Born Into Chaos-Chris
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.พ. 2023
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Chris, man born to drug addicted parents now living in Pennsylvania.
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Mark, thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to share my story. I hope it gives someone hope ❤
Thank you for sharing your story Chris. You really are an inspiration. Have you ever considered talking with kids that are at risk? Or possibly be a motivational speaker? I think you could help a lot of people with your experiences and your will to overcome all that you went through. Wishing you and your family all the best. ♥️
Much respect, Chris..thank you.🙌
wow man... our future as a race (human race, that is) seems so bleak lately for so many folks, it's nice to hear your story and see that there is still hope... always. Thanks for sharing your story, i wish you and yours the best of luck.
Thank you for sharing. To know that there are happy good endings to a story of struggles. I'm glad you & your brother have eachother & have thrived thru life. L&R
So far I’ve only listened to the first five minutes of your story and it’s so much like my childhood I’m in shock!! I didn’t realize others were also raised the way I was!! I lived amongst the craziness until my dad went to prison when I was 12 then when I turned 17, like a homing missile for some crazy ass, unknown reason I rushed back to Oregon to see him even though he molested me and that’s why he was in prison... I was once again instantly thrust into the crazy folds of our huge family. They make crazy look and feel very normal though. At least when you’ve grown up in it and are completely immersed in it.
If anyone had an excuse of turning out to be a horrible adult, it's this guy. I commend him for overcoming his circumstances.
It’s cause he’s white 😂 any other race is looked down upon cause of their skin color. “Its their own fault”, right? It’s all good though. I’ve seen more white people get “taken advantage of” than us “brownies”.
Awesome to see the cycle broken.
@@Anthony-iq4lf The fuck are you talking about?
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Excellent point!!
When a person asked if you’re ok after a severe accident , it’s because they want you to speak. Hearing someone’s voice after an accident is a relief. It’s better than no response.
Hallelujah to Chris! He grew above and beyond his beginnings .... may he continue to heal and have a good life with his wife and child!
He's resurrected that terribly old-fashioned concept: individual choice.
As his wife I thank you for your kind words
This man did NOT give into victimhood (like so many do today).
Chris if you see this I wish you all the best. I hope you can appreciate just how far you've come, and to give yourself some praise for how much you've accomplished. Take care.
I do see it and thank you so much ❤
@@wrightsmindyou are an inspiration. May God bless you and your family.
It’s nice to see someone succeed to be the parent that they never had. It’s a great example of human resilience. Breaking a cycle to be a good father. It’s really good to here from someone doing the best they can , no excuses . Not everyone has to be stuck in a bad place. Thanks for sharing !
This is actually what my biggest hold up is. I won't date women with kids because I had an abusive step father. Found out his step father was abusive, etc. Seemed like a cycle, so in order for me not to become "that guy" I've shut myself out. I know I can break the cycle, but not now, I still have anger problems and that was always the abusive problem. So until I have that figured out, I remain single and lonely 😆
Chris is himself a light, a hope, an empowering inspiration. Bravo.
I relate to this interview wholeheartedly. I had a hard upbringing and parents that neglected me fully. In my 20s, I was very self-destructive. Now, in my 30s, I have a healthy marriage and children. I struggle every day mentally but keep moving forward for my children.
I'm much older
And still as self destructive as ever 😁
I’m still in stage 2 it looks like
Does anyone ever get the impression they are supported as a kid ? Lol
Often the thoughts in our heads are just insecurities
I have a lot of respect for Chris for putting his strength, energy and money into working through his trauma. I wish him and his loved ones all the strength and joy for the future that make life worth living and loving.
"It allows me to not solve the problem, but deal with it"
so important to comprehend when managing extreme mental dispositions. Rooting for you and thank you for sharing!
To be brought into a chaotic destructive life and grow to see it for what it really is with truth and wisdom is such a beautiful miracle. The most inspiring part of his story is how he is raising his son in a total opposite way, healthy, loved, and safe. This is utterly inspiring and really gives me so much faith in humanity.
Bravo ! Good blessed you!
