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Also the most annoying thing, after thinking about it would be ''are you sure you are not avoidding all this food because you are afraid of putting weight? "
Hate it when people are like: “You really can’t eat this? Why don’t you just eat some, surly a little can’t hurt you? Or just pick it off, contamination isn’t a real thing.”
"Oh, but you can't eat anything!" Me: "but I CAN eat most foods." Literally, my diet isn't that restrictive. Me to a friend at a cafeteria, deciding whether it's safe for me to eat there or not: "can you notice any particular spices in that?" (My friend is already eating and her meal looks like it might be ok, but I just need to make sure.) Them: "No, this is completely tasteless." Why do they need to turn my allergies into a rant about how bland something tastes? In relation to this I hate it if people assume I'm a conservative eater who doesn't like anything "exotic". While I'm just trying to stay out of the ER. Ginger happens to be something that sent me there once. Haven't touched it since, for obvious reasons. I know ginger isn't the most common allergy, and yes, I have several food allergies. I just wish at least my friends would stop sensationalising the issue, like why make such a huge deal out of it? And also, please stop bitching how bland something I eat tastes to you. At home I use salt & pepper & herbs, at a cafeteria or some other public place I obviously don't have control over what the chef is using (unless I've been able to preorder something, which is a nuisance if I can't be certain about the time when I'll be eating, because the chef needs to know that). Also it seems really hard for people to understand how I might need to test something before preparing to eat a whole meal made with that. It really sucks to be afraid of possibly dying, or at least needing to use an Epi-Pen. Last time I had tachykardia because of Epi-Pen, but was already at the ER at that point, and it turned out just fine. Sorry for the long rant.;) And thanks for making this video!
After I told a waiter I have a wheat intolerance, they straight-up told me I didn't cause that type of intolerance simply didn't exist to them... and then my date and I had to leave so I could get medical attention cause they laced my food with wheat flour for fun.
Honestly, it should be a law that restaurants provide at least a few allergen free, gluten free and meat free items. Digestive illness awareness is horrendous.
My friend is extremely allergic to tomatoes, and we both told the waitress. We both ordered the same thing but she got the one with tomatoes, which was covered with sauce, she went into shock. I used her epi-pen on her, called an ambulance. Right before I was going to join her in the ambulance the restaurant demanded that I pay the bill. 😮 Really? I told her to get stuffed, we both warned her about it and yet she almost killed my friend. I called the health Inspector and consumer rights bureau on them.
Oh my hecking goodness. I'm sorry that happened, it must have been terrible. I hope that restaurant will take things more seriously from now on, but they really shouldn't need a patron to go into anaphylaxis to learn their lesson!
I'm also highly allergic to tomatoes and had a similar reaction, and I've never been more thankful for a restaurant. They called an ambulance, and had a thorough change of procedures in their kitchen to prevent it happening again - they're stars, and it's now the only place I'll eat out!
I'm so sorry that happened to you I hope everything's better I can really feel for you on this I personally don't really have that severe of allergies but I have many siblings and friends that do one time I took a few friends and my youngest brother out to a restaurant my youngest brother is severely allergic to eggs and peanuts we asked for a very simple dish that did not have eggs in it because my brother was allergic and we explained this the waitress said it was fine but guess what the salad we received didn't have eggs it just had egg sauce!
I have a relative who has had the cook themselves tell them that "oh it doesn't contain any tomatoes jus a bit of ketchup" when he asked if the food had any 🙄 🙄 seriously like, you had one f'ng job and you couldn't eaven do that
I had a party a few weeks ago and I remembered my friend had an eating condition. I didn’t want to make him feel like a burden so I asked his girlfriend what he could and couldn’t eat and cooked up some foods that had the correct texture since we were ordering pizza and he couldn’t eat it. His face lit up when I brought some extra food up just for him. It doesn’t take much to accommodate your friends- they’re friends- it’s worth it!
My husbands family NEVER do anything, most times i have to eat just plain mashed potatoes at thanksgiving because my mil (who we live with) wont let me bring my own food because she cares too much about what the family will think, a few times i just ate whatever i liked but suffering for 2-4 weeks after is just too much now
I had to take a Tupperware with food I could have for tea over at my uncle's because they only bothered to make chicken so we could all eat the same. Nevermind them having dessert, sides, bread, etc... I appreciated them not making pasta so I could at least eat something I wasn't bringing myself though bu they're my freaking family >.
I read something one time that was like, "when those really skinny girls order diet coke I give them regular muahaha" or something like that and it's like, you have no idea why they are ordering diet coke and it's not even extra work like food restrictions or anything but you just have to gatekeep diet products?? And my dad, who is diabetic, personally drinks diet coke sometimes because he can use it when he's crashing (I think?), and you know, he can actually drink it. But Coke fucks up his Insulin and can put maybe even put him in the hospital. That skinny girl could have some health condition and this dude was literally just possibly poisoning people because he thought they where to skinny to "deserve" diet coke. It's so awful.
Some people really are careless. Hopefully, no one messes with your dad's food or drinks, because that's so dangerous. If someone says they can't have something, act responsibly and don't lie about what you're giving them. You could kill someone. Or, people want to "test" what your limits are. Coworker wiped a latex glove across my forehead to see if I really was allergic, like what the fuck is wrong with you? You don't mess with people. I went to a restaurant a few years ago, and asked if the dish had corn, nuts or seeds and was assured multiple times there wasn't. Well, the "flour" tortilla they said was flour was actually corn and covered in sauce, so I couldn't see it. I spent a week in the bathroom and a few days in the hospital, because I couldn't stop throwing up and was bleeding from places you shouldn't and because I was so ill, my seizures also increased. It was a pretty rough few weeks, all because someone couldn't be bothered to be honest.
I really despise those kinds of people, my severely autistic sibling has some pretty restricted dietary needs as it is, and I'd flip my shit if I found out someone gave him a chocolate bar. I've had people scoff at me for saying he can't have gluten, dairy, soy, and most sugars that aren't from fruit and that he ends up being out of commission and loopy for a solid week if he gets his hands on a bit of dairy milk. It also doesn't help that he used to steal people's food because it was difficult finding alternatives that were safe years ago... I shudder to think what would happen if he developed diabetes as well
Yea, I remember seeing a video or story somewhere a while back about a girl who ordered a diet coke and got a normal in a Mac Donald's. She ended up in hospital cause she's got a bad reaction to one of the ingredients, she wasn't allergic, but something to do with digesting it causes her whole body to seize up or something like that and I think she got paralyzed for a bit. Restaurant servers are aweful and should just serve what u order and not say "yea" and give u something else. :(
I've known (and no longer associate with) baristas who would passive agressivley put whole milk in the drinks of skinny girls who ordered soy, oat, or almond milk. They though it was a funny way of "one-upping" them for their perceived vanity. But as someone who has severe lasctose intolerance (among several other dietary restrictions and issues) I live in fear of someone doing this to me and the reaction it would cause. I'm not skinny because I'm watching my figure; I'm skinny becuase I have conditions that prevent me from maintaining a healthy weight! And who cares even if I was watching my weight? What's so wrong with that, that someone should feel the need to sabotage or punish you for it?
I get this happen a lot as I need regular sodas (pops) and no zero or diet as I’m very allergic to artificial sweeteners. This happened the past week we were at a restaurant and I took one cautionary small sip of my “regular” coke, I knew immediately it was diet. My fiancé got the attention of are server who smugly said that they like to give plus size people diet drinks. I’m plus size, autistic, and I have significant allergies. My fiancé explained I have severe allergies(artificial sweeteners, tree nuts, strawberries, bees and a whole host of meds) as I had started to develop hives. Ended up heading to the ER right after.,
Not sure if you will actually see this, but I worked as a server and also a manager in a small restaurant for a period of my life. Gluten-free is actually fairly easy, because we had GF options and were trained on how to prepare them for people with celiac, so that all worked swimmingly. But I can understand what the servers are getting at with the question “what happens.” It’s a training issue. What they mean is “how severe is the reaction and how careful do we need to be about cross contamination?” For example, if the food in question is red onions, but the item you ordered is red peppers, I would know that the two are prepared in the morning, and are stored in side by side containers. A piece of red onion could easily have touched the peppers, or the prep cook might have been lazy and used the other same knife, or cutting board, or not properly wiped down the surfaces. The lids on the containers might have been switched. We don’t want the customer to become ill, but we also just might not have any other red peppers in the restaurant, and so preparing more would require an emergency run to the grocery. If the reaction to onions is only if you eat the onions directly, then the pre-cut peppers are okay. If you have a severe allergy where the slightest molecule could send you into anaphylaxis, I’m going to get new peppers, wash down a surface and prepare them specially, happily, because you are important and I would like my customers not dying. If you want to cut this line of questioning off, tell the server (firmly) that you have a severe condition that requires careful non-contamination (if that’s the case) or that your reaction is only if you ingest the food directly. That will cut off the questions before they start in most cases. It is absolutely acceptable to be frustrated by poor service, and if your server is asking inappropriate questions, I strongly advise asking for a supervisor or calling later to explain the problem. Management wants to know.
I'm one of those challenging to feed people and I avoid restaurants whenever possible... but when I don't have a choice, I start my conversation with the server with an apology about how much they are going to have to do just to see if I can eat there. I've stood outside of kitchens while the server passes me boxes so I could read labels. Even if the kitchen messes up, out of ignorance, rote, or plain meaness, I still tip my server well because they did their best for me in an almost impossible situation.
I understand what you mean but ive been to restaurants where they said "hey let me check with the chef and see if we can make this that way" or " theres a chance of cross-contamination in the kitchen will that be a problem?" And other places where they went " why cant you eat this? Are you allergic? How bad is it? Well why do you want to eat this if theres that in it?" Just really condescending and nosy.
Had a guy try that with me. Best thing to do in that situation is guilt them by overreacting and making them sit in hospital with you when you wait. Many medical bills make them pay it. Petty but they won't do it again
@@lwhipps3070 You can also press assault charges (sometimes attempted murder, too) because it _is_ assault. They do have to have known about the allergy but if they tried to sneak it into other food, it means they did know, so that's easy to prove.
Liulfr McShane I’m so scared of that happening, because having an intolerant reaction rather than allergic is slower and lasts long- so I could feel like shit and have stomach issues, rashes etc for a few weeks and not have any clue what I ate, makes me paranoid to go to restaurants.
i have food intollerances and my best friend is teetotal, and guarenteed the same people saying 'what, not even a little bit of dairy' to me are the same people saying 'oh it's only a glass of wine it can't hurt' to her, so i think they just really like ruining people's days
When I was working in kitchens, there was a woman who had many, severe intolerances. And she had a card! She literally gave the waiter a card (the size of a business card) that listed all of her restrictions on one side, and things that were fine on the other. We loved it! It was more restrictions than would have fit on the tickets, so to have a little piece of paper we could all see that very clearly listed everything was great. Also, she had given us a heads up when she made the reservation that she had a special diet. We loved that woman. Side note, our restaurant prided itself on being accommodating, but this woman just made our lives so much easier and a little bit less stressful.
I've seen a card on the internet for low FODMAP, but I've never tried using one. I mostly just don't eat in restaurants. www.fodmapeveryday.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/I-need-to-AVOID-the-following-foods-3.pdf
Speaking as a former cook, the kitchen will thank you! If you feel comfortable doing so, I highly recommend telling the restaurant when you make the reservation (probably best to call in to get a reservation). This might not work at a chain restaurant (since most of their stuff will be pre-made at a commissary) but any restaurant that's making their food in house, from scratch, should be able to help you out. There's almost always something they can do. And if there really isn't, they can probably direct you to somewhere better. Dont be surprised if the hostess taking your reservation says that they'll need to talk to the chef and they'll have someone call you back to make sure they have a good menu. Or they could just say "ok, we'll take care of it" and then you get dinner. We even had someone bring in gluten free bread once because they wanted garlic bread but had celiac's. That's a little extreme, but it just goes to show that most restaurants will make you something you can enjoy. It's just better to give them time to plan something. Last note, it's possible your food will take a little longer to prepare, especially if you have a peak-hour reservation. Kitchen's have a rhythm, and specialty menu's are a curve ball that can throw it off, but it'll get done, itll get done correctly, and it'll be tasty. A lot of restaurants these days are trying to be more accommodating. It's worth calling and asking. Some will even specify on their websites that they can make special menus.
someone once said to us "oh but you have an epipen you can give him if it does have it right?" ........ umm how about you do your job, find out if it has cinnamon because jabbing my autistic child with an epipen during an anaphlyactic reaction and spending the rest of the day in the ER is not my idea of fun!
It's so bizarre, people seem to think that if you give someone an epipen then it's the same as if they had never interacted with the thing they're allergic to at all. No. That's not it on any level, and even if it was I think everyone would rather not have an allergic reaction in the first place so, maybe do your job? Possibly?
WTF?! I would have torn that person a new one (verbally, of course) because that is absolutely ridiculous. If you need to use the epipen it means an automatic trip to the hospital! It's bad enough having to go to the E.R for an reason at all, even if you have insurance that would cover it, but not everyone has insurance or has really terrible insurance. Grrr, this is making my blood boil.
Omg this is the first time I've seen someone else post about a cinnamon allergy! It's so annoying around Christmas time and so many people think you can't be allergic to it
Personally I love telling people EXACTLY what happens when I consume lactose. Silly them for being nosey and asking a question they really didn't want the answer to.
I live in Wisconsin. Finding a sandwich around here without cheese on it is a nightmare, but I'd rather not push my luck most days, even with the lactose pills to quell most of the reaction. My mother has passed out on the floor from the gut pain after consuming a milk product, even after she took a double dose of lactose pills. I pray to God I don't wind up that badly at her age.
Can I be one of those annoying people and ask what happens? My doctor's being a pain by refusing to diagnose me because apparently cramps and intrusive gas isn't enough 😂
@@mariamb8818 For sure. It can vary but usually it starts with intestinal discomfort, cramping and gas or straight up diarrhea (depending on how much tolerance you have if any, you may bypass gas altogether.) Sometimes nausea. If I've eaten a "white dairy" (cream cheese, sour cream etc) it can happen pretty fast (either side of an hour) and last for a day or 2+, but if it's something less powerful (like cheddar/hard cheeses) it can start causing problems (diarrhea/general bowel discomfort) the next day. Sometimes nausea can be involved but it generally tends to focus on the exit routes, if you will. As for diarrhea I'm not just talking soft stool, I mean Willy wonka chocolate river LIQUID, not trusting yourself to pass gas, and woohoo more stomach, intestines, bowel cramping. Charge your device and prepare for a long stay near the toilet. Bring nappy rash cream for the stomach acid burn on your skin. And you can be somewhat lactose intolerant rather than full blown. Maybe you're only going to get gas, bloating, cramping. Maybe you can still have hard cheeses or small servings of whatever. It's still lactose intolerance.
@@IzDiariesIf I'm having something more than a hard cheese I always take one comprehensive dairy digest pill with a strong lactase dose (9000+ units) 20 minutes before, one with the first bite of food and one every 20-40 minutes after that that I'm still consuming a dairy product (usually at a restaurant with a dessert. If it's just a hard/yellow type cheese in a sandwich then I'll just take it with the food.) Your mother sounds like she had a pretty bad case of it. I'd agree that it wouldn't be worth the risk then. No thank you to being stuck in pain etc in a public place.
@@marrus1372 thank you! It sounds like what I get, not always as extreme I'd say. But still something to make someone blush. I know it's a bit taboo to talk about but damnn that uncontrollable just KICKS 😂😂 I can run off from people then laugh it off after but a bit annoying when only a cup of tea with a drop of milk will just get the engine revving 😪
I had SO much “stomach flu” as a child and eczema+assorted skin problems that required laser surgery at 8 years old. We went to a million doctors and finally we went to a “homeopath” (who basically charged us for weird tests that did nothing) but the one thing he did do was ask “are you allergic to wheat?” And told me to stop eating it for a week and boom. 7 years later I’m treating my eczema with over the counter lotion and barely notice it. Turns out I AM allergic to wheat lol.
Its kinda sad that only the homeopath could find out... I heard a similar story from a youtuber and the doctors didn't know so he tried different things until he found out
This hits kind of hard. On Friday, my manager hit me in the face with a spatula covered in peanut butter... I'm allergic to peanuts, and he just laughed and didn't believe that I'm allergic to them. The other managers tell me they're going to "do something about it" but I really want to file a police report against him
Well, if he really didn't know about the allergy and has otherwise been a kind person, I wouldn't file a report. If he is known for douchy stuff (like, a spatula covered in peanut butter hit in the face... can one expect actions like this by him?) absolutely report him. If he just overstepped once and is really sorry, I guess I'd try to work it out. But he should cover any medical bills he caused. And if he refuses, again, I'd report I guess.
This video is the most relatable video I've ever seen. I'm allergic to casein, peanuts, and treenuts, as well as cats, dogs, and almost 30 various molds and pollens (conclusion: I was born on the wrong planet). I have actually had people sneak my allergens into my food because they don't believe me and want to "test" me. Oh yes, I love spending two hours on the toilet in crippling pain and covered in hives before throwing up everything I've ever eaten in my entire life because you don't think I'm really allergic to dairy or don't think it's "really that serious". Second conclusion: people are stupid jerks. Also, in the US allergies are considered a disability under the ADA. I like to shove that lil detail in people's faces when they're being especially rude and I'm feeling especially petty.
ピップさん Probably because there’s more insensitive assholes with the “it’s a dog eat dog world” mentality in the US. Making allergies a disability protects people from those assholes because we have laws against discrimination and assault directly correlated to disabilities
I was trying to find meal replacement drinks for the days I feel to sick to eat. Long story short, they are all loaded with various sugars. Even the diabetic ones...
I don't have it, but Celiac runs in my family. At my highschool graduation when I requested having a gluten-free option so that my family could enjoy their meal, I was told by my classmates that since I was the only one with those issues, me and my family should just stay home so we wouldn't ruin the night for everyone else. 🙃 Also, I'm on Lithium, so I don't drink alcohol. People get so personally offended when I say "no thanks, I can't drink" when politely declining lol
I don’t have any dietary restrictions but I used to have a friend with celiac. I was trying to plan what restaurant I wanted to go out with my friends to for my birthday and the one I originally wanted to go to had bad gluten cross-contamination. So when I told my family and tried to switch the restaurant they told me that I shouldn’t take one person’s restrictions into account over everyone else’s preferences. They told me my friend just shouldn’t come if she had dietary restrictions. I was SO MAD!
You're greater than any friends I've ever had. Certain friends tell me to suck it up and pack a sandwhich. It's so embarassing to bring a sandwhich to a party while all your friends eat pizza or some other very advertising food.
