Dont be like That friend i know it is Hard to get turned down on But Trust me if you are Holding your feeling from your crush in you and your crush has feelings for you and you dont know it Then your Story will be a das One. Trust meee…..source..
Yep. Yesterday, a taxi driver saw me running on the street as I was rushed to get somewhere and he stopped the car to ask me friendly if I wanted and needed for him to drive me somewhere, but I freezed and declined. Anyway, there was no need for me to go by taxi, as I was only a few metres away from the destination. But I didn't like that I panicked at his invitation. I also laughed a bit.
Don’t give up y’all. Turns out I friend zoned my future wife for 12 years lol met each other in middle school, friends through high school and started dating in college, and now getting married next September ❤️
@@lunatism9714 wait if someone says they like someone romantic they think dirty about you if so friendzone is the best deal you get all the best fun things in the relationship without sex plus friends are more likely to be in your life for the long term.
A common misconception is that the Friendzone is the worst outcome, but being in the Friendzone can keep you open for opportunities to meet the one you're looking for. And maybe you'll find that your crush just isn't dating material.
So true; why is the friend zone bad? If you are friends with people who share your values, you are more likely to meet your special someone through or with them.
@@buyerbware25 Dude, do you understand how painful rejection it fucking hurts. And least when you barely know the person you can move on easily but if friendzoned you have see that person everything single day making the pain worse.
I've been friendzoned by this guy up to a point of him calling me "a friend". And what do you know, a few weeks ago we kissed and are happy together. He explained that he just fancied me too much and was too shy to show it in any romantic way, because he was afraid of rejection. To be fair, according to this video I was treating him the friendzon style too.. So don't be afraid to show your affection due to the fear of rejection. There are people with mutual romantic interest, who end up as friends just because both are afraid of rejection to the point of acting strictly friendly with each other.
This sounds kind of like me. I like way too many people to some degree, I want to get to know them, to become friends with them, but I don't want to say anything that could be in any way construed as romantic, not just because I feel like people won't appreciate it, but because I don't know if my feelings will fade. The only thing I felt remotely comfortable with was texting with my close friends that I would never be the one to initiate any sort of romantic relationship, and that I would hope that someone who liked me would actually make that obvious. Is there any hope for me?
@@kaboomgaming4255 You need to be brave to find love. If you aren't ready to even show romantic interest, maybe you're just not ready for relationships.. because starting new romance is way easier than actually maintaining it. And it's ok not to be ready, there is no "correct" age for it.
I know I sometimes will bring up dating other people in conversation as a way to broach the subject of dating in a way that’s super safe. So I totally understand where your guy was coming from. Anyway, it’s been a year! How are things between the two of you now?
Take this video with a grain of salt. Was really close friends with a girl that we've been very platonic with. We were friends for a year and did tik every checkmark on this list that says we're just friends. After she get out of a multiple year relationship she would always tell me about the guys she was talking to. One of our friends made a joke how me and her should date and she said "That would be incest, he is like a brother to me". But I had developed feelings for her, didn't ask her out basically just let her know I fancy her. Things escalated and now we're dating. Turns out she had a thing for me as well, I asked her why she didn't show any signs at all and she said she was sacred since she believed I didn't look at her that way and was afraid not to weird me out and ruin things.
@@jooyoonchung3593 Yeah we talked about how close it was to things never happening. I was extremely hesitant to never let her know I found her attractive. Somebody else told her they had feelings for her and she rejected them, but they remained friends and it made it seem not as scary/awkward. I was fully expecting the same thing, it was more of a "get a no and move on" confession.
@@rjjitzu She told me she didn't know why she said it at the time but the main reason was that she didn't think I liked her that way. It's kind of weird but it makes sense cause it's something I've done too. If you like somebody but you assume they don't like you back you say things to tell the other person "yeah we're just friends". It's a way of masking your feelings for them.
@@homelesswizard3161I confirm that’s exactly what I’ve told to a guy that I’m interested in… when he asked me that recently he has the feeling that I expect something more from him like our friendship is not enough… and I told him that don’t worry we’re friends and I expect nothing more from our friendship. In fact, I like him but I’m scared he isn’t interested in me more than a friend and to be honest, the way he asked me like this seems a bit strange so that I was freaking out to tell my true feelings 😅
Hey, even if the characters in the video are sad, being in the friendzone is not a bad thing. It's great to have someone who is your friend and you can still joke around and have fun. Sometimes being friends is still closer than love
As I have gotten older I realized all my crushes I've had never really existed. They were people I have made up in my mind. I would day dream and visualize the person would be then realize sometimes years later of knowing them the thing I thought was so special about them was a facade.
8 Signs You’re in the Friendzone: 1) Only you show off your attractive qualities 0:57 2) They mention other people whom they find attractive 1:33 3) They don’t flirt back 1:57 4) You didn’t hint your attraction from the beginning 2:58 5) They don’t initiate touch 3:43 6) You’re always the one doing them favors 4:29 7) They always have a third wheel 5:06 8) Their attitude and language are strictly friendly 5:31 Don’t forget to watch the video for more information and subscribe to Psych2Go!
love is so complicated... you can't go and say," hey I like you. wanna go out." to a complete stranger... and if you befriend them, you fall deeper into friendzone...
This is why I flirt with everyone now even if I'm not interested in them in the slightest, gotta do a little bit of trolling sometimes to not get friendzoned.😎
Guys dont worry about that signs, not everyone has the same way to treat you. Remember, the possibilities of your crush loving you too are low, BUT NEVER ZERO!
I have a friend-well, used to be a friend- who I thought was closer than they actually were. I was going through some stuff and they stuck by me, even though our classmates judged them for staying friends. They became the reason I didn't kill myself and kept fighting. I noticed things about them and trusted them more than anyone else. Little did I know, they were just being kind and didn't think of me that way. It's been a year since they actually really talked to me, but I still tell stories about them because they are such a big part of who I am. I miss them, even though they're still in the same general area. It feels like there's miles between us even though he's only two feet away.
This is why I just stopped trying to date, when everyone you fall for only sees you as a friend and always wants something better even when they do give you a chance, whats the point?
@@what-ne6st definitely understand that. The only things Ive found to help with loneliness are surrounding myself in my hobbies and just doing things I enjoy or that I couldn’t do if I was with someone.
Yup. I am in the friend zone. My muse sees me as a friend, which is a complement, I suppose. I was hoping for a romantic relationship, but due to my "friendliness", I have become a friend. The emotional rollercoaster was more than I could accept, so I de-Mused my Muse and I am now feeling much more stable emotionally. I feel better, but she feels like she lost an admirer, which, she has. Not fair for me to continue. "Never get too attached to a person unless they feel the same toward you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you." Bakhtawer Akbar
You know guys who worked their way up from being a Dishwasher to 20 years later owning a restaurant? Well being in the friend zone you have a LESSER chance than that guy because your hard work means nothing.
Don’t go that fast because sometimes when you’re very very cute and super friendly girls would friend zone you simply because of fear that if they went out with you you might end up hurting them since you’re also friends to many people specially girls 🤣😂🤣
I once visited a psychologist specialised in men, mostly in their thirties, who can't get sex or relationships. One of her main tenets was: forget the verb "to friendzone". You don't get friendzoned. You're doing that yourself. Certainly one of the main remedies, make your intention clear from the very beginning, is hinted at here already.
Dude I literally just found out the guy I’ve been wanting to date for the past 3 years got out of a 14yr relationship only because she broke up with him 😭😭😭 but he’s been in a new relationship since I’m guessing April of this year. But I think he got out the other relationship February of this year so like wtf!! 💀 I’m stuck in the friend zone and oh sucks.
I posted a selfie at the beginning of quarantine and he replied “Beautiful 🥰” like 😭😭😭 he knows I have feelings for him and yet he chose someone else after lowkey flirting w me like that.
I think the thing a lot of people seem to forget is that relationships weren’t always “you wanna date? Yeah? Okay, see u Friday I’ll pick you up” our hustle culture has conditioned us to think that if it hasn’t lifted off by X amount of time it’s a wrap. There’s no such thing anymore as building trust over a long period of time before reassessing and deciding that a relationship is actually a good future for mutual friends.
This. This is my problem. I've tried to start every relationship I've ever been interested in, by trying to find common interests, common beliefs, and a healthy dynamic of communication. And it's like once I do and I feel comfortable persuing something more, we're already too close as friends to be anything else. It's like I took too long to decide it was healthy for me to persue them.
@@JAGreat the number one rule for me is I have to like them as a friend in the first place, if not, then we will never date and if that puts me in their friend zone and I'm now undatable to them then I know what I need to know about them and we won't date. You're doing the right thing don't second guess yourself, friend
This is one of the reasons why being single is the best. Being single means that I ain't got no shit to deal with nor do I need to worry about all of those problems involved with this thing you all call love. Besides, I'd rather waste my time and energy on something else.
Not only that. Better get any fantasies of real attractive crushes out of your mind. Ain't gonna happen. It's more likely to be a person with ordinary looks if you wind up with someone. Read married people's stories.