I just got out of therapy. I’m currently struggling and needed my therapist to help me identify that I am depressed again. She reminded me how to get out of my downward spiral. A year and a half of therapy and just now learning that none of my issues are ever going to go away completely. I was feeling really disheartened, when I watched this video in the parking lot. It reminded me that I do have hope still. Thank you.
Have you ever tried mushrooms?
Keep up the therapy my love. I am a 56yo female and have childhood trauma. It takes a lifetime but you will keep learning how to deal with it better. Stay strong and hopeful. Sending you love and light. 🌈❤️☮️
You do have hope
Yes you do. What happened when we were kids is one thing, but we can choose our best lives and pursue our quest😁👍
@@col.cottonhill6655 no, but I got Jesus and He’s been my biggest helper.
Beautiful story of redemption. There’s a tribe of us out here breaking generational curses left and right. Ending the bad karma and changing the way we conduct our lives today verses the examples we had as children. You are a survivor, you are brilliant, you are awesome! Thank you for sharing your beautiful and touching story. I know you will inspire many! You may be just the person I’ve been looking for to get the message across in regards to long term affects of childhood trauma and how to cope with it and make the choices to live far beyond what you as a childhood trauma survivor would have ever expected when you were younger. The question for me is what is the best way to reach our tribe? How can we create more healing, empathy, compassion, dialogue, and end the silent suffering and insanity childhood trauma creates? So much more on the topic but, beautiful interview! So proud of you and this is real talk amazing!!🎉❤😊
So true about the gathering tribe. Caroline Myss just posted notice that she's hosting a series on Inter-generational Healing and I was like hell yeah sign me up. True healers who get that this is the most difficult wall we've reached as a species.
It is so true. It’s easy for us to understand and heal together and then together change and reach masses of people. I simple refuse to believe there isn’t anything we can do we when all come together. I’ve done some speaking for the ICADV and went and spoke to DV offenders. I also was the parent to my mother so, I have been trying in my soul to heal myself but, I have found out the only way to truly do that is to help others and give back. It has been such a healing experience! I’m not sure who Caroline is but, I will check her out. That sounds amazing. Thank you for the suggestion:) it’s wonderful connecting and hope you are doing well and living your best life:) 😊❤
@@Mrskaseymunzer I love that you said your healing comes through helping others. From my own experience, I'd say that's why we're here, on this planet, at this time. P.S. I learned about chakras when my therapist loaned me her cassette tapes (yes, that long ago!) of Caroline's teachings. Since then, her books on healing and archetypes have become some of my most valued possessions. I thank you for your kind wishes and right back at you :)
I have so much respect for this dude.
What a great example of what self awareness looks like. Thanks for sharing your story Chris!
One of the best interviews…. Shows hope, resilience and education are important. Doesn’t matter what you look like… matters what you think, feel and how you behave, treat yourself and others.
I'm glad he & his brother had eachother. What a good story of hope & faith.
Thanks for shedding some perspective on our story, and helping people understand that trauma can help mold you into an exemplary individual as opposed to letting it ruin you. I love you bro bro, couldn't ask for a better sibling.
It’s such a fantastic story, you guys were so lucky to have each other. I feel proud of you both, even as a complete stranger, for not following in your parents footsteps as so many people do.
@@taramay000 Thank you for the kind comment. ❤️
It's so good to see you support your brother! That's awesome! I'm glad you're close!
I wish you and your brother many continued successes, love and good health for the rest of your lives. You both deserve it!!!
Sending you both the most positive energy - what a realistic story of heroism and healing!
I dated someone who had a similar experience to Chris, and it really broke my heart. I got to experience what a past like that does to a person. The wounds are so deep, and they have to spend so much energy trying to fit in and function, there's almost no space left for healing. It still haunts me to think that she is floating around out there, just running into the same shit over and over
As his wife I agree it can truly be tough but Also amazing to see what they do with their circumstances and how they can change and overcome.😊
Fellow Pennsylvanian here Chris. Your testimony is awe inspiring! You had every reason to give up and fail at life. Instead, you reached deep inside your soul and decided to get help, which is so difficult for many people. Your absolutely right about the light at the end of the tunnel. God bless you, and your family!
