When I first watched this - about a million years ago - I was a young woman in an abusive marriage. When the husband said (after giving his wife a black eye) “ I didn’t hit you - I was trying to stop you hitting me” it resonated immediately because that’s what my husband used to say to me. It was a few years before I got out of that marriage, but this play, that sentence, helped to remind me that I wasn’t imagining what was going on in my marriage. A very small thing, but it helped me to feel a little stronger, a little more confident.
The arguing between them was uncomfortably close to how my own parents' marriage was. Thankfully, my father never actually hit my mother, but hearing the verbal assaults between them traumatized me as a kid and I swore I would never, ever, end up in a relationship like that myself, that I would never talk to someone or let them talk to me like that. After 25 years of marriage (we just celebrated our silver wedding anniversary), I'm happy to report that so far, so good on upholding that pledge.
i remember when me, my brother and sisters had to stand against the wall and watch are mum being beat up by an animal who she married and there was nothing we could do or he would beat us and my mum up, i got him back 20 yrs later in a local pub and kicked the chit out of him and it made me proud to see that bastard cry
I am so devastated after watching this and then I realised I watched this many years ago. I am so upset 😢My beautiful Daughter went through severe physical and mental torture for too long. My Daughter has never recovered. She is scarred both physically and and mentally. And he kept her away from me by moving very far away from me and making her pregnant each and every time because with that he knew she couldn't go far😢. Now she is happy and contented with someone who treats her so kindly and respects her. And they get married in August.
The play was an accurate reconstruction of my own experience. I managed to get out after years of violence and abuse, alive but scarred forever in so many ways.
I hope your safe , wishing u a happy life , once we experience aggression we’re always on high alert & fearful . Yet you did absolutely nothing wrong . They show how economically people get trapped , the husbands constantly critical of her getting back to work
I've just finished watching this sickeningly horrific example of domestic abuse; I still feel sick inside. My own late unlamented father was a violent psychopath and as children we never knew when he was going to kick off. He'd trash the house if he really lost it. I was never able to stand up to him physically; I hope he's roasting in hell as I write these words.
Unfortunately your lack of mercy can only hurt you. I remember being in a similar situation where I hated somebody who I thought was caring for me for over thirty years. Then I discovered their betrayal. I couldn't stop talking about my hurt to my own small children and spouse. One of my children had their fourth birthday and I hardly said a word because I was stewinging in my own hate. I knew I would destroy my family as a result which would have pleased the person who I was hating even in their death. I went to a Christian bookshop and asked for a book on forgiveness. They only had two both by the same author. I bought them both. I applied its lessons and began to feel much better. I realise this sounds like preaching propaganda but it is still true. Only forgiveness can free you. You can not forgive because the pain is to great ? Then be willing to be able to forgive and if you can't do that then ask God for you to be willing to be willing to forgive. I hope your Father has found the peace he was clearly seeking and missing in life. Best wishes to to you and may you also find peace too. By the way I am missing my arms, am blind in one eye, in a wheelchair and am going to die all because people knowingly sold a drug (Thalidomide) that crippled me 30 to 40 days after I was conceived in my mothers womb. My mother killed herself when I was ten years old. She could not forgive herself or any one else.
@@ingridlinbohm7682 What can I say? We all have our own paths to follow and at not far off 76 I'm not making any long term plans. I don't want to forgive the Welsh bastard that said I wasn't even his. He ruined our whole family life with terror of him and his awful ways. If I knew he was roasting on a spit with a really sour apple in the mouth that he used to use to scream at us with I'd be really happy. You've had it really hard Ingrid, is that how 'God' rewards people who believe in 'him'?
It's a horrible situation to be in - like many of the people who have left comments here. I had a bad relationship too, luckily he died. I know that sounds awful, but that IS how you feel. I've not been interested in having a relationship again ever. Thanks for the upload.
A difficult episode to watch for anyone who has ever suffered domestic violence. The constant verbal and emotional abuse, the escalating violence, until he beats her half to death. And the husband is convinced that he's justified because she 'irritates' him. What really got me was her words at the end..." It's my fault, it's all my fault."
Fabulous performances, totally convincing , and a very real portrayal of domestic violence and how ostensibly happy marriages often onceal a darker truth within.
@@andrewdaley5480 narcissists never have your best interests at heart so they vary in their danger; all need to be avoided. I am well aware that women can be narcissistic too - Meghan Markle and Amber Heard the most visible of late.
@@andersdottir1111 you know these two women do you? no you dont you just believe everything you are told and everything you read in the billionaire owned shit rag newspapers and propaganda media outlets. maybe try thinking for yourself instead of being told how to think instead.. REAL EYES, REALISE, REAL LIES... WAKE UP LOVE!
