I am a socially awkward extrovert and my wife is an outgoing introvert. At home, we have conversations just like the one in the video, but if you see us out in public, you would assume we were each the opposite role. In public, she's chatting with folks and inviting them to the table to planning trips to the gym and I sit and listen quietly. Then in the car ride home, I'm talking about what a great time we had and all the news we heard and how I'm looking forward to the next outing; and she's So. Tired. Of. People.
That adds more descriptors to my experience. I'm socially awkward and an introvert but can be outgoing and extroverted sometimes when needed. I'll fight tooth and nail not to have to talk to people but once I do, in a social setting that's safe and fun, it can be nice. It can be hard to be a socially awkward anything though. The saying and doing the wrong thing can seem endless or at least always a looming possibility. 🤔
I get that. People always think I am an extrovert because I can be very conversational but it really exhausts me and I need to have alone time to recover. If I don't get it I will become a very unpleasant person to be around.
Finally, this describes me! My husband is an outgoing extrovert and I am a shy, socially awkward extrovert. We will go out and he is the one talking and then wants to leave. I don’t say much but am in Heaven and don’t want to leave. He always thinks I’m an introvert with him despite me going stir crazy and wanting to get out and go do things with people. My youngest is also an extrovert but less socially awkward. People always think I’m introverted but I get my energy from being around people.
@@tinaperez7393 The few times I used to have friends over, it was always with their dogs. You NEVER have awkward conversations when dogs are the focus!
@@paddlingpuppies excellent point. I forgot about that - it's not alcohol, it's dogs that are the universal social lubricant! 😂. I had a friend who I'd go on walks with walking their dog and everyone with a dog or who likes dogs stopped and talked. And dog parks are super social. 😂
Someone once told me if they won the lottery she'd "travel the world and never speak to anyone again." I laughed. Privacy and an introvert! I could totally relate.
I'm an introvert in an entire family, included extended family, of extraverts. Christmas is a nightmare for me sometimes because the exact same group of people want to meet at every house every day for weeks, and I'm always like "yeah, but we just met yesterday." Now I say, "OK, if you're having 10 parties, I will attend 3". They think I'm weird, and even though I love them, I really only want to go to 1 party. After one party with EVERYONE I'm so exhausted I can barely move, and after 3 I need a week in my room alone just to recover. I've always been told I'm weird, lol, and just accepted that I'm weird. It's nice to know I'm not alone (even though i really love being alone, lol).
I used to feel the same way about Christmas parties. But now, as time goes and there're just fewer people left and so many less parties to go - and that makes me happy.
As an introvert married to an introvert, leaving the house doesn't happen too often. It's WONDERFUL! Although I do sometimes go stir crazy and need to go out, but not interact with anyone.
same i just go on a drive with my dog and park at the beach for a few hours and im happy just siting there with 1 window open a small crack so i can hear the waves
As an introvert I love going out and doing things as long as I can only talk to my family and close friends if I actually have to socialize with other people there is a very short time limit on what's going to happen that day.
This was insanely accurate. I love finding any excuse to stay in and wear my old sweatpants. The most terrifying thing to me is talking to another person on the phone, the horror! 😱
I hate talking to anyone that's not a small number of people that I know and love on the phone. Text me or email me. But for the love of god, don't call me.
The ending when Kim just goes to bed and Penn is very honest about how he's going to interrupt you nonstop after asking you questions is comedy perfection.
I'm an introvert and this is so me as the wife. I'm perfectly fine not seeing anyone or speaking ever, especially in winter. Then it's hibernation time
My husband and son are always amazed by how much I talk to strangers. They are introverts who’d never leave the house if it wasn’t for me. Once they are out, they usually have fun…but hit their limit sooner than me. Thank goodness I have a daughter who takes after me or I’d be outnumbered.
Me too! I am super extroverted. Married an introvert, got an introvert dog, had an introvert son… then got a daughter who will chat up anything with a pulse…thank you Lord!
Their book is the BEST relationship book EVERRRR!!!! That quote "mature people ask for what they want " has been life changing.!!! So simple and yet profound
I am an extrovert and what Penn said about where you get your energy is 100% on point. It's weird and I don't know why it works, but anytime I am around other people my energy level goes way up and my endorphins start flowing. When I'm by myself, I actually suffer a lot more depression and anxiety and my energy level just bottoms out. Even talking to someone on the phone helps my mindset and energy level. I'm an extrovert and my daughter is an ambivert, and a teenager, so being a single mom sometimes sucks, lol. Penn, I'll talk to you anytime, and I'm a good listener, so I'll let you ramble as long as you want, lol. Love both you and Kim and the laughs you've given me for the last 9+ years!
This is absolutely me and my husband. Please don't make me go out and talk to people. I do it all week at work, that's absolutely the last thing I want to do with my free time, it's exhausting. But if you want to, you go babe, have fun!
Me too! except i am single and living with my parents because... well I am me and I do meish things and really shouldn't be left alone to my own devices to long without someone checking up on me to make sure I actually have fully completed those things that seem to come so naturally to everyone else in my family but me. I was probably in a corner, reading books and daydreaming, trying not to be the cause of disruption or problems, or the least amount possible, when there was a gathering with people lining up to receiving those kinds of qualities.
Hahaha! Very funny. Our household is an introvert married to an introvert. Depending on the situation, one introvert is more introverted than the other. People don't understand that we can go days without talking to each other and it's ok!
Yeah, I went 2 weeks at the beginning of my relationship not talking to my partner before we got a routine down and started working as a couple. It led to a big fight, and scheduling time to talk before bed daily. But people laugh when I schedule time to talk to the most important person in my life instead of it just happening.
In general, people thinking they have to talk every day to each other in the house you all live in is strange to me small talk about nothing so you speak to each other is not always required.
As an introvert, who dated an introvert, After growing up in a family of talkers, the first afternoon I spent with my boyfriends family, in 1990, where they all sat in the living room, reading quietly, went from completely weird to completely refreshing. 10 years later, as a young couple, we had to schedule walks outside where we would talk things over, otherwise, we might not know what the other one had scheduled for the week. We still scheduled time to sit down and talk so that it actually happens, and I find myself pushing my introverted daughter to also talk. Luckily, my extroverted son is not weirded out by this, he will just talk to himself, and not be bothered that no one is responding.
My (extrovert) husband and I (an introvert) have had this exact interaction soooo many times. We both had a good laugh while watching this video. Thanks for the funny and fun content 😄 👌
15 yrs of introvert/ extrovert here. The phone thing is perfect 🤣. Susie won't talk on the phone at all and I'll chat up a telemarketer if I need someone to talk to 🤣
Yep. My dude will not make phone calls for any reason other than the necessity of work and immediate family. Or speak to workers in stores. No matter what. That means no directions when we're driving, no asking questions in stores, no asking questions in restaurants... Luckily he's wonderful, or he would prematurely age me :-)
Two introverts here - and together we have become even MORE introverted over the years, I feel. LOL. I always get forced to do the phone calling things (ugh), but he has to talk to any actual people that show up.
