Its the knowledge that we as women are all too aware of men’s physical capabilities to overpower us and that A man, let alone a GROUP of men, could easily take advantage of that and hurt us. So regardless of WHO the person is whether they are a friend, family member, stranger, teacher, or pastor the possibility of being in danger is always there. Now to which degree that we feel unsafe or in danger can vary from person to person based on childhood trauma, negative experiences growing up in adolescence and harsh realities that we have had to face in adulthood. Another thing to note is that the level of fear can also increase given a common choice that is often made in group settings which is either 1.) actively joining in or 2.) taking a step back and just witnessing the event taking place (aka the bystander effect) Which neither of these choices is the right one, being actually stepping in and stopping the group or even one singular individual from taking advantage of or hurting someone. So to sum it up I think most women can probably agree to some extent that when we are hanging out with our guy friends we may feel safe, but there can be moments when we suddenly remember that the chance that we will be hurt or taken advantage of by any number of our guy friends is low, but NEVER zero.
1:18:00 I think it’s important to point out that most cases of SA happen with people [you] know. Not to mention, not all, but a lot of men will just turn a blind eye and not speak up against their homie….So I think its valid that girls may be worry of their own friend group because unfortunately you never truly know.
Funny moments 1:28:00 - Every time Sage said “I’m a nice guy” 1:39:20-1:40:05 - Sage’s “Have you been lookin for me?” 1:41:04 - “I did that when I was like 20… 21…?” “So last year…” 1:41:34-1:42:00 - “What’s worse: the where my hug at or the nice guy” escalating to “YOU’RE A SIMP” “YOU’RE A WEIRDO” 1:43:43 - “You don't remember that?" "What" "When you thought that you were gay” 1:54:49 - Sage squeezing his chest as he said “Hooter Girl #5”
It does not take a women to feel uncomfortable around a certain man to think or feel like scared of being around men. You can see a friend and feel safe and at the end sadly it can still happen in situations of what you weren’t scared of. The women shouldn’t feel to just look for the right men to feel safe around but just always be on your guard which is the saddest part.
i literally teared up seeing yall posted this rn. i’ve been struggling a lot this week and this podcast is a let go for me for the hour or two that i’m watching it. thank you guys and keep doing what you’re doing! love yall❤️
i literally feel apart of this group, this is a friend group i strive to have. i have absolutely no friends (i’m not kidding) so i really appreciate you guys💕
it’s crazy, because I knew this guy my whole life, his family was friends with my family since before I was even born and he was even my first crush, and he got me my first job ever at his sisters boutique and I trusted him like no other and he ended up SA me at work. I do believe you can just be friends with men, but just be cautious of where you are and who you’re with alone, I love you guys btw for speaking on this ❤️❤️
@@samanthasingh7831 it does girl ❤️ it took me 2 years to finally be able to get a new job though because I was 16 when it happened, and my boyfriends mom got me my second job at 18. I am very cold/distant and just aware of my surroundings with men at my job though. I think it’s okay to try and be understanding with yourself and if you can speak to someone at work, because I did that with my new job so they could understand me a little bit more as to why I avoid men.
@@samanthasingh7831it DOES get better i promise, let yourself heal step by step because it’s not just your mind that needs to heal your body needs to aswell. you’re allowed to be upset about it for as long as you feel girl ❤️❤️
Guys let's stop saying there's something between maru and Sean they don't interact with each other as they used to, its really sad they are friends and nothing more its obvious
I’ve been watching for a while now and I just wanted to say I love this podcast so much and that it helps me get thru every week. I’ve been struggle with some stuff for a while now and every Tuesday I can just escape reality for abt 2 hours and laugh and it’s the best part of my week 🫶🏽.
1:20:36 I feel like girls who get those random thoughts could have past/ unresolved trauma and it could be with guys they trust but it’s that inkling of doubt that has them on guard.
Idk if it’s just me but Sean use to have a soft spot for Maru. And lately because of the jokes he’s been extra rough with her. Like don’t let the masculinity get to you Sean. Like idk I feel she expects it from Nick. But from Sean to go from being a kind protector to like dogging her. Idk it’s a lil off putting. Be nice to Maru she doesn’t always laugh things off as easily and that’s okay. She’s a kind soul. Just take it easy. She’s always got y’all’s back. Just my insight 🤷🏻♀️
Dude I have a reminder to listen to y’all’s podcast it honestly helps me a lot with life 😭😭 I listen to it during school, or while doing homework so thank you guys❤️
It's late for me so i'm watching this tmrw! Honestly you guys have no idea how much this podcast means to me. I look forward to it every week❤️ love yall🫶🫶
The girl having a fleeting thought isn’t really a" you mistrust your guy friends.” More so like you know if these ppl were to suddenly flip there’s nothing I can do to stop them especially with the bystander effect. Like you physically can’t stop them, that fear is what I think Nick was talking about.
