Nothing is scarier than thinking the narcissist has changed because they're in charming mode, then the next second, they're back to their narcissistic ways. Its why the only thing you can do to save yourself is to fully cut contact.
I can't believe that how this video and lots of comments are so true. I have experienced so many overwrapping traits of the narcissist. If they are so precisely described, I truly hope that they reflect on themselves finally and change. However, as Prof. Sam mentioned in the other video, the narcissist is second most serious mental disease which I agree. They could truly be the worst so I really wonder if they are not able to be cured. It is very sad but it might be true. So all they have to do is keep finding next victim who is ignorant about narcissist.
In a way the hall of mirrors phase kind of backfired on my narc. All the love bombing and grandiose compliments had the opposite effect: I actually believed some of them. I am smart. I am funny. I am interesting and people want to be around me for those very reasons. They aren't putting up with me for some unknown reason. It is my belief that what a narc compliments you the most on is often what you truly are. What they idealize so fully and want for themselves are qualities we already possess. So I did fall in love with myself, I did feel self acceptance in a way I hadn't before. It really opened my eyes to all the abuse and trespasses I had been blind to but suffering from. This was the second time I dated this man so I was prepared for his behaviour. I was also hoovered when I was weakest; I vowed to myself never to be with him or any man again. Well, we know how that goes with a narc. But it only lasted three months this time and I left the relationship fighting for myself and running head first into my own healing journey. I truly hope everyone forced into the presence of a narc finds the strength they need. I hope we all can find some peace and healing.
I used to have to write down the behaviours and feelings and things said to try to make sense of them and to see where I had gone off track. Wow, the time I have wasted in trying to understand him, be patient with him all the while being sucked into a fantasy that there was a good true self with real feelings in there..
You’re Right. Narcissist and people who gravitate towards them want a ‘symbiotic’ relationship. Both want to be heard, seen, needed and accepted. But the narcissist fear of being cast aside and abandoned overwhelms them. Until the symbiotic relationship becomes parasitic.
Seeing this video and comments like this makes me feel both sick and relieved. To know that this disorder is real and affects many people on the planet is one of the only thoughts that helped propel me out of the constant shame, guilt, and confusion. The constant circles of obsessive thoughts that tell you “Nope, you’re actually just a deeply hateable and wrong, ugly, bad person.” Knowing that it is not just my brain, that what they have done is real and based in evidence and years of research, is a godsend in its own way. It’s just like being turned upside down, and you can’t make heads or tails of whether you’re to blame for everything until you’re completely removed from the situation.
There is no point in clinging at a solution, mediation or diplomacy- any exchange whatsoever with these people will be utterly parasitic, because someone so much as paying attention to them, whether positive or negative will always fuel their hunger
The guy I started dating helped me heal from a narcissist and listened to all the traumatic stories and my panic attacks subsided. I then started seeing red flags with the new partner and realised he was indeed a narcissist and a bad one.
I've been with more than one myself. Plus, my second Husband has Munchousen's-by-proxy, and is a Serial killer. I am working on me now, because I was attracting these Men. I've found out along the way that I grew up as a 'Scapegoat Child', and this conditioned me to gravitate towards more Narcissists as an Adult. With God's help I'm gradually recovering from my past. He's helping me de-magnetise myself, so Narcissists are repelled by me, rather than attracted to me. At the moment I don't have any relationship. In time I will again, but this time I'll be well educated on these matters. Why didn't I know of these conditions sooner. Why aren't we taught about them? So much pain, distress, suffering and sheer mayhem could have been avoided, if I'd known then, what I know now.
I remember one time when it dawned on me that my former Husband was not just copying me, but trying to be me in a way. I'd say something original and later on he'd explain how he was telling someone else exactly what I'd said, only he'd conveniently left me out of his conversation. Leaving the person he'd been talking to thinking it was his original idea or thoughts. I said, "What about me? Did I get a mention? Then he had some lame excuse for not mentioning me. But after a while I spotted a pattern, he was gleaning various things I knew, but always claiming it was his alone. So, I stopped telling him stuff so his supply of original thoughts and ideas dried up. I gave up learning French because he started to learn it himself. He was only doing it to copy me. At the moment he's sectioned on a mental ward. It's giving me a desperately needed break from him.
