Man this hits home. I had to break up after 3 y but am in a expat situation very far from home. Decided to stay and push myself because I wanted to prove to myself that I am capable of more. Happy now because my career is benifiting and saved alot up. I have 3 months left before I head home but its lonely af aye. Im surrounded by people that have no strive and goals in life, they just drink, party and chase lust. I decided to not be part of it but its a very lonely path. Going to church helped me alot but its hard when your by yourself. kinda still need to socialize with these people because I have no other choice, im just human
It used to be mine as well. One of two things will happen either you decide for yourself to change that. Or something will happen to you where you say never again. Good luck brother
@@LifeWisdomTV good be thankful that you know it and that you know it now. Never lose who you are as a person being kind is a good thing. Onwards and Upwards we go.
This needs to be listened to by black folks claiming the system is holding them back. I am a 54 year old black man, nobody is holding you back but yourself. Thanks for this message.
Your are so right brother! Same for a white Eastern European Lady in America. I know that this is hard to believe but it is true for me. Blessings to you!
Literally had to distance myself from my mom, who didn’t raise me and my sister. These individuals feel entitled to the government taking care of them. They think because I have a career they can ask me for money all the time. Nothing is wrong with them yet they refuse to work. My sister spent 3 years living in a hotel turned shelter with her daughter who keeps getting pregnant. They spent everyday chilling. Watching movies , smoking weed and cigarettes all around the kids. No one thought to get a job. They survived off welfare. My sister car broke down . She put it in a shop. It was $800. She couldn’t pay it. She asked me I told her no and to get a job. She yelled at me saying, how am I going to get to a job. I said the bus. She frowned her face up like she was too good to get on public transportation. Low and behold they’re now living in a 3 bedroom house that the government has provided for free. They literally don’t have to pay any rent or bills for 3 years. What are they doing. Throwing lavish parties. Live DJ , mechanical bulls, the works. No one is working still. Once these 3 years are up and I can’t believe there’s no work requirements attached to the housing. I guarantee my sister will be the victim that needs assistance again. When her kids were small they were removed from her custody. She stood up in court and told the judge he was taking her income away. I wanted to melt into the floor I was so embarrassed she said that. She had not a lick of shame on her face, she meant every word. Because I keep my distance and tell them no they call me bougie and stuck up. I’m just grateful God gave me a brain, a conscious , and empathy, he added strong boundaries a little late but they’re here now. No is a complete sentence. They can’t stand me. My mom is literally blocked she didn’t raise me. Never did anything for me or my kids who don’t have a relationship with her. The only time she reaches out to my kids is around her birthday to remind them of it. My last straw with her calling me the day before Christmas to see if I had her a gift. I tried to give her grace because she had a lot of childhood trauma. But this woman who has 6 kids by 6 men and didn’t raise any of us is literally stuck mentally in a selfish child like state. I’ve been through the same trauma she been through because of her. God showed his grace and mercy on my life and this is why I’m still standing. Self sufficient not needing hand outs from anyone.
Associating with people and doing business with people who were not on my level, has truly did a number on my progress over these last few years. Thank you for this wisdom!
“In order to raise your standards you have to raise your production, you have to raise your energy output, and then you can ask that of other people” - Damien McSwine 💎💎💎💪🏾
I love your videos! No red pill anti-women, no men bashing, just straight facts that all can benefit from. Black men and women need to hear this the most. I hope your channel becomes number 1. Thank you.
"Nothing bad can come from your life by performing at a high level consistently". That's it...I'm adding you to my select list of youtube cohorts. We're comrades now, whether you like it or not.😂 Subscribed 🤛🏽
This is 100% true about 5 years ago I was extremely successful business owner the highest earner out of my friend circle. I made the huge mistake of keep them around plus made huge relationship mistakes its completely destroyed everything i worked for now im starting over at 47 still have my business but walked away from everyone. Dont make the same mistake I did it was a hard lesson i unfortunately had to learn now im trying to recover. You even have to watch for toxic family member they can be a parent closes to you that will try to destroy you as a person.
I LOVE your videos soooo much. I listened to your ‘not caring too much’ video over 30 times. I honestly don’t ever even watch or comment TH-cam videos but you are a gem. You speak nothing but facts and deserve way more listeners!!! Love from the UK 🇬🇧
Your videos are firing me up brother!!!!! Been grinding hard the last couple months and I’ve been reaping the fruits of my graft!!!!! Your a unique chosen soul and you speak with solid conviction, thank you and I wish you all the blessings in life man 💙 your by far the best man on TH-cam in this field
I love what you’re doing Cochise! Reading your book ‘Urban Kryptonite’ back in 2018 is what set me on a path to a better lifestyle in health and wellness. I’m glad to see that you’re still making content that will help us all to be better. Thank you.
thanks for the videos i literally binged watched about 90% of them since last monday & still going… you’re inspiring i have gained a lot of wisdom & knowledge in such a short time thanks to you 🙏
Yes! I believe if more of us expected more of ourselves than others, we could Al end up happier and even end up surprising each other, instead of letting down due to not meeting unrealistic expectations.
