I did not let the covert narcissist devalue me when he tried to provoke jealousy. I simply ended the relationship when I was safely home. ( I knew to keep quiet because he was very dangerous). So glad he underestimated me because now I'm free with all my self respect and dignity)
I recently found out I wasted 20 Years of my life with a covert narc. He abandoned me and our kids, and has been living with his gf...she's 26 he's 56...and she's pregnant! I'm still married to him and he literally hides from me, won't discuss anything. I hate myself for being so stupid. I am still numb and in shock...what's truly frightening is how after 20 years he turned and walked...no warning nothing. He just disappeared. I'm amazed at how his friends and family don't even comment on situation and act like its all fine, so he doesn't get angry. AfterTWENTY YEARS. he should have to pay me for all that time.
It sounds like you handled the situation with incredible strength and wisdom. Recognizing the danger and staying calm while protecting yourself is no easy task, but it shows how strong and aware you were of the manipulation. You kept your self-respect intact, and that’s so powerful. Your story can definitely inspire others who may be in a similar situation.
I'm making it alone for quite some time. Not because I wish to be alone, but because I can manage myself better than in any relationship, according to my experiences.
I completely understand. Sometimes being alone helps us manage life better, as Stoicism teaches self-reliance and inner strength. Your experience reflects that wisdom!
I am a sigma female raised in a narcissistic family. This is how I have always lived my adult life. It has healed and empowered me, giving me wealth peace and good health.
Your journey sounds incredibly powerful and inspiring. It’s amazing how you’ve been able to turn such a difficult upbringing into something that has empowered you, bringing peace, health, and success. Your story could be very helpful to others going through similar experiences.
_Powerful! It's amazing how Stoicism teaches us to stay calm and composed, even when others try to bring us down. These actions not only protect our peace but also leave negativity powerless!_
I have always dealt with an unsupportive wife of 45 years. I found resilience in believing that God gave me a life and soul and I found that I can keep on believing that I am here for a reason, I get my strength from within, I am ok and keep thriving, I did not have the strength to leave my mariage in focusing on my two kids’ future and also not losing my house I worked so hard for. Am 77 and know better that life should not be taken for granted and strongly believe that I will always be in the limelight not darkness. Jose from Australia
Wow! Your story sounds very similar to mine! Lived with a narcissistic wife for 10 years! Her parents were also the same! Unfortunately they lived a stones throw away from me so had to deal with 3 !
Hi Jose, thank you for sharing your story. It takes incredible strength and resilience to navigate such challenges, and it’s inspiring how you’ve found inner peace and purpose throughout it all. Focusing on your kids and preserving what you’ve worked for speaks to the depth of your commitment and love. At 77, your wisdom and outlook are a powerful reminder that life is about perseverance, growth, and staying true to yourself. It’s amazing that you continue to thrive and find light even in difficult times. Wishing you continued strength and peace.
The lesson of most value I've gained throughout the years is to expect people as they are to be themselves good or bad. If you've come to know someone who is a lier or cheat that they will do just that in time so be careful around them just like if another person likes to gossip or stir the pot be careful what you say around them. It goes like they for each each character defect one emits. Lastly don't allow yourself to be tempted or baited by someone else. Be an alpha but choose the right way someones actions speaks more volume than their lips.
Life has never been easy for me, but lately I've found myself under constant pressure and frustrations. It doesn't seem fair that some people can seemingly get away with murder and truly live to cause drama and despair to others. Furthermore, they somehow have no negative consequences for the behaviours. It's always helpful to watch these videos on the stoic principals and practices listed. I like the approach to the teachings, stating the different techniques and the appropriate methodology to It's application. Desired outcomes to each technique was explained well. Always worth remembering and reflecting on no matter the situation. I appreciate the efforts to share these skills and knowledge. I hope to experience a more balanced life with more value and care from those in it. The silent and strategic approach with control of anger is a big challenge, but definitely worth the practice and pursuit. 💯✌️
I'm a 68 year old husband, father and grandfather. I am building a timber Frame cabin in the mountains for my wife and I after renting for 45 years. My sons are helping me along with a few good friends. I don't allow negative people into my life. I have a clear vision of the future and having the greatest adventure of my life. I used to care about what others thought of me. It doesn't even enter my mind now. If they don't like it, I don't care. In fact I feel sorry for them for not having their own dreams. Be the Hero of your own life if you care about yourself and your loved ones......before it's too late.