My narcissist husband's house of cards built on my values has fallen. He pretends to be like me but you all know who he really is. I am at a moment of panic. I am disabled and he uses the financial aspect against me. But, I cannot do this anymore. I am so scared. I am so lost. I have been working hard to stop being Echo to his Narcissist over the last four years in therapy. The more stable I am the less things work. The less I can take. The more HE acts out. I just want to thank you for calming me down with your videos. I am pretty isolated without a lot of immediate support... so. Thanks
Stay strong.It,s better for you to be alone,cleaning other people,s houses if necessary,but regain yourself again,than be diying silently inside .Trust me, the feeling of relief and liberation is beyond words.Sending you my strength and support.Cut him off.Hope is our worst enemy.They are beyond help or hope.
Yes, my narcissist called me his soulmate, said he loved me the first day, and got me pregnant within a month. Terrible terrible decisions and I fell for it.
Getting pregnant had nothing to do with your decisions as well? I can never imagine describing getting pregnant as something that was done to me unless it is describing a criminal act.
@@MrHDProd why are you even on this channel? A channel made to educate victims so they can heal and overcome this specific type of abuse. Your comment screams poor social skills and low emotional intelligence.
@@sloftydid you not read where she said “terrible decisions” meaning she’s aware she played a role in the decision? Although being manipulated by definition tampers with your freewill so you’re not making an informed decision. Read to comprehend instead of just respond
I’m so sorry you experienced this😢 It’s devastating how evil and manipulative these people can actually be. I hope you’re able to fully recover and find peace from here forward
Sounds like a game of Catch 22 whereby no one wins: Damn if you do, damn if you don't. So, imo it's best to steer clear, stay away, avoid, and not communicate with a Narc or any of his support team, aka "flying monkeys". I hope I got that right!?
A true narcissist will always prefer to project the false self in the shared fantasy because when one knows no limit to one’s grandiosity, they’ll always fall in love with the reflection of their grandeur in that projection
Always be nice to a narcissist you love, but never let him catch you. He'll chase you to the ends of the earth. My ex is still chasing a girl half his age. Has been since she was 16 yrs old. She ruined his marriage. Racked up 100k on his credit card he gave her. She left him. She's got a man her own age now, and a child, and he still chases her with love bombing on social media using a fictional name, posing as a female friend so her boyfriend, (the babys father) doesn't know she still sees him. EDIT: He cried like a child in front of me saying I love her...im still in love with her. ...sad to see a grown man cry that hard.
Going no contact didn't work for my narc siblings. ... they pulled me back in due to family sysyem events. So i moved my original self to another dimension, and left a clone of me in my original dimension. My brother and sister didn't even notice. Yep, I'm a middle child. Ignored. Works for me.
Thank you Professor Vaknin. At about 8:15, what you relate about how narcissists injecting shared narratives, and mantras as 'entertainment' to synchronize others thoughts describes with perfectly narcissist and sociopathic individuals I've been entangled with, and yes about half of them women. I worked many years for a criminally narcissistic (psychopathic) billionaire who used to great result weaponized forms of 'Projective Resonance' Mantras combined with praise, money, gifts and the illusion of friendship to intrain hundreds and elevate himself as cult leader of a company and political corruption ring he called the 'CBC' or "Corrupt Bastards Club" extended to the highest levels of political, corporate and criminal power. And in addition to Projective Resonance, he also employed abusive mantras, degradation. When his abused wised-up to his game, stopped playing and rejected him, he destroyed professionally, psychologically, physically sometimes fatally much like a Hitler or Sadam, and it seems that what you describe here works on a grand scale with narcisistic and psychopathic cult leaders and dictators does it not?
Sam, this is the most meaningful (to me personally) video you've shared. I loved this one. You described and brought back so much! Over 24 years, I vacillated between the two extremes; mostly coercively controlled. Spot on.
