“Am I a pick me girl?!”…🥲

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  • @xFantasy_
    @xFantasy_ ปีที่แล้ว +21239

    Sometimes, i’d feel bad for doing all these things because some people consider that being a “pick me girl “. You’ve honestly helped me get more confident and more proud of myself. Thank you.

    • @wintvibes
      @wintvibes ปีที่แล้ว +431

      people actually consider those things being a pick me? society has truly lost common sense...

    • @Beaneditsmovies
      @Beaneditsmovies ปีที่แล้ว +137

      Bro me too! Now I know what a actual pick me is And she has made me more confident

    • @namgiseok
      @namgiseok ปีที่แล้ว +29

      omg same

    • @firefighter48640
      @firefighter48640 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Just be happy to have one of you beautiful woman

    • @kanaksikarwar223
      @kanaksikarwar223 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      ​@@wintvibesYes they truly does 😂I was recently in same deliemma bcoz I remembered how I told people that I don't like to wear makeup and I have never played with dolls but only video games nd other stuff as I have 2 brothers then I felt like but I never look down on anyone why should I be ashamed!

  • @Dickerson888
    @Dickerson888 ปีที่แล้ว +12400

    I hate that women denigrate other women. They crush their spirit.

    • @vanessavanessa6311
      @vanessavanessa6311 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Me to

    • @Skipping-skips
      @Skipping-skips ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Agreed!

    • @basil_awan3
      @basil_awan3 ปีที่แล้ว +75

      meanwhile my mom and aunts rn: "im still body shaming her "

    • @rosealpha2054
      @rosealpha2054 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      Exactly. We should be supporting each other.
      ✨Girl power✨

    • @Capr1c0rn4rtist
      @Capr1c0rn4rtist ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ​@@basil_awan3OMG SAME 😭😭

  • @EarthaMk
    @EarthaMk ปีที่แล้ว +796

    shout out to all the genuine girls girls 💕

  • @FairyInHandcuffs
    @FairyInHandcuffs 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +947

    I once got called a pick me by a 5th grader for having *bangs.* *BANGS.*

    • @GenshinGanyu.
      @GenshinGanyu. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +95

      Wtf- that fifth grader called like more than half of the female population a ‘pick me’ 💀

    • @AmeyaSathyaraj
      @AmeyaSathyaraj 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      I am in the 9th grade and I have bangs because it is the only hairstyle that suits me 😊😂

    • @FairyInHandcuffs
      @FairyInHandcuffs 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@GenshinGanyu. LOL

    • @sukidrawsandedits
      @sukidrawsandedits 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Samee. I was also called a “pick me” by other girls for freaking TALKING to guys???!! Like tf?

    • @Yunyanx
      @Yunyanx 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      ​​@@sukidrawsandeditsfr and that guy is my cousin 💀💀

  • @rachelleyburadjeffery8871
    @rachelleyburadjeffery8871 ปีที่แล้ว +607

    Remember, "dogs bark when they Don't know the person."

    • @loma7652
      @loma7652 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      They also bark when they see a demon and ghost

    • @His_Princess619
      @His_Princess619 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      All animals are too good, some people sometimes though are.. they are a little yikes

    • @sezn02
      @sezn02 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dayyyuuum

    • @Yes_Im_your_mom
      @Yes_Im_your_mom หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@loma7652They also bark when they know someone hurt their owner, my dog barked at my uncle because he raped me and my little cousin.

  • @Wonyoung2341obesssesd
    @Wonyoung2341obesssesd ปีที่แล้ว +5065

    Love you don’t let anyone discourage you from doing anything you do

    • @ClaraDao
      @ClaraDao  ปีที่แล้ว +431

      love youuu

    • @pixelzebra8440
      @pixelzebra8440 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @ClaraDao I love how when people pointed out in another video that you might be insinuating that everyone who does these things is a pick-me, instead of getting mad you chose to clarify it with this video. Thanks! It shows you really do try to understand and improve

    • @obsessedwitu
      @obsessedwitu ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ​@@ClaraDaoi love you

    • @freshpapy300
      @freshpapy300 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@@ClaraDaoI'm having a hard time being friends with girls, being friends with guys is easier for me. Does that mean I'm a pick me?😢

    • @ILove101.
      @ILove101. ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​​@@ClaraDaothank youuu!
      I was always confused,cs I kinda felt like a pick me for not wearing make up,and wearing baggy clothes,....So this helpd me!💗

  • @fa11ingleaves
    @fa11ingleaves ปีที่แล้ว +4274

    “she just does sports for attention! she’s trying too hard 🙄”
    now THAT’S a pick me

    • @Yourgalqal
      @Yourgalqal ปีที่แล้ว +121

      Keep rolling your eyes until you see how your brain is small💀

    • @amytrezy2307
      @amytrezy2307 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      ​@@Yourgalqalbruh 😂😂😂

    • @AyaT-ky1jg
      @AyaT-ky1jg ปีที่แล้ว +14

      What's tomboy

    • @Nicenegative_fox
      @Nicenegative_fox ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Yall are missing the point shes saying people that say that are pick me😅😅😅

    • @Idiot_103
      @Idiot_103 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      ​@@AyaT-ky1jgA tomboy is a girl that has hobbies or interests that men typically have, for example, a girl who likes wearing more "boy-ish" clothing or likes playing video games.

