@@A.life.living this goes DEEP, from not having a healthy male figure, to coming from poverty , to hypergamy ... Im watching a podcast with Louise Perry about the evolution of dating its fascinating
I'm stressed seeing how many ppl are getting the details wrong -- she had kids before the marriage (2 sons). He harmed the children they had together -- 2 daughters, both under the age of 5
@@blissfulxsunshine he’s a sicko either way! And thanks for clarifying I️ only knew she had 2 sons before this incident- I️ have only seen 2 of her videos the single mom one and this one. So they were together for a few years then… smh
She also mentioned towards the end that her existence is a product of grape, meaning her mom was graped. That REALLY explains deep generational trauma. I feel horrible for her and her children. I’m so thankful that she believed her daughter.
This happens more than what we think. At least she believed her daughter and took care of the situation right away. The timing of the marriage, the age gap, the wealth etc, are not red flag. A monster comes in all shapes, status, colours, ages etc. This can happen to anyone.
@@jupiterscorner5423 and some women prefer older men for many reasons. The point being made here is this could have literally been any man. Predators come in all forms, some are even women.
One thing I learned is to to always be cautious of a man who is in a rush in the relation. They are usually trying to trap you before you find out who they really are
So true. Unfortunately I learned this lesson the hard way. My mom said when you first meet someone, you are not meeting that person. You are simply meeting that person’s representative!!!😢
That's exactly why I have always felt uneasy about the love coaches who rush marriage and especially brag about being married after a short time as if it's a badge of honor. Everything is a risk.. but it's why we should be extra cautious
I agree! My last relationship started off this way, and three months later, he was a completely different person. I shut right down. I’ve been through an abusive relationship before and felt the signs of an abusive relationship coming
This whole situation is why i do not believe that a mans “value” is detemined by material things like money and status. The only things that determine a mans value are his character, his morals and the way he treats others.
thats not even why she wanted to be with him. what he gave her in the begining was charming and christian like. the money comes after that if thats what she stated he showd her from the jump. Plus men without money can do these things as well and hide it, typically youd never know half the men like this.
@@TesePal of course men without money can do these things too. Trusting a man in general can be a very dangerous game. But notice how i also didn’t mention charm or christianity as factors that determine a mans value. And i say this as someone who was raised christian, but even men that present themselves as good christian men can be capable of horrible deeds.
Amen. A high value man also has integrity and morals, not to mention self-control. Money doesn’t mean a doggone thing when you basically have this high a price to pay with your own physical and mental health and that of your kids.
She also said that he knew she hated men that would prey on women so he knew all of her trama probably confided in him openly and vulnerable and he used that against her and decided to also make his OWN daughters a product of that trama that is a MIND TWISTED MAN
This is what people aren’t honing in on. HIS OWN DAMN CHILDREN!!!! Then you got women under the video saying she’s exploiting the issue. Like huh??? She took all the necessary steps. If anything she’s making women aware that this is very real and even the father is not to be trusted. I saw a woman’s tiktok about her being graped by her own dad when she was very young and the only reason she found out is because her mom found a vhs tape in a safe the dad had kept locked away and they stumbled across it and watched it. The dad recorded the entire thing!!! The mom immediately reported him and pressed charges. You just never know with these men. It’s so sad.
@ yup and with the new laws and the “MEN” who are placing these laws have done these things! So these men will be able to get away with EVERYTHING plus if a child or woman becomes pregnant by a family member or anyone the child and woman will have to carry to full term we really have be careful out here now.
@reginesarai Truthfully, some of her other content is very questionable. Including a video on how to level up your kids while being very judgmental regarding the appearance of other children. I think people are angry about her promoting these sorts of ideals while dealing with insanity behind closed doors. I think that's why people feel some type of way about this new video. It's hard not to question the mother's judgement but I understand she had her own trauma 😢
@@Unaskitchen yeah… I️ totally forgot that and that makes it even worse! The betrayal… he is evil and I️ can’t even imagine how she feels right now… how could someone be so cruel especially knowing what she went thru
The lady was probably desperate, she top tier when it comes to looks & thought to leverage on that!! The worst thing you can do as a woman is not have your own. I get shocked when the feminine women say "wealthy men don't care whether you're educated, working, have degrees etc, yes they do because if you don't, they got you where they want you" its time to promote education, building businesses, getting degrees etc before looking for a rich man.. Social media isn't real...
as a survivor of a desperate mother whose new husband violated me three days after we moved into his home, at least she sought help. I had to endure because my mother was desperate. and dependent. So many of my friends endured the same. Once you become a mother, fugg these men and stop allowing these gremlins around your children.
I’m so sorry. I had hundreds of women tell me they’ve been through the same thing and it would happen on a regular basis whether it was the mom boyfriend or husband whether it was because the mother was a narcissist or just want to drugs from the guy. Sometimes the mom is a narcissist and they feed off of the daughters pain and trauma they want to destroy their kids and then there are those who are just ignorant and blame the kid and then try to compete with them. There are some narcissistic woman Who are so sick in the head they get jealous of their daughter and accuse their daughter of being the one who entice the man…i used to be a personal trainer and I had a large following so I had a lot of customers like thousands over the years when I heard the story so many times. This needs to be talked about!! This happened to me one of my siblings and she didn’t tell anyone she told me not to tell anyone when I was a kid I didn’t know what to do with that information I was heartbroken and I know for a fact if we would’ve told our parents they would’ve blamed us or denied it
@@AmakaliciousThe worst part about this is I think if she wants to press charges the kids might have to testify or be involved and that could be why women are hesitant to do so
The body remembers. The 4 year old might remember everything and the 2 year old her body is going to remember. As adults we have traumas that we don’t where they came from but the body remembers and we react to it. Therapy will help the family.
I feel bad for her kids and her kids only. As an adult, she should've used more discernment. I wouldn't wish it on anyone but accountability needs to happen. I'm sorry.
You asked the correct question at the end: "are the men targeting the women?" Yes. Think. When you see a man not just dating, but *desperately pursuing* and younger woman (and he is older), foreign women (and he is not from their country), single mothers (and he is childless), poor women (and he makes good money), you have to realize, he wants you because he is a predator looking for power, not a provider looking for companionship.
this woman brought her two little boys in a stranger’s home (her husband who has known her for an insanely short period of time). there are videos where she “shuts down” women who don’t agree with her lifestyle and pulls off a petty “i don’t care about what any of you have to say because at the end of the day i’m still rocking my chanel and driving a porche”. she wanted glamour without thinking and kept her two boys around her r4pist. This is unfair and none of yall in the comments are discussing this but defending her, an adult with a brain! now she is a single mom of 5 kids. this is absolutely unfair to her children. also unfair and extremely unsafe for children to have their identities exposed publically by their mother and making a video sharing the whole story before having this animal of her husband LOCKED UP and making SURE her kids are 100% safe and deleting all info and pics about them. She is a part of the problem!
He did this to his own kids tho, so that’s not the problem here for you to blame this woman, even if she was single with no children it could have still happened cause like I mentioned this monster molester his two own daughters !!!
@@nad0862 right! and what makes you think he didn’t molest her boys? because they didn’t say he did? he is a ped0 and a r4pist! and she brought children into it very recklessly. It was a desperate move from her side to try and bring herself AND her minor kids into a stranger’s home without proper amount of time of knowing him. I don’t understand how can you defend these actions, can yall have some respect for innocent children here? This also makes a victim feel even more weak by saying “you had nothing to do about it” which literally perpetuates the victim state of being for that person. This is why Shera always says never tell a man you are a single mom, wait for as long as you can because these men out here be lurking on single moms cause they want their children. She claims she learned everything from Shera…. Going for glitz and glamour before putting your safety first never ends well. I am not judging her as a person, but I am judging her actions. Full of red flags. Every person has a choice and no it doesn’t guarantee success but moving in with some old man you barely even know with your little kids, marrying him impulsively, not removing the children after he r4ped you is not a recipe to success. Meanwhile she was talking crap about those who had to say something about her hypergamy theory. Please! If there were no children involved this would’ve been a completely different case. He doesn’t change - he is a scum of earth. But she also had a choice, and she decided to follow the worst path for some money.
FYI: not all doctors should do SA exams. They probably sent her someplace that specializes in pediatrics. It may have been traumatic to be “turned away,” but not as traumatic as having a physician that doesn’t specialize in pediatrics would have. Also, there are things that are different about the genitals of a prepubescent child than a child or adult following puberty that some physicians may not have the knowledge base to appropriately diagnose.
@@neshia5265 oh thank you for that insight. I’m not familiar with that at all I️ just wish it were easier for victims to get help considering the gravity of the situation but thank you for clarifying that make sense
@@Nooooooooooooooooooooo7913yeah but you also have to think that that's kind of heavy work there's probably lots of doctors who are not interested in doing that because it would be traumatic for them
@@aaiirriiccaaa Are we prioritizing the potential trauma of doctors that signed up to do this work (serving unique populations with unique health challenges) over the trauma of abused children that did not ask to be here?
Agree. I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years. You really need someone specialized in pediatric SA to do an examination. It's very specific and practitioners need to go through qualifications to be able to do this exam. If she went to a hospital that doesn't have a qualified practitioner, she would be redirected to a hospital that does. This is normal protocol.
This is the problem with the "High Value Man/Provider Man" narrative. A person of "HIGH VALUES," is what we should be vetting for. Prayers for her and the children.
Well yeah but most women on social media are out there trying to tell other women to submit to rich men no matter what, thats the huge idiocracy going rampart in todays day and age
People don’t realize that a lot of these women online promoting hypergamy, traditional femininity etc. are doing it as a means to make MONEY. Completely contradicting the ideals that they are spewing. Even they themselves are not relying completely on a rich man to care for them, they are using that extremely lucrative rhetoric to boost their brand and business. I respect that she shared this story, completely shattering this whole idea of this route being ideal for women. It’s nice on the outside being kept and cared for but there is ALWAYS a price.
It's social media, I always remind myself, 'this person set the camera up and sat in front of it to give us gist.' I however feel her truly, being a sa survivor myself,it's not easy hearing someone you are meant to protect tell you something very bad happened to them right under your nose. I hope she gets peace.
A genuinely hypergamous woman isn't going to come on the internet and give advice. It would make her look tacky and possibly affect her partner too. It's not a respectable career to grift people online, especially among those with decent careers (law, medicine, business, etc.) and reputations to uphold.
Never share your vulnerabilities or trauma with a man. Have your own money and date men who aslo have money not to provide you a lifestyle you can't provide yourself, but so you date a man who isnt jealous of your money. Just because a man has money doesn't mean he's a good guy.