I’m glad I found Sam Vaknins version of narcissism.. I’ve been reading up and watching videos of it 16 years now.. so I’m not as mystified or mind boggled by it anymore.. I’ve dealt with a handful of narcissists in my life so it’s less traumatizing or shocking when I spot it, yet again in a person.. my latest thought while driving in the car yesterday was if the narcissist is afraid of abandonment and doesn’t possess his/her own inner joy/inner stability (since they cyphen happiness and supply from outside of themselves) why do sabotage the source of their supply. The GF is his supply but he stifles her? Does it not occur to them to nurture their supply so that they have a steady stream of it?? The hurt they cause to their partner is hurt that they’re causing on themselves too no?
They do need a constant stream of supply, which does seem counterintuitive that they would possibly sabotage this by devaluing you. However, narcissists derive pleasure from other’s suffering which makes them feel superior. This is a form of supply. This is also the reason that they often triangulate people, so they can still receive narcissistic supply from others, and leave you now competing for their attention for your own validation.
Thank you SO MUCH for explaining this to me...and for ALL you are teaching me, I'm a few mos. into my "hiding" from my last (and 3rd, that I KNOW of) and if it were not for finding your videos I would have gone nutts. So, thank you for sharing just what I need right now, I appreciate every second of your completeness in explaining every situation and feeling. Thank you!
Thank you, Sam; you are here in this season of time to help so many people navigate with a narcissistic relationship, family, or friend. In a time when narcissistic people are all over.
Thank you this is very helpful in my time of need i am in the thick of what you describe here i am working hard to get my resources in place to escape.
Thank you Sam This was the missing part of my understanding of the dynamic that caused the narcissistic abuse in the first place and my own role in it.
What if l knew he was what he was from the first day except l played with fire and got burnt.. I was cheeky and knew he was a monster and tried to run for at least a yr but his consent calls nd chasing me broke my defence and it was down hill from then- for 5 yrs on and off it was sickening and what l kno now trauma bonding. We did come from the same planet except he was from the planet of hell and l the planet of delusional Martyrdom - etc etc
I purposely volunteered after awhile stayed through the training in the end all I achieved was actually hating him ...once the mind games and the tactics no longer worked he was left looking on the mirror he could no longer run nothing he did or said to me would trigger the reaction he was expecting...he ran to Texas with new supply 😂 he couldn't break me
"what happens to the malignant narcissist in the end when everybody is gone from his/her life and they are all alone?"---one video on this topic please
they are fake , the jealous , envious not an ounce of moral ethical behaviour 8n the8r D N A . if its a man find out if he loves his mother , if not run for your life , because he is a qualified 1st rate misogynist. , & u cannot change them & anyway why d8 u want to take on such a futile project , people don't change , people reveal themselves , either they learn through philosophy how to be better people , or they never look further than what they can grab 100% of the time for their greedy inflated self.
Hey Sam. How to best deal with a narcissistic neighbor in order to have a superficial relationship that does not provoke him to be motivated to do malicious acts? I guess giving him a feel of superiority, also making compliments etc, keeping interactions as short as possible, not sharing private things, but not too short interactions in order to not raise suspicion that I actually have deep aversion for him. I just want to keep the peace and not “provoke” him and his psychological tendencies.
I have heard many different academic opinions of the origin narcissist personality disorder (nurture v nature). My ex was a twin and I actually had a date with his twin before my ex and I met. My ex was a covert narcissist does that mean his twin is too? I'm confused if it's biological or just social/relational because I only had 1 date with the twin brother. (Not identical)
Is it possible that the narcissist childhood self can appear in a severe crisis, when other forces dominate the narcissists ability to act? I seem to have witnessed something like that....
The True Self is dead. But people delude themselves into believing that they are interacting with the narcissist's "inner child". It is a dangerous delusion.
@@samvaknin Thank you, seen a Narcissist in a helpless and utterly powerless state after being fired and humiliated. He wasn't able to decide or do anything useful for 2 days and then turned against his family who tried to help him.
Hi, I have a question, do narcissists only exist because of they were abused during childhood, or they can become narcissists as abused teenagers or adults?
May I ask this you guys? What is your opinion or viewpoint on having someone you know ( for example) as are narcissistic couple in the military or civilians. They are in an online dating app targeting empath people as their victims.
There should be a new term: Narcissist bypassing, pointing at others supposed Narcissism condition to justify someone's inability to evolve/face crisis. *This is a narcissist comment*
Nothing is scarier than thinking the narcissist has changed because they're in charming mode, then the next second, they're back to their narcissistic ways. Its why the only thing you can do to save yourself is to fully cut contact.