  • @cocoz792
    @cocoz792 ปีที่แล้ว +434

    exactly, so many people will call a girl a pick me for no reason

  • @mayyym
    @mayyym ปีที่แล้ว +140

    There’s a girl name Eris in my home room and she is a pick me. She turned everyone against me and whispers secrets about me for wearing pink- she hangs out with boys and dyes her hair. And she has a voice that no one wants to hear and everybody somehow likes her. That’s a real problem. But just because you were boy clothes or have friends that are boys you aren’t a pick me. Putting down other girls is called a pick me, literally.

    • @dorisvito3150
      @dorisvito3150 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      And why are you judging her for her voice or for her dyeing her hair? I don't see how that she Puts you down for male attention. She puts you down, yes! But that automatically doesn't mean that she is doing that because she wants attention of the boys.

    • @dorisvito3150
      @dorisvito3150 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @ZFA16 but she didn't write it. She counted so many other things about her, but not what a Pick me girl really is

  • @The_Green_Shapeshifter
    @The_Green_Shapeshifter 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +147

    I was friends with someone, who would complement someone and as soon as they walk away say something like “who would wear that it’s so ugly” she would constantly put over people down

  • @IWantWinec1
    @IWantWinec1 ปีที่แล้ว +484

    my classmates called me a pick me for doing nothing but just be friends with a guy... And they called me cringe but i already stop... I definitely did nothing but just be myself

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Be friends with people who make you happy, no matter what gender they are.

    • @candy-stars
      @candy-stars ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Call her cringe back for being so invested in you and who you’re friends with. You deserve to be friends with whoever you want.. I’m sorry you’re being picked on. You’re not a pick me for being yourself.

    • @tyw3537
      @tyw3537 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      That's called they were hating on you for being someone who the guy would pick 😂. There's a huge difference between attention seeking women (the pick me's) vs a woman just being herself.

    • @serenitysubs933
      @serenitysubs933 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Jealous girls idk atp

    • @vyiera.
      @vyiera. ปีที่แล้ว +2

      same here, they fr just calling me a pick me jst bc I make friends with boys, I also make friends with girls
      I dont get it why r they calling me a pick me, the fact that the girl who called me a pick me, is rlly seeking attention from the boys, she literally flirting with many boys in my class, like girl get a mirror.

  • @fossilia2341
    @fossilia2341 ปีที่แล้ว +822

    I love how Clara reads the comments on her shorts on pick me girls. Lots of people who are tomboys were worried they were pick mes. Clara is so nice for responding by making a video reassuring them❤❤

  • @wandaboatrite8043
    @wandaboatrite8043 ปีที่แล้ว +979

    This is so great that someone recognizes the difference! I was called a pick me for the longest time, just being a tomboy❤️❤️

    • @ClaraDao
      @ClaraDao  ปีที่แล้ว +85

      ❤❤❤

    • @Rylie_1604
      @Rylie_1604 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yess❤

    • @annikaninaellequormoran212
      @annikaninaellequormoran212 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Aww For me I also been called pick me just because I play with boys 😊

    • @annikaninaellequormoran212
      @annikaninaellequormoran212 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm so grateful thay Clara really made me feel better cause half of my classmates think am a "pick me"

    • @Ka-Chow95_
      @Ka-Chow95_ ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Same, a girl in my class calls me a pick me whenever she sees me and basically hates me when I haven’t done anything to her

  • @Elllie-ec8fu
    @Elllie-ec8fu 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you for this Clara. Everyone always calls me pick me when I want to just be me- the kind of girl who just happens to want to play basketball instead of volleyball. I really needed to hear this. I love your channel- you have helped so so so many people

  • @Lisathecutestandprettiest
    @Lisathecutestandprettiest 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    As a tomboy I can agree with all of these
    Even on TH-cam in tomboy dressing videos you can still find comments that will say ohh wearing boyish clothes such a pick me and I am not like other girls behavior , this is so common

  • @mumatsi
    @mumatsi ปีที่แล้ว +1732

    Thank you Clara, I really needed to hear this because I've always been called pick me by other people for liking masculine things and having male friends
    I love all my girlies, I would never insult them for the things they enjoy ❤

    • @coco-kl3xr
      @coco-kl3xr ปีที่แล้ว +15

      that is sweet

    • @bingbong6323
      @bingbong6323 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      that's the annoying thing that happens when people overuse and end up misusing terms. i genuinely am interested in women (romantically), and always am a girl's girl. but the fact that i have more guy friends than girl friends, the fact that i tend to say i don't like wearing dresses, etc. but i also have a naturally very high pitched voice. many people call me a pick me simply because of those things, wth?