@Vy Lina for you it may seem like a good idea but for 99% of humans its really not. staying single is quite literally the worst thing for the human species. Humans are social creatures by nature that's no accident that's evolution. so your original comment is flawed in the sense " This is one of the reasons why being single is the best." It should be more like "This is one of the reasons why being single for me is the best." i hope you understand my point
After I was turned down by my best friend, my whole view on love changed. I’m afraid to ever be exceptionally happy again and have a connection extremely deep. I never want to bond with someone in that way again. Barely anything makes me feel happy anymore.
Going through the same shit with my bsf smh don’t know why she won’t give me a chance… it’s just so confusing and my heart ❤️🩹 hurts … just letting you know bro you not alone 💚
I’ve never been rejected before, but I’m too afraid to ask the person I have feelings for because I don’t want to be embarrassed by getting rejected. My depression makes me feel like I’ve been rejected hundreds of time even though I never have.
The problem with Friendzone it's that the person who is loved takes for granted all the affection of the person who is interested as being normal, when actually the person is making an effort to show all his quality and love. Nobody owes nobody nothing but still...
I believe self-love and self-worth are the basis of all great long-lasting relationships. Never get involved with anyone else until you discover ways to love yourself first because if you ever find yourself being rejected or "friend-zoned" (a term I don't like using) you won't feel disappointed as much and you'll be able to accept and move on a lot more gracefully Because, how? You will still feel great about yourself and hold the keys to your own happiness.
to be honest , it's not that i'm scared of rejection or turned down, i'm scared of it ruining the friendship if i end up confessing , but for now ig ill just play it cool and just act normally
I'm the kind of person who needs to be friends with someone before entering a romantic relationship with them (being able to trust and whatnot). However, it's a good idea to let them know if you're interested sooner rather than later. Not everyone's relationships develops the same way. Even if going from friend to lover works for you, doesn't mean it works for the other person.
Im the one who puts everyone in the friendzone. Im always aware of people and how they feel about me, i just cant be with anyone due to massive trust issues. If someone romantically likes me, i know about it but i dont acknowledge it.
I’m the same way! I struggle with severe social anxiety and multiple forms of PTSD, on top of intense trust issues, from being betrayed so dastardly so many times in life. It’s not that I never like certain people- I mean, we all catch feelings at times- but whenever someone expresses attraction to me, they are placed firmly in the friend zone! And if they continue pushing- flirting, hinting, etc.- I simply feign ignorance… that’s when a sweet little southern-belle voice comes in handy… 😂
To be honest, best thing is just to live your life. Not worth the headache of not knowing where you stand with them, the false hopes etc. Although this is a great video and very informative where it helps you not to expect too much if anything at all. 👍🏾👍🏾
Amanda's voice is incredible! it's so nice and soothing, I could listen to it for hours and hours I'll take this chance to say AMANDA! I HAVE A CRUSH ON YOU 💜
i watched a ton of videos like these when we were just friends. they still pop up in my recommended :) happy to say we’re more than friends now. don’t give up yall :D
Ah yeah, being friendzoned. I too used to think it was horrible, especially during my heartbreak, but... now, I see it differently: knowing all the esteem she has for me, I realize I'm lucky to have her by my side, even as a friend. And that's why though I'm still a little disappointed it didn't ended how I wanted to, I'm happy...
I technically got friendzoned when i confessed my feelings but in a way that still makes me wonder if there isn't or at least wasn't a genuine interest from both sides and that the rejection was rather a result of the fact that the timing was maybe a little too early... Man these things are complicated
@@magsolx2240 well you have to ask yourself if the effort ur putting in is reciprocated in any way or not... even after putting all my cards on the table I didn't experience her taking the initiative so I let it go... If you realize you're maybe starting to chase someone instead of pursuing, it's time to move on... If she can give a final and conclusive answer that's very much appreciated because it can help you let go but sadly that's not always the case...
I had the same happen to me last week. Whether it was too early or too late is not important I believe - the emotional connection is where it's at. The girl clearly liked me, but I never made a romantic move, but rather just confessed my feelings which put us in an uncomfortable position. No reason to invite someone on a date if you've been hanging out with them without a "situation label" for a while. Next time just go for the kiss when the timing is right :)
Would you rather have the love of your life… A. Absolutely hate your guts, vomit at the sight of you, and want you dead? B. Respect you , charish your friendship, and want what’s best for you. While not being romantically interested in you. Honestly I’d pick B.
Right. I'd rather someone hint that they don't like me, rather than blatantly say it. If I wanna know up front, I'll ask. People seem to get too salty when they're friend zoned. 🙄 If you only want them as something more, then you clearly didn't like them at all. Friendship is the foundation of EVERY relationship.
Also a lot ppl think they are “ugly” when their crush don’t “like you like you” in that way when it’s just maybe you don’t have that certain personality they’re looking for in a partner .. ex: you maybe shy they want outgoing or they maybe too outgoing and wanting something gentle I mean the list goes on for ppl having the reasons 🤷🏽♀️
I met a woman at the park a while back. We talked for HOURS! Once it started getting darker we left the parked and continued our conversation while we walked. Never have I ever had such long and deep conversations with another woman the way I have with her And she's said the same about me. We both have admitted to feeling comfortable and safe around/with each other. We both agreed we feel a sense of peace and understanding when together. Well.. recently I confessed to her that I liked her deeply. That the feelings grew over time and even asked her if she'd give us a chance to see where it could go. Sad to say she rejected me. Said she only saw/sees me as a friend. Although she's admitted that I have ALL the qualities she looks for in a guy, on top of the ways I make her feel. . She just kept saying that she just wants a friendship with me. . I had no other choice but to accept and respect that.. but dang does it hurt. 😔 compared to the guys she's been with i know id be a better option but im not even an option. . She reached out yesterday to mention how she's been thinking about her ex. . An older guy. A creep. Who only wants to bust a nut.. hurts to see the woman you like do that to herself just so she can get hurt again. This is why I tried closing myself off and avoid falling for anyone. . I came across this meme the other day that goes: "Them: how do you lose a girl?" "Him: just be a good guy, they hate that shit" Thought it was funny at first until I realized I was him.. Hope all the good guys out there are doing alright. Keep your heads up kings. You're all great! And deserve a queen who will love you back the way you'd love her. Alright. Bye
If you haven't heard of it, you should do some reading on attachment theory. It sounds like that's kinda what happened here...she probably has anxious attachment which means she'll unconsciously want to keep going back to her ex who sounds like he has avoidant attachment. It's a sad game of magnets. You weren't avoidant, so she didn't feel an attachment to you. Attachment theory is not the end-all-be-all but it can apply to a lot when it comes to relationships, and if nothing else, will help put things into a new perspective.
yo facts. THis is literally the same situation I had with this girl I've been friends with since first year high school, and we've been friends for over 4 years. Straight up. And there's nothing else to say on my side really, it's the same as yours. And yeah I respect her, and whatever she's happy with. Happy to say were still good friends to this day. I've lost my romantic feelings for her, but I can confidently say I am her bestfriend and I want the best for her, because I genuinely deem that she is a good person who deserves more than what she had on her ex-es.
Xlang i mentioned in a comment that having friends of the opposite sex is too risky.it sounds like she's using you as a rebound.you deserve better and even though you may not realize it, you're dodging a bullet. a good woman will be honest about her feelings,no matter what they are and shouldn't keep you dangling.in my honest opinion,you should stop bbeing friends.the weird thing is, is that sometimes,that's when they start to want you.when you don't want them anymore. i hopeyou find someone nice with healthy boundaries.best wishes from france :)
@@whatshername3158 I've been slowly drifting away from her.. we still talk occasionally but I have been trying hard to not text/call her because I know that I'm not as important to her as she was to me. It sucks when the people we end up liking rather use us than like/love us back. I appreciate your advice and im slowly getting to where I may be able to walk away completely. Its just hard since I still like her but im getting there. Everyday she shows me why I shouldn't stay. . But I always find a reason to stay even when I shouldn't. .. I guess thats my toxic trait twds myself. I do for others what they most likely wouldn't do for me.. its something I've been working on fixing cause at the end I end up getting hurt while they get what they wanted/needed. Thank you 😊 🙌 I really appreciate you! Be safe and careful! Best of wishes from CHICAGO! P.s. always wanted to go to France!
@@say1nt ima be fully honest with you. we were flirting with each other for a while, but after the year ended we just kinda fell off and i think she lost interest in me because we don't really text anymore :(
I’ve been on both sides, and both situations hurt both people involved mentally in different ways and magnitudes. If you like a friend romantically the best way is to tell them, maybe if you’re not sure about your feelings wait a few months but not more, not after you’re sure. Tell them and if they don’t return the feelings, end the friendship. They might realize they also have feelings after cutting contact as the space allows them to think more, or they might not and even be more sure they don’t have romantic feelings. Maybe if you’re really in love ask them again after a few months of no contact, and if they still don’t return it, move on. Love can’t grow deeper than an obsession when it’s one sided. It’s like a tennis match, to have fun and grow you need two players in the game. Don’t settle for anything less. Don’t stay in a mentally unhealthy situation for too long as the consequences of that will also affect your otherwise healthy relationships in future.