My exact sentiments. I am a believer in having my own and I’ll never expect anything from a man that I can’t purchase or an experience I can’t give myself.
Ms Isis never recovered or learnt to trust her discernment due to what happened in her childhood 💔 She never healed. If someone will disrespect you and your body, he will disrespect the people you love and their bodies when the opportunity presents itself. That’s what trauma does to you. I hope she and her beautiful family find healing and justice simultaneously 🧎🏽♀️ what a horror.
@@xoxosisihere people really underestimate spiritual connections when you are unheard. She said she is a product of rape. What happens? She attracts a rapist.
@@LisaLisaCJ It's not that. Women that are abused sexually lose a sense of what's sexually inappropriate and will overlook things that are red flags because they are not sure and question themselves whether that one thing is inappropriate. I really believe that if you're abused sexually, it's best not to have children. The story never changes
I experienced se**** abuse growing up, and it made me extremely vigilant when it came to protecting my children from those types of experiences by teaching them about bad touch, and they could always come to me, and I would believe them. I didn't care if they were male or female (some females do f'd up s*** like that too, I made sure they knew...if you f*** with my kids, it would take the power of Almighty God to keep me off your a**.
@@StellaStella-i1z this is what I meant. It’s a psychological not a spiritual thing. I’d say have children just make sure you have healed and can sus out predators off the jump. Survivors of abuse are usually exceptional at detecting abuse once they have gone through healing and recovery.
The reason you have to go to a specific hospital or designated r*pe clinic is because the medical professionals performing the exam are actually certified in different things- they’re doing a literal forensics exam on your living body. I experienced this a couple of years ago and it made a lot of sense once I was actually in it. They don’t keep that kind of staff at regular hospitals.
Which honestly- the way this country’s hospitals and medical staff are often so rude and have no bedside manner, it’s a lot more helpful to not be in that environment when getting the exam done. The 2 people on staff at the clinic I went to were literal angels who made such a traumatic experience (that exam is no joke) as close to comfortable as they could. My only hope is that the staff at every clinic are like that. Every victim deserves that experience after living through the initial trauma. Idk
As women we need to stop ignoring red flags in these males!! Learn to walk away as soon as you see something isn’t right!! My heart goes out to Isis and her babies but she should have left after he SA’d her the first time!! 💔💔
@@sugarbrown9421 agreed! We always try to over look things and be “nice” but at some point we have to remember we have instincts for a reason… this is a sad situation and a cautionary tale for us all
5:59 I don't think she needs to continue to make content about this traumatic abuse her and her children endured. I think what she already revealed is enough. Anyone with an impressionable mind that was heeding her advice will now see what the dangers are/ red flags are. Her family deserves privacy and needs to heal, especially the children. If she continues to make content to support her family I think it would be beneficial for her to pivot to something other than dating/marriage advice.
I think it might be beneficial to her to do a retrospective with her audience where she reviews her own videos .... but only after she has had some healing. She would also have to tell her audience she duped them. She acted as if she was having the perfect aspirational trophy wife life meanwhile her husband was @ssauoting her & later she found out he did the same to the kids. We always have to take these content creators with a pinch of salt.
@@beewest5704I look at them who like to talk about being a trophy anything is all liars and preying on innocent people trying to dupe them into falling into the same trap. Crazy is how you marry someone so soon . I’ve been asked and I’ve dragged my feet on it just so I can investigate and pull back layers to find out who the person really is underneath it all and in doing so have walked away . I’m like thanos with rings and I’m never gonna jump into a marriage. Demons are real the devil is real and God is real and the best thing one can do is put God at the helm of their lives and ask him to lead you and guide you. And give you discernments.
@ yes that means she repeated patterns that her mother did. So in order to break that cycle her children should one do everything the opposite of what they see her do . Don’t go living in the world expecting Godly behavior. Let God lead them guide them let the lord send them their life partners . Not them picking a husband based on their bank accounts etc… all the things that superficial people do. I pray for healing over those children and over her and may she never fall into the devils trap again .
When she said she was changing her 4 year it made me wonder if the baby had been wetting the bed which is a classic sign of abuse. It seems like she compartmentalized a lot for the sake of that marriage until it right in her face and she couldn't ignore it.
From a spiritual perspective, her story really sounds like a generational curse - witchcraft in the blood line etc. I pray she seeks therapy but also goes to see a trusted pastor… something doesn’t seem right here…
@@A.life.livingmeaning the women in her family generations back were also sexually abused and that spirit/curse has not been broken. It’s being passed down. Whether or not someone actually cursed her bloodline or it’s a repetition of trauma that started from one incident …we don’t know. Unless someone did a reading on her situation. And she definitely does not need a pastor. No pastor can help her. She needs tremendous therapy and spiritual intervention.
@@MissFaevyn oh okay that’s how I️ took it but wasn’t sure and I️ agree bc a lot of pastors are into weird things as well… she needs professional help, love, support, and time to heal and even then she might still be not okay
@@A.life.livinggenerational curses manifest in the form of repetitive habits, behaviours or occurrences. In many cases of SA,you'll find that the parent to the survivor was either a survivor themselves or the perp. From experience,children who grow up in a DV home have a higher chance of either getting into a DV relationship,will be a perpetrator or they'll be SA at some point in their life. We really need God because only He can turn this messed up world into something good. Otherwise, be safe and vigilant.
The marital grapes were giant red flags but perhaps her own past of abuze made it difficult for her to leave, reclaim herself and restore her boundaries. The entire story ie her childhood, the marriage and her children, is just so tragic I wish her well. She should just focus on herself and her children. Build as best a life as she can.
@@PhilaTsavo yeah that is so tragic! You might be right. I’m glad she left atleast once she discovered what she didn’t to her children. I️ hope her and her children will be okay and that she can create a space where other women can learn from her. Also hope he goes under the jail bc he shouldn’t be allowed to get away with something like that
She was about to be homeless it seems like. She had just left her ex who she was living with and needed a place to stay. It seems like she was definitely desperate.
@@lateiro6845 yes I was wondering if he’s been touch them too! my sister did the same thing! met a man online and married within 5 months..had a baby the next year..I pray she know what person she married because he’s a stranger
To her defence I will say she kept on doing those videos because she thought her case and other women's case might not be the same, the man is 20 years older than her. And secondly Marital R4pe occurs in a lot of marriages, a lot of married women know this. And she makes 90k a year on her own so she can manage. I was in shock when I watched it, even if I don't watch her content regularly but male predators can be found within poor, middle-class class and Rich men circles.
@@Noble-light01 yeah predators are everywhere! Nasty weirdos! But that’s your point of view because I️ was shocked to hear her situation and see she was still promoting that life style, not judging but shocked… either way I️ pray for her healing bc this is beyond sad
When people make videos like this, I really wish they would get the facts right. They met on a dating site. They dated for a while, stopped dating, then found each other again & started dating again, then got married. They didn't get married after only two weeks of dating... This is exactly why I don't gossip with people, they don't fact check. I completely agree with you about the hospital... It's a hospital & the first one she went to should have been able to help her.
@@FairyJustHere and I knew there was more to the story. She also said she never heard of this Isis prior to this, she simply saw the video and decided to make a reaction to it.
@reginesarai Girl right. This is why I don't sit & gossip with women because they just say anything for a "juicey storyline" I've been following The New Trophy Wife since her first video so I already knew what was up. Now don't get me wrong, her video she did about meeting her husband did raise some RED FLAGS but she didn't meet him & two weeks later got married...
They still did not know each other for a full consecutive year. It's also telling that it seemed she was under pressure to marry him because she needed a place to stay & he told her she could stay with him but only if they married.
@karatechopster155 you can never know anyone "fully" I know people that have been married for 10+ years that are still finding out things about their spouse they never knew about. I'm just saying, if you're going to report a story like you're a reporter, make sure you do a little digging first... They dated, then stopped dating, she met someone else and became their girlfriend & moved in with him. She said she broke up with him when she realized he was just tolerating her two children at the time. She then reached out to her now husband for a place to stay & he mentioned he can only live with a woman if it's his wife & not girlfriend. Since he brought up marriage first, she initiated buying him a ring. There are A LOT of red flags here this TH-camr could have discussed... But instead she spoke about something that's not true. They didn't get married 2 weeks after dating...
Goes to show that no matter how beautiful, faithful, and respectful you are as a wife, these men will dog you out regardless. I hope law enforcement is involved, because this pervert needs to go to jail. It’s sad, cause now that he’s gone, she’s now a single mom of 5. And as her baby’s father, she’s tied to this pdf for life.
I just saw this rising video today, literally every single comment I read just gets worse and worse, first, when I saw the video I read a comment elaborating that he did that to his own daughters, and then in the video she said that she was raped herself, and then reading a comment here saying the reason she was born was because of rape. God please let this woman find some help and love for her and her babies.
I used to watch her channel and she only had her eldest two she married him. So unfortunately the little ones who were harmed were HIS own children. This is sad and disgusting and I hope she used her platform to teach people no matter male or female what to watch out for in relationships so that they don't experience this as well.
@@danim.2717 thanks for clarifying bc I was trying to figure out how she had the younger 3 kids but she must have been with him for a few years before starting the channel… which is even worse And yeah I hope she does the same with her platform bc these people are evil so hopefully she shares what red flags she missed so we can all learn from her
Her idols were sprinkle sprinkle and Kevin S. Kevin’s last video was about how children of single women can be “ assets “ to high men. He also said that women shouldn’t believe their children if they accuse their men of inappropriate touching/looking. Hopefully she will not fold and go back because she now has a child with him and wants to continue to be a “ trophy wife “.
@@Milagrosblanco684 who said that??? Children are assets? Not to believe them? WTH - that’s crazy!! I mean some of the things Shera says I️ agree with so I️ can’t judge me personally but I️ get what you are saying with that I️ hope she doesn’t go back to him and changes her channel theme And if being a single mom of 2 was hard what will she do as a single mom of 5
He was definitely targeting her. Realistically speaking, what reasonable person lets someone and their kids move in after two weeks? Not only that. But says they must be married first. A man of means at that??? The fact that HE wasn’t at all worried about her being a threat to him in anyways was also a huge red flag.
I been dating this guy for a year and he is older and just a working guy. He took it very very slow with me and did not babysit my son until a year! Men who take relationships slow is much better
@ I agree. Taking it slow is definitely the best course of action. While it still does not mean the guy won’t act up later, it allows you enough time to hone in on any potential red flags before things get too serious, which is for the best.