Just like with the combat/ martial arts, one has to learn or practice / master setting up and enforcing “boundaries” Plus raising one’s standards, putting in the work, producing results takes HARD GRAFT plus WORKING SMART
I have been doing this and its difficult sometimes cause i dont want to hurt peoples feelings that are not as ambitious as me but theyre always asking me to hang out. But i simply cannot hang out with them as often because were not on the same wavelength.
I want to thank you personally. I’ve been watching your videos and it really helped me wake up to the toxic relationship I was in. Thank you for the wise words and gems!
Love this ❤✨💐👑Say it king.my X partner constantly say she just want to be comfortable she didn't want to go where I'm going and that is heartbreaking and sad.I wanted to nothing but greatness for us but I guess I will be riding this wave and Journey Alone 7 and 1/2 years gone down the drain.😢💔
Im a woman and when people (especially women) try to push themselves on me to be my friend, thats a complete turn off for me, I don't like that, when a person pushes themselves on you, thats a red flag and I don't trust them
Sir or Professor…. Whichever you prefer excuse me if I offend no intention to do so but the Fung Shui of your setup is beautiful. I love the glasses as well and the angle of the room, it does really help communicate your message. Much love brother.
No such thing as “universal laws” there is a creator to be respected honored worshipped praised, and there ARE Biblical commands. Jesus Christ cannot be substituted or hijacked. Period
Energetically speaking, atoms have the ability to affect other atoms. Meaning, whoever the dominant energy is of the circle, they will run off on the others
Never let loneliness cause you to surround yourself with bad people.
Correct
Man this hits home. I had to break up after 3 y but am in a expat situation very far from home. Decided to stay and push myself because I wanted to prove to myself that I am capable of more. Happy now because my career is benifiting and saved alot up. I have 3 months left before I head home but its lonely af aye. Im surrounded by people that have no strive and goals in life, they just drink, party and chase lust. I decided to not be part of it but its a very lonely path. Going to church helped me alot but its hard when your by yourself. kinda still need to socialize with these people because I have no other choice, im just human
💯
Facts,, and I be doing this…
Facts….
“Standards protect you & they check others” 💯
Yes indeed.
“People that have something in life, usually lose it to people who don’t have anything” Geesh 🤯🤯🤯
Right?! I had to pause the video and just sit with it…… epiphany
I thought it was just me
Some PROFOUND ish....
My downfall is being too nice and unselective and letting these people into my life
Never give up on being kind in any circumstance. Set up barriers to protect yourself and use kindness as ammunition.
It used to be mine as well. One of two things will happen either you decide for yourself to change that. Or something will happen to you where you say never again. Good luck brother
@@thomasandersen2534 the something has happened!
@@LifeWisdomTV good be thankful that you know it and that you know it now. Never lose who you are as a person being kind is a good thing. Onwards and Upwards we go.
Mine too, let's pray 😭
This needs to be listened to by black folks claiming the system is holding them back. I am a 54 year old black man, nobody is holding you back but yourself. Thanks for this message.
Your are so right brother! Same for a white Eastern European Lady in America. I know that this is hard to believe but it is true for me. Blessings to you!
Agreed
We hold each other back by not supporting one another and clawing us down when we are vibing high.
Literally had to distance myself from my mom, who didn’t raise me and my sister. These individuals feel entitled to the government taking care of them. They think because I have a career they can ask me for money all the time. Nothing is wrong with them yet they refuse to work. My sister spent 3 years living in a hotel turned shelter with her daughter who keeps getting pregnant. They spent everyday chilling. Watching movies , smoking weed and cigarettes all around the kids. No one thought to get a job. They survived off welfare. My sister car broke down . She put it in a shop. It was $800. She couldn’t pay it. She asked me I told her no and to get a job. She yelled at me saying, how am I going to get to a job. I said the bus. She frowned her face up like she was too good to get on public transportation. Low and behold they’re now living in a 3 bedroom house that the government has provided for free. They literally don’t have to pay any rent or bills for 3 years. What are they doing. Throwing lavish parties. Live DJ , mechanical bulls, the works. No one is working still. Once these 3 years are up and I can’t believe there’s no work requirements attached to the housing. I guarantee my sister will be the victim that needs assistance again. When her kids were small they were removed from her custody. She stood up in court and told the judge he was taking her income away. I wanted to melt into the floor I was so embarrassed she said that. She had not a lick of shame on her face, she meant every word. Because I keep my distance and tell them no they call me bougie and stuck up. I’m just grateful God gave me a brain, a conscious , and empathy, he added strong boundaries a little late but they’re here now. No is a complete sentence. They can’t stand me. My mom is literally blocked she didn’t raise me. Never did anything for me or my kids who don’t have a relationship with her. The only time she reaches out to my kids is around her birthday to remind them of it. My last straw with her calling me the day before Christmas to see if I had her a gift. I tried to give her grace because she had a lot of childhood trauma. But this woman who has 6 kids by 6 men and didn’t raise any of us is literally stuck mentally in a selfish child like state. I’ve been through the same trauma she been through because of her. God showed his grace and mercy on my life and this is why I’m still standing. Self sufficient not needing hand outs from anyone.