The best advice what you can do, if you get friendzoned is... end this relationship. There is a very high risk, that you are going to be exploited by your "crush", because they know that you are emotionally tied. Second reason is simple - you can't build a friendship, if your expectations are different. You will not be able to recover from rejection if you will be spending much time with that person. Third reason - they told you "let's be just friends", but they actually don't like you, they don't have a courage to say directly "you are not interesting for me, go away". This is not pessimistic point of view, this is reality.
The worst part of it, is when you say that a friendship is not possible to your crush and you move on. Then the other person "magically" is now into you... I hate that...
I have to object. I have had people in my life who cared about me deepy and wanted more and I liked them as friends and cared about them, but didn't see them as anything more than friends. I didn't want them to go away, I wanted them in my life and I did respect them. The only reason some of those friendships broke was because they didn't respect that and tried to force me or convince me, which made ME feel exploited. In some extreme cases this has been going on for years until we broke ties because they could not accept that I was not going to be with them, sleep with thfm or what not just out of a good deed. But there were cases when crushes became really good friends and even more than that- we both realized we were better off as friends and that we would have been a horrible couple or would have had a very incompatible relationship. But as friends, we were absolutely fine. Sometimes you can get MUCH closer as friends than you could have ever gotten in a relationship. It depends on you and it depends very much on the other person too. Rejection doesn't always necessarily have anything to do with you. Sonetimes the people you like may simply not be a good match romantically or they don't have the capacity for a relationship, some of them may not be ready to love anyone in that way. It's not always that personal. Sometimes people are going through difficult things and would even like to fall in love or like you back but simply can't. Mental health issues are one really big reason for that. Or they may still be in love with their ex or recover from their last relationship. Again, it's very individual, some people feel ready one month after a break up to build something new, others will take 2 years or longer (neurologically, after 2 years the brain is generally ready to mix a new love cocktail 🍸). Some people are busy building a career or finding themselves and would appreciate a friend in their lives. Walking away from somebody because they don't give you what you want immediately kinda raises the question if you are actually ready to give in a relationship or just looking to find something that benefits you, your ego and your physical and sexual needs. It's about give and take though. Just because you don't get instant gratification in the way you would like doesn't mean it wouldn't be worth sticking around and try to build something honest with mutual respect and care.
@@ip1136 Building a friendship with someone from the beginning and trying to create one after being friendzoned are very different things. As a rule, the situation gets so complicated that neither side comes out well. Even if the other person has a sincere friendship to offer, there is still the issue of emotional attachment. It's nice to have friends, but it doesn't satisfy the need for love with someone. Personally, I don't see the point of building anything with a person I had other expectations of. I have no obligation to maintain a friendship with someone when I will feel uncomfortable in it. Just because I'm interested in finding a partner doesn't mean I need "instant gratification." If I'm looking for someone to have a relationship with and the attempt turns out to be unsuccessful, I just move on and don't play any weird games.
This video helped explain a recent interaction I had with a longtime friend. We had been friends for 4 years, and a week ago, I revealed my feelings for her. She (gently) friend-zoned me, even as I attempted to sell the idea of dating me. The 4 years was probably too long to wait to reveal my feelings.
Disappointment will continue to happen all your life, the possibilty of getting hurt will always be present. It takes courage to put your heart out so someone can find it.
Yeah, like,people need to stop calling it being " friendzone", like if you don't care for that person unless is in a romantic or sexual way, just leave. If you stay around complaining about a " friendzone" and getting mad that they rejected you, then you are not really being their friend, you are just an entitled prick
Number 6 also kinda shows they aren't a good friend either. If you are going above and beyond to help out a friend and they aren't doing anything to reciprocate or let you know that you are appreciated, they are a bad friend. Period. You can care about someone and not be used by them, it's time to set some boundaries. Luckily, you're on this channel
Step 1: you meet a girl Step 2: she’s a very pretty and nice girl Step 3: you get to know the girl Step 4: you start catching feelings but you deny it at first Step 5: You realize you’re in love after several weeks. Step 6: you get signs she likes you Step 7: you gather the courage to ask them out Step 8: You ask them out Step 9 they reject you Step 10 you come home and cry until you fall asleep Step 11: repeat until successful. Number of attempts: ???
@@darshusharma3134 It's deliberate... Too much early love=friendzone... I even know some guys who got friendzoned one too many time and decided to rely on escorts... They act as cold as ice with ordinary girls, you could almost think they're gay, yet they still have regular sexual life, they just pay escorts instead of asking people out. They just don't care about love anymore.
@@timumbra2476 Sorry to bring it down for you, but it ain't working that way. That's the way to win her friendzone at best, not her heart. Love is a matter of value. You can tell her how you feel, but you have to accept how she feels in return and if it ain't love, you have to move on. I used to believe in true love, now i just see escorts every now and then and "love" them half a hour at a time. Caress them, hug them, make love to them and then off to my ordinary life.
🌈Free timestamps for everyone :D✨ 1. Only you show off your attractive qualities - 1:02 2. They mention other people whom they find attractive - 1:35 3. They don't flirt back - 2:01 4. You didn't hint your attraction from the beginning - 2:59 5. They don't initiate touch - 3:44 6. You're always the one doing the favors - 4:31 7. They always have a third wheel - 5:07 8. Their attitude and language are strictly friendly - 5:34
Friendly reminder, just because she/he agrees or invites you to do things just the two of you doesn't necessarily means she/he sees you in a romantic way. Case and point, I've been dealing with the exact same fact that a person that I like doesn't see me that way. But we pretty much always do things just the two of us. She once explained to me that she did it with all her friends since she has a wide variety of acquaintances from different social circles. So making casual activities and making sure everyone has a fun time is not an easy thing to do. It sucked, but it is the reality so it's okay. I can live with just being friend since she's actually really cool.
Not gonna lie, I have this “friend zone barrier” that I rarely notice time to time, so sometimes, I see myself “too friendly” to those that like me, which can lead to confusion. I basically have most friend zone qualifies that the video mentioned, but reversed, I basically do what the video mentions... but in a sense I’m trying to be better friends with them. As someone aromantic, it’s hard to pick up the signs from friends, but once I do, I’d go along with it. So if they are happy, then I’m good with that.
One of my best friends is actually my ex. We dated and realized we have a stronger friendship and don’t see each other romantically. It’s possible to at least give your friend a shot if they like you romantically and try it out. But if all you can see them as is a friend tell them. And possibly your friendship will be even stronger after. It worked for me.
Have you heard of a situation where you're both in the friend zone but you're also potential lovers? I was in the situation and let me tell you it hurts. where you know both parties have feelings towards each other but are afraid to admit it. I was too scared to admit my feelings because….. I don't know the real reason but I just was. And now he's moved on and I'm just here . But one thing that I've learned is to express your feelings because life is too short. And what's the point of having regrets? One day I will talk with him and clear everything up but I'm also a coward to face that certain communication.
The reason why the friendzone is dreaded is because a lot of people look at their crush through the lens of their feelings. If you see them as a person they may become a true friend and you will meet more people through them or you will see them for what they are and move on. The only thing holding people back is the fear of disappointment and uncertainty.
I used to friendzone people all the time. I’d agree most of these are pretty accurate, especially saying to their face that they are a friend. Even with that, people like to see things through rose colored glasses.
Those who in the friendzone, the only way out is you walk away from that relationship. If you still hope he or she will turn around and accept you, think again. Hope can be poisonous, it'll gave you depression, suicidal thought, might even effect your mental health. Remember, you''re not walk away as a coward or loser, you walk away as a fighter. Trust me, it's not worth a penny hoping or waiting for someone who don't like or only sees us as a friend to change their mind and pick us...
It seems to me that the entire friendzone issue is a case of "YOU walk a mile in my shoes, and see how you feel". If someone thinks you're a good person to have at social gatherings, but any crush you might have on them is waved away, just wait your turn. Because 9 times out of 10, someone else will have a crush on YOU, but you will want nothing to do with them romantically. It's a vicious circle. And not that many know how to untangle themselves from it.
If you know your worth and expressed to your crush how much you can love and support them and they still don’t see you that way, maybe they just don’t deserve you.
