
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 My Dad passed away on January 10, 2015, and we, our Mom, my half-sister, my half-brother, my brother, and I miss him a lot 😢 💔
People don’t go to funerals for the dead. They go to support the person they love
No they do both
Respect for the deceased and support for the living.
Yes, people do both of these things
It’s like Henry is trying to get on her nerves with his behavior, disrespecting her mother’s death and he really is braindead
Yes this is true, he really is getting on op's nerve sadly
Disgusting, can't be there for your lover/spouse on their worst time, especially for the favors your in-laws did for you.
That is a good point. OP is adressing it from what he should be doing out of respect to her mother, but she should also be looking at it from him not supporting her. All his talk about helping the living, and he still didn't help his wife.
I dump his sorry ass in a heartbeat. No second chances and toss his stuff out into the streets and change thr locks
@Lynda Tuttle he failed horribly as a husband . That a fair weather husband
@@taylorclarke7217 Yes he is
I love how the ex was talking about not wanting to catch any bad vibes, when all along he was the bad vibe. What a jerk.
He failed the vibe check
@@Starbean89 yes he sure did
I lost my mother at 16, and I was by her side when she died. I've had to take years of therapy to not blame myself, to cope with the loss of one of the best things in my life. I had to cope with the fact I'll never see her again.
But hearing shit Henry said had my blood BOILING. I hated the whole "they're in a better place" I was fed when my mom died, and hearing it here made me just as mad.
I'm in the same boat as you. I lost my mum at 19, and my younger sister was 16. It was dreadful, and therapy wasn't available (UK). It was sudden, and although it was a long time ago, it's something that's always with you. My ex was sympathetic at first.His mother would have torn him apart if he hadn't been! It didn't last long though! He took my sadness and distraction to start a string of affairs!
There is nothing anyone can say that can comfort you in that moment. And people dont know what to say in that moment. So they say usual things they heard people say in such case.
When your parents die, especialy mother, you realize that now you dont feel like a child anymore. Even grown up people. Whilst mothers are alive you can talk to them, tell them anything, ask for advice. Even if she cant help. At least she's there. But once she's gone you cant have that anymore. I m sorry you had to go through that so young.
Mine died when I was an adult, but still I miss her.
This guy is an idiot
My husband would willingly figt actual demons for me if needed
@@carolroberts4614 pure selfishness on his part. Sorry for your loss 💔
So your selfish ass would want her to suffer more wow your a piece of shit people don't die early for no reason its not peaceful for I have seen it way more then one time and at a younger age your just selfish
My dad died 30 years ago next month. I received a phone call and had to fly for more than 12 hours sobbing uncontrollably . To this day the crushing guilt and pain I feel is because I never got to say goodbye.
I am fearful of getting the same call regarding my mom.
Never ever say what Henry said to his wife while she is grieving. Be there by listening to what they say and validate how they feel. Don't say "it was a good death" or anything like that. If your in-law passes away, if you can (unless sick or injured) go to the funeral
When he said that, it was like a kick to my gut. That one hurt
They make the husband sound like such a weasel. I LOVE IT!
he is a huge shittly of bains, this person sounds alot as my aunt's, who was my dad's sister, her soso called 'husband' had a narrsitc personaily disorder and he didn't have us, the family of 6 come to the funnel, and she passed away of cancer, but from i heard from my other aunt is that the dbag made a fool of himself in front of everyone.
Well that's what he is!!!!
He’s also a religious moron (yes, I know, redundant)
Now now, that's mean to the weasel. They're intelligent critters. Henry isn't.
For all that talk about bad luck and demons..I see the mother watching what’s going on with Henry and his own mother with a smirk on her face, pleased that she was able to get her daughter away from them in a way.
the mom, even in death was watching over opp
And didn't leave her daughter a penny.
I recently lost my mom, and so this really touched a nerve. The husband really ticked me off. When you're grieving, the worst thing a person can say to me is to not be sad. Also, I couldn't have made it through my mom's funeral without my partner. Her husband is a lousy one for deserting her.