Thank you for such meaningful content. The strategies of 'strategic silence' and 'emotional self-control' helped me realize the power of staying calm and not reacting to provocations. Truly a wise lesson.
Thank You for the tip, Being honest with someone that pisses me off, but doing it in kindness instead of hatefulness. That's a good one. I will keep that in mind.
Im a father of homelschooled children i burn wood in the winter i have zero debt i have two freinds and i dont get hand outs everything i own is payed for and i go to work and come home Im not sure if thats stoicism or not but i answer to the Lord Jesus Christ first and my wife second.
@PhilipLucion Don't forget that the Lord Jesus Christ approved the odd glass of wine. (He produced around 150 gallons of it at the wedding at Cana (John 2:6) so what I mean is, its also good to 'celebrate' the good things in life too.
I don't react now when a work mate says something hoping I'll react, I can feel her anxiety bubbling and her seething is hen I don't react, it's hard though....
Ever since I was a little bitty kid and you got the creators of me, even though my parents are both atheist, narcissistic people, but that's not. There's reasons for that you and everyone I am felt like I had asked Peter to give me as many challenges in his life so they could climb as many runs as I could to be an angel so that's all I think about that and resilience that might as well be my middle name if there's an emergency on the win, it's gonna be com fix the emergency I may after I get home and in bed be upset about it I can't count how many PTSD so I have i. The stoic way helps
It sounds like you've been through some really tough experiences but have developed a lot of resilience along the way. It's admirable that you approach challenges with a mindset of growth, like you're always climbing to be stronger. It takes a lot of strength to handle emergencies and hardships without breaking down in the moment. You’ve clearly built up a lot of inner strength.
When my brother and my mother did something very dastardly it's actually very illegal against me and I called him out on it. He started yelling then he saying I don't know are you so I just didn't say anything for quite a while. Let them go on and on and on and on when he was completely done, I explain to him that the situation and how I was going to handle the situation and he agreed to that so that was cool.
I have always been self-sufficient and always taking care of those around me. My problem is saying no and I have been my mothers, indentured servant and I'm now realizing how it's not fair to her because she needs to learn how to do things herself and grow up because she's always had someone take care of her and I've been taking her by South since I was dead years old that's what I had to buy him clothes and stuff which is fine I mean she made me stronger challenges sure to make you stronger I am simply amazing you would not believe the things I've accomplished now she's trying to take it for me, though she's at envy and jealousy but I just remind.
I am stoic but I don’t belittle peoples accomplishments like you are doing to me at work I was flourishing and thriving so what if I stand my ground when I hear people smearing my reputation in a childish way I moved on and I dominated in business because I am limitless but your speech is self defeating and I am exceeding expectations
I tried being completely honest with someone once...I got ripped to pieces and cast out because I dared to tell someone I could not give them objective advice because I had feelings for her...I mean that blew up in my face epically
resisting the response to defend yourself arise, at that moment you feel to respond (and it's powerful) that's when you know you've won the battle/war/ arguments "if" you keep your mouth shut and out of it... Why? Cause silence wins every battle and war no one knows anything about
Lying hurts my heart, so I chose not to try my best not to ever lie and if someone has a booger, I'm gonna let them know quietly to the side course some days I wish that people would tell me lol
Yes, ive been so ignored from my kids and their wives and even grandchildre. Why, because when my dad passed away, he asked that the rest of us 6 adult kids should not let my two older sisters not know until after his dervice. There are reasons that he wanted it that way. Well, one sidter textedy oldrst son and told him that i didn't tell them. It wasnt easy for me. I eas t thrilled about it. I didn't like the position he put the rest of us in. The others didnt care. They knew how bad those two were to our stepmother andd him. My kids kept it secret from me, but ignored me and it eas getting harder and harder before i realized that something was going on. I let it go. I ignored the hurt and when it came to a head i asked why this was happening. They said i was imagining it. I found out my narcissistic sister gold yhem and sdded lies about me. My kids wouldn't let me tell my side and the disrespect from them was hurting me. I was screamed at byy daughter in law, and not invited to any gatherings anymore. They kept me from saying goodbyes to my daught in las that i loved and helped so much. I had my granddaughter s all the time. Over nights, weekends and since the sdults involved them they ignored me slso and dtill are after 2 years. I stopped trying to defend myself and stopped calling My silence now is painful. I was especially close to one son. I hve used silence most of my life. Im quiet anyway. They want apologies and i want an apology from all of them. They know me. But they listened to my jealoul , pathological sister. My dad told me to always think before i speak. Because people would day im shy, my stepmom said" If she has something to say Its usually important. "
I know dude those trash people in that cult and Dan and CJ and those criminals really hate me because I got where I got without climbing their levels.....