Not to generalize the male gender but if you have heard some of the questionable shit they have said about girls but then lessen the effect by saying you are a friend though we wouldn’t do that to you. That random thought makes sense.
I sorta agree with Sean about live performances where I’d rather see singers etc than DJs, but I also love when DJs switch it up, like for example Kaytranada I’d love to see bc he puts a nice twist on his songs live
“Where my hug at?” Guy is the next evolution of “nice guy” instead of proclaiming they are a nice guy they pretend to be a nice guy to get close to you
This one pick up line Ive used a few times, you go up and act awkward and you say "soooooooooo.... You come here often?" They always laugh and you just continue conversation from there 😅
Devin and Maru’s friendship is sooo underrated but they’re so sweet and supportive towards one another!
thisss
I always say thissss their friendship is so pure 🥹
YES !!! I love Capricorns 🤞🏽
yessss
Omg I bet you love the Maru and Devin car talk video
Sage was HILARIOUS in this episode, I can’t
i know he was on a roll😭
bro i couldn't breathe i was dying
FACTS
the chemistry with this group is unmatched ❤
14:23 “was Sean not responding, so you texted the group chat ?” Nick leave that poor girl alone 🤣
This
🤣🤣
he's def their #1 shipper
bro sage was extra funny in this podcast I love it
LMFAO REALLY!?!! I’m so ready to click play
He was locked in the whole time 😂😂
Nick was too lmao
Fr
nick definitely gives “where my hug at” vibes 😭
i hate how maru seems to be embarrassed to speak her mind sometimes 😣 speak your truth girlie!!!!❤
Rightttt !! And a lot of the times anything she says is super valid and or it’s like super funny or interesting
@@rosa1162 yes!! like when she said she wanted a break from talking lmao she was so real for that and of course nick/sean made her feel “weird”
They always pick on her 😿
@@linacamacho887wait what time stamp?
Suburb talks will always be a comfort podcast🫶🏼
🫶🏽🫶🏽
Maru just wanting to chill together and not talk for a second is so real!!
When
around 1:08:03@@ThudnerFam7
the way Sean's smile dropped when Maru called them sexist 😭
HAHAHA i noticed that too
when was that lol I didn't notice it
@@ggeeperscreepers24:46
Its the knowledge that we as women are all too aware of men’s physical capabilities to overpower us and that A man, let alone a GROUP of men, could easily take advantage of that and hurt us. So regardless of WHO the person is whether they are a friend, family member, stranger, teacher, or pastor the possibility of being in danger is always there.
Now to which degree that we feel unsafe or in danger can vary from person to person based on childhood trauma, negative experiences growing up in adolescence and harsh realities that we have had to face in adulthood.
Another thing to note is that the level of fear can also increase given a common choice that is often made in group settings which is either
1.) actively joining in
or
2.) taking a step back and just witnessing the event taking place (aka the bystander effect)
Which neither of these choices is the right one, being actually stepping in and stopping the group or even one singular individual from taking advantage of or hurting someone.
So to sum it up I think most women can probably agree to some extent that when we are hanging out with our guy friends we may feel safe, but there can be moments when we suddenly remember that the chance that we will be hurt or taken advantage of by any number of our guy friends is low, but NEVER zero.
guys i think sage is a nice guy
He’s a nice guy!
another 2hr therapy sessionnn, im blessed every tuesday🤞🏽
We heal on Tuesday’s😌🫶🏽
1:18:00 I think it’s important to point out that most cases of SA happen with people [you] know. Not to mention, not all, but a lot of men will just turn a blind eye and not speak up against their homie….So I think its valid that girls may be worry of their own friend group because unfortunately you never truly know.
Since Esther and Jeremy revealed their relationship, when will Maru & Sean reveal that they're secretly dating? 🤣
Aren’t Sean has a gf?
Are you joking or being fr? 😭
@@45678Mimithey broke up a while ago
@@45678Mimino they broke up
Maru only date asian
hearing them mention pierce the veil is so crazyy. that’s literally my favorite band
always love watching the beginnings before they even start the intro
these are the funniest moments broo
Funny moments
1:28:00 - Every time Sage said “I’m a nice guy”
1:39:20-1:40:05 - Sage’s “Have you been lookin for me?”
1:41:04 - “I did that when I was like 20… 21…?” “So last year…”
1:41:34-1:42:00 - “What’s worse: the where my hug at or the nice guy” escalating to “YOU’RE A SIMP” “YOU’RE A WEIRDO”
1:43:43 - “You don't remember that?" "What" "When you thought that you were gay”
1:54:49 - Sage squeezing his chest as he said “Hooter Girl #5”
It does not take a women to feel uncomfortable around a certain man to think or feel like scared of being around men. You can see a friend and feel safe and at the end sadly it can still happen in situations of what you weren’t scared of. The women shouldn’t feel to just look for the right men to feel safe around but just always be on your guard which is the saddest part.