Kim is the queen of crazy-eyes expressions 😂🥰 I think I’m an ambivert leaning towards introvert. I do get stir-crazy, but going out for me is more of a solo observe-the-world experience. I prefer to be with a small group of close friends or family 👍
Kim seems so extroverted when she acts, but I love to hear her share about her introvertedness. I get it and it makes me so happy to know that other people think the same way!
My husband and I are both introverts, and it works great for us. I do talk to strangers more than him, but most of the time, we both want to stay home.
Hubby tells folks that I've been preparing for this quarantine my entire life. I'm wearing a t-shirt right now that states, "All you need are dogs and books." I have both, and have been perfectly content with staying home since March 2020, except for vet, dr., dentist, hairdresser & manicurist. WITH MASK. Extrovert hubby does any necessary shopping, including groceries, and does library runs, so he can talk to check out folks and the Library Ladies. We've been together 44 years, so yeah, I think it's working out.
This video totally describes me and my husband. I am autistic and social interactions are very difficult for me. I can handle a couple people, but large crowds / groups get difficult. He acts more like an extrovert than i do, but he has his introvert moments, just like I have my rare extrovert moments.
My son is autistic, and we have taken him to places that we thought he'd love because he loves rides and they were fun when we were his age. Unfortunately we didn't factor in how many more people there are. So crowded everywhere! I wish there was a social anxiety day where they only let in half as many people. (Never gonna happen, money always wins)
@@LeeAnneRMT Ooooooooh boy, do I ever understand your son's social anxiety. A little too well. It even kicks in with people i have known most of my life, my father's entire side of the family (even though i love these people and they are my blood), close family friends i have known my entire life, its just debilitating. The social aspect of it has been one of the worst parts for me. Female autistics mask it better, generally, myself included, but it really is hard. Your son is not alone in this, i am one of his "sisters in arms", so to speak, and he officially has an ally in me.
I'm an introvert married to an ambivert that loves to plan the crap out of everything. I would rarely leave the house without her💙💙💙. Thing is, I don't hate people. I'm just not a planner. I also have a limit I hit sometimes when I'm around people (parties) and then go into power-save mode
I’m an extrovert and my husband is an introvert. I’m a stay at home mom but our kids are in school now so I’m home alone all day. I’m looking for excuses to go somewhere. But we live 40 minutes out of town so I’m wasting a lot of money by just going to places for no reason at all. My husband is a teacher and talks all day comes home and wants some (a lot) of alone time. Hoping to sell our house soon and plans are moving into town. My husband is not so strong introvert that he doesn’t want to go anywhere, after some time with people he needs his alone time which I respect.
I can't tell where I'm falling on this spectrum. I hate leaving my house and loud places, but I will strike up random _short_ conversations with strangers in lines. I feel bad for Penn having to talk to a random bartender, but I appreciate Kim just wants the sweatpants time. Asking for what you want sounds smart!
You're on the introvert end with some amount of social graces. Introverts can get enjoyment out of being around/talking to other people, they just spend energy to do so rather than gaining energy from it.
I stay in my house for a few weeks and be 100 percent fine. My husband is a musician....so he goes out. I can "go out" once every two weeks or so and then I am exhausted of peopling for a while. He handles all the "phone tree" stuff and when we travel, he is the one that talks to strangers to figure our directions and such. I manage the non-talking things like our Amazon orders and grocery deliveries. It works out.
So accurate, it had me laughing out loud 🤣 My 4 year old is an extrovert (me, not so much). It's fascinating to see him light up around people. He will talk to anyone about anything
There are already almost 500 comments on this, so you are unlikely to get to this one. However, I simply have to get this message to you: "Stop spying on us!!" You have us as a couple 100% nailed, from the introvert/extrovert thing to the leaving the chair pulled out from the table. You must have an Alexa hidden somewhere in our house! (Seriously, this is fantastic stuff. Keep up the GREAT work.)
I'm Penn and my Hubby is Kim. Lol. We are just the same. Too funny. Love your stuff guys! Plus your game is so funny the kids love it! They have chosen it the last 3 weeks for Game Night! We literally have over 100 games to choose from and they've chosen Family Face Off the last 3 Game Nights! Thanks for such an awesome game.
Yes yes yes... I'm an introvert and my husband is an extrovert. I have literally clung on to him in some social situations. It's just too much the noise lights and just hum of people moving can be overwhelming
Me and my roommate back in the day for sure! Roommate after 9pm: “let’s doll up and go to the bar and meetup with friends.” My thoughts: “Sure let me get out of my comfy pjs spend an hour to get to ready to step out in the freezing cold to squeeze into noisy crowded space to zone out after a couple drinks and pretend to be listening to anyone that interacts with me while imagining myself back home sitting on my bed in my pjs with a book and a glass of wine.”
My husband is an introvert, and I'm the extrovert. I get excited over thoughts of going out, and he groans inwardly when I suggest it. But I need to talk to people, and he just doesn't. Great video!
I swear this is the exact exchange between my husband and me! His excuse for going to the restaurant to pick up the food is to make sure they get the order right, but then he tells me about who was there, the conversation with the bartender, how much the kitchen staff like him 😂😂 Meanwhile I'm happy to have been home listening to music or reading the whole time.
The idea of just yacking to Penn while he interrupts sounds like a dream come true! (Said the extrovert married to the guy who never wants to leave the house).
Me and my boyfriend of forever are opposites like this. We have learned over the years to let him go to parties and me I get to stay home. It works so much better than if I made myself go and then get him to leave before he would. We are both more happy people. It just took 10 years for us to realize this. Those were ruff years.
