my thoughts on "personal style" and trends, authenticity in my 30s & friendship breakups...
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let's have a stream of consciousness / big sis advice / video podcast style chat about some topics i've seen requests about, things that have been on my mind, and more! we're chatting personal style, trends, finding myself and my authenticity in my 30s, healing my inner child, friendship breakups, being in my mid 30s online & more! hope you enjoy xoxoxo
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how old are you? 36 years young!
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I loved the part about friendship breakups. 4 years ago, I lost a best friend of 10!years. She ghosted me without any explanation and it has been the biggest thing I’ve ever had to grieve in my life. Thank you for validating this experience. I love the reminder that I haven’t even met all the people who will love me in my life yet.
Oh no I’m sorry that happened with you guys that is really hard I also lost one of my best friends due to her going after my boyfriend it’s hard and it’s painful
Girl, same!! Three years ago my best friend completely shut me out with no explanation after 10 years, it was heartbreaking. You’re not alone.. sometimes we don’t get the closure we want. I still reach out and wish her happy birthdays and get no response, I think of her often but have come to realize that my energy needs to be put elsewhere.
Oof... same, but a 20 year friend & she was aggressive 😬 I'm so sorry, it is really one of the worst pains to experience. Nobody deserves to be cut out without a chance at communication.
At 61, please all of you younger women, your style will continue to change and you will embrace styles that make you feel great that are not necessarily trendy but still make you feel confident and others will see that. 30’s are a great time because you are through the difficult teens and exploratory 20’s. Just understand, it only gets better. I’m still trying new things, finding new hobbies, new fashion trends (I’ve bought some clothes you’ve shown and think I look great in them) and I expect to find more new experiences.
We never understand what can and will be when we are younger because we don’t have the experience. Enjoy your 30’s and embrace what it brings to you. Life throws us curveballs at every age so don’t miss out on any happiness you can embrace at any age. Happy birthday and Merry Christmas!
Thank you for acknowledging that you are never too old for anything! I’m 53 and having to rebuild my life and this gave me a bit more hope :)
Same, just got divorced, living on my own for the first time in 27 years. I am 51 and slowly but steady I am finding my new identity and I think it's going to be ok and possible even better than before (when he left I thought life was over) so even if it feels hard, life will get better ❤
I feel like I also got back to my most authentic self this year. I’m so content with who I am instead of always trying to “fix” something. You make me so excited for my 30s
Same! I turned 30 this year and finally am starting to feel settled in myself.
Hey Carrie! You are still young and you probably will embrace all sorts of trends and styles. Enjoy the ride. I’m in my 70s and still finding my style. Love you!
I needed this today. Tearing up watching. 😢 I love seeing you embrace your 30s. As a 31 year old it makes me so excited for the rest of this decade. Also friend breakups are so traumatizing. Literally still haunted by one that happened in 2017.
Friendship breakups are so hard. I lost a 7 year friendship last year and I’m still grieving it. It also resulted in losing many other friends which was very rough. I’m so grateful for the friends I have now, and feel like I’m a much better person because of the whole experience. If you’re going through that now, know that time does help. You deserve people who accept you as you are!
I’m from your dad’s generation. For most of my working life I looked forward to being a senior citizen and being free to do whatever I want. I’m loving it.
Carrie, this is one of the best videos I've seen on TH-cam in a very very long time, and as almost a 40-year-old myself, I agree with so many things you have said.
I started watching you around a year ago a little bit by accident as our style is completely different :))) but you seem so sincere, authentic and down to earth that I cannot stop :) you mentioned it in the other video, we will always root for you!
Merry Christmas and happy birthday - hope you will have a wonderful day!
