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Also, yes appearance matters. My mom and I were living in poverty when I was a child but no one at school knew because she made sure my appearance was nice. That situation was temporary so my mom made sure we never looked like what we were going through.
The outside is 100% a reflection of an individuals heart posture and condition- a person visible and outward choice of appearance shows so much about their habits, personality and what is important to them or not
I was literally just saying this while doing my skincare. I find it hard to be consistent and disciplined with self-care routines and my bible - so doing so not out of vanity but to adorn the temple of God is such a good message! Amen!
This video was another confirmation for me. I feel God changing my style and appearance for the better. I am believing in God for my Kingdom husband. I can’t expect to attract the type of Godly man I want by dressing to showcase my body. As God is maturing me, He is also elevating my appearance. He has been telling me to cover my bum in my gym leggings lately. Ladies if you hear God telling you to cover up, listen even if you don’t want to. You never know who is watching you.
Praise God for telling you this and I am so proud of you for listening to God about this. It’s so important on so many levels. One being that as women, if we dress to showcase our bodies, we are doing it to get attention from men. The thing is that a woman dressing that way can also be attracting the attention of men that belong to other women. That can cause those women to feel down, frustrated in their relationship (even if their man is trying not to look!) and therefore feeling disrespected by other women. It can be lonely as a woman to look around and see nothing but women showing off their bodies especially if we are intentionally dressing to not show off. All that to say thank you for obeying The Lord in this. You honor God and other women and sister’s in Christ by making this change.
I'm so glad it was a confirmation! I'm also glad you mentioned the point about the gym and leggings... I was thinking about doing a video about how to dress modestly for the gym and still look put together. So God actually used you as a confirmation for me, also. He's so awesome! Thanks, sis 💕
Whenever I see an extremely beautiful person. That is like 97% natural beauty I can't help but give all the praise and glory to God! That's his creation he created that beautiful person. Now what they choose to do with their good looks it's up to them but yeah it's definitely God. And we praise God for so many things but when it comes to attractive Ness I don't really hear him getting the glory
This is an healthy way of seeing and understanding and showing that appearance matters. Not just our faith, inner personality and characters but outside appearance matters. I used to hate the idea of self care e.g make up, coloring hair, accessories, fashion and dressing up just because the Bible explicit said 1 samuel 16:7 The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.'” Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.“ 1 Peter 3:3-4 “Your beauty should not come from outward adornments, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” I used to think Godly man will care more of our inner beauty and character as God see and look. So I don’t pay attention much to how i dress, how i take care of my body and face and outward appearance because for me back then it feels and looks like wordly superficial thing. Like true christian wouldn’t care that. Also it came from a rejection that guys like prettier girls and i don’t see myself more pretty or capable (at make up and fashion) than them. But i realize i actually feels happy just taking care of myself, seeing beauty in God’s eyes and guidance and i like to dress up (not so much makeup more skincare) more and just find out my seasonal color. I also enjoy doing manicure, styling my hair or choose hair color. Now my motivation is not to gain people attention or because the world sees it. But it is because i want to respect God and myself and be a good representative for Him.
I feel like this resonates with me. I’m 16 years old & I never put effort into my appearance. I always wear my bonnet and a large hoodie to school. People are always judging me for that.
Wow, thank you for sharing that and for watching, sis. 💗 I'm glad that the Lord led you to this video and I encourage you to pray on this topic - specifically asking the Lord to help you to build confidence from the inside out so you can show up in the world and SHINE YOUR LIGHT! Consider reading Matthew 5:14 - 16 every morning as you are getting ready for school. We will stand in agreement with you 💃✨
@@sabineforever Hi, thank you so much for the recommendation . I tend to struggle with my self esteem and I pray to the Lord about it that & try to say biblical affirmations whenever I can.
I will pray that whatever reason you are wearing that bonnet to hide who knows what, that the Lord bless you with supernatural confidence simply because you are His child! I’ve suffered so much insecurity in my life, and a lot of it was in my earlier years around your age. But I’ll tell you, this too shall pass my little sis. I love you and can’t wait for your confidence to shine!
Ahhh man. This definitely hit my heart strings. I’ve noticed how I let myself go ever since Covid and how it’s been affecting my confidence and energy. I’m accepting this, thank you 🙌🏾
After a lot of trauma between 2020 and 2023; including rapidly losing my mom to dementia, stage 4 breast cancer and a new marriage with a husband that was not one bit emotionally supportive in any way all before the age of 40..God brought me through. I am now healed, my husband is changing and I'm no longer grieving like I was. The only thing is that I became a recluse during that time and have completely lost what it means to be a woman and a friend and so many other things. It's like I'm relearning things I should know, but surgery made it hard to feel feminine. So much to work through, but this really helped. Thank you!
This is the perfect message for me. As a young woman in my 20s I have a hard time pouring into my self appearance and I don’t understand why. This video brings me step closer to understanding and change. Thank you for the content! God bless ✨
Im trying not to do fake anything...i was hooked on fake nails forever, like 32 years of getting them done, I use to not want to go out if one was broken..thats how Insecure/vain I was...but now i just try to take care of the ones i got so they can get strong & hard & to save money just to polish them myself...also the dying of the hair to let my gray hairs come in...my husband thinks fake eyelashes are Hideous or id be trying that too but found hes more happy with the appeal of no fake anything on me. I dont know why people like the fake? Maybe its because deep down it takes money & time to get those things done so it appeals to the human eye...either way im trying to let go of anything fake its been quite the process 😳😉✌️
Loved this video! Because i started off in a career in the fashion industry and always felt bad for liking fashion as much as I did. at some point people woy of could always ask me who you dress up for .... uhhhh myself but now that I have redidcated my life back to God three years ago, I love this outlook on it. but also back in that time, I was dressing crazy and now I do dress differently but also am trying to figure out my perosnal style etc. but dressing in a manner that is honored and worthy of my heavenly father.