When people ask an introvert to come out of their shell, I want to ask the extrovert to please stop talking because they're being a pest just jabbering away and being so loud!! Why can't you just sit there and quietly think! I love to sit and quietly think for hours! I'm an INFJ (with autism and ADHD - also 53 w/ a late in life diagnosis at 49) and my husband is ISTP. He's way more introverted than I am though. I can go three weeks and never leave the house or make a phone call or have any kind of human interaction AT ALL and be very happy with that. BUT, the second I feel trapped in the house I start going squirrely! He will be blissed out if we moved into an old nuclear silo and never even saw the light of day! lol I LOATHE small talk! It drains my energy in 5 minutes or less! But, be thrilled to talk to me about "cool stuff and deep stuff" like vampires and ghost and witches, about gardening, nature animals, forest bathing, ASMR, the different types of wool from different animals, about anything Tolkien, about cooking and baking, you get the idea, and I will talk your ear off for HOURS (once 4 hours went by and I had no idea) and walk away feeling ro refreshed and energized and alive! Do not get me on the phone esp to order food! I have a hard time hearing people on the phone to begin with, and I always feel like I'm inconveniencing them (you can indeed inconvenience a person at the pizza shop when you call to place an order). Go to Pinterest (yes... Pinterest!!!) and search for INFJ or Meyer Briggs and you will be floored at all the amazing stuff there!! (meyer briggs 16 personalities- www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new)
This is my boyfriend and I, but reversed. I’m the extroverted one and he’s the introverted one. It took us a while to feel comfortable saying what we wanted and needed in our relationship because we’re so different. Thankfully 😅 we’ve gotten so much better at it :)
LOL I laughed the whole time because I'm the extrovert. I completely understand Penn. But I do need some alone time to discharge. I also get energy from people interaction. My husband is the introvert 😂
You are such deep thinkers about human nature! Fascinating, right? Hubby and I are both introverts but I was always a very extroverted introvert. Over time, he has become more social, at my urging, and after some therapy for social anxiety, and I have become less social because I “retired” from being the one who always had to carry the conversation and smile, as well as initiate every plan we made. Kids are grown, school days are over, and we find ourselves switching roles now. I am now more like Kim, hubby is becoming a lower level version of Penn. I think that you are both adorable and perfect just the way you are, perfect compliments in marriage. The Beatles had it right, All You Need is Love. 🥰
My husband and I are both social but I actually get my energy from people, like caffeine! Good tip I heard once: being an introvert is not an excuse to be a complete recluse because thats selfish and being an extrovert is not an excuse to cut people off to talk endlessly about yourself. Also selfish. Be who you are but find balance in both.
I'm an extroverted introvert? I'm like Penn. I'll meet a stranger and tell them my whole life story if they're up for it. But then days like today, work was really, really, REALLY intense. I had plans to go get social engagement tonight. But after suddenly and without warning being told that I had to manage 2 teams of 8 people each, with 3 people who started yesterday. And I've never managed a team before and did not ask for any of this. (I was already under paid and there is NO pay raise.) So I was running like a chicken with it's head cut off the whole day. Basically on the phone the whole time coordinating things and i desperately needed quiet time. I logged out at 3:30. It's 11 pm and I'm still feeling physically shaky from stress AFTER doing all the self-care things. Thank you very much for this absolute delight!! Needed it! ❤️ take care you two!
Same here, I'll have texting ANY day over phone calls! I absolutely hate being put on the spot whenever someone calls me and they expect me to come up with replies immediately, whereas when they text me, it gives me a chance to better form a coherent and sensible reply without fear of stumbling my words and sounding like a complete idiot or a nervous wreck. I also never Facetime people for the same reason, I'd say that's even worse than traditional phone calling as you'd have to sit digitally face to face with a stranger *shudder*
Yes, sure, let's talk! I even talk sometimes with complete strangers I found on LinkedIn, who work in the same domain as me. I checked your LinkedIn pages, and it is soooo in sync with this video. Penn as extrovert has his page full of stuff that literally says "talk to me!", while Kim's page is strictly to the point, saying "only contact me for work reasons, or better - contact my husband for that". Great video guys, thank you!❤️
Introvert right here 🙋🏾♀️. Don't leave the house for two weeks? Yup! I'm good with that. As a matter of fact I did not feel the lockdown one pinch! 😊 And I stay alone! 😂
It’s so refreshing that these days we’re encouraged to be ourselves. My generation not so much, very judging and labelling. So much freedom in being able to acknowledge who you are and what you’re comfortable with. Great insight and comedic creativity as usual 😊
That sounds like my two daughters! They love each other and really enjoy each other's company, but my younger will tell you her personality is that of a cat/dragon. LOL She'd rather stay home and read or watch something most of the time, but older sister wants her to experience stuff. ❤️
I'm Kim, my wife is Penn. It used to be fun to be drug out to places with oodles of strangers I hopes of attracting a mate. But now I'd rather stick a rusty fork in my eye than put up with people I don't know! They have changed...they are narcissistic beyond belief or extremely rude and hateful to people. I just want to stay in my shell and avoid the world as it has become. My wife, let's go, I need to socialize! Not easy.
I used to be an extrovert… but as I’ve gotten older I’ve totally become an introvert… After a long day of work and being stressed and then going and getting the kids from school… My mental bank is completely spent
I'm an introverted (siding towards ambi) and my husband is omnivert so sometimes I'm annoyed and sometimes I relate to him..but 2 of our kids are extroverted and it drives me crazy!
I married an Extrovert almost 30 years ago and he is the 'Mayor' of our small town. It is JUST LIKE THIS VIDEO! I love him, and he is happy to go get his socialization with all his friends, and I can stay home and read and he brings me food. IT IS GREAT!
Y'all are so amazing! And always 'keeping it real'. Thank you for that. ❤️ I found "The Holderness Family" during 2020. What a blessing you were then (and still are)! Watching your videos is part of what helped me keep my sanity during that very difficult year. Thank you for sharing yourselves with all of us! Much love to you and your family. God bless you all. ❤️
I'm an extrovert married to an introvert, but we work great. I was raised my one of each. When we got married at age 35, we were very intentional about setting expectations. He is very good at kicking me out of the house when he sees that I need society and I know when to let him sit alone in his office to recharge. Communication is key and also each bending a little. For insurance, I have a weekly group of friends here on Saturday mornings, but I try to give him at least 2 evenings a week of solitude to even it out.
I can so identify with this! My husband is the extrovert. I have to constantly fight with myself in order to do things he wants to do, which ALWAYS entails a LOT of people around. When I have had enough, I look at him sweetly and say, with a warm smile, “I am peopled out”. That is his signal to reel in his intentions, as he understands that whatever it is he is suggesting to do, isn’t going to work at the moment. He is usually very good at reading me, and it works out more often than not! Thanks for your videos! We always enjoy them.
My husband and I are both introverts raised by extroverts, with extroverted children. We each developed a healthy sense of when we need to hermit, and how to communicate that in a way that doesn't hurt feelings (use your "I" statements...). Even introverts have their breaking points where we need social interactions. I talk to strangers when I need a quick fix, because interactions don't have to be deeply personal or repeated. I hang out with friends when I need more connection. My husband makes friendly acquaintances in his usual haunts and drops in for chats when he's feeling trapped at home. Still, you guys just nailed every weekend evening conversation we've had for 26 years now.