Yep. They appear all charming and the next minute, hour, day or week, they go back to their usual self.
Never fails.
I can't believe that how this video and lots of comments are so true. I have experienced so many overwrapping traits of the narcissist. If they are so precisely described, I truly hope that they reflect on themselves finally and change. However, as Prof. Sam mentioned in the other video, the narcissist is second most serious mental disease which I agree. They could truly be the worst so I really wonder if they are not able to be cured. It is very sad but it might be true. So all they have to do is keep finding next victim who is ignorant about narcissist.
In a way the hall of mirrors phase kind of backfired on my narc.
All the love bombing and grandiose compliments had the opposite effect: I actually believed some of them. I am smart. I am funny. I am interesting and people want to be around me for those very reasons. They aren't putting up with me for some unknown reason.
It is my belief that what a narc compliments you the most on is often what you truly are. What they idealize so fully and want for themselves are qualities we already possess.
So I did fall in love with myself, I did feel self acceptance in a way I hadn't before. It really opened my eyes to all the abuse and trespasses I had been blind to but suffering from.
This was the second time I dated this man so I was prepared for his behaviour. I was also hoovered when I was weakest; I vowed to myself never to be with him or any man again.
Well, we know how that goes with a narc. But it only lasted three months this time and I left the relationship fighting for myself and running head first into my own healing journey.
I truly hope everyone forced into the presence of a narc finds the strength they need. I hope we all can find some peace and healing.
I used to have to write down the behaviours and feelings and things said to try to make sense of them and to see where I had gone off track. Wow, the time I have wasted in trying to understand him, be patient with him all the while being sucked into a fantasy that there was a good true self with real feelings in there..
yes but! u only do this once if u do it right and hopefully never ever again! it‘s actually a blessing.
You’re Right. Narcissist and people who gravitate towards them want a ‘symbiotic’ relationship. Both want to be heard, seen, needed and accepted. But the narcissist fear of being cast aside and abandoned overwhelms them. Until the symbiotic relationship becomes parasitic.
So the only answer is not to deal with them whatsoever.
Yes
Absolutely. Damned if you do damned if you don’t
Seeing this video and comments like this makes me feel both sick and relieved. To know that this disorder is real and affects many people on the planet is one of the only thoughts that helped propel me out of the constant shame, guilt, and confusion. The constant circles of obsessive thoughts that tell you “Nope, you’re actually just a deeply hateable and wrong, ugly, bad person.” Knowing that it is not just my brain, that what they have done is real and based in evidence and years of research, is a godsend in its own way. It’s just like being turned upside down, and you can’t make heads or tails of whether you’re to blame for everything until you’re completely removed from the situation.
@@jeannem3874I can relate. That confusion and obsession is real.
There is no point in clinging at a solution, mediation or diplomacy- any exchange whatsoever with these people will be utterly parasitic, because someone so much as paying attention to them, whether positive or negative will always fuel their hunger
The guy I started dating helped me heal from a narcissist and listened to all the traumatic stories and my panic attacks subsided. I then started seeing red flags with the new partner and realised he was indeed a narcissist and a bad one.
That means you're a narcissist magnet
I've been with more than one myself. Plus, my second Husband has Munchousen's-by-proxy, and is a Serial killer. I am working on me now, because I was attracting these Men. I've found out along the way that I grew up as a 'Scapegoat Child', and this conditioned me to gravitate towards more Narcissists as an Adult. With God's help I'm gradually recovering from my past. He's helping me de-magnetise myself, so Narcissists are repelled by me, rather than attracted to me. At the moment I don't have any relationship. In time I will again, but this time I'll be well educated on these matters. Why didn't I know of these conditions sooner. Why aren't we taught about them? So much pain, distress, suffering and sheer mayhem could have been avoided, if I'd known then, what I know now.