Thank you for this message. I was never taught how to take care of myself. It's been a very difficult ride that has taken a toll on me in every single way. I often do not feel attractive or worthy. I'm hoping to change this with God's help. Please pray for me. This will not be easy. I've never truly loved myself, so making a 180 will be a long and arduous journey.
May God bring us into a calling for each season of our lives during our walk with him in this world. Maybe be refined to be good representatives. Lets let God lead our tongues every moment.
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?"
Doesn’t mean God doesn’t tell us for steward our bodies well, that our body is a temple, and that God has LITERALLY highlighted men’s Handsomeness, even one being “the most handsome” and same for women being “very beautiful. When Ruth was told to make herself beautiful and get ready for Boaz, she put on Mehr & made herself appealing to the eye. Proverbs woman is also spoken about her beauty too. So, idk why you are using this. God tell us to not put our looks in vain & idolizing our looks and looking for self validation from others, when our validation comes from Jesus. There is nothing wrong looking nice and smelling extra nice, nothing wrong with it.
I think it meant "don't be dependent on these things" or "obsessed about them", but not "do not think about it at all and don't take pleasure in them".
Yes! I’ve been feeling stressed with school work and I def show it sometimes cuz I have no energy to put into my appearance. But I gotta fix that ASAP! Nobody gotta know I’m stressed 😭
For me, I grew up a tomboy (the traditional kind aka loved sports, climbing fences, video games, etc) and had no sense of fashion nor cared to be seen as a girly girl. I would wear dresses to church as it was expected, but didn't care to dress up otherwise. I also didn't want guys to like me for my looks as I found that shallow. I'd rather someone fall for me for my personality, intelligence etc. I also have really bad hyperpigmentation, so when I got bit up by mosquitoes and had chicken pox as a kid, I didn't care to wear skirts anymore cause I was embarrassed of my cheetah legs. If I wore skirts or dresses to church, I always wore stockings under it. In my early 20s, as a certain community gained more popularity, I felt a little ashamed that men were more feminine than I, so I wanted to try a little harder for God's sake. I didn't want to accidentally be confused or identified as one of them. It can also be embarrassing if you go out like a slob to run errands, no makeup to hide your dark spots, baggy clothes, hair under a hat...and you run into somebody you know. I really hated when photos were taken without prior warning like when a birthday was being celebrated at work. I only had dark clothes so it took a while to add more colour. I also started doing photoshoots since all I had were selfies (I take pics of people and experiences, but people don't take pics of me), and it certainly made me more aware of what clothes works and doesn't work on me. I'd be wearing skinny jeans and a leather jacket, but I have a big chest and a small bum, so it'd make me look really top heavy. Skirts definitely work best for my body shape, and since my scars have mostly healed, I've gotten more comfortable having my legs out without stockings. I work from home, so anytime I have an event, I'll make the effort to put on makeup and wear something nice and girly. Usually my hair is cornrowed for weeks so I can just do a twist out style which is really cute. I'm still a little lazy when it comes to looking nice to run errands, but I feel a little more inspired to try a little harder even for those short outings.
Doing a great job 🎉 Keep up , am also working on the appearance that I neglected for some time and thoughtv am not beautiful and yet it's the temple of the holyspirit..let's take care of our bodies
Doing a great job 🎉 Keep up , am also working on the appearance that I neglected for some time and thoughtv am not beautiful and yet it's the temple of the holyspirit..let's take care of our bodies
Amen! Holy Spirit lives inside of us and because of that we need to house, respect and honor Him properly by taking care of our health, our body in general. This is part of knowing our identity in Christ, knowing who we are in Christ- regal and royal children of the most high God. How we conduct ourselves and overall take care of ourselves matters. You don’t need to have a ton of money, be “worldly”, vain, or have a surplus of resources to be nicely put together. For those that this video and message is offensive to or just doesn’t resonate with you- it’s okay, take it to the Lord. This royal, ambassador of Christ , high standard of self and Holy Spirit type of care and lifestyle isn’t for anyone that doesn’t want it; maybe because they don’t believe it to be true and therefore feel it doesn’t have any impact or significance . It’s for those that fully grasp this message, respect their body , therefore, also, Holy Spirit. Once you know your identity and role here in earth 🌍 as a representative of God - you will think twice if you even need to at all about going out untidy, with a disheveled, overall sloppy appearance. If God doesn’t see an effort in the small and very basics of daily higiene, body health care how can he trust us with the bigger blessings he d like to give us that we would not be well equipped , mature, disciplined to take care of, tend to and grow into and from. Our outer appearance is 100% correlated to what is going on inside of our ❤ and how we feel about ourselves and Holy Spirit inside of us.
I cannot tell you enough how much I needed this video!!! The past couple of years I’ve been battling this topic of appearance and balancing what is appropriate care vs. vanity and it has been a topic that has burdened me deeply. This video brought so much clarification and revelation to me. The Holy Spirit was speaking to me through your video, ma’am! Thank you so so much.