Damn, I needed this video a year ago. I had a big crush on my friend; there were times I thought he was into me too. I was so emotionally confused I wanted a clear understanding of our friendship. My ego got in the way, and I ended up getting upset with him. They say hurt people hurt others, and I hurt him. I did not intend to. I Just wanted to be on the same page so there would be any more confusion. I pushed too far instead of just finding a way to let it go and fully accept the friend zone. I learned a lesson; I miss my friend; I should have done better. I still have hope that one day we can both be friends again. 😌
What's funny is that when I first met my boyfriend I didn't know if he liked me at first but when we were friends when I invited him to my badminton match at my high school and he came all the way to my high school (because he went to a different high school) and took the city bus to come to my match. That was the first sign. He showed up at my match and while I was in the court my boyfriend looked at me when I was playing. I looked away and blushed because I couldn't do nothing about it at the time. After I was done with my match I sat next to him and he asked me "how did the match go?" I said "I won my match." He complimented back "You did a great job out on the court" I just looked at him while blushing there. That was the second sign. He eventually asked me if I was hungry and I said "Yea of course I'm tired of my match" he brought some snacks. (When he brought me snacks I knew he was gonna be a good hubby) That was the third sign. After we were done eating our snacks we went to the tennis court and talked there. We talked about all sorts of things about school, sports, and life. Then we started to talk about deep stuff in our life about our past. I really felt like we had a really deep connection. And at that time it was only the second day we were friends. After we had our deep conversation we were flirting a bit and I sat closer to him and see how he would react. I looked at him straight into his eyes and told him "Close your eyes" he asked me "Why? " I shouted at him "Just do it! " I felt like it was the right moment and I kissed him on the lips. I know this story sounds crazy but its true. My point is that these signs were the smallest hints I saw that others couldn't. For whoever reads my comments single or not should understand that if someone really wants to spend time with you. You should see these little signs about the person your crushing on. Sorry everyone for the inconvenience of this long paragraph.
How adorable. It’s sad that not everyone has had the chance to have that kind of connection with a person. I’ve seen people comment on YT that are in their 50’s and have never had a girlfriend/boyfriend!
Tell me if I'm wrong but I'm just going to say it: All the aspects of the friend zone make for an unhealthy friendship. Think about it, has anybody ever said that they are happy being in the friendzone? Why have a friend when you're not happy?
I understand, but sometimes it’s just to hard to completely disconnect from the person you like. Only way to prevent that from happening is to not have a relationship with them at all. But if you want to take the risk, all for it.
Just a reminder. You put yourself in the friendzone. If you are unhappy you have to either: Be upfront about your feelings Move on to a new love interest End the friendship The best course of action is dependent on your unique situation
Okay, so what if I was upfront about my feelings but he rejected me? But I still think he’s a good person and friend and we get along. Do I end the friendship because I didn’t get my way? Do I just move on? What if I can’t move on right now? I just have to hide my feelings then?
I feel like ending the friendship is the worst option bc the person that friendzoned you just wants to be friends and you abandoned them... You took that friendship away from them
@@kenxiedegrassi458 the answer to that is what is best for you. He's not wrong for not wanting you, but if you still want a friendship with him you'll have to manage your feelings in the way you see is best for you. If you can't get past them it may be best to end the friendship. If you can get over them, maybe you don't gain a boyfriend but you have a friend.
@@ivythealiencat Depends on the situation. Sometimes it's best but sometimes it's not. If it's a new friendship, then you don't owe them anything. But it's an older one, then more care will have to be taken in deciding what to do
He friend zoned me, so I apologised for interpreting his messages as flirting and said I’d never make that mistake again. He said, well maybe not never. I can’t do this 😭
I'm luckily not in the friend zone but we don't "romantically" like each other, we're just simply attracted but no intentions of going as far as dating each other.
I can't make the distinction between "they think of me as a good friend" and "they love me" A LOT of the time and I feel like my autism has something to do with that, but I'm not sure.
Oh heck by the title I thought this was about finding out if you were falling in love with your friend with benefits or not. That would be an interesting topic to cover in a future video haha, and thanks for many many free videos till this day!
This is why I’m scared of love because I’m to scared of getting turned down and my heart can’t take anymore of those 🥺
It’s ok, sometimes you gotta let things go, but I’m sure you can do it when it comes to love!
Are you phineas and ferb fan between if you know the law of attraction you won't think the same way you will get your perfect one
that's why Doof is always holding you hostage, he loves you too but in his own 'evil' way
Dont be like That friend i know it is Hard to get turned down on But Trust me if you are Holding your feeling from your crush in you and your crush has feelings for you and you dont know it Then your Story will be a das One. Trust meee…..source..
@@stellamarkose3262 😂😂
You can't get friendzoned if all your crushes are fictional
@kitty noir XD daaam
@kitty noir lol 😳
Fax no printer
@kitty noir Lma you are hilarious!
Cant get friendzoned if your crush doesnt exist
General rule I go by: Always assume you are just a friend until explicitly told otherwise
Ikr, like it's not rocket science 🙄
Good one
this is the best way
And even if she really does like me, I simply deny it and think, "Naaaah, she's just trying to be friendly."
Arigatou sensei. Those are some wise words . Mma take em to my grave
Can’t be friend zoned if you don’t talk to people in first place.
Modern problems require modern solutions.
Big Brain!
#covid
#avoidantpersonalitydisorder
Yep. Yesterday, a taxi driver saw me running on the street as I was rushed to get somewhere and he stopped the car to ask me friendly if I wanted and needed for him to drive me somewhere, but I freezed and declined. Anyway, there was no need for me to go by taxi, as I was only a few metres away from the destination. But I didn't like that I panicked at his invitation. I also laughed a bit.
#scaredofwomen
Me in my head: omg she loves me aaah
Shrek: _closes book_ *”like thats ever going to happen!”*
AHAHAHAHA SAME SIS
Forgot about the part where he rips it out and wipes his ass with it
@@xXdarkdekuXx and walks out of the out room with the iconic song. pretty much me every day
Yup
Somebody once told me-
Friendzone? Nah, not with us. We will always be on your side.
🥺❤️
That's sweet thanks
awh thanks pal
Ty 💕
Don’t give up y’all. Turns out I friend zoned my future wife for 12 years lol met each other in middle school, friends through high school and started dating in college, and now getting married next September ❤️
Congrats man!
😂idk why this is funny to me. But wholesome at the same time.
Wow ..so i'ts a periode of instead of a zone lol
@@chak_dz6961 it's a matter of time I guess, sometime takes longer sometimes lesser, sometimes forever :(
How? XD
When you only try to be kind but others think you're flirting
:')
That's the world we live in today.
It seems all too easy & common to have your intentions misinterpreted.
@@drumdad54sdl47 ikr! Why is the only thing on people's mind SEX😭
oh I wonder if im flirting with everyone
@@lunatism9714 wait if someone says they like someone romantic they think dirty about you if so friendzone is the best deal you get all the best fun things in the relationship without sex plus friends are more likely to be in your life for the long term.
Ive been on both sides. This is why its better not to worry about hints or signs of attraction and just be straightforward.
A common misconception is that the Friendzone is the worst outcome, but being in the Friendzone can keep you open for opportunities to meet the one you're looking for. And maybe you'll find that your crush just isn't dating material.
So true; why is the friend zone bad? If you are friends with people who share your values, you are more likely to meet your special someone through or with them.
@@buyerbware25 Dude, do you understand how painful rejection it fucking hurts. And least when you barely know the person you can move on easily but if friendzoned you have see that person everything single day making the pain worse.
@@brandonontama2415 Every single day? Are you one of those guys who thinks that dating coworkers is a great idea?
@@buyerbware25 Fine, not everyday but regularly, which is still painful.
@@beckswoof9990 People don't owe people friendship either.
0:50 "don't worry *MY FRIEND*"
man, friend zoned again
lol
This underrated af😂😂💀
“I LOVE YOU”
“WTF”
“what do you mean wtf”
*“Welcome to friendzone”*
Ooooof size the size of observable universe
that hurts XD
This is pure gold
This is pure cold
Oof... but good job!
Just another mind game I REFUSE to play
YOU AND ME BOTH
Same fuck all that
😂 not this sh*t again
@@SamElle best of luck in your future endeavors
@@tommygunn6901 Exactly. Get to the point no playing hard to get.
I've been friendzoned by this guy up to a point of him calling me "a friend". And what do you know, a few weeks ago we kissed and are happy together. He explained that he just fancied me too much and was too shy to show it in any romantic way, because he was afraid of rejection. To be fair, according to this video I was treating him the friendzon style too.. So don't be afraid to show your affection due to the fear of rejection. There are people with mutual romantic interest, who end up as friends just because both are afraid of rejection to the point of acting strictly friendly with each other.
This sounds kind of like me. I like way too many people to some degree, I want to get to know them, to become friends with them, but I don't want to say anything that could be in any way construed as romantic, not just because I feel like people won't appreciate it, but because I don't know if my feelings will fade. The only thing I felt remotely comfortable with was texting with my close friends that I would never be the one to initiate any sort of romantic relationship, and that I would hope that someone who liked me would actually make that obvious.
Is there any hope for me?
@@kaboomgaming4255 You need to be brave to find love. If you aren't ready to even show romantic interest, maybe you're just not ready for relationships.. because starting new romance is way easier than actually maintaining it. And it's ok not to be ready, there is no "correct" age for it.
We need to talk asap.
@@lizaschkolnikova9416 that bs. Some people just stand there and get laid xd
I know I sometimes will bring up dating other people in conversation as a way to broach the subject of dating in a way that’s super safe. So I totally understand where your guy was coming from.
Anyway, it’s been a year! How are things between the two of you now?