Also, the 30s rule ;)
So happy you are comfy saying “no” ❤ it’s true self care
I’m 30 btw so hey big sis 😊
I am so here for the chats. As a fellow 36 year old, so much of this resonates with me. I currently find myself at a place where I truly don’t have many real friends with whom I can have conversations like this, so these chatty videos are good for my soul!! ❤️
You made sense. Totally followed the conversation. It's growth as someone who is actively participating in growing up, right? I turned 40 this year. I still feel so young most of the time. Reaching this stage means truly not caring about what people think and living your best life. Happy birthday, Capricorn Carrie! ❤🎉
Listening to people like you has made me really excited for my 30s! I’m 28 and I find it easy to fall into the mind trap of thinking that I’m falling behind or certain doors has permanently closed and that’s not true! Thank you for sharing I appreciate you so much 💖
i really needed to hear all of this today Carrie, thank you 🫶 i'm in my early 30s and constantly feel like i'm "running out of time" for no particular reason. happy early birthday! 💗
as a chronic people pleaser myself, it is so hard when you're healing to realize that your behaviors have caused you so much pain but it's so empowering to take that power back
Omg you look sooooo cute in this fit!!!! Love the combo of everything 🤎
Love this! I am 34 and I feel like life has just started out for me:) i feel my most authentic self and so content with where I am at right now. Fixing yourself isn t the answer, loving and accepting yourself is so powerful!
Thank you Carrie, I needed this. I rarely comment but just know, you’re making a difference 🩷
I love this Carrie! I’m also 36 we’re the same age, your birthday is just a few days before mine ❤️ I absolutely agree with you, I’ve found myself more than I ever have! I nurture that inner child and do things she would have loved. Sometimes the thought of getting older can make us uncomfortable but I truly believe it’s a gift, all of the wisdom, courage and healing that comes with age is such a beautiful thing and we have so much more life to look forward to and so much more healing to come ❤️.
I turned 37 in October I think that’s why I relate to her so much, I’m just two months older than her :)
Happy early birthday! I love watching your videos! I’m normally a silent viewer but this video made me so happy but also a bit emotional. I’m 27, will be 28 in February and feel like I haven’t achieved what I should have done at this point in my life. I’ve also had so many friendship breakups due to drifting apart or being ghosted I literally have zero friends🙁 I’m trying to stay positive and say to myself things will get better ❤
Thank you so much for talking about not being too old for things. I’m 29 and just started a new hobby and I think the idea of turning 30 has sent me into a spiral lol. I have hardly any friends in their 30’s so it feels weird knowing I’ll have that separation from them, but this made it feel a lot less so ❤
As someone who has been on the other side of a friend who grew resentment because they couldn't just say what they wanted & pretended to be somebody completely different, it benefits nobody & pleases no one long term! I say that to support & uplift you as you shake off that era. the people around you will be able to love you for YOU & you will hurt them so much less by being honestly you!
Ok so first off, Happy Birthday! And second, thank you for this. I am in my late 20s and a stay-at-home mom. Almost none of my friends have kids and when I look at their careers I feel so behind. I love staying home with my kiddo, but it will not last forever obviously and my next dream is to be a diplomat. Sometimes I feel like I "missed the boat" when I see people my age and younger in the jobs and positions that I dream of. But you are so right. I am young. And there is time. And life is good. Thank you for this beautiful reminder. Have a lovely holiday!! xo
Happy birthday!!
As someone with ADHD, I was able to follow your thought path through this video so easily. You absolutely made sense! ❤
Carrie, I love this so much! Please do more friendship videos (advice, how to have tough conversations, mistakes you made, how to form strong friendships, etc.)!
i loveddddd how organic the express collab was
I love what you said about not having met all the people who are gonna love you yet...I've met fantastic people in every phase of my life and I can't imagine my life without them
I agree that personal style is often a very fluid thing, especially for people that love fashion. We just love trying out different things and it's hard to do that if you have a very fixed signature style.
17:17 literally just changed my life. I am about to possibly move away from my friends whom I adore- and this helped me a lot ❤
I've been so nervous about turning 30 next year. I've felt like my life is pretty much over. I feel like I wasted my 20s with the wrong people, then videos like this remind me that my 30s will be the best yet. I had a best friend drop me out of nowhere because of the person I was with at the time. I'd beat myself up about it all the time, but then realize that this friendship wouldn't work with how my life is right now. I'm married to the love of my life and live in a small town that I love. I look back and realize we were complete opposite, now I reconnected with a childhood best friend and were stronger than ever. I feel like at this point, i'm livinf my childhood dreams with purple in my hair, tattoos, and piercings. I've never felt more like myself than i do now, and i love it. The quote about not meeting everyone you're meant to love yet hit hard and makes me hopeful for the future and the beautiful relationships I'll make ❤
I totally feel what you said with being more comfortable with trying styles being in your 30s! Love from 36yo girlie from Amsterdam, Netherlands!