I’m sorry but this situation wasn’t a system problem. This is the mother’s fault period and she should be shamed for her stupid decisions. She saw all the red flags yet she ignored all of them to live a lavish lifestyle. She put her children in danger and now she wants people to feel bad for her . The only victims here are the children and she’s going to live with this guilt for the rest of her life . Why would she think meeting a man online and marrying him in weeks was a good idea??? She failed her children and sorry for being so harsh but is the truth
While she was targeting him for his money, he was targeting her for her children and whatever he picked up about her that let him know he could do this. Not putting the fault on her at all, but it's likely that opening up about her traumatic past to him made him feel like he had the greenlight to hurt her and their babies. He probably assumed she would look the other way. People are sick and I'm praying for that family. God bless them
Getting married after two weeks when u have kids is crazy. Thats risksy on it own but children deserve bonus parents that have been properly vetted and even then!! Id just stay single not worth it
When a man attempts to violate an adult woman, any pressure for sex, I would assume he’s a predator because every predator isn’t a registered offender!!!
She has an impulse control issue most likely from trauma. She had her first child as a teenager intentionally. Than she married her husband within less than a year of meeting him.
Ladies, if a man ever ever does something to you, that you would not allow to any little child, RUN! Because that’s the first red flag. But when we come from disfunction, these lines are not yet clear. So we are more in danger and left to the wolves until we learn these lessons.
And just to mention, no matter how young you are - if you experience trauma - your mind might not remember but your soul and body does and this is why some people do certain things and they themselves don't know why they always react a certain way it's because of things that happened to them that they cant remember but the soul and body does.
@@Naomi-o1z I’m single too bc WTH.. I’m not prepared to deal with this type of stuff… it’s hard enough to be happy and healthy without dealing with a crazy man
@@A.life.living it is true and you no stress girl 😊👑!in the beginning they lovebomp a woman when they have you they become monsters to break you 🤣When i looking good and happy is the moment i knew that man hate myn beautiful Soul and face 🥴I am oke now
I don't think "Forgotten" is the right word here...the fact is women are just not aware period of the danger and terror that awaits and lurks. And I believe its a whole plethora of men who hate women in this day and age pretty or not.....they just play it off.
As a man maybe I can provide some insight: When a guy knows that you are attracted to his wealth and is buying all these things for you, in a lot of (bad) men's minds they think that you're a product that he bought and paid for and now owns. At that point he no longer sees you as another person but a thing he owns, that's exactly what happened in this case, the man thought he owned her AND her kids and could do whatever he wants to them since he is paying for their lives
The video she made on how they met.... she was tue one who bought the ring first. Ted flags all over her 1st video tbh. Women need to step away from all this level-up/hypergamy stuff for a while, becauae i realise that MOST of the stuff is about women doing all of this FOR A MAN. we still putting men (and their reaources) on pedestals in 2024 😢 Lord help us.
Correct! And a lot of these women (especially the single mothers) are already psychologically and spiritually broken and need to heal because they see these men through the lens of their brokenness and many of them are looking for their father in every man they meet.
I found out in 2019 that my daughters father was SA ing her since a young age she only had confidence to tell me at age 9 years old he threatened her life so she wouldn’t tell anyone.Be very careful even biological fathers do it😢
This man was reportedly the Dad of the girls he allegedly touched. She also has a baby a few months old w him. He may have done something to him/her as well
A lot of comment about him having money. Rich men and poor men do this. The common denominator is MEN! The power associated with money can make the prevalence of abuse worse yes- because all abusers thrive on power. But this is not just money alone. Vet as wisely as you can. In the UK you can request Sarah’s law to check if he has prev related to SA. I would also recommend Clare’s law to check against DV!
You're missing the whole point. She was boasting her marriage and her man on all her platforms giving pieces of advice on things to other women while she herself saw the red flags and if ignored them on multiple occasions while pursuing that trophy wife lifestyle. The fact of the matter is the podcasters and coaches are walking contradictions who are good at marketing theories that they themselves either do not practice or fail to apply to their own selves
He was targeting her. You can tell because of how quickly he proposed and how quickly they got married. I can guarantee you that was his idea. I married my ex husband in 3 months and it was him pushing me along the whole time. I thought I had found someone who knew what he wanted and wasn't afraid of commitment. What I found was a narcissistic man who took me and my daughter through emotional and mental hell until 2 years later when I kicked him out and divorced his ass. Thank God he never laid a hand on me or my child and I didn't end up in prison. Just like in Isis video, he also tricked me into thinking he was my knight in shining armor. They target single moms because they know we are struggling, they know we lack support, they know we're in need of a knight in shining armor and they are willing to pretend to be that for a few😮 months. In her husband's case only 2 weeks. Then you're engaged, or married to them and that's when they reveal their true selves little by little, and it gets worse and worse and worse. They act entitled to your body, your time, and all of your energy. They're jealous of your children and come after them in various ways. They're vampires, leaches, parasites. And the whole time they make sure to let everyone know how much they're doing for you and they always look like Mister perfect by complimenting you in front of others and saying how lucky they are to have you. Meanwhile they're being monsters at home. How awful. When she says he was her biggest nightmare, totally related. I actually called my ex those exact words to his face. I hope that she does come back later to talk about all the red flags so that other women will know what to look out for. This madness needs to stop.
Married People are dangerous, becareful taking advice from them no matter how long they've been together. A lot of relationships were already broken before the wedding, re-read that. Its all about image, even the church, pastors, etc, when they offer marriage counseling or services for couple's becareful and learn to read between the lines. A lot of the stuff thats being "forgiven" are not small or minor situations
Blessings to Everyone! This is normal for women to sacrifice their children for their selfish desires. It almost happened to me until I went to live with my grandmother. These women are so desperate, delusional, and demonic. I pray everyday for babies and children caught up in their parents evil selfish ways. These little angels dont deserve to be treated like that. 😢
@@nurselo_ yeah but I was just saying I️ wish it had the exam too bc I’m sure as a victim that’s traumatizing to muster up the courage to go there only to be turned away and have to do go someone else - I️ just wish the system was more sensitive to victims and made it as easy as possible for them to receive help
You definitely identified the red flags! As someone who works with kids and is required to know the signs, honestly it’s just a cycle unfortunately that repeats itself. It’s a tale as old as time. Her being from generational SA of kids means she is way more likely to fall prey to a predator. It’s so important to go to therapy and identify those issues that could pop up in the future.
The definition of a, “high value man” should be relative to the party doing the defining. However, universally we should all agree that having access to wealth, certainly isn’t a default way of being placed into this category!
@@acb0059 right, wealth is a great addition but it is not an indicator of personality - anyone can be a predator even the rich and especially if they are powerful bc they can get away with it
The red flags were what she was bragging such as him chasing her after he was hot & cold, him doing a dissappearing act and returning then getting a ring right after. The woman seems nice but those were blaring red flags. All successful relationships start with consistent communication from the very start. If you have to play games then there are already problems.
These men know what women to target. These kind of men often seek out single mothers to have access to their children. They also seek out single mothers because, unfortunately, they know they have gone through a lot, and these men will go out of their way to learn all your trauma to use it against you. This is why i dont tell men im dating what other men have done to me because an evil man will hear your traumas and think of what he can get away with on you. I know its sick, but its how they think 😢 thank goodness she took her kids to get evaluated by doctors and thank goodness she had the mind to know not to tell the abuser what she was doing. I agree the boys need to be checked up on too.
Not really, he didn't targeted her per se, she actually said in her own video that she hit him up because her rent was due. She was in a previous relationship and as soon as she ended that relationship she went with this guy asap
I left my daughter father when she was 2 she is almost 11 now and even though I have dated I keep it away from her. I see the person when she’s with her dad and if they don’t like it tough. My priority is keeping her safe and I provide for myself and my daughter. It’s was very naive of her to bring this stranger into her children’s life. Not victim blaming it must be awful for her
Mothers never force your children to hug people especially if they shy away. Not even a child wants to get near a person who touches them. I cringe when I hear moms say, “hug your uncle, cousin, family friend. Don’t t be shy they are family.” Then they get pushed towards the people. It doesn’t mean they all do things to them but children sense more than adults. She will have to talk with each one individually throughout their lives letting them know she never wanted this for them and that she reacted as soon as she learned about it. It’s not her fault because who marries thinking negative of their partner? We must pray for the children and the mother. I am sure she will divorce with a good amount of money but their peace of mind is shattered. God has a special place for those type of men. I grew up knowing what happened to me since I was 5 and until now at 50 never told my mother and father. What has helped was a kids service that I am sure God was speaking directly to me at the age of 8 and since then every time I get that awful feeling like no one wants me , I’m damaged goods and so on. In those moment the service I listened to about no one should ever harm God’s children floods me then I ask God to carry the feeling for me and to give me peace. You will never know until you try asking him to carry your burdens how uplifting it feels.
She was coaching only to become an example of many things you definitely shouldn't do. Social media makes everyone feel like they can speak on things they most of the time don't have the mental and spiritual capacity to, the need to SLAY, to be goals is an issue, the need to make money while doing so is also a thing. The main thing dating coaches never sell is REAL self-confidence and self-suficiency which is something she lacked probably because of what happened to her as a child, so now we have generational trauma with multiple women with the same type history of brutal abuse. Maturing as a person, internally, learning to be at peace with solitude with little you currently have while taking 1 step at the time for better future, and loving yourself is key to manifest good things, especially for us females. Girls, be careful, be mindful. PLEASE
I wonder how long was he abusing the girls for her to not notice and I hope he didn’t get too too far with them. These men need to be locked up with the keys thrown away. Smh
8:10 let’s make women accountable let’s stop pandering each other If we don’t “judge” we will never ever do better as women especially black women until we are being accountable in our part.. the man gRaped her and she married and stayed with him Now everyone is surprised No he had the red flags, he was touching her boys too Trust me I worked Peds ER they bother the little boys more than the little girls Sad truth 🙏🏿😞
Sorry, but I have no sympathy for her, just for her poor daughters. She thought she could finesse her way into a better life, instead of doing the work to build a stable life on her own. She put her own needs ahead of her kids for clout and validation. Shame on her! As single mothers we can't afford to not be diligent when vetting potential partners. She dropped the ball on this one and its sad.
That woman is sick in the head and needs help . Ain’t no way I would ever come on the internet and embarrass my children by exposing what happened to them .Even though those girls are young and they might not remember but thanks to the mom failing them again by exposing what happened to them on social media they will eventually hear about this when they get older
This has nothing to do with dating broke men. It has to do with her lack of discernment and desperation to accept the first deal she was offered-because she was a single mother. Do you think he didn't test her before he made his move? Nothing wrong with securing a BAG. It doesn't mean you cease and desist to use your BRAIN because a man has one.