Loved this video -- and how both sides agreed in the end on Penn going out to talk to someone :P I am a bit confused about what introvert means though, having heard lots of different definitions. I find a lot of self-described "introverts" are just people with social anxiety and trauma histories, which isn't the same thing (and it might do harm to avoid those words), or who have trouble setting boundaries and so burn out more easily around others. But...maybe I'm just confused because tests normally rate me about 50/50, as an outgoing person with social anxiety.
introverts are just people who need more alone time if I’m not wrong. We don’t hate people but we definitely prefer smaller groups and not a whole lot of noise. And then we can be outgoing sometimes, but we don’t last as long as extroverts and need time to recover after. The book Quiet by Susan Cain is a great resource on introverts :) I’m not sure how much trauma and boundaries have to do with it- some people can be just quiet and peace loving by nature💁🏻♀️😏
I'm an introvert married to an extrovert. My wife really discovered this when I bailed on our wedding reception for a couple hours. I'd talk to enough people. Time to go. Our hotel suite was at the same hotel as our reception. My bride did not know I'd bailed and sent somebody to our suite. sidebar: always interesting to learn Kim is an introvert. In her former life, she was a correspondent for "Inside Edition - New York".
I can relate to this and to your family in so many ways, from being an introvert married to an extrovert, having teenagers, and ADHD in our household. So many similarities. Love everything you guys do! Thank you for sharing your lives so we can see we aren't alone in our struggles. 😍
I love watching y'all. I'm an extrovert and my hubby is an introvert. We have been together almost 19 years. Things are great. I go out and a lot and he hangs with the kids. This video rang true.
Lol, this is hilarious! I'm the extrovert and my hubby's the introvert. But our roles have had to reverse over the last couple of years bc of illness (now I stay home and he has to do all the things I used to do and love). It's been interesting, hard, and definitely a growing/learning experience for us both.
Oh Kim, you totally nailed it - sooo spot on!! 😆🙌 I recoil in horror when my phone rings. 😱I don't want to be this way!! I just can't help it. 🤷♀You guys are awesome. Thanks for this great video!! ❤
You 2 are just the best, so accurate! I am an introvert & my husband & Mother In Law are extroverts. When we visit her, I might say 20 words the whole weekend, & they then still cut me off! Thank you for bringing this topic out, I feel at peace now!
This is exactly my husband and myself! It’s like you were there for our last conversation about going out! ❤️❤️ your channel. Thanks so much for sharing!!!
Okay... once again you managed to create a video that speaks me with spot on accuracy. Thank you for once again helping me feel like I am not the only one that has these... ill timed Quirks that make interactions with "Real Life" so difficult despite really wanting to be the best person I can be fore myself and those I love. This both validating and starting to make me wonder if you have access to some sort of network that really does know what I am doing and thinking in my day to day interactions. Because if it really is that common, why does everyone in my direct family say things that make me feel I am the only one that does these things the way I do them with the inconsistant consistancy in which they happen in my life?
I couldn't stop laughing 🤣 I'm the extrovert and hubby is the introvert... We've had these same convos many times over the years! Married for 23 years and counting. We both understand the way we are and we do our best to not let our differences get the best of us ❤️
About 10 years ago i accepted being introvert and was totally happy about it. Then I got the most extroverted chihuahua in this planet. Now I have to talk to people. Every day. My dog couldn't be happier.
I laughed through the comic part, but the outro moved me. Been laughing and sharing for years, but now I can think of you as real people. I am often surprised that introverts can be charming public figures (David Byrne, Kim...). "Where you get your energy..." I need plenty of alone time and get more than enough of it. After working out of my home for over 19 years, my son said "Dad, you're like Crocodile Dundee when he gets to New York City." Years ago I denied I was that bad, but now it's pretty accurate.
Great video! 100% my husband & I. So funny & so true! (I am the extrovert; my husband is the introvert). And YES Penn! Happy to talk to you for hours & hours and we can both interrupt each other as much as possible! :)
I'm an extrovert who only likes my people. But I *need* them. Also I busted my knee so badly two weeks ago when skiing. So I'm stuck for the next who knows how long. I can't even really go to Costco. And it sucks!!!
Penn is basically the human equivalent of a Golden Retriever while Kim is definitely more of a cat lol
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Exactly! I was thinking that if I threw a ball he'd go chase it!
That is so funny! I have had that same thought about a lot of their videos.
I can literally sit in silence for hours at a time and be perfectly happy
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I am a socially awkward extrovert and my wife is an outgoing introvert. At home, we have conversations just like the one in the video, but if you see us out in public, you would assume we were each the opposite role. In public, she's chatting with folks and inviting them to the table to planning trips to the gym and I sit and listen quietly. Then in the car ride home, I'm talking about what a great time we had and all the news we heard and how I'm looking forward to the next outing; and she's So. Tired. Of. People.
That adds more descriptors to my experience. I'm socially awkward and an introvert but can be outgoing and extroverted sometimes when needed. I'll fight tooth and nail not to have to talk to people but once I do, in a social setting that's safe and fun, it can be nice. It can be hard to be a socially awkward anything though. The saying and doing the wrong thing can seem endless or at least always a looming possibility. 🤔
I get that. People always think I am an extrovert because I can be very conversational but it really exhausts me and I need to have alone time to recover. If I don't get it I will become a very unpleasant person to be around.
Finally, this describes me! My husband is an outgoing extrovert and I am a shy, socially awkward extrovert. We will go out and he is the one talking and then wants to leave. I don’t say much but am in Heaven and don’t want to leave. He always thinks I’m an introvert with him despite me going stir crazy and wanting to get out and go do things with people. My youngest is also an extrovert but less socially awkward. People always think I’m introverted but I get my energy from being around people.
@@tinaperez7393 The few times I used to have friends over, it was always with their dogs. You NEVER have awkward conversations when dogs are the focus!
@@paddlingpuppies excellent point. I forgot about that - it's not alcohol, it's dogs that are the universal social lubricant! 😂. I had a friend who I'd go on walks with walking their dog and everyone with a dog or who likes dogs stopped and talked. And dog parks are super social. 😂
Someone once told me if they won the lottery she'd "travel the world and never speak to anyone again." I laughed. Privacy and an introvert! I could totally relate.
I'm an introvert in an entire family, included extended family, of extraverts. Christmas is a nightmare for me sometimes because the exact same group of people want to meet at every house every day for weeks, and I'm always like "yeah, but we just met yesterday." Now I say, "OK, if you're having 10 parties, I will attend 3". They think I'm weird, and even though I love them, I really only want to go to 1 party. After one party with EVERYONE I'm so exhausted I can barely move, and after 3 I need a week in my room alone just to recover. I've always been told I'm weird, lol, and just accepted that I'm weird. It's nice to know I'm not alone (even though i really love being alone, lol).
You're not weird! I'm the same. There's a book called The Highly Sensitive Person that I really liked. You should check it out!