    • @mumatsi
      @mumatsi ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@bingbong6323 Same here, I am also LGBT (aromantic asexual) and it seems like most of us got called pick me's by other people

    • @evianakrumova8078
      @evianakrumova8078 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly, you're so understanding.😊

    • @cora8064
      @cora8064 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      to be honest I hate when I was looking like a boy and accidentally blurted it out, my friend that day called me a pick me

  • @simpforjdb
    @simpforjdb ปีที่แล้ว +762

    She makes me feel so confident and loved🥹 Love you clara. Always and forever.

  • @ilove_gojo
    @ilove_gojo ปีที่แล้ว +401

    As someone who is a tomboy and doesn’t feel comfortable in dresses and makeup getting a wolfcut has made me gain my confidence and up I avoid male friends because it’s the only way I can think of avoiding being called “pick me”. I’ve only got 1 male friend 💀

    • @jolynesenpai
      @jolynesenpai 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      Don't avoid them, feel free to lake friends not based on gender ❤

    • @acegardianarocrat
      @acegardianarocrat 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      don't let society limit your friendships! I'm a tomboy too and I've got equal proportion of male and female friends

    • @Nnycin
      @Nnycin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can't be friends with girls. Idk just they dont like me, and I dont like them. For me every girl in school its danger cause everyone is like impostor

    • @HenrySimmons1225
      @HenrySimmons1225 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not wearing makeup doesn't make you a tomboy-

    • @acegardianarocrat
      @acegardianarocrat 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @@HenrySimmons1225 she said she's a tomboy AND doesn't like makeup. Not that she's a tomboy BECAUSE she doesn't like makeup. Two mutually different things

  • @theyluvlalisa
    @theyluvlalisa 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    And you're not a pick me if you like pink, you're not a pick me if you like playing football and you're not a pick me if you like the way you look.

  • @NURSE_SHARK
    @NURSE_SHARK 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    There is also a difference between egotistic girls and pick Me’s 👍

  • @icarusxedits
    @icarusxedits ปีที่แล้ว +126

    Tbh some people would probably think I’m a pick me because I don’t go around complimenting people. I don’t mean it bad or anything, I just have trouble approaching people even without a compliment. I usually talk as less as possible, probably due to my social anxiety.

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Same. If you are not putting down other people of the same gender as you to make yourself look better and receive attention then you are not a pick me.

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd ปีที่แล้ว +7

      However take any chance to lift someone up who you fell comfortable talking to. I’m good at complimenting my friends or people online but not so much with people who I see in person but don’t know very well. I’ve been trying to work on that. It’s scary but it feels good to make someone else happy.

  • @AidenClark123
    @AidenClark123 ปีที่แล้ว +363

    This makes me so comfortable all because i have alot of friends who are boys and i usually wear tomboy clothes and i always play video games. Thank you clara this has made me really happy about myself ❤️

    • @haleys5539
      @haleys5539 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Litterally me

    • @zioyuu__
      @zioyuu__ ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I have the same thing happen to me but I’m more friends with other females

    • @moa_bookworm
      @moa_bookworm ปีที่แล้ว +3

      same literally 13 boy best friends and 7 girl best friends and nothings wrong with it

    • @AidenClark123
      @AidenClark123 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@zioyuu__ same

    • @AidenClark123
      @AidenClark123 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@moa_bookworm woah you have alot of friends

  • @shradharitash
    @shradharitash ปีที่แล้ว +788

    This made me so comfortable knowing even if I’m not a complete tomboy, im still called pick me. But Clara made me so happy about myself- Love u Clara❤️ my role model💖✨

    • @ReplyIfyoumad
      @ReplyIfyoumad ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Dont listen to them other little girls that be hating

    • @Moonchild-x8u
      @Moonchild-x8u ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I agree, once I commented under a video: "I'm not a pick me because I don't wear makeup, I just hate the feeling of it" and another person commented: "Yes you are"

    • @Savannah-qb4bb
      @Savannah-qb4bb ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Moonchild-x8u oof. i've never tried makeup since it'd make my acne worse, so just be grateful you can even wear it

    • @jess_thenb756
      @jess_thenb756 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Moonchild-x8uI get that, I wish the makeup that isn’t gross feeling on the skin was cheaper and could be found in stores instead of just online :(

    • @OBrien-hi9zq
      @OBrien-hi9zq 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Savannah-qb4bbOMG SAMMMEEE it makes my eczema rlly bad even though I'd love to wear it!! Cant:/

  • @jackielee8669
    @jackielee8669 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Tysm for this video Clara❤, I’ve always been called a pick me for wearing “boy” clothes and roughhousing, OR knowing stuff about building or cars, that I knew bc my dad taught me!?, and people would say “Ohhhh ur a pick me bc u don’t wear makeup!” so I would show them I’m wearing makeup and then they would be like “Ugh, ur using makeup?, it’s not good 4 women🙄” like- what😀, but once again tysm for this vid❤

  • @mijayhypen
    @mijayhypen ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much, this girl in my class bullies me because I hang out with boys, she puts other girls down and never complements any one. She has a crush on one of my guy friends and I am competition to her so she puts me down even though i dont like them. So thanks Clara, also she calls me a Pick me when shes the only pick me. I told her to research the definition so she will figure out shes the only pick me. Shes honestly a toxic b, but shes the least of my worries ❤❤

  • @queenspacegirl1393
    @queenspacegirl1393 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    Thank you for saying this,I’m so tired of tomboyish girls getting called pick mes for no reason 😭

  • @ily279
    @ily279 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    i’m so glad you pointed this out! pick me is a personality/mind set not a certain aesthetic. love you always Clara💞💓

  • @_Lvnar_Eclipzz
    @_Lvnar_Eclipzz ปีที่แล้ว +35

    THANKS YOU FOR SAYING THESE!!! all my friends call me a pick me and I was soooo freaking angry and sad with them!! I will send them this vid now.