Take this video with a grain of salt. Was really close friends with a girl that we've been very platonic with. We were friends for a year and did tik every checkmark on this list that says we're just friends. After she get out of a multiple year relationship she would always tell me about the guys she was talking to. One of our friends made a joke how me and her should date and she said "That would be incest, he is like a brother to me". But I had developed feelings for her, didn't ask her out basically just let her know I fancy her. Things escalated and now we're dating. Turns out she had a thing for me as well, I asked her why she didn't show any signs at all and she said she was sacred since she believed I didn't look at her that way and was afraid not to weird me out and ruin things.
Funny how we sabotage ourselves like that? Glad it worked out for you two!
@@jooyoonchung3593 Yeah we talked about how close it was to things never happening. I was extremely hesitant to never let her know I found her attractive. Somebody else told her they had feelings for her and she rejected them, but they remained friends and it made it seem not as scary/awkward. I was fully expecting the same thing, it was more of a "get a no and move on" confession.
How is she gona call it incest and proceeds to date you then tell you later down the line that she always had a thing for you?
@@rjjitzu She told me she didn't know why she said it at the time but the main reason was that she didn't think I liked her that way. It's kind of weird but it makes sense cause it's something I've done too. If you like somebody but you assume they don't like you back you say things to tell the other person "yeah we're just friends". It's a way of masking your feelings for them.
@@homelesswizard3161I confirm that’s exactly what I’ve told to a guy that I’m interested in… when he asked me that recently he has the feeling that I expect something more from him like our friendship is not enough… and I told him that don’t worry we’re friends and I expect nothing more from our friendship. In fact, I like him but I’m scared he isn’t interested in me more than a friend and to be honest, the way he asked me like this seems a bit strange so that I was freaking out to tell my true feelings 😅
Psych to Go: "So do you think you're in the friend zone.?"
Me: "YES.!"
same
I think... Me too...
No never accept the friend zone if you want more. Only get in it if you're ok with it.
Hey, even if the characters in the video are sad, being in the friendzone is not a bad thing. It's great to have someone who is your friend and you can still joke around and have fun. Sometimes being friends is still closer than love
Sure it's better than being cut off. It hurts like AF nonetheless
Till those friends get replaced by actual love interests
Staying in the friendzone can pretty much fuck up your mental health, specially when your "friend" finds someone else. Seems pretty bad to me.
@@EJINSANE they will be most definitely get replaced. So much hypocrisy all around
That's the "Friends With Benefits Zone."
As I have gotten older I realized all my crushes I've had never really existed. They were people I have made up in my mind. I would day dream and visualize the person would be then realize sometimes years later of knowing them the thing I thought was so special about them was a facade.
Damn I relate to this so much!!
8 Signs You’re in the Friendzone:
1) Only you show off your attractive qualities 0:57
2) They mention other people whom they find attractive 1:33
3) They don’t flirt back 1:57
4) You didn’t hint your attraction from the beginning 2:58
5) They don’t initiate touch 3:43
6) You’re always the one doing them favors 4:29
7) They always have a third wheel 5:06
8) Their attitude and language are strictly friendly 5:31
Don’t forget to watch the video for more information and subscribe to Psych2Go!
Thank you so much 💜
Thanks bro
Thanks luv
Thanks
Oh shit this means that i wasn't in the friendzone!? I want my 14 years of self doubt back
I’m trying to figure out why I am watching this when I don’t even talk to the person I like
LMAO SAME
Lol aww...
I never even fall for anyone that isn't a friend so I will be single for life. Idc tbh... I have more important things to do.
you made it, you will never get friendzoned... by the way, the pain is real
@@64x73 but a crush is a person, there are still other people to love
@@dimitrifedorov6851 yes, we should never let them down, right ?
if we do whats the difference
love is so complicated... you can't go and say," hey I like you. wanna go out." to a complete stranger... and if you befriend them, you fall deeper into friendzone...
This is why I flirt with everyone now even if I'm not interested in them in the slightest, gotta do a little bit of trolling sometimes to not get friendzoned.😎
The " friend zone" is perfect groundwork for a Narcissist to exploit their victims.
Facts
Facts
^ This
Facts
Facts
Guys dont worry about that signs, not everyone has the same way to treat you. Remember, the possibilities of your crush loving you too are low, BUT NEVER ZERO!
Or could try to use u.
"You mean, there's a chance?"
@@rebelpoxy There is always a chance, it can be super small but never zero.
Just like the chances of a tsunami consuming America, or me winning the lottery lol
And if they're not your sexuality?🤨
I have a friend-well, used to be a friend- who I thought was closer than they actually were. I was going through some stuff and they stuck by me, even though our classmates judged them for staying friends. They became the reason I didn't kill myself and kept fighting. I noticed things about them and trusted them more than anyone else. Little did I know, they were just being kind and didn't think of me that way. It's been a year since they actually really talked to me, but I still tell stories about them because they are such a big part of who I am. I miss them, even though they're still in the same general area. It feels like there's miles between us even though he's only two feet away.
Interesting dilema. Hope you are feeling better too too though
I feel ya
This is why I just stopped trying to date, when everyone you fall for only sees you as a friend and always wants something better even when they do give you a chance, whats the point?
I agree-
Same- 😭 I have alot of crush in the past now I think being single is cool🙂 tho I'm very lonely 😂
@@what-ne6st definitely understand that. The only things Ive found to help with loneliness are surrounding myself in my hobbies and just doing things I enjoy or that I couldn’t do if I was with someone.
Well at least you have youtube and anime-
@@zayn8891 right🙂
Yup. I am in the friend zone. My muse sees me as a friend, which is a complement, I suppose. I was hoping for a romantic relationship, but due to my "friendliness", I have become a friend. The emotional rollercoaster was more than I could accept, so I de-Mused my Muse and I am now feeling much more stable emotionally. I feel better, but she feels like she lost an admirer, which, she has. Not fair for me to continue. "Never get too attached to a person unless they feel the same toward you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you." Bakhtawer Akbar
You know guys who worked their way up from being a Dishwasher to 20 years later owning a restaurant? Well being in the friend zone you have a LESSER chance than that guy because your hard work means nothing.
Don’t go that fast because sometimes when you’re very very cute and super friendly girls would friend zone you simply because of fear that if they went out with you you might end up hurting them since you’re also friends to many people specially girls 🤣😂🤣
Just unfriend them what are u waiting for ,? Go and hurt other people feeling and let them know how u feel it
I once visited a psychologist specialised in men, mostly in their thirties, who can't get sex or relationships. One of her main tenets was: forget the verb "to friendzone". You don't get friendzoned. You're doing that yourself. Certainly one of the main remedies, make your intention clear from the very beginning, is hinted at here already.
And how exactly do you hint?
But I think these men also need to know that they gotta move on faster to the next, when there is no interest in them.
The thumbnail is so true it hurts
In many ways...
At least the little beans are cute
So cute
Yeah, it’s painful.
Dude I literally just found out the guy I’ve been wanting to date for the past 3 years got out of a 14yr relationship only because she broke up with him 😭😭😭 but he’s been in a new relationship since I’m guessing April of this year. But I think he got out the other relationship February of this year so like wtf!! 💀 I’m stuck in the friend zone and oh sucks.
I posted a selfie at the beginning of quarantine and he replied “Beautiful 🥰” like 😭😭😭 he knows I have feelings for him and yet he chose someone else after lowkey flirting w me like that.
trust even with friends is hard these days, I don’t want to experience the pain a second time , not again.
I think the thing a lot of people seem to forget is that relationships weren’t always “you wanna date? Yeah? Okay, see u Friday I’ll pick you up” our hustle culture has conditioned us to think that if it hasn’t lifted off by X amount of time it’s a wrap. There’s no such thing anymore as building trust over a long period of time before reassessing and deciding that a relationship is actually a good future for mutual friends.
Woah
This. This is my problem. I've tried to start every relationship I've ever been interested in, by trying to find common interests, common beliefs, and a healthy dynamic of communication. And it's like once I do and I feel comfortable persuing something more, we're already too close as friends to be anything else. It's like I took too long to decide it was healthy for me to persue them.
Amen
@@JAGreat the number one rule for me is I have to like them as a friend in the first place, if not, then we will never date and if that puts me in their friend zone and I'm now undatable to them then I know what I need to know about them and we won't date.
You're doing the right thing don't second guess yourself, friend
This is one of the reasons why being single is the best. Being single means that I ain't got no shit to deal with nor do I need to worry about all of those problems involved with this thing you all call love. Besides, I'd rather waste my time and energy on something else.
Not only that. Better get any fantasies of real attractive crushes out of your mind. Ain't gonna happen. It's more likely to be a person with ordinary looks if you wind up with someone. Read married people's stories.
yea stay single ur whole life lets see how far u get
@@jonasferrao doesn't really sounds like a bad idea, after all I also prefer being alone most of time anyways.