Awww! I agree with you :) Ambivert with 65% introvert here
I used to feel the same way about Christmas parties. But now, as time goes and there're just fewer people left and so many less parties to go - and that makes me happy.
As an introvert married to an introvert, leaving the house doesn't happen too often. It's WONDERFUL! Although I do sometimes go stir crazy and need to go out, but not interact with anyone.
Introvert w/ introvert makes me feel so seen!
same i just go on a drive with my dog and park at the beach for a few hours and im happy just siting there with 1 window open a small crack so i can hear the waves
As an introvert I love going out and doing things as long as I can only talk to my family and close friends if I actually have to socialize with other people there is a very short time limit on what's going to happen that day.
Yes!!! Stir craziness happens and i too need to leave the house…love just driving or finding a quiet place in a park…solitude is sweet 😁
This was insanely accurate. I love finding any excuse to stay in and wear my old sweatpants. The most terrifying thing to me is talking to another person on the phone, the horror! 😱
lol same
My s/o is the same way. He's an injured vet and I talk to literally ANYONE that calls.
Actually, there's one thing that intimidates me more...confronting someone who holds sway in my life bc there's a problem! 😲😱😰
I hate talking to anyone that's not a small number of people that I know and love on the phone. Text me or email me. But for the love of god, don't call me.
I feel so validated! Especially knowing that other people have aging sweatpants too ❤
The ending when Kim just goes to bed and Penn is very honest about how he's going to interrupt you nonstop after asking you questions is comedy perfection.
I relate, I would do both since I am an introvert and have ADHD. 😂
Right!
That sounds so tiring. :)
@@KM-lu7nh It is made possible with coffee.
@@pfcampos7041 You go to bed and then ask people questions while interrupting while going to bed? Very strange routine.
I am an extrovert, married to an introvert, with 3 introverted sons, and even one of our two dogs seems to be an introvert. The struggle is real.
As an introvert I found her inner thoughts amazingly accurate!
I'm an introvert and this is so me as the wife. I'm perfectly fine not seeing anyone or speaking ever, especially in winter. Then it's hibernation time
My husband and son are always amazed by how much I talk to strangers. They are introverts who’d never leave the house if it wasn’t for me. Once they are out, they usually have fun…but hit their limit sooner than me. Thank goodness I have a daughter who takes after me or I’d be outnumbered.
It is a running gag in our family how often I talk to strangers, I’m so glad to read your post! I live with an introvert!
My husband is the same way. We balance each other out well I think. :D
this is me and my mom she needs to chill😢
Me too! I am super extroverted. Married an introvert, got an introvert dog, had an introvert son… then got a daughter who will chat up anything with a pulse…thank you Lord!
Their book is the BEST relationship book EVERRRR!!!! That quote "mature people ask for what they want " has been life changing.!!! So simple and yet profound
I am an extrovert and what Penn said about where you get your energy is 100% on point. It's weird and I don't know why it works, but anytime I am around other people my energy level goes way up and my endorphins start flowing. When I'm by myself, I actually suffer a lot more depression and anxiety and my energy level just bottoms out. Even talking to someone on the phone helps my mindset and energy level. I'm an extrovert and my daughter is an ambivert, and a teenager, so being a single mom sometimes sucks, lol. Penn, I'll talk to you anytime, and I'm a good listener, so I'll let you ramble as long as you want, lol. Love both you and Kim and the laughs you've given me for the last 9+ years!
This is absolutely me and my husband. Please don't make me go out and talk to people. I do it all week at work, that's absolutely the last thing I want to do with my free time, it's exhausting. But if you want to, you go babe, have fun!
Me too! except i am single and living with my parents because... well I am me and I do meish things and really shouldn't be left alone to my own devices to long without someone checking up on me to make sure I actually have fully completed those things that seem to come so naturally to everyone else in my family but me. I was probably in a corner, reading books and daydreaming, trying not to be the cause of disruption or problems, or the least amount possible, when there was a gathering with people lining up to receiving those kinds of qualities.
Hahaha! Very funny. Our household is an introvert married to an introvert. Depending on the situation, one introvert is more introverted than the other. People don't understand that we can go days without talking to each other and it's ok!
Yeah, I went 2 weeks at the beginning of my relationship not talking to my partner before we got a routine down and started working as a couple. It led to a big fight, and scheduling time to talk before bed daily. But people laugh when I schedule time to talk to the most important person in my life instead of it just happening.
In general, people thinking they have to talk every day to each other in the house you all live in is strange to me small talk about nothing so you speak to each other is not always required.
As an introvert, who dated an introvert, After growing up in a family of talkers, the first afternoon I spent with my boyfriends family, in 1990, where they all sat in the living room, reading quietly, went from completely weird to completely refreshing. 10 years later, as a young couple, we had to schedule walks outside where we would talk things over, otherwise, we might not know what the other one had scheduled for the week.
We still scheduled time to sit down and talk so that it actually happens, and I find myself pushing my introverted daughter to also talk.
Luckily, my extroverted son is not weirded out by this, he will just talk to himself, and not be bothered that no one is responding.
My (extrovert) husband and I (an introvert) have had this exact interaction soooo many times. We both had a good laugh while watching this video. Thanks for the funny and fun content 😄 👌
😂 You guys just summed up my marriage! I laughed into my hot tea and steamed up my glasses.
15 yrs of introvert/ extrovert here. The phone thing is perfect 🤣. Susie won't talk on the phone at all and I'll chat up a telemarketer if I need someone to talk to 🤣
Yep. My dude will not make phone calls for any reason other than the necessity of work and immediate family. Or speak to workers in stores. No matter what. That means no directions when we're driving, no asking questions in stores, no asking questions in restaurants... Luckily he's wonderful, or he would prematurely age me :-)
Two introverts here - and together we have become even MORE introverted over the years, I feel. LOL. I always get forced to do the phone calling things (ugh), but he has to talk to any actual people that show up.
My husband and I have a similar deal. Haha
This is probably how my Extrovert pals feel whenever they have to forcibly drag me out of the house! 🤣
Those are good friends!
Kim is the queen of crazy-eyes expressions 😂🥰
I think I’m an ambivert leaning towards introvert. I do get stir-crazy, but going out for me is more of a solo observe-the-world experience. I prefer to be with a small group of close friends or family 👍
I'm similar.
Kim seems so extroverted when she acts, but I love to hear her share about her introvertedness. I get it and it makes me so happy to know that other people think the same way!
This was so funny. The faces you made while the voice overs played 😂😂😂
The desperation in Penn's eyes!
My husband and I are both introverts, and it works great for us. I do talk to strangers more than him, but most of the time, we both want to stay home.
