Malina, you know possess a key that can change you life, free you from the pain of the past and avoid pain n the future. But it will take incredible diligent to make this journey. I can assure you, however, it is well worth the effort!
I agree. If I could have set myself free years ago, I would have. It took me unto almost 50 yrs old to come to this and still learning. But as Gina Whoever had mentioned below for children with abusive parents and family lineages it's a long road of recovery (most of my life). I have yet to see anywhere anyone able to address abuse to children and how us who become Christians struggle for decades alone. No one can touch it. Really, no one has to defend anyone incl. Jim Richards but I'm wary anytime someone becomes defensive and I've seen this for decades with Christians regarding abuse in general. I trust God, I trust few churches. Forgiveness is everything. But how one comes to that point is a twisted road when your childhood is a history of abuse. I have never found Christians helped me or others abused in all these years, only God. Through his grace. I trust God. I don't trust churches much even to this day. There's just a lack of empathy and understanding about abuse. So many people don't even understand even how abused they were in childhood anyhow,and are amazed when they read a book one day so denial is large in their own lives, thus, really who can expect anyone to understand when so many are in denial of it in the 1st place. The truth is you can only expect what people are capable of. Incapable people will hurt you if you expect more from them then they are capable of. That's why I forgive my parents. And because Jesus forgave me thus it's for me to find a way to forgive others. I think there are many reasons for pain though. Judgement is one, but so is the loss and death of relationship. My Mom died recently and we never reconciled and never would. I accept that but of course there's always a part of our inner child who still wished we could have the Mother we never had like everyone else takes for granted. My Mother was an abusive narcissist so having any expectation of love from her was impossible. Yes, life is tough. Most people don't understand narc Mothers. There's so much to say about this and more, many books could be written about it. The important thing to recall, is God will never forget you even though your parents may.
J C.I this is so true and many us have gone through abuse and the church don’t know how to deal with it..... I pray for your continual healing on your journey I love you with the love of Christ ❤️ find you some true Christians you can connect with your journey
Cecilie, I know you will and I know you'll help a lot of people. We have psychologists and counselors, both Christian and secular using this material to help others. You're a friends and a blessing!
Hi, could you tell me where the first part of last week is please? I don't find it. And I don't want to miss it! Thank you. Actually I did find it; it's the one dated 11 March 2013
i agree with you completely that as adults, we need to take responsibility to properly discern a situation that has caused our feelings to be hurt, and to process those feelings so that we can eventually forgive whoever it is that we feel hurt us... however, you totally avoided the situation of a *child* who is being abused by their parent/s in some way or another that is causing them not only pain, but potential trauma during a time when their minds are still so easily molded. especially by a parent who is supposed to love them. a child has no capacity to meditate on 'why' or to understand that they will only suffer from the pain of abuse if they 'allow' themselves to. and if it goes on long enough through their childhood/growing up, it IS very possible that the child will grow up to believe that the way their parents treated them was normal, or that they were bad and deserved it. and that kind of damage can take a VERY long time to heal. do you honestly believe that it is the child's *choice* to suffer? or that it takes anything short of totally re-wiring their whole brain to fix the damage done by the abuse of a parent? i would love an honest answer from you about this. thank you.
Gina whoever, he has been through the abused that you talk about you would not believe what this man has been through he got a great book that I have read that show you how to truly over come the pain that people has cause you
No I don't believe he believes that. He was very abused as a child himself. A child is a child...immature...He goes on to share how he has experienced ongoing healing as an adult in Christ and His Living Word.
Serious believers in Christ must hear this message. Thanks Dr. Richards!
I have never heard this explained so very well and at a level all can understand. Thank you!
Malina, you know possess a key that can change you life, free you from the pain of the past and avoid pain n the future. But it will take incredible diligent to make this journey. I can assure you, however, it is well worth the effort!
THANK YOU JIM THAT WAS AWESOME , much appreciate YOU BRO SHALOM
I agree. If I could have set myself free years ago, I would have. It took me unto almost 50 yrs old to come to this and still learning. But as Gina Whoever had mentioned below for children with abusive parents and family lineages it's a long road of recovery (most of my life). I have yet to see anywhere anyone able to address abuse to children and how us who become Christians struggle for decades alone. No one can touch it. Really, no one has to defend anyone incl. Jim Richards but I'm wary anytime someone becomes defensive and I've seen this for decades with Christians regarding abuse in general. I trust God, I trust few churches. Forgiveness is everything. But how one comes to that point is a twisted road when your childhood is a history of abuse. I have never found Christians helped me or others abused in all these years, only God. Through his grace. I trust God. I don't trust churches much even to this day. There's just a lack of empathy and understanding about abuse. So many people don't even understand even how abused they were in childhood anyhow,and are amazed when they read a book one day so denial is large in their own lives, thus, really who can expect anyone to understand when so many are in denial of it in the 1st place. The truth is you can only expect what people are capable of. Incapable people will hurt you if you expect more from them then they are capable of. That's why I forgive my parents. And because Jesus forgave me thus it's for me to find a way to forgive others. I think there are many reasons for pain though. Judgement is one, but so is the loss and death of relationship. My Mom died recently and we never reconciled and never would. I accept that but of course there's always a part of our inner child who still wished we could have the Mother we never had like everyone else takes for granted. My Mother was an abusive narcissist so having any expectation of love from her was impossible. Yes, life is tough. Most people don't understand narc Mothers. There's so much to say about this and more, many books could be written about it. The important thing to recall, is God will never forget you even though your parents may.
J C.I this is so true and many us have gone through abuse and the church don’t know how to deal with it..... I pray for your continual healing on your journey I love you with the love of Christ ❤️ find you some true Christians you can connect with your journey
Using this in my clinical practice.
Cecilie, I know you will and I know you'll help a lot of people. We have psychologists and counselors, both Christian and secular using this material to help others. You're a friends and a blessing!
Well done! !!
Thank you!
Hi, could you tell me where the first part of last week is please? I don't find it. And I don't want to miss it! Thank you.
Actually I did find it; it's the one dated 11 March 2013
i agree with you completely that as adults, we need to take responsibility to properly discern a situation that has caused our feelings to be hurt, and to process those feelings so that we can eventually forgive whoever it is that we feel hurt us... however, you totally avoided the situation of a *child* who is being abused by their parent/s in some way or another that is causing them not only pain, but potential trauma during a time when their minds are still so easily molded. especially by a parent who is supposed to love them. a child has no capacity to meditate on 'why' or to understand that they will only suffer from the pain of abuse if they 'allow' themselves to. and if it goes on long enough through their childhood/growing up, it IS very possible that the child will grow up to believe that the way their parents treated them was normal, or that they were bad and deserved it. and that kind of damage can take a VERY long time to heal. do you honestly believe that it is the child's *choice* to suffer? or that it takes anything short of totally re-wiring their whole brain to fix the damage done by the abuse of a parent? i would love an honest answer from you about this. thank you.
Gina whoever, he has been through the abused that you talk about you would not believe what this man has been through he got a great book that I have read that show you how to truly over come the pain that people has cause you
No I don't believe he believes that. He was very abused as a child himself. A child is a child...immature...He goes on to share how he has experienced ongoing healing as an adult in Christ and His Living Word.
How does this apply to a broken heart? From someone who can’t or won’t love you back?
Withholding forgiveness promotes spiritual blindness imo.