@Vy Lina for you it may seem like a good idea but for 99% of humans its really not. staying single is quite literally the worst thing for the human species. Humans are social creatures by nature that's no accident that's evolution. so your original comment is flawed in the sense " This is one of the reasons why being single is the best." It should be more like "This is one of the reasons why being single for me is the best." i hope you understand my point
What I thought for 26 years of my life. Sometimes things change even if you dont want them to.
After I was turned down by my best friend, my whole view on love changed. I’m afraid to ever be exceptionally happy again and have a connection extremely deep. I never want to bond with someone in that way again. Barely anything makes me feel happy anymore.
Going through the same shit with my bsf smh don’t know why she won’t give me a chance… it’s just so confusing and my heart ❤️🩹 hurts … just letting you know bro you not alone 💚
I’ve never been rejected before, but I’m too afraid to ask the person I have feelings for because I don’t want to be embarrassed by getting rejected.
My depression makes me feel like I’ve been rejected hundreds of time even though I never have.
Maybe that's why I can't admit my feelings to them 😔
The problem with Friendzone it's that the person who is loved takes for granted all the affection of the person who is interested as being normal, when actually the person is making an effort to show all his quality and love. Nobody owes nobody nothing but still...
I believe self-love and self-worth are the basis of all great long-lasting relationships. Never get involved with anyone else until you discover ways to love yourself first because if you ever find yourself being rejected or "friend-zoned" (a term I don't like using) you won't feel disappointed as much and you'll be able to accept and move on a lot more gracefully Because, how? You will still feel great about yourself and hold the keys to your own happiness.
to be honest , it's not that i'm scared of rejection or turned down, i'm scared of it ruining the friendship if i end up confessing , but for now ig ill just play it cool and just act normally
Same
But I don't think it will ruin as long as you keep playing cool and give space to the person
I'm the kind of person who needs to be friends with someone before entering a romantic relationship with them (being able to trust and whatnot). However, it's a good idea to let them know if you're interested sooner rather than later. Not everyone's relationships develops the same way.
Even if going from friend to lover works for you, doesn't mean it works for the other person.
Im the one who puts everyone in the friendzone. Im always aware of people and how they feel about me, i just cant be with anyone due to massive trust issues. If someone romantically likes me, i know about it but i dont acknowledge it.
I’m the same way! I struggle with severe social anxiety and multiple forms of PTSD, on top of intense trust issues, from being betrayed so dastardly so many times in life. It’s not that I never like certain people- I mean, we all catch feelings at times- but whenever someone expresses attraction to me, they are placed firmly in the friend zone! And if they continue pushing- flirting, hinting, etc.- I simply feign ignorance… that’s when a sweet little southern-belle voice comes in handy… 😂
This community can make everyone become friends.
I love you guys. ❤️
I remember Taylor Swift sang a song called “It’s nice to have a friend”.
@Abraham Villa You're not alone, we're here for you. ❤️
Same!!!
To be honest, best thing is just to live your life. Not worth the headache of not knowing where you stand with them, the false hopes etc.
Although this is a great video and very informative where it helps you not to expect too much if anything at all. 👍🏾👍🏾
Amanda's voice is incredible! it's so nice and soothing, I could listen to it for hours and hours
I'll take this chance to say
AMANDA!
I HAVE A CRUSH ON YOU 💜
And That Heart Means You've Been Friendzoned. LoL
@@Nine-IVV nah fam, I got the heart two minutes after commenting.
it means that between hundreds of comments my Crush saw and responded 😜
@@TR1ckY_TV Oh....Congrats Then Bud 🖤😂
@@Nine-IVV Thanks 😍
that really made my day!
hope u have a good one 🖤
@drolgh8 God I can't believe how cursed this sounds
Someone: In a friend zone and complains
Me: Stranger zoned by everyone, and never complains
ikr?? People be complaining that they have friends 🤦 and theyre not obligated to like them back either
Fr!!
Exactly. How arrogant are those who complain about having friends. We could all do with having such a problem.
🍪
Revving up your engine,
Listen to her howling roar,
Metal under tension
Begging you to touch and go...
*HiGhWaY tO tHe STRANGER ZONE!!!*
i watched a ton of videos like these when we were just friends. they still pop up in my recommended :) happy to say we’re more than friends now. don’t give up yall :D
Congrats! Happy for you
How tf do you do that?
the way you said "don't worry my friend" at the start lmaoo
Ah yeah, being friendzoned. I too used to think it was horrible, especially during my heartbreak, but... now, I see it differently: knowing all the esteem she has for me, I realize I'm lucky to have her by my side, even as a friend. And that's why though I'm still a little disappointed it didn't ended how I wanted to, I'm happy...
I technically got friendzoned when i confessed my feelings but in a way that still makes me wonder if there isn't or at least wasn't a genuine interest from both sides and that the rejection was rather a result of the fact that the timing was maybe a little too early... Man these things are complicated
wait i thought its only me ,so may i know ur next move? or what u doin rn
@@magsolx2240 well you have to ask yourself if the effort ur putting in is reciprocated in any way or not... even after putting all my cards on the table I didn't experience her taking the initiative so I let it go... If you realize you're maybe starting to chase someone instead of pursuing, it's time to move on... If she can give a final and conclusive answer that's very much appreciated because it can help you let go but sadly that's not always the case...
I had the same happen to me last week. Whether it was too early or too late is not important I believe - the emotional connection is where it's at.
The girl clearly liked me, but I never made a romantic move, but rather just confessed my feelings which put us in an uncomfortable position. No reason to invite someone on a date if you've been hanging out with them without a "situation label" for a while. Next time just go for the kiss when the timing is right :)
Would you rather have the love of your life…
A. Absolutely hate your guts, vomit at the sight of you, and want you dead?
B. Respect you , charish your friendship, and want what’s best for you. While not being romantically interested in you.
Honestly I’d pick B.
Right. I'd rather someone hint that they don't like me, rather than blatantly say it. If I wanna know up front, I'll ask.
People seem to get too salty when they're friend zoned. 🙄 If you only want them as something more, then you clearly didn't like them at all. Friendship is the foundation of EVERY relationship.
I would pick B for my fictional crushes. But for my real life crush I just want him to get squished.
Exactly!! Atleast they have friends
Screw that I'll take A first
@@AshGreen359 self depreciation kink 🤔
Also a lot ppl think they are “ugly” when their crush don’t “like you like you” in that way when it’s just maybe you don’t have that certain personality they’re looking for in a partner .. ex: you maybe shy they want outgoing or they maybe too outgoing and wanting something gentle I mean the list goes on for ppl having the reasons 🤷🏽♀️
Didn’t need this to know, but thanks for looking out haha
It's a important thing the relationship we have with ourselves, to be our real friends and lovers.
True
fun fact: there is no such thing is a friendzone, only a situation in which one person wants more than the other.
The thing "friendzone" is only a thing for girls. Men would not even say "hey" to a female if he was not into her. That is simple human biology.
@@andersnielsen6044 Not true.
@@khakicampbell6640 You better study some human psychology my friend. ;)
Well put
This has put my mind at rest, its really helpful knowing when to stop pursuing something, the sooner the better. Thank you Psych2Go!!!
I met a woman at the park a while back. We talked for HOURS! Once it started getting darker we left the parked and continued our conversation while we walked. Never have I ever had such long and deep conversations with another woman the way I have with her And she's said the same about me. We both have admitted to feeling comfortable and safe around/with each other. We both agreed we feel a sense of peace and understanding when together.
Well.. recently I confessed to her that I liked her deeply. That the feelings grew over time and even asked her if she'd give us a chance to see where it could go. Sad to say she rejected me. Said she only saw/sees me as a friend. Although she's admitted that I have ALL the qualities she looks for in a guy, on top of the ways I make her feel. . She just kept saying that she just wants a friendship with me. . I had no other choice but to accept and respect that.. but dang does it hurt. 😔 compared to the guys she's been with i know id be a better option but im not even an option. . She reached out yesterday to mention how she's been thinking about her ex. . An older guy. A creep. Who only wants to bust a nut.. hurts to see the woman you like do that to herself just so she can get hurt again.
This is why I tried closing myself off and avoid falling for anyone. .
I came across this meme the other day that goes:
"Them: how do you lose a girl?"
"Him: just be a good guy, they hate that shit"
Thought it was funny at first until I realized I was him..
Hope all the good guys out there are doing alright. Keep your heads up kings. You're all great! And deserve a queen who will love you back the way you'd love her.
Alright. Bye
that's crazy.
If you haven't heard of it, you should do some reading on attachment theory. It sounds like that's kinda what happened here...she probably has anxious attachment which means she'll unconsciously want to keep going back to her ex who sounds like he has avoidant attachment. It's a sad game of magnets. You weren't avoidant, so she didn't feel an attachment to you. Attachment theory is not the end-all-be-all but it can apply to a lot when it comes to relationships, and if nothing else, will help put things into a new perspective.
yo facts. THis is literally the same situation I had with this girl I've been friends with since first year high school, and we've been friends for over 4 years. Straight up. And there's nothing else to say on my side really, it's the same as yours. And yeah I respect her, and whatever she's happy with. Happy to say were still good friends to this day. I've lost my romantic feelings for her, but I can confidently say I am her bestfriend and I want the best for her, because I genuinely deem that she is a good person who deserves more than what she had on her ex-es.