❤setting boundaries and keep moving forward ❤
Associating with people and doing business with people who were not on my level, has truly did a number on my progress over these last few years.
Thank you for this wisdom!
I cut a deal off when I understood this, family & friends, just had to scale back, no love lost but I’m trying to go somewhere fr
@@miathesag absolutely. Being nice is too expensive.
@@marken2587I’m going to quote you on that. Being nice is expensive.
@@frankjrock absolutely 👏🏾
“In order to raise your standards you have to raise your production, you have to raise your energy output, and then you can ask that of other people” - Damien McSwine 💎💎💎💪🏾
“If you want to receive more you have to require more of YOU, not of others”🤞🏽🦋
I love your videos! No red pill anti-women, no men bashing, just straight facts that all can benefit from. Black men and women need to hear this the most. I hope your channel becomes number 1. Thank you.
This man’s advice is what I’ve been seeking for so long
Glad it can help.
Having high standards, best decision ever. 💯✅️👏🏾
Two videos in one week 🙌🏾 Let’s Goo 🤗
Much appreciated.
@@masteringpsychologynowSame 💪🏾🤞🏾
Keep up the two videos a week boss, the ppl need it. 👏🏾 appreciate you
I just found your channel, very grateful for you brother .
Glad to hear it
"Nothing bad can come from your life by performing at a high level consistently". That's it...I'm adding you to my select list of youtube cohorts. We're comrades now, whether you like it or not.😂 Subscribed 🤛🏽
Gratitude.
@@masteringpsychologynow Thank you for having a good sense of humor.💃🏾
😂😂this comment ❤
My brother!! Keep ‘em coming 💪🏾
Will do!!
This is 100% true about 5 years ago I was extremely successful business owner the highest earner out of my friend circle. I made the huge mistake of keep them around plus made huge relationship mistakes its completely destroyed everything i worked for now im starting over at 47 still have my business but walked away from everyone. Dont make the same mistake I did it was a hard lesson i unfortunately had to learn now im trying to recover. You even have to watch for toxic family member they can be a parent closes to you that will try to destroy you as a person.
I’ve listened to this at least 5 times today .. great breakdown.
You are Absolutely...the best, by far! Thank You Jesus!
15:54 That part.
I had to stop all that humble talk. Like I'm good with what I have because it had me settling for a life I know I didn't want.
I LOVE your videos soooo much. I listened to your ‘not caring too much’ video over 30 times. I honestly don’t ever even watch or comment TH-cam videos but you are a gem. You speak nothing but facts and deserve way more listeners!!! Love from the UK 🇬🇧
I needed this he’s on point thank you I know this but the reaffirmation is elite.
Your videos are firing me up brother!!!!! Been grinding hard the last couple months and I’ve been reaping the fruits of my graft!!!!! Your a unique chosen soul and you speak with solid conviction, thank you and I wish you all the blessings in life man 💙 your by far the best man on TH-cam in this field
Thank you I receive those well wishes. Working day by day to improve and to share with others.
I love what you’re doing Cochise! Reading your book ‘Urban Kryptonite’ back in 2018 is what set me on a path to a better lifestyle in health and wellness. I’m glad to see that you’re still making content that will help us all to be better. Thank you.
I'm just beginning beloved. Thank you for watching and purchasing the book.
This channel is amazing
I Need to Require More of MYSELF. 💯
That's the most important piece.
Excellent! 👌 powerful message
True fam
I'm not getting in anymore relationships im straight like seriously I'm
Retiring🤞🏼
Same WhatsApp group
thanks for the videos i literally binged watched about 90% of them since last monday & still going… you’re inspiring i have gained a lot of wisdom & knowledge in such a short time thanks to you 🙏
Thank you!
I never knew this man had so much wisdom!
Yes! I believe if more of us expected more of ourselves than others, we could Al end up happier and even end up surprising each other, instead of letting down due to not meeting unrealistic expectations.
Needed this I been down the left up of informative level conversation.