SAME HERE! This is so hard… I talked with him about EVERYTHING…
7:22 7:22 7:22 7:23 7:23 7:23 7:23 😅
I remember one time when it dawned on me that my former Husband was not just copying me, but trying to be me in a way. I'd say something original and later on he'd explain how he was telling someone else exactly what I'd said, only he'd conveniently left me out of his conversation. Leaving the person he'd been talking to thinking it was his original idea or thoughts. I said, "What about me? Did I get a mention? Then he had some lame excuse for not mentioning me. But after a while I spotted a pattern, he was gleaning various things I knew, but always claiming it was his alone. So, I stopped telling him stuff so his supply of original thoughts and ideas dried up. I gave up learning French because he started to learn it himself. He was only doing it to copy me. At the moment he's sectioned on a mental ward. It's giving me a desperately needed break from him.
Wow. As a psych student I'd thought I'd never fall for a narcissist...yet here we bloody are?
Same. Completely blindsided by it.
Trust me. Once you meet enough of them, feeling them out will be second nature.
My narcissist husband's house of cards built on my values has fallen. He pretends to be like me but you all know who he really is. I am at a moment of panic. I am disabled and he uses the financial aspect against me. But, I cannot do this anymore. I am so scared. I am so lost. I have been working hard to stop being Echo to his Narcissist over the last four years in therapy. The more stable I am the less things work. The less I can take. The more HE acts out.
I just want to thank you for calming me down with your videos. I am pretty isolated without a lot of immediate support... so. Thanks
It's a calculating energy transfer /Game
Different levels/different devils and a lesson from the blessings
Stay strong.It,s better for you to be alone,cleaning other people,s houses if necessary,but regain yourself again,than be diying silently inside .Trust me, the feeling of relief and liberation is beyond words.Sending you my strength and support.Cut him off.Hope is our worst enemy.They are beyond help or hope.
I am in the same situation. Sending you hug 🤗🌷
I’m in the same situation. Married almost 35 yrs.
Yes, my narcissist called me his soulmate, said he loved me the first day, and got me pregnant within a month. Terrible terrible decisions and I fell for it.
Getting pregnant had nothing to do with your decisions as well?
I can never imagine describing getting pregnant as something that was done to me unless it is describing a criminal act.
@@sloftyremember woman love to call everyone else a narcissist while deep down they are the true narcissist
@@MrHDProd why are you even on this channel? A channel made to educate victims so they can heal and overcome this specific type of abuse. Your comment screams poor social skills and low emotional intelligence.
@@sloftydid you not read where she said “terrible decisions” meaning she’s aware she played a role in the decision? Although being manipulated by definition tampers with your freewill so you’re not making an informed decision. Read to comprehend instead of just respond
I’m so sorry you experienced this😢 It’s devastating how evil and manipulative these people can actually be. I hope you’re able to fully recover and find peace from here forward
Sounds like a game of Catch 22 whereby no one wins: Damn if you do, damn if you don't. So, imo it's best to steer clear, stay away, avoid, and not communicate with a Narc or any of his support team, aka "flying monkeys". I hope I got that right!?
No Contact.
Fragile white flowers that grow out of the bark of a dead tree.
A true narcissist will always prefer to project the false self in the shared fantasy because when one knows no limit to one’s grandiosity, they’ll always fall in love with the reflection of their grandeur in that projection
Always be nice to a narcissist you love, but never let him catch you. He'll chase you to the ends of the earth. My ex is still chasing a girl half his age. Has been since she was 16 yrs old. She ruined his marriage. Racked up 100k on his credit card he gave her. She left him. She's got a man her own age now, and a child, and he still chases her with love bombing on social media using a fictional name, posing as a female friend so her boyfriend, (the babys father) doesn't know she still sees him.
EDIT: He cried like a child in front of me saying I love her...im still in love with her. ...sad to see a grown man cry that hard.
Going no contact didn't work for my narc siblings. ... they pulled me back in due to family sysyem events. So i moved my original self to another dimension, and left a clone of me in my original dimension. My brother and sister didn't even notice. Yep, I'm a middle child. Ignored. Works for me.
Thank you Professor Vaknin. At about 8:15, what you relate about how narcissists injecting shared narratives, and mantras as 'entertainment' to synchronize others thoughts describes with perfectly narcissist and sociopathic individuals I've been entangled with, and yes about half of them women.