"Testimony" gave me a flashback to how I thought of it in my childhood-very- fundamental religious sense. And I realized that's what this site has created. A sacred/safe place for people to present themselves and tell their stories. For those of us who listen, an opportunity to see everything and everyone from a different perspective. To bless this "testifier" with love and gratitude for sharing themselves. To share our own stories and perspectives. To bless the orchestrator with the mad genius "vision" to open the revolving doors.
This guy is amazing. Wishing you all the best Chris. You are an inspiration of someone who didn't let your circumstances define who you are.
All I can do is hope that this man finds peace and prosperity in his life as well as anyone who sees 👀, God bless you and all the subscribers too 🙏🏿
Good Morning errrybody!👋🤓or whatever time of day it is for you. Peace and Love from 6:15am Brooklyn NY🇺🇸 to you and wherever in the world you are, my SWU family.
Goodnight from Australia ❤🦘
Good morning my gorgeous fammie wherever you are in the world. 🌍🌎🌏🏝🏞🏕🪐🌈 How's my gorgeous fammie today? Hope you have a great day in your part of the world 🩳🧦♥🏒🏓🥅⛸
Oh God, guess who's back.?.? I slept in today, 4:35 am in the mile high city have a great day my friend!!!!!!!
Good morning from Grand Rapids, MI 🇺🇸
@My ears Went blind! Oh great, your back….huh? 🙄 I thought you might’ve found something more productive, or even just original to do with your time.
I relate to Chris so much. Grew up in similar circumstances and I don’t let where I come from define me. Definitely experimented with drugs but never became addicted or did any reckless behaviour, just been focused on making a good life for myself.
But sadly im sure you wouldn't no how to be a caring n loving person 'well like how could u if u never had that sadly as a child as its impossible for u to no as it was installed in you when you were a baby n child. ps that's why he treated ppl like trash bc he didn't no how to love n as in his own words it ''just seemed normal.
@davechristian7543 yes but after receiving therapy he learned as an adult how to be caring and how to love. I'm sure the OP in this thread did as well.
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It's "know" not "no"
What a gift you have. The percentage of people with this amount of trauma in their childhood that navigate through life without severely damaging their lives or the people around them are very low Im sure. We need more people like Chris that are brave enough to tell their story and be vulnerable so that others can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Thanks cuz!
5 am, everyday you’ll catch me back here💯
I understand this guy. I have a really tough story too and I understand the strength this man has. I’m so grateful for his story. That means that just like I’ve done it, other people have done it too. ❤
As a kid my dad always told me, “Nothing worthwhile is ever easy.” Chris is this statement in human form. He has has put the work in to achieve the life he wanted. I’m sure it’s been a long and difficult journey but he’s winning. I hope he inspires others to do the same ❤
You quoting that "old saying" that I've also heard since childhood, I just realized it means something very different to me today than I assumed it meant back then.
Oh my goodness.
I found the male version of myself - very similar story and outcome. Just WOW.
I think I also need to share my story here one day.
Thank you for sharing this story, it’s just amazing
Remember though, only improve yourself for YOURSELF
Don't you dare fix yourself for the WORLDS sake
This world deserves NOTHING good from you
Never forget that
One of the best interviews I've seen on here in years.
Makes one wonder why some are able to pick themselves up, and others just repeat the cycle. Thanks, Mark & Chris.
Well i think it's because some people who are like him think about the WORLD differently
For example: Yes it's good to make YOURSELF better but the part he's not factoring in is the world doesn't DESERVE the "better" him
If i was the BEST possible person i could be that would be really good for the world
And we simply can't have that....
What an effortless example of an incredible story told with truth and humility. You deserve all the good things in life Chris. Thanks for sharing your story, it will undoubtedly benefit humanity ❤
Incredibly bright as a human and as a speaker. We need more of these wholesome stories sprinkled between the usual ones. Props as usual, Mark.
What a fantastic story. Resilience is a huge factor in his success. He really lucked out with his foster mother. And he had access to mental health services.
All of the kids that come from homes like this deserve this kind of support. From the start.
This is a great example of how you can pull out of a completely horrible childhood with a very strong will power, therapy and giving yourself a chance to be happy!