I'll never forget a friend's wife, having seen my 6'4" ex attack me without cause in public saying that it "Wouldn't affect our (meaning her and her husband) friendship with him". Those good ole days! Eh wot?
Thank you for your uploads of Play for Today. They were all very good memorable plays. I remember this one especially. It was imprinted into my memory for all time. Harrowing.
This was hard for me to watch having been in a abusive relationship the problem is you begin to think that you deserve it , it was physical but the worst for me was the mental abuse the constant verbal abuse , it was so hard for me to get out of the relationship I tried. It’s been 6 years now and it has taken a long time for me to get over it , memories are always there and I have the mental scars. But I’m so stronger now and started loving myself again ❤❤
The aftermath of such a relationship never leaves you. Tiny things such as hearing the key in the lock, him coming home after a night out. There's few physical scars but the psychological ones are still raw. I was also abused in the worst way, but my young years, naivety perhaps had me thinking it was a duty and that it's not r••pe in marriage. I'd urge anybody, no matter how old, no matter anything to seek help. You DON'T deserve it, you DO deserve a life of being safe and happy.
Having been on the front line of extreme violence and mental torture it brought home many things. The environment of being surrounded with this pattern day in and day out completely ruined my childhood, the authorities didn't care back then as domestic situations were apparently natural, you had to get on with it as it slowly sucked the life out of you. When you misbehave in school they blame you as coming from a broken home, the lack of understanding and stick the boot in more. Society is a let down for all such survivors, and no, we won't ever forgive nor forget, why should we ?
I can only imagine that this was very controversial when first broadcast. PFT often dealt with or at least tried to deal with the darker side of humanity. This play should have served as a wake up call to those in positions of authority, placed to act. Notice too how the mother responds when told by her daughter of the violence … she just seems to accept it and doesn’t want to get involved.
Having grown up witnessing domestic violence, I always thought DV was physical, with blood, injuries, screaming, shouting and smashed furniture. Soooo, when at the tender age of 21 I fell for a handsome, sweet man who treated me like a queen, I thought I'd hit the jackpot. A month after we moved into our new home, he had a bit to drink and got quarrelsome. I went out to the kitchen, and he shouted at me, " If you leave the house now, you can never come back!". I dismissed it as something silly, but it was just the start. He played me like a violin, alternating sweet and loving behaviour with cutting, spiteful remarks that puzzled me greatly. Why was he so mean? Was it too much to drink? A bad day at work? Then, like the flick of a switch, he'd be back to his nice charming self. The verbal nastiness escalated to the point where I EXPECTED an argument with every remark I made, no matter how innocuous. One evening, we were talking about our younger years, and I said, " I was engaged 3 times before I was 18" - meaning how foolish I and my boyfriends had been! He said nothing, but stored it up for months before suddenly exploding about it, as proof that I was I inherently unstable! I couldn't believe my ears. Explaining was useless. I was unstable, and ought to be grateful that he put up with me, because nobody else would. And still I didn't realise that this was a type of violence. He started being jealous of me having friends over, and accused me of having an affair with a workmate! Then I was told that I hadn't stacked the china neatly, and the cups in the dresser were all facing different directions....and he'd got his mother in my absence to check the place to see if my housekeeping was up to her standards. ( Naturally, it wasnt) Ughhh! That's when I got out! It was only after a few months that I realised that I was no longer jumpy and treading on eggshells, and a feeling of enormous freedom flooded me. It was a most valuable experience!
Oh my word this takes me back Billy episode & this one had the most impact - it was the start of change - abuse is still going on it’s starts psychologically & physically it must not be tolerated
I knew a man like this once, a weasely little sh1t who abused his wife, both emotionally and physically. Ultimately it resulted in the breakup of their marriage but not before he'd given her several good batterings and reduced her to a neurotic wreck, she was lucky to escape. Socially he acted like the big ladies man and women did flock to him, that sickened me as I knew what he was really like. He married again and had two kids and he began to treat this second victim the same way, except she was made of different stuff and gave him the boot. Because of the kids she got the house,msonhe was left high and dry, got some of his own medicine. Being well off though he set himself up again but his ex made sure his reputation was spread around and he ended up being alone in his big house with all his money and inflated ego. I see his first wife often, unfortunately she was emotionally damaged by his vile behavior and has found it difficult to have relationships since, although she has managed to find a good life for herself.
I watched this when it came out and hoped I would find it again because it was so impactful. It was very much the case in Britain, at that time, to sweep things under the carpet, such was the horror of cracks appearing in the normal facade. People were so worried about what the neighbours would say.