As a person with a severe nut allergy, THANK YOU. Also whenever I accidentally let people know I always carry medication with me they inevitably go "OH then take it now so then you can eat this right?" UHM NO. That epipen is there in case I eat nuts by accident, to buy me a few extra minutes of air so that I hopefully don't die before the ambulance comes :)
YES!! When I go to Starbucks and order my decaf latte with almond milk and sugar free syrup, and look at me like I just asked for some vomit in a glass. Please just give it to me.... I don’t want to deal with my IBS symptoms today.
I am Gluten and Dairy free, and I have to avoid things like onions and apples and things with acidity too, because of my IBS. (I'm also vegan by choice on top of it) I can cope with people taking the piss out of me for veganism, because it's my own choice. But the IBS restrictions is something I don't like people being rude to me about, because I DONT LIKE IT EITHER ya know?
I have constantly been spiked with dairy milk, even though paying extra for almond drink, at Starbucks and got into an argument with a barista that claims that Carmel has dairy in it. Yes, I can tolerate the tablespoon worth of carmel, I cannot tolerate the 12 oz of cow's milk you just dumped into the cup. I stopped going altogether. The coffee stand closer to my house is easier not to get cross contamination.
@@LoyalMatter wow sounds like you have a horrible starbucks. The ones where i live are super nice. I had a guy make one with dairy and profusely apologized when i told him.
gosh, the starbucks in my city are quite decent about it, because they are aware that they have the most options... all the actual snobby ones around here just don't offer other options. :/ (On the other hand that doesn't account for human error; I have had someone go and check the computer for an ingredients list that wasn't in their binder and tell me something didn't have nuts in it and... DEFINITELY nuts in it (but that girl is nice and definitely checked so I think she's just a bad reader or looked at the wrong recipe). The thing I hate most is people *confidently* telling you something is safe for you to eat when they never actually checked. This has happened to me multiple times with nuts (twice in the past year! I'm going to have to start looking ay ingredients lists myself and make everyone annoyed with me because so many people are untrustworthy. I'm very lucky my allergy has several stages before escalating to anaphalaxis and hasn't gotten worse over the years, so I eventually stopped paying for Epipens, but seriously! Puffy, itchy/burny lips/mouth/throat so you have to keep chugging water for like an hour, and bad nasea/possible vomiting with digestive upset later on is still a serious allergy). I mean do they seriously not know anybody with an allergy/intolerance?? Like how did they grow up to be such carefree jerks? It's dangerous.)
Me: “I’m legally blind” Person: “but you can see with glasses?” YES BUT ME GETTING TO A PASSIBLE LEVEL OF SIGHT DOESNT NEGATE THE FACT I NEED A CANE WITHOUT CORRECTIVE LENSES SUSAN GOD Edit; lotta y’all ether don’t understand “legal” blindness as a spectrum it seems so let me clarify. My optimism says I’m legally blind. Even with glasses I get no where near perfect vision. I’m on the lower end of the legal blindness spectrum and still have a lot of vision compared to someone who’s totally blind. The doctors don’t know what’s wrong with my eye cause they’re structurally fine. I even have a few inches of sight where I can “see” like a normal person. Even with correction I have ZERO depth perception. With correction I can’t drive. I need a cane without correction. And, again, eye doc says I’m blind so (｀・∀・´)
@rando -7 to -10, depending where you are, counts as legally blind. I have -3 but i still cant see the tips of my fingertips if i put my arms straight so ykno
If you put your corrective lens directly in front of a camera and let it focus, then quickly take it away, it will show what you see without your glasses
Same! But I got really used to dietary restrictions, I nannied a kid allergic to milk and eggs and my mom is allergic to corn. Like especially with google it’s so easy to accommodate people
This is the exact content i signed up for. I don't understand why people think it's any of their business that you won't eat something. Also I love that you upload just before my afternoon class, it helps me ease my anxiety.
I have a diagnosed gluten intolerance and it’s annoying that people think I just choose not to eat products with gluten- no I don’t eat products with gluten because it makes my existence a living hell.
I've heard for years that apparently vegans and vegetarians constantly talk about their diet. I mainly hear this from people who constantly get upset by the fact that other people don't eat meat and won't stop going on about it. I generally don't hear vegetarians or vegans talk about their diets a lot though.
Sam Hall I see a lot of both on the internet. As someone who eats meat though, I am less annoyed by the preachy vegans than the preachy meat eaters. The preachy vegans are annoying and pretty rude, yeah, but they’re doing this because they don’t like seeing meat companies profiting off of treating innocent animals so horribly. Preachy meat eaters, on the other hand.... they bitch about preachy vegans and then turn around and do that EXACT SAME FUCKING THING to vegans who aren’t even being preachy!!! And their preachiness isn’t even coming from a place of care, it’s just them wanting to be asshole trolls and wanting to tRIgGeR sOmE VeGAn sNoWFlAKeS ugh like they’re both annoying as fuck but goddamn. I honestly don’t give a shit what anyone eats as long as it isn’t innocent people, and I hate that we have to push our dumb food preferences on each other. Like we get it, you eat a certain thing, nobody asked for your _very_ pushy food advice.
The WORST is when after going through the rigmarole of ordering something you STILL end up having a reaction and its so embarrassing. "Yes I have to stab myself with an epi-pen and leave in an ambulance... but please don't let it ruin your night. I'm sure you'll invite me out again. I'm totally not making this night-out horrible."
My cousin and I used to have harsh opinions about the gluten-sensitive bandwagoners until they caused a whole gluten-free industry to pop-up and make my cousin's life with Celiac's disease so much easier.
I just had this discussion with my cousin. I'm gluten intolerant (so is his mom and sister) and he has celiacs. Since his diagnosis over ten years ago, the wave of fad dieters has honestly made his and all of our lives so much easier.
Me with vegans tbh, I can't eat milk products but thanks to vegans there's been a huge surge of alternatives and restaurants offering dishes that aren't just salad
I had a period where I couldn't have any dairy at all and my friend can't have any gluten but our school cafeteria was great about it. The second you ordered something specialized they would ask if they needed to change their gloves. It was a nice subtle way of asking how severe and how careful they needed to be!
Yes! If anyone asks me what happens now, I just give them a really graphic description involving the runs. Unexpected good thing: One of our local fish and chip shops does gluten free nights twice a week (they have to clean the fryers). I love them so much.
I literally was just arguing with someone about this on Facebook. People seem to have a weirdly hard time with the concept of "mind your own business and let people live their own life".
One of my really good friends has a gluten intolerance and is highly allergic to chocolate. People give her crap for it all the time and I feel bad until she opens her mouth and puts them in their place by mostly saying "If you want me to vomit blood on you I will happy eat these things". I forget she's got such a smart mouth for intolerant people xD
"You can't taste it" I used to be friends with these two girls. I found out I have a form of IBD, which also came with having issues with certain foods for me. Even before I found out about and figured out the low-fodmap diet that you mentioned, they would always make it clear that they were super put out by e.g. not being able to go to the beach because I told them I was in so much pain I didn't think I could even stand up, and that I might even faint. They didn't believe me! Then once I went strictly low-fodmap for a couple of years I would ask about how much onion or garlic was in food a lot and they would say, don't worry you can't taste it. That doesn't make a bloody difference, mates -.-
I’m very very lactose intolerant and my family keeps feeding me cheese. I know I can say no but, I HATE being rude so I end up crying on the toilet. Also, don’t be a jerk to people who can’t eat things due to sensory issues.
THANK YOU. That 'annoying person' who ordered gluten free options then ate the contaminated chips might have a sensory issue not an allergy, and besides which, it's none of anyone's business but the person eating it.
Jessica you get me! Everyone in my family has food allergies so whenever we go out we're the whole "annoying family" who has to have special orders Lol! The best reaction we got was when we finished ordering my Mom asked if everyone had their EpiPens because she brought extras just in case and the waiter just about passed out!🤣🤣
I was a vegetarian for 26 years and now a vegan for the last 9 years, so I’ve had decades of attempting to order meat-free food. It has definitely gotten easier over the years, but back in the 1980’s and 1990’s you would’ve thought I was a heretic when I asked waiters about what menu items didn’t have meat! I feel your pain about the salads, Jessica!
I'm vegan too and I totally feel this.. To be honest, I don't even like salad.. and a lot of places only ever have salad (with no cheese!) as their vegan option.. I know it's not totally the same as having an intolerance or an allergy, but I felt everything Jessica said in this video!
Yeah I'm only vegetarian and it's by choice so I shouldn't complain but like I have friends that are like "But why?!? HOW do you SURVIVE?" and I'm sorta like "um I mean I never liked meat that much and when you think about it as dead fat and muscle and blood, it's not that great...." And then they're like "but it's so good and perfect! What about hamburgers? Or bacon?" *Internal screaming*
I've been vegetarian for a few years, and while it's been pretty easy in my city, small country towns are a different thing entirely. Often the only thing I could eat was the chips. If I was lucky, there might be a soggy risotto.
Yeah Im vegetarian and its gotten a lot better for me too but I still get the occasional oh we have salad and potatoes in so and so form or potato salad
I work in a restaurant and as soon as someone has dietry restrictions that aren't gluten vegan or simple allergies etc. I just get a chef cause they know what goes in the food and are deffinately gonna be more help than me walking back and forth 10 times trying to help you.
(I'm assuming you're in the uk, sorry if not). There needs to be an allergy book. Then you can just show that to customers and it makes it easier for both you and customer then. Pretty sure its a legal requirement.
@@Anna_D_Addams idk about the UK but not in the US :))) most chains have one with wheat, eggs, dairy, nuts, and seafood, but ingredients don't have to be public so neither you nor the server really know what all needs to be removed. shit's a fucking a nightmare.
Ok so I love this, this is relatable af. I have a dairy intolerance and SO MANY people who work in restaurants don't even know what dairy means which blows my mind every single time. I also had a waitress tell me once that everyone is 'too sensitive nowadays' and should 'get over it' who shut up when I told her I get full body eczema that makes me feel like my skin is burning when I eat milk products.
Wow, I know how you feel! Having dietary restrictions like that just really make interacting with others completely unpleasant. I have to avoid gluten, sugar, dairy, high oxalate foods, trans and saturated fats, and I'm allergic to garlic and onions so there is no way I can't understand and sympathize with how you feel for all of your points! My boyfriend's step-mother keeps trying to feed us whenever we do a family outing together despite the fact that we always give her a list prior and then just gives this hissyfit when I choose not to eat anything she's made... because she's cooked everything I can't eat! It's not my fault people like us internally bleed! So sorry you've had to put up with these things too!
If I ever cook anything for anyone or buy anything for anyone (food items), I ALWAYS ask if they're allergic to anything I could possibly ever put in it or anything that could possibly be in it. Now, if they EVER tell me yes, I don't ask them what their body does if they have it in there! It's not my business! I mean, yea, from a medical standpoint, I'm thoroughly interested, but I'm not going to ask! Jeez people!!
Whenever I have people over, in addition to asking about allergies, I also put a little card in front of each dish I serve that lists the ingredients. It takes like maybe 5-10 extra minutes to do but I know that information helps people feel more at ease at a party.
I am like that too. I always ask if there are allergies or intolerance because I have a lot of them. But I don't mind people asking me what happens mostly because I am the curious sort and want to know myself what happens to other people. But what I really hate is when someone tells me they have an allergy and they really don't. Make it so much harder for people who really do have allergies or food sensitivities to be taken seriously.
Also I I make a dish with a salad dressing or ingredient that’s actually a lot of ingredients I just leave it out there with the dish so they can look at the ingredients. Like potato salads or meats with barbecue/marinades
If I have a new friend staying over for dinner I always ask if they have any allergies, intolerances against anything because I don't want to accidently harm anyone. I also don't mind if someone tells me they need a vegan or vegetarian option, it's usually not that hard to do something that suits these diets either. I can't eat pork so my friends often just either make more side dishes which I love because I don't need meat all the time or just make something out of the other 1001 meats I can't eat without any problems. It's really just pork and products made out of pork/pig(and the wild versions) like gelatine I can't digest so if someone just gives me chicken I'm perfectly fine. I have friends who are allergic to a lot of stuff and I usually just tell them to please send me the whole list so I have it ready and can go through the whole thing to double check. I'm not good at remembering stuff.
@@lady_mondegreen For decades, my mom really hated telling people she knows or the host of a party about her allergy to cheese, so she stopped. Because even though she would tell them that they _didn't_ need to make an extra something just for her (there's almost always other food she could eat there, since not all food has cheese) but they'd make a huge fuss about it, drawing attention to my mom, and they'd make something anyway. It was just really embarrassing for her. She doesn't care as much anymore, especially since I started announcing she was allergic and cheese could kill her (which is true), at gatherings and restaurants, when I was about 5. It scared the pants off me- and still does- because, acquaintances, "friends" _and_ family have all tried (and succeeded a few times) to slip cheese into her food. That's unfortunately pretty common. It was even worse for my mom since a number of them thought she was lying about the cheese allergy because she _isn't_ allergic to dairy as well. Just the cheese. **sigh** I think she would probably really like the way you do it, though!
I was a served for many years and I have NEVER had a problem accommodating someone with an allergy or intolerance. I would ask if they needed me to use separate equipment to make their order (in case they could not have the equipment even come into contact with the allergen). I have NEVER asked someone what would happen if they ate the allergen. That is completely inappropriate and no one should have to explain their diet to a stranger. In my mind, it is hard enough having an allergy so I was always happy to find something they could enjoy on our menu.
I have several intolerances including onions, beef, and a weird allergy to certain pesticides, so certain fruit like strawberries and plums have to be organic. Grew up in the Southwest. Got the most disgusted looks from restaurant staff when I requested no onions in my salsa. Gee, sorry I don't want to be curled up in pain for several hours later on while my entire digestive system shuts down. Also, I really sympathize with you on the "people sneaking food to test you thing," which is something my mom did for years with beef. I may not notice it immediately, but oh boy do I figure it out a bit later.
I always figure out if something had pork or pork products in it even if it usually takes a while until the stomach cramps and the nausea kick in and then I also get diarrhea a few minutes later and I would rather not go through this so please dont sneak pork into my meal. My asshole brother in law did this to me before and my mother and older brother were both ready to murder him while I was either on the toilet or curled up into a ball for hours and in pain. An intolerance might not kill me like an allergic reaction but that doesn't mean it's not serious or pleasant to go through.
Being allergic to beef is the WORST in the south. Really just any meat tbh. There’s too much meat 😭 I totally get it though! I have celiac and slight intolerances to most meats and being allergic to that much stuff is a pain bc there’s so many things with those allergens. I actually have a friend who’s allergic to avocado and we live in the Southwest where guacamole is a major food staple. 😭
I feel you. The worst experience I had was actually in hospital as a teenager. I had to argue with a nurse for 10 min because she wanted me to eat yogurt for breakfast.... she called me all kinds of names and a bratty teenager....I am effin' lactose intolerant! She did not even bother looking at my chart! I was i there because of stomach and intestinal problems and she thought is was a great idea to compound it with lactose👹
I used to have allergic reactions to pesticides as well. Luckily I don't have to worry anymore. However when I was a child I had LS - on well let's say a delicate area. I couldn't eat fruit if it wasn't organic and couldn't drink cola for years. Had to take a week of school because it was so bad. Just had to tell the teachers that 'peeing was painful'.
Mmm reminds me of the time i was stopped by the vegan patrol on campus. They said they had food and recipes. I like vegetables, thought hey maybe they have something good. Then they started telling me how my ham sandwich was terrible and offered me a pb sandwich. I told them, "cant allergic to nuts, peanuts, direct soybean products and chickpeas. Got any recipes without them?" They proceed to list all of these wonderful delicious foods, but lo! They didnt know hummus is made of chickpeas and everything they listed off from macrons to tofu. I remember looking at them saying you know macrons have almond flour. They said, yes. They said yes. I said. "Thats a nut". They had a moment and stood there, and said "it a seed like sunflower, you wont have an allergy because its organic." Yes its a seed but its also a nut! And an organic nut will still kill me, it doesn't change biology!. Talk about ironic food disconnect.
It anoys me to no end people who think just because something's organic, it cannot possibly harm anyone. Being organic doesn't take away the alergenic qualities of foods!
I had the vegans tell me to eat all the things I’m allergic to instead of killing animals...cause it’d be better that I die than the animals. The only food groups I DON’T have issues with are berries, leafy greens, cruciferous veggies, meats, fish, poultry, shellfish. So basically....if I gave up eating animals I’d be eating greens veggies and berries only....cause I’m allergic to peanuts, almonds, hazelnuts, corn, rice, soy, cinnamon, tomatoes, apples, grapes, oranges, lemons, citrus fruits, avocados, peaches....I’m sure I’ve forgotten some. I was also allergic to every trees, grass, and weed pollen they tested me for...and some molds...and dust mites. Ironically I am not allergic to being around animals or eating animals. I’m also chemically sensitive....cannot be around cigarettes, perfumes, cleaning products, air fresheners (had a job put them in the ceiling tile above my desk once....like I couldn’t still smell it was somewhere nearby and react to it!)....these things cause asthma flares. Also....I develop new allergies all the time...and become more allergic to things I’m already allergic to. Like hazelnut..,,I was eating it one month....allergic the next....it’s actually my worst food allergy right now. So when I eat an item in the same food group as items I’m already allergic to I tend to become allergic to it....which means I tend to avoid nuts in general...and fruits....and non green veggies...
On behalf of the vegan people, I apologize for the undocumented morons in our ranks. I would never blame someone who eats meat if it's the only source of protein they can eat without suffering. It seems to me that's just basic decency.
@@CarritaJI too apologize for my kind. Veganism should be something you choose only if you have the luxury to do so. Your life comes first, you should be able to do whatever is good for you. If shit went down, almost every vegan out there would eat whatever they have to to survive. Just because they don't live like that day to day doesn't mean you don't.
@@CarritaJ I'm only a vegetarian, not a vegan, but I would also like to apologize. I especially hate it when vegans/vegetarians pester people like that because we have very similar difficulties. For instance I dont even order anything with cheese at a restaurant because it kills me inside to bother the people working at the restaurant. And the other commentors are right- your life absolutley comes first!!