We need to focus on the outward appearance also because the Bible said that man look at the outward appearance. This will either attract others to you are keep them away. We can’t share with them if they don’t get close to us.
Very interesting that Holy Spirit would allow me to come across this video because the very chapter and verses from Exodus,I am currently reading. I too was blown away with the level of detail that God had given them for the tabernacle.
Wow beautifully explained! Such a powerful message that all believers need to hear. Appearance isn't the most of important thing we should focus on, but if we can improve in this area, why not?
This is AMAZING! I was literally just praying to God about this yesterday while showering. I just do the absolute bare minimum with myself, and I know I can do more. but I just don't see the point. I also was nonverbally taught that taking care of your self is selfish, and self centered. that there are bigger things to worry about, rush rush rush and get out the door. I've even had my own mom track my shower time (normal showers) so it scares me from taking out the proper time fir myself. But thank you so much for obedience to make this video! very encouraging!
Yeah, When Bible talks of Esther, the way she took care of her skin and body, God isn't against us stewarding well what he had already given us. Even Daniel took care of his body,as a man....when even this day it's looked upon as weird. Dan10:2-3
Absolutely agree with all the points you've shared about thank you Sabine for bringing this topic I think a theme that is not spoken a lot in Christian circles thank you for sharing!!
I know this is a weird question. But the question of dressing "modestly" vs "beautiful". Someone can dress beautiful and elegant but not in the lines of "christian church girl modest". I wish we talk about this. The way we dress.
This is a good question. “Modest” and “Beautiful “ can go together. Being modest doesn’t mean being frumpy. There is no sin in being beautiful. The Proverbs 31 woman (whom everyone praises) put herself together in fine clothing).
@amandaparrish9128 Thank you so much for answering this. God brought me back to this video, and I completely forgot I wrote this. And I am now revamping my wardrobe for beauty and modesty.
Thank you! I feel like I’m in a season now where God is starting to show me beauty is actually important too! And this video beautifully articulates how it’s ok for us in Christ (not in a vain way) and it can be connected to our assignment 😊
This is a must see video that needs to be watched especially in my church. My wife always talks about this as she is and has always been over the 33 years we been married very particular about her appearance and mine as well.
Thanks for this it was confirmation for me. God has been saying take off the grave clothes the people I am sending won’t recognize you in how you have been showing up. I’ve been through a lot and I’ve been looking like it even though God has been healing me. I’m vowing to take care of my temple and reflect the goodness of God. In Jesus name
this is such an interesting topic and I agreeeee! our appearance matter!! thank you for making this video, I love your take on it Sabine! just found your channel and am now a new subscriber, hope to see more videos like these sister
I try my best with what I have but I pray I’m able to afford a wardrobe that fits me. wearing the older baggy clothes I have from my accident and then having gained weight , I’ve kept using it because I don’t have much of a choice and some days it doesn’t help me feel good about myself 😢. I try to find newish clothes at thrift stores but haven’t gotten lucky lately or been able to go
And on top of it I’ve started dealing with acne so I don’t wear makeup , trying to see how to get it under control… minimal worries but I’m only human with new experiences 😢
@@kristalreyes712 Hi! If I may encourage you, I'm reminded of Matthew 6:25-34. There are times where I worry about my clothing because I don't wear as many of the outfits I own. I wear a select few that I know are appropriate and won't distract me or others. Sometimes, however, I worry about whether I'll be judged for wearing the same clothes and then I think about these verses. It is not just about my clothing. It is not just about heart. It is both that matter to the Lord. I encourage you to ask the Lord to work on your heart and that you will follow His prompting in regards to how to look for clothes and how you wear what you already have! In regards to acne, I am not a doctor but I do know it is affected by many components, so discuss with your doctor! Also, Calendula infused oil is great for scarring. I use it on my face and body to help with that and eczema. It has helped me greatly. I hope you are encouraged❤
I agree so much with this. My church is full of overweight and obese black women. It’s really sad actually and I pray for us. For those whose weight is a result of trauma, low self esteem , illness or lack of discipline. I meet girls in the young adults that are only 22 years old and weigh 200+. It is so normal but folks forget that we are a temple. It really does matter. God can work through this. For anyone battling weight issues, trust God for it and work with him on it. With sisterly love.
Being obese is actually a sin. Overindulge in food is the sin known as gluttony. So that is really sad. We have to be good examples and good stewards of what we have here on earth!
Let's not assume everyone that is obese is because they indulged in gluttony. There are a lot of men and women who have underlying medical conditions that can cause obesity but lack proper medical attention. Let us be good examples of maintaining a healthy weight and support our brethren in their weight journey. May God grant us good health and remember those suffering
@@gladyskihara4736 medical conditions that make people obese are rare. The vast majority of people are obese because of how they eat. Especially since less than 50 years ago being obese was rare and now over half of the population is obese…. The truth.
@@MrsM74 being accused of something is very different from being. The Bible states in multiple instances that Jesus was perfect and without sin which is why he is the only acceptable substitute to die on the cross. Observing how obese over half the population has become has nothing to do with things people tried to say about Jesus.
@@MrsM74 medically related obesity is extremely rare. The majority of people are obese because of overconsumption which is by definition gluttony. In the last 50 years the population has skyrocketed into obesity. I work at a restaurant that serves extremely fattening food and the vast majority of people don’t eat healthy by choice. They shove fattening food in their faces and comment on how skinny people like me are.