Xlang i mentioned in a comment that having friends of the opposite sex is too risky.it sounds like she's using you as a rebound.you deserve better and even though you may not realize it, you're dodging a bullet.
a good woman will be honest about her feelings,no matter what they are and shouldn't keep you dangling.in my honest opinion,you should stop bbeing friends.the weird thing is, is that sometimes,that's when they start to want you.when you don't want them anymore.
i hopeyou find someone nice with healthy boundaries.best wishes from france :)
@@whatshername3158 I've been slowly drifting away from her.. we still talk occasionally but I have been trying hard to not text/call her because I know that I'm not as important to her as she was to me. It sucks when the people we end up liking rather use us than like/love us back. I appreciate your advice and im slowly getting to where I may be able to walk away completely. Its just hard since I still like her but im getting there. Everyday she shows me why I shouldn't stay. . But I always find a reason to stay even when I shouldn't. .. I guess thats my toxic trait twds myself. I do for others what they most likely wouldn't do for me.. its something I've been working on fixing cause at the end I end up getting hurt while they get what they wanted/needed. Thank you 😊 🙌 I really appreciate you!
Be safe and careful! Best of wishes from CHICAGO!
P.s. always wanted to go to France!
I have been in friendzone for so long, I have the whole map of friendzone saved in my head. I can visualise it when I close my eyes😂
Me when none of the signs are applicable to my relationship with my crush:
Don’t do that, don’t give me hope
do it
Do it! :D
Any updates ?
@@say1nt ima be fully honest with you. we were flirting with each other for a while, but after the year ended we just kinda fell off and i think she lost interest in me because we don't really text anymore :(
@@Crimspn try texting her more and if she is leaving u on seen or not responding or being dry for more than like 2 days u should give up on it
I had a crush on a girl , today i told her she said she has a gf , she said we(me and her) could be still best friends . i cried but now im alright .😉
Psych2Go
: Do you think you're in the Friendzone?
Me: Yes.
Psych2Go
: Do you consider letting your crush know about how you truly feel?
Me: No.
I’ve been on both sides, and both situations hurt both people involved mentally in different ways and magnitudes. If you like a friend romantically the best way is to tell them, maybe if you’re not sure about your feelings wait a few months but not more, not after you’re sure. Tell them and if they don’t return the feelings, end the friendship. They might realize they also have feelings after cutting contact as the space allows them to think more, or they might not and even be more sure they don’t have romantic feelings. Maybe if you’re really in love ask them again after a few months of no contact, and if they still don’t return it, move on. Love can’t grow deeper than an obsession when it’s one sided. It’s like a tennis match, to have fun and grow you need two players in the game. Don’t settle for anything less. Don’t stay in a mentally unhealthy situation for too long as the consequences of that will also affect your otherwise healthy relationships in future.
The best advice what you can do, if you get friendzoned is... end this relationship. There is a very high risk, that you are going to be exploited by your "crush", because they know that you are emotionally tied. Second reason is simple - you can't build a friendship, if your expectations are different. You will not be able to recover from rejection if you will be spending much time with that person. Third reason - they told you "let's be just friends", but they actually don't like you, they don't have a courage to say directly "you are not interesting for me, go away".
This is not pessimistic point of view, this is reality.
Thank you I needed to read that 😊
The worst part of it, is when you say that a friendship is not possible to your crush and you move on.
Then the other person "magically" is now into you...
I hate that...
Facts
I have to object.
I have had people in my life who cared about me deepy and wanted more and I liked them as friends and cared about them, but didn't see them as anything more than friends.
I didn't want them to go away, I wanted them in my life and I did respect them. The only reason some of those friendships broke was because they didn't respect that and tried to force me or convince me, which made ME feel exploited. In some extreme cases this has been going on for years until we broke ties because they could not accept that I was not going to be with them, sleep with thfm or what not just out of a good deed. But there were cases when crushes became really good friends and even more than that- we both realized we were better off as friends and that we would have been a horrible couple or would have had a very incompatible relationship. But as friends, we were absolutely fine. Sometimes you can get MUCH closer as friends than you could have ever gotten in a relationship. It depends on you and it depends very much on the other person too.
Rejection doesn't always necessarily have anything to do with you.
Sonetimes the people you like may simply not be a good match romantically or they don't have the capacity for a relationship, some of them may not be ready to love anyone in that way.
It's not always that personal.
Sometimes people are going through difficult things and would even like to fall in love or like you back but simply can't.
Mental health issues are one really big reason for that. Or they may still be in love with their ex or recover from their last relationship.
Again, it's very individual, some people feel ready one month after a break up to build something new, others will take 2 years or longer (neurologically, after 2 years the brain is generally ready to mix a new love cocktail 🍸). Some people are busy building a career or finding themselves and would appreciate a friend in their lives.
Walking away from somebody because they don't give you what you want immediately kinda raises the question if you are actually ready to give in a relationship or just looking to find something that benefits you, your ego and your physical and sexual needs.
It's about give and take though.
Just because you don't get instant gratification in the way you would like doesn't mean it wouldn't be worth sticking around and try to build something honest with mutual respect and care.
@@ip1136 Building a friendship with someone from the beginning and trying to create one after being friendzoned are very different things. As a rule, the situation gets so complicated that neither side comes out well.
Even if the other person has a sincere friendship to offer, there is still the issue of emotional attachment. It's nice to have friends, but it doesn't satisfy the need for love with someone. Personally, I don't see the point of building anything with a person I had other expectations of. I have no obligation to maintain a friendship with someone when I will feel uncomfortable in it.
Just because I'm interested in finding a partner doesn't mean I need "instant gratification." If I'm looking for someone to have a relationship with and the attempt turns out to be unsuccessful, I just move on and don't play any weird games.
This video helped explain a recent interaction I had with a longtime friend. We had been friends for 4 years, and a week ago, I revealed my feelings for her. She (gently) friend-zoned me, even as I attempted to sell the idea of dating me. The 4 years was probably too long to wait to reveal my feelings.
Disappointment will continue to happen all your life, the possibilty of getting hurt will always be present. It takes courage to put your heart out so someone can find it.
"I love you like a brother"!!
The sentence that destroys the heart of the needy bloke! 🙄🙄
I certainly didn't search for this video!
Being friends is also cool. It's not bad news, it's just differant then expected.
Yeah, like,people need to stop calling it being " friendzone", like if you don't care for that person unless is in a romantic or sexual way, just leave. If you stay around complaining about a " friendzone" and getting mad that they rejected you, then you are not really being their friend, you are just an entitled prick
Number 6 also kinda shows they aren't a good friend either. If you are going above and beyond to help out a friend and they aren't doing anything to reciprocate or let you know that you are appreciated, they are a bad friend. Period. You can care about someone and not be used by them, it's time to set some boundaries. Luckily, you're on this channel
Step 1: you meet a girl
Step 2: she’s a very pretty and nice girl
Step 3: you get to know the girl
Step 4: you start catching feelings but you deny it at first
Step 5: You realize you’re in love after several weeks.
Step 6: you get signs she likes you
Step 7: you gather the courage to ask them out
Step 8: You ask them out
Step 9 they reject you
Step 10 you come home and cry until you fall asleep
Step 11: repeat until successful.
Number of attempts: ???
Step 12: you eventually get fed up with the love thingy, go your own way for good and just hire escorts (in a legal place ofc) for "pleasure"
We get that as girls too..guys lead us on and then when we start to show interest they act hot and cold and sometimes are emotionally unavailable..
@@darshusharma3134 It's deliberate... Too much early love=friendzone...
I even know some guys who got friendzoned one too many time and decided to rely on escorts... They act as cold as ice with ordinary girls, you could almost think they're gay, yet they still have regular sexual life, they just pay escorts instead of asking people out. They just don't care about love anymore.
Liked her before she was pretty and even wrote her a song but Idk if I have the guts to tell her how I feel
@@timumbra2476 Sorry to bring it down for you, but it ain't working that way.
That's the way to win her friendzone at best, not her heart.
Love is a matter of value.
You can tell her how you feel, but you have to accept how she feels in return and if it ain't love, you have to move on.
I used to believe in true love, now i just see escorts every now and then and "love" them half a hour at a time. Caress them, hug them, make love to them and then off to my ordinary life.
If someone you like doesn't like you, chances are there's someone better out there waiting for you
I already know that I got friendzoned yet I'm still watching this
Pass the blunt brother 🔥👌🏽💨!!!!!!
did you think that she liked you back????
@@puppytacos3769 not really, I received mixed signals
Think I’m friendzoned too smh and I liked this girl since elementary school. I’m 31. I think she liked me at one point but I might’ve fumbled the bag
🌈Free timestamps for everyone :D✨
1. Only you show off your attractive qualities - 1:02
2. They mention other people whom they find attractive - 1:35
3. They don't flirt back - 2:01
4. You didn't hint your attraction from the beginning - 2:59
5. They don't initiate touch - 3:44
6. You're always the one doing the favors - 4:31
7. They always have a third wheel - 5:07
8. Their attitude and language are strictly friendly - 5:34
Thx
@@Qavender ur welcome!