  • @Colorfully467
    @Colorfully467 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    'You're not a nerd just because you're study and reading:)'

  • @mehakshetty3527
    @mehakshetty3527 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This was a much needed video for everyone to understand that a girl can't be called a pick me for her genuine choices to not wear make-up or play video games etc. A pick me gorl is ANY girl that puts a woman down for attention

  • @Its_Halley
    @Its_Halley ปีที่แล้ว +70

    God, I needed these words, I am the typical girl who grew up surrounded by boys (my cousins and brother) so I tend to be more fond of "masculine" things, and since women tend to put you down, I have come to think that boys may be best friends than some girls (Still most of my friends are girls), but I always see that girls like me are called "pick me" and it makes me a little sad to see how other girls (mostly my friends) talk about things like makeup and I don't understand a word they say, so thank you, it made me feel so much better 💓

    • @M4riqxx
      @M4riqxx 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I relate to this whole paragraph lol

    • @Oderoderuchte
      @Oderoderuchte 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Relate too

    • @Gofex1337
      @Gofex1337 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Just ignore it honestly. Men and women have different definitions of what a pick me is, and the female definition is actually quite pick me lmao.

  • @starrshort6403
    @starrshort6403 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Thank you , I don’t wear make up and I play video games but I am NOT a pick me girl, I’m friends with many girls and boys and I don’t see girls as competition. I love you Clara thank you for making me feel more comfortable and confident about my body ❤❤❤

  • @LittleFoxFriend
    @LittleFoxFriend ปีที่แล้ว +119

    Thank you so much for this video

    • @ClaraDao
      @ClaraDao  ปีที่แล้ว +15

      love you 💙🦋

    • @D0ghnut509
      @D0ghnut509 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Do whatever makes you happy gurl! Don’t let others get to you

  • @suviilms
    @suviilms ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I gotta send this to my friend. Came up to me in school one day and asked me this question and I couldn’t explain the difference fully but this would explain it to her

  • @Foxface770
    @Foxface770 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is the best description of a pick me girl that I've ever seen

  • @bunnix_aura
    @bunnix_aura ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I constantly get called a pick me girl. I have lots of guy friends, even a boyfriend. Yes, I have friends that are girls too, but I have more guy friends. There was this one dumb girl named Jackie and she called me a pick me for getting mad at my brother for calling me a nickname I hate and apparently saying “ugh.” I was cutting myself for years, but when I met my boyfriend I got so much better. He honestly saved me. I dress kind of tomboy-ish sometimes. I dress girly sometimes. But I’m not a pick me. And all my friends can agree on that. I don’t like too much attention, I only like attention from the ones I love the most. There’s this girl in my class who is an actual pick me, she tries to talk to every single boy in class and rolls her eye at every girl that she talks to- like bro???

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I’m glad you found someone who helped you get through that.

    • @ParanormalShylo
      @ParanormalShylo ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey that’s awesome you’re in a great place.
      I’d like to politely point out the whole point of the video is saying, “pick me” is viewing other women as competiton. Not about being tomboy or girly or how many boys someone talks to.
      Pick me is someone who can’t be friends with their own gender.
      I hope that helps.

    • @ParanormalShylo
      @ParanormalShylo ปีที่แล้ว

      Competition in eachother or in leu of men

  • @ChangbinsThirdToenail
    @ChangbinsThirdToenail ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Thank you so much for saying this! A lot of girls I know would call me a pick me just because I would always show up wearing baggy clothes (it was usually pajamas💀) and no makeup, and most of my friends were guys. but that’s just cuz I’m tired asf, and all the girls were so mean-like-😭

  • @killerwolf9024
    @killerwolf9024 ปีที่แล้ว +272

    Thank you for the reassurance ❤️
    I’m always really scared of my actions because I’m afraid of being seen as a pick me when in reality I’m just trying to live my life

  • @blueb3rry_246
    @blueb3rry_246 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    this woman is the inspiration this generation needs. Thank you for helping me build confidence in myself.

  • @arigainey9104
    @arigainey9104 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love, I genuinely love giving people compliments in the hallway, people, I don't know because I know I always feel so happy when I get a compliment from a stranger, because it doesn't happen very often, and I love giving other people that joy

  • @Scaraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
    @Scaraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I honestly really needed this, whenever i see a vid with a pick me girl saying they dont wear makeup i feel like a pick me and i constantly try to explain to myself that im not a pick me for not wearing make up i really loved this and it helped me be more happy with being myself

    • @etcwhatever
      @etcwhatever ปีที่แล้ว

      Dont listen to others opinion. If you are a good person with good intentions then dont worry for a second with others opinions.