I worked many years for a criminally narcissistic (psychopathic) billionaire who used to great result weaponized forms of 'Projective Resonance' Mantras combined with praise, money, gifts and the illusion of friendship to intrain hundreds and elevate himself as cult leader of a company and political corruption ring he called the 'CBC' or "Corrupt Bastards Club" extended to the highest levels of political, corporate and criminal power.
And in addition to Projective Resonance, he also employed abusive mantras, degradation. When his abused wised-up to his game, stopped playing and rejected him, he destroyed professionally, psychologically, physically sometimes fatally much like a Hitler or Sadam, and it seems that what you describe here works on a grand scale with narcisistic and psychopathic cult leaders and dictators does it not?
Sam, this is the most meaningful (to me personally) video you've shared. I loved this one. You described and brought back so much! Over 24 years, I vacillated between the two extremes; mostly coercively controlled.
Spot on.
Se você é bom está ruim. Se você é ruim está ruim. São eternos insatisfeitos.
😂😂😂😂 I can’t with them! Whatever you do is wrong
@@AllergictoIdiots-gd9ev Não tem jeito! Corram para as montanhas!
This is truly a DIS-order! 🤯
My wife accused me that I am holding the mirror where she sees herself…she was terrified
I never understood it until now
I’m glad I found Sam Vaknins version of narcissism.. I’ve been reading up and watching videos of it 16 years now.. so I’m not as mystified or mind boggled by it anymore.. I’ve dealt with a handful of narcissists in my life so it’s less traumatizing or shocking when I spot it, yet again in a person.. my latest thought while driving in the car yesterday was if the narcissist is afraid of abandonment and doesn’t possess his/her own inner joy/inner stability (since they cyphen happiness and supply from outside of themselves) why do sabotage the source of their supply. The GF is his supply but he stifles her? Does it not occur to them to nurture their supply so that they have a steady stream of it?? The hurt they cause to their partner is hurt that they’re causing on themselves too no?
They do need a constant stream of supply, which does seem counterintuitive that they would possibly sabotage this by devaluing you. However, narcissists derive pleasure from other’s suffering which makes them feel superior. This is a form of supply. This is also the reason that they often triangulate people, so they can still receive narcissistic supply from others, and leave you now competing for their attention for your own validation.
Thank you SO MUCH for explaining this to me...and for ALL you are teaching me, I'm a few mos. into my "hiding" from my last (and 3rd, that I KNOW of) and if it were not for finding your videos I would have gone nutts. So, thank you for sharing just what I need right now, I appreciate every second of your completeness in explaining every situation and feeling. Thank you!
Time after time, you are spot on. I could hear his voice in my head shortly after meeting him
Thank you, Sam; you are here in this season of time to help so many people navigate with a narcissistic relationship, family, or friend. In a time when narcissistic people are all over.
I have been spreading awareness since 1995. The first to describe narcissistic abuse, actually.
Thank you this is very helpful in my time of need i am in the thick of what you describe
here i am working hard to get my resources in place to escape.
This information made me understand narcissists. Thanks
LIKE AN INDUSTRIAL PRESS...
THANK YOU SO MUCH, PROFESSOR VAKNIN
‘ ... LIKE AN INDUSTRIAL PRESS ...’-
this describes it
- completely .
Happened just like that. Unbelievable .
So accurate- Thankyou Sir Sam.
Brilliant assessment Dr. Sam
I think this is the best video in your career, Mr Vaknin, and I actually feel guilty for listening to it for free 😂, thank you!
They also do breadcrambing at messages .they send messages full of love,you are his queen b u t he has never time for you.
Very informative respected Sir!
Thank you Sam
This was the missing part of my understanding of the dynamic that caused the narcissistic abuse in the first place and my own role in it.
This explains so much! There truly is no win!
Great video, so well explained, thank you for that!
Thanks prof. Vaknin👍Thank you for your accurate explanation of this issue.
So pretty much it's like damn if you do and damn if you don't .
Mine used to call me an angel from heaven... he referred to me as a perfect girl!.... the rest is horrible history..
Thank you for directing us to the Azam Ali interview. Your explanation was very enlightening.
This is it..very precious information👏
What if l knew he was what he was from the first day except l played with fire and got burnt..