She says at the end, It's my fault, again and again. So sad. My parents had a violent marriage too. So many times my mum couldn't get away from him, so many trips to the lawyer's but she stuck it out for the sake of the children. I still remember it even 60 years later.
there aren't many more tragic things than the person who gets bullied or abused going on to repeat the sick behaviour onto the next person. any sympathy we feel for them gets lost if they don't have the emotional strength to break the cycle, as hard as it must be.
My first boyfriend was violent, I found information of him being violent to his first wife who heed thrown down the stairs when she was pregnant. He saw me & hit me , that was it. Yet 2 years of abuse . I saw him years later at a festival ironically he first to took me to in 86 & was terrifying there . He made me jump 10 foot in the air . They do not stop being violent , he’d used me to give more abuse to his first partner as I was 15 yes just 15 when I met him , I had been living at my dads & he worked constantly. I didn’t have any understanding of self respect & he manipulated that . I had friends yet I was vulnerable & he thought great a attractive girl easy to control yet I smiled at her I wanted to show I wanted to be friends . He was vile narcissistic bully
Oh my word I was born in Brighton , it’s changed so much , if I’d seen him treating that beautiful woman as a teenager I sadly wouldn’t of know what to do , we all were so conditioned . It’s brilliantly acted “ she apologised for him breaking her nose “
Absolutely harrowing. It's my fault, the phrase of the abused. I was so hoping to see her escape but feel so sad that it ended with the likelihood she will stay... perhaps that's the reality of these situations 😢
At first I thought I just couldn,t watch this, then I thought how could I NOT watch it,,,many light bulb moments and memories of induring the same abuse, narcissist behaviour abounds from the man, in some instances, many years later,,this is still happening.......probably more so now, we havent come very far
Must have been very hard for Christopher Godwin to play that role as an abusive husband. Can't see he enjoyed doing this. Likely he did this with reluctance, even though he put in a good performance.
The most disgraceful act a man can do to his wife is abusing her physically or emotionally.A marriage life that turns into a boxing ring is a hellish situation where dignity and self-esteem are shattered .The play doesn't give a satisfactory ending ,it just lets the situation hanging and the wife so passively accepting her fate .
About an hour into it when he talks about going to a party it just skips forward. We see about one second of the party and then we're in another scene. It's a shame because I'm sure this was important to the story.
Hard to watch at times but a very hard hitting episode. In light of the recent drama regarding sub post office workers shows the power of drama's that deal with relevant subjects.
This should be used as safeguarding training video for professionals. I mean all the professionals who came into contact with her and did nothing. I still see women battered by the blokes who purport to love them! That GP was awful!
But why why why discuss her plans to want to work with him? Like, go & find a job first and then say I have a job, I'm starting next week..... ' and make her own decisions.......
This was terrible to watch. It wasn't her, it was him. Even after having a drink ( which he shouldn't have been doing ) he was trying to tell her that it was him who wanted attention all the time. He did change after having a drink. I was like this year's back after losing my first wife at 28 year's old. This was me and it hurt's now. I should never had got married the second time. I was 2 different people especially after drinking. Eventually she threw me out of our house. But as I actually owned the house, she wanted a split. We divorced but she wanted all my money and even my pension's. In the end she had to pay me a lot of money due to me actually owning the house and her name was not even on the deed's. I eventually gave up the drink and moved away. But started drinking heavily afterward's. My sister had to poke her nose in many year's later. She is a terrible narcissistic controller. My sister abused myself, her own mother and father all due to them having me. I will never ever get married again. I am much better on my own. I do feel terrible these day's due to what I actually did. But looking back I wished now I had not married for the second time. Something my sister did about 18 month's back telling me my son's would call me and they never have. Now at night when I try to go to sleep, I remember all about my past. My sister is a nasty vile horrible person especially due to what she actually did to myself, my late mother and father and all the thing's she has said about me are not true. I actually had to get the police involved due to 6 page's of domestic abuse she sent to me. She was told by the police, not to ever contact me again or she herself would be arrested. Controller's are nasty vile people who are like a child who tosse's their toy's out of the pram because they cannot get their own way. I have also been abused by other women as well. Never again. PC. 04. 04. 2023.