Sean mentioning A Walk to Remember made me love him more 🤧🤧🤧🤧💖
8:33 i’m crying at nick wanting to go to hooters for “the ambiance” 😭😭😭
i literally teared up seeing yall posted this rn. i’ve been struggling a lot this week and this podcast is a let go for me for the hour or two that i’m watching it. thank you guys and keep doing what you’re doing! love yall❤️
I’m glad we can help in even the slightest way, we love you too💙💙
@@suburbtalks623i save the episode every week for the day after chemo cause it makes me smile so much :)
Cynthia is so drop dead gorgeous I can’t stop staring at her 😣❤️🔥
fax
I want a friendship like Maru and Devin’s
NICKS BACKKKK
We mitheddd himmm
i literally feel apart of this group, this is a friend group i strive to have. i have absolutely no friends (i’m not kidding) so i really appreciate you guys💕
it’s crazy, because I knew this guy my whole life, his family was friends with my family since before I was even born and he was even my first crush, and he got me my first job ever at his sisters boutique and I trusted him like no other and he ended up SA me at work. I do believe you can just be friends with men, but just be cautious of where you are and who you’re with alone, I love you guys btw for speaking on this ❤️❤️
@@samanthasingh7831 it does girl ❤️ it took me 2 years to finally be able to get a new job though because I was 16 when it happened, and my boyfriends mom got me my second job at 18. I am very cold/distant and just aware of my surroundings with men at my job though. I think it’s okay to try and be understanding with yourself and if you can speak to someone at work, because I did that with my new job so they could understand me a little bit more as to why I avoid men.
@@samanthasingh7831it DOES get better i promise, let yourself heal step by step because it’s not just your mind that needs to heal your body needs to aswell. you’re allowed to be upset about it for as long as you feel girl ❤️❤️
Guys let's stop saying there's something between maru and Sean they don't interact with each other as they used to, its really sad they are friends and nothing more its obvious
@@bigbyattyshe’s a bop she doesn’t even deserve his attention ☠️
@@hawtism8359 when did "deserving" a man's attention become important?
@@bigbyatty no one said it’s important bop
i need to hear what cynthia be playing in the car bc u guys make it seem so bad LMAO
Sage is so fucking funny I’m actually dead 😭😭😭
Sage is such a nice guy in this episode
That rewind on Nick @ 1:46:35 was hilarious !!!!! 🤣 I can just imagine him looking back at the edit.
sean mentioning smashing pumpkins has me so geeked omg
I’ve been watching for a while now and I just wanted to say I love this podcast so much and that it helps me get thru every week. I’ve been struggle with some stuff for a while now and every Tuesday I can just escape reality for abt 2 hours and laugh and it’s the best part of my week 🫶🏽.
❤️❤️❤️
Everytime sage said “I’m a nice guy” I died😭😭😭 like he is just so Mf hilarious
i love the 2 hour pods the vibe is so immaculate
I love the way Sean smiled after they said they never felt uncomfortable with them
Sage cracked me up the whole podcast lmao 🤣
This will never not be my favourite part of the week. And also so good to see nick back ❤
you guys should vlog a car ride i feel like that would be funny af
and you guys should make a playlist of a vibe for the car ride to the club
you guys always have me geeked, much love to my favsss
This podcast is like coming home. I always feel welcomed and I always have a great time. Thanks suburb talks for this.
Maru just be in her own world spacin out 😂
11:26 this part is so fucking funny the way sage laughed at his joke and everyone else was silent omggg 😭😭
options for responses to "Were you looking for me?"
"No but i'm glad I found you"
"yes, let me give you my number so we don't get lost again"
WOOOO im so excited for this poddy ughhhhhh felt like mad long since last tuesday.
The gym gains on the boys are poppping in the tank top
Hasn’t Nick always been “the nice guy” to/for Cynthia ? 👀
He’s been in love with her 🤭
dropping the teaaa@@scarlettmanzur8787 🤭
We need this Sage every podcast 😭😭😭😭😭💀
1:32:57 Cynthia humbling Nick once again
Maru and Cynthia’s hair 😍
SAGE HAS ME DYING OF LAUGHTER THIS PODCAST🤣
deftones, pierce the veil & a day to remember! sean has great taste fr👏🏻
Never thought I would hear suburb talks mention Sleeping with Sirens / Pierce the Veil on a podcast lolll🤣🖤
Gasped when you mentioned Sleeping with Sirens and Pierce the Veil. So valid🔥
The way everyone just said oooo when Maru says it’s the time of the month for me lol like damn😭😂
1:20:36 I feel like girls who get those random thoughts could have past/ unresolved trauma and it could be with guys they trust but it’s that inkling of doubt that has them on guard.