What really truly matters is your spirit and the connection/relationship you build with God. Not necessarily how you look. Everlasting life doesn’t include this physical body or your appearance. Though, I digress, you should treat this body as a temple that houses the power of the Holy Spirit. 🙌🏽
do you have a topic for single woman , like how to actively wait or how to pursue God more in your singlehood? i love this content ❤ new subscriber here 😊
So then it rings even more true that we don't alter our bodies and take on fake personalities and identities. He even said dont mark your body so it all makes sense.
The fact we're all separated by religion. And you only believe what you believe in that single religion. Everyone preaches but don't realize how dumb they look when you're separated as a religion. He wants everybody to come together as a whole and not believe any religion. Just God himself
What’s dumb is to think that we all can be united while in this sinful flesh, God never call us to be all united with the world, our focus should be our local biblical churches.
I feel like there are infinitely more important things to preach to Christian women than appearance. Sociologically speaking, women are groomed their entire lives to care about their appearance. This is nothing new. Everyone should care for their appearance but not to the point of making a whole show of it like this. Nothing I wear will make me more or less feminine. God made me feminine, therefore I am. How that manifests changes for everyone.
I think you both miss the context of the video if you indeed watched it. It really is about balance in our lives as believers. Some focus too heavily on appearance and neglect the inner character, while others don't put any effort or care into how they look (maybe from trauma etc, whatever)...the latter is her target audience here. God does care how we present ourselves and maybe it's not an important video for you, but for someone stuck in depression, caring about appearance can also be a tool to encourage healthy habits. God cares about us as a whole, not in part. Just saying, not every video is for us, and thats ok...maybe its for a sister in Christ struggling.
She is not preaching that appearance makes you more or less feminine. She’s diving into how you decide to appear inextricably links to how you perceive yourself. We have a duty, a role to play as Christians and what we represent as Ambassadors of Christ.
This statement is one of the reasons why other cultures of women are thriving. I have to say as a black woman we have to do better with the “take me as I am” mindset. You need to put in the effort and the work. Appearance is a huge part of it! Especially if God himself is telling you too. I understand this video fully and most women are not putting in effort with their appearance. There are instances where you femininity is stagnant, trust me other people can easily point it out to you.
The word Pride though find a different word....cause PRIDE IS LINKED TO SIN and sinful activity.....PRIDE IS majorly linked to self gratification and pleasing your self...
you are a false teacher-- John the baptist sure wasn't worried if people were into his "look". This is worldliness and you are twisting scripture for your own vanity. If you truly want to follow Christ, take up your cross, do not conform to the world. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
The Bible describes our body as a temple. So, be healthy, take care of yourself, be clean and have good hygiene. Yes, you are a representative of Christ. But plastic surgery, caking your face in makeup and constantly worrying about your looks is a bit over the top.
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Also, yes appearance matters. My mom and I were living in poverty when I was a child but no one at school knew because she made sure my appearance was nice. That situation was temporary so my mom made sure we never looked like what we were going through.
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...like how The Bible says when you're fasting to wash and oil your face, so you don't look like your going through it🤔...
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We have to be careful that we don't focus on the outer appearance more than the heart.
Agreed! It’s all about balance. But if God cares about the heart amongst all then it must not be compromised for the outward things.
The heart is definitely more important
The outside is 100% a reflection of an individuals heart posture and condition- a person visible and outward choice of appearance shows so much about their habits, personality and what is important to them or not
I was literally just saying this while doing my skincare. I find it hard to be consistent and disciplined with self-care routines and my bible - so doing so not out of vanity but to adorn the temple of God is such a good message! Amen!
This video was another confirmation for me. I feel God changing my style and appearance for the better. I am believing in God for my Kingdom husband. I can’t expect to attract the type of Godly man I want by dressing to showcase my body. As God is maturing me, He is also elevating my appearance. He has been telling me to cover my bum in my gym leggings lately. Ladies if you hear God telling you to cover up, listen even if you don’t want to. You never know who is watching you.
Praise God for telling you this and I am so proud of you for listening to God about this. It’s so important on so many levels. One being that as women, if we dress to showcase our bodies, we are doing it to get attention from men. The thing is that a woman dressing that way can also be attracting the attention of men that belong to other women. That can cause those women to feel down, frustrated in their relationship (even if their man is trying not to look!) and therefore feeling disrespected by other women. It can be lonely as a woman to look around and see nothing but women showing off their bodies especially if we are intentionally dressing to not show off. All that to say thank you for obeying The Lord in this. You honor God and other women and sister’s in Christ by making this change.
Yes great job.
I agree, God has been working with me on my appearance also. I actually want to wear more dresses in the summer time and be more covered. I
Good job being obedient
I'm so glad it was a confirmation! I'm also glad you mentioned the point about the gym and leggings... I was thinking about doing a video about how to dress modestly for the gym and still look put together. So God actually used you as a confirmation for me, also. He's so awesome! Thanks, sis 💕
Whenever I see an extremely beautiful person. That is like 97% natural beauty I can't help but give all the praise and glory to God! That's his creation he created that beautiful person. Now what they choose to do with their good looks it's up to them but yeah it's definitely God. And we praise God for so many things but when it comes to attractive Ness I don't really hear him getting the glory
This is such a great perspective!
This is an healthy way of seeing and understanding and showing that appearance matters. Not just our faith, inner personality and characters but outside appearance matters. I used to hate the idea of self care e.g make up, coloring hair, accessories, fashion and dressing up just because the Bible explicit said
1 samuel 16:7
The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.'”