Power is abusive. Whatever it is that makes one feel powerful and whatever the means one goes about attaining it - marriage, politics, religion, business, crime, education system, sex...whatever - the desire to Dominate & Rule is inherent to the fallen mankind.The more the people entering the 'power game' the more the escalation of tyranny, violence, oppression & crime in every form conceivable to them. Adults, children, male, female, master, servant, teacher, student, parent, child, seller, buyer, doctor, patient, care-giver, care-receiver, in-laws either which way etc. etc. none are immune to its self-exulting appeal. And, lo and behold, before you know it, a megalomaniac is born! This is the reason, the covetous and power-hungry human race, otherwise known as 'houses of demons', cannot quiet comprehend how or why would the Sovereign God humble Himself as a 'Servant' to come seeking them so as to deliver them out of all their accursedness including the otherwise irrevocable 'Power of Death' which their first father willfully chose in place of Life despite His faithful forewarning. Yet, it is a crying shame that people, just like their fallen first father, continue to choose Hopelessness over Hope - in other words, eternal Death over Life abundant & eternal!!! Typical, is it not therefore that instead of turning to Him who alone is able to make POSSIBLE that which is IMPOSSIBLE to them, they chose rather to exercise their brief but misplaced 'sense of power' over Him and crucify Him???
😐it would have great to see him get arrestedand charged with something very serious he gave her a right beating in the bathroom and back then the police would not get invloved
Power is abusive. Whatever it is that makes one feel powerful and whatever the means one goes about attaining it - marriage, politics, religion, business, crime, education system, sex...whatever - the desire to Dominate & Rule is inherent to the fallen mankind.The more the people entering the 'power game' the more the escalation of tyranny, violence, oppression & crime in every form conceivable to them. Adults, children, male, female, master, servant, teacher, student, parent, child, seller, buyer, doctor, patient, care-giver, care-receiver, in-laws either which way etc. etc. none are immune to its self-exulting appeal. And, lo and behold, before you know it, a megalomaniac is born! This is the reason, the covetous and power-hungry human race, otherwise known as 'houses of demons', cannot quiet comprehend how or why would the Sovereign God humble Himself as a 'Servant' to come seeking them so as to deliver them out of all their accursedness including the otherwise irrevocable 'Power of Death' which their first father willfully chose in place of Life despite His faithful forewarning. Yet, it is a crying shame that people, just like their fallen first father, continue to choose Hopelessness over Hope - in other words, eternal Death over Life abundant & eternal!!! Typical, is it not therefore that instead of turning to Him who alone is able to make POSSIBLE that which is IMPOSSIBLE to them, they chose rather to exercise their brief but misplaced 'sense of power' over Him and crucify Him???
When I first watched this - about a million years ago - I was a young woman in an abusive marriage. When the husband said (after giving his wife a black eye) “ I didn’t hit you - I was trying to stop you hitting me” it resonated immediately because that’s what my husband used to say to me. It was a few years before I got out of that marriage, but this play, that sentence, helped to remind me that I wasn’t imagining what was going on in my marriage. A very small thing, but it helped me to feel a little stronger, a little more confident.
Good on you. Hope you are well and happy.
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@@timhughes6164 😀💕xx 👍
Nobody should tolerate abuse. Never! Never! Never!
Lowest of the low! Could never hurt my wife in such a way! And even if I did she'd beat me up,she's Scottish!😂 hope you're happy and well now❤
The arguing between them was uncomfortably close to how my own parents' marriage was. Thankfully, my father never actually hit my mother, but hearing the verbal assaults between them traumatized me as a kid and I swore I would never, ever, end up in a relationship like that myself, that I would never talk to someone or let them talk to me like that. After 25 years of marriage (we just celebrated our silver wedding anniversary), I'm happy to report that so far, so good on upholding that pledge.
i remember when me, my brother and sisters had to stand against the wall and watch are mum being beat up by an animal who she married and there was nothing we could do or he would beat us and my mum up, i got him back 20 yrs later in a local pub and kicked the chit out of him and it made me proud to see that bastard cry
and that makes me proud of you too buddy good on you
I am so devastated after watching this and then I realised I watched this many years ago. I am so upset 😢My beautiful Daughter went through severe physical and mental torture for too long. My Daughter has never recovered. She is scarred both physically and and mentally. And he kept her away from me by moving very far away from me and making her pregnant each and every time because with that he knew she couldn't go far😢. Now she is happy and contented with someone who treats her so kindly and respects her. And they get married in August.
The play was an accurate reconstruction of my own experience. I managed to get out after years of violence and abuse, alive but scarred forever in so many ways.
I hope your safe , wishing u a happy life , once we experience aggression we’re always on high alert & fearful . Yet you did absolutely nothing wrong . They show how economically people get trapped , the husbands constantly critical of her getting back to work
@@EM-lz9kg Thank you x
Glad you got out, it must have been lovely to be free again X
I've just finished watching this sickeningly horrific example of domestic abuse; I still feel sick inside. My own late unlamented father was a violent psychopath and as children we never knew when he was going to kick off. He'd trash the house if he really lost it. I was never able to stand up to him physically; I hope he's roasting in hell as I write these words.