    • @CaffeinatedAndCrazy-7734
      @CaffeinatedAndCrazy-7734 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Personally, I almost never wear makeup except for theatre. Part of the reason is because I have no clue where my makeup is, but it's mostly because I don't think to or see the point of it. If I'm being totally honest, it has nothing to do with how every girl is beautiful and should be proud of their natural appearance. I am very self-conscious at times about how I look. It's because if you give me art supplies (which makeup more or less is, just for your face) I am going to want to mess around and experiment with it. Eyeshadow and lipstick you can do that with. The other stuff? Not so much.

  • @xcutesypandaxii6198
    @xcutesypandaxii6198 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Thank you so much for this Clara. I’ve been called a pick-me girl so much before because I’m a girl and don’t wear makeup because I like to be natural. But that’s just me, it just kinda feels right- 😭 Tysm for this video i feel way better

    • @laylovin
      @laylovin ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same, but people at school call me trans or a boy because i look like one. I have a broad jawline that make it look that way.
      People at my school make fun of me, even though I was born a girl and stayed a girl, I have never once stated that I was trans or liked girls.
      Most assume I am a boy because of the way I dress. I go with hoodies because they are comfortable. I have curly short hair and I dont like sports. I like running or cross country, I am interested in makeup, unfortunately I'm not confident enough to wear it yet.
      Some girls at school are trying to convince other girls at school that I'm a lesbian when I just try to be nice. 😢
      Because of that bullies have been purposly telling others to stay away.
      Its so embarrassing. I just want everyone to know I'm a girl and let it stay that way.

    • @indigo_0
      @indigo_0 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@laylovin homophobic or super gay, i hate that we all stereotype what’s for guys or girls and what’s considered “gay” or not. take for example people getting mad over harry styles wearing a dress because he’s not “gay enough” to wear it. like, why do we have to attach that to just an article of clothing? it’s so contradictory when you say “clothes have no gender” one minute, and then go shit on people on twitter for looking too masculine or feminine.
      and also, please don’t let those people get into your head.
      (i feel like i’m not using the best wording while typing this so take it with a grain of salt)

  • @hazelhazarrived
    @hazelhazarrived ปีที่แล้ว +44

    My friend talked to me about how she felt like a pick-me girl because she mentioned that she was on a diet and didn't have dessert with some other friends. I was heartbroken that just because she didn't feel confident in herself and wanted to be thinner caused her to think people would dislike her. Thanks for making this video, because I feel like a lot of girls are called pick-me girls for genuinely thinking they're ugly or stupid.

    • @Gofex1337
      @Gofex1337 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Men and women have different definitions of a pick me girl. The irony is that the female version is pretty pick me.

  • @tfreymiller
    @tfreymiller ปีที่แล้ว +2

    As a women I to was and am like this and let me tell you it was a pain in the ass, people will always call be gay or a boy in school and girls did have a crush on me. That’s when people would spread rumors about me saying I would date those girls or that I was lying about my personality. I lost “friends” and it fucking sucked and I still get messed like this in middle school. It doesn’t matter if you are a tomboy, play video games or if you like the same gender none of that matters, what matters is you and that is final.
    Love men and women the way they are💙

  • @shanitasarwar76
    @shanitasarwar76 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My neighbour who is a woman used to hate me playing sports and her behavior around me made me lose confidence, you helped me gain it, so thank you so much!❤

  • @YugiAmane69
    @YugiAmane69 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love to see people talking and pointing out the differences between a tomboy and a pick me thank you 💖💖💖

  • @Justmahya
    @Justmahya ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Yes absolutely true, ty for this!!
    I honestly think ppl should be themselves after all ur living for urself and ppl who just judge ppl like that is just not good, be urself and be genuine and nice to ppl after all we are all human and we have more in common than we think. Thanks clara for this video it truly means a lot!

  • @Creative_StudioMic
    @Creative_StudioMic ปีที่แล้ว +151

    There was a girl, who called me "a pick me" for hanging out with a group of guys. She assumed that I crave for their attention.
    I stared at her. And said: "I can't love people as romantical partners and it ruined a few of my previous relationships. If you love one of my male friends - go on, pick any of them, I don't mind."
    She got extremely embarrassed in a matter of seconds. We're on good terms now.

    • @SydneyAussi
      @SydneyAussi ปีที่แล้ว +6

      oh!

    • @acegardianarocrat
      @acegardianarocrat 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      being an aromantic ace hanging out with a group of guys:

  • @missstranger7697
    @missstranger7697 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This was a very important message you spread throughout the video... Thank you!!💯👏🔝🤩
    I used to be a pick me, because I was having a hard time getting along with my older sister and we were fighting... But now that we grew into adults, we started to appreciate and care for each other more!! We had each other and this boosted our confidence to get along with guys as well!