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔
Sending virtual hugs and condolences to you and your family. I hope your partner continues to be a source of strength, comfort, and encouragement as you grieve.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers and strength ❤️
prayers to you 😢
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Honestly, I’m happy for the OP when she eventually divorce is Henry.because people like this to show their true colors in bad situation.the fact that Henry looks down on his deceased mother-in-law refuses to comfort or support his grieving wife, but instead dismisses her feelings, talking about how she’s overreacting it is nothing more than a selfish greedy narcissist him trying to use his superstitions as an excuse to not go to his mother-in-law‘s funeral I’m just generally showing no empathy or remorse heck, even has the audacity to contact his wife, telling her to get dinner started and never bothers to even try and comfort her while she’s suffering. The loss of your mother even tries to throw a bit of emotional manipulation using her mother’s name just the sheer audacity of this guy.on top of that The moment he hears about his mother-in-law again he basically looks down on her only to realize that she may have something of value Monetary to him and he immediately tries to pull the we’re married, so whatever you get for inheritance is also mine bull crap honestly good riddance this is a heartless, selfish greedy, narcissistic jerk bag.
If his parents pass, he would probably only attend because the rest of his family would belittle him or he wants to know what HE'S going to get out of it.
@@freespirit3891 no kidding the apple doesn’t fall to far from the tree. Also sorry for the rant
@@freespirit3891 I wouldn't put it passed the male person if he did this after his mom and dad passed away
Henry is such a hypocrite,he wasn’t there for her even during time of need.
Of course not. In his mind, women should be there for him not the other way around.
Op should have Never dated, let alone married the sexist male person, at all
This one hit me hard. I lost my mother last month, and, even though she passed at 82, I've had people tell me some of these same things the husband said at first. I get that some people don't know what to say in situations like these, but it still makes my blood boil that someone tries to tell me that I shouldn't be broken over her death.
Rest in Peace, Mom. If I don't see you in Heaven, I'll meet you in Valhalla.
Edit: Thanks to those who offered their condolences. I wasn't expecting that at all, and this little internet stranger greatly appreciates it.
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔
prayers to you
Didn't realize a random comment would SEE me but here we are.
I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in the wonderful memories of her.
I'm so sorry for your loss. 💐
The beginning of this made me think of my Mother, I lost her in 1996. I started to cry because I miss her so much🥺Henry is a JERK!! I’m 63😳
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔
I will admit, there are people that don't want to attend funerals mostly because they don't want their last memory of seeing the deceased in the casket. It's not they don't care or something but they rather keep a last memory of when the person was alive. I'm not excusing this guy of course.
Yep. I try to avoid funerals for that reason. Too many memories ruined and replaced by that bad final image. I don't go to the casket if I can help it, when I do go.
I totally get that funerals can be traumatizing and that’s why some people avoid them. This guy’s reason though, dumb and selfish.
I've never been to one with an open casket. We've always gone to the funeral home to say our last goodbyes.
@@carolroberts4614 It's more to me saying open casket or not. Many do not want to come to a funeral to see it as the last memory
But that doesn't excuse for not being there for your spouse. Personally, I also don't like funeral but if my SO needs me, I will do my best for him.
This is what happened to me when my father was on his deathbed and died. My husband was terrible and didn't want to see him in hospital or attend the funeral. Two months later I left him after 20 years of marriage with two kids under 10 yo. I realised how selfish he was, and that I was the only one in the marriage.
Good for you for leaving with the kids, my aunt, my dad's sister, though she didn't have kids, should have done the same with her narrssitic personaily disorder husband, before she passed away of cancer 4 years ago. Actully i take that back, she should have Never married the guy who used harassment on younger women at all
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 💔 I hope that KARMA got your horrible ex 😠😡🤬👿
This video reminds me of a quote from a Max Allan Collins novel, "Mourn the Living":
"Don't waste your tears on the dead... You got to mourn somebody, mourn the living. They got it tougher."
The male VA did a great job. He made Henry sound like such a weasel.
"it's not like if I come to the funeral she will come back to life" Most moronic statement of 2023. Good gosh almighty.
Happy Monday y'all from me here in the Lone Star State. 😘
But, the statement is factual.
@@cab8866 It may be factual but that was not needed to be said in that manner.
Factual but irrelevant! Who goes to a funeral thinking the deceased might come back to life?
My husband was only able to talk to my dad before he died, but did his ABSOLUTE best to see my mom before she passed, & my in-laws took time off work, booked a hotel, & were at BOTH of my parent's funerals. I can't imagine being in this situation.....
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔
your husband is a good hearted person, you are lucky and prayers to you and your family
Thank you. We have now lost both of his parents as well. The last was his dad not quite a year ago. It's been very very hard on him, but it's slowly getting better. Again, thank you
@@wendymonkelien-brown579 You are welcome
ok i haven’t watched yet but i had a boss like this. thought my grandmas cancer was a “demon” and asked if i was in the room when she passed because it could “go into you” when she dies 😬 I was like ma’am?! my grandma just died, keep your religious fanaticism to yourself.