You can still have a family, an education and live a great successful life if you really put the effort, use the resources and keep pushing to get out of a shit hole💪🏼
Awesome interview Mark!👏🏼
Congratulations Chris!💪🏼
Resilience. Perseverance. Grit. Faith. Wow. Chris, your story is so encouraging. God bless you on your journey. Thank you for sharing.
Much love and respect from Texas. Chris you are definitely 1 in a million in life. Stay strong
So proud of you for sharing your story, Chris. Thanks for being you!
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He seems like a good friend. I like him. The self sabotage aspect was very interesting. I still do that and don't know why.
Because "WINNING" is boring
CHAOS is exciting asf
I love it!!!
Let’s be friends bro 😂
Thank you so much for sharing Chris. I believe that all parents don’t deserve good kids but all kids deserve good parents.
This is it!!!
I've got my first child due in Sept and it baffles me how anyone could treat their child this way.
But he's an amazing example for people to see that your childhood doesn't have to determine the rest of your life. Your destiny is not set in stone. YOU can do whatever you set your mind to! 🙏
Chris ! my story echos the story you have told here in ways . I too am a VERY RARE statistic that my adult life does not reflect my childhood. I thank God every day for the life I BUILT ! I am very proud to say that I AM NOT A STATISTIC . I wish u the best and hope you always know how amazing you are !! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
I think it's all about mindset. My mom taught primary grades at an inner city school for most of her career. Hearing and seeing the stories and faces - she saw 3 generations of kids come through in her time - and some kids are destined to get out, some never want to leave, some don't know how to leave or do better. Chris you're an inspiration, whether you think so or not, and your message is super powerful to those who know home to be what you knew it to be.
Mindset can help folks to move forward or backward. Perception or mindset are only part of life. Reality doesn't care about either of those things.
Mindset doesn't include the subconscious brain which dictates more than the conscious brain that's why people with trauma have to do so much mental work
Well said.
My Parents were foster parents my entire childhood. We had many drug addicted neglected kids in our home. Its great to see that the cycle can be broke.
Resilient would be an understatement in this instance. There's always a lesson to be learned from every situation, whether it's to do or not to do. God bless you, everyone!
It’s about who raised you not who birthed you. God bless this young man. What a great success story
I just found him on TikTok a few days ago. He is such a genuinely kind soul. I relate so much to his story. The traumatic childhood. Happy to get to know him a little better. And even happier that he turned out to be the person he is. That’s a miracle!
Hopefully things turned out ok for you😊
Chris, you have taken all the negative in your life and used it as a lesson to live a beautiful life. You are amazing and blessed. Definately an inspiration.
Oh, tears when you spoke about the bond with your brother. Thank goodness for that. Inspired by your ability to rise above terrible trauma. Wishing you love and peace.
Proud of how far you've come man
I've been watching a lot ,of the interviews.. I wish the best, for this guy !!
I relate so much to you. Me and sisters went through hell growing up. Suicide, drugs, alcoholic mother, abuse, rape. And 2 of us broke the cycle, we live boring, normal lives w/ no addiction and just take care of our kids. We raise our kids opposite of what our mother did. Good for you Chris for breaking the cycle and being a good human. I understand the mental issues from the after effects, it's a struggle.
Chris I’m so glad that you are doing well despite everything thrown your way in life. Truly uplifting story.
You definitely need to take this story into schools/ colleges as a speaker. Hope you will consider this, I believe your experience could save many lives.
Chris, what an incredible story, and to come out of it like you have is truly amazing. Such an inspiration of hope.
Off topic, I'm listening with my earbuds, and he sounds like Paton Oswald. Thank you for sharing your story. God IS watching over you. Bless you and everyone
I wanted to say the same thing but I also wanted to see if someone else thought the same thing.
Wow what an example of getting through a childhood of absolute chaos and misery to come out the other side with support from a guardian to excell in life and have such clarity into his problems and demons! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ so many aren’t able/don’t want to escape their chaos! It takes courage and above all effort……💕🙏
OMFG Chris is brilliant. his intellect is what saved him! AND a lot of hard work and inflection.
I don’t think you mean “inflection”. Inflection refers to how you modulate your voice when saying a phrase.
Chris you are beyond incredible! You speak hope and life and I also pray that your story will be heard by those who need it most.