@@VexVillainess It's about priorities. In a desperate attempt to secure the bag a woman will ignore everything else. The tinder swindler is a perfect example. Greedy women getting conned and used because they are immoral..
I saw the video too! It’s really sad. I also was not expecting her to say that her husband went too far. The same thing that happened to her happened to her children! May the Lord be with her! 😢❤
@@selfishgirlsgofirst definitely not just an issue with wealthy men and that’s so true! I️ brought it up bc the channel was about find a rich man period - I️ was just saying that shouldn’t be your number one thing bc then you can easily miss the other red flags but you are right there are weirdos at every level!
Even without the financial incentive being massive, this is a very normal occurrence because of how impoverished people are, especially single mothers. There are predators who know full and well that the benefit of dual income will get their foot in the door. And as long as they can pretend that they are acceptable to be around children, everything gets swept under the rug. The children don't know how to come forward and talk about it until they're much older. Or worst of all, the children come forward and the mother disregards it because she relies, however little it may be, on the man's income.
She literally has a video talking about how she got married in LESS THAN A YEAR. She was chasing a bag and didn’t vet that man! I’m childfree by choice and even I wouldn’t get into a relationship let alone MARRIAGE in less than a year. Knowing she got babies in the house, that lady is insane, in the video wiping away invisible tears, just pissed me off so bad. She made being a predators wife her entire personality and now look. Plz let this be a lesson. Get your own bag and stop being so desperate for a man!
My thing is she married a man from a dam dating site less in a year not thinking about her children first is a very selfish move in my humble opinion period! Praying for them poor baby girls i hope his ass is locked up for good ladies stop moving so fast with these men you really don't know just sad& heartbreaking on so many levels i bet this is not hisfirst time just disgusting thank you for sharing this im a new sub
They will remember I promise you, especially the four year old, they’ll remember. My abuse started around that age, and in my thirties and I still remember all the details and pain.
This story is so heartbreaking, I pray the Lord heals and delivers her and her children. This has nothing to do with marrying a rich man, people get sexually assaulted in all classes. Sexual abuse is a generational curse that can only be broken by the blood of Jesus through series of prayer & fasting, God save them.
Thank you for making this video!!! I left a long message on her video asking women to get an education, have your own life, spoil yourselves, your kids etc. Don’t wait for a man to do it.
At the end of the day, it’s not a red flag that someone wants to move fast, I know plenty of women who have and been fine. It’s just bad luck on her part. Any woman who is struggling as a single mother with no support would be desperate for help. In comes this charming man offering you everything you need, who seems totally fine. Who isn’t going to take it? Victim blaming needs to stop. These men are absolutely sneaky as hell and they know how to hide these things well. At the end of the day, they know who to target. Even if you have your wits about you and super protective, it can happen to any child in play centres, day care, school etc. I think the root of the issue is vulnerability and needing to be saved and rescued. Us single mothers just need to know that we have to have these talks with our children about physical boundaries. But even then they can still slip under the radar because they are nasty sneaky snakes. Women need to just be their own hero and not depend solely on men but be the man they need themselves. I’m sorry for Trophy wife and her babies❤
I hope she heals. However on a spiritual level everyone should heal and deal with traumatic experiences before inviting anyone else in especially love life. Youre correct it is a horrible situation. The kids should go to therapy. Prays for everyone. ❤
I was sexually assaulted by my step father, when I was four. As time went on, I blocked it out. Then I would get these visions and dreams, little by little of all the horrible things he did. By the time I was 13 I remembered everything. May mom and kids find healing. ❤❤
This is a sensitive topic that this woman shared on her channel concerning her children. Please give her some grace and respect by not coming on your platform to tear her apart when you just said you don’t know the whole story but still just spurring out what you read in the comments. Women, why are we doing this to other women?
It’s a topic that needs to be discussed. I don’t think she tore her apart. She basically repeated some of the story and asked questions. If we don’t discuss it (in a respectful manner) others will not be able to learn. And we need to support each other…it could happen to anyone that is not aware of the dangers.
All these femininity coaches need to make a video on red flags and staying safe in this lifestyle because I was watching Isis when she first posted her video on TH-cam and I’ve been watching Shera on and off for a few years but really started watching her heavily in August and none of the videos that I can recall talks about safety as just a dedicated video on it she talks about it here and there in a few of her videos, but she doesn’t go in depth about it and a lot of women really look up to her because I feel like very few of them ever talk about it especially Shera because she is the main one that Isis credits for getting into this lifestyle hopefully one of these femininity coaches sees Isis video and decides to make a dedicated video about staying safe while being hypergamous
I’m saddened by the comments blaming her for what happened. The only person to blame here is the perpetrator. He would have done that even if she was richer than him, even if they knew each other for years before getting married. Stop blaming the victim. Those men know very well how to deceive and they will do what they will do no matter how smart the woman thinks she is. Don’t act like these things don’t happen in low income homes or to people that did “everything right.”
She is telling her story in hindsight. Not all rape is obvious to the victim. Now that she has been through what she’s gone through she now sees it as 🚩s. Her experience is not even close to being over either. Also, a monster is a monster. Money or not. Her pursuit for hypergamy has absolutely nothing to do with this. You keep saying you’re not shaming her but you keep bringing up what happened to her early on in her marriage. She simply didn’t see that as a 🚩 of a pedo. We need to support and commend her for knowing the difference now. I do agree that single mothers are a target for predators.
You sound tf stupid shut up please this lady is not a good mother and accepts sexual abuse of herself and her children shawty is lost and that’s the end of the story only victim here is the kids
@@Turtle12o992 That's called victim blaming. He shouldn't have violated anyone. Of course women need to be more careful with men, but we need to shift the blame on the actual predator.
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Just because guys have money doesn’t mean they are angels, it means they have power to hurt you.
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@@katiebunny3396 And they do!!! More often than not!! Scary
@@katiebunny3396 that part! And it can happen at any economic level but atleast wealth shouldn’t be the main reason for choosing a mate
@@A.life.living this goes DEEP, from not having a healthy male figure, to coming from poverty , to hypergamy ... Im watching a podcast with Louise Perry about the evolution of dating its fascinating
@@katiebunny3396 yeah and it’s so sad because we all know people who have been impacted by this level of violence and viciousness…
Some men prey on single moms to get to their kids.
They prey on single moms who don't gaf about their kids and put money first
@@MissAmeriNegro that’s so sick… but I’m sure it’s more prevalent than we think…
I'm stressed seeing how many ppl are getting the details wrong -- she had kids before the marriage (2 sons). He harmed the children they had together -- 2 daughters, both under the age of 5
@@blissfulxsunshine he’s a sicko either way! And thanks for clarifying I️ only knew she had 2 sons before this incident- I️ have only seen 2 of her videos the single mom one and this one. So they were together for a few years then… smh
I believe they shared those kids together.. the kids he touched were his kids!
She also mentioned towards the end that her existence is a product of grape, meaning her mom was graped. That REALLY explains deep generational trauma. I feel horrible for her and her children. I’m so thankful that she believed her daughter.
she also mentioned in the video that she was graped 4times by this man in the first few months of their marriage
Exactly!!! This is key
I blame the mom
@@TheAstrofromspaceBlame the actual man that did the crime
@prettyhatemachinexoxo I blame him the most actually
This happens more than what we think. At least she believed her daughter and took care of the situation right away.
The timing of the marriage, the age gap, the wealth etc, are not red flag. A monster comes in all shapes, status, colours, ages etc.
This can happen to anyone.
Many don't share because of shame 😞 but it's how to heal truly expose the wound.
You’re absolutely right!
Its all a red flag....older men target younger women to exploit them
@@jupiterscorner5423 and some women prefer older men for many reasons. The point being made here is this could have literally been any man. Predators come in all forms, some are even women.
@@jupiterscorner5423Yes and Shera teaches that older men have "slowed down" and are more faithful or whatever. It simply isn't true.
One thing I learned is to to always be cautious of a man who is in a rush in the relation. They are usually trying to trap you before you find out who they really are
So true. Unfortunately I learned this lesson the hard way. My mom said when you first meet someone, you are not meeting that person. You are simply meeting that person’s representative!!!😢
That's exactly why I have always felt uneasy about the love coaches who rush marriage and especially brag about being married after a short time as if it's a badge of honor. Everything is a risk.. but it's why we should be extra cautious
@@MuseSunflower Those 'love coaches' clearly have an agenda and it's not one in our interests.
I agree! My last relationship started off this way, and three months later, he was a completely different person. I shut right down. I’ve been through an abusive relationship before and felt the signs of an abusive relationship coming
Moved in, marriage, baby all squeezed into one year. Yep!!!
This whole situation is why i do not believe that a mans “value” is detemined by material things like money and status. The only things that determine a mans value are his character, his morals and the way he treats others.
100% !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thats not even why she wanted to be with him. what he gave her in the begining was charming and christian like. the money comes after that if thats what she stated he showd her from the jump. Plus men without money can do these things as well and hide it, typically youd never know half the men like this.
@@TesePal of course men without money can do these things too. Trusting a man in general can be a very dangerous game. But notice how i also didn’t mention charm or christianity as factors that determine a mans value. And i say this as someone who was raised christian, but even men that present themselves as good christian men can be capable of horrible deeds.
Amen. A high value man also has integrity and morals, not to mention self-control. Money doesn’t mean a doggone thing when you basically have this high a price to pay with your own physical and mental health and that of your kids.
the thing is they are not like common people they can fake like no other
She also said that he knew she hated men that would prey on women so he knew all of her trama probably confided in him openly and vulnerable and he used that against her and decided to also make his OWN daughters a product of that trama that is a MIND TWISTED MAN
This is what people aren’t honing in on. HIS OWN DAMN CHILDREN!!!! Then you got women under the video saying she’s exploiting the issue. Like huh??? She took all the necessary steps. If anything she’s making women aware that this is very real and even the father is not to be trusted. I saw a woman’s tiktok about her being graped by her own dad when she was very young and the only reason she found out is because her mom found a vhs tape in a safe the dad had kept locked away and they stumbled across it and watched it. The dad recorded the entire thing!!! The mom immediately reported him and pressed charges. You just never know with these men. It’s so sad.
@ yup and with the new laws and the “MEN” who are placing these laws have done these things! So these men will be able to get away with EVERYTHING plus if a child or woman becomes pregnant by a family member or anyone the child and woman will have to carry to full term we really have be careful out here now.
Agreed, I also believe he used her past trauma against her. A LOT of males do that. He hated her and wanted to destroy her. SMH.