Unfortunately your lack of mercy can only hurt you. I remember being in a similar situation where I hated somebody who I thought was caring for me for over thirty years. Then I discovered their betrayal. I couldn't stop talking about my hurt to my own small children and spouse. One of my children had their fourth birthday and I hardly said a word because I was stewinging in my own hate. I knew I would destroy my family as a result which would have pleased the person who I was hating even in their death. I went to a Christian bookshop and asked for a book on forgiveness. They only had two both by the same author. I bought them both. I applied its lessons and began to feel much better. I realise this sounds like preaching propaganda but it is still true. Only forgiveness can free you. You can not forgive because the pain is to great ? Then be willing to be able to forgive and if you can't do that then ask God for you to be willing to be willing to forgive. I hope your Father has found the peace he was clearly seeking and missing in life. Best wishes to to you and may you also find peace too. By the way I am missing my arms, am blind in one eye, in a wheelchair and am going to die all because people knowingly sold a drug (Thalidomide) that crippled me 30 to 40 days after I was conceived in my mothers womb. My mother killed herself when I was ten years old. She could not forgive herself or any one else.
@@ingridlinbohm7682 What can I say? We all have our own paths to follow and at not far off 76 I'm not making any long term plans. I don't want to forgive the Welsh bastard that said I wasn't even his. He ruined our whole family life with terror of him and his awful ways. If I knew he was roasting on a spit with a really sour apple in the mouth that he used to use to scream at us with I'd be really happy. You've had it really hard Ingrid, is that how 'God' rewards people who believe in 'him'?
@@ingridlinbohm7682 God bless you Ingrid 💜
My father was the same couldnt bring my self to go to his funeral
@@ianhawdon3680 Good for you, I hope you're dancing on his grave! There's nothing worse than psychotic parents for children to have to deal with.
It's a horrible situation to be in - like many of the people who have left comments here. I had a bad relationship too, luckily he died. I know that sounds awful, but that IS how you feel. I've not been interested in having a relationship again ever. Thanks for the upload.
A difficult episode to watch for anyone who has ever suffered domestic violence. The constant verbal and emotional abuse, the escalating violence, until he beats her half to death. And the husband is convinced that he's justified because she 'irritates' him. What really got me was her words at the end..." It's my fault, it's all my fault."
he's probably sociopathic, like my ex
Fabulous performances, totally convincing , and a very real portrayal of domestic violence and how ostensibly happy marriages often onceal a darker truth within.
The husband is how a narcissist acts. Beware of these types they are dangerous.
Street angel, house devil.
Not all narcissists are dangerous ohand dont forget women can be narcissists. 🇬🇧
@@andrewdaley5480 narcissists never have your best interests at heart so they vary in their danger; all need to be avoided.
I am well aware that women can be narcissistic too - Meghan Markle and Amber Heard the most visible of late.
@@andersdottir1111 you know these two women do you? no you dont you just believe everything you are told and everything you read in the billionaire owned shit rag newspapers and propaganda media outlets. maybe try thinking for yourself instead of being told how to think instead.. REAL EYES, REALISE, REAL LIES... WAKE UP LOVE!
I'll never forget a friend's wife, having seen my 6'4" ex attack me without cause in public saying that it "Wouldn't affect our (meaning her and her husband) friendship with him". Those good ole days! Eh wot?
Thank you for your uploads of Play for Today. They were all very good memorable plays. I remember this one especially. It was imprinted into my memory for all time. Harrowing.
@Sharon S yes it has been imprinted on mine also because I watched this very many years ago too.
This was hard for me to watch having been in a abusive relationship the problem is you begin to think that you deserve it , it was physical but the worst for me was the mental abuse the constant verbal abuse , it was so hard for me to get out of the relationship I tried. It’s been 6 years now and it has taken a long time for me to get over it , memories are always there and I have the mental scars. But I’m so stronger now and started loving myself again ❤❤
The aftermath of such a relationship never leaves you. Tiny things such as hearing the key in the lock, him coming home after a night out. There's few physical scars but the psychological ones are still raw. I was also abused in the worst way, but my young years, naivety perhaps had me thinking it was a duty and that it's not r••pe in marriage. I'd urge anybody, no matter how old, no matter anything to seek help. You DON'T deserve it, you DO deserve a life of being safe and happy.