@@gummiiworm8205 :)
Thanks
If you’re always the one doing the favors, then you are not even in the friend zone
More like the slave zone...*smh*
Friendly reminder, just because she/he agrees or invites you to do things just the two of you doesn't necessarily means she/he sees you in a romantic way. Case and point, I've been dealing with the exact same fact that a person that I like doesn't see me that way. But we pretty much always do things just the two of us. She once explained to me that she did it with all her friends since she has a wide variety of acquaintances from different social circles. So making casual activities and making sure everyone has a fun time is not an easy thing to do. It sucked, but it is the reality so it's okay. I can live with just being friend since she's actually really cool.
Not gonna lie, I have this “friend zone barrier” that I rarely notice time to time, so sometimes, I see myself “too friendly” to those that like me, which can lead to confusion. I basically have most friend zone qualifies that the video mentioned, but reversed, I basically do what the video mentions... but in a sense I’m trying to be better friends with them.
As someone aromantic, it’s hard to pick up the signs from friends, but once I do, I’d go along with it. So if they are happy, then I’m good with that.
my friendzone experiences for the last 5 years, way to many, to the point where maybe it’s time to change
One of my best friends is actually my ex. We dated and realized we have a stronger friendship and don’t see each other romantically. It’s possible to at least give your friend a shot if they like you romantically and try it out. But if all you can see them as is a friend tell them. And possibly your friendship will be even stronger after. It worked for me.
Have you heard of a situation where you're both in the friend zone but you're also potential lovers? I was in the situation and let me tell you it hurts. where you know both parties have feelings towards each other but are afraid to admit it. I was too scared to admit my feelings because….. I don't know the real reason but I just was. And now he's moved on and I'm just here . But one thing that I've learned is to express your feelings because life is too short. And what's the point of having regrets? One day I will talk with him and clear everything up but I'm also a coward to face that certain communication.
that long time friend makes you really question some supposed platonic thingsss
I love the channel, you help me so much through my daily life.
The reason why the friendzone is dreaded is because a lot of people look at their crush through the lens of their feelings. If you see them as a person they may become a true friend and you will meet more people through them or you will see them for what they are and move on. The only thing holding people back is the fear of disappointment and uncertainty.
I used to friendzone people all the time. I’d agree most of these are pretty accurate, especially saying to their face that they are a friend. Even with that, people like to see things through rose colored glasses.
Exactly, be an asshole and reject everyone , isn't it? Probably want to date a hot and rich dude/girl huh(
Welp, ig im friendzoned by my crush-
Let's cry together 😭
😩
Atleast you have a friend
Same
Sorry to have heard that, but I'm sure you'll eventually find the ideal partner
Those who in the friendzone, the only way out is you walk away from that relationship. If you still hope he or she will turn around and accept you, think again. Hope can be poisonous, it'll gave you depression, suicidal thought, might even effect your mental health. Remember, you''re not walk away as a coward or loser, you walk away as a fighter. Trust me, it's not worth a penny hoping or waiting for someone who don't like or only sees us as a friend to change their mind and pick us...
This just put more smile on my face
CONGRATULATIONS
Me:
Expectations: *beyond friendship and relationships like anime*
Reality: yeah it’s okay
Ngl hearing a hard truth in such a gentle soothing voice does help
It seems to me that the entire friendzone issue is a case of "YOU walk a mile in my shoes, and see how you feel". If someone thinks you're a good person to have at social gatherings, but any crush you might have on them is waved away, just wait your turn. Because 9 times out of 10, someone else will have a crush on YOU, but you will want nothing to do with them romantically. It's a vicious circle. And not that many know how to untangle themselves from it.
If you know your worth and expressed to your crush how much you can love and support them and they still don’t see you that way, maybe they just don’t deserve you.
Damn, I needed this video a year ago. I had a big crush on my friend; there were times I thought he was into me too. I was so emotionally confused I wanted a clear understanding of our friendship. My ego got in the way, and I ended up getting upset with him. They say hurt people hurt others, and I hurt him. I did not intend to. I Just wanted to be on the same page so there would be any more confusion. I pushed too far instead of just finding a way to let it go and fully accept the friend zone. I learned a lesson; I miss my friend; I should have done better. I still have hope that one day we can both be friends again. 😌
That's sad
What's funny is that when I first met my boyfriend I didn't know if he liked me at first but when we were friends when I invited him to my badminton match at my high school and he came all the way to my high school (because he went to a different high school) and took the city bus to come to my match. That was the first sign. He showed up at my match and while I was in the court my boyfriend looked at me when I was playing. I looked away and blushed because I couldn't do nothing about it at the time. After I was done with my match I sat next to him and he asked me "how did the match go?" I said "I won my match." He complimented back "You did a great job out on the court" I just looked at him while blushing there. That was the second sign. He eventually asked me if I was hungry and I said "Yea of course I'm tired of my match" he brought some snacks. (When he brought me snacks I knew he was gonna be a good hubby) That was the third sign. After we were done eating our snacks we went to the tennis court and talked there. We talked about all sorts of things about school, sports, and life. Then we started to talk about deep stuff in our life about our past. I really felt like we had a really deep connection. And at that time it was only the second day we were friends. After we had our deep conversation we were flirting a bit and I sat closer to him and see how he would react. I looked at him straight into his eyes and told him "Close your eyes" he asked me "Why? " I shouted at him "Just do it! " I felt like it was the right moment and I kissed him on the lips. I know this story sounds crazy but its true. My point is that these signs were the smallest hints I saw that others couldn't. For whoever reads my comments single or not should understand that if someone really wants to spend time with you. You should see these little signs about the person your crushing on. Sorry everyone for the inconvenience of this long paragraph.
I don't think those signs are so little... To me rather obvious. But it's a very cute story. 💌
I'm glad it worked out, but that's sexual harassment.
hppy for you but if the roles were reversed would have probably ended up by getting slapped in the face by the girl
How adorable. It’s sad that not everyone has had the chance to have that kind of connection with a person. I’ve seen people comment on YT that are in their 50’s and have never had a girlfriend/boyfriend!
Tell me if I'm wrong but I'm just going to say it: All the aspects of the friend zone make for an unhealthy friendship. Think about it, has anybody ever said that they are happy being in the friendzone? Why have a friend when you're not happy?
Well I'm happy to be in the friendzone. There's always one.
I understand, but sometimes it’s just to hard to completely disconnect from the person you like. Only way to prevent that from happening is to not have a relationship with them at all. But if you want to take the risk, all for it.
Sometimes you're someone choice, sometimes you're not even a thought, learning to realize this is the first step to be happy.
Just a reminder. You put yourself in the friendzone. If you are unhappy you have to either:
Be upfront about your feelings
Move on to a new love interest
End the friendship
The best course of action is dependent on your unique situation
❤❤❤❤ This
Okay, so what if I was upfront about my feelings but he rejected me? But I still think he’s a good person and friend and we get along. Do I end the friendship because I didn’t get my way? Do I just move on? What if I can’t move on right now? I just have to hide my feelings then?
I feel like ending the friendship is the worst option bc the person that friendzoned you just wants to be friends and you abandoned them... You took that friendship away from them
@@kenxiedegrassi458 the answer to that is what is best for you. He's not wrong for not wanting you, but if you still want a friendship with him you'll have to manage your feelings in the way you see is best for you. If you can't get past them it may be best to end the friendship. If you can get over them, maybe you don't gain a boyfriend but you have a friend.
@@ivythealiencat Depends on the situation. Sometimes it's best but sometimes it's not. If it's a new friendship, then you don't owe them anything. But it's an older one, then more care will have to be taken in deciding what to do
He friend zoned me, so I apologised for interpreting his messages as flirting and said I’d never make that mistake again. He said, well maybe not never. I can’t do this 😭
1:34 I talk about other ppl that I find attractive to my crush, bc I have two crushes 🧍♀️
I'm luckily not in the friend zone but we don't "romantically" like each other, we're just simply attracted but no intentions of going as far as dating each other.
I can't make the distinction between "they think of me as a good friend" and "they love me" A LOT of the time and I feel like my autism has something to do with that, but I'm not sure.
I had same problem when I was young
While getting turned down sucks, turning somebody else down feels even worse.
Story of my life! No one has ever been interested in me romantically. So I know to signs all to well.
just got friendzoned feeling good lol
Oh heck by the title I thought this was about finding out if you were falling in love with your friend with benefits or not. That would be an interesting topic to cover in a future video haha, and thanks for many many free videos till this day!
This happened to me and I’ve finally been getting over it.
"Wait, I was just in her friendzone all along?"
*Always....*
*has been...*
I have neither friends nor lover, so this information literally saved my live.
This video is great! Thank you for this
I'm glad you like it
@@Psych2go background music is too loud.