@reginesarai Truthfully, some of her other content is very questionable. Including a video on how to level up your kids while being very judgmental regarding the appearance of other children.
I think people are angry about her promoting these sorts of ideals while dealing with insanity behind closed doors. I think that's why people feel some type of way about this new video. It's hard not to question the mother's judgement but I understand she had her own trauma 😢
@@Unaskitchen yeah… I️ totally forgot that and that makes it even worse! The betrayal… he is evil and I️ can’t even imagine how she feels right now… how could someone be so cruel especially knowing what she went thru
They may not have the memory, but their bodies NEVER forget. Trust me. I am a survivor.
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I agree.. the body remembers.
The lady was probably desperate, she top tier when it comes to looks & thought to leverage on that!! The worst thing you can do as a woman is not have your own. I get shocked when the feminine women say "wealthy men don't care whether you're educated, working, have degrees etc, yes they do because if you don't, they got you where they want you" its time to promote education, building businesses, getting degrees etc before looking for a rich man.. Social media isn't real...
She's attractive, but not close to top tier, maybe in poor areas or middle class. Not even close to top tier on the coastal areas with money.
Amen
She did have her own before she met him, she was making $90k as a single mother.
Thank you 🤗🤗🤗
Just because people have nice homes nice jobs does not mean they are a nice person.
as a survivor of a desperate mother whose new husband violated me three days after we moved into his home, at least she sought help. I had to endure because my mother was desperate. and dependent. So many of my friends endured the same. Once you become a mother, fugg these men and stop allowing these gremlins around your children.
She put this online too. The children will hear this even if they forget. I didn't know many 4 year old in diapers too.😢
@@LisaLisaCJ sorry that happened to you… my cousin is like that and so was her mom before her…
I’m so sorry. I had hundreds of women tell me they’ve been through the same thing and it would happen on a regular basis whether it was the mom boyfriend or husband whether it was because the mother was a narcissist or just want to drugs from the guy. Sometimes the mom is a narcissist and they feed off of the daughters pain and trauma they want to destroy their kids and then there are those who are just ignorant and blame the kid and then try to compete with them. There are some narcissistic woman Who are so sick in the head they get jealous of their daughter and accuse their daughter of being the one who entice the man…i used to be a personal trainer and I had a large following so I had a lot of customers like thousands over the years when I heard the story so many times. This needs to be talked about!! This happened to me one of my siblings and she didn’t tell anyone she told me not to tell anyone when I was a kid I didn’t know what to do with that information I was heartbroken and I know for a fact if we would’ve told our parents they would’ve blamed us or denied it
@@AmakaliciousThe worst part about this is I think if she wants to press charges the kids might have to testify or be involved and that could be why women are hesitant to do so
My wicked mother was mean and obese and unattractive and I think that was what saved me from having her move in any man.
The body remembers. The 4 year old might remember everything and the 2 year old her body is going to remember. As adults we have traumas that we don’t where they came from but the body remembers and we react to it. Therapy will help the family.
The spirit also remembers. It really takes a toll 💔
How does it remember? I'm asking because I suspect I've been through something cuz I have blurry flashbacks.
Scary. 😢
@@animallover5890 oh man I️ didn’t even consider that… makes me want to cry for them honestly
@@DiamondsRexpensiveThe brain and body store trauma in the emotional and memory centers, such as the amygdala and hippocampus.
this was EXTREMELY disturbing.... Man, I feel so bad for her.
@@Ebizzill agreed! I️ wouldn’t wish that on ANYONE
I feel bad for her kids and her kids only. As an adult, she should've used more discernment. I wouldn't wish it on anyone but accountability needs to happen. I'm sorry.
You asked the correct question at the end: "are the men targeting the women?" Yes. Think. When you see a man not just dating, but *desperately pursuing* and younger woman (and he is older), foreign women (and he is not from their country), single mothers (and he is childless), poor women (and he makes good money), you have to realize, he wants you because he is a predator looking for power, not a provider looking for companionship.
You hit the nail on the head with this comment.
this woman brought her two little boys in a stranger’s home (her husband who has known her for an insanely short period of time). there are videos where she “shuts down” women who don’t agree with her lifestyle and pulls off a petty “i don’t care about what any of you have to say because at the end of the day i’m still rocking my chanel and driving a porche”. she wanted glamour without thinking and kept her two boys around her r4pist. This is unfair and none of yall in the comments are discussing this but defending her, an adult with a brain! now she is a single mom of 5 kids. this is absolutely unfair to her children. also unfair and extremely unsafe for children to have their identities exposed publically by their mother and making a video sharing the whole story before having this animal of her husband LOCKED UP and making SURE her kids are 100% safe and deleting all info and pics about them. She is a part of the problem!
Agreed
He did this to his own kids tho, so that’s not the problem here for you to blame this woman, even if she was single with no children it could have still happened cause like I mentioned this monster molester his two own daughters !!!
@@nad0862 right! and what makes you think he didn’t molest her boys? because they didn’t say he did? he is a ped0 and a r4pist! and she brought children into it very recklessly. It was a desperate move from her side to try and bring herself AND her minor kids into a stranger’s home without proper amount of time of knowing him. I don’t understand how can you defend these actions, can yall have some respect for innocent children here? This also makes a victim feel even more weak by saying “you had nothing to do about it” which literally perpetuates the victim state of being for that person. This is why Shera always says never tell a man you are a single mom, wait for as long as you can because these men out here be lurking on single moms cause they want their children. She claims she learned everything from Shera…. Going for glitz and glamour before putting your safety first never ends well. I am not judging her as a person, but I am judging her actions. Full of red flags. Every person has a choice and no it doesn’t guarantee success but moving in with some old man you barely even know with your little kids, marrying him impulsively, not removing the children after he r4ped you is not a recipe to success. Meanwhile she was talking crap about those who had to say something about her hypergamy theory. Please! If there were no children involved this would’ve been a completely different case. He doesn’t change - he is a scum of earth. But she also had a choice, and she decided to follow the worst path for some money.
Honestly
you're right
FYI: not all doctors should do SA exams. They probably sent her someplace that specializes in pediatrics. It may have been traumatic to be “turned away,” but not as traumatic as having a physician that doesn’t specialize in pediatrics would have. Also, there are things that are different about the genitals of a prepubescent child than a child or adult following puberty that some physicians may not have the knowledge base to appropriately diagnose.
@@neshia5265 oh thank you for that insight. I’m not familiar with that at all I️ just wish it were easier for victims to get help considering the gravity of the situation but thank you for clarifying that make sense
I definitely feel every hospital should have at least one doc that specializes in these things but that’s just me
@@Nooooooooooooooooooooo7913yeah but you also have to think that that's kind of heavy work there's probably lots of doctors who are not interested in doing that because it would be traumatic for them
@@aaiirriiccaaa Are we prioritizing the potential trauma of doctors that signed up to do this work (serving unique populations with unique health challenges) over the trauma of abused children that did not ask to be here?
Agree. I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years. You really need someone specialized in pediatric SA to do an examination. It's very specific and practitioners need to go through qualifications to be able to do this exam. If she went to a hospital that doesn't have a qualified practitioner, she would be redirected to a hospital that does. This is normal protocol.
This is the problem with the "High Value Man/Provider Man" narrative. A person of "HIGH VALUES," is what we should be vetting for. Prayers for her and the children.
yes. there's too much fixating on the superficial and not enough on the depth of a person
Well yeah but most women on social media are out there trying to tell other women to submit to rich men no matter what, thats the huge idiocracy going rampart in todays day and age
People don’t realize that a lot of these women online promoting hypergamy, traditional femininity etc. are doing it as a means to make MONEY. Completely contradicting the ideals that they are spewing. Even they themselves are not relying completely on a rich man to care for them, they are using that extremely lucrative rhetoric to boost their brand and business. I respect that she shared this story, completely shattering this whole idea of this route being ideal for women. It’s nice on the outside being kept and cared for but there is ALWAYS a price.
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The realest comment I have read on this topic.like 💯
Yes its mostly a scam. They tell women how to be SAHMs while they are literally at their business as content creators.
It's social media, I always remind myself, 'this person set the camera up and sat in front of it to give us gist.' I however feel her truly, being a sa survivor myself,it's not easy hearing someone you are meant to protect tell you something very bad happened to them right under your nose. I hope she gets peace.
A genuinely hypergamous woman isn't going to come on the internet and give advice. It would make her look tacky and possibly affect her partner too. It's not a respectable career to grift people online, especially among those with decent careers (law, medicine, business, etc.) and reputations to uphold.
Never share your vulnerabilities or trauma with a man. Have your own money and date men who aslo have money not to provide you a lifestyle you can't provide yourself, but so you date a man who isnt jealous of your money. Just because a man has money doesn't mean he's a good guy.
Completely agree
My exact sentiments. I am a believer in having my own and I’ll never expect anything from a man that I can’t purchase or an experience I can’t give myself.
Ms Isis never recovered or learnt to trust her discernment due to what happened in her childhood 💔 She never healed.
If someone will disrespect you and your body, he will disrespect the people you love and their bodies when the opportunity presents itself. That’s what trauma does to you. I hope she and her beautiful family find healing and justice simultaneously 🧎🏽♀️ what a horror.
@@xoxosisihere people really underestimate spiritual connections when you are unheard. She said she is a product of rape. What happens? She attracts a rapist.
@@LisaLisaCJ It's not that. Women that are abused sexually lose a sense of what's sexually inappropriate and will overlook things that are red flags because they are not sure and question themselves whether that one thing is inappropriate. I really believe that if you're abused sexually, it's best not to have children. The story never changes
@LisaLisaCJ this is so effed and unfair, but appears to be true
I experienced se**** abuse growing up, and it made me extremely vigilant when it came to protecting my children from those types of experiences by teaching them about bad touch, and they could always come to me, and I would believe them. I didn't care if they were male or female (some females do f'd up s*** like that too, I made sure they knew...if you f*** with my kids, it would take the power of Almighty God to keep me off your a**.
@@StellaStella-i1z this is what I meant. It’s a psychological not a spiritual thing. I’d say have children just make sure you have healed and can sus out predators off the jump. Survivors of abuse are usually exceptional at detecting abuse once they have gone through healing and recovery.
The reason you have to go to a specific hospital or designated r*pe clinic is because the medical professionals performing the exam are actually certified in different things- they’re doing a literal forensics exam on your living body. I experienced this a couple of years ago and it made a lot of sense once I was actually in it. They don’t keep that kind of staff at regular hospitals.