Having been on the front line of extreme violence and mental torture it brought home many things. The environment of being surrounded with this pattern day in and day out completely ruined my childhood, the authorities didn't care back then as domestic situations were apparently natural, you had to get on with it as it slowly sucked the life out of you. When you misbehave in school they blame you as coming from a broken home, the lack of understanding and stick the boot in more. Society is a let down for all such survivors, and no, we won't ever forgive nor forget, why should we ?
Very realistic and very hard to watch. Certainly deserves a much larger audience
I can only imagine that this was very controversial when first broadcast. PFT often dealt with or at least tried to deal with the darker side of humanity. This play should have served as a wake up call to those in positions of authority, placed to act.
Notice too how the mother responds when told by her daughter of the violence … she just seems to accept it and doesn’t want to get involved.
The most chilling words you'll ever hear..............".It's my fault....."
Having grown up witnessing domestic violence, I always thought DV was physical, with blood, injuries, screaming, shouting and smashed furniture.
Soooo, when at the tender age of 21 I fell for a handsome, sweet man who treated me like a queen, I thought I'd hit the jackpot.
A month after we moved into our new home, he had a bit to drink and got quarrelsome. I went out to the kitchen, and he shouted at me, " If you leave the house now, you can never come back!". I dismissed it as something silly, but it was just the start.
He played me like a violin, alternating sweet and loving behaviour with cutting, spiteful remarks that puzzled me greatly. Why was he so mean? Was it too much to drink? A bad day at work? Then, like the flick of a switch, he'd be back to his nice charming self.
The verbal nastiness escalated to the point where I EXPECTED an argument with every remark I made, no matter how innocuous.
One evening, we were talking about our younger years, and I said, " I was engaged 3 times before I was 18" - meaning how foolish I and my boyfriends had been! He said nothing, but stored it up for months before suddenly exploding about it, as proof that I was I inherently unstable! I couldn't believe my ears. Explaining was useless. I was unstable, and ought to be grateful that he put up with me, because nobody else would.
And still I didn't realise that this was a type of violence.
He started being jealous of me having friends over, and accused me of having an affair with a workmate! Then I was told that I hadn't stacked the china neatly, and the cups in the dresser were all facing different directions....and he'd got his mother in my absence to check the place to see if my housekeeping was up to her standards. ( Naturally, it wasnt) Ughhh! That's when I got out!
It was only after a few months that I realised that I was no longer jumpy and treading on eggshells, and a feeling of enormous freedom flooded me.
It was a most valuable experience!
So glad you got out of there - there was only one direction that was going.
@@louleg23 Exactly - the hospital, and possibly the morgue.
R.I.P. Susan Fleetwood.
She was great, wasn’t she?
Mick Fleetwood’s sister, I just discovered. Hail technology!
Oh my word this takes me back Billy episode & this one had the most impact - it was the start of change - abuse is still going on it’s starts psychologically & physically it must not be tolerated
That punch he gave her was sickening to watch. Such an occurance is probably a frequent reality. No woman should accept it!!!! Never!
I knew a man like this once, a weasely little sh1t who abused his wife, both emotionally and physically. Ultimately it resulted in the breakup of their marriage but not before he'd given her several good batterings and reduced her to a neurotic wreck, she was lucky to escape. Socially he acted like the big ladies man and women did flock to him, that sickened me as I knew what he was really like. He married again and had two kids and he began to treat this second victim the same way, except she was made of different stuff and gave him the boot. Because of the kids she got the house,msonhe was left high and dry, got some of his own medicine. Being well off though he set himself up again but his ex made sure his reputation was spread around and he ended up being alone in his big house with all his money and inflated ego. I see his first wife often, unfortunately she was emotionally damaged by his vile behavior and has found it difficult to have relationships since, although she has managed to find a good life for herself.
I watched this when it came out and hoped I would find it again because it was so impactful. It was very much the case in Britain, at that time, to sweep things under the carpet, such was the horror of cracks appearing in the normal facade. People were so worried about what the neighbours would say.
Thank you so much for posting these gems. I will enjoy binge watching all!
A good play although hard to watch and the sad thing is that this kind of abuse and battering still goes on
It gives me shivers just watching it
One thing is this is when we had a solids NHS system - it’s being gradually sold off u don’t get appointments like this anymore
I love these plays from the past great tv Better than todays Tv xxx❤❤❤
A compelling but disturbing drama. Great performance from Susan Fleetwood.
She says at the end, It's my fault, again and again. So sad. My parents had a violent marriage too. So many times my mum couldn't get away from him, so many trips to the lawyer's but she stuck it out for the sake of the children. I still remember it even 60 years later.
there aren't many more tragic things than the person who gets bullied or abused going on to repeat the sick behaviour onto the next person. any sympathy we feel for them gets lost if they don't have the emotional strength to break the cycle, as hard as it must be.