My latest pet peeve is when the staff has NO IDEA what's in any of the food. Like, you're a restaurant... How is that even possible? We were traveling last week and 3+ times I explained that I have a nut allergy and asked if the food contained nuts. Answer? "I'm pretty sure it doesn't." Great! I'm pretty sure I won't die then! Don't bother double-checking to potentially save my life. 🙄 Or, when they do double-check, and even the managers and chefs don't know. I finally told one place not to bother and walked out after a crowd of staff spent 5 min debating the issue. For whatever reason, the not knowing bothers me more than a prompt, "Sorry, you can't eat this." I think it's all the unnecessary drama and feeling totally exposed and alien... as if no one else at the restaurant has ever had an allergy before.
my personal favourite "oh but we thought you wanted it without the rice because you said you're gluten intollerant" (quickly followed by "I know you can't eat bread but that's wrong with pizza")
I'm so sorry you went through that. I worked for 15 years at the same restaurant, and you better believe I knew what was in everything. And if I had ANY doubt, I told the customer straight up and had them order something else. My family has severe food allergies; I know it's nothing to play around with. And I could never understand why some of my coworkers (yes, even cooks) would not bother to learn ingredients. It was our job!
Ugh, I feel you! This is so annoying, I have very severe allergies to dairy and eggs. I went into anaphylactic choc last year and was kept under observation for a couple of hours in the hospital. When it was dinner time, I asked the hospital staff who was serving my food if there were any dairy or eggs in the dish they were giving me as I have allergies and went into anaphylactic choc a couple of hours ago. And the staff had the nerve to call me a picky eater because I was unhappy with my food. The nurse overheard everything and thankfully intervened!
I totally get what you're saying. I'm allergic to a lot of foods and it's very very difficult to order from restaurants. The most annoying thing was when a manager came to get my order, how bad is your allergy? what is your reaction to this food? I'm like, I may go to the hospital because I can't breathe from anaphylaxis, and she is like so your allergy is mild. No b** I may die!
@@yourlocalbi9811 I don't know, but she seemed to have been trained to know some basic things, because she told me if you don't get any pimples then it's mild. A friend of mine has a kid which is 5 or 6 years old and totally understands what it is
You're supposed to write cards to your friends? Guess I should stop by the stationary shop after payday. As someone in food service it is interesting how attitudes have changed over the past decade or so. When I first started, those "annoying people" you mentioned made cutting corners seem reasonable, which obviously hurt people with actual allergies and sensitivities. The fallout from that has led to idea now, of being allergy friendly by default, which some customers will balk at, but really that switch isn't as dramatic as a lot of people assume it would be. The university I work for did this in one of its dining halls by first switching the brands it used, then overhauling all the recipes it could and quietly dropping the ones it couldn't. Finally they announced that this hall would be gluten and peanut free. And that's when some (who had been eating there as the actual changes were made) decried how awful the menu would become. So yeah, I'm hopeful that more restaurants do that and the larger public sees how these changes don't affect them but can really help others.
This made me so happy!!! I deal with this on a daily basis, being severly allergic to eggs and dairy (which for whatever reason is in literally everything even when it has no reason to be), and it's good to hear that someone else understands the struggles I go through. I feel the same way about the vegan menu as you do about the GF menu. It was like heaven when I went to my first vegan resteraunt as a kid and didn't have to deal with the emotion of every other time I ate out. It's my dream to live somewhere that has them so I won't have to deal with the "I'm sorry it's an inconveinence but I would rather not die" part of my day to day life. So to summarize this rant, thank you for sharing your feelings and making all the people with dietary restrictions feel understood!
Yes! I babysat a girl who was allergic to the proteins in milk and egg. Even a tiny bit could kill her. Everything had to be checked and you find those ingredients where you wouldn't expect, like frozen potatoes for example. Learning to cook vegan options was a bit of a challenge, but they were actually very tasty. The hardest part was that I pretty much live off eggs since it's one of the few foods that doesn't make me sick so I didn't know what else to make. And I had to be hypervigilant of food made by others cause they would forget to consider cross contamination or say something was sautéed in butter Once her daycare accidentally gave her a chocolate chip cookie and I had to take her to the emergency room that night (she has a delayed reaction). It was horrible! She's since grown out of her milk allergy so that simplifies things
Recently went to Cafe Rouge in London nr one of the theatres with my mum. I’m vegan, autistic and also I have dietary requirements to do with my digestive system. So yh. The reason I’m vegan. I was lacto-vegetarian but then about 2 years ago I almost got hospitalised due to dairy& lactose products. It’s not funny. And It was during the last bit of year 10/ start of year11 which is GCSE years btw. So yh you can imagine I lost a LOAD OF SCHOOL AND REVISION TIME. Anyways back to the Cafe Rouge scene. I ordered what looked like a GF (gluten free) DF&LF (Dairy &Lactose free), Allergen free Vegan chickpea burger and marketed as quite delicious. I picked that one. They had run out of chips and sweet potato fries by 5:30pm. In London. They ran out of potatoes > there was a tesco express around the corner, I wouldn’t have cared if they had bought tons of oven chips to make up for it and cook them instead. But they didnt. Anyways my mum ordered her stuff as well. It came 10 minutes later. Too early. Our food was dry. My chickpea burger patty was burnt round the edges, freezer burnt on top, and just heated through. Luckily I picked it apart. Beforehand. I was sceptical so I got my mum to try it , like I always do just to double check my food is fine before I eat it, my mum literally freaked. She picked it apart. There was Halloumi dairy cheese and Egg mayo that was being hidden by limp pieces of spinach and lettuce. The spinach and lettuce looked gross and sweaty. My mum’s food was dry as anything. My mum complained, said she didn’t want to pay becuz it was so bad and that she said “does your head chef even know how to cater for someone with dietary requirements?” in an upset ish tone I guess ?!? My mum was so upset and cross that day. Tbh I should’ve taken pictures and sent them to Gordon Ramsey. They looked like smthg out of his American version of his show ‘Kitchen Nightmares’. It was rlly bad. If Cafe Rouge See this. We don’t want compensation. All we want is for all your staff in all your outlets to go through a re-training programme on how people’s dietary requirements should be met properly and not having to be like “oh we ran out of this so we will just put the allergen in this allergen free food and hope they won’t notice”. My mum says she’s glad that she checked my food beforehand and that she’s glad that I’m not allergic to dairy, that would’ve been a different story totally. This kind of behaviour is dangerous so instead a re-training schedule instead of compensation would be much better. Tbh.
THIS!! My sister is on the autism spectrum, and is also a coeliac (she also has a contact allergy to wheat-based products, such as laundry starch, or those cute little microwave toys that double up as heat pads!). The amount of times we’ve had to explain that she /seriously/ can’t eat any kind of wheat or gluten - yes waited, including croutons in salad - and she’s been treated like an annoyance is awful. It increased her anxiety to the point where she couldn’t eat in front of anyone (and found it hard to ask for food) for a very long time. Thank you for ranting about this! Allergies are serious, and should be treated as such/respected!
Having autism and an intolerance that isn’t accepted well sucks, I just go completely quiet and let my friends or mother talk to the waiters for me because I started getting super upset with not being able to process all the questions with the noise going on.
I am also grumpy and in pain today so this genuinely made me so happy! My personal favorites include "You can't be allergic to that, it's just a..."and "I know you can't drink alcohol but here just have one!" ummmmm but I'd really rather not have multiple seizures and blinding pain today, thanks though? Its amazing how people can be so offended by what we need to or choose to put in our bodies when its really none of their business. All bodies need food and all people need kindness.
My brother used to push me to drink but when i told him it made him sick he stopped immediately and instead would offer to see if their were non-alcoholic versions
FODMAP is like you threw a handful of color coded darts at a wall of foods and that's how it was decided. Sometimes you can see a pattern or get a general sense that something probably is bad for you(and you'll actually be right about it for once) but that takes so much time it's infuriating.
I appreciate this and you. Thank you also for noting the difference between an allergy and intolerance. Although people seem to think that intolerance is just like, meh, fanciful whim because it won't actually murder you through anaphylaxis. Sorry but it really isn't fun feeling like I'm being stabbed in my stomach while also feeling like I'm about to soil myself at the dinner table, eyes desperately darting around the restaurant looking for the nearest bathroom.
I restrict myself from eating a lot of foods (it's not health related, it's just that I have a lot of sensory issues with textures and flavours, possibly because I'm autistic) and it's really hard for me to get the confidence to eat with other people without feeling judged or actually getting judged. I try to ignore but it hurts so much when people keep complaining about it in my face, acting like I don't eat a lot of things just to annoy them. I just wished people weren't so overreactive about it
Coxinha Doce I know where you are coming from. My ex-boyfriend is on the autism spectrum and has some food sensory issues. I didn’t understand it at first but I just accepted it was something important to him and to keep it in mind when cooking. I hope you find understanding people in your life and have only good experiences going forward.
I'm on the spectrum and I understand it. Both, the "That's the food I can tolerate" AND the "Please don't judge me, I know I'm weird, I've heard it often enough." If I have a good day , I might be able to tolerate other things, I might even try something new if I'm adventurous. But going to a restaurant with people is never considered to be a good day for me...
Oh Jessica you made this coeliac very happy and very angry by articulating everything wrong with having a weird diet - not being able to eat a doughnut for the rest of my life? FINE. Dealing with people working in actual restaurants asking me if EGGS ARE OKAY FOR COELIACS? NOT OKAY. If you're looking for ideas for further videos, I'd love to learn how you plan your food when travelling - it usually takes up most of my planning time and even then I'm not always actually able to eat much /flashbacks to those five days in Hong Kong when I survived exclusively on steamed veg and rice.
When I first started becoming lactose intolerant (I love the surprise on people's faces when they find out that these things can be developed and that people aren't always born with these things), I was at school at lunch and took like a tiny bite of cheese (I didn't know I was at the time) and immediately became really sick and dizzy and then after like I minute I collapsed on the floor and at the end of lunch (it was I think a 45 minute break) my friends had to literally carry me to medical. Fun times. I've never fully trusted cheese again
I developed lactose intolerance as an adult and it's progressed to a dairy allergy. Like, I know something had dairy because I'm itchy and can feel my throat closing. So it totally happens.
Late to seeing this but so so sorry. The later in life allergies might be the worst. When you know early, no taste for it, just an inbuilt 'oh... crap, no, get it away!' around it. But as you get older and even worse, when it's a slow build from 'eh, my stomach feels weird' to 'huh, why is my mouth itchy' to 'oh. wow. so this is what an ambulance ride is like!'. I have this with shellfish. Grew up on the beach, grew up eating it, started feeling wonky around 12 and now as an adult, I can't walk on some beaches anymore. Epi pens SUCK. I hope avoiding it has become easy.
Literally every single lactose intolerant person has developed their lactose intolerance and hasn't has it their whole life. Babies die if they don't get milk.
This is the video i've needed all my life! I have an eating disorder called ARFID, it means I'm extreemly senssetive to food, smell and structure so i can't just eat out or eat whenever without planning it out. Your sarcasm and funny video just made me feel so much better, honestly. So thank you 💜💜💜
As somebody who has IBS and allergies I have a lot of dietary restrictions. I don't drink either because of... reasons. Especially my gut problems affects my depression. We are not picky, we do it because of our health.
Of course, if you have a very bad abdominal pain, how can you have a good mood? I also have IBS. I am also asked from time to time if I can eat this and that again, the last time was months ago, the digestion should have forgotten so that it went out badly then. No, I still can not eat lentils.
i used to be one of those who thought people were being fussy. and then my son got multiple allergies and suddenly i get it! the amount of waiters/resses who said "I'm pretty sure it's egg free" or "i don't think it's got soya" JUST CHECK, PLEASE. and don't get me started on 'how can he be allergic to beans?'... because if he eats them his lips swell up? "have you tried giving him a tiny bit of egg?" sure, because finding out whether he'll have an anaphylactic reaction is such a fun game...
Agh, yes! "I think" is one of the scariest phrases for me to hear at a restaurant. At that point if they continue to be uncertain, I'll tell my parents the code word and we'll up and leave because it's just not worth it 🤷♂️
Yeah, but give me "I don't think so" over a confident-but-completely-uninformed "no" ANY DAY, though! x___x At least if they say "I think" you can ask them to please go and check (in my experience this is usually not an unusual request, and if the ingredients are not guaranteeable/searchable they'll usually come back and tell me that and recommend something else). But if they confidently tell me "no," then I naturally assume that someone else has already asked in the past, and they know what they're talking about, and I don't ask for follow-up. However, I have gotten burned so many times by confidently wrong responses and all I can say is that a lot of local businesses are very lucky that my anaphalactic allergy is mild enough that I only get the first half of the symptoms by the time I figure out that something has nuts in it and have never had to go to the ER over it.... x__x This year alone it happened 2 or 3 times at cafes (normally it's once every couple of years) so I think I'm going to have to start being that jerk who asks to read ingredients lists myself when I have any doubts because this year I've even had people literally look up recipes for me and then read them wrong... :(
But I hope for them that you don't yell at them and just ask 'could you please check it?'. I mean, we are all just people and we might makes mistakes. Well, it annoys me too when everyone asks 'oh, you study graphic design?' and than I have to describe once again what is the difference between graphic design and digital art. Or when people ask me if I speak Russian when I start to speak Polish. It is also annoying. But we can't expect from everyone to know everything. And they will ask once, maybe twice - after that, they will know how to behave and what's actually the disease. People are just curious, they don't want to be jerks. That's something new to them, it's normal that they ask. I have just the impression that society starts to be offended by anything right now. Soon we will be afraid to speak or we will learn at school phrases that we can say and we will use only them.
It doesnt matter if someone is just being fussy though. Their body, their bounderies/rules and you are crossing them by forcing a diet onto them that they specifically for whatever reason told you they do not want/cant have. People that eat meat get angry at vegans that try to force everyone to go vegan and very few people dont think those vegans are shitty people. Some islamophobic/antisemetic people try to smuggle pork into religious muslims/jews diet and normal people dont think that's right on any level. Yet somehow it's ok because you've labeled someone a fussy eater? Literally just respect people like ffs it's not that hard. And that is spoken as someone constantly called "a fussy eater". Despite having both medical and sensory food restrictions. I can have mashed potatoes and not die but i literally will throw up several times trying to swallow it because my sensory processing cant stand the texture. That is basically just an extreme version of the reaction others get to food they hate.
I was diagnosed with Celiac in my early 30s and hEDS in my late 30s. I feel so much of your pain and frustration. I'd shiv a baker for a croissant... I also have become one of those annoying people who asks the millions of questions and demands. Basically I just tell them get it right or I'll be in your restroom for the next 4 hours and it won't be pretty. You are perfectly lovely and appreciated.❤
Cherrys Jubilee same, I have celiacs and I've lost count of the amount of people I've introduced to the phase 'projectile diarrhoea'. Luckily I can get gluten free croissants, brioche, profiteroles and pain au chocolate in the UK.
I don't want to worry you... but I may have suddenly fallen in love with you for the word choice you made. Shiv a baker for a croissant? So much better than my 'kick nun for real pizza' default setting. Yours conveys the point well, without catholics getting nervous around you. Celiac finally diagnosed at 25 and while it's a whole new world now with the joy of not being sick all the time, there are days.... and it is worse when you have been 'good', not messed up once in months and then had some twit at the supposedly safe to eat at restaurant think it's no big deal to roll their eyes and ignore you. I once had a waiter actually tell a friend (after I had bolted to the bathroom) that I was making too much of it, after all she had picked out the croutons from the salad herself (without gloves. joy unending) and there could only have been a small amount of wheat in the sauce so why was I being so difficult. She started to learn why I was so difficult 5 hours in, 3 hours past closing, when the horrified owner made her stay until I was able to leave the bathroom without fear of not making it home intact. She also had to clean the bathroom. Is it wrong that, for the first and only time, I was almost, ah, dare I say smug, when I limped out knowing the warzone she was about to face?
@@Magpiebard awwww I love you too cause you got petty revenge in the form of a destroyed bathroom. Sorry you had to go through that.... My one major contamination happened at 30,000 feet. 0⭐s I don't reccomend airplane contamination!!!
Last Friday I did a presentation all about this project to my scout group (where I am a leader) I spoke about dietary restrictions and how it’s not good to discriminate/be a jerk to people for what they have to or choose to put into their bodies! So, hopefully they learnt something and will be more respectful as they grow up! Love your videos! Xx
Kind of reminds me of when a friend of mine pointed out the reason all the infomercial gadgets were so exaggerated. They were trying to sell something made for people with disabled people to the general population so the price goes down and makes it easier for those that genuinely need it to afford and find. Think this gyro bowls that are impossible To spill for someone with tremors or poor motor control, the snuggy for people in wheelchairs, etc. obviously it not every item but a lot of them are.
hi beautiful jessica! i started the fodmap diet a couple months ago for my undiagnosed digestive illness. before i switched over just about every meal or snack left me in pain or discomfort, i could hardly ever leave the house. now the diet has been working great for me and i have my freedom back! i can totally empathize with you about people being jerks. for me the worst is when family members encourage me to eat foods outside my diet. they know that i've been suffering before fodmap diet but they still don't take it seriously. i hate being egged on to eat gluten or whatever else. it makes me think they'd rather have me be in pain than have restrictions. secondly, it's frustrating when family doesn't take note of a food you can't have after you've told them several times and then they suggest you have some regularly. i don't want to sound like a broken record or be reminded i can't have what they're having. lastly, it's so ignorant when people say "but this food is so healthy" as if we're all the same. particularly so after you've told them you can't have it for health reasons. people can be such jerks! what we need most are people who respect our circumstances, prioritize our wellbeing, and help us feel confident and part of the crowd. this is why i want to thank you heaps for this video. i can relate on a spiritual level and now i feel like you've given me a voice. thank you jessica 💕👍🏻
There is a "sugar-free" fad, but it's pushed by people who don't seem to know anything about sugar 😕 I have type one diabetes, and I'm sick of people assuming I can have things like honey because they are "natural" and therefore somehow not sugar 😑 My mother bought a highly recommended "sugar free" cookbook recently, only to find that all the recipes replaced white sugar with other forms of sugar, like honey or date paste or whatever else, even maple syrup 🤨 Like thanks, still can't eat it, and now I have to deal with more stupid people spreading misinformation about what is safe for me to eat.
you are my hero. the amount of times waiters etc tell me "oh yes this is gluten free" and then i am dying and in extreme pain a few minutes after eating it is ridiculous.
Just in general, I got really annoyed when I found food that had "no added sugar." Sounded great! Then I read the labels and they all contained some sort of "ol" sweetener. grrrrrr.
Waitress, bored girl with no clue of the world: "oh, poor one, so you can't have this and this! I would die! You must have a sad life!" Me inside: "If I had your face it would be a sad life" Me outside: "Oh no, it's not so sad, you get used. It's actually quite a happy life!" Are we sure that an unknown food intolerance cannot come out as stupidity and not just as gut bleeding as an effect?