Proverbs 31:30
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.“
1 Peter 3:3-4
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornments, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
I used to think Godly man will care more of our inner beauty and character as God see and look. So I don’t pay attention much to how i dress, how i take care of my body and face and outward appearance because for me back then it feels and looks like wordly superficial thing. Like true christian wouldn’t care that.
Also it came from a rejection that guys like prettier girls and i don’t see myself more pretty or capable (at make up and fashion) than them.
But i realize i actually feels happy just taking care of myself, seeing beauty in God’s eyes and guidance and i like to dress up (not so much makeup more skincare) more and just find out my seasonal color. I also enjoy doing manicure, styling my hair or choose hair color. Now my motivation is not to gain people attention or because the world sees it. But it is because i want to respect God and myself and be a good representative for Him.
You explained this so beautifully 💕 thank you!
The Lords been speaking to me about my image. Thanks for posting about this
I feel like this resonates with me. I’m 16 years old & I never put effort into my appearance. I always wear my bonnet and a large hoodie to school. People are always judging me for that.
Wow, thank you for sharing that and for watching, sis. 💗 I'm glad that the Lord led you to this video and I encourage you to pray on this topic - specifically asking the Lord to help you to build confidence from the inside out so you can show up in the world and SHINE YOUR LIGHT! Consider reading Matthew 5:14 - 16 every morning as you are getting ready for school. We will stand in agreement with you 💃✨
@@sabineforever Hi, thank you so much for the recommendation . I tend to struggle with my self esteem and I pray to the Lord about it that & try to say biblical affirmations whenever I can.
@Bluebubblesxx Thanks for the feedback
I will pray that whatever reason you are wearing that bonnet to hide who knows what, that the Lord bless you with supernatural confidence simply because you are His child! I’ve suffered so much insecurity in my life, and a lot of it was in my earlier years around your age. But I’ll tell you, this too shall pass my little sis. I love you and can’t wait for your confidence to shine!
YOU are fearfully and wonderfully made!♥️
Ahhh man. This definitely hit my heart strings. I’ve noticed how I let myself go ever since Covid and how it’s been affecting my confidence and energy. I’m accepting this, thank you 🙌🏾
After a lot of trauma between 2020 and 2023; including rapidly losing my mom to dementia, stage 4 breast cancer and a new marriage with a husband that was not one bit emotionally supportive in any way all before the age of 40..God brought me through. I am now healed, my husband is changing and I'm no longer grieving like I was. The only thing is that I became a recluse during that time and have completely lost what it means to be a woman and a friend and so many other things. It's like I'm relearning things I should know, but surgery made it hard to feel feminine. So much to work through, but this really helped. Thank you!
I can’t fully articulate at the moment how your message resonates with me. This helped me so much. Thank you! 💕
It blessed me so much to read that 💖 You're welcome, sis.
This is the perfect message for me. As a young woman in my 20s I have a hard time pouring into my self appearance and I don’t understand why. This video brings me step closer to understanding and change.
Thank you for the content! God bless ✨
Sis, I'm so happy to hear that it resonated and is helpful. 💖Please circle back to let me know how the journey is coming along in the future.
Im trying not to do fake anything...i was hooked on fake nails forever, like 32 years of getting them done, I use to not want to go out if one was broken..thats how Insecure/vain I was...but now i just try to take care of the ones i got so they can get strong & hard & to save money just to polish them myself...also the dying of the hair to let my gray hairs come in...my husband thinks fake eyelashes are Hideous or id be trying that too but found hes more happy with the appeal of no fake anything on me. I dont know why people like the fake? Maybe its because deep down it takes money & time to get those things done so it appeals to the human eye...either way im trying to let go of anything fake its been quite the process 😳😉✌️
Thank you for sharing this, sis 💕
Loved this!! The connection of the temple, was one Ive never thought about or heard before!!
I’m so glad you thought so! Thank you 🫶🏽
Loved this video! Because i started off in a career in the fashion industry and always felt bad for liking fashion as much as I did. at some point people woy of could always ask me who you dress up for .... uhhhh myself but now that I have redidcated my life back to God three years ago, I love this outlook on it. but also back in that time, I was dressing crazy and now I do dress differently but also am trying to figure out my perosnal style etc. but dressing in a manner that is honored and worthy of my heavenly father.
Thank you ❤
The Holy Spirit has been ministering to me on this subject...
Yes! I noticed in trying to be more modest that there is a thin line between humility and being unkempt.
What a great revelation! I've never thought of it in that way. Thanks It'll be very helpful ❤
You're welcome! Thanks for watching, sis💓
Thank you for this message. I was never taught how to take care of myself. It's been a very difficult ride that has taken a toll on me in every single way. I often do not feel attractive or worthy. I'm hoping to change this with God's help. Please pray for me. This will not be easy. I've never truly loved myself, so making a 180 will be a long and arduous journey.
Praying for you x
@@clubperez Thank you so much! All the best to you! 💛
May God bring us into a calling for each season of our lives during our walk with him in this world. Maybe be refined to be good representatives. Lets let God lead our tongues every moment.
🙏🏽 amen
Amen
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?"
Doesn’t mean God doesn’t tell us for steward our bodies well, that our body is a temple, and that God has LITERALLY highlighted men’s Handsomeness, even one being “the most handsome” and same for women being “very beautiful. When Ruth was told to make herself beautiful and get ready for Boaz, she put on Mehr & made herself appealing to the eye. Proverbs woman is also spoken about her beauty too. So, idk why you are using this. God tell us to not put our looks in vain & idolizing our looks and looking for self validation from others, when our validation comes from Jesus. There is nothing wrong looking nice and smelling extra nice, nothing wrong with it.