You really don't understand stoic philosophy if you are that worried about what other people think of you and how you can harm people who don't see you as perfect that's pretty pathetic 😅
I take absolutely no notice of people I despise. I walk away and never look back. Why would I care? This topic is so weird. I don't get it. I thought stoicism meant being emotionally independent. Why would anyone care what people they despise think? I guess this video is for people who are controlled by others. In that case it's good advice.
Well I decided to not work 5 days as a as expected of me and worked 4 day schedule, enabled by me to pursue and work for n music znf writing my true loves
_Powerful! It's amazing how Stoicism teaches us to stay calm and composed, even when others try to bring us down. These actions not only protect our peace but also leave negativity powerless!_
Observing the situation without emotionally absorbing it helps to gain insight about those who bring chaos into our lives.
As a Stoic I prefer to hide out in the open... Living an honest life is Freedom as long as you keep yourself in check...
I did not let the covert narcissist devalue me when he tried to provoke jealousy. I simply ended the relationship when I was safely home. ( I knew to keep quiet because he was very dangerous). So glad he underestimated me because now I'm free with all my self respect and dignity)
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I recently found out I wasted 20 Years of my life with a covert narc. He abandoned me and our kids, and has been living with his gf...she's 26 he's 56...and she's pregnant! I'm still married to him and he literally hides from me, won't discuss anything. I hate myself for being so stupid. I am still numb and in shock...what's truly frightening is how after 20 years he turned and walked...no warning nothing. He just disappeared.
I'm amazed at how his friends and family don't even comment on situation and act like its all fine, so he doesn't get angry. AfterTWENTY YEARS. he should have to pay me for all that time.
It sounds like you handled the situation with incredible strength and wisdom. Recognizing the danger and staying calm while protecting yourself is no easy task, but it shows how strong and aware you were of the manipulation. You kept your self-respect intact, and that’s so powerful. Your story can definitely inspire others who may be in a similar situation.
I'm making it alone for quite some time. Not because I wish to be alone, but because I can manage myself better than in any relationship, according to my experiences.
I completely understand. Sometimes being alone helps us manage life better, as Stoicism teaches self-reliance and inner strength. Your experience reflects that wisdom!
I am a sigma female raised in a narcissistic family. This is how I have always lived my adult life. It has healed and empowered me, giving me wealth peace and good health.
i know this works. i have always had to be this way. we are allways in charge of our freedom....trust yourself
And that is why you are single in your 40s
Your journey sounds incredibly powerful and inspiring. It’s amazing how you’ve been able to turn such a difficult upbringing into something that has empowered you, bringing peace, health, and success. Your story could be very helpful to others going through similar experiences.
Practice not reacting
_Powerful! It's amazing how Stoicism teaches us to stay calm and composed, even when others try to bring us down. These actions not only protect our peace but also leave negativity powerless!_
Courage, compassion, competence. Pretty simple. Sigma female
I have always dealt with an unsupportive wife of 45 years. I found resilience in believing that God gave me a life and soul and I found that I can keep on believing that I am here for a reason, I get my strength from within, I am ok and keep thriving, I did not have the strength to leave my mariage in focusing on my two kids’ future and also not losing my house I worked so hard for. Am 77 and know better that life should not be taken for granted and strongly believe that I will always be in the limelight not darkness. Jose from Australia
You are a very beautiful person.
Wow! Your story sounds very similar to mine! Lived with a narcissistic wife for 10 years! Her parents were also the same! Unfortunately they lived a stones throw away from me so had to deal with 3 !
Sounds like a prison.
Hi Jose, thank you for sharing your story. It takes incredible strength and resilience to navigate such challenges, and it’s inspiring how you’ve found inner peace and purpose throughout it all. Focusing on your kids and preserving what you’ve worked for speaks to the depth of your commitment and love. At 77, your wisdom and outlook are a powerful reminder that life is about perseverance, growth, and staying true to yourself. It’s amazing that you continue to thrive and find light even in difficult times. Wishing you continued strength and peace.
The lesson of most value I've gained throughout the years is to expect people as they are to be themselves good or bad. If you've come to know someone who is a lier or cheat that they will do just that in time so be careful around them just like if another person likes to gossip or stir the pot be careful what you say around them. It goes like they for each each character defect one emits. Lastly don't allow yourself to be tempted or baited by someone else. Be an alpha but choose the right way someones actions speaks more volume than their lips.