Wife of a chef here: One thing you can do, especially if you have extreme allergies and intolerances is the following: Find a self-owned non-chain restaurant. Call the restaurant during off peak hours. Ask them if their chef would be interested in a challenge. You have really horrendous dietary restrictions, what you really really want to eat a good meal at a good restaurant. Would they be willing to take the list of foods that you cant eat and foods you really enjoy... And make something amazing for you? Now you might be thinking "oh come on. No chef would be interested." That would be something they do everyday. Sometimes orders don't come. Sometimes food goes bad. Sometimes things sell out. Sometimes there's leftovers. To save money they get creative! Doing them the courtesy of giving them some time to prepare... They would be ecstatic to try and make you an amazing meal. Especially if you give the more than 24 hours notice and they can even order stuff in. This is something chefs live for. It's the reason why shows like chopped exist. Name some places can't do it because they run on too tight a budget. Or it may not be safe because gluten is just ingrained in the walls and you might die. But calling and asking is so appreciated... even if it's something they can't manage they may be able to tell you another restaurant in town that they know who can. Because chefs tend to become friends over time if they stay in the same area. this may seem like a lot of work and it may be very difficult because of phone anxiety, etc, but I know so many chefs who absolutely adore this sort of challenge, including my husband and all of his friends. I told one woman about this idea and I actually ended up being in the restaurant when she finally came in. She got something completely off menu, but was totally safe for her to eat. And she enjoyed it so much she cried a little. Because she hadn't been able to eat out in years. She came back many times. It is possible to get amazingly prepared food catered directly to your needs. Sending love to you all from a person who also has dietary problems. 😅
I don't have any food restrictions myself, but when going to Wagamamas with a friend, she asked the waiter what was safe for her to eat. (I don't remember the specific allergy/intolerance she had) The waiter got the book with all the allergy info in and she chose a dish, they didn't have to alter it in anyway. BUT despite the fact that her dietary limitation had only taken up 2 minutes tops of this waiters time, our entire table overheard him say to a colleague "Why even bother coming here if you're not gonna eat x?" In a very condescending and sarky tone. It made us all uncomfortable and wanting to leave, but we'd already ordered and had nowhere else to eat. I can't imagine how awful it must be to have to encounter that kind of treatment regularly, and even overtly. It's disgusting.
I've gotten to the point where I'm too scared to eat out, so if ever I'm in a situation where it is required, I'll either order nothing or sit there awkwardly with a Tupperware! Thank you for talking about this issue, your videos brighten my day :)
Girl I totally feel you with food allergies! I have over 80 confirmed allergies and my fiances family thought it was "for attention". At my daughters party they told me the cookies were nut free specifically for me, so I took one. Our daughter was 3 at the time and on my lap and started to notice BEFORE I DID that I wasnt breathing right and was turning red so she smacked the cookie out of my hand and said "Mommy! You're getting sick!" She ran to her grandma and started yelling at her "Why are you trying to kill my mommy!?" (I'm step mom technically, so not well received by some) our son, who was 5, ran and got daddy and told him to unlock the car and he ran and got me my medicine while my fiance got me water. Now my poor kids dont trust their family when they feed me meals so my kids check my food first. My fiance serves my food and makes sure it's all safe and then our kids make him list every item on my plate and make sure it's all ok. Thank god for those babies and thank god they really paid attention when I talked to them about allergies because they literally saved me from anaphylaxis because somehow they caught it before I even felt the effects.
I have a friend who doesn't tolerate caffeine, and she likes the taste of coffee, but a lot of times they'll just give her regular instead of decaf. Because it's not that big of a deal, right?
I understand the struggle. I have heart issues and have had many surgeries. I love to get a coffee decaf as a treat. I remember one time I explained everything to the lady . She said she understood. I went in target with my mom started drinking and my chest started hurting so I went back and asked the lady and with a straight face she said. “You don’t look like someone who’s had multiple heart surgeries . I think your being dramatic. Her boss over heard apologized to me and fired the girl . Saying she could kill people and so on and so forth.
I have ADHD, anxiety, and severe insomnia. I can’t drink coffee at all, but decaf is always nice. More than once I’ve been given non decaf. Those times I was fidgeting, thinking at 10x speed, and barely slept even with my medicine. Does it cross peoples minds that sometimes customers order decaf for a reason?
Yeah that's when I walk out because there's no way I can trust them to make it right and I don't feel like being completely disabled for 3 weeks and possibly in the ER over their slight inconvenience. I've gotten this response, eye rolls that said "why are you ruining my day???", and "what's a gluten?" That's my cue to nope the fuck out of there.
Your merch is showing up! I also had the same issue getting my merch under videos, took a while and my manager to get that settled, hah. People judging food things bug me. This isn't about medical stuff, but- I'm vegan, ethically, and people wanna get me nonsense all the time when I hadn't started anything. If I started something, sure! Go for it, I guess. But if I just happen to say, "Oh, I'm vegan," if someone suggests getting something to eat and I'm letting them know so we can find a restaurant together, that's not an invitation to start telling me "but bacon!!" Aye.
As someone with a bad dairy and tree nut allergy, thank you! I remember going to a restaurant for my partner’s birthday and there was nothing on the menu I could eat. When I ordered plain pasta noodles with olive oil and garlic, my mouth and throat started to itch really badly and even now, I still don’t know how they messed that up. Also have another friend with severe (although different than mine) food allergies. When I made food for something we were going to together, I did the best I could to avoid any cross contamination, but I did let him know what measures I took before prepping the food and he did the same for me. It’s really nice having a friend that you can do that with.
From someone with food issues ranging from anaphylaxis to food intolerances to IBS I appreciate this SO much! I’m sorry you have to go through this but it is nice to hear that I’m not the only one. If we have to suffer at least we can suffer together! P.S. Starting a low FODMAP diet 🤞🏻 I’d love it if you did a video on that one day.
My mom has an intolerance to certain foods like onions. It’s the worst when she specifically orders something with no onions, but there’s small, chopped up onions anyway. No, making them smaller is not going to prevent the intense pain she gets 🙄
I don't currently have any restrictions (mostly because I don't- well, can't- eat much of anything at all, but that's a story for another day) but my mom is allergic to cheese. All cheese. No, not dairy, just cheese. And it's a true allergy, hives, throat closing up, the whole works. In her life, she has frequently had acquaintances, close "friends" and even family, try to slip cheese in her food. Naturally, that happening (or people/restaurants that genuinely forget and leave cheese in) became, and still is, a massive fear of mine. So since I was about 5, whenever we eat out, I stress the fact that she has a true allergy, especially since people _have_ forgotten before. She tells them, of course, but I add in the "It could kill her, this isn't just someone being picky". I actually have a bone to pick about how people treat "picky eaters" as well. (Here's an interesting article on adult picky eaters: munchies.vice.com/en_us/article/59yq58/the-private-hell-of-an-adult-picky-eater) Even if someone is "just" a picky eater, without intolerances or allergies, restaurants should treat them with the same amount of respect as they would anyone else. Their job is to serve customers, not cast judgment on them. They aren't hurting anybody by wanting certain foods and wanting those foods in a specific way! I think less people would claim to have an intolerance or allergy if they weren't treated with such disdain for being a "picky eater" (yes, I'm using scare quotes on it again, because it's a ridiculous term that makes it sound like it's a choice. It's really not. No one _wants_ to make life harder for themselves...). As far as waiters, acquaintances and total strangers thinking they have the right to ask invasive questions about it is dead on and so very, very rude. It's unfortunate, but that seems to be an incredibly frequent attitude people have towards chronic health problems and diseases. They feel entitled to ask massively personal questions and then get mad if you politely tell them it's not something you want to talk about. I _hate_ it. I'm not against talking about my health problems at all, and I think it's important to do so, or if people ask questions _after_ I say it's ok to ask me questions. It's just not ok to ask out of nowhere to a complete stranger. I'm almost positive there was something else I wanted to say but I can't remember what. I'm having trouble keeping my eyes open, so it's time for a map. Maybe I'll remember what I was thinking of while I sleep.
I have an allergy to lemon, orange, kiwi fruit, tomato, mandarin and fresh pineapple. People are annoying when you ask for food without these things and then they smother it in tomato sauce... or barbeque sauce with a tomato base. "Oh but the chef says it would be bland without sauce" I KNOW IT WILL BE BLAND! I like it bland, BLAND = safe for me to eat and thus I will not get sick and die. 😒
Amy Lindbom my daughter has an allergy to tomatoes. I just figured it out rather recently and it’s to the point where she’ll break out in hives if she’s in the same out that tomato’s are cooking. It’s not till summer that she can get formally diagnosed and nobody takes it seriously at her school. It’s bloody frustrating, that a kid with a peanut allergy got all nuts taken out of school but the lunch lady can’t even just leave some noodles plain on spaghetti day -.-
C Richards maybe rare. But honestly we have a lot of immune issues in this community because the factory upstream calculated that it’s cheaper to just dump PCB’s into the river and pay the fine then it was to dispose of it properly. So we have a population with higher rates of immune problems, kids with cancer, allergies, arthritis, birth defects. So there’s a few weird ones one. Allergies I’ve never heard of before and severe ones at that.
Most of my family have a sensitivity to tomato etc. I'm the one with the worst reaction. I once peeled an orange for my son and all under my finger nails swelled to the point I thought my nails were going to pop off!
When you're so lactose intolerant you can barely eat butter and your siblings (of all people) STILL👏OFFER👏YOU👏CHEESE👏PIZZA👏 and then proceed to criticize you for eating vegan cheese because you don't want to deal with a week of pain? *cough* I have feelings about this
Ugh, SAME! Every time I go out to eat, people offer me a bite of food that has dairy in it, and I'm like... you know I will be vomiting or at the very least on the toilet for several hours. It's not worth it. And god forbid we go to a restaurant that has options other than french fries that I can eat. Not like I wanted to eat a whole meal 🙄
@@Selfcarequeeen Don't tell people with dietary restrictions what to do. It isn't your business what someone else has to do to keep from being sick. Veganism is cool, but if you think it's okay to be pushy and demanding, then you are very inconsiderate, miss.
@@cottage-core_ there are many diseases you can avoid or at least improve by going vegan. Cardiovascular disease, cholesterol, lowering high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, osteoporosis, prostate cancer, colon cancer, breast cancer, maculare degeneration, cataracts, arthritis and I can go on all day. Sorry if I wanna spread information so that people won't get sick or feel sick. Out of 7 billion people, there are a few with a compilation of serious intolerances to plant foods or other genetic conditions that make it impossible for them to be healthy on a vegan diet with current technology. I'd need to see some serious scientific evidence for this though, as all the "I was vegan and got sick. Need meat" anecdotes are virtually worthless as evidence.
*Lactose free milk and cheese have been my SAVIOR. They have lactase added beforehand to break down the lactose before it enters your body. *Also, @Annye Lilith *Have you considered that some people hate having restricted diets and/or simply don't like a lot of the foods that are necessary to make a vegan diet work? Plus, are you sure the things you are eating are cruelty free and sustainable just because they don't come from animals? *Heaps of vegan "superfoods" (quinoa, etc) when they become popular become inaccessible to the people who actually live in the area where they're grown, and also have to be transported by plane, which is a can of worms in of itself. Plus, farmland (especially in places like America and Australia) in the way we have it is HUGELY DETRIMENTAL to the environment, and can get rid of homes for thousands of wild animals at a time. Including native bees! Especially native bees, which are hugely important to the ecosystem. Not to mention, the way they're currently watered is wasteful, and so is the way they are harvested- workers are often badly underpaid. *Anyway, sorry that I kind of went off, I've been wanting to get that off my chest for a while.
As someone with a laaaaundry list of food (and pollen) allergies, I clicked on this so damn fast. Yes! Yes! I shouted to every Single thing in this video. Mind you, I'm on my lunch break. In my car. By myself. But hell, I found my spirit animal!! ❤️❤️❤️
This is the best food rant I have ever heard!!! A couple things to add: 1. Waiters who ask for your order alllll the wayyyy across the table. Could you please come over here? I would like to not have to yell all my questions/diet issues so everyone in the restaurant can hear them... 2. I had a guy tell me that he wasn't interested in dating me because of my food allergies. Thank you, sir, for being a complete jerk about something I LITERALLY CAN'T CONTROL AND DID NOT CHOOSE! I should add that I wasn't trying to date him either, he was just being a jerk. 3. You are amazing and your videos are soooo goood! Thank you for sharing your story with us!!!!
My sis got diagnosed with celiac... finally. She has a pretty mild case by comparison, but that doesn’t necessarily make it better. She’s pretty good about just knowing what she can and can’t have and we stick to a pretty tried and true list of places if we want to go out. However, we went on vacation. Now, the wait staff was wonderful and Disney will bend over backward to make your food restrictions as easy-breezy as possible, but we had no idea you could inform them ahead of time of the issue when you make a reservation. Sis also has anxiety. So, on our first night, she had to inform the waitress of her restrictions and, despite the girl’s super sweet and cool attitude about it, my sis began to cry because she felt she was holding everyone else up. The girl calmed her down, brought her gluten-free bread, helped her pick a delicious gluten-free meal and dessert, and then went the extra mile to call the internal reservation service to make sure the gluten-free tag was added to our reservation for her for every other restaurant we had planned (that way they just give you a special menu for the person and bring gluten-free bread without having to be asked or drawing a bunch of attention). No more tears, no more embarrassment. Delightful vacation overall. Thanks, sweetheart waitress. A little positive story about a non-jerk just trying to make it better.
tbh I just don't bother to eat at restaurants that aren't equipped to cater to or don't understand my dietary requirements. i can take my money elsewhere.
I have multiple food allergies, and I cannot begin to tell you how much I identify with everything you just said.💖 But, can we please just take a moment to appreciate this ADORABLE blouse!?!? I'm obsessed!
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Also the most annoying thing, after thinking about it would be ''are you sure you are not avoidding all this food because you are afraid of putting weight? "
Hate it when people are like: “You really can’t eat this? Why don’t you just eat some, surly a little can’t hurt you? Or just pick it off, contamination isn’t a real thing.”
"Oh, but you can't eat anything!" Me: "but I CAN eat most foods." Literally, my diet isn't that restrictive.
Me to a friend at a cafeteria, deciding whether it's safe for me to eat there or not: "can you notice any particular spices in that?" (My friend is already eating and her meal looks like it might be ok, but I just need to make sure.)
Them: "No, this is completely tasteless."
Why do they need to turn my allergies into a rant about how bland something tastes?
In relation to this I hate it if people assume I'm a conservative eater who doesn't like anything "exotic". While I'm just trying to stay out of the ER. Ginger happens to be something that sent me there once. Haven't touched it since, for obvious reasons.
I know ginger isn't the most common allergy, and yes, I have several food allergies. I just wish at least my friends would stop sensationalising the issue, like why make such a huge deal out of it? And also, please stop bitching how bland something I eat tastes to you. At home I use salt & pepper & herbs, at a cafeteria or some other public place I obviously don't have control over what the chef is using (unless I've been able to preorder something, which is a nuisance if I can't be certain about the time when I'll be eating, because the chef needs to know that).
Also it seems really hard for people to understand how I might need to test something before preparing to eat a whole meal made with that. It really sucks to be afraid of possibly dying, or at least needing to use an Epi-Pen. Last time I had tachykardia because of Epi-Pen, but was already at the ER at that point, and it turned out just fine.
Sorry for the long rant.;) And thanks for making this video!
After I told a waiter I have a wheat intolerance, they straight-up told me I didn't cause that type of intolerance simply didn't exist to them... and then my date and I had to leave so I could get medical attention cause they laced my food with wheat flour for fun.
Honestly, it should be a law that restaurants provide at least a few allergen free, gluten free and meat free items. Digestive illness awareness is horrendous.
Waiter: so what happens if you eat XYZ?
Me: a lawsuit
First I go to hospital, then I go to a solicitor.
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Rachtop except it’s not a joke
Christina Garcia it is a joke. It’s just a joke about sometimes that’s true
My friend is extremely allergic to tomatoes, and we both told the waitress. We both ordered the same thing but she got the one with tomatoes, which was covered with sauce, she went into shock. I used her epi-pen on her, called an ambulance. Right before I was going to join her in the ambulance the restaurant demanded that I pay the bill. 😮 Really? I told her to get stuffed, we both warned her about it and yet she almost killed my friend. I called the health Inspector and consumer rights bureau on them.
Oh my hecking goodness. I'm sorry that happened, it must have been terrible. I hope that restaurant will take things more seriously from now on, but they really shouldn't need a patron to go into anaphylaxis to learn their lesson!
I'm also highly allergic to tomatoes and had a similar reaction, and I've never been more thankful for a restaurant. They called an ambulance, and had a thorough change of procedures in their kitchen to prevent it happening again - they're stars, and it's now the only place I'll eat out!
I'm so sorry that happened to you I hope everything's better I can really feel for you on this I personally don't really have that severe of allergies but I have many siblings and friends that do one time I took a few friends and my youngest brother out to a restaurant my youngest brother is severely allergic to eggs and peanuts we asked for a very simple dish that did not have eggs in it because my brother was allergic and we explained this the waitress said it was fine but guess what the salad we received didn't have eggs it just had egg sauce!
I have a relative who has had the cook themselves tell them that "oh it doesn't contain any tomatoes jus a bit of ketchup" when he asked if the food had any 🙄 🙄 seriously like, you had one f'ng job and you couldn't eaven do that
I would be so pissed!
I love salty and sarcastic Jessica 😅 I get so much like this when I’m in high pain too Hahahaha.
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Annika Victoria same 😂
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I had a party a few weeks ago and I remembered my friend had an eating condition. I didn’t want to make him feel like a burden so I asked his girlfriend what he could and couldn’t eat and cooked up some foods that had the correct texture since we were ordering pizza and he couldn’t eat it. His face lit up when I brought some extra food up just for him.
It doesn’t take much to accommodate your friends- they’re friends- it’s worth it!
You're an amazing person and a very good friend
My husbands family NEVER do anything, most times i have to eat just plain mashed potatoes at thanksgiving because my mil (who we live with) wont let me bring my own food because she cares too much about what the family will think, a few times i just ate whatever i liked but suffering for 2-4 weeks after is just too much now
@@emilymulcahy Seriously, you should bring your own food if you can cook it. Don't suffer in silence just to please others!
@@luluruth6134 i can't, we live with my mother in law
I had to take a Tupperware with food I could have for tea over at my uncle's because they only bothered to make chicken so we could all eat the same. Nevermind them having dessert, sides, bread, etc... I appreciated them not making pasta so I could at least eat something I wasn't bringing myself though bu they're my freaking family >.