I was cheeky and knew he was a monster and tried to run for at least a yr but his consent calls nd chasing me broke my defence and it was down hill from then- for 5 yrs on and off it was sickening and what l kno now trauma bonding.
We did come from the same planet except he was from the planet of hell and l the planet of delusional Martyrdom - etc etc
Thank you Dear Sam Vaknin for interesting knowledge
Here in Brasil are the same situation! smalls and large societies! Universities are the worst case!!
I purposely volunteered after awhile stayed through the training in the end all I achieved was actually hating him ...once the mind games and the tactics no longer worked he was left looking on the mirror he could no longer run nothing he did or said to me would trigger the reaction he was expecting...he ran to Texas with new supply 😂 he couldn't break me
That's all true, thank you, I love your videos ❤
How to remind the narcissist externally about his true self? Like what Sam said at 32:21
One of the best video, thank you Sam!
V.interesting analysis sir ...thank u for enlighting us ✨
What if I never took the narcissist’s idealisation seriously, simply viewing it as complimentary exaggeration?
There are many other elements in the shared fantasy.
@@samvaknin yes but from your teaching, if I understood correctly, this one seems to be the principal one?
Narc, narc. 🚪
Who’s there?
Nobody.
😂 this is the best knock knock joke ever
"what happens to the malignant narcissist in the end when everybody is gone from his/her life and they are all alone?"---one video on this topic please
Search the channel.
they are fake , the jealous , envious not an ounce of moral ethical behaviour 8n the8r D N A . if its a man find out if he loves his mother , if not run for your life , because he is a qualified 1st rate misogynist. , & u cannot change them & anyway why d8 u want to take on such a futile project , people don't change , people reveal themselves , either they learn through philosophy how to be better people , or they never look further than what they can grab 100% of the time for their greedy inflated self.
Very good
Sounds perfect.
the first time he erupted into extreme word salad. went downhill from there
@richardander.....
In the interests of absolute clarity -
Are you referring to a current or former significant other of yours
or
Dr Sam ?
"I was like you before". No, no you weren't.
Hey Sam. How to best deal with a narcissistic neighbor in order to have a superficial relationship that does not provoke him to be motivated to do malicious acts?
I guess giving him a feel of superiority, also making compliments etc, keeping interactions as short as possible, not sharing private things, but not too short interactions in order to not raise suspicion that I actually have deep aversion for him.
I just want to keep the peace and not “provoke” him and his psychological tendencies.
Search the channel.
It’s unbelievable, but it’s cool! Why it’s possible?
Can someone have narcisistic traits without have the complete disorder?
Yes. Narcissistic style. Search the Mind playlist.
I have heard many different academic opinions of the origin narcissist personality disorder (nurture v nature). My ex was a twin and I actually had a date with his twin before my ex and I met. My ex was a covert narcissist does that mean his twin is too? I'm confused if it's biological or just social/relational because I only had 1 date with the twin brother. (Not identical)
Search the From Child to Narcissist playlist and search the channel for "gene".
Is the narcissist totally aware of the manipulative techniques he applies? Or is it embedded in his nature so he can choose not to do it?
The narcissist is aware of his/her actions, but not of his/her motivations.
Is it possible that the narcissist childhood self can appear in a severe crisis, when other forces dominate the narcissists ability to act? I seem to have witnessed something like that....
The True Self is dead. But people delude themselves into believing that they are interacting with the narcissist's "inner child". It is a dangerous delusion.
@@samvaknin Thank you, seen a Narcissist in a helpless and utterly powerless state after being fired and humiliated. He wasn't able to decide or do anything useful for 2 days and then turned against his family who tried to help him.
Not any more😅
Hi, I have a question, do narcissists only exist because of they were abused during childhood, or they can become narcissists as abused teenagers or adults?
Only childhood abuse and trauma (ACEs).
1=1
May I ask this you guys? What is your opinion or viewpoint on having someone you know ( for example) as are narcissistic couple in the military or civilians. They are in an online dating app targeting empath people as their victims.
Hahaha it's all fake ,so scary
There should be a new term: Narcissist bypassing, pointing at others supposed Narcissism condition to justify someone's inability to evolve/face crisis. *This is a narcissist comment*
Sounds like a borderline.