I’ve been listening to the podcast compared to watching recently and OMG THE CAMERA QUALITY IS CRAZYYY!
I KNOW RIGHT??? MARU LOOKS SO PRETTY
Always waiting for these people on Wednesday love all the content nothing but good laughs and love
Idk if it’s just me but Sean use to have a soft spot for Maru. And lately because of the jokes he’s been extra rough with her. Like don’t let the masculinity get to you Sean. Like idk I feel she expects it from Nick. But from Sean to go from being a kind protector to like dogging her. Idk it’s a lil off putting. Be nice to Maru she doesn’t always laugh things off as easily and that’s okay. She’s a kind soul. Just take it easy. She’s always got y’all’s back. Just my insight 🤷🏻♀️
Dude I have a reminder to listen to y’all’s podcast it honestly helps me a lot with life 😭😭 I listen to it during school, or while doing homework so thank you guys❤️
It's late for me so i'm watching this tmrw! Honestly you guys have no idea how much this podcast means to me. I look forward to it every week❤️ love yall🫶🫶
Watching your guys videos makes my day💗💗💗🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Literally couldn’t wait for nick to come back
1:11:56 a walk to remember had me bawling!! i love that movie
to the genuine nice guys "the devins of the group" nice guys finish last, they may not be first BUT they finish happy.
FINALLY NICK IS BACK
The girl having a fleeting thought isn’t really a" you mistrust your guy friends.” More so like you know if these ppl were to suddenly flip there’s nothing I can do to stop them especially with the bystander effect. Like you physically can’t stop them, that fear is what I think Nick was talking about.
Not to generalize the male gender but if you have heard some of the questionable shit they have said about girls but then lessen the effect by saying you are a friend though we wouldn’t do that to you. That random thought makes sense.
hiii whats the timestamp for when they talk about this?
@@daniellae0 @ 1:15:48
I sorta agree with Sean about live performances where I’d rather see singers etc than DJs, but I also love when DJs switch it up, like for example Kaytranada I’d love to see bc he puts a nice twist on his songs live
Sage was cracking me up this episode 😂😂😂 such a nice guy!
1:01:10 the word Sean was looking for was projecting 😭😭
the rewinddddd. they need to do this more often 😂
this quality looks so crisp
the camera quality compared to older videos has really improved !!
I’m gonna need a:
Sage’s playlists
Bynthiaboi’s playlist
Devin’s playlist
Maru’s playlist
Nick’s playlist
Sean’s playlist
LIKE THE FULL THING ALLL GENRE’S lol
The way sage said “suburb strippers” so hardcore KILLED ME
“Where my hug at?” Guy is the next evolution of “nice guy” instead of proclaiming they are a nice guy they pretend to be a nice guy to get close to you
Sean liking Pierce The Veil is my new roman empire... my emo heart :')
The camera on Sage side is really nice ! Not sure if you guys updated the camera or the settings were different but it looks really good!
i really think an undercut haircut would fit Sean perfectly
This one pick up line Ive used a few times, you go up and act awkward and you say "soooooooooo.... You come here often?" They always laugh and you just continue conversation from there 😅
Cynthia would be the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind girlie, respect.
Pierce the veil and sleeping with sirens are so good
Nick was sooo funny on this episode😂 got me giggling n swinging my feet
ion know how strong that weed smell was... but Sage was so freaking funny this episode dkm😭
Sage was so funny in this episode 😭
Cynthia’s looking extra fine today bruh
yo sage had me cryinnggggg this whole episode😭😭😭
Waiting for this podcast weekly gives me life fr the best people with the best vibes love ya'll ❤
These podcasts hit different when your high tho cause then it just feels like your in it hanging out 😭
The equivalent is the girl who said “i wish I knew how to do makeup, I dont wear any makeup at all”
I dont know how to do makeup tho and I look like shit😭
Maybe not how to, cause there is a lot of girls who don’t know how to, but def the I don’t wear
NICKKKS BACKKKK, I LOVE YALL ( LOVE THE COSTUMES)
LMAOO SAGE POPPED OFF W THIS ONE 😭 he had me rollinggggg
BYNTHIA & NICK ARE BACK 🖤🕺
By far one of the funniest videos 😂
Side note y’all what if Sean and maru are pulling a Jeremy and Esther lol or is that the biggest stretch of my life 😭
1:52:34 nick saying "where my hug at" and proving their point actually sent me bro
bruh you guys should do reading thirst comments/tweets!!!!!!!
i want christine back, i hope everything is okay ❤❤
fun fact, you can absolutely do a prenup after marriage. it’s called a postnuptial agreement.