I’ve experienced it. I managed to stay silent, to protect myself and our son. I focused on NOT threatening his sense of control, while quietly planning my escape. It worked. Thank you HG, for your invaluable advice.
I only found these videos a week ago after just over a year of separation from my wife. I have been receiving CBT therapy for a couple of months knowing we are not on the right path. After watching the first two HG videos the penny dropped and I was left actually feeling sick at the realization of how stupid and naive I have been.
I had this moment, unfortunately. It did tear my life apart. HGs work helped me to understand, process all of it, and finally stop blaming myself or carrying it like a rock around my neck. Hard won realization of what he was and freedom from him. Thank you, HG, for your most valuable work.
it was series of "full horror moments." Finding out that I had paid to move him and his other woman and that he had a child with her. That our relationship was nothing more future fakery. We were making plans to get married and finding out that, he was already married ( and not the woman he was living with), he told me the woman he was legally married to was his "sister." The horror did cause me to escape, as it was too much for me.
I experienced this but it is just too horrible to tell it - however, what is interesting is that in the story of Bluebeard ( I like Clarissa P. Estes version from her book, “ Women Who Run with the Wolves “), the full horror moment is exactly described when the young bride is told by her husband that he needed to go away for awhile and gave her the keys to all the rooms of the castle that she could use them except for one tiny key. Well, she ended up finding the door for the tiny key and it turned out to be filled with blood and bones from his previous wives. This was the turning point and full horror moment of the story, recognizing the reality and that which prompted her to escape.
Woke up, he was gone, thought he was injured or dead. Nope. I called his friend. He said as with his mother not responding to me. He just wanted a break from the marriage to focus and on his mother. Save money live like a child. Changed everything for me.
Then quite out of the blue l was directed to HGs ❤work on narcissism… l liked ❤️ his voice and the way he presented his work very much …. so l was listening with great enthusiasm…. then like a bolt of lightning ⚡️ l was struck ⚡️ by the full horror moments…. he was revealing to me what was happening in my life… with my then husband… l will never forget the moments that memories are burnt 🔥into my soul never to be forgotten… there started my journey to freedom from the Narcissist Education 👍
Discovered he was paying for online ‘naughty’ chat rooms. Said he left his computer open for me to find it. Still denied it and gaslit me saying he had told me this, then blamed me for not having enough ‘seggs’ with him for being on it.
I remember my mother told me when she was a kid, my grandfather was out one day and she opened his suitcase (since he often left for months at a time whenever he wanted so he carelessly just left it out) and found panties inside. 🙄 I don't THINK she ever told my grandmother about that. But my grandmother loved organizing and tidying up, so she definitely saw some shit anyway at some point even if not on that particular day.
My full horror moment was in the fairy early stage of the relationship when I was put on the highest pedestal and I was taking care of his old father ( 85 y.o.) with very progress dementia, so 24/7 job. My now ex came home in the evening and he was under some influence. His father said something and he erupted in anger, resentment, heated fury and accusations from the past. His father had progressed dementia and I tried to calm the situation myself but it was impossible. I felt fear of him because I thought he could get fyzical, and because I was unable to calm him down, so I stud in front of his father thinking- he can kill me but not him. Then I tried to get his father into bed and away from him but he was confused and unsure. At night I slept next to my ex because there was nowhere else to sleep, and thinking “ who is this man? I feel fear of him “. I should’ve left than but who would take care of his old father ( he was lovely), so I stayed but full horror was ahead of me.
Took me a while after getting away to piece all the betrayal together and see it wasnt in the past if this pattern kept repeating. It takes shocks to get away.
When I discovered my NM and her N sister had operative hand in my father's *now i know it* NOT natural death. they're impune to this day, rolling on the money they stole from him and me.
Ah yes, the penny drop moment. It's not nice and you can't unsee what's seen 😕
Mine was a literal slap in the face.
I just wish I'd seen it earlier
Had this a month ago when the man I'm living with. But it wasn't finding something. It was him literally denying reality and lying right to my face.
I’ve experienced it. I managed to stay silent,
to protect myself and our son.
I focused on NOT threatening his sense of control, while quietly planning my escape.