Which honestly- the way this country’s hospitals and medical staff are often so rude and have no bedside manner, it’s a lot more helpful to not be in that environment when getting the exam done. The 2 people on staff at the clinic I went to were literal angels who made such a traumatic experience (that exam is no joke) as close to comfortable as they could. My only hope is that the staff at every clinic are like that. Every victim deserves that experience after living through the initial trauma. Idk
The biggest key is never overlook red flag because the man got money
As women we need to stop ignoring red flags in these males!! Learn to walk away as soon as you see something isn’t right!! My heart goes out to Isis and her babies but she should have left after he SA’d her the first time!! 💔💔
@@sugarbrown9421 agreed! We always try to over look things and be “nice” but at some point we have to remember we have instincts for a reason… this is a sad situation and a cautionary tale for us all
So does this mean she has 5 kids total now?????
@@MissFaevyn yep…
He knew he could abuse her & she would stay cause she had nowhere else to go with her kids.
@@beewest5704 that’s why one should never totally depend on anyone, especially a man they’re in a relationship with!
She is a beautiful woman. I pray that she and daughters will experience healing and deliverance.
5:59 I don't think she needs to continue to make content about this traumatic abuse her and her children endured. I think what she already revealed is enough. Anyone with an impressionable mind that was heeding her advice will now see what the dangers are/ red flags are. Her family deserves privacy and needs to heal, especially the children. If she continues to make content to support her family I think it would be beneficial for her to pivot to something other than dating/marriage advice.
She doesn't need to give out advice period esp dating. The only thing I seen she did right was believe her child.
I think it might be beneficial to her to do a retrospective with her audience where she reviews her own videos .... but only after she has had some healing.
She would also have to tell her audience she duped them. She acted as if she was having the perfect aspirational trophy wife life meanwhile her husband was @ssauoting her & later she found out he did the same to the kids.
We always have to take these content creators with a pinch of salt.
@@beewest5704I look at them who like to talk about being a trophy anything is all liars and preying on innocent people trying to dupe them into falling into the same trap. Crazy is how you marry someone so soon . I’ve been asked and I’ve dragged my feet on it just so I can investigate and pull back layers to find out who the person really is underneath it all and in doing so have walked away . I’m like thanos with rings and I’m never gonna jump into a marriage. Demons are real the devil is real and God is real and the best thing one can do is put God at the helm of their lives and ask him to lead you and guide you. And give you discernments.
If you carefully to her story, it happened to her mom, her and now her daughters. It the generational cycle that needs to be broken in Jesus name.
@ yes that means she repeated patterns that her mother did. So in order to break that cycle her children should one do everything the opposite of what they see her do . Don’t go living in the world expecting Godly behavior. Let God lead them guide them let the lord send them their life partners . Not them picking a husband based on their bank accounts etc… all the things that superficial people do. I pray for healing over those children and over her and may she never fall into the devils trap again .
When she said she was changing her 4 year it made me wonder if the baby had been wetting the bed which is a classic sign of abuse. It seems like she compartmentalized a lot for the sake of that marriage until it right in her face and she couldn't ignore it.
I wondered the same thing. Four year olds are usually potty trained.
I assure you…. 2&4 year olds do have the capacity to remember molestation. And sometimes… vividly. That’s a promise.
Im 31 and no kids and i always joke that men prefer single moms over childfree women. Now..: I'm disturbed
From a spiritual perspective, her story really sounds like a generational curse - witchcraft in the blood line etc. I pray she seeks therapy but also goes to see a trusted pastor… something doesn’t seem right here…
@@mrsropaxo pls expand if you can - I️ know of generational curses but didn’t consider they were actually curses
@@A.life.livingmeaning the women in her family generations back were also sexually abused and that spirit/curse has not been broken. It’s being passed down. Whether or not someone actually cursed her bloodline or it’s a repetition of trauma that started from one incident …we don’t know. Unless someone did a reading on her situation. And she definitely does not need a pastor. No pastor can help her. She needs tremendous therapy and spiritual intervention.
@@MissFaevyn oh okay that’s how I️ took it but wasn’t sure and I️ agree bc a lot of pastors are into weird things as well… she needs professional help, love, support, and time to heal and even then she might still be not okay
My exact thought...
@@A.life.livinggenerational curses manifest in the form of repetitive habits, behaviours or occurrences. In many cases of SA,you'll find that the parent to the survivor was either a survivor themselves or the perp.
From experience,children who grow up in a DV home have a higher chance of either getting into a DV relationship,will be a perpetrator or they'll be SA at some point in their life.
We really need God because only He can turn this messed up world into something good. Otherwise, be safe and vigilant.
The marital grapes were giant red flags but perhaps her own past of abuze made it difficult for her to leave, reclaim herself and restore her boundaries.
The entire story ie her childhood, the marriage and her children, is just so tragic
I wish her well. She should just focus on herself and her children. Build as best a life as she can.
@@PhilaTsavo yeah that is so tragic! You might be right. I’m glad she left atleast once she discovered what she didn’t to her children. I️ hope her and her children will be okay and that she can create a space where other women can learn from her.
Also hope he goes under the jail bc he shouldn’t be allowed to get away with something like that
Did she experience marital grape? Where did she mention that😢 I've been raped by an intimate partner before
@ sorry that happened to you… praying for your healthy. but she didn’t say it she added it as text at like 5min 30sec mark
The kids need to be taken from her and given to the father, she is a horrible decision maker
@@A.life.livingI think she said she had a college degree! I hope she can find a good job and focus on her family
Did she marry him for money? Two weeks!? And you have KIDS!!?? What on earth
she had 2 sons before she got with him. he harmed the children she had with him (2 girls under the age of 5)
@@blissfulxsunshineCORRECT.. and she needs to have her sons checked out too!! She needs to have his nasty behind arrested!
@@lateiro6845that’s automatic once she reports it to the hospital
She was about to be homeless it seems like. She had just left her ex who she was living with and needed a place to stay. It seems like she was definitely desperate.
@@lateiro6845 yes I was wondering if he’s been touch them too! my sister did the same thing! met a man online and married within 5 months..had a baby the next year..I pray she know what person she married because he’s a stranger
To her defence I will say she kept on doing those videos because she thought her case and other women's case might not be the same, the man is 20 years older than her. And secondly Marital R4pe occurs in a lot of marriages, a lot of married women know this. And she makes 90k a year on her own so she can manage. I was in shock when I watched it, even if I don't watch her content regularly but male predators can be found within poor, middle-class class and Rich men circles.
A lady got hiv from her sugar daddy! You can't trust men these days
@@Noble-light01 yeah predators are everywhere! Nasty weirdos! But that’s your point of view because I️ was shocked to hear her situation and see she was still promoting that life style, not judging but shocked… either way I️ pray for her healing bc this is beyond sad
90k with 5 kids might as well be 30k
5 kids is a lot for one woman.
She was lying to her audience. Selling the live of an aspirational trophy wife while it was not the truth.
When people make videos like this, I really wish they would get the facts right. They met on a dating site. They dated for a while, stopped dating, then found each other again & started dating again, then got married. They didn't get married after only two weeks of dating... This is exactly why I don't gossip with people, they don't fact check.
I completely agree with you about the hospital... It's a hospital & the first one she went to should have been able to help her.
@@FairyJustHere and I knew there was more to the story. She also said she never heard of this Isis prior to this, she simply saw the video and decided to make a reaction to it.
@reginesarai Girl right. This is why I don't sit & gossip with women because they just say anything for a "juicey storyline" I've been following The New Trophy Wife since her first video so I already knew what was up. Now don't get me wrong, her video she did about meeting her husband did raise some RED FLAGS but she didn't meet him & two weeks later got married...
The thing is, they were only together for a few weeks before getting married. So in the grand scheme of things, they didn’t know each other fully.
They still did not know each other for a full consecutive year. It's also telling that it seemed she was under pressure to marry him because she needed a place to stay & he told her she could stay with him but only if they married.
@karatechopster155 you can never know anyone "fully" I know people that have been married for 10+ years that are still finding out things about their spouse they never knew about. I'm just saying, if you're going to report a story like you're a reporter, make sure you do a little digging first... They dated, then stopped dating, she met someone else and became their girlfriend & moved in with him. She said she broke up with him when she realized he was just tolerating her two children at the time. She then reached out to her now husband for a place to stay & he mentioned he can only live with a woman if it's his wife & not girlfriend. Since he brought up marriage first, she initiated buying him a ring. There are A LOT of red flags here this TH-camr could have discussed... But instead she spoke about something that's not true. They didn't get married 2 weeks after dating...
That Porche & the Chanel could NEVER be worth that price.
Goes to show that no matter how beautiful, faithful, and respectful you are as a wife, these men will dog you out regardless. I hope law enforcement is involved, because this pervert needs to go to jail. It’s sad, cause now that he’s gone, she’s now a single mom of 5. And as her baby’s father, she’s tied to this pdf for life.
5? Damn
I just saw this rising video today, literally every single comment I read just gets worse and worse, first, when I saw the video I read a comment elaborating that he did that to his own daughters, and then in the video she said that she was raped herself, and then reading a comment here saying the reason she was born was because of rape. God please let this woman find some help and love for her and her babies.
I used to watch her channel and she only had her eldest two she married him. So unfortunately the little ones who were harmed were HIS own children. This is sad and disgusting and I hope she used her platform to teach people no matter male or female what to watch out for in relationships so that they don't experience this as well.
VERY SAD!! I am still shocked that he would do that to his biological two year old and 4 year old daughters.
@@danim.2717 thanks for clarifying bc I was trying to figure out how she had the younger 3 kids but she must have been with him for a few years before starting the channel… which is even worse
And yeah I hope she does the same with her platform bc these people are evil so hopefully she shares what red flags she missed so we can all learn from her
@@stephaniejsmes8991 literally same bc I️ can’t even imagine that… like he and anyone like him need to be under the jail
Yes, lust on children is running rampid in these last days. I pray for her and the children heal in the powerful name of The Messiyah Yeshi/Jesus. 🕊️
Amen
Her idols were sprinkle sprinkle and Kevin S. Kevin’s last video was about how children of single women can be “ assets “ to high men. He also said that women shouldn’t believe their children if they accuse their men of inappropriate touching/looking.
Hopefully she will not fold and go back because she now has a child with him and wants to continue to be a “ trophy wife “.
I blocked shreva and Kevin s. I realized these influences can lead you wrong path
@@Milagrosblanco684 who said that??? Children are assets? Not to believe them? WTH - that’s crazy!!