Thr ghosting friend dump happened EXACTLY like that to me recently. I was gutted. I felt like this friend would never do something like this since we connected over a very personal thing we experienced AND hung out literally every week! We even had a sleep over! It really hurt me. I appreciate your openess about your experience!
Happy Birthday Carrie! I've been watching for several years and love the evolution of your content. Continue growing, embracing change and allowing new experiences!
This video had such positive vibes! It really put me in a good mood :)
I have a feeling that this next year will be amazing for you Carrie, and you will do amazing things
I like the motivation talk at the end. Would love to have a little motivation video for 2025, if you are in the mood. I am also curious about the friendship break-ups. It's so hard when friendships come to an end unnaturally.
I have really been working on myself this year. I’m proud of where I am now. Cutting out the toxic has done wonders. 👏🏻
Id love a video on friendships in adulthood! It's something I've struggled with so much since becoming a mom too, I have no one atm and it's very lonely 😢
Love just “chatting” with you! You have so many important things to share!
Agree - been saying for years we need to go back to old school less produced TH-cam -❤ I am turning 60 in a few years and I have the same attitude. I am excited about life and what it has in store for me! This is a great message and you have a lot of wisdom!
Obsessed with this video and needed to hear some of these statements ❤ keep em coming
Needed this right now! Can’t wait to watch ❤
I love watching you! One reason is that you’re closer to my age. I just can’t relate to the values of the 20-something influencers. ❤
You look so cool in this video! The jumper? The glasses? Slay
Happy early birthday Carrie!!!! I really enjoy and admire you. You have such a warm, loving, mature, and yes, authentic energy. I am older than you, yet still relate to so much (like those painful friendship breakups). Your thrift and style skills are on point. Winning at life gf! 💐💐🎂
Happy bday Carrie!! 🎉🎉🎉
I went through the capsule wardrobe rabbit hole a few years ago and I can say I absolutely regret it , I got rid of stuff that looking back I wish I hadn't. Currently trying to build up my wardrobe after having 3 kids it's hard find your style through the years but it's fun to experiment with different stuff
Spitting facts: I was a "pretty princess" as a little girl, my walls were painted pink, and I've *always* been a hello kitty & anime girl (sailor moon in the 90s was my gateway lmao). I've was a girly girl. Somewhere in my 20s, I lost some of that part of my identity because I was inundated with the experience of impressing boys and dressing the part; I was also the biggest size that I had ever been. Frankly, the aesthetic that appealed to me the most was never in my size . I am now 33, I lost weight the 'old fashioned way' (specifically because of a medical diagnosis that was being directly impacted by my weight), and, I now can fit into those clothes that had always appealed to me but were inaccessible.
I'd like to think there was always a style girly lurking underneath, but I really think that some of the reason it looks so good is because it's authentic and because little me always wanted to look like what fully fledged, grown me currently looks like ✨ My friend recently told me that she liked how every time she sees me, I look like an anime character and I was like "this is the highest compliment you can give me" 😂I dress out loud and most importantly, I do it FA ME!!
Those Express jeans look awesome on you!
Seeing you thrive in your 30’s makes me excited for mine ❤
love this video!! you’re amazing! I hope you have an amazing Christmas!!❤️🫶🏻
Loved this style of video! Thank you so much for sharing Carrie 😊🫶
it feels like having a personal style has become kind of an imperative, and it has to be done in a certain way or you're "not really finding a personal style that speaks of you", so it's become synonym with "being eccentric", when in reality styles can be anything from minimal to scandichic to cottagecore to clowncore etc. It has to be a style that speaks about you of course, but style can speak about many things: my personality or just my need to be comfortable and dressed. Now people think that unless you've got a super duper unique style, you don't have one and you're are boring or lazy. Oof.
happy early birthday birthday twin!!!🎉🫶🏽🫶🏽
missed big sis advice vids! 🥺♥️
Love this style of vlog!!
This really resonates with me at the moment. Your so ahead of the game ,u figured out at ur young age❤what took me till I was .60❤
Your old “big sis advice” videos got me through my early 20s ❤
Happy Birthday Carrie!
I have always been a comfy over cute kinda girl. In college I tried to only wear cute clothes and felt not put together wearing a sweatshirt, but my heart wanted to wear a sweatshirt. Now that I’m a stay at home mom, I am embracing the comfort look and am happiest in my leggings and sweatshirt.