  • @rozgal
    @rozgal 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    THANK YOU! a woman can play video games and not wear dresses and not be a pick me. thank for clarifying for all the confused people out there

  • @chearma_
    @chearma_ ปีที่แล้ว +29

    we should support pick me, cuz they are like that because of being traumatized by society. they behave terribly but need support.

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Good point. It can be difficult though. I want to help but it hurts my mental health trying to do that.

    • @mochaismilk
      @mochaismilk ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Traumatized is a bit of a stretch. Most pick-mes just have poor self esteem and put down other women to feel better about themselves. But for the most part I agree

    • @chearma_
      @chearma_ ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@mochaismilk it's also about injuries, but you are right

    • @cuteasduck3254
      @cuteasduck3254 ปีที่แล้ว

      No wtf? U want girls to put down other girls and wanna support the true pick me girls?

    • @mochaismilk
      @mochaismilk ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@StevieShaunice Low self esteem doesn't always stem from trauma. You don't have to be traumatized to have it. I'm just saying that "pick-me" behavior isn't always developed from external conflicts. And implying that is just wrong in many cases.

  • @laurenc1226
    @laurenc1226 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    i know a pick me girl. she starts “fake fights” with our teacher on the dumbest things and always ends up being the only one wrong. she texted my friend and called her living head ache. she also does soooo much for attention and always puts others down. she’s the worst and most annoying kid in my class.

  • @Mikuameyama
    @Mikuameyama ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I remember when I was called a pick me by an actual pick me. I made friends with a nice boy, and the girl joined. She said "That missy needs to leave" And brought me down, and she made herself look better in front of him. Then they called me a pick me, so did the boy because the girl made me look bad. It felt so bad, but I'm glad i dumped them. I developed androphobia ever since then and I distance myself from boys.

    • @yazanmozip
      @yazanmozip 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Tbh I don't like being friends with guys not that i dont wanna be a pick me or called one its just like that in my relgion. If a girl is a pick me we dont call her that, we call her a "hoe/bitch". Pick me's also get spanked in my relgion.

  • @kitk9622
    @kitk9622 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really needed this. I have been calekd a pick me for YEARS because of my relationship with boys, and people wont stop making romours abt crushes, boys and me, and I am so happy soembody finally notices how not all girls and tomboys are pick me's.

  • @Dan1Lee
    @Dan1Lee 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Honestly this girl inspires me a lot and she’s probably one of my favorite people and she has such a beautiful soul and she’s so beautiful aswell and I love her confidence so much💛💛

  • @Dxrk320
    @Dxrk320 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Clara has made my life better

  • @LisaHi-r3n
    @LisaHi-r3n ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Okay but why are TOMBOYS just so sweet because most of my friends are and they are always like “HEY you mess with my girls you go through me!” And they are like the soldiers for woman

  • @someone.fromsomewhere.
    @someone.fromsomewhere. ปีที่แล้ว +11

    A lot of people call me a pick me, except I’m a girly girl who is always in support of other girls. I love uplifting others, seeing someone become confident is something that always makes me happy. But people still call me a pick me and I don’t understand why?

    • @RuanMei_SocietyGenius
      @RuanMei_SocietyGenius ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Cuz people are jealous of you and your personality, probably

    • @HarryPotterandmaraunders
      @HarryPotterandmaraunders ปีที่แล้ว

      I think if you change your whole personality your a pick me not if you like masculine things

    • @illuminaticonfirmed1389
      @illuminaticonfirmed1389 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      because people don’t know what a pick me is and they’re dumb.

    • @HarryPotterandmaraunders
      @HarryPotterandmaraunders ปีที่แล้ว

      @@illuminaticonfirmed1389hi o just wanted to ask if you are replying to @someone.fromsomwhere

    • @OBrien-hi9zq
      @OBrien-hi9zq 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@HarryPotterandmaraundersThat literally makes no sense... a pick me is someone who puts down other women for sake of male validation/just to be "different"! Having a sense of style is fine and doesn't correlate unless you're putting others down!

  • @Raikanthopeniii
    @Raikanthopeniii ปีที่แล้ว

    Clara thankyou so much!
    In the other video lot of them were generalized us with those ones who are just tryna follow the trend when tomboy isnt even a damn style at first place thank-you so much!! 😭😭😭✨❤️

  • @oilandwater_08
    @oilandwater_08 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Girls at school call me a pick me all the time and i never know how to respond. This helps me realize that everthing they say about me is completely wrong. Thank you 💕✨

  • @MumtahinaMaryam-x9u
    @MumtahinaMaryam-x9u ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You are literally my idol for being this much strong against mean comments.❤Lovee youuu so much clara dear!!!(even god doesn't know how much😂😂)

  • @elliefishh
    @elliefishh ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I have trouble complimenting other people. It's not because I don't want to or think they're not worthy of it, it's because I just can't. my love language just isn't words of affirmation. My love language is physical touch. I hug my friends, don't tell them their shoes are cute (sometimes I do). I do compliment people but I feel like it doesn't do anything or they don't appreciate it when I do.