No reaction is the best reaction.
Life has never been easy for me, but lately I've found myself under constant pressure and frustrations.
It doesn't seem fair that some people can seemingly get away with murder and truly live to cause drama and despair to others.
Furthermore, they somehow have no negative consequences for the behaviours.
It's always helpful to watch these videos on the stoic principals and practices listed.
I like the approach to the teachings, stating the different techniques and the appropriate methodology to It's application.
Desired outcomes to each technique was explained well.
Always worth remembering and reflecting on no matter the situation.
I appreciate the efforts to share these skills and knowledge.
I hope to experience a more balanced life with more value and care from those in it.
The silent and strategic approach with control of anger is a big challenge, but definitely worth the practice and pursuit. 💯✌️
I'm a sigma female. Stoic theology is our way of life. We are born this way. There is freedom in these lessons.
No such thing as sigma female sorry ..your the weaker vessel not equal to man but equal in sin ..facts
God's be grace and mercy 2 God's children .God be with your people.
I'm a 68 year old husband, father and grandfather. I am building a timber Frame cabin in the mountains for my wife and I after renting for 45 years. My sons are helping me along with a few good friends. I don't allow negative people into my life. I have a clear vision of the future and having the greatest adventure of my life. I used to care about what others thought of me. It doesn't even enter my mind now. If they don't like it, I don't care. In fact I feel sorry for them for not having their own dreams. Be the Hero of your own life if you care about yourself and your loved ones......before it's too late.
Learning to control our reactions and focus on what really matters feels like the ultimate life hack.
Thank you for such meaningful content. The strategies of 'strategic silence' and 'emotional self-control' helped me realize the power of staying calm and not reacting to provocations. Truly a wise lesson.
Thank You for the tip, Being honest with someone that pisses me off, but doing it in kindness instead of hatefulness. That's a good one. I will keep that in mind.
No reaction is the best reaction. 😉
26:18
As a man among men this is and has been an excellent defense against manipulation and deception! Love this!❤ lesson taken !
Im a father of homelschooled children i burn wood in the winter i have zero debt i have two freinds and i dont get hand outs everything i own is payed for and i go to work and come home Im not sure if thats stoicism or not but i answer to the Lord Jesus Christ first and my wife second.
@PhilipLucion Don't forget that the Lord Jesus Christ approved the odd glass of wine. (He produced around 150 gallons of it at the wedding at Cana (John 2:6) so what I mean is, its also good to 'celebrate' the good things in life too.
The artistic abilities are exquisite.. I , also, enjoy your words.. Thank you for sharing.
'Time is finite. Use it wisely.'
time is eternal, as are we.
Have to be stoic to get thru the intro.....
Great advice, I need to apply more.
Yes and Thank You Very Much.
I don't react now when a work mate says something hoping I'll react, I can feel her anxiety bubbling and her seething is hen I don't react, it's hard though....
Your content is always so engaging. This video was awesome!
Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.
Free Will 🙏
Patience. Put effort in the most positieve outcome ❤ thank you very much
You had me at self sufficency and freedom...
Yes i am 84 and snarky grand great children.
Sigma female here, i don't use silence. Bucause silence often can be interpreted to be agreements. I laught😂😂😂
Yes. Thank you
Ever since I was a little bitty kid and you got the creators of me, even though my parents are both atheist, narcissistic people, but that's not. There's reasons for that you and everyone I am felt like I had asked Peter to give me as many challenges in his life so they could climb as many runs as I could to be an angel so that's all I think about that and resilience that might as well be my middle name if there's an emergency on the win, it's gonna be com fix the emergency I may after I get home and in bed be upset about it I can't count how many PTSD so I have i. The stoic way helps
It sounds like you've been through some really tough experiences but have developed a lot of resilience along the way. It's admirable that you approach challenges with a mindset of growth, like you're always climbing to be stronger. It takes a lot of strength to handle emergencies and hardships without breaking down in the moment. You’ve clearly built up a lot of inner strength.
When my brother and my mother did something very dastardly it's actually very illegal against me and I called him out on it. He started yelling then he saying I don't know are you so I just didn't say anything for quite a while. Let them go on and on and on and on when he was completely done, I explain to him that the situation and how I was going to handle the situation and he agreed to that so that was cool.