Thankyou for uploading these plays I really appreciate them 😃
My first boyfriend was violent, I found information of him being violent to his first wife who heed thrown down the stairs when she was pregnant. He saw me & hit me , that was it. Yet 2 years of abuse . I saw him years later at a festival ironically he first to took me to in 86 & was terrifying there . He made me jump 10 foot in the air . They do not stop being violent , he’d used me to give more abuse to his first partner as I was 15 yes just 15 when I met him , I had been living at my dads & he worked constantly. I didn’t have any understanding of self respect & he manipulated that . I had friends yet I was vulnerable & he thought great a attractive girl easy to control
yet I smiled at her I wanted to show I wanted to be friends . He was vile narcissistic bully
Absolute quality. Thanks so much for the upload
Oh my word I was born in Brighton , it’s changed so much , if I’d seen him treating that beautiful woman as a teenager I sadly wouldn’t of know what to do , we all were so conditioned
. It’s brilliantly acted “ she apologised for him breaking her nose “
Absolutely harrowing. It's my fault, the phrase of the abused. I was so hoping to see her escape but feel so sad that it ended with the likelihood she will stay... perhaps that's the reality of these situations 😢
At first I thought I just couldn,t watch this, then I thought how could I NOT watch it,,,many light bulb moments and memories of induring the same abuse, narcissist behaviour abounds from the man, in some instances, many years later,,this is still happening.......probably more so now, we havent come very far
Must have been very hard for Christopher Godwin to play that role as an abusive husband. Can't see he enjoyed doing this. Likely he did this with reluctance, even though he put in a good performance.
Brilliant Thank you Executive Decision,,,,
Shocking and so disturbing. I’d have thought it would be hard enough to act it let alone be in such a relationship.
This got to me even after all these years that have past you still hear woman say ghe sand thing Very gripping just heartbreaking
Brilliant and spot on. Some things don't change. Hooefully though the response has improved.
Amazing, thanks.
The most disgraceful act a man can do to his wife is abusing her physically or emotionally.A marriage life that turns into a boxing ring is a hellish situation where dignity and self-esteem are shattered .The play doesn't give a satisfactory ending ,it just lets the situation hanging and the wife so passively accepting her fate .
I saw this as a 15 year old - very upsetting then and now.
IT'S MRS F-F-F-F-F FEATHERSTONE AGAIN MRS WARBOYS FROM ONE FOOT IN THE GRAVE AND MR BEAL THE SCREW FROM THE PORRIDGE MOVIE
About an hour into it when he talks about going to a party it just skips forward. We see about one second of the party and then we're in another scene. It's a shame because I'm sure this was important to the story.
Hard to watch at times but a very hard hitting episode. In light of the recent drama regarding sub post office workers shows the power of drama's that deal with relevant subjects.
How could her friend laugh with her husband : the Dr was brilliant she could tell she was being abused. The teacher was unhelpful.
Great play, very true to life then. Thank God there is more help fòr the abused today, usually women.
Rip Doreen Mantel
wonderful realistic
Felt sick To many bad meory's of another life 60 years ago
With all due respect, then why on earth would you watch it?
@@junelawson5100 Self Iflicted memoey's I guess
@@lesleymcshanemitchell9651 god bless you xxx ❤️
To be in it must be very very hard. Courage. God bless you.
29:24 rock back n forth…SLAP!!!!!!! 😅😅😅
creep
@@imogenimeson664hes the creep not me I didn’t do it!
Made me feel sick
This should be used as safeguarding training video for professionals. I mean all the professionals who came into contact with her and did nothing. I still see women battered by the blokes who purport to love them! That GP was awful!
Very disturbing but well acted.
55:36 best part!!! Aggghhhhh!!!!
Are you single by any chance? Let's hope so.
28:45 there she goes
That was really upsetting to watch 😢
It is her fault she asked for it. She should of left him a long time ago but was too hard headed and silly to do it.
Despicable hitting on a woman. To suppose her gentleness irritated him! There is no excuse for hitting a woman.
But why why why discuss her plans to want to work with him? Like, go & find a job first and then say I have a job, I'm starting next week..... ' and make her own decisions.......
All of these films are very dark. I'm waiting for something with a little joy. I don't think there is one.