    • @AnnabethOwl
      @AnnabethOwl ปีที่แล้ว

      This is so true for me as well- I also just have a really hard time with words when talking to people including friend(partly because I’m neurodivergent) so i rarely compliment people but I show my platonic love for them in other ways.

  • @Anormalmalaysian
    @Anormalmalaysian ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I once smacked my guy friends back and the girls just looked at me and they were just waiting for me to give a smug look 😭

  • @Bumblebeestripes
    @Bumblebeestripes 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My best friend tried to befriend a new girl, was super sweet to her. Few days ago the new girl and some guys sat in our row for church service. Shes always loud and apparently is even when shes trying to whisper because my friend clearly heard her say "You're going to make me sit next to HER?"
    That girl does not realize nobody likes her at our youth group, she a pick me and we all see it expect for two other pick me girls, the only one who really tried to be her friend she was rude to. I almost fought her.
    My friend was ready to cry, she was so so hurt

  • @SuperStarryR
    @SuperStarryR 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    LITERALLLLYYYYY
    Like I don't wear makeup or fancy clothes on a regular basis just because I'm lazy lol, but I *love* complimenting my girlfriends on their fashion skills! and I'll let them put makeup on me in class or wtv cuz it's a fun bonding experience! and when I *do* put more effort into how I look, it's usually for a special occasion or something, and I *love* going all out then.
    It's a case-by-case basis guys. I know people who wear Gucci dresses every day and I know people who's entire wardrobe consists of hoodies.
    And you wanna know something?
    They all *rock* their looks 😘
    So if anyone's bothered to read this far... 😅
    Rock your look too, boo! Wear what makes *you* feel good, and that confidence will show ♡

  • @Zivziv293
    @Zivziv293 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is so right, one time when I was in school i got into a school for people that more smart and when i said that to her she said that i cheated and make fun of me

  • @rhvlaso
    @rhvlaso ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I used to be called a pick me for doing all that but the person who called me that got karma now half the whole school doesn’t like her because of me she always wanted big attention when I had it then called me spoiled, pick me, annoying, and centre of attention now she has caused so much damage to me I’ll never be mentally fine.

  • @Katiee_IsDeAd
    @Katiee_IsDeAd ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I actually got called "pick me" today for doing such things like being a tomboy and everything so u really made my day Clara not everything but most of the things ❤❤😊

  • @mannixreyes3873
    @mannixreyes3873 ปีที่แล้ว

    You literally cutted off a BIG part of my anxiety. I though i was such a pick me for playing fortnite, saying boy stuff, and having friendships with men. Tysm!!!

  • @daphadog
    @daphadog ปีที่แล้ว

    you just gave me so much relief, I always try and make sure people get praise they deserve :)

  • @Anthonnixe
    @Anthonnixe ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This made me feel comfortable.

  • @monsterwafflez
    @monsterwafflez ปีที่แล้ว +8

    ive felt like a pick me girl for the longest time now and this has made me feel so much better

  • @Cuddl3s._4u554
    @Cuddl3s._4u554 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Tysm this really helped me. In my school everyone thinks I’m a pick me girl just because I’m a tomboy. I love you Tysm 💞

  • @C4S267
    @C4S267 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you a lot for saying this! Many people assume I’m a pick me for these reasons, even though my father influenced me a lot! :)

  • @Angie-Garcia967
    @Angie-Garcia967 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg this is so true so one of my “friends” that i am now not friends with called my best friend a pick me even though my best friend compliments,doesn’t seek for attention,and doesn’t really have that much male friends

  • @theanti-veela-leprechaun
    @theanti-veela-leprechaun ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you so much for this ❤

  • @JustAnExtremelyCoolPerson
    @JustAnExtremelyCoolPerson ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Don’t let anyone tell u what u can and can’t do it’s not healthy❤

  • @Anuva_art_and_craft
    @Anuva_art_and_craft ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you so much for this! I love this channel and you! ❤❤
    I really needed this :)

  • @lg0804
    @lg0804 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for this. I grew up with two brothers so I was used to play video games and kinda act like a tomboy. Also, being the youngest child (and pretty short) I was kinda used to being babied. So while I was in junior high, I would only hang out with the boys (they even called me dude). I did have a crush on one of them, so honestly I sometimes think I was kind of a pick me. I mean I wasn't forcing myself to act like "one of the boys", it was really natural, but still - I did take advantage of this status and thought it was cool not to be like "the other girls". Even tho I was young I'm kind of ashamed now because the boys eventually got sick of it and even rejected me at some point (we got reconciliated after tho). But I never tried to put other women down. I guess I did have stereotypes about the girls around me - but I would not try to make them look bad or anything, ESPECIALLY after I got humbled. So this video really helps me to accept my tomboy personality and realise the line between pick me and just tomboy.

  • @itz_Ansleyyuhh715
    @itz_Ansleyyuhh715 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Someone I know always says im a so called "pick me" because I complain about me being fat or growing certain parts at only age 7. Like you said, a pick me is when you bring someone down for a man's attention, people need to think before they talk.