I read something one time that was like, "when those really skinny girls order diet coke I give them regular muahaha" or something like that and it's like, you have no idea why they are ordering diet coke and it's not even extra work like food restrictions or anything but you just have to gatekeep diet products??
And my dad, who is diabetic, personally drinks diet coke sometimes because he can use it when he's crashing (I think?), and you know, he can actually drink it. But Coke fucks up his Insulin and can put maybe even put him in the hospital.
That skinny girl could have some health condition and this dude was literally just possibly poisoning people because he thought they where to skinny to "deserve" diet coke. It's so awful.
Some people really are careless. Hopefully, no one messes with your dad's food or drinks, because that's so dangerous. If someone says they can't have something, act responsibly and don't lie about what you're giving them. You could kill someone.
Or, people want to "test" what your limits are. Coworker wiped a latex glove across my forehead to see if I really was allergic, like what the fuck is wrong with you? You don't mess with people. I went to a restaurant a few years ago, and asked if the dish had corn, nuts or seeds and was assured multiple times there wasn't. Well, the "flour" tortilla they said was flour was actually corn and covered in sauce, so I couldn't see it. I spent a week in the bathroom and a few days in the hospital, because I couldn't stop throwing up and was bleeding from places you shouldn't and because I was so ill, my seizures also increased. It was a pretty rough few weeks, all because someone couldn't be bothered to be honest.
I really despise those kinds of people, my severely autistic sibling has some pretty restricted dietary needs as it is, and I'd flip my shit if I found out someone gave him a chocolate bar. I've had people scoff at me for saying he can't have gluten, dairy, soy, and most sugars that aren't from fruit and that he ends up being out of commission and loopy for a solid week if he gets his hands on a bit of dairy milk.
It also doesn't help that he used to steal people's food because it was difficult finding alternatives that were safe years ago... I shudder to think what would happen if he developed diabetes as well
Yea, I remember seeing a video or story somewhere a while back about a girl who ordered a diet coke and got a normal in a Mac Donald's. She ended up in hospital cause she's got a bad reaction to one of the ingredients, she wasn't allergic, but something to do with digesting it causes her whole body to seize up or something like that and I think she got paralyzed for a bit. Restaurant servers are aweful and should just serve what u order and not say "yea" and give u something else. :(
I've known (and no longer associate with) baristas who would passive agressivley put whole milk in the drinks of skinny girls who ordered soy, oat, or almond milk. They though it was a funny way of "one-upping" them for their perceived vanity. But as someone who has severe lasctose intolerance (among several other dietary restrictions and issues) I live in fear of someone doing this to me and the reaction it would cause. I'm not skinny because I'm watching my figure; I'm skinny becuase I have conditions that prevent me from maintaining a healthy weight! And who cares even if I was watching my weight? What's so wrong with that, that someone should feel the need to sabotage or punish you for it?
I get this happen a lot as I need regular sodas (pops) and no zero or diet as I’m very allergic to artificial sweeteners. This happened the past week we were at a restaurant and I took one cautionary small sip of my “regular” coke, I knew immediately it was diet. My fiancé got the attention of are server who smugly said that they like to give plus size people diet drinks. I’m plus size, autistic, and I have significant allergies. My fiancé explained I have severe allergies(artificial sweeteners, tree nuts, strawberries, bees and a whole host of meds) as I had started to develop hives. Ended up heading to the ER right after.,
I'm allergic to insensitive people
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I’m allergic to life.
Not sure if you will actually see this, but I worked as a server and also a manager in a small restaurant for a period of my life. Gluten-free is actually fairly easy, because we had GF options and were trained on how to prepare them for people with celiac, so that all worked swimmingly. But I can understand what the servers are getting at with the question “what happens.” It’s a training issue. What they mean is “how severe is the reaction and how careful do we need to be about cross contamination?” For example, if the food in question is red onions, but the item you ordered is red peppers, I would know that the two are prepared in the morning, and are stored in side by side containers. A piece of red onion could easily have touched the peppers, or the prep cook might have been lazy and used the other same knife, or cutting board, or not properly wiped down the surfaces. The lids on the containers might have been switched. We don’t want the customer to become ill, but we also just might not have any other red peppers in the restaurant, and so preparing more would require an emergency run to the grocery. If the reaction to onions is only if you eat the onions directly, then the pre-cut peppers are okay. If you have a severe allergy where the slightest molecule could send you into anaphylaxis, I’m going to get new peppers, wash down a surface and prepare them specially, happily, because you are important and I would like my customers not dying.
If you want to cut this line of questioning off, tell the server (firmly) that you have a severe condition that requires careful non-contamination (if that’s the case) or that your reaction is only if you ingest the food directly. That will cut off the questions before they start in most cases. It is absolutely acceptable to be frustrated by poor service, and if your server is asking inappropriate questions, I strongly advise asking for a supervisor or calling later to explain the problem. Management wants to know.
I'm one of those challenging to feed people and I avoid restaurants whenever possible... but when I don't have a choice, I start my conversation with the server with an apology about how much they are going to have to do just to see if I can eat there. I've stood outside of kitchens while the server passes me boxes so I could read labels. Even if the kitchen messes up, out of ignorance, rote, or plain meaness, I still tip my server well because they did their best for me in an almost impossible situation.
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Thank you for this explanation, information, and advice! That’s really helpful to know for the future
I understand what you mean but ive been to restaurants where they said "hey let me check with the chef and see if we can make this that way" or " theres a chance of cross-contamination in the kitchen will that be a problem?" And other places where they went " why cant you eat this? Are you allergic? How bad is it? Well why do you want to eat this if theres that in it?" Just really condescending and nosy.
Thankyou for explaining this! This actually helps me to know what to tell waiters in future to avoid these questions even before they ask!
Ugh, people who want to "test" someone's food allergies/intolerances by sneaking stuff they can't have into meals are the worst.
Had a guy try that with me. Best thing to do in that situation is guilt them by overreacting and making them sit in hospital with you when you wait. Many medical bills make them pay it. Petty but they won't do it again
@@lwhipps3070 You can also press assault charges (sometimes attempted murder, too) because it _is_ assault. They do have to have known about the allergy but if they tried to sneak it into other food, it means they did know, so that's easy to prove.
Liulfr McShane I’m so scared of that happening, because having an intolerant reaction rather than allergic is slower and lasts long- so I could feel like shit and have stomach issues, rashes etc for a few weeks and not have any clue what I ate, makes me paranoid to go to restaurants.
Lesbian Amazon Sister, I truly dig your way of thinking (and your user icon!)
My father always tests my intolerance to meat by doing it. I haven't let him cook me a meal in 3 years (I'm 18)
And "Not even One TINY bite?" Is the worst
No I cannot have one tiny bite!
"Not even a crumb. I don't know about you, but going to the ER in the wee hours of the morning is not my idea of a fun time."
i have food intollerances and my best friend is teetotal, and guarenteed the same people saying 'what, not even a little bit of dairy' to me are the same people saying 'oh it's only a glass of wine it can't hurt' to her, so i think they just really like ruining people's days
When I was working in kitchens, there was a woman who had many, severe intolerances. And she had a card! She literally gave the waiter a card (the size of a business card) that listed all of her restrictions on one side, and things that were fine on the other. We loved it! It was more restrictions than would have fit on the tickets, so to have a little piece of paper we could all see that very clearly listed everything was great. Also, she had given us a heads up when she made the reservation that she had a special diet. We loved that woman.
Side note, our restaurant prided itself on being accommodating, but this woman just made our lives so much easier and a little bit less stressful.
I've seen a card on the internet for low FODMAP, but I've never tried using one. I mostly just don't eat in restaurants. www.fodmapeveryday.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/I-need-to-AVOID-the-following-foods-3.pdf
@@evanharding5763 This card is brilliant! I'm going to print a few and start carrying it whenever I (on the rare occasion) go out to eat!
I’m definitely going to do this!!!! My restrictions are insane.
Speaking as a former cook, the kitchen will thank you! If you feel comfortable doing so, I highly recommend telling the restaurant when you make the reservation (probably best to call in to get a reservation). This might not work at a chain restaurant (since most of their stuff will be pre-made at a commissary) but any restaurant that's making their food in house, from scratch, should be able to help you out. There's almost always something they can do. And if there really isn't, they can probably direct you to somewhere better. Dont be surprised if the hostess taking your reservation says that they'll need to talk to the chef and they'll have someone call you back to make sure they have a good menu. Or they could just say "ok, we'll take care of it" and then you get dinner. We even had someone bring in gluten free bread once because they wanted garlic bread but had celiac's. That's a little extreme, but it just goes to show that most restaurants will make you something you can enjoy. It's just better to give them time to plan something.
Last note, it's possible your food will take a little longer to prepare, especially if you have a peak-hour reservation. Kitchen's have a rhythm, and specialty menu's are a curve ball that can throw it off, but it'll get done, itll get done correctly, and it'll be tasty.
A lot of restaurants these days are trying to be more accommodating. It's worth calling and asking. Some will even specify on their websites that they can make special menus.
someone once said to us "oh but you have an epipen you can give him if it does have it right?" ........ umm how about you do your job, find out if it has cinnamon because jabbing my autistic child with an epipen during an anaphlyactic reaction and spending the rest of the day in the ER is not my idea of fun!
@Button I seriously admire your restraint! I think I would have demonstrated the exact way an Epi pen works on the server themselves!!
Oh my goodness. So frustrating... epipens are not like a vaccine! :/
It's so bizarre, people seem to think that if you give someone an epipen then it's the same as if they had never interacted with the thing they're allergic to at all. No. That's not it on any level, and even if it was I think everyone would rather not have an allergic reaction in the first place so, maybe do your job? Possibly?
WTF?! I would have torn that person a new one (verbally, of course) because that is absolutely ridiculous. If you need to use the epipen it means an automatic trip to the hospital! It's bad enough having to go to the E.R for an reason at all, even if you have insurance that would cover it, but not everyone has insurance or has really terrible insurance. Grrr, this is making my blood boil.
Omg this is the first time I've seen someone else post about a cinnamon allergy! It's so annoying around Christmas time and so many people think you can't be allergic to it
“What happens if you eat it?”
I bleed internally.
Personally I love telling people EXACTLY what happens when I consume lactose. Silly them for being nosey and asking a question they really didn't want the answer to.
I live in Wisconsin. Finding a sandwich around here without cheese on it is a nightmare, but I'd rather not push my luck most days, even with the lactose pills to quell most of the reaction. My mother has passed out on the floor from the gut pain after consuming a milk product, even after she took a double dose of lactose pills. I pray to God I don't wind up that badly at her age.
Can I be one of those annoying people and ask what happens? My doctor's being a pain by refusing to diagnose me because apparently cramps and intrusive gas isn't enough 😂
@@mariamb8818 For sure.
It can vary but usually it starts with intestinal discomfort, cramping and gas or straight up diarrhea (depending on how much tolerance you have if any, you may bypass gas altogether.) Sometimes nausea. If I've eaten a "white dairy" (cream cheese, sour cream etc) it can happen pretty fast (either side of an hour) and last for a day or 2+, but if it's something less powerful (like cheddar/hard cheeses) it can start causing problems (diarrhea/general bowel discomfort) the next day. Sometimes nausea can be involved but it generally tends to focus on the exit routes, if you will.
As for diarrhea I'm not just talking soft stool, I mean Willy wonka chocolate river LIQUID, not trusting yourself to pass gas, and woohoo more stomach, intestines, bowel cramping. Charge your device and prepare for a long stay near the toilet. Bring nappy rash cream for the stomach acid burn on your skin.
And you can be somewhat lactose intolerant rather than full blown. Maybe you're only going to get gas, bloating, cramping. Maybe you can still have hard cheeses or small servings of whatever. It's still lactose intolerance.
@@IzDiariesIf I'm having something more than a hard cheese I always take one comprehensive dairy digest pill with a strong lactase dose (9000+ units) 20 minutes before, one with the first bite of food and one every 20-40 minutes after that that I'm still consuming a dairy product (usually at a restaurant with a dessert. If it's just a hard/yellow type cheese in a sandwich then I'll just take it with the food.)
Your mother sounds like she had a pretty bad case of it. I'd agree that it wouldn't be worth the risk then. No thank you to being stuck in pain etc in a public place.
@@marrus1372 thank you! It sounds like what I get, not always as extreme I'd say. But still something to make someone blush. I know it's a bit taboo to talk about but damnn that uncontrollable just KICKS 😂😂 I can run off from people then laugh it off after but a bit annoying when only a cup of tea with a drop of milk will just get the engine revving 😪
I had SO much “stomach flu” as a child and eczema+assorted skin problems that required laser surgery at 8 years old. We went to a million doctors and finally we went to a “homeopath” (who basically charged us for weird tests that did nothing) but the one thing he did do was ask “are you allergic to wheat?” And told me to stop eating it for a week and boom. 7 years later I’m treating my eczema with over the counter lotion and barely notice it. Turns out I AM allergic to wheat lol.
Its kinda sad that only the homeopath could find out... I heard a similar story from a youtuber and the doctors didn't know so he tried different things until he found out
unfortunately most doctors don't touch the food field (?) and will only give you meds... I was never asked by my doctors about my eating habits
me: I can't eat bananas because of my diet
friend: you were just eating chocolate earlier
me: not that kind of diet! ughhh
Can you come, idk maybe, rant at my family
What a dream that would be!
I’m considering forcing my family to watch this video
YESSS!!!!
Absolutely 💯✔🌟🌟🌟🌟
This hits kind of hard. On Friday, my manager hit me in the face with a spatula covered in peanut butter... I'm allergic to peanuts, and he just laughed and didn't believe that I'm allergic to them. The other managers tell me they're going to "do something about it" but I really want to file a police report against him
MetronomeMagic well one it’s assault. Two he deliberately tried to poison you so yeah call the police
@@shadowsun5704 Well he genuinely didn't know I was allergic but still
Either way it sounds like an assault to hit someone in the face 😱
You might wanna quit ur job bc no manager should be hitting someone in the face in the first place nor laughing at someones allergies.
Well, if he really didn't know about the allergy and has otherwise been a kind person, I wouldn't file a report. If he is known for douchy stuff (like, a spatula covered in peanut butter hit in the face... can one expect actions like this by him?) absolutely report him. If he just overstepped once and is really sorry, I guess I'd try to work it out. But he should cover any medical bills he caused. And if he refuses, again, I'd report I guess.
This video is the most relatable video I've ever seen. I'm allergic to casein, peanuts, and treenuts, as well as cats, dogs, and almost 30 various molds and pollens (conclusion: I was born on the wrong planet). I have actually had people sneak my allergens into my food because they don't believe me and want to "test" me. Oh yes, I love spending two hours on the toilet in crippling pain and covered in hives before throwing up everything I've ever eaten in my entire life because you don't think I'm really allergic to dairy or don't think it's "really that serious". Second conclusion: people are stupid jerks.
Also, in the US allergies are considered a disability under the ADA. I like to shove that lil detail in people's faces when they're being especially rude and I'm feeling especially petty.
W h AT?! It's not considered a disability in Greece
Kenzi Mitchell in Canada as well it's considered a disability
ピップさん Probably because there’s more insensitive assholes with the “it’s a dog eat dog world” mentality in the US. Making allergies a disability protects people from those assholes because we have laws against discrimination and assault directly correlated to disabilities
Im alergec to all peanut , nut tree nuts and clove and blackberrys and all of them they send me to the hospital
And gulten and lactose
once I saw a health food product, and in the ingredients, it said "dehydrated crystallized cane juice"..
LOL basically unrefined sugar
I read one: organic sal. Juck, I wouldn't have that, organic salts are stinky at best, and at worst really poisonous!
I was trying to find meal replacement drinks for the days I feel to sick to eat. Long story short, they are all loaded with various sugars. Even the diabetic ones...
I don't have it, but Celiac runs in my family. At my highschool graduation when I requested having a gluten-free option so that my family could enjoy their meal, I was told by my classmates that since I was the only one with those issues, me and my family should just stay home so we wouldn't ruin the night for everyone else. 🙃
Also, I'm on Lithium, so I don't drink alcohol. People get so personally offended when I say "no thanks, I can't drink" when politely declining lol
The audacity. How about they learn some human decency? That's unbelievably rude.
That’s really awful! I’m so sorry that they’d do that to you and your family. Maybe they should’ve all left so they didn’t ruin the night for you all.
I don’t have any dietary restrictions but I used to have a friend with celiac. I was trying to plan what restaurant I wanted to go out with my friends to for my birthday and the one I originally wanted to go to had bad gluten cross-contamination. So when I told my family and tried to switch the restaurant they told me that I shouldn’t take one person’s restrictions into account over everyone else’s preferences. They told me my friend just shouldn’t come if she had dietary restrictions. I was SO MAD!
Yeah, us celiacs get excluded a lot.
Pastellecat fuck that
You're greater than any friends I've ever had. Certain friends tell me to suck it up and pack a sandwhich. It's so embarassing to bring a sandwhich to a party while all your friends eat pizza or some other very advertising food.
Naya Jade oof, that sucks. Your friends shouldn't tell you to "suck it up" they should try and support you, or at least show sympathy.
As a person with a severe nut allergy, THANK YOU.
Also whenever I accidentally let people know I always carry medication with me they inevitably go "OH then take it now so then you can eat this right?"
UHM NO. That epipen is there in case I eat nuts by accident, to buy me a few extra minutes of air so that I hopefully don't die before the ambulance comes :)
Also they’re ridiculously expensive. Next time tell them they’ll have to pay for the pen and the trip to the ER
Me too
YES!! When I go to Starbucks and order my decaf latte with almond milk and sugar free syrup, and look at me like I just asked for some vomit in a glass. Please just give it to me.... I don’t want to deal with my IBS symptoms today.
I am Gluten and Dairy free, and I have to avoid things like onions and apples and things with acidity too, because of my IBS. (I'm also vegan by choice on top of it) I can cope with people taking the piss out of me for veganism, because it's my own choice. But the IBS restrictions is something I don't like people being rude to me about, because I DONT LIKE IT EITHER ya know?
I have constantly been spiked with dairy milk, even though paying extra for almond drink, at Starbucks and got into an argument with a barista that claims that Carmel has dairy in it. Yes, I can tolerate the tablespoon worth of carmel, I cannot tolerate the 12 oz of cow's milk you just dumped into the cup. I stopped going altogether. The coffee stand closer to my house is easier not to get cross contamination.