I think it meant "don't be dependent on these things" or "obsessed about them", but not "do not think about it at all and don't take pleasure in them".
Comprehension matters, that verse is in no way teaching your appearance doesn’t matter at all
Should we walk about naked? And stop eating? Or having anything to drink?
@@Odii_inyama i doubt you're ready for that
Yes! I’ve been feeling stressed with school work and I def show it sometimes cuz I have no energy to put into my appearance. But I gotta fix that ASAP! Nobody gotta know I’m stressed 😭
For me, I grew up a tomboy (the traditional kind aka loved sports, climbing fences, video games, etc) and had no sense of fashion nor cared to be seen as a girly girl. I would wear dresses to church as it was expected, but didn't care to dress up otherwise. I also didn't want guys to like me for my looks as I found that shallow. I'd rather someone fall for me for my personality, intelligence etc. I also have really bad hyperpigmentation, so when I got bit up by mosquitoes and had chicken pox as a kid, I didn't care to wear skirts anymore cause I was embarrassed of my cheetah legs. If I wore skirts or dresses to church, I always wore stockings under it. In my early 20s, as a certain community gained more popularity, I felt a little ashamed that men were more feminine than I, so I wanted to try a little harder for God's sake. I didn't want to accidentally be confused or identified as one of them. It can also be embarrassing if you go out like a slob to run errands, no makeup to hide your dark spots, baggy clothes, hair under a hat...and you run into somebody you know. I really hated when photos were taken without prior warning like when a birthday was being celebrated at work. I only had dark clothes so it took a while to add more colour. I also started doing photoshoots since all I had were selfies (I take pics of people and experiences, but people don't take pics of me), and it certainly made me more aware of what clothes works and doesn't work on me. I'd be wearing skinny jeans and a leather jacket, but I have a big chest and a small bum, so it'd make me look really top heavy. Skirts definitely work best for my body shape, and since my scars have mostly healed, I've gotten more comfortable having my legs out without stockings. I work from home, so anytime I have an event, I'll make the effort to put on makeup and wear something nice and girly. Usually my hair is cornrowed for weeks so I can just do a twist out style which is really cute. I'm still a little lazy when it comes to looking nice to run errands, but I feel a little more inspired to try a little harder even for those short outings.
Doing a great job 🎉 Keep up , am also working on the appearance that I neglected for some time and thoughtv am not beautiful and yet it's the temple of the holyspirit..let's take care of our bodies
Doing a great job 🎉 Keep up , am also working on the appearance that I neglected for some time and thoughtv am not beautiful and yet it's the temple of the holyspirit..let's take care of our bodies
Amen! Holy Spirit lives inside of us and because of that we need to house, respect and honor Him properly by taking care of our health, our body in general. This is part of knowing our identity in Christ, knowing who we are in Christ- regal and royal children of the most high God. How we conduct ourselves and overall take care of ourselves matters. You don’t need to have a ton of money, be “worldly”, vain, or have a surplus of resources to be nicely put together. For those that this video and message is offensive to or just doesn’t resonate with you- it’s okay, take it to the Lord. This royal, ambassador of Christ , high standard of self and Holy Spirit type of care and lifestyle isn’t for anyone that doesn’t want it; maybe because they don’t believe it to be true and therefore feel it doesn’t have any impact or significance . It’s for those that fully grasp this message, respect their body , therefore, also, Holy Spirit. Once you know your identity and role here in earth 🌍 as a representative of God - you will think twice if you even need to at all about going out untidy, with a disheveled, overall sloppy appearance. If God doesn’t see an effort in the small and very basics of daily higiene, body health care how can he trust us with the bigger blessings he d like to give us that we would not be well equipped , mature, disciplined to take care of, tend to and grow into and from. Our outer appearance is 100% correlated to what is going on inside of our ❤ and how we feel about ourselves and Holy Spirit inside of us.
I cannot tell you enough how much I needed this video!!! The past couple of years I’ve been battling this topic of appearance and balancing what is appropriate care vs. vanity and it has been a topic that has burdened me deeply. This video brought so much clarification and revelation to me. The Holy Spirit was speaking to me through your video, ma’am! Thank you so so much.
We need to focus on the outward appearance also because the Bible said that man look at the outward appearance. This will either attract others to you are keep them away. We can’t share with them if they don’t get close to us.
This video is so beautiful. Love the way the Lord is using you to uplift women :)
Very interesting that Holy Spirit would allow me to come across this video because the very chapter and verses from Exodus,I am currently reading. I too was blown away with the level of detail that God had given them for the tabernacle.
Wow beautifully explained! Such a powerful message that all believers need to hear. Appearance isn't the most of important thing we should focus on, but if we can improve in this area, why not?
This is AMAZING! I was literally just praying to God about this yesterday while showering. I just do the absolute bare minimum with myself, and I know I can do more. but I just don't see the point. I also was nonverbally taught that taking care of your self is selfish, and self centered. that there are bigger things to worry about, rush rush rush and get out the door. I've even had my own mom track my shower time (normal showers) so it scares me from taking out the proper time fir myself. But thank you so much for obedience to make this video! very encouraging!