  • @Notameliaplaysxx
    @Notameliaplaysxx ปีที่แล้ว +5

    STORY TIME!!!
    My “ Friend” is a pick me she always says rude things to me to make me down and even admitted to it once in science class. Our class had an essay due and me my friend who I’m gonna call “B” and “A” B is my bestie A is the pick me. Well we had an essay and B did amazing she got a 90 I got a 70-80 and A got a 60 she got her results before me and she said “Oh no!! I hope you did bad so that my test score can be better” I was shocked when A said that. anther time this happened I had got a new haircut and everyone loved it but Ofcourse A didn’t she kept saying how I looked “bigger” with it and that I looked like Ron weisley from Harry Potter. She always hangs out with some boy she likes even though she’s been rejected many times.

  • @alokanandachandra1600
    @alokanandachandra1600 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks! You taught me what my parents couldn't teach me. 😊

  • @YalixaMendez-wy9ej
    @YalixaMendez-wy9ej ปีที่แล้ว +9

    your amazing. Just remember that.

  • @Michelle-nn5sm
    @Michelle-nn5sm 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    THANK YOU! You are a life saver and a good figure for us to look up upon! I’ve been called a “Pick me” before and I did not like it. I could never imagine you as a pick me, you are good at acting like one but I know you’d never actually do that to someone else

  • @Leonardo-h3x2e
    @Leonardo-h3x2e ปีที่แล้ว +1

    FACTS!! My friend got called pick me girl by a pick me girl just because my friend only have male friends she call her pick me but when we called her a pick me she got mad I hate her so much

  • @iwillchangethislater8237
    @iwillchangethislater8237 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    there was a girl in my school that kept calling me “pick me” for literally just being lesbian.

    • @AutumnPinkyKat
      @AutumnPinkyKat 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh my god. 😂 Imagine just existing as a lesbian and someone goes up to you and says “Oh you’re such a pick me! You just want attention.” Well not from you, Sarah.

    • @iwillchangethislater8237
      @iwillchangethislater8237 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AutumnPinkyKat fr

  • @cybercaptainLee
    @cybercaptainLee ปีที่แล้ว +9

    tomboys are always called either 2 things:
    1. pick me
    2. trans
    Tomboy gang where we at?

  • @madison-iw9ss
    @madison-iw9ss ปีที่แล้ว +10

    "A pick me girl is a girl that puts women down for males attention."
    Tell that to the girls who play royale high and don't know anything.

  • @nothsawsrose
    @nothsawsrose ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good to know that I’m not a pick me 😅
    I have genuine friendships with guys and girls and I give my friends and other people compliment (and mean it) all the time. I don’t tear anyone down and I’m always trying to be kind to everyone around me.

  • @tanishaaugustine7645
    @tanishaaugustine7645 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Si, muchas chicas que llaman pick me girl a otras chicas y las critican, muchas veces son realmente las pick me, y lo hacen porque quieren ser el centro de atención y sienten que estas chicas que se salen de la norma son competencia.

  • @drawingscraftsbyzikra6513
    @drawingscraftsbyzikra6513 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    • @ClaraDao
      @ClaraDao  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      💕💕

  • @idanenn
    @idanenn 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    i loooooove the hair😭 it literally suit’s u so well!

  • @Glamrock_Ballora_FNAF
    @Glamrock_Ballora_FNAF ปีที่แล้ว

    this actually made me feel better because I had loads people call me a pick me and before I had no idea what it was so I felt so ashamed about myself

  • @abnormal.studios
    @abnormal.studios ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thank you!! I dont wear make up, I dont dress like the other girls in my school, and I am friends with other guys. girls call me a pick me because im apparently not as 'great' as them. thank you so much for this, it boosted my self confidence

  • @Mal_Productions_Was_Taken
    @Mal_Productions_Was_Taken 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I actually have a best friend who is a boy in my first period class! He has the same interests as me. We have a genuine friendship!

  • @sarahss-we2ln
    @sarahss-we2ln ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel so bad and my confidence is so low this days because at school when i answer at a question and trust me i swear at my life that im not trying to get attention when the teachers ask and i answer they keep calling me a pick me i play basketball and they call me a pick me or when i ralk with a guy they call me pick me i cant handel the way they look at me and laugh im struggling

  • @Moonlit_Skiies
    @Moonlit_Skiies ปีที่แล้ว

    recently on a anonymous post someone called me a pick me and i got so nervous, and this made me feel so much better, tysm

  • @theirishgalplayz2924
    @theirishgalplayz2924 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My best friend is the definition of a pick me… it gets so annoying. And then one day I told her I have a crush on someone in our class… the next day she says she has a crush on him too(she obviously didn’t before I told her) and now whenever she sees him she is like “ahhh omg he is so hotttt” or “omg in English class he ✨looked✨ at me” like no the whole class was looking at u bc u we’re presenting smh…. 😭😭😭

  • @katelinholks
    @katelinholks 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love friendship between woman’s I love girlhoods 💕💞💖

  • @Hobistrawberryberry
    @Hobistrawberryberry 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So glad you called those people out. Calling someone a pick me is just ignorant and childish.