Have you done any volunteer work with at risk kids? I believe it would be life giving for you and for the kids. You have that charisma where you are instantly likable, believable and easy to listen to.
I want to thank you for your story. Talking about abuse is never easy. It’s actually quite heroic to come through so much and become such a wonderful human being.
All the best to you and your family Chris. Never forget how many lives you touched here today by sharing just the surface of your experiences. Please give my regards and appreciation to your mom when you speak to her next, thank God she came into your life.
Inspiration to me. What an adult way to speak. Good luck to you sor
Kudos to Chris. He overcame so much to get where he is today. He is a good person and I’m sure is a good dad. Thank God he had guardians who adopted him and that made all the difference. He struggles but has overcome his past and I have much respect for him. You deserve the best, Chris and I wish you all the best. ❤️🇨🇦
Courageous sharing. May others hear his testimony of surviving and thriving ❤️🙏
Chris you are amazing!I’m sure your parents loved you(kidnaping you out of the hospital and your dad running with a gun after the person who tried to hurt you says a lot. Unfortunately drugs took the best out of them and could not focus on you and your brother,what a shame!)thank you for sharing,blessings to you and your family!I’m sure your story will help others!
I had the same response to those parts of the story, even as I was thinking love is a damn hard thing to define. His response that he did not feel "supported" said it all. We can universally have a million changing definitions of love, but we personally know what not feeling supported means.
Beautiful message. I wish him nothing but greatness and happiness in life. Thank you!
I think this singular recording of Chris is truely insightful and illuminating. Thanks heaps Chris, true survivor.
Thank you so much for the interview Chris and Soft White Underbelly 🙏
"I hate Illinois Nazis"
- Jake Blues
This dude, Chris, has a higher power, he knows it. And it's true. Metacognition. "I know who I am today... I believe in therapy... I take medication and it changed my life." Self -Awareness in Maslowe's Hierarchy sets atop a pinnacle of more basic building blocks ‐- food, clothing, basic literacy, support, affection, etc.. THIS GUY IS A WALKING MIRACLE!!🚶He can feel empathy, can articulate emotions. I will make a plea and prayer to the UNIVERSAL GOD that this man, and his family are blessed with all the positive vibrations in their everyday world.
Thank you Mark Laita and for getting these interviews to HELP US draw strength & affirmation from these powerful videos. Support SWU! ❤
What a strong man.. to learn from the past and thrive as a adult !
Wow, amazing story of beating the odds.
What an awesome interview, so inspiring. Chris, good for you for breaking the cycle! You should be extremely proud of yourself, and you're definitely an inspiration to so many. Thank you for telling your amazing story. Not many go the other way like you did especially how you were born. Your interview was great, and I'm sure it gave many people hope and encouragement. 👏👏👏
Hugs and all the best from Canada 🇨🇦 💕
Bravo! Standing ovation for this true inspiration.
Holy crap, how did this guy turn out to be a normal person?!? Great story, very inspiring!
I love this interview… oozes optimism
It’s a tough pill to swallow for sure when we happen to be born into toxic homes feeling unseen, unheard and unloved. Wishing you and all of us who went straight into survival mode from the gate, well on our journeys! Like you said having the tools is everything! ❤
That's exactly it : unseen, unheard, unloved.
I love all of your content Mark but this one has been the most relatable for me so far. My childhood was fueled by trauma and abandonment as well, Brian. I lost both my parents to drugs as a young teen but by the grace of God, have found myself on a path very opposite to that of my biological parents. I don’t know how & I often ask why me, out of the thousands of people who share very similar upbringing’s, but there is no limit to the gratitude I feel for my story thus far. Even though I struggle with very similar mental health issues, self sabotaging tendencies, etc. I am beyond thankful that those are the extent of my current struggles. Thank you Brian for sharing your story. I know there’s more people out there like us and I hope to be able to share that one day. Your life does not need to emulate that of your parents or childhood, there’s other options.
His name is Chris
The more I go through, the more I understand that people who are good and genuinely want good for the world and those around are harder to find than you think.
You broke the cycle, Chris! You're awesome.