Hyper Key it sucks!! Luckily almond milk has a taste so I can call them out right away 😂. I mean I’m paying just make me my drink ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@LoyalMatter wow sounds like you have a horrible starbucks. The ones where i live are super nice. I had a guy make one with dairy and profusely apologized when i told him.
gosh, the starbucks in my city are quite decent about it, because they are aware that they have the most options... all the actual snobby ones around here just don't offer other options. :/ (On the other hand that doesn't account for human error; I have had someone go and check the computer for an ingredients list that wasn't in their binder and tell me something didn't have nuts in it and... DEFINITELY nuts in it (but that girl is nice and definitely checked so I think she's just a bad reader or looked at the wrong recipe).
The thing I hate most is people *confidently* telling you something is safe for you to eat when they never actually checked. This has happened to me multiple times with nuts (twice in the past year! I'm going to have to start looking ay ingredients lists myself and make everyone annoyed with me because so many people are untrustworthy. I'm very lucky my allergy has several stages before escalating to anaphalaxis and hasn't gotten worse over the years, so I eventually stopped paying for Epipens, but seriously! Puffy, itchy/burny lips/mouth/throat so you have to keep chugging water for like an hour, and bad nasea/possible vomiting with digestive upset later on is still a serious allergy). I mean do they seriously not know anybody with an allergy/intolerance?? Like how did they grow up to be such carefree jerks? It's dangerous.)
Me: “I’m legally blind”
Person: “but you can see with glasses?”
YES BUT ME GETTING TO A PASSIBLE LEVEL OF SIGHT DOESNT NEGATE THE FACT I NEED A CANE WITHOUT CORRECTIVE LENSES SUSAN GOD
Edit; lotta y’all ether don’t understand “legal” blindness as a spectrum it seems so let me clarify. My optimism says I’m legally blind. Even with glasses I get no where near perfect vision. I’m on the lower end of the legal blindness spectrum and still have a lot of vision compared to someone who’s totally blind. The doctors don’t know what’s wrong with my eye cause they’re structurally fine. I even have a few inches of sight where I can “see” like a normal person. Even with correction I have ZERO depth perception. With correction I can’t drive. I need a cane without correction. And, again, eye doc says I’m blind so (｀・∀・´)
rando don’t know the exact % but I think about 70% of blind people have remaining vision, light perception or just super fuzzy.
Legally blind means that even the strongest lenses can't correct your vision fully
@rando -7 to -10, depending where you are, counts as legally blind. I have -3 but i still cant see the tips of my fingertips if i put my arms straight so ykno
If you put your corrective lens directly in front of a camera and let it focus, then quickly take it away, it will show what you see without your glasses
Legally-blind-without-glasses is not a thing. I used to say that myself until I learned the definition of legal blindness.
My reaction when someone tells me about their dietary restriction: "Why didn't you tell me before? I would have made something you can eat!"
It's nice to eat out sometimes also; and it's what "normal" people like to do.
Same! But I got really used to dietary restrictions, I nannied a kid allergic to milk and eggs and my mom is allergic to corn. Like especially with google it’s so easy to accommodate people
This is the exact content i signed up for. I don't understand why people think it's any of their business that you won't eat something.
Also I love that you upload just before my afternoon class, it helps me ease my anxiety.
I have a diagnosed gluten intolerance and it’s annoying that people think I just choose not to eat products with gluten- no I don’t eat products with gluten because it makes my existence a living hell.
I know when I mention I can't eat anything with corn syrup in it you would've thought I cussed out someone's momma.
Also F*ck corn syrup.
I've heard for years that apparently vegans and vegetarians constantly talk about their diet. I mainly hear this from people who constantly get upset by the fact that other people don't eat meat and won't stop going on about it. I generally don't hear vegetarians or vegans talk about their diets a lot though.
Sam Hall I see a lot of both on the internet. As someone who eats meat though, I am less annoyed by the preachy vegans than the preachy meat eaters. The preachy vegans are annoying and pretty rude, yeah, but they’re doing this because they don’t like seeing meat companies profiting off of treating innocent animals so horribly. Preachy meat eaters, on the other hand.... they bitch about preachy vegans and then turn around and do that EXACT SAME FUCKING THING to vegans who aren’t even being preachy!!! And their preachiness isn’t even coming from a place of care, it’s just them wanting to be asshole trolls and wanting to tRIgGeR sOmE VeGAn sNoWFlAKeS ugh like they’re both annoying as fuck but goddamn. I honestly don’t give a shit what anyone eats as long as it isn’t innocent people, and I hate that we have to push our dumb food preferences on each other. Like we get it, you eat a certain thing, nobody asked for your _very_ pushy food advice.
@@natsukilovestobake4427 This!
The WORST is when after going through the rigmarole of ordering something you STILL end up having a reaction and its so embarrassing. "Yes I have to stab myself with an epi-pen and leave in an ambulance... but please don't let it ruin your night. I'm sure you'll invite me out again. I'm totally not making this night-out horrible."
My cousin and I used to have harsh opinions about the gluten-sensitive bandwagoners until they caused a whole gluten-free industry to pop-up and make my cousin's life with Celiac's disease so much easier.
I just had this discussion with my cousin. I'm gluten intolerant (so is his mom and sister) and he has celiacs. Since his diagnosis over ten years ago, the wave of fad dieters has honestly made his and all of our lives so much easier.
My grandmother and I have Celiac disease and we’re both incredibly thankful for the amount of GF baked goods. Delicious!
Me with vegans tbh, I can't eat milk products but thanks to vegans there's been a huge surge of alternatives and restaurants offering dishes that aren't just salad
same.@@Sarah-pl8rp
I had a period where I couldn't have any dairy at all and my friend can't have any gluten but our school cafeteria was great about it. The second you ordered something specialized they would ask if they needed to change their gloves. It was a nice subtle way of asking how severe and how careful they needed to be!
3:20 my grandma wanted to see if I really had an allergy to fresh garlic, but not powdered garlic. 🙃 I was in the bathroom for hours
my grandma's best trick is buying multiseed bread because "it's got lots of things that aren't gluten in it as well so I thought it would be okay"
A friend of mine’s grandma tried to give me, a celiac, cornbread. She said “it’s not bread honey, it’s cornbread.” 😂
Yes! If anyone asks me what happens now, I just give them a really graphic description involving the runs. Unexpected good thing: One of our local fish and chip shops does gluten free nights twice a week (they have to clean the fryers). I love them so much.
WHERE THE FUCK DO YOU LIVE, I NEED TO KNOW
Dude that’s awesome!
@@rowan8383I wanna know too
I can legit never eat out
I literally was just arguing with someone about this on Facebook. People seem to have a weirdly hard time with the concept of "mind your own business and let people live their own life".
One of my really good friends has a gluten intolerance and is highly allergic to chocolate. People give her crap for it all the time and I feel bad until she opens her mouth and puts them in their place by mostly saying "If you want me to vomit blood on you I will happy eat these things". I forget she's got such a smart mouth for intolerant people xD
Best response ever, I'm going to pass this trick on to my friend who has several food allergies, I'm sure I'll shut people up for a while
I think I found my twin.
"You can't taste it"
I used to be friends with these two girls. I found out I have a form of IBD, which also came with having issues with certain foods for me. Even before I found out about and figured out the low-fodmap diet that you mentioned, they would always make it clear that they were super put out by e.g. not being able to go to the beach because I told them I was in so much pain I didn't think I could even stand up, and that I might even faint. They didn't believe me! Then once I went strictly low-fodmap for a couple of years I would ask about how much onion or garlic was in food a lot and they would say, don't worry you can't taste it. That doesn't make a bloody difference, mates -.-
I’m very very lactose intolerant and my family keeps feeding me cheese. I know I can say no but, I HATE being rude so I end up crying on the toilet.
Also, don’t be a jerk to people who can’t eat things due to sensory issues.
THANK YOU. That 'annoying person' who ordered gluten free options then ate the contaminated chips might have a sensory issue not an allergy, and besides which, it's none of anyone's business but the person eating it.
YES. THANK YOU.
No, I won’t get a stomach ache or die or anything if I eat squash, but my AUTISM AND ARFID WILL MOST CERTAINLY MAKE ME WANT TO DIE
Jessica you get me! Everyone in my family has food allergies so whenever we go out we're the whole "annoying family" who has to have special orders Lol! The best reaction we got was when we finished ordering my Mom asked if everyone had their EpiPens because she brought extras just in case and the waiter just about passed out!🤣🤣
I was a vegetarian for 26 years and now a vegan for the last 9 years, so I’ve had decades of attempting to order meat-free food. It has definitely gotten easier over the years, but back in the 1980’s and 1990’s you would’ve thought I was a heretic when I asked waiters about what menu items didn’t have meat! I feel your pain about the salads, Jessica!
Meant to say, I love when you rant!
I'm vegan too and I totally feel this.. To be honest, I don't even like salad.. and a lot of places only ever have salad (with no cheese!) as their vegan option.. I know it's not totally the same as having an intolerance or an allergy, but I felt everything Jessica said in this video!
Yeah I'm only vegetarian and it's by choice so I shouldn't complain but like I have friends that are like "But why?!? HOW do you SURVIVE?" and I'm sorta like "um I mean I never liked meat that much and when you think about it as dead fat and muscle and blood, it's not that great...." And then they're like "but it's so good and perfect! What about hamburgers? Or bacon?"
*Internal screaming*
I've been vegetarian for a few years, and while it's been pretty easy in my city, small country towns are a different thing entirely.
Often the only thing I could eat was the chips. If I was lucky, there might be a soggy risotto.
Yeah Im vegetarian and its gotten a lot better for me too but I still get the occasional oh we have salad and potatoes in so and so form or potato salad
I work in a restaurant and as soon as someone has dietry restrictions that aren't gluten vegan or simple allergies etc. I just get a chef cause they know what goes in the food and are deffinately gonna be more help than me walking back and forth 10 times trying to help you.
(I'm assuming you're in the uk, sorry if not). There needs to be an allergy book. Then you can just show that to customers and it makes it easier for both you and customer then. Pretty sure its a legal requirement.
@@Anna_D_Addams idk about the UK but not in the US :))) most chains have one with wheat, eggs, dairy, nuts, and seafood, but ingredients don't have to be public so neither you nor the server really know what all needs to be removed. shit's a fucking a nightmare.
Ok so I love this, this is relatable af. I have a dairy intolerance and SO MANY people who work in restaurants don't even know what dairy means which blows my mind every single time. I also had a waitress tell me once that everyone is 'too sensitive nowadays' and should 'get over it' who shut up when I told her I get full body eczema that makes me feel like my skin is burning when I eat milk products.
Legit. So many people just… totally forget that butter is dairy
Wow, I know how you feel! Having dietary restrictions like that just really make interacting with others completely unpleasant. I have to avoid gluten, sugar, dairy, high oxalate foods, trans and saturated fats, and I'm allergic to garlic and onions so there is no way I can't understand and sympathize with how you feel for all of your points! My boyfriend's step-mother keeps trying to feed us whenever we do a family outing together despite the fact that we always give her a list prior and then just gives this hissyfit when I choose not to eat anything she's made... because she's cooked everything I can't eat! It's not my fault people like us internally bleed! So sorry you've had to put up with these things too!
If I ever cook anything for anyone or buy anything for anyone (food items), I ALWAYS ask if they're allergic to anything I could possibly ever put in it or anything that could possibly be in it. Now, if they EVER tell me yes, I don't ask them what their body does if they have it in there! It's not my business! I mean, yea, from a medical standpoint, I'm thoroughly interested, but I'm not going to ask! Jeez people!!
Whenever I have people over, in addition to asking about allergies, I also put a little card in front of each dish I serve that lists the ingredients. It takes like maybe 5-10 extra minutes to do but I know that information helps people feel more at ease at a party.
I am like that too. I always ask if there are allergies or intolerance because I have a lot of them. But I don't mind people asking me what happens mostly because I am the curious sort and want to know myself what happens to other people. But what I really hate is when someone tells me they have an allergy and they really don't. Make it so much harder for people who really do have allergies or food sensitivities to be taken seriously.
Also I I make a dish with a salad dressing or ingredient that’s actually a lot of ingredients I just leave it out there with the dish so they can look at the ingredients. Like potato salads or meats with barbecue/marinades
If I have a new friend staying over for dinner I always ask if they have any allergies, intolerances against anything because I don't want to accidently harm anyone. I also don't mind if someone tells me they need a vegan or vegetarian option, it's usually not that hard to do something that suits these diets either.
I can't eat pork so my friends often just either make more side dishes which I love because I don't need meat all the time or just make something out of the other 1001 meats I can't eat without any problems. It's really just pork and products made out of pork/pig(and the wild versions) like gelatine I can't digest so if someone just gives me chicken I'm perfectly fine.
I have friends who are allergic to a lot of stuff and I usually just tell them to please send me the whole list so I have it ready and can go through the whole thing to double check. I'm not good at remembering stuff.
@@lady_mondegreen For decades, my mom really hated telling people she knows or the host of a party about her allergy to cheese, so she stopped. Because even though she would tell them that they _didn't_ need to make an extra something just for her (there's almost always other food she could eat there, since not all food has cheese) but they'd make a huge fuss about it, drawing attention to my mom, and they'd make something anyway. It was just really embarrassing for her. She doesn't care as much anymore, especially since I started announcing she was allergic and cheese could kill her (which is true), at gatherings and restaurants, when I was about 5. It scared the pants off me- and still does- because, acquaintances, "friends" _and_ family have all tried (and succeeded a few times) to slip cheese into her food. That's unfortunately pretty common. It was even worse for my mom since a number of them thought she was lying about the cheese allergy because she _isn't_ allergic to dairy as well. Just the cheese. **sigh** I think she would probably really like the way you do it, though!
I was a served for many years and I have NEVER had a problem accommodating someone with an allergy or intolerance. I would ask if they needed me to use separate equipment to make their order (in case they could not have the equipment even come into contact with the allergen). I have NEVER asked someone what would happen if they ate the allergen. That is completely inappropriate and no one should have to explain their diet to a stranger. In my mind, it is hard enough having an allergy so I was always happy to find something they could enjoy on our menu.
I have several intolerances including onions, beef, and a weird allergy to certain pesticides, so certain fruit like strawberries and plums have to be organic. Grew up in the Southwest. Got the most disgusted looks from restaurant staff when I requested no onions in my salsa. Gee, sorry I don't want to be curled up in pain for several hours later on while my entire digestive system shuts down. Also, I really sympathize with you on the "people sneaking food to test you thing," which is something my mom did for years with beef. I may not notice it immediately, but oh boy do I figure it out a bit later.
I always figure out if something had pork or pork products in it even if it usually takes a while until the stomach cramps and the nausea kick in and then I also get diarrhea a few minutes later and I would rather not go through this so please dont sneak pork into my meal.
My asshole brother in law did this to me before and my mother and older brother were both ready to murder him while I was either on the toilet or curled up into a ball for hours and in pain.
An intolerance might not kill me like an allergic reaction but that doesn't mean it's not serious or pleasant to go through.
Yess thank you for mentioning this
Being allergic to beef is the WORST in the south. Really just any meat tbh. There’s too much meat 😭 I totally get it though! I have celiac and slight intolerances to most meats and being allergic to that much stuff is a pain bc there’s so many things with those allergens. I actually have a friend who’s allergic to avocado and we live in the Southwest where guacamole is a major food staple. 😭
I feel you. The worst experience I had was actually in hospital as a teenager. I had to argue with a nurse for 10 min because she wanted me to eat yogurt for breakfast.... she called me all kinds of names and a bratty teenager....I am effin' lactose intolerant! She did not even bother looking at my chart! I was i there because of stomach and intestinal problems and she thought is was a great idea to compound it with lactose👹
I used to have allergic reactions to pesticides as well. Luckily I don't have to worry anymore. However when I was a child I had LS - on well let's say a delicate area. I couldn't eat fruit if it wasn't organic and couldn't drink cola for years. Had to take a week of school because it was so bad. Just had to tell the teachers that 'peeing was painful'.
Mmm reminds me of the time i was stopped by the vegan patrol on campus. They said they had food and recipes. I like vegetables, thought hey maybe they have something good. Then they started telling me how my ham sandwich was terrible and offered me a pb sandwich. I told them, "cant allergic to nuts, peanuts, direct soybean products and chickpeas. Got any recipes without them?" They proceed to list all of these wonderful delicious foods, but lo! They didnt know hummus is made of chickpeas and everything they listed off from macrons to tofu. I remember looking at them saying you know macrons have almond flour. They said, yes. They said yes. I said. "Thats a nut". They had a moment and stood there, and said "it a seed like sunflower, you wont have an allergy because its organic."
Yes its a seed but its also a nut! And an organic nut will still kill me, it doesn't change biology!. Talk about ironic food disconnect.
It anoys me to no end people who think just because something's organic, it cannot possibly harm anyone. Being organic doesn't take away the alergenic qualities of foods!
I had the vegans tell me to eat all the things I’m allergic to instead of killing animals...cause it’d be better that I die than the animals. The only food groups I DON’T have issues with are berries, leafy greens, cruciferous veggies, meats, fish, poultry, shellfish. So basically....if I gave up eating animals I’d be eating greens veggies and berries only....cause I’m allergic to peanuts, almonds, hazelnuts, corn, rice, soy, cinnamon, tomatoes, apples, grapes, oranges, lemons, citrus fruits, avocados, peaches....I’m sure I’ve forgotten some. I was also allergic to every trees, grass, and weed pollen they tested me for...and some molds...and dust mites. Ironically I am not allergic to being around animals or eating animals. I’m also chemically sensitive....cannot be around cigarettes, perfumes, cleaning products, air fresheners (had a job put them in the ceiling tile above my desk once....like I couldn’t still smell it was somewhere nearby and react to it!)....these things cause asthma flares. Also....I develop new allergies all the time...and become more allergic to things I’m already allergic to. Like hazelnut..,,I was eating it one month....allergic the next....it’s actually my worst food allergy right now. So when I eat an item in the same food group as items I’m already allergic to I tend to become allergic to it....which means I tend to avoid nuts in general...and fruits....and non green veggies...
On behalf of the vegan people, I apologize for the undocumented morons in our ranks. I would never blame someone who eats meat if it's the only source of protein they can eat without suffering. It seems to me that's just basic decency.
@@CarritaJI too apologize for my kind. Veganism should be something you choose only if you have the luxury to do so. Your life comes first, you should be able to do whatever is good for you. If shit went down, almost every vegan out there would eat whatever they have to to survive. Just because they don't live like that day to day doesn't mean you don't.