It worked.
Thank you HG, for your invaluable advice.
I only found these videos a week ago after just over a year of separation from my wife. I have been receiving CBT therapy for a couple of months knowing we are not on the right path. After watching the first two HG videos the penny dropped and I was left actually feeling sick at the realization of how stupid and naive I have been.
Arrange to consult with me and I will move you forward.
I had this moment, unfortunately. It did tear my life apart. HGs work helped me to understand, process all of it, and finally stop blaming myself or carrying it like a rock around my neck. Hard won realization of what he was and freedom from him. Thank you, HG, for your most valuable work.
Horror describes it well. A moment I'll never forget when I changed into someone new and she was 12 hours from out of my house.
it was series of "full horror moments." Finding out that I had paid to move him and his other woman and that he had a child with her. That our relationship was nothing more future fakery. We were making plans to get married and finding out that, he was already married ( and not the woman he was living with), he told me the woman he was legally married to was his "sister." The horror did cause me to escape, as it was too much for me.
I experienced this but it is just too horrible to tell it - however, what is interesting is that in the story of Bluebeard ( I like Clarissa P. Estes version from her book, “ Women Who Run with the Wolves “), the full horror moment is exactly described when the young bride is told by her husband that he needed to go away for awhile and gave her the keys to all the rooms of the castle that she could use them except for one tiny key. Well, she ended up finding the door for the tiny key and it turned out to be filled with blood and bones from his previous wives. This was the turning point and full horror moment of the story, recognizing the reality and that which prompted her to escape.
Woke up, he was gone, thought he was injured or dead. Nope. I called his friend. He said as with his mother not responding to me. He just wanted a break from the marriage to focus and on his mother. Save money live like a child. Changed everything for me.
Then quite out of the blue l was directed to HGs ❤work on narcissism… l liked ❤️ his voice and the way he presented his work very much …. so l was listening with great enthusiasm…. then like a bolt of lightning ⚡️ l was struck ⚡️ by the full horror moments…. he was revealing to me what was happening in my life… with my then husband… l will never forget the moments that memories are burnt 🔥into my soul never to be forgotten… there started my journey to freedom from the Narcissist Education 👍
Oh, yes. Quite astonishing.
Discovered he was paying for online ‘naughty’ chat rooms. Said he left his computer open for me to find it. Still denied it and gaslit me saying he had told me this, then blamed me for not having enough ‘seggs’ with him for being on it.
Thank you HG❤Tudor
I remember my mother told me when she was a kid, my grandfather was out one day and she opened his suitcase (since he often left for months at a time whenever he wanted so he carelessly just left it out) and found panties inside. 🙄
I don't THINK she ever told my grandmother about that. But my grandmother loved organizing and tidying up, so she definitely saw some shit anyway at some point even if not on that particular day.
Yup.
It’s like Jared the subway spokesman was caught with those illegal pictures. The whole nation had the horror moment.
"Nunc te cognovi: quare etsi impensius uror,
multo mi tamen es vilior et levior. Omoteleuto"...
🤯 mind blowing, literally
My full horror moment was in the fairy early stage of the relationship when I was put on the highest pedestal and I was taking care of his old father ( 85 y.o.) with very progress dementia, so 24/7 job. My now ex came home in the evening and he was under some influence. His father said something and he erupted in anger, resentment, heated fury and accusations from the past. His father had progressed dementia and I tried to calm the situation myself but it was impossible. I felt fear of him because I thought he could get fyzical, and because I was unable to calm him down, so I stud in front of his father thinking- he can kill me but not him. Then I tried to get his father into bed and away from him but he was confused and unsure. At night I slept next to my ex because there was nowhere else to sleep, and thinking “ who is this man? I feel fear of him “. I should’ve left than but who would take care of his old father ( he was lovely), so I stayed but full horror was ahead of me.
Took me a while after getting away to piece all the betrayal together and see it wasnt in the past if this pattern kept repeating. It takes shocks to get away.
When I discovered my NM and her N sister had operative hand in my father's *now i know it* NOT natural death.
they're impune to this day, rolling on the money they stole from him and me.
blimey...
@@EnterMerlin way to destroy souls