I mean some of the things Shera says I️ agree with so I️ can’t judge me personally but I️ get what you are saying with that
I️ hope she doesn’t go back to him and changes her channel theme
And if being a single mom of 2 was hard what will she do as a single mom of 5
@@durgalakshmi2793 I️ watch some Shera but don’t really know Kevin S… but seems like he is not saying anything positive
yes, I advise women to not watch shera if they aren’t ready for that gold digging lifestyle. She calls herself a financial advisor.
Kevin Samuels is an asshole. And I don’t think Isis will stay with the man who abused her daughters she had with him.
When she saw the redness, she asked her girl and the girl told her daddy did it.
😢😢😢 so heartbreaking
He was definitely targeting her. Realistically speaking, what reasonable person lets someone and their kids move in after two weeks? Not only that. But says they must be married first. A man of means at that??? The fact that HE wasn’t at all worried about her being a threat to him in anyways was also a huge red flag.
Those were HIS kids that she had with him
@ when she moved in with him she had 2 boys from a previous relationship and those were not HIS kids.
I been dating this guy for a year and he is older and just a working guy. He took it very very slow with me and did not babysit my son until a year! Men who take relationships slow is much better
@ I agree. Taking it slow is definitely the best course of action. While it still does not mean the guy won’t act up later, it allows you enough time to hone in on any potential red flags before things get too serious, which is for the best.
@@durgalakshmi2793How old is your child?
I’m sorry but this situation wasn’t a system problem. This is the mother’s fault period and she should be shamed for her stupid decisions. She saw all the red flags yet she ignored all of them to live a lavish lifestyle. She put her children in danger and now she wants people to feel bad for her . The only victims here are the children and she’s going to live with this guilt for the rest of her life . Why would she think meeting a man online and marrying him in weeks was a good idea??? She failed her children and sorry for being so harsh but is the truth
Someone with reason finally
While she was targeting him for his money, he was targeting her for her children and whatever he picked up about her that let him know he could do this. Not putting the fault on her at all, but it's likely that opening up about her traumatic past to him made him feel like he had the greenlight to hurt her and their babies. He probably assumed she would look the other way. People are sick and I'm praying for that family. God bless them
Getting married after two weeks when u have kids is crazy. Thats risksy on it own but children deserve bonus parents that have been properly vetted and even then!! Id just stay single not worth it
Monsters hide, often not revealing themselves until they have you in a position where you think you cannot leave.
Yes & they are good at picking vulnerable, helpless, gullible ppl & then groom them.
Exactly. They wait until you're vulnerable.
When a man attempts to violate an adult woman, any pressure for sex, I would assume he’s a predator because every predator isn’t a registered offender!!!
She has an impulse control issue most likely from trauma. She had her first child as a teenager intentionally. Than she married her husband within less than a year of meeting him.
Ladies, if a man ever ever does something to you, that you would not allow to any little child, RUN!
Because that’s the first red flag.
But when we come from disfunction, these lines are not yet clear. So we are more in danger and left to the wolves until we learn these lessons.
Wait, she met the guy online? MAJOR RED FLAG 🚩
And just to mention, no matter how young you are - if you experience trauma - your mind might not remember but your soul and body does and this is why some people do certain things and they themselves don't know why they always react a certain way it's because of things that happened to them that they cant remember but the soul and body does.
But Women Forgotten that some men Hate Pretty women!That is why i want to stay single for now 😊
@@Naomi-o1z I’m single too bc WTH.. I’m not prepared to deal with this type of stuff… it’s hard enough to be happy and healthy without dealing with a crazy man
@@A.life.living it is true and you no stress girl 😊👑!in the beginning they lovebomp a woman when they have you they become monsters to break you 🤣When i looking good and happy is the moment i knew that man hate myn beautiful Soul and face 🥴I am oke now
I don't think "Forgotten" is the right word here...the fact is women are just not aware period of the danger and terror that awaits and lurks. And I believe its a whole plethora of men who hate women in this day and age pretty or not.....they just play it off.
As a man maybe I can provide some insight: When a guy knows that you are attracted to his wealth and is buying all these things for you, in a lot of (bad) men's minds they think that you're a product that he bought and paid for and now owns. At that point he no longer sees you as another person but a thing he owns, that's exactly what happened in this case, the man thought he owned her AND her kids and could do whatever he wants to them since he is paying for their lives
thats still objectifying and is a narc trait to see humans as "objects"
@ yeah that’s my point 🤦
Ugh I’m so sickened by these predatory men. We, as women, really cannot give men the benefit of the doubt ever.
@@leyladivine yup and women do this sick stuff too… it’s sad bc you really can’t trust people around your children and I️ hate that
@@A.life.livingVery true. I know quite a few men who were sa'd by women when they were kids.
The video she made on how they met.... she was tue one who bought the ring first. Ted flags all over her 1st video tbh.
Women need to step away from all this level-up/hypergamy stuff for a while, becauae i realise that MOST of the stuff is about women doing all of this FOR A MAN. we still putting men (and their reaources) on pedestals in 2024 😢 Lord help us.
And they do not think of the power imbalances these relationships create. That often leads to abuse.
Correct! And a lot of these women (especially the single mothers) are already psychologically and spiritually broken and need to heal because they see these men through the lens of their brokenness and many of them are looking for their father in every man they meet.
I found out in 2019 that my daughters father was SA ing her since a young age she only had confidence to tell me at age 9 years old he threatened her life so she wouldn’t tell anyone.Be very careful even biological fathers do it😢
So sorry for you and your Baby Girl. I’m so glad she had the courage to tell you the truth.
I'm very sorry for your situation. Unfortunately, SA by a biological parent is more common than people think.
@ it is very traumatising !it should be taught in schools for future generations
This man was reportedly the Dad of the girls he allegedly touched. She also has a baby a few months old w him. He may have done something to him/her as well
@@beautifulone8865 I could never understand he has a beautiful wife why would he want to touch the children very sick in the head !
Even if they don’t mentally remember, their body will keep score. Children so absorbent at that age
A lot of comment about him having money. Rich men and poor men do this. The common denominator is MEN!
The power associated with money can make the prevalence of abuse worse yes- because all abusers thrive on power. But this is not just money alone.
Vet as wisely as you can. In the UK you can request Sarah’s law to check if he has prev related to SA. I would also recommend Clare’s law to check against DV!
You're missing the whole point. She was boasting her marriage and her man on all her platforms giving pieces of advice on things to other women while she herself saw the red flags and if ignored them on multiple occasions while pursuing that trophy wife lifestyle.
The fact of the matter is the podcasters and coaches are walking contradictions who are good at marketing theories that they themselves either do not practice or fail to apply to their own selves
He was targeting her. You can tell because of how quickly he proposed and how quickly they got married. I can guarantee you that was his idea. I married my ex husband in 3 months and it was him pushing me along the whole time. I thought I had found someone who knew what he wanted and wasn't afraid of commitment. What I found was a narcissistic man who took me and my daughter through emotional and mental hell until 2 years later when I kicked him out and divorced his ass. Thank God he never laid a hand on me or my child and I didn't end up in prison. Just like in Isis video, he also tricked me into thinking he was my knight in shining armor. They target single moms because they know we are struggling, they know we lack support, they know we're in need of a knight in shining armor and they are willing to pretend to be that for a few😮 months. In her husband's case only 2 weeks. Then you're engaged, or married to them and that's when they reveal their true selves little by little, and it gets worse and worse and worse. They act entitled to your body, your time, and all of your energy. They're jealous of your children and come after them in various ways. They're vampires, leaches, parasites. And the whole time they make sure to let everyone know how much they're doing for you and they always look like Mister perfect by complimenting you in front of others and saying how lucky they are to have you. Meanwhile they're being monsters at home. How awful. When she says he was her biggest nightmare, totally related. I actually called my ex those exact words to his face. I hope that she does come back later to talk about all the red flags so that other women will know what to look out for. This madness needs to stop.
??? Bro why would you marry someone within months
@thelucariamonarchs4889 ??? the same reason you choose to spend your time trolling. I was stupid at the time.
She ignored those red flags because that man had money. Her goal was getting the bag by any means necessary
Married People are dangerous, becareful taking advice from them no matter how long they've been together. A lot of relationships were already broken before the wedding, re-read that. Its all about image, even the church, pastors, etc, when they offer marriage counseling or services for couple's becareful and learn to read between the lines. A lot of the stuff thats being "forgiven" are not small or minor situations
I’d like to know what she seen that she thought she could “get over”…
Blessings to Everyone! This is normal for women to sacrifice their children for their selfish desires. It almost happened to me until I went to live with my grandmother. These women are so desperate, delusional, and demonic. I pray everyday for babies and children caught up in their parents evil selfish ways. These little angels dont deserve to be treated like that. 😢
@@tresarichardson7062 sorry that happened to you… sending you healing and support
Men do it too
The first hospital she went to turned her down because they did not provide SA examinations
@@nurselo_ yeah but I was just saying I️ wish it had the exam too bc I’m sure as a victim that’s traumatizing to muster up the courage to go there only to be turned away and have to do go someone else - I️ just wish the system was more sensitive to victims and made it as easy as possible for them to receive help
They could have turned her away because she needed to go to a pediatric hospital. They have different trained forensic nurses than adults.
You definitely identified the red flags! As someone who works with kids and is required to know the signs, honestly it’s just a cycle unfortunately that repeats itself. It’s a tale as old as time. Her being from generational SA of kids means she is way more likely to fall prey to a predator. It’s so important to go to therapy and identify those issues that could pop up in the future.
The definition of a, “high value man” should be relative to the party doing the defining. However, universally we should all agree that having access to wealth, certainly isn’t a default way of being placed into this category!
@@acb0059 right, wealth is a great addition but it is not an indicator of personality - anyone can be a predator even the rich and especially if they are powerful bc they can get away with it
The red flags were what she was bragging such as him chasing her after he was hot & cold, him doing a dissappearing act and returning then getting a ring right after.
The woman seems nice but those were blaring red flags.
All successful relationships start with consistent communication from the very start. If you have to play games then there are already problems.
Facts! This is why i don't believe in dating advice that tells people to be unavailable sometimes, be authentic, weed out the losers and time-wasters.
These men know what women to target. These kind of men often seek out single mothers to have access to their children. They also seek out single mothers because, unfortunately, they know they have gone through a lot, and these men will go out of their way to learn all your trauma to use it against you. This is why i dont tell men im dating what other men have done to me because an evil man will hear your traumas and think of what he can get away with on you. I know its sick, but its how they think 😢 thank goodness she took her kids to get evaluated by doctors and thank goodness she had the mind to know not to tell the abuser what she was doing. I agree the boys need to be checked up on too.
Not really, he didn't targeted her per se, she actually said in her own video that she hit him up because her rent was due.