Hubby tells folks that I've been preparing for this quarantine my entire life. I'm wearing a t-shirt right now that states, "All you need are dogs and books." I have both, and have been perfectly content with staying home since March 2020, except for vet, dr., dentist, hairdresser & manicurist. WITH MASK. Extrovert hubby does any necessary shopping, including groceries, and does library runs, so he can talk to check out folks and the Library Ladies. We've been together 44 years, so yeah, I think it's working out.
This video totally describes me and my husband. I am autistic and social interactions are very difficult for me. I can handle a couple people, but large crowds / groups get difficult. He acts more like an extrovert than i do, but he has his introvert moments, just like I have my rare extrovert moments.
My son is autistic, and we have taken him to places that we thought he'd love because he loves rides and they were fun when we were his age. Unfortunately we didn't factor in how many more people there are. So crowded everywhere! I wish there was a social anxiety day where they only let in half as many people. (Never gonna happen, money always wins)
@@LeeAnneRMT Ooooooooh boy, do I ever understand your son's social anxiety. A little too well. It even kicks in with people i have known most of my life, my father's entire side of the family (even though i love these people and they are my blood), close family friends i have known my entire life, its just debilitating. The social aspect of it has been one of the worst parts for me. Female autistics mask it better, generally, myself included, but it really is hard. Your son is not alone in this, i am one of his "sisters in arms", so to speak, and he officially has an ally in me.
@@LeeAnneRMT thats actually such a smart idea
I am literally sitting in the Walmart parking lot while my husband does a quick run in because I have HAD ENOUGH PEOPLING FOR ONE DAY.
0:13 “I don’t wanna talk to anyone not even in this house” lol yes
This was so much fun. After 40 years my husband and I have merged and we are both now part introvert and part extrovert. Life is grand!
I'm an introvert married to an ambivert that loves to plan the crap out of everything. I would rarely leave the house without her💙💙💙. Thing is, I don't hate people. I'm just not a planner. I also have a limit I hit sometimes when I'm around people (parties) and then go into power-save mode
I’m an extrovert and my husband is an introvert. I’m a stay at home mom but our kids are in school now so I’m home alone all day. I’m looking for excuses to go somewhere. But we live 40 minutes out of town so I’m wasting a lot of money by just going to places for no reason at all. My husband is a teacher and talks all day comes home and wants some (a lot) of alone time. Hoping to sell our house soon and plans are moving into town. My husband is not so strong introvert that he doesn’t want to go anywhere, after some time with people he needs his alone time which I respect.
You totally described my relationship 🤣 I often wonder, how does an introvert handle being a parent. It's so full on especially for mothers.
For me, it's all about staying up late after everyone else has gone to bed. Unfortunately my body isn't letting me do that as much anymore.
I'm fortunate that my kids are introverts too. We all need our space at times! But yeah, the younger years were really tough!!
LOL one of the reasons I’m happy I don’t have kids 😂
@@heathrustythis!
It’s really hard. Literally all of my social energy is spent on my kids!
Sometimes I'm in an introvert mood and sometimes I'm in an extrovert mood. Every day is different.
I can't tell where I'm falling on this spectrum. I hate leaving my house and loud places, but I will strike up random _short_ conversations with strangers in lines. I feel bad for Penn having to talk to a random bartender, but I appreciate Kim just wants the sweatpants time. Asking for what you want sounds smart!
You're on the introvert end with some amount of social graces. Introverts can get enjoyment out of being around/talking to other people, they just spend energy to do so rather than gaining energy from it.
Sounds like me! I call myself an extroverted introvert. 😁
I'm an in betweener as well.
There's also this thing called ambivert. I am one.
@@piiinkDeluxe Same!
I stay in my house for a few weeks and be 100 percent fine. My husband is a musician....so he goes out. I can "go out" once every two weeks or so and then I am exhausted of peopling for a while. He handles all the "phone tree" stuff and when we travel, he is the one that talks to strangers to figure our directions and such. I manage the non-talking things like our Amazon orders and grocery deliveries. It works out.
You had me laughing 10 seconds in and throughout the whole thing. Thanks for being adorable and relatable! 😂
Introvert married to an introvert. We never leave the house except for work and groceries!!🤣🤣🤣
So accurate, it had me laughing out loud 🤣
My 4 year old is an extrovert (me, not so much). It's fascinating to see him light up around people. He will talk to anyone about anything
There are already almost 500 comments on this, so you are unlikely to get to this one. However, I simply have to get this message to you: "Stop spying on us!!" You have us as a couple 100% nailed, from the introvert/extrovert thing to the leaving the chair pulled out from the table. You must have an Alexa hidden somewhere in our house! (Seriously, this is fantastic stuff. Keep up the GREAT work.)
I'm Penn and my Hubby is Kim. Lol. We are just the same. Too funny. Love your stuff guys! Plus your game is so funny the kids love it! They have chosen it the last 3 weeks for Game Night! We literally have over 100 games to choose from and they've chosen Family Face Off the last 3 Game Nights! Thanks for such an awesome game.
this is a masterpiece and the Holdernesses have created many!
Yes yes yes... I'm an introvert and my husband is an extrovert. I have literally clung on to him in some social situations. It's just too much the noise lights and just hum of people moving can be overwhelming
Are you on the autism spektrum?
@@piiinkDeluxe no just easily overwhelmed by stimuli... more likely adhd
@@myravenmoon81 thanks for replying. I have issues with stimuli, especially sound too.
And it's common in autistic people, that's why i asked.
Please don't think any offense was taken all feed back is a chance for learning for me and others
@@myravenmoon81 no, i am not offended at all. How could i? You just described your experience and that is completely valid. 🙂
Me and my roommate back in the day for sure!
Roommate after 9pm: “let’s doll up and go to the bar and meetup with friends.”
My thoughts: “Sure let me get out of my comfy pjs spend an hour to get to ready to step out in the freezing cold to squeeze into noisy crowded space to zone out after a couple drinks and pretend to be listening to anyone that interacts with me while imagining myself back home sitting on my bed in my pjs with a book and a glass of wine.”
My husband is an introvert, and I'm the extrovert. I get excited over thoughts of going out, and he groans inwardly when I suggest it. But I need to talk to people, and he just doesn't. Great video!
I swear this is the exact exchange between my husband and me! His excuse for going to the restaurant to pick up the food is to make sure they get the order right, but then he tells me about who was there, the conversation with the bartender, how much the kitchen staff like him 😂😂 Meanwhile I'm happy to have been home listening to music or reading the whole time.
This is very on-point for my wife and I. I'm the extrovert, she the introvert. I feel for Penn, I feel his pain. The struggle is real lol
The idea of just yacking to Penn while he interrupts sounds like a dream come true! (Said the extrovert married to the guy who never wants to leave the house).