I hope that KARMA got your horrible boss 😠😡🤬👿
Good for you, standing up to harassment , I hope you have a better person for a boss now, she sounds just as a black female boss that I and severl other women dealt with in 2017, but one of my coworkers made her back down when the white( im white too) female cowrker told her that she wasn't going to take any crap from the female 'manager' at all.
The bunnies are so cute 🐰🐰
It's sad that she and her mother were there for his father but he couldn't be there to support her in her time of need.
Obviously not a Southern funeral, where everyone has food for the deceased’s family.
I remember the community (Beulah, Manitoba, Canada) doing that for one of our neighbors as it was a private service 😢💔 We were told that the entire family was extremely grateful for all of the food and condolences 🙏
I'm southern too. If southerners do anything at a funeral besides grieving, it's eating!! Have you ever seen the movie Kingdom Come? The wife lost her husband and before 12:00 on the same day, she had six hams and eight baked chickens!!
Im southern and so is my mom and her side of my family. My dad grew up on the West Cosast
I love these videos, they're like justice pn. But you get divorced FROM someone not WITH someone.
Sometimes they say get married with someone too! Which makes it sound like a double wedding!
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Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets a bit surprised whenever the protagonist ends up cursing In these stories cuz it catches me off guard and it's kind of funny but yes seriously screw the husband
I'm not 😁, it's better than what I would say 🙃
Ya I dont view death as a sad thing because I see family members die from multiple strokes and cancer I seen how painful alot of stuff can be death makes them look like they are in peace all their just leaves but that guy is just a worthless stack of shit if he was a seal a shark wouldn't eat him
Not me 😈 I can let loose with a lot of swear words when I get mad or scared enough 😈
I have sometimes, since I'm expecting the yellow-gutted protagonist that would stay polite all the way to the end
@@cybercat29 So would I, but calmly
OP needs to find a lawyer who will really make her ex and his mother believe in demons for real. Also, depending on where they live, he would have no claim on her inheritance.
Ohh, I love the way you think, op really does need to do this asap
That beginning encapsulates very well what it feels like having lost a loving mother. I lost my mom quite suddenly, and I didn't really get to say goodbye because she wasn't conscious in the end. Part of me is glad for that, as she was very afraid of death, but it also created a lack of closure.
Meanwhile, what Henry said just sounds like trying to bring too much logic to a very emotional thing. Even if it's true on some level, it's emotionally cold, especially when the death is so fresh and the daughter was so close to her mother. Also, I can agree with disliking funerals and I also dislike graveyards, but Henry and some others seem to miss the point entirely. A funeral isn't for the dead, it's for the living left behind.
I guess it's better sooner than later when you find out someone who is supposed to care for you can't and/or won't support you through rough times. Hard times are difficult enough to manage without someone who not only doesn't help but actively makes things worse.
I lost my mom 3 days after Xmas (2022)… since I got the news I have wished and wished I was there (She was in East Africa) and I am in Canada. This guy touched every nerve and I swear wherever and whoever the wife is I do hope she got all the hugs and comfort from those who actually care for her.
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔 My Dad passed away on January 10, 2015, and I wish I could have seen him one last time 😭💔 My half-brother and I were not able to attend his funeral, but we were able to attend his memorial service later that year 😢 💔 Our Mom, my half-sister, my half-brother, my brother and I still miss him a lot 😢 💔
I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in the memories of her.
Thank you all for your words
Hubby should have gone to the funeral anyway to support his wife. I’m now reminded of when a friend’s dad passed away… my friend’s oldest brother was the only one of the four sons to not attend. My friend admitted that he was also a no show for their mom’s funeral several years earlier. Can’t imagine the other three brothers were pleased about the double no show…!
Good morning from Iowa, where there's snow on the ground and I'm about to start the chores. But first, listening to this while charging up with coffee!
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The funeral is for the loved ones and their memories..... It's a time to show support..... And honor those who have moved on...
Yes, it is
When my dad died my then husband told me he wasn't coming to the funeral because he was Muslim and it was being held in a Christian church. I told my husband if you don't come after everything my dad did for you and support me through my grief then use the time to pack up and get out, I didn't want to see him when I got home and I would file for divorce. Needless to say he showed up at the funeral.
Still file for divorce. If he need to be threatened by divorce for basic decency, then he is not the one.
@@arundhatichatterjee We did get divorced. That's why I said"then husband"
Those who refuse to be there durin' your lows.....shouldn't be there durin' your highs.