Yeah, When Bible talks of Esther, the way she took care of her skin and body, God isn't against us stewarding well what he had already given us. Even Daniel took care of his body,as a man....when even this day it's looked upon as weird. Dan10:2-3
I laughed out loud 😂 23:39 I’m definitely that person. Thanks to your video and conviction from Holy Spirit, I’ll be working on it 😅😊🙏🏽
lol I'm glad it gave you a good laugh and that the video was helpful!
New sub. I needed this video,as I have let myself go,due to depression, and many other traumatic things. TY,God bless.✝️💜🛐
You have such a soothing voice! Thank you for sharing this! Please keep up the great work, God bless you! ❤️
Thank you for that complement and the encouragement, sis 💕
Pray for my wife and our kids salvation an for Jenn an family salvation
We stand in agreement for the salvation of your wife, your kids, as well as Jenn and her family in Jesus name! 🙏
God has recently working on my way of wearing and just appearing modest❤ this video just came at the right time
Absolutely agree with all the points you've shared about thank you Sabine for bringing this topic I think a theme that is not spoken a lot in Christian circles thank you for sharing!!
I know this is a weird question. But the question of dressing "modestly" vs "beautiful". Someone can dress beautiful and elegant but not in the lines of "christian church girl modest". I wish we talk about this. The way we dress.
This is a good question. “Modest” and “Beautiful “ can go together. Being modest doesn’t mean being frumpy. There is no sin in being beautiful. The Proverbs 31 woman (whom everyone praises) put herself together in fine clothing).
@amandaparrish9128 Thank you so much for answering this. God brought me back to this video, and I completely forgot I wrote this. And I am now revamping my wardrobe for beauty and modesty.
I agree with her. Look good and take care of yourself! Helps your relationship big time too.
Great video, great testimony! Thank you!🙏🤝❤️🔥🔥🔥
I love this topic, thank you, I really needed to hear this! 💗
You are so welcome!
Thank you! I feel like I’m in a season now where God is starting to show me beauty is actually important too! And this video beautifully articulates how it’s ok for us in Christ (not in a vain way) and it can be connected to our assignment 😊
This is a must see video that needs to be watched especially in my church. My wife always talks about this as she is and has always been over the 33 years we been married very particular about her appearance and mine as well.
Thanks for this it was confirmation for me. God has been saying take off the grave clothes the people I am sending won’t recognize you in how you have been showing up. I’ve been through a lot and I’ve been looking like it even though God has been healing me. I’m vowing to take care of my temple and reflect the goodness of God. In Jesus name
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. Yes to taking off the grave clothes!🙏💖💃
16:21 so true 🎉
Refreshing, and very beautiful message, and it resonates with me.
Thank you💜🙏🏾🕊
Simply Thank You for driving this topic home 😊
My pleasure 😊
this is such an interesting topic and I agreeeee! our appearance matter!! thank you for making this video, I love your take on it Sabine! just found your channel and am now a new subscriber, hope to see more videos like these sister
I'm so glad you're here! 💖Thank you for that encouragement, sis!
This was a wonderful video. I love how clearly you speak and it really resonated with me. No millennial language, no fluff. Thank you so much.
I was in tears watching this
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Wow, this was very good, God bless you, sis 🙏
I try my best with what I have but I pray I’m able to afford a wardrobe that fits me. wearing the older baggy clothes I have from my accident and then having gained weight , I’ve kept using it because I don’t have much of a choice and some days it doesn’t help me feel good about myself 😢. I try to find newish clothes at thrift stores but haven’t gotten lucky lately or been able to go
And on top of it I’ve started dealing with acne so I don’t wear makeup , trying to see how to get it under control… minimal worries but I’m only human with new experiences 😢
I pray that you find beautiful clothes and that your acne heals. I pray that you shine and radiate wherever you go. In Jesus's name. Amen. 🙏🏻💛
@@kristalreyes712 Hi! If I may encourage you, I'm reminded of Matthew 6:25-34. There are times where I worry about my clothing because I don't wear as many of the outfits I own. I wear a select few that I know are appropriate and won't distract me or others. Sometimes, however, I worry about whether I'll be judged for wearing the same clothes and then I think about these verses. It is not just about my clothing. It is not just about heart. It is both that matter to the Lord.
I encourage you to ask the Lord to work on your heart and that you will follow His prompting in regards to how to look for clothes and how you wear what you already have!
In regards to acne, I am not a doctor but I do know it is affected by many components, so discuss with your doctor! Also, Calendula infused oil is great for scarring. I use it on my face and body to help with that and eczema. It has helped me greatly.
I hope you are encouraged❤
@@ca6248 appreciate you God bless 🤍
@@letitslime1653 yes thank you 🙏🏼 I will look into the verse and pray for deeper healing and insight!
GREAT VIDEO . Enjoyed watching
So glad to hear that. Thanks for watching 🫶🏽
Great practice information, amen 🙏🏾
I agree so much with this. My church is full of overweight and obese black women. It’s really sad actually and I pray for us. For those whose weight is a result of trauma, low self esteem , illness or lack of discipline. I meet girls in the young adults that are only 22 years old and weigh 200+. It is so normal but folks forget that we are a temple. It really does matter. God can work through this. For anyone battling weight issues, trust God for it and work with him on it. With sisterly love.
Being obese is actually a sin. Overindulge in food is the sin known as gluttony. So that is really sad. We have to be good examples and good stewards of what we have here on earth!