Me and my boyfriend of forever are opposites like this. We have learned over the years to let him go to parties and me I get to stay home. It works so much better than if I made myself go and then get him to leave before he would. We are both more happy people. It just took 10 years for us to realize this. Those were ruff years.
When people ask an introvert to come out of their shell, I want to ask the extrovert to please stop talking because they're being a pest just jabbering away and being so loud!! Why can't you just sit there and quietly think! I love to sit and quietly think for hours!
I'm an INFJ (with autism and ADHD - also 53 w/ a late in life diagnosis at 49) and my husband is ISTP. He's way more introverted than I am though. I can go three weeks and never leave the house or make a phone call or have any kind of human interaction AT ALL and be very happy with that. BUT, the second I feel trapped in the house I start going squirrely! He will be blissed out if we moved into an old nuclear silo and never even saw the light of day! lol
I LOATHE small talk! It drains my energy in 5 minutes or less! But, be thrilled to talk to me about "cool stuff and deep stuff" like vampires and ghost and witches, about gardening, nature animals, forest bathing, ASMR, the different types of wool from different animals, about anything Tolkien, about cooking and baking, you get the idea, and I will talk your ear off for HOURS (once 4 hours went by and I had no idea) and walk away feeling ro refreshed and energized and alive!
Do not get me on the phone esp to order food! I have a hard time hearing people on the phone to begin with, and I always feel like I'm inconveniencing them (you can indeed inconvenience a person at the pizza shop when you call to place an order).
Go to Pinterest (yes... Pinterest!!!) and search for INFJ or Meyer Briggs and you will be floored at all the amazing stuff there!!
(meyer briggs 16 personalities- www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new)
This is my boyfriend and I, but reversed. I’m the extroverted one and he’s the introverted one. It took us a while to feel comfortable saying what we wanted and needed in our relationship because we’re so different. Thankfully 😅 we’ve gotten so much better at it :)
Lol loved this. I’m an introvert married to an introvert and we can sit at home in silence everyday and be happy❤
LOL I laughed the whole time because I'm the extrovert. I completely understand Penn. But I do need some alone time to discharge. I also get energy from people interaction. My husband is the introvert 😂
You are such deep thinkers about human nature! Fascinating, right? Hubby and I are both introverts but I was always a very extroverted introvert. Over time, he has become more social, at my urging, and after some therapy for social anxiety, and I have become less social because I “retired” from being the one who always had to carry the conversation and smile, as well as initiate every plan we made. Kids are grown, school days are over, and we find ourselves switching roles now. I am now more like Kim, hubby is becoming a lower level version of Penn. I think that you are both adorable and perfect just the way you are, perfect compliments in marriage. The Beatles had it right, All You Need is Love. 🥰
My husband and I are both social but I actually get my energy from people, like caffeine! Good tip I heard once: being an introvert is not an excuse to be a complete recluse because thats selfish and being an extrovert is not an excuse to cut people off to talk endlessly about yourself. Also selfish. Be who you are but find balance in both.
I'm an extroverted introvert?
I'm like Penn. I'll meet a stranger and tell them my whole life story if they're up for it.
But then days like today, work was really, really, REALLY intense. I had plans to go get social engagement tonight. But after suddenly and without warning being told that I had to manage 2 teams of 8 people each, with 3 people who started yesterday. And I've never managed a team before and did not ask for any of this. (I was already under paid and there is NO pay raise.) So I was running like a chicken with it's head cut off the whole day. Basically on the phone the whole time coordinating things and i desperately needed quiet time. I logged out at 3:30. It's 11 pm and I'm still feeling physically shaky from stress AFTER doing all the self-care things.
Thank you very much for this absolute delight!! Needed it! ❤️ take care you two!
Introvert here! Can totally relate. Talking in the phone is the worst. Please text!
Same here, I'll have texting ANY day over phone calls! I absolutely hate being put on the spot whenever someone calls me and they expect me to come up with replies immediately, whereas when they text me, it gives me a chance to better form a coherent and sensible reply without fear of stumbling my words and sounding like a complete idiot or a nervous wreck. I also never Facetime people for the same reason, I'd say that's even worse than traditional phone calling as you'd have to sit digitally face to face with a stranger *shudder*
Yes, sure, let's talk! I even talk sometimes with complete strangers I found on LinkedIn, who work in the same domain as me.
I checked your LinkedIn pages, and it is soooo in sync with this video. Penn as extrovert has his page full of stuff that literally says "talk to me!", while Kim's page is strictly to the point, saying "only contact me for work reasons, or better - contact my husband for that".
Great video guys, thank you!❤️
I will talk to you Penn! I am an introvert but I'm great at listening!
Introvert right here 🙋🏾♀️.
Don't leave the house for two weeks?
Yup! I'm good with that.
As a matter of fact I did not feel the lockdown one pinch! 😊 And I stay alone! 😂
It’s so refreshing that these days we’re encouraged to be ourselves. My generation not so much, very judging and labelling. So much freedom in being able to acknowledge who you are and what you’re comfortable with. Great insight and comedic creativity as usual 😊
I’m an introvert married to an introvert. It’s mostly bliss but sometimes it would be nice to have one of us connect with people and balance that out.
That sounds like my two daughters! They love each other and really enjoy each other's company, but my younger will tell you her personality is that of a cat/dragon. LOL She'd rather stay home and read or watch something most of the time, but older sister wants her to experience stuff. ❤️
I'm Kim, my wife is Penn. It used to be fun to be drug out to places with oodles of strangers I hopes of attracting a mate. But now I'd rather stick a rusty fork in my eye than put up with people I don't know! They have changed...they are narcissistic beyond belief or extremely rude and hateful to people. I just want to stay in my shell and avoid the world as it has become. My wife, let's go, I need to socialize! Not easy.
I used to be an extrovert… but as I’ve gotten older I’ve totally become an introvert… After a long day of work and being stressed and then going and getting the kids from school… My mental bank is completely spent
I'm an introvert married to an ever bigger introvert. We have many cats. Not so many human friends. 🤣
I'm an introverted (siding towards ambi) and my husband is omnivert so sometimes I'm annoyed and sometimes I relate to him..but 2 of our kids are extroverted and it drives me crazy!
Introvert married extrovert - Perfect combo
I married an Extrovert almost 30 years ago and he is the 'Mayor' of our small town. It is JUST LIKE THIS VIDEO! I love him, and he is happy to go get his socialization with all his friends, and I can stay home and read and he brings me food. IT IS GREAT!
This so exactly our Friday nights!😂
Y'all are so amazing! And always 'keeping it real'. Thank you for that. ❤️
I found "The Holderness Family" during 2020. What a blessing you were then (and still are)! Watching your videos is part of what helped me keep my sanity during that very difficult year. Thank you for sharing yourselves with all of us!