The biggest problem is she focuses it on the husband saying goodbye. What she needs is her husband to be there for her during her grief. I actually do agree with his arguments as a general rule. To me the person is gone and lives in my memories. The body is a shell and isn’t the person. I don’t need a funeral to say goodbye. So funerals have little meaning for me. However, I am not afraid of dead spirits. Now changing mind due to inheritance then changes things. If you are going to have a legit fear of death, I can understand. But he is just shallow.
My wife and I met shortly after we both lost our fathers, and in the last 12 years we both lost our mothers. She kept me sane and sober during my mom's funeral, as I did for her during her mom's. I can't imagine not being there. That kind of callousness is both unbelievable and intolerable.
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔
Ok Henry is a mommy's boy!
He sure did start to show interest in her mother’s death once the inheritance was mentioned. 🤔
If it were me: "I buried the money with my mother! If you take it, there's bad energy and demons!"
Henry: "I lied about the bad energy and demons! Tell me where's her grave?? Tell Me!!!"
Fun fact: she was cremated! 😅
@@ronstreet6706 😄😄😄
He is not entitled to any inheritance, it's hers and her brother's, and for anyone else who is entitled to some.
Never talk crap about the deceased, it’s disrespectful when that person has does nothing but made their loved ones smile during their time of living
I'm a believer in the existence of supernatural beings, and I can say for certain that Henry's actions did exactly the opposite of what he was trying to avoid. Shunning his wife is exactly what drew the bad mojo to him that he was so afraid of. The number one rule of my belief is that you NEVER use the existence of spirits as an excuse to avoid your responsibilities in the mortal realm, especially when you hurt others in the process. They are there to help support you in your support of others, and do not appreciate being used for purely selfish reasons. If Henry really was afraid of bad vibes, he could have helped himself in other ways...wearing the right charm to the funeral, getting a cleansing ritual done before or after (or both), or saying a prayer of protection.
I agree. I also believe in the supernatural.
Another stupid and clueless husband, sympathy for no one except him and his mommy. I was a Mama's Boy and she actually taught me how to treat another human being.
I lost my father 5 years ago this July a week after I moved to a different part of Florida. The first few months was hard for me. Henry was a jerk for not attending his mil's funeral and to help his then wife to cope with the passing of her mom
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔
@cybercat29 thank you. It still hurts from time to time
Putting the life of the living first before the ones who are dead is normal. That is why people support the SURVIVORS in their time of grief. There’s also nothing wrong with doing one’s duty as a son or daughter, but duty to one’s spouse is extremely important as well, especially in this kind of situation.
Good Afternoon All have a great day xx Pam in Edinburgh Scotland xx
Good afternoon and enjoy your day Pam👋🤗
Hello, Pam, hope you have a great day!
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@@paden1865able Hi Paden thanks xx Pam
@@cybercat29 Hi my Canadian friend hope you have a lovely Day xx Pam
My mom passed away eight years ago today. My husband was my rock.
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 🙏 💔
@@cybercat29 Thank you. ❤️
When my mom's mom passed away, my dad, when at the funnuel do not leave my mom's side at all, it was the other way around when my dear sianted aunt passed away of cancer four years ago, though my family wasn't intivted to my aunt's fuennel by her 'husband', who was a horrible, sexist person. My family were my aunt's family first way before she met the shittly male person
@Jaclyn Santure I am so sorry. Please know that your precious Aunt is at peace.
@@sarahcrain8083 I know she is happy
Afternoon
Hi Ruby have a lovely day xx Pam
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Huh, self narration instead of minutes of insults and argument. I like it.
If you can't be there at someone's worst, you don't deserve to be there at the best. She chose the best path for herself. I've been there that level of support is needed at those times.
The op's husband kept talking about taking care of the living but he forgot that his wife was also one of the living who needed care and love.
I’m sure he wouldn’t be saying that if it was his own mother.
Ok henery was doing alright at first then he got to the "good death" and just lost me. I've had people tell me "you shouldn't be sad" or "they are in a better place" and tbh I got mad at first but then I took a step back and actually thought about it(before just going by emotions) the reason we always smile after funerals is bc we should be happy they don't have to suffer we sit around in a circle and only think about the positive, funny things that made us laugh/smile when that person was alive. There is no need to be sad be happy bc that is what the deceased would have wanted. I see a lot of people saying that's part of the reason why they got mad etc and I can't tell yall how to feel but do you really think your loved ones want you to be mad at people who are only trying to help? At least they aren't like henery and didn't show up. Do you think your loved one wants you to cry/be sad? That's the point of people saying they are in a better place or dont be sad bc what they say is true you being mad at them or the world isn't going to bring them back it's really not itll just bring you more pain and you wouldn't want to sully their memory so the best way to send a loved one off IS in fact to smile and dont be sad I know some people won't agree and that's fine but I've learned that the best way to say farewell is with a smile bc I know one day we will meet again.