@@CarritaJ I'm only a vegetarian, not a vegan, but I would also like to apologize. I especially hate it when vegans/vegetarians pester people like that because we have very similar difficulties. For instance I dont even order anything with cheese at a restaurant because it kills me inside to bother the people working at the restaurant. And the other commentors are right- your life absolutley comes first!!
My latest pet peeve is when the staff has NO IDEA what's in any of the food. Like, you're a restaurant... How is that even possible?
We were traveling last week and 3+ times I explained that I have a nut allergy and asked if the food contained nuts. Answer? "I'm pretty sure it doesn't." Great! I'm pretty sure I won't die then! Don't bother double-checking to potentially save my life. 🙄
Or, when they do double-check, and even the managers and chefs don't know. I finally told one place not to bother and walked out after a crowd of staff spent 5 min debating the issue.
For whatever reason, the not knowing bothers me more than a prompt, "Sorry, you can't eat this." I think it's all the unnecessary drama and feeling totally exposed and alien... as if no one else at the restaurant has ever had an allergy before.
my personal favourite "oh but we thought you wanted it without the rice because you said you're gluten intollerant" (quickly followed by "I know you can't eat bread but that's wrong with pizza")
Thank you for this comment. On my next shift at the cafe imma go through the ingredients of everything, so that I can give people definite answers.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I worked for 15 years at the same restaurant, and you better believe I knew what was in everything. And if I had ANY doubt, I told the customer straight up and had them order something else. My family has severe food allergies; I know it's nothing to play around with. And I could never understand why some of my coworkers (yes, even cooks) would not bother to learn ingredients. It was our job!
Ugh, I feel you! This is so annoying, I have very severe allergies to dairy and eggs. I went into anaphylactic choc last year and was kept under observation for a couple of hours in the hospital. When it was dinner time, I asked the hospital staff who was serving my food if there were any dairy or eggs in the dish they were giving me as I have allergies and went into anaphylactic choc a couple of hours ago. And the staff had the nerve to call me a picky eater because I was unhappy with my food. The nurse overheard everything and thankfully intervened!
I totally get what you're saying. I'm allergic to a lot of foods and it's very very difficult to order from restaurants. The most annoying thing was when a manager came to get my order, how bad is your allergy? what is your reaction to this food? I'm like, I may go to the hospital because I can't breathe from anaphylaxis, and she is like so your allergy is mild. No b** I may die!
Did... did she not get what anaphylaxis means?? I thought it was common knowledge that anaphylaxis is a very severe reaction.
@@yourlocalbi9811 I don't know, but she seemed to have been trained to know some basic things, because she told me if you don't get any pimples then it's mild. A friend of mine has a kid which is 5 or 6 years old and totally understands what it is
I was asked this too! I was just like "Um, I could die. Thanks" then they take me seriously!
@@whitneyhall2443 the funny is that she still believed that I can't die or go to hospital, before she left the table she again called it mild xD
You're supposed to write cards to your friends? Guess I should stop by the stationary shop after payday.
As someone in food service it is interesting how attitudes have changed over the past decade or so. When I first started, those "annoying people" you mentioned made cutting corners seem reasonable, which obviously hurt people with actual allergies and sensitivities. The fallout from that has led to idea now, of being allergy friendly by default, which some customers will balk at, but really that switch isn't as dramatic as a lot of people assume it would be.
The university I work for did this in one of its dining halls by first switching the brands it used, then overhauling all the recipes it could and quietly dropping the ones it couldn't. Finally they announced that this hall would be gluten and peanut free. And that's when some (who had been eating there as the actual changes were made) decried how awful the menu would become. So yeah, I'm hopeful that more restaurants do that and the larger public sees how these changes don't affect them but can really help others.
This made me so happy!!! I deal with this on a daily basis, being severly allergic to eggs and dairy (which for whatever reason is in literally everything even when it has no reason to be), and it's good to hear that someone else understands the struggles I go through. I feel the same way about the vegan menu as you do about the GF menu. It was like heaven when I went to my first vegan resteraunt as a kid and didn't have to deal with the emotion of every other time I ate out. It's my dream to live somewhere that has them so I won't have to deal with the "I'm sorry it's an inconveinence but I would rather not die" part of my day to day life. So to summarize this rant, thank you for sharing your feelings and making all the people with dietary restrictions feel understood!
Yes! I babysat a girl who was allergic to the proteins in milk and egg. Even a tiny bit could kill her. Everything had to be checked and you find those ingredients where you wouldn't expect, like frozen potatoes for example.
Learning to cook vegan options was a bit of a challenge, but they were actually very tasty. The hardest part was that I pretty much live off eggs since it's one of the few foods that doesn't make me sick so I didn't know what else to make. And I had to be hypervigilant of food made by others cause they would forget to consider cross contamination or say something was sautéed in butter
Once her daycare accidentally gave her a chocolate chip cookie and I had to take her to the emergency room that night (she has a delayed reaction). It was horrible! She's since grown out of her milk allergy so that simplifies things
Recently went to Cafe Rouge in London nr one of the theatres with my mum.
I’m vegan, autistic and also I have dietary requirements to do with my digestive system. So yh. The reason I’m vegan. I was lacto-vegetarian but then about 2 years ago I almost got hospitalised due to dairy& lactose products. It’s not funny. And It was during the last bit of year 10/ start of year11 which is GCSE years btw. So yh you can imagine I lost a LOAD OF SCHOOL AND REVISION TIME.
Anyways back to the Cafe Rouge scene.
I ordered what looked like a GF (gluten free) DF&LF (Dairy &Lactose free), Allergen free Vegan chickpea burger and marketed as quite delicious.
I picked that one.
They had run out of chips and sweet potato fries by 5:30pm. In London. They ran out of potatoes > there was a tesco express around the corner, I wouldn’t have cared if they had bought tons of oven chips to make up for it and cook them instead. But they didnt.
Anyways my mum ordered her stuff as well.
It came 10 minutes later. Too early. Our food was dry. My chickpea burger patty was burnt round the edges, freezer burnt on top, and just heated through. Luckily I picked it apart. Beforehand. I was sceptical so I got my mum to try it , like I always do just to double check my food is fine before I eat it, my mum literally freaked. She picked it apart.
There was Halloumi dairy cheese and Egg mayo that was being hidden by limp pieces of spinach and lettuce. The spinach and lettuce looked gross and sweaty.
My mum’s food was dry as anything.
My mum complained, said she didn’t want to pay becuz it was so bad and that she said “does your head chef even know how to cater for someone with dietary requirements?” in an upset ish tone I guess ?!? My mum was so upset and cross that day.
Tbh I should’ve taken pictures and sent them to Gordon Ramsey. They looked like smthg out of his American version of his show ‘Kitchen Nightmares’. It was rlly bad.
If Cafe Rouge See this. We don’t want compensation. All we want is for all your staff in all your outlets to go through a re-training programme on how people’s dietary requirements should be met properly and not having to be like “oh we ran out of this so we will just put the allergen in this allergen free food and hope they won’t notice”. My mum says she’s glad that she checked my food beforehand and that she’s glad that I’m not allergic to dairy, that would’ve been a different story totally. This kind of behaviour is dangerous so instead a re-training schedule instead of compensation would be much better. Tbh.
THIS!! My sister is on the autism spectrum, and is also a coeliac (she also has a contact allergy to wheat-based products, such as laundry starch, or those cute little microwave toys that double up as heat pads!). The amount of times we’ve had to explain that she /seriously/ can’t eat any kind of wheat or gluten - yes waited, including croutons in salad - and she’s been treated like an annoyance is awful. It increased her anxiety to the point where she couldn’t eat in front of anyone (and found it hard to ask for food) for a very long time. Thank you for ranting about this! Allergies are serious, and should be treated as such/respected!
That poor girl!
@@shalacarter6658 I don't think people with disabilities like being called "poor thing"
@@astrum376 Well, I do. And I happen to be one of those ppl with disabilities.
@@shalacarter6658 I guess it depends on the person.
Having autism and an intolerance that isn’t accepted well sucks, I just go completely quiet and let my friends or mother talk to the waiters for me because I started getting super upset with not being able to process all the questions with the noise going on.
I am also grumpy and in pain today so this genuinely made me so happy! My personal favorites include "You can't be allergic to that, it's just a..."and "I know you can't drink alcohol but here just have one!" ummmmm but I'd really rather not have multiple seizures and blinding pain today, thanks though? Its amazing how people can be so offended by what we need to or choose to put in our bodies when its really none of their business. All bodies need food and all people need kindness.
You should make a T-shirt with that: "All bodies need food and all people need kindness"!
My brother used to push me to drink but when i told him it made him sick he stopped immediately and instead would offer to see if their were non-alcoholic versions
@@badlandsghost that is so sweet! sounds like a good brother
@@susanne5803 I might just do that =) what a lovely idea!
@@marcenam9688 hes a jerk 97% of the time but he's understanding
Getting upset with people for not eating things that literally make them physically ill should be considered a sign of madness.
Joshua Zane genius in the making
FODMAP is like you threw a handful of color coded darts at a wall of foods and that's how it was decided.
Sometimes you can see a pattern or get a general sense that something probably is bad for you(and you'll actually be right about it for once) but that takes so much time it's infuriating.
"so what happens when you eat **?"
"death"
I appreciate this and you. Thank you also for noting the difference between an allergy and intolerance. Although people seem to think that intolerance is just like, meh, fanciful whim because it won't actually murder you through anaphylaxis. Sorry but it really isn't fun feeling like I'm being stabbed in my stomach while also feeling like I'm about to soil myself at the dinner table, eyes desperately darting around the restaurant looking for the nearest bathroom.
I restrict myself from eating a lot of foods (it's not health related, it's just that I have a lot of sensory issues with textures and flavours, possibly because I'm autistic) and it's really hard for me to get the confidence to eat with other people without feeling judged or actually getting judged. I try to ignore but it hurts so much when people keep complaining about it in my face, acting like I don't eat a lot of things just to annoy them. I just wished people weren't so overreactive about it
Coxinha Doce I know where you are coming from. My ex-boyfriend is on the autism spectrum and has some food sensory issues. I didn’t understand it at first but I just accepted it was something important to him and to keep it in mind when cooking. I hope you find understanding people in your life and have only good experiences going forward.
I'm on the spectrum and I understand it. Both, the "That's the food I can tolerate" AND the "Please don't judge me, I know I'm weird, I've heard it often enough." If I have a good day , I might be able to tolerate other things, I might even try something new if I'm adventurous. But going to a restaurant with people is never considered to be a good day for me...
That's called ARFID! I have it too, and I do recommend checking out the subreddit community. www.reddit.com/r/ARFID/
Oh Jessica you made this coeliac very happy and very angry by articulating everything wrong with having a weird diet - not being able to eat a doughnut for the rest of my life? FINE. Dealing with people working in actual restaurants asking me if EGGS ARE OKAY FOR COELIACS? NOT OKAY.
If you're looking for ideas for further videos, I'd love to learn how you plan your food when travelling - it usually takes up most of my planning time and even then I'm not always actually able to eat much /flashbacks to those five days in Hong Kong when I survived exclusively on steamed veg and rice.
When I first started becoming lactose intolerant (I love the surprise on people's faces when they find out that these things can be developed and that people aren't always born with these things), I was at school at lunch and took like a tiny bite of cheese (I didn't know I was at the time) and immediately became really sick and dizzy and then after like I minute I collapsed on the floor and at the end of lunch (it was I think a 45 minute break) my friends had to literally carry me to medical. Fun times. I've never fully trusted cheese again
I developed lactose intolerance as an adult and it's progressed to a dairy allergy. Like, I know something had dairy because I'm itchy and can feel my throat closing. So it totally happens.
Late to seeing this but so so sorry. The later in life allergies might be the worst. When you know early, no taste for it, just an inbuilt 'oh... crap, no, get it away!' around it. But as you get older and even worse, when it's a slow build from 'eh, my stomach feels weird' to 'huh, why is my mouth itchy' to 'oh. wow. so this is what an ambulance ride is like!'. I have this with shellfish. Grew up on the beach, grew up eating it, started feeling wonky around 12 and now as an adult, I can't walk on some beaches anymore. Epi pens SUCK. I hope avoiding it has become easy.
Literally every single lactose intolerant person has developed their lactose intolerance and hasn't has it their whole life. Babies die if they don't get milk.
This is the video i've needed all my life! I have an eating disorder called ARFID, it means I'm extreemly senssetive to food, smell and structure so i can't just eat out or eat whenever without planning it out. Your sarcasm and funny video just made me feel so much better, honestly. So thank you 💜💜💜
ARFID GANG!!! It's so nice to see someone else in the wild who has it. I loved this video too.
As somebody who has IBS and allergies I have a lot of dietary restrictions. I don't drink either because of... reasons. Especially my gut problems affects my depression. We are not picky, we do it because of our health.
Of course, if you have a very bad abdominal pain, how can you have a good mood?
I also have IBS.
I am also asked from time to time if I can eat this and that again, the last time was months ago, the digestion should have forgotten so that it went out badly then.
No, I still can not eat lentils.
i used to be one of those who thought people were being fussy. and then my son got multiple allergies and suddenly i get it! the amount of waiters/resses who said "I'm pretty sure it's egg free" or "i don't think it's got soya" JUST CHECK, PLEASE. and don't get me started on 'how can he be allergic to beans?'... because if he eats them his lips swell up? "have you tried giving him a tiny bit of egg?" sure, because finding out whether he'll have an anaphylactic reaction is such a fun game...
Agh, yes! "I think" is one of the scariest phrases for me to hear at a restaurant. At that point if they continue to be uncertain, I'll tell my parents the code word and we'll up and leave because it's just not worth it 🤷♂️
Yeah, but give me "I don't think so" over a confident-but-completely-uninformed "no" ANY DAY, though! x___x At least if they say "I think" you can ask them to please go and check (in my experience this is usually not an unusual request, and if the ingredients are not guaranteeable/searchable they'll usually come back and tell me that and recommend something else). But if they confidently tell me "no," then I naturally assume that someone else has already asked in the past, and they know what they're talking about, and I don't ask for follow-up.
However, I have gotten burned so many times by confidently wrong responses and all I can say is that a lot of local businesses are very lucky that my anaphalactic allergy is mild enough that I only get the first half of the symptoms by the time I figure out that something has nuts in it and have never had to go to the ER over it.... x__x This year alone it happened 2 or 3 times at cafes (normally it's once every couple of years) so I think I'm going to have to start being that jerk who asks to read ingredients lists myself when I have any doubts because this year I've even had people literally look up recipes for me and then read them wrong... :(
But I hope for them that you don't yell at them and just ask 'could you please check it?'. I mean, we are all just people and we might makes mistakes. Well, it annoys me too when everyone asks 'oh, you study graphic design?' and than I have to describe once again what is the difference between graphic design and digital art. Or when people ask me if I speak Russian when I start to speak Polish. It is also annoying. But we can't expect from everyone to know everything. And they will ask once, maybe twice - after that, they will know how to behave and what's actually the disease. People are just curious, they don't want to be jerks. That's something new to them, it's normal that they ask. I have just the impression that society starts to be offended by anything right now. Soon we will be afraid to speak or we will learn at school phrases that we can say and we will use only them.
It doesnt matter if someone is just being fussy though. Their body, their bounderies/rules and you are crossing them by forcing a diet onto them that they specifically for whatever reason told you they do not want/cant have. People that eat meat get angry at vegans that try to force everyone to go vegan and very few people dont think those vegans are shitty people. Some islamophobic/antisemetic people try to smuggle pork into religious muslims/jews diet and normal people dont think that's right on any level. Yet somehow it's ok because you've labeled someone a fussy eater? Literally just respect people like ffs it's not that hard.
And that is spoken as someone constantly called "a fussy eater". Despite having both medical and sensory food restrictions. I can have mashed potatoes and not die but i literally will throw up several times trying to swallow it because my sensory processing cant stand the texture. That is basically just an extreme version of the reaction others get to food they hate.
@@evvunja i would never yell at anyone, always ask politely 😉
“Blah blah blah, artificial sugars are carcinogens. IN RATS, AND SO IS TOAST!” it’s so true! I’m dying from laughing! Thanks for making my day!
"By bits I mean BIRD FOOD" mood. Bravo darling
There's this one granola bar I like that I just refer to as bird food. Because it basically looks like the seed mix I used to feed my canary 😂
I was diagnosed with Celiac in my early 30s and hEDS in my late 30s. I feel so much of your pain and frustration. I'd shiv a baker for a croissant...
I also have become one of those annoying people who asks the millions of questions and demands. Basically I just tell them get it right or I'll be in your restroom for the next 4 hours and it won't be pretty.
You are perfectly lovely and appreciated.❤
Cherrys Jubilee same, I have celiacs and I've lost count of the amount of people I've introduced to the phase 'projectile diarrhoea'. Luckily I can get gluten free croissants, brioche, profiteroles and pain au chocolate in the UK.
I don't want to worry you... but I may have suddenly fallen in love with you for the word choice you made. Shiv a baker for a croissant? So much better than my 'kick nun for real pizza' default setting. Yours conveys the point well, without catholics getting nervous around you. Celiac finally diagnosed at 25 and while it's a whole new world now with the joy of not being sick all the time, there are days.... and it is worse when you have been 'good', not messed up once in months and then had some twit at the supposedly safe to eat at restaurant think it's no big deal to roll their eyes and ignore you. I once had a waiter actually tell a friend (after I had bolted to the bathroom) that I was making too much of it, after all she had picked out the croutons from the salad herself (without gloves. joy unending) and there could only have been a small amount of wheat in the sauce so why was I being so difficult. She started to learn why I was so difficult 5 hours in, 3 hours past closing, when the horrified owner made her stay until I was able to leave the bathroom without fear of not making it home intact. She also had to clean the bathroom. Is it wrong that, for the first and only time, I was almost, ah, dare I say smug, when I limped out knowing the warzone she was about to face?
@@Magpiebard awwww I love you too cause you got petty revenge in the form of a destroyed bathroom. Sorry you had to go through that....
My one major contamination happened at 30,000 feet. 0⭐s I don't reccomend airplane contamination!!!
Last Friday I did a presentation all about this project to my scout group (where I am a leader) I spoke about dietary restrictions and how it’s not good to discriminate/be a jerk to people for what they have to or choose to put into their bodies! So, hopefully they learnt something and will be more respectful as they grow up! Love your videos! Xx
Sarah Lebaigue way to be a great role model! I commend you for thinking of teaching your scouts about that!
That's s great scouts lesson! ☺ Good choice!