This was terrible to watch. It wasn't her, it was him. Even after having a drink ( which he shouldn't have been doing ) he was trying to tell her that it was him who wanted attention all the time. He did change after having a drink. I was like this year's back after losing my first wife at 28 year's old. This was me and it hurt's now. I should never had got married the second time. I was 2 different people especially after drinking. Eventually she threw me out of our house. But as I actually owned the house, she wanted a split. We divorced but she wanted all my money and even my pension's. In the end she had to pay me a lot of money due to me actually owning the house and her name was not even on the deed's. I eventually gave up the drink and moved away. But started drinking heavily afterward's. My sister had to poke her nose in many year's later. She is a terrible narcissistic controller. My sister abused myself, her own mother and father all due to them having me. I will never ever get married again. I am much better on my own. I do feel terrible these day's due to what I actually did. But looking back I wished now I had not married for the second time. Something my sister did about 18 month's back telling me my son's would call me and they never have. Now at night when I try to go to sleep, I remember all about my past. My sister is a nasty vile horrible person especially due to what she actually did to myself, my late mother and father and all the thing's she has said about me are not true. I actually had to get the police involved due to 6 page's of domestic abuse she sent to me. She was told by the police, not to ever contact me again or she herself would be arrested. Controller's are nasty vile people who are like a child who tosse's their toy's out of the pram because they cannot get their own way. I have also been abused by other women as well. Never again. PC. 04. 04. 2023.
Happens, mate. Wouldn't let it get you down if I were you.. Thanks telling your story. Peace. Japan.
Power is abusive. Whatever it is that makes one feel powerful and whatever the means one goes about attaining it - marriage, politics, religion, business, crime, education system, sex...whatever - the desire to Dominate & Rule is inherent to the fallen mankind.The more the people entering the 'power game' the more the escalation of tyranny, violence, oppression & crime in every form conceivable to them. Adults, children, male, female, master, servant, teacher, student, parent, child, seller, buyer, doctor, patient, care-giver, care-receiver, in-laws either which way etc. etc. none are immune to its self-exulting appeal. And, lo and behold, before you know it, a megalomaniac is born! This is the reason, the covetous and power-hungry human race, otherwise known as 'houses of demons', cannot quiet comprehend how or why would the Sovereign God humble Himself as a 'Servant' to come seeking them so as to deliver them out of all their accursedness including the otherwise irrevocable 'Power of Death' which their first father willfully chose in place of Life despite His faithful forewarning. Yet, it is a crying shame that people, just like their fallen first father, continue to choose Hopelessness over Hope - in other words, eternal Death over Life abundant & eternal!!! Typical, is it not therefore that instead of turning to Him who alone is able to make POSSIBLE that which is IMPOSSIBLE to them, they chose rather to exercise their brief but misplaced 'sense of power' over Him and crucify Him???
"Raven haired wife" she had dark brown hair!!!
Don’t be so pedantic
I got rid of an abusive husband.why stay? I didnt
How awful and unnecessary, the constant disdain from the husband, the guilt trip from the wife, but in the end just une more saddo bully.
😐it would have great to see him get arrestedand charged with something very serious he gave her a right beating in the bathroom and back then the police would not get invloved
Power is abusive. Whatever it is that makes one feel powerful and whatever the means one goes about attaining it - marriage, politics, religion, business, crime, education system, sex...whatever - the desire to Dominate & Rule is inherent to the fallen mankind.The more the people entering the 'power game' the more the escalation of tyranny, violence, oppression & crime in every form conceivable to them. Adults, children, male, female, master, servant, teacher, student, parent, child, seller, buyer, doctor, patient, care-giver, care-receiver, in-laws either which way etc. etc. none are immune to its self-exulting appeal. And, lo and behold, before you know it, a megalomaniac is born! This is the reason, the covetous and power-hungry human race, otherwise known as 'houses of demons', cannot quiet comprehend how or why would the Sovereign God humble Himself as a 'Servant' to come seeking them so as to deliver them out of all their accursedness including the otherwise irrevocable 'Power of Death' which their first father willfully chose in place of Life despite His faithful forewarning. Yet, it is a crying shame that people, just like their fallen first father, continue to choose Hopelessness over Hope - in other words, eternal Death over Life abundant & eternal!!! Typical, is it not therefore that instead of turning to Him who alone is able to make POSSIBLE that which is IMPOSSIBLE to them, they chose rather to exercise their brief but misplaced 'sense of power' over Him and crucify Him???
1:06:40 stop screaming!!!
What are yu saying rambling on who abused who
1:01:48 what?
I didn't like the ending you should have seen him in court for assault .
She has a broken nose & he say “ real drama suits u “ u made a joke
Im glad i just skimmed thru it. I don't need this kind of play . Its frightening
Very moving play. We need these type of hard hitting dramas to try to affect a change in today's society with it's awful social problems.