So that bee has been and no others can change the outcome of that! Walk away proudly and self-sufficiently.vvyak.
I actually left my chains and moved into my own house. I do as I want. No TV. I read, create and do for me, finally.....
Seek from within yourself .
Thank you
I have always been self-sufficient and always taking care of those around me. My problem is saying no and I have been my mothers, indentured servant and I'm now realizing how it's not fair to her because she needs to learn how to do things herself and grow up because she's always had someone take care of her and I've been taking her by South since I was dead years old that's what I had to buy him clothes and stuff which is fine I mean she made me stronger challenges sure to make you stronger I am simply amazing you would not believe the things I've accomplished now she's trying to take it for me, though she's at envy and jealousy but I just remind.
I am stoic but I don’t belittle peoples accomplishments like you are doing to me at work I was flourishing and thriving so what if I stand my ground when I hear people smearing my reputation in a childish way I moved on and I dominated in business because I am limitless but your speech is self defeating and I am exceeding expectations
Good advice 👍
I tried being completely honest with someone once...I got ripped to pieces and cast out because I dared to tell someone I could not give them objective advice because I had feelings for her...I mean that blew up in my face epically
One digs one's own grave.
Stoicism has answer most resent challenges
who cares what others feel, they are on their path, I am on mine 🤷♂️
resisting the response to defend yourself arise, at that moment you feel to respond (and it's powerful) that's when you know you've won the battle/war/ arguments "if" you keep your mouth shut and out of it...
Why?
Cause silence wins every battle and war no one knows anything about
I broke this rule many times...yeah...
Lying hurts my heart, so I chose not to try my best not to ever lie and if someone has a booger, I'm gonna let them know quietly to the side course some days I wish that people would tell me lol
I did that.
And she thanked me
Yes, ive been so ignored from my kids and their wives and even grandchildre. Why, because when my dad passed away, he asked that the rest of us 6 adult kids should not let my two older sisters not know until after his dervice. There are reasons that he wanted it that way. Well, one sidter textedy oldrst son and told him that i didn't tell them. It wasnt easy for me. I eas t thrilled about it. I didn't like the position he put the rest of us in. The others didnt care. They knew how bad those two were to our stepmother andd him. My kids kept it secret from me, but ignored me and it eas getting harder and harder before i realized that something was going on. I let it go. I ignored the hurt and when it came to a head i asked why this was happening. They said i was imagining it. I found out my narcissistic sister gold yhem and sdded lies about me. My kids wouldn't let me tell my side and the disrespect from them was hurting me. I was screamed at byy daughter in law, and not invited to any gatherings anymore. They kept me from saying goodbyes to my daught in las that i loved and helped so much. I had my granddaughter s all the time. Over nights, weekends and since the sdults involved them they ignored me slso and dtill are after 2 years. I stopped trying to defend myself and stopped calling
My silence now is painful. I was especially close to one son. I hve used silence most of my life. Im quiet anyway. They want apologies and i want an apology from all of them. They know me. But they listened to my jealoul , pathological sister. My dad told me to always think before i speak. Because people would day im shy, my stepmom said" If she has something to say Its usually important. "
I thought this was going to relate to SIGMA MALES, I was right
I’m a communicator. Political savvy. I would like for stoicism help me not interact and engage with the bigots online.
Not reacting but waiting patiently to respond.
This particular lesson seems to be the opposite of stoicism. Worrying about how to hurt people you don't like 😅
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who said he was going to transform in Crystallisation , the ex is a narcissist he wants to copyi me and destroy me.
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I know dude those trash people in that cult and Dan and CJ and those criminals really hate me because I got where I got without climbing their levels.....
05:36 This Topic impressed me
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You really don't understand stoic philosophy if you are that worried about what other people think of you and how you can harm people who don't see you as perfect that's pretty pathetic 😅
I take absolutely no notice of people I despise. I walk away and never look back. Why would I care?
This topic is so weird. I don't get it. I thought stoicism meant being emotionally independent. Why would anyone care what people they despise think?
I guess this video is for people who are controlled by others. In that case it's good advice.
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This isn't stoicism it's petty and narcissistic 😅
Rushing n making mistake
Well I decided to not work 5 days as a as expected of me and worked 4 day schedule, enabled by me to pursue and work for n music znf writing my true loves
_Powerful! It's amazing how Stoicism teaches us to stay calm and composed, even when others try to bring us down. These actions not only protect our peace but also leave negativity powerless!_