Thnx for sharing. I honastly cant belive how it was possible for you to not end up in drugs, jail, death. You are one strong man and thank whatever is in the sky that you ended up with good people who helped you get a normal life. Hugs from sweden.
I went through trauma, but maybe a sliver of a sliver of what Chris went through. I struggle every.single.day. just getting through my day is tough.
Chris, you are special. An anomaly. Please keep reaching out, speaking out. We all have a lot to learn from you. Much love, friend!
Chris, you are a hero. I watched your story in complete awe. You are an unbelievably strong and amazing human being! Keep heading in that positive direction you’re on right now. My God, you are a miracle. I wish you all the goodness there is. I live about 50 minutes from Coatesville.
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I resonate with this story and spending the rest of an adult life trying to relearn yourself and who you truly are. Pushing yourself to grow and understand how your early years affected your adulthood is scary but so healing. I was an only child and I’m glad you had your brother by your side. Good for you Chris for investing the time and efforts into yourself to benefit not just you but the people you love. You are all so deserving of the best of you!
What a refreshing interview; so happy to hear about a troubled childhood not bleeding into your present. Enjoy being successful (no to imposter syndrome), being a husband and a Daddy. Here’s to your continued health and prosperity ❤.
Love how positive this guy is after such a terrible childhood. Be the best dad and husband ever. Survivor!!!Happy for you!!!
Remarkable story of overcoming extreme adversity and dysfunction. Chris chose to be a victor, not a victim.
Wow! My situation was not the same but the things you felt hit home with me. I felt so many of those feelings growing up. Thank you!
Chris, you have an amazing testimony to tell. Thank you for sharing it. I hope you continue to tell it and never forget how special and chosen you are. ❤
What a pleasure to listen to Chris's story.
Sending all the love and healing to you Chris! Keep working on yourself and giving your son the life you dreamed of
I relate to this a lot and currently have a son with another otw with my husband. We grew up together and went through some hardships but before dating, we both were traumatized by our extremely dysfunctional families. We are so happy and proud to break the generational cycle on both sides with our own little family. We are mid 20’s and much like you Chris, we can’t and don’t understand how as parents we can do such things to our kid. It’s a healing realization; that and having a child does put things into perspective.
I was the same as a child - never felt loved - my mother never said it to me and my father abandoned me. My mother was very violent with me. Horrendous aggressive beatings she have me. No man has inflicted anywhere near the pain she did. That set me up for a really difficult life. But I managed to pull through pretty well in the end.
Your parents loved you they kept you, addiction just doesn't care ,you are a good decent person an overcomer and a true parent to your son
Chris, thank you for sharing your story. I can relate to some of it. And I needed to hear it today. Having hope is what helps people hang on. You have been proactive in helping yourself and it has made a huge difference in your success. It's never easy. May God continue to keep you and bless you and your family on this journey of life.
May he also bless you in yours! All the best
It’s awesome to hear someone with a story like this that is successful! It definitely is a story of hope!
Great interview! I'm surprised and thrilled at the same time! To be born literally to addiction and not be an addict, that's amazing!
I love that this man is continuing to learn through his seven year old son .. that he sees that he endured an unimaginable struggle to survive his own childhood. Thank God he has taken this route after his upbringing and that his instincts inform him as to how to raise his own child. Chris is one in a million
Mark! Thank you for expanding your horizons- I’ve been an avid “fan” / admirer of you for a long time. Good to know that your interviews have changed and evolved to include ALL walks of life.
I’m looking forward to the “legitimately” “rich” person who gets interviewed.
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Keep ‘em coming Mark
Xox
What a remarkable young man!
Great testimony of overcoming trauma.
Beautiful story, thanks for sharing. Blessings from Spain.
Thank you so much Chris for sharing your story. I am so glad you now have long term stability, a loving family. Thank you to your adopters. I would have liked to hear more about the chapter in your life regarding - the contrast of stability and care from adults after not having that-you dragged yourselves up, instead of being raised. The fact that education was really important (after food), and that you now have a degree and soon a masters is just wonderful. Study and perspective through reading and therapy and living the reciprocated family love in your life now. You must have met your partner when you were young (you look young now) to have already been together for 15 years. I am glad. It is much harder to meet the one with children and ensuring their safety and well being (too risky for the children).