Kind of reminds me of when a friend of mine pointed out the reason all the infomercial gadgets were so exaggerated. They were trying to sell something made for people with disabled people to the general population so the price goes down and makes it easier for those that genuinely need it to afford and find. Think this gyro bowls that are impossible To spill for someone with tremors or poor motor control, the snuggy for people in wheelchairs, etc. obviously it not every item but a lot of them are.
Damn.... I never thought of that you’re probably exactly right. I’ll have to remember that next time I think that stuff’s just a scam
hi beautiful jessica! i started the fodmap diet a couple months ago for my undiagnosed digestive illness. before i switched over just about every meal or snack left me in pain or discomfort, i could hardly ever leave the house. now the diet has been working great for me and i have my freedom back! i can totally empathize with you about people being jerks. for me the worst is when family members encourage me to eat foods outside my diet. they know that i've been suffering before fodmap diet but they still don't take it seriously. i hate being egged on to eat gluten or whatever else. it makes me think they'd rather have me be in pain than have restrictions. secondly, it's frustrating when family doesn't take note of a food you can't have after you've told them several times and then they suggest you have some regularly. i don't want to sound like a broken record or be reminded i can't have what they're having. lastly, it's so ignorant when people say "but this food is so healthy" as if we're all the same. particularly so after you've told them you can't have it for health reasons. people can be such jerks! what we need most are people who respect our circumstances, prioritize our wellbeing, and help us feel confident and part of the crowd. this is why i want to thank you heaps for this video. i can relate on a spiritual level and now i feel like you've given me a voice. thank you jessica 💕👍🏻
There is a "sugar-free" fad, but it's pushed by people who don't seem to know anything about sugar 😕 I have type one diabetes, and I'm sick of people assuming I can have things like honey because they are "natural" and therefore somehow not sugar 😑 My mother bought a highly recommended "sugar free" cookbook recently, only to find that all the recipes replaced white sugar with other forms of sugar, like honey or date paste or whatever else, even maple syrup 🤨 Like thanks, still can't eat it, and now I have to deal with more stupid people spreading misinformation about what is safe for me to eat.
you are my hero. the amount of times waiters etc tell me "oh yes this is gluten free" and then i am dying and in extreme pain a few minutes after eating it is ridiculous.
This video is fabulous and your hair is looking extra beautiful in it!!!
Ooh also, I see the merch store ( on Android app)!
Just in general, I got really annoyed when I found food that had "no added sugar." Sounded great! Then I read the labels and they all contained some sort of "ol" sweetener. grrrrrr.
"Oh, poor one!" No, I don't need your pity, just DONT PUT THIS IN MY FOOD
Waitress, bored girl with no clue of the world: "oh, poor one, so you can't have this and this! I would die! You must have a sad life!"
Me inside: "If I had your face it would be a sad life"
Me outside: "Oh no, it's not so sad, you get used. It's actually quite a happy life!"
Are we sure that an unknown food intolerance cannot come out as stupidity and not just as gut bleeding as an effect?
Wife of a chef here: One thing you can do, especially if you have extreme allergies and intolerances is the following:
Find a self-owned non-chain restaurant. Call the restaurant during off peak hours. Ask them if their chef would be interested in a challenge. You have really horrendous dietary restrictions, what you really really want to eat a good meal at a good restaurant.
Would they be willing to take the list of foods that you cant eat and foods you really enjoy... And make something amazing for you?
Now you might be thinking "oh come on. No chef would be interested."
That would be something they do everyday. Sometimes orders don't come. Sometimes food goes bad. Sometimes things sell out. Sometimes there's leftovers.
To save money they get creative!
Doing them the courtesy of giving them some time to prepare... They would be ecstatic to try and make you an amazing meal. Especially if you give the more than 24 hours notice and they can even order stuff in.
This is something chefs live for. It's the reason why shows like chopped exist.
Name some places can't do it because they run on too tight a budget. Or it may not be safe because gluten is just ingrained in the walls and you might die. But calling and asking is so appreciated... even if it's something they can't manage they may be able to tell you another restaurant in town that they know who can.
Because chefs tend to become friends over time if they stay in the same area.
this may seem like a lot of work and it may be very difficult because of phone anxiety, etc, but I know so many chefs who absolutely adore this sort of challenge, including my husband and all of his friends.
I told one woman about this idea and I actually ended up being in the restaurant when she finally came in. She got something completely off menu, but was totally safe for her to eat. And she enjoyed it so much she cried a little. Because she hadn't been able to eat out in years. She came back many times.
It is possible to get amazingly prepared food catered directly to your needs.
Sending love to you all from a person who also has dietary problems. 😅
I don't have any food restrictions myself, but when going to Wagamamas with a friend, she asked the waiter what was safe for her to eat. (I don't remember the specific allergy/intolerance she had) The waiter got the book with all the allergy info in and she chose a dish, they didn't have to alter it in anyway. BUT despite the fact that her dietary limitation had only taken up 2 minutes tops of this waiters time, our entire table overheard him say to a colleague "Why even bother coming here if you're not gonna eat x?" In a very condescending and sarky tone.
It made us all uncomfortable and wanting to leave, but we'd already ordered and had nowhere else to eat.
I can't imagine how awful it must be to have to encounter that kind of treatment regularly, and even overtly. It's disgusting.
bookl0ver bring up that to management. He obviously needs retraining!
I've gotten to the point where I'm too scared to eat out, so if ever I'm in a situation where it is required, I'll either order nothing or sit there awkwardly with a Tupperware! Thank you for talking about this issue, your videos brighten my day :)
Another GREAT video! thanks Jessica :)
Thanks Kati! ♥️
Girl I totally feel you with food allergies! I have over 80 confirmed allergies and my fiances family thought it was "for attention". At my daughters party they told me the cookies were nut free specifically for me, so I took one. Our daughter was 3 at the time and on my lap and started to notice BEFORE I DID that I wasnt breathing right and was turning red so she smacked the cookie out of my hand and said "Mommy! You're getting sick!" She ran to her grandma and started yelling at her "Why are you trying to kill my mommy!?" (I'm step mom technically, so not well received by some) our son, who was 5, ran and got daddy and told him to unlock the car and he ran and got me my medicine while my fiance got me water. Now my poor kids dont trust their family when they feed me meals so my kids check my food first. My fiance serves my food and makes sure it's all safe and then our kids make him list every item on my plate and make sure it's all ok. Thank god for those babies and thank god they really paid attention when I talked to them about allergies because they literally saved me from anaphylaxis because somehow they caught it before I even felt the effects.
As someone with celiac disease...I feel this video so hard. Thanks so much for putting my frustration into words!!
I have a friend who doesn't tolerate caffeine, and she likes the taste of coffee, but a lot of times they'll just give her regular instead of decaf. Because it's not that big of a deal, right?
I understand the struggle. I have heart issues and have had many surgeries. I love to get a coffee decaf as a treat. I remember one time I explained everything to the lady . She said she understood. I went in target with my mom started drinking and my chest started hurting so I went back and asked the lady and with a straight face she said. “You don’t look like someone who’s had multiple heart surgeries . I think your being dramatic. Her boss over heard apologized to me and fired the girl . Saying she could kill people and so on and so forth.
Sydney Hulett good job going back. You may well have saved someone’s life
I have ADHD, anxiety, and severe insomnia. I can’t drink coffee at all, but decaf is always nice. More than once I’ve been given non decaf. Those times I was fidgeting, thinking at 10x speed, and barely slept even with my medicine. Does it cross peoples minds that sometimes customers order decaf for a reason?
I always love this interaction
Me: I have a severe gluten allergy so...
Waiter *rolling eyes*: ughhhhhhhhhhhhh
In middle school I was vegan, and literally I told the camp guy and he said "wow, so extra." BITCH IM PAYING YOU.
I don't set foot in restaurants that don't mention gluten free options on the menu anymore. It's just not worth the risk.
Yeah that's when I walk out because there's no way I can trust them to make it right and I don't feel like being completely disabled for 3 weeks and possibly in the ER over their slight inconvenience. I've gotten this response, eye rolls that said "why are you ruining my day???", and "what's a gluten?" That's my cue to nope the fuck out of there.
Your merch is showing up! I also had the same issue getting my merch under videos, took a while and my manager to get that settled, hah. People judging food things bug me. This isn't about medical stuff, but- I'm vegan, ethically, and people wanna get me nonsense all the time when I hadn't started anything. If I started something, sure! Go for it, I guess. But if I just happen to say, "Oh, I'm vegan," if someone suggests getting something to eat and I'm letting them know so we can find a restaurant together, that's not an invitation to start telling me "but bacon!!" Aye.
"but bacon!!" 😂
People suck sometimes... smh
Saaaame... I try not to tell anyone if I don't absolutely have to 😅
As someone with a bad dairy and tree nut allergy, thank you! I remember going to a restaurant for my partner’s birthday and there was nothing on the menu I could eat. When I ordered plain pasta noodles with olive oil and garlic, my mouth and throat started to itch really badly and even now, I still don’t know how they messed that up.
Also have another friend with severe (although different than mine) food allergies. When I made food for something we were going to together, I did the best I could to avoid any cross contamination, but I did let him know what measures I took before prepping the food and he did the same for me. It’s really nice having a friend that you can do that with.
From someone with food issues ranging from anaphylaxis to food intolerances to IBS I appreciate this SO much! I’m sorry you have to go through this but it is nice to hear that I’m not the only one. If we have to suffer at least we can suffer together!
P.S. Starting a low FODMAP diet 🤞🏻 I’d love it if you did a video on that one day.
My mom has an intolerance to certain foods like onions. It’s the worst when she specifically orders something with no onions, but there’s small, chopped up onions anyway. No, making them smaller is not going to prevent the intense pain she gets 🙄
I don't currently have any restrictions (mostly because I don't- well, can't- eat much of anything at all, but that's a story for another day) but my mom is allergic to cheese. All cheese. No, not dairy, just cheese. And it's a true allergy, hives, throat closing up, the whole works. In her life, she has frequently had acquaintances, close "friends" and even family, try to slip cheese in her food. Naturally, that happening (or people/restaurants that genuinely forget and leave cheese in) became, and still is, a massive fear of mine. So since I was about 5, whenever we eat out, I stress the fact that she has a true allergy, especially since people _have_ forgotten before. She tells them, of course, but I add in the "It could kill her, this isn't just someone being picky".
I actually have a bone to pick about how people treat "picky eaters" as well. (Here's an interesting article on adult picky eaters: munchies.vice.com/en_us/article/59yq58/the-private-hell-of-an-adult-picky-eater) Even if someone is "just" a picky eater, without intolerances or allergies, restaurants should treat them with the same amount of respect as they would anyone else. Their job is to serve customers, not cast judgment on them. They aren't hurting anybody by wanting certain foods and wanting those foods in a specific way! I think less people would claim to have an intolerance or allergy if they weren't treated with such disdain for being a "picky eater" (yes, I'm using scare quotes on it again, because it's a ridiculous term that makes it sound like it's a choice. It's really not. No one _wants_ to make life harder for themselves...).
As far as waiters, acquaintances and total strangers thinking they have the right to ask invasive questions about it is dead on and so very, very rude. It's unfortunate, but that seems to be an incredibly frequent attitude people have towards chronic health problems and diseases. They feel entitled to ask massively personal questions and then get mad if you politely tell them it's not something you want to talk about. I _hate_ it. I'm not against talking about my health problems at all, and I think it's important to do so, or if people ask questions _after_ I say it's ok to ask me questions. It's just not ok to ask out of nowhere to a complete stranger.
I'm almost positive there was something else I wanted to say but I can't remember what. I'm having trouble keeping my eyes open, so it's time for a map. Maybe I'll remember what I was thinking of while I sleep.
‘So I decided to turn on the camera and scream about my issues because that’s how I cope with my feelings :D.’
Me too
“Don’t sue me. I’m not worth it.” big mood
I love how you talk about your wife. It makes me wish I could talk about someone so lovingly!
I have an allergy to lemon, orange, kiwi fruit, tomato, mandarin and fresh pineapple. People are annoying when you ask for food without these things and then they smother it in tomato sauce... or barbeque sauce with a tomato base. "Oh but the chef says it would be bland without sauce" I KNOW IT WILL BE BLAND! I like it bland, BLAND = safe for me to eat and thus I will not get sick and die. 😒
Amy Lindbom my daughter has an allergy to tomatoes. I just figured it out rather recently and it’s to the point where she’ll break out in hives if she’s in the same out that tomato’s are cooking. It’s not till summer that she can get formally diagnosed and nobody takes it seriously at her school. It’s bloody frustrating, that a kid with a peanut allergy got all nuts taken out of school but the lunch lady can’t even just leave some noodles plain on spaghetti day -.-
I've never come across other people who can't eat tomatoes before! Are we really that rare?
C Richards maybe rare. But honestly we have a lot of immune issues in this community because the factory upstream calculated that it’s cheaper to just dump PCB’s into the river and pay the fine then it was to dispose of it properly. So we have a population with higher rates of immune problems, kids with cancer, allergies, arthritis, birth defects. So there’s a few weird ones one. Allergies I’ve never heard of before and severe ones at that.
Most of my family have a sensitivity to tomato etc. I'm the one with the worst reaction. I once peeled an orange for my son and all under my finger nails swelled to the point I thought my nails were going to pop off!
Can't have them either, with 95% of other foods. Tomato is on the list of 10 most annoying foods to be allergic to
When you're so lactose intolerant you can barely eat butter and your siblings (of all people) STILL👏OFFER👏YOU👏CHEESE👏PIZZA👏 and then proceed to criticize you for eating vegan cheese because you don't want to deal with a week of pain? *cough* I have feelings about this
You are not lactose intolerant, you are just not a baby cow.
70% of the population is "lactose intolerant" or allergic to cows titty juice.
Go vegan.
Ugh, SAME! Every time I go out to eat, people offer me a bite of food that has dairy in it, and I'm like... you know I will be vomiting or at the very least on the toilet for several hours. It's not worth it. And god forbid we go to a restaurant that has options other than french fries that I can eat. Not like I wanted to eat a whole meal 🙄
@@Selfcarequeeen Don't tell people with dietary restrictions what to do. It isn't your business what someone else has to do to keep from being sick. Veganism is cool, but if you think it's okay to be pushy and demanding, then you are very inconsiderate, miss.
@@cottage-core_ there are many diseases you can avoid or at least improve by going vegan. Cardiovascular disease, cholesterol, lowering high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, osteoporosis, prostate cancer, colon cancer, breast cancer, maculare degeneration, cataracts, arthritis and I can go on all day. Sorry if I wanna spread information so that people won't get sick or feel sick.
Out of 7 billion people, there are a few with a compilation of serious intolerances to plant foods or other genetic conditions that make it impossible for them to be healthy on a vegan diet with current technology. I'd need to see some serious scientific evidence for this though, as all the "I was vegan and got sick. Need meat" anecdotes are virtually worthless as evidence.
*Lactose free milk and cheese have been my SAVIOR. They have lactase added beforehand to break down the lactose before it enters your body.
*Also, @Annye Lilith
*Have you considered that some people hate having restricted diets and/or simply don't like a lot of the foods that are necessary to make a vegan diet work? Plus, are you sure the things you are eating are cruelty free and sustainable just because they don't come from animals?
*Heaps of vegan "superfoods" (quinoa, etc) when they become popular become inaccessible to the people who actually live in the area where they're grown, and also have to be transported by plane, which is a can of worms in of itself. Plus, farmland (especially in places like America and Australia) in the way we have it is HUGELY DETRIMENTAL to the environment, and can get rid of homes for thousands of wild animals at a time. Including native bees! Especially native bees, which are hugely important to the ecosystem. Not to mention, the way they're currently watered is wasteful, and so is the way they are harvested- workers are often badly underpaid.
*Anyway, sorry that I kind of went off, I've been wanting to get that off my chest for a while.
As someone with a laaaaundry list of food (and pollen) allergies, I clicked on this so damn fast. Yes! Yes! I shouted to every Single thing in this video. Mind you, I'm on my lunch break. In my car. By myself. But hell, I found my spirit animal!! ❤️❤️❤️
This is the best food rant I have ever heard!!! A couple things to add:
1. Waiters who ask for your order alllll the wayyyy across the table. Could you please come over here? I would like to not have to yell all my questions/diet issues so everyone in the restaurant can hear them...
2. I had a guy tell me that he wasn't interested in dating me because of my food allergies. Thank you, sir, for being a complete jerk about something I LITERALLY CAN'T CONTROL AND DID NOT CHOOSE! I should add that I wasn't trying to date him either, he was just being a jerk.
3. You are amazing and your videos are soooo goood! Thank you for sharing your story with us!!!!
My sis got diagnosed with celiac... finally. She has a pretty mild case by comparison, but that doesn’t necessarily make it better. She’s pretty good about just knowing what she can and can’t have and we stick to a pretty tried and true list of places if we want to go out. However, we went on vacation. Now, the wait staff was wonderful and Disney will bend over backward to make your food restrictions as easy-breezy as possible, but we had no idea you could inform them ahead of time of the issue when you make a reservation. Sis also has anxiety. So, on our first night, she had to inform the waitress of her restrictions and, despite the girl’s super sweet and cool attitude about it, my sis began to cry because she felt she was holding everyone else up. The girl calmed her down, brought her gluten-free bread, helped her pick a delicious gluten-free meal and dessert, and then went the extra mile to call the internal reservation service to make sure the gluten-free tag was added to our reservation for her for every other restaurant we had planned (that way they just give you a special menu for the person and bring gluten-free bread without having to be asked or drawing a bunch of attention). No more tears, no more embarrassment. Delightful vacation overall. Thanks, sweetheart waitress. A little positive story about a non-jerk just trying to make it better.
I get a lot of crap over my disability, and my other issues because you can't see them. It's frustrating. So I feel your pain.
i love rant videos 👌
Especially if they come with so much wit, elegance and beauty!
tbh I just don't bother to eat at restaurants that aren't equipped to cater to or don't understand my dietary requirements. i can take my money elsewhere.
I have multiple food allergies, and I cannot begin to tell you how much I identify with everything you just said.💖 But, can we please just take a moment to appreciate this ADORABLE blouse!?!? I'm obsessed!
I have Celiacs, and I hate going out cause of that and my social anxiety so I normally eat in (rip many, many. Friendships) So, here are some stellar brands for gluten free eating at home!
1.) Glutino
2.) Vans
3.) Udi's
4.) Schär
And if you want some really tasty make at home cookies for when your friends don't invite you out to parties anymore cause they don't wan't to deal with the hassle you may cause, use mix from IMMACULATE. The sugar cookies are amazing. They make your tears turn into you burning photos of you're non-accepting friends :)