Your wife is not blood related to you either
Attending a funeral is to support our loved ones, not the dead.
Yes, people really need to know this
When times are at their worst is when you see people for who they really are. Never forget how people treat you when they think you have nothing of value to take from you. The ones who will kick you when you're down for no reason are the ones you HAVE to cut out of your life.
My mom is very much alive but my heart is shaking hearing her talk about her mom not hearing her.... My God. I can't.
We don't grieve for those who have passed, we grieve and cry for ourselves. My Dad passed at 61(agent orange), way too young.
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@@haveyoueverheardtherain yes was thunder and lightning last night!
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Both of my parents have passed. I'm 48 y/o and I still feel like an orphaned little girl, as I'm sure most people who have lost either or both parents would feel. Hearing this guy, not only disrespect his MIL and his wife, but to not even feel saddened by the loss or comfort his own wife, is disgusting.
Henry needs to get lost! Hes such a horrible husband that definitely needs to never be married again. No one deserves to have to put up with his horribleness.
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Yay another collaboration! Thanks for the video!
I lost my mother just over seven years ago, she was 93, sadly my wife was unable to come to the funeral as her visa had expired and she couldn't get a replacement in time, but she had helped me care for my mother. I was pleased that I had been able to take my mother to visit her sister, that was less than one week before my mother's death.
How odd that there was no transition between the first conversation and the first monologue.
Nor the second one either.
It was a bit jarring.
So she got nothing? Smdh
Texts at the start moved me and Henry's reply made sense - If someone is living with great pain daily, it is best to let them go. But then Henry went completely off the rails. Wonder if he will have the same attitude when it is time for HIS mother. I seriously doubt it.
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No
The way the husband doesn’t consider going to his mother in laws funeral to support his WIFE! WTF?! His wife needs him!
The lack of empathy is jawdropping. The husband is a waste of oxygen. "Braindead: is perfect, grocery shopping and cooking by the wife while dodging her mom's funeral, just wow. And then he expected to get a share of the estate? Oh, no..there's bad vibes and spirits attached to the inheritance. He can't possibly want that money
Lol. Catch a demon by going to a funeral! I never heard of such craziness!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Funerals are for the living, not the dead.
Good Morning ☀️ Have a great Monday everyone 👋 Smile it makes others do the same 🤗
From Louisiana 🐊
Hi Bridget hope you have a great day xx Pam
@@haveyoueverheardtherain Played hard this weekend. Today is clean up day for me 🤭 Enjoy your day 👋🤗
Good morning, Bridget!! I'm late for this one. Stupid daylight savings!! 😂😂
Good mornin' from Tennessee
@@ajaxjohnson7999 I'm thinking it's earlier than it is but the baby is sleeping later 🤭. Hope you had a good weekend and have a wonderful day 👋🤭
Divorce is in his future!!
While the end of pain is a good thing, that does not mean you want to hear it!
Also, my father's funeral was during the polar vortex in January 2015. We received apologies from my in-laws, as it was considered unsafe for them to drive that distance unless it was absolutely necessary. My mother and I agreed, the last thing we wanted was another funeral! But my husband came.
I have to say, I like these new protagonist that are taking way less stuff than the previous ones. The attitude language, much better.
I love me some paranormal, but this guy is giving it a bad rap 1😎💜🐾
Ok so Henry was actually trying to help in the beginning. In fact what he said wasn't really wrong. The only thing that may be a little insensitive was saying it was a "good death" IN THE BEGINNING.
The rest is definitely insensitive the whole "bad vibes" thing and refusal to go to the funeral is rude and gross.
Idk something about saying 'is that so' after your heartbroken spouse tells you their mother passed away didn't sit right with me. Not only that but telling her "my mommie said I can't go to the funeral" and "me going won't bring her back" didn't give me that impression.
Yeah, I was okay with him until he got to the 'good death' too. I was done with him when he started that "my mommy said" crap and wouldn't go. It doesn't matter so much what his MIL had done for him in life, and it wouldn't even matter if she had been mean to him and he hated her - he should have gone to the funeral as support for his wife.