I am on my knees begging for storytimes to make a comeback in 2025
The 30s are the best years that I have lived. I am turning 41 next year and I am so excited for my 40s now because I grew so much on my 30s that I can wait to become more blissful on my 40s. And I am minimalist 😝 for over 8 years and I love it, although I have the clothes that makes me happy and everything that I wanna wear.
😆 i stared my YT channel at my 39 years old and i felt so old to start a YT but at my 30 I don’t care about what other people think.. so yes we never to old for anything! Love this video!!
GREAT VIDEO! Thank you for this 🥺🥺
As we get older we move , get married , have kids etc and we just lose touch with our friends. I use to have a ton of friends in high school and college. Then life happened. I moved out of state , got married , got a new job etc and I don’t really have that many friends. I have two that I see quite a bit but that’s it.
This was wonderful ❤
Happy Birthday!🎉🎉🎉
Happy early birthday!🎂🎉🥳
Happy (almost) birthday!!! 🥳
Carrie we are only 2 months apart !! I turned 37 on October 27th and I relate with you on this video so much :)
Thanks Carrie this was a great video ❤
Happy birthday Carrie🎉🎈🎂🎁
I'm a 53 year old who loves your big sis advice videos :)
broo im 18 but the part ab friendship breakups hit diff omfg 😭 at the beginning of last year (so at the beginning of the 2nd sem of my junior year) my friend of 6+ years suddenly ghosted me and to this day i dont onow why 😵💫 but it rlly hurt at the time bc i KNOW i didnt do anything wrong, she just decided to abandon me out of nowhere. however, over a year later (almost 2 years later now oop) ive made mych better friends who i feel truly cherish me for who i am (and i reciprocate that ofc). i also feel that the best is yet to come, and although i do slightly miss my younger teen years, i think i only miss them bc of how being younger is percieved, if that makes sense. it sounds stupid af to say that considering im literally still a teen but when i truly think of my younger teen years, i realize that those weren't the happiest times of my life, so there must only be good times ahead. of course, good can't exist without bad, but i think ill pull through (hopefully lol)
wrote a whole ass novel omg
Same birthday, love a Cap😊 it only gets better from here!
Have you heard of Wiser Than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus? She interviews old women like Jane Fonda, and Patti Smith, and it's been so wonderful for me to like feel better about aging
I needed to hear this video today 🤗 love, 36 from Texas ✌🏼 & ❤️
I had a childhood friend since I was 4. We were best friends until we started college. By the time we were about 27 I felt like she changed drastically and we had nothing in common anymore. It’s like she was a different person. She moved across the country and we lost contact. Then years later she contacted my sister on FB asking for my number. She told me her father passed. I’m not sure what made her want to call me to tell me that bc we had not talked in YEARS. Then we never talked again.
Happy Birthday ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am 20 yrs older and my 40s were a hard period clothing wise especially being mid size. No longer the target in the clothing market but not liking what was "right" for my "age" but I am in a much better space and actually looking to have less (but reduction through attrition and not wholesale weeding)
I really enjoyed listening to this video and look forward to more 2013 inspired Carrie content in 2025!
I was agreeing with pretty much All of this video and your comments.
Where are the tall black boots from? I need
That is a great idea, about the letter. I feel like I should do that.
I just watched a creator who tends towards main stream mature fashion, loft, farm Rio, etc. say that minimalism was going out for 2025. So who knows. lol Dressing as one did as child sounds fun, but as a child I never got to choose any of my clothing. I can't even remember what I wore.
Accidentally so early!!
Happy birthday. 🎉
No link to dad’s podcast?? 👀
You are still so young! Imagine you live to 100, that means you’re only 36% way through life
I'm so happy to hear the positive side of being in your 30s. However for me, I thought all my problems would be solved when I turned 30, you know, magically. It didn't obviously 😂
these 2005 realness glasses omfg
Yay!! Get rid of your clothes then i can thrift them!! 😂😂😂😂
I love that we’re born in the same year but I’m Jan 30th and you’re dec 27th haha❤
Omg have you heard about the Djerf Avenue issues..so sad.
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I can relate❤
Thanks for this Carrie 🥹🫶🏽 it was really sweet to listen to and feel like I’m catching up with a friend