She was in a previous relationship and as soon as she ended that relationship she went with this guy asap
True
The video in its entirety hurt my feelings but when she said just by her going to sleep put her kids at risk cut me deep. 💔💔💔
She told the whole Internet. She made sure they will remember.
I left my daughter father when she was 2 she is almost 11 now and even though I have dated I keep it away from her. I see the person when she’s with her dad and if they don’t like it tough. My priority is keeping her safe and I provide for myself and my daughter. It’s was very naive of her to bring this stranger into her children’s life. Not victim blaming it must be awful for her
I literally commented in the video that she should also get the boys checked. This is so sick and my heart goes out to those babies
Mothers never force your children to hug people especially if they shy away. Not even a child wants to get near a person who touches them. I cringe when I hear moms say, “hug your uncle, cousin, family friend. Don’t t be shy they are family.” Then they get pushed towards the people. It doesn’t mean they all do things to them but children sense more than adults. She will have to talk with each one individually throughout their lives letting them know she never wanted this for them and that she reacted as soon as she learned about it. It’s not her fault because who marries thinking negative of their partner? We must pray for the children and the mother. I am sure she will divorce with a good amount of money but their peace of mind is shattered. God has a special place for those type of men. I grew up knowing what happened to me since I was 5 and until now at 50 never told my mother and father. What has helped was a kids service that I am sure God was speaking directly to me at the age of 8 and since then every time I get that awful feeling like no one wants me , I’m damaged goods and so on. In those moment the service I listened to about no one should ever harm God’s children floods me then I ask God to carry the feeling for me and to give me peace. You will never know until you try asking him to carry your burdens how uplifting it feels.
When she said he did it to her that makes no sense she would marry him.
She was coaching only to become an example of many things you definitely shouldn't do. Social media makes everyone feel like they can speak on things they most of the time don't have the mental and spiritual capacity to, the need to SLAY, to be goals is an issue, the need to make money while doing so is also a thing.
The main thing dating coaches never sell is REAL self-confidence and self-suficiency which is something she lacked probably because of what happened to her as a child, so now we have generational trauma with multiple women with the same type history of brutal abuse.
Maturing as a person, internally, learning to be at peace with solitude with little you currently have while taking 1 step at the time for better future, and loving yourself is key to manifest good things, especially for us females. Girls, be careful, be mindful. PLEASE
I wonder how long was he abusing the girls for her to not notice and I hope he didn’t get too too far with them. These men need to be locked up with the keys thrown away. Smh
@@NickeshaRodgers that’s what I️ was thinking too… no telling… like how sick can you really be to violate your own child
I'm sure his dirty ass started slow. And yeah gross af. I hope he's in jail
8:10 let’s make women accountable let’s stop pandering each other If we don’t “judge” we will never ever do better as women especially black women until we are being accountable in our part.. the man gRaped her and she married and stayed with him Now everyone is surprised No he had the red flags, he was touching her boys too Trust me I worked Peds ER they bother the little boys more than the little girls Sad truth 🙏🏿😞
Sorry, but I have no sympathy for her, just for her poor daughters. She thought she could finesse her way into a better life, instead of doing the work to build a stable life on her own. She put her own needs ahead of her kids for clout and validation. Shame on her! As single mothers we can't afford to not be diligent when vetting potential partners. She dropped the ball on this one and its sad.
That woman is sick in the head and needs help . Ain’t no way I would ever come on the internet and embarrass my children by exposing what happened to them .Even though those girls are young and they might not remember but thanks to the mom failing them again by exposing what happened to them on social media they will eventually hear about this when they get older
Believe me, it’ll be the worst experience they will remember randomly that affects them the rest of their lives.
IT HAPPENS IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. NEVER DATE BROKE LADIES AND DONT LET PPL USE THIS TO CONVINCE YOU TO DATE BROKE 🙄
Yep. It's like Chris Breezy said. I can make a brine broke B rich, but I don't need with broke Bs
This has nothing to do with dating broke men. It has to do with her lack of discernment and desperation to accept the first deal she was offered-because she was a single mother. Do you think he didn't test her before he made his move? Nothing wrong with securing a BAG. It doesn't mean you cease and desist to use your BRAIN because a man has one.
@@VexVillainess It's about priorities. In a desperate attempt to secure the bag a woman will ignore everything else. The tinder swindler is a perfect example. Greedy women getting conned and used because they are immoral..
Women should stop choosing men over their kids … stay single .. we live in a sick world
I saw the video too! It’s really sad. I also was not expecting her to say that her husband went too far. The same thing that happened to her happened to her children! May the Lord be with her! 😢❤
I was reading statistics and children coming from poverty ger SA more. This is not a problem of men with money m This is a problem of all men.
@@selfishgirlsgofirst men in general are all sociopaths! And narcissists
@@selfishgirlsgofirst definitely not just an issue with wealthy men and that’s so true! I️ brought it up bc the channel was about find a rich man period - I️ was just saying that shouldn’t be your number one thing bc then you can easily miss the other red flags but you are right there are weirdos at every level!
@@selfishgirlsgofirst and women do this weirdo stuff too
That’s what happens when you Marry for Money and not Love.
Even without the financial incentive being massive, this is a very normal occurrence because of how impoverished people are, especially single mothers. There are predators who know full and well that the benefit of dual income will get their foot in the door. And as long as they can pretend that they are acceptable to be around children, everything gets swept under the rug. The children don't know how to come forward and talk about it until they're much older. Or worst of all, the children come forward and the mother disregards it because she relies, however little it may be, on the man's income.
Never tell them you’re trauma
I feel sorry for her and those beautiful babies 😢😢
She literally has a video talking about how she got married in LESS THAN A YEAR. She was chasing a bag and didn’t vet that man! I’m childfree by choice and even I wouldn’t get into a relationship let alone MARRIAGE in less than a year. Knowing she got babies in the house, that lady is insane, in the video wiping away invisible tears, just pissed me off so bad. She made being a predators wife her entire personality and now look. Plz let this be a lesson. Get your own bag and stop being so desperate for a man!
My thing is she married a man from a dam dating site less in a year not thinking about her children first is a very selfish move in my humble opinion period! Praying for them poor baby girls i hope his ass is locked up for good ladies stop moving so fast with these men you really don't know just sad& heartbreaking on so many levels i bet this is not hisfirst time just disgusting thank you for sharing this im a new sub
They will remember I promise you, especially the four year old, they’ll remember. My abuse started around that age, and in my thirties and I still remember all the details and pain.
This story is so heartbreaking, I pray the Lord heals and delivers her and her children. This has nothing to do with marrying a rich man, people get sexually assaulted in all classes. Sexual abuse is a generational curse that can only be broken by the blood of Jesus through series of prayer & fasting, God save them.
They need to get into counseling immediately. If not, it will impact them for the rest of their lives
Thank you for making this video!!! I left a long message on her video asking women to get an education, have your own life, spoil yourselves, your kids etc. Don’t wait for a man to do it.
At the end of the day, it’s not a red flag that someone wants to move fast, I know plenty of women who have and been fine. It’s just bad luck on her part. Any woman who is struggling as a single mother with no support would be desperate for help. In comes this charming man offering you everything you need, who seems totally fine. Who isn’t going to take it? Victim blaming needs to stop. These men are absolutely sneaky as hell and they know how to hide these things well. At the end of the day, they know who to target. Even if you have your wits about you and super protective, it can happen to any child in play centres, day care, school etc. I think the root of the issue is vulnerability and needing to be saved and rescued. Us single mothers just need to know that we have to have these talks with our children about physical boundaries. But even then they can still slip under the radar because they are nasty sneaky snakes. Women need to just be their own hero and not depend solely on men but be the man they need themselves. I’m sorry for Trophy wife and her babies❤
I hope she heals. However on a spiritual level everyone should heal and deal with traumatic experiences before inviting anyone else in especially love life. Youre correct it is a horrible situation. The kids should go to therapy. Prays for everyone. ❤
I was sexually assaulted by my step father, when I was four. As time went on, I blocked it out. Then I would get these visions and dreams, little by little of all the horrible things he did. By the time I was 13 I remembered everything. May mom and kids find healing. ❤❤
This is a sensitive topic that this woman shared on her channel concerning her children. Please give her some grace and respect by not coming on your platform to tear her apart when you just said you don’t know the whole story but still just spurring out what you read in the comments. Women, why are we doing this to other women?
It’s a topic that needs to be discussed. I don’t think she tore her apart. She basically repeated some of the story and asked questions. If we don’t discuss it (in a respectful manner) others will not be able to learn. And we need to support each other…it could happen to anyone that is not aware of the dangers.
All these femininity coaches need to make a video on red flags and staying safe in this lifestyle because I was watching Isis when she first posted her video on TH-cam and I’ve been watching Shera on and off for a few years but really started watching her heavily in August and none of the videos that I can recall talks about safety as just a dedicated video on it she talks about it here and there in a few of her videos, but she doesn’t go in depth about it and a lot of women really look up to her because I feel like very few of them ever talk about it especially Shera because she is the main one that Isis credits for getting into this lifestyle hopefully one of these femininity coaches sees Isis video and decides to make a dedicated video about staying safe while being hypergamous
I’m saddened by the comments blaming her for what happened. The only person to blame here is the perpetrator. He would have done that even if she was richer than him, even if they knew each other for years before getting married. Stop blaming the victim. Those men know very well how to deceive and they will do what they will do no matter how smart the woman thinks she is. Don’t act like these things don’t happen in low income homes or to people that did “everything right.”
She is telling her story in hindsight. Not all rape is obvious to the victim. Now that she has been through what she’s gone through she now sees it as 🚩s. Her experience is not even close to being over either. Also, a monster is a monster. Money or not. Her pursuit for hypergamy has absolutely nothing to do with this. You keep saying you’re not shaming her but you keep bringing up what happened to her early on in her marriage. She simply didn’t see that as a 🚩 of a pedo. We need to support and commend her for knowing the difference now. I do agree that single mothers are a target for predators.
You sound tf stupid shut up please this lady is not a good mother and accepts sexual abuse of herself and her children shawty is lost and that’s the end of the story only victim here is the kids
This woman does not get a pass. Her behavior is irresponsible and egregious to move your little girls in with a man you don't know.
And a man that assaulted you first. Not trying to blame the woman here but
She didn't move in the little girls. Those are his biological daughters.
@@TruthTrulyTrushe still moved her baby boys
@@Turtle12o992 That's called victim blaming. He shouldn't have violated anyone. Of course women need to be more careful with men, but we need to shift the blame on the actual predator.
@@TruthTrulyTruthey are not. She met and married him within a year so that is impossible