Let's not assume everyone that is obese is because they indulged in gluttony. There are a lot of men and women who have underlying medical conditions that can cause obesity but lack proper medical attention. Let us be good examples of maintaining a healthy weight and support our brethren in their weight journey. May God grant us good health and remember those suffering
@@gladyskihara4736 medical conditions that make people obese are rare. The vast majority of people are obese because of how they eat. Especially since less than 50 years ago being obese was rare and now over half of the population is obese…. The truth.
@@MrsM74 being accused of something is very different from being. The Bible states in multiple instances that Jesus was perfect and without sin which is why he is the only acceptable substitute to die on the cross. Observing how obese over half the population has become has nothing to do with things people tried to say about Jesus.
@@MrsM74 medically related obesity is extremely rare. The majority of people are obese because of overconsumption which is by definition gluttony. In the last 50 years the population has skyrocketed into obesity. I work at a restaurant that serves extremely fattening food and the vast majority of people don’t eat healthy by choice. They shove fattening food in their faces and comment on how skinny people like me are.
Thank you for sharing this message. Very enlightening indeed 🙏🏽
Thank you for this video! I really needed to hear this!
💜🌸🌈💎thanks for the vid! So helpful and life changing to my lifestyle
I'm so glad to hear it, sis 💖🙏💃
Amén sister !!💕💕
yes!! that's what I'm talking about
17:18 amen 🙏
Could listen to you all day. Loved this ❤️
As A muslim woman İm sending your love and blessings thank you for this beautiful Content🌹
always try and focus on how i look but not vanity
True and this is why some Christian men and women are single and desire to be married.
What an honor to receive such a compliment 💕 I give the glory back to God for continuously healing me, developing me and teaching me. THANK YOU🙏✨
Very good Sister
Thank you.
You're so welcome, Francesca! 💗
What really truly matters is your spirit and the connection/relationship you build with God. Not necessarily how you look. Everlasting life doesn’t include this physical body or your appearance. Though, I digress, you should treat this body as a temple that houses the power of the Holy Spirit. 🙌🏽
I firmly believe that the relationship you have with God will affect the way you dress and present to the rest of the world.
truly your video i very low i had to leave off my laptop to come watch on my phone so i could move phone to my ears...please fix this situation..
Wow okay ! Heard you sis ❤
lol 😅🤍 thanks for watching, sis
do you have a topic for single woman , like how to actively wait or how to pursue God more in your singlehood?
i love this content ❤ new subscriber here 😊
so insightful.
Enjoyed this lesson! 💗
Loved this
Love this ❤
So then it rings even more true that we don't alter our bodies and take on fake personalities and identities. He even said dont mark your body so it all makes sense.
What to do if we feel shame for this bc i feel ive missed opportunities bc of this and staying in hiding ?
Talk to God about it, forgive yourself, get up, and ask God for new opportunities❤
Thank you 🙏🤍✝️
Yes for me
So glad to hear it!
John the Baptist was too
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We all clicked this video because we know what's up 😹
😂😂😂eshh girl
The fact we're all separated by religion. And you only believe what you believe in that single religion. Everyone preaches but don't realize how dumb they look when you're separated as a religion. He wants everybody to come together as a whole and not believe any religion. Just God himself
What’s dumb is to think that we all can be united while in this sinful flesh, God never call us to be all united with the world, our focus should be our local biblical churches.
I feel like there are infinitely more important things to preach to Christian women than appearance.
Sociologically speaking, women are groomed their entire lives to care about their appearance. This is nothing new. Everyone should care for their appearance but not to the point of making a whole show of it like this.
Nothing I wear will make me more or less feminine. God made me feminine, therefore I am. How that manifests changes for everyone.
I actually sighed at the title . It’s exhausting
I think you both miss the context of the video if you indeed watched it. It really is about balance in our lives as believers. Some focus too heavily on appearance and neglect the inner character, while others don't put any effort or care into how they look (maybe from trauma etc, whatever)...the latter is her target audience here. God does care how we present ourselves and maybe it's not an important video for you, but for someone stuck in depression, caring about appearance can also be a tool to encourage healthy habits. God cares about us as a whole, not in part. Just saying, not every video is for us, and thats ok...maybe its for a sister in Christ struggling.
@@EBM0424thank you.
She is not preaching that appearance makes you more or less feminine. She’s diving into how you decide to appear inextricably links to how you perceive yourself. We have a duty, a role to play as Christians and what we represent as Ambassadors of Christ.
This statement is one of the reasons why other cultures of women are thriving. I have to say as a black woman we have to do better with the “take me as I am” mindset. You need to put in the effort and the work. Appearance is a huge part of it! Especially if God himself is telling you too. I understand this video fully and most women are not putting in effort with their appearance. There are instances where you femininity is stagnant, trust me other people can easily point it out to you.
The word Pride though find a different word....cause PRIDE IS LINKED TO SIN and sinful activity.....PRIDE IS majorly linked to self gratification and pleasing your self...
Who says so?
P R O M O S M
you are a false teacher-- John the baptist sure wasn't worried if people were into his "look". This is worldliness and you are twisting scripture for your own vanity. If you truly want to follow Christ, take up your cross, do not conform to the world.
The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
Likeee you completely missed her point! 😅
If we were so wonderfully made, why do a lot of black woman wear fake hair, nails, eyelashes? And some white woman as well. 😊
The Bible describes our body as a temple. So, be healthy, take care of yourself, be clean and have good hygiene. Yes, you are a representative of Christ. But plastic surgery, caking your face in makeup and constantly worrying about your looks is a bit over the top.
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