Let's keep growing
@@masteringpsychologynow ready
That's you. Very good message
These conversations are gold. No filler
Just like with the combat/ martial arts, one has to learn or practice / master setting up and enforcing “boundaries”
Plus raising one’s standards, putting in the work, producing results takes
HARD GRAFT
plus WORKING SMART
Glad you said energy output / input
I needed this 1 brotha 👉🏾Texas is definitely calling me
Woah everything you said is spot on🎯🎯
Look at things as you’re free and not alone.
I have been doing this and its difficult sometimes cause i dont want to hurt peoples feelings that are not as ambitious as me but theyre always asking me to hang out. But i simply cannot hang out with them as often because were not on the same wavelength.
The way you broke everything down in a way I’ve never heard of it! Thank you!
I want to thank you personally. I’ve been watching your videos and it really helped me wake up to the toxic relationship I was in. Thank you for the wise words and gems!
Most welcome
Thanks for putting this great video out 💯
No problem 👍
"Standards protect you." Agreed
This is great. Thank you
Keep doing your thing big bro 💯👍
Absolutely brother 🔥🙏🏾
💯💯💯💯💯
Much Respect
To whom much is given much is required. Your very inspiring. It's my time and I know it. Thank you for this this message.
My brother always dropping 💎💎💎 Very much appreciate your knowledge, time, and wisdom bro.
I really love this channel. Very stern, yet heartfelt. I almost cried lol
Loveeee this, all your videos are so insightful.
Love this ❤✨💐👑Say it king.my X partner constantly say she just want to be comfortable she didn't want to go where I'm going and that is heartbreaking and sad.I wanted to nothing but greatness for us but I guess I will be riding this wave and Journey Alone 7 and 1/2 years gone down the drain.😢💔
Awesome
Excellent Teaching, my love!
Fire!🔥
Im a woman and when people (especially women) try to push themselves on me to be my friend, thats a complete turn off for me, I don't like that, when a person pushes themselves on you, thats a red flag and I don't trust them
New subscriber, and this is right on time, thank you.
Please do share more about moving / travelling.
Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 (via London)🙏🏾💜💫
will do!
Boundaries is the name of the game and remaining consistent in that is another ball game..
This Blackman is very intelligent and articulate and articulate.
He reminds me alot of Malcom X.
Wow, thorough message🤗
Gratitude 🙏🏿
I needed to hear this today. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Sir or Professor…. Whichever you prefer excuse me if I offend no intention to do so but the Fung Shui of your setup is beautiful. I love the glasses as well and the angle of the room, it does really help communicate your message. Much love brother.
I’m a new subscriber. I want to change my life for the better thanks for sharing your knowledge it really helps 🙏🏾
Thanks for subbing
Omg this is the energy & channel I’ve been looking 👀 for 🙏🏽💪🏽
You on a roll big homie
Salute.
❤❤❤ thank you!!!
Great video
Love it💯
Excellent video.
Thanks for the visit
Know the true value of what you are carrying. Protect your sacred space.
Thank you 🤍
Awesome video I didn’t know about this
Nice video chief, I'm getting mad at myself now
Thank you so much for this video!
"I can only ask of you what I have done myself."
I liked what you said about the compensation law. Maybe you can talk about it in some other video.
Will do. One of my favorite laws.
#222 to like this. Let's go! Really enjoyed your video!
Thanks for watching!
If I don’t raise. My standards I have to SETTLE for the scraps ,,,I’m gonna write that one down
Profound 🤯
I keep waiting for a video on this channel that doesn’t deserve a thumbs up, but I haven’t found it yet.
Love your delivery in the video. 🙏🏾Just subscribed!
Great video!
You're videos are the best, man!
Much love from Sweden💯
Thank you. I spent time in Stockholm a long time ago. Great times.
I needed this
More to come.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Good content !
Wow, just when I thought the first video was powerful, this right here. New subscriber here. Keep the videos coming/👏👏👏👏👏
Thanks bero ❤😂🎉😊
You gained a sub
First viewer
Thanks for watching!
Yo man. Where did you buy that shirt?
This shirt is courtesy of Macy's. The brand is called Alfani
No such thing as “universal laws” there is a creator to be respected honored worshipped praised, and there ARE Biblical commands. Jesus Christ cannot be substituted or hijacked. Period
❤❤❤
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
You will get the same results as the people who you are around, be selective and choose wisely.
Energetically speaking, atoms have the ability to affect other atoms. Meaning, whoever the dominant energy is of the circle, they will run off on the others
Are those a giant pair of spectacles on the ground behind you? 👓
It's on a table next to him 🧐 But I agree that the lense he is using is not giving him justice.
@@tobe-you-tube6612 lmao thanks for elucidating me
Are you on Instagram brother? Enjoy your content a lot, coming up on my feed at the right time.
Yes, i do mostly health info there. It's @wellnessmoguld