Demons? Bad vibes?? Good for OP getting out of that marriage
My father died several years ago. I didn't make it to the funeral due to health and lack of money. However, I did go and visit him while he was in hospital because my FIL gave me the money to do so. It was a very uncomfortable flight, and I had to deal with some unpleasant people, but I was happy to be with my Dad for that time. I told my mother that I wouldn't have the funds to attend the funeral (we knew it was just a matter of time) and she was in agreement that there wouldn't be anyplace for me to stay or anyone to pick me up at the airport. I spoke to him for the last time a month later while he was hospices at home. He died 20 mins after I hung up.
My first husband spent the day my mother was buried with his parents after the funeral it still hurts to this day
This is what gaslighting looks like
I have been to a funeral 3 or 4 times since I was a kid to adult last time I lost my mom. My sister and I were disheartening grief for our mom.
This (ex) husband said like nothing emotional support to his wife she needed him to be there as mortal support. He talked and the guilty trip about her mom pissed me off and blood boiled up. Don't ever say like these to who grief.
Shame on him and his mom. Who cares if her lost mom is rich or poor? Her life is none of your business.
If he's worried about catching bad things at the funeral, what about the demons unleashed by not going?
Trust me, Op's mom will be delighted to unlease hell upon the male person
I really wish the protagonists would cuss more. It would provide me with some relief at how angry I get for them at the antagonists and their stupidity/evilness.
Unfortunately there are trash excuses for humans like Henry and his mother IRL!
And people? Stop telling people "they're in a better place now!" That is cold comfort for anyone suffering for a loss!
If you can't think of what to say, just think of how your friend/co-worker/acquaintance is suffering and just be a decent human being to them! Even if their parent was the worst person in the world, your friend/co-worker/acquaintance needs comfort from you! Sheesh! It never ceases to amazes me how even THAT MUCH is beyond most people!
Is he a kid? I've had paranormal experiences since i was a kid but i've still attended a funeral even though i barely knew the person that died as he was a family member that i've met only once. If he's so worried about "demons" he could've gotten himself some items to ward off evil like an evil eye or similar items especially for someone who 's done a lot of things for him and that's very close to him family wise
I lost my dad young, and almost lost my mom multiple times. This man pisses me off royally for that, I would be there in record time
Please accept my deepest condolences 😢😭💔 My Dad passed away on January 10, 2015 😭💔 We, our Mom, my half-sister, my half-brother, my brother, and I miss him a lot 😭💔
The first few messages I actually agree with him. It sounds harsh but he is right
As right as he is, there was a time and place and it revealed much about how much of a hypocrite he is
He is not right to say it, because it is is not going to make anyone feel better, when you are missing someone so badly you want all of the bad things to not have happened, not told they're better off now!
@@carolroberts4614 I know I know, I am only saying his observation isn't wrong. Was his timing rubbish yes. Was he wrong though no.
@@tailsofchaos spot on
Geez is Henry that thoughtless? There is no such thing as a good or bad death. I miss my mom when she passed away in September of 2021. I would have given him a good piece of my mind. I would give anything to have one more day with her.
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 My Dad passed away on January 10, 2015, and we, our Mom, my half-sister, my half-brother, my brother, and I miss him a lot 😢 💔
The money her brother and his wife got was kind of like reimbursement for the care they had given to his mother.
Is her husband five? Get rid of him, girl.
What a momma boy.
Sometimes its best to say, I'm sorry and I'm there for you and just leave it at that.
For someone that complained about going saying it’d be bad luck it turns out not going became bad luck
Irony his MIL was such a caring person & he chose not to go to the funeral the after the divorce he realizes the mom he chose to skip out with isn’t that good after all
So. He couldn’t be there for a woman that was there for his mom when her husband died, but neither one of them can be bothered to be there for her and her daughter. But as soon as money is involved the very same woman suddenly becomes the most important person to him and his mother. Make it make sense. Money is more important than human life. You can even overcome the fear of demons and dying to acquire it. Hmmmmm, interesting. 🤔
This husband and his mother have some crazy ideas, this is something that would be impossible to get over
Billyboy the mommy's boy need I say more?
This could have been my former SO. He was just as awful.
Omfg what is wrong with this guy? I lost my mum almost 3 yrs ago she was only 66 and if my husband said he wouldn't go to her funeral that would be it for us. 😢
Please accept my deepest condolences 😭 My Dad passed away on January 10, 2015, and we, our Mom, my half-sister, my half-brother, my brother, and I miss him a lot 😢 💔