Much love to you and your family. God bless you all. ❤️
I'm an extrovert married to an introvert, but we work great. I was raised my one of each. When we got married at age 35, we were very intentional about setting expectations. He is very good at kicking me out of the house when he sees that I need society and I know when to let him sit alone in his office to recharge. Communication is key and also each bending a little. For insurance, I have a weekly group of friends here on Saturday mornings, but I try to give him at least 2 evenings a week of solitude to even it out.
I can so identify with this! My husband is the extrovert. I have to constantly fight with myself in order to do things he wants to do, which ALWAYS entails a LOT of people around. When I have had enough, I look at him sweetly and say, with a warm smile, “I am peopled out”. That is his signal to reel in his intentions, as he understands that whatever it is he is suggesting to do, isn’t going to work at the moment. He is usually very good at reading me, and it works out more often than not! Thanks for your videos! We always enjoy them.
Thank you for this video. Showed this to my friend and he finally understood me as an introvert. It was a lightbulb moment.
My husband and I are both introverts raised by extroverts, with extroverted children. We each developed a healthy sense of when we need to hermit, and how to communicate that in a way that doesn't hurt feelings (use your "I" statements...).
Even introverts have their breaking points where we need social interactions. I talk to strangers when I need a quick fix, because interactions don't have to be deeply personal or repeated. I hang out with friends when I need more connection. My husband makes friendly acquaintances in his usual haunts and drops in for chats when he's feeling trapped at home.
Still, you guys just nailed every weekend evening conversation we've had for 26 years now.
Loved this video -- and how both sides agreed in the end on Penn going out to talk to someone :P I am a bit confused about what introvert means though, having heard lots of different definitions. I find a lot of self-described "introverts" are just people with social anxiety and trauma histories, which isn't the same thing (and it might do harm to avoid those words), or who have trouble setting boundaries and so burn out more easily around others. But...maybe I'm just confused because tests normally rate me about 50/50, as an outgoing person with social anxiety.
introverts are just people who need more alone time if I’m not wrong. We don’t hate people but we definitely prefer smaller groups and not a whole lot of noise. And then we can be outgoing sometimes, but we don’t last as long as extroverts and need time to recover after. The book Quiet by Susan Cain is a great resource on introverts :)
I’m not sure how much trauma and boundaries have to do with it- some people can be just quiet and peace loving by nature💁🏻♀️😏
This hit the nail on the head for us, more than I like to admit. Over from a share on Discord. New sub. You guys are awesome!
I'm an introvert married to an extrovert. My wife really discovered this when I bailed on our wedding reception for a couple hours. I'd talk to enough people. Time to go. Our hotel suite was at the same hotel as our reception. My bride did not know I'd bailed and sent somebody to our suite.
sidebar: always interesting to learn Kim is an introvert. In her former life, she was a correspondent for "Inside Edition - New York".
At least they’re on the SAME PAGE when it comes to the amount of TIME that he should be getting HOME……………? lol ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I can relate to this and to your family in so many ways, from being an introvert married to an extrovert, having teenagers, and ADHD in our household. So many similarities. Love everything you guys do! Thank you for sharing your lives so we can see we aren't alone in our struggles. 😍
So cute and funny! You guys sound so much more polite about it than my husband and I, who are also an introvert/extrovert couple.
I love watching y'all. I'm an extrovert and my hubby is an introvert. We have been together almost 19 years. Things are great. I go out and a lot and he hangs with the kids. This video rang true.
Lol, this is hilarious! I'm the extrovert and my hubby's the introvert. But our roles have had to reverse over the last couple of years bc of illness (now I stay home and he has to do all the things I used to do and love). It's been interesting, hard, and definitely a growing/learning experience for us both.
Oh Kim, you totally nailed it - sooo spot on!! 😆🙌 I recoil in horror when my phone rings. 😱I don't want to be this way!! I just can't help it. 🤷♀You guys are awesome. Thanks for this great video!! ❤
Yes. I’m an introvert married to an extrovert. And you are right without him I would rarely leave the house! Great video.
I’m an introvert and live alone and like it that way because I can do whatever I want whenever I want!!!! Including nothing!! 😊
You 2 are just the best, so accurate! I am an introvert & my husband & Mother In Law are extroverts. When we visit her, I might say 20 words the whole weekend, & they then still cut me off! Thank you for bringing this topic out, I feel at peace now!
This is exactly my husband and myself! It’s like you were there for our last conversation about going out!
❤️❤️ your channel. Thanks so much for sharing!!!
20-year-old sweatpants!?!?
I guess those are her SUPER Lazy Pants!!
😂🎶😂👖😂💔😂
Okay... once again you managed to create a video that speaks me with spot on accuracy. Thank you for once again helping me feel like I am not the only one that has these... ill timed Quirks that make interactions with "Real Life" so difficult despite really wanting to be the best person I can be fore myself and those I love. This both validating and starting to make me wonder if you have access to some sort of network that really does know what I am doing and thinking in my day to day interactions. Because if it really is that common, why does everyone in my direct family say things that make me feel I am the only one that does these things the way I do them with the inconsistant consistancy in which they happen in my life?
You two are adorable and truly add laughter & thoughtful insight to my life. Keep up the great work & Thank you both! Much ❤️
I couldn't stop laughing 🤣 I'm the extrovert and hubby is the introvert... We've had these same convos many times over the years! Married for 23 years and counting. We both understand the way we are and we do our best to not let our differences get the best of us ❤️
A+ video!
Very helpful and funny.
Sometimes emotionally unavailable people hide in plain sight disguised as “introverts”.
About 10 years ago i accepted being introvert and was totally happy about it. Then I got the most extroverted chihuahua in this planet. Now I have to talk to people. Every day. My dog couldn't be happier.
I laughed through the comic part, but the outro moved me. Been laughing and sharing for years, but now I can think of you as real people. I am often surprised that introverts can be charming public figures (David Byrne, Kim...). "Where you get your energy..." I need plenty of alone time and get more than enough of it. After working out of my home for over 19 years, my son said "Dad, you're like Crocodile Dundee when he gets to New York City." Years ago I denied I was that bad, but now it's pretty accurate.
Absolutely nailed this, and yes I know that from experience. Lol. Great video as always!
Great video! 100% my husband & I. So funny & so true! (I am the extrovert; my husband is the introvert). And YES Penn! Happy to talk to you for hours & hours and we can both interrupt each other as much as possible! :)
I'm an extrovert who only likes my people. But I *need* them. Also I busted my knee so badly two weeks ago when skiing. So I'm stuck for the next who knows how long. I can't even really go to Costco. And it sucks!!!
You guys nailed it! Thanks for giving us something to laugh about when you often just want to cry that you are so different!